Sex With Emily - Episode 277 - Awkward Sex

Episode Date: August 24, 2011

Emily debates her future with or without a man, the top ten cities for cheaters and sluts, Will Smith and Jada Pickett Smith separated?, how marriage doesn't change how much you argue, when trying to have multiple orgasms is actually necessary, why a vibrator is a gateway toy, Emily and Menace talk about their first sexual encounters (oh my!), are you asexual? and how to solve awkward sex moments, one laugh and confession at a time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They call them in a bike on me. Hey, Emily. You got a boyfriend? Because, uh, my man, he here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The world's got to understand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common, but only? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I'm off here. I'm gone.

Being bad feels pretty good. But, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex and acting, that's what we're talking about. Wow. Sorry about that. Rockin' out here!

I apologize. That's okay, man. We already had some technical difficulties when trying to start the show. And I apologize. Sometimes there's technical difficulties. What can you do? You know, we try to put in all these new things and hook you up with stuff I'm actually trying on Skype because we have a calling number that you can call in if you have any questions Anything you want to share questions comments advice they need will change your sex life Excuse me up right now. What the having the yeah the sky pot up. 415-9927-392.

That's what we got for you. Got it. Okay, cool. So what's up with you? I'm really good. I found someone, my ex-boyfriend's gonna watch my dog a few days a week, so we're gonna do split custody. What?

I feel really, really good about it. Yeah, we're gonna do split custody. Like, not like Monday Wednesday Friday, Thursday, but like whenever I need help He took her for the last few days and he loves her and everything's good And I feel like it's a big relief for me. So he's trying to see with you. No, he's not trying to see with me You broke up years ago. He's not I mean sometimes I get a while. I ain't gonna watch no dog Sorry, I don't go down I dog. He loves the dog. He loves everyone loves her. How do you show your guffold? Sorry.

I don't go down. I mean, I have historically, but not lately. So, but no, he likes her. Cause we're all friends, which we don't get. We're all friends. We're all friends. We're all fuzzy school. It's cool.

It's just gonna game a blood job if you watch the dog. No, I'm not going to. So yeah, today's show, I'll just say real quick, we're gonna be talking about, this is awkward moments during sex part two. We got to part one last week, they're really good. Like awkward weird things that happened during sex. And we're gonna talk about them,

and we're gonna get to that in a little bit. And we also got mail, your emails, some topics are women orgasming too soon, the first time having sex, feeling asexual and breast play. And yeah, I want to tell you about our Facebook event still going on if you want three months free of sex with Emily all you have to do is like the sex with Emily page. If you're already a fan of the page, you are still eligible and one person will be sucked it every day randomly to win three months free membership unless it's changed a little bit.

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best money you've ever spent. So what's going on in your life? What's up? My life is good. Tuesday. It's Tuesday, happy Tuesday, and things are good. I've been really like very overwhelmed lately, which is no surprise to anybody who knows me,

which is boring. There's lots of things going on like that, just trying to have all the balls in the air and write all my stuff and do all my things and pretty shall the shows. And it's just really busy. It's hard to like, so there, but therefore this has been my MO.

Like I've always been that person who works really hard. So I think I should start prioritizing relationships more. Just try that out and see if it works. So like, guys, I'm dating. Like maybe I should just, I'm always gonna be working. I'll be a workaholic. I'll always have my show and whatever and whatever comes from the show and the brand and whatever.

But I think like, I realize I never prioritize being in a relationship because I always thought once I, and you're the same way, once I figured out work and whatever, then I'll be in a relationship, even though you've tried to be in a relationship. I just feel like maybe I should like try to be in a relationship with one of these dudes. Just pick one. This pick one? Yeah. Be careful. What do you mean? Don't just randomly pick one. No, one of the guys I'm dating. Yeah, just like. Yeah, might be fun.

