Sex With Emily - Happy Endings & Kiny Beginnings

Episode Date: November 26, 2015

In the newest Sex With Emily podcast, we’re talking about how to find the happiness you’ve been seeking in your relationships, your sex life and, most importantly, in yourself! Emily opens up about two practices she feels passionately about that can enhance your overall wellness, and tackles your emails on mismatched libidos, pegging and happy endings. Erotic massage parlors: Socially acceptable or totally illegal? Emily lays down the law on the topic of paying for “happy endings” and shares an unsettling news story about a disgruntled customer’s rash reaction to a parlor’s “no rub and tug” policy. Then it’s onto your emails. What do you do if you and your significant other have disappointingly dissimilar sex drives? How do you bring up a new backdoor fetish to your “mostly vanilla” sex partner? Emily sheds light on how to bridge difficult communication gaps in your relationship and discusses the importance of finding a happy medium that leaves both parties sexually satisfied. From shady sex parlors (which are still illegal) to kinky sex fantasies to tips for having the uncomfortable sex conversation, this show has a little something for everyone! Don’t miss it… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show we're talking about happy endings, mismatch libidos, online dating, and so much more. Thanks for listening. Okay everybody, it's my CBN update. Everything is going really well. I feel like it's my mascot. I feel like it's my, I got it, I wanted a dog, but I got a CBN. If you've no idea what I'm talking about, you might have think you know about the CBN, you might have heard about it years ago, but it is a game changer for your sex life. It's so much more than even a sex toy, it's a full on sexual experience that I've been having. I'm very grateful for my CBN, I have to say.

I've learned a lot, I thought that I couldn't learn more about my body and the CBN, you ride it. It's a unique, mountable design, okay? It's a toy, it's like you're mountable design, okay? It's a toy. It's like you're, I mean, it's more than a toy. It plugs in the wall. It's very powerful. And it's kind of like you ride it like you do during

Calgaryl position. And the cool thing about the Sibian is that each woman has a power to customize her own experience. Every time she uses it, it makes it work for her. You can use it alone or with a partner. And, you know, one of the top questions I get asked is, how do I have an orgasm with my partner? And actually, if you can learn on the CB,

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They do. It feels good. So like that, do this, do that, check it out. I love you all. I'm grateful for you all. I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Ah, gobble, except for the Turks. The Turks didn't do too well. No. the Turks. Yeah, yeah, that's true. Do you have vegetarian? No, no, I'm not. I know you're just an animal lover. I do have a little sister who was a vegetarian for a while. I remember I

We were all having things given dinner and she's like we should be burying the remains. This is disgusting. It was very upsetting. And then later that night, I went downstairs, a little drunk like three in the morning. I went downstairs to give myself a little turkey. And there's a light on in the kitchen. She was, she's a probably 12 year old girl. Then she's crouching down her mouth, filled with turkey. That's the best story ever. Do you tell that every year at Thanksgiving? She does not like that story. Yeah, but I told that story a few times. That's a great story. I appreciate it. I thought that we could talk about, I'd like to talk about some things that I'm grateful for.

There's your Sibian. Well, that's on my list. The G-Spot orgasms, right? Did you look at my list? It's a little more robust than that. A little more diverse. It's not just sex. I'll have you know.

But I'm thankful for you. Oh, I am. Do you really know that this would be such a great chemistry in a match, main and having? It was kind of like, I don't even we didn't know that this would be such a such great chemistry in a match. I mean, having it is kind of like, I don't even remember how it happened that you'd be started doing this together like two years ago. That sounds like like we're together or something.

I don't remember how we met and started banging. I'm like, hey, how'd you start banging? You know, but really like I know we're doing love line and then, I don't know. Yeah, you're doing love line and I immediately liked you. I've worked with so many people in this business, you know, on both sides of the mic, all sorts of personalities. A lot of personality defects, people with personality,

what do you call it? Disorders? Yeah, personality, straight up personality. Narcissism. Narcissism, yeah, addiction. And I gotta say you're one of my top three people I've ever worked with. Maybe top two.

Oh my God. Well, see that, it feels even better coming from you Because I know I see you're disdain for most people There's so much dead weight out there. I'm especially when people start talking on a mic And they think they're important and they matter. It's like then they get all carried away I can tell an asshole. I'm sorry to use that one. I'm care When people leave their trash when they're done with their little radio program or broadcasting, when people leave like cups of water. I know they take a radio.

I'm like, oh, you think you're a special person. There's a trash right there. I hear you. And I've actually seen people who come into the business and like they're very nice. They clean up after themselves and after like a few months, they get comfortable and then they start like trash.

Because you know why the people before them, we come in here, the people leave the trash. I would never leave trash. You never would, see? See, that's why you like me. Was it because the first day I put my cup away? Yeah, you threw your cup away. But you probably, because the thing about you too,

you set up by thinking not to like, so we can turn. Oh yeah, I default to hate. Right, you default to hate. I default, see, my problem is I default to like, so it takes me a while to, yeah. Well, I just assumed like the best side and I trust too much.

We have learned a lot in this business, not too, but I still do. But so one of the things I think before is that, I just went, is, and grateful for, is meditation. I'm not gonna get all like spiritual, this isn't like spiritual spirituality with Emily, although that's another one I could do. But for years, like 20 years ago,

I went backpacking through Thailand, right? And I did this 10 day silent meditation retreat and I learned vipassal meditation. 10 days. What? You're not talking for 10 days? No, I did it three times. And finally this year, I've been out, really.

I think that's why I think I started this because I was like, I have to get it all out. But I realized. You go by yourself though, right? Yeah. You wasted it on a boyfriend. What do you mean? I can assure you, like your boyfriend

might enjoy a little silence. Oh, totally. I know. You should have heard this show. It's so funny, you guys. If you want to check out guests who's having sex with Emily, a podcast I did a few months ago. He, yeah, it's funny because men has asked him the first thing

he said was, how do you put up with the talking? Yeah, there's no volume on you. You can't just turn you down. It's true. I mean, I'm actually, no, what you say is great. I'm just messing with you. I'm going to tackle it. Okay, to take a lot. Okay, so gratitude. Okay, so gratitude is a very important part of meditation too.

