Sex With Emily - Episode 331 - Rough Sex... and Rougher Sex!

Episode Date: November 9, 2011

Emily has a blind date and divulges about what she really does at night. Menace plans his dream wedding and Emily talks shotgun weddings. Also, extreme manscaping and etiquette for rough sex, including but not limited to spanking, wrist holding, hair pulling, and biting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our secret institutions Betrubized they call them in a bygone way hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, though? What do you mean, like laundry?

It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

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So it's super fun and yeah, today's Tuesday. What's up? I'm like higher right now. What is it? Did you just paint your nails or something? It smells like nail polish. No, no nail polish. It just smells like nail polish. I thought you'd like put some nail polish. No, do I have no, I need to get my nails done tonight, but I'm going to, but no, I didn't do that. Oh really, what kind of, what kind of things are you gonna do to your nails? I'm going to just gonna get like a color. I never do, no, no, that's not me.

I'm not gonna get fake nails with white tips at all. But no, that's, but I am gonna do that tonight. I've just got lots of running around in Aaron's. Super fun stuff going on. I'm moving offices to a bigger office with sunlight. So upstairs, so to be great. Really? Yeah, I'm excited about that.

Cause my interns, we need a little sunshine. It's kind of can get to, my office is very cute, but we're moving upstairs. It's very quaint. We're moving on up. It's very quaint, so let's put it that way. It's cozy. It's cozy, cozy, cozy. So yeah, and if you very quaint. Let's put it that way. It's cozy.

It's cozy, cozy, cozy. So yeah, and if you ever want to get in touch with us and leave us a message, you can do it at 415-9927-392. How are you doing today, Menace? I'm good. I'm very stressed a lot of stuff going on with work, like constantly. Right? It's endless.

Yeah, we... Just like we're on the planet to be harassed by our work. I know. I mean on top of being on the radio We're throwing like three separate concerts dealing with three The dealing with about 20 different artists and bands and stuff like that personalities egos out of control. I know you didn't charge of getting everyone together Well, just like getting the information out and it it's just like, you have to get it out perfectly because before you give it to the public, and then there's one little thing wrong

that the public goes crazy. So, I mean, I'm losing my mind. And then, all I wanna do is go to Vegas. I know. I know, I know it's you going soon, or you were gonna go. Yeah, I'm going to Vegas for Thanksgiving. Oh, that's right.

That's like the typical Vegas place. Yeah, it is. A typical Thanksgiving place is going to right. That's like the typical Vegas place. Yeah, it is. A typical Thanksgiving place is going to Vegas. That's hilarious with some check that you may or may not have sex with. Yeah, true. I'm sure you will. Maybe. What? Maybe. What else? Does it matter? Are you driving or flying? Flying. Flying. Good. Virgin America, baby. My favorite. I love Virgin America. They're not my sponsor. I just love them. I love them too. I want to take them everywhere I go. I really, really do. So today's show, we're going to be at what? Not to do any plugs because they're not our sponsor, but check this out.

My friend is part of this new company. It is so badass. It's called you go to cherry.com, right? Charity? Cherry. Cherry, like a pop your cherry. Yeah, pop your cherry, right? And they're cherry on Twitter or whatever.

It's a new car service. They just come to wherever your car is and wash your car. Oh my God, it's perfect because you don't have to go anywhere. I love that. Yeah, how sick is that? That's so sick. Because it's San Francisco getting your car wash as like takes half hour, it's expensive.

It's a nightmare. It is. I just said it yesterday as a matter of fact, because I have a dog that has totally devoured my health car. Oh, I should have told me. I could have got you. I didn't know. I would love to know. I just said it yesterday, but we'll have to do that another time.

They'll have to do it, Cherry. They'll be like me doing a manly thing, but I actually don't have to do it. No, you can just order it up for me. Yeah. Today's show is one of your favorite topics I think, menace. We're talking about rough sex, hair pulling, spanking,

biting, like what, raw, a little bit of rough sex. The stats, chains. Yeah, exactly, bats, chains. Hacksaws. Whatever, whatever, biting, like what, raw, little bit of roughsets. That's chains. Yeah, exactly, bads, chains. Hacksaws. Whatever, whatever, whatever, whatever, flutcher about whatever change of mind, we're gonna be talking about some of the later ruffs, sex, moves, we'll also be reading your emails

and we've also got some sex in the news. Good, anything else going on in your life other than hectic things and. Hectic things, anything exciting. I mean, I know that I have a blind date on Sunday night. I know nothing about him. Okay. And I don't know where we're going yet.

I don't know what's happening, but my friends are setting it up for me, like a truly blind date. So that'll be fun. I'm looking forward to that. Because I've got a date and so long. Now, who's setting up your friends? Yeah.

So your friends. One friend knows this guy and another friend can curve that I would like him. So now there's like all this build up around the guy. And so I'm excited. I love dating. I think dating is fun. Like bring me a new guy.

I don't even care if we get along, whatever happens. It's just like good experience. I don't know what you're doing, no worry going on. I probably dinner, I'm assuming. You know me, somewhere that takes reservations. Yeah, what about if he takes you somewhere that doesn't take reservations? Like, oh, I know this cool little-

Like long-drawn silver or something? No, I know this is like a little cool, you know, diner or something. That's fine. I'm not dead yet. I know it's fine. It is fine. Don't say it's not fine. I totally don't care about that stuff. So then I got that and I've got- what else do I have going on? I'm gonna- nothing really. Just work. Exciting, how about you? Other than all the crazy stuff in my life, I have just been enjoying, I know this is so nerdy. This enjoying technology.