That's the fact. Really think it out. In fact, that's my friend told me that she told me I should do that this morning. So I'm just regurgitating when she said I have a process. That's why you've been tripping out lately? No, I've been tripping out lately just because I think there's a lot coming at me, emails, things do, projects, very exciting. I'm not my forte. I'm good at a lot of things, but in my wheelhouse, not really prioritization and figuring out what

the most important thing to do is at that moment. Well. It's all stressful. But things are good. I've got lots of fun stuff going on this week. Parties going on a really fun party of throwing, oh, and I'm going, oh, me this weekend or Gadsick, meditation for all weekend. And people are going to touch here for a giant. Now the guys you're dating, do they know about this? Yeah, they kind

of know about it. Uh, they think it's cool. They think it's cool. What are they going to say? No, that sucks. You're a sex family. This is what you do. This is what you do. So I get my clitoris robbed by strangers. That's cool. Yeah, it is cool. I think they're all down with it. I'm sure the strangers are.

It's not for that. It's not. Old creepers. They're not old creepy people with my intelligence. But I'm excited for it because there's so many interesting people that we meet in the sex space and the relationship space on the show who do a lot of interesting workshops and things and I always say, oh my god, I'm totally gonna do your workshop. Oh my god, I'm gonna do that. And I've

like read their books and other things, but so where's this cult gonna meet? What can I do? But not in Taiwan anymore. Now it's back in the city. Oh, it's back in the city. Yeah the city yeah so it's not how anymore which I kind of like the whole like getting no I liked is least you run back to your house it's true I can still see at home and then there's a big party that my friends having which I will not miss now on Friday night sweet sweet so it'd be fun and I'm gonna be in Los Angeles on Friday I'm gonna miss the big party you wouldn't come, but it was really fun party. It's cool.

Are you excited for the VMAs? Do you think you'll, uh, I am really excited for the VMAs. You were last year, right? Uh, no, I always go to the Grammys, never been to VMAs. So this will be my, you like tickets inside,

not that tough, are you gonna backstate? Tickets, I, well, I'm gonna do all the right carpet coverage and like talk to the stars and stuff like that, but fun. Yeah, and then they're working on getting my tickets for inside. So We'll see how it goes. You're gonna go all weekend. Which I don't really care about I like doing the coverage and stuff like that. Right you work hard and posting things online like I get I get more excited about being the first person to get some coverage up online before anything else

Right, which is like right. That's what I get hype off of. I get excited. You get like, right. You get turned on, but I get turned on. Yeah, I really want to have sex after I know that I posted photos of Nicki Minaj online before anybody else. Really? Yeah.

No, I like really get hyped. Right. OK, good. Well, I'll help promote your stuff if you want. Yeah, thank you. I love doing that. What else are you going to be doing this week? This week. Happy.

Age is a lot of, yeah, I'm really happy. I'm good. Good. I'm just, you know, I, again, I'm also just figuring everything out. I want to figure out with everybody. I'm constantly trying to figure it out. I just, I had a friend of mine who I used to make fun of. She always like, she would always move to San Francisco, but every time she would date somebody in her old hometown and

then so she would end up moving back. So just recently, she was back in the city for a couple months and then I go, oh, so when do you fall in love again and move away? And she's like, I ain't going to do that blah blah. I'm single. I'm living it up in the city. She gets a boyfriend and then she goes, you're going to hate me, but I'm moving, but not back home, like halfway in between the city and I go, okay, fine like yeah, I'm gonna move in with my boyfriend That was just like a couple months ago. She hits me up today. I broke up my boyfriend Moving back. It's so funny. I don't know. She's moving back, but she there's so many relationship patterns that we constantly Repeat over and over again. Don't you think like we talked kind we talked about this day a little bit about like patterns and relationships and why people date

certain people that they date and and the whole yeah. Well I don't know if I can even ask you this question but maybe you can. Maybe we can answer it in some kind of way is what what kind of time period do you think it needs to be before you move in with somebody? Because you never you never lived with anybody. I've never lived with anybody which is insane. I know it's not weird And in fact like I have one of the guys I'm dating is always like That's fucked up only that's messed up like you're the one woman I know is never like you are there are no women like you like I've never lived with a guy. You got to keep your options open. That's why

I'm like, I've never lived with a guy. You gotta keep your options open, that's why. Do your options open? They're like so open that they're too open and then I need to close them up right now. I've got a lot of options. Are you thinking that everyone's ragging on you about the way you live and that's why you're? Kind of.

