Sex With Emily - Getting Even Wetter with Lynette Carolla

Episode Date: September 19, 2017

Ready for another round? On today’s show, Emily is joined again by fellow podcaster Lynette Carolla to help put your sex and dating worries to bed. Do you get too wet during sex? How do you transition from texting to actually seeing each other? Want to learn how to be less intimidating? Emily and Lynette help callers and listeners work through these dilemmas, plus they talk about something that’s always been controversial– pubes. Don’t miss it!   Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Intensity, Womanizer, Le Tote, Sportsheets Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily on today's show, my good friend and fellow podcaster, Lynette Carola, and I are helping you navigate your sex relationship and everything in between questions. Topics include your pubic service announcement. How do you really like your hair down there? Getting out of the tech zone into the date zone, strategies for dating is a strong accomplished woman and the literal GPS. We show you the way around your favorite love button.

All this and more, thanks for listening. Book into his eyes. Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them a lie on day. Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got to understand. Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so proud.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between for more information go to my website. Check out my incredible blogs. I am so digging my blogs these days. Okay, there's one right now. This week I love it's called, say, pubic service announcement or APSA, if you will.

And it's all about pubic hair through the ages. We don't you want to know what's happening fall fashions underway? Yes. What's happening in September as you have Vogue? What's happening with your pubic hair? Lina Carrola is my guest. Yeah, no, you don't introduce me right now,

but I do. But you get your carpet change, bikinis and razors, embracing the bush back to bear in 90s was wax versus Harry and proud and then there was the Brazilian debut and now I think people are doing what they want. What do you think Lynnette? Yeah, can we can we get in? Do it right now. Yeah, okay, so I have not been waxed until, like when I first met Adam, my husband back in 95, there's a place called Pink Cheeks that just kinda opened in the back.

Pink Cheeks. Pink Cheeks, okay. In Vanis, and they were known at the time for Pam Anderson made it famous with the whole like playboy thing. Okay, so back then I did it and it hurt like a bitch and I was like fuck that shit. Like what do I know I'm gonna press this guy anymore. I'm getting married. I'm gonna fast forward 20 years. We went on a honeymoon kind of like

whatever trip and I was like you know what I'm gonna get it. All right. I'm gonna get waxed. Who cares? So then I got wax. I got the whole Brazilian thing and I thought, wow, it hurts, but then I thought, this is kind of nice, it feels good and it lasts for a long time, like you're smooth and everything. And now I understand what all you bitches are talking about. So then I went back again a couple weeks ago and she's like, do you want a Brazilian? And I was like, I don't know what's a Brazilian. And she's like the whole thing and then she's like, embarrassing, like, And she's like the whole thing. And then she's like embarrassing like, yeah, yeah, the whole thing.

Why wouldn't be here if I didn't want the whole thing? Then she's describing what I want as far as like the, you know, that the try and go the landing strip. Yeah, what? You're like just taking it off. Right now? I don't want it all. No, Adam would, he would be horrified.

Oh, like he would be like, these are all the different designs you could have. Oh, is that, is that where you go? I guess so. You can go like a zigzag. In the lobby, a zigzag. I don't know, I'm looking at these pictures on the, you know, it's a personal choice right now.

I think it always should be a personal choice. You should be. So I just, why? I said, lady, listen, just keep some stuff there. I don't want to be like a 12 year old. Right. But don't make me look like Hitler either. Like some weird, right?

The Hitler thing is that like the little thing. The Hitler mustache, I know. I know, it is weird. Ah, not judging. Who am I to judge? But I just a little like, I like a little triangle or something. Just something to show that I am above age.

That's all. I get it. So you go back and get the, yeah, and then I go every six weeks. Every six weeks. Listen, I'm married. What a why care. But if we're going on vacation or something

or it's our anniversary birthday or somebody or Christmas, then I'll do it. But yeah, it's a whole thing. I got laser. Yes, me it. But yeah, it's a whole thing. I got lasered. Yes, me too. But here was a thing. I was like 10 years ago, but I was like, I don't want them to take everything off.

Like do you want it all off? I'm like, no, what if the push comes back? What if I want the triangle? What if I want as exact? You know what makes it back? What if I want a star? I don't know what I want. So I have most of it gone, but then it now it's just a weird formation that I feel like

I still have to have waxed it, but then I just don't. So then I shave it all off, which is probably too much. You shave it all off? Well, just because there's still to say, what would be left? I'm so busy. I know you're busy single, I would too. But here's the problem. Is that half of it's really smooth.

I've never talked about this a lot, so this is your good thing, shut on to me. Is that I get stumbled out? Because it's like, yeah. So that I'm on top, I'm doing something, I'm grinding in the choir alignment technique, and it's like, I have stumbled. So I had a lot of fun, sounds like it's hurting. And now it's like, but even if I go back

and get the Brazilian, that would still come back and be stumbled. So I don't know what to do. And I actually don't want to look like a pre-BUS. Right, I can never tell you what a pre-BUS double thing. Child, what do you do? I think it's better to leave a little bit of hair. Yes.

And then the other parts, if you leave it in between your legs, like it's not as stubbly maybe, because I don't know, it's just this a new thing. I don't feel this issue before. I don't think it was a good deal. God damn it. You think my parents had this? No, mother didn't. I didn't. Here's the thing guys. It's a choice and if I think I know a lot of women today who are just letting go crazy

like the bush it's all back and I feel like I'm better off letting mine grow out and that's actually what I've done this whole shaving off was like I think I was going Hawaii and I was in a hurry and I was like, I don't have time, I swear. And that's when this started, it's very recent. So I think I was better with the kind of oblong shave craft that I was the prickly stubble. Yes, yes. So everyone just do you. Do you?

Party in the back, yeah. So, Linda Carola is awesome. Thank you. And she's a podcast called For Crying Out Loud. And also a podcast for the after show, the after show. Yeah, the after show. The story and the after show.

Yeah, the story and the after show. If you guys like true crime, you can listen to a sword and scale, episode, whatever episode you listen to, then you listen to our show. And you guys must be hilarious on that. We're so in your show. I know it's so funny,

but you're so funny. Like I just feel like it would be entertaining. Yeah, because we're into it. Because I wasn't your podcast, but I don't watch the same stories. Yeah. It's like if we did an after show on your show. Like we'd be like, oh my God. Emily's show was so good.

