Sex With Emily - Episode 281 - Your Cheatin' Heart

Episode Date: August 29, 2011

Apart from going on Jerry Springer, what can you do if you suspect your partner is cheating on you? Today Emily walks you through the signs your partner may be cheating, and how you can confront them responsibly. Emily talks about her first time, and she and Menace discuss sex surrogates who sleep with your partner when you can’t, as well as “coregasm” class. Then it’s onto dirty talking, the chemistry of friends with benefits relationships, and the 30 day masturbation challenge - are you tough enough to handle it? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Music Book into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our sacred institutions Betrified they call them a bi-gonk Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kinda cute The girls got a hair stand, oh my

The women know about shrinkage Isn Isn't it common all the way? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play good. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can get all your sex information and sex news and listen to our podcasts, you can watch our podcasts. We've got so much going on with sex with Emily. So thanks everyone, happy Monday.

And I'm here with Lauren, my intern, she's standing in for men is today. Hi Lauren. Hi, how are you? I'm good, how are you? Good. Good. So okay, here's you? I'm good. How are you? Good So okay, here's a few things I have to tell you. We still have our Our thing going on if you want three months free of sex with Emily. All you have to do is like the sex with Emily Facebook page

And every day one person will be randomly selected to win a free sex with Emily membership And if you're already a fan, you're still eligible And if you're selected, we'll send you message and Facebook about your free membership and announced on the show. And I also wanna talk about Fire TV, because they're awesome. Fire TV, if you become a friend's, but a friend's with benefits, a member,

you also get 30 minutes free, and you can check it out. It's like the Netflix of porn. It's really cool. It's a great way to just kinda get some new porn and see what you like. You can like, sort by all these categories. And we'll give you 33 minutes. For us, you'll get the Superhot movie, Wealth and Disceptions.

So check out FireTV.com. When you become a member, all you got to do is register at FireTV and then launch the chat window, tell them that you're with the sex family and we'll give you 30 minutes. Also, this is your very last day to vote. If you go to SFweekly.com, we're nominated. It's one of the top five best podcasts in San Francisco. And we really need your vote.

And we love your vote. So just go to sfweekly.com, you'll see a banner where it says polls. And then click on that and then go to item 20 and just click section that only submit and we're golden. We would love, love, love that. And yeah, so that's what we're doing here and I'm here with Lauren and how was your weekend? My weekend was fun. I had a great time. Good. It was good to see the party. My friend had this awesome party Friday night and invited Lauren's comm. She's an event planner

and it was cool. How would you describe it like from your eyes? It was really I thought it was really trendy. It was trendy. Okay trendy trendy okay cool things i think you think of um... when you're like watching tv and it's like oh the fabulous people are like i guess like coming from college parties to right exactly there was not there was a uh... uh... uh... keg no keg stands no freshman throwing up in the bathroom no freshman thirty the other no keg stands. There was a classy event with a bar and two bars. Two bars, several bars.

There was a kissing booth. My friend is a beautiful house. She's beautiful taste. It was her office, actually. It was her office. And it was really fun. And I was glad that you came. And I, as you all know, I've been talking about this

for a few weeks now. I had my sex retreat this weekend. And it was very intense. It was with one taste San Francisco. And I'm not ready to talk about it today. So I'm going to talk about it tomorrow when menace is back. I'm still processing because it was really intense just to give you an overview I learned about orgasmic meditation. I did some naked yoga. I got naked several times. So were there actually orgasms happening? There were some more orgasms happening.

I saw demonstrations of live demonstrations of women getting orgasms by men using this certain practice. And I met amazing people. And it was one of those things like when you have a really intense experience, like you almost need a little, it ended last night. And I need more time to process it and talk about it. But I'm going to have some people on the show, hopefully this week, who were involved in it with me. And we'll talk more about it. But tomorrow, you're going to get the details. We're going to give you the play by play. And of what I went for you, Because right now I'm just like,

not ready and menace wants to hear all about it. Menace is the VMAs, he went to the VMAs. I don't know if I'd ever been checked that out, but the VMA awards, video music awards, and he got stuck there, so he's coming back tomorrow. So we'll get into it tomorrow. And I think you're gonna like it. And oh, here's our sex poll.

Oh, we'll get that said in a minute. So we have polls on our site, and all that, but we'll get to said in a minute. So we have polls on our site and all that, but we'll get to that in a minute. And then today's show, we did a show last week, was two weeks ago on cheating. Never got through the whole thing. Because cheating is a huge thing right now. They say the numbers are up that 50% of women cheat

and 50% of men cheat. So now we're gonna talk about a little bit later, signs that your partner might be cheating on you. We've also got your emails that you sent to feedback at sexathelmMe.com or a lot of you go to the Q&A on our site. There's a Q&A button where you can just click on that and you can submit your questions really easy to do. There is the 30-day mat today. Some of the topics include the 30-day masturbation challenge, the elusive g-spot, cagle exercises, and oral sex techniques on women. So we're going to get into that soon. And then what else do I have to tell you?

I guess that's what we've got. Let's talk about the poll. What would the poll say? So we've got to poll on our site. With two days a week, we updated. We love to hear from you because we're trying to get all the sex information that's going on in the world out there. We don't know if we don't hear from you.

So do you talk dirty and bad was the pool? And here's what you guys said. 8% said no, but I want to. Oh, 5% said yes, but only because my partner likes it. 8% said no, but I want to start. 26% said not my thing, but a whopping 61% said, yes, I love it. So interesting. 61%. I'm surprised that there's actually people who do talk dirty just for their partners. I know. People do a lot of things just for their partners, which I can't imagine.

How do you fake dirty? I love dirty talk. And I have to say, I think I'm pretty good at it. I've honed it over the years, but I feel like I've always started because maybe the guys don't know that I like it and I probably need to start doing it more. That's an interesting thing

how to get into you. How do you start Dirty Talk? Yeah, we've actually done it. I don't know that we've done, we have done a show on it, but not lately. So maybe that's a good topic. Let's write that down. We'll do a Dirty Talk show.

But how do stop dirty talk? Because I love dirty talk too, but there's some people who just haven't got it down and probably should. Right, right. And they're right. So right, there's exactly, but practice makes perfect. And I think it's so hot when a guy talks dirty.

And then I don't know. And then I don't know if they're not talking dirty because they think that I don't like it. So I feel like I just need to start. Just like with sexting. We were talking about sexting a few weeks ago. We were like, oh, the girl needs to start the sexting because the guy doesn't want to whatever.

