Sex With Emily - Episode 284 - She Doesn't Want It

Episode Date: September 1, 2011

Why isn’t she having sex with you? Is it the teddy bear collection? The acute gingivitis? Find out on today’s show. Emily and Menace prepare for a sexual weekend, so Emily needs to hide her hundreds of sex toys – quickly. In the world of gossip, Kim Kardashian apparently loves golden showers, and Ray J claims his sex tape is worth more than $30 million. The link between bad movies and nudity is explored, as is how to keep the fire alive while co-habitating. How to fight the urge to cheat, and possible herbal remedies for lack of orgasms. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our secret institutions Betrubized they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm off here. I'm so gone. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're missing to sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithem with Emily calm where there's so many things happening there that are Gonna blow your mind that you should really go there right now. So what's up? Happy Thursday? I'm doing what's going on? What's what's I'm kind of like having mixed feelings about it being September first Why because the summer's over although in San Francisco we uniquely get our summer in September We never get a summer. We get summer

Yeah, for like three weeks. We're gonna get hot weather, but it's been like freezing cold 58 degrees every day Yeah, I just feel like the summer's over and we and and um you did a lot of things over the summer What places? Why do you have my Clitoris massage? What else you traveled? Where'd I go Michigan? You want to Michigan? I just feel like I need something bigger. I thought you were going to have all these places this weekend. I'm going to a cabin That's gonna be fun to cabin the cabin. We're gonna be in a lake. I'm gonna be on a motorized raft. You've done the cabin I'm not knocking it. I'm not knocking it. I'm just saying whatever so um yeah, how are you doing? I'm good. I am Working as usual, but I got some concerts to go to this weekend. I'm gonna see Little Wayne, Little Weezy, and then I'm going to a festival called

Identity Festival. It's... Yeah, everyone keeps talking about that. Yeah, it's a like electronic dance festival. Oh God, shoot myself in the head before I go there. Why? It's not like... Oh, oh, oh, oh! No, it's just gonna be like the ex of ecstasy and I'll be like perfect. No, there's a lot of people They just you know they're handsy. They're in love. They love each other because they're on stuff

Yeah, you know, you would totally love it. I would love it if I was not taking drugs I don't love house music. It's some so my thing. It's electronic now house like tronic. What's the fucking diff? There's a couple I know I know there's differences. I shouldn't just totally, because sometimes I do find myself enjoying that kind of music. So yeah. So I thought Wilco, which is highly and lightly. I love Wilco, it calms me down, which is very much needed sometimes.

But it's not a party. Like, this would be. It's a party. People go crazy. Where is it? What day? Saturday, I believe. I'm going to beat the cabin. I would love to a party. People go crazy. Where is it? Go crazy. Saturday, I believe. I'm going to beat the cabin.

I would love to let out. Love to go. So, okay, you can call in right now if you'd like. Our number is 4159927392. We're going to be talking lots about sex today, because that's what we do. Yeah. Why your woman is or is not having sex with you? We're going to talk about why people have sex and why they suddenly men or is not having sex with you? We're gonna talk about why people have sex

and why they suddenly men and women stop having sex. There's reasons, like you know you're in a relationship and you're like why doesn't she want to sleep with me? Why doesn't he want to sleep with me? We're gonna talk about those reasons behind why the motivates someone to sleep with you and why people will don't sleep with you. And we also, tomorrow is free Friday

and we've got an awesome show tomorrow. So everyone's to tune in tomorrow, free Friday. As you all know, I went on orgasmic meditation retreat last weekend, and I got my clitoris massage by several gentlemen, and one of the gentlemen is going to be on the show, and another one where he's gonna call in.

Okay. So it's gonna be Superfunday. And then I wanna tell you that if you want to, we're still have our contest going. If you want three months free of sex with Emily, all you have to do is like the sex with Emily Facebook page. Every day one person is randomly selected. We'll let you know. And if you've already liked it, you're good to go. And just the more active you are on the Facebook page, and we're like, we will be to select you. Good. Good. How's everything else going?

Everything is good. I'm good. I'm totally excited for the weekend and, um, um, I'm with a bunch of friends. Developments with the website. Wouldn't you get to talk to some people today? We're going to have a conference call later. Oh, a conference call. I haven't had the call.

Hey, no, this is our family. We can talk. Can we tell the one? No, just their stuff going on with the website. We've got to put some more new stuff. More new stuff makes stuff happen. Yeah, some changes. Just so for you guys, soon, enjoy more content.

Every day, there's new things on the website. Right. You've got new videos up today, two new videos, my amazing new internexter, shot on, they're awesome. You should. Yeah, you should be at sexathelemy.com every day. Every day. Go there.

It's super fun. You're at worketsemelymoros.com. Exactly. This is what we have to do in the office. It was always sexathelemy.com every day. Every day, go there and do for fun. If you're at work it's Emily Morris.com. Exactly, this is what we had to do in the office. It was always sexathelemy.com, but some offices block sexathelemy, so it's Emily Morse, M-O-R-S-E, let's go. There's not like any porn on there, so it still works there. It still works there, but it's just the whole sex thing. Oh my God, it says sex.

It's so easy. No one ever does that. I know, seriously, that's all anyone's thinking about anyway, and what about all those computers at how the work they find porn on you know Oh, yeah, it's actually been nine compared to that So yeah tomorrow's free Friday and then we've got a new pull up Which I'm gonna announce again, which is which one of these constitutes cheating Which one of these do you think makes you feel like, this person cheated? All of it.

Thinking sexually about someone else, sexting someone else, receiving a lap dance, confiding on a person at an intimate level or watching porn. Which one do you think? You don't pick any patterns. Yeah, these are testy ones. I know, they're good, huh? Can I tell you what I feel? What do you feel, Venice?

I wanna know what you feel, I'm inside. Okay, the runner, run down them real quick again and then I'll. Thinking sexual, okay, what is cheating? Thinking sexually about someone else? Sex, things. Oh, I don't, I'm slow down. I'll respond to each one.

Number one, I don't think you can help it. There's no way you can. You can't help it. Yeah. Right. So that's not cheating. Right. Like totally. Yeah. Think about the guy, you know, wherever you think about who, remember, walking down the street can't help it. Okay. Thinking to actually what someone else. Okay. Sxding someone else. Yes. Cheating. Okay. Even though I don't believe in the whole emotional cheating thing. You don't, there is a whole movement about like emotional cheating. But I don't, there is a whole movement about like emotional cheating.

But I think that, you know, sexing with somebody, I believe will just lead to. Right. But sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you just have sexting partners. I've got a friend who is like five of them and she just like gets off on the sexting, but doesn't ever see that. But I don't want my girlfriend sexting with anybody. True, dude, it's cheating.