Did you hear her talk about her bush and that the waxing and the shaggy show? I'm gonna go wish it'd do an after show. Who wants to do any of my list numbers? Say nice. Want to should do an after show. Who wants to do any of my listeners want to do a post game show? Are you up? E-MountMe, feedback at sexesatemy.com

or tweet me at text-amily or snap me. Yeah. It's all that text-amily. It's not a bad idea. Not a bad idea. Not a bad idea. But that's what I say, right? It's a great idea.

And I just revealed something like, for example, about my bush, which was a bad idea. That's a great idea. It's a great idea. And I just revealed something, like for example, about my bush, which was a big moment. Okay, you guys, I have no secrets from you. Also, the other thing I wanna mention about is that I have a subscription box. Do you do any monthly boxes? I like the monthly subscription stuff. Yeah.

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We took some amazing, we are taking some fun clips of the show today because we're having a blast. So you're gonna check all that out. Yeah. And let out, I do not prepare for this part. Okay. Before we get into emails and talking, I've got five questions for you that I ask all my guests.

They're quicky questions. Right? Sure. What's your biggest turn on? You know what? You want questions. Right? Sure. What's your biggest turn on? You know what? You want physical or mental? Anything. This was I was going to ask you about.

All right, so here's my chance to ask you. For some reason, I, so a couple of years ago, I went for a massage and the girl did a massage. She goes, would you like a tummy massage? And I was like, I've never had it before, but okay. And then she did a stomach massage and then she's telling me as she does the clockwork orange, you know, the clock, the counter clockwise on your stomach in a circle is good for digestive, but all I get thinking was, oh my god. It was turning on. It was like, it was a little lower than your stomach.

It was more like the peabuck mounds. Yeah. Yeah. Why? How? Why? Why does it really turn on? So then I told Adam, like my husband, to when he was giving you a massage, I said, can

you do it? Like counterclot, go either way, I do care. But what the lower belly massage, why is that pressure on the lower belly? So the pubic mound, that's a great question. Yeah, it's because here's the thing, is that there are so many nerve endings right there. And it's also like this whole area.

So I think a lot of us, if we're lucky, we know your partners are women, you know that you have a clitoris. And we think about this clitoris being this little button you know of the vaginal opening that has like you know 8000 nerve endings and it's amazing but it's not just that little bulb it's actually the clitoris has legs and there's just the leg it's connected but when you also the pubic bank and also indirectly stimulate your g spot so there's just a lot going on there so when you're pressing on this area you're tickling it. You're actually tickling these nerves beneath it.

Like I'm showing you right here. Yeah, yeah. That's like, so she was like here, right? And tickling, like around. As you would be in your fingers, we're like swiping against your like, like, it's like, it's like,

all of that is connected. And I love that you're asking this question because I think that a lot of people don't really even understand that sex and foreplay and turning your partner on isn't just about like, oh, I know like where the, I know the clitoris, I'm going to finger, it's no, it's the entire like your inner thighs, your pubic right on your lower belly like and it's that light touch right going in circles and then even sometimes you put your palm down and you apply pressure. It's like a turnt on. though. It's a turd on. Yeah.

So it was like the tickling and it was teasing. It was building your arousal. And that's because it was just stimulating all these nerves. It's stimulating the nerve endings underneath there. Yes. Exactly. Underneath the belly. Right.

Where the G spot is. Right. The one that Adam can't get. I mean, the one that had, um, can't get to. Right. But I think this would be good. First of all, for example, for women, there are some women and there are people

who might even argue and say, it's not the G-spot. There's other ways of orgasm. It could be a cervical. It doesn't really matter how you label it or what it is or what you want to call it. It's the fact that you are turned on and you felt them in there because some women

would be like, I did the counter-clockwise circle and I felt nothing. Right. The key to the game here, the name of the game is experimentation and tickling and touching your body and figuring out what makes you feel good because every single person's body is different. And so you're a woman who's been with a lot of people and it took a masseuse a few years

ago and we were like, oh my god, I had no idea that would turn me on. And that punctuates the exact point that I'm always trying to make on the show is that we are sex is expansive. What turns us on could change over time. We're always discovering new things. And I love that you found that out. So I feel like you don't have the way to get a massage to feel like when you masturbate or when you're with your partner,

you say, you know what? Let's take sex off the table. Let's just explore each other's bodies. Let's get some massage candles. Let's massage candles each other's bodies. Let's get some massage candles. Let's massage candles. I love massage. Let's get some massage oil and let's take each other's hands and rub them over each other's body and just like figure out your pleasure points because we all have different areas. I feel good like for me when I want to have an orgasm. Okay, here's the other thing for the after show I don't often talk about is that if I'm with somebody and they're like going down on me for example or they're whatever I press,

and it's not really the lower back, it's like my pubic mouth, I push on here, and that will like intense femur orgasm. I didn't realize that when I was 20. Right, but that took me a while. Right, so. I always like that belly, lower belly pressure. I feel like I didn't know what was going on.

Yeah, okay. I'm surprised that's what it is. Okay. It's in its comment, but I think again, it's like indirectly stimulating your, okay, he's bad at Europe. Yeah. Clitoris, like whatever, yeah,

cause here's the other thing, when you're pressing that area, you press, but you go down. So if I'm pressing it and I push down, it's also like the clitoris, the outer, the inner, the, right, maybe it all, that's right. It's a good time, okay.

It's a good time, yeah. So biggest turn on, that's your answer. Yeah, biggest turn off. Where am I gonna begin? Biggest turn off. Like grabbing the head. I like to give a blowjob. I just didn't do that.

Don't push my hand. Don't push the head. I was already on the way and guess what I'm leaving. Yeah, I know. Adam doesn't do that hand. I was already on the way and guess what I'm leaving. Yeah, I know Adam doesn't do that and but I have That have gone on dates and they do the sheet. They tell me that they do that and it's like I'm like The worst now. I thought like I'd be banned that like on the last ballot initiative or something I know yeah, you should amfaking orgasms

Okay, what's the sexiest part of a man's body? Oh my goodness. I like a chest. The chest of a man. What's the one thing you wish you could tell your partner about your body's needs? I would say don't give up. Just keep trying for the g-s. Because I haven't really had a g-spot. Oh, we've talked about this a couple of years ago. up, just keep going. Trying for the Gs, because I haven't really had a G spot. Oh my God. We've talked about this a couple of years ago. Yeah, I haven't had that.

