Sex With Emily - Dating Dilemmas: Is It Them or Is It You?

Episode Date: September 28, 2016

Today’s show is all about getting back into the driver’s seat of your sex life! Are you worried you’re doomed to a G-spotless bedroom existence? Are your impossibly high dating standards holding you back from meeting Ms. Right? Does “eye for an eye” really apply when it comes to marital infidelity? Emily and Anderson share sage advice to help steer you towards sex and relationship bliss, and uncover which careers are more likely to land you a Tinder date. If you’ve wandered off the desired sexual path, learn how to get back on track with tips from this podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Okay, having standards is a good thing when it comes to dating, but one of your high standards are actually the thing that's holding you back. In today's podcast, worried your doom to a G spotless sex life is tit for tat the way to recover from marital infidelity. What sex positions will put you in control in the bedroom?

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You're right, Simon. November, what do you do with all the things? I don't know. So that'll down on things. I'm just very grateful and thankful. You are. She really is. That's not even November. What do you do with all the things? I don't know. I'm just very grateful and thankful. You are. She really is. That's the real Emily. She's, you're just one of those people. You're all over the place at times, and you got a million things going on, you're juggling a lot of stuff,

and you seem a little bit frazzled at times, but you're always got to smile on your face, and you're just genuine. You don't have bad things to say about people. You're just a good person. You're really there. And I meet a lot of people that seem like that, but I'm like, oh, they got a dark side. I don't think you really even have a dark side. I could see you getting a little bit overwhelmed and frustrated and like maybe it's more about my set. My darkness is about my own stuff. I'm not like thinking other people. I don't talk about I really try. I really don't mean I might make you know jokes and that but I really

don't talk about people. I know people's a really bad habit to gossip. Super positive, but I know that they got a real job sign. And you're not that person at all. That person gives you to see me. If I could be dark. I've seen you at your best, so I've seen you at your worst. Your worst is better than most people. Oh, I understand. Okay, so.

Thank you. I just want to let the listener know. You're dark, but that's not. I'm dark. I just want to let the listener know that they're getting the real deal. This is really Emily. There's some people that are just like they are

who they are on air off air. Yeah, I guess I pretty much, I always tell people that when they're like, I want to come on your show of nervous, I'm like, it's like talking to me. I don't really like putting on my sex of Emily on. Of all the things that I do and all the shows that I do, this is the most fun for me, it's the easiest for me

because you do all the heavy lifting and I just kind of sit here and watch you do your thing. It's fun. And I cut you off sometimes. And if frustrated, you know, no, it's good. Let's go. It's a private. Okay, listen.

So then what? Oh, there's a thing. Like a puppy. What? Okay. Also, you can download the show also on Google Play SoundCloud and Spotify and review us, too. I don't mean to be so like needy here, but all this stuff helps we love doing the shows

Everything I just built up for you. What? I Also Emily if you see her like on the street should let's be like hi follow me I don't say you are the exact person on air as you are off air and if I saw you on the street I'd say follow me and Instagram yeah,, Instagram. Yeah, I would not I know you want it Nice to know you have you be to my Instagram page. Oh, because I'm saying wherever I go Exactly, I just say I introduce myself a sex with Emily Hi, how sex with Emily? I hate believe like have you met sex with Emily at a party really loud? Oh

The thing I don't want it to be about What I'm Emily sex. You should be like, I don't want it to be about. Hello. I'm Emily. Sex with Emily. Like James Bond. You know, so anyway, and the guy looks at me, he's like, oh, he keeps typing. And I know that he heard, I'm like, no, I'm not, I'm not a prostitute. I'm sex. I'm a podcast.

He's like, okay, yeah, fine. Like some of you are like, oh, yeah, he's like, just, he's just straight face. Straight face straight. My niece was like, rolling her eyes. How old's your niece? It was actually the 14 year old niece was there, but I had a few incidents like my, I have an eight year old niece of 14.

Yeah. 16 going on 17. Wasn't it you get like in trouble? Yes, with the 14 year old. We revisited that again. Okay. And she said she was eight. And she was eight.

And like you came to my house in San Francisco and you, I don't even know how you saw this. My bookshelf was like 500 textbooks on it. I was in my grad school at time. You don't know how she saw it. And no, I was like, I don't know how she did, but. My bookshelf is like 500 textbooks on it. I was in my grad school at time. You don't know how she saw it. I was like, I don't know how she did, but she went back to my brother and my sister in law weren't town. She said that my apartment went back to their hotel room.

And she said, Mommy, how come every book on Emily's shelf has the word sex in the title? And then she started reciting them, kind of lingus, likeene text, polyamory, like she would memorize the titles. And I don't know, and I asked her, I'm like, how did you do that? She was, I don't know, it was weird, I remember them all. But then my eight year old niece and I were on her snapchat as we do, snapping, the whole, she knows how to do it, right? She's doing it, looking at my stuff. And then, like, she's just sending it to her niece to my nieces and she's sending snaps

to my mom and to my, to Madison. And then, that's it. Like, she's sending snaps to my mom and to my to Madison. And then that's it. Like she's doing that. We did it for like an hour. So I see my sister long for lunch yesterday, for I left her the day for I left and she says to me, so Lexi, who's eight, asked me what sexy means. She goes, so that's better than sex. It's like, I get in trouble.

