Sex With Emily - Facing Your Backdoor Fears

Episode Date: August 21, 2014

Happy Anal Pleasure Month! This show is dedicated to helping you explore the world of pleasure located right at your backdoor! Whether you’re male, female, single or in a relationship, gay or straight, this podcast addresses your questions and helps you to face your backdoor fears! Along with her trusty assistant, Emily provides tips and tricks on how to make anal sex a fun, pleasurable time for everyone! Also on the show, master of prostate play, Dr. Charlie Glickman, calls in to give his his expert opinion, and provide a male perspective, on anal pleasure for men of all sexual orientations. From “anal breathing” to porn to the importance of foreplay, this Podcast touches on all the hot backdoor topics! Don’t miss out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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as always at feedbackatsexwithelene.com. I am thrilled for today's show because it's annual pleasure month. So happy annual pleasure month. Let me be the first to wish you a happy anal pleasure month because I probably am the first person. But today's show is all about anal sex. And I know you've probably wanted to try it maybe with your partner.

You've been thinking about it maybe a girlfriend or wife. She's a little bit apprehensive. Well this show we're going to give you the best tips, the tricks and positions for pleasurable anal sex, the dues and the don'ts and the top questions I get asked so you will be all covered and ready to go for this month. Because why not explore it and do it right? And I have special guests today who's going to give us some great tips as well and share some personal experiences. It is Lauren, my wonderful assistant.

Hi, Lauren. Hello. Hello, hello. So Lauren is here because she actually is a fresh off the boat from Avon Eosect last night, but we're not going to go there first. First I have to talk to you about, um, it's funny because you know, we talk a lot about toys on the show and the Wevibe has always been voted like for years, the number one couples toy,

and they're not one of our sponsors at all. I'm just telling you that, you know, we get all these toys and now the WeviV4 came out and it is always voted the number one couples vibrator because they actually were the first people who made a couples vibrator because you can actually wear it during sex. So last night Lauren we have these toys all over the office and the WeviV is a nice toy. I mean it's a it's an investment. I mean it's it's price a little bit more expensive than most but it's totally worth it. It's totally worth it. So Lauren was leaving last night. I knew she had her guy in town, one of her guys, and I was like, hey, honey, take the weebive for.

Have a good night. And I most certainly did. And she most certainly did. And I haven't, we got to a mind-still charging where I'm bad because I haven't had sex lately, and I haven't had anyone try with. And I'm so glad that you did because I'm dying tears. So I didn't even ask her if she came in. I'm like, did you use it? So tell me about the we we should explain first

what the weby 4 is why it's a couple's vibrators because it's shaped like a C just to give you the best thing and you can insert it so it's you get G spot stimulation. There's dual motors, so there's a motor on the inside of the C on both ends of of the sea, the sea, shape, goes into fits curves her body. Right. And she inserts it in. Yeah, she inserts it in and it kind of, she wears it pretty much. Okay. Yeah. During intercourse. During intercourse. And there's two, there's two motors. So one motor is on the inside resting between her labia and on the outside I'm sorry and then the other one is on the inside and there actually is enough room for penetration. So you wear it so okay so what is here is it's silicone vibrator, it's waterproof

and it has a remote control. That's how you control it. So the latest version of the Wevibe, and I'm just, it's more secure, the problems with the other Wevibe's, because there's with three of them, is that yes, you wear it during sex, and I'm not sure if we're really making that, but he can put his, you can have penetration, he goes inside you, and so you're a literal stimulation and G-spot stimulation, but his penis can still fit inside you at the same time. But the problems with the other we vibed,

the one, two, three, was that it, they would slip and slide, I don't know if you used it, but they would fall out and they wouldn't stay in place. And this one, it was to be like the best stays in place. So while he's inside you, it's also stimulating your G-spot. He also, this is specifically targeting your G-spot, your clitoris. So he, so you had sex with it.

Yeah, and then he can feel it too. He gets off on the, because the vibrator on the inside is for both of you. Right, because he's inside you, so he's feeling the vibrations. And, and so, okay, so you were wearing it and tell me, go. Definitely, definitely needed Lou. Okay, Alka, always.

Obviously, but I also love Lou. It was great. I left it out. He was excited. Did you do okay? So he came over and he was like, what's that? Like you left it literally sitting on your like, oh, I know he's interested. And I knew as if he saw it was a sex story, he'd be like, let's try it. Right. Good. So I left it out. I worked out. So when when? And we tried it out. I actually tried it out in the shower first. I was just like just got up from the pool and When I wait you were in the pool. Yeah, I would be you and the pool before before okay, and Came back and tried it in the shower

It wasn't working so much Yeah, so then tried it in the bed with Loub worked great. So lesson learned don't try in the shower so much. Okay, but it still worked in the shower. I thought it was great. Okay, so you put it in. Okay, before that you would for play. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah, it wasn't just all here. Let's put it in and penetrate. Okay, got it. But then you did put it in and then was he on top of you? He was on top of me and we were doing missionary and then it was easiest in missionary for it

till like day. Right. Because I think if you're on top, it would be moving around. Yeah. I also, well, I was like sitting on top, like sitting. And that worked really well because when you grind, it kind of grinds with you and moves with you. I love.

So it's like you're moving one way, it's kind of moving. And it doesn't, you kind of use the movement to the advantage because it fits, but it doesn't slide around. OK, if you don't know, go to go to sexletme.com, click on the Good Vibes banner, and then you'll see my page, and I think the WeVibes for is on that page.

So you can know what we're talking about. So did it, and it stimulated your G-Spot and your clitors at the same time, plus his penis. So that's the thing, that's a lot of stimulation. It was pretty intense. It was, like, intense, did you have Orgat, like a lot of Orgat? Like more than usual? Yeah, definitely, faster and more than usual. Ooh, see, okay. I can tell you, did you have Orgat, like a lot of Orgat? Oh yeah, yeah.

Like more than usual? Yeah, definitely. A faster and more than usual. Oh, see. Okay. And here's the thing that also, I always say this on the show, but people don't, guys are like, oh, and guys, many men are intimidated.

Help, this is changing. But by vibrators, I think, oh, she's gonna replace me. She's not gonna want to be with me anymore. And I'm like, what, you know, vibrators can't cuddle. I mean, that's ridiculous. Yeah. I'm not gonna leave you for a vibrator. They don't cut. But men,, you know, vibrators can't cuddle. Man, it's ridiculous. I can't. I'm not going to leave you for a vibrator. They don't cut.

But men, although they think about vibrators, they don't realize that the vibrations actually feel good in your penis on your balls. So what would he say about the vibrations? Because you understand as inside him, he's inside her and he's feeling the vibrations. What did he say? Have you ever felt that before?