Oh, like lately, there's a lot of cool things coming out. Like what? I'm obsessed with this new thing, it's called 360 video where you can actually capture. I'll put a camera in the middle of you and me right and I'll capture video and I hit play. And I while the video is playing the video could be on you but then I can just move the cursor and the the can the video itself the video file will move around and face me. itself, the video file will move around and face me. Oh, that's so cool. It's insane. Wow, you just turned the actual camera.

You just turned the little device. No, you turned the actual video. Oh. Like, let's say you're watching YouTube, right? And you're like, oh, I want to turn around and see what the camera man looks like. You can take your cursor and move it. I know it's a weird concept.

That's so cool. I know it's hard to grow up for some people, because it's only been out for like a couple of weeks. I'm like obsessed with it See that's what I love about you is that what you do for living a social media and all the stuff But you really do love it and you're passionate about it. Yeah, it's fun Just like me was sex except for I have been having that much lately, but I'm passionate about it What about this blind date? I don't know I could bone him on the first day

But I actually had a call from a friend last night who was really distressed She lives in Chicago and she was like, you know, I sub with this guy in the first date and she felt really bad about it. Like it was a bad thing. And I just told her, it's not that big of a deal. I don't think that you should necessarily. She was I know he wasn't going anywhere. I knew it wasn't going to be anything, but I still slept with him and I felt bad. And I was like, you know what? What? No, no, is she originally from Chicago? No, no, she's actually just visiting there. She lives in New York. But she was like living there for work for six weeks and she met a guy and she's like,

I know it's not going anywhere. I don't live in Chicago, but I suck at them anyway. And she was beating herself up and I was like, a lot of people see together on the first date. But if you know it wasn't going anywhere, that's fine. But if it was a guy that you really liked,

I just think it behooves people to wait. Yeah, it's weird because the Chicago, the reason I asked if she was originally from Chicago because the Chicago women, I know, you have to take them out a couple of times. Yeah,. Yeah. Yeah, and you love the women Chicago. They love to be courted Right, they do they do they're good. They can take me well if I was still lived in Michigan I know before you got all whacked out before I got exactly him so wacky I can't wait you know I'm excited to well

You're gonna be my brother. He's coming town. I don't think you've ever met him before no, I haven't I can't wait to talk with him. I know he's awesome. You're gonna be my brother, he's coming in town. I don't think you've ever met him before. No, I haven't. I can't wait to talk with him. I know, he's awesome. You're gonna love him, so. It's gonna be amazing. I know we should have him on the show actually. It is gonna be amazing. Where is he?

Is he here now? No, he's coming tomorrow. Yes. This is gonna be awesome. It's gonna be awesome. I'm excited for that, and he's great. He's coming out of his family to see a sister. So it's good.

Okay, we could get into some sex in the news. All right. What do you got? Do you have any sex in the news to add anything about Zoe? No, but I did actually I just recorded a radio commercial that's playing right now that all my friends are making fun of me about. Okay. It's weird that it seems like we're plugging a bunch of things right now. Yeah. As long as we tell you we're not plugging, we're not. Yeah, so I, well, I am sponsored by this new thing called Broku. It's a video streaming device that you hook up to your TV and you can just watch stuff on a man like your Hulu Plus.

Okay. So Zoey Dishonel has a new television show called The New Girl, right? And then so I start off the commercial and I say, I don't know if you guys heard this, but Zoey Dishonel has just be newly become single and she also has a new television show called The New Girl. So when I wanna keep up on my lady, I just pop on her Roku. And it's like,

yes, it's whole commercial about how I love Zoe Dishonel. You gotta send it to her. Yeah, oh, she doesn't care. Dude, you know how many guys are trying to probably get as Zoe Dishonel right now? No. And if I'm not the good time, anyways, because she just broke care. Dude, you know how many guys are trying to probably get as always just now right now? And if I'm not the good time, anyways, because she just broke, just gotta, you know, by the doors.

I don't know if she's the type of girl that's on to the next one. You know what that means? On to the next, on to the next, yeah, I get it. On to the next one means, after you meet Lee break up. Yeah, you go to the next person. I can't what it means. I used to be that girl.

I used to break up with one guy in that that night I'd be dating guy for two years and that night I would break up with him go out with my friends and meet the new guy and date him for two years Like I literally I hate your type. I know but I know it's that's that's not my type anymore That used to be my type. I was I couldn't stop. I would be date guys and and then I would try to delay the commitment And they kept wanting to commit and then I did and then I was regretted it And I'm like I just need to be commit and then I did, and then I was regretted it, and I'm like, I just need to be alone, and then I did that, and then I was alone for a long time,

like now, without man. Can I break down a profile of a certain girl for you? Oh God. This is one of the girls that I absolutely hate, okay? So they'll be like you, they'll be dating a guy for like a couple of years, and merely break up with them First thing it is first thing they do is go on their social networks Facebook whatever right immediate

Announce it to the world. Okay. I'm so single blah blah. I'm about to go party it up And they do that and then all the girlfriends that they haven't been talking to you in a couple years Because they've been off with their man. Right they call them. They call them, I'm like, girl, we need to go out. I have those friends. Right, so then they go out. They're all dressed super slutty. And then by the end of the night, they're so drunk and the girl just starts crying.