So I do a meditation twice a day, at least I try to do twice a day. Definitely do it once a day. But afterwards, I always do like five things I'm grateful for, like the last minute, right? And studies actually show that when you, every day, if you just, if it's like grateful that you got a cup of coffee this morning, or you're grateful that your alarm went off? It doesn't matter. It can be little things. It can be big things.

But there have been numerous studies that show that people who actually take note of what they're great for, happier, have better physical health and all that stuff. So I'm just, I'm just going to encourage you all in the new year and start doing that. Take inventory. Take inventory of the things, you know, it reduces stress, you know, all that stuff. So I'm thankful for, for the real, okay. So I've been in LA now for three years, you know, all that stuff. So I'm thankful for the real, okay, so I've been in LA now for three years. November first was three years.

And I know. And I'm grateful that I was able to say, make a living, because I moved here, and it was unclear. I did not have any savings. I barely had anything to be honest. And I'm like, that immigrant story. I can't even hear what $10 in my pocket.

Seriously, I mean, I was in San Francisco for years doing the show, but just LLA was a great move. And I'm grateful for the friends I've made and the loyal, very loyal support system. Not easy to do in this town. No, it's not. And I'm telling you, like, I left, I have my, my posse in San Francisco, but it takes a while to make the, to me, to really give people your Castro cronies. Castro cronies.

Right. They're not the Castro in San Francisco. Yeah. Castro, Castro cronies. Castro cronies. Right. They're not the Castro. And San Francisco. Yeah, Castro district. I mean, Castro district. I live near there, yeah. Yeah. And they're your cronies.

Yeah. Come on, give me the little iteration. No, I got it. Castro, I do. I will. You will. For now moving forward, all of your San Francisco friends are Castro cronies.

Yeah, but cast, yeah. Okay. I'll go with it. Just go with it. And so also, I'm grateful for it. So my friend, my new friends and my old friends and my family is awesome. I was just home with my, for my niece is Bob Mitzvah. I'm grateful for my team. Was friend, my new friends, and my old friends, and my family is awesome. I was just home for my niece's but mitzvah. I'm grateful for my team. Was that fun?

I haven't seen you since then. Oh my god, it was amazing. Yeah, my niece had a but mitzvah, Coachella. Did she get drunk? She's 13. At Coachella? Well, no, her name's Ella. Uh-huh.

And the theme kids today have themes. Right. It was Coachella. So she was like a coach. So they created my sister-in-law is like an amazing party thrower and they went. Right. It was at the Casino in Detroit where it's called. Oh,ower. Right. And they went, it was at the, the Casino into trite where it's called. Oh, she's only 13. No, but it was, they rent out this place called the sound space or something.

And it's where they throw concerts, like huge concerts. And my sister-in-law, it looked like you were at Coachella. There was grass and T.B.s and tents and face painting and music. Like, we dance. Like it was crazy. I'm gonna keep it up. 30, 300. Wow. 150 kids, 200 kids, maybe 100 dogs. She'd do pretty well that night. Oh my God, I was with her open. And she didn't get drunk. 13? Yeah, but what is it, what is it significant

of the bot mitzvah? The becoming an adult. Yeah. Well, there you go. But you're not like it become a drunk adult. No, I mean, I, maybe some of the kids were drinking. I always, you know what I was thinking? I've heard of these stories that now,

kids that give blow jobs about myths like the girls, they have all these studies. You didn't make a lot of myths for sexy for the first time. I know, I was terrible to say, but I remember hearing this, I'm like, oh my god, I never would have done that when I went to Batmins was, but I kept looking around,

when I was like, I wonder if anyone was like in the TV giving blow job, which I really hope didn't happen. I took some great video, but then I smashed my iPhone on the floor. What? You were drunk. I was bust. video, but then I smashed my iPhone on the floor. What? And lost it. You were drunk. I was bust.

What were you drinking? Man of Shevets? No, I was drinking Dirty Martinez, which is, I say that for special occasions. My family's awesome. Yeah. So, grateful for them. I love your mom. Dude, isn't she awesome?

And your step dad's fantastic. I know, I guess all her friends, I went with her to the gym. They were like, we listened to the show. Oh, you know. Listen to the Sibia, the Sibia, and that's so funny. Yeah, they listened, and they were, my mom said she listened to. I didn't know she knew I listened all her friends I went with her to the gym. They were like, we listened to the show. We listened to the Sibia, the Sibia, and that's so funny. Yeah, they listened. And they were my mom said she listened to. I didn't know she knew I listened to her.

She probably listened to me episode two. She did. I think that was the first one she's ever listened to. So that was a good moment. And I'm really thankful for my team. I have a great section of the only team. And I have to say after 10 years, I mean, I just finally, it's kind of like I guess what it feels like when you find the one,

you probably felt that when you decided to marry your wife. Author you're going to talk about team up with my carono and Tyler Wade. No, but I mean, that's because to me, I was never oriented towards that. I was like, I want to make this business that I love, make it into a business. It was a hobby and I've just such great people that work for me. It fits and it's right. It fits and it's right and And you feel confident and comfortable. And they put up with me too.

And I'm, you know, hey, I'm not always so easy. I'm nice, but, you know, tracking me down, it's like a, you know. You're a little bit haywire, if we're all spinning out. The lady D, you know. So I love them. And I have to say that, like, you know, my career, that I was able to do something that I love.

And I'm thankful for my listeners and make it and like, pay my rent with it. And my mom just stopped asking me what my plan B was about two years ago. I'm grateful for that. I am grateful for my sex toys. And this you have to say that my Sibian and my In Control,

the intensity, the Kegle exercise, or are the two things, because every year I truly like, you know, practice what I preach, I try to learn new things, sexually and try to grow my sexual repertoire and those two things really help me. I'm thankful for my little mini-cuper that could because it's really old and it keeps dying but keeps coming back to life.

Just to remind the listener, this is a Thanksgiving recap. So Emily's doing it, she hasn't lost her mind. I'm thankful for Avocado's because I've learned to really like them this year and put them in my smoothies and I'm thankful for my blender my smoothies they're so good really and Yeah, I could go on on but that's just one thing for so let me ask a question about the old Meditation I think of a gay marriage in 2015 too. That's not good. I'm bored. Obviously you're thankful for gay marriage I mean I am I'm trying to think of sexually what happened this year too. You're thankful for people who didn't get murdered Well, I mean I could go all deep on you,

but I just wanted to know what, you know, I'm thinking what my listener is mostly because you all make me do this. So thank you. Good deep, I don't wanna keep you shallow. No, I wanna keep, I like to be shallow. It's a more comfortable place. Okay.

