Sex With Emily - Episode 335 - Tips From A Sultry Vixen: Jessica Drake

Episode Date: November 15, 2011

Emily talks with vixen Jessica Drake about Wicked Sex, anal sex tips and butt plugs. Emily and Menace debate whether men are intimidated by successful women and if the notion ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ is true. Also, hand job fetishes, and special positions for giving fellatio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man up Best by sex eyes That mark our secret institutions Betrified they call them a lie Hey, Emily you got a boyfriend because my man he here. He just got his heart broken He thinks you're kind of cute the girls got a hair stand

Oh my the women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm off here. I'm so gone.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just playing with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information go to sexethemely.com where that where all your sex information lives there, live, every day. It is Monday, happy Monday. Hey, man, what's up? How you doing?

I'm great, how are you? Wow, I had some coconut water just before. I love coconut water. I'm obsessed. I want it. It's my favorite. I love coconut water. I can't give you anything to drink because

you're like, oh, can I get a sip? And then I'll see you a sip? And then it's like covered in lipstick. I don't want it back. Oh, I wiped it off last time. There were still like, yeah, I'm sorry, honey. Sorry about that. I'm sorry, menace. Oh my god. Today's show. I'm really excited. We have adult entertainment performer Jessica Drake. We're going to be her in a little bit. She did these adult and she's an adult performer and she also did these educational DVDs, as I'm showing the camera now. Jessica Drake's guide to wicked sex positions.

And she did these three DVDs, one was on anal sex, one is on phallacio and one is on wicked sex, but my interns took the anal sex in the Felatio one. They were missing from the office. Imagine that. So I couldn't, I can't show those to you on camera because they're home watching those DVDs right now in my interns. But we're going to be calling her. She's going to be talking all about being an adult star and educating people on Felatio anal sex and wicked sex. So that'll be really fun.

We are also going to be reading your emails that you tend to feedback at sexwithemily.com. Some topics include not enjoying sex. The great hand job debate and not having sex with your partner plus sex in the news and just plus of another bunch of other sexy stuff. Hey, man, what are you doing? I just realized that we have a new computer and we don't even have Skype on it. So we've called our guests and you've set it up. Yeah, I got it set it up pretty quick.

Okay, cool. Well, we've got a poll that you got to vote on. It's still up, do you like being dominated? A, yes, but only light stuff, B, yes. I'd be down for handcuffs and whips. C, yeah, bring on all this kinds of stuff. D, no, I'm not into that kind of stuff. So let us know what you're into,

because we did a show last week I think about being dominated or moved this week before. About rough sex. We did a rough sex show. We found out a lot that menace wants to be tied up. No. Oh, no. I want to be tied up. That was it. Yeah. Okay. I'd like to be tied up. And I haven't been tied up enough in my life. I just think that there's more that I need to do. And so that's what we got. And we also want to give a big shout out to Adam and Eve. They have a mobile site now that you can buy your sex toys online.

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you get three adult DVDs of free gift, free shipping, free, free, you'll love it, check out Adamineve. We love when you do that. You can also leave us a message anytime at 9-415-9927392, leave a message on our voice mail anytime and we'll answer your questions on the air. So, Matt, how was your weekend? It was super fun to hang out with you Friday. I know, I mean, we had the blast on Friday. It was so cool. I know, it was so random. I want to say thank you to your brother again.

He showed me good time. We hung out at his hotel. Right. And he was like at this VIP level and it was like, open bar, you know me, I love it. I know I've like, Menace should come. So I called Menace. I'm like, Menace, open bar, get your ass over here.

And I was like, yes. So. It was like five o'clock Friday. I'm like, open bar, get your ass over here. And I was like, yes. So it was like five o'clock Friday. I'm like, open bar, baby. And I was so wasted that I was trying to act normal in what everybody was around, but I couldn't help. But we were always did. So nobody would know that you were not, no one's judging.

But I was paranoid. I think people knew that I was effed up. Really? When I was trying to get food because I was moving so slowly and I was I was feeling that people were looking at me because Many Captain you seem you didn't seem that messed up to me when I when we left. Yeah, okay I would know I played it off cool. You don't ever seem that you get quieter I guess but yeah

Because they try to choose my words better. Right. It takes me a while to decode everything. But the rest of the weekend, I absolutely did nothing. Like, when I saw you on Friday, I went home and I never left my house. Never left? How'd you eat? I have food in my house.

I'm not like you. I have everything I need in my house. Never left? How'd you eat? I have food in my house. I'm not like you. Right. I have everything I need in my house. Do you? Yeah, and I did leave tell early this morning. We wanted you to come back on Saturday night because we were partying still in the hotel. And they're like, where's men is? So I'm like, okay.

I know. I didn't get that message. I like a lot of things. We just wanted you to come back and party. Yeah, my brother was at the VIP level and we had open bar and food. It was amazing. It was so fun. I love when we do that. I make it was really fun. I took my dog for a long walk and went to the Corona Heights dog park, which is really cool. It's beautiful views of the city. And I worked and I went out, what I do, I hung

out with friends, hung out with my brother, he left yesterday, which is sad, but it was awesome to see him, and I'm going home to Michigan for a week next week. I know, the trip that you tricked me out of. Why? Oh, cause you were gonna come. They would love you to come. I would have went, remember, I offered to go,

and they're like, oh, you're like, oh no, I'm not going. So then I made other plans. And then suddenly, once I made plans, suddenly'm not going. So then I made other plans and then suddenly once I made plans Suddenly you're going Nothing to do with that. You never wanted me to go. I did want you to come I don't want to go now But that's like my family's Christmas is the Thanksgiving so we have a lot of fun then together Yeah, how was your week? I don't know. I don't know how.

