Sex With Emily - Good Clean Sex: Before, During and Afterplay
Episode Date: January 11, 2017On today’s show, Emily and Anderson answer some of your top sex concerns, trade blast from the past stories, and talk about one of this year’s most exciting products! But first, the pair discuss t...he topic of afterplay—is it one of the most underrated parts of sex or just an afterthought? Then Emily takes a call from Carrie Martz, creator of the sex-toy-sanitizing Uvee, to get the skinny on how she came up with such an innovative device. And of course, last but not least, Emily and Anderson answer your emails about getting off on your partner’s history and how to handle an uncircumcised member. From sex toy hygiene to post-sex etiquette, this podcast is interesting, informative and totally uncut! Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we're answering your emails your questions
We love hearing from you the topics include
Getting off on a partner's sexual history. What does that mean?
What to do with an uncircumcised penis and also we're talking to Carrie from UV
You know just the woman behind the coolest invention that's hit the sex industry in years. That's all
Okay, enjoy the show, everyone. Thanks for listening. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ You got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair standard.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
Fucking love social media.
It's like a full-sized woman over there.
Where?
Yeah, over at your site.
So they got everything.
Got everything.
Exactly. It's so loud that dress.
Exactly.
Right.
Yeah, it's a it's a big booze and woman like all the information you have.
Well, it's funny because you know this is the new year and I got to say Ken you know
who runs my community by company.
You're a sensitive Ken. I'm not sensitive. I'm sensitive. you have was funny because you know this is the new year and I got to say can you know who runs my VV by company.
I'm not obsessed with you.
But he sent me the numbers like oh my god we had everything doubled the number of
listeners people went to the website the people who all of you like I I'm so if
we're talking about like New Year's resolutions and gratitude and all that
stuff I'm just so grateful for all my listeners that going into my 11th year I
can't or 12 year we know.
Well you're yeah you just did 11 years, because you were 10
year anniversary, it was like a year ago, right?
It's my 12th year.
We're going, it might be going in your 12th year,
and you might be doing that.
Okay, so.
That's kind of, I'm not anybody knows, Ken knows.
Ken, my 12th year.
You ever look up and just ask Ken questions, realize?
I do, and he answers it's weird.
No, he does, he's always there.
He's like, always buys phone.
He's always like, it's like crazy.
Congratulations, because I do other shows as well
and my whole motivation behind them,
other than getting a bills paid,
which is obviously a big motivator.
But it's like a service and getting the word out
and helping people make better decisions
and spend their time more wisely
and watching the right films.
And that kind of thing, I love to do it for that reason
and to be able to reach a bigger audience
is what it's all about.
So congratulations on it.
Thank you. I'm glad you're helping.
It feels really good.
One more people, one orgasm at a time as you said.
I gotta tell you, it feels, it does feel really good because that is still where I do it.
You know me, like I've talked about this like on a previous show,
but like it wasn't ever like I'm going to be famous to make lots of money.
No, no, no.
I love health be worse actually.
You know what's sad?
Like if you did have that part of your drive, like you might even be like bigger than you are.
I think a lot of people are that are famous
is because they have such a drive to be famous.
They need to be famous so bad.
And then it's like, wow, great, you're famous now.
I gotta look at you.
You have nothing to offer.
Go away.
You're genuine, the real deal.
Genuine article.
That's true.
I love it.
And I love when people are like, come up to me and they say,
and even when your emails are like,
oh my god, you helped me with your sex life. I'm like, this is is work. Have you ever had a stranger come up to you and be like let's risk
Like I listen to your show. No, okay, it's sex assembly. Yeah, only no only you don't know me my friends are like
Yeah, so there are weird things like that where people come up and they're like oh you sex with Emily and I'm like
It's not sex with everybody, I'm not a prostitute,
whatever. But here's something cool that happened.
I was at one of my favorite places on Earth,
four seasons. I would like to be buried there.
Which one, Beverly Hills?
Yeah, I had a lunch there.
Yeah.
Oh, I'm so fancy.
Wow, look at you.
It was a very important business lunch,
and I loved it.
I was excited. It was right before the new year,
and I was, I don't go there often,
but I do a lot of views there. It's very slinky. Like, every time I go there, I'd right before the new year, and I was, I don't go there often. But I do love it.
I do a lot of views there.
It's very swanky.
Every time I go there, I'd see someone famous,
every single time.
It's like a famous place.
So here's a funny thing that happens.
I was at lunch, and the waiter comes and takes our orders,
and then he comes back, and he says,
so Miss Morse, would you like the dressing
with this dressing or that dressing
with your cell at any walk away?
And I turned to my friend.
I'm like, did he just say, Miss Morris,
like did you give him our names at the check-in?
Like, he's like, I don't know, that was weird.
So the waiter comes back and I said,
I have a question for you like, how did you know my name?
And he said, oh, I'm a huge fan of your podcast.
The waiter, he's like, I'm a really big fan of your podcast
and I use to listen to you on Love Line
and I love your podcast and I have to say that
We have a policy here as waiters that if we recognize somebody we can use there. We should use their name. It's nice
Yeah, I was like I was like that is so very
And he goes and you know what he was we get like really big celebrities and you're like Leonardo DiCaprio
And I'm like whatever but seeing you right on the same way
I'm like wait, but I'm like is, on the same way. Right, and I'm like, wait, but I'm like, is that a backwards, like we get like real celebrities?
Yeah, it's a little backhand.
A little, it's okay, it's like,
and you're like this little nothing podcaster,
but I'm just as excited.
Let's be, let's be honest.
