Sex With Emily - Episode 350 - Playing Games

Episode Date: December 6, 2011

Emily does yoga acrobatics on a first date and Menace wants to have sex in his new car. Emily gives advice on how to increase and enhance the intimacy in your relationship. Also, have you ever dumped someone before the holidays so you didn’t have to buy them a present? Also, getting with the girl next door, making love vs. having sex, sex games, and what it feels like to have an orgasm. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. Yeah, listening to Sex with Emily, we're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. Hi everybody. Thanks for joining the show. Really loud in the beginning, sorry everybody.

Oh okay, sorry about that. Just a little louder. That wasn't louder than usual. Hi Menace. Hi, how you doing? Good, how are you? Oh my god, it seems like we haven't seen each other in a while. I know, it's really sad.

It's weird, it's weird. How was your life? My life is good. Hi, over the weekend. I got a car now. Awesome. So I'm noble. I'm going outside the city, which is really weird because, you know, you have a car. You never leave the city. Uh-huh. But once I get a car, I'm out. I'm going outside the city, which is really weird because you know you have a car

You never leave the city, but once I get a car. I'm out right right you love outside the city traveling everywhere and Um, I had to do this thing where I had to stop in six different cities and give away concert tickets So I stopped at all these cities and it made me realize how outside of San Francisco don't give it wrong There are beautiful women in San Francisco, but sometimes it's kind of hard to say because we all stay in our houses and stuff like that. We don't really go out that much unless we're going to a bar or something.

They're not just walking around the city all the time. If they are, they're covered up because it's cold. But I went out around this place, we called the Bay Area, and there were so many beautiful women just everywhere. Wow. Did you get any digits? I? Did I got an email. Okay. I got an email, but I didn't like you know Number I fall on that That's cool

Oh, yeah, let me get an email. That's cool. You get to be like the man of our towns Yeah, I was really cool the thing about many towns the thing I was doing There's this big concert on Friday that my work is putting putting on and then so I was like, you know, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like,

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I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like,, and then once I say at five o'clock, they come and show up and I give out tickets until I run out. Oh, that's so cool. Yeah, that's a fun one ride around with you. Oh yeah, some places I got mobbed, like seriously within five minutes,

there was already 50 people. Oh my God, that's really cool. Yeah, so it's really cool. That's great. Yeah, it's a fun time. Good times. And talking to people. That's good, and I'm glad you got your new Cousin car.

Yeah, that's awesome. You're gonna love my new sign. I can't wait to see it. Because it's smaller than your mini Cooper. It's smaller than my mini Cooper. Yeah. No way. I didn't think that exists. Except for the smart car which is scary looking. Is it like a smart car small? Uh, smart car is only two-seater. This is actually a four-seater. Oh my God. But it's a world's smallest force eater. That's awesome. You're so lucky. Okay. My weekend was good. I had a date on Friday with this guy,

and we went, it was like a picnic date. It was in Tiburon, and we had, he made all this organic food and it's made his own cocoa and he's really into yoga. And- Are you serious? Are you serious? Are you just fucking with me? Yeah, no, he's really into yoga and he did these like yoga acrobatics with me. I'm done with the show.

He did yoga acrobatics with me and he was throwing me around on the grass. Yoga acrobatics in the middle of the park. Yeah. yoga acrobatics he's in the middle of the park. Yeah He had the up he had me up on his legs and he was like throwing me around and it was kind of crazy and I wasn't that into him and a sexual way, but he was cool guy and then Yeah, I'm sorry honey. He was into yoga. What am I gonna and rock climbing and he's a pilot and he's a cool guy But it wasn't a love connection. And then I've been on like a myriad of dates, I guess. And then I've got my guy in Michigan, which I mentioned briefly, but when I went to Michigan,

there was this old flame that I hooked up with. Not even a flame, a guy that I had a crush on. We didn't have a boy we made out. We made out. We didn't say hook up, that means you're good. I didn't bang him, I made out with him. We shared a special kiss. All right.

