Sex With Emily - Face-Sitting, Libido Boosting & Other Sex Goals for 2016

Episode Date: January 13, 2016

Today’s show is dedicated to improving your sexual health in the new year! Emily lists her top 5 sexual health goals and explains how to put them into practice in your everyday life! She and Anderson also go over a study about reducing the risk of prostate cancer and tackle emails about position problems, date ideas and lengthy refractory periods.If you haven’t chosen your resolution yet, this podcast may be able to help. This show will teach you all about the wonders of kegels, handling new sexual requests from your partner and may even lead you to make a new sexual health plan for 2016. Listen now! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Tonight's show we're talking sexual health resolutions, new sex positions, and how to have more sensual sex. Thanks for listening. Okay, something you might not know, Bobby. Not only do I love toys in the bedroom, I also care a lot about bedding. There's nothing like really good sheets. I mean, think about it.

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It's a lie. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, not only? What do you mean, like, laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my god, I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemlee.com. We can check out all of our podcasts. We've got so many. We've got 10 years of podcasts, blogs, videos, everything

to help you with better sex and sign up for a mailing list because you will love our emails. Just got to say that. So happy new year. I'm with Anderson. What's up, man? Hi, it's so good to see you. It's good to see you. Happy new year. You're like a whole new lady. I love you. Yeah. It's like I haven't seen you in so long. I know. Right. It's like an everything. Yeah. Like my haircut. Your haircut looks, you getting straightened? Yeah, straightened short. I can't do that. Do that to damage everything, yeah. Like my haircut? Your haircut looks, you getting straightened? Does that mean that it's straightened short? I can't do that. Do that have to damage the follicles?

No, I got a straightening thing on it so it won't be like frizzy and stuff. It looks really good. Thank you. It looks like somebody from Friends or something. People say I look like Courtney Cox my whole life. Little fans.

I've never seen it before. No, no, you see it. I get that one. I don't know, thank you. Yeah, check it out. Go to my Instagram. We should take a photo with you. We'll do that. I don't have new hair though. If you look cute, though. You're adorable.. Thank you. Yeah, check it out go to my Instagram. We should take a photo a new photo with I don't have new hair though

I miss you. I miss you like my heart is like oh my god Anderson I get excited. We only talk what once Yeah, and you I was gonna come meet you out one night But I was like all freak it was like great for Christmas. I wanted to because I was like how fine Anderson at the improv right up For my house. Yeah my very dear friend my carana was doing a live I understand the improv right out of my house. Yeah, my very dear friend, my carano, was doing a live show at the improv. That's so sad, I missed it. I love my carano. You took great pictures of the live improv show that I did. And that podcast just came out last week,

and it's kind of awesome. It came out? Yeah, I need to go back and hear it. I know, it's really, like people are freaking out. It's good. That was kind of a blur, so I gotta go back and revisit that. Dude, talk about blur. Yeah, this is, we're moving to the 11th year now,

of Sex and thenly, and I'm glad you're here. How was it? You're still having sex. So it works. You're still always be having sex. And hopefully, better sex. Yes. You know what I love?

I get emails all the time, as you know, we'll be reading some of them tonight that people like, thank you so much ever since I've been listening. You've helped me, you've changed my sex life. And I always want to know what was the, like, one specific thing. Like when they say that I'm so glad, and that's why I live and exist, but what was it? Were you like, oh, that's how you do oral,

or do more for play, I'm just wondering. Yeah, that'd be a good poll almost. Or have people just writing in the email for advice, or writing like what's the thing that has learned and helped you the most in the bedroom. Can I just tell you that would help me so much? Feedback at sexathelmy.com. If you, just like the one thing, you're like,

oh wow, that helped me, or I didn't know that. I'm curious, is what it would be. I know. I bet it's a lot of dudes saying you made it so that you give me anal. Yeah, exactly. Exactly, I'm like, for having three sums every weekend, it's awesome.

That could be it. So, yeah, did you make any New Year's resolutions? No, I don't do those, but I am going to quit smoking next week. Oh, this is the second annual quit smoking. Or is it every every- I don't like to do it am gonna quit smoking next week Annual quit smoking I don't like to do it with you know everybody else in the first plus like I'm still hung over a little bit on the first I mean the wean myself, but I'm doing stab staggering it like I'm starting to eat good again this week And then next week I'm gonna eat better and then the following week I'm gonna stop the the booze in the smoke

So you're stopping boozing to can't I can't quit one without the other because as soon as I have a few you know For how long I gotta have like you're gonna a sober No, no, no, I can't quit one without the other because as soon as I have a few you know for how long I gotta have a You're gonna a sober no, no, no, I don't have that kind of problem yet yet. Not yet Something is new with me am I believe that you commented on my Instagram I was I started a brand new show which is pretty Pretty exciting for me. It's been a long time since I started I got a couple other shows that I do I do. I did the film ball that you know, and the afters after both.

Relatively successful. I actually make a living. I would talk to you if you didn't have a successful ball. On the film ball, without the film ball, I can't pay the rent. I mean, I actually make a living on that show. But I started a new show called Cinematics. It's like Cinema with the CIM.

And then Addix, like a drug addict or like what you'd suggest that I was. I love it. And it's with my friend who have been friends with for 20 years now. He's an actual film critic. He like, he's the real deal. Okay, and we're only covering movies that are coming out that Friday. So we're going to be doing it.