We've got more work. Yeah. Craziest place you've gotten busy. Oh. In my bedroom when I was a teenager at home. And your parents were there? My no, my mom came home. She caught you?

Yeah. What's it, what happened? She said, in, because she's an Italian immigrant, parents were there? Munna, my mom came home. She caught you? Yeah. What happened? She said, in, cause she's an Italian immigrant, she said, Linette, listen, in the end, he's gonna win, you're gonna lose. So don't get a busy in your room

and don't tell your father I saw what I saw. That was it. It's the best story ever. Yeah. Oh, this is a good time. I love this. I love you. It's great show. We the best story ever. Yeah. Oh, this is a good time. I love this. I love you. It's great job.

We're just getting started. Yeah. Your mom said that. Uh huh. Yeah, and he and he's gonna win. I'm gonna lose. Did you lose? You didn't lose.

You're a winner. No, I'm a winner. I'm winning. Okay, so you said you came armed with questions for me. Yeah. And I'm here for you. Yes. Oh, God.

All right. So the lower belly, the how to have a G spot. G spot. So last time I saw you, oh, that's it's all you, but when I first brought you vibrators, I think I gave you a G spot one, but here's the thing about the G spot. So tip to find the G spot. One of the best ways to start is if you're already turned on and if you already have a literal orgasm, for example. So yeah, you have toys. I'll give you you saw that I gave you a little preview for what's to come in the sex toy closet. Right. I'm going to tell you just for yourself, because then you could bring out a man you cannot. Okay. When you're aroused, it helps to that whole the whole

area of the G spot becomes more engorged, which is about two inches inside, you stick like a finger inside, and it's like the come hit their motion towards your belly button. You feel like a rough patch, kind of like an apricot. Something, it says, feels different ways. And then you apply direct pressure to it. And through that motion, you can oftentimes have a G-spot orgasm. However, there's different positions.

The thing is, for some women, here's one thing I want to say. A lot of people have to do with anatomy in the way you are built. For some women, the event clitoris is on the outside. Without a clitorial hood, and they can just have orgasms like when they sneeze. And for some women, every time they have sex, they have a G-spot orgasm.

It's truly, like, when some women, where all bodies are different. All of our bodies are different. It just means that maybe once you find it, for example, and then you can move a certain way with the atom, even though you've been having sex with him for 20-some years, if you on your own find it, you'll be like, oh, now I know. So using fingers is helpful. There's also some great toys that don't malfunction in your vagina that I can give you.

I would say the Weebe rave or Nova, the rave is the best G-spot toy out there. So, do you suggest you get the clitoris? Yeah, clitoris. Like excited, first and health. Then you try and get the G-spot. And then you take a blend. Yeah, I would say just knock out a clitoral orgasm

because those are fun, you're aroused. Have a G-spot? I'd use your fingers. I'm gonna do this first on my own first Yeah, that's what I'm saying and then use lube of course And I think it's easier with some of these toys especially the rave which I love by we vibe It's just the way it's shaped the way it where you can use it with an app as well You you might want to use it with an app. It's cool because you can sign your phone You don't have to be down there like using the different speeds and pressures and all that. And there's nothing worse when you're about to orgasm

and you turn the shit off. Oh yeah, it's the worst thing. I get the thing stops. Oh, and it's die. That's the worst sex I've ever had. That's my biggest turn off is when a toy turns off. And also the other events really helped me. Now I, I've had sex, plenty of sex.

What? I never had a. Plenty of sex. What? I never had a G-spot orgasm ever until I started the show 12 years ago. So I never even had one like in my 20s because I didn't know how, so I had to work at it work at it and I realized for me the big thing was doing my kegels, that when those muscles became stronger, because those are the muscles that you like kind of pump. Yeah, I know when you think you of pump. Yeah, I know. I know it is that. You're right.

You're right. And so for me, when those were stronger, I was like walking around with like, I'd be doing my abs all month or something. It was like, when you want to wear like a crop top when you're having, it was that kind of thing. It was like, you know, my muscles are turned on. And I was like thinking about sex more and whining sex more. And then a combination of that and using the toy, I was able to have my first G-spot orgasm

and then blended when you can have both, when you like have it, literal have it, you know, I didn't wanna get greedy but I was, I'm blended. And then I was able to, during intercourse by squeezing it, like squeezing my kegels, that's taught me. Oh, it's squeezing.

So when you first had your internal orgasm, was that on your own? That was my own. There was nobody there. There was not a party. That was a long. It was a party. And I was really when there.

Really? I didn't know that. Oh, see, another thing for the after show. Will you do my after show? Will you hear? So we need someone else to it. Yeah. Yeah, that was it.

And I learned so much. I mean, that's when I started the podcast, I was like, I have a hunch that sex could be a whole lot better. Yeah, you're right. And I was like, this seems like something worthwhile to study for the rest of my life. Yes. Yeah, you're right.

And I don't think I've done it. I still don't think I've had the best sex ever. Yeah. I want to keep going. Okay, Lynette, that was a great question about your team. Thank you. Because I get asked that a lot. And I love that we can actually have that real conversation right here when I'm on one. And it's a great question about your spot. Because I get asked that a lot, and I love that we can like actually have that real conversation right here.

Right. And it's a good one. Thank you. You're so welcome. Okay, so we're gonna move on to emails. We're gonna help me eat and call. Yeah. And you're gonna help me help the people. I love that. I love that you're here. I love it. And thank you everyone for listening to this show and for supporting my sponsors, because they help keep the show free. And when you support them, you're supporting the show. And I just love you. We'll be right back. Okay, Lynette, are you ready for the girls and the emails?

Yes. If you have a question you want me to answer on the show, that's amazing. You can text Ask Emily all one word to 7979. 7979. That's Ask Emily. So what happened is when you text that, you get this link right away. And that link, you just open it up and you ask away.

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I know. I think it was. Yeah. Not 6969. I know. I think it was already taken. I'm sorry. Such a buzzkill, right? I know. Like, if anybody should have the 69s. Yeah.

Hello. Somebody should. Heubed. Yes. I mean. Thank you. Who the hell took that? I know.