I'm like, okay, well, you tell her that it's nothing bad. Like, I'm just, I can't hide it, you know? Like, I'm sorry, she's not sexy. Like, it's fine. Is that it's nothing bad like I just I can't hide it, you know like I'm sorry She's not sexy like it's fine. That's not bad. She's ain't got any younger ones coming up You're gonna get through this and you know But you're almost as if the older ones are finally asking me questions. Yeah, like now it's gonna be like actually I'm sorry. She has to sexy could be worse. There could be dick pics coming in on my snapchat, which they were not So that was fun and

Snapchat, which they were not. Mm hmm. So that was fun. And- That was a bence that you got to dick pick. A real one? You mean not like from my cat or what or something? Or like- No, no, no, no, I got a real one.

Like I- I don't think I've ever gotten one. From like a listener who might have gotten your email on a steak or something like that. Well, we have a team of people here who have two, the cult of emails. Really? The cult of emails now.

Are there a lot of dick picks that come through? Not a lot of dick pics that come through? Not a lot of dick pics, she says. On emails. On Facebook. Yeah, I don't know how to do a dick pics. OK. Oh, you should see my Instagram DM.

I've scanned a little dirty. Don't you? Yeah, stop it. Go and set the link. Stop it. Please don't. Doesn't add anything to the show. Stop it.

You know what? The good thing about Instagram is they blurry it out. They know it's a dick pic. Are they pilot? Yeah, I can show you after I literally have you have 99 plus Directly Japanese porn when you get it. Yes, and they said we blurred the Simmons to protect you I love it Yeah, I wonder if they have Dogs now for a dick and they're like we've blurred it but but I love that they're sending else. Oh, you should take it. You should take it. Like a dog snout for a dick and they're like, we blurred it.

But I love that they're sending it to you anyways to protect you. They're blurring it. Why not just not send it? Why do you still say? Right, you should take a gig for some time into my DMs. It's a good place to be. They blur them. You really need me.

Don't DM me on Instagram. You know what I tell you though? I go once a month, I go through and I do when I can't sleep. I don't think the part can't sleep. And I'm like, I go through people really do when I like can't sleep and not that I don't think I can't sleep. And I'm like I go through people write really really nice things and I do read them and I try to respond to them and they're like I love your show. That's great. You could also email me feedback at sexbellme.com because I might not want to go into the

DM dick pic. Good news though when they tile your dick guys it makes it look a little bit bigger. Don't encourage. Don't encourage that kind of behavior. That's so funny. I know I do. I'll show you. I'm sure it's a computer program, but I like the idea of somebody actually just going through each one. Dick pick, gotta blow. Maybe the person who knows. That's funny. I know. I blurred dick pics for Instagram. What do you do? Okay, we also had some great shows lately. We had face sitting fetishes and foreplay

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Don't send that to camp anyone a camp I mistake because I get care packages when I'm up a camp That'd be a bad one to get I ever get a care package a camp that's Mark sex with Emily. I'm sorry no fence. Yeah, I won't open I got it. No, please don't bring it home and I don't know I said I need to like brownies a camp and that they know but they didn't give it to her either well Did you put sex with Emily on the return? No, they just don't give him packages a camp and that's the best part when I'm with a camp I know get care package especially if I could set lunch or something you get it in front of everybody else You're like look at this somebody likes me I know my parents didn't um but I said sorry now it's fine they're fine you know they birth as a

verbatim means you're a belt as a result and you're started a section exactly mom you should have sent me some magazines here's what you get do I some sex in the news I love the sex in the mean I think I told you this a couple weeks ago off air but my favorite still is the Swedish sex of the news. I think I told you this a couple weeks ago off air, but my favorite still is the Swedish section The News you brought to the table about the guy that got busted for beating off in Sweden on the beach But the judge did not charge him because he wasn't making eye contact with anyone Little world fantasizing about God knows what that's to this day my favorite sex in the news you brought to the table Oh, I'm glad I could give you a bar. Thank you. I appreciate the bar

So you want to keep eating the bar. That is really funny. Yes, okay Tinder reveals jobs they get the most dating app action and the results may just surprise you Dating app timber Tinder has revealed the most popular professions people swipe right for in the UK with Models finding themselves way down the list. Now, I think models dudes would be swiping on models and checks too, I guess. I don't know. For men, lawyers, actors, and creative directors,

were three professions most likely to receive a yes from a prospective date. Teachers, dentists, and speech pathologists were considered the most appealing in a female partner. What is it about speech pathologists? The guys are looking for this in girls. Yeah, dentists and speech pathologists were considered the most appealing in a female partner What is it about speech pathologists? The guys are looking for this in girls. Yeah, dentists. Okay Wait, wait, so for men women want men to be lawyers actors or creative actors guys want women to be teachers Dentists for speech pathologists. It's the UK. I'm just saying The dentist thing. It's right. Okay.

Speech pathologist that's that's not what I'm I dated a speech pathologist for a while. She was a colossal pain in the ass always correcting me every time I stumbled or mumbled she'd bring it up So I would not maybe that's just kind of Your vibe on it. But also I would think I Know I would just think that cover nurse maybe caretaking because yeah the caretaking the teaching Maybe and you know what teaching is probably even it's noble here in the States I don't know, I just think that we'll cover nurse maybe caretaking because they're caretaking, the teaching. You know what teaching is probably even it's noble here in the States, but it might be even thought of as more noble over there.

