Sex With Emily - Gratitude Is Sexy

Episode Date: November 27, 2014

Ready for a lesson in partner appreciation? This very special Thanksgiving episode of Sex With Emily is all about strengthening your relationship through gratitude. Emily’s teaches you the importance of appreciating your partner, not just for Thanksgiving, but all year around. Between talk of Thanksgiving plans and one night stands, Emily shares some of the things she is most grateful for and reminds us why we all should be thankful for sex. Plus, how to sidestep those awkward questions from family members (i.e. why aren’t you married yet?), and the one communication tip that every man and woman should know! All this and more in today’s Podcast. **Special Cyber Weekend Discounts For Sex With Emily Listeners** From November 28 to December 1, get 30% off Emily & Tony those Aromatherapy Massage Candles, Down Under Comfort and all other Emily & Tony products; From November 27 to November 30, get 25% off across the entire GoodVibes site (minimal exclusions apply) + all weekend, get 20% off all We-Vibe products + for Cyber Monday (12/1 - 12/2), get a free $15 GV Gift Card with $100 purchase & also enjoy 25% off all Lelo products; When you pick up your Stamina Training Unit, use coupon code: Emily to get a free bottle of FleshLube! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Okay, everyone. Welcome to this very special Thanksgiving episode of Sex with Emily. We are talking about how gratitude and appreciation, not only on Thanksgiving, but gratitude and appreciation in your life and towards your partner will definitely strengthen your relationship and help it grow. And I'm going to tell you how on this episode of Sex with Emily. But first, okay, here's a deal. I've been talking about these beautiful, aroma therapy sensuous sensual massage candles

for a really long time now. And I feel like every person I give them to freaks out and they're like, they're the most amazing thing. They change our relationship. They smell so great. I just let them out at a dinner party. But then there's some people that have never actually experienced it or touched it or understood it, which is why I have to

do like a video. So you can all see these things. They're really beautiful, they smell great. The sense or aroma therapy and seductive and they just they relax you just naturally. You can light them when you come over and work. But also a massage candle is the perfect way to set the atmosphere in your house. Because you let a candle, you automatically feel calm, it sets the mood. And then of course, you know, amazing sex will follow. And if it does, then you've got this candle, it's by Emily and Tony. I made it with my partner, Tony, and it looks like a rather candle, like I said, and you

blow it out and instantly turns us the most like warm, luxurious massage oil. And you can pour it on your partner. It's not like messy or waxy or sticky or hot. And it feels amazing. And you open up and you slippery and it's not doesn't get your sheets messy, but it just feels great. And you can just love them. You know what I mean?

Anderson, I just feel like I have to explain it. So go to Emily and Tony dot com. You just keep on code Emily for 20% off. And also Black Friday weekend, this to Emily and Tony.com. Use coupon code Emily for 20% off and also Black Friday weekend. This is freaking huge. You guys through cyber Monday get 30% off all Emily and Tony products. So that's what you got to do. Check it out this weekend. Emily and Tony.com. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh my. The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common, Emily? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so proud of you. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com, com which oh my god this is the week that you have to go because it's so exciting it's the holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving to everybody. I'm grateful for all of you. We're gonna get into that tonight. Show is about how gratitude will really help. What is that noise Anderson? It's a

turkey man. It's a turkey. I didn't even get that was a turkey. Because you just eat them. You don't hear them before they die. Oh now I'm not gonna eat that turkey this year. Thank you for nothing Turkey is it absolutely turkey right? I have a Thanksgiving happy Thanksgiving to you, I'm grateful for you And grateful for you and this is also we're gonna get into that because here's a thing One of the biggest complaints from couples who are in relationships are just people in life like it work. Anderson says it's all the time. They don't feel appreciated for what they do. They don't feel grat and they don't express also other people gratitude towards their partner

and work and in life and a lot of us just feel that. We go through life and we don't feel appreciated and we don't feel grateful sometimes and it goes both ways. No, no, no, it's perfect. But in a relationship, it's so important, or even with your friends or some of your dating or even some of your one-night stand with, you know, being grateful and appreciative is important all around and we're going to give you some tips and tricks to, you know, improve it because it'll have your relationship. You get to tell us how to be grateful to one of the stands because that's something

I could have known to deal with. Be really grateful, but don't be a douchebag at the end of it and be like, I'm never going to call you, just be like, or be, be you, you do. Be that was a really fun night. My intentions are right now. I'm not actually looking for a girlfriend, but I'd great to have to don't let us sit around and obsess about you. And like, is he going to call just like, let it be known?

That's a way to be respectful towards your one night stand. Don't you think? Yeah. Be honest with your intentions. I was always like really uncomfortable. And like, I've had like lunch, like literally two years later, because I've made it like a friendship out of the one night stand. I was always like really uncomfortable and like I've had like lunch like literally two years later Because I've made it like a friendship out of the one-in-stance. I felt bad. Yeah, well you made a friendship out of them right after a couple times Yeah, I got you know we want to talk for a while

But then it's like phone conversations then I'd be like their friends and that's cool No, cuz they weren't people that I wanted to see in the morning Yeah, you just help guilty so to your okay That's odd so you know how you could have saved yourself You would have been you could have been clear with your intent But the problem is I suppose is that often or tell me this Anderson When does the one night stand bell go off? When is it like I know this is a one-night stand and I know that it isn't because that the reason why maybe you don't Not and it because you're not sure if you'll see him again or by the time it ends your pretty sure by the time I'm like sobering up usually

So it's always just a drunk and one night standing. A lot of the time, yeah. What if it's interesting? Or if she's doing things with me in the back seat or my friend's car, when I'm not even asking for it, and I just met her that night, it's like, oh, OK, so I'm not going to see this girl hopefully after tonight. What?

Because she's a little too aggressive. So girls should not be that forthcoming on the day. Absolutely not. And many men. Now a lot of people have sub with women men And it's first day in Kim. Miri. I know I don't advocate it Just because you just don't advocate I don't ever get married for yourself I just think that it's always better if you always have what you're you don't think about

Is there how many dates should you wait or whatever? No, there's no rules. I'm not saying you should do wait three dates for you see for someone But I think that when you do have sex with someone too soon, it becomes a sexual relationship right away if they ever call you back, like us from men and women. Or it's better to get to know somebody. And then you do the best part about sex, as we know, is the anticipation and the buildup.