I don't know. I can't do that now. OK. We've got Kat. She's 26 from Los Angeles. And she wants to know how positions to maximize sensation, even when she's really wet. During sex.'ve got Kat. She's 26 from Los Angeles and she wants to know how positions to maximize sensation even when she's really wet during sex. Hi, Kat. Hi, Emily. I'm here with my friend, Linda Carola.

So you've got two women here helping you. Hi, Kat, why aren't you just brag more often? Okay, you want to get more positioned when you're wet. Like some women, some of us can't get wet, some do. Kat, what's going on? Talk to us. So basically, the problem that I'm having is that no matter what, no foreplay, nothing, it doesn't really matter what happens before you. Every time I have sex, I'm always incredibly wet, like ripping everywhere wet. All right.

And sometimes it makes it so that I can't really feel much of any of the stuff that's happening. Right, right. Now I've heard this from a woman. Absolutely. I totally got it. Yeah. And what have you tried so far? Have you tried anything?

So I've tried just like doing different positions or basically that's it. Okay. Well first let me tell you a little bit about the wetness. So like the vaginal lubrication comes to the vaginal walls. And typically with younger women if you have higher estrogen levels, that can lead to more lubrication. That is common with younger women, just like women going through menopause, have lower estrogen, and they're not as wet.

That's what happens. Well, because I'm sorry, let me ask my pal Emelius a question here. A lot of, from what I see a lot of times that I remember back in my single days, guys would like shove their hand down your pants and go, oh, you're so wet. You know, they're not very turned on. Right. Guys, do say that.

And the thing about wetness, or men, or who, women, your partners, it changes different times of month as well. Even for you, I don't know if you've noticed cat that maybe sometimes it's really wet and other times it's kind of wet. Throughout our cycle, our body changes throughout the month and so on.

We're really wet and I'm just little less wet. So when guys say you're so turned on, you're so wet and you're saying that you weren't even wet. Right. And guys would always be like, oh, you're so turned on. And no, not really. No, and sometimes we can be wet and not turned on or we can be really turned on and not wet.

So it's actually not an indicator of your arousal. But that's a message. It is a mixed message. OK, but Kat, here's the thing. I would say for you that I would keep a towel by the bed, because really these are the only things I can tell you, is that it's not a big deal to stop to wipe it off because you're so wet, like to wipe off his penis,

to wipe yourself off, and then to keep going. And also for positions, I would say focus on the positions that are more grinding movements, like like the cat, like the coit alignment technique. Do you orgasm during intercourse? Yeah, okay. Oh no, Kelly. Do you clotoral orgasm or do you intercourse vaginal? Vaginal. Which I mean which one? Do you do cat? Go.

OK. So that's awesome. First of all, it's funny that the coilo alignment technique is cat. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. So this is the deal with the cat. It's a variation of missionary that directly

stimulates a clitoris. And you're like, missionary, what? This would be great because you won't feel like you're dripping all over him and really wet. You're lying back on the bed. And he's lying on top of you like regular missionary position. And with your legs are spread slightly and he's kind of between your knees

like in the traditional missionary. And he's supporting himself with his hands and harassing his forearms, elbows, thighs, upper knees, kind of like distributing his weight like evenly throughout your body so he's relaxing his musclesarms, elbows, thighs, upper knees, kind of like distributing his weight like evenly throughout your body so he's relaxing his muscles. And he should maintain, here's the key part, as much contact with you as is comfortable without like crushing you, right? We don't want him to crush you and we don't want you to lose contact externally or internally.

So what he's doing is he's sliding his body towards your head and body like up and down, right? With that, your jaw can be resting on the shoulder and he's like aligning his pelvis with yours. His hips and a downward angle. And so it's like a slow, sensual grinding and not like a pumping. So he's not going in and out and in and out. It's a grinding in circles, grinding back and forth and it's more of a controlled movement. So you can feel his shaft like rubbing against your clitoris, rubbing against your pubic mound.

It's gonna be totally inside of you the whole time and you're like rocking together. Does this make sense to you? So you're not going sideways, but you're like rocking up and down, but the whole time his pubic bone and base of his penis is rubbing against your clitoris. Yeah, it's kind of funny. I actually think I have a partner who's accidentally been doing that because like I've always wondered why it wasn't as much of a problem with certain people and maybe it was just that.

Oh, so this position has worked for you? I think so. I mean, I wasn't doing it intentionally. Right. It wasn't the thing I was conscious of. I just think that I, you know, it was like this particular partner I had if he was just really great. No, this is it. And I'm telling you, especially for the wetness and for the grinding. And this

is also kind of a go-to position that I tell a lot of women who have never had orgasms that this is actually a great position that works, that we don't actually think about it. So you just kind of repeat this movement like back and forth, you know, and so he's moving up as you go down and like it's just, you're grinding together. I think it's going to solve both your problems. We're going to link to it in the show notes as well for everyone listening, but I think this is really going to help you. But if there's other positions that also work for you, there is no shame to the towel game. Have a towel there, wipe off, and then keep going. I'm not going to tell you you should take a pill to stop the wetness, you know, I just think that we can just try

to do modifications of what you're already doing. And I'd love that you're having a lot of orgasms. You can play with toys, a lot of toys or waterproof, which is really fun. Yeah, thank you. Exactly. So, Kat, that's what's going on with you. So, God's dream. Let me know what's happening. Okay, you're welcome. Barcat, let us know how it goes. Core alignment technique. You try that one tonight. I mean, to me, that's like a maneuver that happens in between.

It seems to me that that technique is not like something that goes on and on and on. It is something that happens for a stroke or five or three or eight or whatever. In between. For me, that works too. It's like the friction and you're holding together, right? Yeah. No, it can go on the whole thing.

No, that was it. Yes. I know. Do you play a book? See? Yes, I have your book. I give it a book, right? Oh, yeah.

My daughter saw a couple of weeks ago and was like, what's these drawings of these? They are like, mm-hmm. I'll take that. Why are you and my drawer, bitch? Get outta here. So many kids, they see the book. Oh, God.

But it helps. It's a good book. So yeah, that's cool. I love it. Okay. That was going to change your life. That was good. That was good.

