Sex With Emily - Getting Shameless & Sexy With Shanola Hampton

Episode Date: February 12, 2015

In this show, Emily is joined by actress Shanola Hampton from the hit show Shameless to talk relationships, love and kinky sex - both on and off screen.From her thoughts on masturbation to large penises, Shanola holds nothing back! She shares her secrets for making a marriage last, keeping things sexy post-baby and even gives us her greatest tip for being good in bed. Plus, after 19 years with the same penis, Shanola can’t wait to hear all about Emily’s active sex life, and has plenty of questions for her on sex and dating as a single lady. Want to know the secret to keeping things “easy, breezy” in your sex and married life? Get the answers and more in the latest Sex With Emily podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today I've got guest Shinola Hampton in the studio, known for her role as the Sessian Sexy Veronica Fisher and Showtime's Shameless. Currently airing its 50s in which is awesome. She's here to talk about love, sex, and marriage, both on and off screen. And she did some kinky sex scenes.

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You got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry?

It's shrink? And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I want to feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily.

We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information go to sexwithemily.com. So you can listen to all of our podcasts, send it for a mailing list, watch our videos, we've got some killer content down there that will improve your sex life and your relationship because you know who was in town with that. And photos of you, right? Yeah, there are photos of me. It's funny. Our photo gallery is down and we just put it back up again. Okay. Mixing it with the website. But yes, there are pictures of me. Not naked.

It's funny. When you Google Emily Moore, sometimes it's like new naked Emily. It's the second thing. Yeah, because we're like trying to find it. I know. I don't have any naked photos. I feel like I really lost that. I know.

It's been a problem. Did you show some cleavage in like some indie movie that you did? I'm a sex addict. It's so funny. Yes. 10 years ago, I was in a movie called I'm a sex addict, which still lives on it. So plays on TV all the time. Oh really? Yeah. Um, you could get on that people like it. It was a good film. It won some awards and I did I did not show any cleavage. Um, maybe a little cleavage, but there was a nipple scene when it was cut out, but I think it's in the deleted scenes, but I don't want to really talk about that right now, because there are no naked pictures of me online. So also, this is what I have to tell you, I am very excited because I'm hosting the podcast awards April 14th in Vegas. Yeah, that's huge. You should come. Hopefully we'll be nominated.

I got to check, yeah, I got to check times and stuff like because it's in the middle of the week. But I just nothing to go to Vegas. How fun is that, too? Do you go to Vegas every five minutes. Yeah, that are Disneyland. But like I'm lucky I get this time with you. Yeah, what's going on? But no, while hold up we got back up. But you're going to be nominated, right? Yeah, hope so. Yeah, it closed last week, but people can could have voted and hopefully you all voted for me because you love me. Keep voting and stuff like that. If you can keep voting, keep voting, but I think it stomped. Oh, it did.

The voting. Oh, okay. Well, hopefully, something happened. You'll be there in regardless. I'm sure, yeah, dude, I'm gonna get up there and host it and not win it. Yeah, that happens. But okay, I'm cool.

I know we're the best. Yeah, and dude, you're like 10 years in the game. Like everyone's jumping up. I know, I should just get a lifetime achievement award. I know. Podcasting achievement award. I was the first podcast. Because podcasting is so hot right now.

Like everyone is getting on it. And the thing is, is like, oh yeah, a lot of famous people are getting on podcasts and stuff like that. But again, we've been doing this 10 years. We know how to do a podcast. Exactly. Some of those are going to be hit or miss.

Some of them, some of them are going to be great and good. But not like, you know, you can just turn on a mic and just have content and have it flow. And there's a lot to it. You can't just ramble on. You can't just write exactly like I did the first eight years. You finally got it down though. No, but I mean, when I first started, I had never heard it was 2005. So podcasts were just starting that year. And it was my Elizabeth at the time,

who was my intern, was like, we were doing that show on cable. My friend Mark and I called searching for sex in San Francisco was like our own cable access channel. And then Elizabeth Morse, remember her? And she was like, oh, you should do a podcast. I was like, oh, what? And then she was my intern producer, that's how I started.

And then I got live and, oh, that was before I met you, then I was on CBS Radio with you, which was do a podcast. I was like, oh, what? And then she was my intern producer. That's how it all started. And then I got live. And oh, that was before I met you. Then I was on CBS Radio with you, which was a good time. Yeah. And then we kept doing the podcast through thinking through thin. So here's the deal, people's. It's a big deal. Man, that's just a big week coming up.

Do you know? Do you know why this is a big week? Why it's a big week? Why it's it's some crazy master. Oh, I don't know about. I don't know. Oh, yeah, that too. Yeah. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that. Um. The why it's it's some

crazy master. I don't know Valentine's days. Yeah, that too. Yeah. Um so uh 50 shades of gray dude. It's people freaking out. I'm actually doing radio commercials for them right now. You are. Yeah. What do you say? And just like promoting

that is Valentine's Day weekend and you should take your lady to go. Yeah, you should. You should take your lady to go because here people are kind of, well, first of all, what's your thoughts on 50 shades of gray, just from like what you know of it? Yeah, I did read the book, but it definitely, you know, I think it's opened up a conversation

into that type of sex. Definitely for women. I think it's given them like free reign to just talk about, you know, maybe busting out some chains and whips and, you know, getting your freak on when they are blindfold. Are blindfold where they, you know, were afraid to talk about stuff like that. Exactly. So it gave, right?

Okay. But it doesn't freak you out like, are you afraid that one day your girlfriend's going to come home and be like, hey, look, it's getting like chains and nuts. It's so funny. We, her and I were watching this reality show, of course, with Jenny McCarthy and Donnie Wahlberg, right? They have, it's like Donnie loves Jenny or something like that. And he was doing a bunch of stuff with her son and he did like a bunch of errands.

So she wanted to repay him and he got home and she's like in this lingerie. She has like all these candles lit. She has like rose petals everywhere and like all this food prepared, like being all sexy. And my girlfriend turns to me and she goes, if I was like that when you got home, you would laugh on my face.

I go, you know me too well. I'll be like dying like that, when you got home, you laugh on my face. I go, you know me too well. I'll be like dying like that. But what if that's something that you do? I think it's hilarious. See, that's why a lot of people don't do things like that because I think they're part of a lot of trouble. Yeah, but I'm sure there's a ton of guys that'll be totally into it.

I think it's really good. What does your partner do that lets you know she's ready for sex? Do you think it's cheesy? I think all that stuff is like super. I mean, I don't think like like BDSM stuff like that. Right. You're saying the candles and longer.

