Sex With Emily - Fashion Do's & Dating Dont's with Jac Vanek
Episode Date: January 16, 2016On this show Emily welcomes guest blogger, fashion designer and host of the Fempire Podcast, Jac Vanek! Together, Emily and Jac trade Tinder horror stories, debate dating faux pas and break down the c...omponents of “perfect sex”, and answer an email from a listener who isn’t quite sure how to make contact with her crush. The two dish on all things fashion, Facebook stalking and first date outfit ideas! They also discuss a study on sexting that shows us exactly how much we all get freaky with our phones, and share some saucy sexting stats of their own. If you’re looking for some expert insight on how to sext, how to dress and how NOT to date, find all this and more on today’s show with Emily and Jac! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Hi, Jack.
How are you?
I'm good for you.
Thanks for joining the show.
Oh my God, I'm so excited.
How's it going, Hydra Podcast?
Empire.
It's going awesome.
So we launched it.
I think five weeks ago.
Oh, okay, I knew.
Yeah, very, very new.
I mean, you're like the pioneer of podcasting,
so I feel so excited to be here.
Oh my god, I'm so glad you're here.
Well, thank you very much.
Thank you.
Yeah, it's good time, right?
We're gonna get into all your stuff.
We're gonna hear all about your clothing line,
your blog.
The whole thing.
Stuff, but I want you also.
We're just, we talk about sex for a little bit here.
I'm dating and relationships. I feel like you're the woman blog the whole thing stuff, but I want you also. We're just we talk about sex for a little bit here I'm dating in relationships, so I feel like you're the woman for the job. Oh, I've got I've got many horror stories
I love it. Okay. Well first we're gonna do less sex in the news. This is what we do
There's stats behind sexting and they show just how much we get freaky with our phones
Do you wait?, all the time.
Oh, I'm a huge fan of sex.
Oh, god, this is so awesome.
Yes.
Well, let's read this, then we're going to talk.
It says, it's smart phones have now become the norm.
Sexing is more happening in all over the damn place.
So who's doing it?
How often are they doing it?
And just what the hell are these people
sending to each other?
Now we have the answer to those.
And many other questions thanks to this brand new infographic
graphic about truth behind the titillating text messages.
So here's some details.
More than 35% of Americans admit to sexting.
95% send sexual thoughts or ideas.
38% send sexy selfies and 36% send explicit images.
32% say they started sexting between the ages of 19 and 29.
56% of those who admit they sex
say it's improved their relationships,
which I actually believe.
Oh yeah.
Of those that admit to sexting,
95% sensual thoughts, 90s, 38, okay, we already said this.
38% okay, let me back.
Oh, 20% show their face in the images.
Oh, you know, what do you think so?
I guess with Instagram now, everyone's like,
well here's the thing in this.
It's one big sexting universe.
Yeah, and especially if you're being kind of open
with your sexting and it's not with like a boyfriend
and something happens and they have all this blackmail
that they can get you back with.
Exactly.
People are crazy.
People are crazy.
Yeah, I don't trust anybody. Yeah, me neither. I'm like yeah, send them get you back with. Exactly. People are crazy. People are crazy. Like, I don't trust anybody that's that.
I don't trust anybody that's that.
Yeah, me neither.
I'm like, yeah, send them your brews with your phrase.
That's fine.
If you want 15,000 other people to see it,
just assume that's gonna happen.
You just gotta assume whatever you're sending
this random person is gonna end up on the internet
and your parents will probably see it.
Yeah, exactly.
Your parents, you know, maybe your cousin,
your little cousin, something like that, sister.
Okay, so you sexed all the time.
Oh yeah, I love it.
Are you in a relationship? Newly, yes, like very newly. Okay, like a month committed.
Committed, like literally like a week ago. Oh, okay. Congratulations.
Very, very new. How did you meet him? So I met him at... Have you ever been to the bungalow?
Yes. It's an old Santa Monica. I was gonna say, yeah. I met him at the bungalow like a year ago and we were just with a bunch of friends and kind of hanging out like didn't really
Go past that or whatever we had a few drinks. It was fine
And then I matched with one of his best friends on Tinder and his friends like oh, you know, you know my friend Scott
Like blah blah blah. I'm like oh wait Scott and so I like looked him up and I'm like, hmm.
I think I'm gonna message Scott instead
and then Scott's gonna be mine.
So you just blew off the guy in Tinder?
blew off the guy in Tinder,
but now he thinks he's cute and so he thinks he like, you know.
He did kind of, but I'm glad you didn't get upset.
I was like this bitch, she matched with me,
but he was cool, that's, yeah, he was super cool about it.