And she's the girl that's outside the club with her heels off and her purse is on the ground. And she's trying to go through her purse and find her keys and she's just crying go through her purse and find her keys and she's just crying her eyes out because she misses her man. I hate you, I hate you, I hate you. We've all been those kind of girls at some point, but you hang out at too many night clubs. You were like the worst girl in the club. Now I've never actually cried over guy at the end of the night drunk, but I've seen those girls, but I feel like you're typical. The women that you

often describe, whether it's the women that you sleep with or the women that you know, are very different than the women I'm friends with. Because I know those girls at the bars late night with their shoes off and losing their keys, but I've never been that girl. But you hang out in weird crowds. I know. I don't hang out in the general public. I don't know.

You've got a nightclubs. I don't know. I work related. I don't like, I'm not out a nightclubs. I don't know if it's work related. I don't like, I'm not out at nightclubs cruising for chicks. I know, I'm just saying you're not gonna say, but I get that type. I get that type that's like,

oh, crying about her guy because she got you drunk and can't find her keys or her wallet. Yeah. And you know what I was actually thinking about you yesterday? In bed? In bed, as I was masturbating.

Okay. No, I was thinking about you and you know And you know how you got this television set and you got cable and all that stuff. And then you say you you never watch TV. I just can't figure out what you do. I mean, you say, okay, like all right, you do you do work all day in the office and you do the show, right? Then after Where what happens in between That time and bedtime like I go home and I work more I do sex tips every weekend serious satellite

I have to record those there's like endless. There's like and there's no food in your house So you must leave I do I go to whole foods, which is right on the corner Uh-huh, and then I come back home and then then I usually am online, like doing stuff that I didn't get to during the day. And then I just don't think to watch TV because it's not in my consciousness of who I am. I've never watched TV. But I did watch the real housewives of New Jersey. Oh, I love them. Do you? Yeah. Uh, I thought them. Do you? Yeah.

I thought that they were interesting, but they all have bodyguards and we're going to kill each other. So that was kind of weird. How is it weird? I don't know. I didn't know I'd be able to do that. It's amazing. It's amazing.

I've never seen it. So yeah, so I've been watching some stuff. I've watched two shows. I think I've already mentioned that I watched that. So no, you're right. I don't know what I do. I work, I clean, I organize, when I'm feeling stressed, I organize my apartment.

Like I organize, make sure, because I have such a small, like it's a big apartment, but there's not a lot of space. It's kind of a weirdly space, so I'm always obsessively trying to figure out ways to, but I'm not watching TV. I'm like, I don't know what I do. I will watch more TV though. You're just curious what I do with my life. I have no idea. I have no idea.

There's a lot going on right now. Let's just say that. OK. Building a brand, you know. OK, sex in the news. Stiffies drink removed for linking alcohol with sexual success. A drink called Stiffies will be taken off the shelves

after a complaint was upheld that it linked alcohol with sexual success. Apparently, the name alludes to sexual success. The 20% proof Stiffy's jaffa cake and Kula kaboos drinks will be removed from the shelves after the decision. The panel found that while the company might have deliberately set out to link the product's success to sexuality, the brand name alluded to sexual success

and accordingly found the product in breach of the responsibility code. And Stiffy's shots maintain that the name had been chosen because Stiffy was the nickname of the person involved with the development of the responsibility code. And Stiffy Shots maintained that the name had been chosen because Stiffy was the nickname of the person involved with the development of the drink. And now they changed their name to Stiffy's. That's dumb. What do you think?

Do you think Stiffy's was really the, why? It gives you a Stiffy. No, but I mean, I don't see why they didn't take the angle of, oh, that's a stiff drink, because that's a common term, you know? Yeah, that's a good point. They're definitely common term, you know? Yeah, that's a good point. And they're definitely doing that as a joke, stiffies. Yeah.

But they're, I should have been on there. I should have been their lawyer. I know. Totally. So anyway, you can't have a stiffies drink. You can have a stibi. Okay, Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are having the most boring love affair ever. Really?

Blake Lively and Marvah, Lovevills are having a bland boring love affair ever. Really? Blake Lavier, Marvah, Lovevils are having a blandest love affair. This weekend they stayed home and walked their dogs. The week before they stayed home and walked their dogs. Before that they stayed home and walked their dogs. And before that they sat next to each other on a train. Considering that Leo took Blake on whirlwind tours of Italy and to Monte Carlo Yacht parties, Ryan should maybe step it up.

Unless of course they're having kinky hermit sex in that apartment, in which case a dishy quota tube from the maid will do. So what they're walking their dogs? Let them do what they want. That sounds cute. That means they're bonding. They're not like, they don't need like all this external stimulation, all the flash and dash of an early relationship to,

you know, so they're walking their dogs. That's cute. They're, they're, they're, they're, they're, um, domesticating. Yeah, they don't need to go to they don't need a jet set to places. No, or get take go somewhere with reservations. These people need to shut the hell up whoever reported this stuff. Okay. Women claiming to have Justin Bieber's baby already tried the same same stunt on her ex. stame stame stunt on her ex mm-hmm mariah yeater the young woman who claims her son is the product of her statutory rape of a virgin Justin Bieber apparently already accused her ex-boyfriend

of father in the kid have you heard the story yet yeah she came back here from California telling me she was pregnant with my child and I said this is impossible you've been in California for two months and back here for only a week he tells the New York Post he also says that yeater threw a brick through the windows of his hand and slapped him so she may have some anger management issues none of this obviously means her thirty second backstage bathroom dalliance with beware didn't happen but doesn't really shortcase

so she's blaming all the guys she slept with in that window of time saying that well she's a crazy anyway so there's gonna be some kind of crazy thing and these are the chicks that you're friends with. I bet you know this girl. Yeah, probably. Yeah, they, if you look into anybody's past relationship history, you're gonna find something crazy.