I mean, I've gone through all this transformation of I've gone through this evolutionary process of my own psyche or whatever, of trying to figure out what kind of relationship I want and what it looks like, which is why I started the show. If you're just joining us, you know, I started the show six years ago because I was seriously interested in relationships and dating and marriage and love and how you make a relationship work and how do you say monogamous and challenging monogamy and all that stuff. And so I think I've gotten a lot more answers.

I've got a lot more clearer over the last few years of interview, hundreds of people. I've researched, I've read books, I've, whatever. But I still think, for me personally, I try to figure out how it looks. Like, do I want to be with one person, do I want to be in the open relationship thing, which we don't know that that always works. And then do I want kids? That's another thing I have to talk about. Like, do I want kids? Do I do I want kids?

I don't know. I love kids, love them. Where would they go? I have a dog and I'm freaking out about walking the dog. Like my mom's like, this is a good thing, you know, kids are like, mom, dogs are different though. I mean, kids, you like, you like, or that.

Or at least you can, you can keep them in one place. Dogs just jump around all over the place. Exactly. Exactly. It's different. But my mom tried to try to surmise from my dog situation that maybe I shouldn't have kids. So there's all these questions I go through my head. But ultimately I just want I just want to do this show. I think you're getting a lot of I think you're getting pressure from other people. I drag on you all the time, just for fun. Right. I'm not serious.

Because you love me. You can do whatever you want. Thanks, honey. But you rag on me, but you think I'm getting pressure from other people. A little bit. I think I've always been like, I had pressure from society. There's always that like, you should be married. You should have kids.

You should settle down. You should be with one person. We should all be with one person. We should all be monogamous. And I just don't think those messages, those messages never made sense to me. So, but you still can't help it. That's what everyone else in society is doing, is getting married, having kids, being monogamous.

And so it's something that I've always struggled with. It's just kind of like I'm getting that point where it's like, you just have to make decisions about the kids and about the marriage. And when I's something that I've always struggled with. It's just kind of like I'm getting that point where it's like you just have to make decisions like about the kids and about the marriage. And when I'm dating guys who don't want that, and they want that, and I don't, and then I got to break up with them. You got to kick them to the curb. I kick them to the curb and then figure out if that's what I want to mention. So I'm just, you know, I'm just like everyone else trying to figure it out.

Yeah, but you know exactly what you want. I do. I just need to find. But you just don't have time to date. I don't have time to date. I don't to find. But you just don't have time to date. I don't have time to date. I don't really either. And I just, you know, I be a lot more choosy on who I get in a relationship with. That's all. Yeah. I would love to be in a relationship. I would love to be in a relationship, but I just learned over the years like you gotta be really choosy. You can be in a relationship. Exactly. You You're doing me bad mistakes up people when you have to change the locks when you break

up with them. Yeah, and I don't want to waste my time. You know, or somebody else's time. Right, exactly. That's the thing. And that's harder. But the older you get, you know yourself better. The older you get, you know yourself better and you don't.

Like I think like in my 20s, I would spend a lot of time with guys for two years. Even though I knew they weren't the right, but you like, you've two years then. Yeah, what a half. Two years, two years, whatever. But then you get older and you're like, you don't years done. You're like two years, two years, two years, two years, whatever. But then you get older and you're like, do you really want two years of this person? Like if I know after two minutes or two months that they're not right, you just kind of move through

and quicker. So there's that benefit. Yeah. I have a new story that I want to share with you because we were talking about cheaters yesterday. Yes. And the day before, really on this new cheaters thing. And right when I was walking on my way here

I got a top 10 list of the the cities where the most cheaters live really yes, okay, so I had the list here I'm gonna read them off to you number 10 Florida or landau, okay? Number nine Dallas, Texas, okay. Number eight Chicago, Illinois. Wow. Boston, Massachusetts. Number seven. Lots of drinking there. Six. Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Huh. Shocking. Number five Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Really? Really? I mean, probably there's nothing to do there. I bet you they used... What? How do you find it out?

