Sex With Emily - Great Solo Sex-pectations

Episode Date: May 10, 2016

It’s the season for pleasin’ yourself, but some of you may still have some masturbatory doubts. In this self-loving show, Emily addresses 3 of the most common masturbation questions she gets asked: how to do it, why we do it and where to find that elusive G-spot.   Self-loving sounds easy enough, right? Well, when you consider factors like clitoral hypersensitivity, G-Spot uncertainty and masturbation in a relationship, it can quickly become a confusing activity. Emily tackles these topics and more, providing a rundown on masturbation basics along with a detailed G-Spot location guide. From wishbones to walnuts to self-love in space, this show will render you a bonafide masturbation expert. So get out there and start touching yourself! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we tackle the three most common masturbation questions. Because hey, it's masturbation month. We're going to talk about how to touch yourself for maximum pleasure. Why are your partner masturbates? Where to locate the G-Spot. Thanks for listening. For more than 30 years, Vibratex has understood that giving women options means more than offering a variety of colors. They know what feels good to you might not be what feels good to someone else. Exploring your own self pleasure is not only fun, but it's an important part of learning what works for you. To help women explore, Vibratex was among the first introduced toys that rotate and twist to stimulate all your sensitive areas.

A favorite of mine is the Sugarpop. It's not just sound fun, sugar pop. What makes sugar pop from Vibratex so unique is it's belly dancer-like motion that twirls the shaft around hitting even all of the right spots. Mixing it even more irresistible is a uniquely shaped external vibrator. The sugar pop features four intensity levels,

five vibrations, and five rotation patterns creating an amazing range of customizable sensations. It's splash proof and of course made of vibrotex is supple and 100% body safe elastomer. If you're ready for one of the most unique experiences you can have with a vibe, I suggest you give the Sugar Pop a twirl. The Sugar Pop is just one and more than 50 unique vibrotex products available for your own experimentation. Visit vibrotex.com to see the full selection or to learn

more about the sugar pot. Thanks for listening. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. It's so nice. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, not only?

What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I want to feel so grown. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Avaline's not the kind of girl you just play with.

[♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemely.com. We can check out our mailing list and subscribe. I love when you subscribe those in iTunes and you review us and also thanks for telling your friends about the show so they can enjoy it too. And while you're at it, follow it, follow us at facebook.com slash sexwithemily and I'm Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat at sexwithemily.

Thanks everyone for being here. Thank you, Melissa for being here. Hello. Hello. What's going on? You know, just a rockin' through masturbation months? I know, right? Do you want to hear the most interesting thing? Are you chafed in?

Not yet. No, but here's the funny thing. So I talked to you that I'm redoing a lot of things in my life, we're opening up a new, out bigger office, and I'm going through my entire house, which does have a lot of storage. And so I finally thought that since I'm redoing it so it can kind of like, I mean, I don't own it, I rent it,

but I'm just trying to make it so I can actually walk from one side of the bed to the other and like open drawers. Then I started to open these drawers that are kind of scary to me, not scary, but like they have literally like every toy, I mean, I have a lot in the garage too, but toys in like one day I'm gonna try this one or I'm gonna try this nipple clamp cuz I give 18 nipple clans

So I started pulling it all out or the door kind of move the bed. It's a storage bed. I pulled out 65 bottles of lube they're concluding like samples. I had about 10 different kinds of nipple clamps I had you know 10 different kinds of nipple clamps. I had, you know, where are they eating? They have everything for me. I didn't know.

So many chargers, chargers like tangled up. I'd like a $2.00 dollar butt plug with like the pony hair, the one who just took the light. I had all these cute costumes. I had like a nurses costume and I had like the schoolgirl. I'm like, oh my god, I've got some sexy stuff going on my bed.

I'd like restraints. And that was just two drawers. They're very deep drawers. So that was really fun. And I thought I'm getting my life, getting everything drawers. So that was really fun and I thought, I'm getting my life, getting everything organized and now I see exactly what I have all, because then on the other side of the bed,

I have like the toys that are on my immediate rotation but these are toys that I just sort of put back there and toys and props and I'm like, I'll get to that, you know, whip one day. But now it's all across my house, spread across one. So sweet, you gotta snapchat that. I'm snapping it, I'm snapping it's all across my house. Spread across. You got a Snapchat. I'm snapping it. I'm snapping.

Check out my Snapchat. Your Snapchat is blown up, by the way. I know. That's crazy. That's really fun. Thank you for showing me. I know I watched your Snapchat. It's actually them.

It's actually the only Snapchat. It would be a billionaire by now if you just listen to me once more. No, but Mattis, I'll never forget that in 2009 you called me and said get on Twitter You're like there's this Twitter thing happening. I'm like what you like just do what I say and I remember we're I was standing like in the mission. I'm like okay, okay Do it and I know you've been telling me this and so I'm doing it and yeah, I gave you a billion dollar idea last year And you said I've jumped on it which one We'll talk about it later. Okay. We'll get to the minute. I'm just saying. But see what happens when you listen to me good things happen.

I know, I always listen to you and you're very loyal to and I have to say something about this business is that it's not an easy business and no business easy. Okay. Yeah. The entertainment especially, it's just really a lot of it is hard work. Some of it's luck. It's like working with the right people and you realize that a lot of people are just kind of in it for themselves and not loyal, but I feel like our relationship going into our eleventh year, you have been like, you are truly like a friend, like a confident, my co-host, you've always been stable and amazing and show up and I just appreciate you so much. Like I realize how special that is and how rare that is.

People like, hey each other, they blow up, it's like eight type of rarely I know you, but you don't, we've other, they blow up. Like, hey, type of rarely, I know you, but you don't, you never got in a fight. Yeah, I never say, I'm never gonna help you ever again. No. I just think, and I think I learned this early on, I had great surroundings when I was starting out in radio.

