Sex With Emily - Flashback Friday: Sex Klass with Porn Star Kayden Kross

Episode Date: March 14, 2015

In this throwback podcast Emily is joined in the studio by the very sexy Kayden Kross, award-winning adult film star, writer, and best-selling Fleshlight model. This bombshell bookworm opens up about her journey into the porn industry (which involves secret stripping and a douchebag pony), her relationship with a fellow adult film star, her mind-blowing oral sex techniques and so much more. She and Emily also take a few call-in questions, and share some important vagina facts. Don't miss it!   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Book into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a lie on me. Hey, Evelyn You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hairpin. Oh my the women know about shrinkage isn't it common? No, what do you mean like laundry? It'sinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god, I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithendly.com where you can check out all of our podcasts, our videos, our videos, our blogs, our traffic is going crazy, our website crashed like 3.10.

Whose website still crashes, but my website is crashing. But I appreciate everyone and thanks everyone for following me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, which is all sex with Emily. We've been getting crazy questions, crazy good questions on Facebook as well. And then every Wednesday from 12.31 Pacific Standard Time, I will be answering your questions on Twitter, so just hashtag AskEmily, any sex and relationship question you have, I will answer for you.

So, tonight's show, I'm excited about our guest. We have Katie Cross. She's a well-known porn star actress, and she's very articulate, clever writer. Her flashlight is the best seller that has top reviews, and she is sexy and hot. She just came in, has no makeup on beautiful. And she writes short fiction and reviews

about the adult industry. So we're gonna be talking to her in a little bit. But first, there's something I need to talk to you about because it's been on my mind lately and I'm just gonna get into it. Let's talk about the vagina. I think there's some things you need to know because I believe it's gravely understood by legions of men. And when I clear up some of these issues, you will all be having better sex. So here's

the number one thing you need to know about the vagina. You cannot stick foreign objects into her vagina. No matter how fun it might seem to you to stick your Xbox remote into her, it is a bad idea. Only your penis, fingers, and toys are acceptable. Not a cucumber, someone asked me today because it could be dirty. You don't want to put anything dirty inside of her. So I say this because my new 23 year old intern came in today

and said her boyfriend wanted to put a lally pop into her vagina. No, no, this is a very bad idea. Anything sugary into the vagina can cause a yeast infection and other problems. Ants. Ants, exactly. Anderson could cause ants. And right, you never know what the hell could happen down there.

And it sets your natural pH balance so that whole night and have weeks thing or whatever you want to stick like whipped cream, not a good idea and she get a yeast infection guess what that means she's closed for business so how fun does that sound to you not very I'm sure so number two just because you walked in her door and you might have a raging boner does not mean she's ready for intercourse in fact she's not even thinking about it she's probably still finishing like a text to her friend or doing her laundry or something but but I repeat, she is not ready for six, for sex, because women cannot go from zero to 60. Just because you walk in and

you're all turned on, we're not even ready yet. We need prolonged stimulation in order to reach the state of complete arousal, which is why we always talk about foreplay. It's not just because we think it's fun and it feels good, we actually need it and require it. So you can even send her a sexy text before you get there telling her what you want to do because we're more mental, the brain is what turns us on. So a text can be great and that will get her thinking. Then when you see her, even though you're turned on and you're excited and you haven't seen her all week, you can grab her, you can start kissing her. Touch her slowly. Perform oral sacs on her. I promise she'll like it. And then she'll be more turned on because we're not just a whole, you see,

to stick your penis in. You have to pre-eat the oven before you stick in the turkey. My next point number three, Lube. Lube is your friend. Lube has been horribly stigmatized so much. Oh, we bit out, we bit out the Lube because there's a problem or she's dry or there's some discomfort. But the truth is women who reached for Lube during the deed reported significantly higher levels of satisfaction and pleasure during intercourse compared with women who didn't use it according to a recent study by Indiana University.

So it's not just me, the Indiana University people are very smart, lubed as help. It's like the extra slip and slide makes it more satisfying for women and then they're able to have more orgasms and that's fine. So don't hide your lub away when you got to whip it out when there's some kind of problem. Take away the lubed stigma about help me do that. And as a side note, if you'd like to go to the anal route, you must use lube. And if you want to know why she wanted to anal sex with you, it's probably because maybe the first time you didn't use lube, and it was painful. So, lube is a number one agreement, number one agreement for successful backdoor sex. And then finally, number four, about the vagina. During a

rousal, her lady parts act like your man parts. You know the clitoris I'm sure because you've been listening to this show, two thousand episodes or even as a few, I talk about the clitoris often, but it's that joy button. It becomes more engorged when she's turned on. So you can tell when she's getting turned on. And the labia manure contains a rectal tissue that gets a little bit stiffer when things are heating up. So watch for those signs and you'll know that she's ready. So that's what I gotta say about vagina. Anderson, anything you'd like to add tonight about the vagina? No, I like those tips. Good tips. Did you learn

anything new? Well, I work on love line for 20 years now. So no, I know all that stuff. There's nothing new. Okay, Anderson, what's going on? Have you been? Good. I had a good weekend. I shot my third short, which is extremely stressful up in Lancaster. Did a lot of illegal things.

And then the following day, I was still not sure if I should be admitting this, but when I bought a new couch about a year and a half ago, I sprung extra for the pullout. And the wife and I just spent like two days on the pullout couch in front of the TV. Oh, I loved that. That's staggation. Is that bear's in Shypear? No, with a staggation.

Oh, of course. I just, we just wrote a whole blog about stacations. For the pullout in the living room, we just like bunk hunkered down the ground. We used to call it pizza, it was like pizza box, oh yeah, we ordered pizza and we caught up on all the game of mones.

I love that. I call it Game of Thrones game of mones. That's really romantic. I like that. I like that you of Thrones, game of moans. That's really romantic. I like that. I like that you just hung around and hung out with your wife. It was really fun. And the dogs. The dogs kind of put a damper on it because they're trying

to get in between. It's like, all right. And then they want to leave the house and then that means you got to get out of the bed. Yeah, it's not about she was with us. Right, exactly. Honey, I think that's sweet. I didn't do anything.

I'm not going to be embarrassed to admit that anymore. But speaking of your film, I did meet your friend in the elevator today. Oh, that's funny. He said, hey, are you Emily? And I said, yeah. And he's like, oh, yeah, I'm funny. He said, Hey, are you Emily? I said, yeah And he's like, Oh, yeah, Anderson do sound for him. We're friends such a small world They really I gotta come over he he met one of your interns couple weeks ago

And he couldn't wait to call me up. He's like, so what's going on on the 11th floor? Oh, yeah, sex shop. What's happening? You can't even believe it goes on at their everybody because they're touring people in the office And every time he goes by people are like in that sex with Emily and they do like a double take. They just assume that it's like a porn shot. Yeah, they do. You're making porn and that. Okay, here's a funny story about that. So the other night we have a party in our office and it was like

some guy from the doors rob Krieger. I'm not a crime. I mean, their body was like playing. There was like a big. There was music and a big. Sounds fancy. He's fancy. But now my office they just have these parties sometimes because

there's a guy in the office who does, you know, put me on a seat for him. You need to hire an armed guard with maybe like a rot wiler to just stand out in front of your door. I know. Just to even add some more history. You know, the guys come in and they're like, hey, because we just fix it up.