I'm like, my friend and I were laughing,
were like, that was funny,
but that felt, that, that was a nice one.
So thank you very much.
I like the, the Miss Morris, that's very, very nice.
Yeah, I was like, but we had, is he know me?
What if he said Miss Sex, that would have been funnier?
That would have been funnier. Do you mean miss sex? Would
you like the, um, what have you said, miss more? She said, but they're gonna make last week or
something. Oh, I probably probably probably probably probably probably probably probably probably
probably didn't know. I have not had sex in a while. Oh, wait, is that true? Yeah. Oh, you
have to think about it. I know. Is that sad? And you think it's a good thing. No, it really has been
a while. Okay. Yeah. Talk to Ken about that. I bet you can take it. Ken's amazing. I like to keep it separate though. Okay. I'll buy my sex up. Okay.
But he listens to the show and then he learns things. Okay. Should we do a little
bit of sex in the news? Yeah. That's absolutely do some sex in the news. Okay.
Science claims mastering after play will make you better at sex. Ah, more work for
dudes. Exactly. I hear it coming, here it comes.
We talk a lot about four play.
We talk a lot about during, but after play.
And I could not agree more.
So after play is the most important thing.
Is when you guys get up, go to the kitchen,
make a sandwich.
That's what guys do, or they fall asleep.
And that is the biggest bummer in the world,
because I get it though, when a guy has an orgasm typically
after sex, that's when his the um...
job is done.
No yeah because he jacked the job is done and a lot of men just fall asleep.
Scientifically the job is done and they're they're cortisol and everything spikes and you
actually do get tired for a lot of men like you can't help but see what happens
yes.
Not every man but a lot of them and for a woman though for me and I'm not saying every
woman but like I when I, when I wear a sex
and you just fall asleep, you're like,
oh, oh, it was right to storing.
I'm like, oh my God, I feel like I'm alone.
I'm dying, like kiss me, tell me I'm hot
and then fall asleep.
I need something, right?
So it is the most ignored part of sex.
And after plays a time of nice cuddles and soft kisses,
you give each other after passionately banging.
So a lot of people just roll over fall asleep and the thing is, while some people
take part in this romantic after play, many fail to do so, which is a shame because women
totally dig after play, science says so.
I see, so I know so, but guys know this, right?
This is scientific.
According to researchers at University of Kansas, it was found that after play is just as important as for play. And it was also found that for play and after play
are more enjoyable than the actual part of sex for many women. So, the women, I know,
dude, if you didn't think that women's sexuality was confusing enough, the study, women in the
study expressed that if they know for play and after play
are gonna be amazing, they'd be more than happy
to reciprocate that sexual generosity
and please their Mandarin, and of course,
like, could mean a stellar blow job,
it could mean whatever, but if they know
they're gonna get some cuddles after a little oral,
they're happy.
So also, if you keep up the intimacy after sex,
it leaves them with a good impression.
It's like leaving people, like she feels cuddled,
she feels happy, she wants sex again,
and it's romantic.
It's not the romance.
Can I say this though, Emma?
It gets a little bit dicey when we're talking to,
like, a last show that I did with you,
we had an email of a girl who's dating all sorts
of different guys, right?
And once you start, once you give in to the the after play, women are doing
that psychologically, mentally, physically, and with science because evolutionarily, they're
looking for a partner to nest with.
Per bonding.
And stay. So I feel like guys shouldn't even begin to start, you know, giving into this a
lot, especially
if they're playing the field and they have no interest in sticking around or seeing this
girl through.
I think it's sending the wrong message and I think that it's rude.
And it was her oxytocin is going nuts and she's getting more attached.
Then why should you get blow jobs and we shouldn't get cuddling at the end if it's just
as enjoyable for us?
It's not fair to you guys.
Why? Because it's like we're writing a check that we're not gonna catch. But if I'm sleeping with three guys and they all caught it, we all cuddled at the end. If it's just as enjoyable. It's not fair to you guys. Why? Because it's like, we're writing a check that we're not gonna catch. But if I'm, if I'm sleeping with three guys
and they all caught, we all cuddle at the end. Why do I care? But no, because if you're
cuddling, you're getting attached. No. Yeah, you are. Not always. Usually. That's what you
want. If you want to cuddle with someone, you're not going to be attached with. That's
what I like them enough to see that my one cuddle. That's crazy. No, if I like you enough
to see with you, I, I want to cuddle. to cuddle for a minute, not the whole night, but I want to, yes, I want to feel it. I don't, I'm not like the kind
of person that can just go in and sleep with someone and leave. Like that to me, I, I,
I, that this resonated with me because I love the intimacy, but I'm able to separate
that from monogamy in the past. I can still be intimate with, I get to the sex part
why girls went, why everyone would like that, you know,, because the climax and it feels great and all this and that.
But then what comes after that is much more
psychological, I think.
And I think there's a whole lot of pheromones
and things being trans-weak.
That's what happens.
And it's about connection, which.
You get connected, it's true.
You are talking about how people are less connected than ever.
And it's a great thing because they're dating around.
And then if you start giving into this at the tail end of it,
I think it's good to muddle things
to make people have more intense feelings
and get more fucked up.
Okay, but what you're,
I understand what you're saying for people
who are not really in the depth at,
no, I'm saying, and not everyone wants,
I'm not saying that nothing here
is like every single person on the planet wants it.
I'm just saying, you're talking about non-monogamy,
even people in relationships is important.
I'm just saying that after play is a new term that you might add a thought about and you should think about that it's important.
So how hard is it to say babe that was great rubber hands over body kisser cuddles and
fall asleep.
