Sex With Emily - Cyber Sex, Latin Lovers, and Happy Endings

Episode Date: December 3, 2016

With the end of the year fast approaching, I think we could all use a little boost in our sex lives, whether it be your confidence, your health, or your level of kink! Are you wondering how to take your Skype sex to an even hotter level? Does an STI mean the death of your dating life? And what are the rules for rocking a first date with a woman… When you’ve already got a man waiting at home? On today’s show, Emily and Anderson tackle these common, but often difficult sex and dating situations, plus Emily shares a spicy story from her trip down to Mexico! Be sure to tune in… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You look fresh. Fresh daddy. Like nice. Like how you daddy? Hey, daddy, you look so handsome though. I mean, you always do, but your hair, you just, I don't know if you seem happy. That 35 to, uh, too hot, but I, I need to drop about 35 pounds, but thanks.

Dude, that's always been a good show. I got my winter coat on, it's not, I feel jiggly when I walk. You know how it is. No, you don't actually. I do. Dude, I've had the jiggle. You don't have to jiggle. No, I mean, I definitely have.

I go out, I go down, it happens. What being a new dad makes you fat. So they say, yeah, because when he's eating, I'm eating, and he eats a lot. Right. Or he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose.

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He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's like, oh, he's not even eating like the nose. He's Really? Yeah. So you're eating just like snap chips just to keep past time. I'll try to bond with the kid, you know, I figured we'll eat together. Right. But he eats like every hour. It's not good. So you're like, he can't eat it. I'm not eating. He might be offended.

Right. And I also get a little jealous because he looks so satisfied. He does this little thing where his fists go ball up and they like kind of come together on his chest. Like he's a boobound. He's constantly on the wife's boob or on the bottle on my lap. And I've never seen a human being so set looks so satisfied. As my my newborn does when he's eating just like not a care in the world. Just absolute satisfaction.

Oh my god. That's adorable. Six weeks, huh? Yes. God. I'm going to come visit him. Well, you look great. So I went and you see me happy. I'm sure his picture of the baby. Doesn't he like you know you see? I'm so typical. Huh. Look at my barber. No, but like I know you would actually make fun of someone like you right now. But wasn't you so you guys to be fair to me. You guys were asking for the pictures. Yeah, no totally. I want to come see the door. I'm going to visit you want to come visit him. Yeah, you know that you've been saying that since he was born. Okay, but I was out of town for the last year out of the country, huh? Another country.

Well, you're going to have some kind of like stranger opinion diseases on you. I don't know if you should come to a newborns house. I've had a little stomach issues. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, really? Totally. I'm coming. Am I, I gave you a nice present, though, but I'm

bad that I haven't been there. I love the present. Everybody been there. Does she like it? Yes. Yeah, yeah, she loves it. It was endless. The registry.

He likes it. Well, it's important. Yeah, she got me a bumper for the crib. All right enough about that enough about the products of sex It's about what actually happens nine months later after sex. Let's talk about the actual act. Okay, let's talk about I agree Well, it's good to see you so yeah things of things to be good. I was in Mexico to the location with some friends Oh, that was just for you time. That was me time. That was not work time. I did not work at all I didn't check email. I had fun. It was great Really good around here really you did really yeah, I know I know really I barely I don't think it was um you get hammered

I did no no usually we go to Mexico and get hammered This is a group of friends I go with they go every year from San Francisco and I haven't gone in a few years But I went this year, but we used to be just crazy. We get there like shots to kill from the airport, right? You know, can you pull over? We just be drinking all that. But it wasn't like that this time. It was kind of more mellow. But it was wonderfully well far in Mexico. So I lead to where is that outside of a port of our top? You fly. Yeah, you're saying houses. It was fun. Yeah, it's safe, right? Not really safe. Well, not that safe. It was fun safe right? Not that safe Safe that's why I drink when I go to Mexico. I'm worried

Here's a thing I feel this is probably not a great thing But I've never had that fear wherever I go you are ultra gringo. I would be a little bit nervous about you I Look very kidnapable very kidnapable. Yes, no, but I'm tough I traveled on the world by myself. You look very kidnapable. Very kidnapable. Yes. No, but I'm tough.

I'm not gonna get knocked out. I don't know if you can really read the toughness. I did have a little rendezvous that I'm not sure that I really want to get into the only one that knows as Eddie who works for me. What? I took a Latin lover because Eddie recommended it before I left. So Eddie works for me. What did he say?

What are you down there? Pick up a Latin lover. He said to me before I left. he said Eddie, who's sitting here, he goes, you know, you should pick up with the land guys. Like they're great lovers. And I never really thought about it. You remember dabble? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no full like all colors of Benets and kind of like right like the United United kind of like yeah I agree I should I've done a lot don't get me wrong I haven't just stuck to like United States territory right but never with the

guy you know I love this conversation I'm having where like you're like defending like no I've slept with a lot of do don't worry don't worry I've been around a lot of different colors sizes you know people have maps on the wall of places they've traveled maybe I should put a map on the wall of guys I've banged in, which different countries. My dad actually was a, no. You're dad had that. And yeah, he was in the Air Force and he banged his way through Europe. He had a little map of Europe and he would check off every country that he had sex with

the woman. And there's only two countries he didn't do. Spain because of all the Catholics and one other, I can't remember. He had that actually like. Yeah, he'd brag about it. I thought it was a very special idea, but now I don't want to do it. But no, he didn't have it on the wall. Like he had it folded away somewhere.

You need to have it on the wall with little pins. I know, but it's a fun story. I don't know if I really want to get into it now in this moment. Well, the actual act. Well, because it's kind of a funny story and I wasn't even gonna bring it, but I let's just say,

why aren't you gonna bring it up? You got to bring it up at some point. It's so hard to truncate it because I told Eddie the whole story. You're a storytellie at some point. It's so hard to truncate it because I told Eddie the whole story. You're a storyteller. You talk to a normal microphone. You get a truncate. Okay, I was there.