He never felt anything like that. He's down for the toys obviously. But he thought it was really awesome and really intense because he likes cock rings. The vibrating cock rings. And so he never really, there aren't really many options for men. None. Right. So you get the flashlight is like the number one sex fight, one of them only, and then there's cock rings which you put on your penis. And I mean, cock rings have been around forever, but now they vibrate.

So it's for his aunt. That's another couples toy, I would say. The wee vibe and the vibrating rings that you put on your penis, and then they have a little vibrator on them. So when you're having sex, it actually hits our clitoris. So you guys have tried that before. And any like the vibrations, that's the,

I've never met a man ever who's like, out of that vibrator, or I don't like the vibrations. And I feel like it's like this secret. And I just want to, just to try it. Like, even if it's her vibrator, let's say she's got a bullet or even a magic wand, you might like how it feels on your balls or just on your shaft or on your tip. Just first, you know, try it.

I'm telling you, don't knock vibrations until you try it. Something I've actually really found to like, and he likes to, is using one of my like larger vibrators. It kind of looks like the magic wand. Is it the Lilo one? Lilo one. Okay, I love that one. What's that one called again?

Oh, God, have a look at it. Okay, keep going. I'll find it. Yeah. So I use that one and he uses it too. Like, while we're having sex to stimulate, well, put it on your anus, not in, but on. On his or yours. So, okay.

Like different. Yeah. I literally, when he comes over, I just throw up in my toy drawer and just leave it, everything out. That's, see, those are the best kind of guys that are, I feel like every guy that you've been using has been like, bring your toys, bring your toys.

Like I usually bring like, I forget through my clothes back as suitcase of toys. Oh yeah. Right. Like, I, he, I forget through my clothes but I got suitcase of toys. Oh yeah. Right. Like, I, he is my favorite person to have sex with and I look forward to it just because how open he is and how down he is. And it's not like he doesn't do it in a weird way.

He's just, right. He's like, he's like, he's your pleasure. Yeah. And he is pleasure too. Oh, the one that we're talking about is the Lilo, it's the smart wand rechargeable vibrator. That rocks, it's kind of like the magic wand in the way that it's the smart wand rechargeable vibrator. That rocks, it's kind of like the magic wand

in the way that it's really strong vibrations, but it's rechargeable because it plug into the wall. So you just use that around as eight. That's a great one for tickling rhinosanus from all of it, because I started using it on him and he was, because I have vibrators that look like penis. And I don't want to rub a penis vibrator up on him. I don't like, that's very gentle.

That's very kind of, you know? I thought the alarm. Like, I, some girls, some guys, I don't want to rub a penis vibrator up on him. I don't like, that's very kind of you. I thought the alarm. I like, I, some girls, some guys, I don't know. I have, I have the lucky benefit of being a malaise assistant, so I have the choice of plenty of vibrators. So like, I would choose the one that doesn't look like a penis and doesn't actually go inside me.

So I don't, the Lila one is is not insertable. Yeah, I don't want to like scare him at first like the vibrator up his ass. Right. But just the vibrations can feel good speaking of asses and anal pleasure. Yeah, but I really think that he wants to get into anal. You think he wants you to like prostate play with a lot of guys. I mean that's something that we're to cover on our next show because we didn't think we could put all the anal Stuff into this show, but we are going to be doing show that the next one is all about male prostate pleasure because a lot of guys They don't realize it is kind of like the male g-spot and a lot of men have their distinct my attached with they think oh It means that I'm gay or or anal penetration is only for gay men

and I'm telling you there's a lot of straight guys who have tried it, many, many, many, and it's like rocks, they're really, you can have different kinds of orgasms. And though I think that you can be very fearful of it, just like we're gonna give you tips about when you start having insects with the woman,

it's the same thing. We're not saying that you should just shove in a vibrator or fingers, but you start slowly. With the vibration or with loob, just rubbing around your anus and just see. I mean, because I was saying like, that you should just shove in a vibrator or fingers, but you start slowly with a vibration or with loobs rubbing around your anus and just see. I mean, because I was like, what if it's the most amazing feeling of your entire life and you love prostate play?

And you don't even know it. And you try it and you're like 85 in your deathbed and it's the best feeling you've ever had. And then you're like, I could have been having prostate pleasure my entire life and I never did. So I say try everything once. I'm bummed that I didn't try this before on other guys because now that, you know, we

are doing because like we didn't do the whole anal on him yet. Right. And so now... Why do you think he wants it though? Because... Well, I think he wants it because he's kind of letting me know in a physical way. Okay. Like he's a lot more into anal with me now, and but also...

You just get the sense. I get the sense. Yeah, he's not pushing you away from there. Yeah, and... So why are you bummed though? He's still okay, he's not going anywhere. I know, well, for a couple days. Okay. Maybe.

Maybe tonight. Maybe tonight. He's in town. I love it. The long distance, like, the relationship that I've just kind of felt. Oh, yeah, he's great. Maybe tonight. He's in town. I love it the long distance. I mean the the relationships that are just kind of Oh, yeah, he's he's great. Maybe tonight. I have the strap on He's dying for you good vibes This is all this stuff we get you know is from good vibes and

Lorraine volunteered for the strap on which is it's called pegging when you attach a dildo to it and you can Analy penetrate a man. I don't know if I went to do that. I might wanna go hit up like a lesbian bar and see what I can do. Okay, so you wanna evenly penetrate a woman first? No, you could just say. It keeps saying, Lauren. No, I just wanna like, I don't know. I think I'd rather have sex that way

with a woman than sex that way with a man. I don't wanna kinda trade a man. Right, and I get a lot of women, but I think the thing about prostate plate shoes that a lot of men can just try on their own when you're masturbating, stick a finger in there with some loops, see how it feels. Our intern, Amanda, it has this biggest desire

to annually penetrate her boyfriend. She's the biggest desire to do it. I don't, I like to put a finger up there when I'm giving him a blowjob. Yeah Apparently have you read a guy who's like no don't put your finger in there like stuff it right see But guys think about it and they're freaked out about yeah, okay, I did have I did have one guy He was like really fearful of everything anal and it kind of made me think that maybe he had an experience with I don't know I got like had an experience with, I don't know, I kind of got like a gay vibe from him.