And I'm just kind of playing a little devil that I'm getting and I don't I don't have any
problems with the day after cuddles. I like the cuddles. The cuddles are nice. I don't
have to fall asleep right away. Actually, dated a girl for a while
where she would get very energetic
and clean the house right afterwards.
So we had a spick and span living space.
That was nice.
But I would feel guilty when I was like dating around
and I'd do the cuddle thing.
I'd be like, this doesn't feel right.
Like the sex felt right, but the actual cuddle
this feels like treacherous.
Because you didn't want to be there
because you didn't really.
Because I knew she was like one of a few. Right, no I can like I'm I totally get what you're saying that for a lot of guys
That's like you only do that with you're like the people the the ones that you're really like
Down for the cause. I could see that and I could see that women could feel the same way if they're sleeping people
They're like this is way too intimate. I just want to win. I'm thank you, man. Yeah, it's a good point
Okay, so like I'm not saying that like you know again the sex place are gonna not gonna
Do or if you don't do the after play I just I cringed at the idea of a girl sitting on a
End of a bad saying what about the after play? Hmm. Where's the after play? Hmm? Right, but for me this resonated because when I was in
Relation with the guy we started out and it was like he just wasn't a car to learn the first two times you sub together
He was fall asleep and I literally felt like I was cold and dying and starving.
I was like, I'm alone in this bed.
Like it felt so lonely.
Yeah, I bet.
And I felt like a receptacle a little bit.
Yeah, I felt like what happened to something I needed that kind of like after a
show. What about a pat in the head and like, yeah, it helps you clean up and then.
Exactly.
And I just need that connection at the end.
And that was in a relationship.
Make it at least a little effort, like some eye contact that connection at the end and that was a relationship.
It was a little effort like some eye contact.
But I didn't care and it was hot.
It's a good good good job and Paddle me yes.
Yeah.
Well done.
All right.
Something.
Okay.
So that's our sex in the news.
That was very controversial.
You still have not come close to topping the ultimate sex with the news and I still tell
strangers and bars.
I love talking about the Swedish one where the guy was beaten off on the
uh...
beat enough on the on the beach front and uh... he got arrested but they didn't
charge him because he wasn't making icon
a judge said oh yeah we can't charge you with a public in the city because you
were making icon you're a staring at a seashell that's my favorite sex in the
news right and there was no icon I can know after play. That is hilarious. I'm sorry I haven't talked
that yet but my goal for 2016. I like you know I'll let you know. Yes. Now
they know your genre. Yeah. Favorite toys. Favorite toys. Favorite
favorite. Favorite stories. I love toys. Favorite stories. Public public in
decency. I would do that for you. Getting off the hook. Okay listen you're the
best.
We're going to take a quick break. We're actually going to talk to Carrie from UV.
She made the coolest thing ever. But let's give a shout out to our sponsors, everyone. Thank you
for supporting these amazing brands and products and cool things that will change your sex life
that we work with. I love them. I hope you love them too. And we'll be right back.
We love them too, and we'll be right back. Okay, now we're going to talk to Carrie Martz.
She's the inventor of UV and co-founder of Clean Light Labs.
Okay, this was one of my favorite new inventions of the year, of last year.
I went to these trade shows, everyone's like, have you seen the UV?
Have you seen the UV?
It is the coolest thing.
It charges and cleans your sex toys and pleasure products,
which is a huge issue for a lot of people.
It kills like 99.9% of all harmful bacteria.
It looks like it took a little mini dishwasher,
but it's like elegant and sleek
and you can leave it by your bed or in your,
wherever, no one will know what it is,
but I hate my toys, when my toys are not charged and when they're not clean.
Like, what's the point in having them? So it is really cool technology. I want to hear all about it.
How she invented it and I can't wait to talk to her.
Hey, Carrie, it's Emily.
Hi, how are you?
I'm good. Thank you so much for taking the time to call in. I've just been raving about the UV.
And that it's the coolest thing I saw in 2016,
and now people can actually get their hands on it in 2017.
I know I'm excited about that too.
I'm excited.
I'm excited.
So OK, I would like to know like how you, first of all,
I love that you develop this with your daughter,
Brooke, who's amazing. But I want to know like how you came first of all, I love that you work, you develop this with your daughter, Brooke, who's amazing,
but I want to know like how you came up with this.
Like how did you come up with this brilliant idea?
Well, I wish I could take the credit port,
but it was actually Brooke.
I was after I told my advertising agency,
I was looking at other projects to get involved with,
and a woman had asked me to
help with her branding and development of a toothbrush sanitizer and also a baby pacifier
sanitizer. And I had them out on my kitchen counter and I was looking at them and showing
them to my somewhat OCD daughter, it was five months pregnant at the time, and she and her husband
were over, and you know, she said, Mom, I just got one of these warning blogs in your
fifth month of pregnancy, what they tell you to do and not do, and one of them was talking
about how to be very careful using toys during pregnancy, because some of them may not be clean enough.
And she said, you ought to have this gal who's doing toothbrush sanitizers do it for vibrators.
And, you know, I thought, boy, I wonder if there's somebody doing that and being a toy user
myself, I wanted to see how clean they really were.
So, I started looking at the industry.
No one was doing it. There was not one universal method recommended for cleaning toys.
And again, being concerned with some germs and actually myself getting infections from toys.
And not really realizing it was from toys.
Right, so you had in fact,
because I hear this all the time now.
I mean, I don't, because I know like I toy cleaner,
but most people don't like,
they're buying these really expensive toys
and they're like, oh, it's fine.
I put it back in my drawer like people don't know
to clean it, but you had an infection as well.