So now he's coming to visit. And I've got him like plan and make it really cool and special. He's coming like next week. He's from Michigan, so I know he doesn't do yoga. Thank God. No, he does a lot of yoga. The Michigan guy does yoga. He does yoga. That is it.

It is over. In fact, I think we're going to do yoga when we're here. You and Tom, you might like yoga. Oh, no. I think that you're having strong reaction. I think that you're having a strong reaction. We have a collar. Let's take a collar, real quick. Let's take a collar.

Hello. Hi. I've got a strong number. Are you going to lower it? All right. How's your sex life? Okay, today's show. We're going to be talking about sex games.

Sex games are like my favorite things that you can do to spice up your relationship because medicine I actually going to play a sex game that he doesn't even know about but um yeah but there's a lot to do. You just hit me with the yoga stuff. How am I even gonna get to do this? I know honey I don't know I'm sorry the guys are into yoga there's a lot of men into yoga and I find that good that means that they're like spiritual and they're centered and they're calm.

Yeah centered and calm. Really into the 60s and you know the whole hate and ashberry and just hanging out man No, it's just yoga to try and yoga is like the people do now instead of pumping weights They like at the gym. They like do yoga So anyway, I'm getting cold. So anyway, uh, we're gonna talk about sex games There's a lot of different sex games out there and the thing about sex and chicken order man Adam and Eve We love Adam and Eve go to Adam andNive.com, use coupon code Emily.

Check out you get 50% off most items and free gifts and free shipping and free adult DVDs and all this cool stuff. Please so go support Adam and Eve for the holidays. But the thing about sex games is, so you're centering with your partner. It's another night, you rent a movie, you're doing the same things, maybe you have sex in the middle of the movie and then turn it back on and the couch and it'll be kind of boring. But if you play a sex game with your partner, it's really a way to kind of spice it up.

There's like all these fun games that exist and they're provocative. And you ask each other questions and you get to know each other better and you can play like Spin the Bottle or whatever, but there's more advanced versions of that. So we're going to get into that in a little bit. And we're going to be reading your emails. We've got tons of emails that you send to feedback at taxiselm.com or right through the website. Also, we have a contest going on right now. We talked about the mask products the other day, which are the products that some a whole hold on. Yeah, sex Emily.

You want to talk about sex? Yeah, we're talking about sex. What's up? I'm going to add a question regarding sex raise for Emily. Okay. What's up? I'm going to add a question regarding sex choice for Emily. Okay, what's up? I was just curious, so I can barely feel you, Emily. Oh, okay. Try that. Fix the volume. Is that better? That's better, that's better.

Okay, awesome. I hear you talk a lot about Jimmy Jane and their products. I want to buy something real nice to my wife. Oh, perfect. And I was leaning towards the Wii V. Oh, the Wii V? That's a good one too. Yeah, I've heard a lot of people talk about the form 2. I think it is.

Form 2 is awesome too, the Jimmy Jane form 2, yeah. So I was wondering if you have any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any, any of all, it penetrates, she can have clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation and you can use it while you're having sacs. It's pliable, it bends. And so she can have it inside her and you don't even know that it's there and it's a really cool toy for couples. But also the Form 2 is a really awesome gift that is from Jimmy Jane where you get like

really good clitoral stimulation. It goes around your clitoris, right? That's the form too, right? Kelsey, the one that has a little red, the two little rabbit ears. It's like, you know the popular rabbit toy. It's kind of like just the ears of the rabbit. And I've got a Jimmy Jane pics page on my website,

and if you go and you click on that, you can see there's some discounts there and stuff too to buy that. But I don't know what your wife into how does she or dhama clitori or we would you say that the form to is more for uh... individual use rather than no they're actually no that that's a thing they're both they're