But so you like dirty talk too. I do. It's hot. Yeah, except for, I've only had it probably once where I was just like, what was that? You know, one of those like awkward like what? Right, right like was he just like I want to fuck you or something No, it was even worse and I love you And it was just like that's not turning on you that's yeah, no, but it's definitely it was definitely not one of those

Circumstances right it was He said I love you in the middle of sex. Yeah, I'm a steak or did he really love you? Was he tell you again after that? No, it was definitely by mistake. I said, I love you. That's usually like something that you wait for for a few months. Yeah, it was. Wow.

And how many times you set ahead? You set with them. That was the first time. So interesting. OK, well, usually I've done a bunch of stuff on this. We've talked about how to start with dirty tech. But usually you just kind of start with like describing

what you like or what is going on. So you can be like, oh my God, you're if you're a guy, like your breasts or your pittits or whatever, feel amazing right now in my hand. Or I love the way your ass looks. Or you feel amazing right now inside of me. Or I love feeling you so deep inside me or just like Think about like you don't have to become like a total porn star

You can just describe the events as they're happening using you know more colorful language perhaps and those are all Compliments to I mean it's all compliment who doesn't like hearing that like exactly. I love compliments This guy then I'm dating I always talked about this menace and I and Lauren. You're kind of new is here But we did this whole thing menace and I a few months ago. I talked about how women love compliments Like we want it like 10 times a day if we're to with someone and he was like wait too much What do you kidding me 10 times a day? And okay, maybe 10 times a day was a bit of an exaggeration but

The sky that I went is like Every day's like you're gorgeous, you're amazing, you're sexy, like you're so fun, you're, and it feels really, really good. So, and menaceous whole theory is that, this is his theory, which I think is ridiculous. I love when menace is in here, because we can just like trash them.

But no, I love menace. But he says, the reason why women, the reason why he doesn't compliment women so much is because he feels like then they're gonna know how much he likes them and then they're gonna be like, oh I've got you. Because that's such a bad thing. Yeah, like then they're gonna be like, oh I know this guy loves me and so I've got him in the palm of my hand and so but no I think it just is a conf- like God dating is like super confident.

He's just like, you're hot, you're great, you're amazing. And it's not like I need it 10 times a day. But I'm saying at least a few times a day, like when you're with your partner, women, and that because we're insecure, and it's not because we think our ass looks fat in these jeans, it's because we're like, just like tell us what you're feeling, like it, and I'll tell them, and he, the interesting thing about this guy is he likes when I compliment him back as well. I'm always like, you're so sexy, you're so amazing.

And he's like, thank you. Like, it just feels good. It does. And we put so much work into like looking at certain ways. Exactly. When you get anything back, it's just like, did I, did I waste my time? Right. Like, how it look? Like, tell me like, like, tell me like, whatever. I mean, yeah, women, we, we take a lot of time getting ready. There's a lot of prep we have to do to get ready to see you. Like, women, we've got to get like a hair and shoes and maybe you guys think like throwing jeans t-shirt shoes You're done like we've got like a hundred pairs of shoes shoes from a hundred different things we could wear and do and get ready and prep and

I think that's why I was so upset last night when I went up to that to that Going away party for one of my friends. I put all this effort into looking nice. Oh Didn't even happen Didn't even happen. Didn't even happen. You were going to see an ex-boyfriend, too. Yeah, and he wasn't even there. So. Oh, you were going to be like,

Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like,

Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like, Oh, you were going to be like on the show and she talked all about her, what you talk about, what you say. How would you encapsulate it? What turns around? Yeah. What turns around? And it was really interesting. We do these series sometimes,

or we just interview women about their sex life, so what makes them feel good. And I think we learned a lot in that show. And it was really freaking awesome. She was very brave. What an awesome intern. So anyway, yeah, that's what you want to hear from men We want to hear that and then we're gonna put up a new poll today, but I don't know what it is yet But we are gonna put a new poll but you can still go vote on this one because it's still on So yeah, compliments and I think that just like Not to be insecure about it and also Lauren this because also I think we're gonna have you do your sex toy review Am I if you want to. Okay. Sex toy review, I just need to mention Adam and Eve, they're the sponsors of our

intern sex toy review, which we love. And Adam and Eve.com, if you have not used a sex toy yet, you've been curious about sex toys, you want to buy some porn, you want to buy some lingerie, you want to buy some massage oil, you just go to Adam and Eve.com, you put in coupon code Emily checkout and you get 50% off most items. You get three adult DVDs and a free gift and free shipping. It's the easiest thing in the world. So just please go support our sponsors. We love when you do that. We really, really appreciate it. Don't wait. Okay, so we can move into some sex in the news right on. Oh, so we will get into the, we could do that after the craziest penis in vagina. We've got, if we have time today, we're going to get into the craziest vagina and penis accidents,

which are hilarious. hilarious. Did you know there were so many? I mean, there's a lot. So we're going to the superthirsty today. OK. Oral sex is now a major concern in causes of throat cancers, throat cancer. Members of the UNF Health Promotion staff believe the rise in throat cancer

can be attributed to a change in our culture's view of oral sex. Scientists across the country are finding oral sex causes throat cancer. Passing tobacco is the leading cause in the United States. Wow. That's really scary. The reason behind the concern for oral sex is the potential infections behind HPV. HPV is a commonly sexually transmitted disease that infects about 40 million people today. Wow. By the time you've had your fifth partner, you've

literally had sex with 400 people because of all the people they've had sex with so I can't believe that it's it's Passing tobacco as a leading cause the United States HPVs. I hear very very widespread nowadays very widespread everyone be like Really careful and use condoms. I hear that, what is it, Gartisill is at the shot? I don't know. They have a shot to prevent HPV, but it's though, that one commercial, but apparently it just came out that it's only protecting against one type of strand,

and there's three main types of ones. They haven't been advertising that either. I got the shots, they're kind of painful. You did? Oh, good for you. I need to get the shots. They're kind of painful. You did? Oh, good for you. I need to get the shots. Wow. OK, so that's that.

And then Ty Dipplement claims that the country will soon shed its sex tourism image. Good luck to Thailand. Arguably the sex tourism capital of the world, Thailand is now deliberately using the family tourism label to shed the sex destination tag a Ty Dipplement set. Prostitution is commonplace to the tourism district of Thailand, which is nearly 14 million tourists visit annually.

A large chunk of these are single males or male groups of tourists seeking sex or sex are in fun. Okay, have you been to Thailand? I've never been. Okay, so I spent like a lot of time in Thailand, not, I did not go there for prostitution, but I did go to one of the sex clubs and there was like the women can like smoke cigarettes out of the vagina. They can like do shit.

