Sex With Emily - Foot Fetishes

Episode Date: August 31, 2011

Emily's lesbian cousin Liz shares how to please a woman, how long do you really want sex to last, why lesbian sex is so passionate, strap-ons, dildos, lesbian death-bed syndrome, 24 hour date, creative ways to turn her on, female oral sex tips from the lesbian perspective, why men are afraid of touching breasts, kissing during sex, how to get into the mood, orgasms from nipple play, Panty Droppers, being the single person in your friend group, when to lose your virginity, Emily knows how to please men, the number one male fantasy, where you don't want to meet people, and foot fetishes just for men? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We've got a real live lesbian in the studio who's going to discuss lesbian sex and what we can learn, what we can all learn from lesbian sex. She's going to share some of her experiences because we've actually never talked about, I know she's a lesbian and she's my cousin my whole life. We've never got into it. Happy Lizzy. We have not, but I just have to say, I'm so happy to be here and it's wonderful to participate in this and it's super exciting. Thank you for having me. Thank you for being here. So I'm so happy to be here and it's wonderful to participate in this and it's super exciting. Thank you for having me. Thank you for being here.

I'm a very happy lesbian, but I'm even happier to be here with you today. Yeah. And I'm really excited that you're here because see this issue that I have all the time with like, with articles that she brings up is like, oh, here's an article about a woman that, I mean that wrote about how to please a man now i want to learn from a lesbian how to please a woman you know because I think that you would probably know best like what you like and what they like well i try not to just play lesbian on TV

so they will do my best for everybody but i think there's a lot that we could learn for you about like oral sex and all that stuff so we're gonna like we're gonna get into that in a minute and feel free to pipe in and chime in with everything we're talking about so speaking of climbing up the stairs though for six for six flights yeah i finally got the stoppin at zappos oh you did so exciting because that was isn't and they gave us a book they gave us their delivering happiness book written by the ceo no way the shoes but they gave us that that's sweet love on you actually saw them

uh... the other day and they're really nice they're really nice people i just i've talked about the show that they're not a sponsor we just want to know that i love that was and if they want to be a sponsor i will totally i will promote the rap out of you okay so we also uh... yeah a little bit sex in the news

and we have a daily poll on the site. So our daily poll yesterday was how long would you like, how long do you like an entire sex session to last? Okay, so here's the results. All right. 15 minutes, 10%. 30 minutes, 45% of you think, and 60 minutes, 45%. Neck and neck.

You know how much work goes into that. I knew you'd say that. No, wait, wait, wait. This is actually this from making out. See, you didn't really break it down. Is it from making out? That's session. So it's penetration.

That's a blank out. Nope, it's a sex session from four play to end. Would you like it to last 15 minutes 30? And it looks like most people want longer socks. So how about that 45 minutes? And we've got a new poll going up tomorrow Which I Did not write down but it's gonna be on the website you can check that out

That is we got new polls Monday Wednesday Friday, so you you are including making out and including make it I'm talking from beginning to end. Okay from the first kiss then the first kiss the end. Okay. I can go with that But I'm just saying if you want penetration for an hour that's gonna. That's a long time. Okay, I can go with that, but I'm just saying if you want penetration for an hour, that's going to, you know, that's a long time. Yeah, I agree. But, but the whole four-place since we're so big into four-play here and, uh, right, Liz? Four-place-you, right? Absolutely. Could you bring more? Could you bring more. Could you bring more? That four-play is so important. And then last night, I went through all of my sex books because my interns are doing, they're going to do monthly book reports on all the, you know, I get so many books sent to me. So we're gonna like report to you like the best sex books

out there coming soon. But it was really fun. It was like nostalgia going through all the books I read and all the stuff I've done. I've not seen my place. I've got like hundreds and hundreds of sex books. So many books. So there's so many books that come to my office for you that I have to carry down here. I know. So if I didn't read a book, wrote a book or anything, feel free to send along to me So I thought that we could we could do a little bit of Emails and I think that Cousin Liz could even help answer some of the questions and then we have some specific questions for you right before we get into that Could I bring in many some of you please because we haven't really talked about our day?

I had something happened to me today. Oh, thank God. What? My assistant, who I have at my other company, she saying, oh, you know, I had to get off work. I got to go celebrate. I got to go have a martini and go out to eat. And I'm like, what's going on? She goes, it's my half birthday.

Half birthday? Half birthday. I go, what are you talking about? Half birthday. She's all, yeah, I'm this age and six months so the new thing apparently that is news to me that women's celebrate half birthdays now is she three years old no exactly no I'm just thought how ridiculous this was so I treated it out and I I Facebooked it and I had new words people say oh yeah

I celebrate half birthdays also oh my god it's a target of that answer something I guess but it was only women that was that was responding I would never do that I didn't want to celebrate my one birthday I mean I barely wanted to celebrate last week just because it's a pain I don't love birthday parties and the whole thing but some people are like obsessed with birthdays like so many birthdays like. There's always birthday months, birthday weeks. Oh, I never did that. I'm like, give me a birthday five minutes.

Yeah. Your cupcakes with the best. Of course. We have a new video coming up that's actually this birthday. I thought I would share that with the world. Maybe there's more people out there. I think I would have birthdays, feedback, it's sexwithemley.com. We want to hear from you.

I thought that was a little ridiculous. That is ridiculous. I thought I was sure. No, that's it. You sure? I'm trying to think if I have anything else except for the fact that I did get a stop at my blind date guy that I went out with on Saturday. He said he would be back in town in two weeks. Oh, okay. So what are you going to do now? Is there like some, some, some, some, some museum that you didn't go to? Exactly. Maybe this time. Yesterday I went to Disney Museum. Now we're going to go. No, I don't know. He's

he's going to be back in town. So I'll meet him. Let's see. Is there like a play when you're dizzy museum, now we're gonna go now. I don't know he's he's he's gonna be back in town. So I'll meet him. Let's see. Is there like a play that you're gonna go see? Maybe we'll go see a play the ballet opening. I don't know. I just thought that I should share that and then the blind date from two weeks ago that I wasn't into also emailed me to go out again. But I said now.

