Sex With Emily - Flirting, Squirting & Talking Dirty

Episode Date: May 30, 2015

In today’s show, I’m talking sex positions, orgasms, and great sex toys to try this summer without breaking the bank. Ever wonder about the difference between squirting and orgasms? How about between male and female orgasms? This podcast fills in the blanks! From a deflowering professional to a sex-positive “smart mattress”, this week’s Sex in the News goes international. Emily tackles emails on a number of sexy subjects, from 69 position hacks to squirting advice to how to develop sexual confidence, and shares how orgasms could save your life (or at the very least, your prostate).  All this and more in the latest Sex With Emily podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with the Emily Today Show is all about perfecting sex positions like the good old 69 and woman on top plus squirting versus orgasms are they the same thing and Few vibes on a budget things you can get at any price great vibes and also sex and relationship tips all around so thanks for listening Okay, but first you know I love my sex toys. I'm always talking about them. And I also love jewelry. Hey, I'm a chick. So you've heard me talk about my gorgeous vibrator necklace, right, the Vesper by Crave.

It rocks. And it's so funny, because since I started talking about a few months ago, I mean, I always wear it. It's a beautiful, it looks like a little pen, not a, like a little straight pen. How do you explain it, Anderson? Like, you looks like a little pen, not a, like a little straight pen. How do you explain it, Anderson? Like, you know, a little pen. It's like jewelry.

It's jewelry, it's beautiful. I'm gonna be like, that's such a cool necklace. And then I'm like, oh, it's actually a vibrator. And then people freak out. And now it's funny, because wherever I go, people loosen the show like, let me see your necklace. Let me see your necklace. It's either that, or they show me they bought one.

Just like women everywhere are out because come on jewelry Orgasms together. It's like perfect and the cool thing is like I said I'd ask it compliments to people who don't even know what it is before I wear it And it's really cool. So you got to check it out. It comes in silver gold rose gold. It's slender It's beautiful and I wish I could give them to every single one of you But honestly just get one yourself or for any special woman in your life because you deserve it Jesus Christ. We all deserve a nice gift for ourselves and find me one woman on the planet that wouldn't be down with this right? jewelry vibrators. Hello, don't you type anything else orgasms, right? So also the coolest thing about it is that it's not just a showpiece

It's actually a really really strong vibrator. It's super powerful really quiet and discrete and I'm telling you when I that it's not just a showpiece, it's actually a really, really strong vibrator. It's super powerful, really quiet and discreet, and I'm telling you, when I say it's a vibrator, I mean it works, okay? You get my drift, orgasms, all around, and you always have a vibrator on you. Check it out, go to lovecrave.com, use code Emily, and you get free shipping, okay? Lovecrave.com, use code Emily, buy yourself something pretty and orgasmic today. You'll love it. Thanks for listening. I'm not gonna sink with the situations. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bike on me. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken,

he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got everything. Oh my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, Avaline? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. So, I'm gone. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Avaline's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between.

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People are like, hey, got your email. I want to see my doctor the other day. I'm here with Anderson. Your doctor. I'm seeing my doctor. Yeah, my legs are up in stirrups. A girl? That's a guy.

I do a doctor. He's like, hey, I like your email on head. Yeah, he's like, oh, I was just thinking about you. Or yesterday I just got your email on, what was it, be clitorate or something. It was about clitoracy. I'm like, oh, he's like, I love getting your email. I feel like I get to see you all the time.

Maybe he's not, could be. It sounds creepy, but he's like a married doctor. Does he take his glove off before he actually inspects? Does he take the light to have gloves? Oh, they wear the gloves. They wear the gloves. He doesn't take it off. No, he doesn't like, loo up his finger.

Well, he has to loo, but the glove should be on. Right, the glove's on. So, I've checked that. No, it's all good. But, you know, people like it. So, check it out, everyone. And, thanks. Thanks for listening.

I love you all. I love hearing from you. And, yeah, it's been a really great week. I have to say, I've been super busy. But, the fun part is, I'm doing stuff that I love. But, I'm just realizing, I mean, I always love doing the show. This is like my thing, my favorite thing, but as you all know, it's been masturbation month and coming to an end soon. Everyone knows. People think I made it up, I didn't. All your listeners know.

You guys all know, because you feel like I'm not far ready, but Emily, okay, so it's in the month. But I had my big hustler event last week and it was awesome. It was my masturbation month event. Hustler Hollywood and it was, you know, crowd, like, you know, standing room only, lots of people there. And it was just so cool because, you know, there's, you know, being in radio, doing podcasts, like I don't often get out to meet a lot of my listeners and there was a-

It's a faceless crowd. I know, but it's like, I realize that, you know, this is my 10th year. I just keep thinking about that and I'm like, God, you know, when you were just playing the intro, I'm like, I did that 10 years ago. Like, my 10th year. I just keep thinking about that. And I'm like, God, you know, when you were just playing the intro, I'm like, I did that 10 years ago. Like, maybe it's time for a new one. It is time.

So, but it was great because there was like one girl when I got there and she drove in like from Orange County. She'd been there for three hours waiting. There were just like, people, it was just amazing meeting my listeners. So, it turns out, I'm gonna be doing one every month now. So, I'm gonna have a do one in next month, which is June. And I think that's gonna be a going down workshop

for men and women. And so look for details or listen for details because I will be sending them to you. And also I was on the Jason Ellis show. Let's hear a sex out, you know Jason? Yeah, I love that guy. I love him. What did you do?

Do you have you do something really terrible? No. I'm inappropriate. No, he didn't. You didn't play sting ball or whatever, did you? We just freaking dude. It was like, you know, my you know my puppets like oh you're there for 20 minutes I was there for an hour and 40 I Never met him. I just know that Drew and Mike love him like Drew Pinsky and my cat the wood loved line

They love him and I'm like oh never met him. We just boom within the first three minutes He's talking about getting like a newly penetrated by his you know girlfriend and we just love did I loved it Yeah, I love to do it. I had six orgasms. It was the best I can't do the British thing right now. It was the best thing I've had. He's Australian. Australian. Oh my God, I knew that. You know, whatever accent I can't do.

That was really fun. And it was great to meet him. We totally bonded. He actually came to my workshop and, you know, he was cool. And then I was also did a live show with Lynette Corolla. She's got her for crying out loud podcast. We did a live podcast.

And all you people, because you did your after-disaster live podcast. We did a live podcast and all you people because you did your after disaster live podcast. We did the Irvine, I know the Hollywood improv. Yeah, that was cool, dude. I mean, I was so impressed by that. People were like lined up buying t-shirts and mugs. I do that. A fantastic thing by selling out.