Okay. In your book, receiving a lap dance. No. Okay, in your book, receiving a lap dance. No. Okay. Confiding on someone at intimate level, like emotionally. See, chicks think that she, I don't think so. Because I think- And you don't go there anyway, intimately, do you?

What do you mean? No, I'm kidding. No, you have to confide with other people other than your partner to figure out the situation so you know how to talk to them. So that's not cheating. Okay, watching porn. Not cheating. Not cheating, I agree.

But there's lots of people who think that a reviewer threatened by men who watch porn. Well, women are in relationships that they think, I'm not good enough, my boyfriend husband watches porn all the time. Does he want me to have double D breasts and fake blonde hair and whatever? Those are the crazy high maintenance chicks. No, they're not crazy high maintenance chicks. They're chicks that are not as informed about why men actually need to watch porn

and why it's good for why it's actually can be good for them. Not in a like addictive crazy level, but in the, just like every once in a while, like it's good for guys to have a lot of stuff to release and it's, and sometimes when they're having amazing Sexes when they even want to watch porn more But it doesn't mean that they choose porn over their girlfriends and I've said this before to you You've heard this you've heard every single story. I have in my entire repertoire probably but no

When I was in my 20s and I was eating this guy. I was like probably like 24 I was really really confused By the fact that he watched porn. Because I was like, we have amazing sex. I knew that he was so into me, thought I was hot, telling me all the time, so attractive. It was a total disconnect. Like, I didn't get that it's a separate thing that men do and that they like needed and actually can help them sexually, help them grow and not grow. I'm like, help them grow and not grow.

I'm like, help them grow and learn and change. But it can help them sexually too, if they're like releasing in that way as well. It's a separate thing for men. Men need a lot of different places to release. So it's fine. I don't have an issue with anymore. Now I told again, now I encourage it.

Now I invite guys over to watch my porn because I have my Fire TV porn box, FYRETV. I know where you can see double penetration. Double penetration. Crazy stuff. It's awesome. So everyone go to sexademy.com see if you feel the same way. Yeah go to that poll and vote on that poll ASAP ASAP. Get on that poll. Get on that poll and then and then we have some emails today that we'll be reading. People want to hear more about my orgasmic meditation. Primal sexual energy and not cheating. Those are some emails.

And we'd love to hear from you feedback at sexualtomely.com or there's an easy Q&A section on the website that you can just send us your emails. And we will answer them. And then like I said, we're going to be talking about why she does or does not want to have sex with you. Five reasons. She stopped having sex with you.

Do you ever wonder if you ever remember someone and she was like, hmm, not into anymore? Yes. And it kind of sucks, right? You're like, what are you doing? What's going on? I thought we had something. We had something. Why would she just be here?

Where'd she go? Right. We're gonna talk about that. I mean, usually it's because they want to get in a relationship. That's why they kind of just like They pull back. Yeah, they cut it off. They're like uh-uh They ain't getting no more unless we're together, but I have definitely had one where I go What what the hell happened, but it was like, you know, I wasn't I wasn't saying

Let's commit, but she wasn't saying the same thing either. What somebody else's came along was just like, ready to commit and that's kind of like where I lost her. But I didn't figure that out till way later on. So like, oh yeah, so the guy wanted to give the time. But at the time, you're like, why are you sucking my penis? Yeah, because I really like that and I want you to continue doing it. Exactly, I understand.

It's a bummer. Just be straight up to say I found some other guy. Yeah, exactly. Come on, people. And then we're going to talk about how to get your partner girlfriend to have more sex with you. And then we're going to talk about why men don't want sex, which I've always known why men don't want sex. You've always known. Yeah, it's like obvious. When you're dating a guy, you need to go in through a hard time. He doesn't want to have sex. Like when men are like emotionally distraught about something

and usually it's their work, they don't want to have sex. And I believe it goes back to evolutionary psychology, like the whole hunter gather caretaker that when men feel like they can't take care of a woman, even if they're not even in a relationship, but if they don't have a job or they're looking, that they have a hard time with their penis. I don't even want to go out on dates in that, during that time.

I know, because you feel like, I feel like a loser. Yeah. Am I okay? We all go through those people. Like, if it goes further, like, I'm just going to be a loser. How am I going to go through those periods? I know, I know, but that's one of the reasons.

So we're going to get into all that, which is so exciting. And, and that's all. Yeah. And then we've got some sex in the news. What month of this? September 1st, which is kind of crazy. I don't even know how that happened October November, right? That's when the the ball is and that's when you eat the banana on camera. Oh, I'm gonna eat a banana Maybe or you're gonna masturbate with a tenga

Amazing masturbation sleep. All right. Let's recap real quick. Let's recap. So there was this whole What is it the ball? controversy or no, okay, there's the the the the Marines or something. The Marine Corbal Marine Corbal and when the Marines Got on YouTube and asked me the Bila Kunis if she would go to this ball with them and I said, of course she's going, and you said no way, she's not gonna do it. She's gonna have some, have to be in sight in Africa or something.

Oh, I know, she's not gonna turn down some war soldier, not go to the ball with him. There's no way that is not happening. And you said, no, no, no, it's not gonna happen. So I said, if she goes, then you have to eat a very large banana on camera at sexwithelme.com. And you said, fine. And it's already been all over the news that she's going. So I think that you should just do it now and not wait and torture the listeners. And when I should eat a banana.

So when you eat the banana, it's up to the listeners to decide in their mind if you're eating a banana or... Whenever they're not eating a banana. Take your mind there, wherever you want to go. And then, Manus, when you do this... I didn't say it was anything sexual. I'm just saying it's a banana. No, it's a banana,

but it's gonna be hard to talk and eat at the same time. Oh, okay. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, no, we want to hear you. You want me to talk with a mouthful? Yeah, I can really get a banana. I can do that hot, but it's not going to happen because menace is going to have to use a masturbation sleeve if I lose and she doesn't go exactly when you lose There's in like some crazy Japanese one that you found awesome like $180 masturbation thing that you You should be psyched that I want you to masturbate with this thing I think it'll change your life masturbation thing that you should be psyched that I want you to masturbate with this thing.

I think it'll change your life. There's all these sex toys that we talk about for women, but there are sex toys for men too. I don't know why guys are like, I got my hand, I need nothing else. Why not try a sex toy? The ham has been around for a long time. I know, but I've got my hand too, but I just like to do it about my second. Oh, that reminds me. I'm getting a new bed today.

