Sex With Emily - Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: The Sex Number Rule

Episode Date: February 28, 2015

 In the latest podcast, Emily and Menace tackle some of your emails and give advice on how to stop getting in your own way, and get the sex and relationships you deserve. Email topics include how to relax for anal sex, sexual insecurities, long distance relationships and how to cope with a partner’s not-so-magic number. Plus scandalous Coachella sex stories, an upcoming workshop that will blow you away (Literally!) and some scintillating sex in the news!Whether it’s a high sex number, a lack of sexual experience or an inability to relax for backdoor play, this show will teach you how to get out of your head and do what comes naturally in the bedroom. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We have two a week and they're all pretty freaking good, right, Mattis? If I do this to myself. Yeah, they are. I'm here with Mattis. Hey, what's going on? How you doing? I'm great.

It's been a minute. It's been a minute. It is been a minute. Last time I a minute. It is been a minute. Last time I saw you was at the Grammy's Radio Row. What you were very nervous for, but I'm a veteran. I'm nervous, dude. Well, you were asking me like a billion questions about it. I'm like, I'm busy, you know?

And I've got time for all that. No, I didn't, dude. I love that you love seeing that. I was not nervous. I had no idea what it was. You're like, oh, yeah. I'm going to be interviewing Justin Timber like that day. And then you.

So I didn't know it was a big thing. Yeah, it's kind of a big thing. It was super fun. How do you explain what is like 40 top radio stations around the country? Yeah, so they go to the Staples Center where the Grammys is held. And backstage they have about 40 to 50 radio stations

across the country. They all sit down and then it's just kind of like rapid fire where people just brought by like anyone from like, yeah, like a Justin Timberlake or a famous singer, actor. Who's the team kid, everyone's freak out about him. The team kid. You know, the brothers, the Jonas Brothers.

The Jonas Brothers? Oh yeah, yeah, Joe Jonas, yeah, he was there. Yeah, because the woman who was, you know, you get like an escort, she was like, oh, I just thought Joe, Joe, she was like, found him, I'm sorry, I'm not, so I'm not that excited. Yeah, well, all was there. Yeah, because the woman who was, you know, you get like an escort, she was like, oh, I just thought, Joe, Joe, she was like, following him on board. I'm sorry, I'm not, so I'm not that a satient. Yeah, well, all the girls were like super thirsty

for Joe Jonas, that's why. Because he just did like an underwear ad, I think, for Kyle and Kyle and I, like Bieber. But he probably didn't get it Photoshop. Probably not. So yeah, they were like super excited for him. We saw Big Sean was there while you were there. He probably, don't know who he was.

No idea. Big guy. Yeah, no, he's actually a little guy. But he's dating Ariana Grande right now. Yeah. So you might know who she is. But yeah, it was a good time. That's fun. I got to beat your family because menaces. This is Shaz Woody show. Every morning I never got to meet your people you cheat on me with every day. Yeah, every day, you know, if people are new to the podcast, I'm also part of a morning show in Los Angeles. It's called The Wooden Show on Alt 987. And you can hear it every day from 6am to 10am. But we're there doing interviews.

And yeah, again, on the list, the people, I was looking down and it said, Emily Morris, I go, what the hell, why is she on the list? You know, because you're amazing, that's why. Right, zez. And so I go, of course,, why is she on the list? You know, because you're amazing, that's why. Right, exactly. And so I go, of course, yes, we check yes for we want to interview you. And then we did the interview.

And here's the funniest part of the interview. Okay. That you have no idea what happened. Oh, tell me. Do you know the entire time my girlfriend was standing right there? Dude shut up. Where? I would tell you. I'll tell you this. No, no, thing is, because my girlfriend was standing right there. Dude shut up. Where? I'll tell you this.

No, no, the thing is, because my girlfriend and I, we hold on, hold on, she's calm, calm down. Okay. Okay, so like since the area is such rapid fire, we don't have like a lot of time to talk. It's like in and out. And so my girlfriend are like, how you know, really want to do the whole thing?

But then they're like, ah, then it's gonna like, it's gonna mess up the flow of like the people coming in. So we didn't say anything, but she was standing right there. She was the one taking all the photos. I don't even remember. Yeah, see? Now you don't remember. I can't believe it. She's still like not like, I think I didn't ask her for glasses. Yeah, no, no, no, no, she doesn't care. Okay, that's, I can't, why wouldn't you just say, hey, that's my girlfriend? Because Dendra would stop everything about like super busy. It was busy, that is hilarious.

I love that. If it was a totally different situation. Medestive, I'm going thing, he's got some girlfriend, he's had for like 16 years and I've never met except for once. No, the matter twice now. Twice, that does not count meeting. And so, yeah.

Well, let's do a little backstory. That's right. So the first time was, it was just super awkward because Emily was running late, of course, as always. And Emily was like running into the studio, and I was like, you're going to introduce my girlfriend. But right when Emily runs in the studio, she immediately thinks like my girlfriend's either

intern or worked at the radio. Hold on, hold on. Either intern or works at the radio station and goes to her not knowing who she is and says, can you give me some water? But let me tell you what. And then Candy, from Real Housewives of Atlanta, we don't have a lot of big celebrity guests.

Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta was there. I think I was getting water for both of us because I don't know where the water would you do. Candy from Real House, why is it over there? I think I was getting water for both of us, because I don't know where the water would do. And I was like, oh, do you mind? I don't know. I don't know what's the total honest mistake. I understand, but it was just like so awkward and we're already getting into the show.

