Sex With Emily - Clean Up For Dirty Sex

Episode Date: May 21, 2014

In this week’s podcast, Emily reunites with Menace for a show to answer all of your most burning questions. Today’s topics include hygiene and why it matters more than you think, tips for enhancing masturbation that will make sex better (remember, May is Masturbation Month!) and what to do if your wife doesn’t like performing oral sex.Emily checks in with Menace (and his penis) and the two discuss Emily’s experience of including sex toys with her sexual partners. Guess what toy was on Emily’s list this week? Emily also gives some great advice on how to freshen up for your date, ie: hygiene etiquette. A listener gets help with the ins and outs of manscaping, but explains there is no perfect way to please every woman.Emily explains why only 30% of women have orgasms during intercourse. Plus the facts you need to know about the female orgasm and how to make sure she has more, and more and more!Special discounts for listeners of Sex With Emily:Use coupon code GVEMILY20 for 20% off at Good Vibrations. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at Crazy Girl, and coupon code EMILY for 20% off my Aromatherapy Massage Candle and DownUnder Comfort at Emily & Tony. Go to Promescent to make love longer. Increase your stamina with the #1 selling sex toy for men, Fleshlight Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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For ever. So much catching up on me. We're going to be answering the emails that you sent to Feedback at Sex with Emily.com. Some of those topics include masturbation, because it is masturbation month still. So happy masturbation month. What to do in the wife your wife feels a little unsexy? Unsure about man-scaping a wife just likes giving oral imagine that first time I've ever heard that and

Someone wants to know about the cowboy for angels guy last week what Cologne used wearing because it was it was super sexy Menace remind me tell you about that show. It was a goodie Okay, so the first thing is I we've been getting so many emails with emails and so I've been thinking like, what is kind of a common theme in the emails this week? So a lot of them are about hygiene and just keeping clean like a woman, if she's just wanna perform oral sex, like he's not so clean,

but be on that, I just started thinking about the things that like are really pissing me off lately about and this is just from my experience like that things guys don't know. So for example, if you're dating a new person and you know there could be a slight chance that she's coming back to your house and you might hook up, I know guys don't change their seats.

We know you masturbate every day. We don't want to slide into your crusty sheets. We just don't. And so there's a certain hygiene etiquette. You know, you know, you're not as you talk about pertaining and other stuff. If you're single, you probably don't. And so there's a certain like hygiene and etiquette. You know, you know, you know, you know, you talk about painting and other stuff. Yeah, if you're single, if you're single, you probably don't wash your sheets for. No, guys don't wash their sheets. Trust in their 20s. So like wash your sheets or have a second pair of sheets. Like they're not expensive now. Buy them in Amazon. I don't care. So, so I'm conscious of that. And also just like,

wash your hands if you're about to fool around with someone and it could be your first time together. Make sure that you just like wash your hands because there's like germs if you had dinner, you've been drinking, make sure you wash your hands, go to the bathroom, freshen up, all that stuff. And we will get into like, man-scaping and all those things. And then for women and men, okay, so we get lots of emails from people who talk about how people aren't so fresh down there, right? Man, it's like you've probably had an experience with a woman where you go down south and you're

like, oh, really? Yeah. And guys have emailed her like, I had opened the windows and like, girls, oh, the other night on the show, I had a woman calling. And she said her boyfriend came back from a golfing trip for ESPN and that his penis actually smelled like cheese, which is a bummer. And she was, but really I think there's probably some sort of sex transness.

Well, it really happens because you just don't take it. No, but he had just showered. It's a whole, it's a whole nother issue. Because there's probably something that he picked up because if it does smell like cheese, which is, so any strange odors if you're with a woman and the order goes on on, there could be risk for sexually transmented disease.

But if it's just the normal, like you showered that morning and then you're hooking up with someone, here's a tip. Go to the bathroom before, like if you're at a guys house, you're just going to like, what, do you take a washcloth, use them soap, and just make sure you're a little fresh down there everywhere.

Takes two seconds, and no one's gonna be complaining about you and you'll be having better socks. Cool. What's going on with your life? Do you change your sheets? Yeah, but my girlfriend doesn't have. My girlfriend washes them now. So what's going on with your life? Do you change your sheets? Yeah, but my girlfriend washes them now. So what's going on?

I haven't talked to you in so long. I know. And last time I talked to you, you were all about Tinder. And you were like, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. Oh, my God, I have so many matches on Tinder. Well, you know, because guys on Tinder are liking every single photo. See, that's like a numbers game.

I don't think that's good. But then you have like a big head. And you were like, oh, my God. So my guy is every single photo. See that's like a numbers game. I don't think that's good. But then you have like a big head and you were like, oh my god, so many guys like my photo. Okay, see this is your Mr. Derberjade. In fact, I'm so overwhelmed by Tinder that I wanted to lead it. I said, I have so many matches and I don't have time to match. Whether or not they're just saying like to everybody,

they're like chatting with me. And then I don't have time to respond. Okay, so what happened? What's been going on? So I did the live Tinder date on the show and that was good. I actually liked them. We got into it because I don't really know around the air but I can get into it. It was like a real date and I liked them.

But Lauren, my assistant didn't like them. So I was like, oh, I already said yes, I'm going out with her again. Nothing mattered but Lauren didn't have to date them. But people like to keep you weird. I don't know what she did. What did you like about them, Lauren? I thought I was a jerk. Oh, yeah, but she loves that kind of thing. I don't have a date. Well, she didn't like about him. People like to be weird. I don't know what she did. What did you like about him, Lauren? I thought he was a jerk. Oh, yeah, but she loves that kind of stuff.

