Sex With Emily - Flashback Friday: Love, Marriage, and Spontaneous BJ's with Lynette Carolla

Episode Date: November 4, 2016

When it comes to married sex versus single sex, is the grass really greener on the single side? In this throwback show from March 2015, Emily welcomes friend and fellow podcaster (not to mention wife and mother of two) Lynette Carolla. She and Emily share their candid opinions on sex, marriage and single-person envy. Plus, after 20 years with the same man, Lynette knows a little something about keeping the sex hot, and is ready to share her wisdom.   Whether you’re single, married or stuck somewhere in between, this classic show has the advice you need to get your perfect sex life started and keep it hot.. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we've got Lynette Corolla in the studio. She's hosted the hilarious and popular podcast for Crying Out Loud. She's a wife and mother of two and her podcast covers a lot of these issues in a very light informal way. Today we're talking about how to keep sex alive in a long-term relationship, marriage, sex tips, and so much more, and read some of your emails. So thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. much more and read some of your emails, so thanks for listening to Sex with Emily! There's just something about the fall that makes me feel like cuddling up with an old friend. And hey, you guys might have some fun memories too. Yes, I'm talking about the Intensity by Pormaw.

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And we're so happy to hear you. And I just want to thank everyone for listening. I'm just being very heart-felt lately, minus, because we are coming up at our 10th year. Wow, 10 years in here. And I just feel like I've been just doing a lot of thinking about that and how grateful I am that I have listeners and that people like the show,

and that it's continued, and we can make the living. How do I put up with you for 10 years? I do not know. I can't decide if you'd like me more or less. I think we're just like brother and sister. I know. So I want to shout out. I got somebody on Twitter. I think his name's Jair on Twitter.

OK. Says that he loves me on the show. So thank you for tweeting me. I'm saying that you love me on the show. Thank you for loving me. And he called you M, which I, that's what I keep you in my phone as M. You do? Anybody ever wants you,

well, wants your phone number and they find my phone. You're under M. Okay, good to know. Blood make my friends call me M. Yeah. You've always had me as M like our new other M. Yeah, just M. That's it.

Okay, I feel like that's a term of a deerment. That's my friends call me M. Yeah. And so you're all my buddies. So when you email me, you can be like, deer M, people do that sometimes. It, I feel like that's a term of a darement. That's what my friends call me on. Yeah. And so you're all my buddies. So when you email me, you can like dare. I'm people do that sometimes. It makes me feel good and warm

and fuzzy. So it's great to see you. And I want to tell you, minutes today, Sean, I'm really excited. We have a great gas line that Corolla is here. And the husband of Adam, Corolla, people have heard of.

I don't think she's the husband. Husband wife. I think she's the wife. She's the wife, actually. She's just what she's beautiful. She's walked in. OK, but I want to tell you, menace that I'm glad we're here because I had two near-death experiences

in one week. What? What happened? Dude, well, first I walked on fire. Where? I was in Las Vegas. I mean, Las Vegas. You were probably in Las Vegas.

I was in, of course. I was in New York. I went to a Tony Robbins seminar. Do you know Tony Robbins? Yes. OK okay I've always wanted to go because I've a lot of friends who've been very successful in business and like the minute before they went on to make a billion dollars and be successful and I saw them change a lot by what I know people the motivation it really moved me it was four days twelve hours a day but the first night you walk across

Hot Coals. Are you serious? I swear to God and you put it like, he put you in this. I mean, his whole thing is about not just like positive mindset or motivation. It's about changing your state and how if we change the way like our body has so much, our emotions, create our emotions and it was just all this stuff. So we trained like to go on fire to walk, like you say, this thing and you stand up straight and you breathe, we did a meditation, I walked across fire.

Wow. It was really cool. Please, you got on tape somewhere. I know, but it was dark and cold and snowy. It was like, it was 7,000 people in the conference. Wow. But I was like the first 10 roads. So it was, it was pretty cool.

I walked across the fire. That's amazing. I know, isn't that cool? Yeah. I know, it's like, Julie's like, you, Dr. Drew, you're like I walked a fire. That's amazing. I know. Isn't that cool? Yeah. I know.

It's like, you definitely was like, you did what? That's crazy because he's like loves dad everything that I do. I'm like, no, it was it was a life changing life altering. Because before you walked on the fire, you had to give up something. Like you had to find something that you want to work on. It was a really deep intensive like emotional self-help stuff. And it was like, you know, what do you want to give up in your life?

What do you want to change? What's something you're struggling with? And you picked up, you picked something easy, like, knocking married or something like that, right? No, ironically, menace. Thank you for saying that. Is that I, it's funny, because it was one of these things where I usually hate this, like, turn to the person next to you and tell them what you're saying. Like, I don't know you.

But this woman next to me was like a life coach too, not too, I'm not a life coach, but she was like self-hab, and she totally got my jam, and she was like, and I said something like, I can't, I don't know what it was. I'm like, well, I kind of feel like I can't really commit,

and I've got, I don't know what, it wasn't strong enough, and then she kept pushing me, she was, I don't believe you, I don't believe it or thing. And then all of a sudden, I thought, you know, it wasn't strong enough, she goes, and then she kept pushing me, she goes, I don't believe you, I don't believe it her thing. And all of a sudden I thought, you know, I've been really hard time being vulnerable. And I need, I mean, did it any of me on this,

but I was like, I'm, because we were gonna release something when you walked across the fire. So I released the fact that I never vulnerable, and I'm going to learn doing more vulnerable. So I might start crying. On the show today? No, I'm kidding.

Hopefully not. I'm not feeling it right now, but I'm saying that's, and it just, it just inspired me. Well, I made you cry, so before the show today. No, I'm kidding. Hopefully not in the show. I'm not feeling it right now. But I'm saying that's, and it just, it just inspired me. Well, I made you cry. So before the show started, I'm going to go inside before the show started. Emily said, oh, I listened to podcasts that we did in 2011.

And we were much more funnier than. But I, and I think there were more funnier than because I would make fun of you. But then you would cry and say that I was. I never cried. It was only when we had guests or we were shooting our bravo show and men This was like bravo is here. I'm gonna really trash you and it was like things you never said to me and it was rude and I never cried Oh, you always called me out on that saying that I played Whenever you did play it with the cameras which worked because they loved you and putting your freeing up So he trashed me. So they're like, oh, it's reality TV

Well, that's what they. But I did that on. I'm not saying you were fun. You're in bed. Actually, you heard the right. I said it was interesting because okay, we've got 2,500 podcasts. And that's a lot. And there's a lot of them that aren't on iTunes. You can go now. There's 200 and something, but they give you a limit as they should. And so people can download it, but I thought, God, some of these are really, we used to do five days a week in our day. And 2011, they were pretty awesome. And I was just laughing. And it wasn't so much that they were funnier.

I didn't say that. I just said it was, we were both at different times in our life. And it was, I was single. You were sitting, I'm always single. But you were single. We were like, Doom, we're social things. And I don't know.

I know where it is. But anyway, check out those throwbacks, because I'm releasing them now. And they're funny. They're like, I don't know. They're interesting. I don't think we're more adult. I guess. I don't I don't feel like I'm adult. Yeah, I neither. But we have a guest. We do the guest. Lynette's Lynette Coral is here.