And then, you know, I was just like, yeah, you know what, eff it. And so now I get to meet her again. She's taking pictures, but now the interview was fun. And you guys said you played it Yeah, we played it on the on the radio. That's cool. That was fun I thought we were kind of grilling everyone about their sex lives. Yeah, we were good times except for you who will never I'm just assuming that your sex is rocking so we're not gonna talk about it on the daily that was fun

I can't believe you're I'm gonna murder you. I would have pulled her aside I'm gonna make her come on the show one day. I'm gonna find find her Serpitiously like I'm going to go around you and find her for sure. So what's going on with your life? A lot of stuff things are things are things are rocking there like family like I've been very busy doing things I hosted the I haven't seen since then but I talked about it on my previous show that just came out the 50 shades of gray premiere It was a premiere at the grove which was an interesting film. I didn't love the film. I did read the book. It was. No, that guy's not hot. No, that guy gave me a dark candidate. He has no emotion. He's not sexy. He's like, you know what I mean? They said of people that I heard, I heard Robin, Robin Quivers from The Howard Cern Show. She's like, you, you couldn't believe that the guy was a character at all. Like he was that power. You didn't believe that he was powerful. He couldn't believe that the guy was a character at all like he was

that power you didn't believe that he was powerful you didn't believe that they were actually into each other. I don't know. I haven't seen that. I can't comment. Yeah, it wasn't great. So I did that. I'm very busy. I've been social lately. So I

went to an event the other night with them. It was like a pre Oscars event because Oscars and it was hosted by Gretchen Rossi from the Real House with coach County and slayed member Slade's family, who I know. And that was really funny because I was going

to tell you something about this that happened that night. But it's just funny because they were like, we loved your show and like, you know, they were talking about like sex stuff and their sex life, of course. And that was fun. Did you do anything for the Oscars? For the Oscars. No, I went home and I watched it on TV. The boringest thing I've ever seen in my life. Yeah, you know me sitting through movies.

Oh yeah, you can't sit there for. I was tearing it out. I was so freaking boring. But you know, it was such a big deal. And I was raining. Everyone's really like, oh my god, it rains. It stops that. But it was fine.

And I've been doing a lot of stuff. Tender. Any two. No, I haven't been doing tinder. I haven't dating. You haven't been dating? I haven't. Oh, you haven't. Yeah, I'm dating someone that actually I like.

Is this same person kind of been dating for a while? It's different. Well, yes, but this was someone that was, yes. I was dating a few people and this one was more casual, but I think I like them. Oh, really? Yeah. Yeah, what?

What about this person? You know, I'll tell you something. If you tell me something about your relationship. All right, what? No, it's very little new. I'm just saying like what? It's new in the sense that. We're kind of guys, you know? No, no you something if you tell me something about your relationship. All right. What? No, it's very like what it's new in the sense that guys is surfer guys. No, no, he's a professional. Is he the cheese ball? No, he's got a real job. He's he's not he's a real guy. He's a real man. Is he random guy? No, he's not. He has a bicycle. Not at all. He's got a good job. He does.

He actually met him looking for apartments from San Francisco. I was here looking and we were both looking at apartments. It's okay. So it's like a San Francisco guy. But he cool. Yeah, so it's awesome. So you have like stuff to talk about. I've got regular. We've talked about totally. Yeah, like, you know, it's each other. It's good. Yeah, I'm happy about it. And it's, you know, I again, still don't have a time time, but this is the year of making more time.

So I am trying to be more social. I'm going to this, this black tie event on Saturday night with Dr. Drew and his wife, Susan. Nice. The hillside's chair thingy opacity not black tie. And it's so funny because last year she wanted to fix him with all of her hot doctor friends or she's always been trying to fix me up with people. But this year I'm just going, you know, so low.

I'm not bringing the guy. Yeah, I'm getting all just up Susan has a very interesting podcast called calling out with Susan Pinsky. And it's a I was on it and she actually had a psychic on there who was reading. I know I don't know what you think about this, but they've read me really well when I'm on there and they kind of predicted this particular person that I'm being now. Oh really doing it was and it's very, wow. Yeah, it's good.

She's very nice. I ran into her and drew once in Vegas. Right. I got to talk with her. She's really cool. It was a good time and then Tindy, I didn't go into Sam Phillips birthday party. You know, Katie Sam Phillips, single life.

Yeah. You know her? And then, what else? I don't know. It's just been, oh, oh, I wanted to tell you, this is one thing that I really wanted to tell you that this would make you very happy. I'm actually doing a formal steak and blow job day event.

So steak and be day event. It's actually a hustler stores, hustle or Hollywood. I believe it's Friday, March 13th. So keep listening. We're going to be putting in our website and all that stuff. But, yes, please keep me out today because I'll talk about it. It's a full day. Well, you are the one who, like I think you've been told me about it for the first time for years ago But it sort of is to be like kind of a

May a couple to men who are like, you know, I didn't love Valentine's Day. That was BS We want a day. We want steak and blow jobs damage, which is all guys really really anyway But we're doing a really fun party with actual steak Good and wine and I'm teach you a little blow job lesson. Class and then people go shopping and it's in Hollywood. It's fun. Have you been to that house or store? It's friggin amazing.

I've been by a billion times I have been actually inside. But it's a legendary store. But they have fusser stores across the country. 12 or 13 cities. Yeah. Yeah. So if anyone goes to a house or store, you can also just

tell them Emily sent you and you get 20% off anything there. They have every toy, every porn, every Christmas. Yeah, it if anyone goes to a has a story, you can also just tell them Emily sent you and you get 20% off anything there. They've every toy, every porn, and every phrase like it's crazy, crazy good. And also April 14th, I'll be co-hosting the people podcast awards in Vegas. I know that's huge.

I know, right? It's super huge. I want to come one of our Vegas trips. I know. That we never do together. Yeah, I get a triple check. I would love to go though. I know. Yeah, never do together. Yeah. I get a triple check. I would love to go though.

I know. You should tell them. Because I'm, you know, I'm into all that podcasting stuff. Okay. Is all the voting clothes on that? I think so. Did you vote for me? Okay.

That's cool. What I was, no, I think it is closed, but I don't really know how it all goes down. Okay. I like tweeted out. And you should follow me on Twitter because we do a lot of fun stuff on Twitter and Facebook, but we do giveaways and then I'll be able to vote for me and stuff But then sometimes I also mostly give you a very interesting sex stuff to change your sex life How's your Instagram been and I've been doing more Instagram lately. Okay, I'm Instagram sex with Emily

Do you see it? You never like my shit, do you I do? Okay? How's your Instagram? It's great. I is funny right when we're Doing the show I got a comment of mentioning the show, because they're asking, what is that for years now I've talked about this Taco Bell taco that I love? Double alarm, because I love bringing food and sex into the conversation. Exactly. But it's a four alarm double deck. No, no, no, no.