They're gonna try to say, like discredit this chick, immediately. Right, you know? And how could she? How is it not possible if she was gone for two months to be not be two months pregnant? I don't know. I don't get it. You see? Right. I'm saying I'm not saying this is true. I just like I Pretty much think it's 98% not true

But all this stuff is still there might be some that's kernels of truth, right? You don't never know. I always say, I had a friend who said that everything that you read is gossip. There's always a kernel of truth in it, he believes. There's always something in there that's true. It's never like, like all the celebrities are always like, that's totally false, that's untrue.

None of that happened, but my friend maintains it. Even if it's in like the inquire, there's a kernel, a little tiny minutia of truth. There's a tidbit tidbit what do you think uh... just disagree if it's kim cardation already regretting her divorce she's apparently conflicted about her divorce from chris humpfries and

flutamin a apple is to see him in top face to face tmd cautions that it's definitely not accurate to call this a reconciliation but that the doors definitely not shot yeah her this so they got a fight and she'd like files for divorce like why not get a fight that it's definitely not accurate to call this a reconciliation but that the door is definitely not shut. Yeah, I heard this. So they got a fight and she like foused for divorce. Like why not get in a fight and then have the talk and then file for divorce if you can't reconcile. But why did she do you think she just did that to prove a point?

She's like, I'm gonna play the divorce card. Like, who does that after two months, Mary? Oh no, I made their word in the right mind. They had a huge fight and then yeah, she freaked out. And will they reconcile? I don't know. They're going to look pretty stupid if they do. But then they already look pretty stupid if they got divorced after two months.

Yeah, that's true. I mean, I guess I would hope they could get back together. But I don't know. Yeah, I mean, if you went through all that 10 million dollar wedding 10 million dollar wedding You're on television like showing your love And then they actually there's a whole another season that hasn't even aired yet. We're there together In New York City. Oh really? Yeah, I didn't even over these 72 days. They were married. Yeah. It's Courtney and Kim take New York Okay, and this or Courtney and Chris or or chris and cam huh yeah chris sorry

it's confusing with all the kids yeah so they they have an entire season that hasn't even air yet so what if they're still divorced right now they're gonna show this whole season of them i know together that's crazy that is crazy um... but i do think this sends a good message to america about how easy it is to get to know that like you should have this lavish wedding and then like get divorced like that I think I think the message that is good I think it glamorizes marriage as being this like thing like I want this fairy tell wedding

like Kim Kardashian well this should tell everyone a story that that you know you shouldn't rush into things they were only together for a few months you shouldn't you know just kind of steamroll over the whole relationship and just plan a wedding. They probably could have been working on some of these issues instead of planning the wedding for the same amount of time they knew each other. Just don't rush into weddings, people. Wait till you're 30 to get married at least and know the person for at least a year or two.

I would love to have a huge wedding if I could afford it. Big lavish research. Or you should have married chick whose parents could afford it. Yeah big lavish. Oh you said Mary check whose parents can afford it Yeah, it's not the way the woman pays for it, but yeah, I don't know so changing these things is always on the man now Socks yeah, I mean it depends on you Mary, but usually the parents. I don't know I want to find you know me I want to find something that's traditional so hopefully traditional how please please pick up the tab you want her traditional what do you mean traditionally you know they do pick up you want the traditional one right I thought you meant you want like a traditional downhound girl yeah I just want her traditional for the marriage well no I want I do want a traditional girl too but um which I think it was gonna be funny is my reception because

it's gonna be so eclectic, so crazy. It's gonna be hilarious. Yeah, I can't wait. I'm just afraid because my, you know, my family never has really met like too many in my friends and has never even met anybody that I've dated. Ever since I was a kid? Yeah, so when they show up to my wedding on my wedding reception

and they see all the different types of people that I'm friends with. It's gonna tell a lot about you. It's gonna be crazy. That's I think that's cool. I think that's a great way. Like I love when my mom comes out and I have parties. I'm like, these are my friends.

Like, you know, it says, it says a lot about who you are. And I'm gonna make a really funny speech here wedding. Oh, hell no. I'm already planning it. I can't wait. I'll be briefing your new bride about you sexually. I'll be like, this is what menace should try. This is what you do. You're gonna ruin my wedding before you even happen.

No, I'm not gonna ruin it. Okay, let's get into some emails. Okay, what do you got? Okay, this is what I've got for you. Topics include achieving orgasm, increase libido, loss of sexual identity, and friends with benefits. Hi, Emily. You are my last hope. I can't watch your show because it's not available in my country So please help me. I'm 18 and I can't have an orgasm My boyfriend is freaking out and I feel like I disappoint him I have your kegel camp app and I'm going to stick to it. I hope it works. Can you suggest anything else? I'm desperate

Hazal kaya from Istanbul. It's symbol The video I can't watch the video She she she because she can't she says her video on the screen. No, it's a she. She? Sorry. Because she says her boyfriend's freaking out. Oh, okay. I would say, well, Kegel camp is a great way.

