Sex With Emily - Good, Good, Good Vibrations: Sex Toy Review

Episode Date: November 10, 2018

On today’s show, Emily is joined by fellow sex educator Elle Chase and her team because it’s SEX TOY REVIEW DAY! So gear up & take notes – you may be adding a few things to your wishlist this year. They get into all the toys, lubes, and products that have been rocking their bedrooms lately, sex hacks for using toys alone and with a partner, and some other sexy ideas you can take to bed. All the products talked about on the show can be found at sexwithemily.com/toys. Thank you supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE:  Adam & Eve, Apex, Good Vibrations & We-Vibe Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more advice, tips and tricks visit: sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm doing my fellow sex educator, L Chase, and my team because it's Sex Toy Review Day. So, gear up, take notes. You may be adding a few things to your wish list this year, so just get prepared because we're getting into it. So, some of the topics we're going to cover, all the toys, lubes, and products that have been rocking our bedrooms lately.

Using toys with a partner and a loan, and some ideas you can definitely take with you to bed. All this and more, thanks for listening. Mock are sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a bike on day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. Hey girls, gotta have a stand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between.

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I have a radio show starting on Series XM, Radio Stars channel 109. I'm gonna be there Monday through Friday, five to seven PM, Pacific 8 to 10 Eastern, 5 days a week, you guys. This is a dream. So now you can listen to me on the radio every night. You can call in, we can chat, just like our call show is here, but you can do it every day. So I'm really excited. And I'm just excited to be reaching more of you and talking about sex and relationships and the podcast will still be here for all of you. So, okay, on to my amazing team and guest here.

L Chase, no stranger to the show. Hello. Hi, she's an educator and a dear friend. Yes, a dear friend. And her dog is my god dog, Callerin, if you've seen it on social. So L's done many a thing. Al, would you like to give a brief rundown? Because we get your perspective where you're coming from?

Let's see. I am the author of Kirby Girl Sex, which is not just a sex book for positions for people of size, but it's actually a great position book for any size, anyone, especially people with mobility issues. It's a really good book for that. I also have two coloring books that are not safe for work. It's called Not Safe for Work.

Perfect. I got a telework coloring book. No confusion. No confusion. And that's it. Good. And Elle, she's super talented, a very good friend of mine. We talk about her book.

We've recently used it. It uses it as source. We use curvy girl sex as a source all the time. So thanks for coming back. Thanks for having me. She got a wealth of sex toy knowledge as well And you got Jamie producer Jamie. Hello, everyone And Sarah. Hi. Hi, it's assistant producer Sarah. Is that what we're calling you? Yes. Cool Okay

So we are here today because we did a survey and we heard from a lot of you which was amazing So we're gonna be releasing the results But a lot of you said you love the sex to review show and we thought we love the sex to review shows too and we haven't done it in a while I'd say a few months it's time it's time we've had so many sex toys come through our office it's just insane and we need to share with you all the wisdom well you should buy what you shouldn't buy what you should say about for all that stuff. So, we could start, let's get into it.

Yeah, okay, let's get into the hot octopus, pulse three, the solo or the duo. So, it's essentially a masturbation sleeve or a guy-brainer, but it doesn't really vibrate, it actually oscillates. On the frontium, which is that your favorite spot on the penis, it's the underside of the penis, it's that little spot between the shaft and the head that feels so good for so many men. So how you use it, you wrap it off underneath,

you use it with lube to stroke it, or you can use it hands free. And so you guys, it's just cool. Think about it. It's like a, it's a sleeve that guys can use by themselves or with a partner. And it's just, I don't know, all the penises have let us know that they very much have enjoyed it.

I know the founder and creator Adam and I met him a few years ago and he was like, oh, I have this really cool company I'm starting. And I was like, oh, God, that sounds amazing. And then I started seeing the prototypes. And now it's been out for a few years. And it's, people are loving all their products. And so I gave it to Ben and he loved it. But then I just texted him, I'm like,

hey, we're talking about it. And he knew updates, so you still like getting on with the hot octopus and he just texted me this. How fortuitous, because he used it last night actually, had to try with VR porn, of course. It was pretty unreal. We're the full, I don't like, I'm gonna take him.

We're the full VR helmet. Through myself and do a hot for-way with the pulse on my peen. Probably the closest I've ever come to Simulated Sex. It was hot. Well, and then I said, oh I got kind of, I'm like, oh a for some, I don't know that. I said, I love for some. For some is a new three-sum, and she said, well, not with three chicks and a dude. That's still fantasy island stuff, which he's wrong. Anyway, he says, and VR porn, I kind of figured out a big stomach whenever. So he loves it with VR porn. And it's taking him a lot of more setup to use VR porn,

but I think that sounds amazing. The hot octopus, and he says it's like nothing he's ever felt. Yeah, I think it's just, I'm starting with this because we do talk about a lot of toys for women and for couples, but we don't often say like, here's what guys can use to kind of mix up your team, learn your body more. It was actually initially created for medical purposes. What's their thing?

For medical workers is to make a person and ejaculate involuntary, So it's good for some ED problems. And also if you're paralyzed of limited mobility, hot octopus is your friend. I think so. What do you guys feel? I remember when we got them in, and so I texted the guy I'm seeing,

and I'm like, I have something for you, and he's like, wait, what do you mean? I was like, it's specifically for you, like for your dick. And he's like, I have something for you. And he's like, wait, what do you mean? I was like, it's specifically for you, like for your dick. And he's like, really? He was very excited about it. And it was kind of cool to like, you know how when you use toys during sex, it's usually like a toy on, like if you're like a woman with a man,

it's usually a toy being used on you. But it was kind of cool like using a toy on him to see the difference there. And I was like, oh, so this is what you usually, like using a toy on him to see the difference there. And I was like, oh, so this is what you usually feel like and it's hot. How did it feel? I mean, he liked it and it was like, I held it for him in a sense, used a blue, obviously, so I could do some motion instead of just like having my hand holding his dick, like staring at it, you know? But it was really cool. He enjoyed it. I felt good that I was like giving

him something that he could use to enhance his pleasure. So you were turned on. I was. No, it was good. It was a good experience for both of us. I have used it. I did not know that. I have used this in the past. I've been tried like the new fancy one, which I have to get my hands on. But I have used it in the past. And what I like about it is that it doesn't completely cover the whole shaft. So if you want to, you can get your tongue in between those two little areas that almost come together. So he can get the actual sensation of the oscillation while you're licking or sucking or doing whatever, depending on your person's your eyes.

Malka gay, Pear. Yeah, I did not know. Yeah, I mean, if their skin's showing, I'm looking at it. Let me do that. So, that's a good point because a lot of sleeves go all the way around. This week it hold or cradle or you could still lick it, so we're still participating and involved. Or if you want to watch TV, you could just have one hand holding your other hand, you could be like texting with the other hand. You know, depends on

what you want to get. Let's go in all in. Jamie would in, you know. So, I know. Good blow jaw tip. Sarah? I haven't used it yet. I haven't grabbed it when yet because I was afraid of your story. You're saying you haven't seen Ben in a while. I was like, oh, I don't know Oh, I could grab one but I just haven't yet. Okay, because Berthie's coming up so I'm thinking about it and Ellen inspired me totally with her story That's a cool sex hack Exactly That is all about sex acts sex tips here what I like it is a good couples toy because you like we said it's just to share

Share it all of it share in the play share the fun, the oscillation just feels really cool. The front of them, so many nerve endings. And so I think a lot of guys think, oh, yeah, that's what it's called. That's what I do. Yeah. You might, so you might like the oscillation. There's different levels, different speeds, it's waterproof. Yeah.