How did you break it to him? No, I just blow by that. Tell me how he was leaving town. I know. I said maybe. Okay. He's leaving town for three months to go meditate. So I was like, yeah, I'm going to be gone for a week.

He takes three months to meditate. Yeah. He's living on an ashram and doing a whole thing, but he's like, why would you do that? Because he can make a living like, I cannot take three months off. He's got like money saved or something, I don't know. That's insane to me. So I think that's one, like, why would I go out with him one more time before he's leaving for three months?

And what guys are going out with that meditate for three months? I'm meditated for a month, for 10 days at a time. Remember cause when I do that? Look, I'll go. I can't really remember that. Oh my God. Can I go like, let's move to Michigan together and do the show out there. Okay.

And just so we can go back to normal. He thinks that I'm so California right now. You're so like sold out, you're Michigan roots. Like I'm from here. It's just so weird that the people that are not from the Bay area that moved to San Francisco, like take on this whole like hippie lifestyle of drinking wine and doing yoga and like, they're doing that.

Absolutely. But no, but I don't find like the people that are actually from this area doing that because you guys are so entrenched in whatever you grew up with entrenched in real life like you go back to Michigan people are gonna look at you like my mom is yoga Lizzie tell him I am telling the truth I'm sorry mom is your on the phone with her telling her how amazing it is when it isn't it you've. You've never done it. You need to do it. I did and I was injured

for three months. I did this morning. You shut up. Yeah, there is your injured because you had to sit cross like it. Yeah, because again, it was some other person that wasn't even from this area. I thought how amazing it was that moved here to San Francisco and got all into it and they're like try to convince me to do it. And that's why I tried it and I hurt myself. Yeah, well one time is not enough again I have not found somebody from here that is Okay, so what do you say I moved you're a long time ago for me? I think myself is like from the heartland No, I'm just roots good stock, you know how they didn't think we're both from Michigan

I you know Emily you eat so much, you know, potatoes and rice and meat. I mean, that's good. You can only say you're from the Midwest. Yeah, I know. It's good. But I'm just saying they're dating weirdos that are into that kind of stuff. Okay. You should date a guy from Michigan.

I have dated guys from Michigan. That's why I moved. A long time ago. A long, long time ago. You should try one out. Find one. Go on one of those websites and search them out. Okay. Sounds good. I like the Midwestern guys. I've met, but when I did the Cali, no, here's the thing with the California guys, they're all a little crazy. You're

all liberal hippie. That's you. No, I'm not crazy. Yeah, well, you're not. I'm not normal. I'm not a liberal hippie. I'm not a liberal hippie I just like to meditate and do yoga what I'm wondering since Lizzie's like I got a little I think we should just get into this okay cool. Okay, so Liz we've get these emails So we're gonna get to the we're gonna get to the emails because Lizzie's gonna have to run it in Whatever 20 minutes half hour, but we're gonna get in some stuff here and then we'll get back to listen to emails and we're gonna get back to Do some sex in the news if we've got time But Lizzie, here's a question that can call you Lizzie. Does everyone call you Lizzie still?

You know what people who know me best. Oh my cousin Lizzie. What can I say? She's my older cousin and I always looked up to you my whole life and now it's the other way around Right. Oh The age thing but the looking up to think but I just have to say one thing that I to think, but I just have to say one thing that I am one today. Anyway, I'm one lesbian. And I am sure, and you have countless numbers of lesbians listening to you. And so I just want to say, ladies, shout it out. I'm going to give one opinion. I've been, I've been a card-caring lesbian for 20 years. I have my experience and I know all you ladies out there have had your own experiences. So I hope that through

SexWithEmily.com you guys really start up a conversation and say you know what? That crazy cousin of M she had some opinions completely disagree. My experiences are completely different. Shout it out because let's make it a conversation. I think so too let's make it a conversation. I think so too. Let's make it a conversation. This is just one opinion. One opinion. One opinion. Yeah, I get that I have to defend myself all the time. I'm like, I do not speak for all men. I know. Because people get angry with me sometimes. Which we love. Okay, so this is, this is one. Dear Emily, is lesbian sex more about

caressing, kissing, licking, nibbling, and sucking as opposed to penetration. What has been your experience with your partners for penetration sex that you more excited to be on the giving or receiving? And thanks for taking time to answer my question, Jeff from Minnesota. So we just wanted to know what's lesbian sex, what's it all about? I think lesbian sex is a lot like other kinds of sex in the sense that we all love lots of different things and I think none of us would want to be pigeonholed to say we

only like one thing you know maybe this week we're into one kind of crossing and next week is another kind but the truth is lesbian sex is just as much variety as any other kind of sex out there. So absolutely, I think Jeff makes a really interesting point. I think there's this idea out there that women, we're softer and we're just into caressing and touching and we're a little bit of anti-penetration because we don't come genetically with that penis,

but the truth is we like all of it. And it's all great and at least you know My experience and thinking about conversations I've had with friends, you know what? It's all good. It's all good. It's all different Absolutely, okay, I mean, you know we get bored like everybody else So you know you got to mix it up. You got to keep it lively You know those of us who've had long-term relationships, I've been lucky enough to have them myself.

You know what, you got to keep it lively, you got to keep it interesting, and you got to figure out how to keep your partner satisfied. And of course you want to be satisfied yourself. And that's where, as M always talks about on her show, as Menace always says as well, it's all about communication. It's just how you want to do it.

Communication is a lubrication we always say. Absolutely. So what about like, do you use any sex toys or any straps? 100%. 100%. Sex toys do you like? Well, you know what, there's a whole variety out there and I don't know that I'm any different than anybody else.

I will say I am not from San Francisco. I'm also from the Hardee Midwest and in my town there are plenty of sex stores and you know what? What's really exciting is that one lesbian sex store in town they're really good about bringing out sex toy shows. They do them a couple times a month. They're great about advertising them. It's SRO. it's Stany Romoli, and the women come in, and they learn all about how to use all of them. So, you know, the variety is out there for us too. And it's some of us.