We already talked about you. Can I just sit? Thank you. Hi, I'm so nice to see you too. I'm so happy to be here. Can I just say men Menace, you cannot be further from a menace. Oh, I was just on the show. She loved it. No, but I'm a huge fan. I listen to the show all the time. Should I put the headphones on? Yeah, if you want.

And I just, I couldn't, I didn't, podcast one. I've never been here. It's amazing. Right. Wow, these things are squeezing it. You can do it. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

I think you can show the ones if you want. No, these are fine. I just didn't know what to expect. And I, Manus, does not know. How did you picture him? I thought I pictured him that age. You're seeing young, you look young. Yeah. You're as young as it used to be.

I know, I know. But now we're like, you're skinny. Like tattoos or something. Oh. Oh, metasing. Yeah. Oh, menacing. Yeah. Oh, yeah, it's the name. Right.

That's menacing. He's like kind of a god of truth to me, by the way. Oh, man. Oh, we were just talking. This is funny, because you want me to explain it? Yeah, go ahead. Actually, I don't know if you know this, but there's this guy named Adam Kurola, right?

No, no, no. No, no, no. There was. So we worked for this company called CBS, and they launched a bunch of radio stations called Free FM and there are talk stations. Right. And in 2006.

And I was working on the station and Emily was doing a podcast. I was very popular in iTunes and the bosses there were like, we should put this girl on air even though she has zero broadcast experience. Never been in a radio station in my life. But you were podcasting. I know, it's a podcast. It's a podcast. It's a scene, right?

No, no, no, no. There's a different kind of radio station. I can't say masturbation. I mean, five minutes, you can't say cock, you know. Yeah, I was jerking off and all that. Right, right. And so they're like, hey, you know, can you look after, you know, this woman that wants to do it?

Yeah, the word board and make sure, you know, she doesn He worked the board. Yeah, the work board and make sure you know she doesn't get the license taken away. And then which I would have a hard tack every five seconds and have to dump her out when she would say, I can't say blowjob on there. I would say it on there. She would say it on the air. Why are you dumping me?

I can't say blowjob so she would say it twice. That's a wrecky. I would like to literally love your life, Ms. Rubble. Yeah, this is the first month or two. First. Anyway, so that's everything. It was really cool because I started

the hardcast and no 2006 and he was like a young, young lad. He just sleeping at the station because he was like living in his heart. That was right after you were living in your heart.

Yeah, I'm amazing to see how much he's no one. I was doing a morning show before that and I thought it would last forever. he's no one I was doing a morning show before that and I Thought it would last forever. What morning show? It was called the doghouse morning show in San Francisco. Okay, but Adam was on Free a fan for the morning show every day Yeah, he was indicated every city. I was just in San Francisco. So it's Saturday nights 11 to 2 So okay, so what happened was I thought you know

Yeah, I was the young kid. I thought Morning Show's last forever. I wish I don't. And I got fired. And then I didn't save any of my money. And I got that job at CVS where I was working part-time, making no money. So I'd be out to sleep at the store. I'm just thinking,

because I'm impressed by how he's the hardest work I know. Anyway, that's how he met. Okay. And we didn't talk the morning, so no. We didn't talk the first few years, because we just did the radio. And then we came friends and then, there's been eight years that you've been together. You it very nice. Oh thank you. I don't know this

Adam guy you guys keep. You guys. I love I'm so glad that you've and I've been your show for crying out loud. We talked about your podcast. Yeah people can find it at mcola.com. Is that where you send. Yeah, you just go toCarola.com and you look at the other shows and it's up there. Just click on for crying out loud. Okay, yeah. Cool, so what's it all about? Everything, well, it's, my co-host is Stephanie Wilder Taylor. She was sort of like the first mommy blogger

that was like drinking and getting drunk at like nap time. And one of her first book was the best-selling book was Cippy Cups or Not for Shardinay. And she's just a funny, you know, author writes books. She has a new book coming out, Gummy Bear is something she's going to kill me, oh my god. But she's great, and we got together, and Adam, you know, was doing his shows, and we were sort of building a network. And so we talk about, you know, most of the time, I mean, not most of the time, but we try to keep it like family, family. Except for when I came behind. Except for when, that's part of it, though.

We talk about relationships and marriages. And, you know, we talk about everything, you know, kids and other people's marriages and relationships. So you're really open to, and it's very like, about everything, you know, kids and other people's marriages and relationships. So you're really open to, and it's very like, like, relax and give, you know, good advice and talk about your share of your experiences where I think we all learn from each other. Right, right, right.

Yeah, so. That's a good time. Yeah, it's I was on her show, actually. Oh, that's cool. And we had to have... Have you felt it, you made it filthy? I did make it filthy. Yeah, I was.

Are you talking about, she spots it? Yeah, we go, you know, we go filthy sometimes, but yeah, no, I wanted Emily on our show because she's done what she's with love line, you know, drew and I just thought she was, you know, he moved out here from San Francisco and it's just like, she's just a, you know, interesting person.

I was like talking to her. I know. Well, I also like talking about sex too. I know, good. Well, that's why you're here. I mean, 20 years with the same person. I know. Can we like talking about sex to that good. Well, that's why you're here for I mean 20 years with the same person I know okay, yeah, we can talk Yeah 20 years 20 years

About about 20 years coming on in December and yeah, yeah, so With what we broke up. I mean for about a almost a year. And my heart was broken. Before you got married. Well, we got engaged. And we got engaged. And it was because I wanted to get engaged. And it was right when he started doing, it was right when at the height of the man show. And he'd never experienced, and I met him before.

I met him right before, right, three months into love line is when I met him. Oh, okay. So he's still living in apartments, still living driving his crappy car and all that kind of stuff. And we were together then. And then as he got, as we went on, he got successful and he wanted to see what life was like. Like, as a single guy.

And I was like, let's get married, let's get married. It's been, you's been four years now. And even Jimmy Kimmel, his best friend, who was married at the time and had two small children, was, you know, he's a big family guy, Jimmy Kimmel. So Jimmy was telling him, like, what's going on? When he get married and then drew his other partner, he was like, what's going on?

So he's in between two family guys, and I'm like, yeah, and I'm like best friends with Mrs. Kimmel and Mrs. Drew and, you know, you're like family. So like, let's get married. And even Jimmy's wife found the wedding ring that I still wear to this date, actually I'm not wearing it right now.

It broke, but. I got out of a gumball machine, but that was the appointment money. Yeah, it's the appointment. And anyway, so they kind of, he got pushed into it. And so we got engaged, but he wasn't ready. She was like, I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm going to go to the lock and he opened the door for me and he just started crying and I was like what's the matter?

And he said, you know, I can't I can't I can't get married He just went on a trip with Drew And he was talking to Drew about it and Drew said you have to let her go you can't because you know Juggies are throwing themselves at him. Yeah, you know at the time They're a big question. How was he at the time? He was like 36 or something. Okay. He was a huge television show. Oh, yeah.