There's a guy named Big Von. If anyone lives in San Francisco and he listened to 106 came Yale, he's on in the afternoon 3 p afternoon 3pm and he taught me, he's the guy that got me into radio, he taught me, you know what, if you help as many people that wanna be helps, the good things will happen to you.

It's so true. I mean, I'm the same exact way. Like, how do I get into this? How do I do this? I love how people like that. You definitely have the right people, like yourself that are nice, that are into it, that wanna succeed and do well.

For the right reasons. Yeah, I've definitely like helped out people in the past that are just like totally like into it for themselves. They don't care about. Take advantage of you, or whatever. And stuff like that. But then I definitely have cut those people off. You could tell.

You know, but it's just like, I don't know, again, and that goes for life in general. You know, if you just help other people, good things will help. It is so true. It is so true. How other people, and I always tell you, I work with you, you never want to burn any bridges. Like wherever you go, you might hate your job, your boss,

but if you leave a situation, you want to leave it in a healthy place. And you never know who's going to be your boss, your neighbor, again, someone who's like, you're a system, but you're boss and vibe.'re like you don't know and I just I'm lucky I'm proud I don't think I really burned any like me. I still like I could call my boss from 15-year-old politics Yeah, you don't want to there's only one guy that I feel one thing that I ever done in my career That feel really bad about it. It was like 2004 and I still think about it all

And it's just no no I can get into it. It was like 2004. And I still think about it all. Yeah. And it's just no, no, I can get into it. It's just like, okay, this is what I feel really bad about. I had to make, I had to make a decision. I was, I was like, go for a come from a company for some dumb reason. And I was like, damn, I need a radio job. So I went to somebody I knew. And then they got me a job at a Spanish station, which I really couldn't, I don't speak Spanish. Right. Um, Pocquito, you know, whatever, but, uh, but they gave me a chance, you know, and then, but then my old company started calling back and wanted me back and gave me this huge opportunity.

And then, what was the way you showed, right? No, no, no, it was a huge opportunity on another morning show. And then I was just like, I was put in a tough place because here I am, I was given this opportunity when I was down, but there's no way that I'm going to progress. And then there's this other opportunity. Now, so I had to take that other big opportunity. And then, but I still feel bad to this day that that guy helped me out.

You retired to home with the commens? I've had set, during that time, I said, I was sorry, but I started talking. I don't understand that. I mean, you're not. I know, but I still feel really bad about it. No, I can't. I feel that too.

Whenever I've had weird things, I want to make rights to wrongs. Yeah, so I feel, I still feel terrible about that. Well, you're a good person. I try. I forgive you. Thank you for forgiving me. Yes, I think you would too.

But so yeah, there's that. That's a little life less than there for people. And I just, since it is, my husband raised him on the entire month of May, we've got a lot of great stuff planned for you. We're doing a lot of giveaways. Because as you know, we've got some toys. We've got two different giveaway contests.

We've got Gick tight for summer giveaway. And this contest is to encourage pelvic floor health. Check out my website for more details. It goes into the end of May, so there's still time to enter. And I promise you, it's about doing your caggles regularly and your routine, but we're going to explain it on the website Um, kind of just too. We want to know too, we want to know how you self love. How do you masturbate? What is your masturbation routine? Do you get home, lock the doors,

drop your pants, turn on porn? Do you like, I don't know, open your windows to your neighbors can see you? Do you, you, how do you use your hands, your fingers or your toes? We just want to know. E-mails, because we've got some masturbation-friendly prizes for you. Also, we would do some great shows lately. We do two shows a week. You can check out jealousy, infidelity, and eggplant emojis. How to tackle your insecurities in the bedroom.

How do you stop them getting in your way? What's to do with your partner? What's up? Bring up their ex. Those are some good shows. We've had some great ones. So check about what we asked for to do, our drunk show, which I am an advocate of doing all the time. And then we'll just do a sober show every once in a while, because that was really, really fun.

I loved that one. And then also, what else is I just going to say? I managed to take a phone call. Come over here, Madison. There's something else I was going to say. And it was really important. This is producer Madison. Hi, everyone. What was I just going to say? There was something Come over here, Madison. But there was something else I was gonna say, and it was really important. This is producer Madison. Hi, everyone.

What was I just gonna say? There was something they came to my mind. It wasn't even about menace. I don't care that you just walked out the door to take a phone call, but there was something that was about, was about masturbation month, was about the show, was about the girls. Kegels. I don't know, was about Kegels,

something we've been doing. Oh, check us out on YouTube, because we did do videos describing the content as well right? Yes it's the best way to learn about the contest is by the videos and we also have a blog on the website and it's called Get Type for the Summer Giveaway if you're feeling like it's a new site and we love our site but we're still working on little kinks. We're trying to put a contest button up there. Trying to figure out. How long is that? Maybe. Maybe it'll be there by then. I was going to say something about the new off oh this is what I was going to say so you

know I'm doing all this house renovation and speaking of being naked, I realized that like I had the, you know, I have my card. I feel like I'm invisible there because I do live in the back house and no one knows I'm there, but there are big windows and there were no curtains on them. And I often walk around, I sleep naked,

get up in the middle of the night, I get a drink, you know, drink a water. And I'm realizing now like, I sleep naked, get up in the middle of the night, I get a drink, you know, get drink of water. And I'm realizing now like, I swear every other people could, like no one is going to, but they could see me naked. So now I've taken care of that situation, but I thought like, what if my landlords, like girlfriends there and just like kick out that girl, the naked girl walking around. So now I'm going to have curtains, and it's going to be nice.