both for both use you can easily the thing about the form to is you can easily use it during sex you could use it on, she could hold it up and use it herself. While you're having sex, it's very unobtrusive and it's small enough, but it's got a lot of power and a lot of pressure. And so I don't know, I think the Jimmy Jane is a really nice toy because it looks really beautiful. It charges as it's really cool charging case you could leave it on your nightstand. No one even knows what it is it's pink it's cool i would go for the jimmy jane yeah one of their positive thing about jimmy jane that i saw online listed it's got like a

four-year warranty and a lot of these sex toys break down so that's what's cool about jimmy jane but make sure you click on the emily's picks page from my website sex dummy dot com and then i think there's like a special discount, right? $25 off. $25 off. So do that. Thank you. I love that as a gift. Okay, bye. Good luck. If anyone wants to call and they've got questions, we're at 415-9927-392. And it's also on the website. That's on the website. Exactly. So anyway, we talked the other day about the mask strips that are for oral sex, that this guy created this thing

called your mask, M-A-S-Q-U-E, and it's when women are performing oral sex on a man, and they don't like the taste of semen. They're kind of like list-during strips that you print on your tongue, and we're giving away, we're picking three winners. And we're going to be sending you a gift bag, which includes a t-shirt, multiple packages of the product,

and some other goodies. So all you gotta do is email me, feedback at sexbelly.com with your best oral sex tip and your t-shirt size. And then we'll be picking three winners. And the flavors is Chocolate Strawberry, Watermelon, and Mango. So do that, send that to us. Please, please, please.

We love it. Okay. And Newpol on the website, right? Still the anal sex one, Kelsey. Is anal sex scary or sexy? A scary B sexy? What are your thoughts on that? I think it's sexy. Of course. Of course. I have a sex talk show. I'm scared. I'm totally I hate. I'm so scared. I'm not scared. Are you scared? I am not scared. I don't want to receive it. You would penetrate.

You would penetrate a woman in her anus with your penis. If she asked. That's what she wants. Very commonating of you. I'm a pleaser. You are a pleaser, aren't you? That's awesome. So yeah, that's what we got there. Anything else that we have to mention. That's good. Okay. So

though some women don't like it. I don't like it at all. I know. A lot of women are offended if you've been bringing it up. Yeah. Do you bring it up? No. No. I just see if they're kind of, I just kind of see if they if they hint to it and then you're like, oh, how do they hint to it? They kind of, they kind of bring it up. you're like, oh, how do they hint to it? They kind of they kind of bring it up. They're like, Hey, so I'd like you to annually penetrate my ass. Yeah, they usually say it exactly like that. Right, right. I'm just saying exactly. Um, yeah, anal sex is a big one. I actually just got to phone with my friend, Sadie Allison, who wrote one of my favorite books, tickles, pickle, and she's a new book coming out about anal sex,

all the tips and tricks. So she's going to be on the show in January. We've got lots of good guests and shows coming up. Really? Do you remember her? Yeah, I actually met her before I met you. She came in with a guest on some show that I worked on. Oh, I remember that. Okay, I remember you telling me that.

So yeah, we've got some emails we can get into. All right. Let's do it. She's like, too. Unless there's anything else you have to share with me. Like, if you had sex this weekend or anything. I did not. You didn't have sex this weekend? No. Yeah, I think I did. I mean, I wasn't drunk or anything. In your car? I was just so busy. No, not in my car. I would like to try to have sex in my car. You should have sex in your car. Since it is a very tiny car, I want to see if I can pull it off. I'm sure you can pull it off. Wait till I show it to you. This girl from Vegas, who do you have sex with?

Yeah, same girl. Oh, so you kind of have a girlfriend now? No, I don't have a girlfriend. You kind of have a steady banger. Girl, you're banging. Who doesn't have that? I just do. I don't really right now.

No, but I have this guy coming out from Michigan and I'm excited about it. We've only had two dates. He's going through divorce. He's got two kids. He's got two kids. He's got two kids. He's got two kids. I don't really right now. Yeah. No, but I have this guy coming up from Michigan that I'm excited about. We've only had two dates. He's going through divorce. He's got two kids.

