Sex With Emily - Episode 348 - The Future of Fellatio

Episode Date: December 2, 2011

Emily helps teaches a kissing workshop at Good Vibrations. A guest on the show askedher to be his demonstration model. Emily agreed to kiss him in front of a classroom of people (all for the sake of helping people of course). Her advice: kiss your partner the way you want to be kissed. Ask them to kiss you back in the same way and then switch. Also, the future of fellatio is an Masque oral gel strip that tastes like Mango. Emily gives tips on oral sex and open-relationships without jealousy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our secret institutions Betrubized they call them in a bygone way hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry?

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I'm so happy to be here with Menace. We haven't done our show. We've been sort of had a scattered schedule, but it's awesome to be here. I apologize to everybody, but you know, it's a holiday. And I mean, that's not an excuse. We should be here doing shows. It's just been so hectic. You've been out town.

I've been out town. We're here together. We're here together. It's so awesome to be here. And today's show is about oral sex. And we have a special guest that we're calling a little bit who makes these strips. It's called your mask. And it's made to make the taste of semen more enjoyable. When you're performing oral sex on a man, if you don't like the taste of semen, but you want to be a swallower, you put the strip in your mental,

it's like a history and strip kind of thing. The taste of semen is not wonderful. No, I love the taste of semen. I would never want to ruin that. Okay. But it comes in chocolate strawberry, watermelon mango. So we're going to talk to him and we're also going to be doing some oral sex stuff and I also have to just give a big shout out

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coupon code Emily at checkout. All right. I'm not going to be mean today. I love you. But we got to move the microphone in Oh, where in front of it? Okay, yeah, that's fine. I just didn't know if it was gonna be okay. Is this better way better? Okay, awesome So I did nice. Yeah, it's not as fun when I'm nice though Yeah, it's not totally appreciate it

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be embarrassed that it's a vibrator. So that's why I got to say about that. Do you know who was pretty funny? And you know I'm a big fan of Instagram. So look for me white menace on Instagram. I was outside good vibrations and on the door it says home of the antique vibrator museum, just like that. And I took a picture of it. I put on my Instagram and it just like blew up.

Yeah. And it's funny because all, uh, all these women that follow me had like hilarious jokes. That's so funny. Yeah, they have the antique museum. They do. All these like old vibrators back in the day, like for a used vibrators on women

because they used to call hysteria, they thought that women and they would, he would actually,'s just a skist no it's like things and women sticks that yeah this was an excuse to stick things in women but speaking of good vibrations why were you there menace why was it there don't weren't you coming to my my kissing workshop wasn't when you were going to my kissing workshop that you decided not to attend I didn't go to that yeah okay so I went to a kissing workshop I wanted to go that I'll tell you why I didn't but I know why you didn't go to attend. I didn't go to that. Yeah. Okay. So I went to a kissing workshop.

I wanted to go to that. I'll tell you why I didn't book. I know why you didn't. Go ahead. Go for it. So we had guests on the show and we're going to be playing this show. It's a little out of order, but we're going to be playing this show that we did with Reed. Reed, Mahako.

He was a guest on the show and he's teaching a course at Good Vibration the other day and he asked me to be his model for his kissing class where he was teaching people how to kiss. And so I said, I'd be his model and then I had to go and make out with him in front of 15 people, which I've never done before. But I felt like it was a good service for the community, helping people learn how to kiss. And he said, I was a really good kiss.

Yeah. So what happened though, I went to go there to support you because when we did the show, they said, oh yeah, you know, you can sit and you can watch and you can laugh and blah blah and just being observer. And I go, okay, cool, fine, I'm down for that. So I show up to the place and then they meet me at the door and they go, oh yeah, so second thought is actually this is gonna be kind of serious. So we can't have you laugh in the background And I go okay fine. That's cool. I'll still chill and then they said okay, and another thing is you can't just sit here

You actually have to be a participant right and I said hail now. I'm gonna be a participant They wanted everyone to kiss everyone, but they ended up not doing that. So you could have come anyway. No, you could have seen it. But it was interesting because it was a good kiss. People were into it, but I mean, they were into watching it. But Reed has this, he called it like a Tourette type thing that happened. So when he gets turned on, gets he starts going like this and shaking

So when I was kissing him he started shaking and it was sort of distracting scary. Yeah, it was kind of scary Besides that it was I've never I was a little nervous I've never done anything that before and I know him at all and I just made out of them. It's Macdom right there Macdom, wisdom. Isn't that Mac? No, Mac King is if like you're trying to get with him. I thought Mac King is kissing. No. What do I know?