I don't like jerks, that's not true. She's like a 14 year old girl. She loves jerks. I've never dated an asshole in my life. Not once. You like guys that are jerks. Never once have I dated. You'll go out with them, but you won't make them

like, they're always like- I've never been an asshole in my life. Okay. That's the one thing I've dated guys asked for my life that's the one thing I updated guys who are first lie on the show. I have no what assholes of all the guys they did are really nice they're not they're not me and they're not jerks that we don't say with them. No I don't say with them because I don't want to be monogamous but I don't say with them because they're jerks so anyway Tinder I just I don't have time so what's going on with me is that I actually have set a goal and I'm making more

time to masturbate because I have a million sex toys to me is that I actually have set a goal and I'm making more time to masturbate because I have a million sex toys. To watch more television, I actually program my DVR and to date more. So I'm actually gonna answer. Okay, at least tell me about your last date. Is there? Don't tell me that was your last date

because that was a while ago. No, I went on another date. Okay, I went on this one. I went on a date with a guy who I met when I was looking for apartments like months ago and he was just moving here from San Francisco. So we had this like, you know, oh, he's a doctor. He was cute.

Okay, good. And we went out once like months ago, and then I think I kind of blew him off that, cause just honestly, I forget to text people back and I'm not prioritizing it. And we went out, so that was a fun date, but nothing happened. And then we went out again a few weeks ago, and it was fun. We went out for drinks, and we went out, so that was a fun date, but nothing happened, and then we went out again a few weeks ago, and it was fun. We went out for drinks, and we went out, we were talking,

but it turns out he's going through, okay, so here's the thing, I thought it was a date, but then he said he's like in the celibacy kick, and he's trying to be celibate because he's been sleeping around so much, he's really cute. So then I just started giving him advice on that. Yeah, but no, he was playing you to see if you would be like, oh, let me be the one that breaks down your cell. Yeah, I wanna know. No, I'm off for a celibacy, like was he was playing you to see if I'd be like, oh, let me be the one

breakdown. I'm off for a cell of a sea like good for you. Yeah, this guy this guy messed up because he tried to play a game. And then I mean, you're right. I might not stop with him, but I didn't really care that much for the truth is he was like, I've just been sleeping with girls and it feels really empty. Like it was cute. Like he was going through this whole amount of morphases that men go through when they're

kind of slots and women. Okay. And he's like, I'm just gonna stop dating because he's cute. He's a doctor, you know, and L.A. It's here. So, are you like banging ex-boyfriends now? Or are you? Ex-boyfriends.

Yes, I see. I mean, sometimes. Sometimes. Sometimes, why? No, there's other guy I've been dating for a few months. I don't know. The one that I by mistake broke up with during the little line, but he didn't know I broke up with him yet.

I tell you this after years. No, tell me. I was dating him for a few months, and we went away and knew yours to Palm Springs, and it was disaster, and I knew at the end, I'm like, I'm so over because there were several things leading up to, but we went to a party. New Year's Eve.

It's a freaking party. Talk to people. It was huge. Gorgeous house, people walking around drinks, serving. It was like a nice fancy whenever. So I saw my girlfriends. I was here just gorgeous house. Like, you know, people walking around drinking, serving. It was like a nice fancy whenever. So like I saw my girlfriends when I got there and I'm like, we're gonna go dance.

And for like maybe 20 minutes, I was off my friends. He started texting me, where are you? What's going on? What are you doing? I'm sure it was more than 20 minutes. Okay, that's what he said. So maybe it was 35, but you come find me. It was longer.

So I was like over it. And I was already like, didn't want to sex with him all week. Like got a nice hotel room. I didn't want to be with him. week like got a nice hotel room I didn't want to be with him So then I realized when he dropped me off on New Year's like the next day I was like okay see I like I jumped out of the car drove home and Then I was in love with the next night and Drew says to me so we're on the air How is your New Year's and I said oh because the topic of the night was like new years disasters

I said I had a disaster this guy's just really insecure He can't really handle the fact that I like I need someone you can be on their own and like go to a party and not get like you know my biggest thing is that I'm Independent and I used to lose got their own life So I sort of broke so I mentioned that it was over, but I had told him yet that it was over So he who I didn't think listened to the show happened to be listening to the show And then found out and wasn't happy. And said, don't ever talk about it.

Did he blow up your cell phone or what? Yeah, he did. And then did they make up? Well, like, my show's up, my phone's off. But then we talked about it the next day, and I thought he would hate me forever. But then he got super cool. And he was like, I get it.

He's don't ever talk about me again, which I just did. And then for like a month, we can't not, like, it's my life. So we were talking for a month. He was in Venice. So it's like life. So we were talking for a month. He was a Venice. So it's like long distance. And it is. It's like a half hour drive.

So far it's 40. So then we just started talking and reconnecting again. We actually got a lot closer over that month and started like learning more about each other since but it was non-sexual and then it's friends. And now I see him every once in a while. And then I have another date next week. What?

Just to hook up or what? Yeah, we hook up. But he's actually my sex toy tester. Because I'm getting so many toys in, and he's really down with toys, unlike you who are intimidated by them. I think it's going to replace your penis, which is not true. It's not even true. He gets into it because this is what I have to say.

Oh, you've got all the men who believe that a woman uses a sex toy because it's going to replace your penis. And she's no longer gonna need you, like she's gonna delete your number, is so not true. What you have to realize is that when a woman uses a toy with you, it actually, A, gets there faster, she'll have it orgasm for sure, it's a short thing, and you could still be holding it

using your fingers, using your tongue. Most women aren't getting enough literal stimulation during sex, so you hold up the vibrator. So don't be intimate and he's like, so what do you got this week? So every because I'm getting stuff sense to me, he's like, down with trying it and he's very turned on by it and he likes it. And so we've tried.

My problem is it just I just feel like you start with one and then it just gets bigger and bigger and bigger. Like it's the gateway. Yeah. But what they're not, they don't get bigger. They get different. They don't because they don't know enough that you saw me your girlfriend. But they're not, they don't get bigger, they get different, they get different. Because you don't know enough. Gone into the, you saw him in your girlfriend, and I thought that she likes it.

Oh, good. Are you guys loving sex after this last time? Yes, we're having sex. You're really not. No, we're having sex, but you know I had that penis operation. Oh, yeah, the penis operation. How is your penis?

My penis is fine now. Is it fine now, sex? Yeah, I'm finally healed. Are you? So then, are you having, okay, but be honest. I was asked to be convinced. Well, people have heard, I had an operation on my you? So then are you having, okay, but be honest. I will be asking you to convince. Well, he will have it heard.

