Sex With Emily - Erik Griffin Has Sex With Emily

Episode Date: April 26, 2014

Emily’s guest tonight is comedian Erik Griffin from Comedy Central’s show Workaholics. Emily and Erik talk about the reality of digital dating today. They discuss the art of flirting on the Tinder dating app, sex myths, mismatched libidos and women that “collect men like comic books.” They also debate whether or not sex is the most important thing in a relationship. The talk about “Friends with Benefits,” relationships,  the importance of communication in bed and the thrill of pleasing your partner. They discuss turning your insecurities into swagger as well as why being hot isn’t all that matters when you’re looking for the perfect partner! Emily and Erik answer emails from listeners and give advice to a woman who has trouble orgasming during sex and hilariously reveal why communication is the ultimate lubrication!Emily gives Erik advice on how to get one step closer to getting the perfect blowjob (apparently he hasn’t one yet) and even motivates him to adjust his Tinder settings. Dating a bit older might get him just want he needs in the bedroom. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I was always excited all day, but now if there's a better backstory about how we got him in the studio, this is Eric Griffin. He's an actor and writer and comedian. Yes. Fans of the hit Comedy Central series, Workaholics, they might recognize them

as Eric Griffin, the show's iconic series, regular Montez. Also, you perform live at the Gotham, on Comedy Central. Last comic standing on NBC, comics that were on Showtime, National City of Comics and Least. You've done everything. Yeah, I was on the rest of the development this year.

Oh my God. And did Franklin and Bash? You've done it all. Yeah, well whatever. Well, you've done the right, you've done all the right things. But what's so interesting is that, and then you have, wait, and then you have your debut comedy album coming out. What already came out? Okay, my album's out of Sun, Side One, Dummy Records, it's called Technical File, Volume One.

How do you find that? You can find it on iTunes. iTunes. iTunes is the best for everything. You can go to my website. Okay, Eric, what's your website? EricRiffin.com with K. Eric with K. Okay, so Eric's here. So here's what happened. So we're doing a special show tonight because I like, you know, I like to bring you two shows a week. And we didn't have a second show planned up long story short because you know I do one show with Menace who's like usually who's like my sidekick in San Francisco and long story short we can do it one this week in Lawrence like I've got someone great. I met this guy Eric Griffin. He's a comedian.

He's awesome. He's funny and he's going to come in. I'm like that's amazing. I like to you up. You were actually funny and awesome. But just now the show tell me exactly how you met my assistant Lauren. Well, Lauren she was at the laugh factory. I was performing. I believe it was a Monday night.

It was kind of late. And she was a drunken mess in the crowd. OK, good to know. Those girls, that was, I, oh, you know, just, and she was looking super hot that night too, by the way. She always, she even looks hot when she's trying to act like all business like that. Yeah, she got gold shoes on today,

but she was looking like, take me home and do me proper, huh? Exactly, that's good. She was a little drunk too, but not to sloppy drunk, but it was like. It was a perfect kind of drunk. It was a perfect kind of drunk. She was still a fun, clarity drunk.

She was about to barf on you drunk. Yeah, well, my notary would have been able to get a signature from her. Right, exactly. Right, right. And then we just started, you'd be having on Instagram, and then she flirted me in here a yippie appin on Instagram and then you know She flirted me in here today. Oh my god. That's a good job. Yay Lauren. Okay, but you would have come anyway, right? I would have come anyway. It's great, but I mean you know

I'm just keep I like the story about Lauren being off fucked up because she's usually you know She does that's right when I when I met when I came in tonight She was all like oh, how good to see you and I'm like who's this right exactly? She's she's a fun party girl, but she's also a serious worker So that's you know, that's how we love her, you know, yeah She's always yeah, she's told me about how she you know you work her to death and the hours are crazy Yeah, exactly. I don't know. She said no, that's not true. It is crazy. It is crazy because sex never sleeps Well, it like you should take a break every now and then We do you think exactly no there is a refractory period before we can go again.

So, but I appreciate you coming on the show. No problem. So today's show is going to be a little hybrid. We're going to talk to you. We're going to. I love to get, you know, I often read emails for my listeners. We're going to have you, you know, get some of your advice as a man. Is it single?

Yeah, I'm single. Okay. You've dated your fair share? Yeah, I've dated, you know, and then things have been different since being on the show. That's pretty weird. Right, because you probably get laid more people having more. Oh, yeah, yeah. I think I've quadrupled my numbers since the last week.

Just being on, you know, girls actually fuck you because you're on TV. I've asked you to be weird. It's one of my questions. Seriously, don't say it. It is weird. Like, what happens? Give me an example. What?

You know what it is? It's like, when you're on a show that people are so enamored by, like that's their favorite show. And then they admire what you do. So I don't want to look at it as a bad thing. I don't want to like downplay it. I don't want to be like, well, these women are dumb.

No, no, no, no, no. It's like. They appreciate your humor. Yeah, appreciate it. It's all that kind of thing. And people tell me, well, they don't want to be doing it because you're on TV.

I'm like, and. And your problem is? They're your problem is the whole reason why I got on TV. So yeah, that's just how it happens. And then how do they meet you? Like, are they waiting outside this? They come up to recognize you. You know what? I got to tell you in this thing in age of social media, you know, they find you, you know, like, like, I love Tinder. That's one of my favorite. You got Tinder right? I'm like Tinder. I love it. Yeah. Anyway. Um, so like I'll say it on stage. I'll be like when I come to a town I get on Tinder and then like afterwards, you know, I've met a couple of people that

would be like I was at your show tonight. Right. Well, blah. The next thing you know, you know, next thing you know, they're in your hotel room. Yeah, they're in my hotel room. That's amazing. So you can have a woman in every port. Well, I mean you can but you know You got to be careful because people are crazy right no people are crazy That's true. No, I'm not just you know what I found out about myself is that you know

You think that you're just attracted to like somebody this like just physically hot right? But then I find out that that's not that doesn't always that's not enough. No, it's definitely no It's enough for for a second you go in but, you go in, but then the wishes are talking and then it's like, I don't know, I need a little connection. Exactly, you got to have that. Not too much brains where they think they're better than you, but you know what I mean? Well, that's not brains, that's actually insecurity, I think,

when someone's trying to think they're better than you and they're trying to prove you wrong, that's usually when they feel like they know that they're dumb and so they're trying to prove it in a way that makes them look dumb or. I would say, or I would say like that, you know, women have such a so much to deal with anyway in society that they have to like overcompensate like that's true to the

truth is if like I have to show that I'm like a man it's like no you're not so don't try to be like that you know it's so annoying I meant people in general who I'm trying to they try to like condescending yeah kind of sending are like one up you because they think they're scared but you're right it is It is hard for women. Yeah, it's like I have to pretend I'm smart every single day. Yeah, come on. You are smart. That's what you're doing. I have my moments, you know. I do. I would say it's really tough for women. I think just because you know, the you're your most I like to call up your Olympic years, you know, like you know, it's like 18 to 28. Yeah. That's when you have to win gold. Right. If you don't, you're going to get a cat by 35.

But I'm just saying, that is also when you're at your most shallow. And also the best time to have a kid. Those three things do not coincide with each other. It's like really difficult. That's what the two of the youth is wasted on the young. It's so true. It's like when I was like 25, like, please, like couldn't even have had a cat or a kid.

I still can have a cat. I tried to have a dog for a while. It didn't go over that well But no, I know what you're saying. It's totally true and I wasn't going for the gold either Most women you're right. They are between those ages and then they get older and especially in LA It's like a total different. Have you lived in LA for a while? Yeah, I've lived in LA my whole life How do you see your form here? So okay, so I'm fairly new to LA. What's been a year? So I lived in San Francisco. So how do you find dating in LA? What's a little more difficult because you know, I Mean just girls in LA already think they are entitled to like more than they really deserve I mean, I don't know I really don't get it. I don't get this like, you know

Like it's like attitude cuz it's not like that. I mean there's pockets of women like that and everywhere There's people like that every but in LA in particular they think you think about a certain pockets of women like that. Everywhere. There's people like that. On the planet, right. But in L.A. in particular, they think, you're talking about a certain type of women, like the women who are like actress model waitresses. Well, I think that a lot of chicks in L.A. think that trying to do something is the same as actually doing something. Right. Like, I'm an actress.