Yeah, I think as long as you're making an effort in your relationship, whatever resonates with your partner, and it's your psych and she orders the pizza ahead of time. And it gets delivered. I think I get it. Whatever turns you on. Definitely in the minority of guys that wouldn't like be turned on.

But a lot of would. And so the thing that we should like be turned on by that. Right, but a lot of wood. And so the thing about Vity Shade's a Grey is that it's not, I think what it's done also is that, you know, Radica's been around forever, right? Like etchings of, you know, walls, you know, of the caveman, like walls you'd see, or Radica, in the meantime. But the thing, or lithographs. But the thing is about Vity Shade's a Grey was it came out, there has been other Radica, but it was a Vailbong iPad, the Kindle, people could read of gray was it came out. There has been other erotic up, but it was available on iPad.

The Kindle, people could read it, women could read it. But also, I do think it started a conversation about the power play. It's not even about dominant submissions, not like you need. So I think the misconception is that it's going to be all about whips and chains, but it could just be a blindfold. It could be handcuffs using my favorite bondage tape or just something like that. That is just mixing up your sex life.

And I think that guys, I've always said this at the beginning that guys should be freaking be reading this. Not because she wants you to be like Christian Gray and a billionaire at the helicopter. It's not about that. It just really has some insights into the way that women think about sex and the way women get turned on and the way men do.

And I have a guy friend who's reading and he's like, I kind of turned him on and it was interesting because he was like, I took the first 100 pages to play at sex. I'm like, yeah, I was all like verbal for play. Well, I always think it's good to also be aware of things that women are into, you know? Like, women have always been shocked when I know, like, what type of, you know, person they have or like, what type of shoes that wear. You remember the Gucci's Louis Vuitton, yeah?

Yeah, I'm always like, I always know that and I always, and the never, always good thing too is like, and I know it's playing games and you say it doesn't work, but it works on a ton of women. Playing games, like, hey, you know what? You could buy probably a better person than you make enough money. The dissing. Like the dissing they love it. They don't like it.

Like a pick up artist from six years ago. No, I'm dissing them. Let's diss her and then she'll want to suck my penis. No, I'm dissing it sparks a different type of conversation. I say dies it does. Then they're used to. No, it's true. You just want to stand out.

Fucking dudes are guys are kissing their ass all day. And I'm like wait a minute. This guy is not kissing my ass. And he notices my purse and he knows like I'm better. What is going on? You know, and it like it messes up their brain for a second. It's not that it messes up their brain. I'm all I'm all four guys talking to a woman and bringing up a different, in a different perspective.

And I was like, hey, where are you from? Because. So if a guy's like, hey, nice purse, you could do that. I got it. I'd be like, oh, okay, you're interesting. You're not just trying to talk to me because I'm hot. You think I'm hot. You want to sleep with me, but you from? Because. So if a guy's like, hey, nice purse, you could do that. And I got it. I'd be like, oh, okay, you're interesting. You're not just trying to talk to me because I'm hot. You think I'm hot, you want to sleep with me, but you probably do, but you're a little more clever, so I'm actually going to talk to you for a minute.

I know, look, probably if you opened up your Tinder, it'd be like a thousand guys saying the same thing. You know, what's going to be something that you're going to do? I like your photo. Yeah, what's going to be different that you're going to do? I like the photo. Yeah, what's going to be different that you're going to say that's going to make you stand out. Exactly.

We talked about this and that, yeah, just be like something if you could pick out something from our photo, you could pick out something from, you know, just whatever it is, whatever is in your brain, something that's different that could get her attention. Like, I'm trying to think of what would be, what was one of the clever things that people said to me, but I can't log into my Tinder now because I changed my Facebook password and then I can't log into my Tinder.

We're just really friggin' annoying. But I'm trying to think, I think, what are the guys who were just like, are you always that? Because we're not pictures as my foot up or something, like, so do you always, something in the bottom, it was just something clever about the bottom issue. And I don't know why. It wasn't like, it a sterical and quoting like, no, a crow's or anything, but it was funny.

Stand out, stand out. Can I talk to us? That's the textings for it. Yeah, can I talk to you? Can I talk, yes, you have the baton? Hilarious. So today, we've mentioned this on the show over the years, but we got a bunch of new listeners.

Every year, I go do Grammy pre interviews. So like before the Grammy's, there's a bunch of new listeners every year. I go do Grammy pre interviews. So like before the Grammy, there's a couple of days where we have like these things called radio round tables and there'll be like 50 radio stations across country. A bunch of people come by and you interview them. So I got this list of like people to interview and it was like Nick Jonas, Pete Wentz, Spike Lee, Jordan Sparks, it just goes on and on.

Who else? Anybody good? Charlie XEX, just KG Elephant. Wow, that's so cool. So you'll be backstage. Yeah, TI. And then I get through the list and it says, Emily Morris on there. What? Am I going through the list and it says, Emily Morris on there. What?

Am I going to the Grammys? It's where God, it says Friday is it radio roundtable. So it's three Grammys. I am going to that. Yeah, so I'm looking through the list. I'm like, wait a minute. Emily Morris, I was like, ah, nah, I'm not gonna check that one.

Wait a minute, back up. Why you want the Grammys list for that? So this is like, these are all the people. I am going to that thing. These are all the people I get pitched. And then so like I write down like, oh yeah, I'm interested in interviewing them. And then I go, Emily, more as I'm like not interested.

Dude, interest kidding. No, what's it for? What are you interviewing before? What was the station? Yeah, it's for our show, our morning show. So, yeah, yeah. I'm so scared. What are you gonna ask me? I better prepare for them just kidding.

Yeah. I'm not gonna lead the interval. But how is it with the grant? Why, okay, Radio Row is associated with the Grammys. Yeah, so- It's the event that I'm going to do that. I still don't understand, so explain to me. So, basically again, it's like 50 radio stations.

They're at the Staples Center where the Grammys happen. And it's pretty much where artists or TV personalities, or radio personalities go, and they get interviewed to talk about what's going on with them. So, you know, I don't know who set this up for you. I love that I've had the bottom of the list, yeah. Okay. Well, you're right next to Dr. Drew. So love that I like the bottom of the list, yeah.

Okay. Well, you're right next to Dr. Drew. So you might be going around with Dr. Drew. Yeah. Yeah. So would you like to interview us? Please contact my publicist. Yeah, yeah.

So I don't know what, like who set this up for you on like what you're supposed to be pitching? Are you supposed to be pitching love line? Are you supposed to be pitching your carcass, sex Emily, you know, Emily and talking to me. I'm reaching sex with Emily. Okay. All myself, my product. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, so who knows? We're just gonna talk about this offline.