I don't know how you're hanging out with your cool brother or anything. I know. I love that you love my brother because if you didn't like him, you'd tell me too. Yeah. So, yeah, he's really cool. No, I stayed at the house. There's a new television show people should be watching. It's called How to Make it in America.

There's a lot of sex scenes and stuff like that. Is it a replay? Is it reality or no? No, no. It's a replacement for Antourage. It's really good. Oh, and it's yeah. It's all set in New York New York hipsters high society all mix

It's really good on HBO. Yeah, it's on HBO. I see them because you said a replacement for entourage. Yeah, and then What else I watched For the very first time and I can't believe I admitted it to people because it's supposed to be that one of the greatest movies ever is Swingers. Oh my God, one of the greatest movies ever. Um, no. Maybe it's kind of dated now. Yeah, now I'm like, uh. Yeah, when it came out, it was really like, I couldn't tell what time period they were

in. It was like the 90s, I think, right? Like mid 90s? Yeah, when probably when Swing Dancing was big and stuff like that. It was like the 90s, I think, right? Like mid 90s? Yeah. Wouldn't probably wouldn't swing dance moves. Swing dance, yeah. Big and stuff like that. And I'm like, why are they talking like that? Why?

Why are they dancing? I can't forget. I know. But there's some great scenes when he obsessively calls her her voice mail. Yeah. Hey, look, he gets her number. What's her face?

You have some kind of blonde actress. Yeah, yeah. No, what's her name? Oh, Heather Graham. Heather Graham, thank you. And he's like, hi, yeah, it's me. I just met you with the bar. Yeah, and calls you back. Uh, yeah, so I'm just calling you back. Sorry. I don't think this is working out. Like he has a whole relationship. Yeah, she's like, don't ever call me again. That's funny. That's a funny part or no. It was a no. That was good. But they were like on the phone. It was like pre cell phone, right? Yeah, man. It was it was bad though. I didn't really like it. He didn't like it. How'd you decide for all this swing or fans? Because I never watched it. Oh, you just found it. You know, I will make a disclaimer. I'm sponsored by Roku now and

So I got these little streaming video players. Oh cool. It's amazing. So I see ads It's a little it's this tiny little box that plugs into your television and you can stream all the services like Netflix, Hulu Plus and I want to be sponsored by them. You want to? Yeah. All right. Let's hope that. Shut up. It's basically, yeah, it's like other services that you have. Got it. Just legit movies. Got it. Legit movies. It's like, yeah, exactly, my porn box. Cool. Okay. Well, fun.

Fun weekend. I'm going to be watching TV this week. I decided it's my big week for TV. It's kind of like hunkering down. It's kind of like winter hair. It feels like winter's coming in. And I'm going to stay home and watch a lot of TV. I plan out a lot of my Vegas trip though.

You did? What do you can do? Just look for places to eat. Oh, okay cool That was fun and you know what I've never also never done in Vegas is You know, I never went and seen the tigers at MGM. Oh, yeah, I always do the all the dog club stuff I don't care about that. You don't like the strippers and all that stuff. Yeah, you're not into that stuff No, I did I did spend like three grand a night going to show clubs you spent three grand. Yeah, how? Because we went to from strip clothes from eight a.m. Oh

No, 8 p.m. till like 10 a.m. Last time you were Vegas last time Why I went out to strip clothes and so that's a lot of money on strippers, but I'm sure they appreciated it. Yeah So that was like putting money in their Yeah, I never went and got a private answering No, it's just like straight up at the $3,000 guys have spent a lot of money in strip clubs. I think it's done But it was it was a 3000 I was with my friend who has a lot of money and it was his brother It was his money, so he

It was your $3,000. No, he gave us $3,000 each to go spend at the strip. Oh my god. I love this guy. Yeah, so we just want to go shopping a sap Yeah, that's what I would do with my three thousand, but I guess I'm not the strip club girl, but I've been to strip clubs Yeah, they're fun. I've gotten I've gotten lap dances. It's kind of hot. I talk to a lot of shippers And they said that they hate when women come in why they don't take away the energy They they say that all they do is sit back and talk shit about you that they hate when women come in. Why? They don't like it. They don't like it. They don't like it. They don't like it. They don't like it. They don't like it.

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Like, you would think that we would. Yeah, but the guys are. Sometimes they bring their girlfriends and some of the, so you're gonna go to the strip clubs this time in Vegas? No. No, you said you're doing more adult things like seeing the tires. Yes, I'm gonna see the tigers. I'm gonna go shoot guns.