And you several.
Yeah, I was single at the time and using toys instead of having sex.
So I know it couldn't have come from sex.
And I went to see my gynecologist.
And I was too embarrassed to tell her that I wasn't having sex, which is kind of funny.
Right.
And so she said, no, you've got to sing this infection again.
I go, I wonder how I'm getting that.
But when you really do think about
where we do put our toys. It's not just that you clean them. Right. It's also how you store them and
then even right after you use the toy, do you really get up and
sanitize it? Not not often. So
not often. So this is just a system that is not only about cleaning and sanitizing a toy, but it's making it readily available for you when you want to use it, which is why we added
the charging system to it and the fact that it's locked up. So people that you don't want
to get into it can't.
Right. It's so smart because I always say like,
my biggest is, you know, I get more toys than anybody
and I, this is my problem is that I have nowhere to store them
and that they're often not charged or I didn't clean them.
But the charging thing is huge for me too
because I'm like, oh God, it's dead.
It's like, it's like, it's a bummer,
but to know that it's always gonna be clean
and ready to go.
I was thinking about it, it's almost like if you bought a Ferrari and like you didn't maintain it.
Like you left it in your garage and they're never at guests and you're like,
why don't I buy this nice car?
You know, I'm buying a nice sex toy as a gift that we give ourselves.
Like, we'll spend $200 on a toy and I always hear from people like,
I lost the charger, I think it's ruined, it's dirty.
It's like, no, you didn't care for your toy.
You know, treat it like any other electronic that you buy and take care of it.
And I love that the UV is this place that you could just place it in there and it's like
ready to go.
Like you don't have to think about it again, right?
It's like dropping your car off to get detailed.
It comes back, it's ready to go.
Like this is the thing, it's like every time you use your toy, it will last you forever.
Your toys should last you.
And so I just think it's brilliant because I even realize now,
Carrie, after seeing the UV and like,
I'm like, oh my god, like sometimes I'll spray,
like I have like a spray cleaner by my bed, and I'll clean it.
But then I might use it again a week later thinking it's even me.
I'll be like, oh, it's clean.
I'm like, you know, now I'm over to them.
No, it's probably not because it's been in my drawer.
So just because I cleaned it right after,
doesn't mean that three days later, a week later, it's still clean.
No, no, and it doesn't, and we've scientifically proven that.
So we're not science.
Yeah, you know, aimlessly important.
So we're, you know, we work with a Harvard microbiologist
and we tested our product against foams and sprays
and on very hearty bacteria. We are two to
times, two to five times more effective. And you know, we're not we're not
competing with foams and sprays. There's a place for everybody in this space. And
we're excited because manufacturers of great innovative products that are
making certainly toys more exciting. Like like Llo came in and said you know we want to partner with you on your kickstarter and
and they know that they're making very unique innovative toys that are doing crazy things so it's not as easy to clean right and for them to say, hey, put an innovative toy like Laylo in with a UV and you've got a
perfect match.
That is great validation for us.
Exactly.
I love it too.
I know, oh my God, and Rabbit Company also came on board because they're like, yeah, we
wanted you to keep using our toys as well.
We don't want you to get infection and we want it to be charged because that's a bummer
for them too when your toys aren't charged. that's really so how it works like it's cool
So you just you put I mean I've seen it but like and I'm telling you I was telling well before you called
I was saying telling everyone how it's just like it was like the buzz of all the shows
I went to if you've seen that you be it like I I haven't seen in 12 years anything like it and it just seems to solve like a
Lot of the problems, but how you explain it?
I'm like it's like a little mini dishwasher that you close it in the light turns on,
but it's much sleeker and more elegant,
and it charges it in many minutes,
and I mean, it cleans it in no time, right?
Well, the big unit, the home play,
will accommodate at least three big toys,
and we made it large enough for very large toys
like the Magic One,
and it has three USB charging stations in it, so it's really a big system.
And that only takes 10 minutes to completely go through the entire sanitizing process.
And it kills 99.9 percent of all the germs down on the toys.
10 minutes. Yeah, it's funny because I% of all the time. It's amazing. Down on the toys. 10 minutes.
Yeah, it's funny, because that's pretty cool.
Yeah, no, that is so cool, because now the more I'm talking
about this, people are like, oh, I heard about like friends,
I was out the friend of the night, and she was like,
I'm sure you've had this too,
Carrie, that she's like, I got an infection from my toy.
Like, everyone's telling me now,
and she's like, I need to get one of those, you know?
So it is more common than we think.
And so congratulations with this invention,
but I also, and also congratulations
on getting accepted and Kickstarter
because I know you were like the second only adult related
product to make it onto the Kickstarter platform,
which is amazing.
We're excited, yeah, that we were accepted.
We have two weeks left of our campaign.
It was a little tough during the holidays,
but I'm telling you we are
getting it strong for these last two weeks. And these folks that order on Kickstarter will be the
first to receive the product. There's some pretty wonderful things that you brought to the table
on that. And I'm excited to have someone with your credibility and endorse and act as a spokesperson for
our product.
We couldn't have asked for someone with more authority and more experience than you.
Thanks, Carrie.
Thanks, Carrie.
I'm honored that you invited me to do it.
I'm just something that I'm just so excited about.
So thank you for that.
And also, if everyone they got two weeks left, if you go to my website and you click on the UVBanner, it'll take you to the Kickstarter page. We did a really fun video there that shows you and tells you about it.
But also the perks. I love that we've like people can like you can buy a perk to be you can like contribute to it. And then you could have a perk to be on the actual show. You can buy a pledge to be on the podcast. You can get signed copies of my book.