You don't like sex in the conversation. There was nothing, Taco Bell has nothing to do with sex. It was just a session. It doesn't food like get you in a mood. Taco Bell, Taco Bell makes you want to sleep. It makes you want to spend an hour with that. Maybe you're, but not for everybody. You don't make a blank statement like that.

My only experience with Taco Bell was when I was a waitress in college. I was a cocktail waitress all for years. I did, right? No, but there was a Taco Bell in the bar. And so we got all the Taco Bell we needed it to am. That's awesome. I know, dude, you would have loved it was a Taco Bell in the bar. And so we got all the Taco Bell we could eat it two a.m. That's awesome. I know, dude, you would have loved it was the best stuff I ever had. Because we had dollar picture night,

and everyone was just giving me a five. Yeah. And so I think I made more money than I ever made in my life in college, and how I should go back and do that. I could always fall back on that. Yeah. But I wasn't great at holding all the trays and all that stuff. And for our long time listeners, yeah, the dream,

if you haven't kind of, the dream has come true. Since moving to Los Angeles, I've gotten to go to the talk about headquarters a few times now. What do you do there? Like, who are you talking to, Mr. Talk to the dog? What? I was just like around the like the CEO the other day, but the thing is, it's great because they do, they have like a test kitchen.

Like, Conan O'Brien just did a whole bit about it. It was hilarious. It was all over the internet recently. But they have the test kitchen where products are not even out yet. You get to try that. Are you the test or no? Yeah, I'm like the pro test. Sure.

You're like, A-Lis, talk about it. I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you. Do they know that you always talk about it? About talk? Oh, yeah, they know. They know. And now they like my stuff on Instagram.

They like your stuff. See, that's a big day. It's cool. And it's crazy because the offices are amazing. And then, yes, they have a talk about inside the headquarters. You know, it's all you can eat. Double, duck, or something. No, but it's super cool.

And it's fun. And yeah, they're a, but it's super cool and it's fun and Yeah, I think you support anything else good going on in your life before we get into some sex and news and some emails No, I do have some Vegas trips coming up But in March not April. Yeah, I'm going twice in April April is Coachella right Coachella time April what I want to go this year. There's well it's two weekends I think it's first week in of April I don't know we all have something to do right now April what I want to go to share there's well it's two weekends I think it's first week in April I don't know we'll have something to do right now yeah I think it is the first week in April yeah but you have that legendary story you've chate you've you've shared with

us many times but there's always new listeners who right if people don't know what Coachella is it is a huge music festival in southern California, close to you, Palm Springs, California. Right. Every big artist you can think of from around the world goes there and plays, just like other parts of the country. And it is amazing, and it's on the desert, it's hot, and all this stuff. Great music, but.

You have gone to this festival. And what has happened at this festival? What has happened at this festival? I was dating a guy like 2006, who I actually just, second part of the story I ran into on the other day, he lives in L.A. And we went, and we were VIP, because his best friend ran the festival.

So like totally VIP had the golf cart, the whole thing, the whole time. And so we were partying all day, and then I found ourselves at one point backstage having sex on the grass somewhere. And nice. Yeah, didn't get caught. It was fun. We had sex all day outside and the car earlier and then we had sex backstage. So I have very fun memories of that. But I ran into my hands in the man ears because we broke up and I ran into him the other day at a restaurant. And I was there with oh funny enough to remember from misadvised read.

Who to the one who was like polyamorous don't don't do that. So we were sitting there and this guy was sitting at the table and I didn't see him and he was like, oh my god, are you talking talking

talking and then it was like so good to see you and then he comes out he goes, here's the other Emily and turns out like his new girlfriend's name is them. Oh, sweet. Oh, the other I'm sure she

loves that because we gave 10 years ago and I saw him and I was like, wasn't that phone we banged at Coachella? I didn't say that. But yeah, no. I'm like, oh, the other I'm sure she loves that because we gave 10 years ago and I saw him. I was like, wasn't that fun? We banged at Coachella. I didn't say that. But yeah, no, I'd like to go to that. I'd like to do more. I have a lot of things coming up. Actually, I'm going to New York next week. So what's going to go on in New York? I'm actually going to a Tony Robbins seminar. Oh, what? Yeah. Tony Robbins is the man. He is the man. I'm so excited. I'm like first five rows. It's really hard to get it like to get in. I got into this and I think it's like it's a

Kisega motivational speaker and business speaker and life. Yeah. Yeah. And then I'm also going to do some separate lifestyles. Yeah. condoms. I'm obsessed. Do you? condoms? condoms skin. I'm so funny because I've been telling you what lifestyles they also have this brand called Skin SKYN and they're poly isoprene, which is not latex.

I just thought amazing. I just they're thin. They feel great. So I'm going to do that. I'm going to see Emily and Tony. Sweet. Yeah, we're a big good time. Two quick things.

It will get into the sex. The second thing is. I promise sex is coming so hard that you're going to come at the end of the show. Yeah, the second part is sex. But the first part, Tony Robbins, I just really want to get that guy shot out because I don't know if you saw recently,

it was about maybe two months ago. He did this thing where he was able to feed over like 500,000 people in America. Wow. Like insane amount of people. He put up like a million dollars of his own money into it. He's been doing this stuff for a long time. Yeah.

He gives back. He's practiced a few preaches. I listened to him like when I run, like I have all of his things, things like the reason stuff. So. And so this is a great opportunity. I met a couple at a party who knows him and they got me in. It's like $5,000 seminar.

So I'm just thrilled. Yeah. I would love to see a picture with you and him next to each other because he's like six I mean is a gigantic dude, you know, my father's yeah, it's like like a thing of bananas that would you know Putting your hand inside of it, but the other thing going back to Coachella where it's near Palm Springs Which is almost like one of the hottest places in California. It's it goes into almost like one of the hottest places in California. It goes into above 100 all the time. And I was having sex during Coachella in the shower

and she fainted because it's so hot. I remember this. I'm sure this wasn't from your sexual purpose. Yeah, probably. And I thought I killed the chick, you know. You're gonna start dragging the body out. But yeah, it was it was pretty hilarious. We've had good times at Coachella.