I had an operation on my penis. I know that was sad. And it was really bad. And I had like stitches in my penis. Right, but that was like six months ago. Not the best. Yeah, but it takes six months. Oh, okay.

So now are you. Yeah, I'm good. So more like, did it rekindle your sex life because you couldn't have sex for so long? Yeah, it actually did too. Oh, good. Yeah, maybe like, want a half sex. Because you know't have sex for so long? Yeah, it actually did too. Oh good. Yeah, maybe like one a half sex. Because you know I'm tired every day.

I know. Because I get up at 2 a.m. to go to work. How's your new job? My new job's awesome. I love it. What do you show? I'm doing a morning show. I'm doing a morning show here in Los Angeles.

And it is awesome. It's on 98.7. OK. You rock. So you guys are good. And you're living together and you're happy because you never, I've never had a- Yeah, I love it here in Los Angeles versus San Francisco.

San Francisco was stressful. There was nowhere to park ever. I know. And I mean, I'm from there and it's not like I was a transplant or anything. It just became a pain in the ass, you know. It's all these- I know. San Francisco is a lot of like nerds that live from all over the country and then they come to San Francisco

to reform themselves. Kind of like Los Angeles, but they seem kind of cooler than they are in San Francisco. San Francisco, they're like too cool for the room. Here in LA, I mean, you'll run into some people that are like, think that they're way more important than they are. I would think they're not from LA too, is another transplant person, but I'm liking to hear so far. That's good. I need a better answer if you're like, so, how do you like LA?

I'm like, yeah, I like it. What's the biggest difference to see between San Francisco and LA? And I'm like, I'm like, I mean, I don't want to be assertive, like, okay, the traffic sucks. But I'm like, you know, I guess it is you can't do like more than one thing in a night. Like, it's never just going to stop. It's a part. What about friends? It's been great for work, obviously.

And it's been great. I've made some new friends. I mean, we more guys are like, I get, here's the difference is that you can, you can't do as much because the traffic is limiting. I'm not going to talk about traffic because that's so freaking boring boring. But let's see. That's you not putting effort into relationships like you never do. I know. But I'm going to. There's a lot of goal. Master me time TV and then you love the guys that are you know interested in you and you're like totally not interested in. No, I am. And for a while. No, I am. If they come to me, it's just hard to the drive

thing. The traffic. What? So then masturbate, date more. Oh, and the guys, I feel like men in LA approach you more. And Sam, let's go nobody ever asks you out. They don't. Yeah, they're busy. Right? They like check your balls with the golden gate. And then they like get a phone. All right. So tell me about the sex toy guy. Let's go back to that quick. So I really like them. Your last sexual experience with him. Okay. And how does it go down? Does he actually take you out?

Are you just going to the house and just go to the house and we like make frozen dinners? Okay. What happened? No, but it's not about that. Yeah, we go to dinner and then I always get what are you talking about other than sex? We never talk about sex. I mean, we have sex, but something that we don't talk about everything. Sorry, we're right. Go ahead. We talk about smart. We talk about beginning and how it goes down. Which part, the sex part?

Okay, so like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- So like- as you all know, you just keep my code Emily, get 20% off and all their amazing toys. I've beginning a lot of really interesting things sent to me lately, but since I don't make the time and he's down with it, I'll bring different toys. Okay, after the dinner, how long does it take until you're in bed with him? You know, depends.

Six minutes? No, I don't know. We'll go back to his house, have dinner, and then usually I'll have things charged pre-charged before I got there. All right. Like when my, you didn't hear this. My landlord came in and I toys charging all over my part, like literally in every office of my apartment. Really?

Toys. But then I'll show it to him. He's like, down. So there's like this new one by, um, what's the thrusting one, Lauren? The, uh, oh, fun factory. The Zwee and the Dwee and they thrust into the vibrate. Yeah. They're like, they're really, really cool. And I wanted to try like a thrusting one because it's a totally different thing. So we, which are, oh, start out. We, a few weeks ago, we started with, um, bondage tape.

You know, I love bondage tape. So he's into that. And because bondage tape, if you want to like, spice up your relationship, start something different. And you think, oh, I got to be be like Christian Gray, 50 shades of gray. If you don't know that, I've got to go get a friggin' dungeon. But Bond is tape looks like electrical tape. It's like plastic and a roll.

It's like six bucks. And you can just easily, it doesn't stick to itself, and you can tie it. So we'll do a little blindfold. They'll do a little like my hands. And then we'll close the toys. All right, so using this guy for sex then. No, I'm not using it for sex.

He's my test. He's like, well, I think this one, like he like gets into it. Who's the next guy? And then there's a clitoral vibrator with the new aura something by give a aura, oral sex. It actually simulates oral sex, which you know I love. It's a toy that just seemed like I then you might, yeah, he'd be used on me. It was cool. What else do you want about toy?

No, I just want to know, okay, I don't care. And then what do you, no, I want to know who, okay, so. Not like every time we're testing toys, they're the potential guys in your life. I just got fixed up with another guy next week that I'm going out with, I can't met. My friend, I have a friend here for my school.

And she called me and she's like, I've got the most perfect guy for you. You'd appreciate this. Girls actually do that kind of stuff. Yeah, and I like, because I'm everyone's like, I've got the most perfect guy for you. You'd appreciate this. Girls actually do that kind of stuff. Yeah. And I like, because I'm everyone's like only like single new friend or something. I don't know what it is, but she's like he's divorced. He's a cancer who's dating, but he was dating some, I cause I don't do that.