The anticipation? They make that last get to know that person because you have sex in the first date, then it becomes a whole sexual thing. And then you don't last get to know that person because you have sex on the first date Then it becomes a whole sexual thing and then you don't really get to know every now and again There is that immediate connection and like you feel like you've known the person for years after the first hour of being Yeah, you really need to bone that first night though. Can't you just feel her boobs or something? Right, can't you just touch the boobs? Can't you just like you know rob her over her panties or dry home?

You're just like a candle and massage her down. I'm not telling. These people, you know what, guys friends, are like, I got laid by your candle last night. I'm like, I know, it smells amazing. And you got laid. Suggesting they bang the candle or they got. No, they get laid because they light the candles. And then he's like, look at my Emily,

my friend, Emily made this really cool candle. And then they like, tear or feel it. Because you just, like I use it, here's the other thing. I use it every single night. I wear, I blow it out. I light it. I'm getting ready for bad. Blow it out. And I pour it on my body as a moisturizer,

because it's coconut oil and soybean oil and natural. And it's moisturizing. So I don't want to have a goddamn person to masturbate. To massage you. To massage every night, or to massage me many night. Most, okay, let's just say that's most science I don't, but I use it every day. And I smell and feel amazing and soft.

I just light it, like three or four of them I put them on my window sill and and women just come over They do they smell it. Yeah, like on the street like the fact I in cartoons with the bacon up I do Everything's They just float in I hate bacon There's like baking condoms. Okay. Here's a thing. So bacon condoms. Oh, yeah, there's bacon loop So here's the holiday season as you know like I said like 20 minutes ago

You should go to my website because if you still need gifts, oh, no, this is the time because the thing's giving everyone's going shopping cyber Monday or what is it? Black Friday cyber Monday. I've got all these special deals for you. All the places I've been talking about are all having huge sales. So for example, good vibes, having a huge statewide statewide website, wide sale, which is like 25% off. I'll give you some more details. And then also, there's a lot of black, black Friday stuff.

So if you sign up for my newsletter and you go to my website and just read my blog, you're gonna see all these amazing products, which you can actually buy for your partner. It's gonna be gift guides, what he wants, what she wants, because I know what they really want. They want something sexy. And that will improve your sex life. Just one thing.

You can get them a bunch of other things for the holidays like a sweater she wants or a massage, but a little something sexy. Never heard anyone. And the sex toys and clothing and whatnot. It's like it's kind of like cars. Like who pays full price? No one. Don't pay full price for that. Never walking off the street and just pay. Well, don't say that because you know, yeah, I know you're right. I always give discounts. Everything, everything connected to that because, you know, yeah, I know you're right. I always give discounts. Everything, everything connected to Emily is always discounts. Always, and it's always stuff that I've tried to recommend.

So anyway, do that. And then also, so that on sacradome.com. And you know that there are awkward questions also coming up over the Thanksgiving holidays when you go home. Like, what are you doing? I'm'm splitting it with the two crazy families my wife and my own yeah. Is that you like them good times? Yeah it's gonna be a lot of insanity. Okay I got it you know that the in-laws but there are some awkward questions like why are you still you know who you dating why are you

still single? Why is it not a baby? Right that's the worst. You can ask that question you must get asked that all the time. My friends my parents and in-laws don't bother me at all But my friends I think that's a really bad question to ask someone no one want okay I don't know anybody who wants to be asked that question who's trying to have a kid or not because they don't know And they're having it. They're gonna figure it out when they do and they don't want goddamn pressure because all my friends Who are married without kids complain about the same thing. So there's a tip for you guys and things giving dinner Probably could be a pushy mom and law and just be like,

hey, well, she keep, no, my mom and law is not. But you could say, hey, I've got a, I've got your brother, daughter pregnant three or four times. She keeps aborting. It's not my fault. Exactly. That's a good one. That's a great one.

That would be great conversation for Thanksgiving. My family one time at Thanksgiving dinner, my brother would be out the Kim Kardashian sex video. Like, out of dessert. Is that an apricot phone or popped in a DVD? He was like, no, he was like, it wasn't when it came out. He's like, Oh, check out. Have you guys seen the Kim Kardashian?

My family. So I did everyone crowd around. Yeah. It's good. And it's such a typical sex with Emily. Thanks. I know. Exactly.

Family is all sex crazy. I just had that flashback, but usually go home to Michigan this year. I'm not. But I, uh, good. Cause last time you went to Michigan, you almost died. So don't do that. I won't do that again, exactly. So, um, yeah, so it could be awkward to a good luck to everybody about that. And just be yourself. Be open and, uh, have a good time. Relax Thanksgiving is time to be grateful and happy. So also you have to watch the shows every Thursday online. You can watch and

listen live 839 30 PM Pacific Standard Time on the sex with Emily website Except for this Thanksgiving because you'll be watching sex videos Except for Thanksgiving because you'll be watching whatever's new. No, you will. We're not gonna be in here doing a show No, I'm not with my family and that was once we don't talk about sex. It's a random flash. I had That I thought your brother does not like that you do this for a living Um, he gets a kick out of it. Why did you see? Why? Because he was on the show telling him to do this much. Yeah.

You know, he loves it. He thinks it's hilarious. He likes the parks and he thinks I'm funny, but he doesn't want to hear me talk about my sex life. And I think he still thinks you should get a stable job. This is pretty stable for you. Successful. You're really good at what you do. Yeah, but it's taken me like 10 years to finally like be able to like make a living

Which is one of the things I'm grateful for when I get to my gratitude list. No, but yeah It's been freaking hard and I've started all the love trying to be an artist. You know creator It's hard I'm also file me on Facebook and Twitter and all that stuff because you should and Instagram I know that you are all are everyone's on Instagram like that's the thing So if you're on Instagram and you like me and you like listening to me, don't you think that my Instagram at Sex Family is awesome as well and I'll

have pictures and funny things that will make you laugh and think about funny things that have to do sex sometimes in relationships. You should do that and Twitter sex family. Okay, so here's the first thing. Today's show, like I said, we will be talking about appreciation and gratitude. Get some of your emails that we can. But first, I wanted to say that Thanksgiving is a very important time of year. Because we really do stop and we are grateful for what we have in our lives. Because honestly, we have a lot of gifts and blessings. We do, right? And if you're like, you and I, we sit around like, this is hard and that is hard. But it's important to like, you know, we're lucky. We're here. We're healthy. We're happy. We got to appreciate what you got put things perspective

Right, we've so many wonderful gifts in our lives And so that's why like with my meditation that I'm doing now twice a day I always have three minutes of gratitude at the end where I'm grateful for things and it just makes like a lot better So I have to say happy things saving on my listeners. I'm very grateful for all of you, really, for listening and for supporting the show and being a fan. I can cry. I just, that don't cry, please. It's getting uncomfortable in here.

