Sex With Emily - Four Women, Four Orgasms

Episode Date: May 31, 2016

Today’s sex toy review show comes with a twist! The Sex With Emily squad takes you through the four main types of orgasms women can experience and shares their favorite toys to help you get there. From clitoral to G-spot to blended and multiples, Emily breaks down these pleasure bombs and explains exactly how to achieve them. She and her trusty team trade toy tips and share naughty masturbation stories, some of which might just make you blush. Whether you’re a clit queen, a G-spot graduate or a multiple O master, this show has what you need to broaden your orgasmic horizons. Conclude Masturbation Month with a bang and tune in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is all about orgasms. I'm taking you to the four types of orgasms that women can have with the help of the Sex with Emily team. We'll be sharing our personal tips on how to achieve them by yourself or with a partner. Plus some stories from the team about their own orgasmic experiences and the toy that helped them get there. Thanks for listening. Listeners and friends, they're always asking me how to spice up their relationships. They all want to know how to bring the spark back. One great way is to add in some variety. Well, our good friends at Adam and Eve.com know all

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Well, thank you for showing up today to talk about your orgasms as we do every day, but we don't actually record it. So now we're all here, yay, so do you want to go around and See something about yourself and if you were a tree, which tree you'd be no just kidding. You don't say that but you could Who I'd start? I'll go first My name's Madison. I'm a vegetarian Gemini and I really enjoyed orgasms obviously and if I was a tree

I think I would be a palm tree to be perfectly honest. I kind of have that vibe, I think. Yeah, well we do have summer Madison on Lori's computer anyways. Right, so that was Jamie. Jamie, what? I'm Jamie.

If I was a tree, I'd have to be a willow tree just because they're very laid back and cool and they just kind of hang out. Aren't those the crying trees? Like weeping willow, yeah. Okay, well I don't cry. I'd be happy willow. I'd be the cheerful. That's cool. You make up your own country as you should. Yeah, you could do combo of trees. You'd be like the weeping willow. The weeping willow before it really discovered that life is kind of hard. Right. Like maybe in like its youth. We reap exactly. Perfect childhood, nothing makes you cry yet.

It's a good time. I love it. Lori, I just bought a new car and it's red and red's my favorite color. And if I was a tree, I would be a fake Christmas tree because I like to be. So deep. Yeah. I like to be like the center of a celebration. I like parties and also I'm really scared of dying. Right, so you're already dead. Right, don't worry about it.

Right, good one. Okay. Emily, what kind of tree would you be? You know, it's so funny that I was joking with the tree thing. I threw it out. I was like, you know, but I like I've learned so much About you girls. I think I'd be a birch tree Do you know some birch trees we grew up with them like in Michigan?

They were in Canada where I went to camp and the reason why I like birch trees because you can constantly peel back all the layers of the birch Yeah, I love it I would peel them off and I'd like read letters home to my parents and write off So I like that because I feel like I'm always peeling back my own layers personally, and I like to be able to write all over me. Wow. Wow.

We're all those strip trees. Yeah. I think you were telling me a story about them that you used to start. Yeah, that's so funny. Yeah. Gosh, I had a tree there. Yeah, a tree.

Amazing. OK, so you guys, thank you for coming into. I talk about this very important topic, plural, and these are the different kinds of orgasms. But first, let's do a little sex in the news. Okay, science reveals what it may say about your personality if you're still friends with your ex. You know, I've got this.

If you recently noticed that your ex unfriended you on Facebook, go ahead and check. We'll wait. It could be because the person caught wind of a new and somewhat disturbing psychological research. A study published by researchers at Oakland University found that people with dark personality traits, i.e. those who are generally disagreeable,

manipulative, and exploitive, were more likely to be friends with former flames for practical and sexual reasons. So researchers asked these people to come up with a bunch of reasons for staying friends with the ex and people used it, like they said, you know, they were a great listener. And that, if you said they were a great listener,

that would fall under reliability and sentimental. I wanted money from them, would mean that you only stay friends with them. Like it's a very pragmatic view, like I'm gonna wanted money from them would mean that you only stay friends with them. Like, it's a very pragmatic view. Like, I'm going to get something from them. Or we have sex from time to time, that sexual access. So here's my point. When I first went this, I was disturbed because I said there was dark, psychological,

profile, tattooable, state-of-their exes, but when you get in there, you realize it's own the people are like, well, it gives me money. Or she gives me blow jobs for me. It's like, I truly love my exes. Like, we really have this like deep friendship. We were together for, you know, long years ago that I even forgot that we dated, that we really connect. And it doesn't seem like it's a deep, dark,

psychological trait of mine. I mean, I might have other ones, but that's not one of them. So anyway, the takeaway is not that if your friends was someone you stayed, you feel like check yourself in a hospital and nothing's wrong. In fact, if your past relationship, your post-relationship works fine and you're happy, no problem.