Big at the time. And he listened. He was a contractor. He didn't get famous until he was 31. And, you know, he didn't experience anything as a single guy. So he was, because he was just, so he wasn't getting laid. He wasn't getting laid. Right. I mean, he was getting late by me

But before you he had me right. Yeah, he wasn't a lady's man. He's like, right But he was not a lady's man. He always had just one girlfriend at a time kind of thing So Drew said you got to let her go dude. You can't you're gonna this. She's too, you know You don't do this to her and he came home from that trip with Drew, and he started crying, and he said, I gotta, and I started, I was like on the floor, I like, I feel like I'm gonna throw up. That kind of slight just, coming out of your desk.

Yeah, just couldn't, I remember I went over to Jimmy's house. I couldn't sleep in the house that night, and I went over to Jimmy's house, and Gina was hugging, and I was crying, and I'll never forget Jimmy walked in and he was like, I'm sorry, he didn't know what to say. He was like, I'm just a solid heart, he goes, I'm sorry. And then he goes, and then two days later,

I was still on the couch crying upset. I was a mess for a long time. And I stayed at Gina and Jimmy's house for a while on their couch and with cousin Sal. And Jimmy came in one night and he goes, ah, you're still with the crying. And he's like listen Lynette, he's not that great. He's like, I'll never forget magic words.

Not that great. That is so funny. All of a sudden I snapped at it. You're like, you're right, you're right. And then how long what happened? Did you start dating you start about nine months I had I got my own place I moved and I never lived by myself. I always had a roommate So it was a whole new thing Gina Kimmel helped me throughout the whole thing

She's God bless her and I started loving being in my own place Coming home I was working at ABC network. I was coming home after work my friends my girlfriends were coming over We were doing bon loads watching survivor Sounds like me oh my god. It was so much fun. That's so fun. So then what did he circle back? Oh did you not talk for those nine months? No, he always had his he always he Stink and talk a little like he would call and say do you need one of my guys to come over and install the shelves in your room or what app? He always kept, yeah. And then around nine months to a year,

he started to come back around and he'd say, on a Friday night, he would say, do you want, I'll come pick up food and come over and we'll watch Boy Meets World together. Because that's what we used to do. Right. And then I'm like, I do. What's going on? Are we gonna to do you want to get married? And he said, yeah, eventually I do.

And then we never talked about marriage again after that for a long time. And then like three or four years later, when the man show ended, he said, you know what? I think it's time we start planning. Well, I said, hey, what's going on? All right, you know, man show's ending whole new world. And he said, yeah, all right, let's start planning winning. And he was, it was the best thing that ever happened to

it. Because he kind of came to it right on his own. Right. He came to it on his own. Nobody pushed him into it. He went and experienced life as a single guy. He dated a model. I know he did. He did. He did. He did. He did. He did a model. And he experienced it. But he always kept in touch with me. And then, if he did what he had to do, which was the best thing. But if you told a broken-hearted Lynette back in 1999, I wouldn't, I mean, I was coming out of my skin crying. My boss would have comedy central on in his office.

So I'd go in his office to cry. And it would be like, man, Joe, Monday night. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. cry and it would be like, man, show Monday. I was commercial. No, man. Anyway, so that's it. But that's a big, but you went on and had you date too. I must say yes. And I hated everybody. I didn't. I know because you just love them.

Well, here I am 20 years later. Okay. Now now I'm thinking, wow, what I should I so excited was I show you like, Jimmy's like, I know. I should have taken advantage. I thinking, wow, what, what, what was I so excited for? I was like, I show you like, do you know what I'm saying? I know. I should have taken advantage. I mean, I, you know, I dated a couple. I didn't really like, no, no, no. Your heart was, my heart was still broken. Right. But, but listen, here's the thing.

The good news is that we, we love each other. And we're still, I think the biggest thing, and I think we talked about this maybe when you were on my show, but the biggest thing I think is important is that we're attracted to each think the biggest thing, and I think we talked about this maybe when you were on my show. But the biggest thing I think is important is that we're attracted to each other. That is huge. That brings everything. Because even if you're mad at the person

and you're like, it's been, you know, just in this funk or whatever, they'll be a time where he walks by or she walks by and they're like, oh. It's, let's get it on. And then you get it on and you start to feel connected again. Exactly. That's what that is really important. I always tell couples if you don't, people are like,

oh, it's very common for couples to be like, we're not trying to do it to each other anymore. We can't really, we're not having sex. I'm like, well, did you have it at the beginning? And there's a lot of couples who say, no, we never did. I'm like, well, then, there's nothing to get back. But if you have it and you maintain it, and you prioritize it, you're good. You got the attraction. Because you need the attraction. You need it.

And he's my type. He was always my type. And what is that like type? Like, just tall, first of all, extremely intelligent, you know, funny, all girls say that. But I'll say tall, funny. Yeah. But just I like that Jew. I thought say tall funny. Yeah, but I like that Jew. I thought he was Jewish. I'm full blooded Italian. I thought he was Jewish. Name's Adam. He had a Jew fro. I made a Jewish for like a week and he's like, no, I'm not you. I'm not a little Italian. And I was like, oh, really? I was let down. But yeah, so that's the thing. You got to be you have to be a track. So we had we were attracted to each other then, still track.

Attracted to each other. That's good. But keeping it like, do you guys make efforts to keep that up? I mean, we do. And he knows that, obviously, by working next to Drew for 12 years on Love Line, he knows what you have to do. So he'll say, if it's been a while, I'll say you want to go on date night, Saturday. Let's go make reservations for Morton's, you know, so he'll say, you know, if it's been a while, he'll say you want to go on date night, you know, Saturday, you know, let's go make reservations for Morton's

takeouts or whatever, you know. It's important that you've two kids is going. And I never turned down a blow job ever. Really? I always, that was like my thing. I can't believe I'm saying this. No, it's fine. It's going to kill me.

Yeah, I've never, yeah. Never turned it down, meaning he offers US penis and you never say no thanks. Well, yeah, it's even. Right. No thanks, all of the same. No thanks, all the same. Yeah, I've always, I don't know.

No, that's good. I feel the same way. I mean, I haven't been in a long-term, well, two-nek years. Never been. She's never even lived with a guy. I never wanted to. No, I kind of, I'm envious. Listen, you die. I'm envious of that. I know, I know. It's like I go back and guy. I never wanted to. No, I kind of, I can envy you. Listen, you don't, I'm envious of that.

I know, I know. It's like I go back and forth, but it's true. I feel like we used to joke years ago about how you get married and there goes your last blowjob. You know, everyone jokes about it. And I think you have to. What's up with DL? You keep it bringing blowjob.

You have the sex. It's like, I always say it's like going to the, yeah, I've said this so much lately, but I'm like, it's like going to the gym. Like, sometimes it's harder, or even the sex thing. Blowjob's, I agree, you should do it. it's like going to the gym. Like, sometimes it's harder, or even the sex thing. Blow jobs, I agree. You should do it. And guys should also go down on their partners.

Yeah. But you should just, I mean, how long? 10 minutes? I know. And it's so much better rather than the rejection of it and the rejection of it. Oh, that's bad. Yeah, that's bad. It's not good for a guy.

