Sex With Emily - Girl Talk With Emily, Anna & Danielle

Episode Date: July 14, 2015

Girl talk: a holdfast of female friendships and a complete mystery to most men. But if you’ve ever wanted to listen in on a bonafide girl talk session, today’s Sex With Emily podcast is making your eavesdropping dreams come true! Emily welcomes real-life friends and fellow sex & dating aficionados Anna David and Danielle Stewart to enjoy some good old fashioned girl (sex) talk! In between trading taboo fantasies, masturbation stories, and even a couple embarrassing anecdotes, Emily and her guests dissect the distinctions between sex in your 20’s, into your 30’s and beyond, and discuss what really makes the BEST SEX EVER. If you’ve ever wanted to be a fly on the wall of a girl’s night in, this show gives you just that. Listen in on candid remarks, differing opinions, and helpful declarations about their respective experiences in the world of sex, dating & love. Nothing is off limits in this sex-positive female-powered roundtable, making this show definitely not one to miss! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to the show. I need to tell you my favorite thing that is going on this summer. Okay? So I get a lot of magazines, right? I get a lot of subscriptions. I've got the fashion ones, I've got the gossip ones, my guilty pleasure, and I tend to save them all. Whenever I'm, you know, for a while, I was like kind of hoarding them in my trunk when I was like going doctors, appointments, but then I went on vacation with my family and my mom was like, kind of hoarding in my trunk when I was like, going to Dr.'s appointments, but then I went to have a vacation with my family and my mom was like, why do you have 25 magazines with you? Like my back hurt from carrying them all. And it's because I feel like I don't have time to read them,

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Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand, oh my The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common lonely? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god, I want to feel so drunk Being bad feels pretty good You know, Abelie's not the kind of girl you just play with. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Do you ever wish you were a fly on the wall of an epic girl talk? You know, the ones that you imagine like we're sitting around, we're talking about sex, dating, what we really want in bed, what we're not telling you, fantasies, stuff like that. Well, that's what the show is all about. I've got amazing guests on the show, I'm also here with

Menace, and it's gonna rock your world, so thanks for listening. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. Well, you can listen to all of our podcasts and of our mailing list. Check out our blogs. You guys, just some people, you just, you might know what to listen every day.

You might be our fee. We do two podcasts a week, but there's also great stuff on our site. We've got a lot of things that we talk about. So check that stuff out. What are your menace? How are you doing? You're like, good, get over that. What?

Oh, something really cool happened. I was doing the morning show here in LA and somebody called in from Ecuador and says that they listened to this sex family podcast. Really? Yes, and then they were listening to the morning show that I do. It was crazy.

That is crazy. Do you think it was taken over? And they go through some crazy process where they can listen to your show and then the morning show, the Woody show that I do, where they log in to the internet in America from Ecuador. It's insane. That's a lot of effort to listen to the show. So shout out to them that's is a shout out to my

Ecclory and fans and I'm Australian fans. I do I know I mentioned this a few weeks ago But for some reason, I don't know if you were on the show when I mentioned this that we had 6% of our listeners from Australia last year and now 30% wow Down down there. Yeah, they're getting down in Australia So I welcome my Australian listeners and I love you all for listening. It's awesome It's great. It's going on Australia like what don't we know? Yeah, crazy sex move. Okay. I am here with Anna David I just had a thought about Australia and Okay, wait finish the intro and then I'll say no, I mean we're good. We're rolling. I mean I love the show because I invited two guests back

that have been on the show several times. And you guys are awesome. Anna was just unreasonably, we did a show about online dating. We did. And that was super fun. And Danielle was on talking just about everything sex. My disastrous dating life. Yeah, that was hilarious show.

Danielle Stewart. And we're all friends, BTW. And I'm like, let's just have a girl talk with some men who can pick up. Yeah, I'm one Larry show Danielle Stewart and we're all friends BTW and I'm like let's just have a girl talk with some men Is here yeah, I'm one of the like you're looking very fan Thank you. I'm always looking for you and I wanted to get into some stuff about you know like what we you know Like the kind of things that we talk about the people are like do girls what you don't really talk about But what is going on in our dating lives how it's changed how we approach people about what we want in bed fantasies,

we're just gonna get into it. But what were you gonna say about, and then I'm gonna give all your handles and stuff in a minute, but. It was so not worth disrupting for my comment about Australians who are the most fun people you'll ever meet, so no wonder they're interested in sex, and they drink a lot, let's be honest.

And sometimes those things can go together Every time I have friends that visit say it's like one of the best times that they ever had Yeah, when they go to Australia and right it's like they're down under like that's their logo They're like haggleine as we go down under New Zealand not the same. I went there. I know and they beef with each other They're like I am not from Australia. I am from New Zealand not the same I went there. I know and they beef with each other They're like I am not from Australia. I am from New Zealand Yeah, it's like the San Francisco LA fight but no one in LA knows that there are five of San Francisco Same with the New York to LA fight

It's like you got like we love New York. We love San Francisco. What's your problem with that? I know right everyone hates LA Exactly so everyone in San Francisco. Yeah, you know, they don't like it. But it's cool. We love each other. So Anna David, she's an author, a journalist, has her own goddamn podcast. You should all listen to it. It's called After Party Pod. She's a creative after party magazine. The company dedicated to trying to show addicts sober and not sober alike. And love ones about what recovery can be like and she's a really good friend of mine. At Anna B. David on Twitter at after party site on Twitter. Yes it is. And then your website afterpartypod.com. Afterpartymagasy.com you can get the podcast there. That's perfect. Danielle Stewart. That's me. That's Danielle Stewart, D-A-N-I-E-L-L-E Stewart,

S-T-E-W-R-T dot com. Like John. Like John. That's easier. Danielle at Danielle Stewart dot com. At the Danny Stew, we'll do this healthy and two. It'll be on our website on Twitter at the Danny Stew. And Facebook dot com slash the Danny Stew. You got it. And Danny has done a lot of things. Danny is just hilarious She's comedian. She's a writer. She writes it after party magazine She recently hosted the avn awards. That's right. She rocked. She killed it friends were sending pictures Cuz I told everyone to look out for which they're like the porn or they're like the Academy Awards for porn. Yeah, and You were killing it. They don't my god your friends so good because like I was a poke-pow that you were killing it. They told my god, your friend's so good because I was so proud that you were doing

like, I'm gonna have a fan. And you were also scared I was gonna bomb. Well, I was like, I kinda know her. And then she's my best friend. And as a comedian, how do you keep a straight face and not when the girls are crying and for best anal and stuff like that? I think Danielle takes it pretty seriously.

