Sex With Emily - For the Love of Oral

Episode Date: June 12, 2015

Oral sex. Everyone loves getting it, but how good are you at giving it? Do you know how to eat from her honey pot? Do you give homerun head? Whether you’re a man or a woman, an expert or a novice, everyone could get better at going down, and in this podcast, Emily is here to help!She tackles your most pressing sex questions, from oral sex insecurities to tips for sensitive gag reflexes to A to V etiquette, and gives her #1 oral sex tip for both men and women. This show is your one stop, all inclusive, need-to-know guide for going down like a champ. From cunnilingus, to fellatio, and everywhere in between, Emily dishes the knowledge you need on today’s Sex With Emily podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to the show and you're gonna love this one because we are talking about everyone's favorite topic Oral sex. I know you love it and you want to be better at it and you want to understand it So in this show, I'm giving you what you want from how to give to how to get to the tips you need to below your partner's mind Men and women I'm answering your emails and all things oral to help you get better at going down So things everyone for listening enjoy the show You know how I love my magic wand? I've been talking about it for years. The one that plugged in, I talked about how I drilled.

Man, I'm here with menis. Menis, do you remember my stories about the magic wand? And how it plugged into the wall, and I drilled a hole in my nightstand, so it would always be plugged into the wall? I've got some big news. What? Okay, the Cadillac of all vibrators,

the magic wand is now rechargeable. Really? Fortless rechargeable. Yeah, it's amazing. They upgraded it. It's insane. I know it's amazing. It's always been plugged into the wall, right?

Always for like 30 years. Here's the deal. It's the same toy you know and love and that you've all trusted for 30 years. It's powerful, penetrating vibrations, and now it's liberated from your bedroom wall. There is no cord, no limits to where and how you can enjoy it.

And here's a thing, it's also improved because the rechargeable wand has a few other tricks up its sleeve, including a smoother silicone head, plus it has four intensity settings, plus four amazing vibration patterns. So the other one was like on, what was it on and then two speeds after that? Well now it's got like a whole bunch of other stuff going on, but it still is the same thing that you know and love and I've tried them all and it rocks my world even more, which I did not think was possible. So you can choose, still you can still get the original magic wand, of course, that will never go away, or you can get the portability of the rechargeable.

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Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks? And we not talk about sex so? Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks?

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're the thing to sex family. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. From more information, go to sexwithemily.com so you can install it on our podcast and sign up for our mailing list.

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We don't spam you or anything. But people really like them and we send you good interesting information If you miss the shows we do two a week We wrap them up in there or we send blog posts or check that out and Videos all that fun stuff and I'm here with menace. Hello. Hello darling. I am excited to be here with you. I swear I swear I swear I actually really really like me today. Yeah. Now you like me, Laleigh. Because we don't see each other as much. We used to do show five days a week and it was like, oh, yeah. Too much. I know. This shows about oral sex. Yeah. I'm excited. And Menace, did you know that we're going to talk about oral sex in the show, but I am now teaching

a monthly workshop at Hustler Hollywood in Los Angeles. It's on Sunset Boulevard and they were so popular with the other ones, which was amazing because they got to meet all of our peeps and new peeps came and we talked a lot about at last one with the masturbation. This one is going down with Emily. It's on Tuesday, June 23. It's for men and for women. What? No, I'm listening. Oh, get a course on Oral Sex 101, enjoy champagne, giveaways, and more doors open at seven. And it's really fun because I get up there, I talk to you about, you know, for men and women, Oral Sex, let me walk around the store, take a little shopping, show them the toys I like. It is going to be awesome. So please,

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Hi. You're going to come to my role sex workshop or you already know everything. You know? Yeah, I'm an expert. I'm just kidding. No one's ever an expert on it. I mean, mix up for you, right? Uh, yeah. Now, I've always have stuff to learn. I really do. I think that we were always learning. I we are always, always learning new tips and tricks. I remember reading a book once. I just was talking. What's the son of a show? I don't know, the son of the show. But I gave this, no, I didn't,

it was in an interview actually. So it was an interview that someone was doing on the phone. But I remember just like, we all the time to do the same things sexually over and over again like this is how I give a blowjob. This is how I give a hand job, this is how I kiss. But I was reading a book early on in the show, when I started doing the show about,

or all about rural sex, blow jobs. And it said to do something, I wish I could have employed the exact move was, it was like something with my tongue and my hand, it was like mixing it all together and I was about to go give a blow job funny enough that night to my boyfriend. And then when he was out,

and I tried this little trick, I'd be giving him blow jobs for six months and he was pleased he never complained, you know? He liked them. But I did this little trick. And he was like, oh, and he came and he was like, what the hell did he do?

Who have you been hanging out with? No, no, but I like did this little trick. It was like a little tongue wiggle pull thing. And I'm just like, you know what? You can always become better at everything in life. So don't just stop, you know, with your oral sex limitations. Yeah, I wanna go back to that,

but what's going on with you? Or are you trying to get where? Or all sexing? I'm going anywhere, doing that. I'm going to New York, and a few weeks see you too. My friends putting on a concert at their backstage. Sweet. I know, it's gonna be awesome.