The other thing I'm thankful for is my 10 year anniversary show at the improv. And I think I'm thankful for it, but I'm nervous. It's December 6th. Yes, I have more. At it, but I'm nervous. It's December 6th. Yes. I have more. At 7.30 PM, Anderson's gonna be there. Oh my god.

Mattis will be there. Dr. Drew will be there. He's gonna be doing a little segment answering Q&A. It's gonna be a friggin awesome show. We've got the most hilarious, like, retrospective video of everything from the beginning till now. We've got funny, like, 10 years ago. What was happening? Dating.

Now, like 10 years ago in sex. Before, like, sex. Of course. Well, do you know that Like 10 years ago in sex. Before like sex. Well, to be honest, I'm like, do you know that nobody 10 years ago was saying to me like, not one email, I get hundreds of emails a day. Nobody said to me, why do girls want to be choked? Why do girls want to be spent? Like, like, porn has changed a lot.

They weren't asking that. Oh, really? But they're still getting choked back then. Yeah, but they weren't talking about it. They were asking. They weren't asking about anal sex as much. Right. And the 10 years ago, people were not dating people. People were not talking about it, they were asking, they weren't asking about anal sex as much. At the 10 years ago, people were not dating people.

People were not talking about dating online. They'd rather, they'd rather admit to like kicking small animals than they would, sorry, then they'd talk about dating online. I went to a friend's wedding in 2007. She met him on match. She said to me, don't tell anybody at the wedding. Like, nobody knew that they know it's the norm. No, it's like if you don't get a liner insane. So it's that and we're gonna have giveaways and we've got food for everybody. Mellrose, Mellrose. It's $15. Improv, the famous Hollywood Improv.

It could be a really fun time. It's gonna be fun and tickets are gonna sell out. So do it now, 15 bucks. 15 bucks. And $15. Oh, one five people. And one five. Hollywood, Mellrose, go to my website, click on the banner.

Hollywood, Improv, the banner to go. You got a bar there, they got good food there. Oh my God, that's good stuff on it. Yeah. And email me feedback at sexandalme.com. Also, if you've, I want to know what your favorite moment of the sex, let me show you what you've learned, anything, and I'll read it while we're there. It's going to be fun.

Okay, one more thing I have to mention, then we're going to get in sex. The day after, two days after, I'm doing another live thing. Oh wow, really? At House Thore Hollywood. And this is not your nice, sexy, holiday advice. So I'm doing another live thing. Oh wow, really? At House of Therah Hollywood. And this is not your nice sexy holiday advice. So I love my House of Therah Hollywood workshops. It's at 7.30 December, Tuesday December 8. Email me rsvp at sex.com, which is a new email address.

Ooh, look at that. We've got a lot happening. We're really technically at- What's RSCP's damper? I don't know. So- Are you going to dress like a sexy elf? Oh my God, yes, that's a great idea.

Yes. Dude, that's a great idea. Santa's a little naughty helper. Yeah, totally. I'm going to do that. I'm going to dress as an elf if you all show up, but I'm also going to help you. We're going to answer your questions. Why?

You should dress up as an elf for the 10 year anniversary show. Really? It's around the house. I was really funny about dressing up as an elf when I moved to San Francisco. Yeah. When I was 22, I had no, I was working politics. So I was an intern. It's around the house. Totally. It's really funny about dressing up as an elf when I moved to San Francisco. When I was 22, I had no, I was working politics. So I was an intern and I was volunteering for Barbara Boxer during the day, for months, and no money, and a job.

So at night, or on the weekends, I took whatever I catered, I wait just like cocktail waitress, but one time I got a job dressing like an elf for toys for tats because I look at I'm small enough not a sexy and it was not sexy and I took it I don't put the ears on what do you have like pointy ears? I had to go I had to be an elf. I want to see and they're paying me like 25 bucks me for the day And I did I dress this I did crazy shit. You still got that costume No, I had to give it to me for the day But I was an elf for toys for tots. You do shit when you're desperate, when you wanna make it, make a living. And once you've made it,

you also dress like an elf at Hustler. Exactly. At least at Hustler. I'm gonna bring it back, but the best thing is, oh, email me the number one sex question you wanna get answered. Come to the workshop, and then also,

we're gonna help you pick some sexy gifts. So, Hustler has everything, and I figure like, like, you're all like, oh, you should get him a touch, we do what you get, get something to improve your sex life. And if you're single, like, do that as well. Like get a new vibrator, get a new toy,

get some, you know, watch some sexy porn, get yourself whatever, to sell like you do even expend a lot. But I think that you should always get yourself something sexy, because sex is where it's at. And sex improves all of our sex lives. Sex improves our lives the more sex you have, whether it's self love or with partner,

we're happier people. So they're toning. Like Emily said, no one's ever had sex consenting sex afterwards and said, I wish I didn't do that. Right, just like the gym. Yeah. You're never like, oh, why do you go to the gym?

Yeah. Have you ever thought that? That's how I get myself to the gym or do something like, I'm not gonna regret this. Right, you're not gonna regret going to the gym. I'm not gonna go, why do I go for it? It might suck going to the gym and might suck being at the gym, but it's, I'm not gonna regret this. Right, you're not gonna regret going to the gym. I'm not gonna go wide to go for it. It might suck going to the gym and might suck being at the gym,

but it's not gonna suck when you're done. Hardest part is getting your shoes on. Same way, same with sex. So sex, the hardest part is what? Getting your penis in. Getting your penis in. Or getting your vagina. Moist.

Ha ha ha. All right, I'm sorry, go ahead. Do you want to hear about a happy ending? Sex in the news, yes. Okay, I'm a suce. I mean, if anyone wants to know more about email me feedback at sex that I'm a calm because I'm happy to talk about my T-Tamar very interesting. It's not it's not a sex he's someone who listeners might like but it will improve your sex life because Without things inside of you people don't have sex because there's one of the reasons is because they're so freaking stressed out And I guarantee you I'll teach you after how to maintain real quick

I try to go to the gym at least to have our everyday. When I'm there, I'm listening to podcasts, a certain podcast, and I go into a different place. Like I'm not thinking about work, I'm not thinking about stressful things. I'm just kind of at the gym, listening to the podcast. I'm meditating. You know, it's not the same thing to me.