I didn't really. I mean, dude, no one sells out. That's a big feat. Podcasts. I'm going to do a live show. I'm think I'm going to do like a 10th anniversary live show So stay tuned for that too and that's why you have naked ladies up for your audience Why? You have to have naked penetration and my people do not expect that they do they do they do not guys

Do you expect it? No, you guys have you listened to the show you've never seen me naked? No, you know, you want me to show porn stars and some of that? We're gonna have some naked people No, they want they want to see You want me to show porn stars? I'm gonna buy. We're gonna have some naked people. No, they want to see the show and have good time. Maybe, okay, I'll invite some of my porn star fans. Fine. And then also, I was, so that was really fun. Linette's podcast was at the Tin Horn Flats in Hollywood.

And then today, I was on this really cool show in Cirno Seixan. Do you know Rude Jude? I like the name. I know, okay, so I didn't know about him. But anyway, he's cool. He's from Detroit, and you know, where I'm him, but anyway, he's cool, he's from Detroit and where I'm from, Suburb, and he's had a rough life growing up

and he's on the M&M channel shade 45, but he's just got a really cool story and we had tons of people calling in for sex. Just, I love radio, man, I love live radio. It was a great week, I just feel free to enter. You've been everywhere, what you're saying? You've been cheating on yourself. I don't know, I don't know, I'm just,

I don't know, is that? You've been on a lot of different podcasts. You've been cheating on yourself. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. You've been on a lot of different podcasts. It's fun. Okay. Yeah. I was just, you know, I don't know. It's just fun.

I just like, you know, I love taking the callers and talking to people live. And it was awesome. Okay. I'm going to get into the sex in the news because this story is interesting. That's all I'm going to say. Because I want to say you feel about I, uh. Can I tell you? Yeah. My favorite segment, my favorite part of the show.

Really? I love the sex in the news, I love it. It's funny that you say that, because we're gonna start a sex in the news roundup blog that we do every Friday of all the craziest sex and interesting sex in the news stories, and then I'm also gonna do a YouTube video. Cause I do for YouTube channel, which I'm trying to be fup.

But, Nipples, not yours,. But- Nipples? Not yours, but are there nipples? No, it's YouTube. You can- I've found some stuff on YouTube. Really? They take it down quick, but yeah.

Dude, I'm not gonna rescue it, okay? I have 10 years I haven't been pulled down yet. Except for the nipple, though, my Facebook page wants. They did, because of something ridiculous. What's on the YouTube page? Oh, my YouTube channel is sex with Emily. No, I'm gonna start doing a sex in the news like YouTube thing. It's like kind of review all the stories. So that will be fun too. Okay. So here's the first one. Smart mattress sends couples push notifications

to romp around. What? Wait, wait. Okay. Your mattress is like saying, Hey, you guys are being old and boring. Exactly. Oh, friggin nailed it. You got a nagging mat mattress. Yeah. You're married. So your mattress like it's friggin nailed it. You got a nagging mattress. Yeah, you're married. So you're married. And mattress like you guys haven't gotten it on six days and you're going to get both get taxed and be like, maybe you want to go down and earn it. And I'm like, I don't know.

Like, have a date night. Listen to this. With the majority people leading hectic lifestyles and falling into the trap of constant technology distractions at bedtime, keeping the fire alive in relationships for many has become increasingly hard. So there's a UK-based bedroom furniture company called Duni O'Pillow, Duni O'Pillow, D-O-N-I-O-P-I-L-O.

They aim to combat this idea via a newly designed mattress that functions like no other. The mattress is fitted with highly sensitive sensors that have the ability to measure activity at any level via general pressure points. So the data is collected, synced, and presented on the user's phone. If the couple has been somewhat inactive for a relatively long amount of time, I don't know how you measure that, the technology within the mattress will send push notifications to them and even suggest data

ideas like go for a magic dinner or for one of them to send an impromptu bunch of flowers. So you get a text or like an alert. Yeah. You don't get like the voice. It's not like Stephen Hawkins voice saying you have not had that. Right. Exactly. No, it's actually 24 days. Right. Exactly. I think it's funny. This aims to reignite the desire between the two and make sure the time between an infection evening isn't as long as the next time. So I don't know. I mean, I don't want my, the last thing I want is my mattress like begging me for sex or like, you know, I'm going to go to my sex life.

People in your life telling you to do stuff or asking. Exactly. I don't know if you need like an animate object, I do, I can you want to do more stuff or asking for things from you. Exactly. Plus the guy with palsy, he's going to get away with murder. I know. You know I mean, like it's never going to say, Hey, you're not having sex because he, the guy with palsy he's gonna get away with murder. I know. You know what I mean? It's never gonna say hey you're not having sex because he Look out palsy's having sex all the time. Oh no, this matter exactly And you know you might not buy the mattress people aren't gonna buy the mattress if they feel like they're sex I mean, I guess if you feel like you need this in your life But like like every you know we got get this thing. I have a meditation app

You know that I use when I meditate like you have it meditated in three days. I'm like, oh no That's you need to meditate though. I mean that's gonna make you stressful when I'm, you have it meditated in three days, I'm like, oh no! That makes you need to meditate though. That's gonna make you stressful. What I'm saying is, exactly. That you're at? People, I turned off all notifications on my phone. Yeah, you don't want to call me. No, my app is Kegelcamp.

Oh, Kegelcamp is awesome. I know, dude, we just re-released it a few months ago. Makes you shoot across the room. It does, it makes you come across the room, it makes women have stronger orgasms, men have stronger orgasms, and it makes you ejaculate like you're 18 years old across the room. You might knock things out or something. But I don't want my neighbors, my mom, my mattress, my sex life, whatever.

That's a thing too. People that live in, because this is from the UK, right? They live in flats over there. They live in thin walls. You don't need your neighbor here and you're bed saying you have not had sex and 70. Well, it's a new text. That's true. Oh, speaking of Jason Ellis being from Australia and not British, which I do use

for Australia, is that the most interesting thing happened at our sin last year, 2% of our listeners from our Australia from Australia this year, it's 20%. So I wanted to say hi to all my friends down under. You got an 18% increase in. Yeah, and I don't know why. I love you, Aussies. I want to come down there and see you all. friends down under. You got an 18% increase in the day. Yeah, and I don't know why. With the washer. Yeah, I love you, Aussies. I want to come down there and see you all.