You know, it's like we got like dildos everywhere and it's very pretty office. So like, when you go to the doctor's office and they have like all the plaques on the walls, like it still, is it like that? Yeah, like dildos and stuff. But dild those and stuff. I got a car. Why don't you come? It's really great. Yeah. Okay, but we're, I'm going to get back to your friend in a moment because I just how you people thinking I'm a porn star. So the, the sky is like

office is like kitty cord on the mind. And it was a night of the party. So we're all drinking and talking and and he said to me, do you know, do you know Nina Hartley? And I said, yeah, I'm known for a while. She's, you know, porn star. She's been on the show a long time. I said, I'm actually shooting a porn with her next week in heartly. And I said, yeah, I'm known her for a while. She's, you know, porn star. She's been on the show a long time. I said, I'm actually shooting a porn with her next week in San Francisco. And then he walks back into the office and he says, a Lauren, my assistant,

I didn't know she was a porn star. I thought she was a porn star, but then I wasn't sure. But I'm actually shooting a porn this weekend, but I'm not having sex. I'm not naked in it. What does that sound like to everybody else? I know I have to.

But I wasn't thinking. I'm like, oh, I'm shooting a porn star. Doctor for God's sake. I know what I didn't think to explain that I'm not getting naked, which I could understand why he would think that I'd be getting naked. But no, I'm doing a dinner scene with other sex educators. No cucumbers in the vagina. No cucumbers, no nudity, but it was really funny.

So back to your guy in the elevator, and then he got my number and he texted me. And he said, hey, nice to meet you. He does that. He's a networker. Okay. So he's not like, because the girls in my office like, oh, I think he likes you. I'm sure he likes you as well. He's a networker. He's a networker. Okay, so he's not like, because the girls in my office were like, oh, I think he likes you. I'm sure he likes you as well.

He's a tender guy. He's always on Tinder. Oh. He's single. I wonder if I swiped left or right on him. I'm not sure. Be careful with him. He's a really nice guy.

No, I'm not interested, but he was interesting. One of the things is a networker. He's in the system. What does he want from me? He's in the system. Flashlight or something, but okay. That was interesting.

So I also have to tell you that I had a date last night. You did? Yes, it was a blind date that my friend fixed me up on. Real quick. What? About four or five weeks ago, you had a blind date in here on the show. Oh yeah, my Tinder date. How many dates have you had in between?

I'd say one or two. Oh, with him. I would not with them one more time. Which different people? How, different people have you had dates. Three. Two. But this guy, so I was fixed up with him by a friend, mutual friend, and I said to her, I said, did you, did you tell him about me? And she said, no, I just told him your name and that you're a really cool girl. And you should meet him.

And he also works in the, in the industry, right? Not talent, but other side. So anyway, I'm thinking, okay, great, you know, like every day, you have to be sure, you know, could you give my last name? She's like, I think so. I'm like, okay, so he's Googled me and this is going to be a whole thing. So I walk in and being in for dinner, it's a nice restaurant, my saliva, and we're sitting and talking. And I kind of write out that he actually doesn't know anything about me, nothing, like nothing at all, which I always say I hate when people like that they can Google me and make all these assumptions. So it was interesting because

I said, oh, I didn't move here for San Francisco and he said, what did you do there? I said, I worked in politics first, so why did you move there? I made a documentary. He's like, oh, so you're a documentary filmmaker. And then I was like, oh my god, he really doesn't know. And then I started thinking this is kind of awkward to get into the sex. So then I said, well, yeah, I did that a while ago, but now I started this podcast in my living room and he just kept, he's like, I'm like, so you didn't Google me? He's like, no, I didn't know your last name. And then I told them all about that.

And I think he was shocked a little bit and a little, I think he was interested, but I can't decide now which is better if they know I had a time or if I'm springing it on. That sounds like less work for you if they know it had a time. if I'm springing it on them. That sounds like less work for you if they know I had a time. Yeah, because then we spend our time that asking questions and why'd you get into it and like I'm interested in relationships. And then you know what, if they,

I think if they know before and then you can talk them out of the gutter. Right. You know, because that's where they're gonna be when they show up. Exactly, right in the gutter because they're like, they're gonna, hey, yeah. But it was a good date, I liked them.

Oh, good for you. Yeah, and but he texted me today and he's like, let's hang out again, and he's not like a 24 year old Like that doesn't sound like that was fun Let's hang out and like watch movies go to the beat. I don't know just he doesn't sound like a good hook there at all But what is like let's be friends and hang out because hang out is sort of a friend thing. No, no, no He wants to he wants to have sex with Emily Okay, just check it just want to get a guys, because I wasn't sure about the whole hangout. Yeah, if he hung out with you and he just enjoyed himself,

he wouldn't want to see you again unless he wanted to bang you. Okay, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, good, It's like for an hour, I'm the phone with the three things. You should wear the three things you should wear. And then I'm leaving for a date. And I turned to like my interns and I'm like, what are we, I have nothing to wear. Cause I'm the expert, but then I don't know what to wear. Wait, but Cosmo has never has anything relevant or that makes any sense. Ever, as far as I can tell.

You know, it was actually, yeah, no, it was actually shape. I'm sorry, it's messed up. Okay, then that's all the total. It was shape, but I talked to Cosmo yesterday as well. But it was funny that I think to myself, why am I right now asking them when I'm the expert? What's your take on Cosmo? Like when you're in line at the market and stuff

and you see all those like 10 tips, sex tips, I think most of it just total BS. Yeah, a recycle, but I'm in it every month, so I can't say anything. Okay, well we've then stopped there, but we have so many girls who call love line and they're constantly sticking their fingers up their boyfriend's butts because Cosmo tells them to

and that's like not every guy wants that. Cosmo told the other guest they do. I don't even read it. I know that I'm in it, but I don't read it. But I think that Cosmo tells them to and that's like not every guy wants that. Cosmo tell the other guess they do. I don't even read it. I know that I made it but I don't read it. But I think that Cosmo can be helpful for some women starting out but no, I think a lot of it is just kind of and I think it's not even really all about female sexual pleasure. It's without pleasing him, which only perpetuates the problems that a lot of women have with their sexuality because they're socialized to believe that it's all about the man's pleasure. So all those tips about pleasing men in Cosmo and other magazines are like that and she talked more about.

That's what you're for. That's what you're for. So that's what I got. And I think we should bring in our lovely guest, Katie and Cross. She is fascinating because, wait till you hear how she got started in the porn industry. Actually started stripping. Kind of a lot of women start stripping and they go into porn, but it's a very, it's like the best story I've ever heard. I'm excited about her coming in because she was actually in here for the last 10 minutes and I heard her talking about a douchebag pony.

Which I've never heard anyone say douchebag pony before. Well that is interesting. She is fun. Hi, Kaden. Hello. Thanks so much for joining me tonight these are large headphones i know that's what she said right okay no kaden hi so kaden kaden it's club kaden k-y-d-n

welcome to the show and it's at kaden cross on twitter and underscore cross kaden underscore cross and you are an adult film star you've won a bunch of awards, you're a great writer, your website, all those things. But the thing that I find that I'd like to start out with is how you actually got started in the business, because I find this story to be amazing. Yeah, we're actually talking about that before the show.