I just learned today, actually, that it was a lady, a camera man named, but she was actually one of the petitioned, the White House for Thanksgiving, to be held every year. And it was kind of an effort to heal the wounds of the Civil War and Lincoln, President Lincoln, that put it into law. Back then there was only a couple national holidays. It was George Washington's birthday and Thanksgiving, I believe. Wow. I might have been one other one that took him my mind. I knew it was for the Civil War to look at. It was shortly after the Civil War and there was still a lot of strife and they wanted to create create she wanted to create a

Holiday that's just about people getting together. Yeah, and it is being thankful for what they have Exactly because we all you know our mind, you know We tend to go to a lot of times and this is the way we're wired to go towards what's bad or what's wrong? And I think a lot of humans we sort of suffer with that fact that our mind just has that You know that wave going what is it called? Like just the negative... Easy to get on that negative pole. Yeah, but like it's a Buddha. I said like there's a universal love suffering.

So we all suffer in some way. We all do, but you know, as long as we can just, you know, try to be grateful and happy, you know, happy to challenge sometimes, but be grateful for what we have. So I'm thankful for many things and I just wanted to say that I am, like I said, thankful for my listeners because it's been a lot. It's almost 10 years. Like I have to do an anniversary show or something, but I'm thankful that I actually got to have a career doing what I love, like actually make a living and pay my rent. You deserve it. You work really super hard. I know.

You're 10 years. A lot of it involves pleasure and sticking things inside yourself, but you work very hard. I do. I do work hard. And it's because it actually was like following your dreams. It was an idea that I had about helping big helping myself really, which is something I'm ready about right now, but how it got started for glam or I have a common glamor, by the way, on Sundays. But it's talking about how I started the show. One of the reasons it inspired me was

because everyone kept talking about what great sex they were having all the time having the best sex in my life. I'm like, what the hell does that mean? So I mean, you guys, I don't know if you know the whole beginning story, but that's why I started the podcast because I was like, I don't think I've had the best sex in my life. I'm like, what the hell does that mean? So, I mean, you guys, I don't know if you know the whole beginning story, but that's why I started the podcast, because I was like, I don't think I've had the best sex, and I don't think that everyone even knows what good sex is, and then relationships

and the whole thing. So, it was hard, and it was a long road, it's probably been about, you know, seven. I think it wasn't even make any money for last few years, until the last few years. So, it was hard, and I had to give up a lot, but because I love you all, and I love doing it, and it all happened.

So, stick to your dreams is what got to say. And I ask people for advice more often who know things more than you do. Okay, I'm thankful for the perks of my job because I get to meet and learn from so many interesting people and guests. We have good guests on the show. People with like alternative lifestyles, sex experts, occasional porn star. Uh, whoever, who is your favorite guest? Who's your favorite guest? Who'd you learn from? I like that guy that you had on a couple of weeks ago.

He was awesome, David Lay. Yeah, what was it? The myth of sex addiction. Yeah. He was amazing. Because I was worried about that. I thought he was going to come in here and go, Hey man, you know, it's not an addiction man.

And like fight with Dr. Drew when he came in here later. I was like, I'm going from one word. That's me like me too. And he kind of ignored me in the hall when I walked by. He was just talking to you. So I didn't like him. I hated him. And then within, you know, first 10 minutes of the show,

I'm like, this guy's awesome. I like the guy a lot. He's just turned right out. And he was great. Oh my God, that was great show. Go check it out, David Lay, L.A.Y. Another perk is, okay. So yeah, I get to meet all these people.

And it's inspiring. We get a lot of, another perk, of course, is that I get, like my job is all about pleasure. Like I can experience pleasure. So I can teach you how to experience pleasure and it's reciprocal because the reason why I wanted to, you know, again, do this is to help everyone a better sex, which is like the best thing in the world is sex really truly. What else is there?

And I get sex toys lubricants every other sex product. Like you should see my office right now, Pajor, which is in my new favorite leaves that meet 100. I can't walk through my office. What? You bring some in? Yeah, I did. Do you want a bottle? Do you need some? I wouldn't. I wouldn't. You're gonna. Okay, I actually need you to test to test some of it and do you think I use it on my tires. It makes my tires efficient for

guests. No, you can't for can sail my really nice Pajor loop. J U R loop. It's amazing. Check it. And no, I'll be slide down the road. Dude, it doesn't help me. So I test them all. You know, so you don't have to because I only tell you about the ones you've tested and that I think are the best. Also, I'm thankful for my team. This is really what I'm most thankful for. And then we're going to get out of this stuff. I have a lot to say. But really. This is really tough for me. This is very. Because I think thank yous make me. No, no, but I am. So thankful for you Anderson. You're so awesome like I didn't know we didn't know this would work I'm okay

We do the thing and I love you and you've been awesome and you put a lot of your life in before that I always like you But we've never done like this together and you've been awesome and my audience loves you And you just have great insights and advice and you always show up and you're cool Oh, thanks and for all that everyone that you hate and get me into all the time I feel like I'm at the bottom that list if it ever does happen. Yeah, you're right at the bottom You're still on the list, but you're at the bottom I know but I like that like I know that I'm at the bottom of that list if it ever does happen. Yeah, you're right at the bottom. You're still on the list, but you're at the bottom. I know, but I like that.

I know that I'm not the first person that you're going to hate. And I'm actually so honored that you would like to me because I know you don't like most people. So thank you. And you ripped me off my couch from my wife once or twice a week. And it's really annoying having to leave my wife. But you would be the one of the very few people who I'd be actually excited to jump off the couch. Leave my wife and come work with us. We always have a very good time.

And a good way, like not a way that would make us massive. Got it. Thank you. I've been ripped off my couch by many people in this business and do not enjoy it. That is a very high compliment. It's actually coming from you. I appreciate that. And also, I have to thank my team that is amazing.