You can press, but what? Yes, you will be interviewed by me and my friends. I'm so excited. This will be great. Are you gonna be there all day? Yeah, it's, yeah, it's like crazy amount of people. Did you go before? For this, have you been to, for years? Okay, we all day. Yeah, it's, yeah, it's like crazy amount of people. Did you come before? Did you come before?

For this, have you been to for years? We need to suck. Okay, whatever. So it can be real. See, she never listens to me. People are Iso that. I didn't, but I know you go to the Grammys. I didn't know this was part of the Grammys.

It is, it's part of like, dude. It's like, Kimber, my assistant right here. Do we know, do you as part of the Grammys? I have an email. See, we didn't even, did not say that in the email. I got an email right here, it says her name, Emily Morris. I love that. Did you feel like, did you feel like,

what do you think about that moment? I thought it was hilarious and go, what, Emily Morris? Yeah, that's me, baby. So I will. Interview me. It'll be good talk. So I'll tell my other friends to make sure they interview.

Oh, that's sweet. Because it's pretty sad because sometimes like these people, they get pitched and no one picks them. Oh. I'm so glad I got picked. So you got picked by me. I feel good, you know? Like at least someone picked me. At least I know it will be the one the last one picked. Like in high school when you're the last one picked. So all these people, you'll get a handler. So somebody will go with you that you don't know.

And they'll have like this. Sons intense, yeah. They'll have like a lot of things. And they'll have like a lot of things. And they'll have like a lot of things. And they'll have like a lot of things. And they these people you'll get a handler. So somebody will go with you that you don't know and they'll have like this. Sons intense. Yeah. Yeah. They'll have. I wasn't show up. Me like, yeah, we'll check out sex. They have this notebook with your name on it. And then the handler will come by to to the radio people and flash the name. And then the people you'll are they'll either

say, yay or no. Oh, no, this is terrible. Yeah, what about everyone goes no? No, no I'm like that's cool. I don't want to talk to you anyway bitch. Yeah, well they might not know who you are But you know, at least I know who you are so you get so then maybe we could get like a bunch of your friends Stand around me like clamoring like we could have them standing there like every time like go. Yes Yes, okay, I got it. I'll find out You know LA is if someone else thinks someone's cool then they'll think they're cool Okay, let's let's get into some news Here though for people sorry, but it's gonna be hilarious and can we use the we the interview the interview radio

We got the audio for you and figure out how people can listen to it because it's gonna be fun because my my friends are Ruthless, so they're gonna ask you all that these are your friends when you're witty show. Yeah from the witty show I'm excited to meet them. Yeah, world's client. You You already met them too. So don't. When did I meet them? Uh, when we worked at CBS, we worked in a single. Oh, so 10 years ago. Yeah. Oh, yeah, I remember them really well. Just act like you know who they are. Okay, can you just brief me out of time? Just like the time you had just been to girlfriend, but you didn't tell me she was your girlfriend and I asked her to get water. Now she hates me, but it was like eight years ago. Yeah. And really in the middle of

show, and I thought she was your assistant. okay? And I wouldn't have really do that. But I was so freaking Thursday. All right. Sex and the news. Okay. And we have our guest here. I'm very excited. We're going to talk to her.

Are we going to bring her in after the break, right? Okay. We got Channola Hampton from Shameless, but Chow is freaking kill our man. Have you seen it? I actually have even seen it if you believe it or not. Okay, but we're going to get to that in a little bit. Most men, the sex and theizo, I love seen it. I actually have even seen it. If you believe it or not. Okay, we're going to get to that in a little bit. Most men, the sex and theizo, I love this one.

Most think men would jump at the chance for a risk-free one-night stand. That's a poll that came out that said most men, if they had risk-free, no one would find out, they would cheat on their spouse for one night stand. Oh, sure they would. It doesn't really surprise me. No matter how happy they are in their relationship,

most Americans say that most men would jump at the chance to have the one night stand. really surprised me. You know, no matter how happy they are in the relationship, most Americans say that most men would jump at the chance to have the one in chance. So it says that 71% said that most men would jump at the chance if they had the opportunity and there was absolutely no chance of getting caught. On the other hand, fewer than half, 45% of women believe women would do the same. What? That lie. Who's it? No, they're just seeking to do it. I don't know if they can do it. Super-surveys. So, through a lot of relationship research, does show that men women are more similar

than different, are much more similar than different, men's greatest, greater likelihood of accepting a seemingly consequence-free sexual encounter, is consistent with the research that shows that men are higher in sociosexuality, meaning that they're able to separate between sex and love. They can have emotionally detached sex a lot easier than women, which would make sense why the numbers would be higher. They say that men can, compared to mentalized sex, where there's a lot of women who have sex with someone and they think they're in love, right?

They have an orgasm and they're like, oh my God. I love this person. I love this person. Right, so that would make sense. I'm not like that. I'm more like the male species in some ways. My friends are like, how do you just sleep with someone? I'm like, how do you not?

So yeah, if I was an interesting study, just because I already knew the truth to that, I could have done that study. Yeah, would you do it? What? Would you cheat on your partner if you know what ever known a million years? Oh, he had totally come on. She doesn't listen to the show.

No. She hates me because I asked her to go on to work. Okay, I'm kidding. Okay, so no, okay, here's another thing. Yeah. When I first read this, I was afraid that it was of me, because I just got, listen to this, no one has claimed suspicious box of 1,000 condoms and then it says found it in New York City, bustation. But when I first read that, lifestyle just sent me 1,000 condoms.

I was like, who else gets 1,000 condoms in the mail? But police say a suspicious package left behind a concrete barrier of a New York City, bustation didn't contain any explosives, but did have some unexpected contents. 1,000 individually packaged condoms for both men and women. Yeah and actually we talked about this on our on our radio show and I said it actually isn't that crazy to have a thousand condoms because I had a buddy

girlfriend who worked at Planned Pood, and she would seriously, probably at a time, would have like 500 condoms on her, just that I came out to people. Right, exactly, but that's, I have them in my time, great. Yeah, she'll have like 300 in my time. Yeah, yeah, I have to, it's true. So, thousands not really have that idea. Pretty soon, so what?

To the average person, yeah, that it's not around something like that. Exactly, but what are they going to waste the condoms now? I don't know what happened. Yeah, I'm sure they just forgot about that. Exactly, what are they going to waste the condoms now? I don't know what happened. Yeah, I'm sure they just forgot about it. At least I'm glad that the security is functioning there in New York City.

You follow me on Instagram, right? All the time. Right, sex with Emily. I haven't stopped following you since I set up the count for you. Did you set up your Twitter too, by the way? But the point is, what I'm trying to make here is you've seen me rocking my very unique piece of jewelry in my pictures.