I try to get, I have a meditator, it's a gym is meditation. It's not. Yeah, it's like meditation. You need to be doing nothing at all and have your mind of no thoughts and nothing coming in. You just have to breathe. I think I'd freak out, I'm gonna start a brim. I don't think I can breathe. I think I'm sort of breath. I can do it. Everyone can do it. I never stop talking. It's a very strong point. I came out of

the womb talking. Okay, masseuse denied a client a happy ending. So he took matters into his own hands. This was a Myrtle Beach South Carolina. After being denied a happy ending at a South Carolina massage business, an aggrieved customer took matters into his own hands according to cops who are searching for the sexual exposure suspect. As detailed in the police report, the suspect received a $68 massage and a $20 table shower. Saturday evening at a massage place at Mertle Beach, at the conclusion of the treatment he asked the masseuse for a happy ending. The employee was unsure of what that meant. So the suspect made a stroking master rating motion with his hands near his general area. When a happy ending was not

forthcoming the man got upset, put his clothes on, walked into the lobby of the massage business, sat on the bench, pulled his penis out and began masturbating in front of the masseuse. Where are the people there in the waiting room? The man demanded that the victim looked at him while he was conducting the sexual act and said that he wanted a happy ending. The suspect did not pay for his massage nor did he tip, I assume. And then he left and they couldn't catch him and they got his plates and stuff.

So I don't understand why people weren't calling the police how they can't catch them. They have this identification. He's like 40 to 50 years old suspect. How can you not find this guy? And they were like, how can you not find like a time-assus place? Well, I don't know. But this is a tie place. It's called a tie. It was called Thai Chi massage. So if I got confused, you shouldn't use the alphabet or something. No, yeah, probably doesn't review those. They have something. Actually, they have a, oh, there's a website, something about Rubin Tugs or something. I'm sure.

It's a website where they give all the reviews and whatnot. We talk about it on the phone. I bet like Fett Life probably does that too, and then what's the other one, a telephone, fine or a pie? I'm not encouraging it, people. Like, why do you want to do that? But that's the equivalent of like,

waiting for your food and not going back into the kitchen and just like cooking your own food and then eating it and not paying for it. Exactly. It's pretty balsy of that sex offender. It is a sex offender. But guys were into that. I had a boyfriend and when I was 25,

that I did it for a while and he got a happy ending from his misuse that he actually, and I heard it on his voicemail. That she left a message and I figured it out and he admitted it and I was so upset. Wait a minute, how'd you find out about it? Because I had the code to his voicemail, that she left a message and I figured it out and he admitted it and I was so upset. Wait a minute, how did you find out about it? Because I had the code to his voicemail to listen to him. And there was a masseuse talking about, hey, yeah, I enjoyed giving you a happy ending.

Oh, they were like, it was somebody who saw regularly, so it wasn't like in a sketchy place, but I knew they helped up and it was pretty sketchy. Wait, so she was like, almost like a friend,, like he was like a client and like a regular. Yeah, and she regularly jacked him off. And was this like an upscale place? No, it was like she came to, he went to her house. Oh yeah, he one of those, like classic. I just remembered this flash.

He also was the one, he cheated on me and I cheated on him. It was a really great relationship. That's fun, yeah, it sounds like mid-20s to me. But I have, yeah. I found the list, he made a list of everyone he slept with and I wasn't the last person. You were so fun. I was on it.

I remember that story. Yeah. Same guy. Bad time. No, but can I tell you something? Have the best. Like he opened me up sexually. So I actually have to thank him.

I wish I could say his name. How many people are on the list? A lot. You know what? You should be thankful. About 26 maybe. I mean, we were 26 years old. He was and maybe there was 40.

Oh, that's not done. I had 26. That's not a lot. You should be thankful that it wasn't like a rank. Like he wasn't ranking. Cause then you'd be like the third worst. You know what I mean? Instead you were just the third.

No, I knew cause it was like his boss. I'm like, when did you fuck your boss? In China? They didn't China. They were China. You fucked your boss. I'm shocked. Good times. Yeah.

Okay. That's a good story. Okay. But before we get back to that story where I've learned a lot, I'm going to tell you something that's really important right now. Are you? You don't sound so confident that you're going to tell me that immediately. I'm going to tell you about the Vibratex flashlight, the Vibratex and the flashlight, because

I don't know if I mentioned that I am thankful for my magic wand every day. Um, like I said, I'm most grateful for it. I'm grateful because it does give you my blowing orgasms and the magic wand is rechargeable this year. That's something else I'm thankful for. It is not plugged into my wall anymore. It doesn't have to be. I charge it. I literally vat it for a year. I've probably charged it three times and you know how much I use it. I don't know, but I do work. And it's been around for 30 years, it provides powerful penetrating vibrations and it's totally liberating from your bedroom wall and you can take your wand anywhere now because it's not plugged into the wall and it's every bit as strong as the original and as a few other tricks up its sleeve has four brand new vibration patterns, four levels of intensity, the other one was like on and off, and I've tried them all out and they're amazing. And in fact, I used to just do the on, I used to just think I was an on off girl because now vibrators Anderson, you don't know this because I don't think that you use them, but

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Yeah. I know that. And it was nominated for an award. 18 awards. Like best anal Best car. I didn't even can I be honest. I'm sorry I'm so grateful in January. I'm grateful for this I just got nominated to be for sex part of the year sex bird but along with that

I got nominated for my role in this movie But as a non porn star. I got I got Nurse or something or like a doctor. No, it was myself. You're yourself. Yeah, it's called marriage 2.0 It's really good. It's one of all these awards. And I haven't talked about it much because I'm busy, but I. Who you'll up against?