What? Salt Lake City, Utah, number four. The Mormons are cheating. I think if anything, the Mormons wouldn't cheat. Yeah. Okay. Top 10 most cheating cities, okay. Number three. And I know a lot of cheaters in this state.

What state? Phoenix, Arizona. You do? Yeah. I know. Quite a few cheaters. You know quite lot of cheaters in this state. What state? Phoenix, Arizona. You do? Yeah, I know. Quite a few cheaters. You know quite a few cheaters? I wouldn't think you'd be friends with cheaters. You feel like so much like cheating.

I can't explain how I know these people. Family, it's okay. No. And number one, Portland, Maine. Portland, Maine, it's like this big. How do you the most? Because they probably had nothing to do there. There's no options. How do you get these down? We're not in there, though. What's the name of the name? What's the name of the name? What's the name of the name? What's the name of the name? What's the name of the name? What's the name of the name?

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What's the name? What's the name? What's the name? What's the name? What's the name? What's the name? What's the name? grow up thing. Yeah. Like all my friends are like not all of them, but a lot of them are sort of living that perpetual childhood, which the verdict is still out on that. If that's a good thing or a bad thing, I don't think it's either or it's just that San Francisco breeds a very unique set of people. Once we live here, they didn't breed me because I'm from Michigan, as you know, but I've lived here for so long that I've become sort of a doctor to San Francisco. All the wackiness of San Francisco. So wacky, it's so crazy.

I love it though. I love it. I love all the things that I get to do here, like in all the parties and all the people and all the crazy stuff that my friends do. Like even Burning Man, which is the same as- They're bad influence. What? My friends?

Yeah. Why? You'd be in Michigan married with kids by now. I should be in Michigan married driving an SUV with a big diamond I'm my ring right now with three children. That's exactly where I should be yeah, however I Took a beer off that path, but that's what I wonder you know, I don't think my life would be so much easier I've had even miserable. Yeah, and cheating you probably be divorced I don't cheat anymore, but I have more more informed cheater as I've often talked about in the show.

OK, so we can get this in the news. But first, we can get into the polls. What's up with the polls? Here's the polls. We go polls on our site twice a week. We want you to vote ASAP. Last week's poll was, what's your favorite sex position? Simple.

Doggy. OK, so the first cowgirl was 7% missionary was 18% women on top 35% and doggy style 40% duh it's all guys taking the poles go to sex with Emily doggy doggy style 40% guys love that cuz they can see your ass and then have a look at your face. Why? Also, I mean, it's kind of a less work too. If you think about it, other than the woman being on top, like you're able to have a lot more energy, right. It's like you're not putting all the weight of your body on top of a woman

or like trying to keep most of the weight up and then going to pound town. Right, going to pound town. Don't go to pound town. The rabbit. The rabbit. Right. That's the real thing. The, right, the rabbit, the power drill, what's the called the Jack rabbit.

Okay, our new poll is what awkward moment do you experience the most in the bedroom? What is it? Because we are speaking about awkward moments today to drunk to get it up orgasm issues condom dilemmas wardrobe malfunctions Really really want to know what's most awkward moments to speak to happen to the bedroom? Probably too drunk to get it up for you. No, you get it up just thinking. Yeah, that is how you're with you drinking.

Yeah, yeah, drinking you like. Who cares about wardrobe malfunction in the bedroom? You're like, you can't get your broth, you can't get your pants off. That used to happen to me when I was younger. Can't get that broth, man. It's so hard. What the hell? I know. Don't you just make it out velcro or something? They should, man. So hard. What the hell? I know.

Don't you just make it out velcro or something? Just velcro it. They should, but then it'd be itchy and uncomfortable. But the bras are hard to get off. And then there's always that awkward moment, you're like, is he gonna get it? Is he gonna get it? Is he gonna get it?