And what we did was we decided I was gonna be a really healthy chip. And I got to be honest with my best friend. I was one of my best friend. And she just got diagnosed with first-stage breast cancer. Oh, huh. She got checked, had a lump went back. And so she's like having surgery, right?

A very sexy story. Not a sexy story, but don't worry, it's gonna get better. My point is though, to a lot of women out there who don't get checked and don't get their mammograms, all that, I just really hope that you all get checked and take care of yourself. So it actually encouraged me.

I'm gonna, I've let it slip, I haven't gotten a mammogram. I'm gonna go, so this trip was a little more mellow because she was there, we're like, shunt drinking and she's having surgery. That's the dark side of it. But no, it was more like, we're gonna get massages every day, we're gonna run, we're gonna be healthy. So, here's what happened, it's a company,

and the first that has a place on the beach. First day had a massage, it was not good. I'm very particular about a massage, it's like I want deep, I want the shiatsu, beat the crap out of me, hurt me, I've got tension, I've got pain. And the first day, this woman's like, I kind of, a lot of people like that, I'm vacation,

they just want the soft, when you're like harder, you want the soft. So the next day, they're like, well, I made a massage appointment as well, but I'm a cation, they just want the soft, but- You like harder, you want the soft. So the next day they're like, well, I made a massage appointment as well, but I'm like, I want it with a man. So I got there and I saw the guy and he was there and I was like, listen, it's gotta be better this time

or I'm not gonna do it. Like I need deep, he's like, okay, okay, I'm like, listen, like the really, if it's not good, I said just do 30 minutes. So I sit down and he's like, starts to do this massage and it's like, I'm like, no, I'm like, and I kept showing them, like, not this with the hands,

this harder, harder. And then I'm lying there going, God, and he was like, I felt his anxiety of trying to get it right, understand my body. And all of a sudden, I felt the angst and the pain of every man in the world trying to understand a woman's body. And like how that anxiety like through my body,

like I wanna figure out this woman because he knew that I was disappointed and he wanted to be the one because before I got on the massage he goes I will help you I will do what you want I will do it and I said okay so I could tell he was like really like I'm driven and then all of a sudden and then I got up I said no that's not right and then you get struggling and I felt the pain it was kind of like that game you know that game bang Mary-Kale yeah whatever like you do want to bang this person. Do you want to marry that? You want to kill them? Yeah, so first I wanted to kill him like I hate this guy He said he was gonna do it. I'm leaving after 15 minutes and then all of a sudden

I just started breathing and I started moving so he could kind of know what I want and then all of a sudden it was out He he got into this group where he read my body and what I it was like I was like oh, I hope he goes to that spot and he did. And then he got into it and touched me in this way that like things were releasing from my body. And I was like, I was breathing out your lying down. I was breathing hot air like I've dragon out of my mouth. Like, because it was like, he knew how to touch me in a way

that I'm like, how did he get this? Like, I don't know. I was just, you got into it. You got into it with my body. And it was literally, and then all of a sudden that I'm like, how did he get this? Like, I don't know. I was just, he got in tune with my body. And it was literally, and then all of a sudden I looked up after like, I'm like, days eyes and I said, well, how much longer?

He's like, how long has it been? Because I was like in another world. And then the other thing is that, would I've been working out a lot for myself is through all my somatico work I've been doing, is like really getting out of, you know, I'm like being in my body, in my body. So I kept thinking and I going, okay, breathe, body, breathe.

Like what am I feeling, what do I want and trying to like rest into that? And so it was a very like somatic in my brain going, I don't think about anything here. And so finally after like, it seemed like it was a half hour. He's like, oh no, it's been 45 minutes. So I'm almost done. And then it turned out, he gave me an hour and a half massage.

Mm-hmm, a half hour for free, so I'm almost done. And then it turned out, he gave me an hour and a half massage. Half hour for free, huh? Right. It rocked my world, and then in my brain, afterwards, I'm like, there was nothing sexual about it. But I'm thinking. Did he always have both hands on you? Yes.

Are you sure? I'm positive. Okay. What do you think he's, can this be a straggling room? He's like, moaning on the beach. I was literally moaning. I was like, I was like, oh my god, it's so good. I was almost, I was passed out. It was so good. So I was like, thank you. That was amazing. And I got off. I left to go back up on the beach. I was literally moaning. I was like, oh my god, it's so good. I was almost, I was passed out.

It was so good. So I was like, thank you. That was amazing. And I got off. I left to go back up to the house because our house is right in front of it. And I was joking with my friends. So I said to my friends, I'm like,

you guys carless, my new husband. Like I was joking. Like he knew my body like crazy. I can't believe how amazing this massage was. It was like, he'd read it to my body and it meant so much that like, I think I could guide him and I was able to receive. So then the next day I go down to the beach and I make another

appointment. He's not there. And I said I'd like to make an appointment with Carlos. And they said, okay, you come down at three. Can we change it in Rika? Hell, I can Rika. Rika. Okay. So then I got three. They're like, oh, sorry, he said four. I'm coming out of four. Like he said five. Oh, when Rika is drinking. It's canceling. Yeah. So I go out of five. They're like, oh, he can't make it today. Oh, I'm like, ah, so sad't make it today. Oh, no.

And I'm like, ah, so sad, but it's okay. I had this great experience. So I go down on the beach like eight o'clock at night. We're right in front of the beach. And I go down there to walk, and he comes out of nowhere. Oh. Yeah. Was he on a horse?

In my brain, he was. He was drinking a corona. So cliche. And he was just walking. And he was like, hey, I'm like, hi. He was like, what happened? He's like, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that I missed it today. I was so busy.