Oh, I'm very serious about it. I think it's funnier when actors cry cry about their company. Oh, definitely. You got paid like millions of dollars. These girls were getting paid like the same as me. Yeah. And they have to take like, you know, you know, fists and the ass and stuff. So like I respect them more. Yeah. Yeah. But but also I'm so obsessed with myself that I'm not even thinking about what they're saying. Because you can admit that. So I thought we would launch in here. Is there anything else that I missed that you guys would like to talk about?

We'll get the end of all promoted. No. It's just my sex credibility. I was the sex dating and relationship expert on G4's Attack of the Show for four years. And that's true. And that's how we met. I was the sex dating and relationship expert on G4's attack on the show for four years. A very popular show. That's true. That's how we met. Like I still think of you as that.

It's so recently. We met sort of, we've talked about this before, over our shared sex work. That does that not sound great. I know, here's the workers. We met over our sex work. And my ex had a crush on her, she had a remover. But yes, she's very well-cred, and Danielle's very well-stead. Endowed.

Endowed. No, I've never heard all of your crazy sex stories, Danielle. I haven't done your stand-up and Anne. There's always like, I've talked to Danielle. We've talked to another thing, right? Yeah. But I would like to get into it. And the first thing I wanted to read though,

there's 20-something sex versus 30-40-something sex. And we're like all in our 30s. So I'm gonna have a little bit of 40s. So this study came out, 8.9% of women between the age of 45 and 55 are super experimental in the bedroom. And it also says that women in their 40s have much better chance of orgasms and their 30s.

100,000%. Yeah, and in your 20s, women not so much, which doesn't surprise me because you're at as comfortable with yourself. So, you know, what do you guys think about this? How is the biggest difference you've noticed in your sex life from your 20s to your 30s now? Oh my God. I was sleeping, you know, around a lot in my 20s.

And I was energetic and enthusiastic, but not skilled. I mean, maybe the skill was that I showed up and I had a smile on my face. It was the essence of the life. Exactly. The attitude is the life. I had an attitude of gratitude about it, but I certainly was, well first of all, drunk.

So that's, this is what it is. I mean, I am a sloppy drunk. Like I'm a, you know, I've peed passed out like the whole thing so You know that that's not good, but so into my third eye over now right so we're now But I kept hearing that we were gonna have like this The sexual peak right is like 35 that's what I heard and I'm not you know none of us are 35 yet But as I near 35 I know really never, I didn't really feel that happening,

but I will say that I understand my body now and I'm in a relationship where I, I know exactly what I like and I'm able to like, you know, communicate that with him. Actually, you know what, we haven't, I haven't had to actually communicate it. There's like, it's hard with the direct communication like excuse me my clits actually over there that's hard it would think thankfully that's not the case but in terms of knowing what I like I'm able to like you know moan at the right times and so to give him the guy him yes so this is a new guy yes and he's so cute I've been in our not a little, not a little, not a little, a little, way, I don't think that that necessarily means

if you don't have the rhythm, it doesn't mean that you're not compatible. But we just happen to have that, which is like, oh, thank God, that's out of the way. Thank God. What about you, Anna? How long do you wait when you're with someone to talk to them about?

I need a little helper. And you need to do this or that or do not? The first time. I would say, but I would say. That's very you though, very direct. Speaking of this. Why mess around? Why waste time? Yeah, I mean mean it's sort of like the faking orgasms thing like how are you ever gonna learn if I I'm not doing you any favors if I'm pretending to be having fun when I'm not but I'm playing I don't fake laugh either

So so painful when you think you're really both I fake both Good to know do I don't well. I faked in my 20s. I made a rule. I did too, I'd nice to. Yeah, I made a rule where I stopped, because I've exactly what you said. I felt like when I was ruining it for other women too. Yeah, exactly. They're future replacements. It's true.

But I will say, you know, for me, I actually, not just I had no idea what I liked and what I didn't like, but I just, my body was not capable of what it's capable of now. And you know, and also, I told both of you guys this, I went off of a medication that had a serious numbing effect, and so that was a year ago, and it's a completely different world now. I love this, so tell me about this world. Oh yeah, it's a good one.

It's a good world, well, I mean, I used to basically not be able to orgasm unless it was like oral sex with a ton of fantasy. Right. And a lot of work. I mean, serious. How long did it take? You know, um, a long time and it also was never a guarantee. Right. And now it's basically, I don't, it like just making out without any fantasy whatsoever. You know this. I know I'm always, always, I just, I want that. I think that's amazing. I haven't had that in a while. That is really, that's just, you're as efficient as you are in, in the workplace.

That makes sense. That makes sense. You just learn to like, goddamn that numbing. It's like, you know, I'm so glad that that went away for you. So here's my question about, you might be a good player about fantasy. So when you'd be fantasizing, for example, what were you thinking about when the guy was performing all the time? Well, I had to go to.

I mean, it was never about somebody else. Really? Like, this is, I just never, I never really talk about this. Mine is sort of like, it's embarrassing to say. Like a teacher student situation. And like the best sex I ever had was this guy who was like a professor and we would sort of do a little role playing around that. But but that's like that's seriously hot. So in your minor like he's going down to me, I'm a school girl, I was late for class. No schoolgirl college student. college student. No, what I'm saying. So it's like a power. It's a power thing Okay, for sure

I want to piggyback on that because I I met my Current boyfriend. He was working on something that I worked on project that I worked on and we didn't talk I mean, he it was not it was a professional situation and so when it went non-professional You know when we went there's something So hot about that and I and I'm still getting off on that, you know where it's like we once had to be appropriate with each other And now we're finally like and it's sort of the same. I mean not the same It's but it's was he your superior in this situation. No, but it was not you know equal Yeah, I mean it was just we'd neither one of us, both of us would have been in trouble if there had been, you know.

Yeah, but- No, there is true. There is a dynamic power play. We cannot get away from women wanting, you know, the male power. It's the sexy. It is. And also the forbidden.