It would have been done. Yeah, you're not an actress. Till you like, I always say, whatever you're, if you have to ask somebody to go do something, if you have to go to someone and say, hey, I need to get off on Wednesday because they need to go do this, then whoever you're asking, that's your priority.

That's exactly. That's what you are. So until that's gone, you're not that thing yet, really. So, you know, or my favorite is, if someone thinks, like if someone says, you look like a model That doesn't mean you're a model Totally you must be a model right? I get that too Nellie's it why I did wherever I'm like like a liner

But since you okay, but you weren't always a comedian. So this is not been your lifelong path You had a career. Yeah, I was doing something completely different and then I just didn't want to wake up 50 and be like I didn't follow my dreams. You know, because I think most people, you know, most people, they become a slave to their possessions to paying for things instead of having experiences. I think that people become afraid to fail or succeed and then they get trapped in a relationship that they hate. They get trapped in a job that they don't love and then their life is like they wake up

and like, oh my God, I hate my life. But that was a choice. And so, you know, I just didn't want to be like that. You know, I just really went for it. And, you know, here I am. I'm on your show. I'm on a television show that people love. Yeah, people love it.

I try to be worried. You see about it. So you just, so how many years now have you been doing this? Since 2003. Oh, okay. So you quit and did, but probably did it take a while? Or were you like lucky? No, no, no, I just think that, um, I mean you like luck? Um, no, no, no, I just think that

I'm no, but you well, no, I don't mean to take while I just wondering the trajectory because it's not easy to break any kind of what You know what I'm side doing it or are you doing a stand-up? I I just went for it. I went to open mics every single day and I you know I just start I just knew that I need I had a plan I knew I didn't need to like get the perspective my peers right away Those people to get you work. I just I didn't know I knew you had to like cultivate relationships like like a plant Like you know, it's not gonna grow right away You got to put water and you got to feed you got a little give it light and it's got to take time

You got to build real relationships, but it's such a fast paced town people just think that you know Oh, hey, what can you do for me? And it's like I want you to find out if you want them to do something for you Or you want to do something for them, so you know, it took some time It took some like real effort it took like you know me just not being afraid and I just I went for it You know how you got over a lot of fears I did and I probably still dealing with a lot of fears more in your comic You're so insecure and you know you want to be heard listen to me, you know, I mean, I'm still bitter about a lot of fears. And when you're a comic, you're so insecure, you want to be heard.

Listen to me. You know what I mean? Exactly. I'm still bitter about a lot of things. And so I'm just trying to look back. I know. Are you in therapy? No, no, the comedy.

That's the therapy. Oh, the comedy is therapy. Yeah, if I didn't do that, it'd probably be crazy. Exactly. So like, what would you say? Like, I saw some of your YouTube videos in your show, but what? Is there any common things that you like talk about? Are you excited about coming up or that you just about my

Perspective on things like I like talking about online dating like I like talking about Tinder Okay, yeah, okay, I need to I did a live tinder day because I have no time to date in the studio a few weeks ago I've never met him I come into the studio and I like let candles Oh nice. We had wine. Yeah, the live tinder day was fun Well, here's my problem as I first date on Tinder and I like like candles. Oh nice. We had wine. Yeah, I had a live Tinder day. It was fun. Well, here's my problem though. That was my first date on Tinder and my last,

because I had a time. Well, my thing with Tinder is, but that's a choice. You making that choice yourself too. No, I know, I know. I'm not prioritizing it as excuses. You making that as excuses. I find guys here and there, but I do whatever. I know, but it's like, is that all we really want?

I mean, out of life, you know. What? No, it's just guys. What? No, but it's like, it's like, are you afraid of relationships? Yeah. Like, are you afraid of like, yeah? I mean, you know We're all free to be

I don't I don't prioritize relationships. I do my work, but those who can't do tea. I don't see all I hear is excuse I just you you are hiding behind this work because you don't want to let's get to the real I've been in relationships. No, I've been in so many relationships But that's okay when you say I've been in so many relationships. But that's okay. When you say I've been in so many relationships, that means you're horrible at relationships. No, I just need to, you know what it's come to, is that I've decided, I've come to the place where I realize that I actually don't want the traditional relationship.

And that's a very hard place to be, to tell everyone that feel I'm gonna stand on, like, no, I really have never wanted to get married. I don't want children. Yeah, that takes like a certain amount of like, first of all, it's harder to be in, like, say a polyamorous relationship. That takes a maturity and an honesty level

that most people don't even want to deal with. Exactly. But they just don't want to deal with it. Right, and people who are in polyamorous relationships have this practice, this fierce honesty, like they tell everything you can't lie, you can't cheat, if they overcommunicate in a way that no you think that's uncomfortable No, it's not uncomfortable. It works for them people was they know it always works You know but but marriage is only always work well. They most of them don't work right?

So people like polyamory is work. I'm like yeah, how's your marriage doing? So I'm not saying a polyamor see though. I'm just saying I'm just saying that's an example of you totally and I might be I don't know I've dated saying that's an example of you. Totally. I might be. I don't know. I've dated multiple people and they all know at once, but I'm not like in a polyamorous love circle or anything. So the point is, but it's true that they practice like this fierce honesty. People just like, oh, it could never work. But then they're like, okay, I want us, I love you.

I have a primary partner, but I might want to see, but I'm going to see, but someone else. And you know all the facts, all the details, rather than if you're in a committed relationship and you might be like lying or cheating or having a perfect, I mean there's a perfect way to go about it. But that is my relationship thing is that I had to, I kept trying to get relationships where they wanted that typical thing that I didn't want. So that's kind of where I came from. I don't think any body, I don't think people that are in that typical thing want that typical

thing. They don't, and I just want that. I don't think they want that. But what happens is you like, just like in your life where you like get like get like let's say if I'm in a job that I hate But then I buy a house so I have to stay at that job. That's what happens in relationships Exactly. They get kids or they get like they make these choices that now they go well God we got to stay together, but nobody really I don't know that many people that really want that or like if they can it Or I don't say that I think they want it. Right. But they don't know how to apply it.

They don't know how to actually attack it and make it work until there's a problem and then they're in therapy. So that's why I think that couples need therapy. I think it should be like you're going to your, you know, monthly or by month, what you're, you know, you're, you know, you're going to check up to your doctor or something. I believe that every couple should enter therapy fairly early on. Like I'd say within the first year, and especially if you're going to get married because there's

certain tools that these people that we're talking about, people will get married. They only go into therapy or they only like, the problems happen when there's a crisis, when it gets to crisis level. And then before that time, they haven't dealt with it. So I think like in therapy, you can really develop tools that you need like a mediator come and talk to because then to help you guys communicate, because just because you fell in love and a baby and all this stuff doesn't mean that you know how to communicate through our time.

So I think a lot of marriages might last longer, but you're right, people get in, they get trapped. And I just never, I mean, I don't know what it is. I just, you know, I just never really wanted that, but you're right, I think a lot of people do get seconded and they don't want that. But then the people I would say on the other side, like we're saying right now, you're saying,

you don't want that, but then you'll, you know, then you like, you know, then you find it awkward to like, you know, you want to have sex. Right. And you have sex, but then there's some weirdness that happens. Right. You know, so I always tell people like, if you have a fuck buddy and you're like, I say you have to stop it at a certain point.

Right. Because eventually someone's going to want more. It gets ruined. It's better. Yeah, friends and benefits, you benefit for a little while and then move on. Exactly. And benefit with someone else. But then we like comfortable, we want to be comfortable.

We're creatures of on. Exactly. And benefit with someone else. But then we like comfortable, we want to be comfortable. We're creatures of comfort. Right. So therefore, that's why we want more, but we don't want in that traditional way. Right. So there's a way to be committed with someone and then maybe bring in Wood Elver.

