Sex With Emily - DoppleBangers & PostBoners

Episode Date: January 23, 2016

On this show, Emily answers a host of your emails on a wide range of topics.  including how to get rough in bed, how to make it work with a larger-than-average member, backdoor bleaching and beyond. For those who are worried about keeping their sex talk current, Emily and Menace provide a lesson in sex slang terms for 2016. From “dopplebanger” to “thirst-trap” and “masturwait”, they teach you how to work this “hip” new sex slang into your conversations this year — Just use them at your own risk! Also, does being turned on cause you to make riskier decisions? Emily and Menace discuss how arousal may dull your senses. From serial monogamy to the wonders of lube to what NOT to do to your rear end, this show is packed with pertinent advice for all you lovers out there. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I know you are Instagram, Twitter. It's all at sex-emily and Facebook.com. So sex-emily. Hi, menace. What's going on, Emily? How you been? I've been good. What's going on, Emily? How you been? I've been good. What is happening with your life?

Well, tell me everything. It's typically, this is the week, this last two weeks, it's when all the sex conferences happen. Uh-huh. And by sex conferences, let me clarify, there is no sex. I actually did not have any sex. Wow. At the conferences.

Yeah, I know. It's a bummer. Did you see any people having sex? Anything? Are the after parties? I know know. It's a bummer. Did you see any people having sex? Anything, are the after parties? I know you'd get crazy with those after parties. Well, you know what? I'm so bummed.

I had to miss one of the after party because I did love line. So the first one was Anmi, which is the adult novelty manufacturer's expo. It's all the sex toy products that are, like, there's some really cool things happening. And that was really fun. And then there was Expizz, which is the, it had an award show, and that was really fun and then there was X-Biz which is they had an award show and that's how the porn awards but there's the pre-porn awards and that's the pajama party for the people who work in the business and apparently things went off at the Andas and there were some sex parties and crazy stuff happening and I had to do love line that night. Oh damn it. I

didn't see anything. So that's what about the avian awards. Yeah these were like the mini well they're not that many I mean there was like a thousand people there, but yeah, it was a big thing at the J. W. Marriott downtown It was really fun. I was nominated for two awards. I don't know. It's all react whatever And and then yeah, it was really fun, but it was just every year. Oh, and then there was sexual health expo Which I'm the house stuff and that was amazing in Universal City. All of which I never went to Universal City. Uh-huh. It's right like six minutes from my house, but it feels like it's so far.

But it's not. Wow. And yeah, and that's where all our fans get to come. That's like, other two things are industry, but this was like, people get to come and learn and like, there was amazing workshops. I taught a workshop. I mean, I did a live podcast that you couldn't come to, which was sad. And people were teaching at workshops and we had a booth and we had, oh, I gotta give you my that you couldn't come to, which was sad, and people were, could you do workshops, and we had a booth,

and we had, oh, I gotta give you my, dude, you're gonna love this. What? Right there, I can't believe I was eating your tick-tax before the show, because I brought you a special present. Oh, you did. And this is something that you're gonna love.

What? Check it out. Mints on the bottom, Mints on the top, lip balm on the bottom, it's pretty. Oh, what? It's such a family party in your pants. Oh, what in your mouth? Yeah, there's your Mints on the bottom, Mints on the top, Lip Balm on the bottom, it's party. It's such a family party in your pants. Oh, what in your mouth? Yeah, there's Mints on the top and I meant I brought that for you.

That's awesome. That's awesome. I know. Thank you. You're welcome. So that was that. But then every year, there's a third year in a row. I have a little bit, tickle of my throat.

A little sticky. But I'm okay. It was fun. Yeah, and I'm considering AVN this weekend, which is the adult video. Do you want to go? You go to Vegas every weekend. You're probably right now. I have like four Vegas trips. I'm going in like two weeks Okay, we're on the same Vegas plane. Damn it makes me so sad. I would love to go to avian awards. That'd be fun You'd love it. Yeah, it's really fun. I mean you love it for like a minute. No, I think you'd be into it Uh-huh. It's like, you know, fear and de porn stars. Yeah, but no, it'd be fun just talking to the people.

Totally. You know, I'm sure you can get like some great interviews there and stuff like that. You can get great interviews. And when I went two years ago, I gave the keynote. And so it was like, you know, me as like super stressed out about the keynote. And then it was really fun. But now I would go and I wouldn't have it agenda. Just like talk to people and talk to the porn stars. You know, you mean a lot of nice people., good networking like people like molding like fleshlights like molding Born stars vaginas into new flesh lights and there's a lot of activity going on sweet. Yeah, I'm sorry I couldn't make that that live podcast which I would have loved to do because we had so much fun doing the Ten-year anniversary live podcast people love the show of the live podcast

Yeah, they enjoyed it That was such an amazing time. And getting to meet listeners and incorporating listeners into the show. And just meeting everybody was really, really cool. I had to take my mom was in town. I know, that's right. How was that?