And then when my guy used it alone, he said he actually turned it around so that the oscillation was on the head of the penis more than the frenulum and he actually like really enjoyed it that way. So that's kind of interesting because I never even thought I'm like, oh you could just turn it around. Yeah, exactly. Just those little things. So you guys, everything, oh, also everything we're talking about today, you can find it

sexwithm.ly.com slash toys, which is easy. All right, shall we move on? Yes. Ah, we are going to talk about the womanizer premium. Ah, we all love womenizer fans. What's there? I've never asked you. I do like womanizer a lot.

Okay, you don't see with under your pillow like Jamie, but you, it's right next to me, though, my drawer. So, and it's like in grabbing distance. Okay, cool. So, this is there. okay, good, perfect. So this is their premium. I mean, we've been talking about what we're nice are for maybe four years now

and they've had a lot of different, really cool models, but it all uses the same technology. Anyone want to explain the technology? Talk about it, or. I believe, I mean, I'm going to layman's term it. I think it's called their air pulse technology. Pleasure air technology. Pleasure air technology.

It gives you little pulses of air. Maybe that's where I was getting the pulse. But it's this little silicone sort of head that has a hole in it and attached to the silicone head is the actual quote unquote toy. And it blows little puffs of air at your clip, which you put in the hole on the suction cup. Yeah.

And you don't, I mean, for me, I don't personally feel like the air pulsing on it. I don't know what it is, it's like magic. It's like sorcery of some sort. And it just feels really good. For people who like clit stimulation, I think this is sort of the Nirvana of sex toys because it is a feeling like no other.

And I really think that for me personally, it feels the most like Conalingus than any other toy, even though there's no tongue involved or, you know, swishing about and all of that. And also found that moving that nozzle from your clit, maybe after you've orgasmed, down if you have a very sensitive pussy opening, vaginal opening, labiant stuff like that, it's really, really great on that as well. It's really my favorite toy. I have like three toys in my nightstand,

and that's one of them, and that's my premium model. The premium model. Yeah, the premium model. Yeah. It's a special one. I have to say, you think how could they top it? But they're very different. And so, but this, I mean, they're all the same reason.

Your clitters is going to have a party. And using all of them, but this one uses the smart, silent technology that actually is that's like the big thing with this one and the really it's silicone and it's a different shape, it's beautiful, but also the smart, silent technology is cool because it only turns out when it's in contact

with your skin. And so it's actually silent. Hence the wizard. Hence the wizard tree. Hence the wizard tree. It is like it keeps getting more magical, but how do you do this? And then it gets on, you can hear it, and you take it off.

So if someone walks into the room, you throw it off the bed, you're just like, it gives you more privacy. Yeah, because I mean toys are gonna, people are gonna hear it, depending on where, like if they're past, if depending on how thin your walls are maybe, or if someone does just come

into the room unannounced, because apparently knocking is not a thing in every household, which I grew up thinking it was, but I've been to other people's houses where it's like, there is no knocking. So literally, you could just be like under the blanket, you could just take it off and no one would be the wiser. And literally it just shuts off. Yeah, you don't have to worry about shutting off.

Like I would used to use a bullet with sex. Then you have to worry about like shutting off the bullet or else it sort of moves throughout the bed. A lot of pain time every time. You can hear it like, and this you just take off and you forget about it. So it's fantastic. And I agree with the labia part

because I've been studying for this show now for weeks. I crash. I was like, oh, I want to use these toys together. I haven't used the new ones. No, but I was thinking about it, you know, when I'm master, even though I'm very mindful in the moment, I'm also thinking, how would I explain what I'm enjoying right now? And I was thinking the same thing that it's so interesting because it does, it is purpose is the, I call it the Clint Whisperer, and it can't go over your clitoris, but that feeling feels good everywhere. So, I can wrap the labia iner and it can go over your clitoris but that feeling feels good everywhere. So I dragged the labia in her outer plane just on your nipples.

Yeah, it was really cool sensation. Yeah, that's how I had, when I was using the to-go though, that's how I had my first nipple orgasm. It was just using it on there. With loop. With loop. Yeah, yeah, with loop. I could feel that. No, like it did. Yeah. I

Channels you like afterwards it was like I sat up in my bed and I was like I was like telepathically like My friends often say I was so thinking about you during sex because I did you know I asked my husband to whatever people friends mine. So I think of either night or you sex Anyway, thank you. I appreciate that. I mean, I'm there with you. So yeah, I like it. I've used it. I've used it with the partner. I use it then. I like using it. I like using it with my own jam because I feel like I get really get into it. So I like using it with myself. It's more so. I feel like it's a really cool tool to explore your area too, because that

nozzle can be so super fine, depending on which one you use. And you get to just feel the different sensations of your vulva area and the clitorial legs, like I was saying with like the opening, right? You know, it's great for a rousal too. So say you don't want to actually come with it. It is really a valid toy to use just for a rousal too. So say you don't want to actually come with it. It is really a valid toy to use just for a rousal purposes. And if you say you don't want to use a toy during sex, you can just use it beforehand to arouse yourself.

Maybe people who have, or having trouble getting aroused in the moment or whatever, you can do this before, put on your labia, put on your nipple. It's just, it's great for playing for yourself with the partner. You're right. whatever you can do this before, put on your labia, put on your nipple. It's just. It is great for play for yourself, always the part where you're right. That is true, because it does work

to the 62nd orgasm. I mean, it's for many women. It's just like, it's a sure thing, and that's a good point. Some people I've found, like, when I tried the first version of the womanizer, I found that there was a little bit of a learning curve sometimes.

So if you're not getting it right, or you feel like you're not getting it right in the very first try, give it some time. You'll find the right, the sweet spot, the right area, and then soon you'll be a pro like everyone here. Exactly. Don't give up right now. I agree. You just got to play with it first again, but you're right.

And they definitely improve it on that. What I like about this one too is that it tells you the battery life has the four bars, three bars, like let me know if it's gonna die. So I can look at it. Like I'll bring the charger. Yeah, there's like, it's funny because with the other version, I do, that's what I do like about the premium.

Like you can see that because with the other version, it's like, there's a red light on it, right? And when it starts to die, it'll start blinking. So I have to like, but it's on the bottom of it. So I have to like look at my finger every everyone's on it. I'm like, okay, it's not blinking because you could see the light on your finger. I'm like, I'm good. I still have enough time to get through this session because it's died on me before in the middle. And then I'm like, oh my God, I need to go find another one like stat.

I know. I actually get to this later, but I know you organize all your sex toys in a very innovative way But I've been thinking about that like how to keep my because I'm redoing my whole room. I'm organ I'm able sex toy wall That's awesome. Yeah, so yeah, but keeping the charger there. So they're already that's in a world in a dream my dream Every toy always charged in a world where all my sex toys are organized with labeled chargers Oh labeled In the world, where all my sex toys are organized, with labeled chargers. Labeled. OK, so that is the one we're gonna answer. We talked about a lot, but I wanted to break down

the newest one for you, the premium, any other thoughts, excitement. I do like that it's like the whole toy is made out of new materials. It's not because before I was just like the tip was made out of the silicone, but now it's like the entire toy is, so it kind of gives it like a more elegant look, I think.

It is, you're right. And like also I just feel better about like, I just like silicone toy, so I just feel better about it, and it's easier to clean and feel more luxurious. Yeah, I'm more luxurious. And it comes in black and white, you guys got the white, right? And purple.