Like a, oh, I'm shooting. Yeah. Did we talk about this? It's that we, you said you wanted to do it. I don't wanna shoot guns. I never I'm shooting. Yeah, did we talk about this? That we you said you wanted to do I want to shoot guns I never shot guns and then I want to go I never been on the roller coaster at New York New York Okay, I want to do that fun fun take pictures You will then I will go to some I will go to a nightclub maybe

Cuz I gotta go nightclub in Vegas. Yeah, my friends stay all DJ at the nightclub So I'm sure you're gonna blast even though won't be a Michigan eating turkey with me. But, whatever. Next year, they're gonna want you to come next year for sure, especially if my brother, you know, gives them an answer for it. Yeah, dude, I'd freaking love your brother. I know.

Can you just live here? He's so funny. Tell him I'll make a trade. He is so funny. You can go home to Michigan for a while. And then you can sit here with him. Okay, that would be great. He is really funny.

I know the two bets. So my brother's show, the audio wasn't great. So they got the audio up, but we got to fix the audio on it. I don't know, I got to run through a conversation. So the brother like really revealed a lot of stuff. So we're trying to fix that show. But okay, we've got some sex in the news. Yeah.

Yeah. What do you got? So I got breaking dawn sex scene is all close up. Kristen Stewart says, there's so it's like got breaking dawn sex scene is all close-ups Kristen Stewart says There's so much hype surrounding the breaking dawn part one sex scene between Edward Cullen and Bella Swan that we probably won't ever be able to stop writing about it the fans demanded So it's funny because it's not in the book. It's totally what you imagine in those chapters without it whatever. It's a beginning to end sex scene Yeah, whatever it's sex scene. I don't even know what that is. I mean, I know what a sex scene is, but what's breaking Don

Part more of sex scene? It's part of the twilight scene. I know it's twilight, but okay, whatever. What do you mean? Okay, so if you actually watch television, you would know what they're talking about, why there's so much hype, because in the trailer, it's like the guy, he's like on top of her, and he's holding the back of the trailer, it's like the guy,

he's like on top of her and he's holding the back of the bed and the guy's like straight yoked out, meaning he's like really in shape. So he has all these muscles and you can just see him like thrusting into the bed. Like that's a quick scene. So that's why, because it's like a teeny-bopper thing. So that's why they're making a big deal about it. I think it's a teeny-bopper thing

Why did I have to make it all sex now? Because in the movie I haven't seen any of them, but I just know the plot line for this is he Impregnates her and that's all about like her having a baby. Oh, okay. I got it. Well It's all close-ups. They said you vampires. You better wear your Jimmy hats. Well, it's all close-ups. They say you vampires. You better wear your Jimmy hats. Exactly. It's all close-ups is the punch line here. Yeah. So whatever. Okay. And they're, they're a real life boyfriend. Right. They've been together while they'll break up too. When you're that young, how long do they get together? They're gonna get married and be happy to live happily ever in no way. Can I just say something? Yes, please.

And I've been so excited about this Zoey Tishinel break up that I forgot to prove a point. Okay. That Zoey Tishinel just started her own television show right before the break up, starring her, okay. Where she gets more into the spotlight, her television show starts. What happens? Breaks up with her man. Just proves.

Men is thinks that all women when they get successful dump their man. They do. Men dump their women too. I don't know. No, not like this. Who is she dating? Ben Gibbert. He's the leasinger of Def Cab for kids. That's right. That's right. Yeah. Oh, they were married. They were married. Yeah. She got married young. How old is she? I don't know. Okay. That's young to get married. People don't get married to your 30. Seriously. Yes. She's in her early 30s. Yeah. Is she? Okay. Well, that's fine that she got married then, but whatever. Not she's getting divorced. She's getting divorced because she got divorced. She's got, get married if you're in her 20s for sure. She got more successful. That's not why she dumped him.

He probably got jealous and threatened men's, like penis is shrunk when their wives get, when their wives get more successful. Their penis is shrunk. Yeah, they do. That's how they feel. They feel masculated by strong women. And then they start being pushed,

these are on the house. And then you got to divorce her. Is that why they're strong women? No, it's not. Yeah, yeah. Just because you have a good job doesn't make you a strong woman. women. No, it's not yeah, yeah, yeah Just because you have a good job doesn't making a strong woman. Yeah, well, it means she's strong She's an appendage. She's pulling more money than he is he feels insecure and emasculated like he has no dick left And then he dumps her she's done 10 I'm then normally then because I would root for that and like yeah, you go

Go make that money. I know you are an anomaly to that and I think I would date guys who would be anomaly that too if they were You know, I would love to date guy who's be like I'm so cool with you making an anomaly to that and I think I would date guys who would be an anomaly that's you if they were you know I would love to date guy who is be like I'm so cool with you making all this money not that it's happened yet But when it happens it'll be awesome. Okay, same sex change same sex change survey is now tax deductible So if you're getting a sex change it can be tax deductible the IRS recently notified the tax court that it would start allowing Expenses from sex reassignment surgery to be tax tax deductible. The IRS recently notified the tax court that it would start allowing expenses from sex reassignment surgery to be tax deductible. Each year around a thousand people undergo the surgery, which is a five-figure expensive, often is uncovered by insurance, and until now would require you to wage war against IRS if you believed that you having

a gender identity disorder was a medical condition, and that it was necessary that you treat it. So now they're covering it. That's awesome. That is big news. Yeah. A woman was born in male, this woman, Kim Brown's her name, Rianne. She was born male. I had to deal with form was a decade. And the IRS had originally turned down her case. Now the decision has gone into effect. She's mostly been reimbursed for medical expenses except for the breast augmentation surgery. Yeah, they still won't do that. They still won't do that. Okay.