Oh, come on. Do you get upset when they can't get it off? No, no, no. Like me and you're younger, you do. Now I'm just like, here, are you just doing it? You just do it for them. You're like, it's fine. No, I don't get upset.

I'm like, how do you know about how my bra works? And some my bras clipped in the front. So how do you just know that? That's easy. That's easy. But how are you supposed to know? So you're feeling like they're going to be like, I'll do it. I'm fine. I'll do it. We don't get all caught up in that. Okay, so that's our related pull. So go take our pull now and sexthemy.com. And tomorrow, okay, tomorrow we're not here, but we are playing a classic sex with Emily Show, an episode that you're gonna really, really enjoy about a lot of different things. And all the classic episodes are also available.

I had somebody, I don't know where they were. I think it was on Facebook that hit me up. They wanted to find some of the classic episodes. I know. Yeah, so you go to sex-send me.com, they're there. They're there. There's a special one, yeah. And they're all classic episodes. I know. Yeah, so you go to sexrealme.com, they're there. They're there. There's a special one. Yeah, and they're all classic episodes

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It's ridiculous. It is ridiculous. Yeah. Okay. It's so. You never come over anymore. It's ridiculous. It is ridiculous. Yeah. Okay. I it's so hard to get around now. I don't have I'm in the middle of not having a car. I just can't go anywhere. I mean I take long walks. I take long walks on the beach. No, the beaches here are so cold. I told you I've never been to the beach here. Have you ever been to Stinson Beach? No. I mean I've been there's Santa Cruz, California. I mean been to the beach here. I've never been to Stinson Beach? No. I mean, I've been, there's Santa Cruz, California. I mean, those are the closest beaches I've ever been to.

I love the beach. I love the beach. Oh, actually, they kind of have beaches. There's a place called Half Moon Bay that's not so far away. Right, Half Moon Bay's not bad. Go there, put everything else. It's just cold and miserable.

Sure. Stinson Beach was cold this weekend. I was there. It's like North and Merence. It's beautiful beach. You drive over the Golan Gierbridge and there's all these switchbacks. You drive for an hour and you got there and it was 58 degrees in summer. But I have a poll about America's cities as well. Okay. Your poll was the... Talk 10 cheaters. I've got Americans. America's sluddiest cities revealed. I thought we did that.

This isn't new one. Yeah. This is another study on this. Is the New York is a sluddiest city? Think again, Las Vegas keep guessing. A recent survey conducted by those clever Harvard alums at OKCupid at an online dating site OKCupid ranked the Pacific Northwest hipster, Haven, AKA Portland, Oregon as a nation's naughtiest city when it comes to casual sex.

I thought San Francisco was number one. Yeah, that was a different poll. Seattle, Washington, Denver, Colorado, and Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, also among the country's top 10 most periscuit cities, periscuit cities. Results were generated by by telling the users who list casual sex among the types of relationship to see again okay, cupid so it's okay, okay, cupid okay, so this is necessarily mean it's whoever's going on their website exactly you've ever but I gotta tell you like everyone's going on okay, cupid like I talked to someone last night everyone's like I'm like were you dating and they're like okay,, keep it. Yeah, actually, I know only chicks that date on there.

Yeah, a lot of cute chicks date on there. You should go date on there. And the owner, excuse me, it's gonna be on the show in a few weeks. Oh, really? Yeah, totally sweet. Totally sweet, sweet, sweet. Okay, okay, let's talk about willing jada.

Pinky, Smith, separate. You saw my tweet. I'm shocked. We saw your tweet and it was breaking news. I didn't know they were separating. They are always talking about more than any other couple except for maybe besides sting. About how amazing their sex life is.

And how they have sex all the time and how they connect and how they're so in love and how they can't keep their hands off each other. What the hell is going on? Why are they breaking up? Not the sex is the only thing, but they're always talking about in there's interviews if that they're going to stay together and they're going to be together forever.