And purple, I prefer salt, okay, I just got the black. I think I have the purple on, I don't know. I don't know, it's all blurred to me. I'm not looking at it. Exactly. Okay. Should we move on to loops? Yes. Oh my god, over the loop. Let's talk about over the loop. It's a silicone lube. They have one kind of lube. It's one lube and it's silicone. And it's lightweight.

It's, if you're not familiar, lightweight, long-lasting, nonsticky can also be used as a moisturizer to brighten tattoos in your hair. Today I was taking a photo. I'm like, my hair's frizzy. And so I was like, the Uberlube, because it actually does work for Frizz, works for Chafing and Sport.

But the thing about silicone is when I first got in this business, there was a lot of negative talk around silicone. It was more of like got a bad rap or that it was, I feel like it was people who only made water-based leaves weren't that into it, but silicone leaves perfectly, you know, if you try it on your body, it can save it last longer. I mean, like any product you've to test it out,

but I have found that I very much enjoy silicone leaves. And I love it. We're leaving the bottles. We're gonna be a bottle presentation. The whole thing. Yeah, it's really nice. Like, I used it for the first time a couple of weeks ago. And I was super surprised by just like after using it.

It feels your hands feel so soft. Like your area feels so soft. It feels like it's really nice. And like you're saying for your hair. And then some people would use it for like chaping for like their workouts and stuff in sports. So it's pretty good too. Yeah, I mean, I had, I before I started here,

I wasn't really a lube person, even though I needed it, I just never like thought to go out and get it. But I had like always thought, I'm like, okay, silicone that does just sounds like it would not be something I'd be into. Like it just sounds, like it was like I was wary of it, but then like really like it, it's like the, it's the best kind of flu that I've ever used. I've never, I've never been talked about this.

Well, yeah, like water, because I was very much like, I love the system Joe, Hio, Hio watermelon one. I know that like some people have some things about flavored loos, but I honestly, I just think this one tastes good, and it's not because I- Right, it does it for oral. Yeah, and it smells like,

it's not like a thing that I need for like oral or things like that. I just think it smells good. Like, I don't know, I love watermelon. But this, but this like, but the uberloom, it's like this, it's like I don't, you don't have to worry about any stickiness afterward. It's like it really does just like work into your skin. And like, I don't know, it's like this, I don't, you don't have to worry about any stickiness afterwards, like it really does just like work into your skin.

And like, I don't know, it's like you don't have to reapply, which is the best part. It's like it just lasts for so long. Yeah, which is often a problem with lubes. You're like gotta reapply, reapply. I wish Lou bottles would vibrate sometimes because you can't find, do you use a dirty sacks? Like when they put it in the bag now,

it's just like, I love that it's just a pop by my nightstand, but you can't find it where the Lou go. There I have it, where the Lou go. Where is the Lou? It's so funny because I like my nightstand, which I'm grieving to Jamie. Yes. I'm getting a nightstand.

I think that's sort of like symbolic in a way that I'm handing over by nightstand to you. But it's literally just filled with bottles and bottles of Lou now, because I've been at Jens or I've been at the Lou bout before. I've opened up, but I've been at pens like, where's the Lou? I'm like, where's the loop? I'm like, no, we're using this particular loop.

So I'm not gonna what? So I'm gonna take all the loop out before you give it to me. Maybe not. Just a little house over there. I mean, if you, I wouldn't be mad if you left one or two. Oh, yeah, for sure. Of course, loop for all.

But I love the little travel size too. They have a travel size that I just, it's always in my travel bag because it's got the little pump. It's just elegant. It is. It has the it is classy and classy inside of your bed you don't know what it is it could actually be for your hair it's the same stuff that you use in hair you could like literally leave it on your nightstand and it would like blend in as this gorgeous like just accessory piece to your room true with a glass bottle like a few model even the sample bottles they're cool little like test to be looking things They're really cool. I gave some to the guy. I'm seeing and he's like, he's like these are cool

I was like you I know Oh Like like when he used the toy that hot octopus by himself first He's like, why didn't have any lube so used olive oil and I? And I just like, no, I'm giving you loob right now. Why would you do this? How does a guy you've been dating for year not have any loob?

I just never gave him any. I mean, we generally, like, we use it during sex, but not that often. I know. No, it's cool. I get it. No, I'm just saying because when I hear people, friends of mine say to me or anyone, they're like,

I'm going to buy a loob. Oh, my mom, I told her I'd send her over loob. Reminder. So my mom was coming. Uberly was coming. I'm always like, no of mine say to me or anyone, they're like, I'm gonna buy a loot. Oh my mom, I told her I'd send her a loot reminder. So my mom was coming, I'm always like, no, you have to have a look, I get upset with people don't have loot, personally, that's why. I got it. I'm like, you need to try a loot. Like, what, what, what, what, what,

sex is better with loot, everything's better with loot. I think it was a one time thing, hopefully. Right, don't let that happen again, Jamie. I think it was a one time thing. That's the biggest disappointment of your relationship that I've ever heard, in fact. I'm not sure I don't know if this relationship's... I don't know. Okay, so, all right, so that's the lube.

You guys, again, check it out on the site. So third love bras. Okay, there has been a hype around them. I see them. I was in New York. They're advertising the buses and the subway. You know, I'd heard of it. People were talking.

People loved them. And then then what I love, they came aboard. Like, we want to work with you in your show. And so what I like about third love is their whole thing is like a lot of companies now, they cut out the middle man, you can't get it in stores, you can only get it on their site. But what's so cool is you go there and you take a survey to find your size, and they ask you a lot of really good questions and you find bras that are tailored to your needs.

And you can donate, use bras to women's and need, you get an expert fit stylist, tags. There's no tags, right? No tags. It says tags come with tips that no one talks about. Oh, it's the paper tags that you take off. Yeah. Like the price tag thing. Right.

Oh, but they don't have a tag on them. Like, there's no tags. First of all, this is one of the most brilliant things. They free exchanges returns all that. We're going to get into all of our, we all did it here. I came in the first day, I got it before Jamie and Sarah. And I was like, look at my bra. I don't have a fashion, but it's like, I got the cool t-shirt.

And they were right when I did the whole quiz, they're like, sounds like you need a t-shirt bra. I'm like, how did they know? So I got, because sometimes you wear shirts, and they, you know, nipples stick out, it's all blumpy, and you're like, that's not the look I'm going for. So a t-shirt bra hold you up, it fits, it's soft,

and there are no tags. Can we just talk about how annoying when you have tag? Because you can cut a bra tag off, and you lose the, the tag scratches you. So anyway, I just think it's smart and I love the bros. I've been dying to try them. I've seen them everywhere and I see them on Instagram. I'm like, God, that's a really smart idea. It is smart. It's really smart. And they've all these sizes too. That's the thing they don't, they've half sizes. So I came in. I was like, you guys look and then then they were like that's really cool. I was like I'm gonna get you got by you guys and bras. So then

Jamie and Sarah when did their whole thing if you want to talk about your Sarah hasn't flashed me out with hers but's very beautiful. I got like this olive green transformer back where like you can undo the clasps on the back and make it a race or like the X racer back right yeah so I thought that was really cool and then it comes with like this it has like a little peekaboo design a little cut out in the front and it's all I also got them a just like a what it's called what's called the under the t- a, just like a, what it's called, the under the t-shirt broad, just like the basic, you know? Oh, good, yeah. But it's like super tight and it like, it holds me

and you know what I mean? And I love how they give you like the little tips that it comes with, like you always wanna start on the last class, only adjust your straps every other month, I think. Did you know this? I didn't know this. No, I'm telling you, I read it. I was like, I didn't know to adjust my straps every month.