That's weird. I know. So I'm wondering, I want to hear from you from Australia. Is this resonant? What's going on down there? I can tell you with other shows that I do, the listeners from Australia are fucking awesome. They're awesome.

I know, and I'm dying to get there. Plus, Mad Max, represent Australia, just came out. I'd amazing. Is it did you come? Tell me because holy shit on the film vault did you talk about it? We talk about his podcast. Okay, it's it's it's It is the best movie that's gonna come out the summer bar none for sure It's the best movie you're gonna see all summer long the most inventive movie and it's a feminist movie I know this is whatever at the end of it all. It's very melt, male testosterone driven, but it's a feminist film. I love it. And the fact that pitch fucking perfect to one of the box office this week is disgusting. Oh, let's show you. Not in Australia because

Australians are smart. Australians are smart. And they're obviously into sex. But there are. They're just free-loving spirits, spirits you know I love it. They're all like offspring of you know people that were incarcerated. I don't know but listen dude so this weekend's a long weekend I was going to ask you what movie I should see because I'm not doing anything and I'll go check out Fury Road yeah. That too? Mad Max Fury Road. Same movie. I don't know dude. You know I know Mad Max Fury Road. I'm actually I'm actually beefing up in my pup culture. I'll have you know. Okay. So, next up. No sex, so, no sex.

So, listen to sex with Emily before. Watch Mad Max. You're going to need a little more sex because there's none. And then you listen to more sex with Emily after. Exactly. I have three sex toys I have to try out this weekend too. And it's literally on my schedule for the weekend. I mean, it's not like a half-do, it's on a bummer, but I've got some really cool

and toys that I'm going to tell you all about next week. Okay. An orgasm a day can lower a man's risk of prostate cancer by 20%. So a little school by the name of Harvard, you might have heard of it, just gave men the word, just gave men the world over another great reason why they should be forcing out a load every day and shoot it across the room. No, it doesn't say that. Now that you need a new reason, your current reason like,

you know, I felt like it probably got you this far, but at least the reason is scientific and makes you look less like a raging pervert and more of the guy who's deeply connected with his own longevity. And if blowing loads is a key to living a long, healthy life, well, do it. Sacrifice, daily sacrifice. What have you got to text that was like, hey, blow your load.

What? I love you, but you're not blowing loads. That's not your style. You're better than that. I don't blow in loads. You're just reading verbatim. I mean it. But you're classier than that. I'm sorry, I don't say blowing loads.

I am reading the study. You're both. Okay, so I don't say blowing loads. You don't. I've never heard you say that. I would never say that. I've heard you say thousands of words. I typically am pretty clean on the show. You are.

Which I do tell like people like sponsors are like my show's not dirty. Like do you find it? Fuck no. You swear. I don't even swear on the show like sometimes I do, but I don't. You follow. Okay, this is the daily mail though. So regular orgasms is why you guys. Orgasms can reduce the risk of prostate cancer. The study found they said that they don't explain why orgasms reduce it. But it's previously been theorized. Regular orgasms may flush out cancer causing chemicals in the prostate, which totally makes sense. The new study is the largest to date on the frequency of ejaculation and prostate cancer.

I found that men in the age in in the 40 to 49 age bracket, who jacked at 21 and more times a month, reduced the risk of prostate cancer, by prostate cancer, by 22%. So next time your girlfriend finds you, your stash of porn or five or four. She's trying to get rid of the prostate cancer. She finds your browser. She's like, hey, you think I'm preventing prostate cancer? That's all you got to say.

Don't even explain to her why you were looking up transgend or whatever. You're literally shooting cancer out of. No. Okay, whatever you got to say. Literally shooting cancer out of your penis. Yeah, yeah, you are. You're ridding yourself of cancer. So I think you guys should all just feel good about that. So you have it. There you go.

Okay, this one, we've heard about this stuff before. One man, there's a one man nonprofit, okay. He offers to have women in Japan lose their virginity. He's a benevolent fellow, right? Due to a complex tangle of loneliness causing factors, there are now so many virgins over the age of 30 in Japan that had to come up with a new slang term for them. And while much of the news coverage of this phenomenon

has focused on male virgins, there are plenty of female as well, female virgins as well, and they're not happy about it. So women, once expected to remain pure until marriage, Japan has been a modern society for a long time. It's considered weird for anyone, male or female to not have banged anyone by the time they graduate college. So fortunately, for all those sexless ladies,

a man named Masato has started a non-profit deflowering service to help elderly virgins, so 30-old women, rid themselves of their v-cards once and for all, with his patented pain-free technique and he's willing to do it for free. So it's cashew with orange gel. It's just him, right? Oh yeah. Going to jail or going to genius petitions?

I don't know, yeah, but really like creepy. Okay, he's the virgin master. He's helped over 200 old maids. I hate that they're saying this, 30-o-woman. 30. Loser virgin needs to get practiced before we meet in their future husbands. And I just don't like this whole,

we hear from people all the time, you know, L.A. just virgins, 2024. They're like, oh, I want to get practice and get out of the way. No, you don't. Listen, you're gonna have your whole life to practice. It's fine. No one's gonna expect you to just get it out of the way.

I mean, I get, I get, you know, that you think, oh, now I've done it, but it doesn't mean it was like, necessarily very good. You know, it's different for guys and girls too. Guys, like, they need to get it done, you know. They fixate on, I fixated on it. I remember like, you've been on like long cart rides

with my parents the entire time thinking, I'm gonna lose it. How old is it? Probably like 11, 12. Come on. Yeah. It starts that young, it really does. It does for some people, yeah.

Guys just, and then we just, that stop. You were thinking about on the way here, like when my wife and sex again. Yeah. No, but guys are just, I never, and you know what the funny thing is it wasn't until I got older, I even realized, started studying sex, and I realized that guys are always,

so I didn't know in high school, the guys that, you know, I know, you can't,'t it's hormonal. So these they're 30 years old, what's it called? Old maids? Yeah, exactly. There's a new slang for them, I'm gonna see what the slang is because it's like 30. Yeah, I won't consider you an old maid. I promise. Thank you. I appreciate that. I just think it sucks. I can't even find the slang term because of the internet. So there it is. Okay, what is the slang term for them? Yara Miso, okay, it's not about okay, there it is. Okay. What is this thing term for? Yara Miso, okay, it's not even a term that we know so forget okay, whatever Stephanie's gonna help us all for all you guys out there that are thinking This is great at the end. It's genius and why didn't I think of that?