It's like a typical lesbian toy then, not, you don't say you've used it or not, but like, what is like a typical, like, oh, yeah, all my friends got the blank, any blank. I mean, I think, you know, the Dildo. Right. All right. You know, which is a non-vibrator vibrator vibrates, but there's the Dildo. There's, you know, countless numbers of vibrators out there. The vibrator is really popular, really common. Lots of women I know use them are really satisfied by them either using them by themselves or with partner.

They're really popular. Okay, got it. You have a question, man? Yeah, well, I just want to rewind a little bit. Okay. Does that want to figure out, you know, how was your experience coming out? That's a great question. Wow, man.

You know, you were here yesterday, but you were on the air, and you said that you've had sex with men before and stuff like that. I have. So, how was the transition? How was coming out and all that? It's a great question. I'll do my best and um, and knows the story too, so she can certainly chime in so I think I just said so I've been in card carrying lesbian for about 20 years um, I

And when I came out it was you know, let's just say a few weeks ago, and it was a little bit of a different time um, not as easy maybe for a lot of the teenagers out there few weeks ago, and it was a little bit of a different time, not as easy maybe for a lot of the teenagers out there who might be listening to the show, a little bit of a different time. And so as much as I grew up in a pretty liberal family, truthfully, it was a little hard on my parents. They really, they struggled with a little bit,

they weren't shocked, it wasn't a huge surprise, but I can't say they were happy about it. But for me personally, it was a little bit, they weren't shocked, it wasn't a huge surprise, but I can't say they were happy about it. But for me personally, it was a huge relief and a huge piece of understanding about myself and I never looked back and it was a great decision in my early life, so pretty happy about it. When did you first realize that you were lesbian? I would say, you know, looking back, you know, I, what can I say, I fall into a funny stereotype. So I had that really cute gym teacher at my school. Super cute, you know,

taught field hockey. And when I think back on my friends in junior high and high school, who are now full-fledged lesbian, themselves, you know, we all had a crush on her. It was, you know, oh yeah. And, you know, we didn't, in my life, straight fat, we didn't have for crushes on the, yeah. I mean, you know, that was definitely out there, but, you know, this was also, you know, we didn't really have the words to put around it at that point that, you know, kind of happened later. So we kind of got it in our hearts and maybe in our heads, but we didn't have the words yet to put around it. So, but I would say for myself, it really kind of happened in college and then right after college in graduate school.

I remember when you told me you were at university, we both went to university in Michigan. Yes, we did. Lizzie came to visit me and she was like, you know, I have to tell you that I have tell you something I'm a lesbian. I already thought so because every time we talked about it, I'm like, so who are you dating? You're like, well, this person that I'm dating is really interesting and then it's just, never using gender.

And I'm like, that's really interesting. She never says he or she. And so that was kind of my thing. And I think I just kind of had it. I've known you for it. My new girlfriend told me and I don't think you would even told your parents yet. That's probably true. That's probably true.

We were young, but also we were close and I clearly trusted you and wanted you to know and it was a really important thing to be able to take the time to tell you what was going on. Yes, I'm glad that you did. And we've never talked about this extra what that's what I was gonna ask you another thing. How do you how you figured out how to deal with women yet because man. Oh, a struggle. Menace, you know what? I got to say, in my ripe old age, I got to say the day I learned how to figure out women, okay, you know, I got to say, and again, ladies, I'd love to hear from you out there. I'd love to have you, you know, send an email and hear what you have to say. Yeah, not easy.

I think, you know, my own personal experience, women are super complicated. And sometimes I need a little bit of a break and go hang out with my gay men because they're just, you know, it's generally a happy experience, not to stereotype, not to generalize, of course, everybody's their own individual. But yeah, not easy, men, not easy. I just feel like you just lifted a weight off my shoulder.

Why? Because you're not the only one who doesn't see women. But the relationships are more complicated. For example, there's the whole U-Haul theory, right? What is a lesbian? What does a lesbian bring on a second date? Completely. Are you all?

Okay, explain how that works. Have you ever heard that? So the idea is that women are inclined to be enmeshed really quickly. And so they go on a first date, and there's all this connection, and all the pheromones are just running and there's all this chemistry. And so they decide super quick to just check up and move in together. And so the joke is what does the lesbian bring in a second date? Answer you hall. And I know I grew up with that and I've certainly seen my fair share of

it and I've seen the you hall leave. You know, if you're a player there's definitely some of that too. What's exciting and interesting is that I see lots of men doing it too. And so the joke now is, gee, you know, all these gay men, you know, are you a bunch of lesbians also? Right, that's interesting. But they say in the gay community that they're just not as committee, there's more open relationships, right? Boy, you know, that's really, that's a tough one. Right. And I'm not a statistician and I'm no sociologist. I got none of that stuff going on.

But, you know, I think the question is whether maybe it's more accepted in the gay community and so people are more able to talk about it openly and freely as opposed to maybe in straight couples like it's a little bit more hush-hush little bit excuse the pun in the closet. Actually that's a question to maybe throughout your audience like what do other people think like if straight couple if people in straight relationships are having a fair step and out of their primary relationship like what's that about. Right exactly. You know? That's a good question. I mean right it's not to say that you guys

don't have the same issues that we have. Completely. It's all the same. Okay. So a lot of people say that, like, lesbian sex is more passionate than other kinds of sex. You know, I just have to say I've had many conversations with lesbians with gay men, little less so with straight couples. Maybe it's a little less comfortable there, but I know all the gay men in my life, you know, they get a little upset with me when I say something like, you know,

lesbian sex is more intense. They don't like it, you know, they're unhappy about it. They're real happy with the sex they're having, they're real satisfied with it. So real hard to say, but I do think that there's this idea out there because women are somehow better than better at connecting. And so, but I will say this, lots of lesbians who I've talked about this with are really, really happy with their sex lives. They really are, they feel that intensity. Now, is that just about being comfortable in their skin

and being comfortable with the partner that they're with? And so that's kind of all in the mix, I don't know. But it, you know, those of us who are happy lesbians, I think most of us have, have had very happy sex experiences. Oh, that's good. Yeah. Because when men are so confusing, like it is, like I'm constantly just giving oral sex tips for men and trying to help them explain it.