No. Yeah, like every other month or every month or every month. Yeah. Which makes sense, but I always follow off. Oh, mine, I just had you. Yeah. You're talking me stuff. Yeah.

Yeah, the straps, like, usually I'm like, I'm like, why? I'm like, and I never would think, like you would think, the straps are falling off, you should adjust them. But it's like not something. You're just like, oh my bra's getting older, whatever, and you're just like, you're like, oh, pew, pew, pew, right. Right.

Right. Exactly. Yeah, the one that I got, I got a strapless bra. So I didn't like wait for them to tell me what style would be best for me, but I was like, oh, I want to try out this strapless bra, but there was just something about it that didn't quite work for me. However,

I went on to exchange it because they have free exchanges. As soon as I went to the exchange page, a little chat popped up. It was like the best customer service that I've ever gotten. They're like, what didn't work for you? How can we help you with this? I just told them, I let them know what kind. They're like, okay, so let's search for some, they gave me options. Like, I didn't even have to search the website. They're like, how about these ones? If this is the style you're looking for, and I found the bra that I wanted,

and they sent me, we're a shipping label, and they're sending me a new, a new bra. It was like literally like the best customer service. And I look for that a lot in like companies. Like, if something doesn't work, because I normally don't return things, I'm like, it's gonna be a hassle and it's gonna make this whole thing.

And they made it so, so easy for me and I'm really excited to get the new one should be coming in the next day. Yeah, cool. What do you do? How do you guys wash your bras? I'm just curious. Oh, I'm awful.

Me too. You throw it in the wash, just do that. Throw in the wash. I'll get those little bags. That's the way to do it. I haven't actually washed it. I have so many of them. Oh my God.

I obsessed with washing my, I just put them in the little zip bag. I didn't know that that was the thing. I haven't actually what I have like so many of them. Oh my god. I obsessed with washing my I just put them in the little zip bag. I didn't know that that was me. Yeah, because then you get class and it gets caught in everything Yeah, so it preserves the life of your bra So I have these little bra holder. I have I have you have the little Plastic holders for the bra for two dollars, but I have a few of them because I lose them That's what like you will lose socks. That's such a great idea. Yeah, it is because then that last helps them last longer preserve them Yeah, do you pick them in the dryer? No, no, I never pick them in the dryer. I hang them up Yeah, hang dry. That's the one thing I do, but I didn't know that there was like I did a proper way

It's I just yeah, there is I mean, but not everyone's gonna want to buy this little thing But it just helps preserve it's because then they get bally and they get the class break. And if you know, they're in this bras. So I think to preserve them, put them a little lingerie bag. Yeah, no, you're right. You do it the right way. So yeah, and then just if you guys want to get these bras, you can check them out, sexthenly.com slash toys. Look for the third love.

The third love one, they're really good. I'm glad they're good, because when they came, I was like, oh, they look cool and I'm glad that they actually. I'm glad we're the ones. I've been wearing it every day, so now I'm like, that's the other thing, question. How many bras do you really circulate in your life? Like do you wear the same one every day for a month?

I wear, you know what? This is a source of shame for me. Yeah, oh, good. Because I was never told like when to wash them or how often you wear. And so through my life, I've come across girlfriends who are like, oh, I only wear my twice and then I put them in the wash. And I'm like, but there are no meagus membranes. It's just body.

Like if you're sweating, I get it, but whatever. I don't wash them until they get a little... Cresty? Yeah. It's a little funky. many deodorant stains. I get, like, if I got caught, like, what my mother used to say, you know, God forbid, you should go to the, in the hospital with the ambulance and they take this off

and you have a dirty bra. You know what I mean? Like, something like that. So when it gets to that point where I can't be seen in a hospital with that bra, then I've thrown the wash. Okay, that's a good litmus test. Yes, yeah. Right. I, yeah, I circulate, I just like to be huge cleaning out,

I cleaned out a lot, I don't feel like I need as many, and as I thought I needed it, and I probably circulate them, I don't know, few every month, and then I wash them once a month, I'm just curious. Yeah, I think you're a gerry. Like I wear one for like, generally usually like a week and a week and a half, and then, yeah, but I do have friends that Changes are brought every day and I'm like, but why depends on what you're wearing though. Like today. I'm wearing this

Well, I mean if it depends on like the shirt. There's a difference Like yeah for changing for your outfit purposes or changing because she just changes it every day because she's like it's dirty After you wear like a shirt. I'm like, no, it's not because she just changes it every day because she's like, it's dirty after you wear it, like a shirt, I'm like, no, it's not cool. Well, thank you for that. Let, thank you for that information on the bras. Okay, guys, we're gonna take a quick break

from our sex toy review show to talk about some of our sponsors. So thanks for supporting them, and we'll be right back with your pleasure. Okay, let's move on to Foreya Awakened. Foreya Awakened is a pre-loom. Essentially you use it before sex, but you could also use it during intercourse. You use it like 30 minutes before and you rub it.

It's a spray. It comes in a bottle and you spray it like on your clitoris, your vulva. You just spray it everywhere, wait like 15, 20 minutes until you start to feel, you'll feel some tingling, you'll feel some different sensations and then really essentially it's too, kind of, you know, it helps with relaxation,

it helps with pain for a lot of women, it helps with dryness, just tension. We hold so much tension in our pelvic floor and our vulva. Like we just do, so that kind of just helps you can help you relax. Tense, relax. I sounded like my keg of nerve ab. And it can increase the arousal

and also help with natural lubrication. I love for ya. They were on the show, if you guys wanna hear more about it. But it's interesting this whole CBD thing is huge. There was something in New York Times and you see this, there was a big article in about, um, I know, in a smart Whenever someone I was at this cabbages show that I'm just the Alexander said something like I was reading the paper like

What do you say? I didn't have to brag like the people say like I was reading our time sick not to brag So not to brag but and so it was talking about just why CBD everywhere essentially and it really is right now It really is a magic the plant and it's very healing and And so, you know, I think you could buy it anywhere and I think we're seeing some amazing things with it including this pre-loop or you could use this as a loop as well. They call it a pre-loop. I can, you can use it I think as a loop.

But it really just like, you know how sometimes after you're masturbating or after you have sex that you feel a little like raw, I guess, in your general area. Sometimes. Sometimes. When you don't use enough loop. Well, this, like, but also even sometimes when you're using loop, like, I don't know,

it's like, that's just how I don't know. I just feel like afterwards, when I use for you, like afterwards, after having whatever kind of thing that I was doing, I just feel very, still very nice down there, very relaxed, very soft. Right, you just sort of relax, I see which thing you relax into it. Yeah. And you just kind of feel there's a difference. No rawness.

That's big sense. No rawness. Because it's good for pain. And raw. I just started using it for masturbation. And I liked it. I need to do it a little bit more. So I have to masturbate more for science.

But I actually, I kind of liked it. I need to do it a little bit more, so I have to master it more for science. But I actually, I kind of liked it. When I had a partner and we were monogamous, we used oil for sex and foria for sex. And it was quite lovely. But you can't use a condom with it, just so you know. Right. Because it breaks down the condoms, the oil. But yeah, I love it.

