Sex With Emily - Fast Track To O-Town

Episode Date: November 11, 2015

Today’s show is all about helping you effectively find your sexual bliss in the bedroom. No matter what issues are holding you back, Emily has the answers you need to get on the fast track to O-town!Are you struggling to serve yourself up some satisfactory self-loving? Are you having trouble enjoying your partner’s best oral sex moves? Perhaps the sex is so great that you wish it could last a bit longer? We all want to find enjoyment in bed, and your secret to maximum fulfillment could be right around the corner. From kegel tips to breathing exercises to figuring out your fantasies, Emily’s got some tricks in her sexual toolbox to help you out of your bedroom bind.Whether you’re missing your masturbatory mark, experiencing position problems, or are coming up against some oral obstacles, this podcast might be just what you need to turn up the pleasure in your sex life. Tune in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Tonight we're answering your questions. A listener doesn't know how to tell her partner what she wants in bed. Another has trouble organizing with her guy and also troubles with oral sex. What if you just don't like receiving it? All this and more on Sex with Emily, thanks for listening. Hey everyone, it's my weekly Sibian update. We're getting to know each other a lot better now and I just want to tell you about our experiences. In fact, I'll be naming it in a couple weeks. That's how close we're getting to know each other a lot better now, and I just want to tell you about our experiences.

In fact, I'll be naming it in a couple weeks. That's how close we're getting. And if you took out my Instagram, the sexual memory, I've got some funny stories about it on there. But you might think you know all about the Sibian, or you might not have any idea what I'm talking about, but forget what you've heard what you've ever heard about the Sibian because it's so different from any other sex part that you've seen before. It's not even, it's not a sex story. Basically, the syviens is a full on sexual experience and it's one that you can enjoy solo or share it with a partner.

It's the only sex product that has a unique, mountable design. You know, you can like mount it, like simulating cowgirl position, like when you're on woman on top. Also, the cool thing about the syviens is that each woman has the power to customize their own experience on it. So every time you use it or I use it, you can make it work for you. So I've been having orgasms I didn't even know existed and you know that this is like my job.

And the fact that the Sibian has been able to provide me with experiences that I can have on the Sibian and then translate to my partner when I'm having sex is mind blowing. So the thing about the Sibian is that it has 11 different attachments, by the way, that you can buy along with it. There's like one that's like a penis and there's ones for your clitoris. There's even one shape like a finger, whatever you're into. Also, women who have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, and I know there's a lot of you out there because I think you email me every day, the Sibian could be that secret to unlocking your

orgasmic potential. Repeated rides on the Sibian train your body to orgasm, making it easier to experience multiple orgasms and increase sexual spongebob to your partner. Like I said, you learn something, you transfer to sex with your partner. And because of the design of the Stabian, which is really unique Once you learn to orgasm with it, like I said, you transfer that to your partner It's just it's really or you just use alone even if you don't have a partner. This is what I'm saying It's a multi-use product. Oh, and it's so hot for your partner to watch you play with it

Even if he doesn't you actually get on it with you or she they can just watch you and it's like for play It's hot. So here's a testimony of the CB website that says it all. My husband and I have been married for 17 years, I always thought our sex life was okay, but I didn't get too excited about it. My first time on the CB and I can hardly describe the feeling I had with my body just exploded. It was just unreal what happened to me. I soon realized that the age of 38 with CB and I had my first orgasm ever. I've now started having orgasms while making love to my husband. I have Sibian to thanks. Thank you, Shelley from Texas. So to check out what other customers have to say and to order your own life-changing Sibian today, visit Sibian.com. That's s-y-b-i-a-n

.com. Oh, use code Emily75. And you get $75 off your first order that's Sibian.com. They call them in a bag on me. Hey, Emily. You got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, though? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks?

And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I'm so, so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between.

For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. We can check out the website, obviously, the Senate for a mailing list because we've got lots of exciting things coming up to tell you and just be post every day. Blogs, videos, all these things that you love about the show, you can also find on the site. If you want to read, you want to watch all that stuff And I'm here with the Anderson welcome back my love Hey, yeah, I'm so good to see you to see you how is your trip?

Ciao, ciao. Who's good? Who's fantastic? Anderson was an Europe adventure European adventure never been a year before so I got a lot done Wow, you did your pictures were amazing took them out of an Instagram. Churches, old cobbles, enough with the cobbles stone. Alrighty. So we can save some of these streets. It's hard to distillate those. I'll tell you that. Oh, it's hard skateboarding too. It's difficult.

Yeah, it is. But it sounds like you got a good trip. Ah, a great trip. Yeah. I really was so thrilled to have Stanley the dog. Yeah, you had my dog for two and a half weeks. And I know that you were contemplating napping him.

I was going to dogmatic. Making him your own. And I think you're about 80% kidding. 80% kidding. Yeah, maybe 80% kidding. That's generous. No, I really, I love your dog. Like, Stan, if you check out my Instagram, I'm saying something I posted.

I just keep it only post their dog. I'm like, I didn't do it to a few posts. And we also put them in some hilarious videos we did. But no, your dog is a special, I wouldn't say a special human, a special dog. He's so loving and sweet. And he's an older dog. He's at Chihuahua. How do you? Chihuahua like, uh, mix. Yeah. I'm gonna carry your Chihuahua. And I really just kind of became obsessed with it. I took him everywhere. I went. We walked, we hiked. I, I, I spooned him. Don't say he's an older dog. I got to everywhere I went. We walked, we hiked. I, I, I spooned him. Don't say he's an older dog.

I gotta like that. Oh, he backs like a puppy a lot. He acts like a puppy and he's a rescue and he's a sweetest little pup that I literally spooned him at night, which not tell that it doesn't bother you. No. But do you sleep with him? I do, but my wife steals him.

So she usually does. Oh, she hugs him too? And then yeah, she, she goes to work and I wake up and I get him. But we have three dogs. So they're all in the bed. See, that's why I thought you wouldn't care giving them to me because you've three. No, I would absolutely care because he's my dog.

He's my, I know we really love it. And then the wife came, she came in with her own dog and then the two of us got a dog together. Right, go with that dog. So Stanley's my dog. Okay, but I love him, but then they know the sad thing. Yes, I just gave him back to you. I gave him back yesterday.

I woke up in the middle of the night and I was like, we're Stanley. Stanley would draw. I have Stanley would draw just came back to you. I gave him back yesterday. I woke up in the middle of the night and I was like, where's Stanley? Stanley withdrawal. I've Stanley withdrawal. I'm anyway. I have a tattoo of his fucking paw on my arm. That's his paw. Yeah. That's my dog. I get it. Everyone loves their dog. But I hear multiple people say that Stanley is a little bit different. He's a little different and every time I took him, he was like, oh my god, this dog so sweet. So I took it in the was like, oh my God, this dog so sweet.

Like, so I took it in the November, you know, November, the mustache. I saw the picture. Yeah, they loved him. They were running around. You can call him a service dog, and I don't think anyone really asked why. I didn't even have to use the service thing.