Okay. Do you want the long version or the shorter version? Yeah, we've got time. OK, basically. The interesting version. Long story short, I have a horse now. I've always had horses. My mom had horses.

We grew up on horses. I started riding when I was like five. So fast forward, I'm 17. I was living on my own. I had a full-time job at Pet Smart. I was going to school full-time, and I wanted to work with animals, and that's why I took the job at PetSmart.

You know, I take the job, and then there's not actually like animals there. They're like fish in a tank, and they won't even let me feed the fish. There's no interaction. No interaction. Not even with the fish. I didn't qualify for the specialty department.

And so I get this bright idea, because it was in Sacramento, and there's a fairground there called CalXpo. And so they have the harness races. And I'm like, I'm going to go work with horses. I'm going to walk down there and get a job. And I'm going to do something. So I go down to CalXpo and this guy, you know, he kind of sleazy.

He hires me on the spot. He's like, yeah, you know, come back tomorrow at 7 a.m. and we're walking and talking. And we turn the corner and there's this really beautiful gray horse and he's sticking his head out of the stall and he's like, hey, do you want that horse? I'm like, yeah, I do. Can I have that horse?

And he's like, you can have that horse. And that's sort of a common thing when the race track when a horse stops performing, they just cost money and they'll just unload them to whoever I'll take on that. And so it gives me this horse and I'm literally, I'm 17, I'm standing there with the horse in a halter and lead rope, holding the lead rope,

and you walk outside and you're on a main bulls-er-er. I think there's nowhere to take the horse. What do you think you can, like, 30 in your car? Right. So I call all these people and I call in some favors and I get the horse move and I never come back to the job because I'm afraid he's gonna take the horse back. I didn't know any better, I was like, oh my God,

he was just doing that to hit on me, he's gonna take the horse back. I can't know any better. I was like, oh my god, he was just doing that to hit on me. He's going to take the horse back. I can't come back. And so I moved the horse. So now I'm 17, paying rent, paying horse board, paying for school full time, whatever. And I never come back to the animal job. I still want to work with animals. And so I get this idea to go be a trail guide at this other place where you lead people around on horses. And so I get that job over the summer. And there was this pony that they bought because they thought that he would be Because sort of a non-intimidating thing for children is super cute and

He was just like I was telling him it was a douchebag Right they get him there He's super cute and then he he bucks and he kicks me rear's me bites and he's an asshole and he and I got along really well And so they always had me riding him because I was small I was like 80 pounds at the time and I rode this pony every day over the summer. And then summer ends, school starting again, I have to quit the job because I can only hold one job. And the other one paid more.

And so then, a month goes by at turn 18, and that same week my friend calls me. And she's like, they put the big guy on the pony, they tried to train him, he's be fractured something, the vet bills cost more than the pony's worth, they're sending him to slaughter. And like I'm crying and she's crying, it's this big thing, I already have one horse, I'm in school full time, I've got one job, the pace is like minimum wage. Oh my god, I need a nice one. Anyway, and so I'm freaking out, and of course my roommate's a fucking guy, and he's like, he's like, just go be a stripper. And you know, I'm 18.

I'm like, yeah, I'll go be a stripper just one night. I'll go make all the money I need. Right, right. And it seems like this great idea. And so I go in and I literally in one night made all the money I needed to buy this pony to pay for shipping to get them to the board everything. One night.

Oh my God. And so I pick up the pony the next day. And one night, and one night. And I didn't even take my top off for the first four hours because I was so shy. Have you ever stripped before? Had no, I could not. I was so, I'd never been into one. And I also, I wasn't allowed to go to like proms or anything.

So I did not at dance. Like your parents went like, no. So you didn't even go to the super shelter. I did not at dance. You may dance. You may dance. I never, I wouldn't take my top off in front of my boyfriend. Like, we were having sex every day,

but I would take my top off. It's like so shy. And, but I really, I didn't want the pony to die. I was like, this is a noble cause, right? Yeah. And I, yeah, I made all the money. And it was super scary. And then at the end of the day, I'm walking home

and I have like almost $1,000 in cash. I've never seen that much money at once. And I'm like, this is great. I picked the pony up, I taken home and my plan was to go back to the waitressing job the next day and my shift was coming up and I'm like, God, I don't want to smell like grease today. And I'm like, oh, but the struggle. That's like what I made in a month. I made that in the night until I went back the next day and the next day and the next day. How do they hire you if you've you've, I mean, you're beautiful and you're so care if you can dance or they really don't do that.

No. They look at your, I don't think they even made me like get into these. I mean, I came in in sweats. I hired, I was wearing like a tight shirt, but I came in in sweats. And they just like, you're right. And then did you get into, how long did you strip for? Two years. I strip for two years.

So then did you get into the dancing and taking? Oh, yeah. Within a few weeks, I was very, it looked like I'm in the hole. OK, good. But the first, the first day, it was three stages before I even take my top off. Oh my god. And then he just finally like put me in a corner.

It's stripping. Yeah. Just like you have to do this. And he's like on the loudspeaker and the people are like, take it off, take it off. I'm like, I'm shaking. I was so scared. Oh my God.

That's a really good serve. I'm mostly more like, oh, you know, just make money for school or clothes, but it was a noble cause. Well, the first day was a noble cause. I'm happy about it. I like, can you do enjoy it? Did you get into it kind of?

I got into it after the first, like I was into it immediately in terms I loved the attention. I loved doing the stages I didn't feel confident that people loved me doing the stages for a few weeks because I was really just Bridged and robotic and did your boyfriend come watch you or did you have problems? I lied to my boyfriend Do you think I feel like I'm going to do what I told him I was a I'm doing what I think. I'm going to go see you. I told him I was a cocktail waitress there.

Okay. Yeah, because I had to explain why I was there and by like these weird bikinis, I'm just waitressing. Right. So that was my story until he came into the club or something. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no What happened? He was not the type that would break up. You just like get mad and get over it. So you did that for two years. And then, did that when you got born? Yeah, the porn thing, it was sort of gradual for porn.

There is an agent who he brought like Sonny Leonin and a number of penthouse pets and all of that. His whole thing is he goes around to strip clubs and approaches girls he thinks he could probably do some work with just solo modeling. And that was back when you could actually survive on solo modeling. And so you just approach me one day. I was like, hey, I think you could do penthouse or whatever. And I was like, really? That's cool.

And then you were, did you feel like this experience, you said you were rigid, like, did you really open up? Sexually, Do you feel like you started to become more comfortable with your body? It's weird. I was not comfortable with my body, but it was extremely sexual. So it was one of those things where I'm like, yeah, I don't look at me, but please, let's go have a lot of sex.

Right, okay, that's it. I was really, really kind of like, yeah, there was a dichotomy there. Do you always end up in sex, like, since you were young? Oh, super, super sexual. Like, and it's funny because I would be into things I didn't know were sexual because it was very sheltered. Like I

had these I hate saying this because there's this this other sort of assumption that's just not true but it was almost a rape fantasy almost. No that's a cop that's actually like I don't like people saying we all have rape fantasy. I was on some show the cop. That's actually like, I don't think people say we all have the rape fantasy. I was on some show the other day, like you can't say that, but it is true that the top fantasy for women is to be like a forced thing. Yeah.