Oh, so that's maybe why? Usually people don't want to do it, maybe he's afraid that it'll make him really gay. Even though he probably is gay and doesn't hold anyone. I don't know, I really got a gay vibe from him and I think he was so, he was overly fearful. Maybe he thought that like, oh my god she knows that I'm gay because I haven't told anyone and so if I let her do this, then it'll be out of the bag. Yeah, like yeah, it wasn't you would just oh no, no, I'm not into that or like no That's gross. It's like no like never Like wow, okay, so so so it's tread lightly on that area But but speaking of a bad experience anal sex so today's show is about anal pleasure

And I do think that there is still a stigma attached to anal sex and that it's sort of this naughty, you know people think You know, there's something wrong, it's a little taboo. And so the reason why there is anal pleasure on this, because I think it's just a great way to experiment. And to see, you know, maybe you'll find a lot of pleasure. And I think the problem is that a lot of women speaking about experiences as we're just gonna say

is that I think that there's a lot of women who say they don't like anal sex because they had a really bad first time experience because a lot of guys don't know what they're doing. They were drunk. They shoved it in. They didn't have lube. They she wasn't prepared. She wasn't warmed up. And so people like no way, never again. The back door is close for business forever. And so if you're one of those people who had a bad first time experience and there are legions of them, I would say get a part, listen to this show. And I think this is a great chart listen to with your partner because you can we're going to give you some best practices about warming your partner up making sure that you're doing it right and if you do it

right you move slow use lots of lube it can be a very pleasure experience and lots of women actually have orgasms through anal sex but there is still a lot of fear around it and so that's how we're going to break it down for you today. What was your first experience playing? It was actually... God, I never got my first anal exam. Thanks, Lauren. It's my show, okay? No, but it was actually, it was, it was, it was pleasure. What was the guys with was very experienced and I had and he was, it was totally great. He knew what he was doing, we used lots of lube, he was like, how are you, because the thing about anal sexism is that you have to check in with our, like,

are you, you don't want her to be in pain because it can be very painful because a lot of women tend to tense up, they're squeezing their sphincter muscles and then and anytime you tense up for on sex, it's not going to be pleasurable. So he was like, walk me through it like relax, breathe, are you okay? How is it? Like we use Loub, it was warmed up, it was totally fine. It was like pain free. I mean, it wasn't like that for me the first time like the most amazing thing I ever tried, but it was not pain free. I mean, it wasn't like the for me the first time like the most amazing I ever tried but it was not pain like I was surprised it was like okay and good experience. So yeah, it was awesome. It's a good guy. I wish I could look all good again. Um, okay, so let's get into some, oh first we have to also mention before we get into your tips and tricks is the botchy selfie contest. Oh, you need to check that out. Because Lauren isn't it too so it's a Batchee lingerie.

They're having a selfie contest and they're giving a $500 shopping spree to, you go to the website, their stuff is so sexy, it's really reasonable price. So for $500 you can get a lot of stuff. So if you go to Facebook.com slash Batchee brand, that's B-A-C-I brand's you click on their hashtag selfie contest and you upload a picture of yourself in wearing like not thigh highs Stockings and then people vote on it and if you get a lot of votes you win Lawrence pictures on there so when she go vote for her and she looks very sexy and also our other interns on there

And so I just wanted to mention that if you wanted to have your partner try some and get $500 worth of sexy laundry you should check that out. Or if you just want to look at pretty girls. Yeah, just for a lot of girls. And just have fun doing that. Okay, so the real case of anal sex. So it is very taboo and misunderstood. So we just want to make sure that you do it right.

So some first, some tips, a lot of you will ask like, does it hurt? So have you had any painful experiences with it where it did hurt you Lauren? My first experience was extremely painful and I can completely understand why there are people out there who don't understand anal, who think it's all completely painful because I had the first experience where I was not prepared. I didn't know what was happening. I was in college, I was drunk. This is the exact same experience I'm talking about.

This is, I had such a perfect, like example experience. Right, right. And I tensed up immediately. I felt horrible. I couldn't sit for like the next week. And this, this guy was very well endowed, so it didn't make it easier. Right, that's why you have to be warmed up first and use lots of it, and you probably, so I'm, I'm good for you though for trying it again. Yeah. So I just want you guys to know that when you are,

it can feel amazing for women. A lot of women can have orgasms through anal sex. Yeah, that's what I do. Now you do, okay. So that's interesting. So a lot of women can. It's like, it's kind of like an extension of your, it hits like, to the G spot from a different angle

is that what it feels like to you. Yeah, it's like the other side of the wall. Right, the other side of the wall. Sounds, sounds really dirty. No, but also you can Yeah, it's like the other side of the wall. Right, the other side of the wall. Sounds really dirty. No, but also you can also, she can use a vibrator on her clitoris. Like I think that there's so much going on that she can really be stimulated if you use

a vibrator on her clitoris. But just warm her up. Like don't go right into anal if it's like the first time. So you want to make sure that she is warmed up and ready for action. So some of the cons will just start about anal sexism, and it can be painful for women like we said. The rectum is not necessarily built to have things go in and out,

and the vagina stretches because it lets the penis in to, you know, get in, let's give birth and stuff. But the rectum does not, so you could cause pain, you could cause tearing. So, the number one takeaway from this is that you have to use a lube. I mean, you should have a lube on your nightstand, be loud, be proud, have your lube there. A silicone lube can be good for this as well,

but you should use a condom also, because you can't get pregnant from me, no sex, I know that sounds very weird, but it could drip down, your semen could drip down, into her vagina, and she could be pregnant. So it's great to use a condom. And use, yeah, right? Never can have too much lube. into her vagina and she could be pregnant. So it's great to use a condom and Use yeah, right? Never connect too much. Loub never can have too much. Loub So they're adding it. There's a bottle of Uber Loub on my night sample. Uber Loub. We love Uber Loub

Uber Loub's great and Also plea the please Loub by good vibrations is really good as well. I like that one So the other like cons of ours that women they do put a lot of emphasis I'm like being pretty and sweet smelling for their men So they do worry that it's gonna make them be feel dirty or they're gonna, you know, it's gonna be a mess Yeah, so some tips for women make sure that your bowel is empty You don't like you have to like do sure doing thing like that But just make sure that you go into the bathroom and clean don't do not do not do it's not good for you But what would you how do you like do make sure that you've going to the bathroom and clean. What would you say, Lauren? Do not do. Do not do. It's not good for you.

But what would you, like, do you make sure that you've gone to the bathroom and? Yeah, because I have done anal where I haven't gone to the bathroom and it's, it ended up being probably what you guessed, like 30. Right. 30 and not fun. Dirty, not fun.