We've got Harry. She's 27 from Toronto. And she wants to know how to move from texting to dating. I hear you, girlfriend. What the hell? You have two. How my friend Linda Carrola, you to dating. I hear you, girlfriend. What the hell? You have two. How my girlfriend, Linda Carrola,

you've got two women helping you here today. Carrie, what is going on? Tell me, talk to me. All right, so basically I'm 27 years old. I haven't really had a long-term relationship. I've tried going out being with friends and then now obviously I've been on the dating app. And I've just found that even if I've met people

kind of free work, they're just so into texting. And it's hard to like, you know, if I'm gonna hang out and it's always kind of an avoidance, I kind of want to get, no, like how do you get from texting to actually hanging out? Because I don't want to texting, boyfriend. I hear you, man. So I absolutely 100% hear you and you just gotta let them know. I said boundaries and just be like, you know what?

I'd rather have this conversation when I see you next. Just cut it off. But are you saying that on the apps, this is a problem or just even when you go out and you meet someone and you go on one date, and then you just text every day and tell you see them again? Or like, what's the main challenge for you? I think the main would be like before the first date. So like I've had this as like you know, I met a guy kind of through work like it's the

coworker and we never meet each other but have never been out. And he expressed interest and then the same thing has happened over dating apps where it's just just texting all the time. Right. And I've asked them out and it doesn't really go anywhere but then they kind of keep this form texting. Yeah, it's annoying. Because like, you know, our life, I swear to God, we're going to be like, on our deathbed, be like, well, how was your life? Like, I just put my entire goddamn life texting and it's really annoying. But I've found Lely though with the apps in life that we kind of make a plan and it stops. Like, I'm not feeding into it with a lot of texting and then they kind of respond to that as well.

When you meet someone, the sooner you can set a time to meet the better. Because I think the longer that we draw this out and you're just like, you don't make a plan, like, I actually would set a boundary for yourself and just say, you know what? I'm not actually going to text longer than a few lines with somebody until I make a plan or a day with somebody. And you say that, say, let's me, I'd rather meet the text or like, I'm not really into texting if you want to meet, let's make a plan. And then if they, if they're like, well, I'm not sure, I'm traveling a lot, just say, let's

make a plan for when you get back and done. I mean, I think you'll be able to find the people that will respect that. And if there are those people, I think they'd actually want to text and they just want to kind of keep you in their loop and they're texting a lot of different women And that's just how you are. You guys tell them I'm not down for that. Yeah. Hi, Carrie. It's Lynette. Um, like you know who I am. Lynette, that is amazing. Yeah. So I've been in a relationship for 21 years, but I have two very close friends that are single and they've been out there in the single world.

Like I have Emily at my disposal to ask. It's the same thing. It's like, what do you say to these guys that are like, okay, you text back and forth maybe one or two times and then as far as the dating app, it's like, okay, then you never hear back from them. Nothing, it's ghost, ghost. What do you do back from him. Nothing. It's ghost. What do you do?

I feel like you've got to set the boundaries and just you don't let it go on for too long. And just say, I'm really busy. I got stuff going on, let's meet up. And if they just, if you don't hear from them, you unmatched with them. Or I mean, I really think that you just have to take the lead here. And are you saying that you do that? It's not working? Yeah, like this and times where I kind of suggest you meet up.

And it's kind of, you know, been never happened. So I guess with those guys you've been to learn to just, you know, onto the next. On to the next. I was just going to say that onto the next. It's like everything in life. The quicker you move on from like a guy you just want to text or a bad job or a bad relationship or whatever it is,

the quicker you're going to be able to make changes in your life and find someone who's right. So I say you're doing nothing wrong here. Carey, some women love texting. Not you, not me, not Linette's friends. right. So I say you're doing nothing wrong here, Carrie, some women love texting. Not you, not me, not Linette's friends. No. So Carrie, you just set the rules here and you keep going and you'll find the runs.

My girlfriend did it. I did it. A guy. There you go. Yeah. So will you, Carrie? It worked. Just do it.

Yeah. Just don't don't engage. Okay, good luck, Carrie. You got this girl. Thank you. Bye. Thanks for calling. Finally. Bye. Yeah. my girlfriend finally after eight years,

she was married, she did not want to get a divorce. They had a baby, the husband wanted to have fun, and she didn't like she was married. I'm ready to have a family and kids, and he was like, I'm out. So now she's thrown back into the single scene, and now she's so four to five years she had to work on herself. Then after that she had to get

back into the single scene. Now here we are four to five years later. Finally she met somebody. She's the one holding it up and she likes the guy and it is the real like she kind of worked that she do on herself She worked on how to be alone and being okay with that. Yeah, you know what until you can really be okay with being alone and Maybe lonely and taking the time to figure yourself out. I think you're really not gonna find somebody No, you're not you go from one to the next to shape like a heartbreaker Yeah, anytime in life. Mm-hmm back to the texting the real quick though is that it's a pain in the ass, and I love my phone all the time anyway. Literally, it makes me crazy.

And I just like, can we make a plan? If not, I unmatch you. Yeah, she has to unmatch. If you can't make a plan, goodbye. She was doing that. And then finally, this one guy was like, can you make a plan? And he was like a baller from New York.

Like she liked this guy. He took her by surprise. And you know, and now they've, I don't want to jinx it, but they've been seeing each other for like a month. Oh, good. Which is a lot. I know it doesn't sound much, but for her. No, but for her.

For her. It's a long time. Yeah. Hey, guys, keep going after what you want. Don't stick in a relationship they know. We all know the answers. Trust your guys. Hi, Emily. I'm a new listener and absolutely love your show.

I've learned a lot about sex since finding your show and I'm excited to keep listening. You address a lot of topics I've always wanted about and been too afraid to ask about. I'm a 20-winter old female and I text for the first time earlier this year. I grew up in a conservative household and we didn't really talk about sex ever. Our sex at in school was talking about women self-confidence and dignity, nothing about actually having sex. I'm not seeing you sleeping with anyone now but I'm masturbating. However, my lack of experience is frustrating. I have a hard time finding my clitoris when I'm masturbating with and without a toy and getting

anything other than a meh experience. Do you have any advice for a beginner like me for finding my clitoris or g-spot and getting to an orgasm? Thanks Molly 21 Dallas. Well we already helped her with G-Spot. That was I'm I'm Molly from 21 from Los that's for me for real. It's every woman. Exactly. I'm Molly I was you I didn't have an orgasm until you know we're both you Molly. We're both you. We're still you. My God. You're one, they never ends to ever freaking ends. Okay, so let's talk about first. Yeah, the clitoris is and I want to dress as I'm sorry that

you're getting frustrated a little bit here, Molly, because let me tell you something, sex education is abysmal, especially in the United States. We get nothing at all. And if we do like, I'm glad that you said that they talked about self-confidence in your school, because mostly they try to scare you, and it's like fear-based, and you're gonna get an SED

and you're gonna get pregnant, so just don't have sex. Absolutely. So the fact that they talked to you about being confident is great. That's like ahead of anyone else, but what they didn't tell you about was pleasure and understanding your body and figuring out what makes you feel good.