Finally, I've been talking about this forever, not a new mattress, but like a new bed frame. And I've got like, oh, I don't know, a gazillion sex toys under my bed. So I've got to get home before the bed people come so I can move all the sex, I mean, they're in boxes and containers, but some of them might not, I don't know,

I've got a lot of sex toys. Like this chick is a freak. She's a freak. Why do you let me in the freak's house? But I've got to like, I don't know, I've got a lot of sex toys. This chick is a freak. She's a freak. Why do you let me in the freak's house? But I've got to like, contain my sex toys. I got to get home app. Yeah, I've got to do that. I'm so glad I remembered that.

Yeah. But I'm excited for the new bed. I'm gonna talk about it for months. Took me forever to work. What sex toy do you think that would scare them the most that you have? Probably the Hatachi Magic Wand because guys look at that.

It cause it plugs into the wall and it's huge People think it's like for insertion like it looks. It's phallic, but it's really it's a missot It's also doubles as a missos or you can use it on your back Whatever and it's very very powerful and it's really good for your clitorial stimulation I like can give you like crazy orgasms like one of my interns got one when we were doing the intern sex toy review with Adam and Eve and She's like I She like she like couldn't speak about it like it like change her life the Hitachi magic one So everyone should go buy one right now on Adam and Eve calm and you get 50% off most items and three free

Adult DVDs free gift free shipping use coupon code Emily at checkout. Sweet. Sweet. I think that would freak them out. And then I think, I don't think I have anything free to give a lot of loob sitting around like I got. I've got a pump loob and loob and stuff and condoms and so yeah. But no, I think I, I think it's, I've been pretty good. But I'm just glad we had this chat. Okay, sex in the news.

Kim Kardashian mystery buyer wants sex tape off the market. Someone is looking to buy the rights to the Kim Kardashian sex tape from Vivi Entertainment, claiming the willing to play big bucks to completely remove it from the market. TMZ has learned that mystery buyer has hired a lawyer intent to see you fired off a letter to Vivi Hancho. I was approached by private party who has asked start looking the possibility of quiet. Why doesn't Kim Kardashian just buy it and get it off the market? Well, she doesn't want. It's probably somebody that connected to her camera.

Yeah. Yeah. So. But I, what I was reading was the guy from Vivitts like, unless you got 30 million. Yeah, 30 million. You're good because you read TMZ. Yeah, don't even come to the table. It's worth why are people still buying it and stuff all that? Yeah, they

during her wedding time, it was, they had millions of people hitting the website. Wait, so there is one website where you can go and you can buy it. It's called KimK superstar.com. Oh, okay. And it's never seen it. You see it. It's like 30 bucks. Wow So they had millions of people hit it up. It costs $30. She get she gets a percentage of that now right in her deal Oh, yeah, she's kind of psych probably should buy over it But is it hot? Have you seen it? I see in parts of it. Yeah hot Yeah, it's pretty hot. The only problem is Ray Jay's on there the entire time he's always in the camera right? You're like dude Dude, I like dude. I want to see the chick exactly

So yeah, she gets kind of dirty in it and apparently before they bought it like because it leaked first Right on the internet, but then Vivid like bought it off somebody and then so Kim Kardashian sued them To take him off the market, but then, uh, vivid, like, bought it awesome, buddy. And then so Kim Kardashian sued them to take them off the market, but they couldn't, uh, they couldn't take it off the market. So they sued it. So they made a deal where she gets a percentage of it. And, uh, in the original tape, he pees on her. But I guess like now the version that's online, like, they cut that out. Did you see that one? That's the part that they cut out. No, I haven't seen that one.

He's on her. He's so young. You think she wouldn't be into that kind of thing. Yeah, but no, no, I knew a new young chicks. I've never done it, but they were into that. Really? Yeah. Oh, interesting. No, what's up with the golden showers, but yeah, some chicks are in check. Totally. OK, Mark Anthony speaks. I never cheated on J.Lo. Shock.

Mark Anthony says he'll always love Jennifer Lopez and wants everyone to know he never, ever cheated on her with any flight attendants. Just flight attendants? Yeah, what's that? The singer opened up by his divorce from Jennifer Lopez for the first time on Good Morning America today saying nothing

since the holistic happened to tear the two part and there was no infidelity he said it was just a realization on both our parts these things happen he says only as good things to say and he'll always love her blood frugging loss someone cheated so much i think they did i don't know you think they just fell out of love having to twins and

her career so you people, that's what happens Remember I was just saying this a month ago once that Chick's career starts taking off She's gonna end her show in a relationship. No, I don't think so. I can give you a list of people I think as a guy becomes the right to win big And click like oh, I'm not taking off, I feel insecure. My penis just shrunk three inches. Oh my God, I can't believe you're successful,

and I'm not. And she's like, you're becoming a leech, and I'm over you. It's not that at all. Yeah, it is. No, it's not. How do you know? That's what it is.

They always think that they're bigger than they are, and then they... I think they have men of a hard time with powerful women. No, I would love to have a powerful woman. Hell yeah. I would encourage it. Yeah? Okay. Do your own Hell yeah. I would encourage it. Yeah. Okay.

Do your own thing, man. I know. That's great. Case and bills. Cool. You paid the bills. Yeah. Okay.

America's best dance crew judge is in child sex case. I know. You heard about this too? Can't believe this, yeah. Former America's best dance crew judge Shane Spark allegedly sexually abused at least six young girls. In addition to the woman who claimed Spark's rape turn when she was 12 years old. The documents were just made public.

He re and they're very disturbing. With the victim telling police, Spark's forciertive sex to them after driving her home from a dance class. He had taught in 94 when she was only 12 years old. Man, that's going to mess you up for life. He started to make out with her and then rolled on top of her and pinned her beneath them This is upsetting six other victims. Why why why people know I know terrible and as bad as this is

None of the other people from From America's best dance crew didn't you press at the The VMAs because they knew that would come out. Oh. Because they're always at all of them. Is that a big show? Yeah, it's a big show. Oh, I'm getting cable this week.

No, I am. And turns around at their helping me because I physically can't pull the trigger under it. So I needed their help to bridge the gap between my ability to pull the trigger. Yeah, it's gonna be super fun. I'm gonna come in here and be like, so I'm Jersey Shore last night.

Seriously, I'm going to become an addict. I'm going to become a total TV addict. You're going to know pop culture? I'm very excited. You're going to love it. I'm going to tell you something you don't know. There's so much stuff that we can talk about. I know.

That's actually related. Just to wait. OK, porn filmmaking should have an after-performer test HIV positive would not want to be a porn star on that shoot. An adult performance test HIV positive prompt during attempt to temporary shutdown Monday of adult film productions across LA until further testing can confirm the results until we know for sure we vest the industry to have a more torium on production that yeah so they found some

at the HIV can you imagine like how freaking out how they're all freaking out porn stars? Yeah, I would suck because They shoot a lot and like a week, you know, they what they shoot a lot of I know I know it's really scary Every day a while to get the results and all that stuff until you it shows up Yeah depressing okay, so I'm glad I'm not a porn star yet. Okay, sex and zen, you know, sex and zen, the future of erotic films, a hit in its native Hong Kong. Have you heard about this film, Sex and Zen? No.