Yeah, it's the forbidden, I think, more than the power thing. Yeah. Because it's, yeah, it's just so inappropriate. Right, exactly. So I managed to sleep with all the assistance and stuff. All the time. thing because it's yeah it's just so inappropriate. Exactly. So I managed to sleep with all the assistance and stuff. All the time. No I wanted to ask you though but on the thing where it became more than just a working

relationship what was that moment? Did you guys like went out drinking or what? I think I'm drinking. I think I'm drinking. I was very question. Yeah no what happened was I was under the impression that he was married Because that's what he told me And so I like you know for we had a very fun loving you know sort of a you know work environment

And so I would shamelessly flirt with him because I thought it was safe You know like nothing graphic, but just like, hey, handsome, you know, stuff like that. And finally, at the end, when the job was over, he reached out to me and was like, I'm actually going through a divorce. And would you like to go out sometime? And I was like, my mind blew. You know what I mean? Like, because I never thought I could have it. I mean, I was like, oh my God. And then he blew. Yeah. Many times. Oh my God. I love this. So I can make go back to your fantasies? So because I think a lot of times I've always seen a women, you know, and men, but men

have seen them in easier times as women up fantasies and their head usually it's past things that have happened or what is it, man? It's porn. It's not porn. It's not porn. But with women in our head, like what do you have a go to? Did you always have fantasies? Okay.

Yes, but I can't. I wish I could have like a nice just fantasy. It has to be with the person I'm with. I have had fantasies where it's not with a person I'm with and I know the relationship is over. Right, okay, exactly. Because the other thing is, there's a woman, unless I'm, you know, thinking about Clive Owen, which by the way, Clive, if you're out there, you know, we can make it happen. But unless I'm thinking about Clive Owen,

I want to make the fantasy happen. The person that I'm thinking about is accessible in some way, right? Okay, what are you masturbating? What do you think about? I'm, well, I'm in a new relationship, so that's what I think about. Okay, every time.

Yeah. Yeah, we have a one-year-old not in a relationship. Do you have a go-to fantasy? So that's what I think about. Okay, every time. Yeah, we have it when you're not in a relationship. Do you go to fantasy? I have some go to sites that I go to. Oh, sure, that would be interesting. Oh, God. Well, okay, so it's super embarrassing, but I'm just so embarrassing.

I read like a rottica, but it's not like, you know, Norman Maylux. It's not like, you know, literary. It's very like pet house for me. We're down with that, that's. But for more for women, so they don't say stuff like meat pole and one stick and stuff like that. So you're reed to get it. Yeah, it's a lot more like, it's more on the Danielle's steel end of it.

It's very embarrassing. But that's why they make it. That's why she makes a good Brazilian dog. I used to prefer more. I've been to her house. It is in San Diego. It's in San Diego. It's crazy.

I used to masturbate for months to twilight. I was reading twilight and that was so arousant. What? I didn't even need that. I know exactly. I know exactly. Sorry, what were you, I was just gonna, it's like, oh, really?

Yeah, what gets you off, basically? Dan I'll steal. Oh, I just talked about that. But what I was gonna say is pre, when I was on the medication, I would read the erotica too, because that was kind of the only thing that worked. And a little, like a little like you porn stuff, but yeah, no, I remember, I don't know if you guys remember

like when you were 12 and 13 and first reading, that's a, well, what, yeah, no, I remember, I don't know if you guys remember like when you were 12 and 13 and first reading, that's a, well, what, what, what, wifey, the Judy Bloom book for Reverend. Yeah, forever. I still remember that she named the penis Ralph. Oh, I didn't remember that. Because I always hated that name and I was like, that's the wrong name. And then I don't know if you ever read this book, Lace, it was really big in like the 80s.

No. And I just remember mind blown. But did you masturbate to that? Yes. I was going to ask you guys these questions. So tell me about that. Was it the first time you masturbated? I remember that, I don't know if that was the first, but it was definitely in that era.

We also had not a jacuzzi, but it was like a thing called a jacuzzi. It's a portable thing. I don't even know if these are on anymore. And that you put it in the bathtub. Yeah, it turns into a thing called a jacuzzi, it's a portable thing. I don't even know if these are around anymore, than that you put it in the bathtub. Yeah, it turns into a... So that hit your head. It's so common to women like,

that have their first problems. It was the first time I had a wand and water. It is the best wand and water. So that was how will it be real? Like 12, I think that was the first year I drank. That was the year. And then you were like, wow. And then you, yes.

And then it was like, it was so easy to get off. There was like, you know, I, just with my hand, there was no vibrator. And like that, yeah. That's amazing. Because I mean, I've shared this a lot, but I never masturbated once. I'm an orgasm teller's 20.

Didn't even occur to me. To be honest, I love it. No, never came up. Never had a shower. But hit me in some odd random way where it would have hit my clitoris tonight, I never orgasm. But, well, it. Never had a shower. But hit me in some odd random way where it would have hit my clitoris, then I'd have it orgasm. But, well, it pisses me off too.

I have a thing about that, which is, you know, you do not talk. I made me Daniel's different. I did not talk to my friends about it. No. And I thought, God, it's so crazy that I have this thing that like none of them have, because I couldn't even picture that.

Because how would you know? Right, you couldn't Google it. You did it was a different world. It was a different world, yeah. And so what about you, Daniel? And you first started. I don't, you know, Right. You couldn't Google it. You did. It was a different world. It was a different world. Yeah. And so what about you, Daniel? Well, so I started.

I don't, you know, I apologize in advance if this is jarring. I started masturbating at three. Um, you know, not, I don't want it everyone to get upset. Apparently, it's very common when people perform a chaotic household, which I did. It's a self-susagthing. Right. So because of that, I started masturbating with a pillow as like a grind. Oh, I did that.

Yeah. Okay, I never really graduated. Much like college. Much like college. I didn't really graduate. And so I still, that's still my preferred method. Now, I have two kinds of masturbation that I do. One is when I'm by myself and it's like due diligence.

Like I got to get someplace I'm running late. Like that thing. And then I have the sensual like, you know, I'm on the phone, I'm text with my boyfriend or we're having sex. That is more like, why did I just say sex so quiet? I can't say that. I use, you know, that I do this more traditional way. But I can't traditionally masturbate. Please break those down for us after we to quick break for our sponsors. I want to come back and hear those two different ways you masturbate. Okay.