And then now he wants us to find him a girlfriend.
So it's, you know, it'll work out with you until day and it'll be.
Had you been on Tinder prior to that for a while?
Oh, yeah.
I've been single for like two and a half years, and that's the Tinder thing.
I was so you found the love on Tinder.
It happens, not just about what we'll see.
It's been a week, but, um, no, that is the love, but not exactly through Tinder.
It was like a Tinder Jason.
I got it.
You're right, Tinder Jason, but still, but still, it all counts, and that, you know, so I got it. I got it. I got it. I got it. I got it. I got it.
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I got it. I got it. I got know how I eat it. I just think the funniest thing is usually when I'm sexting is not when I'm in my bed,
like after bathing, I'm just like,
I'm like, I'm like, I don't know,
maybe with my parents or something.
Right, exactly, totally most inappropriate things.
Just like eating stuff in my face, like Cheetos on the couch
and I'm like, yeah, baby, I'm so hard.
Right, right, right, right, right,
exactly touching myself all over the place.
I'm like, windexing the mirrors, right?
Like trying to watch, like, making your murder or something.
Like getting through the TV show, sexting.
I'm trying to get through that too.
Right, so you're sexting them,
and don't you think it helps?
Because, I mean, have you found that you've been able
to say things that you want over sexting
that maybe you wouldn't be able to say in person?
I think it's a really good way to,
especially if you're like shy about talking about sex,
like that's like a hard thing to like bring up in person because it's very,
puts you in a vulnerable space.
And I think with sexting, it's like you can kind of lead into it and then sort of
describe how you like things in a way that's, I think, hard in person.
Exactly.
I think it's because one of the, like the top questions I get asked,
like the big umbrella of the entire show is like communication.
I always say communication is a lubrication.
And it's because I love that.
Couple of seven.
Thank you.
Couple of such a hard time talking about about sex they just do it. It's like I'm always trying to like explain to them like break it down and hear it out of the
conversation but it's like it's so vulnerable when you're one-on-one and it's so hard to be like you
know babe I really you know I just need some more for a play like I do how do you so here's a
whole thing about you tying me up and I think that would be really hot and I know it's okay I should
bring you know some ties. Yeah. Line fold over. I think it's great. I think it's such a good healthy way to kind of like get into that space, especially if you're shy about it. I know. I think that's I think that's awesome. Okay, so
Um, I love that you guys are doing that. So I would see the sex is good because you can really yeah amazing really what makes it amazing
Like why is it different than sex with someone else? I think
Is it amazing? Like, why is it different than sex with someone else?
I think, for me, I've never been like a huge fan
of like casual sex.
I always have to have that emotional and mental connection
with somebody or else like the physicalness,
even if it's like hot, awesome sex,
there's always something missing for me.
I need that, like, I need that passion
and that, not a lot of innocence
because I've had sex with many men
that I haven't been in love with.
But like, it's like intellectual emotional connection.
Yeah, it like needs a trust.
Yeah, you need to check off all those boxes for it to be like amazing sex.
And with him, it's just like, it's all encompassing like, amazing all there.
So, and that's something I honestly haven't experienced before my entire life.
Wow.
To that extent.
And he's like a tentative and knows what he's doing.
Amazing.
Yeah.
Oh my god, it's so good.
I love it.
Okay, well, um, well first, okay, so I did a little mention of you here,
but you blogged.
Time out a little by yourself.
You started the podcast.
Okay, so, I mean, my background is I started, okay.
It's really hard to explain my whole entire story
really quickly, but so when I was 22,
I had kind of like, I was
blogging when I was younger, and I was blogging about going to concerts and kissing boys and fans,
and all this kind of stuff, and I got like an online following, and from that, when I was in college,
I was like, I got to make myself some money to help pay myself way through college, and I made
these little rubber bracelets and sold them on my space, and it kind of took on a life of its own,
and from then I've transformed that into like a full fashion brand.
Right.
Wow.
Yeah, I've seen your brand.
It's awesome.
So where do people find that on your website?
Uh, yeah, it's JackVandic.com.
Right.
Yeah.
And so you started with fashion and brand-in, so and then you blogging and podcasting now.
Yes.
How that happened.
So, um, Kelsey, Knight and Beckett Oben are the other two girls that are on the podcast with me.
And they came up with this idea about a celebrity-driven podcast that's kind of like focused
around our Mimosa brunches and just like having like fun on his girl talk and bringing different
celebrities in to, you know, have this really candid fun conversation and, you know, we're drinking
Mimosas when we're here and we're just like it's super fun
It's super friendly and it's just like a really safe space and
Moving that on like who's your favorite guest so far?