She works for Salesforce.com Foundation, and they're doing a... A you two thing. A you two thing. And so I said, I'm going. That's awesome. Backstage, I know, awesome. It'll be really fun. So that'll be like a fun trip. I'll do a little bit of work thing. And so I said, I'm going. That's awesome. Back stage, I know. Awesome.

It'll be really fun. So that'll be like a fun trip. I'll do a little bit of work there. And a little bit of fun. And I should plan more trips this summer. Maybe Palm Springs. I kind of like Palm Springs. It's easy.

It's Palm Springs is great. It's like two hours away. You're in this like a totally different place. You're in the desert. Yeah. It's super fun. I'm going to New York too, but in August. Well, I'm going to Boston first.

And then I'm going to New York. And then in September, I'm going to, I'm going to New York too, but in August. Well, I'm going to Boston first, and then I'm going to New York. And then in September, I'm going to, I'm going to Haiti, the Grand Caymans, Jamaica, Mexico. Mexico, yeah. You going on a cruise? Yeah. A Disney cruise? No, the style. Why are you going on a Disney cruise?

Because, I just assume that you would have all been... I mean, I love Disney cruises. They're like my favorite. And they believe it or not, there's a billion adult only sections of the other show. I don't know. So I don't want Mickey Mouse showing up when I'm giving my boy kind of spontaneous,

low job on the day. Yeah, and I need to deck. You could pretty much avoid kids if you want to the entire time. And they have. Those are the concepts I like. Not that I don't love kids, but. But you know, everyone knows if they've been listening to podcasts a long time, I'm super

Disney fan and I love it. Okay, I know I'm adult, but it's fun. But the problem is the only time that I have off is matches up with crews that I already taken. So this one I'm going on a different one. Good time. Forget what? With your lady. Yeah, with my lady.

So we're going to go check it out and have some fun getting some hot weather and something that. Get some hot vacation sex. If vacation sex is always good and fun. Everyone should check it out too because I just wrote a new column for Harper's Bazaar online and it's about vacation sex since coming out soon. Now, it might even be out by the time you guys are all listening to this. It's sweet. We talked about this in the last podcast,

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I too. I could cry. Hundreds of thousands of podcasts out there. It's crazy. I couldn't believe the one I saw that. It's crazy to do. You told me, I mean, you told me. No, but I wanted to say for sure.

I know. We never talk outside the shop, but that's probably the best. But that's amazing, you guys. I just want to thank you for allowing me to do what I love, make it, it's really hard to be like an artist and make a living and do what you love, because I actually, I never ever say I don't want to do the show. Like there's other things I don't want to do.

I don't feel like doing my taxes or I don't feel like talking to my accountant or not. But things in the bar, the jar, I don't want to go to the website. It's hard for me, right? But I friggin' love doing the show, and I love hearing from you all. And I just want to thank everyone for like 10 years of supporting the show and make the top podcast. And thank you, Menace, and we're going to do a live show.

So listen up for information coming soon. And then getting back to Blow Jobs, because that's what's the most important, real quick. Yeah. Okay. Where do you think is the craziest place you've given a blow job? Can you remember? Gosh, that is such a good question. Yeah, I know I've given some crazy blow jobs in some crazy weird places that are sort of precarious. I remember it a wedding once like in the Hamptons. Really? There's like a super fancy outside tents and everything,

and we, I took the boyfriend at the time, and we went like, not too far off the tent. As the wedding's going on, or is it reception? Well, they were already walked on the aisle. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. All the boring stuff is done. And it was like outside, and I believe

that people walked by, and there might have been some kind of embarrassment. They saw you. I know, they saw you. Giving Felicia. Like that. I mean, I'm have been some kind of embarrassment. They saw you. I know, they saw you. Giving for ratio. I mean, I'm talking about a vegan place. You know, oh, I know like in my house recently, like visiting my parents in Michigan, thank God they don't listen, but I remember giving one like on the back porch and then

I my mom woke up and lights off. That was a embarrassing at this age still. And then also you remember my famous Coachella experience when I had sex at Coachella outside. Funny enough that guy from years ago, I haven't talked to him in years, but he lives in LA and we ran into each other now. We're like, oh, speaking of me, you men has always been best friends with my exes,

which I am really good friends. We're super good friends now. I'm like, remember, 10, we banged at Coachella? I talk about it all the time. I'm ruled. Yeah, what's the crazy place you've ever received, Felicia? Well, probably backstage at a concert.

I don't know, nothing too insane. Yeah, we got a red car road head. Yeah, we got a safe, I don't recommend it. We got a borrow, somebody's private jet, and just like. How about my brothers? Yeah, your brother's jet. And to say, hey, we need it for a second. I know, no, I mean, we'll see.

Okay, so Felicia, but first we got a little sex in the news. You'll appreciate this, because it has to do with an Apple product. OK. Which, yeah. That's weird. Apple and sex together. That's interesting.