It's so smart. Two to three new movies that are about to come out. We're going to release it on Wednesday. It's the first one we went out on iTunes last week. And it's cinematics and it's. I'm so I think that's the first of all that's so smart. Passion inside and access. Because we have full access, we get screeners of these movies before they come out, so we can give you the heads up and talk about them without spoiling

them. So it's going to be, for the real movie lovers and people that want to be abreast of what's going on, it's there. And Mike, Mike Ohost, he's an insane man. He's a crazy person. His new year's resolution and he's going to stick to it, a thousand movies. He's going to watch a thousand movies. How the hell do you do that when you're in a three a it a thousand movies he's gonna watch a thousand movies I've held you that we cover in a day. Yeah, he's one three a day. He doesn't have a wife

But you watch three days. No, I don't do that. I try and do five a week Right, he's gonna do a thousand movies this year. Oh my god. Cinematics check it out. It's a cute I think he's a attractive. I'm trying to watch more movies and I'm not gonna hook you up with them because then no more movies He won't he'll just be watching you know, I want to watch more movies. Oh, I see no my goal is to watch In fact, I was easily attainable. He just push play. I just I don't have I can't sit down I can't I don't come on like think turn on the TV It's like outside my box and then when I do what do you do when you get on how does am unwind? I don't yeah You don't you know that you took offense? How does M unwind? I don't. Yeah, you don't.

You know that you took offense earlier in the show or before the show began when I said that you're a little high strung? It was like really? You're like, I'm not high strung. What do you mean? High strung. I was so surprised because I wouldn't think of myself

as high strung. I would think of myself as a little stressed out sometimes. Is that the same thing? Yes, synonymous. Interesting. Because I was, well, I was a little late because... I was hoping for a new em and a new year. No, I did do one year old zez. The reason why I was a little,

seemed high strongest because I've been meditating. I meditate and I usually have a really regular practice, but I've fallen off the meditation wagon the last month or so. So tonight I got over work this time, I unwined, and I turned off my phone, which which is huge and I sat and meditated Ring her off You kidding me you got on turn it off God for paper We're gonna turn back on

And I lay down I laid back to my meditation and then I I fell asleep and I woke up It was 805 and I was like oh my god I mean I I fell asleep and I woke up, it was 805. And I was like, oh my god, I could have, because I had to see. 805? Yeah, and then you said, do you want tacos, which I probably missed, because you would text me 20 minutes earlier. I was like, yes, but then I'm here, I got here and I barely, but I could have slept through midnight through the love line, everything.

So I'm glad that I'm here. And that's why I might have paired high strong, but not normally. What else? Let me, we'll move on and get to sex and hopefully have some cool sex in the news. Let me just let people know that you're not the greatest communicator sometimes. But I'm gonna give it to you

because you're asleep in the why not. You just explained that to me. But I said, here's what I write to Emily. Grabbing food and rushing over. Then rushing over. I'll be there at 820. Want a taco or three? Her response is yes Oh MG 822

How 820 and then the word to how am I supposed to interpret that? Did you want tacos? No, I'm not okay. I got I got a taco for you did Well, I'm so hungry because I was gonna eat in that half hour that I fell asleep after my attation I got how much I can eat anything a little chip. Well, I was okay I always eat from the vending machine here. I've won one chip at a time and it takes about 30 minutes to get through a bag. No, because the show's on, so I don't want to crunch on the microphone. Good move.

Yeah, thank you, but I'm so glad you got me a taco because I'm hungry. So, sexual health expo this weekend. Sheep. Sexualhealthexpo.com January 16th and 17th. This is very exciting because this is our fourth one We started last January in LA Funted four three other cities bringing it back home. It's been an amazing ride because every city just gets better and better Top sex educators for two days teaching workshops plus like all the toys. I talk about plus and more are gonna be there

It's open to the public. There's nothing else like this. Feedback at sex.lipl.com. It's the 12th right now. You've got a few days I can give you a free ticket if you want, if you email me why you want to go. And I'll be there doing a live show on Sunday the 17th from 1 to 2. So I hope and I'll be there Saturday too cutting the ribbon. So I'll see you all there. So as soon as you get at a church go have a little brunch and then head right over to the sheet. Exactly, church and sex, they go really well together. So that's what's happening.

Also, I just wanna point out that if you're not following me on Instagram or Twitter, at sex with Emily, I perplexed why you're not. Why would you not? And you should also check out my Facebook, Facebook.com slash section. That's because that's a good time there. I saw a picture of you with with menist last week.

I'm sorry. No. You guys got a log at the show. No, did you talk? It was in public. We put on a good face in public. Can I tell you a weird thing speaking of you? Yeah.

The other night I couldn't I haven't been sleeping great, but I woke up in the night and I literally was like, thought to myself, if Stanley were here, I would sleep so much better. And then I had like a tear, like I miss him. And I really wish you weren't as attached to him as you were or that you left town more often. I'm leaving town February. Can I watch them? Five nights. Can I watch them? He doesn't have a home as of right now, you wanna? Yeah, what are the dates?

We'll talk after. Okay, we'll talk after. Okay, we'll talk after. And then I get it four in the morning. My best friend's a vet, I'm like Charlotte, I'm ready for a new dog. Get one, get a dog. Because the fact that I'm just standing here,

I wasn't like, I want a man here. I was like, I want Stanley. Emily comes in and talks about, talks like this off air quite often during love line and during the breaks when she's in here. And Dr. Drew, I don't know if you notice, but Dr. Drew is adamant that you don't get a dog. And he's always like, hey, yeah, I know you love Stanley,

but Stanley's a very rare dog. There's not many dogs like Stanley. Don't go out there and try and think you're gonna find another Stanley because you're not gonna get one. Don't do that. Don't get a dog. It's like, shut up, You're gonna rescue a dog.

Well, because the thing is, I already rescued a dog once and he knows the history that I- No, no, no, no. He's in Palm Springs, actually. Is this what your mom told you? What? To get-

She's like, he went off to Palm Springs, Emily. No, no, no. This was like four years ago when I was- I know. I still. Yeah, she's like, Emily, we're taking the dog. No, it's that it was Daisy. I love her. She's Jack Russell. She I'm leaving. We're taking the dog. No, it's that it was Daisy. I love her.

She's Jack Russell. She was a puppy. She had so much energy. I was obsessed with being a really good dog mom. So I walked her 800 times a day. She was too much. And I just moved to LA. I had no money.

