Sex With Emily - Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Episode Date: May 5, 2023

We all need to mix it up sometimes. Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? With creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life – and I’m here to tell you how. First, we’ll talk about planning a "sex-cation" with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what’s left? I advise one caller on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine – even with new people! – is leaving you bored.Show Notes:Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It?PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureSMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)LELO Tor 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo SexArticle: The Best Masturbation Techniques to Try TonightQuinn Audio Erotica Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I was thinking, what if you were on your deathbed or something and then you touch the back of your knee and you're like, oh, I can now have a neagasm or you learned all these different ways to have pleasure and you didn't know. So this is what I'm talking about about exploring. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Hey, we all need to mix it up sometimes.

Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? But with creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life. And I'm here to tell you how. First we'll talk about planning a sexcation with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what's left? I advise one collar on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun

with casual sex if your current routine, even with new people, is leaving you bored. Intentions with Emily. Free-jepisode, I want to start off by setting an intention for the show, and I encourage you to do the same. My intention is to inspire you with novel ideas for sexual connection, so that no matter who you are, partnered, single, and everything in between, you've got a menu of options you can't wait to try. Please rate and review sexual-thumb Emily wherever you listen to the show.

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He said, he needs some staycation planning. How do you plan a sexcation? Do I just plan it? Do we do it together? He's 31 and married. So I got to think in. How do we plan a great staycation? One thing that I want to tell you is that I have this few ideas for you.

We have to remember this. That typically when we ask for something we were thinking about, well, what would be a bucket list or how do we keep it interesting? It has to do with novelty. It typically comes down to doing something that is novel, something that you're not doing every single night over and over again, I.E. you know, having sex in the same bedroom, staring at the same ceiling, that is not novel, that is not interesting. Something that is a little bit outside of your routine, and I think that right now more than ever, if you've noticed this, that this is really the time

to use our imagination and to have fun. That's something we've control of, right? Our imagination and what we want to happen, and we can pretty much make things happen. First easy thing, hook up somewhere new. So outside the bedroom, I don't care if it's in the kitchen. If it's in the pantry in the kitchen, I have a friend who has three kids.

She lives in Chicago, she called me and she said, guess what we did. My husband and I, the kids were all watching TV or doing something and she pulled him into the pantry. It's like a walking pantry in the kitchen and they had thick a cookie in the pantry. And it was novel and it was different. It was unexpected. They've been together like 15 years and she was like, well, don't in the pantry. And it was novel and it was different, it was unexpected.

They'd been together like 15 years and she was like, well, don't in the pantry. So suck up somewhere new, just change the location. You could do some teasing. So this is what I love it. I think there is the lost art of the tease. Like when was the last time you did a build up toward sex? You sort of sent your partner a sexy text.

Maybe it's a picture of you in a certain position and telling them what you're waiting for when they come home, whispering in their ear what you want to do. Like maybe you're at a family picnic that's going to end soon and you're like, oh, we get home. I'm going to give you a, it's the most incredible sexy back rub, something like that. Use your imagination. The other thing this made me think about is you could listen, a lot of us, I'm myself and considering taking a road trip, hook up under the stars. You could even do this in your backyard. You could put down a blanket, light some candles, give each other a sexy massage, putting some oil on your partner and massaging their body, surprising them with that, and then

switching terms under the night sky is a beautiful thing to do. And it's something different. I don't think I can emphasize enough the art of the tease, the art of massage. Listen, a lot of us are not in the mood for sex. We're stressed out. We have things to worry about. The kids are around. We're worried about work, money, finances.

But when you just get your hands on your partner and you start to kind of calm them, even if it's like a 10 minute massage, what it does is now is it feel good, but it calms the nervous system and you'll find that your mood can completely change and then you'll totally be in the mood for anything. Maybe it's just a massage at night or maybe you find once you breathe into the massage

that, oh, actually, I'm in the mood for sex. All this touching actually got me in the mood for it. You could also do this with a massage candle. Massage candles are really fun because it's atmosphere, you light it for a few minutes, and then you blow it out, and then you like pour it on your partner. It's like this warm, it's not a regular candle. Don't do it with a regular candle because that hurts.