I think it's really great. I believe in CBD and they're suppositories for period pains. Can I just tell you? Oh my God, that saved my life. My best friends life too. I mean, they are amazing. It just takes away your cramps. It completely takes away your cramps. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Smells good. Smells like. It does kind of make your private part smell like, like for you But the spa stories do you smell a little weed like yeah? Well if you want that you know, I don't mind. Yeah, I'm cool with that Sorry, but all of L.A.s at Los Angeles You can't go your target parking lot. You can't smoke in a bowl.

It's really everywhere. Yeah. Right. It's not so much about the smog anymore. But there's days. Every building you walk into, like, who's the most memorable? Remember we used to go to the record

the show and that building and every time we got that building. It's the weed elevator. It was like the more we're building, building, and Beverly Hills were like, who is smoke complete? So I think it feels great. I kind of become part of my ritual now because I do use it for masturbation.

So now I see I'll kind of, when I'm thinking about masturbating it's like my part of my routine and I'll spray it and then I'll like rub it in and then I'll do something else and I'm like, okay, I'm gonna back to bed now because usually I'm like, I don't know, like sometimes I just don't go right to the masturbation. Like how do you, I don't know, like I don just don't go right to the masturbation. Like how do you, I don't know,

like I don't often do before bed, which makes sense or in the morning, I usually do it at random times that it's not as natural. Like you're getting up quickly, I'm going to fall on this tired. So I make more of a ritual out of it. So like make sure all my toys are charged. I just did this recently, where they're all charged now.

And then like I have, I did clean out the bottom doors for you, Jamie, or I'll do, but now in the top two doors, I have just the things I'm using. So then that's my pre-thing, relax into it, breathe. And then I'll go, and then I sit down and lay down. Sit down and pull up my toys and fire up your laptop and get to business. Turn up. So I don't really do that.

That's I'm watching porn. But even that's, I gotta get an iPad. We just got an iPad here for porn. No, but maybe. I'm gonna take it. See, no one even knows that we have in here. I might take it home. Look at some lady cheeky.

That's right. I forgot to mention that she runs one of the voted by Kha'zoh Magazine, the top. You run it. Yeah. Did you know that? I didn't know that. I didn't know that.

Did you want to get her autograph? Do I get her autograph with her after? Yes, ladychicky.com, essential and erotic pictures. And it's a great website to get aroused with your partner by or just masturbation material for yourself. But yeah, it was voted best porn for women by Cosmo and Huffington Post and it's been in like every magazine. Yeah, it has them.

Yeah, so it's just ladychicky.com. I have a question. Yeah. So tell me about curating this site. I just want to know like how, how do you find images? It's really just, what's your process for finding images? Because every day you're uploading images, like it's so sexy, it's just want to know like how how do you find images? It's really just what's your process for finding images because every day you're uploading images like it's so sexy, it's like I'm a coward. It's his hot. I am at the mercy of the people I follow on Tumblr because it uses the Tumblr platform, which is a social media platform. And so all the people you follow,

you see their pictures. So I follow really hot sites that already post pictures and gifts or jiffs or however you're supposed to say it. So I just re-blog. And I just pick the ones that turn me on and that hit and aesthetic that is not so quote unquote porny and more sort of sensual and desirous, not to say that I don't post like hardcore porn sometimes because we all have moods.

But yes, because I know what she was thinking to me. I know she was thinking. And there's lots and lots of post-eating because it's my blog and I am going to post whatever I like. Right, everything. My favorite thing too. Me too.

And I just love it. Whatever I like. My favorite thing. My favorite thing too. Me too. And I just, I just love it. And you know what's so interesting is that both males and females look at it about 50-50. That's the split. That's awesome. Yeah. So I don't know if I have this thing. That is really interesting.

Yeah. Anyway, we all find it out. Sarah, yeah. You like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like, you like it out. Sarah, yeah. You like, like, I've heard about it on this show. Right. I didn't know before she came here.

So I've been talking about it for long times since I've known you five years. Yeah. So that's why she gave me. So thanks for what I was wondering with the life behind the point that they just love the new identity secrets. So that she's not just like in a dark room going like, how, what am I posting today? It's right. It's right.

It's just, yeah, from her loins to yours. That's right. It's right. From her loins to yours. That's right. I love that. Anything else for you? Do you have the website? Yeah, the cool thing about CBD is that it is now legal in all the states so you can get for you everywhere. And it's not going to get you high. So that's just like, if you're scared, you're like, no, I can't get high.

It won't get you high. That's not what CBD does. It doesn't have psychoactive properties. Yes. The CBD. Let's talk about a neros. And neros. I do want to get into talk about. Yeah. Introduce the neros, Sarah. Yeah. So a neros is all about hands-free pleasure. And it's made with high-quality non-porous, medical grade plastic. but they also have little corn toys too, and they also have vibrating toys and some toys for females. But mostly this floor is for men. Mostly for prostate. For prostate. For people with prostate.

Yes. And my human that I am with has a prostate. And we like to play with it. So we've tried a nearest before. I gave him his own courtesy of Emily and I gave him the UFO. And that one is an easy beginner one to use part of the Trident series. It's a narrow and the way that the arm handles are designed, they can hit your spots like your perinium and your casepot and it's all about flexing the anal muscles,

your sphincter muscles, to create that motion. So you get to optimize whatever kind of sensation and pleasure you want to feel in there. So he mostly uses it for himself. I have the Helix sink. The Helix sink. It's like the black silicone one. And I have yet to use that one with him, but I'm going to like to throw it in a bag and use it maybe tonight. Yeah, exactly. I think it's the Helix SYN, S-Y-N-O.

SYN. Yeah, okay. You've experienced poking a prostate? I, in fact, that's how I used to refer to it. I'd like to poke your prostate. I'm poking at it, man. I'd like to show you my drawings and poke your prostate. I've actually used it on myself before because it's basically a butt plug for me. I like that when I've used it with a partner, I like that it was modeled after the inside of a band's rectum,

so it fits really nicely and it's curved. And then the base is kind of like these two little plastic twirls on the end. And when you're squeezing them, one of those little twirls sort of touches your perennium or touches his perennium. And so that can be really stimulating. But I've had really great experiences with it with my partners who really like to wear it

when they're masturbating that have worn it during sex. They've said it's very comfortable. It's very easy to use with a lot of lube. Yeah, I love this, Anaro's So I love the company and I just love. I love that. I've been around a long time. It's made also for medical purposes. Yes, initially.

Yeah, you're right. Oh, wow. And this prostate thing feels like things feel really good when we touch the prostate, different kind of orgasms. So it's a two-fer. Yeah. There's some nice people at, um, yeah. I know.

We're going to have them on the show, we're going to have fours on the show, I think, but it was so interesting hearing his story about working there and he's so passionate about it. It's been a really long time and about how it sort of changed his whole life. I mean, essentially his sexual health and his has life getting, getting familiar with the narrows and working there now.

He's not just a user, he's a, I don't know, he's at the owner of bodies in there. Yeah, we have a little sex hack for the sin. Have your, please. And Narrowson, the, I think it's a, he looks in, okay, yeah. The Narrow's he looks in is have him get on all fours and start to, he's wearing the he looksin. So let's all get that clear and

He's on all fours and you use your hand with some silicone lube to stroke him off And then you use the a narrows the base of the a narrows and ever so slightly just go back and forth a little bit like very Micro movement like inside of when it's inside of him. When it's inside of him. And that sort of massages the outside of the prostate and feels really good. I mean, it feels really good for some people. I would imagine it's for a lot of people. And you know, ask your partner if that's okay and see if that works. Because it's just a different kind of movement.