I think that everyone has the opportunity to create whatever kind of relationship they want and they don't. We're so, please. First of all, that's so hard because people are so insecure, people are so possessive, there's no way, and then men and women are so completely different, and they don't wanna acknowledge that. That's the biggest thing too.

Right, exactly. Like I tell people like on my shows, I always tell women, I say, don't be a coward. Like it is cowardly to not tell your man how to please you. Exactly. It's a coward's move. It's because it's because women don't can't accept rejection. Like if a man says to a woman like, you know, you're not doing it for me right now, that would be like, oh my god, I just

live my throat as opposed to like, you know, but guys like to be coached, you know, we like to be coached. You want the directions? You want directions? We're like like in a huddle. Like, give me what play you want me to run. So do you find that women typically do not tell you what tell you what they like because I talk that's all I talk that's my like the the purpose of my that's why I'm on the planet I think I tell men and women that they have to communicate about sex and they don't and so if you've been with women whether it's like not mom and you're like tell me what yeah but then

it then it becomes like but then okay but here's the attitude of that though like let's say it's your birthday coming up. And if you say it's my birthday, and I knew it, it takes away from it, from me to say happy birthday to you now, because you've told me already. So there's a lot of it. I'm thinking I thought you didn't know it my birthday.

I know, but see what I'm saying, is people get this kind of feeling of like, well now you've really good. Oh, you mean the sex, but it's like, hey, you need to do this or that. But that's why it needs to be done in a certain way where it's like, you know, you know, that's what the pre-talk needs to be about, you know, they need to be like, they're flirting.

You think the pre-sex talk? You think you need like before you actually have sex, you're like, so listen, when you're going down on me, I don't mean like that. Not like a, not like a, I key a directions. Okay. I don't mean like that, but there's, there's, I think you should be open. I think you should take your walls down earlier. So you could start to like anticipate things.

You could start to like, you know, you know what you might enjoy or not enjoy. Like you could find out of somebody, you're like maybe a girl doesn't want, I don't like when guys make my buzzing. I don't like that, you know. Then you know that, you hear that ahead of time, then you're gonna be like, okay,

I'm not gonna try to do that, you know. Right, exactly. No, you're right, people don't, and that's another thing. We're talking about people earlier who don't communicate in relationships. People don't, and that's another thing. We were talking about people earlier who don't communicate in relationships. People definitely don't communicate about sex in relationships.

I'm gonna tell you again, until it's a problem. I'm gonna tell you. Right, and I get these emails, people like, we been together 20 years and like, I don't know what turned, I'm like, really 20, have you ever asked her or fantasy? No, have you ever talked about it? No, I'm like, and you're emailing me like they paid along, like, people, you gotta start talking about it

because that's how you're gonna have the best sex of your life, that's how it's gonna get better it only gets better if you communicate you know what you want. And I want to add to that. Please do. I'm gonna add to that is that you can connect with anyone if you allow yourself. Like I have my I find in LA or like what girls of a certain age let's say that they think they

can only connect with someone that they want to fuck. Right. They don't even want to make friends, you mean? I'm saying, and what I'm saying is you can, if you allow yourself you can connect with anyone like like how many times if you had sex with someone that you've thought with quote unquote hot and it was horrible. Many, yeah. So that means it has nothing to do with what they look like.

That means that yes, there have been times when a person was hot and then the sex was great. And in your mind, you've associated that, that hotness is the reason why the sex was good. Not all things though, there's some sort of chemical thing going on. There is. There's some kind of chemistry, you know. Right. But men are more guilt.

No, no, no, men are more guilty. Men are guiltier this the moment. I think that for for for men, there was like, I decided the first three seconds, 30 seconds, five, bang someone or not. And like, they're more into like dating women, you know, the looks are the most important thing to wear. Women are like, Oh, you know, he's really funny. He's really smart. He grew on me. I don't know. I think, you may, I think not, I think that once, I think that's about age though. Yeah. Okay, so women have a certain age.

What do you think you're talking about? I'm saying like women in their 20s, like 27 and under. Yeah. No, no, no, no, it is definitely about what they look like. Right. I think that is what they're at their most shallow. And that's why all those girls are trying to fuck the same guys. You know, and that's why those guys are fucking thousands of girls. Right. Because they all think they're going to end up with Ryan Gosling.

Right. Exactly. They're looking for. That's what they're looking for. At least it's a weird town. Like, but what I'm saying is like all these girls that age, they all are in the same boat. They're getting hurt by the same guy. Same douchebag. The same douchebag. Because they think that, oh, I'm going to change him or I'm gonna get no You're not you know, you know, what the numb other thing you know, the thing is is because I always tell them You have to remember every June there's an 18 year old graduating to take your place So the odds are not in your favor. It's so true and people who date exactly that right?

They're right of the outcome to LA off the bus when they're 18, you know But it's so true that people women also in men that this is another big thing that you have just with my mother and Florida. I just been a week with my mother. 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9,

9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, 9, on potential. You can't think, well, he's gonna change me one day. He's gonna stop going out with his guy friends every night or one day he's gonna stop cheating or one day she's gonna learn to love sex as much as I do. Whatever it is, unless the person that you're with makes a conscious decision that they're gonna try to change, they're not gonna change. Well, I think there's a lot of myths in the world

and one of the myths are that men like sex more than women. And I think that is a huge myth that we need to dispel. Let's do it now. Okay, because women like sex way more than men do, because their bodies are designed that way. They are designed, like, first of all, a guy's gonna finish every time. He can use sandpaper to masturbate.

He's gonna finish because that's why we're designed. Half the enjoyment is getting the yes. Like half the, the part of that chase is like, when a girl says, yes, I'll have sex with you, then you're like, oh, that's part of it in the whole conquest. Like we're about quantity and women are about quality. Right.

I'm talking about like you want to have sex with one guy a thousand times. Some guys want to have sex with a thousand women. Exactly. You know, just because, not even for it to be good. Right, no, for righty. Not even because it's good as what I'm saying. Exactly. But that's a myth about like,

I want, I want her to have sex with me, but that's probably they're not communicating. Right. Exactly. That community. Also, people have mismatched libidos. They get together. God. Right. She wants it more than he does. He wants, yeah, it is not true that men typically want it more than women because I know a lot of cases where women want it more.

It's just that couples, yeah, again, they're not communicating. She might be holding a grudge against her husband for years because something, and then eventually her sex drive to minister, she could be taking some kind of hormones. I mean, there's a million reasons my couples do not match. It's actually, right? Yeah, but then you go, then the one that, the women that are like, you know, don't think that, you know, sex is an important anymore in a relationship.

Oh, I've heard that. Yeah, then I always say then, why are you mad when I want to fuck someone else? Exactly. Since it's not important, let me go fuck someone else. Right. Exactly. We'll see. These are the kind of kind of talk sugar. You say, you know what? I love you on a beauty. You want to watch movies with you on the Saturday night in Sydney popcorn. I'm happy that but I'm gonna go out and bang someone else's. I just think someone and you's collect men like comic books. You know, they keep them in plastic and put them on the shelves

where they can't be read, but they can just go, oh look. Like they catch like their story like this is where I slept with them. Yeah, yeah, it's like, oh, this is my, you know, hey, this is my, you know, Like the notches on my bedpost or whatever. Yeah, I know what I'm just saying is like, if you're going to be with a guy who's like, you know, super sexual or wants to have sex a lot, you know, you don't want to have sex a lot, that's going to be a problem. That is a problem. And this is the other thing that people know what this is. This is nature's cruel joke is because yeah, this first six to 12 months or relationship, you weren't have sex with that person. It's new, you're oxytocent, like it's come, it's biology, like you really do, like you can't stop,

you know, you're like having sex like rabbits. But eventually that's going to away and that just happens. It is our biology. We're not, you know, it's a whole mating, parabond thing, men are meant to spread their seed. I mean, all this is true that you're not going to be as attracted to the person you're not going to want to be. And everyone's so surprised when it happens. Well, first of all, I don't think this is nature's joke. No, no, no, this is what we've done to ourselves because of religion and society's constraints.