I don't even know. Do you know that Madison told me? Madison, my producer, she was like, oh, you, because I just got nominated for the Sexport thing. Just you also got nominated for Marriage 2.0, which I have like a two minute, three minute scene. And I don't even. Are you like standing over a couple having sex

and like critiquing them. I'm helping a couple open up their relationship. Were you acting as serigate? I was on a serigate, I didn't even see it with any, I had my full-on clothes on. Okay, full-on clothes on. That's not a sentence. Another great gift is the flashlight.

And now they have the quick shot, which is a mini flashlight, that you put up and that you can, it's great for's your it's your it's your like you know hamburger helper It's like your handy helper for a hand job, right? It sounds like it's good for long flights. It's good for long flights. It's good for giving blow jobs or hand jobs and it has it's open ended so you can just Come on, where we want to give up? So the flashlight if you don't know it's a male masturbation sleeve. You can also get the stamina training. They've got hundreds of fleshlides to choose from. The fleshlight go is more compact.

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It's a TV show? Yes, it's a fun true TV. I don't know a TV. Billy Eichner, Billy on the Streets, it's fucking phenomenal. That's all I have to say. Okay, great, I'll check that out. Next, it's great, it really is good. Well, I'll watch it after I watch like soprano. You knew to get Billy Eichner on the Great. I'll check that out. It's great.

It really is great. I'll watch that after I watch like soprano. You need to get Billy Agner on the show. I haven't watched TV in 20 years, but I totally will. Yeah. Let's do that. Okay. People, more sex than news, which one do I want to do?

Because I want to get to some emails, but- One more sex than news. Come on. I'm just trying to think which one you would like the best. There's one about people are more terrified of sex than of car accidents. What? And you're more likely to get into a car accident than you are to. Well, having sex.

Well, yeah. Yeah. Then of contracting like, really? Yeah. HIV. So here's the thing. A fascinating study by Terry Conley at the University of Michigan, my alma mater, so you know it was a good study,

shows that the stigmatization of STIs has resulted in people being disproportionately terrified of having unprotected sex. Apparently, we think we have a 7.1% chance of dying, dying from one unprotected sexual encounter compared with a 0.4 chance of dying in a car accident. Who are these neurotic people there, Dr. Conley? I don't know.

They're probably students at my school. I was a neurotic student. That's roughly 17 times as high according to the Atlantic. And reality, that perception couldn't be more backwards. You're actually 20 times more likely to die from the car, from a car trip than from HIV contracted during an act of unprotected sex, according to stats for the US Centers for Disease Control.

So we're really worried about. I'm not saying you should be worried, you're not gonna die. You're not worried of dying from sex. You're gonna make it an STI. What if you got like magic Johnson in your back seat and it's Charlie Sheen in the back? What if Charlie Sheen dude, what if that?

And you get a horrible car accident where all of you guys are like cut up and bleeding on each other, then you're fucked because then you're in the car wreck with you. Oh my God, I'm the blood, that would bad. I'm not gonna get into a car with Charlie Sheen, but how crazy is that? It's magic Johnson in the back seat.

Yeah, the whole thing. But now, I mean, that's not a thing, well, I'm not gonna do that into a car with child extreme, but how crazy is that? Magic Johnson in the back seat. Yeah, the whole thing. But now, I mean, that's the sort of thing. Well, I'm not going to do that. That's a shocking study. But here's the parents are excited about kids getting their driver's license and do not regularly forbid their child from driving, but they know that there's risks. But then they are, let's be clear, consummating tender dates without the aid of condoms is never going to be a good idea, but stigmatization of behavior doesn't stop that behavior from happening.

So along with the rise of hookah backs, the rates hookup apps, the rates of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are escalating and fast. Yeah, that's what I said, super raises on its way because of all these fricking apps that these kids get to use. You can use fricking condoms. They get to use them. They're all enjoying themselves and they get to do this.

But they don't use condoms. I'm married and old now Why do I don't understand like why you wouldn't use protection with somebody you don't know? It just doesn't it's not nearly as good is it because people are just buzzed and they don't think it's sexy They're like so desperate and they can't believe it's actually happening and there's like I don't care I'm all in like in that moment. It's like that impulse They've no impulse control or like this so they don't feel like they can pull it off and be cool I'm speaking if you can't if you're not comfortable the next time you masturbate,

like practice putting in 10 condoms, like how I masturbate. Well, yeah, that's true. You could be giving away condoms that you're not going to use. Yeah, I'm so much skinned. Do you know that I had, yes, I'm so glad you said that. Skin, SKYN, my favorite condoms, they have these special November condoms that are so cute they come with a mustache Is like if you look at I just know what November is well, but they don't the con they've come with mustache in the package

I'm giving way so many things the shop. Yeah, do you put it on your weiner? No, you put on your mind You can take a little mustache wait a minute you take the mustache from the condom and then put it on your face Well, like maybe after just to let you make a laugh or something Pure gay, what if you forget and you put it inside her and then she has a mustache on her surface No, it's not like that. Okay, but I will give this way Another thing is all of my t-shirts there for sale you guys just have to come if you if you've been listening It's gonna be it's not it's gonna be a turn I'm gonna fight men because it's like I'm taking it the most it's like the the thing

I'm the most excited about taking the most Hustler hollywood things all the time, and Kino speaker, this is about Emily. This is about celebrating you in 10 years. I mean, this is all about the show. This is the one. If you've always wanted to see Emily and you haven't tried, you know, figured out which one to go to, this is the one.

Yeah, and I'm gonna hang. Like, the thing is, I'm not like a coming in the back. I'm not gonna be like, oh my God, I can't believe you're my fake. I never get to meet fans that often. I'm gonna get drunk with you all. Great, we're gonna do shots. She's gonna pick three of you to take into the green room after. I should have some sex with it. I'm gonna get drunk with you all. We're gonna waste our new shots. She's gonna pick three of you to take

into the green room after. I should have some sex with it. I've never had sex with a listener. Should I auction off that? You should auction it off. Now you should just put it like, you throw it out in the audience. Like just put it on a piece of paper

and whoever gets this piece of paper, bundle it up, just crumple it up, then just chuck it out and watch them fight. And you never get to that, I've got to them. Yeah, yeah. Kinda like at the Mary weddings, where they throw the bouquet. I might throw out some like little mini vibrators or something or t-shirt. Okay.

But not a sex card. I don't know. Just like change my heart brand. Yeah. Paper airplane. Okay. Actually, we have an email here about massage parlors. Oh, look at that.