Because when he squeezes, it's going back and forth. But when you're doing the other sort of horizontal back and forth, it's a different kind of movement because when he squeezes, it's going back and forth. But when you're doing the other sort of horizontal back and forth, it's a different sort of feeling. So I hear. I'm going to do that. I used to wish I had a penis for a day. If I had a penis for a day, I'd just stay in it. Now I wish I had a prostate. I would take both. If. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Right. If I could have the package, don't worry. Okay. Let's move on to fun factory.

So fun factory is a great company. They make beautiful toys. They've been around a long time. And we saw them at the show. And we, at the treat show, we go to. And Jamie and Sarah were like, we're all over it. We want to try your stronic and the voltage. So I used the stronic years ago, they sent to me,

and I liked it. In fact, I think I just found it, I've been going through some cleaning and I found it in my garage, but I don't have a remember the entire experience. So what did you guys think? No, I used the stronic,

and it's like, I'm not big on like internal toys. I'm just very much like, it's interesting because I do have internal orgasms like when I'm having sex, but when it's like, when I masturbate, it's like mostly my clitoral orgasms. It's like, I feel like they're for me. But anyways, so I was like, really interested in it because it's like a thrusting technology. So it like, it literally hands free, like you turn it on and it thrusts as if someone was attached to it

or you were using your hand with it, which I think is really cool. Yeah, you could Google it. You can see the stronic going back. Yeah, you have to see a video. Like I can't do a justice by describing it. Like you have to see it. It's really cool technology.

So it was actually really interesting because I used it on the lower setting first and I was like, okay, but I didn't trust the hands free yet because I was like, okay, but I didn't trust the hands for it yet, because I was like, you know what? I'm gonna hold it still, because it's just a new thing to me. But then I put it on a higher level, so it went a little bit faster and a little bit harder,

and then I used my womanizer to go. So I did like, I used my kegels to like hold onto it into place, and then I used my womanizer to go, and I literally had the most explosive orgasm. I literally was like, almost out of breath. I was like holy crap. That was such an explosive orgasm. It almost like shot out of me.

Because when you use your kegels sometimes and it kind of pushes out, I was like, so I definitely liked that combo. That's a good story. That's a good story. That is a good story. I feel like we should do parings. Like I've said this like sex toy parings. Sex toy parings.

Yes, sex toy parings. Wine and sex toys. Yeah, wine and sex toys. Yeah, do it seriously. We should drink more. Can we do this? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I do.

We're doing it now. I love it. I've got some parings actually. We should talk more about. I'm going to circle back to the end. We're going to get some bonus parings. That's a good story. Yeah. Okay. Um, I'm gonna circle back to, at the end we're gonna get some bonus pairings. That's a good story. Yeah, okay.

I tried it once. I tried it by being, I tried it once for a review. And at first I was like, I don't really get it. But then I realized I had to get myself aroused before I put it in and use a lot of loop. This was a long time ago. So anyway, so it's supposed to be hands free and it's thrusting.

So I was lying down and I put it in between my legs and I put it in and because it's supposed be hands free, I let it go and it flew across the room. And it's scared Halerman. Oh, I know. Now if I take it out and Halerman sees it, he puts his tail under himself and he runs into the other room, which I think is kind of hilarious. But I put, I had a lot of lube. So I put a pillow in between my legs if I'm masturbating with it. And that keeps it in. That keeps it in and that thrusting motion is divine. Yeah. It's really, there's nothing like it.

So I'll try the Volta from them. It's like this cute little, almost like flame looking, almost like flower bud. It has two tips at the very top of it and that vibrate simultaneously and it kind of simulates oral sex in a way or some kind of licking motion, with also like super strong vibration. I feel like when I use it, I really enjoyed it. And I was able to bring myself to orgasm with it. But I will say I always like, I crave some kind of clitoral or like rave like stimulation or motion. I like to say it in a lot of ways.

The Weevi rapes. Yeah. You, because we're both The Wee-Vey rapes. Yeah. You, um, cause we're both in turn all together. So you mean, so this one is a literal, so wait, the Volta is literal. Yeah, it could be clear. It wasn't okay, but got it.

Nipples. Sorry. I was trying to under, cause you said you missed the Raybook. Did you pair it with the Raybook? I did pair it with the Raybook. Oh, okay, got it. I thought you were saying it made you

miss the Ray. I missed the whole. I really enjoyed it. No, I enjoyed the Volta and I was able, again, to come with it and I will continue too. But, um, I, yeah, I guess like it, because I guess having all that tease of, I guess, a simulation of oral sex, it made me, like, I guess, want to have some form of penetration. Right. Okay. So you had your rave charged. Yeah, and you can just use it with a whole bunch of lube. You can put it on your nipples. You can put it anywhere.

You so desire, you know. Cool. I'm gonna try that one. All right, okay. All right. Yes. All right, they're fun. Fun factory.

Again, you guys, everything we're talking about, sexwithamely.com slash toys. We talked about something a few weeks ago. We talked about the Kiven method, which has been around for a while. It's a method of oral sex. It gives 60% of women a faster, more intense orgasm because of the weight stimulates the clitoris. So essentially, she lies at her back.

Your partner would position themselves between my legs. Partner would sweep their tongue back and forth, feeling for two tiny bumps on either side of the hood. This is very specific. We didn't use the same explanation the other day. But that's essentially what is going back and forth and not up and down. You increase your speed, using a finger from your free hand to press into her perineum. As you feel her near orgasm, transfer your tongue from side to side,

then it's like a side to side and then a pressure. Yeah. So I, we were talking on the show and so I texted it to Ben. And sure enough, he'd ever said anything, but we were having our fun times a few weeks ago and he was like going down to me and he was like, what, did you read that? I didn't think you read it. Okay. I'm a bless him.

I know. I'm a bless him, man. He's the hardest working man to show business. He really is. He tried the octopus, tried it. Yeah, he is. He's all there for you. He really is.

That's almost more than remembering my birthday. Yeah, that would be it. But he remembered to read the oral sex tips that I'm saying. I was like, did you do that? He's like, yeah, I was trying to give a little. So I don't know if he did the two hands, but he was doing something different. And he was like pay attention in the back and forth.

And it felt amazing. So I would say pass it along to your lovers. I'm all for women exploring, you know, masturbating, understanding your bodies. And so I just feel like anytime we can give you like another way, like there's a lot of different ways you can form oral sex. And I just think it's so specific.

And I think like why not? Why not try something a little bit different. Get into that club, those 8,000 nerve writings. Like it's, it's specific because the clitoris is not just that little bud. There are so many nerve writings even in the bud. Within that, you can separate it. There's tiny, I mean, you could do as much of this as you want, just explore you guys,

just because you haven't maybe felt that thing that feels amazing to you yet. You should just keep exploring on your own with a partner. Yeah, and you can change it around too. Like, if your partner doesn't like their Par their paradigm touched, you can stick your fingers in their vagina. You know? You can just, you can feel when they're getting excited that way too. And I think it's just, it's a great little technique to see if it works because everybody's different. Exactly.

I know that's the thing. But yeah, it might not work, but why not try it? Why not? Why not? I know. But that's true. You can tell in the paradigm if she's getting more aroused and turn on you, we'll tell if she's gonna orgasm

and then you increase pressure. Yeah. So that was my updates. Anything else with you guys? Exciting happens sexually or any tips, anything in inspirations? You know, I have to say, I am not having sex right now, and I'm actually feeling okay

about it. I mean, I'm having sex with myself, but I'm not having partnered sex, and I'm feeling okay about it. Good. And what it's made me do is get more into my own arousal and arousing myself and seeing how I've changed with my arousal, you know, what I like, if things are becoming more sensitive, less sensitive, and using different kinds of loobs, just rediscovering what turns me on.

