Sex With Emily - Hot Sex (Every Time of the Month)

Episode Date: December 10, 2016

The holidays have arrived and on this show, Emily answers your most pressing questions to ease your mind and make this season a sexy one. Do you have a habit of ditching a relationship once the honeymoon phase wears off? Been toying with the idea of non-monogamy? Could your domestic laziness be the reason a partner decides to stray? Emily and Anderson are answering all these questions plus giving tips on how to make period sex hot! (believe it or not). Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show we're getting into your how to sex and relationship questions. Are you struggling with commitment issues? Wondering if polyamory is the answer to your marital dissatisfaction? How do you get over toxic relationship from your past? Plus tips for hot period sex. Yes, it can be hot. I'm with Anderson. All this and more. Thanks for listening. If you're anything like me, you have a love-hate relationship with your sex toys. You love using them. You love having orgasms with them, but you hate cleaning them up after. I get it. Cleaning is a drag. Even back when we were kids, clean up was always the worst part of playtime. But now that our adults and our toys have evolved past Legos and troll dolls, cleaning

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Christmas is right around the corner. Christmas is around the corner dude. Hey Anderson, how you doing? Are you getting ready for Christmas? Like do the tree? What are you doing? Can you do the tree with a new board? Yeah, just bought a tree.

I think so. What? No, I don't know. I don't know if they stick new pins in their eyes. I get a little, I'm careful not to like go on to any message boards. It's like never take a child into a place for the three-notch. Totally dude. I was taken. I'm here. Right, right. We survived. We survived a lot of dirt. I love the time of year.

They're no seat belts. The fire is in the fireplace. I love it because it gets cold where I live. No, I I sound like it was. It's it gets like low 40s where I live at night, which is cold for the house. More than here. Where you live yourself. Out of the valley. It gets colder out there. A little colder, a little hotter. Yeah. And I did find myself googling like our Duraflame logs, safe for kids. And I felt like kind of a woose while doing so. I'm not burning any wood in there for sure. Duraflame logs come back safe. So yeah, little Duraflame. Got the tree up on the on the table on the dining room table. So the kit can't. Oh, okay okay the dogs can't pee on it that way Yeah, I miss the dogs. I'm coming. Hey, I offered for you to watch the dogs a couple of weeks and you're I can't do it

I'm being Emily. I'm being too Emily right now too Emily which means you got a lot of stuff going on right I'm busy. Yeah, that's true, but things are kind of settling down like the doctor drew of women as far as work goes You got so much stuff going on. I know it's funny because you know I was just talking to him before the show and he's like, I had so much going on my head spinning. I'm like, you like it that way. That's how he enters not to go off.

But every time he would walk in a love line forward, I should say every time four out of five nights, he'd come in and go, I'm so tired. I've been working so much. It's like, all right, Drew, we all know. Who is it? He's standing, you talk, stop it. When was the last time you did laundry?

That's what I did all day. All right. That, we all know he's standing you talk stop it. What was the last time you did laundry? That's what I did all day. All right. That's work, right? Longers, a big pain. Yes. I'm up in the floors. I'm like, you know, vacuuming was a last time you vacuum, Drew. Stop it.

Okay. Dude, he's supporting a family. Oh, we're supposed to get a tree here, people. Get a tree. I've never had a tree in my entire life. Comes with being Jewish. You should get a tree. I know, but I was one.

Yeah. That's how the story that like growing up, it was like really, I mean, I like we were super super Jews, you know, my parents weren't like no trees. But they didn't do Christmas. No. So when I was like seven years old, six, what did you stop leaving about Santa? I was like the year before you finally find the stash of presents that turn out to come from Santa.

Okay. So you must be like six or so, I don't know. But I hung up a stocking, I went and bought a stocking with my allowance and I like in sparkles wrote my name on it and I hung it on the chimney and I woke up at the morning and I came downstairs hoping to say, no, there was peanuts. My dad had like a pearly port,

not even like a port of jar of like planters, peanuts in it. Like they weren't even, they were, they were a shell? port like not even like port a jar of like planters peanuts in it Like they weren't even cool. They were Charlie Brown with they weren't even in the shell. No, they were they weren't even the shell They weren't even the shell there's like peanuts. I'm like this is just this is what Santa does You know I was such a bummer and I've always wanted a tree and then I remember when I was little going in the mall and Sitting on Santa's lap. I'd be like listen is it okay? I'm Jewish because Wait, would you just wait and a lot by yourself or your mom would you?