Didn't feel, and I didn't feel good. It didn't feel good, right? Because I don't. So, like, don't go after you, like, go up from Mexican food and a lot of talk or something. That's not the night to, yeah, to polite. Don't go to polite right before. So yeah, Lou was your friend, so you definitely want to Lou, but it,

and also you want to, don't forget about four plays, so don't move right into it, and you want to make sure that she's warmed up, and all that stuff. Start with a finger. Right. Don't ever just penetrate like that first time. Exactly. So if it's a new partner, you definitely want to, let's say she's never had anything

anal anywhere. Like she's never had the experience. I would say just start even rubbing around her anus. Use some lube to see how she feels about it. Yeah, that feels good. That does feel good and that can get a bit like, oh, because there's so many nerve endings there and it's sensitive and it can feel really, really good. So just start rubbing around and then maybe you stick a finger in just that time. You might be able to anal sex the first few times you try it, but you stick a finger in, see how she reacts, maybe another finger, and then just do that for that time. They do together. That's how I actually got into it the second time because I was pretty sure I was not

going to do anal again, but I loved having fingers in that area. It felt really good. It felt really good and I didn't wanna give that up. So I started slowly again, not on purpose. Like I was with a guy, he would slowly like got to fingers like a little bit more the next time, a little bit more the next time, and then I was doing anal.

And it was good. Yeah, that's good. It was good. Because he did it right. Take the time. And now you're like the anal queen. People want to know what it feels like. These are just some common questions. So how would you explain it more? It feels very full. It feels you up. Yeah, it really, not in the same way that I think your like vaginal penetration does. It's just, it's very different. It's very taboo,

naughty feeling. Yeah. Oh, that's not supposed to be there, but it feels good. Right, exactly. Okay, so it feels good and you can have orgasms. People also know how soon in the relationship do people think that it should happen. I mean, I hate putting, I don't put numbers and rules on things like how long should you wait to see for someone, but I think it's the kind of thing you want to have the conversation about anal sex first. If it's with a new partner, you don't just want to try it without talking about it or at least saying, hey, you know, again, it's experimenting with fingers. If she pushes your hand away, that's not the time to keep trying.

That's the time to like, table this conversation and be like, hey, so what do you think about anal sex casually? Maybe when you're having breath wrestling, but don't get into that day in the bedroom. And she might say, I had a bad experience or whatever it is, and then you could generally move on to it. But if it's soon in a relationship, there's no reason why you can't have it soon on, but you should, again, have the conversation

if she's down for it. Do you bleed, people want to know? I blood the first time. Because he tore, he was no loob and you're tearing. So again, you can bleed if it's done wrong if there's no loop if you're not prepared So you have to be warmed up and a lot of women like to have or it helps to have Orgasms first like perform or all sex on her use a vibrator Make sure that she's warm about because then her clitoris for cheese but I'll become engorged and she's more likely to be more open

Relaxed and ready for anal penetration. So if you're not with an experienced user person, I would take experienced user experience person, I would say you definitely have to engage in for a life. And she needs to breathe and relax. Right. Those are the big tips for women. You have to make sure that you breathe because otherwise, if you tense up, they just remember that it's going to hurt. Like anything.

So breathe, relax, and condoms. Use condoms during anal sex. And also, here's another thing that you can do. Anal toys, butt plugs. There's a lot of them that you can get at alsogoodbibes.com. And for all these good vibes, use coupon code Emily and get 15% off. But they have just different ones that you could even she wants to experiment with it like you get like a little butt plug and she could wear it during anal sex.

You all need to watch Jessica Drake's new movie. It's a snow white and Alex Braun directed it and Jessica Drake has this beautiful butt plug in in this one scene. What is it? It's a Swavarsky crystal butt plug. Wow. And good vibes has this. They do. It's called the Sparkle Plug's premium-analed toy. Okay. And it literally has a giant crystal on the end of it and it's like multi-colored and it's gorgeous because you think of it like butt plugs are like you know right butt plugs like right but this is a beautiful one I saw it in in there and then I saw it when you're birthday I'll get you on right and then I saw I saw it at a hustler okay and then I knew that it was on good vibes as well right

okay that's good and and also you can just buy like silicone ones they have a lot of different ones And at a hustler. OK. And then I knew that it was on good vibes as well. Right. OK. That's good. And also, you can just buy silicone ones. They have a lot of different ones. If you go to good vibes, go through my page, though. Click on the from sectionalme.com, click on good vibes, then you can search for whatever you want. Also, the same nerves that supply the vagina, the cervix,

the urinary bladder, they also affect the rectum, which is the final part of a large intestine that ends in the anus. So what does that mean? Just the anal sex can be highly pleasurable, and it's not surprising that many women can receive, can have orgasms that way. So I just wanted to give you some of the technical reasons why. So not everyone is having orgasms, but it might just feel really good. And that you can have them.

You can have them. Yeah. It's possible. But if you don't, don't be bummed out, because it's not all life is not all about the orgasm people. And yeah, you lots of new. But first, we're going to have to do a quick word for our sponsors right now. Also, I have to tell you about promescent. Did you know that one in three men

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that. Okay, so back to our anal sex. All right, I'm so pushing crazy stuff, and you're like penis extenders. I would never do that. Okay, so back to our anal sex. All right, I'm so excited for my next guest. As you all know, anal pleasure month, and it would not be complete without talking to the master of prostate play. Everything about the male prostate and pleasure, it's Charlie Glickman, PhD, Dr. Charlie Glickman, from makesexeasy.com, or Charlie Gligman.com.

Also as a website, he does coaching services. He wrote the ultimate guide to prostate pleasure. So Charlie, men need you. Yes, baby, Emily. Thank you for joining me today. And Charlie was on the show a few years ago too, if you want to check out that show. But this is a whole new thing because your book hadn't been out yet. I know you're doing coaching workshops. You've been busy with the mail

for us. I have been. It's been a very exciting time for me. Right. Okay. Good. So I want to hear. First, let's talk about, we just got to talk about some myths and things that commonly come up. Guys are like, you know, prostate. What? I, there's no pleasure there that's gonna make me gay that's gonna hurt i don't want anything near my but like what how do you talk to these guys well you know what is that hot what when we wrote the book uh... my book partner aesla and mersey and i

sent out a survey that eventually reached over two hundred people both men and partners of guys and one of the questions we asked was what are the things that kept you from trying profit-wise? We've got three answers over and over again. Is it going to hurt? Is it going to get messy and is it going to make me get? So, first two, those are really technical questions.

Those are about how to have anal sex and how it feel good, have it feel pleasurable, hygiene. Those are technical questions, and they're pretty easy to address, you know, in workshops or talking to people. That's the third one. It's probably the most difficult one, because we've got this idea in the world that if a man likes anal massage, anal touch, it means that he's gay. The fact is, they did a survey of gay men and they asked him about their most recent sexual experiences. And it turns out that gay men only have anal sex about 37% of the time. Oh, interesting.