And yeah, I remember I used to always like, I didn't want to say get turned on because that's also not the right word, but I used to be really in like in the fairy tales when like the princess is taken and whatever. I was like really into that. And I remember my friends and I would like play this game where we'd tie each other up and we're evil

and we're writing a black horse, of course, because black horses are evil over the end. Just that stupid, stupid crap. But you don't realize at the time that you're so excited about it because that sort of like fills a very immature fantasy at the time. But it's still a fantasy for women because I think it's like the ultimate fantasy

that you're being taken and that someone just has to have you. Yeah. They choose you and they want you so many, right? You know, the other thing. So then when you were like, do you remember like the first time you start, you had orgasm, are you masturbated? Or you one of these like that? That's the other thing is I again, like it's such a weird subject to try it on because it can be taken wrong quickly. But like I remember these sort of immature things that must have been orgasms looking back. Like this sort of like wave. And I don't know, like I don't remember a first one, I just remember that they happened and you play games with

your friends. And I mean, it didn't happen to me. I was, I always joke and like, oh, God, you were one of those women who were like writing a horse when you were five and you had an orgasm. But you probably weren't. I think, no, I think if you're getting an orgasm from riding a horse You're probably not riding that horse for me. Well are riding a bike. No, because women. Yeah, no a bike Yeah, a bike. No, I usually say bike, but I thought in the sick. I say something like that But I people I was like yes some women are very early or gaspick and some women just aren't at all Yeah, in looking back I was and then there was like a point where I guess I stopped playing

the games before I figured I heard of a Gina. And then there's definitely time where I realized I had a vagina, and there was an orgasm. I was like, what the fuck was that? Right. I like that. OK, you're like, I'm into that. OK, that's good.

So you had been sexual. So then maybe opening up and doing the photography. And the photography, I was, again, robotic stiff stiff scared didn't want to take my top off same thing and Same thing like with every single step with the with the stage with the photography then it became a girl girl photography then it became I very first seen with evident and every single step it was like starting over like a robotic I'm stiff and scared and then I get past that fear. Right. And suddenly it's really awesome.

It's like life, though, the things that scare us or the things that propel us forward. Right. So, okay, we're gonna take some calls because we are getting some calls. And just so you know everyone, we on this show every Thursday night, 839.30, Pacific Standard Time, you can call, ask your questions 1-800. What is it? 3-9-3-9-3-1-19. What the hell? What is it? 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1. How about is it? Three-nine-three-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one-one- and with Kate and Cross. Hi. Hi. I'm a huge fan. I just purchased your Flex Lite. Oh, I love you.

Oh, awesome. That is awesome. Flashlights are awesome. It's almost like you've had sex with her. I have a random question. My question was, um, so was your favorite fairy tale princess and why? I was always in love with Sleeping Beauty.

And I think it's for the same, the same thing. She's, again, I hate going there. She's helpless. You're like, past out. You know what, she read the original fairy tale, and in the original fairy tale, the prince has sex with her, and then she has twins, but she's, you know, asleep the whole time, and then they come out like, it's much, much more dark and sort of definitely illegal in the original version.

But yeah, no, to this day, I can't wait to see Maleficent, just because that was my favorite. I thought she was the prettiest. I thought it was the coolest story. There's of course all over. There's a lot going on with the sleeping beauty. Exactly. OK, Max, is that anything else we can do for you?

Yeah, I'm just, are you going to make any more porn cadence? It's a champion. I know you have that Tumblr account, but you don't have any more porn anymore.aden? Because I've been on Twitter and know you have that Tumblr account, but you don't have any more porn anymore. Yeah, no, I actually have a scene releasing with Manuel Farara next month. It's my first anal scene in like almost what is it?

In this decade, it's my first anal scene. It's a big deal. Wow. Yeah, so that's coming out soon. I'm also going to be shooting on the 11th of June, another hopefully groundbreaking piece of pornography. We'll see. I'm sure it will be. So stay tuned, Max.

Thanks for calling. Thanks for calling. I'm sorry, I love you. Thank you. Thank you, bye. Bye. Yeah, he bought your flashlight. I love that.

I love people who bought my flashlight. I know, I love flashlight. You know, like, flashlight makes me wish I had a penis. Like, just for a day, just because I'm so curious. No, I just said that on my last show, I was like, if I had a penis for a day, I'd get a few blow jobs, I'd have sex, and then I would just sit down with a few flashlights, because I want to know how they compare. Right, because you're a flashlight, so just explain what a flashlight is. It's a mole. A flashlight, it's like this latex, it feels like flush. It's this latex flashlight shaped thing and you have sex with it. And supposedly it's like the closest thing to the real thing that's ever been put out there.

My fiance, he's been in porn for 17 years now. He's one male performer that you're like five times. He's got a lot of sex. And the first time he had any contact with the flush, he doesn't mess around with toys. Like he's actually trying to not have it. He's like, dude, I'm done. Right. And he was on this live sex show and a flashlight was sponsoring something. He's sent over a few flashlights and the director right before he goes on. He's like, just play around with this for a minute. And he had two girls in the flashlight and he's like, he's all mad because he's got sprung on in last minute.

And so the two girls are doing their thing and he picks up the flashlight just because it's like this obligatory thing and he puts it on his deck and then like two seconds later like pushes the girls and he's like I want to watch you guys kiss and he's just sitting there like making them kiss. Right. And he's like I don't want the girls. It looks like it feels it feels amazing. I'm dying happen so yeah men can use it to to master rate.

They can use it for stamina training. Oh that's open. You're a flashlight cading cross by it. You can go to sexaelmy.com slash flashlight. Check it out and support her and her her vagina. Yeah, support my vagina. Support her vagina that she molded just for you to have a goddamn flashlight. Okay, which are awesome and we love flashlight. So that's cool. It's so popular though. Why do you think I'm a hard sick one those best? Well, I mean, vaginas are popular. So I'm especially in particular. There's other porn stars that

do wait. Oh, really? I mean, it. Oh really? Is it like the cool kid? My whole life. I think you're one sex toy the year at the sex awards. I'm saying I've had other porn stars. I'm sorry but there's other porn stars. There's vaginas of emolded and yours is. I'm a lot of them. I know.

I'm a big fan of it. Of your vagina? Yeah. I'm a little bit of a fight. Okay so my question for you is going back to your boyfriend, your fiancee is also important. So if you guys sent scenes together, my first scene was with him. No way.

He's the only person I work with now. Yeah, sort of. Well, it's funny, like I said, robotic, scared, whatever my first scene. I was so bad that he actually wouldn't speak to me or work with me for three years following. No way, that's a great story. It was so bad and he hated me.

And what happened was I was with, with fidgetgeting contract and I went to Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve never, just their paths never crossed. So I didn't see him and he, I guess, was refusing to work with me anyway. And then I go to digital playground. And he's known as being like, he can really pull a good scene out of a girl who's maybe mediocre. And so digital, you know, they didn't know anything really about me and so they're like, oh, we're gonna put her with him because he could make anyone look good.