That was your speaking out of them. I just know a lot. I was just making out with that. You're just, why, you're trying to get like so hip to streetling go these days. Am I? Yeah. Well, it's funny because you,

because I mess it up. That's why it's so funny. You use them all incorrectly, but. Yeah, besides that, at least I'm Well, it's funny because you I mess it up. That's why it's all right correctly But yeah, we said that at least I'm trying man just give me give me some give me some some props some props for trying Because you got to try yeah, and then what else going out with you with me these days I hate to give the same generic answer where I am extremely busy all the time But I am extremely busy. the time, but I am extremely busy. It's one of the busiest times of the year for me, but I'm very excited because you've dated guys without cars and stuff like that, right?

Yeah, it's bummer. It sucks. And I've been without a car because one of my main sponsors is Sion. I love Sion and they always give me the new cars that come out. Well, since the Japan earthquake happened, this new car was supposed to come out, and I was supposed to not be carless, but earthquake happened, it's terrible thing, I'm not complaining because it happened. Right, right.

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polls lately. This was our latest poll. How would you rate your current sex life? So people say amazing mind blowing only 10%. What? No complaints here, 16%. At least I'm getting some 23%. I satisfy myself, 22% and what sex life, 29%. That was the largest percentage

and it's what sex life, 29% of our listeners say what sex life? Why aren't people getting laid? That is sad. That is so sad. I'm sorry. I know it bums me out. That is depressing. Hopefully after listening to this, you will give you some tips so you can... We're given some oral sex tips today for men performing sex on women. Oh, but...

And then, of course, your favorite topic. Yeah, it is my favorite topic, but we are talking about these oral sex strips as well. Our new poll is anal sex, sexy, or scary. A, sexy, be scary. If you're giving or receiving, I think. Yeah, exactly. So we want to know what you think about that. We've got our poll.

We've got new blogs. We've got a lot of stuff going on. That's good, sexonly.com. Sexonly.com. There's everything happening there, but we can got new blogs we've got a lot of stuff going on that's good six only dot com section dot com there's everything happening there but we can not and you can also leave a message on our voicemail anytime for one five nine nine two seven three nine two so on we've got a little bit of sex in the news we have to talk about um... chris humphreys he was he was kims reality show pond

okay he said he was just slotted in as a plot line of Kim Kardashian's latest headline and business, business venture. We're told Chris believes Kim never intended to say married to him, but needed a groom to fuel ratings for her show. Once they were finished taping, she just didn't need a groom anymore. Chris is telling people he feels like a Pond in the game. I don't think that's true. I don't believe that true, either, that it was intentional that you're like, oh, this is the guy that I'm going to get with to get ratings. I don't think that's true. I don't believe that true either that it was intentional

that you're like, oh, this is the guy that I'm going to get with to get ratings. I don't believe that. I do believe, and I said this a couple months ago in the show, even before they broke up when they were getting married, that I think that she was just having, she was, you know, just turned 30 something. She's having a freak out her sister her sisters married her other sister has a baby and she's like okay what what am I doing I got out of a relationship that I've been in for a couple years with some other football star oh my god what am I gonna do I've been wanting to get married my entire life and then she just you know, I know

I think a lot of women who have that deadline of always should be married by 30 is ridiculous like throw that deadline out the door You should not have any deadlines or things that you're trying to meet by certain age first But you shouldn't get married to your 30. I think I think getting married in your 20s is a waste time You don't know yourself. You don't know who are you're still learning and growing and changing. And so maybe she did feel a lot of pressure. She's the middle child or the older, she's the oldest, right? No, she's the middle child.

She's the middle and so she just feels, yeah, I can understand that. Yeah, and I think that also, what was I about to say, sorry guys, long day, he's been a long week for us. I know, but this whole thing has been crazy all over the news. Obviously, she's like on the car of every magazine

But I don't I'm sure she's bummed, but maybe he just turned out to be a lot of it was a ratings plot at all I you know people like to initially go for that right in the beginning. Oh, they did for ratings Or they did it for publicity You know, I hate when people say oh they release some sex tape for publicity. I Don't believe that happens 95% of the time, unless there's some delist celebrity that wants to get some attention. I don't think A-list celebrity

or even B-list celebrities do that on purpose. I don't think so either. I don't think so either. I think she was just having a freak out, man. That's all. Yep. I think so too. Oh, I know what I was going to say now. Watching

all the shows though, you could tell it wasn't a match. Like his personality, he was very dry sarcasm. You know, piss people off like crazy. He was very sloppy. She is a freaking neat freak. And he can just tell that alone. Right. And it was so rushed. What was the big rush to get married after four months together? I just think that's a mistake. I think everyone should learn from this. Let's just learn from this.