Exactly, that's true. That's true. Journalists appear of both lists while models come 14th for both genders. Every day they're more than 1.4 billion swipes and 26 million matches, whatever, on the app. Here's the other tip. Besides having interesting jobs, photographs, key to success on the app,

look straight into the camera and smile using your teeth. Show confidence, show that you're healthy and friendly. And you might need to do that nest. I don't know. Don't be tempted to airbrush your picture or present yourself looking too much better than you do in real life and give group photos a miss to avoid confusion

I agree you was the worst when you're on a dating app and there's like a group of guys like I'm like which dude are you? I don't want to look at your friends I don't have time to be like oh are you the one with the toe? I had the brown hair the blonde hair I've seen you in one previous photo, but that's annoying here's another one Don't use like crop out like Yeah, that's bad you know, I don't like the drinking out of the big red cops. Now people read so low cup. I hate so much. Just don't do that.

It's good song, though. But this one I give tell you men. Here's the top 10 professions that got the most swipes for men. Boyer actor, creative director, flight attendant. For men, journalist. Jim J. Bullock. And on that show too close for comfort, he was a flight attendant. Jim J. Bullock.

How do you remember that? I used to watch that show. So I entrepreneur CEO, architect, personal trainer, and then I was like, Jim J Bullock and on that show too close for comfort. He was a flight attendant. Jim J Bullock. How do you map that? I used to watch that show. Hi. Entrepreneur CEO, architect, personal trainer, teacher, doctor, photographer, registered nurse, engineer, model, chef. These are all for men. I love it. I love that doctor comes below all those.

Exactly. Because doctors are really important. Okay. Women. Number one, teacher, dentist, speech pathologist, interior designer, event planner, lawyer, real estate agent, personal trainer, register nurse, journalist, recruiter, musician, psychologist, model, flight attendant. Huh, flight attendant. Yeah. Makes a lot of the list. I think this is interesting. And again, yeah, it was done in the UK, but what do you need to change her? I can tell you what you can do.

What? Who's swiping, though, for like, you know, down on the road? Aren't they swiping for a quick bang? They're not looking at your teeth. They're looking at your boobs, the bangs, or the bangs, or whatever. But maybe it's also maybe over the years.

Even there's more teachers. There's more hot teachers. Yeah. That will get a swipe or go to the swiping. Or there's just maybe more teachers. But then if that was the, if it's the models, they're probably There's more hot teachers. I will get a swipe or go to this one. There's just might be more teachers. But then if that was the, if it's the case, models are probably gonna be the hotest.

Who do you have the real thing that matters? Is that, so I have a friend who's 24 years old and he really, He's too young for you, I'm stopping. I know, he's so cute though. But he's like really cute and really smart and he's like, I just, I need some help. Like I wanna go on Bumble

and I wanna go on Bumble's the one with the, you swipe still, but the women have to message you first. And I want to go in Tinder. He's like, but I just, I'm not great at the app. I don't want pictures. So like, I spent way too much time helping him, but it was kind of fun writing it because it was like, it is marketing. I got to tell you people like, you are marketing yourself.

So don't just throw it up there. And I know you're like, oh, it doesn't matter who it is. You're just like, the pictures. No, like, present yourself in a way that's interesting, like, take a moment and think about it. And honest, you've got to be honest. Have good pictures. Don't not with the people, not with your ex. Those are all important points. Um, but also rather than a list, like,

for example, instead of saying I like biking and traveling and cooking, you know, a list list list, like our eyes roll back on that. Who doesn't like it? Biking. But you could say like, I once rode my bike through Europe and I learned how to cook and I make a killer, you know, say, fly. Make it like a story. I'd like you to, you know, my next trip you're coming with me, message me for, you know, whatever. Like something like that.

No, but it's fine, but tell a story. Just tell the interesting story. I don't want to get into tension. I like turtles. I like this. Yeah, you got to like give it, give it a little bit of a flavor. Just pop, right? Because you got a lot of other applicants,

like writing a cover letter for resume. If you want the job, spend some time. All right, let's give a big shout out to our sponsors because we love them and thank you everyone for supporting them, because they help us do the shows here. And we only work with people we love. So I know you'll love them too. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪

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He used to do the auction. He used to do the channel. The people in the auctioneer. Uh huh. He would do the auction for raising money for PBS. But public. Did he? Yeah., I know you're talking about like I was a DJ he was a radio Radio like the auction your voice yes

Hey, no turn time for news. That's how we talked. That's pretty cool. I know I know that I know I like it was a lawyer like but he was a he was a shaker in a movie But he's still and the lawyer would like kind of the action actions be like no today you can get this brand new car over you Yeah, he talked like that. It was cute. It's sweet. All right. Here we go Emouth cuz we love the emails and we love hearing from you and now okay email us feedback I was gonna sing sing sing you could sing if you like I was gonna make a song a singer Yeah, you should make it like a little intro. I should do it a good jingle. Yeah, little jingle Do you think okay? I've had the same opening to sex with Emily for 10 years. Yeah, it's time to change it

I kind of feel like it's one thing. I'm gonna keep the same people are gonna love whatever they associate with the show I think it's like the thing it makes me feel warm and cozy the one time I listen to the show. I really like that Oh, do you know? Oh, I can tell you. Martini bomb. No, I do know. Dude, I've been asked that for ten years. I'm reiterating because I don't think the listener can hear what Madison saying. Can I hear Mike? Yeah, what the hell? Roll on over, yo. I got a mic for you right there. It's okay, but you're right. People do ask for this. It's a great song and it's fun. Okay, so the point is, feedback at sexathelemy.com. Also go to the website, ask Emily.