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Okay, Danielle. Tell me about the pillow. Masterbation. Well, the pillow sort of, like sometimes I me about the pillow. Masterbation. Well, the pillow sort of, like sometimes I still use a pillow. Yeah, like in between my legs. Like, are you lying on your side? Sometimes I'm lying on my side. Sometimes I am upright, writing it, which is embarrassing.

No, that's not it. It is, it's weird. It's weird. You're like grinding on top of it. Yeah, I love your whispering that. It would only be embarrassing if somebody walked in and watched. What's funny is that what I was embarrassed about. Is it because the pillow feels the pressure? Yeah, the catch, like the sex wedge or something. Yeah.

Do you want a liberator? I feel like we should give her a liberator. Oh, I would love that. Only for sex, right? That's not for masturbation or is that? Oh, it can totally be for masturbation. Yeah. It'll probably be a pelvis up because I think that's the thing. Daniel's birthday is crazy. I would probably like it. It is.

Yeah. I see you have your crate, your vice president. I do. I have my my crate vibrator on each other. Right. Oh, I won't want to do that. I set your birthday present wrapped up that's still in my car. I've been hearing about this birthday present.

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I'm like look what I got and then my house the workshop. It's party birthday present Can't wait can't wait I know you probably think I'm one of those people who lie and say a birthday present for you But you never lie I can picture myself wearing it already. I'm not a lie. Okay, so I can't so I couldn't have an orgasm Just from putting something like the crave necklace between my legs, but what I could do is I could put the crave necklace between my legs and a pillow underneath it and use the grinding and the thing. I used to love this thing called the butterfly.

Oh, I know the butterfly. I've never really found a good replacement word. Butterfly kiss is insertion or the one that with the straps on. I think that was one of my first vibrators. It goes around your waist and the butterflies. And where are you from? There's so much trouble.

Like, you know, kind of is and I, yeah, it's, I never were able to find a good replacement part. Did it go out of business or something? No, it's still around. It's still around, but it just, I don't know. Anyway, it just worked in a time of place. But, um, but yeah, so that, that's pretty much that. Do you use vibrators?

I do sometimes, yeah. But I can rarely have an orgasm from just a vibrator. I have to have something in me. Like a penis. Yeah, like a penis. Or an insertion vibrator. Yeah, and it would work. Even magic wand.

I don't do the magic wand. Because it can destroy you and I already. And I already. It doesn't though. I hasn't me. No, but I worried about it. But how orgasmically challenged does it is? Well, I think that with those years before,

when I was on that medication, that was my only hope. And it started, I don't know, then I had a mental thing. Oh, it was like cocaine. I threw it away. And then I went and got another one. Oh my God. Yes, because I was actually like, this is destroying any chance of me ever having an orgas and got another one. Oh my God. Yes, because I was actually like this is destroying any chance of me ever having an orgasm with another person.

And then you were like, I need to have an orgasm. Yes. Talking about what I preached. You know that it's rechargeable now and they just came out without the cord. I think that's amazing. And I remember you wanted to go on a hike the other day. I was like, I want to go,

but I have to run home and get a toy. Yes. I had to go run home and get that, because it's rechargeable now out of the wall. You needed it for the hike. Next time. Next time. That's how addicted it is.

I was in the office and Anna was like, I'm like, I got to go out and I'm gonna get a toy. Well, I'm kind of being so shooting in the office. Um, we actually did a really funny one yesterday because the magic wand is now a Ysupug in the wall. Now it's a, so it's a revolution. It really is. You guys, it's amazing.

You can bring it camping. Hiking. It's the number one vibrator on my friends here. So don't listen to me. I'm just like so. You know, you just code Emily good vibes.com. Yeah. Get one. Okay, so I want to know you guys what, what you guys question? Um, no, he was drifting off at his world. There's no going out on his head, I think. I want to know, this is what I want to know. If you guys had any, like what you've learned now, what would be some sex tips that you would impart

to your younger self? Like what you know now that you didn't know that, and it can be like, about your own body or about what you wish men knew, you could tell men, I mean, does anything. Well, what I would say is it took me a while to get liberated around certain parts of sex that have been so freeing, like, for me personally,

I don't think it's okay for me to be afraid of come. It's a very limit, like, it cuts me off, it's not about the guy, it cuts me off to the connection and the sexual experience, if I'm like, oh, could you just come over there? I was so used to not swallow them. And I used to just be freaked out by the whole thing. Like, what am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to like this?

And so what I do is, I don't know if I forced, but I got to a place where I realized how much men like to, for instance, come on the face. Face shows. Once I connected that that turned them on so much, I could get turned on by it. And now, I don't even need them to really care. I like it on my own. Right.

You learn to love the feeling of love. I learn to love the penis. And, right, and not for them for me. Like, some of the king's secrets. You hated the first one. I hated the first path. Yeah, yeah. But, absolutely, and what it did is, again, I wanna reiterate,

it wasn't for them, but what I thought it was, but it opened up all of my doors. Okay, I would like you to explain this one, because there's a lot of women listening to show, and men who have partners and women who don't like blow-dops, they think they don't, they think they hate it. Men who don't like to go down, which is totally freaks me out. So you did this meet-to, but you did this transformation

where you actually got into it and you learned to love it for your own stuff because it made you feel empowered and sexy and you enjoy it. Exactly. If you can change people. Yeah, if you understand how much I was with, you know, if you understand how much men love that, certain men, then you can understand why you should love it. Because it makes, I don't want to say it ups your value that's so gross, but I mean, then it makes them more open.

I have such a sexually open relationship because I'm so open, and so it's made him open. He wasn't open before. He was in, you know, a thousand-year marriage. And he's opened up because I him open. He wasn't open before. He was in, you know, a thousand-year marriage. You know, and he's opened up because I'm open. You know, and so now I'm getting stuff, I'm getting amazing stuff from his openness. So it really, it's not about, you know. Give and take, I get it. Like you're open, he's open.

It's not the other thing. Balls is another thing. I feel like people got to get on board with, I know Anna's gonna look at me and go, I don't, I'm not at all. We can, I can I jump in? Yeah, please. Yeah, all I was gonna say is I've always loved it.