Again, everything in life and all your relationships you need to learn from them. Learn that this is like what you should not do. Well, maybe she was trying to she was trying to see, maybe she saw what happened with her younger sister. Your younger sister met her husband, um, Climar Lamar on a side. Climar. So bad. Lamar, Odom met him and then within a month was married, how to wedding everything within a month. And they've been together for a couple of years now. Right. Right. Right. But it's been together for a couple of years now. Right. But it's still not typically a good advice to follow.

You should get to know someone and stay with them longer. So that's all we got for sex in the new state because we've got to move on to some sex stuff. We're going to call our sex strip guy in a few minutes. Sex strips. He makes these sex strips for people who a lot of women, have you been with women who are performing all sex and you and they won't swallow? They're like, sorry, I don't do that. Yeah, like one.

Just one. She was like, did she spit or did she just not? Yeah, just spit. Well, some are just like, I don't want to am mouth at all, but that's like, that's when they're, you're, you're 20. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think so too. I don't think it's so bad, but I think it's interesting that he made these trips. So we're going to give some tips.

I'm saying, we can just call them right now. Let's get this on the way. Let's launch our whole oral sex thing here. So here's his number. Alrighty. We fixed the phone systems, everybody. How excited are you? So excited.

So excited. Don't worry, we never remember what the phone number is either. But if you're on sex with Emilym.com it's right there. It's right there on sexwithelm.com. So these are called your mask and they're like little list of reins strips that you can. And this is the founder, this is Michael. And you send to some, oh, okay, we're having a contest.

If you tell us your best oral sex tips, if you email me feedback at sexwithelm.com, your mask is giving out three, they're giving out a t-shirt some strips some other things it's a whole package so you've to include your t-shirt size if you enter this contest is feedback at sex at mj.com your best oral sex tips and then I also can you do something else feedback at where's the best place you've ever received oral sex yeah that's a good one that we can't cool you don't endorse this but I've received oral sex on every freeway in the Bay Area. You have?

You've gotten roadhead that many times. Yeah, hello. Michael speaking. Hi, Michael. We're talking about roadhead. You endorse it. Roadhead. Forward or against it?

Oh, four. How can I not be? Exactly. You're a man. I'm not against it i just think you should pull over i mean with all the crazy people on the road it's not a cell phone

you can keep you know i'm it is a little bit dangerous i'm i'm a believer in pulling over to text and call most times anyway i'm not going to have the bluetooth in the car i would absolutely exactly over for call that may be that we can i tell you one thing though there was one story that we had in the news where this guy was uh... they were part they were part and he was uh... receiving philatio and a car came in

and uh... crash into him and this chick bit this guy's we know off true story i've heard that story but that was a story oh okay i read the story michael hi that actually you know that story is actually from uh... what is it uh... world according to car yes exactly the world according to car movie i know according to carpe in the book if that was what happened as well yet i'm sure that happened before you read actual story i read actual story

apparently i don't remember things all the time that i read was what happened as well. Yeah, but I'm sure that's happened before. You read an actual story. I read an actual story apparently. I don't remember things all the time that I read. Okay, Michael is a founder of your mask, M-A-S-Q-U-E, your mask.com, which is, tell me about your mask and how it came to be. Please, Michael. Mask is a brand new product. We've created a dissolvable,

orally, excuse me, an orally dissolvable script that we can mask certain flavor profiles. That doesn't mean we just cover them like an out-toid or something. We can actually make it so your receptors don't taste things like salts and bitters, et cetera. And for a short period of time, and mask is used to block the flavors associated with going down on your man. So the salts and bitters and proteins associated with that, there are a good number of women who find that distasteful so to speak. And so we, this blocks it for about 15 minutes. Wow. And so you can have the, so before you perform role