You can't. I don't know. I just feel like you can't reject. Exactly. I totally agree. Because I was, go ahead, because I have to find another analogy. It's just not about blow jobs, but being together for a few years.

He hasn't had one in a long time. Please. So I have an example from, like, last night. And I want to ask you, since you've been married 20 years, and how do you deal with, maybe things that your partner does that irritate you? Yeah.

Oh, yeah. So my girlfriend is never on time, ever. All right. So I said, we were going to this really exclusive like Food Fire Show last night. Oh, wow. And I was like, yeah, we had to be there at 5.30. Right.

And it's like seven minutes from our house. She goes, OK, OK. I was like, we have to be there at 5.30. Right. And it's like seven minutes from our house. She goes, okay, okay. I was like, we have to be there at 5.30. And of course, take some sweet time. This is a huge issue in relationship. Yeah, yeah. Of course, takes her sweet time. And then we get to the venue

and I seriously, by 30 seconds, somebody was supposed to crawl us to go backstage to go hang out with the band. We miss that window. And then she goes hang out with the band. We missed that window And then she goes we missed the band. I'm like, cuz you're doing your hair I'm late because of you, you know late is it that's like that's like always like my number one? This is flexible, though, you know, yeah, that's your number one pet. Yeah, I You don't work on it. Well, how do you deal?

Okay, yeah, well, I was the late one all the time too, with him. And I think it was date number four where I pulled up late. And he's like, hey, listen, you got to be on time. That's enough. Like, you got to be on time, if I say be here. And with him, you know, with love line and radio. That's right. It's a regiment.

Yeah, so he's like, you know, you got to be here on time. And he's like, you know what, he's right. I have to. It's a regiment. Yeah, so he's like, you know, you got to be here on time. And he's like, you know what, he's right. You, I have to. So I made it a point. He's right. I have to be on time. So I don't know, man. No, no, no, no, I'm going to tell you something.

This is something that I just studied with. I was saying earlier that I went on a, I went to C. Tony Robbins last week. I was in New York for a while. Yeah, it was, it was inspiration. Cool, I walked on fire and I just thought I was going to be vulnerable I was in New York for a while. Yeah, it was inspiration, cool, and I walked on fire, and I decided I was gonna be vulnerable and all the stuff. But the second thing, and I always said I almost died twice, I had a really bad flu.

But that's bad. I want to wrap up that story at the beginning. But the point is, he talked about this stuff about limiting beliefs that you have about yourself, and what are the beliefs that you tell yourself? You could be like, I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm never on time, I can't be on time.

And how do you change those belief patterns? I was talking to a friend of mine who she's like, I've got, she was, I'm always late. I'm a, I don't know what to do about it. And she actually read a book. There's a book, I'll get the name for you. And it's about being late. And she said, we're talking about it. And she said, there's a moment in the book, this thing stuck with her in the book

that says, you decide that you're going to be late. Like you know that moment that you're going to be late. And she said, and she's learned, like she's chronically like our late, like it's a problem. Like she went to support group, like a 12 step point. No, I'm serious. This is a good thing. And she was like, I realized finally, and then I brought it up to her again.

And she was like, last week, she was, oh my god, I thought, excuse, I was about to go to my therapist. I was leaving the house. And then I realized after we talked, she was, I sat down and she was like last week she goes oh my god I thought she was I was about to my therapist I was leaving the house and I realized after we talked she was I sat down and I was like well this would be good time to start crocheting my scarf and then she's like wait I'm gonna get up I'm gonna go and she's like and I was in time and it's like you you make a decision it's a decision you have to make yeah decide and and and still to this day sometimes where we're getting the kids ready and we gotta get in the car and we're going over to somebody's house for dinner

that we're invited to or whatever. And then Adam's like, wheels up six o'clock, you know, get the kids, now I have to get the kids ready and stuff like that. But I can't blame it on the kids, it's me, you know, because I'll say, I'll say, well, the kids, blah, blah, blah, blah, I'll say, listen, you were way, you know, before the kids, you have this problem, so you need to work, but I worked on it.

And so now with kids, even, you know, couple, how did you work on it though, even before the kid sounds like you changed? Well, I had to make a decision because I don't want him to get mad at me. I was like, all right, you know, and he's right. So you make the decision and it feels good, you know. It does feel good.

It does. And then it gets into your DNA. And you start like it gets into your DNA. You start like it gets into the grooves in your brain. And my brother had the same issue with his wife when they first started dating, you know, like 20 years ago. And it was the same thing. People underestimate how much time things are going to take to.

So he's like, you take an hour to get ready. You tell her like she's one of these takes a lot. He's like, so just make sure you get in the shot. And she did it. Like she changed. Not late. So you got to put your foot down. You got to put your foot down, you got to be like, yeah, this is really not like in a joking way,

but it's like this is something that really bothers me. And this is something that's becoming an issue. And if we got it, think tell me what, what are some solutions I have is maybe just realizing it could take you an hour and you know, whatever it is and then see what she says. But I want to dig in deeper though, so that's been married for 20 years.

You know? Well, married like 11. But together. Yeah, in deeper though, so that's been married for 20 years. You know? Well, married like 11, but together. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. But like, how do you deal with pet beefs within? Do you just like straight up tell them like what? There's times where I tell, you know, by now, we've gotten past all that.

It's sort of weird how relationships are, because there was a time where I would sulk and not say anything and hold it in and then I would blow up and he didn't know, you know, or he would sulk and I would say what's wrong. I would know. See, I pick up when he's sulking. He doesn't pick up one on it. Yeah. Right. He's got a little bit of, you know, asperger. Well, no guys. That's what you said. I'm the Howard Stern, right? Yeah. Did he say that? He says someone at Asperger's. I don, guys. That's what you said. I'm the Howard Stern, right? Yeah. Did he say that?

He said someone at Asperger. I don't know if it was Adam. I think it might have been Adam. Yeah. I think you hear the whole Howard Stern film. No. Okay. Yeah.

I didn't have any. Drew was on Howard Stern. He was hosting the wrap-up show. And it was like, I guess there was most popular wrap-up show they've had. And he analyzed every single person that was stirring in the near and what Adam. And I thought he said, asked, well, I'm sure he did ask I'm sure he did I know like being from Kevin and being this has it yeah they don't pick up on emotional cues yeah which is can be hard as a man there we have a lot of emotional oh my god very hard and then when you start seeing it with the kids and stuff he doesn't pick up on you know I

think it's a man thing though too like well with women we don't pick up the signs at all we never we've talked about it some million times how we don't even know if a girl He even likes us or not. I know that's right. I don't know Men got it. You know they got it. Yeah, but For men as pet peeves just you got it. Don't hold it in you got to get it out and then after a while They start knowing each other you start knowing What to do like I know this is happening, he doesn't like it, I gotta fix it.

And then he buys for, you know, he'll come and kiss me, I don't know. Be a little more loving. Whatever it is, do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I want to kiss good night. And you start making it. And I think that men just maybe if you could for you start communicating these things,

they can a direct way with her. I do too, like what I see. But you probably make it seem like whatever. You probably make her feel bad about it more than you do say, hey, listen, this is really something that's bad. Because you know what I do. Dude, I'm just saying. I know you better than anyone.