People wouldn't even think like, this isn't a service dog, is it? You can just be here and play. So thank you for that, that changed my life. You should go out and rescue a dog now. Go ahead. I did once, but I want to rescue you. You should go to the other dog.

No, you should go to the other dog. The other thing that's really exciting is that I did text you this when you were way, but our 10 year anniversary show at the Hollywood improv is happening December 6th at 730 at the Hollywood improv, doors open at 7. And okay, I've never done a live event. I've done top workshops. What in the world are you talking about? 10 years. Yeah, never done a live event. I've done top workshops. What in the world are you talking about?

Ten years. Yeah, you're a show. A live show. You know, it's beaker at all these massive things. Never sexually live. Okay. Ten years. And so it's really been kind of nostalgic going,

like I did, and someone wrote like a decade, and I was like, oh my god, it's a decade. Like that's a lot. Ten years. And I've been doing this. I know, but when they said it as a decade, it just seemed longer, but the point is that I'm doing a live show. And I'm really, and also also I'm not a big person

as parties like I only have birthday party because I'm like, what if no one shows up? Oh yeah, I got, I'm with you. I'm with you. But like I hope that all my fans, you guys will show up. I'm giving you time now, I'm giving you enough time to come if you need to come to LA. I mean, if you want to come to LA, please come.

We're gonna have Anderson will be there, Manus will be there, Dr. Drew will be there on stage. We have lots of fun things happening that night. Special treats plan for you. It's a live show, also some retrospective, but I want to hear from you guys, what is your favorite memory? So all my listeners, like,

what was your favorite sex-friendly moment over the last 10 years, even you've been listening for a few months, just what was a moment, a sex tip, a guest, someone that eats something that you love, just let me know, because we're putting together a real, I just want to hear from you, okay? so email me, feedback at sexwithme.com

and then take it as you can buy on the website, I think we'll have a link there. Are you gonna highly wouldn't prop? How does that work? You should probably have a link on your website. I think there's a link there. I think you should have one, yeah. Yeah.

You'll have one by the time it's posts, all right? To. Go to sexwithmeme.com and you'll see a link and it'll take you right there. Absolutely, so come do that people. What does it cost? Oh, so thank you. $15 pre-sale $20 of the door and then it'll be like a $2 or 50 cent cover charge just to let you guys know they do like a little processing thing over there. Okay, but it's worth it. Yeah, it's

totally worth it. Oh, and also, yeah, it says go to sex only dot com and click the event event flyer. Sweet. Yeah, the Hollywood improv is like it's a legendary place. It is a legendary place. It's front of the brick wall on the stage up there at Hollywood improv So I mean you get to see Emily and you get to see like a if you've never had an excuse to go see the Hollywood improv now I mean everyone who you could ever think of that's a great comedian has pretty much gone through the in the last 30 years Right you come there like exactly we'll have some drinks before it's a party. We're gonna drink We're gonna parties with a food. It's gonna be good time. My caranel will be there. My caranel will be there. Drew, my catharine will be there.

Who else is coming? So that it's like, people, yeah, it's true. You come here, you see the Hollywood sign, you go to the Hollywood improv, that's all you gotta do. So I will see you there. And yeah, also, Sibian, we're doing the giveaway,

we're giving one away. And the first tier of the contest was people had to name it. You said, Sibian, we're cont Kant and then it sounded like you said the other word Oh, you stopped yourself before you said contest. So I said I just I caught myself up I make up words. Yeah, but check out also check out my Instagram because we have 10 semi-finalists We had the submit names. It's going on. It's a whole process. You can tell me not right now. Damn it. You got to check out the Instagram Some they're really good. Please tell me Stanley's not one of the names I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right.

I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right.

I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right.

I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm not right. I'm for years, I've been talking about these sex-lemly t-shirts I want to make. We're going to be selling them. It's going to be a good time. So I hope to see you all there because whenever I meet listeners of the show, people are like, oh, wow, how are you? I'm so happy. It makes my life to meet you all in person. And we'll have a good time and I'll hang out.

I'm not going to be like, oh, can't talk. We're going to hang. We're going to have drinks and it'll be fine. You should totally be a big time, everybody. Just go out the back door, leave an olim on. So not like that. I wasn't going to listen. Whenever I meet a listener, how do you know about it? Right. Because we're like in this box. So not like that. I was like, you list it, whatever I mean, you list it. How do you know about it?

Cause we're like in this box, I don't know. I mean, I know people listen. You forget that people listen. You're right, you do the show and the microphones. You forget that there's an audience out there at all sometimes, which actually, you know what, makes it for a good show, I think. People that are always thinking about the audience,

I don't think those are very good shows. I've heard so many times. I think about you all, but I'm just gonna talk to you. Right. Cause I'd be free to tell, like, oh, I got a million people listening. Now I'm thinking think about you all, but I'm just gonna talk to you. Right. Cause I'd be free. Tell you, like, oh, I got a million people listening. Now I'm thinking about all the people listening. I'm freaking out anyway.

Freaking out. I'm trying to be focused. You're on your own. Okay, sex in the news is, cause it's your favorite thing. We're gonna start there. Sweet. A doctor claims that blow dubs are good for women's health

and even help fight depression. What? A lot of male doctors. Exactly. According to recent research, research carried out by the State University of New York, oral sex is said to be healthy, feel good, remedy. It's said to be healthy, feel good, remedy. Scientists, they use that word to make it seem legit, have discovered that there are mood-improving

chemicals in male semen, which can be very beneficial for women's health. According to female semen. What is this study coming from? High times. State University of New York. The sex lives of 300 women were examined, and it looks as though those that ventured south sleep better, have having better moods and generally worry less. Maybe those are just like carefree, will they begin?

Maybe the partner is just really happy. Maybe to begin with, they're just like happy. That's why they're throwing out the BJs left to right. You know, it's seriously what's the control factor. We don't know. Things such as spermatozoa, estrone, and oxytocin, all help increase mood to positive levels, melatonin, serotonin workers, antidepressants too.

How many freaking bloat jobs do you have to get to get like a dose of Pozac, but still. Seaman though, there's benefits too. I think I'm gonna start prescribing like semen tablets. Yeah, you're gonna go to your psychiatrist, like doctor, I've got a bed, I can't eat, I'm so depressed, so I'll be like, just give your husband some more blow jobs.

Here's some semen to get you started. Do some shots of semen. I don't have a husband who beg, I'll take care of that. Oh, that was so hacky. I love it. Okay, so women who are regularly exposed to semen, I wonder if you're just exposed to it. Like, well, there's some semen on the wall. Are also found out before much better at work and at home, specifically with tasks which

need a lot of concentration and cognizance. So forget at all. Forget every drug you've ever taken, just swallow a lot of semen. Weirdly, a woman's body can also tell the different, oh wait, this is evolutionary speaking too though, that a woman's body can tell different semen than the brand they're used to. What? Are we talking about races here?

No, we're talking about like your husbands or your boyfriend's semen. Which is strange, women are less likely to get pregnant with new semen, so it pays to stick with one man if you're trying for baby, this is obvious. It's not just oral sex, they say, penetrative sex helps mood elevation and has health benefits. So there you go. Wait, sex makes you feel better. That's shocking.