They do things that you've never seen like they can put tennis ball like like. Oh, the ping pong balls. I've seen like shooting them out of their vagina. I mean, it's actually like the circus. If you really want to know, I don't know that it's her job but there is a whole prostitution thing and everything going on.

But good for them. Good for Thailand. Change their image. Let's see how that goes, the family tourism. But we always think of Thailand as the red light district and all that stuff. And had a good time there. Watch, I'll never forget the woman smoking a cigarette.

What were you doing in Thailand? I was backpacking for a year through Southeast Asia. Yes. Wow. Yes. About 10 years ago, I went by myself and I went all over. I went to Indonesia, Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, and I went to Malaysia myself, the backpack, and traveled. Spent a lot of time in Thailand actually,

maybe two months, like a month on an island and a month in Bangkok. But I go back and forth because Bangkok was kind of my hub. And it was pretty amazing. I met so many interesting people, and I was totally free and met a lot of dudes. He's in Bangkok, kind of scary, and when I like the major.

It's not, I mean, I was there 10 years ago. It's not really that scary. No, I didn't think it. I felt safe, but I, I don't know if this is good or bad the way I'm, but I feel safe wherever I, I don't worry. I'm not a big warrior. And I don't worry about like, I'm safe when I go there. Like I hold my, you know, put my little fanny pack out, my money tucked inside my belt and make sure I don't get whatever. I was careful, but I felt that it was safe. Nothing bad, really bad happened to me. That's good. Anything stolen.

Yeah, it was really fun. And I met a lot of dudes. I met a lot of men. It was really fun. It was like a lot of people like from European, you know, in America, we're like so. And a lot of, we've a lot of Europeans and a lot of people from internationally listening to the show. And it is, in America, we go to college right after.

Right after, right after high school. That's typically what we do. But in a lot of countries, like Australia, Israel, they travel. They go traveling for a year. They see the world. And I think it's important that we do that. So I worked for a few years.

And then I said, F, this, I'm going traveling. And I had a one way ticket to Bangkok, and I just explored the world. And I met a lot of interesting people Bangkok and I just explored the world and Meta lot of interesting people and it was very very cool Okay, there's a Rihanna sex tape rumor in denial. Why is there always rumors and denials? There's never like just a sex tape straight forward and then the sex tape comes out and they're like oh Right exactly so company press release quoted in gossip articles Articles today reads hustler is in the possession of the Rihanna and J Cole sexting.

Media take out claims to have received an anonymous sale offer along with screenshots which showed a woman with fiery red hair that resembled Rihanna giving brain to a man resembling brain. Is that slang for? Yeah, I guess it's Brain doom okay, I don't even know this for Jake to Jake whole they both tonight everything She tweeted we don't believe you you need more people and of course an actual sex tape And then she put pow hash tags slow news day I love the hashtag I love the hashtag. We'll see if what happens if she has a sex tape. Would you watch the reanna sex tape? Feedback at sexw.com.

People would, oh, and if you go to firetv.com, FORE.foyretv.com, they have sex to celebrity sex tapes too, which that was where I went right to celebrity sex tapes. I feel like that, you want to like, the best parts of that site. Because I feel like people are getting bored with celebrity sex hates now. Yeah, they're like, who hasn't been naked? Who haven't we seen naked, that's famous? People wait until it's this last week. Why is everyone, like, what is this trend in exhibitionism

and everyone wanting to be naked and making sex tapes? Like, is it because the proliferation of like camera, everyone's at camera, everyone's at videotapes? I think they're gonna be famous. I think they're gonna be famous. I think they're gonna be the next what? Paris Hilton, I mean, she was the original sex tape success story, if you will. But then everyone else is starting,

or maybe you are just like, with their partner, they're in that loving moment, they're like, let's just make this little sex tape and we'll never show anyone. And then next thing, you know, it's on TMZ and I don't know what I was watching it. I don't know if I'd want to watch that like for myself Right record it like why don't I just you know have sex right why do I have to watch it?

I mean couples couples, you know, it turns them on they use it for their own thing They watch themselves having sex and it's hot. I've never made a sex tape but I get the people do it but just like Delete it or keep your hands on it or don't break up with the guy and ever like forget that you made a sex tape. But I think that's the problem. You'll break up and then like you become famous and then your guys are going to sell it. That's what happened in Kendra Wilkinson. Oh, right.

She's like, I never thought it'd be famous. Right. She never thought she'd be famous. And then her sex tape come out. Yeah. Right. And it probably did well. I think she made a lot of money out.

Maybe I should do a sex tape. No, just kidding. No. I'm not going to do one. Okay, I am moving to New York after I read the story. What? I'm going to move to New York. New York gym touts core gasm class. A personal trainer in New York claims to have developed a workout routine which can bring female exercises to orgasm during class. So sign me up. Yeah, I actually used to have orgasms to the gym. Really? Yeah, years ago, have you ever?

Were you working out? I was working out. Okay. Okay. So there's a machine. Do you know that machine? It's like the thigh one. Not the thigh one. Okay. You're like, oh me too. No not that.

I do have a little story. Okay. Good. Okay. So I'll tell my story. You tell your orgasm story of the gym. So the machine that you go like this with your, you know, your thigh retractor abductor and so you're sitting there and you're doing this with your This is my thighs. And every time I did this machine, I would have an orgasm and it was freaking awesome and I And it would happen in like 30 seconds, which P.S., why can't that happen in real life? It was amazing. For some reason, it doesn't happen anymore. I was hopped on that machine,

like an old boy friend, and it doesn't work anymore. But anyway, this class is going to teach corgasms. So yeah, and then what happened to you with a gym? Oh, so there's the I'm crunching machine. Oh, yeah. You're just sitting on it. I was starting to you at the gym. Oh, so there's the ab crunching machine. Oh, yeah. You know, you're just sitting on it. And I went, I was starting to go to the gym like every day, like working out really hard.

And I got up to a certain weight on the ab gym. And all of a sudden I'm just like, wow, this feels really good. And I was like, maybe it's the way I'm sitting. I was like, no, this feels like really good. And I had to stop because I almost like moaned in the middle of the gym. It was so embarrassing. I was like looking around and I called up my friend like in the bathroom. I was like,aned in the middle of the gym. It was so embarrassing.

I was like looking around and I called up my friend like in the bathroom and I was like, I don't know what just happened. Oh my god. So next day, same thing happened. I ended up referring to that machine as my boyfriend at the gym. Did you let yourself have go through to the full orgasm next day? No, because could you be moaning? I'd be in the gym. Yeah. Right. But people, I always, I think that the grunts and the mones that people make of the gym are similar to their sex mones. Do you ever think that? Like when they're like, oh, oh, oh, oh,

the man who are like up, the man who are like doing weights, I'm like, that's their sex noise. I think about it next time you're at the gym, I feel like the grunts you make during sex are similar to the grunts you make during. So maybe people will just think you're having a really tough app workout workout. Yeah, that wouldn't be so bad. Okay, his core gaseous in class, oh I see there's another picture.