Which I was going to tie in but. More moon. Emily, I love your power. Oh, thanks for emailing me. Feed feedback at sex with almy.com. I'm grateful for all your emails. Theme, theme, food the show, grateful. Hamley, I love your podcast and everyone involved in it. Question, that means you're interested.

Is going to an erotic massage parlor illegal? I saw a few online that are located in New York. I'm very interested in going as long as they're legit, but I'm not sure if it's illegal. A legit sex parlors? Can we go kid? Okay, I'm not gonna, I don't want to get into any type of serious trouble. I just want to have a good time. By the way, my name is Robert. I'm 24, I'm from New Jersey. Stay being awesome. Ray. Okay, here's a deal. Ray, I'm sorry, but they are illegal. Okay, here's a deal, Ray. I'm sorry, but they are illegal.

Massage parlors are illegal. No, massage parlors are illegal. Beating off massage. Yeah, happy, erotic massage parlors are illegal. But I think it's pretty much expected in a lot of places. It's like, it's like only in parts of Las Vegas, right? In Nevada, okay, is it legal? And so yes, it is illegal.

It's solicitation, basically the same as picking up a prostitute. And there's been a huge rise in these nuts or secret parlors lately. There's, I'm not even talking about this. There's apps, rob maps. I'm like, I'm not gonna talk about this. Do you ever do that? Do you really, I'm not gonna say this and then you say it? Oh, always. Every week. I know. Right. I just said, I'm not gonna even encourage this. Rob Baps. But just because people are like talking about them online, doesn't make them any less illegal, and you should just avoid them completely. But I wanna know, like what do you think it is

that makes you so interested in a ray? Is it taboo? Are you not, you know, is it something like you're not having a lot of sex right now? Is it because it's forbidden? Is it the idea of you just paying the leave kind of thing? Like why people like prostutes who pay them to leave? You know, I want to know.

Is it possible to create, can you get this fantasy another way? He's got some energy into this thing. What do you think? Does that ever interest you? I mean, there's guys I know who are like, yes, I would. Yes, I wouldn't. Because I have a very messed up back. I got a bunch of metal in my back and whatnot.

And I've been trying to be better and trying to get a massage is at least once a month. It's from my back to keep it loose and it's good for it. My doctor's recommended it. And I had advances at a number of these places where they're trying to like, you want extra, I'm like, no, I'm good. Really? And then they're, you know, they're jostling,

a lot of jostling, right? They're trying to get them going. Well, you go to a massage parlors that offer to you. I used to, yeah, I used to go to a bunch of different massage parlors, I was trying to find a good one where I can contrast it. But like most of them, like there was definitely they were trying to get extra tips. Yeah, yeah.

Where were we going? Like all over the, I live in the valley too. Okay. But I would say the majority of these, then aren't burp Williams, the majority of these little like mon pop massage parlors, they're gonna try and touch your winner. Yeah, the majority.

Really? And, but what if you don't want your retouching you go up there and you say, I found a place. Yeah, I say no, and I swap their hand away. I'm like, no, no, I'm good. I'm good. But then it's uncomfortable. And then I'm always worried like, what if it's an attractive girl who's doing this? And then I do get, oh, no. So I was very concerned about all this. And I found a place 20 bucks an hour, 20 dollars full body in the valley. I should make a little story, a little secret. No, I don't want to. They're already crowded. I got to call ahead now.

I want to go 20 bucks to take a four bucks. I always tell them 15. And here's the best part. You walk in. It's a little bit shady because you walk in. And it's just this like open giant. It's like an office building where I know cubicles. And no, they're not naked. But like, you know, there's a bunch of people getting massage out in the open.

So there's no concern of that trying to. No, that's true. I got a great one out there. A guy with Josh. So do they really like even it? Nice like places that you played like a normal amount for, they would still be like like 50 bucks. Because guys, I'm just curious.

I would think if I was a guy and I was getting a massage and I don't have a penis which I so wish if they're if I had magic powers, I would the one thing I would wish for as a penis for a day. Just to know. That's all I think. But I want to know if you're being rubbed down by a hot checker, even just a medium, like someone just a check, in general.

You should not, you should a little over. Even if she's not hot, even if it's just a woman and you're a man or it's someone you're, if you're a man and there's another man, whatever you're attracted to. And they're rubbing your body all over. I could see you getting a boner and getting turned on. And I've heard that from a lot of guy friends

like, well, you're already turned on. So I mean, they would say no. Or some guy's like, yeah, it's kind of, you just do what you leave. It's like not a big deal. It's kind of just like you're so relaxed, you're turned on, they jack you up. And they're like, you know, it is somewhat intimate.

It is weird. Cause they're like rubbing up on you and like, you know, they're touching you in other ways that no one else does. Except for maybe you're a significant other or if you're not with anyone at the time. Exactly. You're only touching you're getting. Right so Ray I would say I would spend this time I know it looks fun but maybe you know try to find someone. It looks try to find someone else that you can give

some erotic massage to. You know what else? It's a massage candle. It's like I was legitimate trying to get good massages from these places right and I could oh I got to the point where like I probably went to a dozen different ones before i found my community like out in the open one that i can trust and i could tell like you know like i'm like oh they're just doing this because they want they're waiting till i can get to my my my weener because they're barely even massaging me like they're real shitty massages really bad like i don't even know if they're licensed like they didn't know what they're doing. I've never had anyone see but I I'll show you the place. Why don't they give women? I actually have a friend who's who's been married for a long time

And she's been asking me little did she she wants to know if there's places for women to have happy endings Because you know how many women would freak out. Oh, yeah, yeah, she's very secure. I just talked to a guy friend He's been married for eight years, you know He's in his forties and he just had a conversation with a wife that he masturbates a lot and she was like, surprised. Yeah. Like people are still. They're two separate things.

Sex and, uh, completely separate things. For men and for women. We need it. Okay. Struggling with boyfriend's high libido. Dear Emily, I adore you and I adore the show. I'm a 24 year old girl living in Massachusetts and I listen to your podcast on iTunes. My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for over a year.