It was cool, nothing sexy or fun when your mom's in town. So I mean, I took her to Disneyland, of course. She hasn't been there in 20 years. So we did that and then we had my, I mean, she's obsessed with my dog. So we took the dog to Santa Monica. Yeah, it is, right? Yeah, yeah, totally.

And then that's pretty much it. So nothing really cool. Dude, I want to do, you know, it was really cool about the about she is that there was a lot of people there. The sexual health expo is that there was a lot of people there the sexual health Expo is that there was a ton of people there that were like oh, I was at your live show And I was like you were they were ringing like the sex only t-shirts and we didn't get to meet people after that Well, you had to leave early to do your morning. I know you have to get early

But we didn't have like a meet and greet after so I was like just so grateful that people that we got to do so people The improv wants us to come back and do another like oh really? That's cool, but it won't be as I mean I won't be as a shabby as neurotic and crazy about it. Yeah. But well maybe. But we should do it. I'm totally down though. So much fun. Yeah. That was really fun. That's what I was thinking. Even if like two people show up. It was just cool just being in a different environment. I know. I know. Yeah. So that'd be fun. And then one more thing I have to say before we get down to sexy business is hustler workshop. My next one more thing I have to say before we get down to sexy business is Hustler Workshop.

My next one is for Valentine's Day. Coming up fast. And it's going to be February 2nd at the Hustler in West Covina. And it's called Shopping with Emily. Nice. So I'm going to take you shopping so you do not mess up this Valentine's Day. All right. Valentine's Day is stressful. Yeah. Even if you're alone, just come with me. You guys, I'm going to take up this Valentine's Day. All right. Valentine's Day is stressful. Yeah.

Even if you're alone, just come with me. You guys, I'm gonna take you, because it's fun. I've had a lot of women show up, guys, women, couples, everyone. And I take them around, look at the best vibes, best toys, best products. And I'm just fine, we'll go shopping.

So you can, it's February 2nd, 7 o'clock, RSVP at sectionally.com. That's email. That hustlers everywhere. I've been seeing like huge stores. Just keep on popping. I know. It's taking over the world. You know what?

Since, I mean, there's such good friends with them now. Yes. Have them send us to New Orleans? They have, they're all over New Orleans. Really? They would love to. Let's go out there and do a live show. And then we can finally do our drunk show because New Orleans,

there's no way you'd be able to say so. They wouldn't let us not be drunk. I know. Like New Orleans like New York. There's a cop. Welcome to. I know because I was just there recently and it would be so much fun. All you see is hustler. All over the place. Seriously. I mean I haven't been New Orleans in 10 years. It's totally go. So let's. So much fun. Okay, but let's not say this and then not. I'm down. You got there. Your friends that we were going to do. Yeah. Yeah. That was 10 years. Eight, five years ago. We were. I know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That was 10, 8, 5 years ago we were going to do whatever. I know.

Whatever. But we got to be an environment like the improv or a hustler. I'll talk to a hustler. I know they keep saying like they want us to come to other stores and do it. So. Did that be so much fun. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them.

I didn't. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into sex with them. I ran into them tomorrow. I mean it's on a list. I promise

Okay, so that's that's really good. I like it sweet. What are you doing for real? I'm so sweet heart I can see I'm not doing anything just because that's you but maybe I'm wrong Well, we've changed in matured. Yeah, I think I do have to take her somewhere to eat She loves steak. She's like a hundred in her somewhere to eat. She loves steak. She's like a hundred pounds, like a hundred ten pounds, right? Small little thing like yourself. But she loves eating steak. She eats more than I do. That's why I'm so goddamn fat because- Looks thin actually. Yeah, but when I eat, I'm- a lot of times I'm not even hungry. It's just because she's eating. I don't know where the hell it all goes.

There does. That's so interesting. Yeah, so- I know because it's never better, but she's like the man You've met her a couple times. You just don't know But she's like the man of the relationship. She's like I just I just want to go to a steakhouse and I'm good for balance I think there's like bow or something. Yeah, she loves bow. I went to this This other place just recently called more and G More and G don't know it. Morn G, I'm not. Morn G, yeah, I do know Morn G.

Yeah, and West Hollywood, that place was amazing. Yeah, I can't mess up with Steakhouse. Yeah, so I'll probably do that. And then it's always hidden miss if I want to do flowers or not. Because my mom's a florist. No, I know. Every year I make this, I think of your mom being a florist and valentines. And this is so like a social waste.

I know. Can your mom send you some flowers? But that would never even money out of her. Yeah, yeah. So we'll see. She depends. But we are going to be in Vegas just before that. OK. So we're going to be on.

What's their Vegas that we can, anything fun? We're going to go to the JLo show and then maybe meet JLo. Oh, that's awesome. I'm going to Justin Timberlake in San Francisco. What? Yeah. Sweet. Not Justin Timberlake. Oh my god. Can we just leave this? Justin Bieber. Oh, Justin Bieber. I was like, That's even more questions.