That's interesting. Yeah, there you go. Tell me more, please. Apple adds feature to iOS 9 that lets you track your sex life. You'll soon be able to track how active your sex life is using your phone iPhone, thanks to a forthcoming update. Apple's iOS 9 will let people track when, and how often they have sex,

as well as letting women log their menstrual cycle. The company's privacy, come on a fire for ignoring the importance of female customers, and this will be redressed when they revamped, health kit rolls out in autumn. Isn't iOS 9 already out? No, I'm on eight right now.

Okay, I don't know. Users were able to track how much water they drink, so it's all like everyone's like becoming like the Fitbit, right? Like everything's like that. So UV exposure, how long they sit still for, my would be like, you did not sit still once today. Yeah. And as well as their reproductive health, but they didn't provide further details, they

will be able to enter details as like when they had sex, when they used protection. But I wanna know like who's really gonna do that? I like the thing, the reason why I love the Fitbit you still have yours on, I lost it a month ago. Doesn't never fall off, I lost two of them. I'm done, I'm not. How come, when you were in? You have like a small wrist, you're probably.

No, it just pops off. Pists me off, because I loved it. I was like, because the truth is about the Fitbit, if you all know... No, it just pops off. Really? Pissing me off, because I loved it. I was like, because the truth is about the Fitbit, if you all know, it does, I'm like, oh, I've only done five thousand steps today. You know, like it makes me want to do more. But I think this is harder, because you've got to plug it in.

Like, oh, I just had sex. Hold on, honey, let's write this down. Yeah, you don't want to write off. But then a few weeks ago, we had a sex that you started about a mattress. Were you here when you were talking about mattresses that measure your sex life? There's a mattress that's going to be able to measure how often you've been active,

and then it's going to send you text messages and be like, hey, you should take your partner on a date tonight because you guys haven't been going to allow you guys should try the doggy style. Everyone wants to check you've gotten to him sex life. I think there's a crisis of people's sex life, apparently. And I'm also kind of pissed about iPhones. Can I just talk about that's permanent? Okay, what's wrong? I think since Steve Jobs died, the iPhone has just gone downhill. Aproproducts in general, and then we're all true believers,

and we all love it, and everyone buys the iPhone, because it's cool, and we can eye message. But I think they're like the Droid's, Android Samsung, their first period, a lot of ways. Wow, look at you. I know, you didn't know I knew what Android was, but I do.

Yeah, that's cool. You disagree? Yeah, I definitely disagree. I think it's good. I think it's good. Okay, and I know. Yeah, that's cool. You disagree? Yeah, I definitely disagree. I think it's good. I know, man, because Android users are not like tech with Amelie. Yeah, but Android users are so hardcore about Android and I know they get upset with that. And I have an Android also. And I've worked with tech startups. I worked at a startup before Iodylaw, SandroLis, and every single app is a subpar version of an iPhone app. It just is. But, uh, Android's are great. They have amazing options that, uh, iPhone do not have.

So I'll give them that. Okay. Yeah. Like, like, like, Haglecam app, which is not on Android yet. I think with the camera wise, the newest Samsung is actually the best camera I've seen on the iPhone. That's when I've heard. It's all about the camera. You're all about your Instagram, yeah, at least. Just menace, ME and ACE.

So yeah, so props on that, but I mean, I went through the apps and the apps are okay, but they finally, I'm not like to. Finally, Android's there with the camera on that phone as equal as you are. So I mean, I'm not saying there with the camera on that phone is Okay, so I mean I'm not saying there's always like drawbacks everything. There's pros and cons But I did just get the six though. You'll be happy to know I dropped the five in the toilet. Did your brother get for you? No, my brother my brother bought me an iPad once uh-huh and men's legs like did your brother?

No, it's always ever bought me. Oh really? Okay, we think's bought me dinners, trips. Didn't he get you a laptop? Your brother's amazing. I love him. Dude, he got me an iPad. It was really small with him. I know. He's in town right now. He's coming out, but you don't want to.

And he loves you too. Dude, how wasted we get at the Ritz Carlton in San Francisco that night? Okay, so there's a quick story. Emily's brother was staying at the Ritz Carl San Francisco and he's like, he was on like some special, her brother's like a baller, he's like, amazing. So he was on some VIP floor where they have like a free alcohol, it's like it's the floor that's always open food.

All you can eat is crazy. I've never seen anything like this before. So we go there and we're just getting hammered, wasted, and there's all these classy people dressed up. And you know, of course, we were not one of them. Yeah, we're under, like, I'm dressed like a bum, and I'm in there, and we're just laughing so hard in there. And I just couldn't, I'm like, I'm stopping for a second.

I'm realizing that everyone is just staring at us because we're just rowdy. And I love you, I'm stopping for a second. I'm realizing that everyone is just staring at us because we're just rowdy and I love your brother. It's so much fun. That's why I want you to come with us tonight, but no pressure. I know because I know if I go out with your brother then I'm just gonna be out all night and I have on Friday the next day,

I have a 22 hour day of straight work. That's unhealthy. It is unhealthy, but I have to do it. You look good though. Did you lose weight? I've actually been working out every single day for the past month. Are you men?