Our sex has been amazing. Recently, he's been wanting to have sex nearly every day, but sometimes I'm just not in the mood. When I tell him not now, he gets really upset. I tell him it's nothing personal. I'm just not in the mood sometimes. But lately, he's been more resentful when I say no, and it makes me feel guilty. Like I'm obligated to say yes to make him happy. We do have sex a few times a week but to him that's not

enough. Is there something wrong with me? Do I need to try harder or do I need to be telling him something different to make him understand? Please help. I don't want this to hurt our relationship. Thanks, Ali. Ali, there is nothing wrong with you at all. This is a very common dilemma that couples have. It's the case of mismatch libidos, and typically, you know, a lot of times men, you know, I used to think when I started before I was, that it was always men who wanted more, but since women want more, that's kind of what people believe, but it happens in some of the switches throughout your relationship. But you should not feel guilty at all. You shouldn't have sex with any, you know, sex anytime if you don't want to. And so a lot of couples face this problem. And you just have to learn to compromise. So I don't,

you're not doing anything wrong. You're actually having sex a few times a week, which is great. And I just don't like that it's making you feel bad and feeling guilty. But you have to remember that when you say no to a guy or say no to a woman, if you're a woman who gets upset, we know it's sex, we feel rejection. He feels rejection. He feels that he's not lovable. He feels that you don't desire it like in some level, right? And he wants it. So it's like a child. And so I, but I don't like that he's making, right? Don't you think when a girl turns on sex, you're like, you feel rejected?

Yeah. Of course. I mean, it's absolute and total rejection, but the guys got to understand. He's got to understand. And that's why you guys need to talk about it. You should not feel obligative sex with him. And it's not like you're hoping with holding sex

for him for six months. You're having sex a few times a week. So this is why you need to have one of those outside the bedroom conversations when you're like having breakfast or going for a walk or something, you know, romantic dinner. A road trip. Yeah, no.

No. You don't want to ruin. You're finally made to romantic dinner. Yeah. You don't want to talk about sex. Because it's probably going to happen anyway. Yeah, yeah, you're going to sex out. But she, Ali needs to understand too,

because it sounds like she's not really even sure why she's not in the mood when she's not in the mood. I guess you ladies don't really need to know, right? Well, here's the thing. I just don't feel like it. I just don't want to. Because women are slow cookers and men are frying pans. We can't go from zero to 60 men are turned on like that. Women, if we are stressed and we're not meditating,

if we're worried about something, if we're just in the middle, we're not automatically turned on, we might be very attracted to you. You might walk in the door from work, but we're not thinking sex where guys are. So it's very like we need the warm up. We need the for play. And so you need to talk to him about ways. True though. It's a form. It's like why are we created like this with how is your day? Like that's for play. That's the beginning of four. It's

true. Like and and Ali, I don't know what you mean. But it sounds like you're already having sex three times a week and you're, are they living together? I think she has to live in together too. So, um, they were in a relationship over a year. So what I'm saying is like three times a week is really good and that, I mean, I don't want to ever say there's like a normal, but just ask him like what you guys need to talk about it first of all. What is his ideal sexual routine routine and then like if he's like I needed every single day That's not logical the thing about relationships are they all take compromise So you might just have say you know, I'm not always in the mood

This would also insane like you know a few times big feels good to me and when you you know It makes me feel bad when you react like that and he could also let you know how he's feeling. And perhaps this would be a great time to talk about what turns you on. I'm wondering if you guys have ever had a conversation about sex. I'm gonna assume no, because most couples don't or have not. Or, you know, I think, I think that,

I mean, I know that to be true. The most couples don't talk about sex in the relationship until there's a problem. So, you know, you just have to reassure them that you are really attracted to him. You love your sex life, but you don't need to have it every day to feel close to him. And I'm wondering if you just cut, you know,

for most guys, you know this, if she just wants to cuddle. Not enough. Like for me, like cuddle me, I'm fine, if I, but women are different. So also, is there something sexier? You said your sex life is amazing, but maybe there's times where you're like,

I could be close, but I'm a little stressed out. Is there something he could do to get to in the mood? Do you need more sex? Do you want to watch porn? Do you need a, would you love him to give you a massage for 10 minutes? Because the truth is, massage can relax you. It's a gateway to talking about.

He can give you happy ending. So don't be afraid to talk about it. And know that, you know, reinforce that you love them and compromise because that's what sex is about. This might not work, this might not work, but we might wanna consider getting him a flashlight as well. I know it's worked for your assistant.

Madison, Madison got her boyfriend a flashlight and they're the same age too. She's not in the mood, she just chucks the flashlight. Literally and he's like, okay, I gotta go. And now, her boyfriend is so awesome. I mean, every day we're getting flashlight, so he's like, okay, I gotta go. And now, I mean, her boyfriend is so awesome. I mean, every day we're getting flashlight. So she's like, damn, test, he's test some for us. So the thing is, it mixes up your masturbation routine.

Get him a flashlight. Madison, like, if she's going to bed early and she's coming to bed after her, like, she'll put it on his pillow. Yep, she's like, here you go, honey, have a flashlight. Don't bother me. But don't feel guilt and don't back down, but talk about what your turn-ons are.

And it's a great, here's a thing. It doesn't have to be limited to your sex life the amount of times you have sex It you could also again Uses this opportunity to talk about your fantasies what you want more of what you need I'm assuming that maybe you're not getting every because there's so much more that we want I think because actually don't don't just stay in one Static place sex should be expansive So you should do it like all over the world? Yeah, I guess so. Well, one more.

Really? Email, then I'm going to have to cut you down. Sorry, kid. I'm trying to see what you would be interested in here. You know what I like. How about pegging? Oh, let's do the pegging. Was it last year of the year you were like yelling to the streets?

That's the year of pegging! It was the year of the pegging. This is the year of the pegging! Wasn't last year the year you're like yelling to the streets, that's the year of pegging. It was the year of the pegging. This is the year of the pegging. I think it was this year actually. I think it was last year. Pegging is the new anal. When I started, I said anal is a new blowjob, but pegging is the new anal.

So pegging is when you a male is anally penetrated by his female partner. Or by his male. Or male partner. Yeah. Exactly. But typically it comes up in like straight couples. It's not a weiner.

It's actually like a strap on. It's a deal though. You can wear a strap on. Okay. So here's the email. Excuse me if you've touched on this topic before. I've been having this fantasy about being effed with a strap on by my wife.