But a massage candle is just like luxurious oil, like it turns into oil, it's not waxy or messy or sticky or hot. So doing this thing of like playing with an ice cube, swirling it around in your mouth, playing with hot and cold are all things you can do. Those are some of my tips. Hi, Stacey, 30 in Utah.

What's going on? Hello. Hi, Stacey, 30 in Utah. What's going on? Hello. Hi. So there is 17 years between my husband and I. Okay. Um, I have orgasms all the time. Awesome. I have orgasms every time I pee. I have orgasms when the hot water of the shower runs over my body.

I just have orgasms and it sounds like I'm in a pretty different situation than a lot of other women out there. But my husband and I try everything and there's nothing that we don't try. We have a really great sex life other than the fact at the moment I feel like I personally and kind of bored. Right, I get it. personally and kind of board right again because i am so into trying anything and everything that there is to be with me but not so much anything and everything that there is to do with him

you're not into it or he's not trying to try other things he's not into trying other things uh... have you talked to him about this if you ever said hey i'd like to and love to? And he says, nope. We've tried it. He says it hurts him. And so we've tried other things like smaller toys and, oh, anal, more experience. Yeah. It prostate play. Yeah. And it hurt. And you, okay. I get the finger and all of that, like, we have really tried it. Because, like I said, I'm We have really tried it because like I said, I'm kind of over giving my body. Yeah, yeah, I get it. So do you think that it's not that I'm...

I understand. You're like, no, I don't... Stase, I get it. I'm stase. I'm like, my body. Stase, I feel like you... I totally get it. You're like, but he's kind of like, no, it's fine.

It's fine. I don't want to do anything. And typically it's because he probably doesn't really know what else is on the table. So he's like, I don't know, or maybe he was told growing up that it wasn't okay to explore other things. And so I think it's really just a matter of like learning together what could be interesting. So maybe he doesn't want anal play that's fine. That's not for every person.

Like for you first off, because you have so many orgasms, I'm really glad you're calling right now because here's the thing. I know I talk about orgasms a lot. It is my job, but it is not the end-all-be-all with sex. Like it's about intimacy, it's about connection, it's about playing, it's not so linear. So maybe you have your orgasms, they see like right away, but then you guys could play together

and you could do some like bondage. It's really a great way for couples to kind of focus, like if you do a blindfold over him and then you start to like tease his body and use like a massage candle and different sensations like ice cubes and cold things and hot things and you just sort of play with it that could be a way to tease him so he can kind of see what else is out there. Yeah, we've tried all we have swings and we have the candles and we've tried ice cubes and we have bondage kits and have different kinds of swings and different kinds of bondage kits and all kinds of different toys.

And he just is he into this? It's not that. Yeah. No, we're in all of it. Like, yes, it's all great. I'm not complaining about our stuff, life. I've just kind of hit a wall of stuff to try new with me. Oh, with you.

What about orgasm denial? What about him teasing you? So it's like, you can't come yet. Like he's not really touching you. You get the blindfold. He's like teasing you, like blowing on you, using a feather, massage oil, like playing all around everywhere but has he tried this stuff on you? So orgasm denial isn't really our thing mostly because I have so many orgasms. playing all around everywhere but as he tried this stuff on you so

organ because i have so many or right but what if you had the build up to work like what i'm saying that that teasing you just not an orgasm so now it's because because that's kind of hot for many people it's hot to like not just go right for the clitoris or right for anything just kind of like massaging your inner thighs and like playing with you and teasing

because then that's like the arousal process. Yes, so do some teasing, do some playing. All right, there you go, Stacy, that's your number seven. Yeah, let me know. Let's talk to Jeff in California. Jeff. I'm a gay male. Okay.