You're telling me. He said, I'm really sorry, I'm really sorry, let you down. And I said, yeah, it's okay, it was a great massage. I loved it. We sat down on the beach, she said, you're really beautiful. What? And he leaned over. And okay, so I'm thinking to myself another thing is that I feel like my sexual energy has been a little shut down lately. I've not really, I always thought of myself as kind of a flirty, open person.

And I shut down a little bit. And then that was just a madoka. I was thinking as well through my final course, I'm just going to be more expensive. I looked at him and I was like, because is this sexual? Is it not? Because how could he have done my body? But then he looked at me.

I said, that was just amazing. And he's like, you like shouts, you don't like massage. Is that what I asked someone's that? And then you did not like massage. And then he kissed me and he started like touching my face. And it was really hot. He's like, you don't like massage. Is that what accent was that? And then, he did not like massage. And then he kissed me and he started like touching my face and it was really hot. He's like, meet me later in the square. So we met.

In the square. It's like old times. Yeah, we met in the square. Can he be fired for this? This seems like it's crossing over all sorts of boundaries. Well, that's where I hesitate to tell this story, but he was not inappropriate during my massage. We had drinks and he came.

He was totally respectable and dressed and nice. My friends came with me because they were like a little anxious about it. Yeah, concerned. Turns out he's a tantric, he studies tantra, he studies Chinese medicine. Oh, so that's very interesting. He's very tough. He has had accent. No, but he's very into like, you know, energy and he could read my body.

We talked a lot about it. He goes, well, you know, about the PC muscles. And he goes like, really into like, kegel muscles and people eat a lot in common. Let's just say that. And then he asked to check your kegel muscles to see how they're doing. Exactly.

Or you were bragging about them and then they're acting out. And then you, you were like, I was like, do you know that I've, I phone up like, how can I, but he didn't understand. Did you go back to his place? He was like, we went back to the massage. So then he's like, let's, we went to a like a party at the beach, the old friends was great. We went back to the massage. So then he's like, well, we went to a party at the beach, the old friends,

and then we went back to the massage place on the beach and we like put the curtains down and he moved the tables together. Oh, it's like a little cabana type thing. Yeah, we had sex on the beach and he was very into my pleasure and he was like, not about his pleasure.

He was the massage you knew. He was incredible sex. With his penis, essentially. No, he wasn't keeping it. He wasn't keeping it. With his penis, essentially. No. He doesn't even keep it. He doesn't keep it. Literally, it was like oral, it was figures. It was like, I've never had a guy in, I can remember, be so attentive and understand my body like this.

That makes sense, right? Because he's a masseuse. So. I don't even, yeah. And he studies tantra and he's studying. Did he charge you afterwards? Because that'd be really bad. No, no.

We're like, we're fun love. I have to be here. He's in company with me, no. But here's my point of the story, is that I feel like in some way my pilot lights back on. You know, like it's been off and that mind, yeah. Nice. Do you find yourself hanging out of love?

No, it was just so random. And I know it sounds weird and it was hot. How much do you think of it was because he was Latin and how much was because he was a masseuse, you know? I think it's a lot of, I don't know if it was because it was, it was more open just to like just being open to things that I wouldn't have been open to, but also I think it's that he understands bodies. Are you ever going to see this man again?

Are you Facebook friends with him? He told me I should come back. No, he has a phone because like, well, text me if you're not going to be there. He's like, I don't have a phone. Then he rode off on his horse and sunset. I don't even know, but what I'm saying is now all about sex. Again, like I'm dating, I'm doing things. I'm excited. Do you want to go back? Are you already have you already looked into? I kind of was like, yeah, I should be back over Christmas. Yeah. He said, come back. And then I gave him my card and told him what I did. He's

like, so should I call first or just come visit? I'm like, just visit. You know, phone to show up. It's not weird. It's, I missed that a little bit. You know, I'm happily married and I'm I'm I'm not looking into the past longingly, but when you first have like a new relationship and it gets physical like that, like how that person's completely on your mind all the time. And it's not like you're in love. It's just like this new like exciting thing. And so all we glon, here's the best part though. So I left my friend's date and I said goodbye to him. Oh, this was the night I was, oh here's another thing. We fell asleep on the beach till like 7am,

and I had to leave that morning. So we watched the sun rise together, and then I take a bite, and I was back and packed and went to the airport, but I was saying goodbye to my friends, and I had my, I had sex with Emily, and all I got was this t-shirt that I gave to my friend, John, my ex-boyfriend who rented the house there. And John's like, John's like, I'm bringing in Ricky this t-shirt. And I was like, please don't.

He's like, no, I'm totally, because he's not wearing it. I'm bringing in this t-shirt. I'm like, I don't know he's going to get the irony. But then it's also like, whatever. So it's funny. That's my story. It was a really good trip. Get the big lips on it, right? He's probably beat off. He says, I had sex with Emily and all I got was his t-shirt, which he could be something. That's my story. It was a really good trip. Get the big lips on it, right?

He's probably be off. He says, I had sex with the Emily and all I got was a t-shirt, which he could be something. He's probably being off right into that shirt right now. Oh no, it was a fever. But I was really into him for about the 12 hours following. Well good for you, I'm really glad. Thanks, I do.

Yeah, I do. Things have been good since then. Sex and the news, you got me. You know what? That was my sex and the news, Anderson. Are you cool? I like sex and news, so. I like your news sex. Thank you. Yeah, your was my sex in the news, Anderson. You cool? I like sex in news. I like your news sex.

Thank you. I'm a new one, ma'am. I'm a new news sex story. So let's get into some e-bals. But first, let's give a shout out to our sponsors. So thanks everyone for supporting our sponsors. We love you. They love you.