But like, I don't, I don't know. I'm just thinking of people's masturbation routines and do a grow naked. And that's what I mean. Maybe think of that. I now live in a naked proof house. Windows open masturbation is just delightful though. Like on an afternoon, you've got the sunlight streaming in everything. It's very like a soft core porn from showtime. Yeah. I love. I've got like birds tweeting. I love your cottage. If you ever move out, I'm moving in. See, I'm glad you see. I like it too, but there's so many little problems

that we're fixing right now. Okay, good. There's no, whatever. I told you not to move out. I would just have to be. You're contemplating. Because you like, because it's little and, I like little spaces.

I'm weird, I'm weird, I'm weird. Like, I'm the only person on my group of friends that like, really into tiny houses. Have you seen that tiny houses craze? It's like miniature houses and stuff like that. You can't have them here in LA, but you can buy like these little mini modern. They're already made and they can go off your house.

They can go to a mallocs. Yeah, you can buy them for like $30,000. I've seen those, yeah, definitely. You know, it's just a little guess house that was built, like you know, by, you know, my landlord built it from its own hands when he came over from Russia because it's not stable. You know the earthquake I might die but I'm fixing it up. Okay so that's what we got there and we got a little sex in the news. Cool. Menace this one maybe think of you. All right. Canadians already know about

car sex and protect even more with driverless cars? Now yes you've been talking about driverless cars for a while I don't you didn't make up driverless cars because they were talking you predicted them. Yeah I was I was the first one to like start matching it I think because I would read the articles when they were first coming out. Right. And then like no one was like really into it and then I go you don't realize this can be like, you can be on your way to Vegas and be in the back seat, having sex. Right, it was again.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, it kept them blowing me up. But it turns out it looks like it turned out back seat. I know, I know, I know. God, why are we billionaires? I wasn't seeing you on Twitter and I should have made a car. No, but then this thing's like, remember when I was 10 years ago, I'm like you can have sex through the internet now that shit is here Everything what the Ethel we're doing here. I don't know why are we on a private jet?

Why don't you ever listen to me? I want to drive Let's just go for then I gave you again. I gave you a billion. I need a new one I promise you last year and you didn't do I promised your next billion dollar idea. I will run with it It's so easy, but here's thing the term backseat drivers about take a whole new meaning I'm predicting that once computers are doing the driving there'll be a lot more sex and cars Says Barry Kirk of the Canadian Automated Vehicle Center of Excellence He said more so apparently there's already an in-bises going on and it's Canadian with in Canada. Let's make the point that even though driverless cars are coming and coming fast, it doesn't

mean you can't sit back. It doesn't mean you can sit back, take a nap, read a book, watch a movie, or hop in the back seat with your partner. Even if you're in the front seat, you still have to be aware of your surroundings and what's happening. So, and you gotta take over the wheel. So, they mentioned Tesla, let's see, officials mentioned videos posted online of Tesla drivers brushing their teeth, they're reading newspapers with the car's autopilot feature engaged.

So, the issue of the attentive driver is problematic. They tend to overestimate the performance of automation and will naturally turn their focus away from the road and then they when they turn on their autopilot, but they're not really driving this like at least Tesla is not driverless yet. And if car sex and list is remember the authorities are looking for it. It's looking to arrest you for the car. It doesn't sound safe to me. Like I'm already like shouldn't be driving in general and I'm focusing. Like you know what I mean?

So just pull you on a driverless car. It'd be perfect Just type in the address and you just I want to be driving less and have a driver But I don't want a driver less car. Yeah, I found it a way to just you know crash through Someone's like a gas station or something. Okay, okay But first I want to give shout out should I make my next sexual prediction? Yeah, oh, go, please. Take notes. So we can have sex of the internet now, and it's gonna be like virtual reality

and stuff like that, you can just put the headsets on. What is the next thing? What is the next level? Are they gonna, hmm. I mean, I think this virtual reality thing, like people will not, men won't leave their house. Cause they really feel like you're having sex. I haven't tried it yet, but I've heard about it.

How about within the next 10 years or less, somebody will have sex in space for science? Oh, for sure. Yeah, people are going to space, the people have all these talks. Yeah, the space acts and all that stuff. And then Virgin America. Why not have sex when she's there, yeah. But they're doing it for scientific reasons. Well, how can we make what you think you want me to go there and be the first person

sex? If you want to, I start like a crowdsourcing campaign crowdfunding. Sex and face. Sex. That's it. Yes. I'll wear the hamburger. You can outfit with, uh, in silver. You can get on the, uh, Virgin America, one of their flights.

It's here in, in Los Angeles, go on there, it costs about 250 grand, you go to space, I'll even let, first blowjob in space at least. You don't have to do full-on sex because that might be kind of hard. Who would I give the blowjob to? I don't know, some Randall millionaire that's on the flight with you.

Oh, okay, a millionaire penis. Yeah, but what about the gravity stuff? Like I just wonder how you would, if your body, like your breath and all that, it would be safe to have sex in space. Oh my gosh. I don't know if you're just wearing it. I'm over thinking it.

It could be a quickie. Yeah. Typically sex that you do, like, when you do random sex stuff, it's outdoors or weird. Like it's not usually like the most pleasurable sex. It's just like cool that you did it, like on a chairlift. Like I did once, like I couldn't die. It was cold.

It didn't have an orgasm, but it was fun. Good story. So sex and space, I think would be a good story. It wouldn't be like, okay, but I need to get something that's a little bit sooner because. Yeah, 10 years I can't wait. Yeah, you don't already be a millionaire and then just start talking.