I like to go. We're looking at you. Look out for that. Okay, so um we've got some good stuff today from the people. We I love hearing from everybody and I love getting your emails and also we have a survey up and it's now on our site. You can find it really easily. There's a button that says survey sex only dot com and take you two minutes and we just

love to hear from you. We want to know what you like about the show, what you don't like, because this is our 10th year. We are going to do something big this year at some point. I have to. And so yeah, just want to hear from you. So please do that.

So speaking of polls, here's some sex in the news. All right. College students enjoy these 11 things more than having sex. Okay, what do you got? College students either aren't getting enough good sex or they found some delicious effing coffee. Researchers asked 1200 US undergrads last fall

to choose what's in on campus, from a list of 77 options. Among the top 15, the iPhone was first. They enjoy their iPhone. We are so addicted to our goddamn phones, it pisses me off. Among the less popular activities according to the times we're smoking cigarettes, doing drugs, volunteering, blogging, and being eco-friendly.

Yeah, sure. Here are the top activities chosen by the super small sample of college students. So Apple iPhone, 66%, coffee, 63%, texting, 61%. There are Facebook, 59%, Instagram, 55%, drinking beer, 51%, blah, blah, blah, go down, down, down, hooking up, 43%. It's like number 12 on the list.

Wow. What is the deal? People aren't like wanting to look up anymore? I think like, maybe to be honest, people get their satisfaction through the phone. You know? This is the whole nothing. They're interaction.

Even, okay, yeah, at the end of the day, it's like sex. But also just having the companionship of having somebody around, or just like going out on a date, or just hanging out and going in the movies, and stuff like that. They don't do it. They don't do it.

They get that type of feeling through the phone. You know, and we, people that I've met in their early 20s, not all of them, but a lot of them are super obsessed with Snapchat. Like that's all they do. They do. I have it all day long. All day long.

I know. And they're not around each other. They're not around each other. They're not around each other. And then you have all these relationships that go on through text message and you're obsessed with your phone. And I'm telling you that is not the way to meet someone to have a relationship. And even the used car salesman who you always talk about who I loved.

Honestly, I'm still really good friends with them. But the best part of our relationship I realized was it was long distance. He lived in LA and when I was in SF, he's a great texture. He gave great texts, he made me laugh. And every time we get a texture like or whatever, you know, on Facebook or anywhere, you get a serotonin rush,

meaning those feel good chemicals, you know, when someone gives you a compliment. And so it's like the pellets. It's like the Pavlovian dogs, like we're constantly getting our phone to get more reinforcement. And yet, while we're well, that's increasing, we are decreasing our ability to to connect with people. And people always have social anxiety. That's really common. I think that's why kids drink so much and adults and everyone drinks so much are party so much because it's hard to talk to

members of the sex because really you go to bar, you go out, you get wasted because you hope you get laid. Well, people now are already completely losing those skills about how to interact, how to ask you about because they're spending their entire life on the phone and having full on relationships with people that they never see, never talked to and they think they're in love with because they texted for like a month. Yeah, it's crazy. And like the real meat of this story is how is hooking up so low? Like how is Facebook better than that?

How is Instagram better than hooking up? Like really like getting dick and veg packed, picks on Snapchat is better than seeing the actual real live body parts that you can test. Test, touch, test, test. Yeah, I was thinking about it. So I just wanna know if this is what I'm once you're in their time, like I'd like to go back to school and just

like sit on my phone the time now really I learned things I saw people I mean friends we do nap phones we'd be at the bar and they can people show up at shop they don't shop they don't show it should be like an amazing experience in your life if you go to unfortunately I went to an art school and I commuted from my hometown which was awful but I I visited one of my friends that went to San Diego State and I hung out with him and we went to like parties and we were just like,

hung out with people and it was such an exciting time just to be around and like check out different, you know, types of people. Right, exactly. And to know that people are wasting that away on cell phones. The phone's the whole time taking selfies of the entire night. I went to later when you know. I went to that what's it called hide that club in LA. You know, it's like the celebrity would ever hard to get it. Yeah. A few weeks ago and everybody was just like taking selfies,

taking selfies. Like we are at hide. So we're going to document it. But I'm not actually going to have any meaningful conversations with anybody. We're just going to document it. Look, everyone knows what the problem is. I feel like an angry adult like, look back in the day. We didn't have something. Oh, but really? I should bring on Greg from that I work with. He's like so anti-technology, it's thinking that it's ruining.

It is ruining us. Yeah, everything. It's making your life speed that would make it easier. It makes it harder because you're always in call 24-7. And these kids clearly in college have not had enough good sex or they don't know like spending hours in bed is so much better than being a freaking snapchat. So that's what I gotta say about that. Okay, what's the title of your sex tape? Andy sex tape worth insult should have a title as memorable as its action. So when hashtag the title of my sex tape was trending on Twitter last weekend, it seemed like the perfect time to brush up on some

punny poor names like One Night in Paris, which was probably one of the best sales. Although there are many other celebrity sex tapes, few titles, few of the titles to back them up. So the one is, let's see here, so people, they did this thing on Twitter where they were asking people what they would name their sex tapes. So what is this? People are saying like too fast, too furious or the fast and the furthest. Lawrence of your labia, gone in 60 seconds, that be a good one for permeasant. The unbearable whiteness of being, the cats stared at us the whole time, 50 shades of bay, hey, what's your Wi-Fi password? Missionary impossible. Anyway, I think we all know what my would be, right?

What would it be? Sex with Emily. Oh, okay, true. How is that? I feel like people think I'm already a porn star. Anyway, when I meet them. Yeah. And the best part is Kimbermice has been calling lately

because I use my sex with Emily email. I just like, as my primary email address, she was calling to make me a reservation. And I'm sitting there and she's like Emily or whatever. She gets sex with Emily or feedback at sexandemmy.com. So she's like, yeah, I know. I hear her like going, yeah, SCX, W, what do they think? Like a porn search coming there, tell.