No, no, I'm just, what I notice that she's upset, I don't know if this is a good or bad thing. I try to fix it. No, diffuse it right away. Like I can tell that she's bad. And then I'll just say, why is she so bad? I'm like, no, I'll say, like, oh, look, there's day girl. Yeah.

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Okay, we're back. Yeah. With this, so we're talking about some medicine to work on communication. I'd like you to come back next week having resolved one We're back. Yeah. With this, so what we're talking about, so medicine needs to work on communication, I'd like you to come back next to be having resolved one issue with her. Okay. That's your assignment. I'm my thing is the late thing, too, because my dad was always late, too. What should I know?

No, people, this is like very common. I mean, this is something you can work on, though. Do you want me to find out the name of the late book, which you read it? I don't like it, because I could use it. I know. I need, yeah. I'm late, too. A little bit. Not. I need, yeah. I'm late too. A little bit.

Not too bad, but I got late here today. But, but another to do with her lateness. No, really late. Like your husband and I are in similar industries, but I mean, like he's like on a way, way higher level, but it's like, yeah, you have to be there on time at this time.

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And then I had some stuff that I wanted to talk to. There's a study that came out. 10 science proven facts about married sex. And I thought, and since you're the long term, I thought we could talk about some of these. All right. OK, and this is actually, a lot of these studies are kind of BS, but this is Kinsey

from the Indiana University, which they do all the top sex studies in there. So I actually give it a little bit of credibility the most. So number one is, the grass is not greener on the single side. So how many times on TV or in movies have we seen a married guy shamed by the bachelor buddy for settling down when he could be playing the field?

Yeah. The fact that married people have more sex and single folks, they say. In the research they confirm this, finding that 61% of singles reported that they haven't sexed within the past year, compared with 18% of married people Well, it depends on who's the single person I know right? Anyway to caught him in like an off month and stuff I mean, I don't think that's the case for you Emily right?

No, I'm yeah, I call it up Yeah, but yeah, I can put it's gonna come off sexist, but a woman can get a woman can get late anytime that they want They can walk outside if they really wanted to but a woman can get late any time that they want. They can walk outside if they really wanted to. If they really wanted to, yeah. But a guy can do that. Yeah, you can. No way.

I'm just getting more confident if you got to be nice for the women when you meet them. If you wanted to, if you wanted to, just like a girl. Right. But you would have to really work at it to make it happen. Like a woman honestly just steps outside and says, Hi, I'm here. I would like to have sex. Yeah. You'll

have. Yeah, that's true. But you'll have people, you know, attend her and everything, speeding it all up. You get it. My friend. Oh, my God. I cannot. I'm meeting my girlfriend. She's a single mom. She's okay. She's a single divorced mom full time works full time. She can't meet. She can't meet anybody. So hard. anybody right so hard and but she'll put in you know that she's all the criteria she is looking for and it's still it's like she'll say look Lynette this is what I have to choose from me you could tell by the pictures that they're not too fast they're very beautiful yeah not gonna work but I just met this woman that showed me her tender profile and it's like sexy pictures of her she's a

nurse she's because. She's a nurse She's because it's just a nurse, right? She doesn't look like that when I see her But these pictures are artsy sexy and I'm thinking now my girlfriend who's saying I'm like look you got to get your She's I'm gonna get to know yeah, there's like a certain I'm dying to be on tender. I would love I would love to be on tender Someone just did oh my cancer was saying that he did a fake profile. He did? Yeah. I could do it for a talk on a show.

It would be funny. It would be fun. I think it's fun. I mean, I didn't. I just can't log in now because it's something happened with my whatever. But I was doing it for a while. I had a fake, I had a blind Tinder date on my show a few months ago.

Right. But that was a year out of here. Yeah. Last time I had a... What about Hinge? Have you heard about Hinge? Yes, Hinge is supposed to be great because Hinge is a dating app that connects you just through Facebook friends only. So you have to have a mutual friend. And then coffee meets bagel, which we've been talking about for a while, but it's now, I feel like more and more people are using that as well.

Where is that? Wow. It's like, it's started in San Francisco a few years ago. I talked to the founder and you're supposed to make a... I don't know, it's so connected. Yeah, I know. Like, she the founder and you're supposed to make a I'm like so connected I like She's like in that like Silicon Valley. Oh, yeah, funny No, like the only way the venture capital is seriously my friends are with the office or my my Team always jokes are like how do you know I'm like well the founder because it's San Francisco

Yeah, I was entertainment. No, I don't give shit. We think what radio tell you are on the Broadway. We are known as TV Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

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No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. I'm teaching my friend in San Francisco today because she's been on everything. And she just said, I think you set up for a lunch or something. Or maybe it's a group. I'm going to butcher this. But it's a site that's been around for a few years.

But apparently, since two people have told me about it in two days, I feel like it's taking a good time. Now there's this other one that's out of San Francisco where the guy has to make like a quarter of a million dollars to even be able to do that. That's just living in San Francisco, right? Wow. Well, you have to, in San Francisco now now you have to make $142,000

of my house. Yeah. Yeah. And did you even think about buying a house? And then San Francisco is, yeah. Yeah. And I, it's beautiful though. Yeah.

That's what Adam and I love to go there. Yeah. Sometimes if we have a romantic getaway, that's a great place to go. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's where I went the whole time. time. Matt, your husband for the first time

at the Starlight Lounge? I was there too, that's where I met him. Because it was CBS or it was GFM and they were bringing in an atom. He was the big name, yeah. They sent him up, it was like a prom photo. He didn't say hi to me, I was so sure he looked down and didn't say hi to anybody.

Walked him in and stood him in front and there's a background that looked like a bad 80s background and made everyone line up and take a photo of us. But he was very nice with talking. Adam was very shy and honestly, in front of people, he's not shy, but it's uncomfortable. It's a little uncomfortable. No, I get it.

If you want to, like, no, you got to meet, like, sit and talk like how we are in a room. Totally. You'll have him on. We'll talk about, you know, what you said, everything about a little uncomfortable. No, I get it. If you want to, like, no, you got to meet, like, sit and talk, like, how we are, like, in a room. Totally. You'll have them on. We'll talk about, you know, what you said, everything about your sex life. Yeah. Okay, so we'll play them clips.

It says, okay, the next one is, on average, married couples will having sex, how frequency, ever, frequently. People always want to know this question, like, what are the, right, number, I mean, I never want to say there's anything that's normal, like, you should have it. It's whatever sex.

Yeah, that's what I want to know, Emily. What do you think? I mean, I think that couples you have more sex more frequently. And then this study says, too, are happier. Like, if it's once a month, it's probably not enough. Right. And I've even said, well, if you both agree to it, but then if you're both agreeing to once a month, then you're not connected.

You need that intimacy. The intimacy is the glue that keeps you together. True. And from being roommates, which I always say. And so this study says, the majority of married couples are having sex a few times per month or once a week. And past research corroborates this,

hitch couples at sex 66 times a year, or a little more than once a week. So it says that, and single people are having a lot less. But I'm wondering, like, because I was thinking like the single, they're maybe they're talking the singles, like, because if they were talking the single, the single is like, we have a lot less. But I'm wondering like, because I was thinking like the single, they're maybe they're talking to singles, like, because if they were talking to singles, the singles like we have a lot less sex. Right. I've singles have it like once every few months. It could have just been in that month.