Yeah, no, I actually, to be honest, I think I would still be freaking doing this. All right, good. I just might get here in a nicer car that I'm not driving. Yeah, all right, good. But first, get here in a nicer car that I'm not driving. Yeah. All right, good. But first, let's give a big shout out to Helix, our sponsors. And this is actually an important one,

because you know my biggest wish is to help every single one of you have more fun and bad. But even the best of us need to go to sleep at some point. And I want to make sure you're making the most of that, too. So I want to know when is the last time you bought a new mattress? Because if you asked me the whole process sucks, you wanted to pay too much for a mattress,

no better than when you're throwing out. And my friends at Helix Sleep felt the same way, and they reinvented the entire mattress buying process. So instead of paying thousands for a standard mattress that you like to sleep on for a second, when you go from sort to sort of store, you lay back on it, Helix Sleep will custom make a mattress for you like to sleep on for a second when you go from store to store or you lay back on it, he looks at people custom make a mattress for you for hundreds.

Yeah, custom mattress for less than off the shelf brand. You go to helixleap.com slash Emily, answer a few questions, simple, and he looks to create your custom sleep profile. Like they can figure out what kind of bed you need. Next they build you the most comfortable mattress you will ever sleep on. Period. And your custom mattress will arrive at your door in like a week, shipping is 100% free. And this is my favorite part because I always have buyers or more stuff about things that I get anxious buying and even launch them like did I want this to. You have 100 nights to try it out. And if you don't love it, they pick it up for free. Like it never happened and give

you 100% refund. No questions asked, it's like gone. And you go to helixleap.com slash Emily, so do this, wait, okay. Go to helixleap.com slash Emily, and get $50 off your order. That's helixleap.com slash Emily, get a mattress that works for you today. Okay, we're back.

We're back. Yes. And we're gonna talk about, we're gonna do this to back. Yes. And we're going to talk about, we're going to do this to me, males. Let's do it. Okay, so thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sex with elmi.com. Oh, it's so easy now to email us on our website. You just go to the Ask Emily button and ask a question and you ask it right there. Buh, sends, goes right to our inbox.

You don't have to like go and write out feedback. It's really easy. Tell us your name, where you live, how old you are. That's important, how old you are, and how you listen. And the first one, there is about masturbation because it is masturbation month. So I'm going to get some nitty-gritty details here. All right.

Do it. So I'm 19, but I've never successfully masturbated before. I want to, but I'm not sure exactly what to do. I get so far, and then my click gets sensitive, so sensitive that I can't continue. I don't really want to get a vibrator or any toys. Do any suggestions to get past the, how to get past that point and continue?

Please help Aaron. So Aaron's going through like a classic mistake that a lot of men make when they go right for the clitoris. I always say that's like the not the best thing you could do if you're dating someone new, you're in a new relationship, heterosexual couple, she is not turned on it. So sometimes when you go right for the clitoris, I get that's a hot button. I'm glad you know what it is, but you got to work up to it.

You got to like tease them. You got to turn on. You got to make sure that you're like ready to be touched there because some women are more sensitive. And a lot of women just mostly just don't want you to go right there because they're not even turn on yet. But Aaron sounds like you're one of these more sensitive types. So before we get into the technique, I'm just going to lay out the basics for you about masturbation. So you need to be comfortable, you need to relax, and you need to be in the right environment. So for you, that can mean in your bedroom, making sure that like your door's locked, your mom doesn't walk in, your roommates,

and whatever makes you feel relaxed and sexy, like candles, maybe it's your favorite music, favorite porn, people got the routines. Take the pressure off yourself because you're new to masturbation. And so I think a lot of women, I was one of these women, I suspected that the first time it would happen. Well I thought it would happen during sex and it didn't happen that.

And of course, and then I thought it would happen when I masturbated and that didn't happen. And you just, you got to figure out for some moment it does, but for some you got to take time to get your, know your own body. So set the mood, set the atmosphere and you got to get your brain your own body. So set the mood set the atmosphere and you gotta get your brain on board Because your mind is a number one sex organ So if you're not turned on above the belt nothing good's gonna happen below So how do you do this Aaron for you? I'm not sure maybe you think of sexy thoughts you think about your Past sexual partner your current one future, you know

Maybe it's an amalgamation of a bunch of things that have happened. You sexually, some really hot things, watch porn, listen to rotica, whatever gets you in the mood. Okay, next you want to start touching yourself and stimulating other parts of your body besides the clitoris. So start touching yourself, touching your nipples, run your hands all over your body, and since you're sensitive, you might want to keep your underwear on and rub over your underwear, which is always a big tip that I've been talking about for years.

I don't know if I'm talking about lily, but I love that. Like a lot of women think too. What kind of fabric though? Oh, it could be cotton, it could be silk, it could be satinite, it could be any fabric, but I think that since the clitoris is so sensitive and just a different sensation that when you rub a lot of women over their underwear over their clothing, it feels really good. Just because it's thick, your clitoris is getting rubbed with like a different sensation. It also is like a build up and then you go in with your hands.

It's just a cool little tip trick for you, Erin, and for your partners. So, you know, touch your thighs, inner thighs, your breasts. I just remember there's so many of our body zones in our bodies, who are like your inner thighs, like there's so many nerve endings there, like your neck or your nipples, and this will help you get warmed up and ready.

So now that you're warmed up, then you can go into it. So, okay, I'm gonna give you some techniques. I'm gonna get really specific here. About masturbation menace. Use your pointer and middle finger, pointer, middle finger, and you want to lightly massage circles directly around the clitoris, like brushing over it. You're not touching the clitoris, you're going around the clitoris, okay?