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You're gonna love it. Okay, emails. Okay, if you have a question you want me to answer on the show, that's amazing. It's really easy to submit your questions. You just go to sexwithemily.com. You click on Ask Emily, fill out the form and hit the button, submit, that's it. You can also leave me a voicemail, 818-ask-swe1 or 818-2757931.

Here's the other thing. You can also, now what we're doing is we're taking calls. Anderson, remember we did it a few weeks ago That was so fun. I did it twice with you twice Yeah, so you can also just like check a box when you're filling out your question saying yes I would like to be called and then I'm Eddie here will a sister producer will call you and tell you to have a Latin lover That was great. Yeah, thank Eddie amazing Latin lovers. I'll tell you other things too

Okay Hi Emily my fiance and I love your show I said, Eddie, amazing, Latin lovers. I'll tell you other things too. Okay, hi, Emily. My fiancee and I love your show. He lives in Sydney and I live in America. When we get together, the sex is amazing, but it's hard to keep things exciting when we're apart. Cyber sex was great at first, but it's got boring really quickly.

We're closing the gap and moving in together soon. But what can we do in the meantime? So our cyber sex is amazing as he is. Help Fatima. Okay, for Tima, it sounds like you've got the cyber sex part down. I'm assuming you're like on Skype or FaceTime, which is awesome, but even that can get kind of wrote.

I understand. So ways to improve the sex part. You can start working on some things that, you know, maybe you wanna do when you see them. So maybe even wanting to talk dirty. Maybe even wanting to role play. I think it's be so fun. If role play like makes you feel uncomfortable when you're like together, you can be like, okay, tonight, you know, I'm going to be the school girl and you come as my master and you can wear some sexy outfits, do a strip tease for him. Toys are awesome. You know, we've talked about like the sink by Wevibe, which just came out a few months ago, S-Y-N-C, Tana website. He can totally vibe you.

Like he can control that vibrator well, you are using it and he can be in charge of the motion, you know, it's Bluetooth. Right. So that's really hot. You can hold her hostage. Yeah. Like no more until you do this. Exactly. No, you can totally do that. And you'd be like, you should be can hold her hostage. Yeah. No more until you do this.

Exactly. No, you can totally do that. And you'd be like, you should be like, more and more. No, like say this, say that. Say that. Maybe he's got some failures as well. Right. I mean, the thing that I love about this is like, because you're not really, yes, you're

looking at each other, but you're not really in the same room. It might be more comfortable to enhance some intimacy. So it sounds like while you're doing the sex thing, you might need some more like real connection. So you could suggest one night, you're right at your bucket list. Like maybe there's some things you both want to try. You can exchange those lists, maybe even try one of them while you're skyping or cyber-sexing. You can watch porn together, master rate together,

mutual masturbation, which sounds like what you've probably been doing. But I think in a hearing like you might want a little more intimacy so you can send them some snail mail. People actually still do that, even though weren't we talking about the post office only as old people in it now, Anderson? I don't know if that was me.

It was me. I was like, no, I'm here. Can go to the post. Yeah, there's like, but I hate post office. I go way too off. It's terrible. I know my post lady. I know me too. So since I see photos, you know, you yeah, I hate post office. I go way too off. It's terrible. I know my post lady. I don't mean to.

I don't want to. So sexy photos, you know, you can actually mail him some photos. You could sex. I said, new totally Polaroids emails to build the anticipation. But, you know, you don't have to be like skipping the four play. Like if you guys just getting on and master rate, like you guys could start to tease each other throughout the day, just like I tell couples in, you know, who's see each other every day. Gotta keep it fresh.

Just like your Facebook page. Exactly. Keep things fresh. Yeah. You could set the mood as like it was gonna be a date, like you could kind of change the way your room looks like like candles and just wear something sexy and make it like it's an actual date.

Maybe you guys didn't really gather. I mean, talk. Yeah. It's not just about like masturbating, hanging up. Don't just hang up actually though, right after you both climb back, because you can stay on the phone for a while, wind down like if you were cuddling,

because dude, let me tell you something, I was talking to producer Maddicell, this I actually got in trouble once. In trouble, I was dating guy, we had phone sex. And afterwards I just hung up, because I was like, I'm not. No goodbye. No, I was like, bye, I gotta go.

Ho, ho, ho, ho. And then he texted me and he's like can you call me back? And I'm like I'm really tired right now. And I was like, Oh, dick, you're a dick. So anyway, comps find that that really upset him. And he felt like he needed more for me and that I just left him hanging after our, and I apologize.

Like I was like such a dude, I was like I'm so tired. You were using them as a piece stick and that's rude. I know. So maybe it's nice to have a little aftercare, a little talking after. Yeah, I, yeah. What? I was, no, I just don't. You would never be that guy that, what?

No, I would never be that guy. And I don't like being treated like, like, you treated that guy. Either it's awful. It's very hurtful. Really? Is that what I get of, it's happened a few times. So when I realized I was being used just for, uh, No, I was dating him.

I know, but it's sort of. Yeah, exactly. Sort of. It was mostly about the sex with him. No, I wish. No, it was the phone's axis is good. Going back to this email, do you, well, kind of, jumping off from the email, do you think there, I, I know there's got to be a couple who likes the Skype sex so much that that's how they even under the same roof

I bet they there's a couple out there that goes in separate rooms and they do it Maybe I think that be hot actually I think that's You know it's safe. It is totally safe And it's kind of like what what phone sex used to be when I used to couples like talk dirty to each other I say you know it. It's a great way for you to kind of talk about what you want, but you're not really in the same room or face to face, so you don't have to face that kind of like rejection. So I feel or like that kind of insecurity. So yeah, I wonder if couples do that. I bet.