of sex a woman, she puts a strip in her mouth and then she goes to business and she can't taste anything but the sweet taste of chocolate or strawberry or watermelon or mango. Correct. For up to fifteen minutes, it's slightly different for each person. So we've had people that lasted 25 minutes for so, but we say fifteen because that's pretty safe. Did you get a lot of complaints from women? Like how did you even decide to make this? Okay, the story is actually really good. The inventor was that dinner with his wife and two other couples

and they had a few of us in the wine and the conversation as it's want to do turn to sex and one of the men said to his wife, why is it the happiest moment of my life? You bail on the job. So speak. And she said, it tastes terrible. I don't like it blah, blah. And if you knew the guy who invented this, he takes these kinds of things as a challenge. And one of the last things in this 15-minute conversation about this, one of the women said said was if someone could make a taste like chocolate syrup i'm in right and so he he he said and so we did a lot of market research and you know because it obviously there are some there are a good number of women

uh... and men in the gay community that this isn't a problem they don't find find an issue at all so when we went out to do we did a national market research study and found out it is a big problem even for women who are who currently swallow or spit right there are significant portion of them who dislike the flavor right right yeah i heard that i wonder i mean a lot of women don't even like for all sex and wondering if it's because of that if it's because of the taste of the men around the world are clapping. It's a big reason.

There's a huge clapping of men around the world right now because they're just so relieved of me. Exactly. I think this is awesome. And you can find it at yourmask.com. And we're also doing a contest. So I just announced three winners. You guys are going to provide gift bags with t-shirts and multiple packages of the product,

which is great. We're going to have people email us. Correct. I also put together a special promo code for your listeners if you'd like. We'll give you $3 off. Many packs as you'd like to buy. The promo code is of course, FWE as in sex with Emily. Got it.

That'll be good through the through the month of December if anybody's interested can I ask you great stocking stuff are another question in your research did you find the women that really love you swallow and then the ones that don't love you they just spit no that's not the not the case at all again one of those that you know the big the big I actually got married about just about a year ago and you know there were a lot of jokes amongst her friends that said you know up you don't have to do that anymore and that's exactly so it

it doesn't mean that she loves you any less it's just you know theoretically you love each other so you're more accepting of the fact that you wouldn't have her do something that she doesn't like right so uh... and this will hopefully that the response has been out of the he has been amazing that the some of the quotes that we get in uh... you know this you know some people said well fifteen minutes doesn't seem like very long but then we get a lot of response that says because i'm no longer stressed about

thinking about that right right here that a job and he's done faster exactly yeah exactly that's go i like it that makes a lot of sense that makes total sense are you working uh... on a bacon flavor because you know bacon's pretty popular it it's so funny because a lot of the press we're getting now we're getting

in conjunction with that bacon loo yeah and uh... yeah so we've we've definitely crossed that path. I've told you, I can tell you, in my initial market research, there's nobody that's really desired that as a flavorful.

I know everyone's just on this baking craze right now. There's like bacon vodka, everything. Really? Bacon popcorn, yeah. I would not want that at all. I love that these actually help women maybe perform better. What a great incentive.

Okay, this is awesome. Thank you, Michael. This is great. We're going to give this way to our listeners and they can always check out you do use the promo code SWE and check out your website. Thank you very much. We're going to continue here with some oral sex tips, you know, in the spirit of your mask, of mask.com, your mask.com.

So thank you have a great have a great holiday wonderful you too thanks very much thanks talking you fight the thanks for talking good talk to you wow we are just on fire on fire okay so that's awesome I wonder if they would make one for women too for men who going down a women some men don't like the taste of women yeah I would you need one that lasts 45 minutes though. 45 minutes? Yeah, because that's how long men should go down on women.

Oh my God, you're insane. I'm not insane. Try anything of like what flavors would I want? What flavors, maybe cheeseburger flavor. Cheeseburger? Pizza. Cause then you'd be into it. Yeah.