Okay, it's an ultra challenging series of cardio and abdominal exercises can lead to what's known as a core gasm, a full body orgasm brought on simply through exercise. Not in the battery, but on the gym floor. One participant quoted in the New York Post calls it merely a little sensation you get, while another calls it very indescribable, same as having orgasm during sex. Wow. It's nice. It's nice.

I'm going to move there. I'm going to get to go take it. Okay. Scientific American. Frequent masturbation makes human species special and unique. So if you didn't think we were already special and unique, this conjuring ability to create fantasy scenes in our heads that literally bring us to orgasm when conveniently paired with our dextrous appendages is an evolution-like magic trick

that is uniquely human. He cited a research study by Evolutionary Biologist which argued that frequent masturbation makes evolutionary sense. Because there was a shelf life for sperm cells, they remained viable for only 5 to 7 days after production, and because adult human males manufacture whopping 3 million sperm a day, masturbation is an involved strategy

for shredding old sperm, while making room for news sperm. So that's why we're different than animals, I guess, because we can masturbate, which is awesome. Speaking of that, I have a friend I was with the other night, and we've done stories on the C4, but I don't think I ever had any friends who told me they could do this.

This is just, she can think her way to orgasm. Okay, I was getting really curious about where you were taking this. I was like, what? Yeah, yeah, yeah. My friend, she's like, oh yeah, I was, I was, G-Chai and my boyfriend, and he said something really hot,

and she's like, I hadn't orgasm at work. Like, just sitting at her desk. So I've heard of that before. I guess they call it thinking off. Yeah, thinking off. Yeah, exactly. We were watching this documentary on it, my house. Thinking off.

I want to think off. That would be so nice. Here's my list. I want to think off. I want to nipple orgasm. Well, I do. It's a second most common orgasm. I should have one.

So it's the same as like, you know, the breast or you have one. Well, I do. It's a second most common orgasm. I should have one. So it's the same as like, you know, the breast orgasm. Yeah, it's breast orgasm. Like a nipple breast through your breasts. Like second most common orgasm. I think there's a lot of, I don't know. I'm gonna try thinking myself off, but anyway, my friend did it and I'm like, I hate you.

jealous. And that was interesting conversation. Yeah, you can think off. A lot of women can. I've heard this before because it's like for women, if you didn't know this and you haven't heard me say this before, the brain is the largest sex organ. So as nothing to do, I mean, the clitoris is thousands of nerve endings and all that, but really our brain, like turn us on their brain. That's why women like dirty talk. That's why we like to be complimented. That's why we like

to be told, just talk to during sex. And we, in a lot of times, men who write well or can write a sexy text or write a sexy email or whatever, get us going. Yeah, that's why they say women fall in love with words. I do fall in love. I've done that. I did it so many writers. And then I realized words are not actions.

And actions are more important than words. So just because a guy can write, but for a a long time I'd have these guys that would just like sweep me off my feet with these amazing emails, someone write stories, they would text me, they're whatever, and I'm just like that is just that's what all there is, but it's hot. Okay, officials cave to sex strike agreed to pave road. Local authorities today agree to piece the women of the Colombian town of Barbacosa, Barbacos. The women who in effort to get a road to their own town paved between the last 38 days, oh, so we talked about this when it first started,

38 days swearing off sex and a so called strike of crossed legs. So these women want this road to get paved in Colombia and they swore off having sex with their husbands, are their partners. And worked yeah the communities were there are always many promises made here and they never been kept why bring children to this world when they can just die without medical attention one of the leaders explain but did it work as it say it worked yeah worked yeah yeah okay sorry slow Monday awesome these women were withholding sex from

their men it just goes to show wasn't the slut walk in New York. I want to go to New York for that too. I don't know where it was. And Quarkazam class. Yeah. I guess they had the slut walk when one of the political figures said something about how women should stop dressing provocatively if they don't want to be raped. He said that. He said it's basically their fault for being raped.

And so all these quote unquote sluts, I had this like walk and a bunch of men came to help them and I don't just remind of me of that. Yeah, totally. Like there was like their way of protesting, you know, because women, we hold a lot of power in our vagina, which I learned a lot about on my sex retreat this weekend, which I'm going to talk about tomorrow. Just to get my teeth ready. I know I'm too excited.

I came in this morning and I was like, I've so much to talk about my sex retreat that I don't even like, I can't even talk about it today. I know you didn't even like tell me anything. I couldn't tell you anything because I'm still processing. It was like, so intense. It was like three days of two, two, enough days of sex, which is sex sort of, sex tree.

We'll talk about that later. Okay. Man stabs roommate over loud sex. South Carolina man faces assault charges after being accused of stabbing a roommate who complained about the man's loud sex. Rossa Willius Shepherd 40 stabbed his 58-year-old roommate in the hand police said, wow, the victim had the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the are so thin, I've lesbians next door and lesbians downstairs just happen to be that way. I don't know whatever. And they have the loudest moaning because women female orgasms

to the both or it's kind of hot. I got to be honest, I had a male friend of my house one, just like some guy I worked with and he was like, are those two women having sex? Like he didn't want to leave. Like it's super hot on my building. But anyway, I never would want to stab him because I think it's hot. But it is a problem. I mean, you have the whole, like having, like I'm so glad I don't have roommates anymore because you really like using vibrators, like wearing a mustache, but the walls are so thin in my building

that I feel like I know my neighbors can hear me having sex. And so I just want to live in the woods or something, live in the wilderness so I can just have sex really loudly and scream, like, ass off. When you had that mandatoryum for that six months? Yeah, they were psyched.

That must have... Oh, wait. Oh, no, no, no, because I wasn't making noise. Oh, that must have... Oh, no, no, no, for you, that must have sucked, like hearing all that. Exactly! That is such a good point. I, so last year, I had a mandatoryum, which is like a moratorium, but I gave up men.

I had to give up men for a while, six months about it. And yeah, I would get totally turned on, but I have my vibe. I could still masturbate it. That's true. Yeah. And so, but I know they can hear me having sex, but that's just part of city living is like hearing people have sex, but you stabbed them. I mean, there must have been something else going on.