And so they try to book us together and he's like, no, I don't like her. She's terrible. And so then they, I guess they sweet talked him and they told him that I really wanted to work with him and I was begging for him and I'm a new person. Like, they gave him this whole speech. I had no clue it happened.

Wow. And finally they like, he's like, okay, fine, I will show up. But if she gives me even the slightest bit of attitude, I'm walking upset. And they didn't tell me any of this. Oh my God. And so he shows up. And I remember he walked in the room,

and I even make up and I see him. And I have no idea up until this point that he hates me, that he's not working with me. Oh, you have any of this. I have no clue. Look, hey that he hates me, that he's not working with you. Oh, you know how to do this? I have no clue. Look, hey, I'm like, I can't see you. I remember me, and he's like, yeah.

And so he walks in and I remember looking at him. And I hadn't gotten a good look at him really, because I was so terrified. That sure you were like in your stay. I just remember, he showed up that day, and I was like, you're good looking. And now I'm gonna go back into my little like tiny world and freak out because I don't know if I look good

and I don't know if I'm gonna make weird noises and I don't know if I'm gonna fuck up and what if I have sex wrong and I just had like, maybe I've been doing it wrong my whole life. I don't know. I was so scared. And so now I'm comfortable in whatever

and he shows up and I'm like, God, he's hot. And I remember I'm sitting in a makeup turn and I'm like, how did I not know this before? How did I miss that? Oh my God. And I ended up having this explosive sexy. Like so good. What happened?

Like so good. Just our chemistry was like just phenomenal. Oh my God. Amazing chemistry. Like the camera's cut. We kept going. I remember the director at some point, because he'd never really heard of me in the industry and I've been in for three years.

And it's like, do you always have sex like that? And I was like, I guess not, but maybe now I do. Right. Did you instantly start dating a fan? No, no. What's funny is he was actually in a relationship at the time. It was I. It was one of the things that we had this great chemistry and we ended up working together

at least every other movie. I really think they were like, okay, this is a way. They constantly would put us together, but we never saw each other offset because we had our individual relationships and then mine ended and shortly after they his ended and then before you know it we're dating and I think within within like 24 hours of coming over to his house that first time we were like attached to the hip but never never separated again. How long have you been together? Two years now and we have a baby girl and congratulations. How old? She's four months. Oh my god. Oh my god. You guys had a baby girl and congratulations how old she's four months oh my god oh my god yeah she said a baby four months ago yeah hurt wow I know but you can be I know but you look amazing

and I'm like what wow congratulations what's her name her name well I actually don't tell on I mean we call it peanut peanut butter she's probably is a little peanut I love that that's what you met her important I mean so he gets what you do and you get what he does there's no issues there is there vote like you know what's funny? He had never been jealous before and either had I, because you know I was dating someone else who's male talent and born before him. And we really deal with jealousy. Wow. It's weird. I stopped doing scenes with other guys because of him. And then I stopped doing scenes with other girls because of him. He got jealous of the girl scenes too.

He got, yeah, and he did. It was more of a, like, ingest thing. Like, he wasn't excited about it. What are you doing scenes with now? Him. Yeah. But can he do scenes with other girls? Yeah, it doesn't bother me in the same way.

Okay. Got it. Some guys just can't, they like, you can't see it. They can't, they can't get out of their mind I know for him. He doesn't know what to do for him. It's such work like I see him I actually had to make him stop because he kept just can't swing scene after scene after scene I was like dude you're gonna get a bad reputation You need to show up if you take the scene like he just

Right exactly. It's funny that you're cool with it But a lot of guys are like another penis. I can't have it. So I totally got it. Okay, I've just give a little shout out now to our sponsors. I just want to say that I want to thank everyone for listening to the show and I love being able to help you have the sex life and relationships you deserve. I also want to give you the best show possible, so I appreciate you supporting our sponsors who help keep this show free.

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I'm gonna take line one here We're going to talk to Derek and Pennsylvania. Hey Derek. Hi. How are you doing great. Thanks for calling sex with Emily. You're out Emily and Katie cross What's going on tonight? Well, I had a question like My girlfriend like when we have sex she constantly complains that I last too long and before I got with her like honestly I didn't think that was I think that was possible I mean all the other girls I had sex with they were like You know happy that I last as long as I was her it's like how long do you like kind of like I don't know It's something different something I've never heard of in my life. Well how long do last?

know it's something different something I've never heard of in my lifestyle. Well how long do you last? Uh well on a given day normally it's an hour and a half but recently I've been lasting like two hours before I even you know even come relatively close. Wow okay yeah so it sounds like you have a case of delayed ejaculation. That's what it's called instead of you know know, you've heard a premature ejaculation. This is delayed ejaculation where it just takes you a lot longer to ejaculate. And it's it's it's it's common. I mean, it's been this way ever since you started having sex in a course. Yeah.

Okay. But none of the other women ever didn't bother them or it didn't mean they just went for you for two hours. That's the thing. Right. Well, I mean, the truth is it's not, I mean, it's not really a problem. It's like it's common for a lot of men. How about when you masturbate? How long do you last? That's probably, it's probably a little bit shorter. That's probably like 50 minutes.

Okay, so you got to like really carve out some time in your day to masturbate. Yeah. The thing is, what about if she performs oral sex on you? Same thing? Oh, oral sex, I don't come at all okay like it takes days like a woman i would feel bad like right well luckily luckily that well my girlfriend now he does it by like i just simply tell her after like thirty minutes that's good enough because i know it's gonna take a decade but all my other girlfriends

they would be they'd be doing all sex on me for like two hours until i'd be like yeah that's a good talk and they'd like to uh... kittie you've got a process before uh... it's important to go to the game if you can't well i mean in in in porn when you come across that it's usually because they're using like some sort of medical right in the russian physiologically roused and that's why they're not coming.

So dear, are you on any medication now or on any health problems, health issues? No. Okay, and how old are you? I'm 20. Okay. You know, I have to say, we get calls, I get here from this all the time from people, related to, I say that, you know, it's, she's bumping, you know, maybe you just have sex with her until she's done and then you can finish off later does it bum you out to stop before you have an

orgasm? Not not really because I know it takes me a lot longer than it takes her. Yeah I mean I would have like her she like for instance like a week ago when we had sex I mean I work every day so I don't really get the chance to do it because either she's sleeping when I get home because I work overnight. Oh, okay. I'm actually at work right now. I might still break, but- Hope they're not listening.

Okay. You're like, I don't know. I mean, she, normally when we have sex, I normally go for like an hour until I'm like, okay, that's good. Because by that time, she comes like six or seven times And it's like I feel bad because I Guess I feel bad because I can't make it quicker. Right. I mean don't I mean the thing is There's nothing you can do about it. They're really is I mean you could go talk to your doctor and see if there's anything but but but but typically There's just some guys that this is the way it is for them and And so if it if you if you love your girlfriend,

you like your girl, your Bimuthr for a while or a new girlfriend. Yeah, yeah, I've been with her for two and a half years now. Oh, okay. So I mean, I can see that I could honestly an hour and a half, like maybe on the weekends, but like all the time an hour and a half could be a long time. So as long as you're cool with her having orgasm and stopping and then maybe, you know, finishing later on your own or, you know, you keep going and masturbate by a flashlight. That could help you. That might have become good. You know what I mean?