Once you start, there was a technical problem, I started switching to that mode, so I apologize. I said there was a technical problem. No, yeah, well, she says something about the video. Oh, she can't watch it. Or, I say, I say, I say, you were trying to figure out. Yeah. But I would say, as all of you can't have,, first of all, Kaggle, I have an app. It's an iTunes store called Kaggle Camp and you can get it for your iPhone.

And it helps women have longer, stronger orgasms. I think you should definitely try the app, so thanks for getting the app. But also, I want to know, a lot of times when people can't have orgasms with their partners, it's because they haven't explored their bodies themselves. So I'm wondering, Hazal, have you masturbated? Do you know how to have you orgasm alone? Can you show your partner how you orgasm with your fingers or with a sex toy? You need to be able to do those things that you do when you're alone with your partner,

so you can show them what you need to happen. So I'm wondering, I'm sorry, the boyfriend's freaking out. And you feel like you're disappointing them because it is not the man's, you know, I hope he doesn't freak out on you. It's really tough for women. And we don't appreciate one guy's like, when are you going to come? When are you going to come? You didn't come that sucks. I feel so bad. I mean, because that's all about them.

It's not even about you. It's that he felt like less of a less of a man because you didn't orgasm. So I say, like, that is not cool to frame to make you feel bad. And I just think you need to chill and relax and know that only 30% of women have have orgasms during intercourse anyway, and That you'll get there sweetheart I promise you'll get there and I would say with masturbation and my app you will be fine and Just don't let him pressure you or dump him. I just noticed that I think they put a new tower in this area and

I have the app that I was trying to see if I can play some. Here we go. Tense and hold and relax. Just follow along with the app. Tense. Relax. That's me with my app. I do narrate it.

I just search K- Camp in the I've I I choose store. Yeah, you can download it and it's a awesome. It's awesome. So yeah, there you go There you go, Kagle Camp everyone download it Also, we had some questions actually video questions from the audience which I will need to remind can we make a notice? People want to see if we can switch the video soon to HTML5. Oh, and you know what HTML5 is? No. Well, there's this whole thing with Apple products and Flash and Adobe.

It's a huge long story, but you can't watch video on the iPad or on Oh, you can't watch Flash, right? Yeah, so people are asking, is there any possible way to switch it to HTML5? So if we can email our people. Yes, yes, we'll write that down and we will, because we're having a call with them tomorrow. Okay, good.

And then we have to readjust the video settings here too. Fine, you know, everyone, you can watch this show. You can just just mark to do this, because I don't have enough going on. Okay, dear Emily, love the show, been married 20 years and between life and kids, the relationship has taken a back seat.

Has spoken with wife about working on sexual side of things, she's 51 on 46. What type of things would you suggest to raise your interest in improving our sex life? I've made sure to look after your needs to relieve household pressure,

honor, and suggested books and articles to help overcome become more open. Thanks, Tracy. He's a friends with benefits, a premium member from North Battleford, California. Do you know where that is? I've never even heard of that. I mean, you know, so okay, here's the deal. There are some things that you could try out with her.

I'm not sure if she just has low libido right now, if she's stressed. At first of all, I want to say kudos to you for helping relieve household pressure and stuff like that, because that is a lot of times women resent their partners because they're not helping out around the house as much and they feel like stressed or overworked. And so I think it's great they're helping her in that way. I'm wondering if you've ever tried sex toys before.

Sex toys are a great thing you could go online. You could go to adameneave.com. and you can get any item at 50% off. Use coupon code Emily at checkout. That is a great thing to do. And pick out like a packer racket or a cop ring. That's great for you, great for her. So I think toys are a great thing that can help. Also, I would say my book, Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try tonight, is it really, and I'm not the sentence because I wrote it, but it is a book you can get on Amazon, you can buy it at bookstores. There are 200 things you can try tonight,

and they're all easy to do, little tiny things like dressing up, or trying different positions that are not hard to do. You could try doing different things in the bedroom, like mixing it up with different positions, or you could set a romantic night for her, and all this stuff might seem cliché to you, but women need to be romance.

It's like you've been together a long time, 20 years. And it sounds like you had the passion, you had the romance before. And to spice it up, you're gonna have to do things like the quintessential like make a romantic night, take away for an evening. Maybe you have friends with kids and you can, you can, you know, friends,

I don't know if you have kids actually, but you have, you know, a friend's of a vacationation home you can go away to for a week if you can't afford to go to a hotel for a weekend or something. So I think you have to get out of your rots, you have to get out of your routine and shake things up. So yeah, I would say sex toys are my book. And the book honestly is amazing with all the drawings. I know it's easy to follow.

Just the visual for the guys perspective because we don't like to read all of this. Yeah, you don't have to read it, you can watch it. Yeah, I mean, the illustrations are quite amazing in the book. So you can just flip through the illustration, see the ones that you really like, and then you can read up on them. Yeah, exactly. It is like, I feel like it's the new joy of sex, my book. I have to say, so you should get that.

It's really good. I think it's really good too. Okay, so that's what we got to say about that. And then we should, what? Why are you laughing at me? One of my buddies is in New Orleans right now. And he actually does all these like awesome sex illustrations, like in a comic form. Okay.

And I was like, I was sexy in it right now. Hey, what's your website? So I can tell people about your drawings? They're really cool and funny. And he, first he texted me and he goes, well, tell them first that I've shaved my whole body and he's not joking and then all the way down to my butthole. Oh, I guess this is his new sexual thing. He's really into porn and something like that, but he's a leasinger of a, like a big band. Okay. Science, shaved his bottle. Yeah, I don't know why. TMI.