But anyway, he's interesting. I don't know. I've never met him. We texted and I'm going out with him next week. And he is a... But aren't you afraid of messing up your friendship by... With you. Going out with these guys that you know that you're probably just gonna

Oh with my friend is for me. Oh, the problem is she's like he's a really nice guy He doesn't date around he like is like a relationship and I'm like How do you know everyone assumes that that's what I want but I'm always open That there could be that person that I say okay., it's closed for business except for European as only, but that just hasn't happened. But how does it go down with her fixing me up? Yeah. She's called me and said, is it okay if I give this guy

your number, he's really cool, he does this and that, and it sounded interesting, there was some synergy. So where are you gonna go? I don't, we haven't decided yet. Next Wednesday I'll let you know. Okay. So I think it'll be, I mean, I think he sounds really nice and just got a good job and he's funny,

textor, which is important. It's very new. Yeah. So nothing else. Same guy with the toys, and I'm not using him for the toys, but okay. What about you? Me, I just work in the girlfriend.

I just, we went to a wedding. And then we went to a wedding. So let's get married. No, no, no, she doesn't want to get married. And I don't want to get married. And we don't want to have kids too. But weddings are actually kind of fun though. Yeah, they're fun.

And you're just like, when you are at a wedding, you're like, oh man, I kind of want to have one. But you don't want to have all the things that go with, like the money. You know, the money, the family, being together forever type thing. And was it a friend in San Francisco? Yeah, it was a high school friend that was getting married.

And it was a lot of fun. And then you do kind of get kind of emotional, like, oh man, maybe. Did you cry? No, no, no. But you kind of like think to yourself, like, man, maybe I should be doing this. I mean, how often do you go to wedding? Do you do you know that? No, I never understood people cry to weddings. I was like I cried because I'm so goddamn relieved It's not me like this looks like a nightmare, but most people cry because they're really sentimental about it I just think like the seating arrangements the commitment for life the picking out the flowers the whole thing

I'm not a party planner. I know you can hire someone, but the whole thing just seems like I would never want to do. I just would never want to do that. But you're gonna find that guy that's gonna be the... Yeah, I mean, you know, I'm not saying that I'm never going to, it's just not like my focus. If you could make a dream guy, who would he be? He doesn't even exist, I don't think. I know. Well, I already know who he is.

Who is he? He's the guy that you know We'll be committed to you, but let's you sleep around with other people and He's all about you and he's interested in what you have to say all the time But you don't really have to be yeah, but you don't really have to be interested in what he has to say at all That's not true. I listen Listen and that's about it. That's all you need. Man, you've never met anyone updated. And you don't know what happened.

I have, I had, and the guy looked like a used car salesman. Oh, Bob, that's who I still sleep with sometimes. I knew it, I knew it, you told me that. He's cute, no. He totally lied to me too because you're saying, oh, when I moved to LA, I'm not gonna sleep with him. Told people when it's so easy sometimes. I don't.

Women like talk so much crap about a guy, and that is the guy that they will support. You said, I told you I love him, but you's so easy sometimes. I don't know. Women talk so much crap about a guy and that is the guy that you will support. I told you I love him but you find that are listening. You was wearing a suit. It was my suit. Guys that are listening, if you hear a woman talk a gang of shit about a guy, that is the guy that she is

going to eventually sleep with. So you better leave. I didn't talk. I never said anything bad about him. I never said anything bad about him. No but you say he looks like he used cars. You said you better leave. I didn't talk. I never said anything bad about that. I never said anything bad about that. No, but you say he looks like a used car. You said a bunch of asses. You're not used to seeing men in suits. It was a nice suit.

The guy had a gold ring on. That is, that is. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses.

He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. He doesn't wear glasses. But we do we have we cuddle sometimes sometimes we just cuddle like I don't want to have sex, but you come over and cuddle Oh, god, I just like cuddling sometimes. Yeah, and then it ends up no No, if I draw I'm like no just cuddling. Really don't you know you never want to know you don't want to cuddle or do anything So I'm asking that okay Let's get into the emails from the people

I love hearing from the people unless you've anything else you know good for right now, okay I love hearing from the people. Unless you have anything else that you would like to sound. No, I'm good for right now. Okay. Thanks for emailing me feedback at sexathethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethethetheth it finds it gross. I'll clean up wash, get rid of smells and flavors, but as soon as I start leaking, she's done. So we just don't try anymore. However, we both love it when I perform on her. She gets off and I really enjoy it. It's the only way she climaxes without a vibrator. Some people will consider this hypocritical that I should withhold from her until she gives it to me. I don't feel that way, but it seems like that is what our culture tells us.

Is it hypocritical? Is there anything we can do to try again? She's a picky eater, so she doesn't like certain flavors, strawberry, chocolate, vanilla. I know she wants to please me, but it bothers me that she can't. There is this stigma out there that she should

and we can't find anything to help. Thanks, James from Texas. Okay, James, here's the deal. So for seven years she hasn't performed for all sex. That's kind of a long time to go without or she's never done and she doesn't like it. There's a lot of women who just flat out don't like it. Just like there's a lot of men who don't like it. They don't like performing all sex on a woman. Yeah, you don't marry them. What? The women they... Right, exactly. Why'd you marry her? But the thing is that a lot of women have issues around it. Like, it could be things they're brought up with thinking that it's like disrespectful.

You know, that it's degrading to women. I mean, I think he's got to get to the bottom of why she doesn't like it. But it sounds like it could be taste and smell. And some women don't like that. They get the... It makes them gag. I'm just gonna keep it straight with them. Okay. If a girl's not into doing that, she's never gonna do it, even if you beg for her to do it.

And she tries, it's not gonna be what you want. And the story. But maybe, okay, and I agree. It's like men going down a women. It's like, like I said, like tomatoes. Like, you don't like tomatoes. I was gonna be like, oh my god tomatoes. I love them.

Like, you're right. People don't typically change. But what is he gonna do? Like, what never lived without a bloat? And he's, and now he's thinking of withholding oral sacs, which is the one way that she can orgasm. So I would say before you throw on the towel with this, communicate with her,

and find out what bothers her so much about it. Like, if it is just the taste, there is the mask, remember mask sexual flavors, M-A-S-Q-E, there are these little strips that you put in your tongue, they actually mask the taste of semen for up to 20 minutes, 30 minutes. They really do, like, so she's doing it,

but then a little comes out and she gags, so clearly she wouldn't taste it that way. I would like a follow up email though, to see if she did it before they got married, because that's the the whole thing that women stop when they get married. Yeah that'd be interesting to me. But it sounds like I was gonna say that but it sounds like she never liked it. I don't understand why women stop. They're like I got the ring. I'm out. Yeah but if you need that she can buy your last blowjob or hello to your last blowjob. If she never liked it then then why is he like still trying to because men want blowjobs. I mean what if he never liked it, then why is he still trying to? Because men want blow jobs.