And research carried out from saying this is like a DAW, hashtag DAW, but research carried out by the Kinsey Institute recently shown that Conlinkus is good for both the giver and the receivers. So we're not leaving blow jobs out of this. We're not just talking about blow jobs. Yeah. We're talking about Connellink. We're bringing in the...

Whatever, going to be a woman's like, I should give him blow jobs. I'm like, oh, maybe I'll have a spike in serotonin and then she goes down and I'm happy. I'm happy if you were getting oral sex all around. So even if you got to make up a study, which I did not make up. Right. You should not make it up. I've never heard of this University of New York state penitentiary. No, but exactly.

It was the people in the penitentiary. They were smiling to their semen. It's a very inclusive study. Oh, that'd be, you know, what if they do start subscribing, prescribing subscribing prescribing medication in the form of semen tablets. I would think a penitentiary would be a pretty good place to get their samples. It sounds really, really dark. Yeah. Like start farming it out. I want to make more money for the state. No, okay. I'm sorry. I'll do everything else. They use everything else to make money. They're making license. Make license plates. Make them beat off in this thing. Yeah. I'm going to gross down. Like a ding down. You'll get like fresh fruit delivered every week. Like organic vegetables.

And here's like my fresh semen from the penitentiary. That little prisoner number on it. So you can track it. Oh, that's dark. Okay dark. Okay, so God, but you know what? I'm surprised at the, I'm not surprised to be hard to do because the juice burned banks, but what if it really was shown as to be just as popular as antipressants as a swallow scene? But nobody has to be your brand of semen. Yeah, but maybe you can do that in your local store and like say, I like some red headed semen please.

Okay, let's talk about Ashi Madison because the story that will never end. Is it still going on? Dude, well, here's talk about Ashi Madhison because the story that will never end. Is it still going on? Dude, well, here's the thing. So here's the update. They, you know, Ashi Madhison attracted male customers with the claim that 30% of, or 5.5 million of its profiles belong to women. They proved this was a lie. In reality, it was as few as 12,000 real women may have been active.

Okay, that's a huge gap. That's a huge gap. That's a pretty big drop. And otherwise, so there's now a class action suit that's just hit Ashy Madison Parent Company, Avid Life Media. And the sky David Poiet is suing for five million damages, claiming the site went to extreme measures to fraudulently lure in and profit from customers.

They created 70,000 female bots that would answer these emails with a hot bot. I hope so. I hope that at least they were hot. He said there was an army of fem bots. In other words, it's like purposely induced members to engage them by with fake profiles, with the initial communication and it directly caused members to incur costs while believing it was an actual person communicating, which we've all heard about this, but now there's a case against this. Don't these people kind of deserve to be lied to them? Not even because they're cheating,

but because they're dumb. You know what I mean? I know, like how could you really believe that it's 12 million? I can't think she, like, everyone else on Facebook are Instagram- Cheating women on there. I know, it's crazy.

Well, if that, you know what? Ashi Madison puts so much money into advertising, they weren't Howard Stern. I mean, they weren't every show on the planet and guys, they made it really, it's all about marketing. Right, he's gonna be next. There's got me another one coming up now. It was gonna be a little more legit.

You know, it's funny. Oh, I am. There you go. There's a new business for you. Oh, I have time for another business. I was actually on the Huffington Post live the other day. They do this just live Skype thing. And it was about Thrinder, the threesomeesome app Oh, which got bad reviews at the beginning, but now it just got funding for like half a million dollars

Or the bad reviews like only two people were involved in it because it was a new app But now apparently it's gonna be they've got funding It's gonna be more and it was interesting because I was on the how you can watch the link I don't know if I posted it, but it's on happy to post live the founder of Thrender He's like in Germany and he said he started because his girlfriend wanted a threesome and they couldn't know if I posted it, but it's on Happy to post live. The founder of Thrandar, he's like in Germany, and he said he started it because his girlfriend wanted to reach them and they couldn't find anyone and then it like it's really organic process. And there's, you know, I guess it's getting if you want to put three some people

even me all the time, check it out. I'm not gonna vouch for it, but apparently it's, you know, on the up and up. Super aides is on this way. Use protection, everybody. Okay, always speaking of cheating, dude, you said, what's next? Oh wait, that class action, though, for it,. You said what's next? Oh wait that class action though for it for it. We'll come right back to that class action That's gonna be that they should have nothing to worry about. I would think if I'm actually Madison Why I wouldn't sign up for that class action if I was on Ashley Madison

I want to make my name even more public. Maybe they've already there were partners have already left them They got nothing to lose. Yeah, they're like ah might as well get some money from it But speaking of what's gonna replace it. it, almost half of all Tinder users are already in relationships, which there's been some mumbling is about this in recent months. But now we already knew that Tinder has among all of its awesome people looking for love, its fair share of total losers seeking to cheat. But we now easily thought that the adulterous ones were fume far between but check this unfortunately We were wrong a new online study pulled 47,000 internet users ages 16 to 64 and discovered that of the

621 who had been on Tinder in the last month 30% are married another 12% are in a relationship and 12 million are women No, well the company is not specifically confirmed or denied the marital status statistics. It did offer an innocent explanation why so many of the sites users may already be taken. Tinder is a social network. There are many cases for it. Not just dating. People are using it to make new friends to network and they use it when they travel to meet people in the area. Yeah, I'm a single man. I'm a married guy in a business trip. But I just like that dinner with a nice woman. Yeah, I'm sure he didn't say, well, you're a nice guy.

Yeah. Right. So, uh, it sounds like an excuse someone give their part of her cheating. Oh, I just wanted to make friends and have a dinner with someone. I'm looking for a nice man to have a platonic dinner with. That money, that's always doing. That's really, I mean, and everyone's in Tinder and everyone calls it like a blowjob and Spencer you know it's like a cheating to Spencer you apparently. I have such mixed emotions when I hear these stories. I know. I mean how do you not recognize someone as well like they go isn't that Suzy's husband?

Well because like you live in LA you go your entire like year without seeing the same person twice. No that's true if you're in another city what a chance is I think most people probably use this when they go out of town I know when I was a Prague I was I mean Exactly So yeah, it's pretty bad and it also here's another thing the representative say that you know There's a lot of them success stories as well. Oh, yeah, and they talk about their success They'd be more than six billion matches globally mm-hmm And they get hundred or six success careful with than six billion matches globally, and they get 100 or six success stars.

Careful with your six billion matches there, guys, because look what happened to actually Madison with their inflated numbers. Two, but here's the thing, people are cheating probably locally. I hear that they are locally as well. So, what's that? Well, when they start like when they're out of town

and then they start getting a little more risky and more risky and more teething. I think that's when a lot of the cheating happens. I do. I know that. Does a count if you're overseas? It does count, but I think that's when a lot of the cheating happens. I do. I know that does a count if you're overseas. It does count. But I think some people think that it doesn't. If you got your passport in hand, you need your passport.