It's okay, wait. You've never done that in your life. I mean, I have. Not every day. I'm not gonna go. You look great. I meant to say that when you walked in. Yeah.

It's your same, really proud of you. Yeah, I have a, I'm training for a marathon. I know. You have to prepare me for this. The first year. What was sex because of, okay? Running? Yeah, I'm running and something.

Everyday running. Yeah, every day, every day for the past like love. Like I don't even know, like I need a moment. I don't even think I just want to- I just really want to get back to where I was. 10 years ago when I met you. 10 years ago. I didn't even talk about that.

I never thought I would do it. I was still out of you. But it's just sex because, okay, so I'm moving. I got kidding. I'm sweet. I'll tell you what happened. I mean, I mean, McDonald's every day for whatever. Star vlogs are really yeah. It was really easy. Okay, when I was living in San Francisco and I was doing radio, I didn't really do that many events where I'd be out in public and people would see me. So, you know, whatever. Now I'm moved to Los Angeles and I'm part of- He's famous, he's on Billboard everywhere. I'm part of a morning radio show called The Woody Show.

You can park your- It's not about boners. It's not about boners or sex so don't download it and think you're going to hear about weeners and boobies is not going to happen. But the thing is it's getting a really hardcore fan base and then so I go out all the time and people want to take photos with me. And you know how I like to control the photos? Well, I'm not gonna say,

hey, let me take the photos or none of me look at the photo. I'm like, yeah, it's cool, we can take a pic. And then people take a pic and then put the social media out there and all that stuff. And then I look at them like, oh my God, it looks so bad. Look terrible. This is what happens in celebrity. This is what happens.

And then you get anorexic. Don't get anorexic. No, I'm not getting anorexic. I'm This is what happens is celebrity. This is what happens and then you get anorexic. Don't get anorexic. No, I'm not getting anorexic. I'm so eating what I want to eat. Look at my Instagram. I'm still not holding back. I'm happy that it's healthy for your longevity. Yeah, so I definitely want to just like at least,

you know, do something about it. Okay. And then I actually feel way better. So that's cool. Okay, awesome men. I'm really proud of you. Thank you. I really warm the coffee with my heart. Anybody that feels like. I'm gonna get emails right now.

Yeah, I'm gonna get to know. I know. I know. I know. We'll talk about talking on leaders in the same thing. No, and but I just want to like talk about inspiring people. If you feel the same way just get up and do it. Every day I know it's like hard. There's days that I don't want to get in the gym and do it. I just do it and you just start off So don't go from zero to a thousand just start off Ten minutes a day like Michael do or Michael Moore the filmmaker. He's like he started a whole walking thing He's like just walk for ten minutes and then yeah, so I'm just really proud of you because this has been a ten year Thank you. All right. Let's talk about leaners. Okay, everyone. Thank you for emailing me feedback at sex with Emily calm and Fajinas

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blow-job is the main reason being I get ridiculously turned on by hearing a guy breathe heavy and or a moan. And I'm sure it's somehow subconsciously related to my own ego. I guess I'm just curious if this is normal for women. I mean, I know guys really enjoy hearing women get off, but I've never really heard about it the other way around. Thanks, Emily, sincerely be.

I think that's really funny because first of all, I think that women do, definitely, I love that you're saying this because I've actually been having a debate lately with my friends, it just happened last last week where my guy friend was like, I don't think that women do women really like blowdubs. They're always saying, I can't wait to have your cock in my mouth or whatever. They text me that.

He's like, do they really like it? I'm like, yeah, some women do some don't, but I think women like it. And then my friend, he's got all her married friends. She texts it all. And they all said, no, only has birth. They don't like it, blah, blah. But I'm like, I like it. Like, I don't. So I think only has birthday, I don't like it blah blah, but I'm like, I like it. I don't, so I think it's split, I don't think it's a 50, I don't even know what the split

is, but what is your perception? Do you think that women like it and you're overall, do you think that they just do it or they just like, do they really enjoy it? I don't know. That's what do you think? I think I agree with you on the 50-50. Yeah, I think- I was just saying I don't know if it's a 50-50, I want to hear from you guys the 50-50. Yeah, I feel like. I was just saying, I don't know if it's 50-50.

I want to hear from you guys, because I love it. I mean, I've never... I think some just do it though. I remember like, remember Lynnette? Were you here when Lynnette Curl was on the show and she was like, I've been with Adam for 20 years. I've never said no. Never say no to the BJ.