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Okay. Hi Emily, I found your podcast while on a long car ride and now I listen on my commute to work. I love your show because it's helping me to say sexually in tune. I've been with my husband altogether for six years and sex isn't as often as it used to be. So listening to your show encourages me to have sex more and masturbate. My question is about the elusive G-spot orgasms. When I was in college, I dated a guy who was

quite large and it was curved. From intercourse, I would have earth shattering orgasms. I mean like feet and hand-dumbing orgasms. One time, my hands were still slightly tingly hours after sex. Gee, that's not good. Is that good? Yeah. That seems like it's going to be. It seems like nerves are getting worse. Just a few hours is fine, but whenever 12 hours goes to your doctor, I'm still sexually attracted to my husband

and love him dearly, but he's not as large. He doesn't have a hearty, sick dick. Oh, dude, I cannot achieve orgasm from intercourse, but I can from oral sex when I masturbate using a vibrator. This also frustrates my husband because he wants to satisfy me from intercourse. We've used all kinds of toys and no luck with a G-spot orgasm. What else can I do in my G-spot sexually doomed?

Piper, 31, Florida. Piper. I like Piper. You know, you give a lot of advice and a lot of it lands with, hey, you should listen to the show with your partner, not in Piper's case. Piper should never hear this. Don't tell him about the curfew. Piper's husband should never heariper's case. Piper should never hear the same thing. Don't tell them about the curve. Piper's husband should never hear any of this.

Piper, first of all, thank you for all the kind of words and thank you for listening to the show. And I'm glad that it's encouraging you to masturbate and have more sex, but I totally get it. You were with a penis that curved and did the thing and may I give you a ortho-shouting orgasm. However, and how old are you? How long do you go?

You're 31, so maybe it's 10 years ago in college. Here's the thing. Your G-Spot is still there. And I would, I want to say that I think perhaps you're having this memory of this perfect penis that was able to just stretch and move and hit you in that way. But also there might be some positions in ways that I know you said you've tried it all. I'm trying to think what she said she did straight toys. Have you tried different positions like I'm wondering have you tried a gspot toy on your own or with your partner like your husband and

Had a gspot orgasm since the guy because if you could figure out how to do it with that toy You could figure out how to do it with your husband's penis. Yeah, I'm certain and here's a good news She's already looked at what's a good news. She's already located here. What's a good G-spot toy medicine right now that we love? G-spot toy would be the rave by Levi. Oh yeah, the rave by Levi. We like it. Yeah, that's a really good one.

So here's a deal. There's also so sports sheets. They make, you know, sports sheets makes all the BDSM, but the really cool bond is here. It's like Velcro and stuff, but they also make positioning products. For sex positions. Yeah, but they don't make the wedge.

Check this out. They make something called the G-Spot link. And it is so cool. You gotta go to the sport cheats band on my website. I'm telling you, there's some videos. Did you use the G-Spot link? I use the G-Spot link. That's why I wondered over to the table here.

She put on her role, but I have to share. Go. Okay, so I used it with my boyfriend over this past weekend. And it's, as you'll see in the videos, and as they'll kind of explain, it's these Velcro cuffs, and they've got like a little link that you can, you know, like,

what is that called? Like a little clip. You gotta clip in. Like a see-butt. Or a buckle. They're up. So it's got a little buckle, and you can buckle it together,

and you can have them really tight. So your legs are cluffs together. Right, so your leg, you're on their back. Yeah, your on your back. He's a bug. So it's got a little buckle and you can buckle it together and you can have them really tight. So your legs are clumps together. Right, so your leg, you're on their back. Yeah, your on your back. The legs are up. And your legs are up. And like, I don't know, maybe not other people who have more core strength, but I get exhausted.

Holding my legs up in the air, if they're like folded over my head, I have to focus on keeping them directed. And this was so easy because he could hold on to the strap in between them. Right. And position my legs depending on he could hold on to the strap in between them. Right. And position my legs depending on where he wanted them to be. And it created a really tight space for him. Right.

So even like, you know, my boyfriend's, you know, average, he's doing well in the penis department. But even if he wasn't doing well in the penis department, it would still create a much tighter space and a much tighter feel. So that, um, so that you can much tighter feel so that you can feel more from his face. It's hard, it's great. Wow. And it was a great time. Also, you can move it around because the whole thing with the curved penis, and I know

this because my boyfriend has a curved penis, is that it naturally hooks and gets your G-spot in certain positions. So if your guy now doesn't have a gigantic penis or he doesn't have a curved penis, he can move your legs around using the strap. I wish you could see it. I do a sword to explain it. You gotta go to the sport cheatsuck up because it's the cool, we, we, we, we, we, it's got the demo. Yeah, we tried it in every position. It was great. We even tried it with like a doggy style kind of like with me flipped over on the bed with my legs hanging down and that was great too. Oh my god. She was about to hit her. She was about to hit her. She was about to hit her.

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She was about to hit her. She was about to hit her. She was about to hit her. She was about to hit her. She great for me too. And it was like way less effort. And you can like, clip it behind his leg, or behind his neck if he wanted to. Right. He just wanted my legs like up in the air. So that is my favorite video. So we have a chance to talk about it. Yeah, I'm so glad.

Just this past weekend, so it's fresh on my mind. Okay, that sounds really fun. Okay, so Piper, get that. And then there's also the Doggy Style strap. That's another one that you, so Doggy Style position. God, people love Doggy Style. This can kind of enhance your doggy style strap, that's another one that you, so doggy style position. God, people love doggy style.