If you pay for it does a count. Yeah, it all counts. It all counts. It all counts. I would say people just maybe go into marriage counseling or something. I love the Tinder though. It has the balls, the temerity to suggest that, hey, people are using this for other things. They're just, you know, they want dinner., hey, people are using this for other things.

They're just, you know, they want dinner. They don't want to have coffee alone. Yeah, it's so stupid. Okay, so everyone, just be careful with this. And if you're thinking that you want to cheat, I get it, it's risky, it's exciting, it's the thrill, but you love your partner, you're with them. And if you don't love your partner anymore

and you don't want to have sex with them, either you have two choices. Decide to stick with them and work on it. However, that whatever that means to you. Talk to them about your sex life or you leave them and then you don't cheat. Okay. Unless you have kids and maybe work on it a little harder. Yeah, if you have kids definitely work on it harder.

Cheating is not going to save your relationship. Okay, do you want another sex in the news or should we get any more? If you got another good sex in the news, I don't know why you want it. For those not, for those not. Those are great. Okay, this one is not about cheating actually. This one is for the people who are cheating and they want to know how they can get their partners to have more sex with them.

Couples who share. Who are not cheating. Yeah, if you're not cheating yet, but you're thinking about it. Couples who share chores may have better sex and have sex more often. Now, we've been hearing this for years. There's always a lot of studies that come out that guys who do housework are found more attractive by their partners blah, blah, blah. But a new study from University of Alberta found

that male female couples had better and more frequent sex when men chipped in with the chores. The findings revealed that when a man felt he was making fair contributions to household chores, a couple had more sex, and each partner reported more sexual satisfaction. And it's not just because the men, the women like want to see their husband there pushing a swifter or they think it's

hot. It's more that they feel that he's sharing their responsibilities. That's swifter. They don't think it's hot. It's manipulation. My wife does it all the time. What? It looks so hot when you're doing the laundry. I know you don't think I look hot. You just like me doing it instead of you. No, but here's the thing. It enhances it because it seems it's about respect because when the housework, if a woman feels or a man feels that their partner is not sharing, pulling their own weight, they feel disrespected. So it's a way of showing respect and it's a way of showing that you're both in it together. We all live really busy lives.

So it's completing housework. They are not being enjoyable, but knowing that a partner is pulling his weight to prevent anger and bitterness or her weight, creating more fertile ground in which a satisfying sexual encounter may occur. Because the truth is that ambiguity in division of household responsibilities between working couples often results in ongoing negotiations, resentment, and tension. And when you resent your partner and you've tension, it builds and builds and builds. And then you don't know how to diffuse it because it's built. And you don't even remember that's because they didn't take the trash out.

You don't even know why you're pissed anymore. Right. So this is why I hear you going towards like having a list on the fridge where like you figure out who does what chores. You think it's a chore wheel? Let's not do that. No, that's a chore wheel. That it's a summer camp. I thought that because you were talking about how ambiguous it is and who does what you're not to that. No, that's not a chore well that it's summer camp. I thought that you were talking about swipes the cap and that is and who does

what and like keeping track. All right. I wasn't saying that. Okay. Good. I was just like jet lag. I'm sorry. Okay. Okay. Okay. This is a disclaimer. Anderson has jet lagging and and he's not responsible for anything he says tonight. Nothing. I'm going to start yelling the

N word now. So is the number I see basically I should ring the basically button. I will. But the newer findings reinforce the importance of sharing the mundane parts of life in order to share the exceptional ones. So rather than avoiding chores in the hopes of having more sex, just do more chores. Make sense. Especially if that chore is taking your pants off.

Exactly. And then she swallows her semen and then she's not to pass it. And then she's going to have to move. They all worked together. This is up in Alberta too So there's a lot a lot more chores with old snow Banks and you're so lucky to do it that like growing up Michigan It was like ever got to go we had a bringing shovel snow. I spent a lot of time in Canada You did my mom's from Canada. I used to go back every summer

Every summer I go to exactly did you want to do you know what I had to do through college? Michigan that I would come out at college You know, I I just but no there were times where I couldn't even find my car because there was 15 inches of snow on it And then finally I would find it and then you'd chip away always and ice pick in the car There's been like maybe a dozen because I born and raised in California Southern California. There's maybe a dozen times in my life. I've come out to my car like all my way to, this is back when I was going to high school and I had to get up early and my window was like, you know, kind of frozen over.

It's a fear, furious. Maybe 12 times in my life. Okay. I go inside and even know what to do. I'm getting like hot water and pouring it. Yeah, you don't want to do it. So I had to do this every single day of my life when I started driving at 16 in Michigan.

That's why I'm in California. We want to think of it. It's nails bitch. I have a tough bitch. Your rain's never like freaks out. Mm-hmm. It's crazy You freak out. I've seen you freak out in the rain. All right. Everyone freaks out in the rain I don't forget the rain. I can drive in a rain dude. You should see me. I can do donuts in the snow I want to see you do don't I'm a killer driver. I really kind of cards you drive back then Oh God picking like an umpala. You're gonna laugh so hard. Nova? No, it was the worst car.

A duster. Well, my first car was a Pontiac somber, but it was like a really like nine-something. Like a white one. No, no, no, like an ugly Pont, not even a somber, like a Pontiac, it was too toned. Okay. It was really ugly. But then the next car I had, which I had for eight years, was a geoprism. Do you remember geoprism?

A boxy. It was made by Pontiac, and it was made by, oh God, Honda, I guess. So it was like a mixture, so we lived in Michigan. So my dad wanted me by America, my mom wanted me by Ford and I wanted a foreign car. Anyway, geoprism, I drove that car to California to San Francisco when I was 21 when I graduated from college.

I didn't know anybody got my car drove out. So it's such a bad car. Like it's this little dinky car it was red. And when I got there, I had it for six more years. And I had like the high powered job is working for the mayor. And my friend one day said, doesn't I thought just rental car agencies had geos?

Like, is that even a thing? So that was my car. And when I got there, I sold all the snow stuff in it, like the scrapers. I mean, I had it forever. I mean, I had it for like 10 years. So that's the car I drove. Did you ever get rid of that stuff?

Or did that stuff go with the car? I think I sold it with a car, fine. You drove out here, no friends, no contact. I didn't know anybody. Hey, I'm, what? What were you running from? That's what my brother says. What were you running from?

He's like, you ran away. I just didn't want to live in Michigan with a snow anymore. I wanted to, yes, I wanted to move to San Francisco, July. It's kind of a funny time to run from a snowm. Well, I graduated from college in June. And then in July, my mom was away in Italy for birthday. Who?

This person you're running away from? No, one funny thing is that my boyfriend at the time actually drove with me halfway. Really, did he know the plans? Or did you think you were just going on like a week vacation? No, he knew. And I was so type A that I- You were?

I really wanted to work in politics, which is why I moved there. And I love that. I love doors and camping and hiking and running. But it was the year of the woman, Barbara Boxer, Diane Feinstein, everyone running for politics, running that year. So I drove, I was like, I have to get a job. I have to get a job.

I really was so anal-bucketing, a really good job on college. And I drove there in three days from Michigan. That's fine. Like, people would stop at the park, so I might see things. They take people three days to get up to Seattle. Yeah, three days. I was like, I gotta get there. I just graduated, I got a job of so crazy.