Even if you're in the same city, but you can't see each other that night, get on the phone. You skype a lot. Face time more now, but. No, no, no, no. Watching. There's ways of, you know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, have all these poor girls who are just at the time doing it for their boyfriend. Now it's like, you know, being shown to strangers. No, I know I had a car at the swill my friends daughter the other day. She's like 20 and she's like, what do you think about setting? She's just out of line dating.

Here's what's happening now. Sean on dating. She's 10th swiping. She's broke up with a guy after three years. And she's like, you know, 10th swiping. She was what do you think tender swiping? She's like, what do you think about sending the naked naked photos and here's What's happening a lot of guys a lot of guys are like send me a picture when you first meet them and I'm like, oh

Guess what happens after that sweetie? He looks at it and show that whoever stayed next to him. So no don't do that When they're first are dating Guys are so forward now. They know you've know it's such a sad. I know I tell my nieces to I'm just so forward now. I'm dude, you've know it's such a sad. I know, I tell my nieces too. I'm like, that's the culture. It's very upsetting that I miss this. You know how many guys you had to be like,

I wish if I had Tinder, I'd be like, I think people are lucky they didn't have Tinder. And I'd be so much more worried. The worst thing for me when I was dating was like worried about an innocent girl that I was stating, getting taken advantage of by other guys afterwards. You know what I mean?

I was always like, I was very protective. And there's a lot more that going on nowadays, I think. You were protective because you broke up with them but you still cared about it? Yeah, a lot of times like we break up and then I'd be really worried about the next guy coming on. And you know what, I've learned about that. And this is so interesting.

Just recently, I came into the breakthrough. Tell me. I think what it was was I didn't respect them much and I knew that they bugged me and I pictured other guys coming in and being bugged by them But using them for sex and that was my biggest fear was them just being used so that's kind of loving in a weird way Yeah, it's a really weird back-handed thing Annoying and I dealt with it for a while

But that's why we broke up and I could picture other guys coming and saying yeah, she's annoying But she's at least just hot so all better yeah, and I hated that idea of them being taken advantage of like that Oh, that's weird Sweet It's hot, so all better. Yeah. And I hated that idea of them being taken advantage of like that. Oh, that's really sweet. No, it's not weird. No, I can look at it in a ugly sense. All right. You could back a look at it away that it's actually in some way kind of like.

Let's look at that with it. I appreciate that. Thank you. I'm trying to look at it around. Okay. Dear Emily, I've been regularly sexually active since I was 17 years old. After getting out of a committed relationship for a few months, I hooked up with an old friend with friends with benefits while visiting a city I used to live in. A few days after we hooked up, I began having symptoms relating to herpes. Confirm the diagnosis with my doctor and I'm now the reluctant recipient of HSV2.

After telling the women that I got it from, she wanted nothing to do with me. Right now, I feel ashamed and incredibly alone. I feel like damaged goods and that my sex life is all but over. I understand that casual sex is not an option for me anymore, but I'm unsure where to go from here. The stigma against HSV is pretty strong. I'm terrified of dating again only to open up about my condition and be rejected or ridiculed. What can I do to bring this up in a manner that fuels the discussion about my condition rather than a quick dismissal? Do nobody reputable social networks or others in a similar situation? I love your podcast. I respect your advice. Please keep doing what you're doing. Regardless will. Oh, well. Well, well, well. Here's the

good news. Well, a lot of good news. Well, you're gonna like this. I think. Yeah, the good news is that everything you're feeling is exactly what you should be feeling and what everyone else feels like they're damaged goods, they're never gonna have sex again, that casual sex is overordered, that you're... But there's a lot who don't feel that way because they're irresponsible, Dick. True.

So Will's a good guy. Well, you're a really good guy. And you feel like you're become a monk and join a monastery. Better news, none of this is true. None of this is true. Right. None of this is true Well, I know right now it feels like it's like this life sentence, which is true You will have herpes for life, right? You can almost remember her that way. Yeah, you'll always remember that way You know send her card over your anniversary of the herpes, but here's the thing

You take a daily suppressant You would you say every time he has an outbreak because you don't have outbreaks very often. You don't have. When you do have an outbreak, you just take that pill. What's it called? Ultrax or there's a lot. Yeah, there's a few. Oh, I know it's sounding like I have herbs. I don't have herbs, but I've been a day of people who do.

I've been a plenty of people. And I've had unprotected sex with plenty of people who have the herbs. I don't have the herbs. I don't have the herbs. Right. But every time, just as a kind of a fuck you to her, every time he gets an outbreak, he can be like, Hey, your filth is on my dick again. How are you?

No, let's not go that way. You don't want to do that? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no your sex life. It is not even a deal breaker. Don't even have to talk about it, really. Well, well, you don't have to talk about it. Not on the first date when it starts to get on heavy. And you know that you guys are going to hook on. You could take a sentence. FYI, I have herpes. I would diagnose H, you know, HSV, herpes, I take a daily

it's a present, 99% effect, 99.9% effective or whatever it is, 97% and you're wearing a condom too, right? And you're wearing a condom? Yeah, if you're wearing a condom, you know what? Because that's catom. Okay, Madison, your producer is reacting to all this because I don't know, I've never been in Will's position, but she's, from what I'm sensing from her, it's a really bad thing to wear a condom and be not having to break out and have sex with a person without telling them

She's is this true medicine. Is this what you're kind of implying? You want to use my mic? I actually just learned about something called because I was researching this and it's called Shedding and there are a couple times a year that people with herpes are like shedding their skin where they don't have a breakout, but they can still transmit to their partners. Like there's no sign of it. You have no idea of no way of tracking it, nothing.