I don't know what's going to happen, but you'll meet him. You might come in and check out the show and then you can grill him. Yes. I can. Yes, wait. Yes, wait. Let's move into our emails because we have not been able to spend a lot of time in emails lately.

So let's do that. Okay. This is about intimacy problems. Hey, guys, I have something that both of you will probably have a lot of time in emails lately, so let's do that. Okay, this is about intimacy problems. Hey guys, I have something that both of you will probably have a lot of input on. My guy has never had intimacy. He likes it but says it's a little overwhelming. It's killing me. He's not really ever had a foreplay either.

Don't get me wrong, the actual sexual intercourse is good, but it's not what I prefer and kind of sucks. So it's good but kind of sucks. I'm a very of sucks. So it's good, but kind of sucks. I'm a very intimate person. I love for a play. How can I get them used to it? Can I? Thanks. It's from Savvy in Modesto, California. She's a premium friends with benefits member. You guys know already that if you are a friends with benefits member, we answer your emails at the very, very top of the show and right away. So we love, we love your premium. We love when you're become a Frenchman, if it's better.

The changes are life. Yeah, it does. Okay, so how do you get a guy into, it sounds like the sex is, eh, and he's not into four play. I would say that you should start to let him know what you like and to let him know in a way that's like, you know, it really turns me on

when you play with my nipples. That feels really good. And you can even guide him with your hands and you can tell him how important it is to you. And just encourage him or bring up something from the past and be like, man, that time you went down on me, that felt amazing. And that's sure what his aversion to it is. A lot of guys have a version, a version, a version of version to think. I'm looking for versions. Looking for versions. A lot of guys have an aversion to activities that they don't feel confident in.

And so if he may be not, he might not have had a lot of experience. So you might need to show him. You might need to take the lead and be like, I'm not warmed up, babe. I don't go from zero to 60 like you do. I need some foreplay. And you don't want to say it again in a nice way. You don't want him to feel like he's doing things wrong. If they do anything's bad, but you can kind of encourage him and be like, you know, be

really fun. And then maybe you play play with him and then he plays with you You know you perform on him and then you see me just you and also what we're gonna be talking about today is sex games and The sex games are a great opener for four play minutes and I are gonna play one together The dice thing there's people are really big into the dice Yeah, the sex dice that's, one of the die has body parts and the other part has action words, like lick, bite, nibble. So you can get roll it and it's like nibble, toes. And so that could be really cool.

And you could get all these at Adam and Eve.com. I think it's a great gift for the holidays as a sex game because it's kind of like a way of enhancing your sex life without having to talk about it without having to like even if you're uncomfortable bringing it up with him you can also Just play a game and have the game speak for you the game asks questions the game You know will probe you guys along in your relationship and so You just and also in your, you said that he says that

sexes that that four plays overwhelming. So I just want to reiterate the fact that he probably just doesn't know what he's doing. And you're going to need to show him, which is always kind of a buzzkill, but to the end, you just got to. I think it is pulled the typical woman move. And it's like, look, you're going to get nothing. And less, you do this. I don't like threats. Well, that's what a lot of women do right? I think that you Jesus my nose is running so I would think that you have to go ahead Go ahead and sneeze or no, go ahead. It's not coming. So anyway

Yeah, good luck to it's gonna take communication here. So the communication is lubrication or bringing in some sex toys If you have vibrators that you like and you need for play be like honey put this on my clitoris Yeah, good luck to you. It's going to take communication here. So the communication is lubrication or bringing in some sex toys. If you have vibrators that you like, and you need for a play, be like, honey, put this on my clitoris, ASAP. Like just start bringing it because the more you do it, it's like everything, you'll get more comfortable with it, the more you do it. Um, yeah, I, you know, even though guys don't like to talk, I do agree with you on the first approach of just like Hey, let's talk it out a little bit. Yeah, let's talk it out

Cuz he's gonna do whatever to make you shut up anyway, so he's gonna do what you want right exactly true or not True true what I love it. You're like true or not true true or not true of my my statement that if you start Initiating a conversation about it. He's gonna do whatever you want to get you to stop talking I hope so just shut the hell up But and he says never really had four plays so you're talking about a beginner here I mean, I don't know how old you are, but If you guys never done it before I'd be overwhelmed too, so you just looks like you're gonna have to take the ropes here and just kind of be okay with that That's do okay, sex on religion is our next topic.