Imagine though like the guy puts us out and then he has customers It's gonna be yeah, he said over 200. He's creepy. He has a two to three month mate waiting list Yeah, but how many girls show up at his door Where it's like a you know, it's a challenge For him for him. He's not a true. Why because the versions maybe for a reason? No, I think there was a stigma tattoo like if you lost it before you became you know It's kind of their culture changing. What's gonna be some that are gonna be hard for him to actually He's been able to then he is altruistic, okay?

The spans give him back. I just don't like this whole, like you got to lose it, you know. It's like just work on yourself. Okay, as you all know, I'm a firm believer that sex should be as playful as it is pleasurable. After all, sex is supposed to be fun, am I right? And if you've never had fun sex, are you want to make your sex life more fun all around, pay attention now, because I can't get enough of the vibrant,

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Feedback at sexualtolemmy.com. I love hearing from you, I read all your emails. And also when you email me, it helps to say where you are listening from, where you live, and your name, and if you don't want to use your name We won't need your real name and also how you listen to the show. I just want to know What app whatever how do you listen on your laptop and your phone? Okay? This one is about mid sex switch-ups dear Emily when having sex with my wife

Sometimes I notice my penis isn't going to get her an orgasm I'll stop and go down or get her to her an orgasm. I'll stop and go down in her, get her to have an orgasm, then I'll finish inside her. My question is, is the change from intercourse to oral, a bad thing? Is it shocking to her system? She doesn't seem to mind, but I'd like to hear another lady's opinion.

This is Josh from Indiana. Okay, Josh, here's a deal. The switch up, not a bad thing at all. I mean, that's great that he cares about her pleasure. You know, you're kind of like the sex partner or all of fame or something. I think that's awesome, but here's my question for you. Josh, you're married, this is your wife. Have you asked her?

Have you asked Josh, she feels about it. This is what I find so interesting and is that people just, I love that you guys all email me questions, I totally get it, but they don't ask for significant others. But seriously, Josh, you know, you rock, it's cool, there's nothing to worry about, but you could ask her, and then you also said, you notice your penis isn't gonna get her there. How do you notice that?

Like, is there a time limit that goes by? Does she tell you it's not gonna happen? It's probably never yacking. No, but sometimes it might almost happen and maybe she doesn't want to speak up. I'm just saying there might be a little little more communication, but but but you are a rock star. You go down her, she gets off and then you go back to it. Can I speak for the guys for a second?

Yeah. For you. Please. Because you are a woman who's very open and I could tell you anything right now and you're just you have one of those auras about you. You have a vibe. There's a lot of people who are in committed relationships who have been in relationships for years. Years. Have a hard time talking about the sex stuff. I get that. I totally understand that.

Right. So you might see it from your point of view. It's like, I just talked to her about it. I get it. It's much easier to talk to you about it than to do it for the whole thing. I know, and I'm not discouraging people from it. You guys, I say this all the time. And Josh, I love it.

I mean, come on, this is what all my emails are about. And like I would say, communications, lubrication, but I get it more and more that you just it's just so hard for couples if they've never talked about it we're gonna all the sun bring up this thing that we've never talked about so I get it and there's also you know other ways you guys can listen to the podcast together you can buy a book whatever watch your book is awesome my book it worked for me I can tell you that really your book with the before with all the other creations it's cool it's Your book is awesome. My book. It worked for me. I can tell you that. Really?

Your book. You opened it before with all the other creations. Oh yeah. It's cool. It's hot sex over 200 things you can try a night. And you flip through it. And guys, you're going to expect you to be like, oh my god, what is that? And you'll be a little bit put off by it, but she's going to be interested in it because

it's classy. And it's a well illustrated and flip through and then just find a picture. Yeah, that's what's cool about it. It's called hot sex 200 things you can try tonight and you literally open to any page And you're like oh, let's try this and you then you don't it's like having a third party there I think that's why people like listening a lot of couples. Let's show it together get my book And so listen a lot of people like mid sex switches the vaginal penetration to anal though is dangerous because it brings harmful Back bacterial, you know, you can't go from like anal to...

You can't go back and forth. Yeah, you can't do that. But, but, but, lucky for you, penis to mouth, not a problem. You're good. Penis to mouth. Yeah, well, when he goes from his penis and then he puts his mouth like when his, like, there's no problem. Yeah, it's her own bacteria and it's not going to the...

Exactly. Yeah, you're all good here. So, it's proving your partner, you know, she's having sexual pleasure. So, can we look at more? B2A though is a little dangerous. Yeah, don't do the going to the, yeah, you're all good here. So it's proving your partner, you know, she's having sexual pleasure. So, can you be a little dangerous? Yeah, don't do the, what the butt to the, yeah, no, no, VTA is fine. A2V is back. Yeah, yeah, no, no, don't do that. Don't do ask to anything. Just do ask to the shower. Ask to show. Okay, this trouble on top. Dear Emily, in response to Ask Emily, how can I rock woman on top, which was a blog that I wrote for a generate for Patty Stanger, a millionaire matchmaker. So this was on her website.

It might even have my site as well. My partner has the same problem, but she won't admit it. I do not enjoy it with her on top. She's not able to ride or remove her hips at all. She mostly just sits there with no movement. Any suggestions on how to get on a helper, how to get her help on learning what to do. PS, I am doubtful she's open to watching porn to learn,

not that it's the best way to learn, but she's very close-minded in getting help for sex. This is not a guy that can't just say it to a woman. I can't say it to a woman. You guys just friggin' email me, don't talk to your partners. I almost say, just email me. I'll take care of y'all. I'm very excited to hear your response to this one.

Okay. I agree Travis that learning from porn is not the best way. It doesn't mean she cannot get inspiration from him though. Why? Well, she doesn't wanna look at it at all. Right, she just, but I wanna know, is she just sitting there saying text messages? He makes it seem like she just gets on top

and just sits there. Sounds very lazy. Okay, so you've read my blog and you guys can just Google it. It's like how to rock woman on top, Emily, and it'll come up. Wait, you searched that on Google and it'll show up? Yeah, I mean, I wrote a blog. Yeah, I wrote a blog.