I had a favorite dog. I can't stand for this girl. She had like a baby daddy. She had. So here it was hard. And I couldn't find a place for it with a dog. And center off the pastor. So this couple love

Serenpalm spring as I still get pictures the point is I think Drew knows that story right yeah, but I'm more mature now I think you get a dog and I think you should get a dog. Yeah, so I think you should That's what I want do it for the new year do it Okay, so I think go to dog parks and you meet like weird random dudes with dogs and you can bring in stories I was so I was miss dog park in San Francisco. I had all my dog park friends the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing.

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This is the thing. This is the thing. This is the thing. This is. I'm like, I don't know where you're going to take the wrap. Don't get in the way. I hate seeing things die. I hate it so much. Like, Cap brought in a parent. Remember I told you. I know. You're a good man.

OK, so let's sex in the news, which I know you love. This is a really interesting study. Lots of sex reduces the likelihood of prostate cancer, which is one of those common cancers that, you know, for men. So you can avoid getting prostate cancer by popping off at least one orgasm a day. That's enough to be sex, guys. Just masturbating.

I know every guy wants another excuse to rationalize your excessive masturbation. No, I should not. Oh, it's good for the prostate. Yeah, exactly. Scientists claim that having sex and or orgasm, we want today can drastically reduce your chances of coming down with prostate cancer. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Did they like to take a bunch of dudes or I can't no beating off for you? You know, we're gonna come back in 10 years. We're gonna get into that because scientists at the Harvard Medical School, I know you like to trash some of my studies, but they found that men who ejaculate at least once a day have a very low chance of developing prostate cancer.

They reap the benefits of me time as sex itself is required just an orgasm. So this is a game changer for prostate cancer. And the data shows yeah, men who ejaculated more than 21 times a month were 22% lower risk of getting the disease. So if you need any more excuse, there you go. Okay, this is a funny one. Well, I shouldn't say, I hate when people say it's funny, then you feel you don't laugh.

I'm wondering, I'm sorry, I'm still thinking about the last question, the last news. I'm wondering how long it's gonna take before a rapist actually uses this as a defense for the court. Oh god, that's sick really? But yeah, he's like, hey, I had to because I had to get off to make sure that I don't get a prostate cancer.

You know, it's gonna happen. No, do a rapist. There's so many other, no, that's, that's terrible. So it's good to use that. No, that's, that's, first of all, the fact that your mind went to rapist using his defense, I thought you were gonna say, oh, I could hear guys, you know, justifying to their partners why they're watching so much porn, but no, you went to rapist, which is dark.

Why I always go extreme. You're so dark. I'm sorry. Okay. I can't wait for that to happen. Send the same email to Emily when that story happens, when somebody uses that as a defense.

Yeah, do it. If that happens, let's hope that doesn't happen. They killed Harvey Milk, and that guy tried to say it was because he like, didn't have a Twinkie, or he didn't have a Twinkie, and he had a sugar eye, right? The Twinkie defense.

Yeah, the guy who, what was his name? The city supervisor shot him. What was it? No, not Tim's. Brolin. He's the actor. No, no, no, no, no, I wait a film, a documentary about. It's about, it doesn't matter. But yeah, the Twinkie defense in too much sugar.

And that's why he killed. Okay, ready. So Amazon customer service rep gets revenge on a shopper by placing a tenant dildo in his shopping cart. It's a bonus. It's a bonus. It's a bonus. It appears, is that funny though?

He's like, how am I going to get back at this guy? I know ten inch dildo. That's cute. That's cute and light. That's not dark, right? No. It's funny. Is that a big black one?

Well, it's really rainy. You should see it. If you googled this story, it's so funny because my intern showed me Jamie. She was like, check this out. I'm like, Oh my God. Like in the guy will listen to the story. So a spiteful customer service rep did not appreciate negative feedback from a shopper. Um, so they made the customer happy by giving it to all their requests.

Just kidding. The representative put a ginormous 10 inch dildo in his Amazon shopping cart. So what happened was there was an IT contractor in Ireland at Amazon, and the customer named Pedro was disappointed that his book arrived. It was the wrong addition. So he complained to customer service, right? He was frustrated that in Pedro kept

emailing customer service. He was really sad. He really left a really negative service Like was the book my my how to get over your fear of dildos? Unfortunately, they didn't say what the book is I want to know but what happened was the next time Pedro opened up his Amazon account There's a dildo in a shopping cart, but not just any lousy dildo. Oh no. It was Hulk 10.25 inch Hong a huge dong black.

Oh, it says it's black, but it wasn't black when I saw the picture, yeah. It was dark humor. That has a retail value of $6199. Go bigger, go home. I guess it gets worse. Here's the problem. He was at the office in an open space

with people behind him. Oh, sure he was. A guy and two girls were sitting by me when I opened up Amazon and they saw the contents of the basket. Fuck you, Pedra, you're lying. He's like, that's not my 10-inch deal though. He thought of his best friend,

did it be a funny joke. And- So they tracked it back to this actual Amazon? He did not purchase, I guess so. They did not purchase the deal though. We don't know what happened to the Amazon rep. You gotta imagine he was like, oh. I'm sorry, probably was like, oh.

But I thought that was a- I like it, I like that very much. I don't believe Pedro. I think he's trying to make it a bigger deal than it is because he's a little bitch who's complaining about customer service. I mean, I was on the phone with Time Warner Cable today for an hour and a half.

Never once did I think, oh, I'm gonna write a terrible review about them. I'm just angry inside. But don't they send you, like, how was your day with don't they send you that? They don't want to go spoil it. I noticed that. They really don't do that.

That's a good point. When you're like in and out, like I have to rise and they're like, here's't want to go spoil it, I noticed that. They really don't do that, that's a good point. When you're like in and out, look, I have to rise and they're like, here's our customer, I'm like, I love you guys. Only when it, when something goes good, I get the little survey thing I tell minutes later, when it goes bad, I never get the call, which I'm happy with, I hate those calls.