It's a hit in Hong Kong and sure to be trimmed heavily or banned out, right in mainland China, Sex and Zen extreme ecstasy is getting a boutique release across the rest of the world, including major metropolitan areas of the world, including major metropolitan areas of the U.S. So basically, it's an outlander sex and borderline, gnarly cartoonish violence occurs. The story is around a Ming Dynasty scholar who marries a beautiful girl, but finds himself lacking as a lover and unable to pleaser. He's obsessed with the smallness of his penis, and seeking carnal knowledge. He visits the conniving prince Ning

and The scholar eventually went into mince ladder and he sets him up as a sex healer and then he has an operation to replace his penis and he gets that of a donkey He gets a donkey penis. It's been all over the press. It's an animation or live action. It live action. Really? Yeah. He's small penis. Then he gets a donkey penis. Which one would you rather have? Small penis or donkey penis?

What's a donkey penis look like? Oh, yeah. Yeah. They're always like hung like a donkey. Yeah. Yeah. I've never actually seen one, but I can't. A donkey penis.

I'm scared of a donkey penis personally. What I like to do every time I visit Los Angeles is look for the worst worst movies on Netflix. It's like a tradition with me and my friends. So we'll just, you know, get wasted and watch these movies. So if you want to find one that has a lot of sex in it, the one that we watched this weekend was called Wicked Lake. Wicked Lake.

So you look for the movies and Netflix for the most sex? No, no, no, they have the worst reviews. Oh, and you consider them? Yeah, but they have the worst reviews. But usually the ones that have the worst reviews will have a bunch of nudity in them. Oh, did you know this man is? Yeah, he learns something new every day. So this one, Wicked Lake was all about these vampire chicks

that are like new the entire movie. Uh-huh. And then like the movie was basically to stop and then they will start all making out for no reason. Doesn't sound like a bad movie. It's cool. But talking about operations of penis, not to give anything away,

but one of the chicks bites off some dudes penis. Oh, shit. It's how on some other dudes face. Seriously? Yeah. Oh my God. So check it out. Wicked Lake, if you can sit through it. It's pretty awful, but funny at the same time.

Okay. Good to know. Okay. Well, that's all I have for sex in the news unless you had anything to add to sex in the news day. Did you read anything? Did I hear anything in the news? No, I haven't. Sorry. I usually have something, but today was kind of slow. the news day. Did you read anything? Did I hear anything in the news? No, I haven't.

Sorry, I usually have something, but today was kind of slow. Slow news day. Yeah. Okay. I think everyone's getting ready for the big weekend. Yeah. They're not like releasing their sex tapes, maybe till after Labor Day or whatever. Yeah, because everyone's gonna be gone. They're not gonna be by computer. Exactly. Okay. So we can get into some emails.

Okay, what do you got? That's what I got. Hey, Emily, your episode on Oming, okay, this is something I want to read because he said, his episode on Oming is only seven minutes long and stitcher and then a Brumpley ends. He listens on his iPhone and you can't directly get it through a website and he's a premium member.

So I'm helping him out. If you're a premium member, if you're not a premium member, you're only gonna get seven to ten minutes of the show. But when you're a Friends with Benefits member, which we hope you'll all join and become a friends with benefits member for 15 cents a day, 4.95 a month, like what is that? Like nothing for the best extra information of your life. So he was having a

problem with that, but he wanted to listen more to the Oming Show. So just contact me if you are a member and you have some issue with it. If you're not a member, you're going to get seven minutes. If you want it all, you get you can get an hour if you become a friends benefit member.'re gonna get seven minutes. If you want it all, you can get an hour. If you become a friend's benefit's member. That was a good show. PS, you're funny, informative, entertaining, and oh yes hot. Thanks for the show, you're a healthy bill.

Bill is a premium member from Howell, Michigan, which is near where I grew up. What, what? What's you good? Michigan, yo. Love Michigan. Okay, so I do, but I left. Okay, hi Emily.

So I have a question for you that I'm not sure you can answer with a textbook definition, but most likely from your own experience and through the experience of your friends. My question is this, how does a man learn to give off primal sexual energy to a woman? And I know that confidence is appealing and a prerequisite, but there are lots of men who are confident in their approach,

but you as a woman on a primitive level don't feel that pull, that tug, that mix of a desire and attraction for the lack of better terms gets you most, gets you the most, gets you moist. Wait, that mix of desire and attraction for the lack of a term gets you moist. But I'm talking purely on a sexual level. How do I, as a man, find that appeal inside myself and learn to turn it out when needed? I'm tired of the friend NICE GuyZone. Thanks, Frank from Portland.

He's a friend with benefits member. He says, PSY, no Android apps on my list. I've got two iPhone apps. And I don't have it. I just need a developer to do it. Did you have a droid phone? I've got a droid. If someone would like to develop my apps into a droid, email me,

feedbackatem.com. Done and done. Okay. So this question he's asking me is, how does he turn it on? And I do think it has to do with confidence and being in touch with your own. Like in your mind, if you visualize when you feel that when you felt the most sexually connected to a woman or had the most amazing sex, like what were you feeling at that time?

I don't, this is kind of unclear to me, but how does he find that appeal inside himself and learn to turn it on? I would say masturbation, like fantasy, like visualizing scenarios when you're masturbating, like really things about a particular woman, if you're about to have sex with someone, you're having a date with someone, you're dating someone, visually visualized how you want that scenario to play through and then kind of manifest it, I think. Yeah, it's a, members, it's just do or die. Well, you're not going to die.

Right. But do you feel like you ever aren't able to turn it on, the energy? Do you feel like you're lost of sexual energy when you're with someone? Do I? I don't know. Do I have a loss after a while, yeah?

Sometimes I do. I mean, the last time I was just chemistry, too. If you've chemistry with someone, it's amazing. And find the appeal inside myself and turn it on when needed. I mean, I think you just got to practice like being in touch with your own sexual energy and it comes through like, yeah, visualization, meditation, masturbation, learning your own body. Yeah.

A lot of time with you and fire TV. Fire TV, check it out. You get 30 minutes free. You're a friend's benefit's member. 30 minutes free of fire TV. Awesome. Emily, hi. I have a question about cheating or better said not cheating. Since two years, I've had a female friend who might got to know on a business trip.