I mean, it's on my website or it's on Patty's Tanger's site, but I just actually Googled it because I was like, what did I say in that blog? So she's not into it, but here's the thing. You read the blog, so I do give tips on it that are very specific, but chances are, she's just a little insecure, and she's not confident in her ability,

which is why I wrote this blog because a lot of women, you know, they have body images, they feel like, God, I'm so exposed. I'm, you know, he's looking at me and she's... Especially when gravity is like against them when they're up on top. Yeah. I know a lot of girls are probably out of thing. Hey, come on

Boob's look like right now. I know I'm up on top and they might be jiggling and I might be moving around Yeah, so there's that there's definitely that but are you guys thinking that are you going on her boot? Not at all see there's a slight there's a woman like bun to hot I think it's hot archer back the whole thing I mean I but I get it. She's not confident and she might not know how to move. So what I suggest next time you try it with her on top, I would just like pull her hips and pull her like back and forth. Do that because it's really about the grinding. What if he's not strong?

Well, that one's not like that. He's the weakling. No, dude, like, you know, I love when men grab me and pull me back and forth. But here's the thing, encourage her, or you can just encourage her, like you can lightly pull her. What I say grab, but you can lightly pull her,

you can put your arms around her waist, pull her back and forth, because really like in porn, you always see them popping up and down. But that, I mean, I think that's more for show because that doesn't really feel good. The reason why a woman in top position is so successful is because the woman is in control

of the pressure, the speed, the motion, and it's perfect for her to get her clitoris off. So it's the grinding, the back and forth. Not this one. Well, not this one. So we're helping her. So I encourage her to try rocking back and forth on her penis, like I said, in a grinding motion because it does put the perfect amount of pressure on her clitoris and it's pretty powerful orgasms. She can also lean forward onto him. You know, women do it that way too with her breast on top of his chest and

you could also like pull her into you and she could grind back and forth. And if you're both sitting up, you know, people sit up and you hold each other. You can wrap your hands around her body, place them on her back, and you could also get on a chair or like a couch and use the back as leverage or something like that. But it's good to, you know, just kind of show her what's it like maybe she just needs your help there. She might not like porn, but maybe he could watch Little Mour and see some other techniques

as well. Like the ones you just talked about, but he read my blog. But he could see the visual cues on porn and then maybe, no, no, no, no, I'm porn. She's bopping up and down. I'm saying there's three moves. There's so much porn. Read, okay, right. Get an instructional video.

But what I'm saying is grinding back and forth. She can lean forward on your chest. You guys can sit up, but this is about woman on top. And so, you know, this is, oh, there's also the advanced move, which is the swivel and screw where the swabby do advanced of of her She moves her hips in a circular motion He tips his helps up and she goes around in motion, but it's all about the Round and back and forth But I'm also curious to she of orgasms at all like I'm wondering if she's into sex

Not enough info on the email. That's how I want to take colors I can say one one one one one thing with this. Yeah, lights off. Yeah. If you're doing it with the lights on try the lights off she might be completely different. That's true too. She might have some body stuff. Yeah, turn the lights off. See what happens.

Just be patient with her. Be encouraging. And you can never let a woman know how sexy she is and how much turns you on. You can't go overboard. You cannot like you. I used to say my podcast. I was like early. I was like compliment our 10 times a day.

10 times. Yeah. I remember talking about that with you. And people were like, that's ridiculous. I'm like, OK, you know what? Then fine. Do it five. But you still go to wake.

Can you do like three real quick, like within five seconds? And then I realized I was dating this guy while I go. And he like never was like maybe one. He was like, oh, you look pretty like pretty never. I love that. Like I need to. Women want to hear that maybe one he was like, oh, you look pretty like pretty never. I love that. I need to, women want to hear that. That girl is probably gay. He's a douchebag anyways.

So here's a thing. Be patient with her, let her know how good she feels, encourage her to find the spot that feels good to her. And also, yeah, that's it. So try some of these moves that are help her along and do it, okay? So but first, let's take a little break here to talk about your penis. How about that? Not mine.

I'm married. I won't talk about your penis, but I'll tell you about promescent. I'll tell you about lasting longer in bed. I'll tell you about female pleasure and the arousal gap women typically take between 20 and 40 minutes to orgasm. Men between six and eight.

There's a gap. A lot of men can last long enough, but some men just don't. They might only last eight, they want to last more, they might come a little too quickly. Promescent is the only FDA-proof treatment for premature ejaculation, or just for lasting longer and bad. You apply it to your penis, like 10 minutes before sex,

and it's a delay spray, so it will delay your ejaculation, you'll be able to last longer and Shall I be for it? You're both get off and have a good time and order pizza go do promescent.com PROM S-C-E-N-T How about that? Okay, next email 69 Emily

What? You think it's funny? That's what people do. To do my office address? To do my office address has 69 in it. It's like, let's just say it's 1, 2, 6, 9. It's not, but it's something's exciting. Are you afraid people might figure out the street too?

You can give the actual number. It's 69, 69. So I'm gonna imagine. But how funny is that? I moved in. I said, the least whole thing. I was like, oh, okay. Look and 69. So I'm gonna imagine. But how funny is that? I moved in. I said, the least old thing. I was like, oh, okay. Look at that.

How about that? Okay, so Emily, my partner would like to try 69ing. I love getting oral, but I'm scared about his face being so close to my derrier. Is there any other position that is, um, than the conventional one, the conventional 69? Thanks, Casey. 67 is pretty good.

A lot of girls Casey women it's true they do kind of shy away from the 69 and there's good reason Well you guys don't like it right because you like to focus on one thing That's me you let me say that I've heard a lot of We have years to go okay I don't love it because for women our orgasms are so like you need to be focused and you need to be not focused on the orgasm, but just like in your body, like in the moment, you know.

Really figuring out what's going on with you and focusing on yourself. But guys, a lot of the time, like, they're going to get off with what they're doing to you. Right. So it's, it's great. Right. Because that's both, you know, it's two birds,

one stone. Like I, I like getting a guy blow job, but I just get distracted. Because then I want to do really good on the blowjob But then I'm not feeling you go down me and it's like not my favorite position. So a lot of women say this is because you guys can't multitask No, that's what I've been saying for years. I keep trying you can't I'm so bad on it It's like the ultimate like multitasking nightmare position, but listen if you are committed to trying it All you got to do here's your hack ready? You want your 69 hack, I will tell you. I love it.

Do you love it? Do you love my hack? What is your hack? I don't know, what is it? I'm gonna tell you. There's a hack, finally I've heard. There is a hack, sideways 69. Oh, it's good.

Yeah, both of you are lying on your sides, you're facing each other, mouth to genitals. So, this variation gives you more flexibility and it's one or the other feel way less vulnerable. Because if you're on top, you're gonna feel vulnerable for a guy or a girl. You're gonna feel like, am I smashing things into her face or my first step?