Kat Von D says Jesse James cheated on me with 19 women. I read that. That this why is that a shock? That's not surprising. She cheated on say what's her face with all those women too? Um, what's her name? Um, Senator Bullock. Yes, Senator Bullock. He cheated on her with like

nineteen women people don't leopard doesn't change his spots and man cheats once is going to cheat again oftentimes he seems like a perennial like cheater uh it's weird that he would do that right after such bad press i know you think he'd be like but he probably never thought that he did anything wrong so cat Von D claims to cheat our 19 women during their toxic relationship. This according to a rambling confessional, she just posted on her Facebook page. Kat never mentioned specifically if that's why the relationship ended, but she does say

she deserves a big fat. I told you so from everyone, you were all more right than you'll ever know. Jessie's not talking, but we're told the two of them have broken up for months, which makes their the new revelation a little weird don't know if it's just Quince Annel when her show was also given the axe a few months ago So it could be a grab for attention Okay, people if you're dating a guy who cheated so fiercely on his wife like and then you date him five minutes later You think he's all fixed and better and not gonna cheat again. No man. They cheat once or gonna cheat again I'm not surprised by that at all. I was so disappointed because I love cat think he's all fixed and better and not gonna cheat again. No, man, they want to cheat again.

I'm not surprised by that at all. I was so disappointed because I love Kat. I love Kat Von D. She's a sweetheart. I don't know. I met her several times. And I was just like, why are you kidding with this guy? Why?

What's so attractive about him? I don't get it. Maybe he was the bad boy. She's actually pretty young. Yeah. Kat Von D is's not I think she's still in her 20s really yeah really late 20s And so she's just like oh he's a bad boy Motorcycle builder and blah blah. I can change him like all those young women always think they can change your guy And let me just tell you that nobody changes unless they want to change and If they they have to work on it and so I'm not surprised at all. That's all I got to say about that

It's so funny if he's if he's talking about with 19 girls you think sounds like Tiger Woods Yeah, you think one of these chicks He must have them all locked because you think one of these chicks would just go running the press to get some money I know he's not a bad attractive or. There he must have some kind of ladies man. Quality where they don't rat him out. Yeah. Crazy. Okay. J.Lo has a new boy toy. She's a new man in her life.

Just a few weeks after divorcing Mark Anthony, J.Lo has taken up with backup dancer. Why do these chicks always take it with backup dancers? They're good rebounds. Back up dancer Casper Smart. Their budding relationship is nothing serious so far, but J JLo already married one backup dancer. So what's attracted to them besides his facial hair? Obviously, he's popular with the ladies because he goes shirtless. Didn't like Britney Spears, either backup dancer and like everyone. JLo, JLo, Amadona, JLo already of them. That was like before my life.

Years ago. Yeah. Okay. He got like $11 million from not to ever say anything about her. And he never did. He never did. I wouldn't if I got $11 million. $11 million.

I'm like Jayla. $1100 at this point. Amazing. And now seriously. Okay. So Michael Boobley. Is that how you say it? Boobley? Boobley.

I don't know. Boobley. I don't know. He calls Kim Kardashian a bitch. How could you do that? I don't know. During his November 8 performance on the I Heart Radio live concert, the Canadian singer announced the audience, ladies and gentlemen, I have a very special guest.

Please welcome Kim Kardashian to the stage. But he revealed he was kidding and says, mad just effing with you that bitch isn't coming on my stage. Really? So he just, after her, he, we just, yeah, that bitch. And then Mariah Carey was taking shots at her too at a press conference last week, the singer made a comment that seemed time to Kim's decision to filed for divorce. And she says, I'm a real person. I'm not going to put on a fake face for Hollywood.

She explains when talking about her life with husband nick canon sometimes we make each other mad that's why we are divorced after four months so i guess that was a big little dig little dig to Kim Kardashian whatever she's making millions she doesn't give a shit with anyone's that about her hell no hell no hells to know okay so we've got some emails now unless you've got any of your own sexy news to add to my News anything. Oh

Bieber is gonna be taking the paternity test. Oh, that's big. Yeah, I wonder if he's gonna be a father. I don't know But it'd be so awesome if he was we talked about this last week that apparently this woman is already Claim that someone else was the father. So it doesn't seem likely. You know what I mean? Why is Bieber even taking that job? He's probably did sleep with her, but he's probably afraid that he could be the father. So yeah, maybe. Yeah.

But I don't think we would ever really know the truth. Right. I think you'd be like some CIA cover up. Yeah, exactly. You're right. He's got enough money to cover that stuff up. OK, let's move into some emails. Dear Emily, I've just recently started having sex.