Sometimes we meet on trips, stay in the same hotel and share a free time with each other, dining and shopping. We also have a very pleasant and funny email relationship. Most of all about sex issues so far so good. Her problem is she's in love with me and even worse, she really wants to have sex with me. My problem is I don't want to have sex with her. What? Or let's say my body wants to do what my soul doesn't. Maybe I'm old-fashioned but I can't

cheat on my girlfriend. Oh, you got to go, friend. Who I've been in love with for 25 years now. I only have to think about how I would be heard of she cheated at me. What do you think of the solution? Can you give me advice? Do you know a solution?

H from A, it says. Whatever that means. Yeah, good for you. Don't cheat. I think that your body wants that your Your soul doesn't that'll pass. Your body's always going to want it. Your body's always going to want to be with that woman. It feels really good.

Our ego feels good. This woman wants you. She says she's in love with you. But you sound like a stand-up guy. He was not down with cheating. And you traveled a lot together and it sounds like you haven't. So I would just say keep on keep it on and don't do it. But I also might try to distance yourself

from her because you never know. You have a few cocktails and you might get tempted one night. I think it sounds like this uneven situation and you really enjoy your company and she went beginning the wrong messages and even though you're saying you don't want to sleep with her and she's telling you and love with her and then you guys are having these intimate times when you're on vacation, when you're on work trips and hotel room and the lobby and you're having cocktails. I just think it could be sending the wrong message. So maybe you need to distance yourself from her. Yeah. And delete your emails, man. Please imagine if the girl of 25 years who you love

found all that stuff. It's so hard. There's no need. How do you even how do you even got laid from this chick? How much would that? I know. You haven't done anything physical with her? And then that could totally blow up in her face. You don't want to do it burn all the evidence and cut it off, man. Yeah, I agree. I agree. You got to cut it off. And it doesn't sound healthy because also you need to release her. She's in love with you. Um, it's not going to go anywhere. You already say you want to be with her. So I would just say you got to distance yourself from the friendship because it's not fair to go anywhere. You've already stayed. You want to be with her. So I would just say you got a distance yourself on the friendship because it's not fair

to her either. You know? Yeah. Okay. Hi, I'm Liam Menace. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. We moved in together about one year ago. And before we moved in together, we had sex three to ten times a week.

Wow. You go. But after we moved in together, we have sex maximum two times a week. Why is this? I think I've tried the most to get our sex life up and running again, but nothing works. She's still tired. She's so tired all the time. Love the show.

Greetings, boy 21 from Norway, and I agree with Menace Amahann. Job. Thank you. From Trond. Thank you. Thank you. Why does this happen because couples that live together stop having sex after a while? No, we can, well, there's the before you have the excitement of seeing the newness of a

relationship. No, not the newness, just the excitement of seeing each other. Right. And when you live together, you're like, brush your teeth together, doing laundry together, doing dinner together. The truth is, cohabitation is not conducive to hot sex, because the deal is, with hot sex and all that 10 times a week, sex comes from, yeah, the spontaneity and the unknown and a little bit of mystery and not knowing when you're going to see each other again and like missing each other.

Well, when you live with someone, you don't have that. So this whole notion in our culture that we should like live together and become one is simply not conducive to hot sex because hot sex needs these other elements of unpredictability of excitement of newness of All those things I just said so that's why it's happening and I would say that you should try to infuse some of that back into your relationship Whether you whisk her away for a weekend to a hotel room You go do you take a trip somewhere surprise or when I do something special that would make her feel good give her a massage Like have a night where you set up something. It's all about her pleasure Get her get our juices flowing again women need to get their juices flowing again. No, it sucks

Give her a massage. I know it does suck. Yeah, but it's the truth. Women need to get their juices flying again. No, it sucks. Give her a massage. I know it does suck. What is the truth? We need it. We get to get complacent. And guys get complacent too. And guys get annoyed. Enoyed by things like what when they're living with someone. Yeah. I never lived with anyone in my entire life. I know. And my ex guy that I was dating, he told me that that was not.

He's like, I can't believe you never lived with anyone. I think you should have lived with someone by now. But I just feel like I never wanted to because I knew that I would stop having sex What happens if you live with somebody one day? What do you think it's gonna happen? I personally think it is my life mission that I will never stop having sex that person Because I have all the answers. Oh do yeah, no, I don't I'm infallible just like everyone else But I'm really nervous to live with someone and just be like hey, what's up in my sweats? Like gonna watch Jersey Shore. You're gonna join me like get the popcorn and the pop tarts and meet me on the couch like nightmare Like that's not what I ever wanted and I just never had it was with anyone where I was like let's live in let's move in together

It hasn't been there. That's weird because you've dated people for a couple of years. I've done the few years thing. They always wanted, they not the all of them, but a lot of them suggested that we move in together. And I suggest that we don't. And that's when you freaked out and ran away. True or not, true? True.

We were not on the same page. But I feel like I, you know, one day, I'm in a marty living with a dog and that's hard. Oh no, lies, lies, you're a dog. The dog is taking a vacation right here. The dog's a vacation. The dog's having a little vacation. The dog already got 86.

And I'm spending the weekend with a dog. It's pretty good. It's a relationship. Oh, we get with dog kisses. We get other people watching the dog all weekend. Oh no, yeah, it's nice. But I be other people watching the dog oh we can yeah But I'm gonna be watching the dog in On the weekend. It's like a perfect weekend. It's like a long-distance relationship

Because isn't your ex boyfriend gonna be there. Yeah, he's the guy that owns the dog now No, he doesn't own him her. He's gonna be taking care of the dog. It's just like it's just like He loves dogs. He has no job. He's I mean he doesn't work anymore really. Whatever. Dude. What? You try to spin things. I can see right through it. You can't see it. Yeah, yeah. You don't know what you're talking about. Okay. Hey, Emily. I'm writing to present a thought. Present it. Present it. There is so much written and spoken about making sure women reaches orgasm during sex are more specifically vaginal intercourse.

Usually, much or most of the responsibility is placed on the shoulders of the man. Yes, you mentioned he should slow down and there should be more foreplay, but in the end, if he comes before she is ready, it is his fault in most people's minds. The goal that is often so mentioned is simultaneous orgasms. Why don't women take the initiative? See what it's like to be the one responsible for the timing of the orgasms. If women had to get a guy hard, then climb on top and ride a guy to pleasure themselves to the point of orgasm and all the time paying attention to his level of excitement so that he did not come too soon or too late, they would see what is expected of the man.