You're a poor boyfriend. And then I, um, no, yeah. And then I flew him back to Chicago. I never talked to him again. But, um, did you fly him back? I did fly him back. 21 year old Emma, how'd you do that? What was like, one way to take it to Chicago,

and I wanted to thank him for driving with me. Okay, all right. Yeah, Chicago's cheap place took good care of me. It's a hub. No, I was trying wanted to thank him for driving with me. Yeah, Chicago's a cheap place to go. It's a hub. No, I was trying to be nice. He flew with me. I just seemed expensive for 21-year-old no-friend Emily driving onto California.

I just thought it was nice, because he actually drove with me mostly to California. I just can't imagine you had money there. I didn't, but I was like, well, I'll do that if you drive with me. Turn a couple tricks. Get enough money for playing. I what?

Turn a couple tricks. No. No, but that's what I did. It was like a hundred, then you could, I don't know. I guess I'm trying that if you dare with me. Get enough money for playing. I what? Turn a couple tricks. No. No, but that's what I did. It was like, 100, then you could, I don't know. I guess, I'm trying to think how I did it. Maybe I could split it. I don't forget, remember? I don't remember.

Maybe you're waiting for it. Maybe if we got up on the phone right now, he's like, fuck that bitch. I paid for it. No, okay. So the deal is I got to get, why are we doing talking about this? I don't know.

He was fine. I'm so sorry. I did have sex with him. I'm way there. You want to hear about that? In the prism? Oh, dude, I would have dead shows in the prism. It was a, I used to go to dead shows. Good that? Okay. In the prison? Oh, dude, I would have dead shows in the prison. It was a, I used to go to dead shows.

Great, well, dead shows. It was a hatchback. I would sleep in the prison and have sex with my boyfriend at the time, but they could make a bed in there. Yeah, I did a lot of things. The squares car at that festival. That great, it was.

It was, it was not a cool car. I didn't know it was a car. I thought it was a car, man. I'm not a car person. Like, I don't care if I'm cool or not. I can see, you look really cool in your mini. Tell you that. It's so old and scratched up if you look closely.

Everyone's like, that's so you. And I'm like, yeah, because I'm small, but then it's like, the car's a mess. I really would like a new mini. Okay. But master, what? Oh, yeah, no, here's something I have to tell you all. Real quick, before I get emails.

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He disappeared. You walk out with him, you got stand, and then the next thing, you know, no stand here. Oh, you saw the video. You're one. You're one. I couldn't hold him the whole time. Sex toys.

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So did you really do real with the drill hole? Oh, I did, dude. I had a boyfriend do it at the time. It was just like five years ago in San Francisco. I was like, do you mind? I just want to plug in all the time. And then you're like, you know what? This drill works just as well as him as the thing that you were trying to plug in.

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in. It was like, no, I don't have nice furniture. It was like something that I got it like the thrift store. It's not even insult to that guy, a little bit. With the guy I was dating? Yeah, I'm all four people bringing in toys. He knew he's a drill. I think that guys who get all offended

and threatened when a girl wants to bring a toy into the bedroom is ridiculous. But if you're like, hey, make sure this thing's always plugged in by drilling through my freaking furniture. I tried to sell it when I moved to LA, and it was like, oh, sorry, there's a hole in the back. It's such, it was not a really nice night's dam. It was like 20 bucks, the flea market. Okay, when I moved L.A. and it was like, oh, sorry, there's a hole in the back. It's such, it was not a really nice, nice stand. It was like 20 bucks in the flea market.

Okay, but I did that, but hey, Emily, so I have this problem with masturbation. I can't do it. And it's not because I'm approved about it or anything like that. Believe me, I've tried. I just can't make it feel good. I don't know if I've got my head too much, but I'm not exciting or good when someone else is touching you. Oh, it's not as exciting or good like when someone else is touching you. It's just myself So I never really get anywhere. I've been having sex for eight years But I realize it every time someone asks me what feels good or ask me to show them what would feel good

I have no idea if I can't do it myself. How can I tell or show someone else what I like? You know, what do I do sign Lauren? Oh can I tell or show someone else what I like? You know, what do I do? Sign Lauren. Oh, I'm 28, I live in Pittsburgh, and listen to the podcast on my iPhone. I listen to all the older episodes too. Sometimes I listen to five or six a day.

Go penguins. Oh my god, Lauren, you rock. Thank you for listening, and I want to help you here, honey. So you totally hit the nail med. You can't explain to another person how to make yourself feel good when you don't have the formula down yourself.

You just can't lie about it, you can't, whatever, because you don't know. And it feels like she's falling into that trap that a lot of women believe someday my prince will come and so will I. It's not gonna happen. Until you figure out what you like and what makes you feel good.

But I totally understand that now you've built this up in your head that it's hard for you to get in your room and do it yourself and it doesn't feel good. So let me give you a few tips. Okay, first your homework is to master it. I'm going to charge you with that, but I'm going to make it fun for you. Okay, I'm going to tell you steps to make it easier. The first thing you have to do is eliminate all distractions, which I actually believe is a huge source of trouble for a lot of couples and individuals who just don't have as much sex as they live. So what I mean by the as they like, we love multitasking as women, we pride ourselves, we can do five or six activities at once, it's all good. But you need to turn off your cell phone, you need to lock your door if you have roommates, you need to eliminate all the debilitating distractions, get rid of the papers, the laundry, everything in your room,

because you won't be able to relax. So just know that you're, what? You gotta focus. You gotta focus. And you can't focus for like, is my neighbor coming home, or my roommate coming in? Or if you're a lady, you can't multitask.

So you gotta focus on one thing. So create a sexy space. The environment has a huge impact on your state of mind. So make sure that your surroundings are like sexy. You know, make a sexy scenario. And this is about seducing yourself because that's essentially what you're doing here. You're staging a self-seduction.

So again, you remove the clutter, the works, you know, all your work stuff and light some candles. Like think about what you do if a guy was coming over that you wanted your boyfriend, but it's really just you. You deserve all of this. So, comfortable sheets on your bed. Oh, by the way, speaking of sheets.

Remember those bowling branch sheets I talked about a few weeks ago? Yeah, I run for our left. Okay, dude. You have them? They're friggin' amazing. Everyone was at my whole team, was at my house today,

because we were shooting some videos and we were just working down at my home because it was a good time. And I was like, you guys just feel them. They do get softer with every watch. And they're like, oh my god, and they all got in my bed. We did a funny Instagram video because they just loved my sheets,

all six of the women in my office. I missed that Instagram. We haven't posted yet, it was hilarious. But if you guys, these sheets are awesome. So go to Bull and Branch. I don't remember what my code is. Maybe it's Emily or something. Or something like that.

Because it's really cool. B-O-L-L. And Branch and code Emily and I love them. So anyway, get a glass of wine. And then you have to turn yourself on. So just getting them, okay, I'm here. Fine, I'll let some candles. You have to think erotic thoughts.