So you guys both, would you women have the same body parts? I mean, I think. But it still is different for each one. Well, you know, what's interesting? It's like, oh, you know, you have a vagina. I have a vagina. So your vagina has to function exactly like mine. And of course, that's silly, right?

Because everybody's their own person. You know, so maybe we get out of the starting block in the same way, but to get it down the road and to get it happy, got to have that communication. Because I like it this way and you like it that way. And if I don't give it the way, you know what, you're an unhappy customer. And that's not good for either one of us.

So you still gotta talk. Right, you still gotta talk about it. Okay. I think. What are some stereotypes that don't involve sex? That has to do with lesbian. So you wanna get out there, they're not right. Because can I just name one?

Absolutely. Is the Subaru, the number one. The Lesbaro is that the Lesbaro? You know, I can tell you I have I have a friend at home. She's straight. She's she's she's never been with a woman and you know I don't think it's going to happen. Although you never know the right woman could come along, which is a whole other conversation. You know what? She talks about her car as the Les Baroux. Like she gets it and she gets it people when they meet her, they might actually think she's a lesbian because she drives a one. So there's definitely that going on.

No question. Here's another one. I have another one. Oh yeah. Lesby in bed death syndrome. Oh yeah. What is that? How do you mind?

Well, I will say this. I will say this because I've actually had this conversation with a therapist friend I know who specializes in gay couples and she says in her experience that lesbian bed death not only exists But the rate of decline in sexual activity between women is higher She says it now again. This is her experience and her practice, one person. I don't even know what you're talking about. Okay, so they say that lesbians are together for a long time eventually stop having sex.

So they call the lesbian bed deaths and death. Oh, right, I thought they died having sex. Oh, sorry, I don't think so. You know what, men is right, we should clarify. We should. So what do you think, what does she attribute that to? Well, is it like a hormonal thing? Is it, you know what, you can't, that's a great comment M

because I think, you know, somebody with her own, you know, listen in my, in my advanced 120 years, you know what, the hormones, they take their toll, there's no question. And that's absolutely huge piece going on. And even among my straight friends, like, is they're getting older, you know what, the hormones are coming down and they're not as interested as they were in their 20s and 30s. That's absolutely true.

And you combine it times two. You know, absolutely, that's a piece. So I think that in combination, if you've been in a long-term relationship, again, I'm repeating myself, you got it. If you don't figure out a way to enliven it, keep it happy, keep it active. That can help to create a problem where you stop figuring out how to satisfy each other long-term. And I also think

because there is this idea out there, again, there's a question for the ladies out there, does it become a self-fulfilling prophecy? It's like, you have this idea, like, yeah, you know what, my friends have been really honest with me, They're not having so much sex anymore. So I can feel okay. Like, I'm just gonna relax back into cuddling and I'm kind of done with the other stuff. And I think, you know, maybe women are just as guilty out there as everybody else and not knowing how to use

the kind of tools and you're making available to help people figure out how to keep it happy. Right, I'm trying. So what have you done in your relationship? Let's say the lesbian bed that you stopped coming the train, lesbian bed death syndrome train was coming. What did you do to spice it up? You know what? We did something, we started something years ago that really was fun and it worked for us and I'll share it. We started doing once, like, twice a month, a 24-hour date.

Like, turn off the phone, turn off the computer, Saturday noon till Sunday noon. It's private time, it's sacred time. You can go out to dinner, you can go to the theater, you can spend 24 hours in bed, you just do it up, you do it differently, and you just say to find a time. Right, for great. And it became super, and it became really special and very exciting.

Right, that's good. I love it. I love it. That's a great idea. That's like, what we're saying, like people should take time away, get away. It's so, but also I think not, I just, not to, you you know, it's like I'd love to do that once a week None of us they have 24 hours once a week. It's just too hard So the idea of twice a month work for us. That's amazing. Yeah, I think that's a really good idea

Just for now because people are such so glued to their phones Yeah, men have been in the phone all time. I still do the show. I have to check email. But yeah, people like you walk, you go outside this building and every single person has the phone in their hand. It's not in their pocket. And then just imagine, and you see even couples walking by and they both have... Or the couple of dinner when they're both on the phone texting. What are you doing? Why are you in a dinner? The 24 hour thing I think is amazing. That's an amazing idea. I'm gonna do that one day Well, what I was so then how about a shout-out to your listeners? Okay, if people want to try to even once and kind of report back how to go was it hard?

Was it hard to get off the phone? Yeah, and I will just say in this age when as as you're both saying as we're all over connected and I'm sitting here with my iPad and my phone right in front of me, you want to know something, give yourself the gift of practice. Right. And if you set it up as that 24 hours and its do or die, you may fail. But if you ease into it and keep talking with your partner

and figure out a way to kind of do something that's going to work then you know what huge success. You're not distracted by anything else and you're singularly focused. So that means no phones, no television, no iPad, no television. No television, oh that's hard one. Well like if we watch TV together. If you're watching TV together and it's about the romance and not about, you know, glee, which is really hard to do.

I love glee. But, you know, just to make it about your partner. I watched ET the other day. Yeah. You know where you think that would be pretty sexy. Man is neat to have on the farm. Man is such a man. Thank you.

Okay, so I want to read you something. This is an article I found and it's called Lesbian Secrets for Men. And I want to see if how you feel about it. Okay, because I think this is a spend time on places other than her just her breasts and vagina. I talk about this all the time. Mangle, right, if you've been a while since you were with a man. Literally, they're like, boob is vagina.