We've told ourselves that we're supposed to be in monogamous relationships. Exactly. That's not, no, no, we're going against nature. Right. That's what I'm saying, though, is that we're not natural. People, right, I believe we're going against nature as well, and then it's not natural that you don't want to have as much sex anymore, right? I was the same thing.

I was telling women this, listen, your man, there's ladies listening right now, look at your man, if you're listening together, your man wants to fuck all your friends every woman. And he's thinking about it too, woman and just thinking about it to a little bit and he has elected not to do that that is what makes you special right not that we know where you get in a relationship and all of a sudden what our minds are supposed to be like well now I don't want to have sleeps with anyone else it doesn't work like that. No and this way to be we'll talk about like

Yeah, before you get married You're supposed to be before you can really talk about this stuff that you not might not want to have sat Yeah, then it just might the issues might come up. I think you got to talk about it But then there is a part of it that you know that shouldn't be the most important thing because that's what ironically It isn't like sex it is not if you stop having sex it is the most important thing Well, then your roommates within the If you stop having sex, it is the most important thing. Because then your roommates. Well, then the things that are important in a relationship,

the real things that are important in a relationship, you weren't looking for those things anyway. Then you shouldn't be in a relationship because you can't have your cake and eat it too. You can have good sex and have been a good relationship. I'm saying, but there's the companionship, I'm talking about the trust and all that. I know, but you could have that and not have sex every day.

You don't need sex every day. You should have sex at the right, the same amount of times you compromise too. If you want to five times, you want to twice a week, then you have it like three times a week. I know, but it's like that's not. I just don't think that people even operate like that. No, but they don't, but that's why they listen to my show because they tried to. I have one other issue that I have to bring up real quickly. So another thing that happens a lot of times during sex

is that I brought you a few gifts here today. You're not gonna be going home empty handed. The thing is, is that a lot of men, you learn, is that a Lawrence reprise, she's coming home with you. I thought that would be really sweet. Promescent, so a lot of men, they have sex, so exactly, yes. It is a delay spray.

A lot of men don't last long enough and bad Premature ejaculation. It's the only FDA-approved treatment for premature ejaculation with absorption technology It provides superior superior ejaculation control with great sensation for the man and unnoticeable transfer to his partner So a lot of men like you still feel like yeah, no, you totally still feel like you're having sex But you just let's say you last form and it's not You'll ask eight if you last eight last 16 because it's not even men who are minute men Have you ever you've probably in your life once or twice come before you wanted to oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, right? Yeah But here's the thing some okay just just happen to be on this promise and by the way P are oh

ES ENT I'm gonna sex on me.com click the Promescent banner and buy it because it's the only updated proof treatment and it's amazing. I'm taking it home. Yeah, you are. You got more come baby. Yeah. No, but some, but I know that there's, I've been with some women that like they, they think that's hot

though. Like if they think they feel sexier if a guy like is like, not comes really fast, but like, you know, they feel sexy by the way. He was so turned on by me. Yes. He was so turned on by me. Every single time. Of course, but like, you know, they feel sexy by the way. So like, oh, he was so turned on by me. Yes. He was so turned on by me. Right.

Of course, of course, of course. No, but once or twice or whatever, we're fine. And actually, the truth is, if that does happen to you, we're going to find, we're like, oh, wow, that's what we think. But if you're in a relationship with someone where they never can last longer than a minute or two, I mean, there's lots of things you can do. Kegel exercises, you know, they, they, they, it's a nice prescribed men with antipressants, which is terrible. Yeah. There aren't a lot of treatments.g electrolysis, you know, they, they, it's a nice prescribed men with antidepressants, which is terrible.

There aren't a lot of treatments. It's like, you've all the side effects. Well, I think it is about like, like, how you, I can communicate and, right, what, what, what, what did you do in the bed? Like, you know, is it just about doing that? And then it stopped, no, there's gotta be some, like, he's gotta please her, or,

so, like, do things to make sure she gets off. And you can't last long enough. And your girl's pussy, right? Don't you think it's so important? You know what or I'm sure she gets off you can't last long your girls pussy right don't you think it's so important you know what I'm gonna be taking something that is like it's such an intimate action that should happen more often in relationships and if you did that more often because that's a one-time from I think that women are allowed to be selfish because I think most women even went during sex They're very selfless, you know, you know, you put up with a lot, you know to like like words

What the things we're talking about right now and that's your time to just completely right so I tell guys do it 20 minutes You know get an egg timer exactly, but some guys don't like it. Yeah, well, yeah What you know what I tell you why and that's why if you're into or sex then that also you should be also into hygiene Right, you know because what ends up happening is it's like you know, let's be real You're walking around all day with your pants on or whatever it is like that like you have to do your part To that is so true, but you agree Anderson's doing thumbs up. No, I just I think that you have something to tell him about his balls Oh, I have a um, yeah, I just I think that you have something to tell him about his balls. Oh, I have a um, yeah, I do have a ball cream. Thank you. I actually that segway about what? Okay, so no, I did create a product for

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sweat. Like anywhere you don't want to sweat and stay fresh and clean so you could put it Pure legs and your balls women can put it between their legs low back breast But not all sweat is bad not all sweat is bad. I'm just saying Emily and Tony.com You keep on going Emily and buy down under comfort or one of my massage candles, which are awesome Wait, what sweat sweat is good? What? What sweat is good? Okay, first of all Yeah, like like nine and a half weeks down the I'm not talking about after like a day of you know working on a farm, but like there's some sex

You know the female scent is very you know, but what I'm saying is like, you know Like she should wash her if you you're saying is going back to oral sex If you guys are walking around all day having a day she should go on the bathroom If she knows you're gonna have sex and like wipe down. Yeah, yeah. Every woman should do that. Clean up. Clean up. Everybody just clean up. And then you know, because to me, I think this is about being honest.

Right. And that is the issue. Like yes, you don't want to, I think if someone's saying, I don't want to do, I don't like that. It's because they've had an experience where it was awful and I totally get that because I've had that experience. Like I, listen, I love eating pussy.

You know, that's like a great, but like I also know where I'm like, and then that's an awkward moment where you want to be like, you get out, you go, you're a pussy is awful. I'm like, time was only at 19 minutes, 30 seconds. What the hell are you going to do? Yeah, what are you going to do? So it's like, that's where I'm saying it's like, do your part, you know, and then it would be like, because then there's those times when it's just like, oh, I know, no, it's true. And I think this is a great message because I think when I was younger, I don't think

that I knew this as much or thought about as much, but it's true. If I know that I can be someone like, I go to the bathroom, I do your thing, and men to do it too. Or I remember my ex girlfriend, she would go like, I was about to go and she would go, no, no, no, don't do that. Right, right, or if she's somebody, like that, ready yet. Right would go no no no don't do that right right or if you're somebody like that right yet ready ready so I don't do that right you just do something else right exactly so people many women pay attention that but and I think it's true that a lot of people don't like certain sexual acts like anal sex or that because because they bad experiences

too though first time like men just kind of shaman with that loop or whatever so there's people who have like like trauma around certain sexual things but but I think that that's a good one like hygiene like, but that's what I'm saying. Okay. Yeah, this is. Oh, I, I, okay, I remember I want to road just like a road experience, you know, and I'm right at tender date. Yeah. What is it after the show, you know, like one of my, I like to say, I can't leave this city to like each a pussy. I like to say that. Do you say that? Yeah. That's hard. city to like each a pussy. I like to say that. Do you say that? Yeah. I'm not tired. It's getting every time right? Yeah, you know, I might say every time, but you know, but um, so this, uh, so this girl, I'm, you know, whatever, and then like I'm trying to flip

her over because I want to, you know, I'm going to go dog, she didn't like that. She said, I don't like that. It's weird to me. And then you go, oh, everybody has a different totally. Everybody has, and when I was saying that you have to be open to that particular experience, you know Because I think what happens when you get into a long relationship is it becomes boring because you start doing the same thing every single time Exactly and even if you know how to get that person off that isn't always fun. No, you want to try new things Yeah, so I'm doing this for you every single time. How's that fun? Like is that and then it has to be like Oh, okay, you don't like that. Ooh, well, what do you like?