And it sounds like you learned a lot of that from the show that you know that that's the first step. You're 1,000% right by the way. They never point out the pleasure. Ever. They only point out like, what are you gonna get? What kind of STD you gonna get? What are you not pregnant?

Yeah. Except for the Netherlands, I gotta say, it's really interesting if you study sex education over there, they talk about pleasure and they talk about prevention and they talk about SEDs. But they say, you know what, it's your body, here's what you do and it's about pleasure and masturbation. But here, if you talk about masturbation in schools,

like parents will raise their mind. So, we don't live that we live in America. So, let's talk about the clitoris. What is it? So it's a Roger this organ that plays a key role in your sexual response, but it can be so hard to find. It's a complex structure. It's different on every woman.

We think it's just this little bulb. For some women, it's more retracted. So it's underneath the burial, beneath the clitoral hood, and you actually have to be a rouse for it to come out and say hello. And for some women, it's just out all the time. So you've got to just like take a look for it. It's like a little pearl or a pea, like on top of the vagina of all that. But again, unless you're a rowist, it can be very hard to find. And the internal structure of it is the little

the legs. Do you know about the clitoral legs that are like behind your labia? Like that whole area. So we talked about like the pubic mound and pushing on there. Sims and labia, tickling that whole area. That feels so good too, soft touches. It's all the clitoris. Yeah, right? So besides the internal external, like I said, there's a clitoral hood,

which is the foreskin, when it's aroused, it retracts, and you can find it. And what I would recommend for you, Molly, is to sit in front of a mirror, lie back on your bed, I mean, I so wish I did this at 21. Take the light from your cell phone or something. Yeah, see, they're working. And look at it, like look at it,

like your clitoris is at like 12 o'clock, okay? Like in the opening of the vagina at six o'clock, so your clitoris is 12, opening of the vagina at six o'clock. I think Loube is great, use a little bit of Loube, you might not be aroused yet, and start to like stroke the top like in a circular motion, or back and forth, circular up and down, start teasing yourself,

and just start like practicing with what really makes you feel good, because we're all really different about what would turn us on, but those moves have proven to be very popular for women. But the other thing is if you're going in with this mindset that you're frustrated, Molly, and that you've been trying and that you can't believe you've found it yet,

this is gonna do nothing for you. So I'd also like you just take some time, just kind of touch your entire body and think about like things that turn you on, like what makes you feel good? Is there any like a radical that you've read or like a sexual experience or someone that you fantasize about or even know what your fantasies are? Watch porn. And that will

get you in the mindset because when our minds on board for sex, like our body will follow and they'll be like, oh, that was that that was really hot. And then you'll start to feel like your body like reacting to that. Like you're like you'll start to feel maybe your clitoris and everything will tense up. but you'll start to like and just breathe through your body. So it's not just about touches about like getting everything on board. Yes, I agree. Can I? What about the own method? Have you heard about that? I've done it. You've I've heard about it on your show, right? And then I've read about it recently.

And it's a method where they, whatever, take all your clitoris for 15 minutes. It seems so unlike sexy though. The way it happens. Well, okay. It get it, it's a good idea. But there's no doubt there's a question. I'm down for anyone like focusing on the clitoris

and trying to figure out how it turns you on. Right. And to think about Oming, So it's a method that started, it's called orgasmic meditation and started in San Francisco by this woman named Nicole. They don't, God, like maybe when I started 2005, doesn't work. And they were actually in some of my first shows because they called them orgasmic monks and they were all living in a house and San Francisco together. And like they're, the bell would ring every hour.

And you need to grab your partner and it was a partner practice with men and women where the man would literally she would start laying out and he would massage her clitoris in a very, very specific way where they're kind of breaking on the clitoris in two regions. Kind of like 12 o'clock, six o'clock on your clitoris though and I'm like, oh my god, there's like quadrants. It's actually quadrants. Okay. Like there's four quadrants of the clitoris and I'm like, oh my god, I'm just like if

someone can find the clitoris and you're breaking the clitoris. Yeah. But it is true that like the lower like right hand part of the Clitoris and I'm like, oh my god, I'm just like, if someone can find the Clitoris, you're playing the Quadrants. Yeah. But it is true that the lower right hand part of the Clitoris is the more so valid region. And then, right. But it doesn't seem very sexy. And for me, to be honest, it wasn't. It was fun.

I liked my only partner. And he came on my show after talking about Massage of My Clitoris and it was a great episode, which we should find somewhere in the archives. But yeah, we've been talking about this because I've 8,000 shows, but they're like, what's the guy getting from it? What's he gonna do?

Well, there's actually energy that can be believing energetic connections between, you know, you can actually feel her body rising in the arousal and the focus isn't orgasm for homing. It's more about getting really turned on and it's more about like energy flowing and about feeling sort of throughout your body, the whole sensation and energy that you can, that can be, I guess, elicited through touch, the right kind of touch to your clitoris and that they're like, no, we don't go over and they

mean orgasm. Like we just kind of stayed in a state of orgasmic bliss 24-7, which I was like, I would move into your house, that sounds fun. You were guys, but I was super busy at the time. So that's kind of what it is. And a lot of people, I know the couples, they can go, they can train. Like, I think that's what you got to do with Adam. To train him? I don't know.

I mean, you make it into it. It's kind of mechanical. Yes, I agree. Yes, I agree. But the other thing is is that I have boy girl twins that are age 11, 12, going on 18. And what do I do to them who they instant satisfaction? They're going to be able, I would say my daughter more than my son because my son's

baby baby up a little bit. He doesn't, he's looking at like basketball, my stats and football and fantasy football. My daughter though, instant gratification. In this new age of pornography where they can, instantly get, they can jack off and come in two seconds and be done. What would you be open to them? I wanna tell them, like, look, I know what's going on. I know.