But if your ex only comes around when they're like, one, have sex with you or they need something that we know there's a problem. So I say to my exes in San Francisco last weekend, and we're friends because of that, we're sentimental. We've got this true connection. In in fact it was funny because I was saying there and I knew that in the morning he was going to his see his new course girlfriend in New York and his suitcase was out and I was like oh when I brought like my sex that I mean t-shirts I thought how funny I'll put one in the suitcase on top of his suitcase and that says

you know I had sex with Emily and all I got was t-shirt and I and then you look over the morning and he like picks it up he's's like, this isn't my size. And I was like, I wanted you to laugh and wanted you to like, it wasn't like, I talked it in the suitcase. So he, the girlfriend would open, in fact, she knows that we're friends. But still, he was like, no, that's not my size. Like, would you wear it? He's like, I don't know if I wear it. It's a free T-shirt. It's a free T-shirt, but I thought it was fine.

Yeah, I'm like really soft. Yeah. They're really good T-shirts. They are, that's fine. Anyway, but no, we're just good friends. And we, you know, we talk, I knew it's been. Yeah, I'm like really soft. Yeah, they're really good t-shirts. They are, that's fine. Anyway, but no, we're just good friends. We talk, I knew it's been funny about that relationship as well, is that we can actually go back and work on retroactively things that happened. And I was taking the somatic training that I was in San Francisco and I was learning so

many things. I was like, when we were dating and we had these dysfunctional things, how about we have dealt with these things? Like, how would we have communicated? I was feeling abandoned and you were feeling smothered and, you know, broke it down. It was a good trip. That's great. See, even your ex-boyfriends can be used in your future therapy. Let's just say it. Okay, so let's give a little shout out to our sponsors now. Give them some love and we'll be right back.

If you've listened to the show the last couple months, you've probably heard we talk about a unique product called the womanizer. A while back, the owners of the company asked if they could send me wine to test out, which, of course, you know me, I agreed to it. I own and review a lot of toys, and I was fairly confident I've tried every category of product around, but I was wrong. The womanizer was designed in Germany, and unlike anything else on the market, it indirectly stimulates the clitoris using suction. It's kind of like a sexy erythomometer.

It has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris, kind of like how a partner might use their mouth. And while it's on, you can vary the suction and move it around to create an amazingly intense experience. In fact, most women in their focus group achieve orgasm in one minute. That's right, a 60 second orgasm. You can just knock it out if you want. So, I tried the womanizer, and they weren't kidding.

It's amazing. The suction is adjustable, and you can position it to create so many different sensations. The womanizer is really in the category of its own own and I suggest you check it out for yourself. Go to sexwithmwe.com and click on the womanizer banner for more information. Okay, this is a very important day, girls, because it is the last day of masturbation month. So it's very important that we're doing the show about orgasms on this monumental day and I just how would your masturbation month how to go down for you? There's a lot of masturbation for me. I mean more like I masturbate a lot usually and I did it more You did right cuz cuz you're a hard worker You knew there were some hard work to do in masturbation month

But it's all about pleasure cuz our bodies have such a huge capacity for pleasure And just because you've mastered the basics doesn't mean you should stop your journey there, meaning you know how to get yourself off. You do three minutes with the magic wand or you, you know, jack off and you're done. We all have our go-to moves and safety orgasms. But, you know, you don't have to stop there. So with the help of my team here, we're taking you through four different orgasms, four different kinds of orgasms, sharing our own experiences with each type of orgasms, which I think is so interesting, because I'm sure they're all gonna be very different,

because I'm telling you, women all, we get there, but we all get there in different ways, and plus some of the toys that help us get there. So this is fun. Okay, and let me tell you this, little disclaimer. The S, this show is masturbation-focused, but that doesn't mean it's only for the women okay because guys I know you're like I just joke off I'm fine but the more you learn about your partner's pleasure and let me tell you something

There's some stuff here to be learned about your own masturbation routine You will enjoy your sex light better and you will be able to communicate better and you're gonna love the show So just keep going with us here. So there's four types of orgasms. We're in a cover. We got literal Which is common we've all had white we We all had a Clitoral one. Yes. G-spot, slash vaginal. We're all good. We're all clear at that. Okay. We've all had one here. Blended. Yes. My favorite. Okay. We've all had one. That's great. Multiple orgasms. Yes. We've all got good. So this is what we're covering. So we're all going to be able to chime in.