This can kind of enhance your doggy style because he can wrap it around your waist, right? When you're wrapping on your pelvis, right above your pelvis, and you're having doggy style, just check it all on the site. That's cool too. Here's something else you might not have tried. Have you been doing your kigle exercises? Because I got to tell you, Piper, for me,

that's why I'm wearing kigle balls, even if they fall out at important meetings and stuff. They really help, like I'm telling you that the more I do my caggles, the more G-spot orgasms I have, because those muscles, the pelvic floor muscles, they become stronger, it's like going to the gym, you do wear caggle balls or do your caggles exercises,

download my app, caggle camp, or remind you to do it every day, or if you wanna do it twice a day, you will have G-Spot Organisms. So, and use lots of lube, and I would try some toys and just relax about it. It's going to happen. You've already had one in the past, so you will have another one. I feel good about this paper. Okay, now we're going to do voicemail.

Voicemail time. Yeah, I'll go back to Piper for a second. It's good. She's ahead of the game a little bit by knowing where her G spot is. A lot of women live and die on this earth and never even know where it is. Exactly. Yeah, I do believe that every woman can, I believe it takes a work. The G Spotless group probably doesn't.

The G Spotless group. No, I think they get to get off their asses and or stay on their asses and keep running. So if you were to stumble across a meeting and you saw on the chalkboard out front and said, coming together, the G-Spot List group, you might stick your head in there and say, get to work, ladies. That's so sure. You got one.

Right. Just keep looking. Stop it. Stop it. You know what, I couldn't find it until I had a toy and I did my kegels. So, it hides. I mean, I need you gotta have a

literal orgasm and helps to have a literal or listen, if you guys, if this whole new G-Spot world is new to you, check out, we've done so many a lot of shows on the G-Spot, how to find it and let me have a lot of great blogs on our site as well. All right, so it looks like we're ready to take

a my first voice out. Oh, awesome. That's me with you. So we ready? And we're gonna crank it up. Crank it up, here we go. I am a great show. My name is Mike and I live in Ontario. I'm going to be 31 this month and my wife and I have been married for almost 10 years and we have two children. for a period of about six weeks. And prior to that, she had actually had a one night stand

with a guy at a bar. And I'm trying to figure out what to do right now, because I don't really want to end my relationship and end our life and everything we have going together. At the same time, I'm something who holds a sex really sacred relationship. I don't really know what to do because I feel like she broke that trust and I don't know how to repair that trust. And I feel like, you know, in order to put us back together, I need to go now and be able

to experience whatever it's like to kind of go off and have sexual interactions with someone. I don't know, maybe that'll hurt us more, maybe not, you know, what do you think? Because right now, I love her, the sex is great, but it just make up sex, and we had a lot of problems before, including, you know, lack of communication and kind of, I heard not giving sex to me and me not, you know, giving her space and conversations and other such mumbo jumbo. So how to move that forward. I feel like I'd like to just go off and have two relationships and I come back But I don't want to lose it. I don't really want to hurt her. Got it. Thanks. Bye. Thanks Michael. Wow. That was good, right? That was such a typical guy approach, right?

First of all, I love the voicemails people keep calling us. Let me give you the number again, because I didn't. I don't think I did. 818-275-731-Michael. What's that? What's that? What's that? Where? SWE-1. SWE-1. Oh, sorry. 818-ask-sw-1. Ask-sw-1. It's on the website too. Under Ask-Emily, you can find it on the website. Okay, here's the thing, honey. Michael, thank you so much for calling. I get it. You want to go out and you want to have sex with other people and that'll make you feel like it's a level playing field. It doesn't work that way, honey. It really does not work that way. And I get that you're jealous and that you're hurt and that you hold sex sacred and she

did not. But here's a thing about cheating in relationships. She did break your trust and it sounds like you were having issues before and maybe you're even blaming yourself for not giving her, I get it. You might be saying, well, I understand why she did it and some days you're really angry with her, but it's really, really hard for couples to rebuild trust on their own. It just is. Like you you just you're not equipped with it. You're trying to do with issues before this happens. So I this is where I suggest that if you guys really want to make it work,

do not go out and bang anyone else don't have sex That's not gonna help you've got a lot of anger. She's probably got issues guys got to get in some therapy Couples there. Yeah, you gotta really like this is the one time that like trauma like you You got to regain the trust and on your own you're gonna keep thinking about it. Keep thinking about it You'll think it's gone for a day, right? You got to have work with the counter that knuckle once. Like this could take months, but it's going to be the best work you ever did. Could take years. And but here's the most important variable here is the kids.

He's got the two kids. So you are a father before you are a husband. And that's like your most important role. And you got to do what's best for the kids. And you got to figure that out with your wife who you don't trust right now. So that's gonna be the hardest thing. But you gotta put there, the kids interests first before yours, right?

I don't know. Yeah, I mean, yes, absolutely because maybe that means you guys don't stay together. Right. Maybe they're better off. I know that I can. But they are married and they should try the best for yourselves and for the kids.

If they can work it out, but I come from a family where I really think my parents should have gotten divorced when I was young. They did not belong together. And I think that I got damaged because I had two parents together that hated each other. You just can't wait. I'm telling you, either people's parents got to, there's two kinds of people. People's parents who got divorced some estimate and people's parents who stayed together on estimate.