You can launch with you.
Have lunch with Emily. That would be fun. I want to meet you guys. I love meeting my listeners.
You could do a 15-minute video call with me and I will answer any question you have and it just is your support and a good cause.
If you like toys, you like the pleasure industry and
innovators like Harry and a particle change in life. I think you should do it.
Check it out.
Thank you.
Yeah, thank you.
What happened to you?
Thank you again.
I can't wait to get mine.
Like I'm so excited.
Like the real thing for everyone.
Yeah.
We're weeks away.
Okay, everyone.
So call up and be a part of this.
And thank you, Carrie, and Happy New Year.
And I will see you soon.
Congratulations on all your success.
Happy New Year to you.
Bye, Carrie.
Bye.
Bye, bye.
Bye.
I am so excited for everybody to get this.
So I think if you guys are cool with it,
just check out the, you know, if you're not sure,
like, what are you talking about?
Go to, again, my page and just click on the UV banner
and just, if you have anything, just watch the fun video.
It's really fun.
It's a cool video.
And it explains to you, if you even have one tour,
you've like 500 tours like me, you're going to see why you need this. So it's awesome. Thank you, Carrie. All right, now is the time
you've all been waiting for. Emails, I love, love answering your questions. I love hearing from you.
If you want to send me questions, it's really easy. SexwithMV.com. Click on the Ask Emily banner,
Ask Emily tab, and when you do that, you can just submit your question
right there, and you can also pay attention
to the little box that says, would you like to be called?
Because we're gonna do more call shows this year.
I've had so much fun, you were here Anderson,
we killed it.
So what we do is you say you wanna be called,
and then Assistant Previous or Eddie will call you,
and set up a time, and then I call you,
and then we can really get into your problems
and solve them, because sometimes through emails,
you know, I just don't have all the facts.
You can also leave me a voicemail eight
when I ask SWE1.
And I love when you include your information,
your name, your gender, where you live
and how you listen to this show.
And how old you are?
And how old you are?
Is that right?
Can't be given tips to 14-year-olds now.
Hey, you ever get like just random questions?
You probably don't even see them, right?
Like, hey, who do you like the track this week?
You ever get just weird questions?
Are they always sex related?
You know what I mean?
Like, I think we get all kinds of weird questions, yeah.
Who's your favorite football TMM?
I do get things like that.
Yeah, we get everything.
Yeah.
We should do a wild card one every now and again.
Just pick up the last one that came in.
We should.
Yeah.
Should I do that?
Not right now. Not right now, okay, but let's
I like the idea of doing that either either either just pulling one from a hat or just going with like an odd question
That's nothing to a sex so I'm about you
From a listener Eddie reads the Eddie. Do we get any random things like that?
Yeah, like the people want to know stuff
Like they want to have sex with you. How many of the emails one have sex with me?
Like I would say at least 20% to 30%.
20% to 30% are like I want to have sex with you.
How many of them are ladies?
No, really you don't have the lesbian market cornered.
But are they like nice guys?
Sometimes Madison over you.
Are you thinking about doing this?
I'm what is going on?
They're always nice.
So 20% to 30% of the emails come in.
They want to bang me.
Are they nice guys?
Are they are they local?
Do they have pictures?
And do they specify a circumstance?
Hey, new question.
Yeah, I'm not getting of that.
When you're when you're sending your emails,
let us know where you live.
Your day, your age, your sex, and if your circumcised you're not from.
I don't care if you're circumcised, you're from...
Yeah, if you like to know what you're getting into, right?
You don't like to get caught with a surprise look.
I don't really like to love your mom.
You know you get caught with a surprise look on your face.
If you see the uncircumcised you're not prepared for it, it's startling.
That's funny, it's actually one of our questions today.
Good. Did you know that? I think you might have talked about it at the top. It's not that jarring. It's jarring. That's actually one of our questions today. Good. Did you know that? I think you might have talked about it at the top. Um, it's not that jarring. Here's the thing. It's
I've seen them I can like arrest you. Yeah, but you didn't have one in your mouth and it's terrifying. I come like whoa
What was that? Yeah, because you're a dude and you like super
You know it was weird five of my friend my brides up brides me. It's my my groom's been five of my groom's been three of them more on circle
So I
We know because the night before we all went them out and I beat off one way, I know a bagel.
Whoever finished the last half to eat it.
You did.
It's the thing that we did.
He's telling me your line.
I'm lying.
I have heard that people do that.
Oh my god, I'm so glad you didn't do that.
They got it, didn't do that.
Of course, I didn't do that.
But no, three of my five friends, you know, you're really close with people.
You're going to hear about it and maybe hear things and see things. But
yeah, three of the five are not circumcised. Okay. Yeah. What does that mean? Are
they for countries? I don't know what it means. I'm not sure. I'm
I've never. Yeah, you don't have to phone what? Yeah. Two of them were born from
out of the country. But typically it's it's it's Americans typically do get
circumcised, but a lot of like my son or actually I was in there holding him
when they did it the day after he was born and yeah, we but a lot of like your kids. I circumcised my son or actually I was in there holding him when
they did it the day after he was born.
And yeah, we got a lot of blowback.
A lot of people in our lives told us not to do it.
Blowback.
A lot of people told us not to do it.
But you did it.
Yeah, anyway, yeah.
I mean, I worked at a level I'm for 20 years.
I know why you do it.
A lot of bad things can happen.
Yeah, but a lot of good things can happen too.
We'll talk about more of that later.
But let's talk about this email.
OK.
Hi, Emily.