I have this thing where I like to like, suck dick, you know, put it in my life. Okay. So I have like, on brand. So guys like it. And so, um, yeah, I have like, but I'm getting kind of carried away lately because I'm like, I have a house for myself. I need some help because I, I come over like two or three times and I, I start to get bored.

I got a lot like spice it up a little bit. I need some input. What can I do? Wow. What are you saying you want to spice up your blow jobs? Well, yeah, I have these guys. There's like, quite two or three to come over all the time, like consistently, we have sex, we hook up.

I get bored easy. Okay. Well, I've got some, I mean, you've come to the right place. We all know how to give a blow job. Not all of us. The many of us know how to give blow jobs. But you're right. Why we keep doing the same things over and over again. So have you ever done anything with like temperature play? Have you ever like used a blindfold on one of them?

They come in, you blindfold them, because when you take away one sense with a blindfold Everything else becomes more heightened and then you can have like a bowl of ice by the bed You can have an ice cube in your mouth and then you could take the ice cube and like drip it over their body And you know when you put his penis in your mouth you could your mouth will be cold Then there's some incredible Warming like warming loops playing with like warming or cooling products. You could also your mouth will be cold. Then there's some incredible warming, like warming loops, playing with like warming or cooling products. You could also do, you know, just like teasing.

You could use a toy. Have you ever used a toy or a cock ring? I love cock rings, girl. We love those. Yes, I love cock rings. It isn't wrong. Yeah. They're the best.

The vibrating ones are spectacular. Yes. Is it wrong to ask someone like say a guy comes over and I feel bad that if I try you know There's some guys have a little aroma. I'm not gonna lie. You know Okay, but get here. I mean it for the first time. I'm like hey buddy jump in the shower Is that rude? Well, hygiene is such an interesting question because I this is something that how do you do it? We all it's awkward We all, it's awkward. We all know it is, but I think that there's a, that we all know what it means, right?

You're like, hey, buddy, jump in the shower, I'll be like, oh shit. But I think you'd say one shower, you could say, hey, I haven't showered yet, one a shower together. Because then you guarantee that it's, that you're both clean going into it. I think it's the way you say it.

You could even like kind of like, instead of like, duh, take a shower, you know, you could just say like, uh. I've got my profile. Is that okay? I put up my profile. Yeah. Yes.

Yes, you could say, let's shower together and have a cocktail. Like let's shower together and hang out. Hey. You could even after the shower, what would be fun is if you shower together, you got the candles going, and then you could use some of this warming oil,

and then you could lie them down, you could give them a massage, put it all over their body. Massage is so underrated, and then if you get something that could make it fun, oil up his body, and then use a vibrator, teasing him, you don't have a vibrating caulking, doesn't just have to be on the cock, if you will. You could use it all over their body, right, teasing them. You don't have a vibrating caulking. Doesn't just have to be on the cock, if you will.

You could use it all over their body, right? You could tease them, you could kiss them. It's just play with them. Why you're wearing it? Why you're wearing it? Yes, while you're wearing it, just holding it in your hand. No, well, yes, you could tease it

while you're wearing it as well. But you can also use it in your hand and like use it on down their back. Use it all over, like literally tease them with it in your hand and just drag it all over their body with the oil, with a blindfold. You could do prostate play. Do you ever do any prostate play? Absolutely.

Yeah, there you go. Fingers and hands free. Yeah, I mean, listen, you know all the things. I think a lot of this stuff about spice and get up or keeping an interesting is atmosphere and just doing one thing different and that could be showering together. It could be a new toy. It could be just something smelling amazing when they come into the room. The beds made, it's a different location. They're going to knock my door in now, believe it or not. Oh my god, go. Let me know. It goes. Do you think it's them? Have fun. Now you're, yeah.