Then you could make sure that you finish yourself off. Well, she sits and watch TV or makes dinner or something. You know? No, okay. No, I'm serious. I've heard this before and it can be frustrating for women because we also want you to have your pleasure too. You know, one thing, I actually have a friend who went through a phase

where he just, for him it was more like a depression thing and he just wasn't that into sex. But one thing he did was he had a plug in who taught she that he'd use on the basics. And he went from and to, yeah, I'll masturbate tonight. Wow, well that's true. It really is. A lot of men like the feeling of vibration.

Have you ever used any toys? No. On your balls? Testicle. I could feel real good. He used it right on under his day. Oh, he did. And just something about the increased stimulation. That's the way I've never heard that. I know that a lot of men like vibration, like that's why I always tell couples to use

sex toys together because you think it's just for women, but a lot of guys like it too, but that's not a bad idea. Derek, you could try a vibrator, sex toy. Like on your rubbed up and down. Yeah, I mean, the Hattachi Magic Wand is a great one. It plugs into the wall. It has some more power. It's like the Mac truck of all vibrators. It's actually called the Magic Wand, not Hattachi, or the, you know, or there's like the vibrating rings, maybe a vibrating penis ring. If you go to goodvibes.com and you can see or just go to my page, section of the M mwe.com and click on good vibes. You can see all my favorite toys and you can use coupon code Emily I believe and you

can get a discount on it as Emily. But try buying some vibrating rings and earths. Also anything that might play with the prostate. I mean sometimes it's just a matter of finding that thing that relate. Right. I get you. Have you ever had anything in your bum? No.

Is it interesting at all? Probably not, yet. But it might feel good. But there's a lot of men who have, it's like the male g-spot. It might feel good. Derek, have you ever tried gay porn? Oh, stop, he's not gay. No, no, I definitely don't swing that way.

That's not, that wouldn't even catch my interest. I get it. Don't listen to the intersymbolic. No, the same is the prostate different. It's just the prostate is different. The prostate is different. I no this might your twenty whatever but there are a lot of men who do experience like incredible orgasms from having their prostate

simulated so you're going to be a great i mean i don't know i mean i know the prostate you know does play a big role in everything but um being that they just made it legal in my state for um... gate marriages that just kinda you, you know, kind of makes you nervous Okay, please me out a little bit. Okay, I got it, but they're not gonna rest you But I get it you can just try to go by a toy and play around and explain to your girlfriend that you understand And if you want to go to your doctor and talk to him, but I don't think there's anything wrong with you But just try some other things like if you if you do watch porn is there anything important that gets you there

Maybe you could kind of bring some of that into your sex life, some of whatever it is. That turns you on, that really gets you there. But I would just say you have to make in sessions with her and just be like, okay, I'll go for half hour because maybe sometimes an hour, but sometimes like you can't go for an hour and half, right? Is a woman? Yeah. Yeah. Once you basically have hit that number of orgasms, your body's going to have you,

your chalice will start. Yeah. So I think you just kind just got to compromise here. And in your gut, guys, this personal opinion, does it hurt to go longer? It does. Once your body stops being aroused, it does hurt. It does hurt, because you dry up.

Yeah, I mean, there's lots of lube. Hopefully you use lube. But I think that you should definitely, I mean, that will help her if you keep adding. Even if she's wet, it helps to add loop to the situation. But yeah, it does hurt. She's not lying to you. It can hurt after a while when we're done.

We've had our orgasm, we're like, we're done. We're out. You know it is when you hear our orgasm and you want to like roll over and go to sleep. So yeah, but I think you're okay, Derek. Just talk to her about it. Say you called in and it's cool. It's normal and then you just go with her sometimes. Maybe once a week, you'll go longer.

So I think you'll be okay, Derek. You're totally fine. It's normal. Okay. Have a great night'll be okay, Derek, you're totally fine. It's not. OK, have a great night. Thanks for calling. Thanks for calling. You too. Some guys come too quick.

Some guys can't because they are hard along enough. The whole thing. I'm sure. You've seen this. So do you find like that a lot of men in porn are they do they take stuff? Some do. I mean, if you think about it, you're talking about a situation

where you're surrounded by like 15 other dudes. And I expected to to be really turned on by the one chick in the room. So yeah, some do. And also just with what's expected, they have to do this, the stills, and you have to be in your weird position on your marble staircase with a bale of hay.

And it goes on for so long. It's 100 degrees, the ACs turned off. It really works against you. And so guys, I'll pop Seattle's or Viagra or something. Yeah, we're not kids going. So what have you learned? How long have you been in porn now? I started in 2006, the end of 2016. Okay, so what do you think you've learned about your own sexual out there, how's your sex life expanded in these years? Oh, God. Well, first of all, you've always been sexual, you said.

I was always like, I think I was actually crazy or before porn. Yeah, it's like I got into porn. I was like, gotta be corporate now. No, that's a funny, that's ironic. God, there were just some situations that I think I would have been absolutely against just based on the description of what they were.

And then in the moment, when I tried them in adult either because the other person brought it in to keep himself going or because it was written in for whatever reasons, whatever reason if it came up and I tried it a lot of things actually were fun even if it was just that one time with that person. Like what? Giving example. For example, I don't really give a flying shit about feet. Like feet. Like feet to me. They are part of the body. They go on the end of your legs. I don't care. But there was this one performer who had a on the end of your legs, I don't care. But there was this one performer who had a major foot fetish. And I remember I'm doing a scene with him

one somewhere in fishnet stalking and he takes my whole foot in his mouth and he just like, he's like all of my feet. And I'm like, it feels good. When he's going for him, I'm like, oh, this must look good on camera. And then he gets in, I'm like, oh, okay, okay. It feels good, right?

It's another Russian zone if they catch you. Yeah, it's yeah. And then like there was another situation where we were doing this giant like big budget movie for Adam and Eve and they come to me and they're like okay, we know you only do you know your basic boy girl whatever but we really want you to do to do like three guys in the scene all at once and I'm like nah you know I'm pretty new with and yeah, I kind of want to like spread my career out over a few years and if I do this now, what do I do next? Right.

And then we go back and forth and I'm like, okay, listen, he can have two other guys in the room, dropping off and I will have a standard boy girl scene. And so they're like, okay, cool, we set it up and we go to do the boy girl scene. And then I started, I'm like, watching these guys jack up, this is kind of hot. Oh, last you getting getting to okay. And I'm like, okay, this is actually kind of cool. And you know, I'm looking around and we're going and I'm like, okay, okay, this is neat.

And there was something about just like this this adoration for these guys to be just jacking off while you're having exactly right next to you. Right. And I one of the guys was a guy that I worked with typically who was jacking off. I just sort of like pulled him into the slot. I was like, you're stuck in the rhythm. Can you improvise? They're probably having it. They're not going to be like, no, I'm not having sex with you today. Right.

And you pulled him in and they're like, I'm sure in the back of his mind, he's like, that's an extra paycheck. No, like, exactly. When you do the actual panic. So that's because you were so young, what about girl and girl scenes? You do those as well? Or not anymore? Yeah, yeah.