Oh, no. All right. I love your podcast and think it plays an important part in educating folks about sex. Quick background on my question. My wife and I are religious and neither of us have had any premarital sex. Our first time was the night of our honeymoon.

Growing up more men, we don't believe in any sex outside marriage. My parents, siblings, and friends were sure to talk with me about sex and prepared me not prepared me so it's not thought of as dirty within marriage. In fact, it's very encouraged. My wife went to the other and came into the marriage without any preparation for sex. Only the mindset was resisting temptation. As a result, our sex life is not progress as hoped.

Now married seven years, I find that she rarely initiates and is uncomfortable communicating about it in a reasonable fashion. I still feel a little like I'm walking in eggshells during sex, like I'm afraid to say something to dirty or something. She even stops things short because she can't handle it if it's a sensation to intense. The time to ignore when she said things are too intense is the time she has great orgasms. My question is, does she or we need counseling? Or do you think it's something simpler?

I worry about hurting your feelings. They are fairly tender on the subject of sex, but I worry she was a little over sheltered growing up, and I'm not sure the best way to approach that. I know this is unusual for your show, but I'd love your advice from Michael. Well, Michael, you brought up a really, really, this is a great email because I can't tell you how many people have sexual challenges because of their upbringing. You were raised more men, other people were raised extreme Catholics or whatever it is. It doesn't matter.

A lot of people were brought up with these messages and it's almost like brainwashing. From a young age, you're told sex is only for procreation, weight-till marriage, and you don't have any experience practicing. you don't have any experience practicing, you don't have any experience like reading about it or looking at it. So I would say that you brought up counseling. I think she's got some deep seated issues from these messages that she had sent to her at a young age. And maybe you guys could go to a sex counselor together or a therapist together and talk it

through and she might feel more comfortable. She's probably not even aware of the impact that it all had on her. Because I'm sure like from a very young age of being raised more men, they're telling her things like sex is for procreation. Hold on on sex. And you can't easily as an adult escape those messages

because they just, they stay with you. So I would say counseling, if you've tried talking to her about it and you tried to make her feel comfortable and let her know that everything is okay and it's okay to perform all sex or it's okay to have orgasms. But it sounds like she's still really resistant, especially if she stops you when it feels really good. I would say that a little counseling might be a good thing for her to kind of unleash all this stuff, get it on the table, realize that the messages

that she was told might not necessarily be what's helping her in her marriage now, right now they might actually be hurting your sex life. And so that's what I would recommend. Yeah. Or just go to, you know, a tropical island in this bang for like three days straight. She's not comfortable banging. She doesn't feel like sex is right, but you're right. I want to do that. I so want to go bang for three days on tropical island. I do the patients so bad. Just do it. Who's going to bang me? I'm sure you can open the phone lines. Who wants to bang me over Christmas? Call me.

Semine email. Semine email. Feedback at sexesandme.com. And also, it's funny because you even, you're ring up like all the religion stuff. And remember, I also had the fear put into me by my mother. Yes. Do not have sex because you get a girlfriend. You get a girlfriend.

So I didn't have sex else. 18. Yeah. A lot of people have these messages that you have to. And not that your parents didn't have the best intentions or your religious institution. They didn't have the best intentions. But you can't, unfortunately, we spend a lot of our adult life healing our childhood. Because we get messages, our parents do the best job they can but oftentimes we get messages that are not the best for our adult life and so you have to just

Unravel them get into it. Okay. The next topic is breaking up What I have a good thing. Can I interrupt that please? It was a it was something that always comes up around this time of year. Okay. And it's about breaking up. Oh, dumping season. Go ahead. Dumping season. Yes. We had a question that we threw out there today.