I mean, of course, what man doesn't, but if you're with somebody that didn't want to do it, then you're gonna have to deal with it, man. I think the need to be more vocal about it and discuss what it is. Maybe she could use her mouth a little bit, put a mask strip in and give him a hand job at the same time, but a little bit with her mouth.

I know he'll feel my hand job is, but I'm gonna bring hand jobs back because I think hand jobs are awesome. So 80s. Right, a hand job, I have these talks to you, but like yeah, whatever happened in a hand job, it's like everyone's like a hand job, you skipped the blow job, but hand job,

because lots of loo. Guys don't want hand jobs when they can get blow jobs. Right, but she could do a hybrid. And a woman doesn't have a penis I don't know if you know this so they don't know how it feels yeah I do I know two hands it feels better than when you do it no man can do it to himself way better than a woman every day you just have to have a good hand job or a good vibrator experience but I'm gonna work on that that's why I disagree when when when women wanna give blow job classes

and seminars and stuff like that. Like gay guys should be doing that because they have a penis so they know exactly how it feels. But it's different for women to learn. Like, so there might be a few things because it could be that she doesn't actually know what she's doing and she's uncomfortable with it and doesn't think she can please them.

A lot of women don't give a roll stack. I mean, for her it sounds like it's a taste thing. But there are a lot of women who are just sort of intimidated by it. Like, they just like men with oral sex. They don't really know which, you know, what to do. Then if it's a tasting, then he should like, you know, get to that point and then do something else.

There's like amazing like strawberry chocolate vanilla flavor. Oh, do you think he's just like it? Strawberry. There's a million things you could do. But the first thing you have to do, communication is a lubrication, talk to about it. Because if you're feeling like you can't live with it, and then you're going to start with holding oral sex from her and she's not going to know why, you've been together seven years, and like I always say, you should talk about sex within the first seven weeks, seven

days you're dating someone that you're having sex with. However, usually it's when it becomes a problem that we hear from people. And so I'd say you got to start talking about, now babe, this is really important to me. And I know that you might not love it. I don't want to force on you because also it's the guys who are always like, you're going to give me one, you're going to do it. It's going to happen tonight. It's going to happen. We don't want to do that. If you keep putting it in our face and talking about it, like the last time you're going to get it. So there might have to be way that you like ease, ease is, ease is her into it and finds out what it really is the problem.

And if it's just that the gag thinks she hates it, he's going to have to live without it. Or if you like a flashlight. Well, if you like put some Christian liwetons in his lap, I'm sure it could happen. What do you mean? What do you mean what I mean? If she did?

Yeah, or just like buyer purchase or something, you know? Dude, I don't know what women you date that you think that works for, but it obviously it's work for you. No, I'm just saying, you know, some women are into that kind of stuff. Right. Give me a person. I'll give you a blowjob. But I think this is again, this goes back to sexual compatibility, couples need to talk about this and don't be married for seven years and then bring it up, but I'm glad you did. Let me know how it happens. Just talked to her about it. And so you can do, she knows that you're're this unhappy I don't know that you've told her yet talked for okay dear Emily

This is Camo all the way from sunny South Africa I've been listening to your podcast for three months and it's been nothing but awesome and highly beneficial My question is about man-scaping my accent mind my hair down there But after we broke up I found someone else and she hates their after speaking to my female friends I'm not sure if I should just shave it all off, trim it, or just leave it, and find another woman. I'm pretty cool with either of these options, but isn't there a way to keep all the women I'm bound to see with Abby?

No. Thanks a lot, and keep up the amazing worth from John. Okay, so, man-scaping. This is a good thing. First of all, no. There was not one thing you can do that will please every woman because every single woman on a planet is different. So, no matter what your last woman liked, she liked your hair, didn't like it.

This one will, this one likes her old life. This one doesn't, unfortunately. I would love for men, sake. It's the other way around. If every vagina was a carbon copy, so you're just like, I know this. And so it's like, it's like a new phone. Like, I can program this.

But they're all different. So, it's different. It sucks because a lot of men are the this. But they're all different. So it's different. It sucks because like a lot of men are the same. But every woman is different. Everyone, right. So I feel for you. But manscaping, we're not talking about old sex because that's not, but manscaping, I would say,

why don't we split the difference and just, he could trim. Because of the shave, he could just trim. Because most guys are trimming these sexes. Let me ask you then, what do you prefer? That's the bare minimum. I mean, women are getting like, resilience.

That's like her legs overhead, just getting her hair wrapped out of her ass. I mean, that hurts. But trim, would I prefer? Yeah. I mean, honestly, I'm not that tripped out in like so much hair, doesn't make me crazy or anything, but I like if they take time to air butt,

going back to the beginning, I always decide when to shoot. So if you, if you man skate before our date, I'm totally psyched, but wipe out a hair as out of the sink and the friggin, the bathtub before it come over. Guys, I always leave the hair as like, we're not gonna see it, we're using your bathroom. Flush it, what, get it away.

What about if a guy was, what about if a guy was completely shaved? That happens, I'm fine. Yeah, but you're cool with it? Yeah, well, I mean, yeah, I'm, I mean, yeah, I'm totally fine with it. If it's a huge bush and I can't get to it, and it gets to my, that could be annoying, but I'm not completely obsessed with it.

But I think that trimming is the bare minimum that he should do, and that I can tell you this, John, that you're not going to be with a woman who's going to be against it. She's not going to say, oh my God, I can't believe you trimmed. However, you might be with someone who, you know, like, she's not going to say that you trimmed, but if you don't do it at all, you could be with someone like you just weren't. That didn't like it. Do you have any tips from my landscaping menace? How do you do it? Do you trim? Do you shave? Yeah, you just, I use an electric shaver. Don't try to

use a razor because you'll give yourself something called the flicker lightest. I can't say it. Like a flicker, your beak? No, like a flicker lightest. And it looks like you have herpes. Yeah, don't do that. Trim. And then use a, yeah, they're good. Okay. Emily, I want to say thanks for all the great podcasts. Please keep up the great work.