Give it a try sometime, all the best at the end. I do not think that the responsibility is placed on the shoulders of the man. I say there are things that men can do through foreplay, whatever, but ultimately the responsibility of female orgasm is the woman. It is. It is, but I mean, you know, think it though. You guys overthink it. And that's why you mess it up. I do. I know that I that's why I need alcohol to this, you know, chill Or maybe you guys can smoke a little mocha Like that's they should just make they should just legalize marijuana for women so you guys can chill the fuck out I don't know if I should even say this out loud, but I'm going to because my mother

So I had not had an orgasm and when I was in college and I was like mom and bum Like I have an orgasm. She bought me this book and she was like, maybe you should try smoking some marijuana What I know my mom told me that and I was like really? Okay And I did and it didn't really work, but you know other things worked, but That was my mom that was my mom's sex advice advice to me She's just like you your mom is awesome. I know I would never have that conversation with my mother and a billion years I have so many conversations with my mother that most people would not have that ridiculous Yeah, she was like oh, maybe you should try

Did you ever spoke marijuana? Yeah Okay, so the president but so he's saying, yeah, I get it. I get that it's a lot of work for men and a lot of pressure on the simultaneous orgasm thing. I think that's all BS. I think the simultaneous orgasm thing, like when it happens, it's like, like, yeah, wants to be a moon.

Amazing, but yeah, there is a lot of pressure. And I get there's a lot of pressure on men. And I hope I don't make it seem like it's the guy's ultimate responsibility. I'm just trying to give you, give guys solutions that they do need to slow down and that they do need to incorporate for play because women are not warmed up yet and we need slower sex. Yeah. I mean, this need to smoke a lot of weed and drink alcohol and guys will be fine.

What the hell? Sorry. It's almost a really big weekend for us here. So you got to, you know, you guys should follow me on Twitter, white menace on Twitter, and you'll probably see. You'll notice when I'm drunk, because I'll start tweeting a lot more. You know, just be like random disc jokes

within 15 minutes of each other. That's what you know. Yeah, we always know. And sometimes you just say, I'm drunk. Okay. You would play lots of ks, and then you know. know there's nothing wrong with drinking if you do it in moderation right Which I do what you don't I do I don't do during the week honey. That's not the same thing. What does it mean? Moderation means like moderation throughout you get plastered on the weekend every weekend

That's how moderation I'm trying to catch up getting plaster I'm trying to catch up for the whole week that I know honey. It's not good. You don't have to get plastered over weekend. Can't you just have a few cocktails? Why do you get outside? Why do you get hammered outside your mind and then have sex with random checks? Here's another idea.

Alcohol tastes like shit. All right, so you shouldn't just drink it. Just, you know, owns gonna have a couple cocktails. You drink it because you wanna, you know, feel have a couple cocktails you drink it because you want to Feel good, but you feel like crap the next day. This is another thing you got to figure out moderation When you drink a moderation, you don't feel like crap. I think you should try that Sweet gun then I wouldn't I can't even drink and eat together. What do you mean you don't eat when you drink? No because it it's so except the alcohol. Yeah, I don't like it

Not alcoholic right moderation because it's so excited alcohol. Yeah, I don't like it. It's like I've spoken like a true alcoholic. Not alcoholic. Right. Moderation. OK. This one's for menace. Can't wait to hear him complain about it on SWE. All right.

What is it? California wants to ban styrofoam now. They sent an article. Mother efforts. Are you serious? Oh, California. Why so excited about everything? What? And this is from a friend's benefits member this is

from carlos in florida all of style foam everywhere they want to they want to ban styrofoam and that's the latest target center that the bill by center elin low on thought would per per hibit restaurants grocery stores and other vendors from dispensing food and expanded palliare string containers commonly known to styrofoam would begin in 2016 think about his Chinese takeouts oh yeah they they won't they won't conform I bet you don't need banned plastic bags but they don't care. I like hold on. I like hoard my plastic bags.

Because I like hoard them because I frit and freight them will not get any more. They're recyclable. I don't think Styrofoam is not recyclable. But do we cut down on Styrofoam so much? We have cut down a lot. There's none. I remember.

What was San Francisco though? I remember I get nice. Yeah, but they're trying to do it all through California, California, which I go to Los Angeles. I can't find very much styrofoam at all. I never paid attention. People stop doing, like they have just stopped. I remember when I was a young kid,

I go to McDonald's and you know, I got my six piece chicken wing nugget and I'll get it in a little styrofoam box. It was good and it's still warm, all that stuff. Now I get in this like a soggy paper. Oh, right, it's cardboard. I love chicken McNug I get it as like a soggy paper. Oh, right. It's cardboard. I love chicken McNuggets.

Delicious. You can get 50 chicken McNuggets now for like 10 bucks. Dude, don't ever do that. Don't ever get 50 chicken McNuggets unless you're sharing. If you don't think it's sexy, what about a guy ate 50 chicken McNuggets in front of you? Just approve a point. Would you not find it sexy at all?

Would you have sex with the mac? No, I would not. Ew, you would taste like a McNugget. You just said you love McNuggets. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

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Like seriously like being unhealthy and eating 50 chicken wing nuggets is not gonna help you have a healthy sex life Okay, what kind of eating habits would turn you off from a guy? Oh, I don't know you think it's sexy. You don't think it's sexy if you took you a fast food place. Like for dinner, he's like, Hey babe, we're going on a date and he pulls up a Jack in the box. Yeah, it was for the apples here. Yes, they have Jack in the box. And it's definitely delicious. The ultimate cheeseburger. Oh, it's awful. The ultimate cheeseburger. I've never had it. I want to stick my penis into it. It's that good. Speaking of penis, sticking penis is like they're making American pie again when I'm in turn. So many. Oh yeah, they're doing the reunion. And then uh, uh, Cher

Reed, who is a bitch, by the way, and I'll talk shit about her because I've met her before. I've met her with her. Crazy, whacked out person that just, you know, just done too much partying in your life. See, that's moderate moderate, that's a person that's not doing things in moderation. They, they're having trouble like making her look good on the set because she's so worn out. Really? That you said. Yeah.

So she's like, it's how she did that. Yeah, but I never thought she was hot though. You never thought, I think that she looked good in her earlier films, that she was, I mean, I'm not really into large. No, I got too much. Right, right. Yeah, but. People were hot.

She's just all weathered down because of the parting. Right. Don't kids don't party. Don't listen to menace. Don't drink. Don't drink and drive. And don't drink, drive and eat chicken McNuggett either. Mm.