Can't imagine stabbing a roommate. Maybe because these pisses roommate for something else too. It has to be something else. I know. But it's hard sometimes during sex when you have to like curb yourself because you know someone else is listening. I hate having to hold myself back during sex. But I do it because right now one of the guys have dated, the guy I'm dating, the

the guy I'm dating, not one of the guys I'm dating. The guy I'm dating has roommates. Really? And I haven't dated a guy with roommates in a long time. See at least it's not as bad as actual room roommate. Oh, like in college. Yeah, my my best friend, her boyfriend lives in an opportunity and apparently they have sex with his roommate in the bed above them. Oh my god. Yeah. I did that once. Really? Oh my god. Oh, I did that. Yeah.

I did that. They had a lot. It was freshman year of college and I went to my boyfriend and his college and at the time I was a guy in other school. And I think we were so drunk, we didn't realize that his roommate was in the loft above us. And then, you know, the drunken sex and then the roommate was like, can you guys keep it down? But I'm sure that happens all the time.

Oh my god, that was embarrassing. That was like, yeah. Well, when they have like one room that happens all the time. Oh my god that was embarrassing. That was like yeah. Well then they have like one room and there's like, what do you have sex? I'm trying to figure out like, I guess you have sex in weird places in college. Yeah. That's the library.

What do you do? You got to reach the room it's out. Yeah. Oh pain. Okay. Anyway, don't stab anyone though because it's just sex. Okay. Shocking sex records. We've got some shocking sex records here that might shock you. Average male loses virginity

or they might just titillate you or they might just interest you. Shocking of average male loses virginity at 16 years old, 16.9 years old. So that means there's people having sex that like 14 and 15. Oh wow. And females lose their originity at 17.4 years old. I thought the average male number would be lower. I thought that they would be younger. Really?

Yeah, like 15, but maybe not. I don't know, when I was at age, I pretty much didn't even know what sex was. Right, right, right. I was 17. How old were you when you lost your originity? I was 18, almost. Yeah, 18.

I was 17. So that's pretty. I got some average. And it has to change. That's amazing. I waited though. I was with a guy for like nine months and I waited. Really, that's good.

I know. I was like, I'm not gonna be, I'm gonna give it up and whatever. I can't imagine like having sex in high school. Where would you have, like college is hard. High school is even whatever. I can't imagine having sex in high school. Where would you have, college is hard. High school is even worse. I know. We were, oh my god, this is where I first had sex.

My first sexual experience was on a water bed. What? We had to have a water bed. His older brother had a really old water bed and we had sex in his older brother's bed when his after work, after high school school you get out at like three or something or and the parents were so working yeah and we used a condom and what happened was we had sex and it was like I can totally remember it's funny it was like like it's not made it kind of hurts a little you're kind of whatever

confused you know it's fun but it wasn't like oh my god But by mistake we left the condom Like it got lost in the water bed like underneath him and his brother found it and then You guys are having sex in my bed The condom so oh we're gonna wear condoms we do exactly Yeah, but we would always have sex like before the parents are gonna work really yeah, so I guess you know It's not that hard not that hard you fight people So I guess, you know, it's not that hard. Not that hard, you fight. People are having so, yeah, it's not that hard, I guess.

Okay. So, man on average has seven partners. Women have four. Really? That's it? It seems really low. Really low. But then you take a consideration of those people who like, wait.

Get married. Get married. Get married. Get married to the high school sweetheart. or get married to the college sweetheart. That never seems low, especially by most people that I know, but I know a bunch of lots of doors, just kidding. Okay, not really. Pornstar Houston had sex with 62 men in 24 hours.

Who's Houston? That's her name. Yeah, it was just Houston. Just Houston. 62 men in 24 hours. Ouch. We're gonna be chafed. That's her name. Yeah, it was just Houston. Just Houston. 62 men and 24 hours out. What would you be shaped? It's a lot of lube right there. Lots of lube, lots of condoms.

Hopefully lots of condoms. Lube's underrated. So, so lube is so underrated. Do you love lube? I love lube. I want everyone to have lube. I want everyone to try. Okay, do this for me. You know how like you... I think that... Tommy Farron. This is if this is Lauren, if this for me. You know how like you, I think that, tell me if I'm wrong.

If this is Lauren, if this is your perception, but I feel like people think that Loube is like an afterthought. Like, we'll use Loube if it's dry, if she's dry, if I can't get the penis in the vagina. But people don't realize like Loube feels good and your breasts, Loube feels good, definitely in your clitoris. Loube feels good to put over the condom before you put it in. Loub is just like, should be part of your sexual repertoire. So go buy some right now at Adam Eve.com.

Yeah, I definitely feel like, especially with like the younger crowd, people think of Loub as more, oh, like she's not wet. Right. Like, it's almost embarrassing. It's getting a band-aid. Yeah, yeah. And but then like, Lou enhances everything so much. So much. So much. I'm on a crusade. I really am. I want to like bring Loub to the world that I want everyone to know how, how great. So just go buy some. Go buy some. You can buy it anywhere. Buy it at me.com. They just sent me this huge bottle of Loub that has a pump. So it's kind of awesome. It's awesome. But you could see what Hany want. And yeah, you usually do a lot.

How do we get into that? Oh, porn star Houston. She's ecstasy to people. We hope she used a lot of loop. But yeah, loop is underrated. So just try that. This, you know, I give you sex tips throughout the show. If you've got some loops sitting around,

like try to add it, like try to do use a little bit before you stick your penis inside of her vagina. Or start with a massage or something. Start with a massage. Massages are the best. I love a massage. Massages are the best. I love massages. Massages are underrated too. Yeah, it feels so good.

Love, Lou. I'm gonna turn on by talking about it, kinda. Okay. And it's safe too versus like spitting or something. Yeah, that's mostly what you used to lie about, but saliva lasts like two seconds. And it's so disgusting, your mouth is so. So many germs.

So many germs. I know so Loub Little bottles you can like stick it in your bag or something. Oh my god. My dog is really cute sleeping on the floor Love her. I have a dog as you all know. I have a pot of water like a week, which is good Okay, Michelle Monahan of LA holds the record of most semen ingested Swiled 1.7 pints of semen. It had to get her stomach pumped. Oh, God.

It's a lot of semen. That's a lot of semen. Oh my God. Can you imagine? Was it for like a dare, you think? Why would she? Why would you do that? Shady Garshtubbukbummer.

Okay. The biggest orgy was in Japan with 250 couples going at it. I would love to be a fly on that orgy wall. It's a lot of people having sex. Mara Simone, 54 calls herself a sex surrogate and has devoted her working life to help people overcome problems in the bedroom. As a qualified sex therapist, she has given lessons to more than 10,000 clients having penetrative sex with 1,500 of them. So sex surrogates are actually exist and a lot of couples hire them. Yeah, so maybe she's just the most famous because she's has been with so many couples.