I know I hate them too, dealing with that stuff is the worst. Like I need to call my health insurance because it, for like a month now and I just can't do it. Yeah, I'm sorry I had to go through that. You seem okay, though for being on the phone for an hour and a half But today Okay, I've got some mini topic here that I'd like to talk about sexual health resolutions Okay, because sexual health so important and I know people make commitments every day anyway They're gonna exercise more. They're gonna be healthy. They're gonna quit smoking

They're gonna do all these things and they wanna happen how they knew you're. And I'm all four, Jim, I heard the other day, the gym. It's so crowded right now. Couldn't even park in the parking garage. Five stories of cars. I'll go back two weeks from now. I'm gonna go every day, but two weeks from now,

it'll be, yeah. No, it's annoying. So annoying. So I think. It's an herd mentality. I know, but here's the thing. It's important to be healthy, but wellness in the bedroom, so important

So I want you guys to have better sexual health in 2016, okay? So here's some things you can do. I'm just gonna give you some tips and this is something I actually I don't know if I Announce this yet, but I am the the sexual health editor now for about calm Which is the fifth largest website in the world? About calm is a giant I've landed on the River of I Am Mistake, numerous times. Not by mistake, but I'll be with something. No, we'll see it and it'll come up right. So I'm actually honored and I've done, I do four stories a month,

or eight stories a first one. So check it out about.com, click on it, because yeah, I have good stories and also, I get some points if you have. It's gonna help support him by looking at the amount. So I gotta do just go through it when you're watching porn, after you watch porn. But no, so the first one, I'm just gonna give a few tips, more self pleasure. going to see about. So I got to do just go through when you're like watching porn. After you watch porn.

But no, so the first one, I'm just going to give a few tips, more self pleasure, not just because of prostate cancer. But a recent Indiana University study, 95% of men and 85% of women admit to masturbation and masturbation has numerous health benefits. For women, it helps prevent cervical and urinary tract infections. Form strength. It does this as a rousal promotes fluid circulation in and around the cervix clearing out bad bacteria. It should give you an eye now.

Vagina on bad bacteria. I'm sorry. You can do the bad bacteria if you flushed out of the vagina. Lower the risk of diabetes insomnia through hormone intention released and many other bent benefits. The other thing is, which I talk about a lot, it's the best way to learn your body and maximize orgasms. Now, I'm talking about mostly for women, guys kind of figure it out, but for women, it

also just like go on to the gym. The more you do something, the more you're going to want to do it. So if your libido has been suffering lately, you're not that into sex, I promise you, the more you get busy with yourself, the more sex you're gonna want. And also, even if you're solo, totally not even if great, learn your body, learn your other origin zone, to hide and have a million different kinds of orgasms. There's so many.

As a lady, can I, can I ask you this? Sure. Do you have any idea how foreign that sounds to men? I know. I mean, you do this for a living, so I guess you do, but I think a lot of women don't realize just how foreign that would sound to a guy, because it's like, why would I need to make an appointment?

Why would I make it a, need to make sure that I do this, because it's such a great thing and I do it all the time. Because men just like don't even think, the men use it like stress relief for your like, you're like, just do it for women. It's more, it can be more complicated. And our brains are not as as focused on the sex thing.

Like, it doesn't have, we just get boners in the middle day, and they go, I gotta go home and record on the bathroom. Whatever you do, pull over the side of the road. Just don't have to do it. I know guys, they'll be, like, as Jim, and they'll see a girl in yoga class, when they're just walking by, and they're off in the stall beating off.

I swear I swear to God, that's not me. I do know guys. No, I know that too. Not me, that's not me. But the thing is, whether you're alone or partnered, more sex has been frequently linked to greater happiness and health benefits. And so, oh, this is my next one, sorry,

with schedule sex. But it's not just if you're alone or partner, you should just schedule sex, which is also really foreign to you. I'm sure because I'm sure you have lots of sex with your partner, but regular sex also lowers blood pressure, decreases stress and leads to better heart health. And also people who have more sex report higher levels of satisfaction and happiness.

But if you're flying solo, like I said, schedule time. This is again for women, but sexual exploration. You know, in the bed and the bathtub, I talk about this all the time, different ways that you can learn just because you know the one way that you orgasm. Use your hand, use toys, and don't make orgasm the goal even. If you're like, I don't feel like it, just spend some intimate time giving yourself

a breast massage. Light a candle. Light a candle. And scheduling sex with your partner might see my romantic, but it can have a stimulating effect because then you know that you're having sex. You're like, okay, Saturday nights. You're not frustrated during the week,

but you're like, I know it's happening Saturday. So it's a little bit of, you know, what is it? Spontaneous. No, but it's not as spontaneous, but it's more like, it's like, it's like, it's more like, if you're a lady and you do this, because the guy doesn't have to know that it's scheduled. Oh, that's true.

I'm giving out an answer. You just, yeah, you make your own schedule, don't even let him know about it, and then you just make yourself available. For the most part, most relationships, unless you're like the ropers from Threes Company, most relationships, the lady wears the pants as far as when they're having sex.

Yeah, it's true. So if you're setting the schedule, that's fine. But just know and start like, you know, if you've been like, oh, growing into the Saturdays and start thinking about it in the middle of the week, like start whatever turns you on, I'm reading, Radica watching porn. The more you think about sex too,

the more you'll want it. For sure, like anything else. But you're not talking about people who are like, sex too, the more you'll want it. For sure. Like anything else, but you're not talking about people who are like, oh God, Saturday is coming and I have to have sex soon. Are you? There are those people. No, there are those people, but I'm thinking like if you feel like you've kids or you don't enough time or whatever it is with your partner, just say we're going to do it on Saturdays.

You can tell them about it because I know that there's a lot of people who are in relationships where they feel like there's a lot of pressure from the partner and they're always saying, no. So this way, if you know you're having it on Wednesdays and Saturdays, well it might not seem sexy again you know that it's coming so you can be thinking about it and building towards it. So when I first started my show people will talk about scheduled sex I'm like that is such a buzzkill, a boner kill, but it actually isn't. The next thing is sexual resolution sexual health is increasing your libido. So if you're not getting in the mood

as often as you'd like, there could be emotional factors, environmental factors that could all be contributing to this. So take a look, first of all, number one, are you taking any medications? Could be birth control, which is the silent libido killer. No one knows if birth control could do that Talk to Dr. see what else it could be it could just be a lot of medications can cause you a low libido. Also, are you eating right?