It's much better to do it on the side, baby. So definitely more balance plus it allows you to position yourself in a way that doesn't put his nose in your butt or your nose in his So you both relax and focus on what is important, which is the pleasure I know I think some women do like it. I don't want to mean Casey wants try a lot of ghost and yeah, but some know But a lot don't yeah, yeah, I didn't I didn't I always feel like God you know I'm I really want to you thought it was just you but no, there's a lot of I think I'm the only woman on the planet

But I'm just like let's do one of the other like I'd rather give you a blowjob and you know, okay One of the very first sex talks I ever had, actually with a girl my own age, way back in the day, like seventh grade, she was explaining to me that she doesn't like. And my name is... In seventh grade, she was doing 69. I went to an advanced school,

but she was explaining to me, she doesn't like. You grew up in California, right? Yeah. California is so funny, so different than in Grove, Michigan. My friends in New York, California, you guys are like wild out here. Well, I was good around here.

There's more drugs, you're all having sex. I didn't see drugs, I didn't see anything. I was like a nice girl from Michigan. I would think Michigan actually would have more because you guys are down in the basement for half the year because it's so cold. Yeah, we are in the basement. What are you gonna do?

I did it my first orgasm in my basement. Play Mario Brothers and have sex. Yeah, no we're not. What are you gonna do? I did it my first orgasm in my basement. Play Mario Brothers and have sex. Yeah, no we're not. I mean I waited, I did it for a year plus like 17, yeah. So you, you, you, you, you you want to be in a candidate for the Japanese guy. 17. I think that was pretty respectable.

Okay, dear Emily, I love your podcast. I was hoping you could help me with a problem I've been having. I've had two vibrators go out. I mean the past four months. One after three uses. I can't afford the high-end vibrators, but I keep having them by new ones. Do you know any reliable cheap vibrators? Or should I invest in something better?

Thanks. Broke college girl from Utah. They break off. Well, it's true that the cheaper ones' batteries they do break. They just do. They do. They they do the batteries break or they break no the one because now there's so many of them are rechargeable and they do last a long time uh... but i do remember like i've thrown out many apaca rocket i mean they're like twenty box but the matter where they're made because like i know that i

don't like the issue is that are made in china well here's the problem okay uh... broke uh... broke girl from Utah. The tricky part about buying this in expensive toys is that you have to sacrifice quality because less expensive toys can be made out of anything and harmful chemicals like phallates, which is the component of plastic that's banned from kids' toys, you don't want that in your vagina.

You can't go wrong with a standard bullet bi, but they usually cost between $10, $20 bullet vibes. Sorry I did mumble over that. But you know who makes great ones is screaming, oh, they never heard you say that. Screaming, oh, really? Oh, okay, I love their bullets. They're made of silicone.

They have little tiny batteries in them, but they are so powerful. They have three speeds and they're probably $15. And if you go to, I'd say go to goodvibes.com and they, all their toys there are without fallates like they don't sell any of like the bad for you toys and they have one so you can get a bullet there. You can get the butterfly kiss, which is a G-spot vibe and I think it's like $18.

And it's also made out of silicone but it's battery operated and then Lilo, which is actually renowned. They have like really high quality vibes. They have a feminine Caroline called Intima, so it's called Intimina, I-N-T-I-M-I-N-A, and they make a handheld personal massage or called the Kiri K-I-R-I, which is the only $30. It's totally body safe, six vibration patterns, tons of speeds and water proof.

So all those are good vibes.com. And now these are also, like you sponsor these products as well, because they all came to you and you chose, I remember you telling me a while ago that you chose the ones that you wanted to sponsor because these are the ones that believe me. And no, these aren't even on my spot.

But they might not. I don't even work with good vibes. No, no, no, no, no, some of it, no, none of these are actually my sponsors. But you do have some kind of promo code, because you do work with them. Oh't even work with good vibes. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, these are actually my sponsors. But you do have some kind of promo code because you do work with them. Oh, yeah, with good vibes is a store. So if you're, yeah, if you're, if you're giving people advice, because you, I mean, every time you show, yeah, you show, totally, totally, I would never, um, ever recommend toy

that I would, isn't good for you. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. So help them out further by giving them a 20%. Good vibes.com. If you, you know, the easy thing to do, if you go to to my website sex with m a dot com and you click on the good vibes banner i have a store there and it has all my favorite toys and it'll show you and then you can search their site for what I mentioned and I think the

butterfly kisses on the park racket that i use code Emily and uh... it's like you know why it's a butterfly kiss because it's which one do you love i love the butterfly because it's really sweet it's a g spot vibe which means it has a little like, it's kind of like a rabbit style. So G-Spot and little tickly butterfly kiss. It's two spots, it was. Can you do the cuter?

And the butterflies? Smoothie, yeah. Check it out. And so again, look for their lower price vibes and you can't go wrong there. And you put in the Emily, or is it sex with Emily? It's code Emily. Okay.

Yeah. And I think it's on the banner on my site. Everyone loves promo codes. And this is a good company that you chose them. Oh, yeah. I just want you to be clear about that. I chose them. It's funny because yeah, I mean, there's a lot of companies that want to work with me now

and I will not work with all of them. You turn them down. I know. It's a good place to be. Finally in life. Okay. So Emily, I just started listening to you via iTunes podcast and I'm a huge fan. I'm a 24-year- old female from Omaha, Nebraska.

I've only had sex with one man, my fiance, and I'm totally fine with that. The problem is, I don't think I've ever had the big O. As you know, this is tragic for women. I've been using a vibrator almost a year now and I just got the magic wand. Both with my first vibrator and the magic wand I think I've squirted only a handful of times. Is it possible to squirt before you orgasm and what is the difference between the two? I am dying to experience the big oh Emily so please any tips on how to achieve that

and not just squirting would be greatly appreciated. Keep up the fantastic work. XO Danny. Okay, Danny, here's a dealio. Squirting and orgasms are different. Some people can squirt an orgasm and some might just do one or the other. And you can definitely, some can orgasm and squirt at the same time.