Did I help? Did you think it's them? Have fun. Now, yeah, did I help? Did you get some good stuff? Yeah, you got it, girl. Thank you. Okay, of course, I'm here for you, doc. Amazing. Stick around, because after the break, I'm talking to collars about mixing up their masturbation routines and spicing up sex in a once-sexless marriage. This is from KC 31 in Wisconsin.

Hi Dr. Emily, I recently decided to go out in the limb and test the waters as a third in a dominant sub-sub-relationship. We were talking all about fantasies and I bought up that I enjoyed outings when my partner has a remote or an app and can play, tease, punish, or reward me throughout the night as they want or de-appropriate, depending on the mood. It's a huge turn on for me because of the feeling of having our own little secret. Well, we all agree that it was super hot and after further conversation, we are trying to find a product that would allow one individual to control two toys at the same time. Something that could be used if we were in the same place, or if one of us is traveling.

But it seems to not be a thing. I for sure would have thought this is an option somewhere by now. But it's proving difficult to find. Help. All right. I love this question. I love that you're spicing it up. I love that you're in a triad. I love that you're exploring all of your fantasies, and I can't agree with you more. That playing with remote control toy, you literally just making me like want to do this on Saturday night, because I'm like, we haven't done that in a while, because my experience with partners, playing with a toy, when we go out, and let me, you have to understand what she's asking here.

Literally, your partner has a remote app on their phone and then you're wearing the toy when you're out and about and at any time they can just turn on the app. And then you're getting vibrated while you're ordering a meal at a party going for a walk in a movie theater. It's really fun. It's really hot and it does engage in power play because your partner is literally in control of your pleasure or pain depending on how you decide to play. And so if anyone is interested in more of this kink, you're like, what are you talking

about? I do have a really great chapter on kink in my new book, Smart Sex, which hopefully you will all preorder. So getting into some other things about kink, if anyone's curious, kinky is all about dominance and submission, and so is sexuality, so is any kind of sex. There's always someone leading in someone following, which is dominance and submission. So even if you're thinking, I'm not very kinky, I'm going to be honest. Most of us are a little bit kinky, because what's not kinky, what's more vanilla is typically

missionary sex and make it out. And so there is a lot more to sex when you are open to playing around. And I think using a remote control toy is a great place to start because you are playing with these power dynamics. And the thing about using a toy, especially when you're out and about, is that's the novelty. That's spontaneity. And that's the variety that a lot of you are craving in relationships. You know, when you're telling me that it's getting boring or you want to spice it up,

sometimes just a new toy could be everything you need to keep things hot. You know, when it's Casey says, it's super fun for your pleasure to be the mercy of your partner, especially if you're a submissive. So, if you're looking at spice of your sex life, I highly recommend playing with Bluetooth controlled toys. And by the way, I've been talking especially if you're a submissive. So if you're looking at spice of your sex life, I highly recommend playing with Bluetooth controlled toys. And by the way, I've been talking about Bluetooth controlled toys for years. What I love is when you're asking me for,

it's like, I'm not pushing it on you and saying, you're gonna love it. So, Casey, I'm not sure that any app exists that can control two toys at the same time. You know, so if one of you is traveling, you might just need to splurge on two remote controlled sex toys. You know, the more the marryer, am I right? Why not?

But for the times that you are together, I highly recommend an app controlled couples toy like a vibrating cock ring, which is a great place to start. And Laylo makes it a great one. It's called the Tor 3. And what I love is it's a brand new update to their Tor 2. So I love when someone's updating a great one. It's called the Tor 3 and what I love is it's a brand new update to their Tor 2. So I love it like someone's updating a sex story. You're like it was good but now it's even better. It has more pleasure settings and densities and now it has a Bluetooth connection. So your dominant partner control the couples ring with the Laylo app. I just talked with another