Again, I've been doing this for a long time and it has 50. You've been going, I was going to get to the topic is that it's taking a long, right? I could have had interns, I've had amazing interns over the years, but like I didn't really have like a staff that I could, again, to start up, I'm trying to do this thing. And now I feel like I have the most amazing team, Kimber and Madison, who you've met, who have to have been on the show a little bit. Kimber has a lot. But they're just amazing.

And I feel like my whole thing is just this is going to be an amazing year for us because we are going to be doing so many things that are going to even blow your minds and our minds as well. So I want to thank my intern Ruby and Anderson and Rune who have sat with the show and managed to do the show and of course my friends and family, you know, like that. I was going to get into all these things about sex but I don't know where I'm just. Thank you for the clitoris. Thank you for the clitoris and thank you for- The testies, thank you God for the testies. No, I was just going to say this really quickly is that

Things in life. I wasn't going to go on that long It is that sex is something that we should all be thankful for because sex gives you orgasms I'm gonna do it quickly sex makes you happy This is if you're not having sex here's a thing the brain releases all these feel good chemicals like endorphins and serotonin and dopamine And when you've decreased stress because raw fucking stress you're like oh this is a good day so I have more sex sex burns calories so you don't forget the gym two hundred it's like it's like a treadmill okay careful I'm kidding go to the guy down don't drink that water in the mic what are you doing you're drinking in the mic stop it oh. Oh my God. Okay. So I can't come myself off here.

Can I? Can I continue and then we'll come? We'll, we'll, we'll, we'll sort of that. There's a reason why we just did that. Okay. So it makes you happy. It does. It's, it's a, it's a pro's act, but you just having sex. Okay, burns calories like running on a treadmill or something. You can have like extra piece of pumpkin pie because you just had really good sex. Helps you fall asleep. Everyone takes friggin sleeping pills. Who does not have a sleep problem? Raise your hand. Nobody, right? You probably do. You don't have to talk about it. I take pills. Right. Exactly. So if you have sex, it helps you fall asleep. So you're probably thinking it's like your computer screen or there's something else, collective stress in the universe,

why people can't sleep, but you have sex. Don't you fall asleep more readily? Yeah, and you don't like it. Oh, not that that sounds wrong. I don't like what? But you don't you fall asleep more readily? Yeah and you don't like it. Oh not that that sounds wrong. Sounded wrong. But you don't like it when guys have fall asleep right after it because you want cuddle time. I just need about 10 minutes of cuddle time. You can cuddle while phone is yes absolutely. I don't want to say I'm a talk. I just want to cuddle for eight to ten minutes. Sex gives us something to talk about with our friends especially women like what would you do in your free time, I think?

You know, if we're not thinking about what girls are thinking like, Zach, our friend looks like naked, not that I do that. But my friends and I talk about sex and relationships. And we talk about what would you do? How do you order us? What's the first question you ask? When you find out, a good friend of yours is hooking up with a new dude. You kind of like know who of the guy.

Right. And you know that they had sex last night. What's the first question you asked? Okay, this is how it goes down. This is happening to me yesterday. I'm like, okay, so how is sex? It's really, it's really good. I'm like, do you have an orgasm?

She's like, well, yeah, I actually always orgasm. My orgasm really easily. I'm like, okay, you bitch, that's cool. And then she said that he was very generous, which means that he performed all sex in her and she really liked it. And she said that she liked this penis. I think his penis she said that and she said it was really hot and he was really sweet and she liked

them. It was good. So penis was third. Took you three things. Only if there's a penis problem I would say or like a remarkable penis does it come up. It depends what which friend I'm talking to. What is remarkable? You know like oh my god I was a black penis. It was black as big. It was the biggest penis I've ever seen or it was a curved shaped weird penis or he wasn't circumcised on it. That's a big deal or he didn't have count on me. I don't know. If it wasn't run on the mill. Yeah something wrong. It had strange rash all over it. No. It smelled like cheese. Right. It smelled like cheese. That was weird. Okay. So the penis. No. Didn't. But that's what I asked him. Or all it means it's my best way to house of pee. Yeah. geez, that was weird. Okay, so the penis, no, didn't. But that's what I asked them. Or all, I mean, it's my best way to house a peon. Yeah. No, that's usually what I ask. Like, was it good? Was it whatever? But a lot of times the first time you have sex

with someone is not always the best. Can we get better? Also, sex is usually free. That's one of the things I'm grateful for, unless you pay for it online. Usually, I like it, but usually, probably shouldn't pay for it anywhere. Okay, so I wanted to talk about which I am already. How to appreciate your partner. We're not gonna have with the water. Okay, back up. So when I get to emails, I had a listener, so I get, you know,

you all email me, which I love. Feedbackitsecswithemily.com, you can send all your relationship in sex questions and I try to answer them on my show. If it's, you know, a lot of times your questions might have been answered before, you could definitely Google that on my site with the point. And sometimes people just want to tell me what they like about the show or what they don't

like or whatever. I'm open. So I got an email from a listener today and she said, I will skip down to the email portion of the show. She said to me, um, hi, I love love love you and your podcast, but I can't stand when you take a drink of water on the show It drives me effing crazy. Just had to say Mackenzie Thanks, but gassy so I realized that I get really personal I'm a thirsty person I don't know what I talk a lot and so there is something called a cough button in radio and whenever I have a thirsty person. I don't know what I talk a lot. And so there is something called a cough button in radio

And whenever I have a guest command, I'm like, there's the cough button. However, and I used I used it on during love line I used it all the time But for some reason in this chair at the love line studio that I'm in I didn't know that the cough button was right in front of me And not right next to me on the table where it usually is. So I came in tonight and I said, Anderson me on the table where it usually is. So I came in tonight and I said, Anderson, got an email, she's pissed that I didn't, and I know it's annoying because I do it. And normally I'm trying, where's the guy to go up on and then I looked and it was right in front of me. I love how she started off with the I love love love though. She let's yeah, she's like, but I see and I love love love

love that. And then you're just waiting for the other shoe to drop, which is the butt, which you know is the never going to be there. And then there it just put a comma before the butt at least. No. Okay, then she's, yeah, let's not drink right into that microphone. Here you go, Mackenzie. I just did it for you. I'm going to start using the coffee. Just use and then now just to let the listeners know the cough button, all it does is just

kill her mic and unplugging the mic would do the exact same thing, as well as just turning off the mic, which is the exact same thing, which is right in front of her. The cop is like, but you can do it, we'll just turn it off the microphone too. See, whatever. So, I, you know, I wanna say is, I love Mackenzie.