Yeah, but what would if, actually, it's weird that he says that because I actually know other guys that the shave their whole body. Right. How would you feel about that if you got gassed? That's a really good question. That's all about like man scaping and stuff like that. Yeah, but this is like a stream man scabing

where there's like something that they want to be doing. I don't think that's a prickly all over when it starts going back in five minutes I don't want a guy you spending more time shaving than I am yeah, yeah, I'm not wouldn't be that into it But why is it why why why is he doing it? I'll ask him why? Yeah, like I want to know why you shaving his entire body, but there are guys It's funny because when I was in New York there was this guy I was trying to fix on my friend. I'm like isn't it cute as cute. She's like he shaves his chest like she could see through his shirt

There's like prickly chest hairs going back and she was kind of crossed out by it. I'm like, isn't he cute? Is he cute? She's like, he's shaved his chest. She could see through his shirt that there was like, prickly chest hairs going back and she was kind of grossed out by it. Yeah, it's very, it scratches. I mean, I have a shave. Yeah, so it's like that, but it's like all over your body. You'd be like, prickly things coming on your butt. Like when it starts to grow back, your butt hair.

Yeah. His name is, you can find it the right. Oh great, you can tell his name. Yeah, no, he's cool. He's totally cool. I'd love to have him on the show sometime, but he's on tour. His name's Eric Victorino. His his drawings are on the show before

Had was he yeah, he's hard at a magazine like years ago. What wasn't he on the show years ago? No, that was another Eric. Okay. Yeah, this is Eric Victor. I don't know. He's a singer for the limousines Okay, and he's on tour with the sounds right now, but he has these crazy drawings look it up on Etsy Eric Victorino And it's hilarious. I'll show you some you'll you'll die laughing. Well, I die. Yeah, okay You say so let's move into our show topic. Okay rough sex Rough sex so rough sex is like you know spanking hair tugging You don't like rough sex. Yeah, do I say, oh I like it slow. No, I like everything. I love rough sex.

I don't like it rough. I like it rough and I like it soft. I don't want the rabbit style. I just want- I don't want Jackhammer sex. No. Oh, she to make love to me. I'd never say that.

Dude, I've never said that. I've never said that. Go so slow that you'll not be- Eat, Rack, anymore. Ha ha ha ha. That's what you want, right? I did not say that. Go so slow that you'll not be erect anymore That's what you want And then you have to go to the bathroom later and masturbate that's the time for sex that you want right? That's what you say no, I've never said that my like I like rough sex. I love rough sex every once in a Yeah, how do you know do you you like rough sex? You never say, oh, I like it rough, ever.

I do too. I've met you. I've said I like rough sex. I want to be thrown against the wall and like, I like having my hair pulled. For like five seconds and then some guy has to like slow down. No, no. Take his time.

That is so not true. And me them to go down on me and take their time. For 45 minutes. For 45 minutes and take their time with it. Yeah, but once I said, oh, I want it rough. Well, because I'm, because you know why, I've had for so long and we played back the hundreds of thousands of hours of tape we have.

Yeah, you won't. You won't. All the only thing you'll say is, I want you to throw me against the wall. That's it. Okay, well, let's talk about why we like it rough. Okay, go for it. First of all, pain and pleasure are not that different

than they both relieve endorphins. So this is why a lot of people like the pain and the pleasure, like the pain, if they're getting spanked or getting your hair pulled, releases endorphins in your body. So that's why people get sexual pleasure from that. So experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does the spaking.

Endorphins are likely to release an experiencing pain in order soothe the mind. However, the pain during rough sex does not need to be intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for. So rough sex doesn't have to mean violence. You get to say for it if you want and you know, get to say for it that says like, you know, that's like, it can be anything benign, it can be like banana or something. You can just be like, banana, stop. But if you're going to engage in some rough sex activities. Um, yeah. If you say that you, that you like rough sex, then what do you like? I particularly like, I like, I like to be, I like spanking. I like spanking. You like spanking.

Spanking on my ass, that feels good. A little spanking. A little spanking, feels good. I like, I don't mind getting my hair pulled. Hair pulling. Hair pulling? You don't mind to be like, uh, held down. I don't mind.

I, that'd be hot. Tied up. I would love to be tied up. No one ties me up. Really? No one. Love being tied up. I've been tied up before, but no one ties me up really no one love being tied up I've been tied up before but no one has in a really long time No one says like let me tie you up and just ravage you love it. Oh, I had this one girl

She really wanted me to hold on to her her wrist and I felt like I was gonna break her hands Right that is something wrist hold yeah, that's a whole topic a whole topic another way to make a sex Rafa's to hold down their wrist so your partner can't move their arms. This way they will be momentarily denied the pleasure of touching you and feel like they are being dominated. She wanted to be dominated by you. This move is best done when you hold them against the wall. And I dominated the hell out of it.

Did you? Did you like it? Yeah, it was cool. Did you think it was hot? I thought it was hot, but I was afraid that I was doing it too hard. Did you say hold my wrists? Yeah. And then she would say like harder.

I'm like, dude, can you even feel your wrists anymore? Yeah. Because the turns are on. I mean, she's comfortable. You can hold her wrists above her head with one arm and use the other end to place your fingers inside of her while you kiss her intensely. You could take both her hands and hold her above her head and then finger. That'd be hot.