Our sex life is fairly vanilla. We don't do a lot of experimentation. I'm not really sure how she would take it. My immediate guess would be that she would be disgusted. How do I bring it up if at all? Should I try to introduce tamer ideas at first and gradually move on to that? Should I just come out and say it?

Thanks, Bob. Okay, Bob, that's great. Yes, you wanna be gradual. You do not wanna be like, so pass a soul. Can you pack me with this dildo? No, it's not like that at all. It's definitely the hot new sex act and not everybody is on board with it.

And especially if you guys are pretty vanilla, this could be shocking. I don't like that they said that. What? Because it's just such an easy, very terrible joke about an not being vanilla anymore if he starts getting the pegging. You know what I mean?

It's the low hanging fruit joke. He keeps talking about how vanilla is a non-pegging sex life is, and he wants to go never mind. Okay, so I wanna know, how's your communication? It would be chocolate, Emily, come on. How is your sex communication with your sex life? It's something that you should be talking about together, and if you are not able to talk about sex,

a good way to open up this conversation is to share your fantasy with each other. And you wanna bring it up again outside the bedroom, not during a sexy date night. And a great time is when you're in the car. To be honest, you're on a road trip, you're not looking into other's eyes, you could be driving to the safe way,

it doesn't matter to target. It makes it easier to have default conversations if you don't have to maintain eye contact. I'm a huge fan of eye contact, but when this is, this kind of topic, I think that's a good suggestion. Actually, Charlie Glickman, he's the pegging king. He was on my show. He talked about this. Ask your wife if there's anything she's ever been wanting to try that you haven't done. See what she says. You want to have a conversation when it's your term, name a few things in

a few of your fantasies. So you could say, I want to watch porn with you. And then this would be a good time. You could say, you know, I've always, you know, I've been, you could blame it on me say, I've heard the male prostate, you know, it's called the the male peace spot, the male g spot and say that you've heard that can give you amazing orgasms and this type of stimulation for men, you know, can be amazing. It doesn't make you gay. And if she seems freaked out, you really can't push it. You really can't push it. But maybe she needs to digest it. But if she seems open out, you really can't push it. You really can't push it, but maybe she needs to digest it. But if she seems open, this is where you start off slow.

She can just start with some loop. She can start rubbing around. Your anus, you don't want to start. She's not going to let me tell you something. Your wife is not going to all of a sudden put say, yes, honey, let's try this and put a strap on. Go pegging. So you got to slowly build up to this.

And I've had a lot of shows about pegging so you could listen to the do's and don'ts. But again, the key is, you know, that's why I always say, I haven't said this in a while. Communication is lubrication. If you want to have better structure, the one way to make your fantasy too, fantasy come to it is to talk about it. So this is something obviously that you want to try, don't keep rooming about it, have the conversation, but again, start by talking about different fantasies

and what you need and then build up to it. But she's her wife. So talk about it, it should be on the table. And good luck, let me know how it goes. Thank you, and thank you, Anderson. One more thing, we are looking for interns. We need to meet it. What?

Are you just done with it? I thought we had to go. Tell me, because someone walked in and they just go. I cut that out of the show, no one knows if they walked in. Oh, sorry, but sorry, okay, go ahead What if he what if he sent himself like a a strap on and he's like look what the guys at work gave gave me a silly guys The work and then he put like staged it put it in the bathroom and then while they're having sex It's like I don't watch man and they she think he was a tool by pretend to slip or something he comes out

And it's like in his butt. It's like life fell and it's in my butt, but I kind of like it Will you take it out, honey? That's, I mean, that could be. That could totally happen. Whoops, I slipped and fell off the trap. I slipped the phone. That's how everything falls in people's butts, right? People always slip the phone on it.

So that could, could happen. That could totally, that's another story, Anderson. I'm so glad you're here because it's like different perspectives. That God, right? Okay. Yeah. Intern, she needs some interns to fall on things. Let me tell you something.

Stuff in the run. It's a pretty good time at being in it. It's a really good time being in a sex cell in the intern. And that's what we're looking for right now. We're looking for like media marketing media people in a social media. I want you you need to live in the Los Angeles area. We're not taking unfortunately we can't have interns that are not able to come into the office. So I want to work from home today. Like no, that's like a rolling on option. So if you have social media experience and you can write, please email us feedback at sexwithelm.com. You can also check it out at internchips.com

or internmatch.com or email me feedback at sexwithelm.com with your resume and writing samples, L.A. and OC applicants only. We need it. It's a great time. So that's all I understand. It's all about for you. What? Ventura County, no good?

Okay, here's the thing. I grew up in Ventura County. I grew up in Ventura County. If you want to commute. And I commuted to my, I started working in radio in 1996. I don't know, I don't know L.A. John, yeah. The first day, you'll find value.

So Ventura. Ventura is okay. Yeah, totally. I even went to Ventura. Ventura County, yeah, okay, okay. No, no, I just mean like you can get to Hollywood. I don't care if you've tried three hours. If you can get there, it's three times a week.

You've got a thousand oaks. Works. Yeah, okay. Yeah, totally. My end. I've been in inventory. Yeah. Okay. No, no, I just mean like you can get to Hollywood. I don't care if you've tried three hours. If you can get there, it's three times a week. A thousand oaks works. Yeah. Okay. I don't know. That's what that's I'm saying. I'm really my my L.A. Geography is still leads a lot to be there. So thank you, Anderson. Everyone check out your podcasts, film vault, film vaults. And yeah, we did top five naked scenes this week. Can you do that last or last week? And then this we did, well, it's still up right now though. Well, I can't check it out.

I'm just trying to drop it. The new one is the top five killer kids and movies. So kids are kill. I love it. It was fun. Who's the good one? You're a good one. Thank you very much.

My movies are going to be available online. Shortly, I'm trying to put together a package because I'm trying to raise money for my features. The next big step I'm going to be taking. Oh my god. I'll let you guys know about all that stuff and you can tease her and all that. Well, yes, we will promote that.

And also Anderson and Kami, December 6th, please just come. It's gonna be good to not please. But that's so pathetic, I know. But I love you all. And I'm grateful for you. So thanks for listening. Was it good for you?

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