Okay. Clitoral orgasm. It is going to give you a little briefing here Located above the vaginal opening Has 8,000 nerve endings. It's so purpose on the planet is to give you pleasure. That's it. Looks like a little button But for most of us the clitoris is actually underneath the surface So there's like the literal legs and there's all these there's all these nerve endings that make it feel really good But really you could focus on that you know that's where the love button is and we're going to talk to you about how to find it, where to find it, what to do with it. And that's when you can use both direct and indirect

stimulation to pleasure it. And the reason why Clitoral orgasm is the most common way that women orgasm, it's so accessible, it's so easy. Like we all figured out somehow, like how to find it. Like, you know, the wind blows, you're like, oh, that's an orgasm. You know, shower head, pool jet, all that stuff. Okay, so we're how to have a glitter. Oh, okay, use your pointer, middle finger, you play some under-clitorist, glitter hood, the skin right above the visual part of the clitorist, and you start moving your

fingers around, and you can use a circular motion, You want to make sure that you've lots of lube and you just experiment. That's really what you do. It's all about experimenting with pressures and strokes. And we actually covered this really well. It was a deep, deeper penetration, deeper coverage on clitoral stimulation in a recent podcast, great solo sex expectations.

And we take you through a range of masturbation techniques about the clitoris. Plus, on our website, tons of articles on that, you can check it out. But I want to get to my esteemed round table here. And I want to know how you all discovered clitorial orgasms. I discovered, hi, it's Laurie, the fake Christmas tree.

I discovered my first literal orgasm at quite a young age, around six or seven, when I first started showering by myself and I didn't know how to rinse off my, like, lady parts, so I positioned myself beneath the shower before thinking, right, right, do. So like get all the soap out of there. Um, and then I, yeah, then I had orgasms, like very pleased with it. Continue to do that. And you were held? Um, six or seven. Okay. And then you have, right,

that's the shower head. That's it. Have us love the jets. How about you, Jamie? Um, well mine was similar just because it was in a shower, uh, with my shower head. Um, it's always been able to come off of the thing, the little holder of it. It's very movable, so I can move it in a bunch of different areas and it just makes it easier to wash myself, but just that's how I first found my clearer orgasm that way.

So lucky. Yeah, listen. I was taking swim classes when I was like six or seven in a big public pool and we had to like, I wasn't even deep, like deep end swimming yet. And so we had to like hold on to the edge of the pool and like move along. And I just passed over the pool jet and was like,

oh, hey, there probably, like I don't remember specifically, I remember that moment, but there probably like, Matt doesn't come along. And I'm like, no, I'm just gonna stay here for a second. But I remember being like, whoa, like it was almost like two intense, you know, like, and that's what that's what that mean the shower head were really good friends I figured out how to recreate it and that was a good time I don't know if we need to have a shower in my house

Like I don't know why this didn't happen to me, but that's okay So you found out that way which is common because women is like horseback riding Okay, so How you discovered it and then okay, we're going to talk about a literal sex choice since we've all had them. Laurie, you as one of your missions here, I know you've got a lot of difficult jobs and but one of them we wanted you to try the tango. Now I know you love the magic one. We do. But we said here's a tango which is a much different kind of toy.

Right, it's like a couple, three inches long, and it looks just like a lipstick, like it's in the shape of a lipstick. And when I first saw it, I was like, there's no way this thing is gonna be able to bring me to orgasm. Like, I'm used to the magic wand, it's huge, and I like it, but it's awesome.

Like, it's very powerful. I like that it's a hard plastic because I'm so accustomed to like the silicone toys, which are great, but it's just something different. It's nice to change it. Righty, yeah. And it's not only is it very powerful, but it's so quiet.