Yeah, always, but no, alas, I'm not a porn search. What would you call your sex tape? Barrier, if you find it. Do you still have your sex tape? Barrier, if you find it. Do you still have your sex tape? Burn it? Do you still have them all? I probably summer, yeah. We probably some outer.

Alter. No, next time I see her, I'm gonna say, did you find menaceous? Oh yeah, see, that's why you get it's never a leave. I can't hate, dude. She would leave with love, we'd do BFF. Would you? I don't know.

You don't know me. Okay, she loves me. My girlfriend's like very quiet and not. Does that she like me? Because I'm fun, I'm interesting. Yeah. I talk a lot, I might even entertain her. nice. That's what she liked me because I'm fun. I'm interesting. I talk a lot. I might even entertain.

Exhausting is what it is. I am exhausting. Okay, so which is true? People who get exhausted by me, but you just have to either be able to handle it or get the phone home. Yeah. Okay, so emails. All right.

I love hearing from you feedback at sex with ME.com. And, man, do you remember when we used to always say, please tell us where you're from and how you listen. Yes, love that. And so I'm gonna say that again, because whenever we say that, people actually do that. Okay, great. So, where are you from and how do you listen to the show?

Yeah, do you listen on sex to M.A.com? Do you listen on iTunes? Do you listen on podcast one? Do you listen on Stitcher? There's so many great apps that you can listen to with every phone you get an app. Basically, you can download. You can listen on the iTunes app.

Hey, the podcast app. Yeah, podcast. You better if you're a curator or whatever. So many different ways that you can listen to a podcast. But we love just hearing like how you listen and stuff like that. And where you from like any part of the world you can be from. I know we have a lot of listeners in Australia, because we've been doing the survey. It's interesting how many listeners we have in different parts of our country.

Australia, I want to go so bad. I do. We've been talking about this. Do you remember my friend Nikki from Australia, Dr. Nikki? She was on the show a couple of years ago. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So, it's so worth it. Wait, was she blonde?

Yeah. Okay, yeah, yeah. Yeah, big boobs blonde. I'm actually meeting up with her this weekend. And she keeps trying to get me to get there. And she's got a hook up. Last time we, she was in studio. I don't know if you remember this, but she like busted out a fake

a dog. A harness. She bought a harness. So she could penetrate guys. Right. Right. She wanted to peg. She's very adventurous. I'm going to see her tomorrow and I'll ask her about that. Okay. So here's the first question. How do you cope with a partner's high sex number?

Hi, Emily. I'm new to your podcast, and I love them so much. They're so insightful. My question for you is more of a situation. I'm 21 years old, and I'm a virgin. I've known this guy for three years, and he lives in Wisconsin about two hours away. He's now 25.

I'm pretty crazy about him, and he seems crazy about me too. My only problem is that he is slept with more women than I'm come for with. 30 to be exact. How does she know she asked? I'm sure dude. I know. This is a don't ask her to tell. I'll get into that. Alright.

He told me just because he loves sex. Part of me thinks that while I can't blame him, he's a single guy in his twenties. At the same time, I wonder if he's trustworthy. Do you think that it would be a good good idea getting involved with this guy or do you think I'm setting myself up for disaster? Thanks, Michelle. Okay, first of all, Michelle, here's, this is for everybody. This is a public service announcement to everybody in a relationship in your 20s. Cause I feel like people stop asking when you get into your 30s perhaps. There is no reason at all that you need this number.

It's not gonna help you. You're not gonna get smarter. It's you're not gonna win the lottery. It's not gonna help you in any way. Is it not gonna educate you? No, it's not gonna educate you. All it is is a lose-lose. Because either your partner's up with too many, too few,

and you're gonna start thinking about, oh, I'm not experienced enough, and they would have many people, or he's such a jiggle, oh, he's such a player, she's such a slut. I mean, this is not a conversation that you need to have. The only conversation is about previous sex you have,

is if perhaps you've contracted this sexual, but for sure, if you've contracted a sexually transmitted disease, you wanna share that. And if there was something particularly, you know, that you've tried a sexually transmedia disease. You want to share that. And if there was something particularly, you know, that you've tried in your past, you might want to say, God, I think it'd be really fun to be tied up. I, you know, I'd love you to time you up. You don't

have to say that you did it. So really, no, don't have this conversation. And the thing is, Michelle, it's making you uncomfortable. Proceed with caution. I get it, but you cannot judge a guy with a number of women you step with. You know, guys are going to do that. Guys in the 20s are going to go out, sleep around, women are too. There's many women as they can. But you're letting this number, like this guy likes you and you're letting it think you're

probably thinking you're inexperienced and what's he going to think? Guys aren't thinking that right? They don't care at all. You're not sitting with you going, oh, you weren't as good as number 62, 16, you know, they're not happy. They're having sex with you. Exactly. Okay, so yeah, we can tell everybody and tell their, you know,

bloom the face. I don't ask whatever. And again, yeah, it's too late with her again. So I guess, yeah, I guess suppress it. I don't know. Don't ask someone's how. I'm like, here's what you say. Yeah.

You say, you know what? I just really love the sex that we're having right now. And that's all I'm focused on. Yeah, and the story. And the question. You're going to ruin the relationship if you keep on bringing it up. Right.

Then why do you need to know? Like the thing is, it's like watching a train or that kind of thing. Why do you know? It's not going to ever help you. Yeah, and don't bring it out. And you're going to get upset with him one day and you're arguing.

And then you're going to bring that up. That just makes you look weak. Right, and she wonders if she can trust him. So here's the thing, what's long distance? Two hours away, I mean, you guys aren't even together yet. So I mean, does he say that he wants a committed relationship? Does he make you feel safe when you're with him? Does it seem like it's a fling?