Because when you're single and then you meet someone new, then you've sex eight times a day. Exactly. So I'm not sure but I believe all of that. Listen, I'm, I'm jealous of the single wife right now. I know. See, it is the grass is always pretty. It's so true. It's interesting. Like, I want my girlfriend to get Hick hooked up. I want to meet her. Yeah.

She'll go out. I want to meet any more single women here. OK. I do. This is my year of not working as much, either. Like having a social life. Yeah. Getting out there.

Getting out there. I mean, I do, but not enough. But so. And you're going to sub dating people that you're not interested in. No, I like this guy now that I'm dating Okay, yeah totally so no, I mean he is a guy that I've been dating casually for Six months around and it's wow. That's a long-term relationship for her

Wow, it's so in so casual. How is casual? What does that mean like you hear from me? We're not yeah, we're not like committed right seeing other people Mm-hmm and Like there's times where you don't hear from him. It means we're not, yeah, we're not like committed, right, seeing other people. And like, there's times where you don't hear from him for a while. Yeah, and then it got a little weird because you can only do that for so, so we were friends first. Right.

And actually, I met him looking for apartments. When I moved here, he was just moving from San Francisco as well. So that was like our connection, like San Francisco. And then we just became friends. And then eventually we slept together. And it was interesting because I clicked, and then I realized it was very casual.

And it was the point where it wasn't consistent. And then I was like feeling like, and I'm so not the girl that I've never had the talk. I've never been. But then I felt like this doesn't even, I actually liked to better bring her friends because you were more open. And now it's like, I know you would date.

That's fine. Just tell me because I'm the kind of person like, let's talk about it. Let's be open and talk. It wasn't as much. But now we heard the weird conversation. did he want to date you more? Did you, I mean, I know. See, this is the thing.

We never talked about it because I just, I didn't. That's the, but now we did. Right. And then we just said then we thought, okay, I mean, it's not, we decided that we're just going to, you know, see what happens. It's evolved more to the sense that. Wait, are you guys going steady now or what?

What's the deal? We're going steady. No, not exactly, but we're more communicative about what we want and if we are seeing it. Because it was kind of like this elusive, but the point is what happened here, and this is what I told him is like, I find I had to be the one that bring up the talk

which I've never done. And it was more of the talk, I'm like, this is the talk, but without like what I know how it's gonna end, it's just that or how I don't have a forwarder on conclusion to this. It's just that you can be like friends with benefits. You can be anything for a while, but all relationships have to move. Like they have to move and you take a vault.

Otherwise, it's just going to be boring. Your friendships evolve, menace and I evolve. It's true, like an old married couple. You know, girlfriends are like, oh, we get closer and closer. That's what's so exciting. But if it's just, we're going to hook up every few weeks. We're not, it gets kind of, you know, it's like Woody Allen said, like, oh, we get closer and closer. That's what's so exciting. But if it just, we're going to hook up every few weeks, we're not, it gets kind of, you know, it's like Woody Allen said, like, you know, relationships have to keep moving

or they're, you know, what do you say? Like, if they're a shark, a dead shark? Wait, oh, he said, he said, he said, um, relationships are like a shark, you have to keep moving. And he said, and what we have on our hands is a dead shark. And he was in the any hall. Anyway, all right, you're still talking like a politician. What was the end result?

The end result of the conversation. that we really like each other and that You know what you're gonna stay how you are. No, we're not We're gonna talk more about what we're figuring out. They're communicating more That's the only way we're communicating more right we weren't communicating because we were just like playing a cool And I'm really busy and I was dating other people and he is too and it's so good happen But I said I said we can't keep doing the same thing. I would like to at least talk about the fact that are you dating?

Am I dating? Are we gonna make plans? And then he wasn't. You know, we should just make a plan. Right, right. I can't look. I can't know why you asked me about this. I know, I'm kidding.

It's fine. The point is it's evolving and I like him and that's all. All right. That was, can we cut that? Yeah. What the hell? I'm trying to think, okay, so let's keep on. Right, for a second later. Dude, hey, Emily, does talking about married,

I probably know the answer. No, I like talking about married, like, bore you. No, I love, okay. Dude, this is what I do for a living, I know. I'm so funny because I'm fascinated, but I feel like I help them pass a lot of people. A lot of people live. We can just, we're swap stories, but I think it's fascinating

and I love helping people, it's funny, because you're like, how are you going to help? What are you, like listen to me tell my like half, whatever story. But I find it fascinating. And I think that I help a lot of people because, and I'm just interested in how people make it work because I actually started this podcast because I was really cynical about relation, I mean, coming from a family divorce and all that stuff. I just thought four divorces. I thought, I'm going to get to the bottom of it.

I want to understand how what makes relationships work and what doesn't. So when it started as a podcast, it was just me interviewing married. Interesting. Yeah, and I'm fascinated by it. Yeah, I'm fascinated by it too. And I think there is a science to it. There is a, you know, it does all come down to communication and sex. If you stop having sex, you were like, oh, it's okay because, you know, we'll get to that after the kids go to college. You've

got to keep it. You've got to give the blow jobs, you've got to get the chemistry. And you've got to work on it. So, okay, the next one was sex is pretty discreetly correlated to satisfaction and marriage. So, men and women, it says, for instance, one study of Australia, note that that men women who are dissatisfied with their frequency of sex were also more likely to express overall lower sexual relationship and satisfaction, which makes sense if you're having less sex. You're not as happy. And I agree sex is a glue.

And it's like, we worry about so many other things like building the deck or where to go in some vacation. But the second you realize that you're not addressing it, it's not going to go away. The sex thing. Like it's that you're not addressing it, it's not gonna go away. The sex thing. Like it's, it's like people think, oh, it'll heal itself. Yeah, no.

No, it's like going to the gym, you know? You sit there and you become middle age and you look at your body and you start going, well, what, you know, I'm getting overweight or whatever. So you gotta go to the gym, you gotta work out, or whatever. You gotta maintain. You gotta maintain.

And, but after you do it, it feels good. So it's like, you gotta work out, or whatever. You gotta maintain. You gotta maintain. And but after you do it, it feels good. So it's like, you kinda realize like, okay, it's been a while, let's have sex. And then after you do it like, we should do that more often. It feels good. And then you go into this thing, or you do it for a little while,

and then you start, you know, he's busy, he's gone, blah, blah, blah. And yeah, I mean, but you're right, it is the glue. It really, it really, it once it goes down to that. I'm sure you were kids too. It was probably hard to get it. Keep it going. Yeah. I mean, with twin boys. Yeah, a boy girl. Oh, boy girl. Okay.