Here's the thing, I, if you like my show, but there's one thing that drives you crazy, you're like, okay, I hate when you say you're gonna cover something that you don't or you ramble or you cut off your guests. These are things that people have complain about. You talk too fast, you're like, okay, I hate when you say you're going to cover something that you don't, or you ramble, or you carve your gas. These are things that people have complain about. You talk too fast, you cut off your gas, you don't care.

Most ID 99.9% things are positive. However, I might not agree with you. I'm open to feedback, so I don't care. I'm confident enough. I know people, so if there is something that you think could have improved the show, might not agree. Careful. Or that you're like, God, I can't let's do anymore with the blu-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-du Yeah, come to nice. Here we go. So appreciate. Yeah, where the hell was I appreciate your partner? Okay, so like I don't remember you let me talk about water. Appreciation is something that a lot of people like I said couples who are together rather like they don't feel appreciated and I think in very different ways men and women don't feel appreciated. So do you ever feel like in your either your current relationship or past that you feel that's familiar

Feeling that you can identify with that you just don't feel appreciated Yeah, for sure, but at the same time I've been like extra appreciated by people who were not right for me and they're like so goddamn codependent that that's One of the reasons why the relationship was bad to begin with because they're always doting on me and One of the reasons why the relationship was bad to begin with because they're always doating on me and feeling their entire life was like what I was and what I was about and didn't have any nevermind. I'm going down a different road. No, but that's unhealthy as well.

Right, right, right. So it can be good and bad. Right. Do you know how healthy like everything in life? You know, I've been, you know, underappreciated and I feel like in my current relationship and we talk about it. So can you give me an example or like just like you can make up like like I'm Always getting the food and making sure that you know, I will be at home and she's hungry and I'll go out and get food Just for her like that's never happened for me. Something like that. I see okay

So that that makes total sense and does she say the sheep but when you come back with the food she says Thank you. Oh, yeah, she always says thank you and usually I get to watch whatever I want after that for at least a half hour Well, she's eating that kind of thing. I'm making it sound like our entire relationship exists on the couch. We do tons of stuff I do I'm say I've sex in the couch, but Curious so that's that's that's you that is the kind of thing that could fester for so long It does and I'm like a chick to it always comes up when we get in fights right? So did you ever and then if you so if you said you're a baby It'd be so cool one time you could just offer

Yeah, yeah, yeah, and then she get upset about that which you like I thought you like to do you baby, it'd be so cool. One time you could just offer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then she'd get upset about that, but she'd like, I thought you liked to do that. Well, usually when we get in fights, I'm like, I'm not doing it anymore. And then I'll go maybe two days without doing it. And then I'd love to do it. You know what I mean? You love to do it.

That's what I'm asking you. So in her mind, she'd be like, Anderson loves getting out of the house. So it's just that you want her to offer. Would you like her to do something else for you? I'm just, I think I just picked fights. Really? I picked fights sometimes, yeah. But you don't really, you wouldn't like it if she got out the Windows subway for you. I'd feel guilty the whole time she was gone. Okay, so this is like a

weird genetic thing. Okay, so, so, so, but how would you? Okay, I get it. Appreciate it. But we got off the topic of appreciation. No, but you're saying you'd like to feel appreciate what if she does say thank you. So you've got a whole nother issue going on. I know but I get what you're saying But do you know how you need to be it? She's very appreciative. I feel guilty of bringing any of the stuff You know, no, I get it. That's a whole nother issue. Do you feel like you appreciate her? Yeah, I'm kind of forced to because every time I anyone meets her like my friends made her They're always like I don't understand why she's with you. Why why is she she's so much better than you That's what I always hear So yes, I definitely appreciate.

Right, okay, but that makes her feel good because other people kind of, that's what I was gonna say. That a lot of you really like to be validated, compliments make people feel really good. And women and men, I think some guys, either they don't like, do you like getting compliments and are they, they make me uncomfortable. Okay, here's my question for you.

I know that compliments make men uncomfortable, but does it make you uncomfortable, but you'd rather get them than not get them? I'd rather hear about them second hand. Like, hey, this person said this about you. Oh, cool. Okay. So I think that's true. Or maybe someone looks me in the eye, because I really appreciate you for it. Make me I get a very uncomfortable.

Okay. So it's intimacy issue. So, okay. So here's my question. You should see her. She's like sizing me up. She thinks she's like making a lot of men feel uncomfortable by it too. And it's probably because of intimacy, because I know the women, we love to be complimented, told that we look at or pretty or you'd think special, but at the same time, careful. Just last week, you were saying never use that of the pickup line because they always hear that. No, I'm talking about in a relationship. Right, right. Don't use it as a pickup line unless you're really hitting on kidding. Don't use a pickup line.

But with your partner, I think that women a you're really hitting on kidding don't use a pickup line But with your partner I think that women a lot are in relationships where they don't feel sexy or beautiful to their partner and the partner He's thinking oh she knows I think she's hot But if you're thinking it just say it or like your haircut or something because women We do a lot of crap that you guys don't have to do to look a lot Beautiful. Yeah, so if you recognize it or appreciate it, we appreciate it too. So, but for men, compliments, I hear you're saying.

So what I'm saying is like, what if you guys were out to dinner, right? And like the four of you would think another couple. And how about this compliment? Like there's a, she says, even your wife or a says a table. Oh my God. Ann Ruskin got like the bad,

did the cool his film just got it, which it did just got to the two film festivals. How cool is that? Like, would that make you feel feel better because I think men kind of like public appreciation like do think that that would make you feel better you would that make you uncomfortable or would that make you feel good initially make me uncomfortable that actually logical questions and I could actually speak to it was other people around to witness what you just done as well I feel that men like to have that affirmation kind of more in public sometimes. Is a, you know, just more of a,

is it just like that validation? It makes them feel like a man. I don't know. If you're wrong, but I think I think I'm not wrong because I'm never wrong. Okay, so no, I'm wrong a lot. So here's the thing. So no matter what you do,

big or small, reinforce the positive acts and you'll get more in return. So just say thank you. You know, if they walk the dog for you or they took your notification away, you know, there's a lot of couples who they never appreciate me. I don't feel thankful. Also you have to listen, okay. Listening is a great tool for couples and I think that you might think that you're listening, but this goes for men and for women. And there's something to be said about having your partners undivided attention. Like when they put down their cell phone, they put down their eye

pattern, they're like, hey, babe, what do you need from me right now? I'm here to listen. Even if it's 10 minutes in the morning or you need 10 minutes after work and you just want them to listen and you both need to vent and you need to connect and can be intimate. But your partner always seems distracted and they're not really listening to you. It makes us, you makes us feel unvalued and unimportant and not special. So if you do pay attention to them, they feel the opposite. They feel valued, they important, prioritized and special. So stop what you're doing and try to connect with your partner like even five ten minutes a day.