Oh, we had Liam a show on this past week
So she's been like amazing and we just had such which she revealed anything good
She just I think that people just saw a different side of her because I she's such a like a perfect being
And I think a lot of people see her
that way and you know she was just having such a blast and her and Becca are really good friends so
it made it super comfortable for her to really kind of like let her hair down and just have a good time
and just be super honest and like she was hanging out with her girlfriends so I think it's different
than like any other interview they're gonna get. And then you guys are you guys are they single or
the other girls? Yeah. So Kelty's married and then Becca is in a relationship.
So I thought I was gonna be,
I'm gonna be single girl.
I'm having all my stories, which I still do.
And I'm like, I could recycle horrible dating stories
till the day I die.
But it was funny,
because I'm like, I'm gonna be the single girl.
I've always been like the single girl, so.
Right, but this is great, but now you've got this guy,
but what are some of your dating stories?
So you were on Tinder for how long?
For like two years.
Wow.
And nobody was a commit, like you didn't use anybody.
Yeah, no, I've been like quite single.
And how many Tinder dates would you say?
That I've been on like different cup.
I probably met like 20 guys on Tinder.
Wow, and you go on dates.
So how does it, so you must be like,
you could teach like a Tinder class.
Oh, I could teach a Tinder 101.
Yeah, so tell me, what would you,
what would you suggest for women first?
Let's start with that.
Um, first are the profile or?
Yeah, I mean, for me, it's more so it's like,
you gotta be picky, because it's like,
there's a bajillion guys on there.
Every guy is gonna be like,
oh, so like, can I take you out?
And like, after talking to him for like two minutes.
So for me, it's like, I need to get to know somebody enough
to where I feel comfortable going out with them or else it's like-
But how do you do that chatting on the app? Are you like, call me? No, you're doing-
I think I could call before you do-
I agree, everyone's always like, I feel like I don't talk of the phone, but I'm the same way,
I want to hear you and see if you can like put sentences together and-
Exactly, yeah, like how you can hear yourself. Well, that's the thing, it's like somebody can
see him and I went out with her, this, he was a comedy writer, and I'm like, oh my god, he seems so fun and like he's
so hilarious. He's funny all the time. And then I met him and he was kind of, he wasn't
boring or anything, but he just wasn't as funny as he seemed and we're like kind of like
chatting on text. I know. Is that a bummer? Yeah. But you give good text, but you can't
give good in person. I know. So that's why the phone calls good. And then also like for me,
I have this really weird thing about high voices on a man.
I'm like, I want a low, deep voice.
Right, like a baritone, like you know what you like.
Yeah, so I got to check that off.
I should have like a nice, nice, deep manly voice.
I agree.
I did Tinder for a very brief period for like a few months
and then actually my first Tinder date was live on my podcast.
I never met him.
Yeah, and my co is like, brought him in and we had like,
it was a really good date. I know
It was actually really fun and actually so I was on Tinder maybe for like two months and it was it got very overwhelming because you do match and I hear that guys just like
Matt like swipe on every like select every
No, I don't know like copy see they mess it. Yeah exactly and then after wrong like wait who was this guy which one and it's like
You think a spreadsheet and just it got overwhelmed by it, but yeah They mess with us. Yeah, exactly. And then after we're all like, wait, who was this guy? Which one? And it's like, you think it's spreadsheet.
It just got overwhelmed by it.
But yeah, I had like a few.
It looked like an excel sheet.
Really, but then my friend and I are like same age range,
same, and then we would go out and shoot.
We'd have like the same dates that we can
like the same guys, which in three of my girlfriends
is like the same guys creeping around.
But it wasn't, yeah, I didn't be well, I bet one guy.
He was okay, I didn't go out of them again.
Did I, no, I did go out with him again.
This guy?
No, Tinder. Oh, yeah. But then I didn't like him. one guy. He was okay, I didn't go out of them again. Did I, no, I did go out with him again. This guy? No, Tinder.
Oh yeah, but then I didn't like him.
This was like over a year.
I mean, I liked him, but not enough.
So what do guys do?
What are, like, how do we, like, how do we,
that you're a track-to-woman,
I'm sure you match with hundreds of guys.
Yeah.
How does a guy get through, like, was it,
it wasn't really about the message then,
was it more like the phone call,
or was there ever a message or something
that a guy did that you're like, was there ever a message or something like that?
You're like, wow.
Or a picture or something.
Yeah.
Okay, for me, because I had been on Tinder for a while,
and I was kind of like used to that way.
You know, I've meet some guys in person too,
but it's like I'm kind of used to how that works.