I was like, wait. I was like, wait. I'm sorry. I'm like, you guys have a lot of money. No, no, you know. I'm a dayquil. I mean, so I'm sick. No, you know that I've gone to a bunch of JT shows. Yeah, totally. And I love Justin Timberlake. I don't know why I thought that my friend, I'm going with my goddaughter to Justin Bieber.

Sweet. I know, I'm really excited about it. OK, let's get into sex in the news. All right. Because I say this one for you, because I thought you would really like it. OK, thank you. 11 new sex slang words for 2016.

Oh, what? It's going to be got a few of my favorites here. Millennial say the dungist and dirtiest things, but seriously, the new sex slang terms that are becoming popular in 2016 are equal parts hilarious and cringe-inducing. Check out what everyone will be saying this year and see if you're in the new. We're warning you now, so these are worthy of a brow.

Oh, I can't wait. Okay, post-boned. Post-boned, okay. When you're running late because of an unexpected sexual encounter example So sorry I get post-boned. I'm on my way to the office. Oh, I get it. Yeah hilarious. Okay side-check Okay side-check that's been around for a couple years. Yeah. Oh dude. It's just passed over it Okay, the other woman or mistress the girl is a relationship with someone while that person isn't another relationship Example I thought Bernadette was eating him, but turns out she's just that side chick.

That's sketchy. Okay, snatch chat. All right. And naked photo that a girl sends to her object of desire on snap chat. Example Wallace, I wish you could see the snatch chat that Belinda just sent me. It was dirty. All right. Um, Doppel banger.

Doppel banger. I like that one. When you've sex with someone because they look like someone else who you really want a bang. So you know there were doppelganger or the worst. Yeah, I like that. I like that. I like that.

I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that.

I like that. I like that. I like that. I like that. Iuffle butter. Well, that's a you know, yeah, okay No, no because we talked about it. I do know what is another show you almost threw up. I know I don't talk about But that is me when you guys Google it. How about um, how about yeah, tell me Lade on me master weight master weight when waiting for porn in your computer to buffer in the middle of masturbation Damn this Wi-Fi. I guess I'll just have to masterweight. That's hilarious. What else do I like here? Saskratch?

When someone's pubic region has not been trimmed in a long time and it's getting at control. I took one look at that Saskratch and ran out as fast as I could. Oh really? Saskratch. Yeah. There you go, Madison. I'll do the same. Do you have any things that I don't know about any new words, Lingo?

Because you're just the only cool kid on the block. I know, I mean like new slang terms. Sexual slang terms. Doesn't matter. Anything slang to say I seem cool. Yeah, nothing really standing out right now. Okay, cool. Yeah. That's fine.

Just checking in. Oh, there's. Yeah. That's fine, just checking in. I know, oh, there's a term, there's a term. It's called, it's gonna be a movie. So when you're going out, right, it's gonna be so crazy, it's gonna be like a movie. Okay. So, it's gonna be like a movie. Yeah, yeah.

This is gonna be so crazy like a movie. It's gonna be a movie. I'm so dumb, but I know. That's dumb. Basically if you're gonna go out, the night is gonna end up like the movie hanging over or something like that. Okay, got it.

It's gonna be a movie. I got it. I don't get it. It's dumb, but no one's good. I get it, I get it. It's gonna be like a movie man. It's gonna be a movie. It's not gonna be,

leave out the like. I don't, I always use too many words. Yes. I just need to be edited, it speak. It's going to be so. Okay. Being turned on makes you stupid. There's a study that came out. Of course.

Being turned on makes you stupid. We know this, right? In the heat of the moment being turned on can make people pretty dumb a new study found. Sexual rousal can give people tunnel vision. Much in the same way that being hungry or thirsty does. Causing them to think only of satisfying their need for gratification. So the study published in the January issue of Archive Sexual Behavior, they included two experiments on Canadian college students.

They answered questions about how aroused they were, whether they would engage in risky sexual behavior like having sex thought of condom in different scenarios. In the second experiment participants watched the same clips and indicate how a rouse they were and then played blackjack. That's just the setup. Both men and women were more likely to say they would make riskier decisions having sex without a condom making unsafe gamble and bladjack when they were more aroused. So, the authors noted that previous studies found that men were more likely to make bad

decisions but not women and in this study too that women were too. Women like forget the condom I'm so arrived right now. I always thought it was like a rouse of plus alcohol. They're super thirsty. The thirsty man. She's a thirsty. She's a thirsty. So sex at the first. She's usually guys are thirsty but yeah. Girls are thirsty. And girls but girls they put here's another term. Sorry. I'm just remembering I'm on you can't do it on spot, but you're just whipping them out. I love that there's a thirst trap the strap no thirst trap

First trap so thirst trap is one girl's post sexy Photos online like Instagram and so like that. So all the thirsty guys will pay attention to them The first trap that a good one. I've never heard of it. Are you posting thirst traps online? I should. You should. I used to.