I mean, definitely use protection. I cannot emphasize this enough and this is what I call future tripping. When you're in a situation and you're tripping on what could possibly happen into the future, but you're not even with him yet. So all these things you're thinking about, you're judging him on the number. You're judging him for reasons that you know you haven't been with him in a way like you know maybe you guys have sacks. Things are amazing.. You commit you just don't need to trip on this at all about something That hasn't even happened yet. So just take it one day to time keep your eyes open when you're with him

If he says do you babe? Yeah, I'm still dating other people Well, then he's not the guy to trust and you're not going to be the woman that's gonna change him either because women Stay with guys at that because I think well He's gonna fall so in love with my vagina that he won't want to see with anyone else. But if he's telling you that that's what he's doing. Yeah. So just have your eyes open heading into this. Okay. First day word now from our amazing sponsors Emily and Tony Candles, which I know you want some

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Okay, so here's our next one. How to relax for anal sex. Hi Emily, I love your podcast and volume Facebook. I love all your tips to my question is this. My long-term boyfriend loves to have anal sacs and I've only been able to have it in the shower and while I've been drinking, we've tried otherwise and it's just been too painful.

We've even tried the ass play products that are meant to numb you and it's backfired and numb to him instead. So my question is, can the use of muscle relaxers help? I read a few articles that say it can help me, it can help, and equally as many say it doesn't help. Also, I've noticed the few times I have it, anal, I've managed to finish which is strange. That means that's the only way my body knows that

it's orgasm. Thank you, Ana. Wow. Well, great that you can have an orgasm through anal sex because that's rare. I've only met porn stars. Well, that's that you have met a lot of people. But porn stars have been very open about it.

And despite what men has always says, it's not a great idea to be intoxicated. I don't push that as your number one lubrication for trying anything new. But not muscle relaxers. You can get addicted to that stuff. Don't take muscle relaxers. Don't take numbing at agents, alcohol, anything else.

All you have to do is you need to learn to relax. Because what happens is, Anna, is that you are not, you're probably tensing up, because you know that you've had pain there. And so when you clench those muscles, when you clench the sphincter muscles, you're actually going to be making it more painful for you. So you have to breathe, make sure that you're breathing. You might even have to have them give you a massage first.

Like make sure that you are in the most relaxed state possible. I'd rather have it when you have it when you're not wasted. You know, so try to have it when you're relaxed. It's great to take a shower first. You don't have to have it in the shower. And it's great that you're able to orgasm. And it's all connected down there. So it is common for people to be able to have orgasms that way.

And anal sex can externally stimulate areas of vagina and cause the orgasms, so I'll connect it to the G-spot. And I have not had that pleasure yet. So breathe, relax. And it's important that you don't go from just the kissing and like him touching your nipple for two seconds into anal. You need the foreplay.

I mean, I would even say try to have a, you know, a orgasm first, maybe he goes down on you, use a sex toy, get all that areas down there, warmed up and flowing. Because even for women, if you have, let's say a literal orgasm first, it's easier to have a G-spot orgasm because you're already in that area,

becomes in gorge and so on. So the same thing as two for anal sex, just make sure that you are very warmed up. And also, I mean, blue, blue, blue, blue, blue, like you cannot use enough loob during sex. Have it right by the bed, have a flip top, whatever it is that you can just put more loob in.

And make sure that he's not sucking in and that he's rubbing the area around, experience with fingers, experience with some butt plugs. And then then you're already breathing, you're already into the motion. make sure that he's not second rubbing the area around, fingers, experiences, butt plugs, and then you're already breathing, you're already into the motion. Also, he's playing with your

back door, your anus, you can still be massaging your clitoris or nipples, anything you need to relax. Make sure your environment will be good music playing, you don't feel like anyone's coming in, you're not rushed. And I'm saying, you gotta practice all these things and because the fact that you enjoy it so much and you have an orgasm just means that you're just,

you're tensing up and not using enough lube and you're drunk. Yeah. And that's when guys are just gonna shove it in. And we're gonna say, And again, guys, yeah. Go slow, I know you're excited. I know she's letting you do this.

Yeah. Relax. Take your time. Always know you're excited. I know she's letting you do this. Yeah. Relax. Always go slow. Take your time. Always, always, always. And in fact, I mean, there's so many women that have like post-traumatic anal disorder when they their boyfriend the first time stuck it in. Yeah. Without her knowing or thinking that they knew what they were doing. And then forever they write off anal sex for the rest of their life. Because that can be people. You can have tears. I mean, this stuff I'm saying isn't just for your pleasure. It's like for your safety. So if you did have a bad experience with it and you're with a partner now and you follow these instructions

and you trust this person, I would always say try it again if you had a bad first experience because you might not like it the second time either and it's not for everybody. Not people don't like blow job. There's guys you don't like blow jobs. Whatever. I don't call it a love on the other than I have a dog time because we don't like blow dubs. Whatever. I don't call it a love on the other than I have a dog time. It's what made me don't like oral sex. But it's OK if you don't like anal, but if you try it, the correct way you might. OK.

Sexually and inexperienced at 24. Emily, I haven't had sex since my first girlfriend in high school. This is going on nearly six or seven years of no sex. I did not have sex through all through college and I'm almost halfway through my 20s and I feel like I'm really missing out on an important part of my life.

The problem I'm having is my first girlfriend was really insecure, so we really only had missionaries sex. Nothing too crazy. I'm worried that when I finally find a girl who will have sex with me, I'm just gonna be so inexperienced that it'll be an unsexy mood killer. I feel like I'm self-sabotizing myself.

I'll be a non-unpurpose. What is your advice for me here? Mike, 24 years old. Okay, Mike, you, this is all on your head. So most of our issues in life are in our head. Most of the suffering we do are things that we're thinking about. Yeah, we torture ourselves. We torture.

You are torturing yourself. And I think that's the reason why you're probably not with someone because you're thinking of all the things that could go wrong and that you don't have a lot of experience. And what happened with the last girlfriend and that you won't know. And so by putting out that energy, which you are, because what we think becomes our action, what we think is your thoughts, become your feelings, become your actions, it's all related. Then what you're putting out there in the world is, I'm not that confident of a guy. I'm nervous to make the move and you're sabotaging yourself. So you got to flip those thoughts around to like, I am going to, I'm, I'm

sexually attractive male. I'm into it. And I'm going to, I'm going to make sure that the next part and I'm with that the sex is going to be amazing. So just relax and stop the worrying. And what you can do is every time you're tripping on this, again, these future tripping into a situation, think about flipping, go, wow, how could sex be really great? Think about a scenario that really turns you on or that you want to do. Make sure that when you're with someone, you warm her up. I mean, you know how to kiss, I'm sure, for play and move really, really slow. I know it's going to be your first time in a while. You might want to rip

her clothes off like most guys, but pay attention. She will let you know how it's going. Her breath will be quickening. I mean, guys gotta pay attention. They gotta pay attention to what she's doing. You're gonna be able to tell, especially if you move slow, that she's into it.