I wanted the radio stations and we said, have you ever dumped somebody before the holiday so you didn't have to buy them gifts? Oh, what people say. And some people were like, oh, that's messed up. Oh, yeah, I've done it. And yeah, because gifts are expensive and they're all out of stress.

And what does he like? Yeah, are you have ever been dumped right before the holidays? I have. I've dumped someone before the holidays. You did? It wasn't because of the gift directly, but not having to buy a gift was a bonus.

I'm like, I still want to dump you. I don't want to go spend Christians through family and I don't want to buy you a present. Wow. Harsh huh? That's very harsh. What was the majority of the calls were they people, dump people? They thought no one wanted to admit it, but you know, that's what they're really thinking too. If you didn't want to be with somebody and you're like, damn, I don't want to be with this person and you had to buy them gifts, you would probably dump them. Yeah, exactly. It's kind of makes sense.

Why am I going to go spend a hundred bucks on a gift for a guy that I'm going to be dumping in five years? You only spend $100 on them? 200? I don't know. I don't know about how to loan a gift. Yeah, maybe I would just see all you women all year. I've had a boyfriend so long over the holidays that I cannot buy to get for a guy in years. Wow, you should have all your

money saved then. Yeah, exactly. I'm really rich right now actually. Okay, the next topic is breaking up, like I said, Emily, I'm listening to your show for the past year and I love it. I want to get your feedback on a situation. Here it goes. I'm 29. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2.5 years. But don't think we'll get married. So I'm going back and forth on whether we should break up. She's awesome, has other equalities, but I'm just no in light, not in love,

and don't see it heading that way. Most guys would kill for a guy like her, but if it isn't there, it isn't there. So here is the added complication. I live in a small building, six units, and the hottest girl I've ever met at grad school just moved it across the hall. We talked a few times during class enough to become Facebook friends etc. We talked the other day when we were walking in I followed I followed up with a private friendly note on Facebook welcoming her to the neighborhood. So two

questions. How do I handle the breakup and how do I try to pursue the girl next door without making it awkward if it doesn't work out. Can't wait to hear back. And there's no name sign with this one. Okay, first of all, let's tackle this girlfriend that you've been dating for about 2.5 years, but don't think you'll get married. Sounds like you're not in love with her. You're not in love with her. You're not sure about her. And so I would just rip the bandaid off and break up with her.

You're feeling it. You're not in tour. I think that's totally fine. And if you know that you don't love her and it's not heading that way, you have all the answers you need, but you probably are still in your mind going, but she's so great on paper. And any guy would kill for a girl like this. That line of thinking just messes us up because we're like, I've broken up with so many guys who are all great, they're all amazing, they have good jobs and nice to their family, they're really good, but they're

just not for me and I don't feel the love. So don't be yourself up and don't think you're going to be able to talk yourself into it. You've been with her for 2.5 years. I really think that's enough time to make an educated decision that you need to jump, that you need to break up with her. Okay, so I feel like you're there already. The next thing is the woman, the woman that moves across the hall, first of all, you gotta be weary about people in your building because you might go out with her and then it ends in and she's living across the hall from you. So, the girl next door, you could just pursue it like,

hey, let's, you know, let's go get a coffee in the morning. I wouldn't try to like come on strong with a whole date thing but just be like Welcome to the neighborhood um And and you know you guys have the connection from grad school and everything And so I would suggest like a casual outing that doesn't make you seem like you it's a date like Hey, would you like to go with me a Friday night? But like hey you're across the hall and like let's go play in the you know Whatever, maybe there's some tennis courts in your building or maybe there's some