You just, you know, I've heard about it. You have a breakout. You should always tell your partner whether you have a breakout, whether you're, it's under control and you haven't had one in two or three months. Condoms don't always protect you. Right. Unless it's on your shaft, a condom is not going to cover the surface area that would

transmit from skin to skin. Usually it's the area like around your junk too. So you're saying if you're shedding on your dorsetunic that you could infect them. Yes. Yeah, you can. It's you're right. It's still a risk. I don't get any points. But you're not saying no, but you're saying what matters is when you said you don't have to work on them You absolutely have to work kind of every time and what Madison saying about shedding is yes There are risks. There are there are chances you could be shedding and you might not know it And you could still you know you could still transmit your partner the chance I was speaking I can't even could be a carrier and they might have it and they don't know so the truth is

It's it's more common than you think that people have it. You're doing the best you can You're one and five or one I want truth is it's more common than you think that people have it. You're doing the best you can. You're one in five. I want to say it's I want to say it's I know each be everybody's guy. I want to say to one and five. Can you get that up real quick? What it is now. I was actually going to you know, so um, but here's what wills up against is like you got to tell you do have to tell your partner.

You do. So I think what Madison was saying is I would you have to tell your partner. Yeah, especially if you care about them. And but you are going to scare some people away. And the problem that wills up against is in whatever medicines about to find out how many people have it. I would you have to tell your partner. Yeah, especially if you care about them. People don't. But you are going to scare some people away. And the problem that wills up against is in whatever medicines about to find out how many people have it. Or I didn't look at them. Most of those people are not.

They don't even know. Some people don't know. They don't know. Or I think that the majority of people, especially in their young 20s, aren't that they're going to be like what I just said, which, you know, as long as you're wearing a condom and you're not having to break out, you don't even have to talk to them about it. I was speaking on

a turn. I've never actually had to go down this road to figure it out. Yeah, it's just the right thing to do. And it'll get easier over time. You're 20 years old. And it's dating forms too. Or just, but he also asked like, are there sites for people, you know, dating her? But it appears that the best ones is HIFT and hope, HIFT. Her, her being cute. But there's another one called positive singles for people with any std um that's a dangerous baby pool it aides isn't there right dude I didn't I don't know it is well you can probably sort by std okay okay one in five yeah that's what I thought 90% of those with herpes are unaware of it

yeah this is what I'm saying is that like people could have have it, you don't know, you can't trace it, take the daily suppressant, or your doctor might recommend that you take it when you're having breakouts, but you're gonna be fine, your sex life is not over. Be honest with people, I've had guys be like, I have herpes, I'm like, okay, I take a present,

I've had sex with them. And you can always lead with, honey, I have something very important to tell you. I don't have HIV, but I do have the herbs. Right. No, and here's the other thing. Here's how you also have the conversation. Is that you need to educate yourself as well, like with all these stats.

We're telling you and what the chances are of transmission because you don't want to be like, we need to talk and make it this super serious, like, dark thing. But it's like, listen, I have herpes. This is what I do for it. And I just want you to know. Yeah, it's all about the delivery. You can actually do it in a really smart way. You can actually use this to your advantage in some ways.

If the girls receptive and say, look, I really care about you and I really, really like you. And I want to take it the next step. Actually, you can even open a door for talking about sex in a very caring way and say, I just want to let you know that if we go there, I would like you to know that I got the, I'm not, I don't have a breakout right now, but I have seen them in the past.

I know what to do. Take better face. Maybe a lot of people have won break out. They never break out. Never again. So anyway, just don't look at yourself as an outcast sweetie. I know so many people who are in this phase, he just got diagnosed and this happens. It's like a pimple, right?

Yeah, it's like a pimple. It can, it should be like a rash. I've seen it on people's faces. I've never actually seen it on their genies. Yeah. I've googled it. Well, I know. That's a good time. I know never actually seen it on their journeys. I've not Googled it. I've seen it. Well, I know you can't. I'd rather not.

Yeah. But I can see it on lips a lot, because you know, there are people like on your face, because those are out in public. Right. Because I don't live in Saudi Arabia. So I see, you know, girls lips with the hurt. You do not. Right.

Exactly. And guys have a little bit of BTW. By the way, I've not seen a whole lot of dudes. Usually it's the girls with the lip. You're probably not looking at your guy friend lips. Maybe I'm not yeah inspection or So I think what you girls do is you try and cover it up with a lot of makeup which makes it even more Noticing sometimes I have a cake to I'm free, but Yeah, so sweetie. Yeah, so check out those sites, but and you're gonna get pracked

You're gonna have practice over this and it's it's you're gonna be fine and know that you're a good guy And you're 20 so by time you're 30 everyone will over this and it's, you're gonna be fine. I know that you're a good guy. And you're 20, so by the time you're 30, everyone will have it, so, you know. No, I really hope that sounds the case, but let's be honest. Okay, so, another email. Ah, hello Emily. My name is Monica, I'm 25 from Los Angeles.

First off, I just wanna say I love your show. I listen to it every morning on the way to work and I'm way back. I love the thought of people sitting in traffic, listening to his ex-family. Makes it better. I need some advice. I love the thought of people sitting in traffic listening to his ex-family. Makes it better. I need some advice. I recently got into an amazing relationship.

We've been together for nine months. It's been great so far. The guy used to be really in really good shape, but he recently had an extreme weight gain and his conference has gone down the drain. He's super self-conscious and it's affected our sex life. He doesn't want to try new things. Sometimes we won't even take his clothes off during sex. I don't know what to do.

How can I let him know that looks really don't matter to me and that he's perfect? Just the way he is. Thank you, Monica. Actions. Actions what? No. No, because I got the same thing.