I was like, why would you? It's like a 10 minute thing. It's like, I always say, it's like flowers for women. Okay, so be, you're totally fine. You are in the zone that's great and you realize the magic and the power of the blow job. I know, and you keep your man happy. It keeps me happy and it's great that you love it

because it helps you get good at everything in life. Like, I think that there's a lot of women who don't like it. They might say it's a taste or a comfortable but I think a lot of women and men say with Conlinkus, they feel like they just don't know what they're doing or they're not confident. But the only way you're going to get better is that when you keep doing it and you get the

positive moans and the feedback and that totally turned you on. I think that's awesome being that it turned you on. So, I want to be clear though, it's totally fine for women to enjoy sex as much or if not more than men. So you are not unusual at all, but you are my hero. Yeah. Love it. It was funny. There was this famous actress. I you are not unusual. I'll be you are my hero. Yeah. I love it. It was funny. There was this famous actress. I'm trying to blank. But she would say in interviews, just keep

your man drained and fed in your good. And he'll never leave you. Train. He'll be like a puppy dog next to you. Yeah. Full control. Yeah. It's true though. I mean, it's not that hard. I just, they build it up on the blood. We'll take like 10. I'm gonna say about that. Yeah, full control. Yeah, it's true though. I mean, it's not that hard. I just, they've built it up on the blow job. We'll take like 10, I can see some of the oral sex of the women maybe takes a little longer or whatever, either way you should go down. Okay, hey Emily, first and foremost, I wanted you to know how much I love

and appreciate your show. You provide an invaluable service and it's such a pleasure to get insight on sex and relationships from such an intelligent, well-spoken, classy woman. I'm classy. Anyway, onto my question. I love giving oral sex. It's so intimate and sexy. And there are a few things as beautiful as women climaxing while I'm going down on her. But with the last few women I've slept with, it seems like it only goes on for a few minutes before they want to have intercourse. I'm the type who likes taking his time. So it's making me wonder,

would they be herring things along? Because are they herring things along because they're so turned on or because they aren't enjoying themselves and want me to move along? I'd appreciate your input. Thanks again, Sean. Oh, Sean, I love you.

You are my dream man. They're a set it. I wish all men had these feelings about oral sex because there's a really complicated thing going out with oral sex because I do believe that a lot of women, there's like different substance. They're like, he doesn't want to be doing it. Maybe I taste weird or smell funky

and he doesn't want to be there and it's going to take me a long time. So I'm just going to say let's just have sex. And I think a lot of women can test to that. And the best thing that a guy should, if you're into it, the best thing that you can say to a woman and I'm telling you, I've had guys say this to me and it is like music to my ears when they say, I love doing this and I could be here all night. Because then when he's going down to me and he's like, listen, I love this. I want to do this. Really back relax, chill. And you're like, oh, it takes all the crash. Because we're always thinking does he want to?

We're looking at the clock 10 minutes 15 minutes, 29 more. Just but you know, I'm saying like, settle in. Tell me you got some time and you're going to be there and hopefully show relax more, Sean. So I think you got to let him know how much you really want to be there between our legs. Pleasing her. I actually never asked you this in the past 10 years and you've always promoted oral sex. Is it your favorite thing that guys do to you? If they know how to do it? Is it your all-time favorite?

I think it's, yeah, I'd say it's top. Top? How many things in there? What is your top three? Then what is your favorite? I mean, I guess I like inner course. I like being spanked. No, I like during time.

No, I really have to say oral sex is probably one of my top things. Yes, I feel like. I feel like you've promoted so much. I hate to, you know what it is? It's like choosing between like children or something. Like for me, sex is like, can I say oral sex? But yeah, I love some really good warm up with oral sex. If a guy knows how to do it or I you know and he's into it. Because

that's when I'm going to tell you to come up. That's when I'm going to say oh it's cool as that sex because I know you're not into it. It's just like blowjumps. You don't want to blowjump from a woman who's like gagging and like rolling her eyes and like making... Or just it's just so like no pressure to it at all. They're just doing it to do it. That is the absolute worst. Right. The number one tip I always give our oral sex across the board for men and for women is to be enthusiastic and to be into it.

And if you're not, you've got to just gotta fake it. You might as well not even do it. Don't even know there. Don't even try it. Just say I'm not into it. Exactly. And there are plenty. Because then he's just gonna go around and say,

oh, she gives terrible blow jobs. Right. You might as well not even try that, right? So, and Bichon, it could be happening for a number of reasons. Like I said, probably nothing to do with you. She could be insecure. She might have trouble relaxing so you could try to do that. She could be sensitive. There's a lot of women who actually are oversensitive.

In fact, women who are very orgasmic, multi-urgasmic, tend to be women who actually don't like oral sex or doesn't feel good to them. So, but I can't imagine the last three women you've been with at the best few that this is the case. So, it's normal to feel insecure that it's about your oral sex skills. Like we all question ourselves when our partners say, notice something or turn away that we think it's us. But I think that you should just, you know, go slower. Every woman's different and ask her what she wants.

Again, it's always great to start off slow and just let her know that you are there and you're settling in. You're gonna pitch tent, hang out for a while. That's all I want. Okay, hey Emily and staff ladies, that would be everyone here. I've been listening for a while and I've been listening

for a while and now, you know what? Yeah, okay, hey Emily and staff ladies, I've been listening for a while and now, you know what? Yeah, okay. Hey, I'm Lisea Fliets. I've been listening for a while now and always find the show entertaining and usually find it instructive. Thanks so much for everything. Each of you do. My wife of 20 years and I've used your valuable information to enhance your sex life and

grow even closer. This brings me to my question. A few nights ago as I was washing the vomit off my genitals, I realized that my wife might need some help learning to give a blowjob. That happened to my friend once, but I think it would be just because she was drunk. She threw up on us. That happens too. She only recently started trying to learn this skill and apparently has a fairly active gag reflex. She's open to learning and I want to encourage her. We bought the tickle as pickle book you featured on the show

and that helped, but she doesn't learn from books. Would any of you, would any of you have a beginner-friendly video recommendation towards learning this womanly art? Thanks so much. Have a happy season. Holiday season everyone. Nate from Austin. Okay Nate, I love this question.