Oh, I didn't have to love it. Blood drops, yeah. No, just like men come, like I, I, I, I, I, that's great. Yeah, always. Did you wish think, because someone told me it was, I was like, Danielle, did you wish you was, I was like, God, yeah.

I didn't, not like it, I was just scared. Like I didn't know what was happening, you know. No, I didn't, you know.. You know, um, what is this? It was my first time you had a tapter. Okay, so yeah, no, just I've always liked it I think I've just always been so turned on by the idea of a guy being so turned on I mean, it's interesting because it does sort of connect to my like college professor fantasy It's like I cannot control my attraction, that's what does it for me. Yeah, agreed.

And so, I've always, I've just always been super turned on by it and like always kind of used to, and again, like this was when I couldn't really orgasm from sex or when I was sort of trying to keep things relatively innocent because I don't sleep with people right away. So, I would always do do the mutual masto thing. I'd be like, oh, hey, Madison's not in. Oh, hey, movie, yeah. And I would just get so turned on with that. I'd still happen.

Can I piggyback off that on a sex tip for men? Please, yeah. I wanted to get into some tips, yeah. Because this is something that I think is really important. You just said it. What men seem to not understand about women in the bedroom and outside, that they just want to feel worshiped.

They just want to feel special. It, even if you don't, I don't care how you really feel. Just tact. If you want me to be like a slut for you in the bedroom and be open, then you have to pretend that you want me more than anything. And if you do that, you are going to get everything you want.

But you can't go in trepidaciously and be like, I don't really like to eat pussy. And then expect me to give you a blowjob. It's not about eye for eye. It's just about like if you don't want to put your face up in it, then I'm like, I don't we to put your face up in it, then I'm like, I don't, we're disconnected already. So you just, if you make the girl you're with feel like she is, like you can't even take the attraction. Even, you know, even just to get a good blowjob out of it,

it's worth, you know. Tell her she's not, I'm right. It's better than an academy award. I would love to go back to one thing about sexual fantasies and masturbation, I don't want to get you off the track. But like, I will say, oh, and like, that I have a guy that whenever I'm not dating somebody, I mean, six years my go to fantasy. I always pull up like one time with him or his face as things.

Well, he was the college professor guy. Everything. It was everything. Like, it was just for whatever reason, the most sexually gratifying experience. Where is he and how do we find him? Yeah, that man was God given gift. Like what he can do is not just hook up with him. It's actually kind of a great story, but I don't want to get you to do after I was in it. It was. I had a friend who had dated him who said, it's just too weird for me to set you up

because I dated him, but like find him and like ask, he was sort of in the same field, ask him if he wants to meet. And so it was like one of those things. Is there a legal on campus or no? Not really, like if you. Oh, he wasn't my teacher. Oh, okay.

This was like when I lived in New York. Oh, I got it. He was a professor of I got it. And then, and there's the quick thing. So we go to coffee and I'm like, yeah, he's all whatever, he's cute. And he mentions that he go to coffee and I'm like, yeah, he's whatever, he's cute. And he mentions that he has a girlfriend.

I was like, what am I doing here? And then he mentions that his girlfriend has boyfriend. And then he mentions that he's open. Yeah. And I was like, I can't get involved in this. I can't get involved in this. And so then we were leaving. And he's like getting on the subway and he goes,

so let's go for a drink. And I go, yeah, I don't drink. And he's like, cool, I'll come, I'm gonna cook you dinner and come over. And so suddenly I found myself in this thing that was just, so I love that that was your thing that changed. How long did that last for?

Well, I never wanted to actually make him my boyfriend, not just because of his situation, but it just for different reasons. And so it could last like, you know, a couple of years on and off. Yeah, I get it. I like those ones., a couple of years on and on. Yeah, I get it. I like those ones. She still has no room. Yeah, I know. I should give it out for them.

And I'm here. Emily wants it. But let's talk about this about worshiping the female, because this kind of reminds you, Matt, as I know what you're thinking about the compliment thing. I used to say joke on the show, I'm like compliment her 20 times a day. Yep. 10 times a day. And Matt said, come on, then she's going to know that you're really into her and blah, blah, blah. No, it's just like, I don't know. Some guys give them the upper hand or whatever.

No, no, no, no, no, no. There's no. Yes. No, I'm with menace. You get walked all over. Hold on. And then the woman becomes disinterested in you. That Anna has a thing.

Anna has a thing. But I. You're like compliment, I want to know. No, she doesn't want too many compliments. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, I'm not saying never know. No, she doesn't want too many compliments. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, I'm not saying never compliments, but 20 times a day is excessive.

Well, they comments like this guy was dating. His reaction was high, beautiful. Everything would go, hey, beautiful people. I didn't know that. What a dude. I went out twice. Every guy that I met that she's hooked up with

is pretty much a douchebag. So I want to be like, That is so natural. You've not met anyone I've hooked up with. I've met, I've met more than two, and the douchebag level is like crazy. Well, level five is definitely not so tough. And a douchebag level, hopefully,

at least like a four or five, it's not true. I'm just saying that your judgment on dudes are not that great. Well, we're similar in that way at least. I'm not saying I make the best decisions always, but I think that you're quick to judge people. I want to clarify. And you're protective.

I want to clarify that there are two, I think we could all agree on this if we make a clarification, which is that, I don't want a ton of compliments for a guy I'm not into. I also don't want a dozen roses on our first or second date. That means nothing, because it looks insincere. What, I don't want, I love you every time we get off the phone. I don't want Hey Beautiful every time, you know,

I want it to feel sincere. So, like you really, like you really, like you're like, wow, you look great, I love that shirt would be specific. You know something like, I notice your eyes. My boyfriend tells me all the time and I love it and can't get enough of it.

What is it here? But I know, he's just like, I love you, you're gorgeous. I love what you're like, you know. And you know what's real. And if he goes, hey, beautiful, he goes, I, it's, we're in, into it enough now that I believe it. When it's prematurely compromised, and you had too much, I understand it could be over.