I feel like I'm going to want to gain weight. I feel a little bit heavy right now. And I don't feel like I'm very attractive at all. But if the wife is like coming to me and saying, you're totally, I just didn't have to say anything. She just comes to me and I can tell. Right I'm very attractive at all, but if the wife is like coming to me and saying, you're totally, I just didn't have to say anything. It just comes to me and I can tell. Right, okay, so that's,

actions speak a lot. So you think your advice to Monica is just keep, just go after him, okay, just kidding, make the first move, do all these things. If you really are attracted to him, you're way ahead of the curve

and he'll be able to feel that and he can just sense it. If you're actually kissing him and crashing him and doing whatever it is you do whatever you want to do to them because you're attracted to them still you can't really make them move start yeah I agree but I was gonna say I mean that's that's really good to hear Anderson that for you even if you have these issues around like weight gain stuff that would feel like fat dad bad right now you always feel fat okay yeah I'm known you for like five years now you you you've never said I'm really

feeling really spelt today. So this has been your issue for a long time. And I want to say like, she, it's lucky that you're married, you're in a confident, secure place. There were a nine month relationship. So what I'm thinking is that there's probably a million different ways that she can let them know that she's sexy and she's turned on and she's attracted to them. And I like what you said about making the first move.

But when you're feeling insecure and fat and I think bitch you and you're not good about yourself, it doesn't always work. You say that as a woman though, and I can say as a guy that's usually, you know, I'm like, you're right, you're right. The past, like our on button is a lot more effective.

Right, like you just start, like you just as if it's pants and he forget. Yeah, most guys were just, we were ready to go a little quicker than you. We warm up a lot faster than you guys. That's true, that's true, right. You're right, your frying pans, we we're ready to go a little quicker than we warm up a lot faster That's true. That's true. Right. You're right. You're frying pans. We are slow-cookers I'm sorry to shut that on the engine down once it's on right exactly So you could just start maybe you just have to start making the moves and that will help him feel more sexy and more confident

I'm concerned that he's just he had such an extreme waking in nine months and I'm wondering if he's depressed or something else is going on Yeah, that's a whole different issue. So well, that's what I'm thinking. I'm thinking maybe he has no sex drive either, but again, with men, you're right. It is different than in women in that regard and that we don't get turned on as quickly if our mind is on board. She's going to have to come in and give them like a surprise, you know, the, uh, yeah, probably. Right.

Drop the knees thing type of thing. Yeah. So, which is always nice. Say the impromptu drop the knees. Ladies like if you want to do that every now and again, it's nice. It is really nice. It's rare. We understand that, but it's nice when you do it every now and again.

Exactly. The what do I call it? The the blow job. The the spontaneous blow job. The the random access spontaneous blow jobs. Yeah. So I think that's I don't know. We need an acronym.

Yes, I figured out I'm not going with math. Also she can. Yeah. Or she can plan some like chubby porn on her computer for him with math. Also, she could, uh, or, or, or, I'm big a man who's a fat. Just kidding. What a what a content. Getting who's had wakey that was so mean, but you're so not fat. What you guys were all told me how I look when I walk, do you're the least fat. I'm sorry I called you to see word, but

it was that's really aggressive. But you know that all of the fat is my I do things say you walked in. That was really hard because I you know, I think you're you walked in and make you look hot first of all was the first thing I said to you and To me you've never looked like you've get you've gone up any weight at all hide it well, and I don't even see you all the jackets Okay, whatever you're super sexy. You look great. So I can call you fat as a joke and can't let me tell you about that one Oh, no, do you know that can't originally comes from the word like everything like like each sand script times like that Kant originally comes from the word like everything like like each Sanskrit times like Kant it was related to queen and and and a lot of co words are very actually powerful words and we'll come is actually saying like you are like the goddess and beautiful woman and I think

you're new nickname back do it you know you don't have to do it now but it doesn't fuck me like fornication under consent of king is there any kind of uh is there any kind of reality to that? Is that in fact, I don't even know what that is. Like for the longest time, like surfs couldn't have sex unless they got, like a stamped approval from the king

and it said fornication under the consent of king. I don't know, we can look that up as well. I'm just how you think of it. Like it's a holy, holy word. Okay, holy word. I don't know how, where did it go? Same with pussy.

Because it's sick. Well, so think of when you say it though, it's just an aggressive, I think it feels good sometimes when they say it. You're just wrong. So think of when you say it though, it's just an aggressive. It feels like the Americans, when they say it. But I can't believe you just call me there. It takes you a lot. I use two syllables too.

I say, cut. But when the Australians are the Brits say it, it sounds like glorious. Yeah. And I just, I want to take it back. OK, take it back. Really? We'll get you a be dazzled shirt, where it says it in

giant letters across the chest. So let me just tell you, I want to say this. What did you say? I'll get you a shirt for Christmas and be dazzled. across the chest. So let me just tell you I want to say this correct. What did you say? I'll get you a shirt for Christmas and be dazzled. Be dazzled to see you work. I want to bring it back in like a really good way. Good on that mic there honey. I want you to bring it back in a good way.

But it's a okay it's known as a vulgar vulgar word from female just gentily and also disparagement. But the earliest known use of the word. um, let's see where we go. I don't know if I can find all this out. But I'm just telling you that we have a lot of it. I bet it was her of it is that, um, I'm not going to find something. I'm just holding it back to the content. I think that was actually her nickname for a long time.

Uh, I'm not going to go now. I'm going to tell you that I'm going to take it as a compliment. You do what you want. You know what? I think that you call me Fat P-H-A-T. I'm a kid of the 90s, so thanks for the compliment. Let's go. Okay. Hi, Emily, I love your show.

I need help. I'm happily married to a wonderful man and we have two young kids. I spend most of my life taking care of my family, which I love, but I need something more. I've always been bicarious, but was not ready to pursue anything with a woman until now. I made a friend on Tinder who's also

in a straight relationship with looking for a female friend that could possibly also be a sexual relationship. We have a date to meet next week. I'm looking forward to meeting her, but I'm afraid I don't know what to do. Slash, talk about. Do I openly flirt, pay for dinner?