I'm gonna get right back to it after I tell you something very important. And that is about massage candles. Because if you want to spice up your sex life and you want to do something different and you want something that feels amazing and will always get your partner in the mood, you should buy a massage candle. I made candles with my partner Tony. They're called Emily and Tony, they're a Roman. They're amazing. Dude, right? They love them.

You light it, you let it, you know, we let it go for about 10, 15 minutes or as long as you want. Really, you blow it out, and then you pour it over your partner's body, and I'm just saying it is warm, luxurious, oil, like nothing you've ever felt, but it's not wax. Okay, people have one say, oh, it's wax. No, it's not messy, waxy, like nothing you've ever felt, but it's not wax. Okay, people have one say, ah, it's wax. No, it's not messy, waxy, sticky or hot.

It's coconut oil, nurturing your skin, feels amazing, and if your partner's ever not in the mood for sex, boom, they're there. And it just, it's by just things up. Massage is always a great gateway to intimacy, and I just think that it's a great addition to your home, to your love-making, to the ambiance in your bedroom, and then to your sex life. It will totally ramp it up a level. So check it out you guys. I would love it and again, it would help me support the show.

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And that code is open up. So donut Under Comfort, if you want a free one, use code open up. Thanks. OK, let's go back to this oral sex gagging vomit on the penis thing. OK, Nate, here's the thing. I love this question.

We have had some feedback in the past that we don't do a lot of tips for women and how to give a good BJ. And I know we have, but whatever. We have done a lot. Do you think she's this gagging because she's like just going too far? No, I think that women, yeah.

She's probably going too far. She sees it in porn. She thinks that that's what men don't really want. But you don't have to deep though every time to please him. If you have a sense of got reflex, here's a thing, is that you can use your hands, you can like put it in your mouth,

that like if as long as you have enough pressure on the penis, you don't have to go all the way back there. Plus the nerve endings that bring the most pleasure is the tip of the penis, the frend you long, which is on the underside of the penis. So if you just like, if you like, keep your mouth around the head so your lips hit the area where the head meets the shafts,

that gently on the tip, and you use your tongue to place pressure on the underside of the front knee lump. So like the underside of the penis works. You're a rack, you know what I'm talking about. The point that's pointing down towards your balls, that little area beneath the tip is the front knee lump. It's your best friend.

It feels really, really good when a woman sucks on it. So she could do that. I mean, I don't know if you're forcing her head in there or if she just think she has to, but clearly it's not her thing. And if she's vomiting on you, just tell her to like, like, really, she could use her hand job blow job combination. Those two sensations together, I mean, you ever gonna turn down like a blow with a hand? They use hands. When we use their hand, the balls, the whole thing. They need to. They need to. Yeah, you ever gonna turn down like a blow with the, they use hands, women use their hands, the balls, the whole thing. They need to.

They need to. Yeah, you wanna have more pressure. So I think she should just like, step away from the deep throat. Although, if you do want tips and you're listening and you don't actually vomit, but you wanna know more, the best thing is to just relax your throat.

And to breathe before you do it, and you relax your throat, and you like, you're tongue fall back, and you just like take deep breaths, and you relax your throat, and you like your tongue fall back, and you just take deep breaths, and you can learn to relax it. But it sounds like that's just not her thing. In this situation, you know better what feels good for you. So if you teach your partner how to please you, you know, maybe you guys can do mutual masturbation, she knows how you want to be touched, but no more gag reflex for her.

Anticolous pickle is a great book for anyone who wants to learn about the pickle. Sweet. Yeah, okay. Okay, A to V legging. Alright. Hi, I'm 36 years old. I'm writing from Omaha, Nebraska. Is it safe for a man to lick my A and then my V? That would be anus and vagina for those of you who aren't. Sorry, I'm just laughing because there's a song out right now called a to be no Oh, chaffle butter well not even that dude. There's another one that says Eat the booty like grocery Yeah Eat your ass like a cupcake also. Oh, yeah, it's very popular right now so trendy

Not that I don't love sex but but right now, it's a lie. I think you go astamath all the time because you never denied that you didn't. Every time I call you, every time I bring it up, you should never go astamath. All right. That's bacteria. It's bad for you.

You can't go astamath. You can go. No, I don't know. I seem like you'll even have a you. Kick last mouth. Okay. You can go. No. I don't know. I seem like. Wait a minute. Oh, do I ever just go to the mouth?

Do I ever find a mouth on an ass? Yes. Is that your ass? Yeah. Or I was thinking, we're talking about vagina's an ass. Yeah, yeah, but I'm just starting with the blue. No, I don't do that very well. I know.