It's quiet. Whisper quiet. Yeah, it's true. And to waterproof. Right, completely submersible, which I love because I like to masturbate in the shower and Right, so I can use it when my boyfriend's sleeping next to me and he doesn't wake up. Oh love that. Yeah, that's really cool So so how is it?

Um, so usually like the magic wand and then so you probably think oh, it's powerful So this is a different kind of orgasm Yeah, it was a different kind of orgasm because the magic one's head is pretty large, so it kind of covers the entire clitorial area. You put it on your clitoris, but it can't help it have the bulb. Right, right, the bulb. If I say it everywhere.

But the tango, since it's got like a little slanted lipstick point, I could place it in different positions around the clitoris. And like from nine to 12 o'clock, if you're looking at the clitoris and like the Like from nine to 12 o'clock if you're looking at the clitoris head-on is the quadrant that Feels the best to me. That's the car the part of the clitoris popular quadrant Yeah, the the right the upper left hand left yeah, it just feels different It's weird like all the other quadrants feel the same and then that one is like no That's where that's actually a common quadrant for many women. So that's where you did the

little point that you're pointing directly on that side. That's the quadriple. And like, I feel like that orgasm lasts longer and is more intense. Oh, nice. Okay. Yeah, I love the tank. I've tried it a while ago when it came out. And I like it because they also have the attachments to it. You can turn it. It's because the thing is, the thick bullet vibe, which is how a lot of us, my first vibrator was a bullet vibe, like with batteries and all that. And this is just like, I think the ultimate bullet vibe. I love it. So glad you tried that one.

Okay, so let's get into the G-Spot vaginal orgasm. Okay, science is still debating its existence. Whenever I read the stuff, I'm like, really? Did you do some male researchers are going, oh, there is no G-Sp Yeah, because you haven't found it exactly Okay, so many considered to be the holy grail of female pleasure. It was discovered by Ernst Grafemberg in 1940s Hence the G Grafemberg

Grafemberg spot is an Ernest Yes, it Ernst I always said Ernest Ernst Okay, he described and the Rajazone. Okay, let me get to my German accent. Oh, you said, okay, he described in the Rajazone in the front wall of the vagina, found that a small amount of oil,

in particular, those with a strong pelvic floor muscles could have powerful orgasms, one that's arioestimulitis. You sound like Bernie Sanders, actually. Yeah. Like a Jewish German? The 1%. Yeah. Exactly.

Okay. G-Spaed orgasm is more elusive than literal. Okay, so 30% of women out their report to being able to have deep intense orgasms from vaginal penetration alone, but it's frustrating. So that's only 30% can have them. That's, you know, not that's not the majority of women. You all hear that. So it's really common that women have to, you know, that find other ways to orgasm during intercourse, which is fine. And this is all about finding your G-spot as well, so we're going to help you so you can eventually have one, perhaps. But it's frustrating for a lot of women, they expect they should just be able to have them during sex,

and they assume that a penis should be able to the job. You know, and they say, oh, I can't have one. It's not possible. I've had sex with all these penises. It's been inside me that all these penises and I've done it and I've never had to do sweat orgasm. And I think that a lot of us tell ourselves stories that aren't necessarily true around sex.

And I know that I did. I didn't think it was possible for me to have a do sweat orgasm. I didn't think it was possible for a lot of things. And you gotta just put, you gotta keep trying, because it's like everything. It just because it didn't happen doesn't mean it can't. Mastervation, great way to get it going. So it's located on the front wall of a vagina, two inches inside the vaginal opening,

cluster of a tissue that's roughly the size of a benene, a bean, a bee, a B, a B, a B, it resembles a texture of a walnut. And again, it helps when a woman's turned on, has more like a rousal that areas more engorged and then the G-spot will be easier to find. That's true. It swells, it's more sensitive to touch.