Yeah. And most people assume that's all it is. Exactly. And there's lots of reasons for that. For some time, some guys, it's just not what they're into. Sometimes you don't have enough time for it. It's just not what you're in the mood for that night, whatever it is.

What I like to tell guys is that what kinds of sex you like, that's where you're nervous and that's biology. Who you want to have sex with, that's your sexual orientation and there are two completely different things, just like what kinds of food you like and who you want to go out to dinner with are two completely different things. Exactly. So, you know there's nothing wrong with it. Yeah, there's nothing wrong with any particular sexual orientation, but what kinds of sex you like

is not going to change who you think is attractive. Right. Okay. So, that's a great answer. So, let's just start with what is the prostate? For guys who don't know. Right, so the prostate gland. A lot of guys have only heard about this

when we start having health problems with it. But it is a gland that is inside the pelvis. It's just above and behind the deepest portion of the penis. So the penis goes further back into the body than most people realize. And the prostate is right there at the back of it. It produces part of the fluid that is in semen. When when guys get turned on, the prostate gland starts to fill up with fluid and during a ejaculation. It squeezes all that fluid out, and then the muscles pump it out, and you have ejaculation.

Okay. But, functionally, the prostate is very similar to the G-spot in women. In the same way that the clitoris and the penis have very similar nerve endings, very similar tissues. So if you think about all the things you've heard or experienced about the G spot and how many women really enjoy G spot play, guys have just as much pleasure potential in the prostate. It's just that it's a slightly different shape just like the penis in the

fritter is our slightly different shape. And they just don't know. They just don't know. They don't even know where to start. So what if they're listening. They're like, oh yeah, that sounds cool. What would they do next? Okay, I'll try it. It kind of depends on what you've ever tried anal play before. The trick to making anal play work is it's all about relaxation. It's all about the receiver relaxing rather than the giver stretching or forcing them open. And this can be a real problem because a lot of people learn to have sex from watching porn. Exactly.

You know, and if you've ever watched an anal sex scene and porn, there's never any warm up and there's never any lube, that's because they take care of all of that before they turn the cameras on. Right. So important. Yeah, so sex and porn is kind of like a cooking show where the chefs will say, you know, have half a cup of chopped onion and there's this magical bowl of chopped onion. There's no magic. It's all very magic. Charlie, that's the best analogy. I'm always saying

technically what you're seeing is not what turns, but that's a great analogy. It's like no one sees all the other stuff because and earlier in the show, we did talk about just anal sex, you know, for women mostly who are afraid of it. A lot of them

had really bad first time experiences because guys didn't know what they were doing. They didn't use Lou. They didn't warm up. They weren't relaxed. So it is true that they'd pour in there, not learn anything. Absolutely.

True. You're in one of my workshops. I sometimes have a live demonstration of ale massage. And I have a demo person and I put on a pair of gloves and I put on some Loub and I demonstrate. And what the men in the audience are always so shocked by, if they're used to people saying go slow, go slow, go slow, but they're only slowing down to a seven.

And what I'm showing them is slowing down to a three. Right. Exactly. People go way too fast, sexually, in every area. Yeah. So you have a male model on the table and you're giving him a prostate massage in front of everyone. Sometimes the male model, sometimes the female model depends. When I do a class on prostate massage, obviously I need to work with someone that the prostate. Right, obviously. Right. But when I'm teaching a workshop just on anal effects, it can be with anybody because everybody has an ass. Right, exactly. That is true. So for the prostate, when you're giving him a prostate massage,

just even orgasm on the table? Sometimes they do. It depends on the guy. The tricky thing is that even folks who like to do this at home for fun, you know, you've got an audience of 35 or 40 people sitting there watching you, it doesn't always work the way that you expect. So I've had people have orgasms in workshops and I've had people not have orgasms. And either way, it's fine because what I'm demonstrating is that you've got to work with what's

there. And you know, for some people, anal sex is incredibly pleasurable and they have orgasms and other people, it's for play and then they want to switch it up to something else later on. So it's all good. It is all good. Okay, so if a man's like just first exploring this, he could, he could use his own fingers when he's masturbating with Loub. Absolutely. In fact, I think that's one of the best ways to start because then you don't have to

worry about, you know, your partner being disappointed or anything like that. Right, and then you get to know yourself. You get to know what you like. If it feels good, you don't have to write, save it, you go all the way in. You can start touching that area, touching your anus with some lube. Maybe stick a finger in.

Yeah, you can massage around the outside. There's a lot of nerve endings all around the outside of anus. And that's a great place to start. If you do want to do penetration, make sure you've got short finger nails. Right. I like to put on a glove because then you just take the glove off and you know your hand is clean. Use lots of lube.

I'm a big fan of silicone lubricants because they last a lot longer. Yes. And if you note, if you have any discomfort or pain, stop what you're doing. Right. The anal sex never has to hurt. If it does, that means that something needs to change. Exactly.

It shouldn't be painful, breathe, relax, all that stuff. It doesn't ever have to hurt. No, it doesn't. Yeah, you mentioned breathing. I coach a lot of people through that. In my hands on coaching, one of the things that I do is help people learn how to breathe when they get turned on because a lot of people hold their breath and then everything clamps down.

It's true. It's true. We automatically hold our breath. So for men and women, that's a really good tactic. What do you teach them? Like, is there a certain breathing exercise? There is. So the type of breath work called anal breathing.

Anal breathing. Anal breathing. You're Emily. Emily, you want to do this, doesn't it right now? Yeah, I'm doing it with you now. Anal breathing. Here I go. Okay. Okay. So you're sitting on the chair. Uh-huh. I am. Okay. Okay. So sit up on the chair.

And as you inhale your breath, imagine your anus gently kissing the surface of the chair. So you're not bearing down hard like when you go to the bathroom. You're just bearing down enough to kiss the chair surface. And then on the exhalation, you just relax and everything goes back to where it was. Okay. So give that a couple of tries. This is hard. Okay, hold on. No, I'm kidding on there. Okay. So it gives out a couple of tries. This is hard. Okay, hold on.

No, I'm kidding on there. Okay. Don't wear down. Okay. Yeah. So just a little bit of bearing down. And what you learned. My aim is kissing the chair.