There is like a chemistry that I think you can have
even through text message, that you can kind of be like,
okay, I think I'm gonna get along with this person.
You learn enough about a me stock one Instagram, you know, you did the think I'm gonna get along with this person. You learn enough about him, you stalk one Instagram,
you know, you did the thing.
You do the whole stalking thing.
You do the whole thing and you're like,
okay, based on my findings,
I think this person could be okay to me.
So it's kind of just like,
keep narrowing it down.
I'll check out each other's,
like, it's your, like,
when yours is probably like your Instagram,
but like a lot of you will keep it private too,
which I think is still annoying.
I know, I'm like, I'm trying,
and then they'll put it on their, or their Tinder and I'm like, I'm trying, and then they'll put it on their Tinder,
and I'm like, I'm trying to stock dude.
Yeah, exactly.
Why is it on there?
I can't see it.
I can't request it.
I know, I don't understand why anyone should be private.
Like, let's just open up to the world.
It's Instagram.
It's Instagram.
It's private Madison gave me a look.
Yeah, minus private, because you'll find me from you.
And then go and
I'm playing with you.
Comment inappropriate stuff on pictures of me and my mom,
and I'm like, I can't do this.
You should be fine.
You work for me. She's like, Dildo. I feel like Madison, great show talking about your juice bot. pictures of me and my mom. And I'm like, I can't do this. You should be fine. You work for me.
She's like, dildo.
You're like, nice and great show talking about your juice pot.
I loved it.
Hi, mom.
Yeah, I know.
No, the worst thing I posted a picture of my dad in memory
of my dad, and someone commented and was like,
RIP Mike, I have never mentioned his name on Instagram ever.
I'd never mentioned it anywhere.
I have no idea how he knew.
And it's like one of those
Instagrams that does like memes only it's not like it like there's no information about them
I have no idea who the fuck this person is like RIP Mike and I was like send it to my boyfriend was like
What the fuck?
I wish it block your Instagrams everyone okay, I'm wrong
Nobody nobody have public Instagram
Exactly, okay, so I think that back, straight that for the backer.
Okay, so how do you, though, you're very busy
going on a fashion line?
Yeah.
How do you make time for all that, like dating and life
and work?
I feel like you have to.
You know, it's like we're all busy,
but it's like you're not going to find somebody
by not going out and not putting yourself out there
and dating fucking sucks.
Yeah.
I hate dating.
I hate telling people about myself.
It's the most annoying, like it makes me all hot and red
and like I get nervous about trying to be like,
so tell me about yourself.
Exactly, it's like,
give me a summary of your life.
I'm like, I don't want to because this evil's forced
and like, ugh, it's awesome.
Yeah, you probably already Googled me
and know every now and then anyway.
Yeah, you know, just read my bio on my website.
Exactly, and they all like probably listen to podcasts
but they always say they don't, and then they do.
They like say something that,
he's like, they'll say something,
and I'd be like, there's no way you would have known that
if you had not, they're like, I didn't Google you,
I didn't, and I'm like, you never would have known.
Yeah.
Thing about what you just said, so you're lying.
So yeah, but it is, it is a pain in the ass.
But it's like, you have to put yourself out there,
you have to.
And then it's all, it's good for,
I mean, I feel like I've learned so much about myself
by doing that.
What?
When I first started, like when I broke up
with my ex boyfriend, I had never been on a real date
before because I was 24, I was young, you know?
And I was terrified to go out of date.
So I didn't go on in one for like six months,
but once I finally did, I'm like, okay, this isn't the bag,
whatever.
And then the more dates I went on, I felt way more comfortable
with myself, I felt, you know, whatever. And then the more dates I went on, I felt way more comfortable with myself.
I felt, you know, way more comfortable talking
about myself where I never really liked doing that before.
I really found what I was looking for in different guys,
because I dated so damn many,
that I'm like, okay, like this from you,
I like this about you, I like this about you.
So now, you know, two and a half years later,
I'm like, I think I have a pretty good idea
of like what I'm looking for in somebody.
I think that is such good advice.
I think that people settle down right too quickly.
They need somebody and they're like,
I think that the only way you're gonna figure out
what you want is by actually out there meeting people.
So I think that is so great for men and for women.
So I love two things about you said is that
it does get easier that we all have anxiety about dating
and that it can be very stressful, but it's like a muscle.
It is.
It's our two easy days. You're like, oh, dating, I've got this. I know what I'm wearing, I know what I'm saying. And it's not, but it's like a muscle. It is. You start to lose it.
You're like, oh, dating, I've got this,
I know what I'm wearing, I know what I'm saying.