I'm kind of grateful for this period, because I've found that I really need a lot of certain kinds of arousal, like really soft, sort of gradual arousal, and that that's really important to me. Instead, I was just sort of like, yeah, I need that, but I can do it this way. It's a good example.

So, I've discovered sort of that I like a little teasing on those areas. So, like my clit or my vulva, I have both kinds of orgasms. I have vaginal. I have both kinds of orgasms. I have vaginal and I have clitoral orgasms. So knowing how to masturbate where I come from a clitoral stimulation and how to stimulate my vagina at the same time so that I'm having a clitoral orgasm

and a vaginal orgasm at the same time that I can actually control it myself with some practice. You know rubbing my g-spot, which I was never ever that interested in, and now I'm like, oh well maybe if I do this it'll work better. Like tapping it instead of rubbing it like a cum-hither motion, going back and forth as opposed to that cum-hither motion that we all talk about, because you have to experiment with what works for you, right? So even, I mean, I'm a sex educator and I should know all this stuff,

but I've just sort of been not in the mood for partner sex, so I am just doing it all myself. And I'm really appreciating that I have this time to sort of re-equate myself with my sexual side, and I'll be much better able to communicate this to a new partner, you know? That story, yeah. I think this time is so important when we just really

take time to understand our bodies, and maybe it is different than it was before. Maybe I feel like sex is kind of like, it's kind of like saying health, like you're never done learning what food you like or if you're a chef or a cook. You're never really done with creating sexual recipes that feel good for your own body.

So, and we often don't take the time. Like there have been the times in my life where I'm like, okay, where's the magic wand, like in your out or the womanizer, but to really kind of take more of that like root time to explore this is what and you just explained it beautifully. I used to say that sex is food and sensuality is the flavor, right? So getting back into that sensuality really just sort of makes the food better. The food tastes better.

I like that. Anyway. Yeah, it's a good one. Mine's not super exciting. But it's new to me. I had mirror sex for the first time. Mirror sex, that's huge. Shower sex for the first time. I didn't kidding. Oh my God. Oh my God. Talk to me, tell us. It's so, I didn't realize how intimate and beautiful it is to be able to see you and your partner together and the mirror together, while you're in the act of doing really pleasurable things. It's really hard.

It's like watching your own porn. So I think that is really beautiful to see yourself and you forget. Like I was just thinking I actually need a mirror in my room because I missed that too. You get to appreciate your body, your partner's body, the energy and affection being transferred between the two of you, you know. I think that can be like really good too for people that are like getting their heads about like, oh my god, like does my body look a certain way right now? Like is it look hot? Because then you can look and you're like, oh damn, I do look good.

Yeah, give yourself a little self love as you're loving. And how about the shower sex? The shower sex? That go down. That was cool. It was a lot of me standing my tiptoes. I have not tried the sex and the shower stuff. Although, once sex and the shower becomes more readily

available, I guess, you know, that'll be something. Oh no, you could take it. But take a leave. I can't, I don't know. You know what I mean? Yeah, I can't. She's right. Her home situation is the best.

Got it. Mom, I'm just using the shape of her house. They make these handle that you go, I'm just using the Shabu Rack. Yeah, I'm just using the Shabu Rack. They make these handle that you go, I handle that for the shower and Jamie, and I tried it the first time I got it, it was shower sex with Jamie. Mm-hmm. Look for that art secret.

Right, fully closed. Full of clothes, okay. Yeah, but you know, it does, and when you do get more access to shower sex, it really is like, it's just peace of mind that you're not gonna slip and fall because that would be a very interesting trip to the emergency room.

Right, because he will do. Shower sex is one of those things that always seem kind of overrated because it was always typical, you need more loop than you think, and it's uncomfortable and you could slip. So, there's stuff helped with it. I recently had a kind of, always been into like, so yeah, there's stuff helped with it. Yeah. I recently had a kind of,

always been into like, you know, spanking and stuff, but like I actually had like an actual kind of like, spanking session in a sense, and it just kind of turned out that way. Like I thought we were gonna have sex, but we like really didn't, and I was kind of like bent over, like my partner was sitting on the couch couch and then I was bent over him like

perpendicular, you know, and my and he just like kept spanking me a lot while he was like fingering me and it was like a really really crazy experience for me I felt like it was like really hot and it was like so much like I got like I had like you know I'm like my ass was like bruised, but I like loved it. I thought that was like super hot. So I was like my first kind of like light, you know, kind of experience of that.

And I guess that's kind of like dominant submission. Yeah, that's hot. That's good, Jay. Yeah, I was very like, very turned on afterwards. I was like, oh my. He just moves on. Yeah. Spankings hot, I like sp He just made a mistake. Yeah. Ooh. Spankings hot.

I like some spanking. See, I'm always learning for getting it. I'm like, yeah, he's got to speak me. Yeah. I've been a bad girl. Yeah, exactly. I actually thought of something that I can't believe I didn't bring up.

Don't tell me like the present. I own a Sibian. Oh, yes. I own a Sibian. If, yes, I own a Sibian If you don't know what a Sibian is it's like it's like almost like a sort of a saddle that you sit on you plug in and you can You've different attachments to it that go internally or externally and it rumbles and it is it's a sex machine Basically sex machine and I live in a duplex So when I put it on in my neighbor's home

It sounds like a frickin truck is running through the place, but she went out of town. And I thought, if there's ever a time to be able to bring out the Sibian, it's now. And I got to tell you, it was just fantastic, because I don't get to do it that often. It's amazing, all those attachments. All those attachments, I mean, they even have a finger attachment, which is just crazy. But yeah, I just used one of, they have silicone attachments. I used one of the silicone attachments

that were external. And it was such a unique feeling because it's so powerful. It's like sitting on a car engine. I know. So I have one here that I got a few years ago, didn't fit in my house. I mean, not that it's that big, but I lived in a really small place.

It's like moved, and I'm reed, and I might turn my garage into a sex den, can't decide. I'm gonna call a liberator and see if I can get their bed and then put the sybee in there. I don't, we'll see what happens. But I was like, I gotta bring the sybee in home. Yeah.

Time to re-equate myself. Yep. That's fun. Yeah. Sybee in. Yeah, yeah. Sivian. Yeah, I do like that it comes with like the little, they're like a little seat so that if you have a partner, they can kind of like be really close to you

and like while it's happening. Yeah, it comes with a little seat thing, at least Emily's did. Yeah. Oh, mine didn't have that. I used it. I used it when we're filming videos and I'm like, and I don't understand.

I used it as my foot. Is it still here? It's, I use it as my foot. So I guess you can take it with you. You're losing my partner, Zivian Nistul, so they're stool for your feet. I mean, where is she? She's used as a dildo for a cell phone holder

in the office. I do. That's smart. What if I wanted to use that dildo? No. You've seen the penises. Have you, you were talking to me though, I'll receive some dildos that you like because we don't often talk about dildos here. Yeah, we don't. Dildos don't vibrate. No. These are new, beautiful,

soft, really nice dildos from blush novelties. And they come in all different kind of colors and stripes. They even have one that's like pride colored. They have some that are colors for all different types of sexualities, transgender colors, bisexual, all those kinds of things. But they just have really fun toys that are also really good. And these I like because they're not shaped like a representational penis. But they have like a, at least mine does, has a bump sort of in the middle of the shaft,

and it just feels good when it's going in and out. And the material, the silicone is so smooth. I just really, really enjoyed my dildo sesh with my blushed novelties, and then they have these finger vibes that I like a lot. Like, really powerful, like bullet vibes that have like, you know, a silicone exterior that you can take off and put on and the chargeable and they're affordable. Which time?