So our great solo sex booktations podcast. yeah, yeah, another one teaches you to have a G-Spot orgasm and we get really into it. So you guys just be relaxed, patient, and listen, just because it hasn't happened through the 85 guys you've slept with, or women you've slept with haven't had any of there, I don't know what it is, but because guys might think that a woman, I don't want to be sexist here. A lot of you will have never found their G-Spot, but it might not happen right away. It might not happen with all the sex you've had,

because you need to spend some time alone with your fingers, with another penis, with a toy, and find it and figure it out. It's great work, and some of the most important work you can do. Use your fingers, use the lube, all that stuff. So let's talk about how you all found your G-Spots. I'll guess I'll start Jamie here. Cause mine was pretty, it was a pretty

interesting experience for myself. I was having sex with my boyfriend at the time. We were about to take a shower. And we were up on the counter. And my back wall next to the counter isn't, it's the whole thing is a mirror. And so we have outlets that are on the mirror, you know, so if you plug in certain stuff so I didn't realize that I was backing up onto the mirror and the condensation from the mirror is dripping down and as I'm about to actually orgasm I got a little electrocute shock in my back so I don't know if that like added to the experience it definitely felt really good but afterwards I I was like, whoa, like what? And that was your first deep spot workout.

Yeah, it was perfectly on there. And then it was funny because the next time I tried to do it again. You didn't get electrocuted. I didn't know. Now when you get you into electroplay, electrocuted, okay, that's that's the latest. But that's what you found out. Yeah, and then I tried to work at it more by myself,

so I was like, I need to figure out how to do this again. Right, without like all the bells and whistles and electrodes. Yeah, exactly, without the electrician. Okay, what about, what about Madison? The first night at G-Spot orgasm it was with my ex-boyfriend, and we were having some hot and sweaty car sex as people who live at home tend to.

And it, I was me on top and it happened. And I was like, we kind of looked each other and we're like, what is that? This is before the sex of the Emily days. This is back when I didn't know the difference between one orgasm or the other. And I wasn't really like expecting to have orgasms. I thought that's all sex needed to be was just like pounding.

And so I had it and then we kind of looked each other and we're like, whoa, and then we just kept going. And if it happened cool, but it didn't really. And then later on I started to figure out like what that was and how to have it. And then I've just been rocking them ever since. It's been great. It's been a great ride.

Good, great ride with the G-Spot. Okay, so there's lots of different toys that you can use. I really like the Amorino, great G-Spot sex toy, fun factory, makes it the Amarino, it's body-save silicone, waterproof. Here's the thing about it though, it's got like a, I just like the way it has, it's girthy, I like the shape for me, it just hits my G-Spot like just right and it's not too big and it doesn't have too many bells and whistles on it except for one that I like and it's got this yellow

band that stretches around it. And so when the band is on, it takes the vibrations and it like circulates it all around the, you know, cause it attaches a little love and it attaches around the vibrator so that vibration circulates all around your vagina. Like you put it inside you and it's like, it's all around like your leabia on the inside

and the outside so it's like making every surface area that it touches like vibrrate in the same way. That's amazing. Yeah, right? Yeah. And so I like that and I like the way that it just the position and the shape of it the way I can just like hit my G spot and make me really happy. I think some toys are especially like everyone has like a different story of like a G spot

toy that like really hits it for them and it just proves that like every woman's like builds a little differently. But I know you were saying that it's like um it's like a little bit girthier like and that's like part of why it's like kind of shorter and girthier. It's shorter yeah it's shorter and girthier so it didn't need to be like long crazy but it's uh yeah yeah it's a nice uh G-Spot fun good times and also when I do my chaglactriutize I've talked about this before I really helped me like when I Do my kegels on a regular basis, which I have been doing all year I can just have a two-spot orgasms like No problem and they they honestly even though I learned how and I was I was like a lot of women who didn't I never had a

During intercourse I think I had to like get in there and figure it out and when I did I Still don't have it every time, but when I do, you know, it's amazing. And the more dukeggles squeeze those muscles, I can have one. So that's another reason why you should, oh, download my app, Kagell Camp.

Yeah, it's a good time. Okay, blended orgasms. Yes. They're the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. It's like a whole party and your entire vulva was invited. Okay, you guys, so common ways to have a blended orgasm during oral sex because your partner is performing conolingus using their fingers to massage the G-spot at the same time.

That can be amazing. Amazing. During intercourse, so you're having intercourse, penis, and vagina sex and a lot of clitoral stimulation. Whether it's through manual stimulation to your clitoris using a toy or a position like woman on top that provides the direct pleasure. Pressure, you can also have a blended orgasm that way because penis is inside you.

And to have a blended orgasm yourself, toy. Your best friend, that's a really good way to have one. So let's talk to my trusty team here. Who's had a blended orgasm? My son. I think we've all had one. We've all had one. Lori dropped a bomb on me and was like, I've had one and I didn't know that. I thought you had it. Sure, I've had one.