I love the full spectrum of topics on your show. I have a question about your interview with Garen James on the How to Cowboy, How to Be the Cowboy Over Dreams episode. You complimented Cologne and I would love to know what it was. I always like to look and smell really good for my wife. I love the smile that brings to her face when I clean up.

I work really hard to keep her happy, and you and Dr. Drew are a big help. Thanks so much. I hope you have a fun test date. Oh, okay. With one of Garin's jiggleos, big hug, a big fan, mark. Okay. Hey Mark, so Garin was wearing the Vettive clone,

V-E-T-I-V-E-R clone. It's a warm dry scent with earthy, woody, and smoky notes. That's what it was. He smelled really good. What about what's your favorite? Do you have any favorite for him? For men?

Well, here's the thing about Cologne is that, it smells different on every guy. Like, everything that you and I, you smell different on you than someone else. I typically like my, yeah. I typically like Jim Malone. You always liked my, what was it? Not Dolce Gug did smell good for a while. Oh, it was a Chanel platinum. Oh, yeah. I'm kidding. I'm totally kidding. You don't smell. I know that.

I can't if I said that. I mean, I wasn't. I need to get some more. And also, there's fair mones. I just want to mention there's crazy girl. One of our sponsors who we love. All their products are fair mone infused and they smell really good because I've been wearing their wannabe naked cupcake spray and lotion and people are like, you smell amazing and I think it could be like the fair mones. So you could go to crazygirl.com,

use coupon code Emily25 and get 25% off. They have stuff for men and for women. And yeah, but Garen's call and he smells really good. So okay, he was on the show. Have you seen jiggle's on Showtime? I have not. Okay, so it's a show that's based on his, he's the only, or one of the most popular, Escort services for straight, single women who don't have time to date, whatever it is, and they

hire a straight man who's a Jigalot. He doesn't like to call him Jigalot Escorts to go on a date with, and they spend like thousands of dollars. And they paid these guys spend like thousands of dollars and they paid These guys like they go out and dates he says there's no sex Not in the contract his don't talk about it, but I'm sure they bang and They hire them. They have like a perfect guy come over who treats them well Treats them women cherish them make them feel beautiful like he kept repeating over and over again like what are these guys? You like what do you?

How are why was why is it one paying? He's like they make a woman feel like a woman and feel beautiful Which is something that you don't ever do oh? I don't ever do you don't tell me times you tell your girlfriend. She's beautiful all the time What does that mean that means like probably at least once a day? But you said you said I remember in the past that you you're supposed to compliment a woman 12 times a day. I did say that That was ridiculous. No, but there's it's not just like babe your hot babe your hot It's like you look so cute like you need to be complimented 12 No, but it was just to get the point across that you can never make a woman feel special more special and beautiful

Like there's not enough so many people are in relationships were after the together for while we all want to feel And that's just beautiful I know you're not the average woman, but don't you get aren't you gonna think if you come if you compliment a woman 12 times a day Right that you kind of think all this guy's kind of a pushover. Yeah, he's kind of a pushover I guess I'm talking about if you're in a relationship and you no longer tell your partner and vice versa. Don't you want a man to be a man? Yeah, but he can be a man so you look really hot. Yeah, see you get high off of guys giving you a compliment.

No, I think a lot of women do and you didn't my show last week. I was out of two of my friends. I've seen it before in a public setting and a guy gives you a compliment and you're like, oh, who does it like that? Like you're on drugs. Yeah, like you're on drugs. Maybe, you know what? It's a serotonin. It's a hit.

But so many women don't feel sexy and beautiful after they've been in a relationship for a while. And then that leads them to not wanting to sex or they don't feel appreciated or they don't feel cherished. And this is just a way, and men want to feel appreciated. Like men want to feel like, that women say thank you. And I appreciate the little things that you're doing rather than being kicked on.

It goes both ways. And the 12 times today was a bit excessive, but it just to put in men's mind that it's important to recognize, like my mom, I said, it's divorced my dad, one of the reasons that she always brings up is that he never made me feel beautiful. He never told me I was beautiful. He never, he never seemed attracted to me.

My mom's a beautiful woman. And so it's not just about the super physical problem. But did he like provide for your family? Yeah. So that bitch should have shot up and not divorced him. No, I'm just like, well, what about the communication you always say? They didn't.

What do you mean? What is that for? But does the guy always have to initiate the communication? With compliments or in life? No, to survive, yeah. No, to survive, yeah. You guys, people wait so long to communicate because everything, guess what? Everything's great after the first month of your relationship.

There's nothing to talk about because every date's perfect of the first six months. But how much do you want to wait for this person? Because of course, it's great. The first six months, five sex with this tree It would probably be great for six months But then eventually it starts a change and you need to communicate you need to learn to men and women talk to each other You I think you drive guys crazy because you want to talk to my I have driven guys crazy like the guy who's would say Is it okay if we don't talk past eight or before a

X John my other acts. Yeah who I don't talk past eight or before he was that ex ex my other acts yeah who I don't see but anymore it's gonna Mexico with him and my new and the other boy this is so crazy so if you if you're just tuning into the podcast if you've never heard this now when we were doing the radio show in San Francisco this is so freaking crazy I don't know how any guy like agrees to this but Emily somehow Loves hanging out with her ex-boyfriends loves it and With her new boyfriends somehow she talks in she talks her new boyfriends into hanging out with her ex-boyfriends

All the time to the point where they go to a on a trip to Mexico together I wasn't just a three of us. It was like ten of us and my ex that I don't sleep with anymore. Yeah, but it's not weird though. We have so many weird friends. How does that not weird? How does anyone agree to that? My ex had his phone number.