That's the two stories I hear. And you got it it and then the people who think their parents were so happy Then they idealize and think they can never find anyone else in that messes them up. That's gonna be like their pair No, they think they can never fight a relationship. That'll be as perfect as their parents right and that's Creed them up. Yeah, we're on the stop. It's a real good issues Everyone's got baggage and one's got but you got to think of what's the healthiest environment for your kids to grow up and Obviously, it's going to be that you guys can reconcile this and you can get treatment and learn to trust her again and rebuild that relationship But if that's not an option Hey

His idea of going out and even in the score as appealing as that sounds and I totally get it all want to do that It's it's not going to do anything good for the relationship, but a little further damage it for sure For sure, so maybe maybe it's you For sure. So maybe it's over. And you figure out how to embrace these kids separated. Well, no, he's got to try it for therapy. And then there's always one cop I always hear, my husband won't go. I mean, it's almost like saying, this is what pisses me off. Saying that you won't go to therapy when your relationship is like saying you won't go

to the dentist. Like it's that important. It's the same of same importance, I think. I think that every relationship needs that kind of to that. If you think of the mind as like a muscle for sure. The mind is a muscle, get to therapy. And that only, if you have insurance, it's gonna cover your therapy.

Yeah. And if you do it insurance, you could get a sliding scale. But there's nothing that's more important than your mental health. Get in there. And you know what, Michael? You're gonna be the one, I hate to say winning, but you're gonna have the head start with the therapist

cause a lot of the time they're trying to identify the issues, you know what the issue is. So you're gonna go in there, you're gonna be the therapist in your corner who's going to be helping you and your wife figure things out. Right. Has there ever been a, what? Or like she ends up cheating with the therapist.

Has that ever happened? Oh God, I hope not dude stop Why you Michael? We've just how Michael? I'm gonna open up a whole our can of worms or moving on just thinking of you move it on to another email my dad was a therapist I That's a you gotta yeah, you're gonna marry your therapist. You gotta go see a therapist Imagine our dialogue will just how evil you have to be as a therapist if you actually do that.

Okay, let's move on. Dear Emily, I've been listening to your show through the podcast app and I've got to say that I love it. You and your co-hosts definitely out my day go by a ton, go by a ton faster and it's cool to hear advice. I live in Boise, Idaho. I've been divorced for five years and recently I've been struggling a lot with dating. I meet a lot of great women but I always have issues with their body weight in the fact

that they have too much hair below. I know this seems shallow. I know women have a hard time losing weight because the female body works over the demands. And I know that vagina is very sensitive and there are a lot of women who have a hard time wanting to keep it shaved or keep it trimmed. Trimped. I'm not a fan of women with a big hairy bush. It's not the 70s anymore but every time I bring up the fact that it's too hairy, clean it up or I won't go down there, I'm in a fan of women with a big hairy bush. It's not the 70s anymore, but every time I bring up the fact that it's too hairy, clean it up where I won't go down there, I'm in the wrong.

Whoa, I mean- That's the fuck, kind of a way is that? Dude, we're just, we're on him, don't ya? I mean, I work out six times a day, I do crossfit, I'm on the paleo diet, plus I do my fair share of manscaping. I take care of myself, I'm looking for a thick girl that enjoys being with me and has qualities and features I'm looking for. Yet it seems I settle for the bottom of the totem pole.

Is that wrong to me? Do I need to be upfront with women about my needs or do I need psychological help? Thanks a ton, Roman from Boise, Idaho. Oh, old is Roman. Yes, and yes. You need to be a ton of the help. And he doesn't say, God's dammit, Roman.

It's really 20s. Yeah, I can tell you. Six times a day, God's damn it. Early 20s. Yeah, early. How many? Six times a day you work out, six night. Hey, Roman, beating off doesn't count as working out, okay? And I know this guy. Yeah, I know this guy too. This guy's got.

I know this guy's on the Tinder, maybe Thrender as well. And everything's about just getting his bang on. And it's like, Jim. You want perfect women though, and women can't meet up to her standards. But here's more, before we go on to Roman. Before we finish with that, you start commenting. There's more, Anderson. There's more.

Wait, Roman brings more to table. Oh, oh, she makes. Roman to give to keep some given. Side note, this guy wrote in Roman wrote three separate emails. Each one was a little different, but all of the time you got back from the gym, you wrote in the program. But all of them had his feeling pretty dismayed.

One was about pubic hair. One focused on the body weight issue. One outlined both. Also interesting, they progressed from aggressive and unapologetic to him being concerted by his behaviors and his own thought process. So we combine the three emails together. So first email, how is he doing?

I told you all that. So, you know, it's interesting. So at the end of the day, Roman, it's not about the woman you're dating, or even your standards. I think it's about his intimacy issues and deep rooted stuff going out with you and this that the ability he's working on his body perfection and then he's trying to find a woman to match that.

But I think that he's you're thinking Roman that if you are putting all this work in that you're a better person, it's going to make you love yourself, which I actually think maybe you don't truly love yourself right now. I think he's probably young and he's probably trying to figure things out. to make you love yourself, which I actually think maybe you don't truly love yourself right now because you're blaming the women. He's probably young and he's probably trying to figure things out. And I commend him for writing you and listening to the show and trying to figure that out. Yeah, thank you, Roman. I think he might just really like insight.

And perhaps that's a product of being young. And perhaps something like this might give him a little insight, at least how he comes off. Give him some insight. Because he's coming off to you and to us, like this aggressive, right, Right objectifying of women and I like how he gives himself almost kudos like I get it man women's bodies are different They're harder. It's harder for the for the bros to lose the weight over there. I get that but all those Derrick queens He's definitely considering he's just thinking of them as as flesh lights with legs. Yeah, right?