A lot of women squirt and do not orgasm. So clearly you have an orgasm. And if you don't think you've orgasm, then you probably have it. So squirting comes from really deep internal stimulation. So it's g-spot stimulation. And what it actually is, it's the periorethal fluid that comes from your urethal glands. It happens when your internal spots are stimulated and so that's what it is. But this is what you got to do, honey, just step away from your vibrator for a second

and just start with a clean slate, okay? So you've never had an orgasm, you've tried vibes, and I want you to just back off everything and just start to explore your body. I'm not sure how much time you've spent just actually masturbating and taking the time to get to know your body and don't make orgasm in the main focus because I feel that after a year of using vibes you've probably worked up to that point of like

is it going to happen? Is it going to happen? And when you start to think like that, it's not going to happen. So I would, you know, as much as you can and again, this could take you a month, this could take you a few months. I don't know, it might happen after a week. I'm not putting a time limit on it, but I would like set the mood. And you can also do this with your fiancee,

or they, yeah, married, fiance. You guys can do this together. He could give you a massage, he could get you all warmed up, use an Emily and Tony candle, which is a great thing, and just get you relaxed. So like, turn off your cell phone. So whether you're with them or without them, I'm just gonna give you kind of both scenarios,

but you could do them with them or without them. Is that you have to set the mood, make the time, turn off the phone, light some candles, music, whatever it is, get into a very calm state. And then, you know, or, you know, if you're into porn, watch porn. I mean, do something that turns you on too,

or Radica, I don't know, start thinking thoughts that make you feel like sexy. And just start rubbing your hands over your body, like your nipples, tracing around your waist, your clitoris, but don't go right for it, like between your legs, labia. I mean, that whole area, it's not just about the clitoris. The clitoris actually has legs to it.

So the clitoris actually has four inch legs that go inside of you. Ah, I know. I know, I've just, I know I haven't talked about this very much, but there's internal, it's not just a little button. That's why it is 8,000 nerve-eddings what, than the clitoris? Nothing legs.

The idea of legs, it's a whole area, I'm sorry, they have these beautiful little stems, like flowers, tendrils. Stem stems stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem stem. Stem stem stem. How about stem not put little stems? Because it's like you don't think it'll be dead. Like that game's got nice stem. And they're inside your like late like behind your labial like it's um it's behind your pubic mound your labial your labial post. That's not good either the mound.

Oh dude. Jesus. Okay so what I'm saying is a lot of women they they the direct clitorial stimulation because you might just be like aah going right for it. But if you tease yourself and you just start to like use loop, I cannot recommend loop and not for masturbation and for sex. Um, buy some silicone loop. That's really super slippery and fun. I like system Joe.

It's great or Uber. Loop. It's a great one. And just start like rubbing like slow, slow, slow, like your fingers, like just tracing all over like your inner thighs, like your breasts, once you get down there, you know, play with your labia, your inner labia, around the clitoris, you can take some fingers inside

and then you'll start and pay attention, like breathe, women stop breathing too a lot. Focus on your breath, focus on what you're feeling and anytime your mind starts wandering, is it gonna happen? Go back to what you're feeling in your body at that time. And just start thinking about the sensations. Like that feels good.

Does that feel good? And you can also do this with your partner. He can use his fingers, maybe he can use a toy, he can use his mouth slowly. That's a problem, guys, go so fast sometimes. Have him slowly warm you up. So if he gives you a massage, a full body massage, your're naked, you feel good, and you start getting aroused, that could help as well. So I'm wondering how much foreplay you're having.

It's all about letting go, right? Yeah, it's all about letting go. That's the only way you're gonna have orgasms if you let go. You guys. And I was so what tightly wound, you might still think I am. A little bit, but I could have met you. I've chilled out so much.

But the reason why I never had an orgasm going up is because I think that my child, I don't know, like there's so many women, I used to actually great podcasts the other day with my new intern and Madison about new sex toys and you know, the joys of the women, my new intern, Laurie, she was saying that when she was seven years old, she was like, you know, in the shower

and like the shower head hit her. All these women riding a bike. Yeah, they just get it. They just have an orgasm and then she's always knowing. And it's just gone forever. Or gone till they're like, no, no, then she takes a lot of showers. But so she can continue to have,

she's not the emailer. No, not the email, but I'm just like the emailer. I'm just like the emailer who, Danny, I did- It's elusive. Yeah, but here's the thing, my life that growing up was very like my child. It was very stressful home. There was a lot of anxiety, like, you know,

stuff going on that wasn't great. You didn't think too much about it. No, I just never, I was so anxious, I think. I never thought to like lay in bed and touch my, like it didn't ever occur to me, even touch myself. I didn't hear about masturbation. But what you kind of described is you guys almost have to

like, fool yourselves. You almost have to trick yourselves. Like, you're gonna have it, no, you're not going through the over here, then bam, right back, you know what I mean? You have to like almost manipulate your own body. Speaking of which, how's the nipple orgasm coming? It's me. Well, it's me, you made a promise to the listeners.

I have, okay, so I'm not gonna show it. It's coming. Harden the pun. It's Mayhem, you made a promise to the listeners. I have, okay, so I'm not going to show it. It's coming. Hard in the bun. It's coming. I have this great vibrator. It's the Crave. Oh, oh, you know my Vesper necklace. They also made the tilt flex.

If you go to Crave.tilt.flax. Shit, what is it? Go to my website. They had this freaking cool vibrator. The flex and it has these two little prongs on it. It is USB charge all their toys are beautiful and I put it on my nipples and it feels really good but didn't have it. I haven't happened yet. I've still got a few days off. I need a man I think to help me out. You get two weeks. Dude I've been like

dating stuff so I gotta like get some man to get. Dating's getting in the way in my orgasms. No this weekend's all about seeing the movies that you tell me to see and then masturbating with three new vibrators. So yeah, it's all about getting out of your head. Separately. Don't do that at the same time. Don't take the vibes into the movie. Be disrespectful to like beat off or what you're mad at.

No, they're really quiet. I have very quiet quiet. Don't a mad Max without a vibrator, please. Have you ever had sex in a movie theater? Yeah. It's a bad movie. Bad movie. Like inner course. Nowadays, nowadays. Please have you ever had sex in movie theater? Yeah It's a bad intercourse bad movie like intercourse nowadays nowadays back when I was growing up It was like almost impossible because arm rest would not move nowadays. You can turn most other fun

On beds and they're like yeah, so if the movie sucks like back in the day I'd be like I'm spending money on her ticket my ticket. It's like I'm out 18 bucks I'm tied up for 18 bucks for this movie the movie is entertaining. Let's see what we can do, you know, but like how do you do that? Of the armrests and bang on? No, can't they use an empty theater? I sit towards it back. And plus the headrests is pretty high. I mean no one can see. I've never done. I've been in theaters too, where I could see people banging and they're good movies and I was pissed. This is a good movie. I could sit on, I was in a theater once where I saw these fucking horrible people, and they sent their kids up to the back.