Yeah. I'm obsessed with my newest sex toy, which I actually wear as a beautiful necklace. My Vesper Crave. Yeah. It's beautiful. We saw that because of the show. It kind of looks like a pen.

It looks like a pen. It's a nice layering piece. That people would wear. Right. I wear it every day. I forget that it's a vibrator sometimes, but the Vesper by Crave is the hottest newest, prettiest, shiniest, sex toy. Great Valentine's Day gift. Wearable technology. Yeah. You can

charge a USB. It's the coolest thing. You definitely have to look it up online people because it just looks like a normal everyday necklace. It is, I mean, Nicki Minaj is supposed to picture of it. Okay, so here's the thing. If you guys want to check it out, the best place to go is lovecrave.com. And I'm okay, I'm sorry, it's just where I'm doing that. Yeah, I know. Am I doing the code? Do you have the ad? I do.

Yeah, it's got the code and everything at the very bottom. It doesn't say their website though. Oh, I mean, it's. Oh, love crave. Got it. Okay, got it. I'm gonna edit this. Okay, so anyone,

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When you're like, I was some guy, you're like, me, yeah, I'm scared. It looks like something that you would pick up at for ever, 21. Exactly, or somewhere nice on that, because it's actually gold plated and really, really beautiful. Ballin. Ballin. So get yours at LoveCrav love crave.com the last day to buy it and have it shipped by valentine

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All right. All right. Okay, hello, we have a guest here. I'm so excited. I wanna give you one of these Vespr crave necklaces and I meant to bring, have you seen them, they're a vibrator necklace we do. I'm so excited. I want to give you one of these Vesper Creme necklaces. And I meant to bring, have you seen them? They're a vibrator necklace?

No. I'm wearing it. I know. I'm so upset. I said what I was doing in house, I should bring, they are beautiful. They're, oh my gosh. I'm going to give you one.

They really look like necklaces. They're like, show her like, by anyway, because I started during the read. I was like, this is already, this is not used right? Yeah. I know how I'm going to go about

like wearing it out. You just clean it, clean it. I just start, oh my god. Hold on. Did you put it on the powerful? going to go about like wearing it out. You just clean it. I just start holding. Hold on. Hold on. Did you put it on the powerful? No, it's like a serious vibrator. Oh my gosh.

I could give him so much trouble. Right, exactly. At table reads and everything. Yeah. Everything is great. I'm fine. Exactly. I'm just really, really having a great day.

Oh, it's like different things. It does like different vibrations. Yeah, no, it's a real, it's one of Oh, it's like different things. It does like different vibrations. Yeah, no, it's a real, it's one of your, like, it's like a high-end vibrator, but it's in your necklace and you always have it and you can for sure, you know, let's talk about vibrations are strong enough that it does the job.

I love this. I know. Okay, so I'm giving you one. You are? Yeah. Yay. My husband will be excited too, because then I will have to jump as vulnerable.

Yeah. Oh, perfect, exactly. And I can't take him in the car with me, so that's going to be very helpful. Exactly, so. I'll have to jump his phone. Oh perfect. Exactly. It can't take him in the car with me. So that's going to be very helpful. Yes. Exactly. So you'll have with you all the time.

But let's introduce you to our audience here. Okay. Shinola Hampton is awesome. She's in the studio, known for it as the role as the sassy and sexy Veronica Fisher and Showtime's shameless, which everyone I know is obsessed with. I don't, okay, so I don't watch TV. Okay. Preffice by saying this is one show that I've actually seen.

It's amazing. People are just addicted to it and you're amazing in it. Thank you. And it's your, it's your, I'm looking for this for season 50. It's season 50. Congratulations. It's up for a six.

That's awesome. I know. Do you know how amazing that is? We know. Oh, yeah. That's not gonna be, never happens. I know. And you are amazing in it.

And congratulations. And you are at Shinola Hampton on Twitter. People can find you. Okay, so how has this show? So, okay, so in the show, you are part of a very passionate sexual couple of intense relationship, kinky sex, kinky stuff. Master slave stuff, if you've seen this show.

Right, little BDSM. We do a little bit of, what do you do? In your body's killer. Oh, thank show. Right, little BDSM. We do a little bit of, and your body's killer. Oh, thank you. Yeah, all. Jesus, you're very blessed. The whole thing, I watched all those scenes, I've seen them.

But yeah, that makes me so excited. I can't even tell. Really? I love that. Oh my God, really? But were you always, was that, did you just like prep for it or are you kind of into that in your life?

Well, what I would do is for the first, the very first scene I had to shoot for shameless was me behind Kev with a dildo. So the dildo was being used on him. We do a lot of reverse things on our show. So I just practice with my husband. He hit me out of the bed because I stuck a dildo on his butt. But it was fine because I told him it was research.

I'm just saying. I did that all the time. He doesn't like me such anything on his butt. I tried to do like a finger thing one time. And he was like, what are you doing? I was like, I thought that was it's not around. Yeah. I like a finger. Exactly. Right? Exactly. The lady totally like a finger. But some guys do some guys don't. I think they don't know that they do because there's a lot of straight guys who just have all this fear that it's going to make them gay. But if you like ease into it with like a little loop and you just kind of rub it a little.

I think when they feel the finger coming there just it yeah, I'm that you know that you like it. Yeah, I mean, well, you know every now and then right at the peak. It's got to do something a little bit different. Yeah, because you so so you always so what have you did your sex life change it all by doing the show. I'm not really not at all that would Kevin Veronica or so out there and so crazy and I mean I'm great and bad.

But no they just do things that my husband be he thinks it's just hysterical so that things they do like the master and slave act which again was reversed and I was saying we shall overcome and I was hitting in with the whip right but we were all dressed up like the master in the dominant home. Yeah. does not walk around and it's just not to that. We always know you were good and bad so a lot of women can't just say they're going to because you mean it. Yeah. We too over my life like I feel like I can can't you know I'm

confidently say that like I've got most of it nailed down. But a lot of women don't so where where do you think you got that confidence from? I don't know. Well, you know, I've been also with the same men for a really long time. We've been together, married for 14 years, and married for 90. I mean, together for 19 years, married for 14. That is an amazing compliment.

Yeah, so I mean, and he was older. So maybe I learned some of the stuff from him. But you know what I learned? Just because you're cute doesn't mean you don't have to do stuff. Yeah. I think pretty girls think that they can just lay there and be pretty. You can't. from him, but you know what I learned? Just because you're cute doesn't mean you don't have to, like, do stuff. I think pretty girls think that they can just lay there and be pretty. You can't.