Yeah. They're boys. Yeah. Just because she's like a boy. That's why. Oh my god. I mean, that's, you got your hands full. Right. Yeah. But I always say that it is like one of the gym and then today I was like, I always say that. So what's another analogy? I was thinking about a lot of times people ask me

do you think, you know, go out to concert or meet for dinner. And most, and my first reaction is always like, like, usually it's like, no, can I get out? Like, I don't like making, I've come in around issues. But then I thought, I've never regretted any, like, I do have a lot of regrets, but very rarely have I been like on the fence about something and then I went and I was like, that's soft. I shouldn't have gone out with those, but very rarely have I been on the fence about something and I was like, that's soft.

I shouldn't have gone out with those people. Gone to the gym. Right. Head sex. You're not like, why not? For you to have sex. Right. When you're thinking in your head, say yes.

Say yes to the bow job. Say yes to the sex. It's all a decision. It's boiled decision. It is. In a moment by moment, making decisions that are healthier for your relationship. Right. Can I go back real quick? Yes.

You have to unsaying, I'm fascinated by the single life. Yeah. Now is it just because, is it kind of like if you're watching Sex and the City and you just want to see all the juicy stories, you want to hear about it? No, I'll tell you about it. No, I'll tell you about it. You have my best friend. Well, two of my best.

The closest girls to me are both single. One is, she lives in Malib the closest girls to me are both single. One is she lives in Malibu and she's happy to be single, but she's she's gorgeous and she has I think she has a little bit of intimacy issues and she has a wall, but she doesn't meet anybody though. That's the problem. Like she doesn't she's a Malibu, too. And isolation, yeah. And so it's hard for her. Well, she be like lonely. She doesn't get lonely at all. That's great.

I know. That's the, yeah. She's and she's very close to me and my kid. She loves my kids. So thank God for her. And then my other girlfriend, I grew up with. And I saw her get married. I saw her have her the kid. They had the kid at 18 months. They got a divorce.

He wanted the door. She didn't and he moved on and got, you know, into another relationship quick. And she had like, you know, five years of trying to deal with, oh my God, what, you know, my whole life has changed. All she wanted to do was be a life, her whole life. Like, I just wanna be a mom and a wife.

And she's completely changed. And now she's worked on herself, she went to therapy, she goes to the gym and all that kind of stuff. Her hair is brighter blonde, she's lost weight, she looks great, and now she's completely a different person. She's like, let's go, I wanna go meet people. And I'm with her, I'm excited for her, I want her to meet, and we went to New York,

and we had a blast, and we sat It was a so impromptu. It was one of these things that happened like, oh my God, we, we, that these people, we went to the Howard Stern studios dropped off. Mangria, okay. Oh, Mangria, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, And then we asked them where should we go for happy hour? They said downstairs is Del Fresco. You should go to the restaurant. We went there, we sat there from 4.35 o'clock on a New York rainy day until midnight. And we watched guys come and go and we people watched. And she sat across from me.

And literally there was a group of guys that were talking. There was about five of them in the group. And I said, Suzanne, I turn around and look at these guys. And she turned, and we, not one, that one, a good guy. They were such cool. And then in Satan's, the suits. I love the suits.

It is the suit. It's called my suit guys. If you go, yeah, guys need suits. Go buy a black suit. And so they're all standing there. And then she's like, do they have wedding rings on? And I'm like, well, two of them don't. No, two of them don't.

And then the two that didn't, you know, we kept, then what do you do? At that point, she's like, I don't know what to do. I'm like, just go talk to them. And then, so I don't know, I'm like, like, should I go talk to them? And we didn't. We just sat there and watched.

And we watched guys come and go. And in New York, they're so guys are so different because they're, they seem more genuine. I think that they're, everybody goes to New York because they want to work in the finance industry or, you know, and they want to build a family, they want a family. And people that come here, guys that come here are Peter Pan's, they don't want that. They're the opposite. They want to be They're the opposite.

They want to be a model or whatever. And actor or an executive. I mean, it's, you know, at a network, it's or an agent. It's like, it's a cunt. It's super-fisual and, ugh. And guys in New York, you're just, you know, they're just normal, like, guys. And they ask you out in New York, too.

They're the very direct. Yeah. So did you meet a guy? She met a guy. Yeah, she did. She met a guy and she just had fun. Like she was just talking with him. And she talked to him.

Like I got tired at midnight and I laughed. And she stayed and my other girlfriend was there too. And she just. I'm going to go. I know right next time I'm going to go. I always get my job job. I'm all right over. Start talking to the guys.

No, I just go talking. But so bad that you managed to your question. I'm glad I'm going to go. I always get my job job. Emily, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, My friends do that too. I was like, how's your marriage? Tell me about you. I'm born. Yeah I love hearing about which because I want to like help or listen or anything Right, right, but I want to hear about you because you're having fun Yeah, I am having fun and I just told a really bad story about my guy But because it isn't evolving in a way that I No, but you know, I'm fascinated by house Successful that that you are and how busy you are I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it.

I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it.

I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. I'm so happy to be able to do it. You do. And it's like, and I love like who, who do we know that's open about that? Like totally open, beautiful girl, successful. Hey, here I am, I have a lot of sex. Yeah, I have a lot of sex and a lot of sex toys. And a lot of sex toys. Thank you.

Everything else is fascinating. She's very outgoing and very approachable. Yeah, that too. I think that's what it is too. So guys feel comfortable to ask her out. I mean, I find it exhausting and draining around her more than five hours. But I think that's why I think a lot of, you know,

she's not off-putting, you know? Yeah, I'm like a shug in them too. Definitely, yes, definitely. Where you can find, as a man, you can find a lot of women that off-putting, they seem like they're not even interested to even be around. Well, that's what I'm trying to train my girlfriend, Susanne,

to not look. She's not off, but she's shy. Right. So it's like, don't look, don't look like you're, you know, stop up or whatever, you know. It's practice. So this is like, what do you want me to do? What do I do?

Oh, shit. What do I, what do I, I'm like, just relax. It's so funny because I was just talking to, I feel like all my friends were saying on that, but she was saying the same thing. She was, I think, I think she's beautiful, smart. I think that guys think, and she's beautiful, smart. I think guys think I'm stuck up, and I think guys are in intimidated. She's as sweet as I said.

I knew what you got to do. She was, but I tried it. She told me that she said, I went into Starbucks, and I smiled at some guy. I just smiled, and then he came over and he was like, you're really nice legs. And she's like, I wasn't into him, but I realized that I'm so lost. She doesn't have that kind of life. But I said to her, that's what you got to practice. I want you to five times a day, like when you walk

into a public, they put your phone down, smile. Because men probably think you're not approachable because you're hot and you're like probably have a squashing on your phone. So I think the phones are also. The other thing, don't get up at your phone. Just say hi, smile. And that's, you know, and I actually, one of my things

that I truly, and I've been this way since I was a kid, I love meeting people. Like I can go into a room, my favorite thing is going to party or I don't know anybody, or around by myself. It's interesting. I know, because I just truly, I'm like, who are you? Who's your story? There's no one around me there.

I go, have you met my boyfriend? He's really good to talk to people. I got to worry where he is. You know, no, it's me, no, and I can do whatever. And I just, around me there. I like it. I've met my boyfriend. He's really good to talk to people. I got to worry where he is. You know, no, it's me. No, and I can do whatever and I just I love just store it. People I love connecting. It's like it gives me juice. Yeah. So I think I've always linked up. But people a lot of people aren't and that's just people got to work on it. Right. Put down the phone. Yeah. Put down the phone.