Like do you see my stomach? Do you see my shoulders? Do you know how good it feels when you kiss my ear? That doesn't happen. So, men tend to focus on what sets women apart from themselves during sex. They're breast and vagina. Since men enjoy women touching their penis

to get them aroused, they assume women want the same. However, women actually prefer to have their entire body of paid attention to. Since women on women at sex does not involve penetration some time, most time, they must find other ways to turn each other on. So, men pretend there is no penetration allowed,

you must find other ways to turn your front around. So, what do you think about that? Would you say your sex, it can't just be about boobs of a vagina. Well, I want to say that you're missing the other 90 plus percent of real estate available. Why would you deny yourself? Right. Why would you deny yourself?

Why would you deny yourself? And here's a challenge for you. Explore your partner's body. Figure out what else turns her on. Or for the men out there, what turns him on. Right, so give me an example of some unique experience you've had or spot on a woman that was like, wow, that really turned her on behind her kneecaps when I looked at her. You know what, you're kind of reading my mind a little bit.

I'm a little bit of a serial managamous, full disclosure. So those of you women out there who've had hundreds of lovers, I mean, I've been lucky enough to have too long-term relationships. So a little less variety on that front for me, but I will say frankly, if you're good, any area in the body is in a ragenous zone. You just gotta go find it. And you know what? Again, and back to your point, use those toys.

Because your hands, your mouth, like those are great, use props. Use feathers, use food, use whatever you think, might turn your partner on, and then you discover together, the elbow is great, the back of the head. I love when a guy just touches my chair, 100%. On my forearm, my neck, everything. I can't wait to put my foot on my back.

Oh my gosh. I can get this foot. 100%. See, I don't think, do women have food fetishes? Or is that just a man thing? Food fetishes. Yeah, I think it's a food fetishes. Like, yes.

I believe me, I have one. We in our family, the women in our family, have a huge food family. We love to eat that family. Have you heard about that, though, because I've been begging for a year now for a foot fetish person to eat the show. I think you can do me a last, we've read it but they haven't broken down like a

why does it make them hot right if they can understand why it does but we've it's always men does is that is that a women women thing right there are planning a women out there who've got as many fetishes out there as the men i would think and i personally know women who you know in their own way look they love to touch feet they love to have their feet touched that doesn't mean they've

got a 24 by 36 photo of a foot on their ceiling but in the right way during this 45 minutes or hour 24 hours of intimacy touch your foot see what happens. Okay another tip from lesbian these are lesbian secrets from I'm listening. Have a night of mutual masturbation like close to each other and kiss each other often especially the neck, breast and belly errors that you that you have body to body contact and you can really see. Watching your partner as they use their own hands is a great teaching tool as you both get turned on by the visual display. You might even want to place your hands softly over hers as she touches herself to learn the right pressure. So do you ever do that, Mitchell Master? Watch

each other like when you're first with someone and you know what makes them feel good and that's how you learn. I mean, I think for exactly the reasons you're describing, I think we would all be denying ourselves a huge tool, a huge benefit if we didn't do pieces of this. I mean, absolutely 100%. I mean, you know, guys, let's take the mask off. Like masturbation. It's, it's, it's there for all of us and it's a tool to use and go for it and and doing it with a partner. Perfect. Perfect. It's all good. It's all good. Yeah. Put it on the table. What about this is the main question I had for you. What about oral sex tips? I know that all women are different, but I would think of lesbians we have just have more experience Are there and they know that every more?

Then I feel sorry then I hope that's not true only because I think you know we all enjoy oral sex Yeah, I'm always going to make gay alike, you know, I But are there any like chick tick like I know you've been different women and all women are different But are there any like tips or tricks or things that were like wow that always works every time well? I don't you know or things that were like, wow, that always works every time. Well, I don't, you know, what I do think, what's really nice when you're having sex with the same partner over time, is that you learn to feel their rhythm and you learn to follow their rhythm and you learn to read their signals using all of your senses so that you can really focus and

apply pressure as they want it and relax when they want it and kind of go with the flow like feel it like water feel it like you know what this is just a really organic process and I'm just gonna go with how she is telling me she wants to move right That's big. She might not be actually saying something. Completely. And, you know, some women, look, everybody's different. Some women want to be penetrated while they're receiving some don't.

Some want the insides of their thighs caressed, some don't. Some want to be touched on their butt, some don't. Some want their breast caressed while they're being penetrated or receiving some don't someone to be touched on their butt some don't someone want their breast caress while they're being penetrated or right receiving some don't and so it's you know there's just there's so many options and so many choices right right so do men's but I mean men do women do you think spend more time on the brats because I've noticed that men don't really anymore they used to don't like two seconds. What's up with that? No idea. I think they're afraid because I think they just been turned down because they've gone for it

So I know because I believe when they're younger that's they go for it right away and then they get pushed away So later on in life that's what they're used to they're used to being pushed away So then they just don't pay. They just skip over the breast, they don't write to the vagina, and then write to the sex. That is my theory. Wow. That's a shame.

I know, because to have you ever been with a woman who can orgasm from her nipples? Yes. Yes, they have. Right. It's amazing. It's amazing. It's amazing.

Yeah. A lot of women can do it, but they just don't know it, because a man hasn't spent as much time. Exactly. OK. So that's the point I wanted to know. Okay, play with toys. So we said that's toys are for everyone, men, women, you together.

So, and you said. And, you know, part of your date time with your partner is to go to a sex shop. And I love it. I love it. Talk with the person behind the counter because, you know, what, they're there in their train. If it's a good store, they're there and they're trained and I'm going to give one other tip and in one of the shops in my city you know what you go

online they've got videos online talking you through getting you comfortable with the idea of coming into the store and trying it out. Okay good and we also have Adam and Eve I can give them a shout out now. That's a perfect segue into our sponsor, Adam and Eve, since we're talking about toys, if there's this is the perfect time to buy a toy, if you've been wanting to buy a toy, they're offering 50% off most items to loyal sex with that many listeners and they'll throw in three adult DVDs and a free gift plus free shipping. So just go to Adam and Eve.com, putting coupon code Emily at checkout and take advantage of this deal today and get some amazing sex toys. People, what are you waiting

for? They're like the easiest thing. They help you, right? Perfect segue, I am. Right. Can I ask you real quick? I know that you have to leave in a few minutes, but do you do a lot of traveling? I do. You do. So what do you think? Any lesbian community and any other city is different than the other? That's a great question. I got a ton of them Yeah, you do. I'll tell you something. I'm just out here in San Francisco visiting for a few days and I Friends of mine and I were out to dinner last night and I saw a bunch of tables of lovely ladies out And it was just a beautiful site

I think San Francisco seems like it's got a lot going on and the lesbian front as we I think we all know You know, I've only actually lived in a few cities You know a lot in in communities. I know people complain like there isn't enough going on for just the women Right and the men are better. It's staff, commercial enterprise, which is a real shame. But lots of choices out there for great places to live as a lesbian. Got it. Good.