Now Anderson, this might come as a surprise for you to you, but a lot of women have a hard time fantasizing. I'm well aware. Okay, you are. So a lot of them are like, I don't fantasize. I don't know. It makes you feel good. So this is part of your homework. porn, great way, a lot of men and women, you know, use porn. So just start, you know, start from around seeing what turns you on. If that makes you feel uncomfortable, you can just start to fantasize and think about like, it's an important skill to cultivate. You can start by just thinking about, you know, what was it time, you know, pros your own bank bank, your own memories to make your own bank bank. What was the time that you were really turned on? Can you think of it like

the best sets you had and why and how it felt like get yourself into that mindset? So start thinking about it could be, or you could read Arotica, you can listen to Arotica. I mean, I'm not sure we all get turned on in different ways. So do that also if you need to buy some toys. I talk about great toys on the show and you just gotta make sure that you're de-stressed, you can take a shower. Then you have to start to touch yourself, okay? And breathe.

Also one thing is breathing. Breathe stress is a huge killer of our sex drive and a reason why you might not be getting yourself into the bedroom. So do a few deep breaths. Let's have it few hold our breath when we're massivating, so just breathe. And then if your hands aren't doing it, again, get a toy, use loot, what? Drink some water. I can feel you need water.

You're getting so worked up with it as advice. You're like thirsty, like a boxer, a prized fighter. I am so thirsty. It's hot in here too. And I forgot to breathe, but I didn't breathe. Every time Emily comes in here too. Well, that's good. You're in here But I didn't breathe every time Emily comes in here. She first thing she does is crank the heat So you want to also experience I'm gonna I'm gonna hop you on here one more thing I want to tell you is that you really want to experiment first of all use lube I don't know if you use lube when you masturbate

It is so important that you just start like touching your body all over practice with different, you know Then you just start like touching your body all over practice with different, you know Pressures with your fingers and your clitoris on your breast go fast go slow do circles do your labia I mean just like play around and you all if you've been listening to the show You've heard the story about my friend who spent 30 days trying to have an orgasm Every single night for 30 days and it wasn't until like day 26 that you finally had one So this might happen not not happen right away. So don't think of this as like it didn't happen, I'm done. Just like anything that's worth happening in life,

it takes work. And she had a shampoo bottle up her butt, wouldn't that happen? No, she did not. So Lauren, this is what I'm saying, easy into it. Here's a new plan for you. Don't get stressed out by it. Create all these ways to destress and have a good time.

Let me know how it goes. Hey, she can also lay in her hand until it goes to sleep. And then it doesn't feel like her own hand, so it'll feel like somebody else. I heard that, that's for dudes. No, but she said she doesn't like it if it's her own hand touching. It was a vibrator.

What? There's so many great vibes. Jesus, okay. Hi, Emily. My name is Amber. I'm 26 from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Hey! They're both from Pittsburgh, no?

Different names, I hope. Yeah, totally. This is Amber. Pittsburgh, that's my team. That's my city. Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Hey, they're both from Pittsburgh, no? Different names, I hope. Yeah, totally, this is Amber. Pittsburgh, that's my team, that's my city. Pittsburgh, go penguins. Go penguins. I got a tattoo with a Pittsburgh penguin. You and another. You have to have this whole show's by your tattoos.

I know, I would cuddle with Sydney Crosby. You don't know who that is, but I do, I love him. You're so does an ad. How are love Stanley? Yeah. Okay, my name is Amber, 26 Pittsburgh. Listen to your podcast, ViTunes. I found your podcast? Yeah. Okay. My name is Amber. 26 Pittsburgh.

Listen to your podcast, ViTunes. I found your podcast a few months ago. I'm a huge fan and I've been bringing through, uh, binging on episodes ever since. I've been dating my wonderful, current boyfriend, seven months now. We have the same pretty high sex drive enjoying sex four to ten times each week, plus additional solo masturbation. Four to ten, quite a range. Yeah. Sometimes when we're having sex,

we'll hit that perfect sweet spot and then have to change his momentum or angle. I asked him about this and he said it's because to him, it hits his sweet spot too, so he adjusts himself so he doesn't come. I get that and I'm appreciative as our sex lasted perfect amount of time for me and he always works to get me off,

but in the moment it can be so frustrating and what girl doesn't want multiple orgasms? Is there anything we can do to keep him moving on that delightful track without orgasming or should I second up and be happy for what I have? Thank you Emily you're amazing I love listening you've already improved my sex life more than you'll ever know Amber. Oh let's see oh I want to add one more thing. How have I also when I asked you guys earlier to submit Your favorite memories. Let me know how I helped your sex life because people are saying I change it like give me one specific thing How I changed yeah, I'm with Amanda. I don't know how you change. Yeah people we say them like I want to know

Yeah, okay, so I love hearing from you Amber sounds like you really have these sex life. You're both getting what you need I Totally get what you're saying about multiple O's because what girl doesn't want that. And Anderson, you get this, right? There's probably certain spots. I don't have multiple O's. No, but there's certain places, spots, positions where you know you're gonna orgasm.

I'm a married man. Dude, so freaking annoying. Yeah, guys have all sorts of tricks to clamp down. Right, so this is what he, this is about him. Sometimes they just stop and go get a sandwich. I mean, you should go lucky. I know, seriously. No, she should feel lucky. Yeah we get a sandwich. I mean, you should go lucky. I know, seriously. No, no, she should feel lucky.

Yeah, a little bit that I mean, he's not actually just ceasing the entire activity and going to watch sports center for a while and then coming back. She's not complaining, but what she's saying is what can we do? So when he gets, do you guys all understand the question here? Coast on the penis, I always say that. Just stop that. So he gets to her sweet spot, which is his sweet spot,

and then he stops. Yeah, because it'll be done. I get it, but here's how he can learn to not come. So she can have multiple orgasms. But he has to do this. This is all in him. I'm actually all ears. I would love to hear your advice.

First of all, he has to breathe outside the bedroom. He's not practices. He's probably doing shallow breathing, which is what a lot of guys do during sex. So when he does like a form of meditation, breath that he can, but this thing gets to practice, he can control the arousal and tension that it leads to ejaculation. But he has to practice it outside the bedroom, which is deep, full breathing.

And while he's doing that, the breathing, he should try the stop start method. During masturbation, he brings himself close to orgasm, like, you know, the point of no return, where he's about to orgasm and then he stops. So he recognizes his ejaculatory control level. He's on the precipice. So he can learn how to control ejaculation.

Also the squeeze method. During intercourse, one of you can squeeze the base of his penis at the exact point that he's with the stop start technique that he learned. And when he's at the brink of orgasm, this will reduce him. Like, reduce his erection through squeezing. He reduces. What? He's going to go a little. This will reduce. Yeah. His erection, he won't get flaccid, but he also will not ejaculate. Well, then he won't be hitting her in the right spot, either if he's all floppy in there.