And it's not first.
It's scary every time.
Yeah, exactly.
And then you do realize you're like,
oh wait, this is not negotiable.
Like he has to, I don't know,
is there one thing that guys,
like it's a requirement for you?
For a deal breaker, me mean?
Or what's a deal breaker?
And then like what's a requirement?
Is there a guy like shows up with blank,
it's over
For says drink shows up under six feet tall. Oh my god
I'm not like a I don't care about looks but height. I just like feeling small
I'm like seven. I'm not like a super short girl and I I wear heels at the time
So I'm like I like feel like my boyfriend's six seven
So my god, that's hot. Yeah, that's true. That's okay. So it's tall
Is there anything that they could or you give me example? Was there ever a date? We're like this is going well until
Oh, well, there's this one date that I well, I mean many I don't know why this one just came to mind
But there is this one date that I went on with a guy that was he seemed cool and then we went out and then he was
Really shy and kind of awkward.
And then he kept like giving these underhanded insults.
I remember we were driving to the day and he was talking about how he's like setting up
a camper or kind of thing.
And he's like, oh, blah, blah, do you like camping?
I'm like, I love camping.
That would be so cool to go camping.
He's like, oh, you seem like way too high maintenance to be like like camping.
Oh my god.
I actually look like a sack of garbage all the time.
Was he doing that beg thing that guys do?
He was doing the nag. Or I don't know. I mean, who knows if you actually, I mean, I think
it's an insecurity probably. She's way too full and confident. I'm gonna knock her down
for a second. Oh, he was doing it all night long. And then he taught, oh, here's another
thing. Talking about ex-girlfriends, especially on the first date,
this guy gave me his whole backstory that was so fucked up
and like weird and she had another boyfriend
and this whole thing.
I'm like, this is the first date.
You are never, that is such a cardinal rule
that you do not talk about exes on the first date.
You just don't.
Even if you're divorced, you just, yeah,
and I was married, not divorced. Like, you want to get to know the person
you're with. Oh, yeah, those are major departments. No, no, no ex-girlfriends, probably no politics,
and probably no religion. It's just like, you know, I agree with your family. Let's just
don't bring it up on the first day. Yeah, it's absolutely. The things that you won't talk about,
the things that you're giving dinner, like, you probably shouldn't talk about at a date. No,
that's a good point. No, that's really, I mean, I think you're absolutely right. So you learned and you dated and now you met these. So, so what about, um, okay,
so it was mostly online or in person, but what about, well, we're going to get some emails
actually that I think you're going to be able to help me with about, I was going to ask
you out meeting in person. Okay. But first, I want to talk about fashion and sex and dating
because I know you're, you've got your, your fashion line, you've been into fashion for
since you were a kid. Well, I mean, when I was in high school,
I was always like cutting up and re-selling my clothes
and stuff like that.
That's awesome.
Yeah, I've always been like super funky with my fashion.
Yeah, you look adorable.
I love it.
But how does, so that's how it's gonna ask you though,
and it's okay to be whatever,
but is there a requirement for guys that you date
about how they should dress?
No, I kind of like when guys don't have style,
I think it's kind of cute.
I feel like guys that care too much about their appearance,
it's like a little bit too narcissistic,
but it's just too much.
I kind of like the, I'm really like what Ganity is.
Right.
Or like you know that he's like too much time
getting more time getting ready than you did.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, I told you get that.
I like it, but I like a good style.
Like I like when guys know how to dress, but then I also, I don't mind when a guy doesn't have style. That's not like, I totally get that. I like it, but I like a good style. Like, I like when guys know how to dress,
but then I also, I don't mind when a guy doesn't have style.
That's not like, I don't either.
At the same thing, I'm like, oh, my mom always says,
because I remember when I was like 22, my boyfriend
and Sam were just, I remember calling my mom like,
mom, he's wearing shorts, cause no one wears
Samford's shorts, like freezing,
and you just don't, I remember he was wearing shorts
and he's really bad, he's like, mom, I hate his shoes.
He's like, honey, he's like,
I mean, you can buy him new shoes.
Like, that's not a deal breaker.
Yeah, if he has bad hair, if he has bad style,
whatever you can change.
That is like, right, like alcoholic no.
Like, that's not a problem.
Like, right, like, drug addict.
The personality disorder probably not.
Exactly, like a narcissist no, but shoes you can change.
So, are there any fashion trends with men
that you are psyched about now
that you think are kind of cool?