Okay. Do we have to say it's one thirty? Yeah. Okay. We could do one more. One more question? One more. One more.

One more. And then I, okay. A tricky. Kiss more often during intercourse. For women kissing is the fastest and easiest way to turn around and get a juices flowing. Don't forget to kiss her when it's most important to her during intercourse. Try to kiss everywhere. Do you still make out when you're having sex?

Completely, I think it's, you have to. Right. First of all, let's, do you kiss things in the first place? Let's be, let's have the fun. Do you know the kissing is the first thing that goes in relationships, long term relationships? It's one of the first thing that goes. They're like, we have sex when we don't make out and I think making out is so

I do too sometimes even more important more than it. I'm like can we make out? I can you know what I can use toys on myself, but I can't kiss myself. I know you're right. I want to make out Thanks, cuz love to being here Absolutely, you guys have a great thing. Can't wait to keep listening. Thank you for having me. Thanks. Am I going to see you again? Cuzz.

I don't know. Let's talk. Talk. Come with me later. OK. All right. Love you. Love you too. OK.

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Yeah and I know it's kind of confusing to people too because they were useless into the podcast in a different way so please email me with any of your questions I'm responding to all of them about the technical stuff and I'm trying to respond to all your emails too as I always do. So yeah sexfileme.com and just thanks. I love, love, love my listeners, like, for last six years, like just hearing from everybody, it's changed my life. And this is my dream being here five days a week.

It's all I've ever wanted to do. So I feel very lucky and blessed. And thanks everyone for supporting this endeavor. Okay. Let's get to some more emails. Go for it. Hey, I'm in Menace. I love listening to your podcast while I'm at work.

Keep up the wonderful talks. I just had a question concerning my new relationship. I've been dating this wonderful guy for just over two months and we've only slept together once. Okay. Both our past relationships prior were quite messy so we decided to take it slow. Before him, I hadn't had sex in a few years. I'm 24 but I find that I don't need it as much.

I want to want to but I'm starting to think I'm asexual or something, but because of my past, I'm always really cautious about sex. I'm just never in the mood and we barely ever in a position or place to do so. Any advice, Caitlin from Rhode Island? Well, I'd say first, if you're experiencing like a low libido or not, you're not really, you're not experiencing desire, my first thing is always get checked out by doctor because you might have, you know, are you taking any medications?

If you have a son dip into be libido, your doctor could check you out. So that would be the first thing. And then I would say there are ways to start if you're feeling not as sexual. As a woman, like there are men, but there are ways to start bringing that back into your relationship. I don't know how often

Caitlin used fantasy, but to start like fantasizing during the day, like, you know, maybe you could be like the hot guy you see the gym. Phantasize about him. That's what guides you all the time. You start bringing sex into you, you make a conscious effort to bring sex into your life. Masterbait more. Phantasize, masturbatebait doesn't matter. You can try to stimulate your own sex drive, because you're feeling it for each other. Maybe the two of you need to do stuff to spice it up. Or have a nice dinner in a couple of martinis or two. Oh, God, men. I'm the saying. Menace always thinks you should get drunk. But maybe she's not a drinker. So I would say, yes, first get checked. And then I would say, make a conscious effort. Like, read a rotica, rent porn, watch porn,

there's so much that you can do to kind of stimulate that sexuality, if it's not coming on your own, I would say. Yeah. So it might have tended. Yeah. Sorry, I was trying to bring something other than alcohol and then I just had an idea. I need to post this cocktail, when I worked at a bar,

it was called the panty dropper. And it was just like, this super hard drink, but it tasted delicious and you can't really taste there was too much alcohol. Oh, that's my drink. Yeah. I want it. And then you just get wasted. Because I can't drink that much, but if I have a good tasting drink, I'll be wasted.

Yeah, I'm going to go and back to the bar that I had that we're technically out the combination. Because I could use one today, it's been stressful now. A panty dropper? Maybe. Maybe four when I'm done with five when I'm doing it. What are you going to do later today? What are your plans?

My plans are I am going to my goddaughter's eighth birthday party. Party? And Marin, it's party. Yeah, she's turning eight and it's hard because they live in Marin, which is like half an over the bridge and I don't get over there as much. So I try to make birthdays and I try to make Christmas. Cool. But what is the situation gonna be like? Well, to all Marin.

People are gonna be like, oh, okay. So you can be the only single. I'm always the only single one. This is what happens to me. I am always a single person at every party, at every event. And all my friends are married in Marin. Marin County is more of like people who their families go and they go there,

and their families, and they leave. So I'm the single one. So everyone descends upon me like, who are you dating? What's going on? What's the latest thing in sex? Oh, I heard your show. You know, so I think I kind of become like,

they think my dating stories are hilarious and I kind of become that person. But it also isn't in the flip side of it. It's like, that should be me married with kids right now in Marin County, but it's just not really what I wanted. But that's gonna be no single. There's gonna be no single. I don't really see any single guys being out of eighth. No, it's gonna be a lot of parents with kids taking pictures. I mean it's it's not it's it'll be nice because she's adorable and I love that I have so

many kids in my life. Two-grad children and three nieces. So it's that's what I'm doing tonight and then I'm gonna go home and work and update the website because I'm really, everyday producing content. So, got some stuff to write, got three videos to post, new videos that people haven't seen yet. Yeah, I wanna see that video section full. And you got it to like, you should do like a crib's type show