I don't. I actually, can I be honest? Can I be honest? I don't. Okay. I don't. All right. And I should. And I and I will finally you made a statement about it Cuz every time I bring it up you kind of give a giggle like

That that is something going on in your daily life. I I probably should Should admit it or just do it. Let's answer our project list. Um, no, I Let's have it to our project list. Um, no, we haven't. I haven't done that much to be honest. Oh, see, you have done it, see. I mean, I can't remember the last one. All right, I'm just saying.

You're at the point. Okay, I knew it. So you can get the right answer for me. Jess, okay, here's a job. Oh, no, I didn't finish it because you fuck you. No. She wants no. The same question goes for me licking him and then going back to a blowjob.

Is it risky for me to transmit bacteria? Thanks for the great advice, Jess. Yes, Jess. It can transmit bacteria anytime you go from anal to vagina or anal to penis or anal to friggin your turkey sandwich. It is a bad idea. Because then you're eating bacteria with your mayo. The whole thing is not good, okay?

Anal and then you go to the bathroom and you have water. So what do you do about that? This is what you do. All right. If you go anal, then you go and you wash it off. You don't go back and forth. You brush your teeth, you wash your hands, you change the condom.

If it's like you're having anal sex, then you're going back to vaginal sex. So it's really important. So you and your partner should both be showered and totally clean down there before any mouth to ainess action, not that I would know. I do know, I'm kidding, I've done it. I just can't realize, time, I'm super busy.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's easy to tell me the last time, just that you've done it before. I need to do iOS 9 so I can start tracking my anal activity. Is that you haven't looked at any ainess recently? Do you mind? I know, I know. But you know what's also, it's crazy, my, one of my old co-workers said that he had a X-Corpher that was super into it. Like she wanted to do it all the time. There's some people, there's guys who are super into it.

Everyone, everything's good, you guys. It's all normal, it's all fine. We're just giggling, we're just giggling. We're just giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling.

We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling, we're giggling. We're giggling do it all the time. There's some people, there's guys who are super into it. Everyone, everything's good, you guys. It's all normal, it's all fine. We're just giggling because obviously it's funny, but we're not judging you. No, you guys, people freaking lovely.

Yeah, don't be a tight saying that we're judging. No, yeah, don't emailing angry. Everyone wants to be offended. I'm still here, I know, right? Do you know how to get pissed? Oh my God, try being... You? On the air every day.

Because you also are more offensive in nature. Well, yeah, and then people just, I'm just gonna say, overanalyze everything. Jesus Christ, you think that like being offended is people's like full-time job. I know, seriously, will they have some freaking fun? I know, all right? But we don't we love you all, can't we tell? Of course. Okay. So here's the thing. Jess, you and

your partner should both be showered. Like I said, be showered for any mouth to ines, any ines, anything. Please just do it in the shower. That's a great way to do it. And you're instantly you can wash it off. Right. It's not a good idea. Switch from anal enigis to oral because bacteria. She's totally right. So if you want to engage in backdoor play during oral, whether it's like a BJ or while he's going down and you can explore using a finger too, so don't use your mouth and always, always, always,

always, always use lube and wash your hands. And these days are like sanitizers and all those wipes, like have some wipes by your bed. Like I have wipes by my bed, I have a lot of things, but I have a lot of wipes. I have like, like those, like do I have like sex toy cleaners? I don't know. They're just regular wipes.

I got it with the grocery store. It's your night sand is full of, dude. My stuff. It's like, I was like, I believe, I would love to ask my intern, Lori, here to come. I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to. Because you have to research your gloves and it's like, really, very simple. It has bat suit. Here's the problem.

There's probably, and no joke in my bedroom 200 vibrators And the problem is they're all recharged and they're in they're tucked away Okay, you're a little bit like Trizzy bill must be But the problem is these vibrators these these you don't come with like this is a fun factory vibrator This is a vibertex. Then you got to match the chords with the I don't know which goes with which I didn't have a label maker out when I was master reading charging it What I realized of the problem is I'm going to get back to analenics in a minute. Is it my house?

Is not only not kid proof, it's not date proof. So I had this date come over a few weeks ago and I was like literally. I'm like, oh my god, I forgot there was one charging in the bathroom. I mean, I need a full on hour to hide. I've got a wedge. Oh man. I think God the Sibian's not set up yet because I don't know what the hell I'm charging in the bathroom. I mean, I need a full-on hour to hide. I've got a wedge. Oh, man. I think God, the Sibian's not set up yet. Yeah.

I don't know what the hell I'm gonna do with that. It's really like, it's not a date proof at all. It's a problem. It's set up the Sibian. I promise. Will you? I swear. Okay, awesome.

And then you and your girlfriend can come here. I just want to see what it looks like. It's awesome. I mean, it's got 500 heads to it. When you guys are gonna die, we're gonna do some videos on it. All right. Okay, so anyway, back to our play, tears are deal.