I just can't see the chair. Exactly. Okay. Again. So that's what we want to do during anal sex. Okay. That's good. That's such a great, that's such a great relaxation to do beforehand anyway. Just to have the practice of breathing before sex. Okay, that's good. That's such a great, that's a great relaxation to do

beforehand anyway, just to have the practice of breathing before sex. And the thing is, right, there's a reason why people who are stressed out all the time are called tight assets. Exactly. We literally tighten up when we're scared or angry or worried. Which is a lot of us all the time, right? Which is a lot of us all the time, right? Which is a lot of us all the time, right? We're stressed out. So if you do anal breathing whenever you get stressed out, you'll actually relax your body better than a yoga class. Wow, that's amazing.

I was just thinking like the other kind of breathing, I know is yoga breathing, but now I know anal breathing. And if this trumps the yoga breathing, watch out, yoga class. OK, so how does he begin, so he clips his nails, or maybe wears it, he uses lube, wears a glove, and then how does he start to find it? Okay, so first thing is get turned on first.

So get whether that is masturbation, oral sex with a partner, and of course whatever it is that already turns you on, the more turned on you are, that easier it's going to be to find. That's because the prostate stills up with fluid during a rousal. So if you are not turned on, you could be looking at exactly the right spot and not be able to reach it.

The more turned on you are, the bigger it gets, the easier it is. Okay. So that's step number one. When you insert a finger, it can be a little tricky to find on yourself with a finger. You might have an easier time with a toy, but if you're inserting a finger on a partner, um, you're going to insert it in the, and then curl your fingertip up towards the belly

button just like the G spot. Right. Just a, and what you're looking for is something about the size and texture of a right plum. Okay. Of a right plum. Alright. Yeah, it'll be right along the middle line about three to four inches inside, from the very, very opening of the anus, three to four inches past that.

So most people can reach that. Okay. Got it. Or a toy you said. What toys do you recommend? Well, I think buildingsoes were great, especially if they've got a curve to them, and you aim the curve towards the belly button,

just like G spots were. I think the best thing out there is the aneros. The aneros, yeah, they make great toys to do. Yeah, they're designed for hands-free, prostate and social. Okay, great. And also, vibr attacks have you tried the black pearl, the vibrating? You know, I haven't tried that one yet.

I like the design for it. Yeah, it's great. And all these things we're talking about, yeah, you got to try it. Everyone that we're talking about, you can get it at goodvibes.com and use coupon code Emily or just go to the goodvibes banner on my site, secadently.com and click on it.

Search for anal toys, search for what we're talking about. And you can find it. OK, so they can use a toy or their fingers and they find it. And then the what? OK, so there's a couple of different things that you might feel. Some guys get amazing pleasure the first time out. And that's awesome. Some guys, it takes some practice to locate

or you need to experiment with different kinds of strokes, different motions to figure out what works for you. Occasionally, you might experience some discomfort or pain that's probably because you're pressing too hard. Okay. More commonly, if you feel like you need to pee, that means that you have found the prostate, but you're pressing a little bit too firmly, so back off about 15 or 20%. Okay, that's great tip. Because usually with a G spot, if you press your HDG, that's

a good thing. You keep going. But with this, if you're okay, this is great tip. And with all of these, then the trick is to combine it with penistimulation. So use your other hand, or use a fleshlate, or use a vibrator, because what often happens when we try something new and bad is it feels unfamiliar, and the best way to start making it familiar is to combine it with something you already know you like. Right. This is like I give people when they want to try spanking or bondage or anything new, combine it with something you already like it and your body will start to associate the pleasure with the new thing.

Right. That's really smart. That's really smart. And I love the idea of using the flashlight because I'm a huge fan of it. I think that's another thing that men are like, it's your it's the number one selling sex toy. Go buy a flashlight. Mix things up. Yeah, they're awesome. They're awesome. I

know I love the flashlight. You know a sex educator Joe Kramer used to say that you know most men masturbate at 40 the same way they did it 14. Right. You know can you imagine eating the same foods at 40? No not at all it makes so much sense that's how I'm like you guys just try it. So if you guys do want to try it again sex only dot, click on the flashlight banner. You can see what we're talking about. Because it just may feel good. It also stamina training. If you guys want to last longer, they can use the flashlight.

Okay, so they might not just like G-Spot, like we don't always find it the first time. So it might take them a few tries. You got to stick with it. Exactly. Exactly. You got to try a couple of times. And some men, the first time out, they won't really notice much of anything until they get to orgasm. So they're using their hand or a flesh life.

And then when they orgasm, sensation changes. That's because the prostate is squeezing during ejaculation to squeeze all that fluid out. And it completely changes everything to have prostate massages at the same time. Wow yeah because you're pressing on and that's where the where you're the where the semen's coming out so is it because they're clenching or because your fingers and there are some things in there and it clenches around it and it just has this amazing explosive feeling. It's all of the above it's all the above it's both because there's something

inside the anal muscles which are gripping and squeezing, but also because you're touching the prostate itself. And when we have men to describe what prostate organisms feel like, they use language like morphal body, bigger, more expansive, more larger, really than anything. This is the same language women used to get back to. Exactly. That's so funny. Okay, so then let's move on to pegging.

So pegging is the act of penetrating men with a strap on or a dildo think if a woman wants to do that with her partner. Right. Yeah, so the word was coined by Dan Savage about 10 years ago. Oh, funny. Yeah, he noticed that there wasn't a word for this kind of sex. So he sent a poll out to his readers and people voted and pegging as well. Pagging, I did not know the history of that. Okay, so that's great. Okay, so pegging, what did people do?

Because I know there's a lot of women who want to try the guys for the guy wants that they don't know what to do, but I mean this is a little more advanced. Maybe after actually. It does take some practice, especially because women, the sort of the sexy hip swivel motion that a lot of women do is more circular. If you're going to be doing a straight in and out, you really have to do your Pilates. That's a core workout. Right, I'm sure. Right.

There are some amazing harnesses out there. Sports sheets make some good starter harnesses if you're not sure you're going to like it. It's a nice way to go. If you know that this is something you enjoy, I can't say enough good things about the harnesses from spare parts. Spare parts. Okay. Spare parts.

Yeah, they're gorgeous. They're well made. They're adjustable to fit lots of different bodies, and they're comfortable. Okay, good to know. A good trick for women is you want to find a harness that'll let you put the base of the dildo up against your clitoris, and that way every time you thrust, you're dating a little stimulation. Nice.

Yeah, I've talked to women who can orgasm from it, which is great because they just want to keep going like you're at a supervisor. Right, exactly. Exactly, that's perfect. I love it. Nivity with the vibrators on the other tip of the inside. That'd be good too.