I thought I was supposed to feel wonderful. It feels like nothing to me. Help. What am I doing wrong? Thanks a bunch, Valerie, from Destin, Florida. The truth is, sex gets better with time. First time I'd sex not great. First few times I'd sex not great. Sex wasn't great for a few years after I started having sex. There are positions to explore. You can explore things like

roughsets, rough sex, low sex. You have to explore and find out what you like Valerie. So I would not be bummed out right now. It's important that you feel comfortable with the person you're having sex with also. I don't know what kind of people you're having sex with. But also do you know your own body? Do you know what makes you feel good? Do you know how to make yourself orgasm? Having masturbated? Have you spent time figuring out your own body? Because sex isn't as enjoyable until you start taking charge of the situation and you're with the guy and you're like, okay, this is what I like. This is how I like to move. But it takes

time. It's not the kind of thing that you think that you start having sex and it's just to feel amazing, but it really, you have to figure out what positions feel good to you. And practice makes perfect. And make sure your clitoris is being stimulated because most women need their clitoris stimulated. You can have him play with it, you can play with it, while you're on top or bottom.

And if you just lost your virginity, yeah, you just be with some of your comfort or with and that you can practice with. Yeah, it's not gonna be amazing. Do you think sex was amazing the first time you had sex the first few years? I mean, probably for guides different. No. I thought it was amazing with the second person I was with.

I thought it was good. Right. The first person I was like, I don't know what I'm doing. Exactly. Right. It gets better. So, yeah, the first person I was with that, I remember even being like, like blaming him, like thinking like, why isn't this better?

Probably his fault, but I just didn't know what I was doing. Oh, you're putting all the blame on him. I remember talking to friends being like, I can't believe it. It's not that good. How long did it last? Two and a half years. No, how long did it last the first time? Oh, the first time I had sex?

It's so funny. I just got asked about this the other day when I lost my virginity. I was 17. I was dating this football player in high school and I waited 11 months before sleeping with him And I finally suffered them on his brothers like old rady water bed And I think that it lasted maybe 10 minutes 15 minutes Is that a lot amazing? I don't think it was his it wasn't his first time was my first Okay, yeah, so and I don't I remember thinking it was like a big deal, but it didn't feel like particularly

great or anything. And then you were in love after. No, I wasn't. Actually, it was the second guy dated after him that I was with for two and a half years that I blamed for being bad, bad, but I don't think I knew what I was doing. Yeah. So it takes a while. That's what I got to say to you, Valerie.

Okay. Dear Emily, I met some guys really, okay, this is about the hand job debate, which we haven't serious. It's a new one about the hand job debate. Someone's going back and listening to old shows because we sort of put it to rest, but I think the hand job debate will never die. So let's hear what you guys say.

Some guys really like a hand job, that's just a hand job, but these guys are really in the minority. They have, in a sense, a fetish for hand jobs. The average guy likes to woman's hand as dick as much as he can get it, but if the guy had to choose between one or the other, he'd prefer her mouth. Having said that, if a woman is enthusiastically giving head

and she's really enjoying her time down there, she should also take her mouth off the guy's penis and lick and suck the shaft, the balls, or prinium, or whatever, and meanwhile, rub his penis with her hand. And sometimes she'll just need to come up for air and rest her neck and meanwhile use her hands. So really, the answer to the great hand job debate

is that you're both right. Hands and mouth alternating or use at the same time makes for a great hand job blow job. I've always said that. Maybe we should invent a different term. Would dick job be better? Also, remember that hands can generate more pressure and friction in the mouth.

If she doesn't know what she's doing or she doesn't know what he likes, she might hurt him or make him uncomfortable. However, if she knows how to use her hands to please him, she may be able to finish him off faster, better, stronger with her powerful little fist stroking away. Have fun, hugs from delicious. Delicious. Yeah. Delicious.

So, Madison, I have had an age-old debate about hand jobs and I still think I'm right. That hand job is a nice thing to add into your sexual repertoire and it doesn't have to be the only thing you do, but hand jobs can be fun for all involved. I've always said a solo hand job from beginning to end is not good. It's not good, it's useless. I disagree. It's good to throw your mouth in sometimes. Yeah. Maybe you choose Flasio, but women can give a killer hand job too. Lots of lube. Both hands, different positions. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. We should call our guests

now. The sexy Jessica Drake. She is an adult performer. And let's give her a call. Here's her number. Okay. Right there. Right. The first one. Try the first one. So Jessica Drake has done educational videos. She's an adult performer. She did this video. These DVDs called the Guide to Wicked Sex Positions Basic. And then she did it one in Felatio and one an anal sac. She's been in tons of adult films. And she, yeah, my intern stole the anal one and the Felatio one, so I haven't been able to watch it, but she, these are from Wicked Pictures.

She's a public speaker, Playboy Radio Personality and a Wicked Pictures Conject Performer, writer, director. She's the creative Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex. It's a new line of DVDs to enhance your sexual growth Damn it. I don't hear anything. Okay. Oh, do you think it's connected to the computer? Oh, no, it's new. Oh, no Hello Please don't have this happen And the next one she's doing is about female masturbation, which I think is a great

DVD to do because women kind of masturbate the same way, just like men and there's like different things that you could do that make them feel better. Should we call her from the speaker from the cell phone or would that not be good? Yeah, I guess do that for now. Okay. All this print on speaker. This pretty ghetto, but whatever. This is ghetto, but we're ghetto. All right. And I'll tell them to, I'll tell them. Try to stop. Yeah, just put it on speaker for now. We're going to have to tell.