They sent their kids up. No, no. And they banged. And they were like in the first row, a second row maybe, and I could see that they were banging, and they sent their kids off to the back of the theater to have fun, do God knows what? And I'm trying to, and it was a good movie. That's, parents are so worth it. That's the worst.

Go with a good movie. Yeah. Couldn't the good thing have sex when I get home? I think it was like a Lego movie. That's really depressing. Kids were bored and they're like, you know what, go play the back of the theater. Go play, we're gonna bang in the theater.

Those are bad, bad parents, bad parents. Yeah, should we do one more email? I'm sorry, yeah, one more email. Okay. I don't know what I should be wanna read here. I love how you guys have to tease yourselves. That's so sad. Cause that guy's like, no, no tees in yourself.

It's just like, it's gonna happen. The female orgasm is so complicated. The vagina. Such an enigma wrapped in a riddle. Let's hit the Rubik's cube of life. It's such a bummer. But with 4,000 pieces or 8,000. 8,000 nerve endings twice that of the penis.

We're freaking lucky. The only reason the clitoris exists is for female pleasure. There's no other reason. The penis is for other reasons. So that's why you got to get on your clitoris. And I'm telling you all, like, it wasn't natural for me. I had to work at it. I had to work at it.

What? Prolonged our species. Yeah, yeah, that's all important too. Okay, hi, Emily. I've been listening to your podcast during my daily commute and love all the great advice. I'm 23, I'm in a serious relationship. I think he's the one, but the sex is just okay. I have a serious lack of know-how in the bedroom

which leads to low sexual confidence. He's been nothing but patient and encouraging, but I know he wants more for me. I've also come to realize that a large part of my problem comes from body issues in my part. I love my body and clothes and swimwear problem comes from body issues in my part. I love my body and clothes and swimwear, but when I'm at birth they suit. I can't help but feel grossed out of the point where I don't even want to touch myself.

Is this normal? Can you help me get over this fear? Thank you Sarah. She's got two big blacks in her way, Anderson. She's got the two biggest blacks. She's got fear of not knowing what she's doing and the students are doing wrong and not feeling comfortable in your body. So Sarah, we got to work to these. Here's the thing. If he's the one, you say he's the one, you guys will

learn together. And you know, you'll try to please each other and the more confident, you'll get the more sex that you have. And like, I know I'm talking about communication. Anderson says it doesn't work by my book. Do you ever see that? I know. No, I get it. It's hard. It's more difficult than Emily really. Listen to my show with him. You know, do something more that will get you more, you know, experience. Like you're saying he wants more from you.

But does he say what he wants? Like does he say, I don't want the way he gave a blowjob? Where he's like, Hey, baby, put a little more pressure on it. Or is this just her own worrying that like, there's a lot of women I know are like, I think I'm really bad. I think I'm really bad. But yet, their partner doesn't even say that. So let's just take these one at a time. Remember that he is naked with you and he loves you, he's with you and he's turned on by you.

And also a million guys can tell you how you are and you're not going to feel it until you believe it. So you have to feel comfortable in your own skin before you can let yourself, you know, get in, let go sexually. Like what we're talking about. It's very important. So here's a few images, a few options. For the, let's talk in the body, you may think first. You don't have to change your body to have great sex, okay? You don't. You can make a decision that you're like, you know what, I love my body.

I'm just gonna, I like it the way it is. And, you know, not five pounds, not 10, not 20, you know, for me, but I'm gonna love my body. And you can just start, you know, and visualize your body as like this sexual goddess and do all these things. And you can just start, you know, and visualize in your body as like the sexual goddess and do all these things. I mean, that's, you know, that's one option. But there's also, you know, great option

is to like get on the treadmill, start going for a walk, start doing things that will make you feel good, get, you know, release those feel good hormones, the endorphins. And losing a few pounds will not only make you feel better during sex, it actually helps your performance because exercise is great for your sex life. Because it does increase the blood flow of the genitals, you know that? Increases your blood flow to your genitals, which is definitely a good thing.

And like I said, all those hormones, and when you're feeling good and confident, you're going to feel better about your body. So, and you'll be more engaged in sex when you feel better about your body. Also, you said you feel great debating suit. Here's the thing, not every woman, not every time you have to get naked. Like, wear some sexy outfits. You don't leave like one item of clothing on.

Like, leave your bra on. Like, leave wear a skirt. Wear like a cute little schoolgirl skirt and have them like lift guys love, lift it up, right? I mean, you don't have to get naked every single time. So, you know, while I wish that you were comfortable on your skin, you don't, you know, if you don't want to feel so vulnerable,

like just go get some sexy outfits, we're at least like long piece, right? I mean, don't you think it's kind of hot sometimes when a woman has just like a little bit picking out and she's wearing something sexy? It's way better, a lot of the time, way better. Really? Why way better?

Cause her naked not good. You can still see how they look on the street. Really? Why way better? Cause our naked not good. You can still see how they look on the street. You know what I mean? You can kind of get like half and half. Yeah. You'd be like, oh, this is how everyone else sees them, but there's a little peeking through. Exactly.

A little peeking through. Exactly. Like the nipple slip is so much sexier than just like the nipples. It's entire websites devoted to the nipple slip. Which one? I think it's nipple slip dot com. I love it. Okay, so that's what I'm saying.

So go shopping, buy some sexy clothes, go to one of those strippers or whatever. Get some stuff that makes you feel good. And also start touching yourself. Like again, like I talked about earlier, masturbation, it's a fundamental part of your sexual satisfaction and what makes you feel good. And once you feel like you know how to make yourself feel good,

you're gonna start feeling more confident. Because when you said he wants more, I'm just wondering if you're getting pleasure as well. And so there's also a lot of resources. If you really feel like you don't know what you're doing, you can watch porn, you can get my book, hot sex. Check out my lab site, secosami.com. I mean, I've got, okay, it's a 10 year old website.

Hundreds, okay, about thousand podcasts, hundreds of articles and every sex position on the planet, videos, you know, just get some information, just start reading, learning, however you learn, listen to, you know, and you'll get there. But these are two major blocks, I know you'll get through it, but you gotta just make some commitments here that you're going to, that you want to,

that it's important to you, Sarah, and I believe you can do it, sister. I know you can. And at least you know what the issues are, right? Now we gotta work on it. Okay, that's what we got time for today, Anderson. I had a good time. I'm so glad. It's great to see you. How's the no smoking going? I'm so proud of you. And there's any vapors listening. If any people vapors are looking to quit smoking, check out craft vap you. And there's any vapors listening. If any people vape or they're looking to quit smoking, check out craft vapory. And like Emily has a bunch of codes.

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