Do you know why they're what happened? There's not any conclusive yet, right? Yeah, because right before we started the show, there was a report that his son tweeted out that it's not true. But it's been out in the open since early this morning, okay, like why hasn't Will Smith or Jada peeking come out? I'm sure they tweet. Or there's some outlet that they can go to say, hey, this is not true, right? Right? Right? Right? Believe me, the entire country is on the answer, she already knows, right? they've heard these rumors and if they

haven't if if it's not true then they should come out and say it's not true had you heard rumors before today no like before today it was like oh they're the you know they're the perfect couple they always talk about how happy they're just bombs me out that they? Kind of, for like a second, it'll bum me out, but I'll be okay. We'll find more though. Okay, they're- Definitely surprised, but I'm not bummed out. I'm just surprised because we always report on the show

couples whenever any celebrity couples talk about their sex life, or their relationship, we tend to report on it because we are a celebrity obsessed society and whatever. So they are oftentimes cited as talking about their amazing sex life, their connection. So how long did you give the Kim Kardashian wedding? Oh, my God. We didn't even really talk about that yesterday. Did you?

Kim Kardashian. No, Chris Humphrey is waiting. Three years. Three years? Yeah. What about you? They were known each other for three minutes before they got married, right? I say two years. Three years? Yeah, what about you? They were known each other for three minutes before they got married, right? I say two years.

I was going to say two and then I said three. Well, because they got to shoot a reality show. Do you think it's just a little bit around? Just a little bit, three. I'd say a little bit, three years. Are they going to get all in real life? Oh, I'm sure they will. Hello.

Right. So, yeah, maybe, okay, maybe three years. because you got to do that, you got to do a season of that. Right. And then probably you'll get at least a second season. So that takes up a lot of time. Right, right, right. And then you definitely won't get a third season.

Do you think she only got married? Like, so it was like more fodder for the show or you think she really wanted to get married. I don't think she cares about more getting more TV time or anything like that. I definitely don't, I don't see that, but I do think it was like okay her older sister had a baby. Her younger sister got married. Yeah that's gonna be hard if you're like. And there's all these, there's all these, the people say like she's really into attention you know and, the girl is pretty. And there's all these, the people say like, she's really into attention, you know, and like everyone else is getting all this attention. Like her, a younger sister broke off and did her own reality show with her husband. And, you know, and the other one gets all this attention because she has the baby and

you're crazy baby daddy. Right. And she's with this guy though, for like five minutes and they have a $20 million wedding. Yeah, but her second wedding. Yeah, her, her sister though was only showing new, um, her husband for 30 days. And they got married. They're still together. Yeah. You know, love is not for me, like, it can happen anyway.

It can happen in 10 days. It can happen after 10 years. Who knows? Yeah. Sometimes it never happens at all. It's good. It's totally happening. Marriage study says if you fight now, you will fight later. Thank you and your patrols that will stop fighting once you tie the knot. Thank you again. A new study suggests that Mary couples continue to argue throughout their relationship almost as much as they did at the beginning. A survey

was done of more than 2,000 Mary couples over the course of 20 years and found that those who bigger frequently in the beginning argued about as much often in the end while those who enjoyed less conflict remain tranquil throughout. But don't be discouraged by these results. The study also indicates that discord is in dangerous. In fact, it can be healthy. Sure, fighting can make your blood boil, but it also helps couples communicate their differences. So but I think it's true there have been a lot of studies and couples that looks at couples

over years and it's true like what is there at the beginning will be there at the end. So if you fight a lot but some couples like fighting like some couples need that fighting to fuel other things. I think women need that fighting. They love it. I'm never been a fighter. Okay, I'm not saying all. But I'm not the typical, you know, but I'm not even a woman. But I mean, I just find a lot of my female friends and females, they need some kind of drama to talk.

They need to do the guy, they create the drama. Maybe sometimes, yeah. Or maybe there is a legitimately some drama in there, but some of it is just like they don't want to have a boring guy They want to have something they can go. Oh, he did this. He did that and oh my god It's not who you are, but I'm saying like they're like that or a lot of men and women are attracted to each other who are both fighters And they how many how many girlfriends are like, oh my God, I'm so in love. I love him. The relationship is great.