Let's try this and that's hard to do. It's hard to be inhibited and like, you know, let your guard down. So do you not interfere after that? No, no, I was fine. You know, because it was like, but there are some like, why doesn't it, but there are younger,

maybe she was younger. Oh, she was definitely young. Right, there's a lot of you to do most to see with like 20 something. How old are you? Do you mind? I'm 42. So women that you're dating are mostly in the 20s now?

No, I don't, I haven't really dated. Not dating, okay, sleeping with. It depends. The woman you're trying to do doggy side with in turn over is 22. She was like 22. Okay, 22, come for you. Okay, so yeah, I feel like there is a certain single woman that go with degrading or not coming.

Right, right, right. I ain't a lot of experience, right? That's the 10 years from now, she'll be flipping over before you even. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I don't discriminate. It's like there's nothing. Like I'm just like, you know, a kid in the candy store because like, you know, before that,

like I always say like before 2010 when Worker Hall has went on the air, a girl like that would have pepper sprayed me if I would have tried to, you know what I mean? That's amazing. You're just right. So I'm saying like, now I know that the things I say now I could have said before,

there is something about confidence So do you think that now your bet now that your show has been such such a success and that you are having that that you have learned Certain things that like oh I could have done Yes, I'm learning about myself Give us some tips. Well, I'm saying I'm learning about myself that like one this thing about being honest You know, that's the thing because I give an example why say because like, I talk, like, there's a lot of young fans of the show. So like, if a girl's like 21 and she tells me, like,

well, you're so much older than me, I say things like, we're not getting married. Right. Why don't we experience this right now? Let's just have some fun right now. See where that goes, you know, we could just, we could end up just being friends, but let's not deny ourselves this experience right now.

Oh, good. Because I'm not trying to come off like, hey, Oh, I'm going to be in a relationship with you. Or if that's your intention, because I'm totally okay with some girl that's like, I don't do one night stands. Right. I'm like, good for you. I'm leaving.

I'm doing that right. I'm doing that right. I'm doing that right. I'm doing that right. I'm doing that right. Right. I'm totally, because I, I, my message to like young girls is like, stop having sex with the guys and less two things are in place one

You are totally okay with casual sex right or two like you know you know that Something is gonna come from this you know exactly some women are not that's the thing You know what I'm saying that you sex and I'm not comfortable It's the next day or really mean that like you know or you know this guy's wrapped around your finger like you know And here's the thing like this. this is how I figured this out to you there was a girl she said I'm not a groupie you know she's talking to me Amber and she's like I said once you come over you know she I met her at a show in LA and she's like well no I don't do that but then I'm talking to her on the phone though till late and I'm like oh that was okay cool but then we keep talking and we keep

talking and she still won't do it still won't do it now here's the thing I still want to do it right but now I go you know what I actually like this it. But now I go, you know what? I actually like this girl. Like I'm like, oh, you know what? You're actually cool. I like your personality. I still want to fuck you. Right.

Exactly. But now I don't want to fuck you because of, you know, whatever CD. Now I want to do it because, you know, you've, you've made me know who you are. Did she ever come over? You're still working on it. Did she ever come over?

You're still working on it? Did she ever come over? Did she ever come over? She just come over tonight. Yeah, that's why you got a car You got it. Yeah, but that's but what you're saying is you got to know her and yeah But now I'm like if I have don't do it now. I feel as oh, you know, I kind of made a friend I mean that you know it doesn't always have to be like that But what I'm saying is is like what I've learned now is that you know Just be honest about what your intentions are exactly, you know, and you also I realized like if you call bullshit I don't you know how many women love when a guy tells them something like shut up you're full of shit

Like like give me example for after they say what because they might say something about like no matter what it is I guess they're just like well. I'm trying to like this this will happen with this one girl She said she was talking about well. I'm trying to go to school to be this, but I'm not sure What I want to do and I you know and I was like that's I was like you foolish it you know you just scared like I want to say this just like whatever the I felt the truth was that she was hiding behind I just was like no I'm not gonna put out with that you're not gonna keep your way sort of an inspirational message or you wasn't like you're full of shit because whatever but it's like no you you were kind of helping or being a mentor. But that's okay.

I guess you look at it that way. I guess I should see that. I do. No, no, I don't mean like, I'm talking about, if you just call on it, being honest, being honest, being real. Because I was learning. They're not used to people. Right. And especially attractive girls, attractive young girls, they get told so many things and

they know, it's like, it's like a waitress in LA. If you're like, they get told so many things and they know it's like it's like a waitress in LA if you look at they're all hot you know and everybody's hitting on them every single day so it's like of course oh another guy wants to fuck me you know you know it's like no but if she's you know like if you have an honest conversation with her then you know you never know. She's gonna and she's gonna preach that because it's gonna make you stand up from the brass, because all the other guys are like, hey, you're hot, you're the most beautiful woman in the room. Yeah, right.

Exactly. Or how about the tender messages, or anything with online dating, you're like, hey, nice pics. I'm like, delete. Like, will you match with someone? Yeah, but here's the thing, that's what that is. I know, but I know that you thought I had nice pics.

That's why we match, but what else are you gonna say to me? Well, it's what, oh my God. So he has to like win you over and that sentence. You got two words, he's got five, you could say five things to me, but not like I like your pictures. That's the thing, you might as well, I mean, you're very tough on men. No, I actually don't have time to,

I mean, because you think this is a liven, it's really not, I forget to answer them. But sometimes if you're like nice pecs, I'm like, you could have said something else besides that. So you're, so, he is what I'm saying, you've been an attractive woman for so long That you don't even know how to accept compliments for what they are like that so awful That's what happens in this town

No, it's any town. It's just like I just feel like I like to be so what should he say Another guy's like what how many okay, he read my okay, so my 500 words said I'm 500 words. I couldn't even begin to explain what I'm about That's what I wrote because I was lazy and he said to me all he said was how many words is it gonna take? Oh, oh and you and you fell for that Grab the guy's like nice pics That what that guy said the same thing yeah, but this one I was like you know Okay, 35 matches. This is like gonna you know, you know, okay, 35

That's just like Here's what I love about chicks. This is how they want it to be All right, this is what I want to be they want to be in a they want to be in a in a bookstore You know, and a guy bumps into them and they have the same book drops out of each other's hand I'm like, oh my god. You reading that too? And he's got a chalate just like you. Are you start talking about? I don't want anyone like me. I want you to understand I'm just trying to buy intelligence and brains and like I know, but what I'm saying is what you don't know about this situation is the guy was following you in the store. He saw you pick up that book.

He picked up the same book. He followed you from the coffee shop and saw that you order a chalate and he ordered that and now he manufactured this little moment. Can I do that? Yeah. Did you do that? Did this guy manufacture that moment? He read your thing. It was like, oh, I know it's gonna get her. I know it's gonna get her. Yeah, but you should give the guy that's like, you know what, nice pics. I'm just saying I had to pick and choose and I'm like, that was funny. That was more interesting. Okay. So that's how you got to get it. Be interesting. Be interesting. That's so, be, be, like surely you probably like every girl you imagined, you wrote like my profile that's your thing you're like take an extra effort don't take it that seriously okay so you do take it

seriously or you would have went out with the nice pics I don't go out with anyone in seven one down the studio because I had time because it's my excuse not to date no but I date I've sacks let's just say that I'm sure yeah of course I didn't have stuff are you bossy in bed no I'm not here's a thing because you're aggressive woman so you you need a little bit of I'm sure. Yeah, of course. I didn't have a bossy in bed. No, I'm not. Here's a thing because you're aggressive woman So you you need a little bit of I'm more submissive I mean I like will show up with a bag of sex toys and fun products like it sets me cuz I get like my I have a garage filled with Sex toys of course of course and so if I'm being somewhere they're comfortable Whatever like I can do that, but I'm not like I'm not you boss. I'm not like to the left to the right

I'm really not people I think that I think that people probably proceed this perception Oh, like I have a sex swing in my room, which I don't I'm not like that you have a power But you start with a PowerPoint presentation. Exactly. Here's my vagina And I actually the left quadrant is the most sensitive So when you were sexy for 22 minutes, no, I don't do that But I am fun. I think because I I you know I'm open, but I'm not no, I I'm not bossing it all in the bedroom. But how would you feel when one was bought? Do you like that?