But there's so many that I don't think are cool. Yeah, what are weed about now that you think are kind of cool
There's so many that I don't think yeah, what I can talk about that like this so much better
Because what do you mean by that trend? So what kind of is not working? You think what I hate is the
Undercut haircut you know what I'm talking about like the long on the top and then like the shape I'm and the sides with the beard. Like the ultimate hipster sort of like.
Yeah.
I know what you would kind of like to longer on the top.
Slicks like with like some kind of like a gel
and then just like the short on the back.
And then with the beard, I'm like, no.
Right, it's too many accessories.
It's kind of like if you're wearing like leopard jacket
and then you're also wearing like fridge boots.
I'm wearing fringe boots now and I was,
my first jacket was this leopard,
I'm like, that's way too much.
Like, you can't overdo it.
Just one or the other.
Yeah, actually, the undercut never.
And also, I'm not really a fan of beard.
Not really fan of beard, so, okay.
Anything at what up?
Fashion wise, that was really,
I mean, it's so hard with guys.
They've got like shirts, tops,
like, oh, your pants, so, no.
I'm trying to think though, I'm sure there's something.
Um, I don't know.
I know, and these cases almost like everything goes.
Like, what about, okay, so what about for women? Like, in these cases, almost like everything goes.
Like what about, okay, so what about for women?
Like what's a good, do you like a go-to first date outfit?
Oh yeah, well, I am a crop top connoisseur.
So even in the dead of winter,
I'm wearing crop tops all the time.
I just don't, except this is the only sort.
I know you're wearing a big, big, sweater bag.
It's what, she's wearing a crop top underneath it.
That's awesome.
I don't know what it, something, my body,
I just feel like I look best in crop tops.
Cause I have small ways to.
Oh my God, yeah, sexy, I love that.
I think like no woman has ever said those words ever.
Okay, maybe that's awesome.
Cause I'm sure guys,
do you wear a crop out of the day?
They must go berserk.
Well, crop tops literally every day of my life.
But I remember my summer first date outfit,
which I wore for probably five first dates in a row,
was thigh high boots, these little floral shorts,
and an off the shoulder crop top, long sleeve.
That's so cute.
It was cute.
I think guys love the thigh high boots.
I know.
They go insane.
They love that.
They almost are like, I don't need them to your fate.
Like, you know, they're like her boots. It's 100% I learned that so now I bought like four more pants
Yeah, I just bought some too. I what kind of you? Do you buy like black brown all different height heels? No heels
They're like kind of you know like two inch and I have black leather
Grey leather and browns weight. Oh, I like it
I just but I want there's these Jimmy two ones that I'm obsessed with. Have you seen them? No, I'll show you after I'm but they're like
Crazy, but they're I don't have those yet, but I did just buy a pair too and I and I was wearing a my guy
I was like I'm dating someone too. We just really weird for me. I
Listen to your podcast. I'm you do Ross. Oh my god
I heard you talking way too much about him the other podcast. I did talk about him way too much a few weeks ago, right?
But Anderson met you were like someone said,
God, you talked about Ross a lot.
Wait, wait, so he's a doctor?
Is it a doctor?
Is he a slash musician?
No, he's a doctor that, because he's like,
Dablin music, he actually, okay,
so he went to after college, his college,
like the college, you do say,
I was like the best college band of the year.
I went to his family too.
You did?
Yeah, I did.
He's not called, I don't know how old you are.
I'm 28.
Okay.
Yeah.
He's a little bit older than that.
Okay.
But yeah, he would not know.
He would not, but he, well maybe, I don't know.
But then after that, they signed, you know,
Peresco Records, they'd be banned for like years,
like eight years.
What was the banquel?
Oh, God.
Sudopod? Sudopod. What kind of my guys? He's like now. Yeah
Oh, so no, but then he did that for a long time. I think he plays guitar. He's amazing like guitarist and then
He was like, you know, but at his dad's doctor or anything he was like I'm just gonna you know, it's cute or 20
He's doing well, but he was like I also want to be a doctor. So now he is a full on doctor
He's thinking he always made him if he always knew but he went also want to be a doctor. So now he is a full on doctor. He's thinking he always made
I don't know if he always knew but he went back to school became a doctor, but he's still so he's full on a doctor
But he also like has an album coming out plays with bands all the time. That's so cool
That's a mess of both worlds. I know
So you got the creativeness and then you've got like oh, it's fucking awesome job. I know right like every got like
It's a real real man of like sick
He can like have except for once who many didn't much. I never let him live it down Oh, that's rude. No, and if I like sick, he can like, have it separate once too many didn't, which I never let him live it down.
Oh, that's rude.
No, I know, we were just starting dating.
I were like, wait, I'd been a few months in, but we weren't committed.