Yeah. Put down the phone. Put down the phone. Yeah. And guys, I mean, what what city does she live in? It's a San Francisco. She lives in LA. Oh, LA. Yeah. The poor single girls. I feel bad for my single friends in LA. I really do. I'm like go to Chicago and meet somebody. No, he loves Chicago. I love Chicago. Well, I always saw my buddies also who live here on the coast like they have problems also with the meaning women. I'm like, dude, travel to like the Midwest or something like that. You're not gonna have any problems because the women there are so approachable and nice

and they're like genuine. What's how we feel about the guys. Because the girls feel about guys in the Midwest. Like I told her, is it goat, I have family, goat, is that you son Chicago? No, but it's amazing if you're, I mean, visiting, yeah. I'm from fucking LA, so. I mean, I'm from fucking LA. So I know I'm I mean, I know I was born in Cleveland But my family moved to know seven years old so we grew up here

I'm a nice city to meet people just friends at least yeah, yeah, yeah, what do you think Emily? I mean what I think that as far as dating or As far as like where where Okay, so city has great guys. It's so hard because every town that people live in, they say it's the worst town dating. Like New York's like, every guy's just like, you know, working for his career and women are always chasing the bigger, better deal.

They say LA, every guy's chasing the bigger, better deal. San Francisco, no one asks you out ever. I'm like, the guys are checking their balls at the Gongay, I'm like, really? Yeah, and so I don't, what is the best? I honestly believe that wherever you go, there you are, and that you can find someone wherever you're at. I don't care if you're in Des Moines.

I mean, I'm from Michigan, people find love. And you just got to put yourself out there. And it's so easy to blame it on the city. But what are you doing lately to meet someone new? If you're doing the same thing every day, and you're not changing up your mood, your pattern, do something different, and put yourself out there where you might be

all nervous to go to a party that you don't date for or where you got invited, go. Well, you're not gonna die. You sound like my husband, Adam says the same thing. Does he? Yeah, Adam says, at these people that say, I can't meet anybody, it's like, no, you can't.

There's go. Billions of people, you're gonna find somebody, right? Yeah, you gotta put effort into it. You do. And so I'll talk to you, we'll all drink. Yeah, it'll be know you're gonna find somebody right? Yeah, you got to put effort into it. Mm-hmm. You do and so I'll talk to you Sit will all drinks. Yeah, it'd be fun. Sure. I really yeah, I really enjoy it Well, you can join us. We're going in Burbank after this But I'm yeah, yeah, I love it. Burbank But no, we have to get together with my My we're gonna do that thing and we're gonna do our live show and then I was was gonna ask you some, I mean, you know, I had some sex questions for you,

but you know what? No, I wanna know first of all, how's it going? We talked about the G spot on your show. Yes. I brought you a special toy. Yes, my whole life, I, you know, heard about it, but I'm always the girl that has the orgasm, you know.

Literally, that's good. So I, You should get in that a lot of women can't see it. Oh, yeah. Really? During inner horse again? Yeah, that's good. So I used to get that a lot of women can't really. Oh, yeah, really during intercourse again. Yeah, that's hard. But I need help. Yeah, it needs to be stimulated. Right, of course.

Right, okay. So, but I, the G spot, I'm like, I don't know. Do I? I brought you such a goody bag here. I brought you. She did. No way. Oh, okay.

Oh, the other thing, she's gonna fake. But this is the Juju. So this is my favorite. I've heard you. She did. No way. Look. Oh, OK. Oh, the other thing. She's going to fake. But this is the Juju. So this is my favorite. I've heard you talk about this. OK, so this is, I talked about the Mimi, which is the literal one, which if you like that. And this is the Uma. And this is like all about G-Spot. It moves.

It's, it's, oh my god. I'm so excited. And it's rechargeable and it's beautiful. Oh. Like you're just going to, it works. It works beautiful. Thank you. And then I got some other stuff that will go through.

Thank you. We should have done that. You're going to have to do that. OK. That's fun. That's pretty. This is done it. So sure, the really cool thing now. That's fun. That's pretty. This is pretty awesome. Okay, since you know about my bike.

Oh my God, of course. I hear about it all the time. No way. So I got you on. Oh my God, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Oh my God, I have the crave.

The crave vesper. And it's, yeah, I mean, look at it. It's like, I know. I hear you talk about it all the time. I went on your website and looked at it. I've been wanting to buy it. I just, I know I was talking to you yesterday. I'm like, okay, so wait, no, tell me what kind of vibrate.

Because I already got something else you're gonna love. But I need to know. I love it. I know I'll show you how it works. It's really cool. It's already charged, too. Really? Yeah, it's cream best serve.

So check it, check it. Yes, I know. I'm gonna have a fun one. Wow. Sitting in traffic. What did you want? Did you want? It it, check it. I know. I'm gonna have a fun one. I know. Sitting in traffic. What did you want? You want to?

It's like Christmas here sometimes. I know. I know. Okay, we got to wrap it up. I know. I know. I know. I'm so glad you're ever.

You're gonna come back on. I would love to. And then we're gonna do our life. So, and I have to give all of your info, which is AdamCrolligot.com to listen to. Yes. We just say C-A-R-O-L-L-A. Yes, thanks.

And then Lynette Corolla at Lynette Corolla on Twitter. Yeah. Instagram, Twitter. It's all on Twitter. Facebook.com slash on that Corolla Instagram. And we'll have this all on our site as well. Thank you. And for crying out loud, is your podcast.

Check it. It's a really bringing hilarious, funny podcast popular. Thank you. Congratulations on that. Thank you. And Mangria. Mangria. I never had it. I just hear I have it for you. I've been hearing about it for years. I don't even know. Like what we should have poured somewhere. I know. But yeah, I have the ears. The white. Here's the red. Well, mix it up. Coptill in that white.

You know, I'm telling you it's really strong. It's the red. Well, mix it to cocktail in that way. Okay, you know, I'm telling you, it's really strong. It's, it's, that's always 19, 19 proof. What do you call it? Wow. And it's not, it will, you have like one, you pour it over ice, it's ready to pour it, pour it over ice, and one drink just melts. I'm gonna come home like after a day of like stress.

Have a glass of that in all your stress just melts when I come home like after day like stress have a glass of that in all your stress just melts after one. I mean, where is it available? It's it's available at at Bev Mo. A lot of a lot of our retail. Doing well. Yeah. Oh, man.

Yeah. Go to me gria.com. Corolla drinks.com. And click in your area. You'll find it. Yeah. It's I'd like to pour that over something right now and drink it. You can find it at www.curoladrinks.com and click in your area. You'll find it. Yeah. I'd like to pour that over something right now and drink it.

So for our next show, and it'll be a door drunk show, which we've just talked about. Yeah. Okay. Well, Lynette, thank you. I'm glad. Thank you so much, Mattis. Nice to meet you.

I know. Mattis is better than she thought. Thank you, Mattison. Produced a show. Love you. And thanks everybody for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. You know, I'm always encouraging you to get a little more adventurous in the bedroom.

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