caller about vibrating cock rigs and they're so fun because really remember this You can use them on any body part between two people They can be one on the shaft or you can hold it like a handheld vibrator the clitoris the nipples the lips the inner elbows I mean all those amazing Arrogant zones all over your body just remember we are bodies covered in nerve-wet nerve endings that feel really great when stimulated. So, you know, find the vibe, find the parts that feel good, and feel free to use a vibrator wherever. I'm not sure if the other two people in your probably relationship are penis or lava owners or who is a dominant one, but using couples ring could be a great solution for controlling

the pleasure for two people via an app, even if it's the same singular toy. And I do think you can also multiple Lalo toys connected to their app, but you might have to get a few toys and take turns controlling each one. And Lalo has so many great options. Their toys are all incredible. We'll make sure to put it in the show notes.

It can also be fun to pass a toy between you two throughout the night. Maybe you're at a party and one of you's wearing the toy and then you go to the bathroom and you pass it to someone else and your punishment or rewards could determine who gets a turn with a toy. So you're all playing together in this really super-hot erotic fantasy that's coming to life. And then whenever you need to exchange a toy, now I'm thinking this through with you, I'm like, okay, what could you do? You could go to the bathroom or somewhere at the party to exchange

the toy and hook up all the commands of your dominant partner who's essentially controlling the evening and controlling how you play. And if one of you is traveling, then you could take the toy and be brought into the mix virtually while the other two of you are together having sex. How how does that? So it's like you're still together but you're not together. That's why I love the innovation of Bluetooth-enabled toys. By the way, these toys are also great if you're in a long-distance relationship. It's literally always my first suggestion. When someone's in long distance, I say, have you gotten a Bluetooth toy yet? I hope this was helpful, Casey. Please let me know. It goes, I can't wait to hear all the details.

Okay, this is from destiny, 36 in Texas. Hey, Dr. Emily, I'm a 36-year-old single woman living in Texas. Thanks to you, I started exploring myself more and had my first clear orgasm by just using my fingers. This was exciting for me as I never really put the time and effort into it before. Well, now, three years later, I wanna explore it, but I found myself doing the exact same thing

every time I masturbate. I don't have a partner, although I would like one, but I have not really met anyone that I like on the apps and the casual routers down my style. My two questions, how could I take my masturbation routine to another level, maybe try to have a G-spot orgasm. And, and these suggestions how to find a partner. Thank you so much, XX-Des.

Alright, Des. This is a great question. First of all, I love that you were first inspired just to kind of let your fingers do the walk in and see what felt good to you and exploit yourself. And just remember what she's saying here is that she just started exploring and then had an orgasm. But remember, it doesn't happen right away

and my best advice is to masturbate if you haven't before and it's been a while to just start to touch yourself without the goal of an orgasm or what it should feel like because then you could really get into your senses and you can really think about, well, what actually feels good? You know, if I move my hands, I tease myself on my inner thighs or I always think like, I tease myself with my inner thighs,

or I was thinking, like, what if you were like on your deathbed or something, and then you touch the back of your knee, and then you're like, oh, I can now have like a neagasm, or you learned all these different ways of pleasure, and you didn't know. So this is what I'm talking about about exploring. And so you want to take it to the next level here, because you've already had one. And so I think, yeah, why not try internally? I mean, the clitoris is where the magic happens for so many of us, 8,000 nerve endings. And I would argue that the G-Spot

is the internal clitoral nerves. So it's really just knowing that your G-Spot has a head to it, which a lot of us know, but also has legs. And those legs extend behind your labia and internally. And so yeah, I would try to use your fingers and just start exploring your G-Spot. It does help to have a clitoral orgasm first

or to already be aroused. And to mix it up, I don't know if you've ever tried a dildo if you've ever tried playing with your nipples too, because remember, it's the same parts of your brain that stimulates your clitoris, your nipples, they're reaching that same part so it's all responsible for your orgasm and pleasure. They are connected.