I called him and I was like, I think I've got like this third thing.
And he's like, you sound really contagious.
Like, I still think I can.
I'm like, you're a doctor!
What is the fully dated doctor?
Like a doctor mask on, dude.
Get over here.
Like, what is the point of dating if you're contagious?
You work in the goddamn hospital.
Everyone's contagious. Yeah. It's like a funny fight we have now, but yeah, it is best. It's good. Get over here like what is the point of dating you through the contagious you work in the goddamn hospital
Everyone's contagious. Yeah, it's like a funny fight. We have now, but yeah, it is best. It's good So but now I was able to talk about that. Did someone do you know talking about Ross again?
No, I know I try not to talk to my I told I you're talking about being in a new relationship and
Something he was saying about fashion or you were like the boots. Oh love the boots
Free dad about the boot is like those boots. I'm like yeah, I. For your dad about the boots, he's like those boots, those boots.
I'm like, yeah, I gotta get more pairs.
I know, I'm so sick.
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I'm so sick. I'm so sick. I'm so sick. I'm so sick. I'm so sick. I want to go shopping. Okay, so can we talk about sex for a second though?
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Yes, I do what do you like? I have
Like what well, I mean for What do you like? I have lots of toys.
Like what?
Well, I mean, for masturbating, favorite always
is the magic wand.
Oh, I mean, there is no competition.
I know, it's true.
Do you know that it's rechargeable now?
Wait, I only have the one that you can plug into the wall.
And then it's like this whole huge process.
I'm like, dude, okay.
Oh, dude, we have to get our magic wand.
If you recharge it, yeah. It's now rechargeable on-plugged in 2015.
So you just charge it for four hours.
And it works just as well.
Better.
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Better.
That's what's bulls settings.
It's got multiple settings.
It's not just on an off, it's not like, like, hi.
Yeah.
It's like, I have to like put like a pillow over me.
I'm like, I think that my neighbors in here.
For sure, right?
You wake them up, like, is it super nini? Oh no, no.
Jack's just masturbating again.
It is quieter.
It has two different speeds up and down.
Well, we'll get to know my dogs.
It's so exciting about this.
Yeah, I know. It's really exciting.
It's because then it's also, yeah, I, it's San Francisco,
where I was moved here three years ago,
but it was plugged into, I had drilled a hole
in the back of my nightstand,
so it could be always, always be plugged into the wall. Just in into the wall just in case you wanted because I hated the cord and the thing
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So this makes me so happy. It's like oh you love it. So try this one now. Okay, so you use it with partners
Not that because it's so loud and abrasive, but I did, okay, this is really funny.
This weekend, after one of the nights that we went out, I had taken any ambient and
that was my-
Ambient sex.
I wouldn't have ambient sex, but I was like, telling him about the magic wand and I'm
like, but it's really a massager, so I must have gotten it out that night.
I like black out when I'm on ambient, so I must have gotten it out and I was like, giving
him a back massage with it.
Because the next morning it woke up like on the ground
and I'm like, we didn't, you do anything sexual last night.
So it's just sitting there.
That's so funny.
It is a mess.
And I actually died really by back pain in December.
I was like in the office walking around like using it.
Yeah, it's true.
That's what it was made for, wasn't it?
Yeah, absolutely.
It was made for that.
And they're like, oh, someone was like,
I think I'm gonna put that.
It's getting a massage mic, that feels really good. someone was like, I think I'm gonna be like, that's gonna massage my clitoris. That feels really good.
So what do you when you think about hot sex,
you're like, oh, that was the hardest sex?
What do you think that means?
How would you describe it?
I mean, I have to go back to the whole emotional
mental everything connection.
I've had fun, rough sex, kinky sort of whatever,
but at the end of the day, it's like, for me, it's always about that connection, because I can even tell when, like, physically, like, how what I'm getting with a guy.
If I'm not in it, like, mentally or emotionally or whatever, it's like, you can tell.
Right. Or I get to know it. Right, exactly. But I'm just like, okay.
How about four-play? Do you feel like you need four-play? Do you require that?
I don't require it, but it's nice.
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Do you see podcast one?
Okay, dear Emily, hi.
So I just wanna start off by saying
that I love listening to your show on Spotify.
I recently got into listening to podcasts
and your show is on my top three listened to during my work day.
What if that makes it more productive or not?
And anyways, I recently started noticing
this really cute guy in my apartment complex.
I see him when I'm walking my dog or when I'm throwing out the trash.
I've even seen him on my local target, but I've yet to start the conversation with him.
I'm not usually shy, but there's something about this guy that makes me so nervous.
I really want to get to know him, but I don't want to wait until I run into him again.