He doesn't yeah, baby maybe and I think that he's also might be finding a lot of fault in women, so he might not, he doesn't have to focus on his own. Yeah, he sounds like a perfectionist. And hopefully he has roses. He's six times a day. Six times a day is not possible unless he does it for a living. Do you not have a job?

I mean, obsessed to me, it was like, I just feel like that you're putting these stand in these, these are possibly high standards. You have in yourself, which I can't like that you're putting these stand at these these impossibly high standards You have in yourself, which I can't imagine unless you're like training for the Olympics. That's a really fun day. Yeah Another people as well Maybe before breakfast after breakfast before lunch after lunch before dinner after I would just just move into the gym Like what would you six times is too much takes it takes like just a half hour around trip just to get to the gym and back If you just play tag with the gym, most people live like 15 minutes away.

Yeah. Roman, here's the thing. I don't know why you got divorced, but he was divorced. Maybe he's not young 20s. I think early 30s, maybe by not sure. I hope you say. Yeah, I would think that. Yeah, he's divorced. So I'm just thinking that the thing about divorces, I think I know a lot of people have

like get married young and they get divorced. And it'm just thinking that the thing about divorce is, I think I know a lot of people who have, get married young and they get divorced. And it's a great time to learn about yourself. Like to look at, like, well, what happened here? What did I learn about myself, about what I want to partner? Again, I might just, you say psychological help, like it's a bad thing, Roman. I think we all need a little psychological help.

You heard me say that to the less, you know, email. And I think to the Michael. Everyone does. Everyone's a therapy I'm telling you is the most important work you could do Roman So I think that you're you're thoughtful and I know this is bothering you and I just think that to get some Perspective would help you. I'm sure you got health insurance. You seem like a you know you get hurt throughout the gym You might have a little little something against the ladies out there

Roman it sounds like a little bit maybe and just the way that he phrased the big hair. Very bush. The bush is coming back. The bush. So that's not going to be. You guys said that to me. I would be like, maybe he did that just for color for the sake of the email. Yeah.

But how do you be worded? Like, I'm not going down there. I'm not going to go do, yeah. Take care of that bush, Missy. Yeah. Like, that's just women don't want. Almost like he's ordering at a restaurant. He's like, I told you, I don't want parsley on my plate. Get it out.

Exactly. Right. I hear you. You're kind of a tricky with the women when you talk about. I forgot to say that to me. I'd be like out of the door with my bush. But I think what I pick up from that email and if you're to talk about this email Three months from now and bring up the Roman email. I go right back to the six times a day. It's just there's something up with that. Do you really say that was exaggeration too? Perhaps. There's a lot going on here, but I love that you love the show and that you're listening and I feel like that's the first step.

You're gonna be a movie here. I want to the studio for my car. My car is parked around the block. Do you think I should count that as a workout? Yeah, you could do it or how many steps do you do today? Like a hundred. Do you measure your steps? You want my little Fitbit does for me.

Yeah. I'll tell you exactly how many Emily and W My mom and my stepdad are like step hoarders 54 that doesn't seem right you gotta get out more. They're like hoarders They do like 12,000 day like they're like what they go, but I usually hit 10,000 a day always because you walk Usually yeah, I don't have a thing but I do I do like 3,000 in my house alone I'm constantly one room you're facing are you serious? Yeah, I'm never sitting down in my house Right, I can see that watching something. Yeah, I'm here. But here you're sitting so I can look into your eyes. I have I get I need to pace

Do I'm more You know Not one single session exactly. I'm do we've time for one more voicemail That was fun. Love the voicemail. Oh, we're doing a. Hi Emily, my name's Nina. I'm 24. I've been in a relationship with my partner for almost three years. I love our sex life, but I don't initiate sex often. This is not something my boyfriend has brought up to me as an issue, but I just feel bad about it. It's not that I'm not attracted to him. It's just that I have a lower sex drive and usually need a specific environment to be

in the mood. So, my two part question is, A, what are your suggestions for me so I can make a better effort to initiate more? And B, what positions would you suggest for a woman, or I can be doing more of the work and be more in control? I feel like guys have so many more options than women in terms of being in the driver's seat. Love your podcast. I'm listening from Maryland through the podcast app on my iPhone.

Oh, thank you. I love it. She was so official and that was so, um, should very take it. Nina, which is what my little citricles, my other little citricles, which is nickname for Nina. Nina, I really thank you for that great question and I'm for listening to the show. I kind of like these emails. I just want to get emails all day long. Okay, so here thank you for that great question and for listening to the show. Kind of like these emails. I'm trying to get emails all day long.

Okay, so here's the voice mail. Yes. Different from emails. Okay, so you would like to initiate more, but you have a little lower sex drive and also wants tips for sex visions that put you in control. So you've been together for three years, you say, and initiating sex comes up both ways. We hear it from men who want, women who want men to initiate more, men who want women to initiate more.

She wants one to initiate, I mean, if she doesn't have a very high sex drive, what, yeah, I understand, like, she has a higher sex drive than she needs it more, but why, it's like, I don't really like going on rollercoasters. I need to like figure out how I can get to the front of a line now. I'm not sure, but I think that maybe it would make, maybe there are times that you are turned on, perhaps,

you know, like, you're like, oh, I want it now. And then he doesn't initiate. But I think it's a good skill for everyone to learn how to initiate sex. It's up to a couple of weeks ago about finding that your boyfriend's on switch. And those guys have an on switch. They probably have a few on switches, yeah.