Oh, absolutely. Definitely. Definitely do. And the other thing that is useful for women to know about this is you're going to have to practice putting the harness on and taking it off. And you're going to have to practice putting the harness on and taking it off. And you're going to need to practice to figure out how far you can thrust because you don't have nerve endings in your dildo. Everybody who's ever had any kind of intercourse has had the experience of the guy pulling out a little bit too far and then kind of like jabbing the head of it in this. Right. It's even easier to do with a dildo.

So you have to practice to sort of calibrate how much you can throw. Right. And communicate with him, pay attention. How is it feeling with your partner? Parts a little bit. And use lots of lube. Lots and lots of lube.

So lube is great. OK. Yeah, absolutely. And so I know I have a question. So what about like experiences with guys? Like if this is a retried, they've come to your workshop, it's like, not not just for me, you can't find it. Like that could happen too, right? I mean, is every man going to experience this is great pleasure, not every man, but many

men if they do it right, will they be able to do it? Not at all. Not at all. Just like some women don't really like G spot play. Right. Exactly. You know, I've talked to guys who tell me that they love prostate massage. If they could do it without anal penetration, they'd be happy that way.

I've talked to guys who like both anal and prostate play, sometimes one, sometimes the other, sometimes both. And I've talked to guys who said, you know, I really don't like prostate massage. I gave it a good couple of tries and it's just not my thing. Right, okay. You know, I like it like anything else with sex. Give it a try. You know, a good solid try maybe two or three times because sometimes it doesn't work the first time out. Right.

And then if it's just not your thing, don't stress about it. Exactly. That's a thing. But I always say guys, like, why not try it? Why not just like see if it is your thing? Yes. It up. I mean, I'm sure you have some great stories or testimonials from people who are like, you know, my whole life and now I know my prostate's been here the whole time, and I didn't know that I could simulate and have such amazing feelings. Oh, absolutely. I've had guys, great guys, Dave and Vice-Extra- I've had guys of all sexual orientations come to me and say that this was a total gaging for them.

Yeah, I'm sure. See, that's why I want people to try it. Charlie, this is good. And they can also, so tell me about your coaching. OK. Well, I do a couple of different kinds of coaching. I do talk coaching with individuals and couples over Skype, so I have clients all over the world in back.

And then this last spring I got certified as a sexological body worker, also called Sematic Sex Education. And so I do hands-on work in my office with clients teaching people how to experience more pleasure in their bodies without getting distracted or tuning in, checking out men and women. And end women. You could. And it is amazing.

The breakthroughs people have around their sexuality when they're able to just feel into it and not have to worry about, you know, their partner's feelings because I'm not their partner, I'm their body worker. Right, exactly. Okay, and you can do it through Skype and they can find this all at which website do you prefer? Do you prefer makesexeasy.com? Yeah, for coaching, I'm at makesexeasy.com for my blogging and workshops and things like

that, it's charlotteglickman.com. Okay, and your book, the ultimate guide to Prostate Pleasure, which I think everyone should get if you're curious about it. And just, you know, read about it. It gives you all the tips of what we've talked about here. Anything else that we've missed, and trying to think that if there's anything, any other special tips and tricks? Yeah, I think the biggest one is just make sure that you can pay attention to what you're feeling in your body. This is why I don't recommend numbing creams. Because I talk to people quite often who didn't realize they were hurting themselves because

they couldn't feel it. Oh, you can't feel it exactly. Yeah, just like if you bite the inside of your cheek when you've gotten a Novakane shot at the dentist. Right. Okay. So, yes, skip the numbing creams. If it hurts, you just need to change up what you're doing instead.

Okay, got it. And you're also at Charlie Glickman on Twitter, facebook.com slash Charlie.glickman. And we'll also have all this on my site. And I'm so glad you were available because I could not do a prostate show without you. I'm such a pleasure to talk with you. not do a prostate show without you. I think it's like the such a pleasure to talk to you. It's always a pleasure to, I know, and I miss you. How's San Francisco? You know, warm and sunny today.

Oh, good. We'll take advantage of it. And I just, I really appreciate your help, Charlie. This is great information and Charlie Glickman.com, everyone check it out. And you have a great day, Charlie. I think we're changing lots of lives. That's of men's lives today. Maybe women's lives. I, everyone check it out. And you have a great day, Charlie. I think we're changing lots of lives. That's of men's lives today. Maybe women's.

I hope so. Thank you, Emily. Thank you. Have a great day. Bye. Bye. Bye. Happy annual pleasure month.

And I have the annual pleasure month. You should go and try. If you don't try it this month, then. When the hell are you going to try it? And I'm telling you, it can be just a way to keep your relationship interesting, spice things up. If there's a lot of fear that your partner has around it, have a list of the podcasts, you can read up on it. And I think we've given you the best tips.

But here's the things that you have to remember. That you want to make sure that she's warmed up, that she's turned on and ready to go. It's not the thing that you want to start with. And this is more like beginner, you know, 101. You have got to use lubricant. I just, I cannot say enough and you also want to make sure that she's relaxed breathing a great thing we would do, would, to do would be to give her a massage ahead of time and you can use a massage candle which are amazing. You know what a good tip that a porn star gave me that I just realized was right. Tell me. Did you figure out the show? Yeah, Siri, we were talking about this.

Love Siri. What'd you say? She said that if you, to a easy way to relax is if you push your jaw out, it like releases your spacer. Right, she did say that. Yeah. That was a good show.

Check out the Siri show. You're right. The series is sweetheart. Yeah, okay, that's true. We learn some of our best steps from porn stars as well, sometimes. So make sure that she's relaxed. Make sure that you're not pressuring her and just make sure that it's a relaxed one. Thank you for a massage because you know stress is also one of the killers and anxiety of

people's sex drive. So she said a long day at work, you know, treat her to a massage. Again, you can use a massage candle. Online Tony massage candles are amazing. They feel great on your body and you will enjoy it. So you use Lou, play with butt plugs, play with some toys and um... Ladies, try it, just try it once. Right. I am an advocate. I tried it once, it was awful. Now I'm trying it again. I love it. I honestly love anal. She's mad at anal. She is, she's the anal girl. So that's why I had to have her on the show.

So uh, okay, we're gonna move into some emails from our people. Thank you everyone for emailing me at Feedback at sexandme.com. I love hearing from you and I do read every single one of your emails. Hey Emily, I love the show. I wanted to write in and explain my foot finish. I do not like feet that are not cared for, but a girl with nice tan feet with painted toes is very sexy. However, I feel I like feet in a specific way and that is when they're in my butt. Thanks Lauren, friends and all.