Okay, I know. It's one, I know what's going on. But how do I, like, guide them and tell them. That's what's going on. But how do I like guide them and tell them that you would do that with them? Well, I think that it really starts with, I mean, I don't know how you stop them from watching porn to be honest. I think it's everywhere. They're going to find it. You're definitely like, what is it that adult proofing your computer? Yeah, no, yeah, parental parental guidance. Yes, but if Emily, if you had two 11-year-olds, boy girls, what would you do? Oh my god. Oh, what would you do?

I question, I've been really thinking about this a lot over the years because I feel like that it's for me. I will, and I am, and I feel like that it starts with talking to them about, it's very different conversation and you probably can't talk to them at the same time. And to be honest, you're not going to like this answer but what would I have the conclusion I've come to lately is that I don't think that kids want to hear about sex from their parents. I know. They just don't. They're gonna say it's natural and most easy as I know. I think there's things that are dead over there. Like, love like, dead guys come on. Right. You're gonna talk to that old guy or nanny. Right.

Well, you guys are gonna talk to him. Honestly, older thananny, they might listen to more than you because you're the parent. I mean, that's why I've been saying, like, what if there were some kind of, like, this doesn't exist yet, and I'm not going to get to your question, but like, pure education programs for your training, like, kids in high school and college, like, talk to younger kids about sex, because I'm like, Mom, like, no, you guys like, no, no, no, no, no, no, I get it. But they don't get it. And so, I feel like I wish that I had a great idea

for like a great book or a great place to tell you, in fact, people keep snapping me and emailing me and asking me these questions about the best place to go to teach children right now. And Scarletine is a website that's been around since I started. Scarletine? Scarletine.

Yeah, it's like, I don't know if it's still a great site for people to go do. That's what I've often told parents and kids to go to Scarletine. Also, there's a website that's new called, and I don't know what age it's targeted towards, but OMG, yes. Yeah, I have that on my computer.

You do? Yeah, I downloaded it. I love it. Did you pay the membership? Yeah, I did. Now, what, okay. I went and then I got bored after trying to hang in there. Well, because the thing about that is I think that's like,

hand literally teaches you about your body. Yeah. And the clitoris and stroke. I love that you write that. Yeah. So, yeah. For your kids, it's like, but for an 11 year old.

I mean. Because they're there to know. So I think it's like, if you have questions, you can tell, I think that you gotta teach your daughter about her body. And I really would tell her about masturbation and about pleasure. And that it's really like what I told my niece, when as soon as she didn't ask,

but I knew that there were things going on. I was like, listen, never have sex. Or don't do anything because you think someone's gonna like you, more boys are gonna like you. You know what sex is about. Yes, you make babies, it's about procreation, all that stuff. But there's another part of sex, it's actually about your pleasure

and you being confident in your body and understanding your body, it makes you feel good. And I was like masturbation, she's like, ew, I'm like, but you know, that's like the most important work that you can do is figure out your body, it'll make you feel good before, but your kids are 11. Yeah, I feel like you are the only one

that can talk to you now. We don't have the troops yet that I would like to train around the world to help kids. Yeah. Here's the other thing. We think that we tell people things once, parents, friends, spouses, and they're going to get it. Like, well, I told them last year to touch my clitoris slowly. I told them last year I want a moral sex.

I told them, right, think about how long it takes to change a behavior. Like anytime you change anything in your life, right? You've had to work at it. You have to hear it, to study, listen, right. So it takes to change a behavior. Like anytime you change anything in your life, right? You've had to like work at it. You have to hear it, to study, listen, right. So it doesn't change over time. So if you think you already had the sex conversation with your kids, I would say the more you bring it up, perhaps, the more comfortable to get that it's like talking about the fact they should stop eating sugar and that they should have more broccoli or they should, you know,

get exercise while that's important or be nicer to friends that if sex becomes part of the discussion that you have in your family and Adam's on board, and it's natural, because it's everywhere right now. So maybe I'm just thinking about like if you guys are like united on it, it's not weird, it's not awkward, it's not uncomfortable, but you're like, no, for real, we're gonna keep talking about it,

you can run in your room and play fantasy football and you can go talk, snap chat with your friends, your daughter, but we're gonna continue to talk about it. Like, I'm gonna tell you like, your body, what feels good, like porn is no way to learn about sex. Just be wrong with porn, you can, it might get you off, but technically what you're seeing there, he's nowhere near a clitoris.

There's no way she's having a real orgasm, right? I almost feel like the more we talk about it, then maybe it just becomes normalized. I, so that's my new answer. Thank you. Because until I can make some kind of app or solution of trained people, I don't do that, please. Oh, well, okay.

It's on my list. Hi, Emily, I love your advice. I'm a young professional physician, and I make a very good living salary-wise. I'm recently back in the dating pool after a two-year relationship went south. On first dates, I'm finding that guys are bringing up the, what do you do question?

Someone innocently. However, when they find out what I do, she's a doctor. Their eyes get wide and at least something like, you got to check, right? Or something rude. I rarely get second dates and then I find out I'm intimidating. I don't want to end up singlet 40, but it's so frustrating. I also don't want to end up with sugar mama. How do I weed out these losers and find a real guy?

I'm new in town, so I can't really lean on my friends for quality men. Thank you Neena 28 Naples, Florida. Wow Naples has been hit though. I was just gonna say. I know. I hope you're starting to recover right now. Post hurricane and this might even change your dating experience because volunteering could be a good way to bring the community out now. What's wrong with being a sugar mama? Well, she doesn't, she doesn't, I mean, I just like a guy doesn't want to be a sugar daddy. I mean, some do.

Okay. But she doesn't. I wouldn't mind. All right. All right. Well, that's where it now. Now I'm like, yeah. I don't know.

I think I'm different than it was in 28. Yeah, I know. Okay. So that's a good question. That guy made that comment as an asshole. Mm-hmm. Because if a guy said to me, well, you get the check. Well, maybe say again, some women,

I hate to ever talk like that on my show, but I don't typically criticize people in that way, but to me, it's okay. That's okay. That's okay. But have you figured out, I'm curious, Dina, like what you really, really want in a man, and not only from a man,

but what do you want from a relationship? So here's the interesting paradigm right now, and this is the other thing to be talking to your kids about, is that it's not the way it was when we grew up, that we don't, many women are equal, and we don't need a man to take care of us and support us and pay our rent and do all these things. It's more like we want to like,

have kids perhaps, or we want to, someone that we love and hang out with and we like doing some of the same things or whatever It is I don't have the answer for you Nina, but I think you'd be interested in you think about how would a man Enhanced my life right now. How would a relationship change where I'm at my life right now make it better and when you think of it that way Like you really close your eyes are like what is the perfect relationship? I was like like where am I living? What am I doing? What are you and I doing together? That might change the way you act on a date

because what I'm thinking is, it's true. Like maybe guys are intimidated. Your doctor, doctors can be intimidating across the board, right? I mean, that's true. And I understand that like a doctor, just in any way you're like, oh, your doctor. Like that happens, right?