Or, and then finger. Finger. You put That'd be hot. Or and then finger finger. You put it in a pretzel formation. Sure. Whatever. Um, biting can also be fun. Biting is another form of rough sex. I think biting is hot nibbling your partner's lips while kissing is a good way to start. And then eventually start nibbling on different parts of the body.

And then full on biting. Yeah. Shoulder hips, our thighs, but you can nibble on all different parts of the body. You can't take a chunk out of them though. Don't take a chunk. Don't like use your don't don't break. No, but it's like don't break skin. Uh, biting with more intense than you don't want to break the skin. But like, I think like a little nibbles on I like,

but I like all these things. Why don't you ever say that? I don't ask for them. You don't ask for them. Because I, I don't know. I have really good sex. I just don't ask for them. You don't ask for them. Because I, I don't know, I have really good sex. I just don't, I guess, I have never asked for it because I never think about it. I don't prioritize it. I'm gonna part, next time with, I'm gonna be like, I want you to bite me

and spank me at the same time and on my hair. And talk dirty to me. And I love talk dirty, talking dirty, so hot. What kind of words can they call you? Anything, bitch, whore, whatever. Really? Yeah, sweet. That's classy of you.

Thanks. I totally found that. OK, so spanking. People are saying spanking, like they think, first of all, you have to be careful by that you don't spank any of the bones in your back, or where you're bony. Like you just spank on the flush you part of the butt. And started by touching and massaging your butt,

your partner's butt in a playful manner and then you like lightly slap it. So if you're this is the butt, it's like from the bottom up like that. Instead of like that hitting down so you're hitting the back, it's from the fleshy part up. That's how you spank someone.

And then you gradually go faster. It's harder, yeah. Yeah, do you like butts have It's harder. Yeah. Yeah. Do you like butts have your slap someone's butt? You just said butt sex. Do you like butt slapping? Do I like butt sex? I know you don't like butt sex.

I'm assuming you're talking about butt sex. I'm like keep on, I need to catch myself. I need to put a piece of paper, I hate saying um, so I'm too much on the show. I do like butt slapping. It's, you know, it's- You like slapping someone's butt, but you like a butt slap. I don't want to be dominated. I don't need to be tied up in chains or anything like that. But if my partner wants that done, then totally I'll do that for that. You will? Would you be turned on or would you get a limp?

I would be turned on. You'd be, when that turn you on? Yeah, sorry. Because you're always saying that all this four-play stuff is going to make your penis limp. Because it takes two hours to get it. I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm going to be, I'm I would be turned on you be when that turn you want to say that all this four-place stuff is gonna is gonna make your penis limp Because it takes too long. Yeah, which I think is lame because you should be turned on by sapping your butt holding your wrist And also too if you know you take too long with all the teasing then I'm not gonna last that long

Because I'm so excited Once I actually start having sex then I'm like a last at long right I don't want to be known as the the one-minute man right you not by this time you would already be known I know if that was your your monocard yeah no I'm just the one-minute man yeah I'm trying not to be known as that guy so that's why you know just get into it but no, I gotta take your time. So I like rap sex. Okay, so here talking that's another thing.

Yeah, if you're doing a doggy style, let me pull on her hair so her chin tilts back a little bit. That's hot. She'll get a glance of you doing her from behind and get super turned on. I once took out this girl's entire weave. Oh, you didn't know she'd weave. You're kidding, right? Yeah.

Okay. That's like from a movie or something, right? No. Okay. I pulled her whole wig off. When she is on top, place your hands at the back of her head. Pull her head back by the roots of her hair, so she's forced to lean back. Yeah.

Like when she's on top, pull her hair. I pulled her hair so hard that her mustache hair came off. Shut up. Have you ever pulled the girls hair before? Yeah, of course. What do you mean, of course? Nothing's of course with you. Of course, I've pulled the girls hair.

I don't think so. They're gonna touch your hair. What is that? Guys do that, yeah. Not enough, guys don't do that enough. They don't? No, I'm glad we're having this chat because you thought I want everything soft, slow,

and sensual. And I don't. I want some rough sex. I want it now. You want to get your hair pulled? I got to go. Yeah, when my hair pulled on my ass slapped, I want spanking and I'm fighting.

This is news to me. I want my wrist held down. I like it all. I don't believe it. I do an increment. It's not every day do I want my wrist held. But sometimes I'd like a guy just to be like, ah, hold my wrist.

Ah. Ah. Hot. Hot. Okay. So next there's really, really rough sex. So that would just like the rough sex stuff like wrist hold. It's really rough sex. Yeah, that would be handcuffs. Okay.

So- The wish is not gonna handcuffs would not be put on me. Right. Because she's gonna steal you. There's gonna be a fire earthquake. She's gonna rob me. Hell no, am I gonna be put? And my handcuffs, they hurt, man. You know what I like?

I've talked about this before, but Bondage Tape is great for handcuffs. Love Bondage Tape. Bondage Tape, you can get it out of my mouth. It's friggin' awesome. It's reusable, it sticks to each other, and it's easier than handcuffs, but you can easily bond someone, find someone. It's really cool. Okay, how and it's really, it's easier than handcuffs, but you can easily bondage bond someone find someone

It's really cool. Okay. How does it like like what ways you want to get tied up. Well ways don't want to get tied up Yeah I would like to get tied up like my hands back or behind my head Mm-hmm and then even my feet could be tied up spread apart. Okay. I don't know like that To a bed or just to yourself? To a bed, if you have a bed that didn't know it was a bed like that anymore. No, they don't.