You might want to add a little loop, drops of loop to your fingers because women are more likely to have an orgasm when you add a little loop into the mix and you want to add a little loop, drop a loop to your fingers, because women are more likely to have an orgasm when you add a little loop into the mix. And you want to vary the strokes and the pressure. So there was a study that came out that said that most women is a diagonal move across their clitoris. So you know, that that could work for you. You can go faster, slower, you can stick with the steady motion.

So just like play with like fingers, you can start tapping, you see that porn? There was like play with like fingers. You could start tapping. You see that porn, there was like tapping or maybe you want a little slap. You could, here's the thing, what I'm thinking for you is the wishbone. So you put your two fingers facing down, right? So your clitoris is like under the hood

of your like wishbone, okay? So that's your clitoris is. And we talk about the legs of the clitoris. So that's like your labial, your labial, like so you play with your lab, so your fingers are touching them. So you're, you get what I'm saying, like your clitoris, that's why I need to make my own volleyball puppet. I got obsessed with this last night. But um, so your, your fingers are rubbing over labor folds and you like indirectly are using it to massage your clitoris. You can also put those like labial folds together. If you know what I'm saying, it's

like you're closing your vagina and you're using those and you're going over your clitoris, you're using those to rub your clitoris, right? So you're indirectly touching your clitoris. So that was a lot there. Did you get that Aaron? Everyone listening? Those are different moves and we also have a ton of stuff on our website about masturbating. So you can go there.

Next thing is you gotta breathe. A lot of people hold their breaths when they're, hold their breaths, hold their breath when they're masturbating. And it's just really important to be mindful of that because the more breath that you breathe in, you breathe out, then you're like allowing the bloodthrow to move through your body. And it'll just help you relax and help you move that sexual energy to your body and it'll just help you relax and help you move that sexual energy

to your body. And you have to get out of your head too. Yeah. Do you have anything out here about massaging your calyteris? Oh, I just don't have one but I wish I knew more because that would just help out a lot in life. Did you listen? I did listen. I did listen. Yeah. I heard she was a woman. I listened to you. Yes. So there's the last thing be patient. It is a skill. Master patient, I can't drive this home enough just like any other skill you got to work at it. You've got to like learn what makes you feel good. It takes practice and you can't expect to get it right after a few tries and you can try a 30 day challenge. We can give you some products. And so just be patient and know,

and just be committed to it. You'll get the hang of things, I promise. And if you want to toy, she doesn't want to toy right now, but if you ever do. All right. Call me. Okay, this one,

minus I need your help with. All right. What you got? I just want to hear from you because you have a penis. But this is a really common issue. Master patient for a guy is so easy, but for women, it's so complicated because they're not all the same. I know this is why I have a penis. But this is a really common. Master patient for guys so easy but for women it's so complicated because they're not all the same. I know this is why I have to explain. Penises are all the same.

You put a hundred women in a room and they were all masturbating. They would all be doing something different. Yeah. It would be like a freak show. It would not be coordinated. Not a freak show. That's terrible thing. But it would be like that's a terrible thing. What? It's something women. No, it's not. Don't be so sensitive. It's not offensive. It's never too scum. not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive.

It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive.

It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive.

It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. It's not offensive. During the day, get home from the gym, etc. We live together. I find Loub, he accidentally leaves out all the time I'm not mad about it, so maybe I'm overthinking things. We've always had a healthy sex life from the beginning Multiple times a week and sometimes multiple times a day. I hope I'm being silly But now it seems like he'll masturbate and not want that sex with me later Is it me or his loss of interest in me or is he just a regular horny guy who wants it at random times? I brought it up once recently and he acted like I was a sex addict who wandered all day every day and said It's common for it to dwindle down in a relationship. I know that this happens in long term relationship sex tends to decrease But I feel like if it happens we'll drift apart and I don't want that tell me I'm crazy. Thanks in advance

Seriously the queen, uh, sincerely the queen overthinker. I thought I was the queen overthinker. Yeah, oh man. Okay, so let's make a lot of people over thinking everything constantly. I know. That's why they're so afraid to talk to their partner because they're always overthinking stuff. I know. She's overthought this whole thing. So that's why like we really had to break this down. We're going through show prep because it was like, MassNare like, wait, what are the questions here? Because there are two things, like first is the masturbation question. Like, why is he masturbation? Because I kind of think about like universally, like I get asked this question all

the time. I'm in a relationship. I love my boyfriend. Things are great. Why does he still masturbate? I they don't understand that masturbation is normal. He did it before you. He did it with you. Hold on. It's so easy to How do you explain menace that like you can be in love with your partner But just because your master reign doesn't mean that you are not being set. You're not satisfied for men Yeah, well sometimes it maybe you're not available Also a lot of it. It's like

Do I sometimes okay? Now, I don't want you to take this the wrong way and take it out on it, okay? Okay, okay Just gonna make a relationship Queenie we're getting back to you specifically. You're good Yeah, but sometimes it's kind of I don't want to because using same selfish is kind of a wrong term for it But let's to make it easier. That's what we're gonna use. Okay. It's just like okay Think of think of the vagina and how complicated it is to satisfy, all right?

The real experience of life. The real experience of life. The real experience of life. Yeah, now, think about, okay, now, do I wanna go and spend all that time to satisfy that vagina to get what I want, which I can take care of myself in a few minutes. And then I'm done and then I'm happy

and I can go to, you know, go to bed or just hang out and I'm done. Or a lot of times guys do it because they think it's gonna help them later when they do have sex with you. Pre-gaming. Pre-gaming. So they exactly already.