So I get that, your doctor. So I understand that, but also, I feel like we all want to feel needed. And if you might be presenting yourself in ways, if you actually have been told that you're intimidating, that leaves a guy thinking, I'm not really sure where you need me right now. Like I'm not really sure how I would enhance your life because you've got a job, you pay your rent, you're beautiful, you're smart.

And even though things have changed and men and women are very different, we still all want to feel needed and play a role. So maybe that's, there's a way just, I don't know. But I mean, that's a good, definitely a good point to bring up and definitely a good conversation to have, especially if you have kids because I have a daughter who I want to be strong and I don't want her to have to rely on dudes or whatever. But then there's a fine line because I don't't want her to be alone. And then like me. In her 40s, I get it now. That was my choice.

Oh yeah. I get it. I'm so glad. I wouldn't mind being in your position, right? I know, I love my life. But yeah. But like, I get it. How do you be so?

I'm a daughter. And then I have a boy at the same age who I don't want him to feel, you know, like he's got it. What's the word, a masculinity? Yeah. So. It's interesting, the masculine and feminine.'s got, what's the word, a masculated? Yeah, so. It's interesting the masculine and feminine. I mean, that's like a really interesting conversation about how men can really live in

their masculine, and they can live in their feminine, and like who they really are, and then still come together and feel like they're these other. Right, right. So, kids are going to have to learn at this generation, as far as I'm concerned, is my gent. My kids is generation. They're going to have to learn how to get along and how to be able to be in their own worlds and come together.

Right. Right. I did a great show a few months ago with John Wyland that people loved. We talked a lot about the masculine and feminine and I think a lot of people really felt in the light. But it's true. It's hard to explain maybe to your kids at 11, but in general, I think that women being in their bodies

and being in their feminine, no matter how strong you are Nina and tough in your doctor and anything you're tough, but you're like, taking care of things and you're working really hard, you just got to medical school. How much are you like in your body and like in touch with like who you are Nina and what makes you feel good? Like taking dance class or taking movement or meditation

or like just like being connected. I feel like a lot of us live in our heads I'm speaking for myself. In many ways I am very like masculine and they're like, I have a company, I have a business. I've been all about like making it and supporting myself and that there could be a part that maybe isn't as feminine even though I'm just in there talking with sex all day long.

If I had to learn to like slow things down and date and not be like I'm trying to prove myself or whatever it is none of this is conscious but just even being conscious of how I move in the world and my body and slowing things down and being in my feminine. My goddess energy if you will. So that's a whole other practice. Yeah. But it's it's really important. Well, I mean maybe it's something for parents to think about how to, you know, train their kids to start thinking. Yeah. Because one thing I'm struggling with in this has nothing to do with sex. Fine. And that's how my kids are no academics. They're not. They're bright, but they're not going to go to a four year college.

This whole thing of going to school for four years, getting your master's degree or getting your bachelor's degree, and then going and getting a job and getting your 401K and then retiring F-55. To me, that's kind of out the window. This whole world is changing and for me to not be able to teach my kids how to learn about the technology industry and learn how to maybe even invest, take that money that I say for them to go to college and take that money and invest in like 10 to 15 startups. And not only just invest and walk away, but I get it.

Those are skills that we should be teaching. Skills, how do the life skills. How do the life skills? It's a different world now. It is a different world. Well, you and Adam and me, I feel like you guys are entrepreneurs and you've started business like how great. Like they're so lucky to have you as parents

because you get to decide how you want to raise them and what kind of values you want to enforce. I wish that I knew about money and stuff like that. Had a bounce check bug or we're not on balance check but any more but whatever it is, I didn't know any of that shit. Yes. And I had to learn it the hard way by like going to really rough stuff and being like, oh, I don't know about it, check for any more, but whatever it is, I didn't know any of that shit. Yes, and I had to learn it the hard way by going to really rough stuff and being like, oh, I don't know about money, you know.

Yeah, so we have that side. Can you just come in and teach them how to be like? Yeah, I will. I gotta tell you, there's two things that I'm really super passionate about right now. One of them really is education and kids and helping college students and young kids because we're so undereducated in that area.

And it's never been done right. And so I take that as a huge personal challenge and mission that if I could help parents and kids kind of understand sex, obviously, I don't know how I would do it. You know, would everybody's money like is it an app? Is it is it programs? I'm actually teaching. I think it's really, really important.

And the other thing that I'm just passionate about is just sort of, I feel like a lot of us are sort of in our heads attached to our phones myself included. You guys, that's why I can never do anything that I'm not super passionate about. And I want to help myself, but we're disconnected from our bodies. So a lot of people who call into the show or email and having problems, they're not thinking about

they're just like getting off really quickly online. They're jacking off and they've had the orgasm and then they're like ordering pizza. We're just getting off really quickly online, they're checking off and they've had the orgasm and they're like, ordering pizza. We're so not connected to our bodies. And that sounds very like, because we're so fat, we're doing all these other things, but the more that you stop and you breathe into your body and you learn to like connect again, I think we're just like dead, it's like neck up. Yeah, we're in our brains and then there's our bodies happening.

And for a lot of women that I hear from,, they're like, I don't feel anything, or I don't feel a rose, I don't feel turned on. It's because you're just, you're not connected. So breathe into that area and feel it. And so if I could find a way to connect everything that I'm doing, like the mind body connection with sex in a way that isn't too like, woo, and people like, oh, that could go by some crystals.

No, I agree. So that's kind of where I'm at. All right. I really want to help them out. Let's help them out. Okay. Well, that's what's going on. How can everyone find you, Lynette? Uh, you can find me at Lynette Corolla at LYNETTE, C-A-R-O-L-L-L-A, at Twitter, Facebook. I'm at Lynette Corolla at all across the board.

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