Hello, Jessica. Oh, perfect. Oh, did you get to tell. Hello. Jessica. Hi, we're just calling you back. Oh, perfect. Oh, did you get it? Okay, yeah, we were trying to call you on Skype, but now we're just calling you from the cell. Hi, how are you, Jessica?

Thanks for being guests on the show. Oh, I'm wonderful. Thank you so much for having me. Oh my God, it's great to have you. You have such a sexy voice. And you've sexy DVDs, and sexy, sexy life. I was just talking about your DVDs that you sent to us,

which are awesome. Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex, the Guide to Felatio, Guide to Anil, and Guide to Positions, and my interns stole them from me. I didn't even have a chance to watch the Felatio and the Anil, they're gone from my office. Well, you know what I mean, because those are the two most popular of the street.

That's why they were definitely involved in the first run because when I was doing these seminars, I sort of do them on request as to, you know, whatever the store or the venue seems to go over better and consistently straight across board. It was, well, how about anal sex? Well, how about blow jobs? How about ratio? How about, you know, repeatedly? I also just shot Jessica Drake's guide

so we can text email masturbation. And my editor just brought me a screener about two hours ago. And he said, this is the best one so far. And I don't know if he's a little bit biased. Oh, women, I'm not really too sure, but she's really happy with it. So I'm going to be watching it tonight to make my first round of edit notes. So I can't wait to see it myself.

Oh my god, I'm so excited for it because I was just saying that I think that women, that women do, I mean, that there, there is a way to, you know, the women kind of masturbate in the same way, but I'm sure that the women also seem to need to learn a lot more about their own bodies, and I'm sure it helps to have a DVD. What kind of things are in there, you think? What are some top tips for women about masturbating?

What's out there too clinical? Because although I provide some very sexual information on anatomy and how things work, I don't like to try to sound chemo doctor because I'm not. Instead, I want to educate women about their bodies and maybe give them some ideas on how to best explore themselves so that they can come up with what pleases them the best. Because like everything else in sex, I do not think that it's a plus b equals c. I think that we are all variables of our own

equations. And what one woman likes is going to be not enough for another woman, or maybe too much for another woman. Exactly. I think that it's all a matter of being confident enough to find what it is within yourself. It's going to help you be better lover to yourself and you learn how to master day or in doing that, you become more comfortable with your own facts and so that you are more likely to be able to convey to a partner what it is you want from them in the long run. I mean, I just think when we're really comfortable

with the idea and opening up parts of the pun, but opening up to commutative scenes and really having confidence in themselves, because that's where it all starts from. Exactly, it is all about confidence. I just read an email from a listener who was saying that she just had sexual first time, and she's like, what's the deal?

It didn't feel that good. And I was like, you got to learn your own body. And sometimes it's not that easy for women. You really have to take the time. Yeah. I think it is a really important thing. And that also sort of is a great segue into how I even came to do these in the first place.

I was noticing a shift in the demographic of people that were coming to see not just me, but all the wicked girls in our appearances because we do conventions, we do adult bookstores, and all the kinds of things all around the world. And originally, I was with Kevin Seamy, and it would be a super long line of eyes, occasional and somewhat uncomfortable woman. And through the years, I've noticed that not only have more women began to be comfortable, but because of the trendiness of the more petite, sex, or more couple friendly,

women are bullying her by themselves. And they're going out with a threat parties and their are bullied or by themselves. And they're going out with a threat parties and their role films where they're sisters, I've even seen mother daughters be there together. Yeah. And they're seeking out new information, new products, new things for themselves. And so in turn, they started asking me questions at these appearances that I was doing, like I'm just sitting at a table, selling pictures, finding autographs, giving away free posters,

and they're asking me, well, how do I do a better blow-dop? How can I have anal sex? My husband really wants it. I don't know what I'm doing. So I started talking to them. Right. That's great. Seminars.

You know, I started doing seminars for these bookstores. I would do them right before signing, you know, and just have them be women only, or I do them on a different day. And then after the seminars, the women were like, oh yes, that was great. Do you have a DVD to pass? Oh my God, that's so smart. I get asked those questions all the time. So what are some, let's go through it.

So what are your some of your guides to Flasio for women? What are some tips? Some of your top tips for women. Now I see that top tips for women would be the answers to the poll that I put out the hundreds of them. I asked them what the three most important things for them work. And I'm going to use number three to number one.

Number three was no teeth. I think that's a really awesome one. Number two was lots of if it's a blow job or wound, if it's a hand job. But the number one thing that guys said was that they want their partners to be enthusiastic. That shows me that they want someone much like we do, they just want someone to really enter what they're doing. And if a woman laughs, that's neat. She's making up for that and just a willingness to try, to like what she's doing to really

get into it and attempt to please the partner. And I think that works for the fans or women and men. During my seminar, so I talk about games like rugby, to voting, how to relax both as the best muscle in your throat. And, you know, a couple of tricks, maybe different positions that you can get yourself in to do it, maybe a little bit more comfortably. But if you understand it, not everyone's going to yourself in to do it. Me being a little bit more comfortable, because if you understand it, not everyone's going to be able to do it anyway.