Right, for women, it's between their ears. Mm-hmm. And your nips a little, you know, there's different ways. Some nips for women. But I would say, you know, to initiate sex with him more, I would say like, you're really not sure because there's a lot of people who are just like, I just don't really know how to do it. Ask them. Like, you could even say to them like, I want to initiate it like, what would turn you on? If you're not sure after three, you know, you just might not be sure.

He would be like, I have asked him what, hey, what would turn you on? He might say, God, if I come in and I open the door and you're on your knees and give me a blowjob. Just guessing. Some guys might like that. The steak is cooking. But you also, you know, I mean, I just think it's really like the kind of thing that you practice it, it makes perfect and you'll find your own groove. It could just be like, I want to have sex,

you could just say it like, why not have sex with you and start kissing them? You could start, you know, you could make a special light for when it comes home and like, you know, put a little blindfold on him, give him a little massage. I would try a few things with him. And if you're not getting anywhere, then plan B would be to like sit down and ask him, like, what would get you going?

Or how would you like me to initiate, you know, because I have until guys that would, like, my girlfriend says she wants me to tie her up or she wants me to initiate. And I want to do. And it's like, well, ask her what we turn around. What? You get a rope. Get a rope. Get some sport sheets, coughs. They're amazing. Okay. So, um, also the second part, and like, you, ask her what we turn around. What? Get a rope. Get a rope. Get some sports cheats, coughs, they're amazing.

Okay, so, um, also- The second part. And like, you're still trying to be, okay, better. Okay, so you would like sex visions that put you control. I mean, definitely woman on top is the dominant position that does put you in control because then you could, you know, you can move around exactly how you need to, you know, have that orgasm.

That's how it works for a lot of women. And I'm telling you, these G spot link that Madison talked about, I mean, you can control if you want more G spot orgasms. I mean, you put your feet up there, like your boyfriend might be moving it, but like you're definitely you're having like killer, killer orgasms. If you, um, vibrators, I mean, sex toys are great too. In any position, you hold one in your hand for literal stimulation.

We love the rabbit lay on. That's like, it's a little rabbit vibe, but it's like in your hand, it's a literal vibe. And the two ears, they like, no salute to critters. And you can use it, you can use it during intercourse and stuff. I would add some lube. And lube is great for orgasms.

I'm trying to think what else, like, you know, versus cowgirl, I mean, to be honest, I'm not gonna taste from crazy weird positions, but I do think that, you know, versus Calgrime, to be honest, I'm not going to taste some crazy weird positions, but I do think that you do wheelbarrow, but the truth is it's like going on top, it's doggy style, but I think that, um, yeah, top, top, is where the ladies have the most control. Yeah, exactly. And I would also say that, you know, how is your masturbation routine? I know you have a low sex drive, but I'm just telling you, it's kind of like, I always

say it's like going to the gym, the more that you masturbate and the more you self pleasure yourself, the more sex you're going to want. It's like the more I do my kegels, the more G-spot organisms I want, I know what more sex. So I also have a book called Hot Sex over 200 Things You Could Try Tonight. A lot of positions in there, a lot of Anderson's and all of them twins. I would have bet that there's probably like a dozen in there that are good that you might have seen before.

Exactly. But again, initiating what you start doing it might be on Comptalville the first time, but like anything with sex the more you do it the more comfortable will be. And I think it's a great time to start communicating with your guy. Okay, thank you Nina. That was a great voicemail. Thank you Anderson for the lovely show. Thank you M for having. So good see you and everyone can come see your podcast and your movie Yeah, groupers the movie calm. I'm I'm I'm a week into my campaign right now as I speak these words So I have a bunch of really fun perks including my cold cockle production swag and shirts part of the perks Coffee mugs all the shorts that I've been talking so much about you're actually a voice in one of the shorts that is available for part of the perks

Also to Colta Carano all those all my shorts are finally up for grabs for helping you know raise money for the feature Cool, which is insane the feature is insane This movie is very controversial. It's all about homophobia and bullying. Yes. Okay, check out Anderson's stuff. And also, I'm actually heading to Europe this week. So, yeah. What? We don't remember we talked about Hanover, Hamburg, Germany.

Oh, that's right. Yeah. But now I'm going to Hamburg, which is confusing, but they're both in Germany. Now I'm going to Hanover, Hanover, we're going to Europe, which is a sex conference, sex industry conference.

And then I'm also going to Amsterdam. Ooh. And I'm going to hand over a hamburger with a Euroframe, which is a sex conference, sex industry conference, and then I'm also going to Amsterdam. Ooh. And I'm going to be going to some stores and doing some appearances, not sure exactly where yet, but I'll be there in October. I'll be in the red like district in a window. Shocking.

But yeah, email feedback, I'll check out my website, social media, because I'll be posting more of them at. So follow me on everything, Instagram, sex family, Twitter, to do a show from the right like district. I know I'm playing a new zoom thingy Mike. That's the only audio. I've got a camera to him.

Yeah, you should document. I got some fun. Yeah, yeah. Okay, okay, check it out. I could do some live stuff on the wall. You walk it down. You need to do a little video of you walking down the red light district. I will. You've been there for a long time.

It's just so easy, right? Because sex with family and that's what people would expect. I know that's why I'm going. How you react to it? OK, good. So be following my Snapchat and all my stuff in the next week or so. And if you want to see me there, I'll maybe I'll see you too. Because I'll be at places that I don't know yet.

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