If you have a diet fresh vet like your diet is gonna get much healthier Whole foods vegetables lean proteins. It will low low low lower Lowia cholesterol blood pressure reduce the risk of diabetes, and all those risks will also release, I mean, and reduce all those risks, but also it will release endorphins, helping you feel happier, more relaxed, and wanting to have more sex.

That they're eating good. Yes. Yes. You know, it's crazy how quick it happens, too. Within 24 hours of just changing your diet, you feel much better person. I know. It's amazing. You're talking about how you fell out of the routine of your meditation. And it's just it's so crazy to me that you know, human beings were smart, you know, evolved animals. We still are so stupid when it's like, how do we all do it?

We're like, Hey, we know this is really good for me, but I'm going to like fall out of the routine and just stop doing it. Like, wow, I don't know. And it's like, I've been out of my routine for four months now put on 22 pounds and I feel like You did you don't look like it. Oh, thanks kid But yeah, and I know I'm doing it. It's so weird. There's something psychologically deep in there You know what I mean? It's true I mean I when I was meditating every day for I mean for 15 years I've been trying to do it every day for the like about three months this year

I was right on track and I was like, and literally, I feel so amazing. It's because of this. And it was almost the next day that my brain was like, oh, I'm not gonna do it. It was like sabotage. Like, that's what you're saying. Our brain is like, this feels so good. This feels so good.

I'm not gonna do it tomorrow. Can I miss the real quick that, all right. So I started eating good two days ago, right? It's like, so like, you know, we can half into the new year. That's like the first step. And it's not that easy. Like so last night, I had, you know, a few drinks

and the wife, she had gotten, you know, those big cookies that you get from pizza hut. Yeah. They're like eight inches in the shape. Like you're a matter of size of your head? Of a pizza, so they have like, they've cut it so you can like take slices of the pizza. She had it in the fridge and I had one, right?

And it was really good. So I went ahead, a second one. And then now it's half gone. So I'm like, you of the pizza. She had it in the fridge and I had one, right? And it was really good. So I went ahead, a second one. And then now it's half gone. So I'm like, you know what I could do? I could eat the whole thing. And then tomorrow I'll go to pizza hut. That's today. And I'll buy a new one and I'll just take one slice out

throw it in the trash and then replace it and the fridge she'll never know. And I did that. You did? She doesn't know? She doesn't know how to do it. You literally did? Is that sad and sick?

Yeah, I hate the whole thing. And I did the calories. I counted like, eight hundred and eighty three calories. Oh my God! Right before I went to sleep! I can't... On top of the James and Whiskey! Oh my God.

So you really like snuck with this morning like 10 a.m. You were the first customer at Pizza Hut? No, I mean, she's at work all day and I have days freeze. So, I did it like three times a day. And she was in this podcast so she won't know that that cookie was actually a, I can't really do the piece away. Yeah, I felt kind of weird. You know what, the weirdest part was when I walked out,

thanks very much for my giant cookie and I walked out and immediately he opened it up, took a piece out and I was afraid that they were looking and watching me and I was afraid they were gonna think, what a fat ass, he's about to eat it. But then I threw it in the trash, the one piece in the trash. And you were not tempted to have another bite that,

no, no, no, today during the day, I'm not drinking and I'm like, I look at it and say, I'm not poisoned. That's poison. I can't believe you did that the best story. I've done, I don't think if I've done it, well, I've never lived with anyone where I've had to share

anything. So, no. I just rather, just in hotel room was when I used to take stuff from the mini bar when they before the you like would touch it and they would charge it. But they could make it, I'm going to go buy M&M's downstairs because they just turned me $5 for the M&M's. And then you feel vindicated and because you got a good deal.

Yeah, I got a deal. I said to Jewel, I hate when they told you so much. I was just mortified of the idea for waking up or later till I get in home and seeing there's like one piece left or two pieces left. So I'm like, I got to fix this. Chick, what happened to healthy diet? There's only one way to fix it.

I love that you actually followed through with that. That's awesome. Okay. I'm ashamed. I got a lot of shame. I love that you're talking about it. Was that cathartic? No, not really. Okay.

Makes me feel worse. Well, another sexual health practice for the New Year. I'm sorry that you feel really. I love that you're so open and honest about that. I feel like I want to, let me see if something comes up. Sexual health practice? No, I was going to see if there's something I could admit that I've done like that, but nothing's coming ahead because I'm kind of perfect.

Mm-hmm. I'd agree. Okay, well, I know. You wear all of your folds on your sleeve. I can't. Yeah, anyone, anyone listens to you long enough, they're gonna hear you talk about it. That's true.

I think I'm pretty much, you know, open about it. You can real deal, you are what you, people ask me like, what's she like off air? I'm like, kind of the exact same. Exactly, exactly the same. Her head's not in her purse as much on air, but she's pretty much exactly. I went to hear my friend Anna do a story telling last night and I, in the middle of the thing,

I put my purse down on the floor in the middle of it and I started digging through it. And I was with Ross, the guy, he lived in here. I saw him just like, go, like, what are you doing? Like, I had my light in my purse. I see homeless women do that all the time. I know, I'm homeless. I'm like, oh, homeless person, but there's a lot, I sound just like, what are you doing? Like, I had my light in my purse. I see homeless women do that all the time. I know, I'm homeless, I'm like, oh, homeless person, but there's a lot, I am bagley.

There's a lot going out in my purse. Okay, before we get to the next one, which is very actually my favorite tip for sexual health. Except the best of luck. I've got to tell you all, gotta tell you about one thing, Pierre, and I just wanted to thank you all for supporting our sponsors who kept this show free for you.