It's getting to a point where I want to stick my number on his door so he can text me,
we can start up a friendly conversation.
I guess because it's the start of a new year that I just want to take life by the
by the horns and do it, but I don't want to look at creep or weird. Help, I need your advice.
Thank you female 23 Miami. Oh, that's a cute question. I like that. I thought you'd be able to have,
I mean, I don't know. I don't think she should leave my note though. I mean, that's a little bit,
that's a little bit much. It kind of seemed like creepy stocky. Yeah, I feel like, I don't think she should leave my note though. I mean, that's a little bit, that's a little bit, man. It kind of seemed like creepy stocky.
Yeah, I feel like, I mean, what would you do?
It's gonna depend on the vibe.
I mean, if she feels like there's a good vibe
when they've been like kind of encountering each other,
then maybe you should, I mean, I think that you should do
anything that you think that you should do,
because it's like, you know, we're...
No, you're right, there's a rule.
Yeah, life is short, like fucking go, you know,
leave your note under the door, maybe I guess, but's a rule. It's right. Life is short, like fucking go, you know, leave your note
under the door maybe, I guess, but you totally.
You might not get a response yet,
and then it might be the most awkward thing in the world
when you run into a million times
because he's in your apartment called.
Right, right.
You might have a girlfriend, and then yeah,
he's a girl, I'm not gonna do longer now,
because she's there.
I think what I would do, person,
what would you do?
I want to know what Jack would do.
I would.
I would somehow find out his name, do a little stalking.
When the mailman comes. Yeah. Find out his name, maybe see if he has a girlfriend,
and then sort of, you know, slowly kind of infiltrate that way. I don't know.
Right, right. Yeah. I guess you could... What about just like, she sees him.
He's really, hey, yeah. So how long have you lived here? Do you just move in?
Or, you know, can I see you growing lived here? Do you just move in or you know? Can I see? Can I go in your apartment? You want to have sex or?
Exactly. Can I show you an magic wand? I'm having something like, there's electricity problem.
So like, I feel like if you do your neighbor, you can just like, hey, yeah, I think I've seen you.
Wouldn't you, but did you just move in or I've seen you around here? I guess I see you around
so cheesy. Yeah, I'm like, maybe I should try to start out like more of a conversation than just
saying, hi, and then see kind of where it goes from there
How about how do you like living here? Yeah, probably if you've seen him here's a thing if you've seen him
He's probably seen you yeah, I mean you got a hope so it helps out right?
Yeah, I don't know. There's a number of things gonna be really creepy exactly like who I have a neighbor. There's women here
Maybe he's gay, but you can just say you had a living here or
God if you heard from the landlord lately, he keeps you know hitting me up for the electric bill
And I've already I, something that you guys
would have in common.
In common, yeah.
Strike up a conversation.
Yeah.
And it's important to, she says she gets nervous around him.
So, no matter what you can do, if you take a few deep breaths,
you gotta be confident.
You gotta be confident.
Just like fake it to you, and just like be confident,
take a few deep breaths, look at the eye.
We're all terrified, dude.
We're all nervous.
We're all nervous.
I was asking the one of us, so just act like you're not,
and everybody will believe you.
Exactly, it's true.
It's the fake it that you make it or whatever.
And you just feel like pretend it's like your girlfriend
neighbor that you're like, oh, she's
seen school, I want a new friend.
Yeah.
How would you talk to her?
Exactly.
Right?
So keep it caged, don't get too creepy,
because especially if you live in the same apartment complex,
that's weird.
Exactly.
Same apartment cut.
In the office apartment cut, you can't never escape.
Yeah.
I think that's true.
That's a good advice.
I appreciate it.
I think that that's how we have time for it,
which makes me really sad.
I love talking to you.
You're so awesome.
You're gonna have to come on our podcast now.
I love that.
It'll be so fun.
I love swapping podcasts.
Yes.
Congratulations on your new podcast, FEMPIRE.
Yes.
And you could think you find it on iTunes,
or podcast one app, and on all of your social media,
which we'll also have on our website,
Jack Vanick, across the board.
Yes.
Anything else coming up for you guys,
you need to talk about?
We're just trying to take over 2016, Matt.
Yes, well, congrats, and welcome to podcasting.
Thank you.
I think it's awesome.
I think you're great, and we're gonna go shopping.
I love that. Carmel, yeah. Thank you for listening. And thank you, Madison. You rock. Thank you. I think it's awesome. I think you're great and we're gonna go shopping. I love that and
Yeah, thank you for listening and thank you Madison
You rock. Thank you Laurie. Thank you Alyssa
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