You should work. You could be sexy photos. I'm just not, it's not my natural go-to to be sexy photos. Yeah. Okay, so what we're saying here is that sexual education programs have to place more emphasis on the fact that many women have difficulty making safer sex decisions when they're roused, even if you got the condoms all poisoned where you go.

And you're ready when you're roused, you may be out of the city. You're just like throwing alcohol, throwing drugs. Yeah, you're just like, I'm just ready to go. I know. I wish you could just like automatically just train people to make it habitual to just put the condom on.

Just like you leave the house with your shoes on. And then you put the condom on. Like, just like, you leave the house with your shoes on. And then you put the condom on. No, I'm just saying in life, like, you have sex with the condom. Sex with it, just shouldn't even be like a thought. Like, you shouldn't even be saying that you'd debate. Just get the fucking condom on. Do it. Just peasant me off.

Really, because people just like, oh, there, I mean, even some of the less I'd call the love line and they were like, well, we might have a threesome, but we're thinking of going with it because someone that we know rather than like someone ran them online because we feel like they'll be safer. Like they will have a sexually transmitted disease.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, no, your friends have diseases, but everyone's sketching online does. Yeah. Like, you don't realize that your friends have diseases. They don't scream.

Your friends can give you an STD just as much as someone you don't know. They don't scream their friends first. You can't. And some of the stuff you can, even if you got your hand on someone's test results, just to get back, it could still mean they're carrying, it didn't show up yet, every six months, you've to get tested. I know there's something.

It's gone up. I don't know if it's out yet, but I've definitely seen articles on it where they're gonna have a SCD checker through your smartphone. They have a little attachment. They do have that. They do have like services where you can get tested

Mm-hmm. You can show people your results. I don't think you can get tested in the moment But you can show your certified results my lab box. Yeah, my lab box.com. Oh really? That's true, but it's not instant, but yeah, it's a cool company We don't have any sex tests dude. When we make a billion dollars? Because when are we gonna make a billion dollars? I really want to try to make a billion dollars I really want to be on a private jet one time in my life. Just call my brother. No, seriously, dude, never in your life have you?

No, all, yeah, yeah, once. I'm working on it. I know, but I want to be on the sex with Emily jet and like going. I'm great with this, I'd be like lips. Yeah. I mean, pink. Do you think there's like some, there's some, um,

lips are you talking? They're like lip like shape like lips, but there must be some kind of TSA regulations against like having a plane or some kind of federal Evie no, I so there's a private airport lips can be lips. Yeah There's a private airport in In Van ice, California And they said like all crazy to now I found out there. It's made like some Some country guy had his face on the side of the plane. I'm sure you can put some lips We're talking about lips on your face a billion is a lot like we need some major

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You know, I'm not. It's funny you said that because at the sexual health expo, my friend Nikki came over and she was like, oh my god, you finally, she must have had you finally did it. You remember Nikki, my friend from Australia, I definitely like Nikki. Nikki, she was into pegging. Is she the blonde one?

Yes, she was. She stood out because she was telling me how she wanted to pay guys and I know that was like five years ago. She's over I think. Yeah, yeah, you're right. We were in the one she was wearing She was wearing a penis She did That's why I remember her and I never remember anybody but it's like She did a woman wearing a penis talking about pegging people all kind of sticks out

I know it does stick out she would would go crazy because she came in from Australia for school three times a year and she'd buy everything and she'd go to good vibes and she's like, I want to, yeah. I gotta find somebody to strap on. She did. She came on our show with her strap on. Yeah, but she was asking you.

She was like, oh my God, you did it. You made a flesh light. I'm just a part of you. I'm like, I know. These are just my shifters. I came from just not my vagina. Per se. No, it's not. Okay, so we're going to, exactly, at our way to a billion.

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I can't write it. Sometimes I like to see where you're at in life, you know? Right. It does help with the context. Okay. Dear Emily, my boyfriend likes when I'm rough and controlling with him. What are some tips of new things to do? Becca.

Oh, Becca. Becca, baby. Well, this is good. I love that he told her what he needed. Boyfriend communicates his desires and she's like, I'm down. I'll be around with you. So I don't know what they've tried so far. Again, it's, you know, be great to, you know, have a little more information, but there's

some ways to get started. You can do power play. So you can, you know, verbally control him. It sounds like, you know, you can tell him what you want to do, what you're going to do to him next Certain acts that you like lick or kiss or touch, you know, you could say like I want you to lick me I want you to touch me. I want you to do all these things to me. I don't know if he he prop see that's kind of awesome Devigyre like go down on me like do this do that

So you can probably just figure out what you want and order him, you know, have him do it You can also get one of these remote control vibes that they have. Wait, no, are you swishing around that him? He wants to be rough. He wants her to be rough. Yes, so usually it's her dominating. It's not him giving corrections. Well, but it can be both. She's rough and controlling.