And no one's expecting you to come in and be like this master, like practice makes purpose. Practice does make it. Perfect. Perfect. But the only way you're going to feel more comfortable having sex is to put yourself out there. Like you got to. Right.

Man, I say were you. That's the only way that's going to happen. Yeah. Totally. And then people have dry spells. I know it's like a couple of years, but that happens all the time. And then once you get back into it and it happens, you're just gonna want to go like on a bang and

spray, you know. Exactly. And also, you know, it's not a bad idea to listen to podcasts like mine, get my book, Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try to know you can buy an Amazon's like 14 bucks. It's actually a really good book that shows you a lot of different positions besides missionary, in fact 200, it's not just positions, but a lot of positions and things like that, that you could do, like, to educate yourself so you feel more, don't just watch porn. I hope that you're not just watching porn to educate yourself, but there's books, there's podcasts. So, ever you like to digest your information besides porn, start just learning about the

female anatomy and what makes you feel good. I mean, I know a lot of guys who told me that when they were younger, they were obsessed and they write every sex book and they know about, I mean, there's some guys that have been with, like, in their thirties. I'm like, they clearly have never they write every sex book and they know about women. There's some guys that have been with like in their 30s and like they clearly have never do not know what the glitterist is, like no one's at PS, dude, glitterist. So, you know, read up, read information

and make sure that when you connect with someone, that it's someone that you like, like don't try to just get this on at a one night stand because you might be really bummed out because you might not get the feedback that you need. So just try to build into it, someone they like. It's all good. Okay, this is a long distance college relationship.

Emily, I'm a new viewer and I really love your show. Recently, you mentioned that your boyfriend and college attended a different university. My boyfriend and I are currently in our first year of college and attend different universities with the same state within the same state. I was wondering if you have any advice for a long distance relationship. Thank you, Kelly. That's true. My boyfriend freshman year went to Michigan State.

I went to Michigan. He was like an hour apart. And it was long distance, and we spent hours and hours and hours on the phone. This is before we had Skype and on the desktop. And we had texting. We didn't have Facebook, Snapchat. We had nothing, no Snapchat, no nudity.

Till this day I've never sent a naked photo. Communication is the key. You guys have to really talk about real things because what happens in these long distance relationships, if too much time goes by where you don't see each other, the conversation starts to get a little kind of awkward and then you stop feeling disconnected. And so when you do talk, make sure you know it's good to catch up on your day but make sure that you start to have some real conversations. I don't know how long you guys have been together, but you're young, you're in college,

you are foregoing, dating other people because you're focused on this relationship, which to be honest, a lot of college relationships don't necessarily go the distance. And I would say that the best use of your time now would be when you're talking to them to communicate about things that he wants, you know, things that he's looking for, goals, and then also sexually. There's a lot of things about sex that we're uncomfortable talking about face-to-face with our partner, but maybe like in a text or on the phone,

or if you have Skype sex, Skype sex is big. More comfortable and you have more confidence than if you're face-to-face with them. Exactly. So I would say just keep all forms of communication going, whether it's that, you know, what you both want. Make sure that you see each other enough and that do you see this now I don't know are you when you're with you first year college. So I broke up with mine by the end of the first year to be honest because it was just I was in college

I was in. I was in. Meeting people and it wasn't that I met it like more than him but I was like there is a lot of freaking guys out here. There's a lot of great experiences that. They're not saying break up at all. I'm not telling you to break up. If you can make it work, and this is the person that you really love, then you know what? Do everything that you can. Exactly. I'm not telling you to break up with them. I'm saying, make sure that the time that you do split communicating with them is valuable, and not just wasted late at night, but like you're learning more about each other, you're finding out who each other are, and you expect sexually. If you can't have

sex all the time, I'm saying Skype, sex, phone sex, learn each other, you're finding out who each other are, and you expect sexually, if you can't have sex all the time, I'm saying Skype, Sex, Phone, Sex, learn what each other like the next time you're together, this will build the anticipation, so it's not awkward because another thing that happens in long distances is that it gets awkward, and the first time you see each other again, it's a little uncomfortable,

but if you've been doing this like four-play anticipation through the phone and Skype and when you see each other, it'll just feel really connected. Yeah, Mike Quicks' story about college and dating, play anticipation through phone and Skype and when you see each other it'll just feel really connected. Yeah. Mike Quick's story about college and dating. And it's funny because when I was in high school my girlfriend, I was a senior and my girlfriend was a junior. I went to college.

I still lived in my hometown. I would commute to San Francisco to go to school. And so my girlfriend and I kept on dating. And then my girlfriend wanted to go to San Diego State and she didn't get in. And I said, you know what, you can still go. Just go to community college down there and then just transfer.

That's right. And she goes, Paul, what about us? I go, well, hopefully we're still together. We'll make it work. She goes, okay, she gets down to San Diego for a week and this starts partying and then calls me up a week later and goes, so what do you see in the future for us?

And I go, well, hopefully we're still together. She's like, yeah, it's don't think it's gonna work out, right? But then she went to school for a little. But then she like went to school for like a little while and then she had to, she moved back to the hometown and she was like trying to get back with me, but I, like, oh, I'm sorry. I'm just working out her hometown. I mean, that's what happened.

It's not gonna work out. Yeah, we bummed, you're sad. I was, I think I was sad initially because I was like my real like first, like official girlfriend, you know? But then after that, first like official girlfriend, you know, but then after that, I was just like, you know, you said for a night, you ordered pizza and the same thing, right? I mean, guys get over stuff really quickly.