Yes. But when we were talking about earlier, though, too, it's like, just sexually, just having that you knew what Phil is tired in the bedroom. Like, you're so hot. Like, if you make you with the guy for the first time, don't you learn to be like, God, your body is so. Absolutely. But I will say the over, like you're so hot, like if you get a naked with the guy for the first time, do you learn to be like, God, your body is so. Absolutely, but I will say the over, like for me,

it's like, it means when it means so much, like you know they meant it because they're not somebody who does it all the time, that's great. But what about like, let's rewind to your last relationship. And like, if you guys like, you're a couple months into it and you were like totally like so into him If he had switched from how he was in the first couple months and all of a sudden went like God your gorgeous God You're this it kept going you would love it

No, I mean he was very complimentary Okay, but it just was not constant and it meant so much when it was okay was not constant and it meant so much when it was. Okay, let's see, that's okay, I got it. I got it, okay. You know what, it was just because there's a lot of men who I think just withholded all of them. Yup, yes. So there's a fine line.

And I think first time in bed you're right. Be marvel. Yeah, because it's like, yeah, then you're gonna get, we're all gonna get what we want. And I do it too. I'm like, oh, you're peeing so small and I thought, but we're gonna have a good time now. And don't worry about women having the upper hand.

It's like we can have children, we always have the upper hand. So just worship us. Yeah, no, we guys know that you're in charge, but just pretend that we have some. Right, well, what would be your one sex tip to men if you could give them one tip now? Cause yours was more of the worshiping in the bedroom.

Did you give your one tip? Well, I mean, I would second that one. You know, I think just like those men who think that like, let's say oral sex is a skill that they have. Remember that it is not, it is not like, across the board. Yeah, it's not like, oh, I'm a good writer, so I'm always gonna write in this way.

You are right, like, it's like writing an article for a different audience every single time. Exactly. So feel her out, so to speak, see what she likes. It's so obvious when someone's just kind of like, I know the one, two, three, four, five, six, I'm going to do that. I'm on the letter G with my tongue. Right. Yeah. Do we talk about a pack of lunch down there? No. Do we talk about that? Oh, go. I've had... I have a lot of oral sex. Okay, well, no, it's just piggybacking what you said, because I've had... I've had... I've had... I've had...

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Oh my god, it's happening too. I've heard a few people say that's my favorite of my life side. What's the last guy that I met that she hooked up with? Sounds like a dude that would totally say that. Well, you're so ragging on her right now. Yeah, I'm just keeping it real. I'm curious to the last one, Matt. He was the last one.

That was the last one. Yeah, I'll tell you later. Oh, it's awesome. Not the one whose car is that car I crashed. No, no, no. But Daniel's point brings me to. So much to miss in the car. I know it was terrible.

I can't keep it. I'm sorry for another time. I want to hear it. I want to hear it. But the men who talk about how much they love doing it chill out. Because again, it kind of goes back to the worship thing. I want to think you really love doing it to me, not that it's just your general like love.

Right, of course. But I do think something that men can say is a lot of women do worry that he doesn't want to be down there. Yeah, security. Maybe I'm trying to younger women like do I spell bad things? Definitely. And I think when a guy says, I don't want to bring a lunch. Yeah, he's curious. Maybe I'm trying to younger him. Like, do I spell bad things? Definitely. And I think when a guy says, I don't want to bring a lunch, but he's like, babe, I just relax.

Like, I just love doing Jail Likes. Yes, I've got all night. How about I've got all night in the snacks? Yeah, I like that. I like I've got all night or I'm not going anywhere. Yeah, or like, I'm convinced my boyfriend likes it more than I do. Yeah, there are some many of them.

I hear from him all the time. I'm like, why won't my wife my wife will let me, our partner? Okay, guys, what's the best, can you just have the best sex you've ever had? Go, Anna. Well, I just, I mean, it was that one. Why? Is the power, because the,

I wanna meet this guy. Yeah. No, I'm not unfortunately, he's not a sex teacher and he should be. But was there a particular moment or something that happened so? Oh, yes. So he had written this story about,

about, and I'm not even necessarily into this, about tying women up with this certain belt and whatever, he had to drill a hole in the belt to make it work for hands. And that is, are you taking mental notes? Yes, I am. And so he wrote this story and then he came over for that time to make me dinner. And I realized he was wearing that belt. And then he wrote the story and then he came over for that time to make me dinner and he I realized he was wearing that belt and

Then yes, and then he foreshadowing so he did do like I'd sort of been tied up But like by people who didn't know what they were doing and he's like you're safe word and I'm like oh my god I'm really living. I'm getting a safe word. I can't believe it and and like I just and and he did this thing where he blindfolded me and then he was like, the only rule is you cannot beg. And so then he would like, come in the room and kiss me and leave. Then he would come in the room and sort of like, touch me and leave. And I'd be like, oh, it's a mess and Emmy. Yeah.

And I would be like, come back and he's like, nope, because you did that, I'm winning. And it was like, so. Teasing. Hot and then. And then they roused. And then he would not have sex with me that night, which was all part of it. then the next time we met he's like I'm making you lunch come over and the minute I walked in his apartment. He just attacks. He's very calculated though in his way because I think it's so right it works Yeah, I love that's

Okay, now that's my new fans. Yeah, but I don't you can you can take it? I don't fans Well, you know what? What a fan say about you per se, I haven't. You haven't? No, what do you think? You've been in general. But I would take the fans to me with my face there on top of yours. Well, good.

Good. Danny, what's Daniel? Well, I think I would have to say that, you know, there really isn't anything hotter from somebody. I don't know if this is my weird validation. There really isn't anything hotter than being the first piece of pussy from a guy who's getting out of a 17 year relationship

Oh, that is hot. Yeah, it's almost like fucking guy out of prison Yeah, he must be so excited. Oh my god. It was so amazing You know, it's it's amazing on the mental and physical level which it's always mental and physical But I mean like it's there's there's fantasy. There's you know the first time There's and it just like and also also there's this feeling of like, I'm doing God's work. And I'm being a service. And so it just worked for me on all levels.

And so that was pretty mind-blowing. That's amazing. Okay, one more question then emails, real quick. One thing you've always wanted to try and bed, but have yet. Well I think I've talked about this before. I did anal when I used to do drugs but I have never done it sober and I really want to. Lots of loop. Yep that's what I keep here. I'll give you some loop. What about an enema? No you don't need to have a an anemone. I can't take this. No you need to like just make sure you have like a

layer lunch a day your your bowels empty, you'll be fine. But what's a light lunch? Because like if I have like a salad, that's raw vegetables. Well make sure you go to the bathroom. Okay. Okay. I'm not going to need that.