Well, blah, they they draw, they're drawn to the negative, right? Correct. Or not. Um, no, I think a lot of my friends are not drawn to the negative. Okay. Not your friends, but other women, we won't typically, other friends typically friends. Yeah. You talk about the negative when you're with your friends because of how you process stuff.

You're like, everything's good and great. But however, I hate the fact that he has too many boys nights out, which is so lame. I'm like, have your boys nights out, but there are a lot of couples fight over that. For example, like the guy being more autonomous and not getting enough attention from him and sure. But, um, yeah, I don't, I, yes, people fight all the time on different things. Your girlfriend's fight. My girlfriend's that you've been in a relationship with their fighters, right? Uh, yeah, my last one. Because you're, you're frustrating to date. I am kind of frustrated because I won't give you all my time exactly and I don't take no crap suck it all out of you I won't take no crap, but I won't I won't sit there and argue with you either

Right, so you're like talk to the I go I already said what I need to say I don't need to drag it out anymore So that's how I feel you just harsh and and how am I in my harsh or I'm just being real She wants to have a dialogue with you about it. This is how I feel. What more do you want me to say? You just want to hear more about your feelings. About what? I want to know more like about why you...

I express my feelings. Yeah. I don't understand why I need to. Well, maybe she had some other issues that she wanted to just feel like she's heard by you. We need to talk more. And you have to reinforce these women in other ways. See, men, it's you're never gonna be able to be there for them

in the way that they want, but you have to learn to be there in other ways that translate them, make sense for them. That isn't what the typical thing is, but you still need to learn to be there with them in some way. I'll help you in your next relationship. Yeah.

Okay, could Kate Goslin be the next bachelor at? What? No. Who would watch that? Seriously. Kate Goslin's came to family. All she has left over this season of her show ends. She's a single mom.

She didn't pull in the ratings. Her show has been canceled due to bad ratings. And she said she's a... Because everyone thinks she's a biaj yeah producer mike flights of bachelor fame was asked if you would consider costs and he said sounds like perfect for the bachelor pad who would want to marry cake also with eight kids could you imagine hell no and they she's already like not like she's like the sweet time for thing in his eight kids like she's kind of crazy

i find uh... what's her name from Alaska more lovable than Kate Gosling. Sarah Palin? Is Sarah Palin? Is her show still on her to the cancel it? They canceled it. The cancel that for like five minutes.

She's on it. Well, it got canceled. It got canceled because of the shooting in Arizona. That was a big reason why I got canceled. Right, right, right. But it's funny because I say that she was more lovable than Kate Goslin because Kate Goslin made her parents on that show. Oh, she did?

Yeah, and Sarah Palin took her camping with her kids. And they go, yeah, you know, they went on some like they're out in the middle water. They're on some like kind of island and Kate Gossens like we're staying here overnight. And she's like, yeah, we're gonna, you know, camp with the kids, all the stuff. She's like, uh, I can't do this. Sarah Paley and Kate Gossens got together in her house on episode eight kids. Yeah. Sarah Paley and Kate Goslin got together in her camp on episode. Yeah. Sarah Palin tried to take her camping and then Kate Goslin was such a such a high maintenance biatch that she didn't want to stay out in the wilderness

that and she just left camping. Yeah. She left all our kids. How did they even hook up? I don't even know. That's crazy. That would be actually that's that's I've closed on one. So then I mean, I'm not a huge Sarah Palin supporter. I just want to put that out there now, but if I had to choose between Kate Gossin and Sarah Palin, I might have to go with Sarah Palin. If I had to choose. If you had to choose, right, not it.

But we'll choose neither. Okay, let's get into some emails. All right. All right. Some of the topics include today is a warm women orgasming too soon. Who was wrong with that? Exactly. Jesus.

The first time having sex, feeling asexual and breastplay. Dear Emily, I'll start by saying your show is awesome. It's nice to have a show where people are so comfortable talking about sex and sexuality. As I wish more people were, it's very refreshing. So my main sex issue is in my partner's fault and it isn't the result of a lack of communication. My problem is that I tend to climax too easily, which I feel is unusual for a woman and is extremely frustrating. Minus in, I've already orgasm and sometimes that's just during foreplay.