My mom would she let me sit on the lap of the Santa and I sit there and I'd be like okay listen I'm Jewish is that cool like I clearer with them. I'm like because I really want to cat I want a kitty right he was like no that I'm down never got the cat never got to see that's a weird thing to Yeah, you do. And also when you're Jewish as a kid, I'm not saying everyone's like, oh, but you could hate presence. Yeah, now if you're my mom and you get one,

do you get a pair of socks? Like the second day, you might not get anything. I'd be forgot. I wasn't abused as to believe me. It's fine, I don't know what I'm bad. I think Hanukkah starts like Christmas Eve. It does, which is kind of weird. It's weird, yeah, it's all.

But it's not a good thing about Hanukkah. It's not a good kind of like a, it's not even that big. It's not that big of a deal. No, it's not a really just holiday. to get kind of like I It's not that big it's not that big of it. No, it's not a religious holiday like Christmases for you all Jewish people want their sick of like their kids going through what you went through so they're trying to make it a bigger deal Yeah, it's weird how they always overlap though, right the Christian holidays and Jewish holidays is always a competition like Passover and Easter like They're two totally separate things. I know, but they do overlap

Passover is more every holiday is actually more We are really is like they're two totally separate things. I know, but they do overlap. Pass over is more. Every holiday is actually more meat. What is pass over really is pass over celebration of killing Jesus? No, no, no, no, no, no. This is pass over is about the bread. You know, when our temple was burnt down and the oil that was lit so we could make our lemon and 11 bread.

We had a you sure that's not that's not on a cook is Hanukkah's all about the oil that lasted for a day. The oil the last for eight days, but the bread is also about yes, no, that is true. That's sad that you guys get like oil for eight days and we get Santa. Yeah, we had the oil the last but also maybe I did say but what I'm saying is it's about the bread for the temple that we didn't have enough Whatever to cook on the thing. We had to eat unleavened bread. That's why we really late to Adam Sandler song quite a bit. The Hanukkah song. Yeah, I love the Hanukkah song. I bet you do, right?

Yeah, I mean, that's my childhood. That's my childhood, right? Yeah, it's so true. Do you guys know the Hanukkah song? Oh, yeah, of course. Of course, he makes new verses actually speaking with Dr. Drew. Dr. Drew made the last version.

I heard he made it. He was a part of it. Yeah, he was in the last version. Did you have Drew or whatever you said? Yeah. There's something about needing somebody who needs to be fixed. You know, who is a Jew? Dr, right? Yeah. There's something about needing somebody needs to be fixed. You know, who is a Jew?

Dr. Drew. Yeah, it's true. So that was a bummer, but you know, hey, I'm fine with it, but it's great being a Jew. OK, let's keep going. So I don't really do anything with it, but we are going to get a treat. Get a treat.

And we're going to hang one still lows on it and concrease. You really? No. Are you really? I think you might. We might. Well, that's what we have around here. What else we got? That's where we're going to get some decorations. I don't know. Yeah might. Well, that's what we have around here. What else we got? That's where to get some decorations. I don't know. Yeah. We're

going to use what we have. Okay. Yeah. Can you see the. No, we should. I don't know who we got to arrange it here. We're at a holiday party. We're going to a spa. But hey, if you're trying to think of a gift, even if you know, you got a significant other and you get a number of gifts, I used to go overboard a little bit. Throw in a sex toy. Make sure water is a sex toy. Yeah. Listen to me. If you are married and you're in a committative relationship or you've dating for even a few months, it doesn't matter. I know you want to do something that's fun and sexy and sexual, maybe you've been wanting to spice it up. Get everything I've talked about. This is a holiday where you can do it and feel really

good about it. If you want to get something nice get them like a really nice toy or you could just get a nice bottle Lou business talking stuff or but get something sexual that shows that you're thinking about your sex life and that you find The attractive and hot and you know, it's something new to you's and I think it's a great idea Order website do that. We love you Okay Sex the news. You ready for it. Yeah Been a couple weeks. Let's go speaking. Well, okay last week I had your, sex the news. Do you ready for it? Yeah, been a couple of weeks. Let's go speaking.