It depends on the situation. It really depends on how we met, what's the thing here. I just last, I was just with a, a really lovely girl. She's the only 27, but she's, has a doctorate. She can be mad, I'm talking about her. She's, yeah, I won't say her name, but she's a doctor, like she had a, but she was very like, you know, she had to prove herself all the time, and I'm a comic, so I'm just like, eh, you're not gonna outwit me right now.

And I think she really liked that, and I love the back and forth thing that's hot. It was very sexy to me, and then off, but then she was like, a freak in the bed, and I was like, oh, this is great. This is like, you're you're you're she's the bug. How giving sample. Well, she's one thing. Well, okay. Well, I don't want to. What's their name? Well, she's just two years ago. Something. I'm just saying she like just the way. Well, I probably I shouldn't even admit this, but maybe there wasn't a condom. There wasn't. Yeah. Okay.

One of those I'm on the pill. Yeah. But you still should use a condom. There wasn't. Yeah, okay. One of those, I'm on the pill. Yeah. When you steal some juzic condoms. I know. Okay, go ahead. Everyone should use a condom. Everyone should use a condom unless you both are consenting a dozen, you've checked it.

You have your papers in front of you. Okay, but however this one time you did. You know, it's just the way she, what I'm saying is for somebody to be like so smart outside and it'd be such a like, you know, you know, like my pussy She was so it was just and it was like she was talking dirty and she was talking dirty And just the way she was like so like into it. She made me feel strong and powerful and like you know what I mean It was yeah, you know, and I really enjoyed that right and then another thing too

What happened is that you know, I also you know was able to go like you know, I also, you know, was able to go like, you know, three times in a row. Wow. Cause she really turned you on. And that the thing is that you turned you on. But if I would have had progressing, you could find that on Emily and, uh, no, sex, don't mean that. Anyway, yeah. But, you know, so I found that that made me more like aroused. Just the way we, just laying in bed with her and like kind of chit chatty and like, you and then then it was like see what she would do something and the next thing and I was like I'm ready to go again you know. Right she took control of it. Yeah yeah yeah.

She's so boom with her she's comfortable with her body. Very comfortable and I really like that. She's very comfortable with her body. She was very like you know and I was like I found because what I'm reason why I'm saying this is because there was another time with the girl was like 23 super hot college girl and I found myself like I was in the bed with her like Oh, I don't know. They don't know. A lot of women right. I was like I'm, I'm, I'm, it was something about it that I was like I didn't connect and I was like why what's wrong with you? Look how hot she is and then I realized I was that's not all that They're real. Oh, exactly. A lot of women I always say you have to spend time, we're gonna get to meet Master because there are some

about this, like, you have to get the time knowing you're about to master, but, you know, this is great though, but Master, Master, WIven, I think women at that age typically do not spend the time getting to know their own bodies. And they expect that men are just to come in and figure that out for them. They be, how are you fucking wishful to know?

Right, but for exactly that goes back to the first thing we talked about is that you have to talk to your partner or you want, and the better, otherwise you're not going to be having the sex that you want, the best sex you're like. And another thing too, like if a guy's eating your pussy, tell him. Right. Left, right, what you like. Yes. Harder, faster, slower.

Yeah, faster. Oh my god. Because two many times I said slower and like all was good, you know, like that one thing, I'm like, that's all you need is slower. Just, I'm telling you, you're all good, you know? Oh my God, it just makes the whole, and for the guy, it makes it so much more like, we, when you know, when you know,

you're pleasing, no, I'm saying, as a dude, when you know, you're legitimately pleasing a woman. There's nothing better than that. Exactly. Legitimately, it's supposed to be faking it. Yeah, when you know, when it's like when you feel that like it First of all when a woman when a woman gets a guy that makes them orgasm and all this stuff That's why they fall in love and that that's what's so stupid

You're like every check out there that's falling love with some dude They don't know because you came that's why you're gonna be hurt Right because it's so hard sometimes we're women that orgasms like oh my god why you're gonna be hurt. Right, because it's so hard sometimes for women to work as I'm just like, oh my God, I'm gonna be the whole world. This must be the one. This is the penis on the planet.

You made me come, so we're in love now. Exactly, no, it's so true. Women get a tattoo like that, because men's not harder for men. I mean, you're not harder for women, men are like, uh. And that's why they think because we finish that it's so, oh, it must be great for you.

No, it's not. Let me tell you something. Just because the guy finishes, it doesn't mean he enjoyed himself some guys And maybe this is younger or whatever do you guys they're like at least I got off I don't like care. There are guys who don't really prioritize female pleasure. No, of course But this is something that's different from what I'm saying right now Okay, what I'm saying is just because he had an orgasm doesn't mean he enjoyed it right

Right, okay, he might not enjoy the sound. No our bodies are just designed to finish. We're gonna finish It's lucky if we were you right, but what I'm saying is I want to penis for day for day Give me a penis universe This is your second present. This is a flashlight. Oh, yes, you know what a flashlight is of course I have a flashlight you already have one yeah because I went to uh, uh, uh, huh? Excuse to have I got it. No, no I went to I was at like a dirty comedy show and the porn girl that was there was Signing fleshlikes, you know what I mean? So this is a master base since you know, I've used it. Of course. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah So but they now have a new this is the one thing they do have now that just came out which I don't have for you

They came out with a fleshlight phone strap and it's so check this out. So men do you do watch porn? Sometimes and it's a phone. So check this out. So men do you watch porn? Sometimes. Sometimes I can. So they have this strap. Now that goes around your leg, hold your phone so you can hold your flesh light and do whatever else with your other hand. Nice. And that's the latest thing. That's my accent. Go to sexistme.com and click on the flashlight better and get your flashlight because I gave it to a friend and he said,

is this made off yours though? Is this a molded your vagina? That's not off yours though is this a mold your vagina that's another one I don't want it I know I'm sorry I don't have my flesh right but Johnny I don't know that's just a generic vagina but but this guy gave it to us that he would like leave his wife because it felt so good whatever someone like it right those sad though he said if you could cook which I thought was funny but just there's not a lot of the products out there for men so I thought I would just give you some some things But that's a great choice. I got my biggest thing the phone chap is the coolest thing you've got your Remessent you might not yeah, you're Promested and you're in your flashlight. I know there you go. So wait back to sex

There was something that we were talking about that was very very important to me Oh, I'm not sexy. No, no, no, I really wasn't oh masturbation porn What else right? Not a lot. Not a lot. You know, you used to like go through phases when you did. Yeah. Yeah. I used to had a porn phase where I was like, that's why I don't watch anymore. You know, because I was like, I just got to a point where I felt like, you know, you, you, you, you start to lose respect for women.

I think, you know, yeah. That's true. A lot of them or they think they have to have this kind of woman or this kind of thing and they can't like they have problems in the bedroom after that. Yeah, that's true. A lot of men, or they think they have to have this kind of woman or this kind of thing and they can't, like, they have problems in the bedroom after that. Yeah, and but they're, I do like something that's freeing about, like, I've chatted with a few cam girls, you know, and there's something the way women that are like so open about sex, the way they are, the things they talk about, I think, that they, it sounds as if they could be happier in a relationship, but then all that baggage

of why they did that is like ruining whatever, you know, whatever change they have. Why they did the webcam in the first place. Yeah, yeah, why they got into porn in the first place. But there's something like, I've met a lot of cool porn chicks. You know, like they find out they're married and they have like this great relationship. And you're like, oh, okay, you know how to act,

you know how to like be free and talk. And I think that's great. You know, I think everyone should have that kind of open and honesty. I think they'll have a better sex life. That's what we're talking about. Everyone has to be open as in so many people don't talk about. Well, let's get in some emails from the people here.