Exactly, right? You'd be like men Is to be like the oral sex can yeah, okay? Let's um We have some oral sex tips so we can we can give here so rebel flavored flavor exactly I like rebel Sugar-free so maybe nice sugar-free rebel because then I would get more energy Want I'm doing it and then I would get more energy one doing it Then I'll get excited. I think you should totally do it. I think you should create it menace because then maybe you'd really

No, I don't want to away from this guy's business. I'll just go like that's true We're not gonna like we're not gonna do anything that's bad. Yeah, okay. Well, let's read an email real quick And then we'll get a good sex tips. I like caring from the peeps. I like hearing from the peeps too. Okay, so Okay, this one is about open relationships. Oh, another favorite subject. This is just like favorite subject day for me. No, hello, I just got back to the States for my rap. When I was gone, I encouraged my wife to have sex with others. And then when I talked to her, it turns me on to hear her stories. My question is, what is your opinion on open relationships? I like the idea, but I'm curious what

you guys think. This is from Brian. I think that open relationships work and but they're just as much, they're just as hard to work as as straight monogamy relationships. So I think that that I know a lot of people who are in successful open relationships but there are challenges. Jealousy comes up and I think that there's you know just a whole host of other logistics that you don't have to deal with in a monogamous relationship. But I absolutely think that there's, you know, just a whole host of other logistics that you don't have to deal with in an anonymous relationship. But I absolutely think that they work, but it takes a lot more work. You become, I think you become closer with your partner, you become more intimate because you are really discussing.

You have to be honest, don't ask, don't tell, doesn't work. There's some couples who are like, I'm just going to go bang some on when I'm on vacation or I'm going to bang someone here and that and it doesn't, I think that doesn't work. You have to have rules and guidelines like you can only see it with people when you're out of the country or when you're out of the state or when I'm out to bang someone here and it doesn't, I think that doesn't work, you have to have rules and guidelines like you can only see it with people when you're out of the country or when you're out of the state or when I'm out of town or you have to let me know a week in advance and you have to make rules, you have to discuss the repercussions.

I mean, how does she feel about, you know, does she want you to have sex with other people or do you just want her to? Like, how is this going to work? Are you having sex with people while you're in Iraq? I don't know, while you're on the road. So you guys need to discuss that. Yeah, I mean, if it works for you, man, I just... I don't know. It's a very special type of people that do not get jealous, you know? Yeah, but see the thing is, you get jealous in all relationships, polyamory, open relationships,

monogamy, but I think when you're in an open relationship, you learn to deal with jealousy in a different way, like, because people still get jealous all the time when they're in monogamous relationships, but when you're in an open relationship, like, you, it comes up a lot more, and I think that you just learn to, like, you learn to transcend it, you learn to overcome it, you have to, like, practice it, you're like, why am I feeling jealous right now? And a lot of times you've be turned jealousy on practice it, you're like, why am I feeling jealous right now? And a lot of times, if you turn jealousy on yourself and you're like, why am I jealous? Well, I'm afraid that the woman that he's with,

that's for example, if it's with a guy, she's cuter than I am, she's smarter than I am, he likes her better than I do, and it's all about our ego. It's all about us thinking, jealousy comes from our own insecurities. And if you can turn it out, and the more information you get,

if he's like, no, baby, it was just sex, or it was just this or that, and you talk it through, it can help quell your jealous feelings. So you can learn to deal with jealousy. Do you get jealous? Do I get jealous when I'm with somebody? No.

I only have that weird effing thing with me and that I bring it up all the time is when I'm at a restaurant and the person it's so weird I just hate it when the the person with is overly talkative to the waiter I just hate that. I'm just like I'm here with you because I feel like an ass I'm just seeing here with what the hell am I doing I'm not part of the conversation right I hate that I hate it I don't want you I don't want the girl that I'm with being an asshole. But then jealousy is that just annoyed. May I just annoyed? Yeah, I don't really get jealous. Do you want to get a run off with the guy bringing you the

No, no, no, and then I also believe I go the reason I don't get jealous is because no matter what you do and everything that you try To prevent from somebody because jealousy is stemming you think this person is going to cheat on you or do anything. Pretty much. That's pretty much what it is. And I believe that no matter what the hell you do to try to prevent somebody from cheating on you, they're going to cheat on you. Yeah, it's still going to happen.

Okay, so that's why there's no point for you to get jealous because you know what, this person's going to cheat on you, they cheat on you, so hopefully they don't. Right. You know? Hopefully they don't. You're right. Okay, and I don't give jealous that often, but I have been jealous before. And usually it's when, um, yeah, like when a guy cheated on me when I was like younger, but I don't typically get jealous because I have high self confidence. Oh, no, but I do sometimes you get a little threatened, but it's not, it's not a comp where I'm saying is it's not a, it's not a common feeling for me, but I do sometimes you get a little threatened, but it's not a comp where I'm saying is, it's not a common feeling for me, but it has come up before coming up for everybody. We all look at little jealous, but you have to realize it is an emotion that you can work

with and that you can transcend. Okay, so we have to... We've got to wrap it up. In a second, but I didn't even give any of my oral sex tips. Can I give some quick oral sex tips? Quick. Okay, so here's the thing. These are the tips for giving women amazing oral tips. Okay, so here's the thing. These are the tips for giving women amazing oral pleasure.