I'm not going to need that. I'm not going to need that. I'm not going to need that. Okay. And I can't take it. When I was on the talk of the show, I would get anal sex questions all the time. And I still get mail from men who were like,

I can't believe how anti-analy were. And I realized it's sort of like, we talk about like there are many ways to get sober, like just because I would never do it, does not mean that it's okay for me to like, put that on any of my opinions. But it just grosses you out, that's fine. Yeah, I have like asked things.

It's like LSD, I never needed to try it to know I hated it. Right. No. Okay, got it. But did you give us your, you get, you get. No, what would needed to try it to know I hated it. Right. No. Okay. Got it But did you did you give us your you get you know? What would you do? Oh that I haven't yeah There's anything that I haven't done that I would want to do great So you filled okay, let's move into emails you guys help me answer I'm ready. Okay. Hi Emily. I have a bit of a problem that you may have addressed previously

But I really need someone to expand on I've been at my current job obsessing over every aspect of it for the last three years, and rose from the role of extra hand on deck to the CEO's assistant. Problem is, about a month ago, I led into temptation and had my way with the boss. Like 30s and married with children. He's been a mentor and a huge part of my life for several years, and I feelings from. He's been talking about leaving his wife for me the last few months, and it's almost like we're in a boyfriend,

girlfriend-like relationship. My company is failing due to issues outside of control, and it's destroying me, and no, I may not be with him daily soon. What do I do? E, she's a female, she's 22. Oh my God, get the hell out of there. That is a disaster.

Except that you remember how impossible it was to get out of things when you were 22 and that deep in. Because you think, you don't get so much in love, you're gonna love it. You think you can't believe the way. Well, on only that, you would have no pain to reference. Like that's the only thing that gets me out of situations

is that I've been through such gnarly pain that I can go, I don't wanna go through that again. Yeah, yeah. She almost needs to, okay, so she's in a crappy situation but if she can't wedge herself out of it which I completely understand that she may just need to walk through it and and deal with the pain because she's gonna get hurt. She's gonna get hurt no matter what. He's not gonna leave his wife even if he does it's messy when here's the thing that no one talks

about. Kids. Not only that, he cheated on his wife with you. That means he's going to cheat on you with somebody else eventually. Like, yes. Right. You know, and you don't care right now because you're so hot for him, but like, you know, it's just not, it's beyond like impossible.

It's just, it's possible and it's bad. But everything surrounding it is really bad to you. It's just a tough turn on. It totally plays into my professor, fantasy, by the way. So it's super, super hot, but it's just got sort of disaster all over it. You know, I will say, you know, I once got involved with the married man and it was the most painful thing

in my life. But I remember being told you got to do it until this whole don't call him, don't do this, don't, you know, is never gonna work. Because she's gonna be, I want to tell her to quit the job right now of the company's failing, you should secure yourself and go get another job. I do think that's a good recommendation.

But this whole like, we can't do this anymore is like the biggest lie. The two people tell each other. Yes. You guys are talking so much since right now it's crazy. Well, here's like, so she wants the real direct advice. The real, in my opinion, the real direct advice is find a new job, block him on everything.

Do not return his calls done. That's what you should do. That's what you should do. You're not gonna do it. Yeah, you're not gonna do it. But there's no other way around it. The good news is if she goes through, if she just keeps doing what she's doing, That's what you should do. You're not going to do it. Yeah, you're not going to do it. That's what I'm saying. But there's no other way around it. The good news is, if she just keeps doing what she's doing, she's going to get into so

much unbelievable pain that she probably won't repeat this behavior. Yeah. So that I never did again. That's amazing, amazing advice. It's a win-win, really. Yeah. And she's going to need a new job anyway and take care of herself and this guy's not leaving. You guys, that was killing one.

I can't even if he did. Yeah. He's going to cheat on you. And you're going to have to deal with the white and the kids. not leaving. You guys, that was Kelly. I can't even if he did. Yeah. He's gonna cheat on you. And you're gonna have to deal with the white and the kids and custody. And you're gonna be a step mom. Yeah, possibly of four children. At 22. Yeah. Okay.

That's not a job. Yeah, exactly. Okay, let's do another one. Hi, I love your show of been listening for a while. I'm a 36 year old girl living in Santa Monica, California. I've been on literally 500 dates and finally found a great smart and funny Jewish, very important to me.

And Guy, we've been dating since April. The chemistry is awesome and so is the sex. He just dropped a bomb on me stating he's moving in two weeks. He's moving back to Austin, Texas. Said that finding a job here, he's a writer, has been a struggle. He's his mom's health health is deteriorating, etc.

What the heck? Do I even bring up anything about continuing this relationship or cut my losses? I'm so sad he's leaving. I also don't know how to see him over the next two weeks without crying all the time. Thanks so much, Kay. Well, I got another one for that. Okay. Okay, do you want to go first then? Well, what I'm going to say is that they've been, I understand that the relationship is going amazing, but it's been about three months, which is that you're still in that honeymoon period. And let's look at the facts.

He has an ailing mother who he feels so responsible for that he's going to move back to Austin to take care of. But I don't think that's that unusual, that part. But if you have a life in LA, like I really does and he's hard even in a hard time getting ready to get to. Exactly, and he's not going to get a writing job. He's not getting an Austin. So he's down on his law and his mother's dying.

So you can't go to Austin with him. Let's just take that off the table. I don't think she asked that though, did she? But no, I think she's saying, I don't know what I should do. I mean, what are you doing? I'm just saying goodbye. Have a long-term relationship. No, don't have a long-term relationship unless you want to move Texas.

Yeah, I mean, so, yeah, sort of just deback Daniela, it's sort of the same thing. And you know, when a guy that would drop it like that after sort of like indulging in this fabulousness since April is, you know, I was for it, he's desperate. Well, and I was telling Daniel this morning that my therapist says red flags don't exist, but red flag. Yeah. They don't exist like, is we don't see him? So they're for it, he's desperate. Well, and I was telling Danielle this morning that my therapist says red flags don't exist, but red flag.