Well, he can just be hard enough. Maybe he'll get hard right after he comes, okay? He'll let go. Or maybe it's right before, okay? Cagal exercises. I can't emphasize this enough. I mean, really, how much do I love Kegel exercises? On a daily basis, he could do it five minutes a day, he could download my app Kegel Camp, so he doesn't forget. When these muscles become stronger

and they do, it just takes like a month of doing them every day, he can squeeze them during intercourse and that will stop him from ejaculating. But, dude, this is stuff that Amber, he's going to have to do without you. I feel bad for this dude. I, he, because she's going to come out and with all these things and like, Hey, Emily said you have to do this and Emily said you have to do that and I can't all on him.

He's got so much work he's going to do now. But here's the thing Amber, why do you want to go? There's a thing you guys are having a lot of sex. Why don't you guys engage in some mutual masturbation? Because to me, taking sex off the table for where I'll is really hot. So you're really going to want it the next day if you don't have sex this one day. So then you guys can mutually masturbate where you masturbate and he masturbates. But while you're masturbating and watching each other, which is really hot, he's doing his

deep breathing stop start, kind of, like exercises for five, ten minutes. Make it fun. It's like going to the gym. Tell them to do what he's driving in the car. Say, every time you're a traffic light, do him. Now I'm telling you guys, this is not easy. Guys, don't, they won't stick to it. That's why it's really hard to help

man with premature ejaculation. He's not that, this is not his problem. But anytime you've just said a new routine like this, it's hard. Even if it's three days a week, though, there'll be a difference. So that's the only way this is gonna happen here. Or he's, or like Anderson thinks

that you might be being selfish, but I totally understand. I'm not happen here. Or you just, or like Anderson thinks that you might be selfish, but I totally understand. I'm not saying selfish. I'm just saying it seems like the poor kids got a lot of homework. I was like, hey, it's a test to a man. If he doesn't do all the homework that he's being assigned, he doesn't like you. Well, he does like you because I did a guy for him

who was a premature way too long, who was a premature ejaculator. And we read that book, Multi-Orgastic Man, which is like a great book. Which is actually people. You guys think you're right, we're gonna allow to do each other? Here's the problem, he bought it.

He went to see a therapist, he's like, I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it, and he never did for like a year. He did. I was like 10 years ago, but I was like, okay, this is not gonna be better. And he was a premature ejaculator in the sense of like a minute man.

Okay. But I dated for a really long time, because I really liked him, and he pleased me and at the time, I didn't. Refractory period, that was that bad too? You'd take a while to- All of it. Bad times.

The whole thing. You got like a minute of the day if you're lucky. If I was lucky, then you just kept having sex. So what I'm saying is I got frustrated that- But I think the thing is that's why it was a good point. They could do it together. You know what Amber, you should be doing your chaglocker sizes as well. Because then you'll also be able to have multiple orgasms

in your own way that are a lot easier, because chaggle exercises help with that as well. As a guy who can be considered lazy at times, especially with this kind of stuff, I would approach him with, hey, I got something for you and something for me where balls are gonna do these things. And I gotta tell you, and again, not to push

chaggle camp, but I'm just, because whatever, but I do a lot of couples who do it together, and they actually compete, because there's 20 levels to Kegal Camp, and you gotta move through each level. And I have a friend of mine who's in a relationship, and he and his girlfriend would send me the screenshots, like who got to level four, level five.

So that could be like a fun thing for you guys to do together. And then you'll both be having multiple levels. What happens when you get to the new level? Is there like little graphics? Yeah, there's little things that happen, and you got to level 20, it's hard, but you realize you've like kegels of steel. Like I said, I do.

I can start hammer, I can drill my own things into the wall. You don't need that. When we talked about you doing maybe some pottery with an incelinder. I do pot, I walk Stanley actually. No! With his leash and my kegels.

And your keg's separated. That was his favorite walk actually. We have time for one more email before I'm gonna shut you down here. Okay. Why is my nose stuffy? Because is that new? I don't know what's going on man. I'm still, it's like seven in the morning where I'm from right now.

I'm half asleep. Okay. Emily, I've never really enjoyed receiving oral sacs and much prefer penetration. There's only been a few occasions where I've really enjoyed it and maybe once or twice orgasm by it and those were years ago. Now my current partner wants to get better at it and finally make me orgasm via oral but or a bit stock.

I just never enjoyed any tips Fiona. Okay, here's the thing Fiona, not every sex act is for every person. You might just not like it. And many women who are multi orgasmic don't actually enjoy oral, but assuming that's not the case because they're too sensitive. But before I start providing tips for your partner on how to prove his skills, it sounds like you need to work on improving her receiving skills. But first you said if she is multi orgasmic, which is very likely the case,

then it's just never going to be good for her, right? You might never like it. You got to be clear about that. if she is multi orgasmic, which is very likely the case, then it's just never gonna be good for her, right? You might never like it, right? You gotta be clear about that. I'll be clear that some women don't, it just isn't comfortable. It's just because it's too sensitive. Too sensitive.

But I'm gonna assume that's not the case. But you're gonna assume moving forward for this device. But if that is the case, then that's fine, no problem. Just tell them you can't do it. Do other things. But you have to start enjoying receiving. So if you go into anything, like sexual or otherwise with the mindset of like, I don't like it, do other things. But you have to start enjoying receiving. So if you go into anything, like sexual otherwise, with the mindset of like, I don't like it,

it's never been good for me, guess what's gonna happen? You're still not gonna like it, and you're still not gonna wanna do it. So it's important to approach it with an open mind and treat it more like essential act than like your essential act that you then you're like troubleshooting

the problems you had in the past. So learn how to relax in the moment. So this is about breathing, taking your attention, like what you're feeling in your body and not thinking about, I'm not gonna like it. I don't like this, one's gonna be over. So just like relax, chill, breathe, and let him do his thing.

Now, some tips for him. He has to warm you up. I'm sorry, but the anticipation is the best, sometimes the best part about sex. So don't go right for clitoris. This is for your boyfriend. You can tell him this too. Warm her up.

Like massage or inner thighs, rubber, giver massage all over around the clitoris. Don't go right to the clitoris. Women are very different, but you know, when you indirectly stimulate it or when you wait to stimulate it, like rubber over her underwear, leave it on, women like the sensation of the fabric on their skin. It feels amazing.

She might need 10 minutes, but if you guys are just starting on this oral sex track and he's gung out about it, why not take these minutes to get warmed up and go slow. Guys need to go 5 times slower than they think they do, okay? So unless you tell us you differently, start out slowly. Tongue. Once you start licking, the clitoris start off really softly and focus on the clitoral hood. You know where the clitor hood is, right? It's not the clitoris, it's like right above the clitoris.

It's the part you pierce. What? It's the part that you pierce, exactly. You can alternate between wide licks, small licks across the clit, and again, every woman is different. Make sure it's moist. Oh, don't play that. Don't play that.

Yeah, so, and also don't like, you want to, you want to use your fingers, you want to rub the labia. Remember, the clitoris has four inches of roots, legs. There's clitoral legs that extend behind the labia. Pay back for my moist comment. Yeah, I hate when you're talking about the legs. Legs, like clitoris, like cl like winners. And 4,000 nerve endings.