I don't know. I'm just trying to think if you live in the same building There could be something cool. You could do together or just grab coffee in the morning There's some tennis courts in your building, or maybe there's some, I don't know, I'm just trying to think if you live in the same building, there could be something cool you could do together, or just grab coffee in the morning. There's no tennis courts in my building. Mindy there. But just be, yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing it, but make sure that you break up with your girlfriend before you do that. And again, ease into it, maybe she's got a boyfriend, maybe she's done into it, maybe

you guys just become good friends. So I think it's good in this situation to tread lightly. Yeah, and do you run the risk of running the well dry. You're going to cut off your your your supply of vagina. Exactly. Your vagina supply might be dwindling. Yeah, because you're going to cut it off with her and then you might not get with the Southern chick. Right. And then what do you do after that? Exactly. And I want to make sure that you're not breaking up with your girlfriend because of this chick that's smoothed in the building. Yeah.

I want to make sure that you already want to break up with your girlfriend. The grass is always greener, everybody. The grass always greener. She was the hottest girl in grad school, OMG. She lives across the hall. That is no reason to end your 2.5 year relationship if that's related. So I would have a long honest conversation with yourself about that. Yeah.

A lot of women, they just, they flirt with you and tease with you because they know you got a girlfriend too Yeah, that's true too. They're like oh, he's safe He's safe. I can play around with him because he's not really gonna try to get at me exactly Watch out man. These these women are gypsies and tricksters. I know. Okay You're right Yeah, some women are but you know, it's okay. So I'm not taking it. Shifters. Wait, so it's one.

Wait, I'm tango. What's wrong with you? I got tango. Everybody she tangled her headbone cords around her heels. I know. We have to move into sex games right now because we only have a few more minutes. Go ahead. This is game of sex if you can do it.

Okay, so truth or Dare was fun in middle school and spin the bottle was great in high school. But a dothold, you can really start to play some games. So again, a lot of these games, you can get it. Adamanyve.com, they're great gifts for the holidays. Use coupon code Emily at checkout. You will get a bunch of discounts. So some of the games are,

Truth or Dare is a really good one. So Adam and Eve got one called Truth or Dare and they have poker for lovers. Those are great. So here's one called Intimate for Play where you ask each other these questions and it's really a great way to reveal. A lot of times people don't want to be like, so what's your fantasy? It's hard to do, but if you're playing a game and you spin the dice or you roll the dice and then the questions come up

Then you kind of blame it on the game and you didn't have to do the lehavi lifting So menace I have a question for you All right, you guys I want you to show me one of your original sounds You want me to show you some of my original songs? Yeah, show me one of your radiance on right here That's a point into his penis. How about something besides that? Do you have any other Rajas owns that like, really turn you on like if a woman tickles your back or something or kisses your ear?

No, don't like any of that. Really? Yeah, I just making out, I like that. Oh, you like to make out. But I don't need you to touch any other parts of my body that's freaking. Manus is so tight. Okay.

Let's see. Okay, Manus, I'd like you to describe that this is all from this is from a game called Intimate for Play. Describe the difference in making love and having sex. What's the difference? Making love is a lot of work, everybody. It's time. You slow it down, you know,

that you put into the process of it. Making love is when you actually love the person, I believe. Oh, sweet. True or not true? True, can be true, yeah. Yeah, I think 80% of the time when you're making love, you really care for that person.

Right. And then all the other times, if you don't feel that way about the person you're having sex. Okay good okay here grab one of these, ask me a question. Hmm. Just mix them up. Name one way that you would show your love for me. For you? For me are let's just say for a guy for a guy. Well, how would I show my love for you? I would For a guy I guess I'm definitely not cook them dinner. Oh my god. I wouldn't cook them dinner I would my friends teaching me how to cook though next week. I would Give them a back massage

All right, like a full body really hot massage Cool, that's good. You wouldn't like that. No right. Like a full body, really hot massage. Cool. That's good. You wouldn't like that? Nah, I need a chiropractor. Okay. It's annoying if somebody just rubbing on me. I just want somebody to stand on my back.