My girlfriend and I recently started listening to your show
and love it.
I've recently started deep diving into old episodes
and came across no pun intended.
Don't ask.
Don't tell the sex number rule.
When you gave the sound advice, it's best not to know.
How many people you sub with?
Your partner is not.
More mystery less history.
Here's the thing.
I love hearing my partner's number. In fact, less history. Right. Here's the thing.
I love hearing about my partner's number.
In fact, I love hearing about every filthy detail from their past.
How many partners they've had, what the guys or gals they've been with were like, what
their kinks were, how well in doubt they were, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
I've explored these topics of conversations somewhat with my partner and she's always
honest and more than willing to share.
But how do I explore this kink without being nosy or disrespectful?
Thanks, Scott, age 31.
I need to develop that, Em.
I don't know. What is that?
You know what? It's just like how you develop anything.
Any fantasy, what turned you on? I mean, I think it means that like...
For like, like, cuckled thing.
It's like cuckled thing in a way.
It is cuckled thing, which means like you want to watch your partner typically
came like your wife have sex with another man. But I kind of tell you, I hear this from guys,
not a lot, but it's not completely uncommon that they're like, concerns me on. Most guys
would be jealous. They can never get that thought of that guy with the 15 inch penis,
and that he doesn't match up. So it doesn't work for most guys, but for whatever reason,
like I heard from guys who were like,
in happy relationships,
I know a guy who's been married for 10 years,
he's like, you know,
because you know,
everyone tells me everything.
And he's just like, you know,
it poms me out.
He's like, I love me.
He loves his wife.
He's like, but I always want to tell me
about like guy she's been before
and she doesn't feel comfortable.
He's like, but it turns me on so much.
And, um.
She just makes some shit up,
then lady, what's up with her? But she like, it doesn't want on so much. And. She just makes some shit up, then lady.
What's up?
But she doesn't want to do it.
And then I was out with a next boyfriend,
actually, for dinner last night.
From years ago, he's in town, and he said that he is dating
girl who gets really jealous, because they're like open
and light-shipped, and she gets really jealous of him.
But he's like, I love hearing all the people that she's
with.
He's like, I don't know why, is that weird?
I'm like, no.
So what I'm saying is, how does someone develop it?
Who knows how we develop any other
are sexual kinks?
Like, to me.
Because I can tell you it's the last thing I want to hear.
Most, I say the majority of the matter,
like I can never get that image out of my head.
And that's all they're going to think about.
And then they're going to use it against you.
So I would not, so for women tread lightly here,
or guys, or whoever you're dating,
if your partner says they want this information, test it because there could also be the reverse
where the person's gonna use it against you.
You know what I mean?
But typically, Scott, I get what you're saying.
I know this isn't as common, but.
It's not that there's a movie.
It's one of my favorite movies ever by David Lynch
is called Wild at Heart with Nicholas Cage and Laura Dern.
And there's a scene where he's describing her.
I got a past sexual experience that he had
and great detail about taking a bite of peach
and all this stuff and that she wanna go down on him
and Laura Dern is a girlfriend of the movie
and she's like Lola, she's like listening
to Rekryl and tentland, she's completely getting off on it
and that was my first exposure to that
and it was like that is so odd.
I don't get that, but I know that it's out there.
It is out there, so I would, you know.
I wish I had it. But here's the thing, I wish I had it too. I know that it's out there. It is out there. So I would, you know. I wish I had it.
But here's the thing, I wish I had it too.
I would love to be able to tell guys like my stories if they would be into it.
Like if he wanted to listen, I mean, because they're pretty good stories.
You're not still in the girl thing though.
Like as long as they're listening to me and anything I ever said, it's like to be good
listeners.
I actually did have an ex who wanted me to tell him about all my like three films.
Not that I've had that many, but when I had, he tell me this tell me that what happened? I have to take it
It's how
What do you mean like were you done by the dinner or like
We're still
I'm a story that it was like it's five and sirbini wanted more details
So then I would like make up so I started throwing things in yeah, I was like you got a good story
You got a new kind of a kind of relevant new story. I do what? Yeah, Mexico. Oh, yeah, I'm a suz... People love that story.
Suzboi.
I had a little Mexican lover.
Every time I pass a massage parlor,
which is often, because I live out in the valley
and they're everywhere.
They're on every corner next to a donut store.
Every single one of you.
You think about me?
He's hot.
I love him.
But you're never gonna see him again.
I know.
Well, hey, I know where he is.
I know where he works.
I know where his hot is on the beach.
So, um, so I would, so here's the thing.
I think it'd be kind of cool if a guy wasn't
gonna get jealous and go crazy.
It's hot.
And let me hear it.
Let me tell you something.
If I, I'm trying to think of, I've had a guy
who shared his stuff with me.
I don't really get jealous.
And let, okay, this is what we don't want to hear.
I don't want to hear like how hot she was
and that she gave me the best blow of my life,
but kind of like this cool thing
happened or she went down to me.
Yeah, just grab the actual, just personal.
Yeah, I don't want to give you the other person
feel threatened.
You want to speak into prilatives,
like it was the best ever on this map,
but details, I got it.
So it's actually healthy to talk about your past,
like Scott, here's the thing.
Okay, so Scott, going back to your question is,
your partner's down with it. She's more
than willing to share and you want to know how do you do without being nosy or disrespectful.