Yeah. They don't exist, because we don't see them. So they're for it. No, my therapist just told me this this week. What? Red flags are a misnomer because someone can do something once and never do it again. Someone can not do something in the beginning

and do it a lot later. That's true, yeah. It's true, but this is different, because you might get one to do it. But I will say that what's happening is that I think he's getting out of the three months like Lala Lann, nothing matters. Real life is setting in. He's got financial fear and he's fear about his mother's health and he's bailing.

And it's just, it's not that he's a bad guy. It's not, it's just that you're getting on a sinking ship. You know, this guy needs to deal with his mother, get his life back on track, and then be ready. You know, she's very- She's been here 500 days, she finally felt she found the one, we get it. We've got it.

If she thinks she, here's what I will say. If you think he's the one, fucking move to Austin with him, and take care of his mother with him. If you think he's the one, really, then that's what you should do. None of this long distance relationship ship ship. Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, right. You see, I don't know what kind of job you have, but that's true, you gotta cut it again, save thing, like, but it's gonna be hard, you might do. None of this long-distance relationship. Yeah, exactly. Right, you see, I don't know what kind of job you have, but that's true. You got to cut it again, same thing. But it's going to be hard, you might cry. But I can't know he's the one at three months. I don't think you can know he's the one at six months. That's why I don't believe she should head into a whole long distance thing, because then it'll still be great.

That's just extending the whole period of getting to know someone when you've long distance. Also, I do think this is a guy when he said, I'm leaving in two weeks, if he was like moving, there was an option, if continuing everything was an option, he certainly would have brought it up. Yeah, I mean, this is obviously a desperate, fearful move and a man that's in that position is not going to be a good partner because men need to feel like men in order to show up in a relationship and this guy is not feeling like a man right now,

even if he's into you. Exactly. When a man are suffering financially, your jobs are created, you know, they're work-wise, it's hard for them to get it up and to want it, of course. And it's actually, sorry, interesting that the two emails are very related,

like the man on the sinking ship. Mm, you know. It's true, that's true. Oh my god, didn't think about that. I have so many, like, my whole dating life is a Titanic. I have been on so many thinking ships. God, I mean, I don't know that I've been seeking ships. Maybe I don't know, I sank them.

No, I mean, I feel like I have a thing. I know, I think Danielle subconsciously has sought it. Yeah, maybe. I think that I, you know what I have, you know what I have? Yeah, like, well, do you know how they have captain Saeva Ho? Have you ever heard of that? Yeah, I'm like a female version of that. Really?

Yeah, even though I shouldn't be because I don't have any money and I have nothing to offer, but I somehow, I think subconsciously, I feel like it's my duty to save people and then it's a nightmare. It's a nightmare. See, Charlie, you want to do something?

They're gonna change. It's a weird form of good editing. It's very, very awesome. I love you guys being on the show. You just come back and we'll just do this like every day all the time. Any day. And what one email that you did want to mention.

Oh, thank you very much. From the last show, Anna was on my last show. A few weeks ago, online dating, it was a very popular show. It was killer. And Anna, you can tell the story. Anna got a nice email after the show. Very nice sounding guy, a nice email from a guy.

Cute. Cute. Cute. Yeah. Who was coming here, who complimented me on what I said on the show, quoted her, whatever. And then he was here last week, and we were gonna meet up. And then he's so nice, and it's not that. It's just I got a little overwhelmed by the emails, and I couldn't, I just ended up not do it.

And so cut two. Yes, today, right? Madison, I get an email, because I've already been forced to spend a very long time with her email. Yeah. Madison forwards my feedback issues. Oh, here's the guy,

because I was joking in the office. I'm like, and it gets a date from the show. I don't get dates. And then Madison doesn't, you don't read all the feedbacks right away. There are a lot of guys asking you out. I'm like, but this guy is super cute. Anyway, he emailed me as well. he's the same email man as well.

He's the same exact email that Ann got. The same exact picture. The same exact jokes. I was like, oh my God. I was like, this is from Ann and I click on the photo, I'm like, oh my God. Give me the email so I can send it to friends to use. But that's not even true because then we also have the same

like what should be people podcast. We end up on a date with the same man on the same day. We got what the same guy on the same day. I mean you guys have, you guys are both petite, really cute girls. You know what I mean? So you have like, I understand why men would like both of you. It's a, it's a type thing.

But what? What? They're for, they were on the same show like how do you expect them not to talk to each other? Oh that guy so dumb right Exactly, but I do want to say there was a really nice So nice about you should email Madison. I don't you know Danny. I don't think yeah, I don't think men realize how much women talk Maybe not we talk to each other. We talk about everything Yeah, and men don't men will get an email from a girl not bring it up. He probably didn't think you guys would ever talk about it. Right. We talk about everything. Oh my god. You guys are awesome. Okay. So Anna,

where would you find you? Oh, uh, Amazon.com, but I really don't do anything there. So after party magazine, and I do want to say Danielle is like the number two there who does everything. So if you were amused by her too, there's Daniel Stewart is all over that side. I am. It's a great site. And I actually read your site and I'm not sober. Right, but you love it. Yeah, I like that.

I love the idea of being sober. Yeah, Andy, it's for anybody interested in being sober. It's a good idea. It's really good just being healthy. Because I think we all kind of, a lot of people walk the line, they're, you know, know have questions about it one in three are mentally ill But I'd argue one and one kidding. I mean whatever and also the podcast after party Pah download iTunes literature all that cool and then you can find me at Danielle Stewart com

Also, I've written almost 200 articles for after party magazine And you can find me on Twitter at the Danny's stew D a n i s t e w Oh, okay, menace, just menace on Twitter, ME and A-C-E. Menace to read menace. Like it's the first time you've done it. I know. It's hilarious.

I know, I love you. I love you menace. I love you guys. Thank you so much for being on the show. This is super fun and thank you, Madison, for all you do and producing and being wonderful. Also, did I mention the New York thing? That I'm gonna be in New York? That was, I'm going to be New York September 18th to the 20th

for this sexual health expo and I know a lot of you were like, oh, why are you coming to New York? I'm coming to New York. So come get tickets. They will be, I'll give you more information about that when it comes up. And if you was running else, we didn't know the workshop. We don't know. Okay, I love you all. Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. It's all sex with Emily. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me.

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