No, actually, I think I've been doing a girl girl scene pretty soon. I think I think we've been showing back into that. Okay, we're comfortable with this again. Okay, good. Yeah, with girls, I had actually had one experience with girl before. That was like a three something and she like kicked my boyfriend out because she decided she didn't like him and it turned out to be a thing. But I remember that particular time.

I was like 18, she was someone from the club that I brought home and she was really pretty. And it was one of the things where she was just pretty, but there was nothing more for me. It was more like, I just wanna try this to see what happens. And I got into it because it was unique, but not because it was into her. It was more just like this is freaky for me.

My level, this is above my level. And I never did it again, because I just wasn't into girls But one thing I learned it's because I like the boy girls. I like the butch girls, right? And you want to be dominant in I want to be dominated. I want to be the girl I want the other girl to be the boy and I want her to look like a boy Act like a boy dress like a boy talk like a boy. And that's so hot to me So those those kinds of scenes that you mostly do dress like a boy, talk like a boy. And that's so hot to me.

So those kinds of scenes that you mostly do. Well, no, no, no, it's not actually, but you realize that's what turned you on. That's what I figured out. Okay. And so, you know, like that's another thing, I never would have known that without porn. I went to know about feet without porn.

If someone just in my personal life, it's like, oh, I'm gonna put your foot in my mouth, I would have been like, you weirdo hot-hot. Right, exactly. But do you feel that, so now are you with women then, and your own personal life at the age of three sevens? We are monogamous on my end and monogamous offset on here right now.

So no. But like I've been with butch women offset more than once. In fact the most butch women I've been offset because they're not very common in adults. Right. At least not with the kind of shoes I was being booked for. Okay, so now when you're with these butch women are they are they just performing on you or are you also performing on that? I know it's both ways.

Okay, yeah. But they're just dominating you and well not even so much the domination and just more like they're very male. Right, they're men without the physical. Right, they're not. Yeah, exactly. So do you think get tips for performing raw sex on a woman that you think people treat it like a tiny penis and vice versa for

for performing or treat it like a giant clit? Um, one thing I'm proud of is I remember the first like gold star. No, the first like gold star lesbian I got to hook up with our camera. I remember so I was like super into this one and it finally gets to that and I think she like she knew that I'd never really been with a full on lesbian ever. Right. And I think she assumed that I was just performer. I did it for the camera. I didn't actually know what I was doing and I finally talked I'm like no no let me go down on you now and I remember I got her in like 30 seconds. No way. What did you do? So okay. What I'm asking for now. I job. I wish this was like a visual thing. Okay, so imagine take your index finger and point it at yourself. Okay, okay. You put it,

curl your tongue. Uh huh. So the tongue is under your index finger just a little bit. And then you pay a circle. So your upper lip is on it and then you suck into a fluttering motion with your tongue. On the clitoris. Oh wow. Yeah, as you create a suction. You gotta take a picture of the video. You gotta do a video. You gotta do a video. We're doing a video. We're doing a video. We're doing a video. And I learned that actually from male talent. Who knew how to do it. So wait. So your clitoris is in your mouth and you're fluttering at the bottom. Okay, everyone check out my website for the video.

Give me your finger. Oh, she's gonna do it. I'm gonna do my finger. Oh yeah, that feels good. Ooh. I'm the only man in the world that gets to enjoy this. Yeah, once you get the session going, it works. That's really cool, but you can't start with that, right? You can. You can just start with that.

You can like, you can like, obviously you want them to be like, already pretty aroused to start with, but I have found when she, when a guy has done it to me when I haven't been aroused, I get very quickly. Like the feelings immediate, the sensations there. So I don't, this like a butterfly, it's like a fluttery, okay, we're going to show video because I can't even explain that felt good on my finger, so I can only

imagine it. It feels amazing. Yeah. I need to, I need to, no, I learn this from Mel Talon, like, you know what they're doing., everyone's coming to the window now to look at like, what's happening? That is great. So then you must have a great deal. And the other thing, we'll hear so the thing is. Oh, also here. Oh, a little teeth.

Yeah, the little teeth kind of like, that feels good. That feels good. Yeah, I like that. Could you do it again for camera? If the camera, I think that's it. Yeah, camera's here. Okay, we're gonna video tail. Ah, hmm. That was the best thing the camera

can't see anything I'm doing. No, we're thinking for you. Okay, wow. So what about your blowjob tips? Because you must have those tail blowjob tips. God, the biggest thing, and men do this, it's both ways. Like, people start doing oral, and they'll maybe hit the right cord, and then they'll change their tempo. Right. So blow job, like you're building and building and building, but don't change, just slowly increase your rhythm without changing the tempo or changing the technique, because once the technique hits the cord, you're just riding the wave to the end. Okay. So your rhythm stays the same. Your rhythm for the most part, don't change what you're doing just very, ever so slowly increase it.

And you can feel for most, every guy is different, but in my experience a lot of guys, they'll swell the slightest bit when they're close to coming or you'll feel them flexing. You'll hear the breathing change. You can tell when they're going to come. And when they start doing that, that's when you increase it just a little bit. Another thing I've found is you want to have something going over the head, whether it's your tongue, your upper lip, your hands. Well, just in the motion, something needs to come up over the head.

That's where the sensitivity is. And it needs to somehow be, the head needs to touch something. The problem with a lot of blow drops is you create like this balloon where there's the lip, there's the mouth, right, that's wrapped around it, but then there's like this hole, there's the top of the ear inside your mouth and the head's not touching anything. So you could use your tongue, no, so it's in the head's a sense of spot. That's what you need to hit. And so that's a big one. I mean, obviously you want it to be as wet as possible. Right. Oh, he says he went Sometimes I'm like I mouth is any water like yeah I'm not like a good I can see porns as I was like safe so much saliva

Well, they push it way down you get do that So I have a deep-roading Yeah, all the slivers in the back. So that's where you get it You got a deep throat to get this this live up, but the thing with deep-through Do you use fake with these fake blood? Do you use fake saliva important? No I'm just like how the hell do you get that much saliva? Yeah, no saliva? I'm born to that. No. I'm just like, how the hell did you get that much saliva? No, the thing with deep-threading that I think a lot of people do, they see these porn

movies and they're like, oh, that's how you do it. Shark Attack. But it is a shark attack. There's teeth. You know, a lot of dicks just don't smoothly fit straight down this road. And girls are like, just like plumb, they'll just like fall down in the dick and it hits all these other things in the way in and I think that's really painful for a lot of guys but because of the visual of it,

they're like, oh, put up or they don't want to lose the blowjob by complaining. Right, I got it, those are good tips. What about the balls? The balls? If you're gonna do something with the balls, it's like the lightest touch. I like to spread my five fingers.

Like if you're gonna dribble a basketball and you bring them in the lightest touch. I like to spread my five fingers like if you're gonna dribble a basketball And you bring them in the lightest touch Yeah, and you just like repeatedly if you do this underneath, but really what I do is I I like to go for like just the Out-hole the the the whole the outside right because don't you find that a lot of our sort of to go You know when you go in going around. They like that. They like that. In my experience, better than the balls. Wow. Yeah, because not every guy, like I have like a post-traumatic balls disorder syndrome once,

not this sort of, I think I like touch you guys balls too hard and then I never touch them for years. I think that's the place where the most variety of things. I'm a spaced out in like a shit. Yeah, like most guys are like, I like this, I don't like this. When it comes to balls, you get every piece of the spectrum. I'm at guys who want you to like stab them with high heels.