And also things like different hand-check needs. How do you get any guys, man, a two-handed and job? Because I think sort of been guys get uncomfortable and lose some confidence because they might be less endowed. I sort of teach women how to compliment these, their eyes in shortcomings, that some might think that they have, you know, because no one wants to be able, I'm going to give a hand, draw true smart eyes, I'm going to use these fingers as opposed to my whole fifth.

I can show women how to use the hands you know i think they think you're like a magician that way you know really it's quite a hand uh... and as far as the anal if you want to be both striking things that ever had happened to me uh... woman came up to me at a seminar uh... that was fully she-know-or-sex-for-weakened woman.

It was not an anal-fiend seminar. And she said, I think something's wrong because I can't have anal sex the way that you guys do it on camera. What's wrong with me? My husband was really wanting to try anal sex, and I wanted to do it for him, but it just looked at her and it caused me a lot of pain and it just wouldn't go in. That's wrong with me. I'm like, first of all, doing nothing wrong with you.

You know, I mean, I was concerned for her that she would even think of. And I said, look, what you guys don't see, I mean, it's moving magic. What you're not seeing is scrapper, but you're not seeing is the warmup, because when the cameras aren't rolling, that's when we're getting ready for all of this. Exactly. And I realized how truly important it is

to incorporate more of that when I shoot a movie, you see the working up, and you see the singers beforehand, and you see the few inches in, and then it's not in for a while. You see all that. Nice thing that that really made a great impression on me, because I want to give my more realistic view, even though I do things that might be a bit more extreme in some of my movies I enjoy, and I'll say, DP's, Group SEX, that type of theme.

I want to show them that it is not a, okay, let's do this, but it is. Right, good. That's good because people do learn a lot from porn. That might be the only sex they've ever seen. So I think it's great you're putting out these DVDs and telling people, no, this is really what happens. Because I think people always think things are wrong. What's wrong with me? Why can't I have an NLSEX? You They're like and you need lots of loo and you start small start with the finger

Sorry with your tongue Something like that. You know something that I told some women and then to disappoint you that maybe Just some guys there's some women that will never like anal sex and those women shouldn't have anal sex Exactly like anal fat. And those women shouldn't have anal fat because you know it's a simple thought. And I did incorporate that a bit into my skin on masturbation that I just shot because I did have some women that they really enjoy either anal stimulation of some kind or even anal penetration. And I think that it's really a great way to become comfortable with anal play before you try it with partners.

You know that way, you know your body better. Exactly. So do you recommend any sex toys for that or what I definitely recommend trying with fingers to smaller, vibrators, smaller butt bugs on the market right now. There are some really amazing high end kits of toys. And they have, I got one, or the anal instructional that I've been. It has a series of butt bugs. It starts with a very small one, not much bigger than a woman's finger, and gradually works way up and they're all papered,

of course. The anal toys should be. And then I also incorporate even anal not beads, but light anal beads, they're all attached together. They're silicone or silicone toy that has might be all the time together there's a play that has around components and uh... and i think it's really important experiment

before you're having an effect for the partner that you can figure out what you might figure to that exactly that's a great i never never really thought about that you could do it on your own i mean i know you, but I don't know many women. Like, I think that a lot of women have fear around it and men have fear around it. So it is good to explore on your own.

That's good. And then, so, do you, in the female masturbation one and all these, you're in them, right? You're actually in the videos. Well, here's the deal. It was a big decision in the beginning because I've known that I wanted to do these for about, I'd say, good two years, maybe a year and a half, and I pitched them to wicked.

I did a lot of thinking about whether or not I would be having sex in them. I just said it's not to have sex in because I think that it detracts from what I'm trying to cross as an educator. I didn't want to make two different types of people that would be buying the instructional. I want to appeal to a market that is, as you're receiving new information, actually, to necessarily people that are strictly fans in my heart moving.

Of course, I definitely do polling sites, but I wanted to make these where I have to be pretty different roles. So I write them, I direct them, and narrate them. That's amazing. I cast them, I do the set direction, the art direction, I have Brad Armstrong help me with some of the art in it, but I'm 100% in control. I noticed that when I direct feature movies for a week and where I'm having sex in them, inevitably at some point during the 16,

I'm thinking about the rest of my day in production. And I don't want to do that. Right, that makes sense. You know, and then when I'm directing, it's better for me in this instance to keep those two things separate. It's extremely enough. I've only had one person write me and say,

oh, I really just disappointed that you're not having sex with me. So I mean, I think it's a good idea for me. I'm not that I'm trying to stop doing movies where I have sex, but the contrary, I'm just trying to sort of branch out because I feel in need for what I'm doing. There is a need for what you're doing. I mean, I get questions about this all the time,

Filetio, anal sex, positions. I mean, that's all we talk about on the show. So I think it's great that you have a DVD where people can actually watch and learn. And I love the idea of the female masturbation one. When does that come out? Well, it's's I've just been just got it yet today. Um I leave tomorrow for Australia which I'm really sorry that's why we were having so much difficulty scheduling this interview. Um my schedule has been absolutely insane and I know yours has to.