And so I would, you know, recommend trying out some internal pressure, try out different positions. So for example, if you're gonna go internally, you're gonna use your fingers, or get a dildo, first elevate your hips. That's the need. Put a pillow underneath you. And this goes for literally everybody

who's sexual right now, that there's something about elevating just a little bit. And so you're either your partner has more access to your pelvic floor or you do, but it's just a different angle. It's so much about mixing up masturbation is trying different angles. If you're always on your back, masturbate and you're stomach. If you've never used a toy, try the vibration. It feels amazing. I mean really it's just you want to use a lot of lube. You can try it with your fingers and you just got to go inside applying pressure. It's about an inner two-thirds of your inside your vaginal opening and you just apply pressure to it. You can also have a hand on your clitoris and a hand inside. I would say positions. I would say maybe

you could even listen to some erotica. I'm really into listening to erotica. There's a site called Tri-Quin. It's Q-U-I-N-N. Since we don't want to, I mean I'm such an audio person obviously, but I'm visual in many ways, but something about just listening to someone be super like sexy and hot and they have it for all genders, all their orientations, whatever you're interested in, they have something for you there. So I would just recommend playing with some of that, playing with positions and playing with timing and seeing if you could tease yourself and just kind of maybe delay orgasm.

That's another thing to do to mix it up. You know, one of the reasons why we love like the early parts of a relationship is before we actually get sexual with someone is because like the intimacy starts a build. There's a little bit of teasing, there's a little bit of not knowing what's going to happen next and we can actually do that to ourselves as well. And so I like teasing myself. That's a fun thing to do. So I recommend all that destiny. We could talk to Scott 47 in Pennsylvania, high

Scott. Thanks for calling. Hello. Hello. Of course. Taking the call. Of course. I've been married for 23 years. The first 20 years, 21 years, was pretty sexless. Oh, wow. Okay. Usually maybe once a month, maybe once, every other month, kind of thing. Okay. And there's often a fight and argument over how often we would have sex.

Probably by the last year and a half things have changed a lot differently. We are having sex probably weekly now. Wow, okay. Which is great. Amazing. I don't mean to feel greedy, but I feel that we're doing the same thing over and over and over again that I want to do something new and different. Okay, that makes sense.

But at the same point, I don't want to kind of push her away whenever and not be grateful for what we have now. Well, have you talked to her about your sex life before? Like what made it, yeah. And then consider it ever. I thought about, like I said, toys and stuff like that or whatever, and one possibly introduced that. But I'm at least knowing the past that she was kind of against that kind of self.

But I just want, you know, to add something new or different. I think you should like listen, you've been with her a long time. In the past, we were all not into toys, thinking that we only could have orgasms a certain way that we've all these beliefs, right? That she's just still holding onto that. But I think if you can kind of just introduce her and just, I mean, the best way to say is like, I'm so, I love our sex life, I love all the sex we've been having,

and give her like compliments about things that you really like and say, and I would love to try some sex toys. I think it'd be really hot to see you, you know, what kind of pleasure a sex toy could bring you. I would think that would be so sexy to watch you have orgasms that way or to take our sex life to another place and experiment and have fun together. So if you couch it like that, I mean if you

really, but I think is the truth, then she might be more likely to listen. Then just like next question that would be, I'm sorry, my next question would be whatever she is, very, very sensitive and she probably would orgasm very easily with a toy. Okay. Is there something that is less, I mean less vibrational or less? Oh, you could use a dildo with her. Why don't you get like a steel, like there's dildo, does she like internal simulation?

Yes. So I think getting something that doesn't vibrate like a dildo, actually a dildo is something that doesn't vibrate. So it can be made of silicone, it can be made of steel, it can get some nipple clamps, you can do some spanking, you know, some bondage gear. But first we got a meter where she's at. First let's see what she would be into. But I think it sounds like internal toys could be great, especially if she's for women who have a lot of, for women who are very sensitive, like, literal toys aren't as great. They're just painful even.

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