Because I have had like a... You can tell us all this stuff. Yeah, well when we did the show with the Raven Raven the Nova like I had the Nova which is awesome But I've never had a G spot orgasm by itself so I was like getting really frustrated I was on my mission to like make my G spot orgasm happen and I had an orgasm in which I was Effectively stimulating both the G spot and the clitters at the same time So I can only classify that as a blended which I was effectively stimulating both the G spot and the clitoris at the same time.

So I can only classify that as a blended workout. That's exactly what I would say. Who might? You can, yes. You can kind of tell because it's a little, there are two different sensations. And you were, yeah. So it's like, I felt both of them.

I just couldn't have the G spot blend without the clitoris. But that's still, no, that counts. That counts, right? Okay, still counting it. I'm counting it. I'm writing it in my diary. Dear diary. I don't rule out any orgasms to'm writing it in my diary. Dear diary.

I don't have a lot of orgasms to orgasm. For me, who's Madison, usually it's like I start off having a clitoral and then I can have another blended afterward. So if I start off with a clitoral stimulation, usually my favorite usually is with oral when my boyfriend's going down on me and he's already given me a clitoral orgasm. And then he brings the fingers in, I get really excited. And I start to dance.

And then I can have another literal, but with G-spot at the same time. And it's like crazy. Yeah, it's kind of like a process. Like you're working up to it. It's like each step. It's like, okay, I have my literal orgasm first. Sorry, oh, now we're going to throw in a little G-spot action in there with the literal.

And it's like, okay, the literal is going to fall by the wayside. Just going to have the G-spot there. See with the glitter roll and it's like, okay, glitter roll is gonna fall by the wayside, just gonna have the G-spot there. See, I haven't reached that. That's my next step. That's, I'm like two out of three. Right, like you stop with the glitter roll. But you'll get there. Yeah, I'm gonna do the G-spot. I'm gonna keep practicing. Just put aside the magic wand for a little bit, you know? I'm actually doing that. I know. Yeah, it's good to mix them up. I know. Matt, that you're gonna become numb and anything's bad from any toy,

but it just like, sex is all about variety. I have to have someone like hide it from me and not tell me where it is. Right. I recently brought out my magic on with the cord one, and I was like, oh, hey, gee. Oh, hey, you didn't know. I haven't used it in a while, and it was really nice. But yeah, blended.

So I made it my mission to try the Sugar Pop by Vibratex. It's like a really cool, um, it's different from their other toys because it made a body safe elastomer, which has like a little bit more like give. It's not like the hard plastic or the silicone splash proof. It takes a AAA batteries, which was interesting, because I haven't had like a battery toy in a while,

but I really liked it and it's dual stimulation. It's got the internal shaft, has like the rotating beads, which is, again, I've never had a toy like that before. And I've seen the rabbit have it and all that. And I was like, all right, we're gonna see how this goes. And it's got the external, literal tickler, which is really funny just to watch. We played it. And you turn it on the office the other day.

And I was like, oh, like, because it just, it goes crazy. It's like very, very intense. And it's got dual motors. So like, Laura, you were saying that saying that you you know when you are trying to have a G-Spot orgasm you can like be using it for blended and then take away the clitoral and then just have like the internal going. Yeah you can turn out it's different switches. Yeah I totally recommend doing that but so I liked it a lot. I thought it was surprisingly strong. That was like my biggest takeaway from it was I wasn't expecting it to be as powerful as it was and especially because it's battery powered and I'm so just

not used to that. But the literal appendage is super intense even on like the lowest setting. It's very powerful and I just discovered why it was so intense. It has these like little nubs on the inside of it. Emily and I were like looking at the toy like actually looking at it. I was like, oh hey that explains it but like it's got these like little like soft rubber like, that explains it. But it's got these little soft rub, like whatever it's called, a last-mer nubs. And it transmits the vibrations throughout the clitoris. So not just directly on the clitoris,

like all the area around it, which was nice. And I like the way the buttons are laid out because I know we've all kind of had those issues where you're trying to turn on a toy and all of a sudden you switch the setting when you're really close, but you want to turn it up and it has like two rows and they're like organized really like really nicely like the top one is like to turn it it's like to turn it on or do the functions. The middle one is on and then up