Like, moan or something. Like get into, move, gyrate have a lot of control when you're on top. Absolutely. And that's a great way for women who have problems with orgasms to really find what works for them to have an orgasm when they're actually having sex. But anyway, so I think I just practiced, I just makes perfect. That's true.

But I haven't had that many sexual experiences. So because I haven't had that many partners because I've been with this guy while my husband from mom. I mean, you're so hot. Yeah. I mean, that's amazing, first of all. What is the secret to it? Keep it interesting.

I don't know what the secret is for us. What works for you? What works for you? We're easy, breezy people. We're friends. We don't take anything too seriously. We don't try to fit into the mold of whatever a wife or husband is, even though we're from the South like I wasn't

cooking and doing all that crap. So I think that the partner that was okay with that. Yeah, like he's cool I cook now because now I have a daughter and all that but yeah, that's that. I can't yeah, but no, but we just figured out what worked for us and we just we're not typical. That's awesome. We're not a typical couple See every couple has to figure out there is there shouldn't be mold because two people coming together deciding to get married

They can make their own rules. They can make their own relationship and it shouldn't be that way you should compliment each other Exactly. It cares about anyone else Yeah, but having a child though that has that impacted things in a way that's been more of a challenger has that impacted things in a way that's been more of a challenge. I know it's a busy year like it's our philosophy, but you know what happened the reason why the child hasn't is because we waited so we're my child is just a year old.

So we waited up and we'll be married for 15 years in March. OK, so we had time to travel. We had time to be together. We had time to figure stuff out. We had time to fight like, you time to be together. We had time to figure stuff out. We had time to fight like kids and slash tires and break windows. You know, we had all of that time. You think rough together. And then you have a baby. And it's like, OK, this is the next thing.

And she just kind of fits perfectly. And we don't do the whole, oh, we can't do this. Because the baby's sleeping. It's like, come on, kid. You come into our lives. And that's how we live. That is exactly how I would be. I think that's the best thing you can do if you're getting married is you take some time before you have kids yes like

people get married and within the first couple months are already pregnant like enjoy your time together yeah first yeah because figuring out how to be married as a whole other thing even when you've been with someone for a really long time and you guys are probably so similar now in your values and your goals it'll be Yeah, because figuring out how to be married is a whole other thing. Even when you've been with someone for a really long time. And you guys are probably so similar now in your values and your goals. It'll be a lot easier to raise a child than if you've been with them for a year. So you're like, oh, yeah, we know how we are. We're, you know, I love what you're saying about parent.

We don't talk a lot about parenting on the show, which we actually sex and parenting go. But it's funny because I don't have kids. I love kids. I'm not going to have kids, but I like them. Anyway, I feel like I have to like, perhaps I've never wanted them, but I love kids. I'm not going to have kids, but I like them. Anyway, I just feel like I have to like, practice I've never worn them, but I love kids. I used to have one kids either. It doesn't.

But when I say, oh, my friends do, and I was thinking, God, it's so funny, because my friends, and I don't want to, it's just a California thing. But I actually lived in the Bay Area for 20 years. And I moved here recently. But my friends in the Bay Area, so I'm from Michigan originally. So I feel like they're, but it's also, I guess it's not

even about a geographical thing. It's at their sub-huel who have a kid kid and they change their entire life to revolve on the kid, but then I have my friends in San Francisco. I could think of a few of them. They're like, we're going to a concert. We're bringing the baby. They're coming with us. Yeah.

And it's our life. Some people want to do that. Yeah. Some people are like, oh, I have kids I can't leave anymore. I'm going to try to put them on a schedule. Yeah. Like, you go to bed. Yeah.

My schedule's like, but you know, come on, don't be so strict. Right, easy breezy, baby. Love this. Yeah, and we, and I was ready to have sex six weeks, like before the six week was up, you know, this is show about sex. Yeah, I was one of those people that was like,

oh, don't touch me, I just had a baby. I was like, when is this going to be over? So, okay, that's another alley. You are super woman. I love, or super, super sexual. I don't know which one. God, because a lot of women, they say six weeks and six weeks.

No, I love it, but have you always been a sexual person? Meaning, just in touch with, yeah, I think it's in my jeans. Like, I think like, like, grandfather and my my grandmother everybody in my family pretty hot in the pants You guys I'll talk about it. Yeah. Oh, I'm so open. I don't care We talk about everything when I got my boobs done I like showed my grandma. I'm like grandma and I motorboat it We're just kind of free spirits really yeah, that's it. We're just kind of free spirits, really. See, yeah, that's it.

I totally get it. That's how my free life is. We walked around the house naked, which makes my husband really uncomfortable. Does that mean I was a Christmas? Do they still have? Yeah, and like, he's like, I've seen all of your sisters naked by accident.

This was just this last Christmas. But then we got into this big thing because his father, when I go to his house, I put a towel on and go to the shower. And he says it makes his dad uncomfortable. But I have a towel on. You know the towel covers more than what I actually wear. Exactly.

Are you the best friend dinner? So we got in this whole discussion. He was like, yeah, well, everybody's not comfortable with their body like your family and his. I'm sorry, my friend, your dad with my towel. Would it just a friend like a full suit or something and a jacket and like a hat? They literally go to the bathroom with all of their clothes on.

Shoes included. And then they like change in the back. It's weird. That is not my thing, honey. You've got to be glad I did a towel. You're welcome. You're right. You're like, yeah, it wasn't naked.

Jesus Christ, that is so funny. I mean, yeah, my family is pretty up and up. I mean, they have to. You're like, yeah, it wasn't making it. Jesus Christ, that is so funny. I mean, yeah, my family's pretty up and up. I mean, they have to be with the set. But did you think that's what is? There was no shame. Like, what about, okay, so masturbation, we talk about the slowness show. Like, did you, was it the kind of thing

that you, I'm assuming that you have or did? But did it occur to you? Yeah, I never masturbated. I never did either. Like, it didn't occur to me ever growing up until I realized it's- I'm lying. Or get the way. Oh, okay, I'm not a fan. I never did. So you're one of to me ever growing up until I realized I'm lying. I'm lying. I'm going to buy the one.

Oh, okay. I know. I know. I know. You're one of those women. She's a normally. Yeah. I don't. I don't. Why don't you discover it? How do you stop?

I didn't discover it until I knew then I found out it was missing and then I went. Oh, and then you went and got the vibrator neck. Oh, forget that. Well, that was. We're talking, yes. That's one of my latest toy. Now she has only a half-themed toy. I have the double-car battery, too. Well, that was we're talking yes. That's one of the latest toy. I have the color battery too. The magic wand. Do you know the magic wand vibrator? I don't know any of this. Do you see do you use toys ever?