And then I, it's like practicing for, you know, like, yeah, you're gonna play basketball later. What do you do? You practice, you know? What do you say? Is it also, yes, and I agree to all those things that sometimes guys are like, it's just a hassle. And women too, we're like, I'd rather

just celebrate the gift, you know, than have sex too. That's the truth, but don't you think for also men it's like for you, I don't know, but do you feel like it relieves stress? Definitely. I think for a lot of men too. It's like it's so natural and normal for men like it's a hundred percent like most men will still masturbate in a relationship all the time and and it's like it's not about connecting with someone or like bearing your soul or intimacy It doesn't mean that he doesn't want that per se just means like he's stressed. He's anxious. He just wants some

It's just I call it procrastination, but since I just do it to like, I'm like, I should be doing something, but this will get me in the mood, this will relax me out of this masturbation. Like I do it for a lot of different reasons, and I keep being a relationship, but I have great sex.

So masturbation will happen, okay Aaron? Like not Aaron, that was last one. Queen over, Queenie over thinker. So just under, this is just for kind of everyone to understand that if you're with a guy and I just say this because when I was younger in my 20s, I was dating guy who masturbated watch porn and I was really, I was 24 and he was like serious boyfriend and I was really confused by it because I was like, I was shocked.

I was thinking like, we have amazing sex and to this day it still is like great sex I think about and I learned a lot. But I didn't get that, like I thought, well does he want me to look like that, because you want me to get fake boobs, does he want me to be with a blonde? Does it mean I'm not satisfying? These are things that women think, you know?

And it's just not the case, like that's really not always the case. So I think that male masturbation can be confusing. So now we got that out of the way. When masturbation is a problem in the relationship, is when the masturbatory habits conflict with your relationship. So for example, if he is masturbating so much, that he's no longer interested in having sex with you,

that's a problem. Like, men are just like, sometimes he's like, I don't want to, I'm just gonna have some. But if he's like, no, you're a sex like making you feel bad because he doesn't want to sex, we've got a problem. But a lot of times it's not because of the masturbation. It's because there's other things going on. Don't be jealous of the masturbation. Who cares? Right. But we already got to do that. Right. Don't be just like guys do it. Yeah. Married guys. Don't you encourage it, Madison?

You've talked about that in the past. Oh yeah, I'm all about it. Like masturbate, take care of yourself. So that way whatever you're doing is not for stress. I don't want you stress relieving inside of me. Like I'd rather that be about like connecting and us having fun. Like if you just need to get one out,

like take care of yourself. I'm not a flush light. I have things to do. And your boyfriend luckily has probably the most impressive collection out of anybody. Oh yeah, he's a pleasure to join the benefits. Yeah, he's on a tour of the flesh. Another name. I mean, maybe yeah, like we'll say that up. Okay. Does he name them? This one's Oh, I meant, well, he coming under. I don't know. Just one's donny. This is Stephanie. He definitely doesn't name them

Like one time he was joking around I'm gonna call this one Madison. I was like oh So I think that you need to talk to him about this like about all of it And you can just say like I'd like to have sex more often and you're afraid of this appear because I know he said that What concerns me as he said sex to indals and you know what it does it does dwindle I'm telling you over time in the relationship we all had sex three times a day at the first month of a relationship two years whatever however long that honeymoon phase goes but eventually biology takes over you know we get comfortable and it just does

the fact that he just said it's going to do it, that's fine. No, I think we know it's going to do it, expect that it's going to change a little bit that your sexual habits, your drive, but that you want to work on it, that you want to like, you know, say, well, we're not having it as much, but let's try to keep it interesting

or let's compromise about how many times a week we have, and I've talked about this a lot on the show. So, you know, you can just let them know that, you know, hey, I heard you say it's gonna like die over time, but we gotta work on it. I want to spice up our sex life, so it doesn't disappear completely. So, I think you just gotta get more information

because it does sound here, Missy Overthinker, Queen Overthinker, that you might be overthinking, because I had to read your email a few times, because I was like, you said, did he call you a sex addict, or you made you feel like a sex addict? This could be your own projection. So I'm just not really sure what's going like exactly. But I'm telling you that it's only these masturbates, but it's not normal if he's making you

feel bad and pushing you away, which I'm sure is not as intention, which is why they need to talk. Yeah. I'm sorry if it all comes out. overthinking it. overthinking it. I sort of think some guys overthink I've did overthinkers. They make it all super normal and calm I'm not really overthinker though. I would think about like stupid self-position

Think over thing, but that's over thinking ready number two. This is oh number three. All right number three Masterweight female where the f is my g spot Emily I was a g spot locator app We've been talking about for a year seat another billion dollar idea. I don't know Because it's different and every woman, but I want to do it. I want to do it. I did okay, okay I just think it's hard because it's different. It's not so easy. It's like we're Indiana Jones I know we're trying to find the golden statue. It's so hard. This is for a woman. Like she thinks hers is gone and migrated. Listen, Emily.

Never. I was really paying attention the last time I had sex and the spot that felt really good each time you thrusting out was against the back wall of my vagina toward my back. And I know the G spot is supposed to be towards your stomach. So what is that spot on feeling to my G spot of migrated to the back? Thanks Lauren Pittsburgh iTunes listener. Yes iTunes gives five stars five stars 19s. We love that. She dances every time. It does it does because we don't happen to know I'm just gonna cut. Sorry Lauren. I'm gonna find you to do some art in a minute but Years ago when I was trying to make a limit. It's still struggle, but we charge We pay we charge four years ago.

We paid, we tried to give it, it was experiment. We said, can you pay for a podcast? 99 cents a day, where it didn't work. Again, no one paid, but we still reviews on there and they're like, she charged or she did so many ads and I think I did used to a lot of ads. I'm sorry, all I wanted to do was make a living doing the show and I think I've worked out those kinks.