She's using her coffee button everyone to drink her water. I need a train so For men here's a thing for men So you know it's typical that when a woman opens up to a man about things like maybe I came in from work and at a bad day If I had this happen their partner and she's like I mean this and that and maybe it's even something you've heard before my boss was such a jerk and then this thing happened And I might not get this raise but I tried and this other bitch next to me wants you know I mean women go out sometimes. Oh, yeah, I dated those right hard or don't just win a woman's thing and then Naturally or Prada naturally are fixers. You just want to fix it like yeah, and you guys don't want to hear a

Fist solution. You just want to unload exactly So they want to help you in distress like that's part of being a man. It's your biology. It's how you're wired But a lot of times we don't want that solution. We just want to process. That's how we want you to listen. Just process with this babe, I'm so sorry, that sounds really hard. That sounds like it's not even if you're like, I've heard the same times. And then in another moment in time, we'll be like, you know what you should do about that thing, but in that moment, not in the moment. It's really frustrating as a guy. It's like watching you guys do a crossword puzzle and you're like, it's seven across.

And it's like a president's name and a word for a penis. And I don't know what it is. And like we know it's Johnson, but we're not allowed to tell you in that moment. We have to sit there and bite our tongue. It's tough. I know, but you know, it makes it, it makes it, it makes it off low.

It makes it all. It's one of the little quirks. No one was saying, but this is what, and also I'm talking about like biology or like men you want to fit. Like it's just our women, we are naturally born but this is what in us, I'm talking about like biology or like men you want to fit like it's just our women We are naturally born Convertments us. We know but but even with our girlfriends we communicate we listen. We're not trying to it's how we're wired

So that's what you come to the same we all come to the same conclusion just a different time Yeah, so for men for women When you've a problem any offers advice like even even if we told not to don't immediately object to them, you can listen to it. And you can also thank them for making me feel like, you know, I so appreciate your opinion about that. Because he just wants to fix it up. But then say, but I gotta tell you a little more and I would just appreciate if you would listen.

And I think everyone who loves you can take that advice. It doesn't have to blow up into the whole thing. And the more you confront these things in the moment as they're happening, the more likely you they're not going to fester and get angry like Anderson does. Like, why don't you get my god damn pizza up this time bitch. I would never get pizza up, but she loves it and I get it for her all the time. Okay, fine. I don't want to really good compliment is what you look at you look at your partner and you go, you know what? You're so lucky I don't care about looks. You're such a cool person. Look, looks don't even matter to me at all.

Oh my God, that's so worst. How about like, how about like, how about a few times? But I was joking. I think they knew that I was joking. You think they never called you again. You're lucky I don't care about looks. Yeah, I was going to her looks. You can't like, I like guys, like you,

I have the best, this guy was the only person like you were the coolest chick. I have the best time with you. They've been running out with you. So cool. But like that felt good, but I'm like, but do you were the coolest chick. Like I have the best time with you. They've ever hung out with you. So cool. But like that felt good, but I'm like, but do you want to bang me? You know, this is before the bang.

No, it was after the bang. Well, then yes, he wants to bang you. I know what you say, I'm gonna have fun. I was cool and cool. Oh, really? You take it that way? Cause that's like the greatest compliment you can get.

I'm actually really kidding. No, it was awesome. Like he was like, I actually never want to hang out with anyone, but I want to hang out with you. No, it was really nice. That's what he's saying is like, you're like, even if you were a dude, even like I actually never want to hang out with anyone But I want to hang out with you. No, it's really nice. That's what he's saying is like you're like even if you were dude Even if I didn't want to bang you I don't want to hang out with you, which is a huge compliment. Right. That's true Okay, so I guess that was a compliment. I felt really good

Don't get snow. It was it felt really good. Okay, so for here's the thing So also great. Here's another thing. This is huge create your partner with enthusiasm So when they walk to the door instead of simply simply glancing up like, oh, it's you again, see you every night, making a deal. Like how do I'm kissing them, say hello, how was your day? And I know you're thinking sometimes that could be impossible. You're in the middle of something. But, you know, you're happy that they're there. And even if you saw them eight hours ago and talked to them the whole right home, you know, it means something to touch. Is that rhythm? It's not right. You got to be careful.

Do that. Do you kiss each other? Like, hello? Yeah, yeah. I get up, Is that right? You got to be careful. Do that do kiss each other like hello? Yeah, yeah, I get up, help open the door, that kind of thing. I'm open. I'm like, you know, she's coming in the door or I can see. Is that cheese? Well, no, there's like, she comes in through the backyard. So I see her coming across the grass and I get up and open the door. I even paused the hockey game a lot of the time.

You paused the hockey game? I paused it. Yeah. That's really sweet. Turn it down. Turn it down. Stop and ask her about her day or do you go back to the hockey? Like, hey, how are you? Then I tore the score. I pause it. Yeah. That's really sweet. Turn it down. Turn it down. Stop and ask her about her day or do you go back to the hockey? Okay, how are you?

Oh, and then I tore the score and I tore it. Zip it up. It's time for the hockey. Women's, I love the guys just want men to stop talking. Women want, guys want women to stop talking. She's quiet. I'm lucky. That's good.