No. Well, you don't because you've 18 orgasms. Well, no, no, no, that's not why it's because I used to have a friend, my toy, and my husband was really jealous of him. And he was pink. So how could you be jealous of my big friend? And he's like, you like your pink friend better than me? No. No, you're just different.

Exactly. Exactly. I just want a three-seign. I just know. Wait, no, I got it. So I just got rid of it. It just ended up being too much. Like he would go in my dream.

And like, don't put your hands on my toy. It's not fantasy. I get it. And that was put your hands on my toy. That's what I get. No, I get it. And that was the thing when we start my start of the show 10 years ago, I felt like whenever I first started talking about sex toys, I had to explain that

men are very can be very intimidated by them. They're bigger sometimes or the way they look or they think or you're going to leave me for you. It's like we're not going to leave you for our vibrator. They're going to cuddle.

Take out the trash and stuff. They're going to leave you for the vibrator. But nowadays, I think it's sort of like more than 50% of all women have own vibrators they're selling 50 shades of great stuff at target right

now. Just got in the shelves. I cannot wait for that. I know I'm so excited. I'm excited. Did you? Okay, right? Did you read it? All of them.

And I started trying to get so free with my husband. He was like, what are you reading? I'm like, tie me up and spank me. He's like, I'm not doing that. So what do you, what was your takeaway from it? Like, I've ever been into that before? No, I don't know if I could deal with somebody actually with my hand. Right. We don't like a dungeon. That's a great

place. I'm on down. You know what I had a hard time with with that book though? Every time they would have sex, I said, how can she still be wet? I really, because she would like go to bed, they have sex and then they would go back and do it again. I'm like, when you're sore, you're like, okay, enough. You cannot come back inside me. Right. Exactly. Because it hurts now. It's not a pleasurable hurt. Yeah. So, and, and all of my moisture is gone. By the way, I have a sister who hates the word moist. Yeah, I don't like the word either. Oh, I'm sorry.

No, no, I would say if I knew what you mean. But it's kind of like all the lubrication. I was going, I had a hard time with that. Right, because you're like, where's the Lou? Where's the Lou? Exactly. So anyway, but I love, I loved the Lou. It was so good, right?

I mean, and I feel like it. I'm afraid they're not going to show the sex the way it needs to be. No, they're not at all. They're not at all. And we're all going to be disappointed. And then it's not 50 shades of gray, then you just shouldn't have done it. Well, I heard there's not even any weiner in it. Just FYI. No, there isn't any weiner. I know. But, but the thing is, is that the, yeah, that that people are, what was I just going to say to you about the 52, it's great that they've sold more to advanced tickets than ever before. No, we need it.

No, we need it. Watch shameless. You get to see we need we are equal. I know seriously so shame with this is I mean, okay, so right now it's your four and fifth and then you got for six. Yeah, right after the first one. So what's happening right now? Like what is where you at right now?

Oh, well my parents are just talking about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we can talk about it. But see, here's the thing. Last season was a little bit more fun in the season before because my character couldn't have a child. So she asked her mother to have sex with her husband to have their baby. So there was a lot of scenes where it was basically a

threesome with Veronica's mom. It was quite great. I do have been my mouth a little bit. Thank you for that. But now they just had twins. And they are going through, which, you know what's funny about this, is life can change so much when you have kids. And that's what the show does so well.

It shows you reality. And rather than kept being the one that's feeling like he's not getting any, Veronica is the one that feels like he's giving all the attention to the kids and their sex life is shot. So the last episode that aired I had an orgasm just on the dance floor. I was going to bring that up. Okay, so you were on the dance floor and just rubbed up again. Just rubbed up and you had an orgasm like in a second. Yeah. So it was my koochi saying things and you're right at home. So it was long.

But so interesting. I love it. So it was like right after that because it's interesting because it's usually, first of all, it's kind of like your life. Well, women, they say that women do want sex after. But here you are in your health and becoming this perfect, he's into the kid.

Yeah. Yeah. Well, luckily though, my husband has a nice balance. Kev, however, does not. Right? Exactly. And he's just focused on the kids. And also, there's something to be said, especially,

if your husband was in the room when you gave birth. Yeah, we did. He does something to their psyche. It does. Like, he wasn't supposed to peak. My husband in real life wasn't supposed to peak. And he did. And then he started giving me details.

I was like, you don't give details. Just like you don't talk about the sounds you make the night before when you have sex. Don't tell me details about when the baby came out. And what it looked like, that's gross. You told, right, you and you don't talk about the sounds you make the night before when you have sex. Don't tell me details about when the baby came out and what it looked like. That's gross. You told right. I mean, you weren't supposed to look. He was like sneaking in like with this.

Yeah, but so Kev, Kev is trying to figure out how, like, on the show, the mother of the child and she had my baby. So how can she go down on me and then I kiss her the next morning and kiss and see her kiss the kids, which is a thing. Yeah. You know, like you go down on your husband and then the next morning you kiss your baby for breakfast and they're like,

that is a thing, just brush your teeth, right? Well, you would think, but the man is thinking, your mouth was just, no, you're right. And now you're gonna kiss my baby. Like, don't suck the lollipop with the baby and then hand it to my baby. Exactly, that's not how I get it. Yeah. That would freak out, right?

Yeah. Yeah. God, it does get tricky after that if they watch. I mean, you see, you see mad men, they'll think, well, they wouldn't go in the room. They're not going to look at that. They don't need those images. They already might be struggling with the fact that now you're the mother of their child, so we can no longer be the freak in the sheets anymore, because I don't want my wife doing that stuff,

which I don't understand, because I believe if you are sexual being and you're connected with your partner in a way that you guys can transcend that in real life. In real life, I think. In real life. In real life. You hope so, but a lot of people actually in the real life can't do that.

No, I'm glad you've been able to do that. So, if you and your husband, like, how... It's your sex life just like everything else, it's perfect in your marriage did you ever have to talk about I'm getting no you're like a normal you are an anomaly that things are you like a good relationship good marriage and sex I mean of course nothing is perfect but did you guys ever come to a point where you felt like you had to talk about it or or how to mean have you always talked about it about it about that yeah just like yeah we need it more or less. Oh, oh my goodness, yeah.

Especially the first time when things had gotten, well, I mean, not the first time we had sex. But like, when we first got married, something changed. And not in the good way, it became less. And it was sort of like, what is happening now? You look like a lot now. And every, it was this moment of when I said that we just like accept each other for whatever it is.