where you go through like a sex shop and stuff like that. Oh, it's a great idea. That's a great idea. Kelsey did that. Well, my interns were all going to go to some sex classes together. Okay. Yeah. And they're also coming up this summer where they're going to all be doing intern sex

or reviews as well as book reviews and porn reviews. I like that. I love it. Isn't that great? Yes. Okay. Dear Emily, my name is Paul and I'm 16 years old. I love how educational your podcast is. When people in my high school talk about sex, they're so uninformed and sound completely

ignorant and immature. I find your podcast because I was looking to get educated on the subject of sex. I myself have never had sex. The farthest I've ever gone was making out with a girl. My friends have all had sex and I tell them that I'm not a virgin but I'm beginning to think something is wrong with me. I personally don't really care about having sex. Nor do I see myself having sex anytime soon. I listen to your podcast to get educated but I want yours and menace's opinion. Should I do it just to get it over with or should I wait?

And how will people react if I tell them I'm a virgin? Will they ridicule me or think I'm weird? Signed Paul. Paul, thanks so much for writing your only 16. I would not give into the pressure of your friends and what they're doing. First of all, you're saying they've all had sex. I don't believe half of them. And maybe they have, but I think that you should only do it

when you're ready. There was nothing wrong with you. You're not a freak. I think it's great that you're listening to this show to educate so So when you are eventually with a woman, you will, you know, maybe have some tips there that will work for you. But I don't think you should just do it to get it over with. I think that is not the right answer. I think that you're you're right on your path, you're educated. In fact, I wish that more men would have that I slept with because early sex is not that great. Anyway, I wish that more men would got educated about the female body before we had sex.

I wish more 16 year old boys learned stuff. You're gonna own it. You're gonna own it. So what do you think? He shouldn't just stop. Yeah, I didn't have sex until I was 18. So don't even worry about it. But doing it, that's like,

but did you feel ridiculed? Like did you feel odd because your friends are having sex? No, you just waited. And yeah, and again, I don't think you should just do it to get over with. No, never. You shouldn't, I mean, you shouldn't like hold off. I think at this point right now, if it happens, it happens. Right. I mean, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Don't do that. That's the thing. You just gotta stop. I think it sounds like you're spinning in your mind a little bit,

Paul about it. Like, should I do it? Should I not? My friends have friends have I have in if I tell them am I going to be a bad person and that is goes on high school lot you feel you're going to be judged and I just all I would say is just kind of stick to your own strength and and and be who you are and be honest and all will work well in the world you don't have to conform yeah if you're the 40 year old virgin then yes then you have that's a whole another story I'd love to hear from a 40 year old virgin we've had some emails from them in the past but are you a virgin that's a whole another story. I'd love to hear from a 40-year-old Virgin. We've had some emails from them in the past, but are you a Virgin that's a little older? Email me feedback at sexathomely.com. We should do a Virgin show. I actually had some people who are virgins that said they'd come on the show. That would be interesting wouldn't it?

It would be cool. What would I have been doing? I have had a lot more free time if I have been having sex for the last. Have you seen the movie 40-year-old Virgin? Yes, I actually have seen that movie. I like how it's just like it's almost gonna happen But there's like some situation that happens and then it does it. That's a good movie. Yeah, and I'm sure that's happened before Where are like people they were going to it was gonna happen, but it just didn't and then the next opportunity came up and Are you becoming flaccid over there on your microphone? Yeah, it's just a just flipping an outsider But then there's some people that just, you know what, I'm not going to do it till I'm married.

And you know what, I respect that. I do too. People want it. That's what they want to do. Hey, you know what, it's their own life. I don't really, really cool them. Right. I hope that there's nothing I've ever

enforced here that there are. I try so hard to not say what is normal and what are should. You know, I lead your sex life however you want to, as long as you're doing what you want to do with integrity You're not being forced into anything. You're not doing anything because you're feeling pressured Women and men and no matter how old you are I mean if you're part of your watch you do something and you're not comfortable with it. It's okay to say no Yeah, you don't have to bring in the donkey. It's not bringing the donkey or the fuzzy

Or the bear or the hamburger or costume You should wear the hamburger or costume. Yeah, get me one. I'll wear it. You serious? Whatever. Come around. It would be so awesome if you did and we pumped it up and you wore it for an hour on

the show. I will find a hamburger. We should do it. We should bet on something. And then if I lose, I have to wear the hamburger and you have to do something. Yes. Like, I don't know why yet. That would totally, yeah.

I'm going to go search it right now. I will find. Okay. I bet you could find it on Honey Bay. I will find something. Yes. Like, I don't know why yet. That would totally, I'm gonna go search it right now. I will find. I bet you could find it on Honeybay. I'll find one. Okay. Menace was asking me if I would do anything for Saxony's like we'd address as the hamburger Lord?

No, see this is a thing. I said, if you found, because you're like, oh, you know, I, we're like talking about if we find D1, and you got married, and I said, what about, and you were talking about fantasies and I go okay you found the dream guy, the man that you've been searching for your entire life and his fantasy after you got married,

you already locked down with this guy, his fantasy was he wanted you to dress up like the hamburger, hamburger from McDonald's and you said you would not do it. Well I just think it'd be hot in that costume and it wouldn't feel very sexy. hand but hamburger from McDonald's and you said you would not do it well i just think it'd be hot net costumant it wouldn't feel very sexy but that's what you want i would do that but can the next line i were well now you know you'll do it i don't know if that was really what he wanted but then i've been looking

to why does he really want that and then you can start a healthy food it's delicious food yeah but it's not that healthy for you i mean but then but okay but so much about sex is like i want to be okay but it's not that healthy for you. I mean, but then, but okay, but so much about sex is like, I want to, okay, so it's this whole reciprocal thing. Like if you were like, Emily, that is so hot. I think that I would like put in that hamburger unit, maybe I put on some stilettos too. Yeah.