A lot of time. It's just, on load time when people get home from work and they just want to go right into all that. Yes. And it's tough, but you got get home from work and I just want to like go right into all that. Yes, and It's tough, but you got to sit there and listen patiently. I saw women sometimes want to men But I never would guys who are just like me, but most of them aren't, but they want to talk or everything and process, you know Okay, so and okay, we come back I'm gonna give you some more tips about that about how you can make sure that you're doing the right things So you continue to have amazing sex this year. It's really, really easy stuff to do. Okay. But first, thank you to my sponsor,

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Follow the booze. I always get your booze. I know. You take your time. Thank you. I like crown. I like Jack Daniels. I like, I like all whiskers. Crowns better, right? I'm Canadian. I went to the, because I went to bemo and the guy thought I was like, had some learning disabilities or something because my knowledge of alcohol and like how old I am, like I think he thought, like I don't know the difference in scotch and which key I don't I don't I'm probably an alcoholic and most doctors books and I don't know the difference so I don't feel bad. I felt really like ignorant about it. I'm like well I know lines. You're such a sweet person. She's

probably in a big bottle of booze. Thank you for everything you do for me. That's very sweet. What do you want from me? What do I get? Nothing. Oh god. Nothing. A Bible. You need a Bible there? You know, I probably should. No. Yes. What a Korean. You're a little Korean. I probably need some more religion. I I or some. No, I'm pretty spiritual. You know, spiritual. I hate anyone who says their spiritual is not spiritual.

Anyone who says their sexual is not sexual too. I'm a very sexual person. No, you're very funny. What if you're about funny? You are. I am so funny. Everyone laughs behind my back all the time. No, but that's used to. What if you're about funny? We're I am so funny. Everyone laughs behind my back all the time. No, but that's so you can't talk about it. Because then you're not. It's

okay. So greet them with enthusiasm, which is important. And think about your part of her once in a while, because we all have needs need to be met, which is why it's so important to be selfless and cater to your partner every once in a while.

So do the things they love to do make their favorite meal, put on a movie, they like even though you really wanted to watch the hockey game. You know, like if you really hate it, you hate it, whatever you can go with, turn on your iPhone and start texting your friends. Little tiny sacrifices will make them feel

like a king or queen for the day. So it's worth it to think like one of those last time I made a little compromise that really isn't a big deal to me, that would make it partner happy. Do to you an example. And also this extends to like even people you're dating or work or life. Any little sacrifices you do that you think makes your partner happy. It's a constant. I mean, I I'm one of those ones that I get happy by making other people happy. So it kind of comes naturally, but right because you're coming. Also, I got to get. happy by making other people happy so it kind of comes naturally but also I got to get like creative because I have one of these strange people that doesn't I'm married to a person who doesn't like to go out to eat that

all that's why you're always getting up doesn't like to go see movies much either so it's kind of like what else you do like in the movie business that's all I want to do is like see movies and go out to eat what does she like what does she like to do she's like to leave it she likes to see, so it's forced me to like find out, I'm lucky enough that we live in the Metropolis, that is Los Angeles, so there's always something. We were both born and raised here, she and I, but there's still so many things we haven't seen,

but I'm sure that most people listening to this, there's cool little things in your little town that you've never done. Exactly. We went on a tourist bus a couple weeks ago. That's so fun. And we got LA, we got a tour of Hollywood. And we lived here, you know what I mean?

But it was still cool. That's really, was that her idea? So she'd rather do things like that maybe, and you'd rather go to movies. I'm much more traditional. I just like to try different little hole in the walls and this and that like food and drink. It's just a drink.

She doesn't like food, my chassis. She eats fast food. So it's a challenge, but you find things. But then every once in a while, you get the fast food every once in a while. You just think, fun, exactly. So it's not that, and you find things. But then every once in a while, you get the fast food every once while you just think, fun, exactly. So it's not that in you know, this when you got together with this person or sometimes it's just, it doesn't have to be deal breakers that you can compromise also

participate in their life like outside your like something like outside of the shared interests. So if it's like guys are so to fantasy football, which I find so boring, but whatever I can try to pretend that I care, you can sit with them, you know, favorite video games, exotic cars, whatever, ask your partner, like, no, would you appreciate it? Do you ever feel, can you even talk about your wife, like in past relationships that you like

when the person you're dating shows interest in what you do? Yeah, at least they have to have interest in something. Right, but what about you, what do they never ask to, though? Hey, Anderson, tell me about your podcast, or listen to it, how would you feel? That's a little scary, like. So he's got after disaster which is a great oh also sorry

I always film vault amazing podcasts. They both are about film and but what if you date were date because this goes for dating I'm just curious and you were dating and she never said to you so like how'd you get into you know talking about film? Why do you love film? It'll be a little scary would you be like she doesn't care about me? Yeah, like I'm just kind of a placeholder. Like she just needs like a guy in that position in her life and it doesn't really matter who she's not making an effort to know more about you. But she obviously doesn't care, right? Well, or she just is self-involved and doesn't know. Which translates to, I don't care about you because I only care about me. Right. Exactly. So I would say that typically though, even if you're in to continue to ask about those things too, right? But no, you're right. There

are people who I know a lot of God. Well, those things too, right? But no, you're right. There are people who I know a lot of got. Well, both goes both ways. But you know what? People are weird though too. Like, I'll talk to people who have been work like recently. I went to this restaurant. It was really cool.

It was really old and been there forever. I asked the guy how long he'd work there. He said like five years. I was asking some basic questions about the building. No idea. So sometimes people just don't think to ask questions about things that are around them including their others. But he probably appreciate the difference from the interest. But he was just like, he was...

Well, that wasn't a good example. That was a terrible example. But I'm saying, I mean, no, but I think that everyone likes the people who, I mean, I've always been someone who grills people. I probably go overboard. I ask a lot of questions. Here's a better example. I was dating a girl for probably six months and I have a film strip tattooed on my arm Right goes around and it looks a little bit like a snake some people think that this girl five months into the relationship Somebody talked about the film strip on my arm. We're out in public and she goes, oh, that's what that is I always thought it was just like bracelets or something. I'm like

She never asked about your tattoos. She never asked about it. She's made an assumption and it was a wrong assumption. And then did you jump for her? No. Uh, we got like bang for another couple of weeks and then that was like taking interest. Like you put this thing on your body that you're gonna for the rest of your life. You just think that somebody wants to get to know you like I knew her tramp stamp was a butterfly. I could tell that's your first time in the state of tramp stamp. But you never talk about her stamp. Like when you heard, did you ever say what you did? I asked her why many times. Really?