Maybe there's like a G8000. There might be a G-spot thing you could do with your fingers going inside. A lot of women that want to have the literal orgasm first. And here's the other thing. If you have a vibrator that you like, you could use a little literal vibe as well as his tongue just to kind of get into it. Fiona, if that feels good for you, like he could be licking your labia and you could be having a clitoris or vice versa so don't be afraid to play with toys and use lube and just try different things make this fun don't make this like homework and a task this is a good time because you might learn to love it I'm telling you you never stop learning about sex

and having better sex because that just keeps happening to me all the time and I never thought I could have better sex and just in the last month I've had the best sex what really yeah I don't you lead with that. I'm called sex with family for I'm actually telling me just before the show actually that your guy was gone for a couple weeks This is right before I left and I was telling you that I actually Missed Stanley last night. Yeah. More than the guy came back. He's back tonight. I was doing that.

You're like, oh great, but I miss it, Stanley. Which boats, well for the relationship. I'm gonna be excited to see him. He's been on the country. But I actually, I'm gonna get to that and admit it my best sex because it kinda ties into something at the end. But first, because you're right,

I can't just drop that. Okay, you guys, thank you. That's a great show. Anderson, what? It's just, it's like you've been having the best sex of your life. Well, I can't just drop that. Okay, you guys, thank you. That's a great show. And I just said what? It's just, it's like you've been having the best sex of your life. Well, I talked about this. You've been doing this show for 10, F in years.

Best sex of your life in the last month. And you're like, oh, after thought, yeah. No, well, I told you what I've learned with the Sibian. I guess I didn't really get into it, but it's pretty friggin' amazing. Like, I used it with Ross. Was that where we're calling him? Well, that's his name.

He was on my show. Well, we had a show called Guess Who's Having Sacrificed with Emily. And it was the first time it was released when you were gone. It was the first time. There was a three or four, it wasn't what I was gone, by the way, it was where I was. Right, free left.

It was the first time. Did you have three or four people on there? To like, you know, to guess who, which one was the one? No, it was just Ross. Oh, that's a shot, don't it? Oh. You know what I mean? Like, guess what one of these? My next boyfriend, I'll do that. Yeah, you need, to guess who, which one was the one? No, it was just Ross. Oh, that's a shirt, don't it? You know what I mean? Like, guess what? My next boyfriend, I'll do that.

Yeah, you need to dump him immediately so we can do this like in the six months. That's a great idea. That's a great idea. Let's do that next. So I think that he, but we talked about the CB and you, what I was saying, I was called guess who's having sex, sex, family, you could check it out on iTunes.

It was a great show, I thought. But we talked about like using the CB and together because I was like, how much, you know, and just like watching, hey, watching me, the foreplay, and like the different, just the way your body can feel all these different sensations that I've never felt before. And my orgasms are stronger, but it's mostly due to my keglet exercises, why they're stronger. I'm going to get into that in a moment towards the end. I promise I will tell you all.

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So check it out or email us feedback We get a lot of people want to like intern us intern for us You live out of state and we just need people in the office because it's going off and it's a good time You just lie in my bed and my sheets Thank you Anderson. Thank you. Yeah Yeah, and I'm anything new with film ball. I know you were to see a movie at 10 a.m. Because you a jet lag Oh my god. Yeah, it was good to see you and anything new with film ball. I know you were to see movie at 10 a.m Because you would jet lag oh my god. Yeah Yeah, I'm talking about the film book. No, I'm gonna talk about Crimson peak next week

I'm a little bit behind on everything. I saw no movies when I was in Europe. No time to see movies Well, that's good. You were in the cobblestone streets But yeah, new film ball this week. I think it was pretty good one top five Weasley characters like under mining conniving characters So a ball Brian and I had fun with that one and I had some kind of embarrassing movies that I talked about that I saw on the plane and whatnot. It was a little bit of a different episode because I saw movies and I would never really never watch it.

Yeah, it's good. Okay. And it will after the disaster. After the disaster, that one we're going to be smoking Cubans cigars in my backyard talking all about the European trip and I all going to do is bitch. Can I comment that after the disaster, dude? Absolutely. I love you guys. Okay, good. I'll check it out. Can I come up with that after the last hard-do? Absolutely, whenever you want. I love you guys.

Okay, good. I'll check it out. Thank you, Anderson. And thank you, everyone, for listening. Was it good for you? email me. Feedback at sexwithm.le.com. Okay, I'm gonna get into why I'm having better orgasms.

Here's the deal. Okay, I've been talking about the intensity, right? It's the exercise, or it is a kegile exercise, okay? So it is, looks like a rabbit vibe, but it actually does your kegile exercises for you. Now, I told you I have an app called Kegile Camp and I've had it for four years and I really was good when I first got it.

Just like anything, that's why I felt for Amber and her boyfriend because it's like it's hard to stick with something. Every day, it's a time for care. I can't but I wasn't doing it. So this product has changed my sex life because what happens is it, I lie in my bed for 10 minutes a day. It's so relaxing. I literally like sit and meditate. I don't even, I use the vibrator after if I want to have an orgasm, but you put it inside you. It uses electrostimulation. It sounds really weird, but it doesn't hurt at all. And it's massaging your, it's like,

it contracts your vaginal muscles. And so it gets the blood flowing again. And so it perfectly targets your G-spot and your clitoris will use it, and you can get it so you can use the inflation button. So it perfectly fits snugly against your muscles. You can tell how to use it. And it combines pleasure with pelvic floor toning.

And it improves your overall sexual satisfaction. So I use it every single day for a month, like religiously, which again is really hard for me to stick to a new routine. And I, my kegels, I'm not just joking, are the strongest they've ever been, that I had this crazy orgasm during intercourse that I've never I've never experienced this kind of blended and because I was using my kegels because they're so strong right now I was squeezing them in a way that I've squeezed them

before Anderson poor Ross poor Ross are you freaking kidding me? Ross is like yeah I did this enough he's if he hears this. I'm sorry Ross you did no he's so hot. It's did this enough. If he hears this. I'm sorry, Ross, you did. No, he's so hot. It's all about the keg, old fucking exercise. I'm sorry it was. So it's just change it. And also I have to say when he did go down, I mean once, and use his fingers,

which I typically don't like, this is the way more information, that also gave me a killer other kind of orgasm because the muscles are so strong that effect that also impacts your ability to have a G-spot orgasm. This is not BS. And the fact that I don't even have to do much is either or something. I have a GI known.

It does it. The intensity. Go to PORMOI.com, POURM.OI. Um, dot com and check it out because it's freaking crazy. Oh, and if you want to worry about it, you're like, what the hell is she talking about? I'm a website. There's sex, Tory view, intense, and unplugged is what it's called. Also the flashlight, let me show you real quick.

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So there's no end like so you can just ejaculate into her mouth while she's giving you a hand job or blow job so it's like fits in her hand. It's the coolest thing ever. They told me about it months ago. I was like, what the clip shot, but it's the quick shot. It's awesome. So no matter if you use a regular flashlight or the quick shot, you'll be on your way to mind-blank orgasms. Go to sexwithemily.com, click on the flashlight banner, use code Emily, and get a free bottle of their award-winning fleshloom. Thanks for listening, love you.