However, those angry people their It still lives on so can you please just Say yeah, and it's just cuz I want people to keep listening cuz I love my job And I love what I do and even if I became a billionaire I had my own plane I would still do the show over there with Men's yep, okay be podcasting from the plane. Exactly. Oh. Dude, that's so in my radar. That would be awesome.

I need nothing but that. OK. A number of things could be going back there, Lauren. Here's the thing. I can tell you for one thing, for sure, even though we don't have the G-Spot locator app, your G-Spot did not migrate. So let me break down the vagina for you. It has a number of rodent zones.

OK. So there's the A spot. That's the front vaginal wall behind the belly button, which is kind of tangentially near the G spot. Then there's the O spot, and that's the spongy tissue on the back wall of the vagina. And that might be the spot you're feeling, or you just might like how it feels when you're thrusting in and out.

There's also cervical orgasms that happens when your penis reaches so deep in it, might be the spot you're feeling, or you just might like how it feels when you're thrusting in and out. There's also cervical orgasms that happens when your penis reaches so deep and hit your cervix, there's like a lot of different orgasms. But if you wanna start with your G-spot, and why not start with that, there's some things in life that you gotta

start exploring solo, because it sounds like it's not happening with your partner. So, where is the G-spot? It's located about two inches inside the vagina. I think a lot of people think it's way further back, and it's the front vaginal wall. So it's like towards your belly button, so you're right about that.

And there's a cluster of tissue, and it's roughly the size of a bean. And it resembles the texture of a walnut, although the size and location, but it does vary from vagina to vagina, but I believe me it's not in your back. And when we become aroused, so you start using your fingers and you play and you explore, this lump of tissue starts to swell, and it becomes much more sensitive to the touch, so it's easier to find. And so the best way to find it is using your fingers.

Use some lube, explore that area. If you can have a clitoral orgasm or turn yourself on, sometimes that's a great way to get started because that area will start to swell up. And so with your fingers or your partner's fingers, you put your palm facing up, your fingers curled up and gently stroke the top of the vaginal wall.

So your fingers like in this come Heather motion, two fingers coming towards your belly button. And it's more of a stroking. It's not like a thrusting or could be a pressure like you stroke and you apply pressure. And again, it's a guy needs scuba gear. Don't you? Just like looking down there. Find some scuba. You can use like, like, no, you know, she's squirt. Can you also share real quick? Don't because I have to think about my cat that would end in love. I would do a squirting thing with a mask on. But yeah, my kids done a lot of crazy things.

But the thing that I want you to bring up, but I know we mentioned it many times, but we get new listeners all the time. Just a really quick recap. Your your friend, you had a friend who thought the same thing as this email. Yes. And then so she masturbated every day for three days. She masturbated every day for 30 days, which is kind of the inspiration for our masturbation

contest this week, because of this month. So, and she's an inspired me my entire life. This was when we were 19 and we were in college and she had never had an orgasm. And she had an internship and she was like going away for the summer and she said, you know what? She actually didn't tell me before she had this after, but she's like, I masturbated every day while I was there and she was there for 30 days and she said,

I just set back, I used my fingers, I played around, she had no idea, she had sex like once in her life. And she, like the third week, she finally figured out and she had like, amazing orgasms. Change her life. Change her life, but it took her like three weeks and I'm telling you, she's still my best friend until this day.

Every time she has sex with her husband she's married she'll have three orgasms. Like I believe that because she took that time of getting general her own body, like more than most people I know that she knows how to move and she knows she didn't come naturally to her. Maybe she had sex a few times before that. So that's the story you've naturally to her. Maybe she had sex a few times before that. So that's the story. You've got to practice. But the G-Spot, it does require continuous stimulation. It might not happen right away.

Again, there's also some great toys out there. I actually first fell in line with the toy. I don't remember which toy it was. But there's a lot of great G-Spot toys we talk about. And now I can have it during sex. So I had to find it that way. So, no, it's not easy, but that's crazy. And the other thing is, if you feel like you have to pee,

you want to keep going. That feels like it's probably working. So, and also, if anyone wants more G-Spot tips, God knows, we've got them on sex-m-a.com. Hi, Emily, I'm a new listener, and I actually got started with your show after Menace was talking about it on the Woody show. See?

He swear I never talk about you. I never say that. I'm so honored that you talk about me. Someone told me that you talk about me. I love it. I just want I just want you to like me and talk about me and come over and get drunk. By the way, the Woody show is a morning radio show that I do in Los Angeles with a group of people. It's about pop culture and what's going on in the news. It's like the most popular. I'm you're killing it. I'm proud of you. It has become over the two years one of the most popular morning on in the news. It's like the most popular, you're killing it, and I'm proud of you. It has become over the two years one of the most popular morning shows in Los Angeles,

which is crazy. We don't talk about how proud I am of you enough. Thank you. I really, I've been bragging about you. I'm really, really like. Thank you. We also podcast every day, you can download it, just search the Woody show.

I'll check it out. I just wanted you to take on something that was pointed out to me not too long ago. I'm a single guy, 25 years old, and I've been out of a serious relationship for two years now. My friends are always surprised by this. They, mainly my female friends, consider me incredibly outgoing person. I'm funny. I'm nice. I can't tell you how many times someone said, why are you still single?

Which is the worst question ever at Ask. I'm an arman. I have no problems talking to women except when we go out. Could be a group of guys, could be a mixed group of males and females. It never fails though when someone says go talk to her. I feel as if I'm being put on the spot and I've come up with some witty line to make her notice me. Any advice for the person who's never shy except in the moment when you come talk to girls? Oh, that sucks. And this is Aaron, he's a male, he's 25, obviously he's a male.