But this is something that you could do. They are out there. They're not so easy to find, but you could email me at feedback at sexcelmy.com. A lot of couples have sex issues, right? Like, man, doesn't know. Please, this partner, woman can't orgasm, he has premature ejaculation, whatever your sex issue is. And people hire a surrogate to come in and sleep with their partner, and then they watch.

They watch them have sex. So they can learn. I'm kind of like torn on that. I feel like in one way, oh, it's not really a good idea. Like you're having like, you're basically cheating on purpose. But then on the other side, it's like, it sounds like a great idea. Right. It's a great idea.

And why mess around? Like, I used to know people who did this, who did sex-surgit. And yeah, and I'm at the sex school now getting my PhD and there's some, we talk a lot of me, we had the sex- the sex circuit come talk to us. I mean, I think that would be such an interesting job to have that you have to like, but it helps tons of couples. So it's another option for people if you never, if you're having sex issues, sex circuit.

Yeah, I bet it would be great. Like, when you have that one problem that you can't really say to your partner, but like, you know, they can definitely get it. Exactly. They come in and they're like, I'll show you out of Banger. Yeah. No feelings are. No feelings are, no, you are there you got to be strong you got to be confident you got to have you got

the jealousy slip away all that stuff okay amber her to the playboy club explains to playboy magazine that while she's in a three relationship with a woman she doesn't want to be categorized as bisexual or lesbian i understand what she's saying but i have to wonder if the fact that she's an actress playing largie state roles anything to do with the hesitation here. I don't know. People labels who cares. I don't know. People always want people who want to be labeled anymore. I think

is it like hurts their image in the entertainment industry? I mean, if you saw Ellen DeGeneres playing like in a movie, like playing a straight woman, it'd be kind of hard to. Right. And she's a playboy. She's just in a playboy club, so she doesn't want to be known as a lesbian. Although, is it Neil Patrick Harris? Is it him from a- Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, from- Yeah, he's gay and-

From mother, what about my mother? Yeah, how I met your mother. Yeah. And I think he makes a great little playboy on the show. Does he, is he a play- Is he a straight guy? Yeah, he plays a straight guy. He does an awesome job.

Really? Okay, cool. But then he came out like after the character was like, I said, yeah, we have imaginations and who isn't gay? Everyone's gay or bisexual these days, right? Okay, we're cruising along here. We're gonna get into some emails from listeners. That was great sex on the news.

That was lots of news for your Monday morning. Okay, so we're gonna have to save the craziest penis in vagina accents for another day. Say, I'll have to tune in, maybe we'll do that tomorrow. Okay, let's get into some emails here. All right. Some topics include a 30-day masturbation challenge, the elusive G-spot, cagal exercises

and oral sex techniques on women. One of my favorite topics. Mm. Okay. Hi, guys. Totally love the show. I'm 18 about to graduate from high school, and I'm still exploring sex. But your show has definitely helped me out.

I'm currently planning on doing a 30-day challenge to masturbate every night to try to achieve the ultimate orgasm. I've orgasm before through masturbation and through sex, but I want to find a way to orgasm every single time. I just want to know what you and menace or any of your guests thought of having a friends with benefits. I've recently started a relationship with a guy that is purely sexual and I'm really enjoying it.

I know that many of you don't like the idea of friends with benefits or always think that it will turn out something more. Well thanks for reading, keep up the great work, Chalet. Okay, first let me get into the 30-day masturbation challenge. I'll make some explain what it is, because I've mentioned it on the show before. So it basically comes from my best friend in college. And she had never had an orgasm before, and she was determined to have an orgasm. And she spent 30 days, she actually was, it was during the summer and she had an internship in another

state. And she just decided that every single night she was going to masturbate to have an orgasm to figure out and like to have like a G-spot orgasm or all kinds of orgasm. Like she just, I don't think she'd ever had one. And every day for 30 days she like got in there like she would spend an hour, and then she would spend 15 minutes, but she every single night and there like she would spend an hour and I'm sure it's been 15 minutes, but she every single night and finally like she did it like she figured out her own body because I think that women so many times there's like this illusion that the man is supposed to bring

the orgasm and the man is supposed to be like you know there's a saying like that women believe someday my prince will come and so will I meaning that a guy's going to show up and he's going to give you that ultimate orgasm when really it's the woman's responsibility to know where I'm by. So my friend spent 30 days and she till this day we're still best friends has amazing sex life. Multiple orgasms every time and I always wonder if she's because she spent those 30 days like really because when do you do that like Like 30 days, we talked about this.

I think that you masturbate like twice a week or letting you do it for a few weeks, but to really get into it. So I'm very happy for you, Charlie, that you're doing that. And also, friends with benefits. Okay, what do I think of it? I think it's great you're enjoying it right now. Usually, friends with benefits relationships start out great. Like we're just having casual sex, you know, I don't have to go meet their parents at Christmas

and not enough to buy a birthday present or I don't have to go see his meet his coworkers at the holiday party or whatever it is, there's no requirements, right? There's no strings attached, it's friends with benefits. But ultimately, it does seem that somebody ends up having feelings, more feelings in the next. So as long as you stay open and communicate with each other

and you talk about it, and someone's feelings doesn't change, and I'm happy for you that you're enjoying it. Have you read a Friends Benefits Relationship? You know what, I have. And it was actually the best sex I've ever had. So I can't really hate on it. It was like nine months.

And neither one of you committed to each other. Neither one of us committed. We were like best friends. We'd even like talk about the dates we would on. Oh, I love it. Yeah, and we would just laugh about it. And it actually ended because, not because we had feelings for each other,

but because we were convinced that we, the other had feelings for the other one. So we wanted to keep things neutral and we got this little argument. Wow. And then it just ended. So he thought that you were flipped over him and you thought that you flipped over.

Yeah, because, you know, we started picking up like relationship type things. Right, right, right. But, you know, as you just want to go there, yeah, I mean, it can work. I think you just have to be, I've been in a ton of them. Tiff has them a person. It does depend on the person. And usually one person is wanting

more, but not you, but that's typical. But I think you can make it work again if you keep communicating. And I mean, like, once a week, you check in because it just can get messy. Little things can like change that. Yeah, little things change. And then eventually, like, you have to realize that you're like, oh, I'm cool. It's all cool. And group of friends with benefits. Like, I'm seeing other, and these are me, other people. But eventually, if one person gets into a relationship, and then they're like, sorry, we can't do this anymore.