Yeah. Really quickly. I mean, typically men just go out and start banging women. Yeah, but I think women do that too. It's both. They do that too because they call up all their girlfriends and say, hey, you know what, screw that too. They do that too because they call up all their girlfriends and say, hey, you know what, screw that guy. They're changing their Facebook status to like, you know, so very single now. And then they call up all their girlfriends and they go out and they

get wasted and they either a they do find some guy that they hook up with or b they end up crying at the end of the night. Yeah. I mean, so I think it's best to wait and tell you're ready actually. And I like that a lot of women, like I have a lot of friends who break up with someone who are like, I can't imagine being with anyone right now. I'm more like a dude. I was like, because usually I was already over it, but I'm gonna broke up with them, but that was my own proclivity. Yeah, and another thing, and if someone doesn't want to be with you, they're not worth being

upset over at all. I know, it's such an evil thing. We beat ourselves up. What I do, what I do, and it's never all. I know it's an evil thing. We beat ourselves up. What I do what I do and it's never what you think. It's like yeah and don't yeah no need to freak out and do something crazy. This person doesn't want to be with you. Okay move on. Go to go to the next person. On to the next. Do not mess up your life. The reason I'm saying don't mess up your life because just recently here in Los Angeles there was a car chase.

And the whole car chase happened because this guy was upset that his girlfriend broke up with him and she started dating some other guy. So she went and like he went and confronted the guy, ends up like punching him or something. And then they call the police, and then he goes on this whole police chase through a neighborhood, and then ends up shooting himself. Oh my God, for a break. There is no one.

There's no one. On this planet that you should be shooting yourself over. I'm sorry. Tolicrific. There isn't. There is millions of people on this planet. Right. You'll find somebody else. You will be okay.

You're not going to die. Let's issue yourself. Which way we don't recommend it. No. No, but you do think when relationships are over, this is where you go through it. I think like in your 20s, you go through this. But what if he's the one?

What if I never feel this way again? What if I never find anyone else? You will feel this way again. But do you just do that after every break-up? Yeah. And then I used to call my friends and be like, why did I not like him? Why did I break over to the end?

They were like, well, he was drunk. He just, don't, I'm like, oh, yeah, thank you, thank you. But then in our minds, we do. You always think about the good stuff. Yeah, we put him on a pedestal right after he was the best thing ever. And guess what, people, you always find someone else. You do.

And so if you think it's not right, you know what? Work on it. But if it's not right, don't do that whole, oh, maybe I made a mistake because trust your gut and trust yourself. Well, it's not even a new trend. that whole, oh, maybe I made a mistake because trust your gut and trust yourself. Yeah. Well, it's not even a new trend. It's been going on for a long time.

But more and more popular every single day is people reuniting on Facebook that they dated a long time ago. And then all they do is think about all the good times, but not any of the times like, why aren't we still together? Exactly. And the things that you didn't like, why aren't we still together? Exactly. And the things that you didn't like about them then are probably still part of us, because I think you don't like it

because of certain character. I would say flaws, but they're not as they flaws or just things that you can't, that don't drive, if you want. You're a vet. But you know what, I believe that people can change sometimes. A lot of people say, oh, people never change.

I believe they do. They change if they want to change. Yeah, definitely. I mean, I think I could date my boyfriend. I was 20. He's a successful doctor right now. She's about to say, why didn't you marry him? I thought your brother always says that.

I was funny. I was just talking about that today. Because you came up at work, I forgot what for. I think we were talking about down under comfort or something like that. And they're asking, oh, she's single. I was like, oh, yeah, she's probably single. Oh, I know what it was.

What? That came up and then during the conversation or somebody has a daughter. And he's like, yeah, I just wanna get my daughter married and I don't care. I wanna get her married young. And then I don't care if she gets divorced later because at least she'll have something like payout

over that. And your brother always said that. I remember every time your brother was around, he's like, see Emily, she'll have some like payout over that. And your brother always said that. I remember every time your brother was around, he's like, see Emily, you could have been married and divorced by now. I know, I say you could be married and divorced by now. And he's like, why didn't you? You know, why didn't I get the ass like?

Yeah, he always says that. He's like, he's a successful doctor now, but this is my ex from college. He's really your friends of them. And then my brother, this is another funny story. You miss us because we did it at Love Line. The show, my brother was in town a few months ago and he came on the show and this is what we're taking callers at last.

I know he loves you to see someone calls in and they're like, hi, I've had a big crush on Emily. He was in Michigan, Michigan and my brother's like, send me your bank statement. And then they got email them the next day was like pictures. They do really need my big statement. So I'm doing it. My brother was joking. This is joking. I know it's hilarious. Good times.

One more thing I want to say about Long Distance is that right now, you know, I know I'll about Sex Toys. The biggest trend taking over the Sex Toys world is this Bluetooth remote control technology vibrators. So, the duo by J.J. is this the coolest thing, man, I have to show it to you. It's like, first of all, has a little remote control. It's like, it looks like James Bond,

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of ummi studio with like cameras and all that kind of stuff. That'd be amazing. You know, we chill, we have drinks. And chill, and we would. I'm working on it, dude. It's in the plan. That'd be amazing. That'd be a dream come true.

Oh, speaking about like dream come true. Yeah, dream come true. But any more time with me. Yeah, we're talking about money a dream come true. Oh speaking about like dream come true. Yeah dream come true. It's been a more time with me. Yeah talking about money and dream come true. The in North Carolina single mother 24 she was one of the the winners of the Powerball here in America if you're not listening in America. It was up to five hundred million dollars in the lottery and she was one of the winners. And like at the end of the day, after all the taxes, everything, she takes home $80 million. Wow.

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they managed the money right because that is- Isn't it great the lottery maybe? Yeah, yeah, people who really need it will be right. That's amazing. So hopefully, you know, they managed the money right because that is right. The lottery maybe yeah, we should. But you always hear those horror stories too. Like people don't manage the money. Well, say she's got to get a financial planner. First thing because she will run through it because your mom, your mom's a financial planner. She never helped me when I needed it. That's cool. She you so much for listening. Find menace at menace. I love all your comments. Instagram. We love hearing from you. You can ask about tacos and stuff.

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