So he might want to say like lick my pussy, like lick my boobs, go on me do all that and Or he might want to be like thrown onto the bed and tied up. Yeah, so it's a little bit of both We don't really know. I'm just giving her a whole Poperie of just Yeah, but she wants some ideas. What so what are we gonna do? So tell him he has to be you like he has to like sex acts that he has to do You get a remote control vibe and you can either vibe him or he could vibe you.

Like the wee vibe one that you wear, dirty talk, goes hand in hand with power play, like get rough with words, you're like, you're my bitch. I'm gonna, I got it, I'm gonna take care of you. I'm gonna drain your bank account. Right, I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna tie you up. I'm gonna tie you up and steal your wallet. Yeah, and then sit the house on fire. I'm gonna tie you up. I'm gonna tie you up and steal your wallet. Yeah. And then sit the house on fire. Menace will not be tied up because he doesn't want to lose wallet.

You know, you could bring props. So again, I think that if he wants you to be rough with him and controlling, I would blindfold him. I would tie him up, play with bondage, play with cuffs, play with, you know, silk ties, use a paddle, use a whip, use a vlogger, use. And you don't even have to go out and buy things. You could use different sensations.

You could use ice cubes. You could use a necklace. If you have a pearl necklace or not, like the jacket, but different sensations that you have around your house. Watch porn together for inspiration, which I love this. You probably watching porn anyway.

If you're not sure what to do exactly, flip around, watch some scenes together and see what turns you both on. It's great inspiration to find out, you know, what he's into and what's off limits. But I just think getting some great cuffs, like, you know, and some bondage and just telling what you're going to do to him and that he's your dirty bitch or something. Yeah. Play out or something. Yeah. Play out with it. Yeah, that's story. Good luck with that Becca. I like it.

I like that he told her. I like that she's into it. That's what I love. That's magic. She would be like, I don't know what to do because I don't really want to die. Well, she sounds awesome. And every girl should be like that. Hopefully.

If you mean giving into her partner's needs, every designer. Yeah. And vice versa. Yeah, and vice versa. Right, and vice versa. I agree. I agree, so great. I don't know. See? You didn't think I was going to be a misogynist?

I did. I thought, it's a big word for you. I did think you were a misogynist. I did. I did. I love when you're equal opportunity. Totally. So good.

Why are you downing the tick-tax and not the sex of the elements? Are you saving them for a bite? Yeah, I'm saving them for a better. I'm sorry guys. Once I open a thing of mince, I eat the entire thing. And it's okay, it's better than like a whole thing in front of my eyes. You take them from me. You say, I can't.

Because I have a bad throat. Okay, this is from a Michiganter, a fellow Michiganter, which is what we call this Michiganter. Oh, yeah, yeah. Hey, they're a fellow Michiganter. So Michiganter, that's how we say it. So long story. Should I say the Michigan accent? Yeah.

So long story short. I just tore to America in a production of a show. Medi Girl won on tour and fell in love. We're fast. She left her current boyfriend for me. They were in a bad relationship. She said that even if I hadn't come around, I mean, this is a good thing.

Yonder. You're gonna focus on this. All right. Medi Girl won tour and fell in love pretty fast. come around. I'm going to be younger. You're going to focus on this. All right. Um, Betty girl on tour and fell in love pretty fast. She left a current boyfriend for me. They were in a bad relationship. She said that even if I hadn't come around, they would have broken up. But I'm not entirely sure if that's true.

We are four months into the relationship now. Should I be worried that she could do the same thing to me? Is she a serial monogamous? Can I ask for that? I'd rather not get used or take an advantage of. I'm also an all-or-nothing guy. If I'm in a relationship, I want it to be a loving relationship. I feel kind of hidden by her. Is that is this shame? He feels hidden by her. PS, I love your show and thanks for the help. Chadwick 27. And PPS, it's cold as fuck here in Michigan. Dude, so my mom, I tried my mom's day,

she said it is so, she was in a white out, just real quick going up from Chicago the other day. Oh wow. 40 car pile up on the I-94. She was driving from Chicago. Well, it was like the second she crossed the, she was going to, she was in my cousin's house. And the second she crossed the border from Chicago to Michigan

She couldn't help it. It was white out 40 park two people died. Oh, oh No, there's no reason to go outside In travel during that at all. I know. I'm sorry. Wait till the snow melts Well, she didn't know and they went to the left Chicago Yeah, okay, so Chadwick I'm not making funny. Why I have the same accent. I swear to God and my family doesn't I love you Okay, so Chadwick I find'm not making funny by the same accent I swear to God and my family does and I love you. Okay, so Chadwick, I find the question, should I be worried in interesting one? Because it sounds like you're already worried. Is it funny when people say like, should I be worried? Like you want you like, but you're having a good time. It's a new relationship. And he's worried that she's a serial monogamous and that she left her boyfriend for him. And

so he's worried that she's gonna leave him for someone else. Yeah. Well, that's understandable. Right, totally understandable. I think that you might be concerned that she's gonna leave you. But things like they're going pretty well right now. I don't want you to psych yourself out.