That's the most important thing. We love hearing from them. So thanks everyone for emailing me at feedback at sexwithamily.com. Okay, so here we go. Dear Emily, I've been single for the better part of 10 years before that time when I had long-term relationships, coming during sex was never an issue. Lately, it's been extremely hard for me to orgasm during sex. I know what I like, I know how my body reacts, and I have no issues getting myself off.

One of my friends suggested that I have a desensitized my clitoris. Is that possible? If so, is a way to work on it, any advice? I've gotten close a few times with the guy I'm dating, but I can't seem to make it happen. Thanks so much. New fan to your podcast. I love them.

Signed Aaron. Mm. So women, you can't come. So here's the thing. Flushes a common problem. So common, right? Yes, a very common problem. And, you know, it's unfortunate.

It is. The first issue is that women think that they have to come during intercourse, which only 30% of women come during actual penis vagina sex. So the first thing Aaron, if you're taking any medications, a lot of times women are on birth control or antidepressants and they can't have orgasms, they don't realize that but it diminishes your your your ability, which is so shitty because you're like I'm so depressed, life is horrible, and then you take this pill,

and you feel better, but you can't, I'm more like, well, it's true, right? But that could be one thing, if you're not on any meds at all, it could also be that, you know, because if you are, it could impact your sex, I have an all that. But I'm also, when you say desensitize,

that makes me think that maybe you've been using a vibrator a lot during sex, which a lot of women do. Mm-hmm. And so, if that is the case, and it's not true that vibrators will desensitize you. That is not true. But what is true is that you can get in routine, just like we're saying couples get in the team. I was just about to say that this sounded more like not a medical situation. This sounded more like a mental. Yes, she's like just the same

way she even wrote her email. I like it this way. I know that so that means you are closed closed to really experiencing something new Right, you know, maybe and she hasn't been in relation for 10 years So she's been orgasming the same way. Yeah, so what you got to do is Aaron you got to mix it up So let's say you and I'm not gonna assume you survive it But let's say you do use a hotachi magic wand for example if you've seen those plug into the wall, right? Sounds it sounds scary. It is scary, but they're amazing. It's the Mac truck of all vibrators. It's like a power tool.

But let's say you're using that, you might want to mix up and use a different kind of vibrator, like an internal vibrator, or one that's not as powerful, or if you always use your fingers, you might want to try using more lube and use your other hand. It's little things like that. And I'd like to know. And I'd like to know does she like,

does he know? Like I want to know does the guy know that she've been holding this back. His information communicate that with him. Does he know that you're trying to orgasm and you're not because listen, maybe you maybe 10 years ago in your last relationship, he did know your body. Maybe this guy, because a lot of women think that his penis

was perfect, whatever doesn't happen. It might happen to you guy, because he got lucky. A lot of women think that his penis was perfect, whatever doesn't happen. It might happen to you once, but he might not even know that you're, because women feel like they're failing if they're not overestimating. And so you're not telling them, maybe you need a little warm up.

Maybe he's just coming over and sticking inside you and you're not even warmed up yet. Maybe you're not getting enough for play. Or if he did know, he might be like, what? And then he might be like, well, I'm, he might turn into someone that's more attentive might be like, well, I'm he might turn into someone that's more attentive and be like, I'm gonna get you.

Right. Exactly. That's what guys get excited about that. So, but then somebody write the guys that we don't want to talk about this guys, you don't, but they do exist guys like what have don't care. I got off. I'm out, but there are guys who are like,

that'll be they want to know. So I would say tell them that you're having your struggling or whatever that what you need, what worked in past and also when you're not you're masturbating by yourself I would say just try to not use a vibrator for where I'll if you are use your hands and also communicate to them and you know It's rare too is that a position you like that gets you going and a position that I like that gets me going It might not be the same position Exactly, but if it is, that must be magically beautiful situation. Right.

Both. Yeah. Because there is a certain composition that everyone has that's like, so you just have to know that, OK, now it's your turn. Because you know, you never have that way. It's like, it's my turn. And this is happening. And the girl's like, OK, now me.

And then she jumps on top and starts doing some things where I'm like, OK, I don't like this at all. But I'm like, I get it. You know, this is your thing. Go ahead. Exactly. Exactly. So it's right.

Exactly. So you take turns and you make sure Communicate amily communication is a lubrication. That's what I know I know I that was one of my that was one of my bigger moments in life when I came out with that I know I know I need a new one though Communication is lubrication. I just feel like I need more. Okay, I'm looking for another email that might be interested. Okay, here.

So I'll make it interesting. Just read one. Okay, just here, Emily. Just want to say I'm a big fan of the show. I listen to you all the time and love the advice you give. So here's a thing. I'm 27. I own my own home.

I drive a good car and Nissan ultimate and I work in honest job with benefits. But the job just so happens to be a janitor at a local middle school. When I talk to women, the conversation starts off well, then when the question of what I do for living comes up, I tell them that the conversation starts to go south and they begin to lose interest. I'm wondering if part of the problem is that I live in Las Vegas, which seems to be the land of the superficial and how much status you have. Even though I'm not talking to the perfect 10 models that litter this place,

the women I'm talking to are six of sevens and eights and sometimes nines. So what I'm wondering is, if I should lower my standards even more or keep hoping I look out, it's a fairly low roller. Let me take this one. You go, baby.

Eric Griffin. First of all, is Eric Griffin? Eric Griffin. Eric Griffin. Yeah, my test workaholics. Eric Griffin is his website, with the K workaholics They know you from you can talk about it at the end but go ahead here's the situation. He himself

Doesn't have respect for himself exactly so he's portrayed like he needs to own that janitorial job You need to own it, you know, and he's not owning it He's the one making the judgment not not the women. It's like that one as time felt episode where, you know, the girl saying, well, he keeps saying, you're too good for me. You're too good for me. You're too good for me. And eventually I go, you know what, you're right. I am too good for you. So you can't, you know, he can't, he can't be like that. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Yeah. You know, you always hear about some chick with some loser. Like you think he's a loser because everybody else's

idea. Like, there's, a loser because everybody else's idea. There's guys out there that don't even have a fucking job. Right. Having sex with hotties because of just attitude and swagger. It's confidence. Exactly. Get your janitorial swagger on and you will be getting whatever you want. Exactly.

This is what I also learned about, that's what I learned later. Exactly. Easy for me to say now because I want it. I want to tell you that it is easy. Yeah, but yeah, but look dude, I'm not fucking breathed. I would say that he has to drop the janitorial thing though. He needs to rename. He should say like, what is it like work with kids?

No, because then if she finds out of janitorial, she's going to think like, what do you think I would think? What do you think? I would think what do you think? Like, I work with a school supervisor. Like a property manager or a building, you know, a building supervisor. Yeah.

A building supervisor at the middle school, I work in the school. The word janitorial is just out. It's true. It's kind of like garbage. And you're right. I agree. We all grew up watching the Simpsons. We see like free willier, whatever's named.

I know, but he can't, but he, what I'm saying is he's got to get past his own feelings about what he does. That's right. I agree that he might not have to. He's got an ultima. I mean, he should feel good about himself. And he lives in Vegas and he's got a house. But, uh, boom, he's not saying janitor. Get rid of janitor. You know what? I hate to say it, but it's

kind of true. He probably shouldn't leave with a janitor, but he's got to work on his confidence. He's got to work on his. He believes that he is not good enough for the room. And he says, should I lower my standards? And the odds are not, this is the odds are not in the chicks favorite. Odds are in your favor, dude. You got a job job you doing all right like this there's there's look around the dinner you look at me there's thousands of hot chicks and if they all think they're hot none of them are hot exactly you know exactly and so he's got to work on this he's like and I feel sad I want to give him a hug low roller here because he says should I lower my standards like it's how low he is right now dude you are

awesome you've got a job you got a house you're in Vegas you're talking to these perfect these these six seven dates nine cents whatever go for what you want you don't maybe don't lead with the generator thing that makes you feel bad but just be yourself like I love to have a hidden camera and watch him how he's doing it then we'd be like oh that's where you made your mistake you know yeah exactly I know I wish we could do that sometimes just be like this next thing you gotta do you gotta be that that's that should be your next project I I can give them like any like I were like in your piece and be like, don't go to the gym.