It was that moment when you first get married you're like, what am I supposed to do now? I'm a wife. And what am I supposed to do now? I'm a husband. And then once we were like the hell with all that, then it was okay. But we've definitely had very serious conversations

and people don't realize how the lows can go very low especially when you've been with someone for a long time. And you become roommates sometimes, or and you trying to figure out how does not go into that dark place of being in a sexless relationship, which is something that people are afraid to talk about and are embarrassed about, but it's something that's very real for a lot of relationship. Oh, absolutely. I mean, that's what I talk about my show all the time. So then what would be your, what do you think it is?

Are your girlfriends who come to you on this? What do you tell them? Well, I know for us, because we also grew together, for us to get through that, it was really about knowing ourselves and being secure and being at a place where you're actually happy. Because if a man is not happy with himself or if he's not where he wants to be, career-wise,

or if there's something going on there that has Little to do with you in a way. He can't perform in the bedroom. He doesn't have that drive So true and in the more you put pressure on and the more of your an aggressor you are the less they feel So you got to just got to back up and let them find themselves and then come back to each other It's true So it's gonna be a series of Evan flows Yeah, it's true that we're men are like stressed about money or their jobs or anything. It's like they do not want to have sex.

No, they don't. Like that's like their emotions. Like you think I thought you're always one of sex. No, not when you're worried about money. Are they worried about getting fired? Are they worried about it's stressed about anything? Do you find that's two minutes or do you just don't want to sex anymore? I don't want to have sex anymore. Yeah. Yeah.

He's been a relationship. I think he's ever sex. I don't know. He's like with someone. No, no, no. How long have you been together? We've been together for years. So y'all aren't having sex anymore. No, I really have messed up hours all the time.

And I'm always tired and stuff like that. But I'm just kidding. No, but I'm always supposed to be the man. I'm always supposed to be extremely horny at all times and it's supposed to be the aggressor. Yeah. No, no, I'm just kidding. I'm really sick.

It's not, but I think that's what society wants. But I think, you know, we have a good sex life. I do. I don't, we're not having sex like every single day. Like, yeah, no. Person over here who wants to, I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. She's not. But I have a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. She's not who wants I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. She's not.

But I have a fact. Where she thinks that. I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that. She's not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that.

I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that. Where she thinks that. I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that.

I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that. Where she thinks that. I'm not in a relationship. Where she thinks that. I have never been really on the path of looking for a committed relationship. I've dated a lot. And if I find someone to do, but it's not like my main focus, but I'm dating with the hopes that I find someone nice. So can you when you're dating like that, because I always live I carelessly through my friends who get to do this. This makes me so excited. Okay, honestly, because I've been with the same penis for so long.

Okay, so we're going to go. Honestly, because I've been with the same penis for so long. But, okay. So, we're going back to the toy thing after that. When women are just dating, can you have multiple sexual partners in the same week? Yes. Can we, like, is there a law? I mean, like, do you? Yeah, yeah.

Like, do you? Because I think times have changed now, because it used to be afraid I'm going to be a whore, whatever, but once you get a certain age, doesn't all that shit go out the I never would about that at all. Oh, I hope I can go and shower before I go out this guy. So you you don't feel funny having sex with Jack on Monday and then Jim on Wednesday. I love you. I never do that. Yeah, I don't know why it's a gift. No, I'm like a lot of men. I'm dead inside. I'm like a man. I can compartmentalize about sex. I don't get attached to it.

I mean, some sexual partners I get attached to. But sometimes, yeah, it's just Bob on Monday and Rick on Wednesday. And do you revisit if they aren't good? Because is it worth the number? No. Oh, revisit. Oh, like the person. Like do you go back and have sex with them?

If it's not good, like the first time. I mean, something that I'm having one night stands. I have in my life, but typically there are people that I've been, you know, I've been dating or, yeah, but I've been sitting down committing, I'm very open about the fact that I'm not gonna just jump into a relationship until I meet someone that I like and I did after, all right, no, no, no, no.

I'm gonna love it. I'm gonna stop there. After waiting. You really want me to blow your mind? Blow my mind. No, I was gonna say that after, just, no, no, no. Check yourself out. After waiting. You really want me to blow your mind? Blow my mind. Go ahead. No, I was going to say that after just whole limit. But after the Bravo show, I did have a relationship

for a year and a half. So I have committed. But I think a lot of women and men, they start having sex with someone. And typically it's a woman, after a month or two, they're like, OK, so where are we at? Are we beating monogamous? Yeah.

Because we're getting attached. And sometimes it's a little bit too soon to really lock it down. I'm thinking, I've done that. And then I feel I don't really know this person yet. So I'm very open now with the people that I'm dating that I'm not like locking this down for. Come at me.

Oh, that's good. But you know, that makes the men want you more. And they all love you. Thirsty. And fall in love with you because you're a challenge. It's interesting. That seems to me that is true, I think, for a lot of men. It's interesting. That is, that seems to be the, that is true. I think for a lot of men, and it wasn't never like,

like, and you really dating books, like pretend you're not interested, but then you don't want to come in. I'm like, I've been doing that forever, and really a lot of the guys are like, oh, it's a challenge. I'm like, no, no, but this is like real me. I'm not making it up, but it's true, and you're not, people want that, what they don't have, or that, but you seem unavailable.

Okay, blow your mind. No, no, no, no, I think it's great now that you're more honest because I think in the past, in the past. I have a vote. She'll still hang out with the guys that she's absolutely not interested in. And then she would know that after the first day. But she would still be, that is great.

That's the great part. Here's the part that's going to blow her mind. She's never even lived with the guy. You've never lived with the guy. Yeah. Never. I've never. So I'm afraid that you're quite scared. What is that phobia? You've never lived with a guy. You've never lived with a guy. Yeah. Never. So I'm afraid that you're quite speaking.

What is that phobia? You've never lived with a guy. See what I'm afraid of? She's finally going to find a guy that she wants to lock down with. Yeah. And then she has to have this whole experience of living with a guy for the first time. Yeah. Do people really have to live together?

Can't you have a shared home? I will. I will have maybe a separate home. Okay. Listen, I think that's doable when you sleep in the same bed. My husband and I, and that's the other kid. We do not share the same bathroom. We do not share the same closet. And we have separate bedrooms, but sleep in the same bed,

which is my bed. That's what I'm talking about. I could handle that. That's the truth. I could handle that. You need your own space. You could just, you need your own space. You need your space.

What's comfortable with that? Yeah. No, I think the couples who spend a little time part, they don't share everything. Why do I have to see you go to the bathroom with the doorbell? And like, we just say, let's decide now. We do not come in my bathroom. I will cut his throat when he comes in.