It can hurt. So just be careful. Watch your heart. All right. Hamley, really enjoy your new format and find myself working my schedule around the live broadcast. I have a female orgasm question. My wife is only able to have a clitoral orgasm,

but wants to achieve the elusive G-spot orgasm. Dom male question. How would you describe each of the two orgasms from your experience? Both of us are curious, thanks. You're the best. Dean. From Minneapolis, Minnesota, he's a premium friend

with benefits member. So I don't think I've mentioned friends with benefits yet. If you become a sex-delmi-friends-benefits member, Dean, I'll get your question in a second. But if you become a friends-benefits member, you can watch the show, you get four sex-delmi-shows a week, which are each an hour long, you get lots of perks, you get exclusive videos where we're like growing the program all the time, and it's only 15 cents a day, 4.95 a month, and your emails get answered right away.

So you can just keep sending them to me, send me your questions, I'm like your sex therapist, I'm here for you anytime you want it. So just become a friend, so if it's a member, we so appreciate you supporting the show, you're awesome, go to sexathamely.com. Okay, Dean, how do I explain this? Okay. So from my experience, oftentimes, so there's the clitoral orgasm and there's like the G-spot, more internal orgasm. And they often say, just so you know that you need to have a clitoral orgasm first,

before you can have the G-spot orgasm. That's typical how it works. But that didn't work for you, right? We have it in the morning. Okay, Lauren is lucky. She didn't have to go through the whole clitoral thing because she had the G-spot orgasm but a lot of women need to be have their clitoris stimulated in order to have the G-spot orgasm and I would say that it's different for every woman Dean so it's so hard to answer but like

for me it's more of like the tutorial that they're both amazing like they're both amazing orgasms but like the G-spot orgasm is more, it is more internal and it's more full-bodied, I guess. That's a perfect way to say it. It spreads throughout your entire body. Yeah. Like fingers, toes, head. I think like a clitoral orgasm is more of like

a surface orgasm. Right. But it ain't both feel awesome, but. Awesome. I'm cute. No complaints. no complaints yeah but yeah would you say it's more through your whole body yeah it's more just draining I think in a good way in a good way draining and

drains you and you want to fall asleep and whatever but I don't think that either one is better than the other one multiple ones are best multiple orgasms are awesome yeah I love multiple I should aim for that's what we should aim for yeah exactly and a lot of women can learn to have multiple orgasms So you shouldn't limit yourself with one. I know a lot of people think that's a lot of work whatever, but you can train yourself to do that so Work on that Dean with your wife

Hope that answered your question. I think it did and It is elusive but oh here's one more thing. If you do want to work dean with your wife and achieving the G-Spaed orgasm, it's going to be just like the 30-day masturbation challenge. Like, you guys should set a limit like a time like once a week or twice a week or our rofondering sex.

You spend time with your fingers, like going up there to the G-Spaed and just stimulating it with your finger first, because that's a lot of times how women first have their first G spot orgasm, except for Lauren annoying. But that's how they do it. So I would just say, like, start playing with it. They start playing around.

A lot of times you feel like she's going to pee maybe, like, she has different sensations. I mean, some women don't feel, can't do it, but I think it doesn't happen right away. Like, and I think that people get frustrated in their life. They think I tried a few times, and I'm done, and I'm just one of those women who can't do it, but I think it doesn't happen right away. Like, and I think that people get frustrated in their life. They think I tried a few times, and I'm done, and I'm just one of those women who can't do it. And I would say that every woman should keep trying.

Don't ever give up. That's a good way to put it, like, the whole, like, ping thing, because seriously, I would start freaking out while I was having sex, because, like, oh, my gosh, I have to pee. Like, I'm just stopping, and then I was like, oh, wait, no, I'm just having it all together. Right, exactly. Exactly.

You feel like you have to pee. So that's how it's fine. Explain it to you. Okay. Emily, how's it going? I've been doing the Kegel Camp iPhone exercises for a week. About three a day. I'm actually finding it's making me come quicker.

Is that because I haven't given my PC muscles time to rest? Or will it take time? I'm at level three if that helps. Ha ha, Andre. So I have an app called Kegel Camp. You can buy it in the iTunes store on your iPhone. And it helps with Kegel exercises, which help men and women with their sex life.

It helps men have stronger, longer, more intense orgasms. It helps them with erection issues. And it helps women have stronger, more intense orgasms as well. I don't think that it should make you orgasm quicker, Andre. I'm wondering if that's why maybe you're more turned on because you're using those muscles a lot. And so I don't know. I mean, are you getting turned on? Because some people have emailed me

and said, I'm doing the PC exercises and I'm getting evo-interaction or whatever. But I've not heard this that that would be related. It's just to make you actually ejaculate slower. So I'm wondering, are you actually using your kettle muscles during sex to stop? Because that's what you're supposed to do when you feel you're about to orgasm, you train yourself to use those muscles. So I would think that wouldn't be happening,

but keep me posted. And I don't know if that's why. Are you with a new partner? That could also be it if you're with a new partner and it's really exciting and sex is hot, you know, you might ejaculate a lot quicker. I don't know, but thanks for downloading the app. I totally appreciate it. I wish my boyfriend or my ex-boyfriend had that app. Really? Why would see a premature? Yeah. Really? How premature when see a premature? Yeah. Really? How premature when you say premature?

Like, I remember when we first started having sex. He was like, oh, don't, like, just a couple more months and I swear it'll be better. I was like, I don't want to wait a couple more months. Like, how's how quick would he? For how, like, like, like, two minutes? Yeah, like, between like a minute and two minutes? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I did that two with the guy and I dated him for two years. Really? So this, this hope. Multi orgasmic man is an amazing, amazing book. I always forget the author, but on multi-aggressive, you know, you can find anything on Amazon or wherever. It is a great book and it is the book to help man with premature ejaculation. And there's lots of, I talked a lot about this on Friday. Was it Friday show or Thursday show? It was the Thursday or Friday show. I talked a lot about this. So you got to go check out those shows, but I gave tons of tips on how to help yourself with premature ejaculation, but I don't think that that's why you're having it. I think is because of the K-Gl-A-L-A-L-S-I-S-S. Okay. Hey Emily, I read around techniques for going down in a girl.

Please discuss this one for me. Have you heard of it before? Do you think you would feel good? Menace have you done it before? Menace has not heard it today, but spread her lips open and cup her clit into your mouth so it seals off to create suction. Apply a small amount of suction and flick her clip with your tongue. Make sure the suction is constant and her clip is totally sealed with your open mouth. Thanks Emily.