But this is one that I'm crazy about. It's my new toy. If you've listened to the show last couple of months, you've probably heard we talk about this toy. It's called, it's a unique product. It's called the womanizer. A while back, the owners of the company asked

if they could send me one to test. Of course, I always say yes. I said yes, I agreed. And as you know, I own and I review a lot of toys. So I was fairly confident that I've tried every category of product around. I was wrong Anderson. I was wrong. The womanizer designed in Germany, unlike anything else in the market, it indirectly stimulates

the clitoris using suction. We have no time for wasting. Well, here's funny, keep this in. It's kind of like a sexy ear thermometer is what it looks like. If you could think of that. It has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris. Kind of like how partner might use their mouth or at least it's kind of how we would wish partners would use their mouth. That's why I think it's so good. While it's on you, you vary the suction, move it around to creep this like amazingly intense experience. It's literally sucking you. Most women in the focus group achieved orgasm in one minute. It's like the 60 second orgasm.

Can you stand up? Does it stay attached? Like is is it suction? No, it's not like that. No. So back to me, I tried the womanizer and they weren't kidding. It's amazing, Anderson. It's kind of like if I dreamed of how I'd want a man to like know my clitoris, this toy like knows me. It's like the Mercedes of sex toys. Yeah. So the suction is adjustable. You can position to create so many different sensations, which is so cool. It's just its own category. Like I've tried every toy, there's nothing else like it. I suggest you check it out for yourself. Go to sexwithelmui.com. Click on the womanizer banner for more information. It's also available for womanizer shop.com. That's womanizer shop.com. Shop. you say it, it earns its name. Well,

here's a crazy thing about it. Is that is that when they want to send to me because you know, I get every day who wants to send me toys and I don't get to all of them. I can tell. I'm like, I've tried this, I've tried that. And the weird thing is that the name is like kind of weird in Germany. It means something different here. It's like that douchebag you did in college, the organizer. But this toy has sold more than any other toy that's only been out for a year. Crazy numbers. Every sex educator I know has been like, can we try the womanizer yet? So it's like got this buzz. Right.

Literally. So it's amazing. I have to say and I, it sucks your clitoris. Okay. I asked you a quick question. Yeah. What if it was like a new organic sex toy company? All right, you're like, hey, you want to send me a product? Sure. And you just got like a zucchini in the mail.

You open it up. That wouldn't be bad. Is that a show? Do you give it a show? No, you can't put anything inside your vagina. I'm gonna answer. Okay. Thank you. I've learned something. Okay, guys, are you ready to mix up your masturbation routine guys? This for the men the number one sex toy for men, still is in 2016. The only one you want is the flashlight. It's a masturbation sleeve, use it solo or with a partner and it simulates sensations of real sex and was engineered to look and feel like the real deal. And they have a lot of products now, they've got the stamina training unit, it helps you

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share one of these. Go to sexwithmly.com, click on the fleshite banner, use code Emily, and you get a free bottle of their award-winning fleshloob. How about that? Okay, back to sexual health resolutions. This is my favorite one. What do you think it is? How in the world would I know? Kegel exercises. Oh, Kegs, yes. I should have known. It's a few minutes a day. Men and women This is my favorite one. What do you think it is? How in the world would I know? Kegal exercises. Oh, kegs, yes, I should have known. It's a few minutes a day. Many women can do it.

They increase their sexual health by completing these simple pelvic floor exercises. There are so many benefits to them. For women, increased sexual sensation, more frequent orgasms. It's strengthens your vagina after childbirth. It helps post menopausal women maintain lubrication They build your pelvic floor which atrophies over time. So you just have to do them and for men

They improve erectile dysfunction increases your ejaculatory control Mm-hmm. Oh, you're getting a damn better. Yeah, you aim shoot across the room like you were 18 I have an iPhone app called kegel camp, which you can download it every day. It will remind you to do it pops up on your phone There's 20 levels. K-E-G-E-L-Camp. K-C-C. Think it like crazy with a K-E-L-A. You know what we thought about that, but no.

No. Number five, I want you guys to practice the five brothers. Practice safe sacks, you guys. Let me just tell you something. Just do it. If something hurts, see a doctor. Don't shy away from asking our awkward questions.

We heard some love in all the time, but like, oh no,'t know. I'm not going to go to my doctor and talk about my penis. Yes, you should. For women, regular breast exams are essential. Starting young is a good baseline. You got to do all of that. And also you guys know birth control and always use condoms. You just don't know if someone says they have tested. You can't believe them. And if you're young, you might have to try four or five birth controls before you find one that works. That's true too. People, when I, when I took both birth control and I first started in college, I, I didn't know that it would

like decrease my libido, which it did. I didn't know, I mean, it did make my breasts like two size larger. Some make a skinny, some make it black. Black, a, some make it horny, some make it shut down. Yeah, but no one was like, oh, there's other kinds. You never know until you try a few. So if you are a woman right now and you're taking birth control, you're like, why don't

I want sex or you're having some side effects go back to your gynecologist wherever you got it. And there's so many different, everyone's body's different, react separately. Let's try it. Okay, so emails now. Boom. Good time for emails. I love you all.

I love when you email me. I love hearing from you. I love reading emails. Feedback at sexwithelmy.com. Include your name, where you're listening from, and how you listen in the email. It helps us. The first subject of 2016 Anderson and our email's ready. Face sitting.

Ooh. It's number one. Okay. Dear Emily, my partner and I just started getting close and talking about our favorite things to do in the bedroom. He told me that he really likes it when a girl straddles his face and rides it. Dear Emily, my partner and I just started getting close and talking about our favorite things to do in the bedroom. He told me that he really likes it when a girl straddles his face and rides it. I've never done that before and I'm really nervous because as basic as it sounds, I don't

really know perfectly what to do. Do I ride his face? Like I would ride him? I know it's dumb question, but the more we have sex, I know the day will come when he's going to hand to edit. Help, sincerely Katie. Watch Alien at the end with the face hugger thing that goes on guy's face, right?

Very similar. Katie, this is not a dumb question. I mean, to figure out the logistics of a new or unfamiliar position is very valid. People ask me about, you know, all touring positions all the time. And I love that he's into this because let's be honest, face sitting,

all about her pleasure. I mean, he gets pleasure too. I have it that way if he wants it. If he wants it, I love that. But I get why it's weird because you're like, does he need to support like a snorkel on? You know, like, because you think he's smushin'. Yeah, well, she a big girl.