So I think you should just like reinforce that it turned, it really turns you on when you tell
you these stories and that that teller that you're concerned say the second this gets weird to
you or the second you feel like I'm pushing you too far or I'm being disrespectful
Let me know but honestly, I just love hearing about you turn out it turns me on he should bring it up like during the act of
Actual sex while they're already heated up or do you think he brings it up over dinner my friends husband whose wife won't do it
He says he wants to hear it during sex
But how does he broach the subject? Oh, I see water both hot're both hot and getting, because she might be more apt to like,
in open and go with the flow.
I think the next day when you guys are together at lunch
or dinner with a big guy last night,
I cannot stop thinking about that sex last night.
When you started telling me about that guy
who went down on you in the kitchen pantry.
No, no, you're talking about after the fact.
How do you get, how do you bring it up?
So you bring it up during the act of sex
is when you bring, when he should bring up the fact
that he would like to hear these things.
Well, I think he's already done, they're already doing it. So, so, oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. She's down with it. She just doesn't like it. No, no.
He said that I love hearing about it. How many partners she's had and she's always honest and willing to share. So she's down with it. Okay. So so far so good. But he just doesn't want to seem like he's putting his brain into push it. So I would say,
babe, that was hot when you told me that story about the reinforce about the
three-some-year-old college. I want you to know that like I just think it's really
hot to think of you having pleasure. But if the second you feel like I'm
pushing you too much or disrespectful, let me know. Yeah. Done. But uh... And if she has a
problem with that, dump that bitch. Right. And explain to her that it truly is like it just turns you on.
And, you know, I don't know if how you like if you like it during or if it's for
play or whatever, but I think just be honest.
Honestly, the best policy. She's down with it. That's cool.
Not every woman's going to be down with that.
She might think you're going to be judged.
You're going to judge her, which, you know, that's the other thing that if I was
a friend telling me this and she was with a new guy.
And he was like, he wants to see her all my past,
I'd be like, he might be like, oh, you slot,
or use it against her.
Yeah, there are some genius views out there.
I can't guys like that.
So, you know who those guys are?
Those are the guys that have like,
ex-girlfriends named Mike in their phone.
Those are real devious fuckers, you know?
Yeah, there's a lot of those.
Yeah.
Okay, what we just gonna say?
Ever do a show with Likus,
or ever have to share space, or Mike was on the show. Tell Mike is who's on my show early on, yeah. He lot of those. Yeah. Okay, what were you just gonna say? Ever do a show with Likus or have to share space
or am I gonna be able to do this?
Tom Likus was on my show early on, yeah.
He was on your show early on.
I didn't know that.
We were both on free FM and it was like my second month.
Wow.
And I terrified he was the big name of the station
and it was my show for him was 11 to 2 in night.
And the program director comes in.
I knew all that.
I remember all this.
So I don't remember him coming up.
He goes, Tom Likus is here.
He's gonna come in in a minute after the commercial break. I was like like I was so nervous. He came most sunglasses
Yeah, I have the tape I'll say that probably red wine and he was like hey, and he was like where the sunglasses on
Yeah, yeah, so and he was like most women did I remember it
I still have it on and he was like you know, they want this and I'm like I'm not like because you know me
I'm really not that woman that he would talk about Tom like is is a
I'm not like because you know me I'm really not that woman that he would talk about Tom like is a radio personality. I think most your listeners probably are
do you think? I know he wasn't everywhere. I'd never heard him until Eddie you know who Tom
like is this? I see Michael naughty. Good. He was kind of a misogynist and he kind of
had the same rap over and over again about how men should like never ever woman move in
don't pay for drinks. Don't that bitch. Right. So he was just talking about how women don't
flash Friday. I'm not like that. He's like well you're not the typical female. It wasn't and don't pay for drinks. Don't that bitch. Right. So he was just talking about how women don't flash for any.
I'm not like that.
He's like, well, you're not the typical female.
It wasn't as scary as I thought.
But what were you going to say about Tom?
Like I said, I voted him and I wanted to, you know, see you.
Got it.
That's a dump that bitch.
And you actually just rolled with her.
Yes, that's absolutely.
Don't dump that bitch.
Yes.
I didn't know you were quoting him.
When I said if she couldn't handle the nice way that you suggested that he put it, he
got to kick that bitch to the curb. Don't dump that bitch. That's mean. Don't say that if she couldn't handle the nice way that you suggested that you got to kick that bitch to the car
Don't dump that bitch. That's me don't say that. See now I'm correcting you. Okay one more
Am I'll yes, you want to talk about uncircumcised penises? Oh, let's do it. Hey elephant dicks. I look dude
That's what they look like they look like elephant trunks
Maybe okay. I mean I don't see that way. I just see a beautiful
penis
And I realized that there's three men in this room
and there's one woman.
And you know, this is a very good chance
that there's an uncircumcised dick in this room.
And I'm behind you.
And I'm being rude.
Eddie has one.
I'm not trying to be rude.
I'm just saying Eddie, in this country,
they look really different and they're scary.
He doesn't care.
We've talked all about his penis.
I mean, penis is a scary to me to begin with,
but when they got the extra- You're right about your to me to begin with, but when they got the extra-
Sure, we've got the heterosexual male.
Yes, but when they got the extra little bits there,
it's like, oh Jesus.
Okay, well let me tell you from a woman's perspective.
Okay.
I've been with several.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah, but let's be fair.
Your name is sexual family.
No, this is pre-sexor family.
Okay.
First time I was in Europe, I was backpacking
and I met a guy from London and he was in
circumcised and I was like, oh, that's interesting.
Like it didn't even, it didn't fit me.
That's bothering the loss on circuit signs.
Yeah, he probably is.
Okay, let's, let's, let's, uh, um, oh, no.
I'm never going to the gym with that guy.
Well, why?
This is different.
I get it.