They all have Ikea wooden beds. Exactly, that's what I had, but I just got a new bed. But tying down her arms and legs once she gives consent, you have to get consent. But yeah, I would like to be tied up, for sure. What about if I tie you up to a delorean? What do you think that was hot? Why a delorean? I don't know.

We didn't motion and then they dragged me. Yeah, no. You think that's hot? I would not think that was hot. If I picked you up in my delorean and I tied you up inside of it. Only if I was dressed like the hamburger. Yes. So now you're talking about stuff that's fun. That is fun. I've found a place where you can get a delorean in the Bay Area. Really? I don't want to be tied up to a car.

I want to be tied up to a bed or to a door. To a door. I don't know. You can tie me up to the door handle or something. I just made it up. I don't know. I do. I feel like one guy tied me up once and it was fun.

Can I just leave you there all day? Do you know that a lot of people who are into BDSM bondage and stuff they do do that? They leave each other all day long. People are into being the dominant. I mean, they will tie up, they're being dominated, or the dominant will tie their submissive partner up all day and not know when they're coming back. But that's people who are really into extreme BDSM. Bond is just a plain satan, satan, satan, massacism. I would still just take a nap until they come back. Or you just leave them in the room and go watch TV

and then go back and, yeah, yeah, yeah. That sounds so bad. So handcuffs choking. And then you would try to make the sound of it like, shut up bitch. Yeah. Because their answer to that kind of talk. You asked for a bitch.

Shut up, horror watching family guy Okay choking have you ever had anyone want to be choked? Yes, really I think it that's in right now What why do you think it's in with all the recent girls you bang they want to be choked? Why do you think it's in a lot of girls Just want to be choked for some reason like choked hard like yeah A lot of girls just want to be choked for some reason. Like choked hard? Yeah. Hard. If you really, okay, but if you only hold her neck rather than actually choker, it could provide the sensation of submission and control.

Please be careful and proceed with caution when it comes to a fixation. Yeah. Almost murder or check one time. No, you didn't. But why do you think it's trendy that women want more- Luckily I buried her in the Nevada desert, so it's fine. It's fine, no biggie. But why is she asked for it? Why do you think it's trendy? Like the last three girls you slept with wanted to be choked or why do

you think that's a trend? Yeah, I know a lot of girls just like it. I mean if you just try it and then you like gently put their hand on there then they like squeeze it. Oh. It's crazy. Todd. It's weird, man. No, they're not. Girls are great. Because it could it's like the same thing that that women a lot of women and a lot of men want to be dominated You want to be choked? Maybe hand on my neck would be hot, but I don't want to be choked hands full on You're scary when you do that because I feel like you want to choke me and now I don't think and then I then they shake you

They shake me to oblivion I don't know about choking. I don't think I've ever really been choked. I've been like had the hand on my neck like it's simulating choking which a lot of people want. A lot of people aren't into the full on choking but they want like the simulated choking. But I would be down. Cool. I'd be down for anything. I'd be down for trying anything. Down for trying anything, huh? Yeah. Well, let me get a list together, the things that you should try. Okay. I've said everything I want to try and that I've done. I've done a lot of things, but not everything and not as frequently as I like. It'll be the sequel to your book. I'll help you with it. Okay. Thanks, honey. Okay.

The last thing we've got to really rough sex is playing hard to get. This is a huge fantasy for women. So this is a huge fantasy for women. Basically, she pretends like she doesn't want to have sex and force yourself on her. It's like the rape fantasy. It's like the rape fantasy. It's like acting. This is acting and she's already consensited to this act beforehand. She tries really hard to push you off and keeps you from penetrating her and you try

your hardest to get inside This is where I say for it. It becomes Any different from everyday life. Why you you've been pushing you off them every day? Oh, I've been saying that's It's kind of like the right fantasy like you want your guide like force. I mean like no, no, no, and you're like yes Yes, yes, they say no, I'm gone man. I know, but some women might be playing hard to get So you're saying yes means no Not always no means yes Not always just sometimes in sex The stuff that you promote on the shows. I'm not promoting and I'm just saying this is what some people's want

Some of the people's out there really rough sex. So I hope everyone learned a little something about little rough sex today I'm sure they did yeah, and you seem to be up down with it too, which I didn't know that about you either. I assume that you're down with nothing. I'm down to to do whatever they want. I don't need all these things though, biting, wrist holding, handcuffs, choking, spanking, hair tugging, which one's the hottest here? Don't every one, all of them except for the handcuffs stuff. Okay,holding, biting, hair tugging, spanking. You like it all the same? Yeah, all in an equal level. You can leave spanking out there. That's whatever. That's what you want. Fine. That's what you want. It doesn't, you know,

a lot of women want this stuff. So I would say, and the key to really rough sex or rough sex or whatever, is that with all of these things, she might really want it. Like I'm saying, I would like more of it. And I, you know, I could probably really initiate it, whatever, but it'd be good for, and I have initiated stuff before, of course, in my life. But with all these things, you start slowly. So if she wants to be bitten, you start lightly nibbling on her lip, and if she's to her nipple,

or your nip or her lip. And if you get a positive response like any of the things if you like lightly tug her hair and she mones and you know okay and go a little harder so you always start slowly with every movement and then you you know go a little harder and harder harder harder harder harder harder more faster faster faster until they say no until they're safe word bananas okay so that's all we've got time for today yeah yeah it just flies by. I know, okay honey.

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