Well, I don't know, but you don't have to ride his face like you'd ride him in cowgirl positions. So you're not going up and down, you're not like aggressively going back and forth. There's no penetration, so moving up and down is unnecessary. Make sure you can breathe. But maintain contact the entire time with your clitoris

because the focus is your clitoris. Let's be honest with this. The range of motion will be smaller. So you're not like sliding all over his face unless you want to. It's just making sure the clitoris, you know, tiny circles. You're not bathing his face. No, unless you want to do. Little thrusts forward and back. They'll stimulate your clitoris, you know, tiny circles. That's the evenest face. No, unless you want to do little thrusts forward and back,

they'll stimulate your clitoris while also giving him the feeling of being ridden. And don't feel this is another thing that I think probably is her question is like she doesn't have to hold your all of your weight. Like Katie, you don't have to be like, you know. She has any quad strength at all. She'll be able to pull this off, right?

But, you know, she can put some weight on him by sitting back onto his chest. She can put a pillow under her knee to pull this off, right? But, you know, she can put some weight on him by sitting back onto his chest. She can put a pillow under her knee. She can lead forward onto the wall, you know, like, that's what I've done. So that's what you're thinking. She should be facing away from him rather than back to him. No, no, no, no, facing him.

No, no, no, but like, I mean, where if she laid down her head, she wouldn't be on his pain, you know what I mean? No 69, but sitting up, she should be, cause there's two different ways. You can do Cal girl, reverse guy, and I'm saying, I'm thinking that she's fake. She's like looking.

So she can just focus on her stuff and yeah, put her hands on the wall like you said. Hands on the wall, yeah, that's what I've done. And you can lift yourself up, you can pose on your knees. That's how I suggest, go for it, ride that mouth. Yeah, a lot of girls just don't get the guys, some guys have like oral fixations and they're really into like, why haven't I met the guy with a lot of guys just don't get the guys, some guys have like oral fixations and they're really into like,

why haven't I met the guy with a lot of guys? I met some, but not enough. A lot of guys. And a lot, you know, people in general, if they don't, if they have an adversity to something like an aversion to like, semen or body fluids, they assume their partner does too.

And a lot of the time, it doesn't line up that way. No, no, no, I know. I've dated guys who are not as into oral and I'm not as into them. Yes, okay Okay, we've got to fake it and I'm good ladies you got a fake that you love the world, too until I Love it. So you're married and you just stop and then yeah, it's in the agreement Don't stop oral pleasure ever, okay, unless you're putting this you both aren't into it

They started dating what we were talking to in the office about online dating sites. Others like now dating sites for everything. There could be what there's one for big guys. Like guys like it's called like eight inches and over eight and over. But maybe there's one for like people who don't like oral. Match those people up. Yeah. They're like you don't want blow jobs and you don't want kind of lingers. I'm down.

Let's get married. Okay. So do your Emily. Another email. My name is Kristen. I'm 26 years old, I live in St. Louis, Missouri, I've been with my boyfriend for four years. I've been listening to your podcast for the past five years,

and we've both benefited big time from your advice. We're constantly inspired with your new ideas to mix things up and our big fans of the occasional hand job. Sorry, Menace, Menace is anti-hand jobs. Why, he doesn't like the old fashioned? Well, it's a long story. Okay. Okay. This new year, I'm focusing on taking more time

out to up the romance in our relationship outside the bedroom to inspire us even more inside the bedroom. I'm planning bi-weekly dates, including stay-cations in nearby hotels, dinners out, couple road trips, and I'm running out of ideas. If I were to plan the perfect date night, what should I include?

What's the science behind great dates and keeping things interesting and we've already been on four years of fun and interesting dates? Thanks for everything you do to make the world a better sexier place, Kristen. Where's Kristen calling from? She's in St. Louis. St. Louis. Yep. Um, I think it's a great question. And Kristen, thank you for, um, let's see the show and your support. I appreciate it. And so that bad. Is she doing all the work here though? It sounds like she's like

the planner and he's just kind of going where are you taking me? You know, I never really, but okay. Where are we going? I think in every relationship, this isn't true. I think two planners don't often get together. I'm not a planner, but the problem is I'm meeting someone who's not a big planner either, so we basically don't do anything. Don't do it damn thing. I know, and I'm not a big planner, and so I kind of would like him to plan more. Are you and your wife both planners? Not a planner. Right, see, there's always one planner. And I don't think that either one of us are planning, so it's kind of an issue I probably

need to bring up. But besides that, it's not about me. There is no exact science, Kristen, for the perfect date, because everyone's different. The thing is, is that it sounds like you've already found really interesting things, and generally a great date has more to do with the people on the date than the activities. But since you are looking to mix things up, couldn't explore, hurt to explore more adventurous options

together, because they always say that the more that you or I say, couples who play together, stay together. So if you do like adrenaline pumping things, Venturist options together because they always say that the more that you or I say Couples who play together stay together. So if you do like adrenaline pumping things like I don't say jumping out of plane But even if you guys like play the sport together you do telling that that even if you like Said that once a week you take some kind of like exercise class or dancing class or something like that Which somebody would tell where you get your blood pumping that could be fun and exciting for you who knows But planning and dates like with new likeaster, skydiving, rock climbing, like I said, it gets your those feel good hormones going, adrenaline, all that stuff. Interactive dates, always a great idea, cooking classes, sushi making is popular.

Okay, here's this, Anderson, you'd love this, in LA, there's now a class, there's a cooking class, you take, oh no, there is cooking, but there's a drunk, painting class. No, no, Painting class no, no, no cooking with come good. I would recommend that I don't you're Sexy, right if anyone recommended I would it's a real thing. There is a drunk painting class where you get to drink wine Well, you create work some art. I like it laughter is usually involved. I show up drunk though So I don't you already be drunk. You're like oh, I I already came to you. I feel like Picasso painting with my dick halfway through. David, you're such an ass, Kisser. You already came here drunk. You did your assignment before you even got it.