Well, okay, last week I had your sex in the news. I know. What is going to start having a lot of sex? I like the idea of you being like a weather, uh, like, a caster, but you're just talking about your own sex. A lot of dicks in the future. Uh, I got three dates coming up next week. I have some bumble dates.

It's gonna be a wet one. Yeah. It's gonna be a wet one. Yeah, it's gonna be a wet one. It's gonna be a wet one. I like it. I like it too. I'm trying to, yeah, no, that is good. I think we need more Emily sex. Well, I'm back.

I told you that like my, you know that the saying, I was saying like my pilot lays out but the taxi cab like, you know what, the light goes off. The lot of, yes. Matter for you. Whatever the matter for us. But I do feel like I was sort of working on myself the last few months,

which I've never, you know, and I'm like, oh, I'm really excited to date, but now I'm like, whoa, I'm out there. So maybe sex in the news will be all about my sex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, ex, knowing that you do laundry, you might appreciate the sex in the news story. I hate laundry.

I didn't know that by you. Yes, I do it a lot. Yeah. Men who don't do household chores tend to get cheated on. I heard this on TMZ. Oh, really? Is that what you get your news? There are, yeah, that's where I get most of all of my news. And they're talking to a playmate about it out in front of hide.

And then she said that she gives her, I made sure that she gives out blow jobs every day. Yeah. But she had no good information either to TMZ because it's not a good news source. So wait, who said that? Some playmate, I'm sure that she gives out blow jobs every day. Yeah, but she had no good information. Neither the team see it because it's not a good news source. So, who said that? Some playmate, I don't know. Okay, she gives blow jobs, she gives blow jobs every day

so she doesn't say it, sorry. Something along those lines. I phone just, something popped up like a computer. No, I've heard for a while that, like wives and significant others, like the ladies, they like to see the man doing short. It's true. Just help around the house, right?

So female users, they were excited they came out and they said attention boyfriends and the committed loving relationship might be good idea to put on dishwasher gloves and grab a little bottle of light salt. New study found that men who don't pull their weight tend to get cheated on. Now, you know, I guess there's a million different ways

we see in these studies, but this might get you guys to go home and empty the dishwasher. I don't know, they surveyed 10,000 female users and 73% of women cheat on their husbands because they're married to lazy duds who don't vacuum enough or do chores. 86% express a deep and profound saltiness towards their husbands inability to close weight in domestic tasks. Yeah. And it's not even about them doing all the work. It's Damn, I mean ladies as a whole It's also I can feel the shame that my wife has in me for living in filthy conditions

Like how can you live like this and then she looks at me like I'm a dirty person So if it's not bothering me, but it's bothering her she's thinking oh he just lives in filth and he's fine with it So there's that there's that too. Oh interesting. Are you a dirty person? Dirty other then she is. She gets a little bit OCD. Okay, well that's good actually to be someone's little neater than me. I do.

So they inspire you. But yeah, I just think they inspire you to be a winner. A lot of the time I call, you know, like today I'm out for 12 hours. I'm doing like four or five shows today and then I'll by the time I get home, I'm sure that she will have cleaned up while I'm out there. Right. Because I am kind of a tornado. It's nice.

But then I got to pick up for the rest of the weekend. I do all the laundry, do all the dishes. I do I yeah, you're good You were just talking about you. She didn't even know where the trash was like when you take it out of the street She had no she took out our neighbors trash when I was at the end. I'm like, I mean, that's not our trash She had no idea where we kept our trash. That's good. No, you're good Anderson. I'm not worried about you She's not changed all the fucking diapers for the most part. Niners under the diapers me Yeah, you wake up in the middle night? He peed on the wall today. He did.

He did. He said, I was running late. And I'm like, all right, I'll change him real quick before I leave. And he threw up when I was changing him. And then I had the diaper off. We have it off from maybe five seconds. Well, I'm reaching for the other one.

I do it real quick in case of the pee. And he used that five seconds to, that was since entire pee. Was it that five seconds? Unwall. Not even you though. That's better because you didn't have time. Behind the changing tables, all like dripping down and awful. Pop it up the first time.

Should you just have the walls made of plastic on the walls? You think, yeah. I just kind of get, I can't let him even have five seconds of freedom with that pain because he will be. How is the pain? Is he touching the penis out or anything? No, that doesn't happen for like another 16 years. There are like baby, you know, they do.