Okay. Let's move into our sex time. You know what I say every Friday on my other radio show? No, what do you say? When I sign off, and I got this from one of my Idols who I used to work with in television When he would sign off he'd surpassed away He would sign off he goes don't drink and drive that stuff will kill you

So that's what I do every time I get off work on a Friday. That's nice Yeah, because you really don't drink and drive. I don't I will never drink and drive right I had Family member killed by a drunk driver. So even though I drink so so heavily when I can Immoteration, I always make sure I have a ride home. I'll never drink and drive. It's not worth it. No, I don't mean there I'm not drinking that much, but um, I need to drink more, but I don't Yeah, that's good. Okay, so we're gonna move into our sex topic now. All right Why she does okay five reasons why she stopped having sex with you She only wants Louis Vuitton bags and if she doesn't get her Louis then she's not gonna have sex with you

Number one, she's angry. Yeah, yes, and it's not because of the Louis Vuitton bag Most women cannot be into with the man they're angry with Unfortunately, many women bottle up their Resentments your woman might be stark raving mad at you yet you haven't had the slightest clue you've done anything wrong You ever had that experience? Yeah, it's really mad and you don't know why yeah because she's like You go is there anything wrong? No, I'm fine. Yeah, you got I'm fine and then eventually you got to pull it out. I get it. I'm fine. And then eventually you stop

asking and they're, and then they start going off on you. Yeah. What the F is that? Why are all women the same like that? Why do they do that? Um, where did they learn that from? It's just, it's just, I think it's hard to get in touch. I think communication is really, really hard. We're not taught, like in school, we're not taught that, like how to communicate in a relationship, like you have to learn it. And so you just, like it's hard, you think, oh my god, he's gonna react.

And sometimes women don't even know what they're feeling or what they're angry at. And they do bottle it up, because they think like, I don't want to come across, like this girl, so I'm gonna keep it, or maybe it'll get better, and then they just get angry, angry, angry. So the solution is to talk to her calmly, ask if you've done anything that upsets her lately.

So you just, instead of asking what's wrong, to say, have I done anything lately that upsets you? If she quickly says no, change a subject, ask her again and encourage her to be honest. It's possible that when she gets what is bothering and offer chest that you can have mind blowing sex again. But a lot of women and men be whole things in. A lot of you are not in touch with that. And I'm telling you, communication is a lubrication. I say that, I've said that, a nauseam, and I mean it. The better the couples communicate,

the better sex they're gonna have. So communicate, communicate, communicate, don't hold things in. Whatever you're holding in right now, the thing that you think that you can't tell your partner because he's gonna freak out or whatever in your upset about something, just talk about it. Because what happens is these things build up over time.

Women, men, we hold resentments and they just build up and you can't even remember why you're mad there's so many things. So just nip it in the bud. You got an issue with your guy. He did something that pissed you off this morning. Tell him at night dinner. Deal with it right away. And then be able to drop it though. Drop it. If you discuss it, tell him a night dinner. Deal with it right away.

And then be able to drop it though. Drop it. If you discuss it, that's another thing too. You beat a dead horse. Yeah. That's the problems I've had in my relation. They keep coming back like you talk about and they want to talk about it again and again.

Yeah, I'm like, oh, we discussed every avenue of this conversation and then they come back. Right. And they go, why did you do? Why did you do that? And I go, did I already explain it? Five, effing time. Like I say, I stay calm.

Maybe they want to be connected. You didn't get the answer. They wanted I stay calm. I don't, I'm not into arguing. I came from a family of divorce. Yeah. Arguing. I do not like it.

I just want to resolve an issue right away. Right. This is what's going on. Bob Law. And then if you bring it up a couple of times, that's what I'm just like, all right, I'm done. Right. Right. Right. Get the hell out of it. She keeps coming back. Yeah. Yeah. Coming back. She can't drop it. I guess if you just think really bad, like cheated on or whatever,

but you don't do things like that. No. Yeah. So, okay. I mean, it's not that easy, but if you ask her, come and like, have I done anything, whatever. Okay, number two, why she doesn't want to sex to you. She's overwhelmed. Maybe she's not interested in sex because she's just overwhelmed with obligations.

Her work, workouts, night classes, family dinners, drink with friends, cleaning the apartment, children, whatever, it's a miracle her head hasn't spun off. So when she gets home, this is the solution. Help her. Help her be less overwhelmed. Help her with dinner, give her a massage, do something like that. That will calm her down. Tell her she isn't allowed to do anything. We have a sip of wine and relax. Do you know how nice it is when you're stressed out and you go to see your boyfriend or guy and he's like, it's okay, babe, I got it. I'll just have a glass of wine and have a seat.

Okay, and then make sure, you know, you don't give him crap that week for some time. You don't grab. Because he was nice to you for five minutes. Because he was nice to you. Yeah, well, it's sweet when like someone's really overwhelmed. I think that's true, like I even really wound up like this guy that I've been dating, like I got to house, you know, I've been kind of wound up lately.

And I was totally stressed out and I got there and I was like, like tense and he's like, and he did that. And he was like, do you know that's wine? Do you want to have a seat? It's all good. We don't have to talk about it, whatever. I just felt good to have someone there to be like, help me on wine. And the wine was helpful.

I will give you that. Another reason she doesn't want to have sex. This is huge, huge, huge one. She feels unsexy. You know women, they gain three pounds. Yeah. They're bloated, they're the period. She just feels unsexy. You know women, they gain three pounds, they're bloated, they're period, she just feels unsexy. She's exhausted, maybe someone insulted her, she's comparing herself to her friends, she doesn't feel, she doesn't feel hot. So encourage her to take

some time to pamper herself and to treat her deaf, nudist, bar, something like that. Sometimes no matter how many times you tell her she's hot or she looks great, women aren't going to believe it because they're just feeling fat. And it's a bummer. So sometimes just paying her a general, genuine compliment will help remind her how attractive you think she is. Sometimes we just need to hear that from her guy. Even if we dismiss it, we're like, you're wrong.

My ass does look fat in these jeans or whatever. When a woman is feeling like, I know a lot of friends like this, like who feel, I have a very close friend who goes up and down 10 pounds. And it's common for women, 10 pounds, like five, 10 pounds. She's tall, so it's like 10 pounds is like my five pounds, whatever, 10 pounds. And she feels like she can't date, she doesn't wanna go out, like she shuts down, she's not feel sexual.

And to me, like she's saying whatever, but when a woman feels in sexy, like she's not gonna want to sex. Yeah. So make her feel sexy. Another reason she might not want to sex with you is that she thinks the sex is boring. Huh. No.

Perhaps she's just dull, routine, and has become like too dull for her liking. So if you catch her yawning around, if you yawning amid sex, have sex in different location for a solution, such as in this secluded outdoor spot and corporate afford easy act, such as chocolate and strawberries into your lovemaking, fire a naughty neglejay or a toy. Do something that spices it up. She gets bored. Women get bored. Strawberries and chocolate. That's hot. Is it? I love strawberries and chocolate. That would be so sweet if you were like, here on the ice and strawberries and chocolate, you'd never do it.