Use your fingers and stimulate the areas around surrounding her vagina first. Teaser by touching her entire body except for her vagina. Now, the teasing women don't go straight, she's not turned on yet. Her clitoris isn't even aroused. Just do all the other things around her clitoris isn't even aroused just do all the other things around her clitoris around her vagina and like you know like tease her give her a massage and warm her up. I want to put on some scuba gear and just dive into the vagina. No we don't want that we don't want you to dive right in. In fact if a guy dives right in I'm not even ready. So this is about prep touch her breaths her hips her thighs her labia her clitoris And this is something that my friend always says. He's like, I imagine that I'm eating like a juicy mango and I can't stop. Once you get there, you love it.

That's creepy. Yeah. So it's good to get the juice on your face, get sloppy, use lots of saliva, provide extra lubrication. If it's hard for you to enjoy the taste or smell, use a lubricate, a flavored lubricant. Or I'm sure you could use these strips. But mask strips, right? Couldn't a man use it?

I don't know why I meant to ask him that. So women typically take longer to orgasm from oral sex than men. So reserve more than a few minutes to please her orally. And what I'd like to say is that three minutes of oral sex you might as well of just not done it. Three minutes is nothing. Like when a guy's like, oh, I did it for like three,

it doesn't even, I don't even register that you're there yet after three minutes. Like I think you need to do good like 10, 15, 45 minutes. Oh, good. Well, you know what? You're going to get a billion emails from guys with like, yeah, man, I'm all in for 45 to an hour. There's a lot of men who are men.

It's a lot of men who love it. They can't get enough. A one man that I just cringe about 45 minutes. Okay, but you cringe about the whole thing, I think. What? I think you don't like it. There's special ladies that I just, you know. You can't just go down on everybody.

Well, do you expect women to all go down on you? I'm not going to force them to go down on me if they don't want to. Right, but they do. I'm just never going to call them to go down on me if they don't want to. Right, but they do. I'm just never going to call them again. Exactly, right. Okay, swirl your tongue around her vagina and stick your tongue inside. So these are all different things you can do because I think guys are confused. They don't know what to do.

I lick the clitoris, go all over, like explore and see where she mones pay attention to her to her moaning and her movements and her body. You can tell if she's like, if she's moving her body closer to you or she's pulling away, you can kind of tell if she's turned around. Yeah, man. Pretend you're like Indiana Jones and you're like going into those caves and you don't know what's happening, but you're exploring all the caves. Explore all of it. Can you have to mix up your sensations?

You've got your way up into your pressure. You've got your way up into your pressure. Some women like to be nice. You should mix up the pressure. It should, you just, we start soft and then you can make a little more harder with your tongue, a little faster, slower, like fluttery with your tongue, little pointy with your tongue.

You like, have to mix it up the whole time. But once you start doing something that feels really good and you can tell that it feels good, then you stick to that. And that's usually what brings a woman to orgasm. Sweet. If she doesn't seem stimulated by something, you're doing tri-saving else or ask what she wants.

I think that's just an amazing, like, every woman is different, every vagina is different, women get turned on in different ways. And so I think that you have to ask sometimes, if you're like, I really don't know what I'm doing. Like, there's nothing wrong with saying, like, what are you like? Because hopefully you're with a woman

who knows her body, she masturbates, she pleasures herself, she knows what makes herself feel good, and she can just impart that wisdom onto you. I don't think that that is such a, we don't think that you're a loser for asking. In fact, the guy who asks me shows that he really cares about my pleasure. So ask next time, okay, Mattis?

I'll ask. Okay. Ask. Okay, we gotta wrap it up. Yeah, we do. Sorry, people, but we're gonna be back with more shows. We'll be more shows tonight tomorrow. Amazing. We'll be well rested. Yeah, we got to wrap it up. Yeah, we do. Sorry people, but we're gonna be back with more shows. We're gonna be good. Amazing. We'll be well rested. We will be. Okay, everyone. Yeah. Good to see you.

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