Maybe you're looking for a reason to be upset right here. But you're in the honeymoon phase now. It's only been a few, how long, how many months has it been Chadwick? Four months. Also, no matter how many times I told you this, no matter what you do, you can never prevent somebody from leaving you if they want to leave you. That's true. There was going to be a new year.

So you can't ruin, you're going to sabotage your own relationship if you worry about that constantly. It's true. It's true. And it's it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Yeah. Because even if you think it's in your mind, you're doing things that are going to get hurt. Yeah. You're being needy. You're like, are you really going to ask me? Are you going to leave it? So you're going to show your own relationship. I would show you in a honeymoon phase. It's really you're having fun. Things are great, but I understand that your mind is wandering towards what it means. And it's not, you know, ideal that she left her previous relationship for you. But and also, my only concern is that when you go from one relationship to the next, which

I was guilty of, I was a serenominogamous, which I actually don't think is like a bad thing per se. But we all need downtime. We all need time by ourselves to process not in a relationship, to figure out who we are and what we want. And it's just part of the process of becoming adult and understanding like, you know, our needs change over time.

So that's just my only concern that she's going from one to the next. But it sounds like you guys are getting along. I'm wondering if you've residual guilt or bad feelings about the way it happened, even though she said that she was going to leave the guy anyway. She kind of left him for the X. So if you're having doubts and concerns, though, and you feel like this is a real relationship, you want to work on just be honest with her.

Just say, hey, listen, I'm feeling this way. Use the I word. I've been feeling like things are so amazing. I can't help but think, though, you know, you just let that relationship and now we're in this new relationship and make me feel like maybe you're looking for a relationship I'm not sure like it makes me feel like you might be you might leave me soon looking for another one I don't just tired of feeling yeah what do you think now be honest I mean it's so early then in the relationship you start having conversations like that. That's like- Now, four months into the human phase, this is the thing. Yeah, and you have sort of, they're like,

I'm trying to have them down. That would throw me back a little bit if somebody coming at me like that and it's only four months in. I agree. I agree, and so don't do it, Ted. But I think if you have to, Chadwick, if you're like, this is eating you up inside and you feel like your behavior is like,

kind of pushing your way and your mind are thinking you can't stop thinking about the fact that she's like a seromonogamous and she might leave you then you have to talk about it. But I think right out the honeymoon phase as long as you can, it's four months. This is when it's good times, you know, you don't have to have like, I'll be talking about what she might be doing in the future. No matter what stage you are in your relationship, you can never stop somebody from wanting to leave you if they want to leave you.

So true. No matter what happens or it's going to leave, I know you would say that. Just happen with it. Yeah. It's going to happen. There could be, for so many reasons, people could leave. We try our best. Yep.

Try to commit. Didn't work out. It's okay. Move on. Yeah. All right. What do you got next? Oh, sex tips for large penises. Oh, really?

Please. I need to know all of them. I need to know all of them. Hi, Emily. My penis is a bit larger than average. And whenever I'm with a woman for the first time, it seems to really hurt her, not me. To be clear, it seems to hurt a lot on the first penetration of the night. It stops hurting after a minute or two and all good from there. Typically women get used to it after a few weeks, but until then I

have to be slow and I have to be careful. What worries me is that some women might have toughed it out and never sent anything and also there's women who've never been with someone large and don't know how to avoid hurting. So from now on I want to be prepared. My question is, what can I do to make it easier for women? I try to go slow. I always try to go along in the foreplay, but that doesn't seem to help much from the initial penetration. Thanks, Jeff, in the Bay Area.

Jeff, Bay Area, what's going on? Jeff, yeah. Our old hometown. I've been missing it, like my heart. Yeah. Yeah. Missed the Bay Area. Okay, Jeff, first of all, I love that you're so concerned about your partner's comfort and pleasure

I love that he's like worry, you know, like he's gonna hurt her and like it's so guys are going to yes sure your pizza big We get I've actually had more emails envy from large penis men than smaller penis men So asking you to reveal really like they're like asking what if I'm available? Yeah, I'm gonna date here's a big penis Here's a photo every woman's different as is her anatomy and what feels uncomfortable for one woman might not affect another. So pay attention to her body language like during the initial penetration

and don't be afraid to check in with her to make sure that she's doing okay and that it feels okay and that she's not holding back on any pain she might be feeling. So, and so communication is the key here to knowing that there's no pain happening anywhere. But, you want to make sure like you said, you did a lot of foreplay,

double the foreplay, we require it, it will get her turn on, make sure that she's more wet and open, literally, and figuratively. But no matter how much foreplay you're providing, you need to load up in a loop. Loop is huge when you have a larger member. It is your very best friend in the situation. Like, you should have a quart of like pump loop by your bed. Even with regular size penis, even with any set and there's no regular.