No, but I hate to say don't say what you do, but it's more like it is working on as belief first and then eventually maybe comes up with what you do. Yeah, but you know what, can I say something like, you know, even if somebody's like super rich, maybe that person would write in and be like, you know, every time we find out I'm rich,

then it becomes all about that. So I don't do what. So there's always, there's like both sides of the coin and you want someone to love you for you writing and be like, you know, every time we find out I'm rich, then it becomes all about that. So I don't do it. So there's always, there's like both sides of the coin, you want someone to love you for you or whatever you're trying to do, just, you know, have some sort of. I know a lot of guys do a lot of money in LA, and they're always trying to hide it because I think everyone in a woman here is a gold digger, and they're like, I don't want to talk about it.

Mostly true. God, you know, it's so funny, because it's not that I'm not you, but like, I don't feel like it was like that and someone just go, but here it's like everyone's a gold digger. I'm like really? I wish I was a gold digger What I'm gonna try to be like married and divorced and rich right now. I just say no. I just I know like you know Looks you know You don't want to have sex with me and I don't want to give you money. So what are we doing exactly? So let's you know, but guys sent them ourselves up for this as well

Like guys are like you don't know she was you know, and then afterwards to think you stuff to my money, right? I had a buddy of mine who he was gonna take it. He told me I'm taking this girl to Paris and I said, oh, that's gonna be fun. You're gonna be getting that. And he goes, well, I'm not sure. And I was like, uh, are you kidding me? Like, first of all, every woman, every woman, if a guy says, do you want to go to Paris? The first thought is, do I want to fuck this guy? Right. That has to be your first thought. I don't know. Yeah, like, don't. What I like this guy? Right that has to be your first thought. Oh, yeah, like don't I like this guy am I gonna have okay?

I don't you should be like find out be like hey, this is gonna be like like I can't wait to see you in some lingerie And if she goes it's not gonna be like that. I would be like you're not going to Exactly, exactly exactly. I thought our think of our Sunday postcard right exactly You gotta clarify that stuff. It's true. I've a guy's asked me in chips and then they yeah, and I'm, oh god, I really would love to go on your yacht, but I just there's no way you're dick's going my mouth So so then go on your mouth before you return it right isn't that true? I'm like whether suck a guy off and have sex with them Yeah, I think that some went will you tell me? Hmm. Oh

God Do you feel that women will give you oral sex? I'm not a huge fan of that because most of the time it's- You're my bloodshops? I do, but it's like most of the time they're not- You're the one thinking. They're not that good. Yeah, they're not that good.

Oh my god, why? Why? What's the baddest thing? I don't know what they're doing, you know? They're dating two young of girls. You've got to date a little older with Mark's parents. Okay, I'm, you know what? I'm going to find like a nice 35 year old. Yeah.

I'm serious, because then they know. A like I probably didn't I didn't know you Know I think I knew and I think that's like with their watching porn or whatever but like they think it's like that That stuff's perfect. Go to a website called eFucked people that will ruin porn for you forever. Oh my god Or don't what is it? It's a porn bloopers website. It's the greatest thing ever That's hilarious. You most important is the rules of people that's other learning but you're right you keep that blood up let's give it to the what's the worst blow job you've ever gotten why would you do well it was like it was just like so much movement you know like like like you like

switching it up yeah yeah yeah it was like you know like kind of gummy you know me oh gummy in the hands of the movement yeah yeah it's like you know slow down this is like a brat works that you supposed to caress. Like, not a, say they don't know. And the thing is like, you know, too much head movement. Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, you're like, oh, that's, ooh. Right. Oh my god, so you return us.

So now you just say, see, I think women can, you got to date different women. Can I taste them in? Yeah. I still believe though, that your best sexual organ will always be your mind. I agree. Brains are largest sex organ.

You know, I think that's the thing. So like it has to be, you know, that you have to create a situation, you know, even if it's not even, even if it's just manufactured, even if it's just for like that one night, I say, then make it the best. Right. So be open, be vulnerable. Let yourself go. Right. Exactly. It's amazing. It's amazing. In the same way that you tell a stranger things you wouldn't, you know, you're, be vulnerable, let yourself go. You know what I mean? Exactly, it's amazing. In the same way that you tell a stranger things you wouldn't, you know what you're a me to stranger and tell them some honest shit that you don't want to tell anybody else,

you should be that way sexually with a stranger too. Like just, you know, and you'll be surprised that, oh my God. The problem that you're saying this for your groupies, but the problem is that women, is that women, they do get attacked and they're afraid that they're going to be judged They're going to be looked as a slut and I know But I agree completely that's why the women need the commit or to need to know what right that's why they don't Yeah, but no because I but here's the thing I think is the lie that lie is That feeling of like not wanting to be judged and all that stuff is still being overpowered by this feeling that you still want to get fucked right right right and I think that what I think what the mistake women make is they go I want to fuck this guy so I don't want to be thought of as a whore so I gotta get

so I gotta get into a relationship with him just but all I can be a whore yeah what why so wrong exactly what if you're yeah if you have your way to just leave me someone I think that you you know you got to go for it. So I mean, I think I don't think it's ever too soon to talk about exactly what you need bet and do what you want to do in bet. If you can handle the aftermath, if you know that it's one extent you're fine, whatever you can handle the emotions of the coming up the nap, because that's how you better sucks.

It's practice, it's communication. Right? You're an awesome Eric. Thank you so much, Eric Griffin. So let's find out, tell everyone where they can find you air Griffin.com Yes, I'm an air Griffin.com with a cake. Excuse me. You can tweet at me at Eric Griffin ERIK GRIF FIN one Instagram snapchat tender you can find me on tinder. Yes, you can find your I tender my age range is 18 to 40. Oh my tinder. Yeah, I just go bang just go get a blowjob from like a 38 year old

I will but here's the thing to know when you let me know how it goes one thing about I think you are saying you don't like blowdubs and I think you really could learn to love that Oh, I don't hate them, but but I would say this you know, but your tender profile be you online Please like if you're fat be fat online, right? I don't want to see neck up pictures neck up says fat Yeah, just it says I don't want to see neck up pictures. neck up says fat. Yeah, it says I don't believe in myself. It says, you know, so and we think that people are going to just let that go when they meet you in person. Right. Oh God. Okay. Well, good luck. And wash your vagina in balls. Yes. Always wash them. Always clean no matter what. Like a user product. What's it called?

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Trust me, you'll love them, and you're welcome. Perhaps play a little game called Just a Tip. Just for a second, just a see how it feels. Hey, this is Jordan Harbinger, host of the Art of Charm Podcast, the number one dating and relationship advice podcast in iTunes. I'm Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emily Podcast, the number one sex and relationship podcast on iTunes, and it's Sex with Emily.com. And this is just the tip. All right, so you mentioned earlier, like, oh, the brain's the biggest of Roger's Zone and it's totally like a cliché thing that everybody's heard. But what are some of Roger's zones that guys might not ever think about? I'm so glad you asked that because really most men only think of like, you know, the

breasts and down under, they're like, every think about your health. Those are my favorite Roger's Zone. Exactly. We all know those are your favorite Roger's Zone. So I'm here to tell you that a lot of women have arodinousones that you have no idea existed. And you should make it your life's work to find out what her other arodinousones are. For example, the earlobes, very sensitive in some women, just you touch them, kiss them,

gently bite the earlobes, since shivers down are fine. Every woman I know. But why is it like a surgery in there? Exactly. Or by our diamonds, trail piercer ears. Colourbone. A lot of men's like fine color bones ears. Just, well, why not touch it and kiss it.

I'm Bartner shirt little touch that's that makes circles with your tongue. Give her love bites. Yeah. Yeah, size. Touch her thighs before you go in for the treats, OK? Massage her thighs, lick her, tease her, use your tongue, drag it around her thighs, massage, and then go in for it.

I'm telling you, it'll turn around and she'll be begging you for it. Nice. All right. Anything else? How much time do we have? We have. Feeds. Give her a full massage.

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