Menace, let me know. Carlos from Florida. Sounds hot to me. I just got turned on. I just got turned on too. Oh my God. Okay. Yes. We just got turned on. We didn't experience it, but like the suction and the flicking of the clip. I say try it and let us know what it works. The important thing about oral sex in a woman is like mix it up and definitely softer, I think, is a way to go with women, like softer is better. No, no, no, no, I think definitely think the softer is better. Okay. Yeah. Good. Yeah, not too soft, but still like.

Right, a little bit softer and it's tender down there. Come on. Because you're mouth. And but some women don't like direct contact to their clitoris. Some women it's painful actually. So I would just try it out slowly and see with each step of this like spreading a perlip sounds good, copper clit with your mouth sounds good, and seal it off to create section, and then small amount of sounds hot. Yeah, as long as you have a plan when you go down there, and you're not just like, you know, winging it, doing whatever. Right. Like, I think, you know, dear research, you know, know what feels good for her. It's important to mix it up.

Yeah, because I think the worst thing is having a guy try to do something down there and you're just like, um, what are you doing? Are you done yet? Exactly. So, wait, ask her for her feedback. Try it a little bit. Don't go into a thing and see how it feels. Oh, Carlos is a premium member.

I didn't mention that. Carlos is a friend of its premium member. Thank you, Carlos. It's so appreciated. Okay. Mm. Now, okay, wait. I think we're going to, God, do we have time for the cheating? Oh, we've been on, yeah, we do. Let's move into the

cheating tips. Okay. That cheating tips. Cheating. Oh, we did a show. I'll tell you exactly when we did it. So you can go back. We don't endorse cheating I'll tell you exactly when we did it. So you can go back. We don't endorse cheating. What we don't endorse cheating. On August 15th, we did a show about cheating. And we did a lot of stuff of why do we cheat? We did statistics on cheating.

We talked about reasons why men cheat. Reasons why women cheat. And now we're going to talk about signs if your partner is cheating. So if you want to go back and find that episode, you can. Number one, I love you, but I'm not in love with you. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating partner will say. Your partner may have a deep loving bond with you, but intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your partner to lose sight of his or her two feelings.

I'd say, uh, I'd say either a sign that he's cheating or she's cheating or just a sign that you guys need some more relationship isn't so great. You don't want to hear that someone's on love with you anymore. Number two, we are just friends. If you're partner is spending more time with his new friend of the opposite sex and there's probably more to it than a mere friendship. Now, I don't know, I mean, these are just signs. These are not absolutes, but I don't know when it gets hard when you're dating someone

like a guy makes a new BFF at work, a new girlfriend and they're together all the time. And it's hard, I don't think it jealous, but not every guy is a cheater. So he could have good new friends, but the Selena look out for. That's tricky. That's tricky one. Okay, number three, sign your partner is cheating a sudden need for privacy. If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention because something might be up. You ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be

common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your partner. So if suddenly like there's a password on the phone, like changes the password forever, like not letting you know what he's doing or she's doing, your partner might be cheating. I feel like that's a big one right there. Right. Right. Like all of a sudden, like there's like a little mini secrets. Number four, I need some space to figure out my feelings.

Many women who are involved with someone else will request more space time alone away from the family. This can be a sign that someone else in the partner is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom. This can also be a, people can say that what's known as when the relationship is in working, so it doesn't always mean that they're cheating, but they might be cheating. Never know. Regular work habits change.

Working late, going to work it out hours, or putting in more time than is normal. I'm working related issues. Can be indications that your partner is cheating. Staying late at work, not coming home, whatever, more hours. But they're also mean that, you know, there's a new project at work, or they get a new boss. But just like these are all things, you can just kind of be like, hmm, know, there's a new project at work, or they get a new boss. But just like these are all things, you can just kind of be like, hmm, spending a large amount of time at the computer. And today's world of modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn't even have to leave their home. If your partner's online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms,

visiting pornographic websites, you might have a reason to be alarmed, but you might also just be masturbating a lot, or have a lot of work to do. These are all kind of- We're one of those new internet hobbies, you know, like, oh, chat rooms about like, I don't know, like, life-ishing. Yeah, life-ishing. Cars, motorcycles, whatever.

But these are just signs you can look at. Number seven, secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone. Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. Hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or race in the call history of the cell phone is suspicious. Yeah, I feel like if there's like a blank call history,

you're like, I wonder what I was supposed to see there. I know, people are just like in the habit to say like deleting, I think men is like, deletes everything no matter what. Like, I like keeping my track record and calls and to be a text message. No, I do. I remember my mom said like,

if you don't want anyone to know something, don't ever put it in writing. Like, that's number one. She's absolutely right. Yeah, if you don't want anyone to know something, don't ever put it in writing. Like, that's number one. She's absolutely right. Yeah. If you don't want other people to know, just don't put it in writing. Right. I don't talk about a live on a radio show or a live on a radio show or a live on a radio

show or a live on a radio show or a live on a radio show or a live on a radio show. Yeah. Which is what I do. Okay. Behavior that just doesn't head up. Behavior doesn't head up. Not being where he's chic, it's expected to be. Missing times they can't explain.

Being caught in little lies about the details of the day. I've been with guys like that, yeah. Yeah, there's just like the guys that you date that are cheaters and women, they're cheaters. I think that it's like a genetic thing too. I think some people are cheaters. I think you can be a reformed cheater, but some people cheat, some people don't, but these are just things you can look for in it. Okay.

So we've got a few more minutes. We can talk about how to confront your possible cheating partner. Choose the place. If you decide to confront your spouse, you need to do in a place that will provide you the most safety and comfort. Don't surround yourself with friends. Your partner would become essentially angry at the accusation, especially if it's true. Have proof. If you decide to confront your spouse with his or her own fidelity, have proof. An accusation without proof is only an accusation based on feeling. So I guess if you got like phone, but I don't know, the phone stuff or

somebody finds something in the email or you heard through, I don't know. Have support when you decide to confront your partner, realize it could be the end of the relationship. It's possible that your spouse will beg for forgiveness. It's also possible your partner will look into the eyes and mid here she is having an affair and initiate the breakup. Whatever the case, you have to have emotional support at hand. Menace says if a guy, if a woman cheated, and he would just dump that person right away, like, no holds barred, and I feel like,

I don't know what I would do. It depends on the person, the situation, the relationship, like, maybe I've been unavailable. I mean, there's a lot of things that go into cheating. It's hard to say that you would blink at least, and was someone but it's also not a great feeling and it's very very hard to repair a relationship after cheating. I know many couples who have done it and many couples who have failed at it But it also depends on what the machinations of your relationship is so Think that's what we got time for I think we got to go Yeah, thanks everyone. Anything else here?

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