Now this wouldn't be so bad, but after orgasm, I'm no longer in the mood and usually it just stops feeling good. Sex should be so much more enjoyable If I wasn't constantly worried about climaxing too soon and just have to endure until my boyfriend has done Which also breeds unfair animosity towards my boyfriend when it feels like it takes forever before he's finished Even though it's my discomfort and lack of enjoyment that makes it feels like ours I'm not making it about you. I'm not sure why I don't ever have multiple orgasms as the first one. And I've tried just holding off to the best of my ability, but it's pretty difficult.

I still enjoy sex, but I feel this is causing me to miss out on its full amazing, glorious potential. I firmly believe sex should be 100% satisfying not this 40-50 bullshit. Maybe you have some idea what I can do since I don't know where to start. Oh my god. Mira from Camden, Maine. So much negativity she has. Well, she shouldn't. There's no problem here, Mira.

Like, I think, first of all, amazing that you're able to orgasm. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend's frustrated with it, but you're you're having a lot of internal anger because you're like, I'm done and I just want to be done. And I think that that any woman you can learn to have a multiple orgasm so they say and I think that that maybe you should spend some time alone practicing some more masturbation and start exploring your body more because I think if you're able to have an orgasm that quickly you should easily be not easily but you should be able to train your body so you're able to have more orgasms during sex with your partner. Wouldn't that be awesome? But it's something that like a lot of women aren't, a lot of women aren't that, we, if Sherry

has it with them, right, Sherry has it when they're having sex, so it's not even like she has it before sex. I believe that you need to train yourself to have multiple orgasms. You can do that. There's like books you can buy and like this Oming retreat I'm going going to. No, I mean I think I'm going to learn a lot about this weekend. That that try during masturbation when you masturbate yourself try to like have an orgasm again. There's like a slight refractory period. But if you learn how to move your body in a way to have them, then I think you can do that during intercourse as well.

Are you saying to go to adamaniv.com? I'm not trying to bring up our sponsor. Been able to buy a waiter? Yeah. But see, this is where I get a little touchy because I don't want her to be only be able to orgasm with a vibrator now and then take it away from her. She's luckily. Luckily, first let's just talk about the good things here.

I mean, you're able to have an orgasm during sex. You know, only 30% women are able to have orgasms during intercourse. That's amazing. Bringing in a sex toy is a great idea. I think that you should get like a bullet or the pocket rocket, go to atomneave.com and you get 50% off most items, three adult DVDs, free shipping and a free gift. And you should buy a vibrator that's good to use during sex because then you'll probably be able to have an orgasm, no problem during intercourse. If you just put in your clitoris. That's a great idea,

man. Yeah, but okay. But she wants to, my conflict about toys is that you're gonna train your body to be able to only orgasm in that way. Right, but she's already orgasming without it. Yeah, but I'm just saying I don't want to turn right because you always take it. I this is my feelings that you always take it. You always take it to the next level. Then you have the vibrator. Next thing you know you have the horse clock and then you have the the dump truck and then you're back and see over and rubber. That's just my thoughts. So don't even know it's like a gateway. It's a gateway vibrator to the next thing. I think that she's love vibrator. It's not. I think the vibrator and masturbating on your own and learning how to have multiple orgasms. There's like so much information about their next thing you know you need a 747

to fly into your vagina for you to get orgasm. Not necessarily, too. But I believe you should be so hard in yourself either. And I think a lot of this is in your mind when you're thinking you're frustrated or whatever, but try to breathe into the moment with your boyfriend because it might naturally happen for you again. Because again, I'm gonna say one more thing on this. There are a lot of times during sex

we tell ourself messages like, I'm not gonna orgasm again, I'm not gonna orgasm again because you already did and you never have and then you, I'm not going to work out of them again, I'm not going to work out of them again because you already did and you never have and then you think you're not going to and then it becomes this whole mental thing. When really, like if you just