I know, that's so you know. Hey, she could, they could go to see the St. Louis Rams who are about to leave town. They're gonna come to LA and then try and find a place to have sex in the stadium somewhere. Which is illegal, but you could. It's illegal. So, no, we're not recommending that,

but it's your last chance to do that. That's totally. I agree. Learning to do new things together. Get a man in that, but it's your last chance to do that. That's totally. I agree. Learning to do new things together. Get a little rammed in the ram stadium and I'm saying. I totally do. Learning to do new things also, it brings you closer together if you're both doing something

together, like learning to drunk paint, learning to cook. And don't be afraid to get him involved. Like Anderson said, two heads are better than one. Just the act of talking about the new things you're like to experience can also inspire great new ideas together. And again, if you, it sounds like your sex, I've already great and you're doing these stacations, I would, you know, get a copy of my book, hot sex over 200 things you could try at night is a great book for something like this because you, you get an Amazon, you literally just open the page and you're like, let's try this tonight.

So it gives you ideas that are really easy to implement that can Anderson uses it. Yeah, just flipped a random page and if it's you land on a page something you've already done yet Got it. That's really fun. So try that I love that she's been with the other she's been listening for five years. Yeah, they've been together So that means that they they like each other quite a bit of it for years because there's nothing better than taking a good Road trip with somebody who you're really comfortable with And what the wife and I kind of discovered a number of years ago is what we do is we'll fly into a place, rent a car, and then do a big circle. We'll drive like 2,000 miles in a circle back to the airport over like five days.

You know what I mean? Just a check out a new place. Yeah, like we'll go to like a national park or two, but like we do like a big circle from like we'll fly into Denver and then we'll go up to like Wyoming and through like Yellow Stone and then back around And you're so you're always on the road But you're at very far from where you live, right? I love that. I love four trips I've been time when I was in a while either and always bring a new sex toy in a road always okay

How to get ready they should sell them at triple a they should sell sex toys. They should sell them everywhere They should well, I do sell them like Walmart. That would be weird. That would be weird. How about sex toys are us? That could be my story. Oh, my God, I bet it exists. I don't know. Look it up. Okay, I'm just going to my website to my toys. Okay, how to get ready for round two.

Emily, I love your show. I will sing for several years. My fiance and I have been enjoying some of the best sex ever because of the tips and advice from your show. I love you people. Thank you. James saw them. We both tried many new things.

Now the sex is great. we want more of it. The problem is, once I come, it takes a long time recover for another round. What can I do to decrease the amount of time it takes to get hard after I come? We're getting married in a couple weeks, and I wanna make sure the honeymoon really is really memorable. Any help will be appreciated,

James 23 Des Moines, Iowa. Okay, so here's the thing, James. All men do need a break after a calculation to get her back to game. This is called the refractory period. It fluctuates from person to person and younger guys typically have shorter refractory periods. My boyfriend when I was 25, every time we had sex, he would come three times. Just this just reminded of that. Literally at three times. I was like, oh god, here we go again, here we go again, which is fine, but it just, you know, here we go again, here we go again. Which is fine.

But it just, you know, it's a little bit... You could have played my Zaka. No, he just couldn't help it. But there are things, James, you can do that trains your body to shorten your refractory period. So for women when they have multiples, you know, a lot of times when there isn't as long of a refractory period, number one, diet and exercise. Lots of fresh food, lots of vegetables can shorten the period. So here's some here's some levels, some foods that crease those

levels that can help you those testosterone levels is avocado bananas oysters lean meats beans garlic nuts fish oil eggs any foods rich in zinc any foods rich in vitamin D you could try some natural supplements cardio you got to work out. You need to, you know, strength training increases your testosterone. So all these things will help you. And also, cagal exercises for men.

I'm telling you that they will train you to have more control over your ejaculation. It just does. Helps you have stronger, more intense and even multiple orgasms. You know, I've had guys, my app has 20 levels, cagal camp. So it builds over time and I've had guys, my app has 20 levels, Kegel Camp, so it builds over time, and I've had guys, email me, like,

oh my god, I'm now shooting it across the room. Like, it's true. So also you can practice edging, which is like the stop start method, which means that when you're masturbating, you're... Is that bad for your, anything? No.

You stimulate yourself until you're about to orgasm, and then you let that go down, and then you start again, let it go down, and the third time you let yourself reject it, and then you start that go down and then you start again, let it go down. And the third time you let yourself reject it and then you start training yourself and understanding your ejacatory response cycle. So that will help you. Be careful what you're doing between because then you're going to end up associating that with sex if you, like every time you stopped, you edged off and you went and made yourself

a ham sandwich. No, no, no, this is all in one sash. Don't get up and make any sense. You're doing this during a masturbation that you're getting to the point of no return and then you're stopping. How long do you dig a break before you, you know, just a few, it could be like two, three minutes and then go back up again, two, three minutes. And then you start to know your body and then you can eventually the concept is if you master it, you can have a dry orgasm and go for rounds of rounds out losing your

erection. This takes a lot of practice, a lot of commitment. I don't know. That's a real thing. I don't know if there's, I think there's dudes out there that claim that they can do that But I bet they're lying. Oh, thanks. I think they might be I bet they have ponytails They might But no, they're not Pete this does exist people can't do this, but that's a that's a whole like life

That's like a life just The next thing is just relax don't put so much pressure on yourself to have to do it again If you're getting frustrated, stressed out, we're getting hard, it will not help you just like any time we just want anything, you'll have the opposite effect. And let's just remember this, while you're waiting for round two, why not please your woman, go down on her,

make sure she's pleased. And you know, you might just turn you on again if you're into oral, which I hope you are, pleasing her, boner might just come back on its own. So diet, exercise, tagls, edging,, all that make sure she's happy in the meantime. That's my advice for you. Um, James and, uh, thank you for listening to the show this year. Go go go over that delista foods again. Why really? Yeah, because, uh, avocado, banana, right oysters,

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