The lining of your in-laptivity is very thin and so it does not provide enough lubrication. That's why I'm always saying whenever you are having anal sex, even if you're using your fingers, you want to use a lube, not your saliva. So all that spitting you see, important stuff, that's also bacteria that's not safe. So nothing should go near your back door toys fingers penis anything should go back there

and then in your vagina, on your vagina, any of that. So keep wipes all that stuff I read like I do. I can never find them. Those are bare-edged toys. All right, we've got some more sex. We've got some more things about old sex. Are we good here? Yeah, a few minutes. We're having a good time here. We've got some more things about old sex. Are we good here? People? We're having a good time here. Okay, dear Emily, I love the show. Okay, here's Sitch. I love performing old sex on my lady friends.

Here's the caveat. My orgasms are not as intense without it. And I recently started sleeping with someone who insists that I gargle after going down on her and it completely takes me out of the mood. I'm not opposed to the taste. She really is clean. So why must I gargle after?

Is that what she goes down to her? And she's like, don't make out with me. Wow, we never hear about that. I know, you always hear the guy who's like, you just swallowed my gizz, brush your teeth. I know. Some guys do that. And it's a venture.

This is weird. But, it's whatever. It's an old gizz. It's not like some other guys, you know? Yeah, because that made me really weird. Yeah. Okay, so you should just, you know, so why must I gargle after? Is that a thing to do? Ask, ask, going downtown now to go and rinse,

is that a thing to go downtown and then rinse my mouth? Should I suck it up and mentally get back into the game? Like it's pissing them off. He's like, I just gave you an orgasm and now you're going to go to the bathroom and get out of the moon and gargle. But it's I guess it's not unusual because women are always self-conscious and men about their penis and about their taste of how they taste down there. I think for men they're thinking like not even just like I think for women that like I think it's the same thing they think that they're not going to taste good. Thank you for going down there, but I don't want anything to do with it.

For their hygiene, because we're always wondering if we're clean or not. And I have to admit that there have been guys I've been with, it's been a while, since the guys were like, don't kiss me. But I also don't try to, I'm not like, I'm like trying to like make out with them

right after I swallow their semen. But I do understand this, and obviously he's probably when these guys who's okay with her kissing him after Flasio But if it's a deal breaker, I would bring it up or just why doesn't he just put some of those breaths Stripped by your bed instead of having to get out of bed. Yeah, or just keep some mouthwash by the bed It's important to a company the thing is I don't think this should trip him out as much as it I mean I think we can Put it into this

I think that you could like split the difference. If it freaks her out and you still wanna make out, like put a breast strip in your mouth, or like drink some water. Cause for me, like after, if I, let's say I swallow, I'll drink some water, and then, you know, that's all good. Like, we're all fine. Like, you're not gonna get sick from it,

but he's offended, and it takes him on the mood. Has this ever happened to you with a girl? No, that's just weird. No, I think it. I always hear that with guys though, you know? But why are guys so freaked out and girls typically aren't? I don't know, because guys are weird too.

It's hard to understand things like that. I think guys are like, I want to taste my taste. Or maybe, and then I call Uber, just for you. Well, maybe also like, maybe she had a bad past experience. Something. With her own. Yeah, maybe she had a bacterial vaginosis or something and someone down on her.

So, yeast infection or, I don't know. I don't know. All it takes is really one guy to be like, that you're disgusting down there. Like, things are not so fresh. And it just, you're done. The ruin of the girl. Yeah, you're done.

Yeah, you are finished for life. It's's true or some guy tells you got a small penis in the locker room at a young age I mean if anyone insult your genitalia across the board it will stick with you for life so that could be it as well so Sean nothing we were talking to aren't saying you know that's Sean right that I think you Jason yeah to say hey do I do I really need to go do that right now right like I think it tastes great. But also the flowers Sean I also find it kind of weird that you're even Jason Jason. It's Jason.

Yeah, whatever. I thought you just had Sean. I did it was a mistake. A couple ones ago. Correct it. My bad Jason. I do come find it kind of weird like you're getting laid. Who cares your guy?

You know what I'm saying? I know, but he's sensitive about it. If you guys don't really care, or sensitive or care about this kind of stuff. No. So, you know, if that's just something, like something she had a bad experience in the past and that's what she really wants to do to get through it,

you know what, you're still getting laid. There's a billion guys out there not getting laid. I know. And that it would be happy to find a whole, you can have a penny, they would go to the grocery store, I know that it would be happy to find a whole. Do you have any money? They would go to the grocery store. Yeah, they would walk 50 miles to their house to the chick's house. No joke, man.

Yeah, at least talk to her at least once. And if she says that's what she likes and just stick with it. There's a lot worse things that shouldn't make you do. Exactly. Thank you, menace. It's been a wonderful show and thank you everyone for listening. Here's the dealio You should come find if you want more going down tips you should join me at the house their workshop And if you're not in Los Angeles It's what is it June 23rd Tuesday?

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And thank you to Laurie, my intern. Thank you, Madison's always for being here out of your busy day, your schedule. I know you're super famous, and I'm building more stuff building more stuff, but I love it. And I love you, honey, so much. And also, yeah, reviews and iTunes, like you said, we love that. And one more thing, one more thing I'm going to ask you, one more thing before I go. Follow this three. Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram at the Sex of the Emily. I love you all. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithemlead.com.

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