for the and then the off one is just off which is great because um, in case someone's like walking by and it's a little loud you're like just often, it just kill switch done. And I really liked that about it and I liked that the rotating beads were very pleasurable. Overall, I would give it a good rating. Plus it's like a, I don't know, just a cool toy. Good G-spots to lower, delivered good G-spot organisms. Totally. I mean, I warmed up beforehand with like a clitoral because I just, you know, didn't want

to go in cold and use lots of blue with it That's the only thing I have to say is lots and a lot of blue. Yeah, water-based Blue because the silicone will eat away at it, but overall always is live Don't a little live. Okay. Thank you for that matter. So that was the what that was the sugar pot That is the sugar pot by a vibrant. Okay cool. All right multiple organisms How to have them? Okay, to achieve all you need to focus on all your attention on the clitoris. And you gotta be patient with this one.

Because after the first orgasm, a lot of women think, you know, find that their clitoris is super sensitive and you wanna pull back or you think, oh, that felt good, I'm done, you know, I'm out. But really, you know, we're so lucky because our refractory period is so short that we can kinda just like, if it's too sensitive,

we just kinda pull back from this stimulation. And you can try like massaging areas around it, like the labia or your inner thighs or your breast and then you go back to it, you know, you go back to your clitoris and you start like wrapping yourself up again. And you can also do this with a toy. If you were using a vibrator, you might have it higher than you crank it down lower and then you can just start teasing all around the clitoris, and then you go back to it. And when you go back again, you want it to be like a lower intensity, but you know, just keep breathing too. That's a big part about having the next orgasm. So

you have that first one, and you keep breathing, you know, you kind of bring down your energy and your intensity, and then you, you know, kind of start to, the energy starts to rise again, and you just want to stay connected mentally and physically with your body. So instead of worrying, is it going to happen again? Is it going to happen? You know, you just kind of like, you're paying attention to your body, you see the build again, because you keep touching yourself, but not on the clitoris, and you bring yourself back to the clitoris. And you'll probably have another one. And another one, that's all, you need to get going. But Lori, I know. Yes. That's what I'm buying.

This is a good story, proud moment. Yeah. But your multiple orgasmic experience. Right, well, we, when I first used the touch, we all were talking about multiple orgasms, and I'd said I never had a most convinced touch. The wee vibe touch. Yeah, the wee vibe touch.

Right, touch, right. I was convinced I couldn't have them, just because I masturbated a ton and I've never had one so I was like, why will it ever happen? And then you gave me like a little bit of a pep talk, like a multiple orgasm pep talk. Like, you know, just don't open your mind to it. It was like a really, I don't know, Zen pep talk about it. And then I just went home that night.

I didn't really put too much pressure on myself. And I had my first multiple orgasms, like five of them. You had five. I mean, we're gonna the next day, we were testing the touch and I was like, how did it go? You're like, and you didn't tell me to run there and she's like, and I could you have multiple, she's like five.

Yeah, I think I gave you like the time to die. I'm so happy. I'm so happy. Yeah, the time's tough. Yeah, she's like, I'm having one minute and then it don't. Right, so that's cool. So how, so since then, have you, do you always have multiples now? Or Have you do always have multiples that like I open to third eye Totally, it's crazy like now that my my body

Like like that my brain is convinced that I can do it. It allows my body to do it So like it doesn't it only happens when I choose to you know And I can tell if like oh this orgasm is good for more. Right. It's like since I've started to think about it, every orgasm is so different that I can, you know, decide if I'm gonna keep doing or stop and it's super easy. That's cool.

So it was about changing your mind about what's possible. Totally. I was just closed off to it and as soon as I decided not to be closed off to it anymore, then I go. She's doing it now. Okay, that's great. Thank you, good story. Okay, you know, I love that.

So, Jamie. Yeah, it was interesting because I didn't really, when I first had my first multiple orgasm, I was just using my hands by myself and I didn't really realize that I could do that. Cause you know how sometimes you just have an orgasm, that's just like, oh my God, that was so awesome. Can I take a retake of that like right now, please? Yeah, and so that's just how I felt and I was like

I'm just gonna keep going and see if it you know it happens again, and it did but then Once I joined this lovely team here. I opened up my world to sex toys, which was great and the the womanizer specifically the deluxe version, oh my gosh, like that is just like multiple orgasm heaven. I was, I'm like, honestly, really, I like the first one a lot, but once I got the second one, the second womanizer, okay.