I want to see on my own. What's this pickup I make up? And just go, go in your room. Create a separate space. Well, it is also crazy. I have a friend who didn't move in with her husband until they got married. And so she's like still trying to go through that and for how to go

habitat with someone. Yeah, that's a hard thing. If there were like different wings and stuff, I could, you know, when you did the marry very, very rich. I could, you know, I wish that I would have been drilled into my head because there's a lot of women who was, you know, it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a born man. And my parents would say that to me.

I was like, but yeah, there's always like the starting hardest. And even I had like the rich man with planes, I'm like, but I'm just, he's just not that cute. But I was like, he's got a plane. He's a kitchen. He's got him cute. I'm like, no, I'm just a look. I'm going to make it up and now I'm thinking, maybe.

But I'd say, yeah, so I will, whatever, we'll see what happens. But it's not traditional in that sense of women, I think Yeah, yeah, not at all Not in that we could say that not traditional But back to toys what I was gonna say to you is that first we're gonna have giving you one of these craves But also that Typically I'm circling back to something we're saying a minute ago that a lot of guys weren't intimidated and I think now that they can realize that It's not gonna replace them

But men like the vibrations too on their like if you were just vibrating rings, you could put on his penis. There's things that like under their balls, they really like it. I'm just saying if you were missing your toy, I could just play with it together. And let's just try it. Listen, I'm down to try anything. I'll do anything I want. I wish I knew this I had before, because now I'm scared of things. You're not like, okay, I'm going to care package.

Are you designing these toys? I'm not designing them now. I do have a care package. Yeah. Yeah, right? Are you designing these toys? No, I'm not designing them. I do have a lot of pride. Oh, and a lot of pride. It's very good. Oh, thanks. Like, knowing your body and the woman's body and stuff, like this, you're an expert.

Yeah, I know. My toys are next, but I actually brought, I have a can of a massage candle line that I brought you. Oh. A massage candle, and it's called Emily and Tony. I'll show you. It's a candle that's present to you. Who's Tony?

Tony is my business partner. Oh. He's actually my boyfriend. We've been living together. That would be a lie. I was. Caroline called Anthony's logistics. He's got a huge skin care line. And then we partnered for men called Anthony's, but then we partnered on Emily. Tony. You've got a lubricant. We've got down under comfort. We've got really beautiful products, but toys are next. That's good. Your Loub doesn't kill the sperm just in case you know. Yeah, that's good. No, no. Because people are trying to get pregnant now. And you know, you have to be careful of what Loub you use. Because it's because it all deadens the sperm. Water based, begin exactly.

Because Loub is important. Loub is important. And the fact that it's vegan is used. But don't have to get used to it. Yeah, the whole product line. I had a girl break out her vagina, which is bad. Bad Lou, honey, bad Lou. Yeah, you don't buy the drug store stuff.

I like, I like my Loub Emily and Tony, which actually isn't on shelves that you can't buy it, but I also like Uber Loub, which is great. It's a silicone Loub and I like, I like pure PJ, you are. It's all good vibes.com, Use code Emily if you wanna buy. Lou, I'll leave it. But I always feel like it's the most underrated sexual thing

that you need to keep interesting. Okay, so if you had to give me one sex tip, what would it be? Swallow, no, I'm just kidding. Without it. If you really love one, preach. So how guys are learning lately?

Like I even like to swallow that. Yeah, I know that's it lately? Like, I even like to start having time. Yeah, I know, that's all. I really, I truly thought that was like the only thing that... Oh, that's so you'll still go down on us. No, I think the biggest sex, I would say, is be interactive. Just because you're pretty, doesn't mean you don't get to just lay there. I know, do we need a little to do that?

Or we'll move your pelvis. Guys, have you seen this forever? Thank you. You did so true. I mean, yeah, we say the hot chicks just lay there, but then the guys with the big penises are just like pounding you in and out to give her that. Yeah. Right?

Yeah. So it's just because it's big, doesn't mean you know how to use it. Although I'd rather be than little any day though, honestly. Right, your side, yeah. Yeah, I think. I can't do it. No, obviously you didn't do you know how to use it. Although I'd rather big than little any day though, honestly. Right, your side, yeah. Yeah, I think I can't do it. No, obviously didn't do it. I didn't know. And I mean, the thing is, and this is just not even

being on one hand with partners, because I've been with the same guy for so long. But yeah, little penises don't do anything to me. Right, here we are. Some people, there's little pieces. I'm sorry guys, you know what? But there are other women out there that will still love you. I know that there's a lot of little penises that didn't work for me, for others.

It did a very perfectly happy relationship right now. So they said. Those penises have gone on and had really good lives. No, I haven't. There's a talk about how she had sex with a guy one time. Had a really small penis. And she's a total size queen. She has to have a massive massive you know a wiener

in her life. But she said that the guy and they're still friends and she the guy ended up like getting married having two kids and you know it's just not not for everybody the small wiener. It's true whatever whatever. It's all good. Okay so um, she'll have to I'm so glad you came here. She'll know a Hampton from shameless on Showtime. Fifth season, check it out now. What night, tell me just what Sunday nights, 9 o'clock on Showtime. Thank you very much.

We're going to have that all of a sudden nights Showtime. Awesome. That's like a big night to be on. It's a perfect slide. I know where you have good ratings. You have an amazing rating. You know, like, that's why I watch it. I only, so when I say I don't watch TV, it's not because, like, I's why I watch it. I only say I don't watch TV.

It's not because I always have to clarify it. Because it's not like I'm home reading important novels. Like, I wish I watch more TV. I'm just busy and I don't prioritize it. But whenever I'm dating someone, that's when I watch TV. She has a TV and she can't sit in front of something. But this guy that I've been seeing for a while now,

one of my sex partners, religious. So that's why I've seen it. And I love it. I've seen this. I use my favorite one. Yeah. Keep it on one. Keep it on one. I said, keep screened when I told him I was interviewing.

Oh my god. Tell them I'm a photo of us. I mean, with your sex toy. No, I know. Okay. Doing whatever we do with it. I'm just kidding. I need someone to talk about.

So that we have to go. Okay, so Sunday and show time, we can check you out there and your Twitter Twitter and all that'll be on my my page. But then we could say right now that we'll share all the hamps and I'm so easy. Yeah, she'll have to. All right, Menace, you're at Menace. At Menace? And he'll say. Anything else you can say? No, I just want to say you actually have been one of the best guests we've had in the year. I think so, thanks. Amazing. No, you really are. You know how to do an interview. Like a part of all this is amazing. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited.

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I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I think I want to be best friends. I love it. Okay, well thanks for being on the show. And thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me. FeedbackItSexWithEmily.com. I'm here to tell you about Fleshlight, the number one sex toy for men. I know you just learned a lot about sex on this show, but what if I told you that there's

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