It's all by Aino. I've loved Aino play for many years, but a toe is somehow much better than finger. I love fingers and other toys in my Aino's, but one thing that really gets me off is when I look over my shoulder to see a girl sitting naked with her legs stretched out with her big toe in my ass. This is the first from the

anal from the foot fetish people. It's a very strange yet fascinating scene and this is also what gets me off. Thanks James. PS, hearing a girl who can open and discuss sexuality like you do is a huge turn on. Oh thanks James, but I'm not going to put my big toe in your ass, but I'm still glad that I turn you on. And thanks for sharing that. We always hear from, and whenever a mess, he's like, what do you mean footfish? But people have all different kinds of fetishes and it just means that you need that thing.

He requires feet to get turned on to have an orgasm. Like that's what it means. He requires that and the foot has to be tan. She must live in LA or something. I think that's so fascinating that there's such a large collection of people out there with foot fetishes. Right, exactly. I just, why is that such a large collection of people out there with foot fetishes. Right, exactly.

Why is that such a big thing? The foot fetishes is because I think that a lot of it has to do, a lot of our fetishes have tied back to early childhood, and so there could be some images that guys have seen, maybe watching their moms or like their teachers in school looking at their legs. I mean, there's a lot of different ways that they can fetishize, fetishize that foot. And it's also for my name is beautiful. See a woman in heels, her stockings. It's just a very erotic part of a woman for a man.

So there's a lot of different reasons why, but that's one of them. Okay, dear Emily, thanks so much. Thanks to you, I've given my fiance her first G-spot organism. That is why exists on the planet. One question to you is about your down under comfort. I use gold bond all the time to help with sweating and chafing. I ask about this because I'm getting married August 16th in Ocean Shores and want to use

a product that has no odor and tastes unfortunately gold bond lacks in that. Thanks. Rock on, keep your show banging. Okay. So listen Mark, here's the deal that I, first of all, I'm so glad you gave your girlfriend a juice by orgasm, your fiance, and I want to hear exactly how you did it and what you did, and that makes me very happy that you learned from the show. Down Under Comfort is to replace Goldbun, which is actually carcinogenic and messy and sticky as you know. Goldbun is like

talcum powder. So down Under Comfort has no taste. It's vegan. You can actually eat it and it's just a cream to a powder formula that will help you you won't sweat. It turns into just a little cream on and then it turns into a powder and you use it between your legs. Women can use it anywhere they sweat beneath their breasts, lower back and yeah I wish I wish I knew I got this before your wedding because I would have sent you a bottle, but if anyone else wants to try it, it's Emily and Tony.com. Check it out. But perfect for festivals, if you're a festival or-

Did you use one last weekend when you went? Oh yeah, like under the boobs, it's essential. Well, you know, in LA it's not as human, but when I was in New York a few weeks ago, I was dripping, and I was in the office of Tony, and he's just like, just fucking put some of this on, and I did it. I did not sweat the rest of the trip, Tony and he's just like I can put some of this on and I did it I did not sweat the rest of the trip like I get it now like literally like a dripping out of every or for somebody You just won't sweat you get lower back anywhere. You'll love it. Okay Dear Emily the other day my wife immediately after sex said keep listening to that podcast

Referring to you of course and your podcast. I started listening about 1.5 months ago and began making a list of possible toys that personally sounded fun based on your podcast. One night I found the wedding good vibrations thanks to your coupon code and recommendation and got the G-twist. Please cream the booty and some bed straps. Wow, you went after it Scott. When I tell my wife she was initially not too excited but she has totally changed her mind.

She's now looking at toys with me and wants the wee vibe for Christmas. Thank you Scott and Arizona. I love that story. I love that story. That's so good. See, I feel like legally there has been this turn towards men buying the toys and being really inter-rather than the women just saying, like, oh honey, I feel that too. So when you feel the switch, Lauren's worked be for while that everyone's sort of down. I remember even just a couple of years ago, I feel like it's changed. Yeah, I love this. It's not you're the man. Yeah, now I feel like sex was just to be so only females and guys would find them and

be freaked out by them in movies or something. Right. And then now it's like, there's men. Right. And then now it's like there's men like right. We were at a hustler. I think the first time we went together. Hustler Hollywood. Yeah. And they were like just as many men in there. Right. Absolutely. And I know a lot of guys, a lot of my guy friends text me all the time. What do you think about this? What do you think about this? Because more than fifth, well, what's the study that came out like more than 50% of

women in America have a loan to vibrator of those percentage of women 90% of them have used with their partner. Again, we started out with the show, the vibrations are also good to you guys. You might be really surprised about how good they feel in your balls. I love that. Get the weebibes back. The weebibes 4, it's awesome. Okay, Lauren, any other things I think that's all.

I think we're gonna wrap up the show right now. I think so. Anything else you wanna say about your experience last night? Thank you for sharing that. I'm glad you used the weebibes for and you liked it. And everyone, thank you for listening to this show. You can always find me at, section of Emily, on Twitter, Facebook,

and Instagram, follow me on Instagram. Put some fun pictures of it. Lauren gave me massage the other day. Oh, yeah, that's fun. Yeah, more likes anyone. That was really fun. You know what? I will add about last night.

I use the the liberator and that works really well for anal. Really? Tell the wedge. Okay, so the liberator makes sex furniture. Yeah. So you use the wedge. Bedroom and venture gear. Is there a timeline I guess?

Right. I use their wedge and it puts you at an angle. You're not at like 90 degrees, you're at like this. It's like they call it like the perfect angle for the G spot, but it works great for anal because the man has a place to put his hands. Girl has leverage and the angle, no one's stressed out or like they hate it.

Right, but no, but you're just a pillow. Yeah, exactly. So I put you at the right angle, but it's not just for G spot and for any other positions. It's helps to put a pillow underneath for the liberator is just there for like it's perfect. It's like the perfect angle. Plus it has the restraints on you got the one with their strength. So die, which is kind of fun. I felt I was lazy when I was in the liberator because it felt so good and usually you have to like try to make it feel good. Like you have to like, you know, it's not like you're not just laying there. You're laying there arching your back to get that angle.

Right, because we're trying to get the right angle. And this is like the magic bullet to give you the right angle. The perfect triangle. The perfect storm, the perfect triangle. Yeah, liberator, it's awesome. So if you've never heard a liberator, you can check out their stuff at

theelstomacodemibes.com. Lauren, thank you for sharing your deepest darkest sex stories with us. And yeah, thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. It was a good for you. Email me feedback at sexwithenley.com. Hey, ma'am. So I know a lot of you other live in the LA area or come here often and the hustle or Hollywood store should be your main destination for the best toys, erotic, the sexy laundry, and most of all, the easiest way to find the answers you've been looking for is spice of your sex life.

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