Even with any penis, it, looper could always enhance a sexual satisfaction for women. They're more like an orgasm, it's more pleasurable. And with the guy with the big penis, this is your saving grace. Like she's going to be able to ease in up, down, whatever, much easier, and it makes it much more smoother and easier experience. Also, positions are key. Woman on top is great because she can control the thrusting. She can control how shallow she goes. She can control the depth and penetration rather than if you're just going out like a jack hammer, which I'm sure you're not, dude, you so don't do that, but she can control it that way.

Spooning is another great option for well endowed men because you're kind of like, I love spooning because I love quaddling. And then she, because it limits the thrusting and gives her full control of the, it gives you full control of the penetration and can go very slow when they're on the backs. And then you can reach around and play other clitoris, which is always important. But it's like clitoris tickler that look like

one of those back scratchers. Because I always say that like whenever we're talking about sex resistance and like then you can reach around and grab a clitoris. But I'm trying to think of what position you can't reach around and grab a clitoris. I guess if you're pounding away like a missionary, but like, you know those back scratchers things?

Yeah, yeah. What if there was one that was like really tall? I had a little vibration at the end and you could just everywhere you go. You could take on your clitoris. It's called a clitoris ticker. All right, pan, there's our trip on the plane, everyone. Okay, don't take my day, everyone.

I'll give you a free trip on the plane. We should do a crowdfunding thing. A crowdfunding? I don't know. Don't lay. And also, you want to avoid, I'm sorry to say this, because doggy style is huge for men. Huge position for human. Yeah.

Be sure to avoid positions like doggy style, though, or anything that involves her legs being in the air, because with this type of access, it hurts more her legs going back. He has more deeper penetration that could hurt. But I think you're doing great for play, Loub. Love it. Okay. Yeah. More, more, more. All right.

Lay it on me. What do you got? Okay. This way I got for you. Sex sheets. Hi, everybody. My boyfriend, our 27 and both of them listen to your podcast. Thank you so much.

We're about to move in together and need your help with an ongoing problem. Basically, we have a lot of great sex. We don't use condoms and always end up with all types of body fluid stains on our sheets. Other couples must run into this too. Are there any specific sheets or ideas you can suggest so the stains aren't visible? Grace. It's hard, man. When you've got a lot of sex, it's true. I mean, those rubber sheets.

Well, there are rubber sheets, it's true. Congrats to all the great sex and the cohabitation. I think that's great for you guys here, Grace. As for your sheet, this is a common issue that many couples and singles face. And it's recommended that you wash your sheets. I say once a week, some of you'll say twice a week, but I mean, the more often you can wash your sheets

and the more sheets you have to change out the better, I think you wanna have 100% cotton sheets, if you can. Paliester sheets, all the flannel sheets, they all get like hot and moldier, and they're just not as good for you. They don't breathe as much. Use a water-based lube. There's less chance of staining the sheets.

Keep wipes by your bed, like intimate wipes, like delight wipes close to the bed for quick and easy cleanup. I think a lot of it's kind of roll over and fall asleep, which is kind of a fun part of sex, but you want to make sure you clean up after. Things in boiling, like massage oil, looking food up each other, anal stuff, all that. There's no reason if you know that you're going to have, like, a crazy night of wild sex

that you can put another sheet down or some towels down on top of the sheets. They're, like, your bad sheets. And then afterwards, you just throw them in the thing. That's what I do a lot. Go to raw, or T.J. Maxx or something. Right. Spent ten bucks on sheets. They sound like a good thread count on those two.

They do? They get good thread count. I just think it's a great deal. It's a great deal there. White sheets might not be so great, although if you're really good at bleaching, you can do that because hotels, hotels always have a really nice sheet

and you know people doing nasty stuff in hotels. But you gotta like bleach, bleach, bleach. So I once spilled an entire gatorade bottle at the W Hotel on a white bed. Right. I'm sure they've fixed that. No problem. Yeah, no problem.

They always do. But you'd like colored paisley provides good camo and patterns. If you've got patterns on the sheets, no one can tell. And yeah, keep a colored comforter or blanket that gets removed during sexy times can be thrown over the sheets for easy cover up. But just just wash them. That's easy. That's easy cheesy, easy easy be easy but I try to use towels and stuff yeah okay backdoor bleaching how do you feel about anal bleaching minus

human opinions oh so bleaching is you're just dying the hair or you're not actually ripping it off it's actually your skin uh-huh it's like you're skin skin people think their skin should be pink. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not like a good one. I mean, you can see. What are the pink? Yeah, yeah.

Okay, here we go. My name is Michaela. What? No, no, no, no, no, you're talking about it. Yeah. My name is Michaela. I'm 21 from Toronto. I've listened to your podcast for a year now, and I love the show as I've learned something

from every episode. I'm curious about anal bleaching slash lightning. I looked at Hus Hussell Hollywood's website as well as on the Amazon for Lightning products, but the reviews for most of the products weren't great. If someone's interest in this type of thing, are there any products you would suggest or maybe a DIY natural option?