And I've met guys who are like, if you so much as like, touch a feather to them, I'll hit you. Like, that's how different guys are with balls. No, I got it. Those are all great tips. I guess we should take Steve from Michigan who's been holding for a long time and he's

from my home state. Hey Steve. Hey Emily oh my gosh between hearing your voice on the podcast and what you guys are talking about now. I'm barely containing myself. Thank you so much. You answered my email last week. I felt like a rock star about the colon cleaning with up. Oh yeah. It's good. I'm so glad. Do you want speaker? Can you get off speaker? You think? I'm not on speaker. Can you put some furniture in your house before you call? No, you're just echoing. But I'm glad I answered your question last week. So what can we have with tonight? I'm at work. I'm actually going outside right now. Are you in Michigan? Right now? Yes, I am. I love it it you know that i'm from michigan

yes your hometown it's it i love it my home state okay yes so what's what how about tonight how can i help you how can we help you tonight you get on the subject with chanel about duchess and the chemicals that were in them right and i'm talking about keeping the colon cleansed but for the girls now i like to please them uh... what other than the do you should pay you for cleaning if the chemicals are

no good you can't get me panic and the chemicals that come at the self-recording i'm gonna give the best tip i have ever discovered in history of good tips alright and it's going to sound weird and it's actually sort of hard to deal with it first uh... already okay first of all do you choose your your washing up good bacteria, you're messing up the balance and the really vaginas don't need to be clean, they self clean.

But when they're doing a lot of things and maybe having a lot of sex, they can sometimes get tipped out of whack. Now that becomes a pH balance. The thing that fixes pH every time within four hours is mixing baking soda with water and drinking it. That's all you have to do. I swear by it. Mixed.

And women mixed baking soda with water. Yeah. I've met one, how much baking soda. Used infections, bacteria, like all that stuff, you're back to normal. Really? After just drinking after how long? Within four hours. Wow.

No matter what. I can clear anything. And then you go to the bathroom and you, it's all out. It doesn't matter. Wow. Yeah. No matter what. I can I can clear. And then you go back room and it's all out. It doesn't matter. Wow. Yeah. Guys and girls. I've met I knew a guy who because he was melt talent, he always get like little yeast infections on the end of his dick. He would drink baking soda and water and it would fix it like that. Wow. I've never heard of that. And it's not even just for genitalia. If you have like a pH imbalance that creates any sort of problems with your skin. Wow.

Anything. Baking soda mixed with your skin. Wow. Anything. Baking soda, mixed with water, drink it, it naturally rebalances you. Sleeve. Suck the water. A cup of water, how much baking soda, teaspoon? Um, like a half a tablespoon of baking soda in, in just like the bottom. I drink as little water as possible because I just want to get it over like, it's clean. Yeah, exactly.

It's gross. It's like drinking salt water to discuss it. Can I have sugar to it? No, probably not. Oh, sugar's bad. Right, right. No, but it's disgusting, but it's got to work. But it works. So you go see if it's just a shot of baking soda and water. Gotcha.

Thank you. And your candles are amazing, just you know. You got a candle? You got an Emily and Tony candle? Oh, heck yeah, they have all my gosh. They amplified my life. OK, tell me why. Tell me how.

I want to hear the story real quick about how you use the candle. The best way I found the seduce, the girl is a massage, okay? Right. And the candle's just heightened it. I can give a great massage. But now the candle's with the scent and the way the bees wax feel. Oh my gosh, the girls are all asking, what is that? You know, they're like, no. I know. Or that candle wax on them. And then when they feel they go, oh, that's amazing. Yeah, it's warm. It's oil. It's not a wax. See, that's the okay. Oh my God, I love to hear

that. So the women do freak. I just got an email from someone who's like, you saved my sex life with these candles. So, oh, I'm so glad to hear it. You're not in saved, but you actually, you took it up to the next level or a level above that. Oh, Steve, you're like

my favorite person in the world right now. Thank you so much. You made my night. Love you. Except for Kate and kind of made my night because she sucked on my finger, but you secondly made my night. Thank you so much for calling in. Thank you so much. You made my night. Love you except for kid in my night because she's sucked on my finger, but you secondly made my night. Thank you so much for calling in. Thank you for wanting to join the candle. I'm buying you dinner and a car when it says my last email.

Did you say that you buy me a car? Because I need a new car. Okay, let's talk. You know me again tomorrow. Bye. So I have one for you. I have a candle line called the massage candle. It's the new front one for you. Emily and Tony.com used to keep on code Emily and you get 20% off. But people have heard me talk about that.

I'm gonna take this home and he's gonna be like, you're gonna have to give me a massage. I'm gonna turn into just a massage. I'm gonna say about it is that he can give you one, but you know massage candles, right? It's warm oil and it's alvegan. Oh, that's awesome. Yeah, they have a room of therapy.

You'll like it. It's good. I brought you a present. Okay, we have a few minutes left. and I'm trying to think there's okay So do anything coming up that you people can find? Well, there's the there's the scene obviously that I'm very excited Yeah, it's it's um, isn't my first scene? It's my first scene back since having since like being off for all those months Yeah, it's I so I'm sure it'll be great anyway

It was was you know, it was for him. It was for him. He shot it. You know, it's I so sure to be great anyway, it was was you know, it was for him He shot it, you know, it was our little concept. I mean, it's not like super conceptual. It's an art bedroom But it's a great scene what what what we did was um He he has a series called men well for our raw and basically all he does is Create what looks like private sex tapes and release them and whatever. And so he decided to do evil anal raw. So it's just private sex tapes that are anal. And so he comes to me and is like, okay, I know you wanna do a scene,

you wanna be back in the game. I was like, I wanna be back in the game. And so he brings in, he has his own sex toys, a mold of his cock, and he brings in his own sex toy. And he gives it to me and he's like, we're gonna use my sex toy and my dick on you now. Wow. And I'm like, okay, let me my sex toy and my dick on you. Now. Wow.

I'm like, okay, can we just get ready for that? Right, right. So he used, okay, got it, so you've like double penetration. Well, yeah, I mean, there's really not like a ton of room for all of that, but we need. He's a large penis. He's a pretty big dick. How big, how big?

God, like I can't wrap my hand around it and that's already pretty big. He's got the girth anoint. He's got girth and length, yeah. And he's hot and he's hot and he's French. There's this accent. But he's half Spanish. So there's like this moodyness.

It's all my God. I love it. I love your life. He's a good poet. And then a porn star, I really, I regret it every time. Okay, so people can find you club, Caden, K-A-Y-D-E-N, and then your Twitter's at Caden underscore cross.

And go buy her flashlight. Yeah, it's okay. Then you really know what it's like, cause to have sex, so I feel like she's stuck on my finger, I feel like we got kind of close, but that's actually what you're gonna love. So thank you so much for joining me on this show. Thanks for having me.

You've been great having you. And Anderson, what's up with you? What's up with you? Your podcast this week. The film vault. Yeah, I can't remember what we just did one too I can't remember what's always happened just I love it so just check out the film ball it was a good show this week too damn it okay well thanks Anderson for

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