The first one is better depending on your hands, because it's a little easier to grasp it and hold it in place. But the second one, it's, it comes with, first of all, it comes with two different sizes of the silicone head, which is cool, because if you do have a larger clitoris, it'll fit better into it. Also, it kind of changes up the sensations. If

you even, even if you do have a smaller clitoris, if you just change the head size, it kind of changes the indirectly, exactly. Yeah. So it kind of gives you a different air technology. Exactly. But I just I love it because first of all, it knocks out your first orgasm in like, it is a minute tops, like seriously. And then the buttons are really easy to use.

It's only an on-off button and then an intensity button. The deluxe version has eight different settings. I usually start out already on the second or third Depending just because I do like a lot of it has a little bit more vibrations and I do like to have a little bit more intensity And then I'll start going and then once I have my first orgasm While I'm still kind of climaxing there. I turn the intensity up a little bit and my like I can almost have like another orgasm within that orgasm. Wow. But then it's like a bubble and a bubble. But then after that, I can't

keep going up intensity after that. I have to bring it back down, which is why I like the on off button if you just press it once instead of having to lower it step by step. It goes straight back to the beginning. And so then that way I can work up to like my next one so I can have like three or four. So the woman that has been good for you in this way to like practice with the I think that's a good point that you just can turn it off and you don't have to. Yeah well it doesn't really. Yeah like you don't have to measure it down and it doesn't turn off all the way it just goes back to the first set. It's like mmm so it just it knows it's like it's like okay you had it you're intense a little bit and we're bringing it down That's what I call the Glit Whisperer. Yeah, speaking of which, it's like they designed it.

Wait, we ever talked about our video. Can people find our videos? Absolutely. Okay, I'm obsessed with this video. It's on YouTube, a website. It's on, yeah, it's on everything. Yeah. It's on YouTube, YouTube.com.

It's called The Whisperer. It's called The Whisperer. It's about this, I'm not going to check it out. Oh, yeah, it's a short film, it's really moody. And it features the womanizer, it's about this. I'm not gonna check it out. Yeah, it's a short film. It's really moody and it features the womanizer. It's It's a hilarious I really want to see what it looks like so Jamie that's a good explanation of it because I know we've all had different experiences with the Womanizer. I just think it's crazy because it sucks like it

I've just never seen anything like it think it's crazy because it sucks. Like it sucks on the Twitter. I can't, I've just never seen anything like it. And it's so special. It's so special. It's so special. And direct stimulation, all that stuff I think. Like I always say that's kind of what I thought if my clitoris could speak, it would say, do this thing that you're doing with this.

This is what I want. That's cool, Jay, I love that. Okay, where else? We good at orgasms. Are we? Yeah, I mean, there are plenty of other orgasms But there are but we always time for you guys are awesome. Thank you for sharing these experiences We're gonna be able find all these stuff toys. It's good our website sex family.com

Yeah, go to I'm will include them in the show like in the show posting on the website And also if you want to know more about the different kind of orgasms There's a blog on the website called Your Orgasm Orientation. Takes you through literally everything we just talked about for the most part, with like the glitter all, you know, vaginal, all of that, and you can kind of get a little bit more if you're looking for how to do it. Right. That's a great point.

Yeah. Because the truth is, a lot of stuff you're hearing on the show, you might think like, oh, she's, I didn't get that. Or she's, she's going too fast. That which I got, I know I talk really fast fast and that happens maybe to a lot of things, but you could often find a lot of this information on our site. If you would like to read things about it, you know, we have a lot of, we have a dense amount of work. Absolutely.

That you will like. Okay. Great. Yeah. And then also again, great soloist expectations, because you answered the three top masturbation questions we get asked. I do. You's what it does. Yeah, one of them was how to masturbate by itself. The other one was like, is my G-spot migrate? Yeah. But it's all about locating the G-spot when you're not sure

that it's there. So that was a good show. Yeah, I thought you did really well at like that. Well, thank you. You know, it's your job. You all do really well. Thank you all for being here and for killing it here in the new office.

It's great. That's a, we should light some incense or something. Make sure you're following us on Snapchat Well, thank you all for being here and for killing it here in the new office. It's great. We should have light some incense or something. Make sure you're following us on Snapchat, because we're just going to be snapping the new office. Yes, it's all at sex with Emily across the board, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram. And I don't know, I love you all.

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