Yeah, they are, right? They're really affordable and they're a great company so I don't mind supporting them. Ducky Doe little, the sex educator. She helps the mountain helps design them and- Oh, really? Okay. She does the sex educator. She helps them out and helps design them. Oh really? Okay, she does their sex ed. So yeah, so they're really they're really good. I really like them They're out in display in my living room. They are alright. Okay. Good That's great. I wanted to also talk about deodac just for a second because I We've all tried the body wash, but they sent me the I don't know if you guys got to try their shaving cream

and their pre-shave oil. So I did the whole thing, because I wanted to, I know, they'll probably send it to us, they're the sisters, they love you. So it's this pre-shave oil that feels really good on your skin. And then you guys, I tried the shave foam.

And it is the most perfect, I love their battles, they're so beautiful, the deer duck, and just the way, like there's in my shower, and I was like, I tried the shave foam. And it is the most perfect, I love their battles. They're so beautiful, the deer docking, just the way it goes in my shower. And I was like, I did this. And it was like the perfect poof of cream. Like you know what I was like, it goes all over the place with the kids, and it was like a poof.

Like, that's exactly how much I wanted it. And it's thick. I used it to shave my vulva to shave. I don't often do that, because I mostly got a lot of laser off, but anyway, clean up time and it was like, I just loved it and then I used their post lotion and then their spray after. So they have a whole little routine, which what I love about their products is it's just, it's an intention.

So you're intentionally paying attention to your vulva, giving yourself some love. And when I now I have these steps that I'm adding to my routine and I like it, I feel good and clean and I enjoyed the shave cream and the oils. I'm looking for a good shave cream because I'm just so I can't wax. Yeah, I just can't do it. Just because on other parts of my body I break out and I don't want to break out in that area, it just would not be good for anyone. No, so we would like that. just would not be good for anyone. No. So we would like that. We would not be happy.

Right. So no, that's really, I'm very interested in their shaving stuff. And I think it's cool because it is like made with care for that area. We'll have the sister send you some. I did have a quick question for you, Emily. So because I, like, I've done it and it's fine, but it's also still a little awkward. Like what's the best way to really incorporate a vibrator during sex?

Like do you have it by the bed? Like do you have, like I don't know. Right, like for the first time partner. Yeah, you know, especially for someone that's like not cool with it, like my partner was like yeah for sure, bring it. And then, but some people might be a little like, I don't know about that. Yeah, I mean, I think that that's a good question. She's talking about these toys and I'm some people might be a little like I don't know about that. Yeah, I mean I think that that's a good question.

She talked about these toys and I'm sure people are like online buying them now and excited. I think the most important thing is if you're is to is to talk about it beforehand and just be like, hey, so I've got some toys that I've been wanting to use and let your partner know like you don't want to pull out any surprises. Some people I think you got to warm them up to it. Maybe they won't be in toys at all. I think it's the people who haven't tried them personally. But I think you have to be mindful because it's essentially bringing in another item. It's actually bringing a third into a relationship, it really is, into the bedroom. So just to say, you know, I have these toys and I've excited to show them to you and they

really turn me out. How do you feel about using toy? Ask them, or have you ever used toys? How do you feel about it? What would you say? I'm glad you're here with me. Oh, I think that's really really good advice. And if you sense that your partner is maybe just a little bit like aren't I doing it right? And can't you not use a toy because you have me? I think you're right. I think you

should just say that it is something that will Enhance both of your pleasure during sexy times and it's not a replacement. It's just a different Sensation exactly. It's not a replacement. It's that variety that so many couples crave as well and and so it's it's variety It's a little something different. It's literally it's not that it's superior to anything. It's just little something different. It's literally, it's not that it's superior to anything. It's just, it's different. So there are certain things a penis can do, a vulva can do on its own. And this is just another, like sprinkles, the night you decide to get sprinkles on your ice cream cone. It's a little, sometimes you get them, sometimes you don't.

I think it's great to show your partner how you use it. You don't just hand it over. Like, here's the keys to the car. Like, I can't drive a stick. Like, you know, to be like, how do you show like mutual masturbation to me has always been a great way to kind of show them? Like, it's not scary. You're not going to replace you.

It feels great. And especially like, I love using it with my partner and making it out and making it part of our thing. And then just showing them what I like, it depends on the toys. So if I'm using like, you know, a clitoral vibe during, yeah, usually I'll just introduce it. And then we just kind of play with it. Because once you see it, it's like,

I've always tried to come up with good analogies here for what it is, but it's like a new, it truly is like a new toy. So once you see the power of it, like, I use it on my part, like any toy that I'm using on myself, I will also use on Ben, like I'll try to lower setting, I'll use it on his shaft, on his balls, I'll use it like if I'm giving him a massage with a massage candle, like I, it becomes part of it, like how I'm next to the bed of the for ya, the

lube, the toys. And so now it just becomes part of the thing. It's not like a, so I think that once you use it, the first, just get creative with it, you know, we're going to come up with different hacks. I'm trying to think of what else I was going to share about hacks that I've used. I just, I love using the touch or the tango, which are clitor vibes when I'm using anything insertion, like if I'm using the rave the tango which are glitter vibes when I'm using anything insertion like if I'm using the rave or the nova or if you're using this Stronic, but I think also during intercourse one of my favorite ones is to use is the is the touch and Just to play around and combine different

Poised together. I think the magic wand too. Oh great. Yes, the magic wand You can put has such a long handle You can put it between you for the for the clip But also I've used it on guys balls before and because it's such a strong vibe I will put my hand on top of the head of the vibrator and then have the balls against the back of my hand So that it's so I put my hands on top of the head of the back of my hand so that it's dulling. Wait, do it again. So I put my hands on top of the head of the vibrator. So that my hand is a buffer between the vibrator and the balls.

So it's not just like a jackhammer on it, but it is buffed through my hand. If my partner likes vibration down there, usually it's a big yes. I'll also put it on my cheek while I'm giving a blowjob sometimes. So that's something that might look like just, you know, a chick's toy can actually be used for all different kinds of things. Multi-purpose pleasure. And I just discovered too, you can use it for sore muscles. So the magical one, it means initial intention.

Yeah. I just brought it back because again, going through all the memories in the garage of my sex toys, I saw it and I was like, oh, I never brought that one at the house so I had to charge it again. Because I have 5,000 chargers, like a huge ball. Like it's kind of like those, the rubber band balls, you know, minor, I show them when you charge it. So anyway, I'm gonna take a picture of it

because it actually kind of looks like art. There's probably 300 of them tangled together. But I'm like, which one's the magic one? I got really OCD on it one night, and then because it's a different charger and then I charge up and I was like, oh, hello old friend, like I used to do the other day. And I was just so, however you guys, it's just different.

You know what's interesting? All these products we talk about is that they're all, like they're vibrators or oscillators, but they all, definitely the companies all do, have a different vibration. It feels different, even that's a vibration. So it's interesting to think of like, is it a deep rumbly, is it a hummy, is it a thunderous vibration.

So I think it's fun to find a, whatever works for you, it feels good, but real different. Yeah, that's very true, and you don't hear that that often. Most people are like, oh, it's all the same, it's like it's not, it's really not. Right. Well, thank you all for your help here. This was a very fun show. Very fun. And L-chase, you can find, we're all the best places

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