I just, to me, it's like, you're going to find, well, let me, let's answer a more recent question.
I love your show.
I started dating this guy and he set me a Snapchat pick of his penis.
I was the one that asked for it.
It sort of a turn on for me.
Anyway, I noticed that he is an uncircumcised penis.
I've never been with a man who was uncircumcised.
Any suggestions and out of hand I want.
I need help.
Thanks Marie, age 26.
The first good point here is never send dick picks
unless someone requests it because I got a dick pick
on Snapchat last night.
And you know what I do? I block that person.
Eddie, real quick, I know you're way off Mike, but how many of dick pics do you get in the
email ask questions?
Oh, at least like once a day.
Once a day.
A dick pic a day.
Really?
A dick pic a day for him.
A dick pic a day keeps the guy thinking about that.
Could you record professional?
You give out like really solid advice.
You got the education.
You're behind a microphone.
People respect you
Hey, I'm gonna send her a dick
It happened to me and Snapchat is just falling to bed falling asleep. I just block them
So don't you send me a dick pic? I will get you
I'm gonna get dreamed about the dick. No, it was just ew. No one wants to see a dick in the world
You don't want to see a dick. You don't know who the person is. I don't care
You don't want to see a person sick. You don't know you want to ask for it
You want to know what's coming? It's a good coming. You want to see a person sick, you don't know. You want to ask for it, you want to know what's coming. It's like, oh, you just... Yeah, coming, you want to know.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah.
Okay, so only the fix and request is the first point here.
So, here's a thing about what you need to know
about the uncircumcised penis, is that they
have more nerve endings, which is why they're more sensitive.
Uncircumcised guys might do it kind of differently,
like some like the foreskin pull down some don't
to let him do it the first time you're together and ask him to show you what he
likes.
Like you could do a little mutual masturbation, like watch what he likes, but it's not, don't
fixate it.
Like it's really not like Anderson's fixing it more than I'm telling you, it's like it's
really not that different.
You get a wrap, you can't see.
The foreskin goes away a lot.
Like you just.
Compar paired with Q tipstips and rubbing alcohol.
Listen, the most important thing is that he stays clean, that he's clean before and
clean after.
A lot of guys who are uncircumcised know this.
Don't body shame him, don't fixate on it.
It's really no big deal.
I literally had to stop and think when I read this before the show.
I was like, okay, I did it a guy for two years before I moved here that wasn't
sure on circumcised.
Right.
And I was like, I don't remember.
It wasn't even an issue.
Well, you told me you employed the don't look down method
when you were having sex.
You never looked down because it was going to be too
discerning for it.
I never said that.
So tips, okay, they're more sensitive,
make sure you clean.
Hand jobs can be easier.
The four skin moves better.
It's kind of having like a flashlight built into your penis,
like a sleeve that goes up and down. Like one of those kids toys, right?
Ask them how those things no, all right
They're like a little inside out water balloons are really fun. Yes, I don't talk about that's always
Remind me on a circumcised weiner like when you touched it felt like that or yeah, right
How sensitive you know again ask him how he likes to be touched definitely work condoms as you always shared and just treat it with love
Like it's another it's a part of his body.
You're going to find that once you see it, like it's really, I can understand your anxiety
around it, but it's like really no, really not that different.
It's not that it's more sensitive.
Way more natural than my weener and, and you can tell him, you know what you can say,
God, that's so hot.
You can say, I've never been with one, but like I want to know exactly what to do.
I think that's so hot.
So she has not had sex with this man.
She's not touched as weaned, but she's seen as pean,
and she knows it's uncircumcised.
It's weird, it's a weird world we live in.
It is a real...
Girls are seen, there are partners, dicks,
before they even touch them.
That's odd.
I know, it is odd.
You're right.
Well, at least she has time to prepare
an email sex zone now, and I can help her.
You know what, I would do if I hadn't uncircumcised
being this and back in the day,
back in my heyday.
Any excuse I could muster or find
to like having an excuse to show a girl I was interested in
like to get the weener out of the pants and show her like
in the bar you just whip it out.
Or like a younger days like a house party or something.
Like oh yeah, I swear, I got to Prince Albert.
You want to see, got to ladder, you want to see.
Oh, show you, you want to show to the crowd.
I never did this, I never had excuse. And I never wanted to do got the ladder you want to see oh show you You want to show to the crowd I never did this I'm just I never have excuse
But right and I never wanted to do it so badly that I'll go get my my dick pierced
But if I had a father's not circumcised with my damn parents and take my membrane away from me for a
Scan I would have had a built an excuse you on the circus
Yeah, and like just like do every's not that you it's a freak thing
But like that you could just have an excuse to show your penis everywhere
Not that yeah, that would take a whole new level like on that guy like just stretch like julk for a living
That was the wrong thing. Yeah, something just you'd like to be somewhere where you could be like an exhibitionist right
That's on the percentage of people that aren't circumcised in this country. Do we know?
I would say in this country answer. I don't know the percentage right now that most are but I know that in most of the world
I said like one in 20 in this country probably I would I know that most of the world are not. I'd say like one in 20 in this country, probably.
I would say that most of the world they are not circumcised, but in the America they
are.
That's what I have to say.
I joke.
I know there's a lot of people who aren't circumcised and I think it's hot.
I'm like, oh my God.
I actually think it might be going a little too over correction there.
You don't suck them.
Okay.
That's a really great way.
And the show.
Have you ever been sucking an uncircuit like penis when you thought he came,
but then you realized it was just a smag.
It's never happened.
Good.
No, because that would be awful.
Good question though, Anderson.
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