If I feel sparked about trying kisser, ah! She wrote. She wrote that. Ah! Yeah. I've been living my- She did. I've been living my whole adult life

squelching my sexual attraction to women. And now I have this opportunity, but don't know how to behave. This feels like high school. Over again, thanks so much. Rocker mom, but don't know how to behave. This feels like high school over again. Thanks so much. Rocker mom. 30 Minnesota. Rocker mom.

Why nothing about the blatant truth that you're cheating about your sheet on your husband? We don't know that he didn't consent to it. I asked that question to whatever that says. I was like, uh, total disregard for the kids, the family. Maybe the husband's cool with it. I'm going to take this option that he gave her permission to have a good time to do this. All right. Why? Because she's like married with kids. This is something to do when before you

got the kids and all that. I just say your husband's consenting of this endeavor. Okay. It's a weird time for me to say, hey, you know what, I've never sucked a dick. I want to give it a shot. It'd be a weird time when I just got a kid. I got the wife. Totally agree with you, but we're not going there right now. But when you do go there, I can't wait for you to let me know first.

Okay, so let's tackle this one question time, okay? Should you flirt? Yes, yes, absolutely. You should flirt with her. Like, if you're into this woman, you got to flirt because here's a thing when you're like, with women, most of my friends' majority, it's not sexual, right? We're like talking about everything, but it is a little different. This is going to be new flavor. I'm distinguished. It's not like a girlfriend. You're like, I'm a track of

two, like together. Like, neck of your nails and together. You're like shopping. But this is kind of a date. Or if you're getting your nails and you're talking about how good it's going to feel because your nails are all smooth now, it's going to be so great on the vault. Exactly. It's going to be nice trimmed cuticles and nails. And I don't think that women are going to be as judgmental of you as making these moves that you have to have all these right things that there's going to be some kind of protocol.

Now, she's in the same exact boat you are. So I think you guys being women, you'll probably even talk about you become this meta kind of like, this is kind of weird, isn't it? Yeah, I wasn't sure what to do. I was nervous. I was nervous too. Supposed to be uncomfortable and they're supposed to be a bunch of hiccups here. You guys are both anticipating them and go with them.

That's going to be part of the experience. Right. So just like really, you just know that you're going to be vulnerable, you've got to be open and might be a little uncomfortable. Should you pay, there are no rules here. Just like when I got in a date with a guy, I always pull. I do the, I do the reach. You do the reach. I do the reach every time. a date with a guy, I always pull. I do the, I do the reach. Do you do the reach?

I do the reach every time. At least you give the satisfaction of the reach. I do. I feel like I always got it like, and by reach, I don't mean I reach out of pants. No, no, she reaches. I reach my wall. For her card.

Yes. And usually, you know, they're like, no, like, there's a joke though, like, she doesn't even bring her wallet. She just reaches towards the first. I just reached. Exactly. When I was broke, I just didn't bring my wallet

and I reached. And that was fine. No, I'm never complained And the zone comfortable little bit. Oh really you sure okay, okay, no, but okay, yeah I'm so broke. Please pick it up. Please yeah, yeah totally. Oh my god. This credit card actually won't go through What you can give it to the wait just a couple others and we can try to right? So yeah, anyway, I think that you know eye contact flirting smiles, she's new in it as well. You're going to be fine. Should you pay?

Oh, again, reach for the, we'll do the reach. See what happens. Maybe you'll both straight off. I don't know what's going to happen at your first date. Somebody gets the food. You get the drinks later. Yeah. And you'll know just like you know when you're dating men,

if there's a kiss, if there's a vibe and you want to kiss her. And here's the other thing. Since it's new for both of you, nothing might happen on this date. Like just like a lot of dates, I go with guys that we don't kiss on the first date. Like I said, date for both of you, nothing might happen on this date. Like, just like a lot of dates, I go with guys that we don't kiss on the first date. Like, I said date with the guy, we did not kiss on the first date.

Second date, we did. A little bit more. That's the story for this. It's not in Rika. Rika, you banged on the first date, yes. It wasn't really a date. Unless you call them such dates. But anyways, so I would just,

I understand why you're nervous, but I think you're gonna know what to do when you are there. Especially because she's in the same boat. And just don't stress about it and have fun be present, be in the moment. And if you're shy, let me know what happens. I kind of want to, I really want to know. If you're shy or nervous or a little bit uncomfortable and not sure, that's actually very attractive to a lot of people. Yeah. It's kind of cute. It is cute. It's so that you're vulnerable and you're real. Don't try to be something that you're not. Yeah, don't try and go in there or swag or like, I've been eating blocks for years.

Let's do this, you know what I mean? Eating blocks. Box, box. So they said blocks. I'm like, is that a new sling? I don't know about. Yeah, I think this is happening more and more. But again, I'm sure your husband's down with it.

So let's move on. And then go home and take care of your kids. Exactly, and how much better that'll be maybe. OK. Mommy's breast smells like fish. Oh, dude. I'm sorry, but that's be maybe. Uh, okay. Mommy's breast smells like fish. Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm sorry, but that's what happened. It might happen.

It might not. That was very locker room talk. I apologize. What happened to this show? What the fuck are you? Jesus. A small segment of your audience enjoyed that. Part of most of them bright didn't.

I'm sorry. I'm offended. It comes with being a cont. Because they're too cheesy. Most of them bright didn't I'm sorry. I'm offended We got a raptus guy up yeah, yeah, we do this was awesome tell me that's fake the fur you were Yeah, okay, cuz it'll be weird to have a leopard on you. It's not a real leopard. It's actually And we can't kill it for you. We can't want to do this leopard for me. It was so romantic. Good to see you.

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