Um I'm watching the screener tonight and making my edit note. I'm doing some ADR works voice over work for it tomorrow morning before I'm watching a screener tonight. I'm making my edit notes. I'm doing some ADR works, voiceover work for it tomorrow morning, before I jump out of plane for Australia. I would expect if it's not out in December, it would be out in January. OK, got it. Well, you have to send me a copy that I'm going to keep steel from my interns.

They don't, I'm going to keep it from them so they don't take it. And then you also teach seminars, right? So how can people find out about you and your seminars? Well, I'm Jess Long. We're doing a soft launch right now for the website that goes along with the series. It's called Guide to WeekedFacts.com. We, I, I, I, articles on there, I write about different topics. We have different topics, you just mentioned every month.

People can read comments on it. I have a calendar. Definitely have some things in the works for next year that are seminar-wide. And eventually I will be doing one live chat seminar each month for free. I'm going to do a text.com. It's not a pain site. It's just a place to go to learn more about the series. That's great. Start a conversation about it. Okay, this is great. Well, we got to stay in touch. I want to check out your new DVDs

and we're going to have all this on our information on our website. And I hope you have a great trip to Australia. And thanks for sharing these. And I'm going to get them back for my interns so I can learn something. Thank you too for me. Well, I really appreciate you having me on the show.

And everyone can follow me at twitter.com slash bdjessica.com and you can also see more of me at jessica.com and we get that. Awesome. I know. You're hot and sexy and your voice is amazing and I know your body is amazing and all that stuff too but it's great talking to you. So thank you so much for joining us. I appreciate it.

Have a good trip to Australia. Thanks so much. We'll talk to you soon. Bye. I appreciate it. Have a good trip to Australia. What's Hock, do you see him? Bye. I'm very proud of you. Why? We had a technical problem. And you thought of a way to get around it. Look at you.

It's so easy. It's crazy. Why don't we just do that from now on? I think it worked, too. I used my cell phone there. It sounded good, yeah. She's cutie. Look at her picture.

What? Yeah, she's good looking. I got a picture around camera. You don't want to sex there? I think she's hot and I think it's really cool. Let me tell you what. Let me tell you some highlights of that for me. Okay. If you'd like to know.

I think that porn's amazing, right? A huge porn fan. I think it's super fun. But if people only watch porn and that's how they get their information, for? A huge porn fan, I think it's super fun. But if people only watch porn, and that's how they get their information, for example, they're like, why is anal sex not so easy for me as it looks for you, and porn? Like she was giving an example or how they perform oral sex.

I mean, porn you have to remember is designed to look good and it's a visual medium. And so they do things in porn that is not necessarily how you should do things in real life or how things look in real life And so I think it's great that she's doing educational DVDs and saying yeah, that's how you have anal sex in the movies But this is how you really have anal sex I think that's an important service. How long is that instructional video again? Why? No, I was just wondering

75 I don't know, half hour, maybe why. Oh, okay. I was just wondering how long she goes and depth about it. I don't why, because you think you don't need to do that much information. I don't know. It's probably about an hour and four or five minutes. Ainal sex is a huge question that we get asked all the time. And just so you know, we didn't get into that much, but you should start, use lots of lube.

Start with fingers, start with tongue. If you're with someone, fingers like pinky fingers. What's up with you and the tongue? Lick the anus first, get it all wet, and then stick your pinky in. See, this is what we disagree. Well, you would never lick an anus. Would you stick your finger in an anus?

Yes, but you never go ask them out, dude. Some people do. Like why you are so like... Or you can use saliva. I just use lots of lathely when you're finger, but some people like to lick. I'm what? You promote astamount more than anybody else.

I do. You're the astamount I just say. You're the only person that I know that promotes astamount. Some people like it. Some people like astamount. I'm just saying that that's a way to start. Or you could start small.

You always start small. Start with pinky finger. Yeah. I'm still trying to get's a way to start or you could start small you always start small start with pinky finger Yeah, I'm still trying to get over your astamouth and then I think it's also good that she gives guides to positions into flasio Because women, you know, we could use how I think she should do one guide to kind of Connell and get you next because guy knows many that What's wrong honey nothing? The vision of ast. Is it right? Oh God. People like to do that sometimes.

So I'm just saying that's an option. If you like to do it, whatever, that's your progative. Take a shower, take a bath first. Yeah, take a long shower. A long shower, right? Maybe find a bidet somewhere in America. Yes, do all those things. Then like 10 hours in there. Then take a shower.

Maybe find some uh, where this hand sanitizer put it down there. And then like it and then you're looking at us. No, it's my mom. Tell her I said hi. I get it. No. Sorry mom. Talk to her. She doesn't know is she doing the show right now? She't know she's in Michigan okay so that's what we got time for today I'd like to thank Jessica Drake for being on the show asked mouth just say no no just some people I'm just saying you can check out her educational DVDs her guide to wicked sex guide to play show guide to anal guide to positions guide to wicked sex calm and um yeah that's what I got for youus, anything else you'd like to say to me? No, that's it.

Okay, everyone. Thanks for, you know, figuring out a way so I can't go to Michigan's find. I'm sorry about that, honey. Let's still be doing Chelsby for that. And you can find me on Facebook and Twitter, sex with Emily, you can find menace of why menace everywhere else on the planet.

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