Kansas City, Missouri. Podcast Republic. What? What what that's how he listens So a lot of guys have this issue prop this I've lived that issue Metis lived it. He no longer does no Being in the moment is terrifying because the fear of rejection what goes on? Can you channel your 25 year old self? And I'm sorry that it feels like I talk about this every other podcast And I've been talking about for years But if you get rejected nothing physically is gonna happen to you.

You might feel sad for a moment, but you won't die. You won't die. But what you will know is, you know what? She's not interested in me. Or awesome, she is interested in me. Right. That's all that's gonna happen. But you just go up and it's practice too.

Just like everything masturbation is a new practice that you have to muscle, you gotta learn. There's been so many stories in my life where I find out years like, oh my God, I was into you but you never made a move. Every guy is a story. It is dumbass, you know, why? Because you didn't know.

It was so shy. Because guys, again, we're so dumb, we can't read signs. Unless you're sucking on my penis. Oh my god. She does like me like I don't know I don't know if you're being nice. I don't know So do you think they would help with girls? This is separate but are more like when girls are more Aggressive I think that they should be I think it's 2016 you want everything to be equal Why do why does it need to be this thing where I need to chase you and then find out like if you're into me Let me know that you're into me. What what's the big deal? Like that's not gonna turn a guy away

That's gonna make you guys super interested like stop with these stupid games. It's true It's true. We aren't a new era people. We are in a new era Yeah, it's absolutely true Aaron and you're a woman listening to this podcast And there's a guy that you're into let him know let him know because Maybe he is into you, but he's so stupid Like 9% of the guys I know out there that just can't pick up on the side They can't pick up signs and they're they're so afraid. They think they have that hat. They think you're just being nice They think they have to have the perfect line

But it's not about what you say. It's it's like how you say it and how you present yourself So if you go up to a girl and your eyes like you're hunched over and your eyes are staring at the floor and your body language is uncomfortable, like that's not a chapter, but you just, you got to kind of channel like, what if you're hanging out just with your guy friends? So you want to be confident in your speech, send them straight, be like,

hey, you have fun tonight? What's going on? Like you could just say that, but it's the way you present yourself. You look around the eye and your body language is confident. You don't pause, you don't, you know, and you just, how's your night going? You know, you can observe something that's happening.

So in the moment, like if you're at a concert or club, you can be like, have you seen this ban live before? Something that you would just observe, because then you guys have something to talk about. Yeah. Um, and I like that your friends are pushing you because I'm telling you, and you're going to thank me for this. I swear to God, Aaron, the more you will do, the more that you do this, the easier it will become, like anything in life.

And right now, you just gotta get over that hump. Like there's a lot of like every time, and you know, fear is where we grow. Like the most things, like whenever I've had like growth and learned things, it's because I was terrified at first. I used to be afraid of public speaking. Like I'd break out in hives that clearly like, I can speak to people right now.

I can do that. I mean, there's a lot of things. So the guys who are good at talking to women, it's because I can speak to people right now. I can do that. I mean, there's a lot of things. So, the guys who are good at talking to women, it's because they do it over and over again. So, just remember, you're smart, you're funny, you're out going, you've got lots of friends, you've got people who love you. And these are all true things, these are true. This is you, Erin. And so, you just believe that when you're talking to men, women, you know, everybody. So, you know, I just So I think it's really just about practice, and you know your friends. You can even talk to your friends.

They're like, what do you think? How would you talk to that girl? But I really just think it's just practicing talking. And even women that you're not necessarily even interested in, doesn't matter. Just talk. OK. That's what I got for you.

That's all we got. That's it. This was awesome. This feels really good. I'm going to masturbate. I'm so happy. I'm going to progress debate because I actually have work to do. I love you, Mendes. Everyone's following you're 16 Instagram accounts now. You have. Yeah. Thank you for everybody on the last podcast. I mentioned so many people hit me up all the time about food in Las Vegas. So I combined it I combined those and I started another Instagram account called Food Vegas foodie guy. So just follow that Vegas foodie guy if you're interested in that if you're not then

I'm always hanging out somewhere in the country. You can follow me at Venice and my dog Cheryl and my dog I love it. I know it was so cool. Like, that was really cool. I talked about this on the last podcast, but a couple podcasts back, I said, how many people actually listen to the very end of the show? Like the whole thing. Let's do an experiment.

Go to my dog's Instagram account and wish her happy birthday. And then so many people commented, said, I listen to the whole podcast, and that's why I'm here. And then that's really, really cool. I love that. Okay, well, I'm going to say good to see your face. Thank you.

And next, thank you Gibson guitar for having us at their Gibson showroom here in Beverly Hills. We love it. And thank you producer Madison. Thank you, Laurie and Jamie, who are killing it with our videos. You've got to check it out on the YouTube Instagram. And I just love you all. Thanks for listening.

It's a good for you, email your feedback and sign up for M&M. I get a lot of emails looking for advice on just about everything, but I'm always excited to get questions that I can offer a definitive solution to. Although some of you are embarrassed to write me about lasting longer in bed, you should know it's way more common than you think, and there is a clinically proven solution, ProMessant. ProMessant is a quickly absorbing delay spray that was developed by your neurologist to address issues premature ejaculation or PE. Magnum mistake, this is not the old fashioned delay spray that leaves you in your partner

numb. It still allows your maximum sensation without any transfer to your partner. The makers of Permanent have been dedicated to helping men for years now, and they've taken the product through rounds of clinical tests that have proven its effectiveness. It is FDA compliant and has been endorsed by a host of medical professionals. Permanent is the real deal.

Even if you don't always experience PE, Permanent can help you and your partner experience longer lasting sex, boost your confidence, and eliminate performance anxiety. Try it for yourself and see, promising is available without a prescription from a variety of retailers. For more information or to order,

go to sexwithemily.com and click on the Promise and Banner. and banner.