Okay, you talk about that, like the ten people. What about the times that you go to your ex-boyfriends cabin and there's like four people and it's you and a new boyfriend and an ex-boyfriend? How is that not weird? Like how does any guy agree to that? I know as a guy I would not wanna do that. And you're gonna say, oh, I'm insecure, whatever.

There's no guy that wants to do that. But probably from the insecure. And we became friends because if you're with someone for a while, hopefully you can salvage not every time, but the relationship. If you don't crush their heart, really, or believe it's I did not crush his heart that bad. I don't know how you're gonna preach and say that is like normal, because it's not normal.

Okay, I understand that that's not normal, but it totally seemed normal the whole time. But you continue to do it? I haven't done it lately since I moved to LA because season 7 just got by. But I guarantee you if you get a new boyfriend, you're going to hang out with an ex boyfriend. No matter. Oh, I already have here and I like Bob and the new guy. Yeah.

How that go down? What do you guys do together? It's fun. Did you guys? Did you guys, my boyfriend's become my friends? Was it just you, the ex-boyfriend, and the new boyfriend hanging out or what? No, it was funny.

Is that always fun? It was a party. And then do you automatically say, oh, this is my ex-boyfriend? Yeah, I tell him, I'm not going to throw it out. I'm like, oh, by the way, I've banged him for three years. No, no, no, no. They're cool. People mostly wear cool.

It's not that I'm still in a relationship with them. I don't know what time of guys you date. It's sound like they're, I don't know, like, orgy guys are something. We know no one else. We've never had orgy. I've never had sex with an ex and a current. I know, but it just sounds like the orgy guy,

like the guy with the leopard pants on. With a swinger. And the swinger and like he has a ponytail. It sounds like really. They're all normal. I don't know. I know you really... They're all normal. I know you can't. I get it. We have different, you know.

I think it shows that I can meet that I can meet in this chat. Yeah, you can, but you're not thinking about the person that you're with. And they're feelings. We the best time in Mexico. That's what happens all the time. They bonded, they hang out now. Even after I dumped him when I moved here. So they have a new friendship.

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menace i have a garage full of them i know jr.o again she's talking about these for a tell me what is it like that's the wall the same how amazing they are telling you it feels like re i don't know if i had a penis for a day the first thing i would do well no the first thing i would do is get a blowjob and and the second thing I would do is try a flashlight. I'd just stay home all day, because they have all these different textures,

and it feels like sex, and people freak out about it. You don't wanna try it once? Your girlfriend could do it to you. Like, one night when you're tired after work, she could masturbate you. You put a little bit in it. No, because sometimes, you think I don't understand. When you're in a relationship.

Yes, you stop having sex, and. No, not in a relationship. Yes, you stop having sex. And? No, not that you don't have, you stop having sex. It's just like, you know, you can't satisfy yourself without satisfying the person that you're with. It just can't. And then so when you're tired, what are she as a period?

What is she as a period? OK, now you're getting in territory, I don't even want to talk about. I'm talking about the thing where if you're exhausted from working all day long, okay? And you're like, man, I really wanna have sex, but I know that I will get to the point that I wanna be, but you're like, dammit, I'm so tired,

I do not wanna put in all the effort. Why don't you like, so good? I know that's very selfish, but it's just good. I don't understand how you don't like vibrators You would just like the Rubik's cube of life and it's like really tough and it's not always easy to talk about This is the point where they want to be exactly. Yeah, I'm just saying it takes it takes a lot of effort I'm just it doesn't have to though. I'm being real by telling you it doesn't have to take that much effort every single time If you if you used a vibrator, that would help you,

that behalf of the battle. She'd get there so much quicker. Do you want some from my car? I just think she'd like it. No, you do, it's okay. And then also, a lot of times women don't, like, they don't want sex on their period. Some of them do, some don't, but she could just use that

and be fine. And you guys have been in a relationship rubber. She's not gonna be like, I feel like I'm really getting the short end of the stick. Yeah, now I get it, I understand. You don't really. I do. But you're just pushing your drugs onto me,

which are sex toys. I'm not drugs. They're helping the world. One orgasm at a time. Speaking of periods, you never had sex. Can you ever have sex without having a sex toy? Yes, of course. Yeah, absolutely And be actually satisfied. Yes

Okay, yeah, I can but men but I prefer sex No, no, no, so no, I didn't start with one. All I think about is here's why sex toys are so many women only 30% of women, okay, 30% can actually have an orgasm during penetration on your penis and ever giant of boom, right? 30% and of those 30% it's not every single time. So most women, first off, need clitoral stimulation, right, to get them going. Your penis when it goes inside is not hitting your clitoris

now there's certain positions that you could do to rub, but typically you just want to pound her, it's doing nothing. So if she uses a toy to warm up, it's a little tiny clitoral, whatever, she holds it there, you hold it there. Then she can have an orgasm, belly rubbing sex, sometimes it helps.

I'll give you this though, I guarantee you, there's so many guys that don't even know that. I know no one in the world knows. I mean, this is what I was just talking in the office. We're kidding. I'm like, it's so amazing to me that every single day I get an email about this stuff. And then every night on Love Line, it's like, my girlfriend can't have an orgasm during time. Every day, can't, can't have an orgasm during pregnancy. Every day, can't have an orgasm during penetration.

And I feel really bad about it. I feel like it's my fault. And then the girl fakes it because she feels bad about it. Because she thinks she should be able to. That's why I just wanna take over sex ed in America and just go teach the real low down sex ed to people. Because the fact that I get an email once a day

from a woman or a man at least that says, I masturbate on my own, I always have orgasms, but I can't turn sex, and that a guy's like, I feel so bad, I can't please her. It happens to everybody, this is like science. But nobody knows. And you just said that, but you should know this. I do know. I do know.