Look, planet are you on that you don't like being a chiropractor. What? I want something to really get in there. I can get in there. I'm a really good masseuse. True. It's true. Not really. Okay. You wouldn't even know this. If you were a cartoon character or a comic book character, who would you be and why? I don't think you can answer this one. Okay. You're okay. All right.

Oh, I like this one. What? If you had MP real don't give me any bullshit lines of how you want world peace and crap like that I want to hear if you had three wishes What would you wish for? It might and you can't wish for more wishes. You can't wish to live forever Why tell me what I cannot cannot do if I had three wishes I would wish for True love Finding a partner in life that I can drive with and who can handle all my stuff. I would wish for

sex with Emily to become the most successful sex education website, web TV show on the planet and helping people with their sex life. And I would wish for just like health and happiness for all my friends and family. Cool. And world peace. Alright, let's get into some erotic stuff. Okay. So boring.

What? Describe the feelings of one of your orgasms. How do you feel when that happens? I feel- I feel- When I'm having an orgasm, I feel like I've sort of being- I know nothing is going through my mind. My mind is blank.

I feel like I'm being like electrically shocked in some ways. Like your brain shuts off and it just feels amazing and it rises up through your body from your toes, like through your loins, through your fingertips. Super hot. So it feels good. It feels freaking good. It's been a long time. Okay.

It's sort of ready for me to have a chance. I think I might know the answer to this one. Okay What have you not done sexually would you like to try what do you think I've not done? Well, I you say you haven't done this but to do that one time I Haven't done two days at one time, but I would be down with that so would that be Yeah, no one to duties at one time. Okay All right It's all humorous humorous That's good. We have some other things to go through

Kelsey, which one's the shy read through this? I should read through these next time Let me see. Did you take these out? You didn't want me to read these? No, I can't read those to you. No, no, no. Okay, then you, no, no. Okay, this last one. No, we can continue on the next show. Okay. Just describe the difference of making love and having sex to you. Okay. Because you said you never really been in love. I think making love. In love. So this is you. This is you answering this question. I think that making love is when you slow it down and you're staring at each other's eyes and you really are hopefully in love or deep-lost the person and you feel really safe

and connected. And it just, everything feels amazing and you're just like, oh my God, I'm so in love with you or into you. And you just feel like connected and your bodies are flowing together as one. And having sex is just like kind of more, let's just bang.

It's pounding. It's just pounding. It's going to pound town. You can do the jack. You can do the jack rabbit. I don't care. Yeah. All right.

Okay. So there are some other games that you could do that are like some of the traditional Seven minutes in heaven. Do you ever play that game with your younger? Yeah, I never did it But yeah, take seven minutes in heaven to the next level by playing an adult sex game Well, you'll get more out of it than a steamy make-out section Wait in the closet. Well, she strips down to lingerie or nothing at all. The dark and confined space will build the sexual tension. Once she enters the closet, start kissing her everywhere over the lips until you both can't stand it anymore. Teasing can be extremely sexy and

important element of the game. So teasing, create a rule that you and your partner know you will break. Maybe the rules know touching each other with your hands. You can move against each other as much as you want but cannot touch each other with your hands. You can move against each other as much as you want but cannot touch each other with your hands. The first person to break the rule has to use several S and do a sexual favor for the winner's choice. The fun part about this sex game is no one really loses because you will be having sex. And then there's naked twister.

Twister will get you and your partner in crazy positions naked. When one of you falls you can have passionate sex right on the Twister mat. Twister can be even more fun if you strip and tease with your partner before they tumble. As with most games, it's just more fun when you strip and when you have sex when it's over or in the middle of the game. And then you could make yachtsy really sexy. You can play truth or dare. There's lots of different things you can do.

So when you're sitting around over the holidays, maybe you're making some eggnog or decorating the tree, why not throw in a sexy game? And again, you can buy a lot of these at Adam and Eve.com. You scoop on code Emily, check out, and that's all we got time for today. It is, and we have another show coming though. We have another show coming.

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