To make it a little hotter, but I'd be like, okay, he's getting turned on. This is what sex is, is that reciprocal. Like, I'm turning you on, so that's turning me on. So I would do it. But, you know, it's so, see, when you, if you got to go back and listen to these podcasts it's so much about

pleasing you what about I just want that I would give it no honey I'm all about pleasing the man to probably too much I don't really don't I don't hear it on the show pleasing men is so it's all about how to please women don't get pleased enough and we're okay honey we talk about pleasing men all the time. OK, again. We do. Example about oral sex, about paying attention to what they want, taking initiative.

That's the number one complaint that men have about women is that women don't take initiative sexually. So we see the women should do that. Women should take off their sweats when they get on for, shouldn't put on their sweats when they get on from work every once in a while. You know, it's still make efforts to be sexy and feel sexy, not just for him but for yourself.

Okay, those are some good ones. Thank you. I think I do that all the time, but maybe not enough. Yeah. Okay. Maybe we want the hambo. Why don't we, maybe you can give

some sex tips for women. What, it's all about a pleasing. But you could do sexes for men, I mean. You could give the tips that you want. What do you, men, what is the, if you, if could give the tips that you want. What do you, menace? What is the one, if you, if you're partner, you're with a woman right now, let's say. Okay.

And she's not. No, you're the man. Okay. And you're with this hot woman that you just adore, you even wanting to be with forever. And you guys are finally together, but you only have like 10 minutes, okay? 15 minutes.

What would you want her to do? If we only had 10 minutes. Yeah, 15 minutes say But no, we were talking about fantasies though. Okay fantasy. Fine. Fantasy. My fantasy is I don't have to Work for I get home. Exactly. She's dressed up. She's like I don't have to do all these things where I praise her 15 times. Yeah, exactly That is that is the number one male fantasy to lose control in a relationship. I think that you just nailed it. So women listening, take more control.

Men that is the number one complaint for men is that women do not take initiative enough with sex. So women should do something special. So what should she do? She should be already be naked. What? She should be wearing sexy lingerie. No, you're not into that. So what? Yeah, she should just like totally grab me and just you know take full control. That's it

It just yeah, you don't have to wear Not not the entire time, but just like the the initial thing where she just say hey, this is this is going down Right, this is happening. You know that is awesome. Yeah, I don't have to worry about, you know, once the right timing of when I can go for it, just like this open the door, man. Open the door and she's standing there with like, right, let's go. Thanks, Menace.

That's it. That's a great menace. Men are so simple. I know that's why we spend so much time on women because women are not as simple as men. Not that men don't have issues and men have a lot of, not, sorry issues. Not that men don't have like challenges sexually. I hate to say issues.

Challenges sexually, they do, but women I just think are a little more complicated with the orgasms, like, you know, and the, all that stuff. Although orgasms, the clitoris, the g spot. Man. I know. It's a lot of work. What you're saying is your fancy, your fan, what does? Taking him to dinner first, getting drunk to Kila. OK, so I do have time for one more maybe. Go for it. We do.

We do. Awesome, but they're a little long. So OK. In the recent show, you told me to meet a woman, to meet a woman, a man should search for her, like going to the concert bars or other places where a lot of women are. And what do you think about a different approach?

When you don't go anywhere, you just do your usual stuff like the job, gym, shopping, jogging, and you're not searching for anyone on purpose. You just do what you do every day, and if you see someone you like, you go to start talking to that person, take their number.

Is this scenario work when you're not searching on purpose and what is better talk to a woman in the club concert bar or on the street shop or grocery he's getting very specific does situation matter or it's all up to the guy what do you think and what sex is better shorter long is it better to start fast rush super exciting wild sex are to do prepared smooth soft long night a lot long night what sex is better? Short or long? Is it better to start fast? Rush? Super exciting? Wild sex? Or did you prepare smooth, soft, long night, a lot?

Well, this is a two-parter. I'd rather just answer the first question than talking to you. Okay, yeah, that's from Vlad. Okay. Vlad, let me just say this is that I think that, I say that often to people, I'm like, sure, I mean, I think if you want to meet somebody,

you should make it, you're like, if you're ready, like making your full-time job, you are always looking for somebody. So yes, a lot of people meet every morning at their coffee shop. They see me the same person on the bus, or their coffee shop, or their gym. That, I think, are at work. That's a great way to meet people.

You can also meet people at club, and people meet all the time at clubs and bars and gyms. But if you don't want to do any of that, they're clubs and bars and whatever else you said, concerts. But if you're just someone who's like busy, you're working a lot, doing your thing, I think on your daily route, your daily path to work,

that you will find someone that way. If you get up and do when you start talking to them, I think there's nothing wrong with that. I think that that is, then they're obviously on your vibe. They're vibing with you. You're both taking the route to work, you're both drinking Starbucks in the morning.

Yeah, I do not want to meet a girl and a club or a bar or a concert. I just don't. That's not a situation I want to be. I have met guys at bars, but it's been only a while. Yeah, I do. I just do friends or through my day-to-day life. Like in my office building, the guy who asked me out, I'm not going out with him, but he asked me out because we're in the same building and that's how many people. So I would say it's not an either or here,

it's just whatever you want to do. And if I think that just doing your daily stuff I've actually said that it's a lot, it's a great way to meet people. Just open your eyes in your environment. And do not be afraid to talk to people. Just talk to, just smile. You're the gym, you go every day,

there's a hot woman in the treadmill, I use the treadmill mat, that's it. No, the gym's not good. Why? Girls don't like to be a part of it. Every day, he jogs or whatever. Girls don't like to be a part of the gym. That's true. You can get some of the girls say that. Right. Yeah.

You can just smile. Yeah, don't go up and talk to her just like that. But I think that in them and then which sex is better? Give her the love. Short or long is the better to start fashion. You just better do it all. There is no answer to your question because sex is all about variety. So sometimes, for example, I would like it short.

Sometimes I want it really long. Sometimes I want it fast. Sometimes I want it slow. I think that men feel the same way. So I think that my answer to you is to mix it up. And that's all we got time for together today, right? Yep. Okay. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithemily.com. email me feedback at sexwithemily.com.