But she never asked about yours. Just interesting. So you just want to listen. You just want to give and take. And also, for women, if there's something that your partner for guys that your partner is interested in, that could seem trivial to you, just make the effort and ask anyway. We all want to feel like the person that we're with cares about all aspects of our life and that you are listening.

Also, praise their accomplishments. I think that everyone has a deep rooted need to be praised and feel like their efforts are recognized. And I think that a lot of people are withholding from that. They might think like, oh, if I praise and part are too much, she's going to get a big, this is like early out. This is what men is always says, but it's just young. But no, I think you think so. If you tell a woman too much that she's whatever she's going to think she gets, but it's like, no, like, she's going to think what? She

like, she's, this is like early out when you're dating, but I guess, but if you tell a woman that you're really into or that you think you're really beautiful, she's going to know that you're really into her and then take a van to view. That happened to men. That must have happened to him once. Yeah, so it's like a douchebag. It's one of those. No, I'm not. He's not. I love men. What I'm saying is there is a school of men, a school of thought that think that you have to be kind of douchey to be kind of a

loof. You have to be able to hold your own for sure. I mean, you can't be like a pushover and constantly like faunting over someone. Right. But I think that probably menace our his for I think that this people do think this way, but all I'm saying is that we all the deep rooted need to feel like our efforts are recognized. We do.

No matter what we do, work life or part of it, right? And we want to feel like our partner sees our skills and talents and is part of us. And I really think that that's true. Like if you're part of it, they don't have a traditional job or, you know, your husband is a stay-home dad and he just built a new deck and you think it's awesome. Like you can say like how did you do that or if she's home during the day of the kids, I don't know what not to be stereotypical but you think like people stop talking once or together and it's just to show interest in what your partner likes makes them feel good as well. So, um, right? Don't you think? Yeah, even if it's not something directly

that relates to you. Right, exactly. That was an individual. And I think for men, like, did he just do, like if you talk about like, did he do something great at work recently or did he put up a new bookshelf? Like, don't just like thank him.

I think that men want to be praised. Bookshelf. And then they want to be bragged about to friends and family. So if your Thanksgiving dinner and your guy's probably not gonna speak up and talk about the fact that he just got a raise or he wanted to award at work, it would probably make him feel good in front of his family and women too. So if you brought it up, I think men like that more do agree or disagree. I do, but I'm stuck on bookshelf. It makes them feel validated or so through. You go,

hey, I'm sitting in the bar, low. You know how we call it a glove box, the glove box? Yeah. Because people used to put their gloves in there back in the day That's what bookshelves are gonna be because there's not gonna be any books in the near future That's true, and they're still gonna be called bookshelves So like our kids kids are gonna be like why do they call them bookshelves? What's a book? It's gonna be awesome. Well, maybe those things like store your story No, they'll still call it like they do a glove box. I love that. I never thought of that before I'm really there. You're a genius off off roading is totally fine because I do that.

And you know what? If it's if this isn't coming naturally to you either and you maybe you should take a look at your relationship. Maybe you don't care about the person sitting across for me much. Exactly. If you don't even ask what they're tattooing. It's so true. This is this is all like really. And this is good for you. Just starting a relationship too. So the next time you go out, you know, ask I think a lot of people I think they might not do it for several reasons. I think on the first date a lot of people talk about themselves a lot because they're nervous and they don't you know I've got a lot of people love to talk about themselves because they're an expert. So if you're a guy or a woman whatever who's anxious or I'm not anxious like uncomfortable dating and you know, ask questions. Where'd you from? Do brothers and sisters?

I mean you can go on, not, not. I do this all the time. It's not even because I'm nervous. I'm just actually really curious. So, and you know, it's, yeah, ask questions. It's good, makes you feel validated. And you get to know the other person sitting across from you too. If they just take the ball and run with it

and it's an hour later, they're still talking about themselves. Hey, look at that person, that's what they are. Exactly, and then you know all the answers, like don't, don't pick Koi and don't, but you must really be interested if you're sitting there, like, and also, you never what they are. Exactly, and then you know all the answers, like don't pick Koi and don't, but you must really be interested if you're sitting there, like, and also, you never know where you're gonna learn from someone either. So look at this opportunity to learn,

even if you're like, I'm not interested in this person, just make sure there's a natural balance that could give and take when you're on dates and stuff like that. And also notice the small things. So like making a cup of coffee or remembering to Tivo, your favorite show, Tivo, isn't it funny, people say that Tivo? I still have a Tivo so it makes sense yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah they have an option with

that direct TV you could get you can still get a brand new Tivo I love my I love Tivo more than the TV think it's filled up because I never watch TV but why do you even have one to get rid of it put a dildo display case where your TV is I already have dildos like all over in other places that they shouldn't. Wait, I was gonna say something else about my oven, but I don't have dildos on my oven because I don't have an oven.

But last night. That's where I keep your sex book. In your oven? Yes. Cool. So wait, I was gonna say that, um, TV, we have up. So can my direct TV, can I get more memory on it?

I just feel like we're way off road now more in the bookshelf. Okay, so also here's another thing guys. Yes, there's many like the genie. You should maybe look at the genie. Just be text me out. Okay, if you so again, you guys holidays are coming up. Thanksgiving be thankful if you want to appreciate your partner. You know, just think about some of these things.

Like I haven't told her lately that I appreciate this or that or you know, ask them some questions about things that you, because a lot of times I think again, making assumptions, we make assumptions that they don't want to talk about it, so we don't ask, or we make assumptions that it's something that's too intimate, but I don't know, they'll let you know if it's too intimate, but I think a lot of times it can be seen as not caring, so it's good to just ask questions. And do that, and also, if you want to treat that person special, that special person in life to a luxury sex toy, they've been coveting again.

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There's more stuff that you could do now to appreciate your partner. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I mean, I like, it works for both ways too. You can figure out by, you know, using some of the tips you just gave, if the person sitting across from you is wrong as well. It's not just about, you know, making your relationship better, it's maybe figuring out the relationships right. That's true too. God, we learned a lot tonight.

Okay, Anderson, thank you so much, and I'm thankful for you and happy Thanksgiving. better is maybe figuring out the relationships right. That's true too. God, we learned a lot tonight. Okay, Anderson, thank you so much. And I'm thankful for you and happy Thanksgiving. And thank you. Everyone, remember, go to my website, check it out, and look at all the great deals that I have and all the fun things happening. Center for the mailing list.

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