Is it even safe to do? I have light skin, but like most people, I'm assuming my skin is darker in that area. And I would feel a little more comfortable if it wasn't so dark. I'd love to know your thoughts on this topic and any recommendations you have. Thanks Emily, Michaela. So the bleaching, huh? I don't really know too much about it. I'll tell you. I mean, I'm not a fan of it because I think it goes back to, you know,

she's seeing it in porn probably she's thinking like no one Probably said like why is your aides so dark? I think that she's thinking that that's What she needs to do so mccayla. Why do you think you'd ain't a bleaching? You mentioned that you know She mentions here. She thinks it'll make her more confident. Did she attach a photo so we can see We like to see her ainess and tell you if it needs you bleached done Send a photo and then we'll tell you I know like I can't even We'd like to see your A-ness and tell you if it needs to be bleached. Done. Centafoto and then we'll tell you. Why even bleached our time? I know.

I can't even tell you the degree of if it needs to be bleached or not. I mean, I'm not saying that she's dumb, but I'm just saying that. No, no, no. This is common. This is actually a good email because a lot of people women, you're her age, which is 21. She's concerned probably because she watches porn. Maybe some douchebag guy says something new or she feels like she's got a problem with dark skin

That her skin's too dark. I know, but we don't know I just didn't explain that area. Okay, but do you think a guy's gonna be like yeah, let's have anal. Let's have anal Oh man, guys guys are effing disgusting. They're gonna have sex with their You know what I mean seriously this really upsets me really because he's not gonna be deterred by her darker skin Not not at all. I know I I know. Focus on having more pleasure. Guys are gross. Still do whatever. Less than a appearance. I know. It's not as safe as two. Would you say guys are gonna do it anyway? I mean whatever. It's like a little browner. I mean it doesn't even last and here's the thing, it's not as safe as people would have you believe.

Stay away from home bleaching kits because many of them have acid in it, which can be harmful to the surrounding areas. And so you like burn and scar. There's been stories about this. Like people like it's not good. Like you do not want to be bleaching your bottle. Yeah. You want to steer clear products that have hydrocrononin in them.

Hydrocrononin. They'll send a photo so we can we can check. Yeah. We'll have swatches that we can hold up next to it and see. We're gonna compare your blue. We're gonna do an ask bleaching. We're gonna send them. No, no, no, I'm not gonna say this because actually we will do this.

I'm not even. There's like some DIY options. Yeah. Just be careful. I'm not gonna talk about it. I think the kill work on your own like self I think you're an awesome chick and I love that you're asking this, but I don't think you need to I think I think She's totally over thinking. Yeah, bikini wax. That's fine

Like do some other things maybe get your hair highlighted spend the money on that Yeah, I don't know but like anal bleaching and doesn't like I think it's a permanent thing I think it would be painful and you could burn off your inus Yeah, you don't want that. No. That would be terrible. That's all. So, anus burning.

Anus, anal burning. That's what we got here, Menace. It's such a great time hanging out with you Emily. I love it. I love it that you love it. Yeah. And our new year of resolution is to hang out like, what was it like three times a week? Three times a week, yes.

I'm so excited for that. Let's do it. Okay, well thank you, Menace. And everyone can find you at Menace. Yep, Menace on Twitter and Instagram. And my dog, my dog Chiro, there's a lot of sex with Emily listeners that follow her there. She's always up to her shenanigans.

I think the one of the latest things that posted her snoring in bed, she's a big snorer. Oh, really? She's probably a little bit sick. And did you miss her right now? Did you hurt her? Yeah, she's waiting for me at the house. But, oh, I was just at the World Dog Awards

not too long ago. Really? Yeah, it was hilarious. It was that, no, we were just attending. But we were on TV. You were? Yeah, it was in Santa Monica at the Bob Hope airplane hanger. Just go, go, go. I just see someone do just go. I know that's good

I think I would do and I like sit and think about it and then I fall asleep That's awesome. Okay. Thank you, menace and you can find me on Twitter and Instagram is at sex with Emily and also Facebook to come so I'm sorry And tell me you guys a snapchat, but you know listen to me. I do it's honest I have a snapchat sex with Emily so can they to me. I do. It's on the list. You're on it. I have a snapchat section with Emily, so can they just follow me on snapchat right now? Yeah.

We have it all set up. Yeah, so I mean, you might not have like, I mean, you guys are in the office a lot working on the show, but it would be great for when you're at events, like you're wanting to get the avians and stuff like that. People would love to see that on snapchat. Okay, can you, can we do our first snapchat right now before you leave? Let's snap it together. Okay, we're going to do our first Snapchat right now before you leave? Let's snap it together. Okay, we're gonna do a Snapchat right now before we leave.

Uh-huh. It's at Sex with Emily. That's a good thing across the board. Do it. Also, yeah, I told about the hustle workshop. I'll see you all in West Covina on February 2nd. And what else, anything else, Madison? Thank you, Madison.

Producer Madison, thank you, Laurie. Thank you, Madison. All right. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good Thank you, Mennis. All right. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay.

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