That's why sometimes, sure, you can perform oral sex, or I'm up, but sometimes you just want to quickie, the thing do whatever and if women can have a g-spot orgasm Did you know that typically they need a clitoral orgasm first? So if she let's say you're having an of course sex and she has How that or clitoris and then she has a clitoral orgasm and then you're inside or she can then have a g-spot orgasm If you amazing fireworks. It's amazing, yes. Just tell me, you're going to come to my side. Okay, hey Emily, I've been thinking I'm so turned on when I'm on my period and seeing

that May is Mastervation Month, what are your thoughts about sex, masturbation, and your period? Thanks, Sydney. My thoughts are good for you, go for it. If some women get super turned on during their period, they get, they really into sex and they want it. Um, masturbation again, if it feels good, you know, a lot of times like for me, first day on like crampy, I just rather like go to sleep. I mean, does masturbation really need a month? Like people do it every

day. Like masturbation does because it's making, this is the thing about masturbation month. Oh, wait, wait, wait. What? Answer the question thing about masturbation month. Oh wait wait what answer the question What masturbation you don't like you're the kind of guy that may masturbation No, no, no, no, no, no, no, I was gonna say I was gonna say you should you should share the story if you're gonna talk about masturbation, you know, whatever it's a dumb holiday month whatever people made up I resent that but yeah You should do you should share the story for people people because you get new listeners all the time. Share the story about your friend in Arizona that like masturbated for you. Okay. You want to hear this? Okay, we're sorry. Go ahead and go ahead and do it. Okay. So I had a friend in college,

my best friend, still my best friend of this day. She had never had an orgasm. So she had entered Chippen Arizona for the summer and she was there for like, you know, six weeks and she thought, you know what? I'm gonna masturbate every single night for for this month or six weeks that I'm there. I'm gonna I'm gonna just work on it. I'm gonna try and She didn't have one at first like first second third week. She still didn't have one like it felt good She was getting to know her own body, but finally Like the fourth week. She had like finally had the orgasm.

She figured out her G-spot the whole thing. And she put that work in every single night. And I have to tell you, till this day, she's still like, we're still about, multi, or every time she has that guy hate, I kinda hate her sometimes, because I was like, how was it? Well, not she's married. We don't talk about it as much, but she's like, I had four orgasms. I'm like, during intercourse, like it would upset me. But I honestly think it's because she took the time

to understand her own body and that women try and they don't get it and they don't think of, and you gotta know your own body. So a lot of women, the reason why, and then too, but mostly for women that they're having sex that is not fulfilling to them is because they expect either A, their partner is going to show up and know what to do. And B, or B should even be A, the most important thing

is you need to know your own body and what makes you feel good because then, when you're with a partner, you can show them. She knows what positions to move in because she figured out her own body. And I bet you there are very few women who spend that much time dedicated to it and imagine if they did so this month It's a great month to get to find it. Maybe you're freaking multi quadruple Lictistic I made up a number sort of orgasmic But what if like you had this amazing erogenous only got the the back of your knee and you could have multiple orgasms You didn't even know it like we have eroticistones all over body So it is a good month to explore your body. Yeah, some of it though

Like how into the guy you are like in your mind Brain is our largest sex organ. I mean if you follow a question for that one too. We wait you mean like You know don't you probably get like a higher high I'm just sex organ. I have a follow-up question for that one too. We wait. You mean like, okay, if you buy a set... Don't you probably get like a higher high when you get to that point if you're like super into the person on a level like, you know, you're in love with them. And then you should be able to orgasm now.

No, no, no, that, it just makes it better. The orgasm. Yeah. I'm asking this because I want to know if you ever experienced that with a guy that you've were super into. Well, when I would have- A guy that you think is the guy that you've been into the most out of all your relationships. I've been- I don't know that much time.

I mean, no, there has to be one guy that- That's something I'm going through. Please don't tell me that you use car salesman from LA. No, he was actually the worst. That's why I don't see, we really don't see, I mean, like I really don't see it together. Emotional connection with somebody. Because these are the questions that I like to ask.

But when I had an emotional connection with somebody, I had an orgasm. You guys are so perceptual and I always try to get you back to the emotional side. OK, so what are you saying? What was the question? The question is, who do you think is the guy that you have the most emotional connection with?

I always have emotional connection. I know, but that made sex better because of that. And why did you break up with him? I break up with him off of the same reason. And yeah, I believe that with these guys that I've been very close with, like most guys that I date, I get very intimate. It's not just like the sexual, it's intimate. Like I can't not have the most at all connection with someone. So I wouldn't say there's one that stands out from the rest.

That's like, I mean, there's like true love that I was like, oh my god, but no, I mean, sexually, I think the closer we are, the more like intellectually we connect and talk about things, and the sexually better, because we're also communicating about that as well. But I don't think, just because I'm really into a guy, I'm going to have incredible orgasms with them, unless I or typically people won't, I might, because I know what to do, but it doesn't mean that every woman is wait, like, someday my principal commons, so will I. Like, obviously, it's like some guy's gonna hear

madly in love and then they're gonna have an orgasm. You need to like, talk to your part, figure it out, show them. Women don't wanna show, they don't wanna like, they like, you should know. Did I answer your question? Kinda. You always... I didn't emotionally attached.

Have you? Okay, so what do you think about period sex you probably don't like it the dirt dirty sheets I mean it I just kind of up to her if that's what she wants to do what do you mean I'm not gonna like say oh we should totally do it right now you know if it's what if she says you babe I think she's like then I said fine then we'll we'll find we're just gonna go have it on the and put a towel down in the bathroom. Yeah, but you don't get it on my you know But so anyway to answer questions and yeah, I have no problem with it

If you want to fix your partners down with it you can masturbate whatever feels good to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah We're gonna wrap. Yes, so good to see you, man You too, I love seeing you. I'm sorry that I haven't been around. I, you know, been going to weddings and stuff. I love that. And people getting married. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I hope I was good with you and good luck with your new show. But this show is your number one, so that makes it really good. Yeah, yeah, my priority. So everyone, check me out on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. And you can ask me questions through any of these sources I get them everywhere. It's sex with Emily across the board and menace is menace, but you should spell because

people think they spell it wrong. M-E-N-A-C-E on Instagram. And you're more on Instagram too, right? Yeah, Instagram and Twitter. Yeah, he posts a lot of his meals if you're into that. Yeah, I love food. Okay, everyone, thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you?

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