But I think it'd be awesome. The cheesiness factor. It's not cheesy. It's delicious. We love chocolate. Okay. How about just chocolate? Bar of chocolate. Yeah. Here you go. Snickers. I know, dude. I've got friends who keep like bars of chocolate in their freezer so they always have it for like when a woman comes up because we like create a lot of women crave chocolate and it just feels good to eat chocolate, but guys don't usually have it. It's still a bar, I check. Guys aren't usually chocolate obsessed. And then the fifth one is that she's just no longer a track at you, despite which she may say to your face, she may never be in the mood for the simple reason she's no longer a track at you. Your touch what she may say to your face, she may never be in the mood for the simple reason she's no longer a track it to you. Your touch may

have sensed chivers through her body. Heartless bitches. And sometimes it took the greatest risk. This is my, this is the sands me right now to read this because because you think about when it dies in a relationship, your touch is sensed shivers through your body and it took the greatest amount of restraint to it you get at home from the party to have sex. You're in your first eating someone and you can't keep your hands off each other and you can't wait to get home and have sex and all that and then it's like, God, you're like, whatever, I don't want to have sex. So the solution is, it might have to do with someone else.

I mean, it might not have to do with you, but it could have to be that maybe she's seeing someone else, I don't know. So I got to ask her and talk about it or maybe there is something that you're doing wrong. I don't know, but it might be over. It might be over. It might be over. It might be over.

It's a bummer. I've actually dated someone. I was dating someone last year where I physically got grossed out by him. I dated him for two months. What? And I looked at him one morning, he got off, and I was like, I am so unattractive to you. I was like repulsed.

I don't know what happened. Women are weird, the switch went off, and I was like, I could not get dressed and get out of their fasten off, and I ended it. Wow. Yeah, there were things leading up to it, and he wasn't that much kind. I don't think you did a great hard

I didn't think he said some things to me the night before that kind of Turn me off and set off some alarms and then I was just repulsed Happened you're out there. Yep. Okay, so here's some reasons why she does have sex with you You want to know? Yeah, I want to see. You're a good kisser. Oh, I'm a wonderful kisser. Are you? They say, yeah, do the jazz women tell you that?

Yes, but I don't know. You're the same. I'm the same. Okay, you're never too old for a Stevie make-out session. In fact, a well-executed kiss would be your golden ticket to a mean event. According to a recent study in the Journal of Evolutionary Psychology, women are far less likely than men to have sex with a bad kisser. So she thinks you're a bad kisser.

You're not going to get the goods. So, improve your kissing. Heroes returns are on, though. A partner that makes the first move, smells fresh, and caresses her while kissing. So true. caress my neck my ears My breasts my arms caress me don't just kiss me like use your hands up and down my body hold the face I love the face holding yeah men don't do that enough. They only do the movies. I swear to God

They do like one sound like hold that. That is such a hot move when a guy hold your face It's really sexy do it. I just want to think about it for a moment. Do it. Okay. Another reason why she has actually, it seems like it's the next natural step in a relationship. So maybe you wind, you dined, or you've done all these things. And missing link is commitment. It's the key to sexual motivation in women.

So it's not like you have to give her a ring or anything, but sometimes to help a woman have sex with you or want to have sex with you, she needs to feel connected to you. And by commitment, it can be like you're sharing intimate details of your life with her, you're talking about your day, you're emotionally in it, and then she might be ready to drop her drawers. That's why we've been connected. We've been connected.

We've been connected. We've been connected. Okay, another reason she's gonna have sex with you is you make her feel sexy. I like the Dr. Doris. We feel connected. Okay, another reason she's going to have sex with you is you make her feel sexy. That's huge, huge, huge. I don't know why I got a minus. You're all theory that like if I come up in a woman too much, she's not, she's going to think she's got me. And then they take advantage.

No, it is not bullshit. Honey, it is such bullshit. I can't tell you. If you are a confident man, and I am a confident man, but I'm just saying I don't want to be taken advantage of it. Honey, I'm not going to be taken advantage of it. That will happen. That's like old.

You got to like release that. Like you are. It's not my own experience. It's it's every guy that I know. You're like an evolved. Okay, you're a man. I don't know if you're evolved, but you're an a man. I just think that telling a woman that she's sexy and listen to this.

I'm saying that never. I'm not. I see you're twisting it. I never said never compliment a woman, but excessively compliment them. They're just gonna just 10 times a day. It's not going to be as special if special if you do it once in a while. That's what I'm saying. You need to do it more than once in a while.

There's 10 times a day, which I think is great, or once in a while. Listen to the thing she says about herself. Watch the way she reacts when you touch her, certain areas. This clues you into the body parts that she's insecure about, and lets you know where to tread lightly.

You may give her a compliment, she can turn around to her negative. If she's self conscious about her butt, for example, and you say you have a great round butt, she hears fat, not great. You know what I mean? Yeah. You're like, my ass is round, it's fat. So when it comes to her sensitive spots, it's sick to universal compliments. Your butt looks great in those jeans. Yeah.

Make her feel sexy. Tell her she turns you on. Tell her that you love the little, like you notice her eyes, how her eyes sparkle. Really? What pair of jeans does your butt look best in? I don't know, I'm having that issue lately. Really?

Yeah, it's funny, she'd ask, because I have many, many pairs of jeans and I have no friggin idea. And I kind of want a guy friend to come over and have him tell me which jeans I should get rid of them which ones I shouldn't because I don't know. Okay. Okay. Just telling you. All right. Because yeah. All right. Another reason she might have sex with is she's in a romantic setting. Whisk her off to an exotic location and you're sure to score. It's less about the destination and more about the shared

intimacy of otherness or being outsiders of being outsiders is at the move. Why can I be wixed? Sorry. Long day everybody. Why can I be taking off to a... You can be wixed away, you can. Yeah. With these strong independent women that you love. I'd love them. When will I be wixed? You should be wixed away. You got to stay at the right women. That the whiskey way. I'm not sure what kind of... You're noted? Wist you should be whisked away. You got to stay the right women. That the whiskey way. I'm not sure what kind of you're not dating now, but you should. They want me to do it. I'd love to whisk. I'd love to be like the breadwinner and the whisker.

The whisker. The whisker away. I would. I can't wait till I'm at that point. I don't want to rely on a man to do that. It's nice when he does it. But I want to do it myself. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's I think it's good. Okay, how are we doing here? We're done. We're done. We're done.

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Seriously, they're good guys. I'm sure they're amazing. They're amazing. You'll love it. Good, take me on. I went in there just real quickly. I went in there with Gadsick Meditation retreat. I got my clitoris massage stroked by random men.

By random men that I never met and they're going to be on the show tomorrow. So tune in and it's free Friday. And another thing we're at the Stitcher Studios, you can listen to the Sex of Only Show on your smartphone, your droid, your iPhone. Any smartphone that is able to download an app, you stream the show, you just download it right there. It will tell you one that new show is available

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