Like it's weird. Yeah, the nurse like warned us. No, they do. It's weird. The nurse like warned us like, like a newborns a lot of time will have her. It's like, ah, that's cranky. I don't like that. I don't like that either. Um, but that's sweet that you're changing all the diapers. What a different world we live in.

Think about 30 years ago. Was your dad changing all your diapers? I doubt it. Probably not. He's probably banging the second. My brother did too. Well, exactly. Because he wasn't doing that.

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Rock Hudson was at the Feb. Because he was gay. He was totally the fuck. He was gay. He was gay. Freddie Mercury. Yeah. And there was all these things in it.

It was really really very nice. The singer for Franky goes to Hollywood. My, Magic Johnson, that dude. That's the first time I ever heard of it. Yeah. Yeah. Magic Johnson, that was really nice. But he cured, he cured AIDS with $100 bills.

He blends them up and injects them. That's what they said in South Park. That's how he cured some. South Park knows. That's a good source of information. Okay. So his blends up $100 bills and injects that that was his cure for AIDS. That's that was an episode of South Park. He's genius. I love South Park. I uh, yeah. Thank you. That is genius. But eight day you're right. We go with AIDS and I'm right after the 70s, whenever I was I know right. I know, no, it's a bummer. Condoms. Like if we got to choose when to be born, especially for those of us, you know, who like to the

strange and, you know, to have a lot of different relationships and whatnot, like if we were looking like, you know, back in the, let's say it's the 50s, I'm like, what era would you like to not be born in? We would have picked our era. I think everyone picks would pick the era they're born in. I would much rather be young and on to the right now. Seemonees were fucked up. I love the 70s. Yeah, the 70s were the best. Free love. Yeah, the whole thing, the music, the clothes. I love the 70s. Yeah, I love the 70s.

I was there for a little bit. You're on. The only good thing came out of the 70s was film. The rest of it was shit. But I think that was the best time of my life too. Yeah. You were a bell bonus. I went dark after that. My parents had to wore it. Did you wear the bell bonus? Now I do.

Then I did. I was too young. Did you have your hair parted in the middle? I still do. I'm a 70s chick. I'm a hippie. All right. OK.

So we got that cleared. And I just accept where I'm at in life. I don't look back and wish there was anything different. Okay. Yeah, that's that's what makes you you Yes, I have regret every single moment I regret where I park just no The rated parking lot why not real pleased with the way the place that I bark why my car might not start I don't know if I'm gonna be able to get to the locker release I've got triple A. Why I got I got the engines dying the batteries dying. I got a great about everything But let's move forward. Let's talk about other stuff. I have zero. It's interesting. Let's stop regretting. You're doing great

Okay, want to go into emails here other people's regrets you can help them with that if we don't get to them soon I'll regret it. Oh first. Let's give a shout out to our sponsors Okay, I love you all and you guys have been so awesome It's partying our sponsors and they help keep the show free so thanks for taking a moment and listening to what's going on with them and we'll be right back. So back in August our friends at Vibratex set me a new toy to try out which you know is one of the best perks of my job. However, it can also be challenging because let's be honest, not all toys are created equal. Well thank god I loved it.

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It's a great question. It's cool to set up. It's what we've made it. We've made it easier than ever now, Anderson. You actually can go right to the website. The NAS family tab. Click on that. What does that submit a question? Sex felony.com. Oh, okay. Click on that. Just submit a question, textbelmy.com.

Oh, okay. Yeah, we're actually section them across the board on our social media, Snapchat, Instagram, all that stuff. But really, you go there, you fill out the form, you ask your question, hit send, gets right to us, and now, if you'd like to actually be called, we'll set up a time, we're gonna take, we're gonna talk to you on the phone,

and you can say, yes, I'd like to be called. Check that box. Assistant producer Eddie will email you and set up a time. We're gonna take, we're gonna talk to you on the phone. You can say, yes, I'd like to be called. Check that box. Assistant producer Eddie will email you and set up a time and we can talk to you live. We've done a few shows like that. They've been awesome. And also if that's not your jam, you can also leave a voice mouth. It would ask SW1. Can't wait to hear from you. It would ask SWE1. Or it would say the same thing, but if you don't know about the high to the numbers letters remember that was hard on the phone for a while. Some certain like phones. I think it was the Android. Right. It was like I don't know for a while there's some of the cell phones that I don't know. I think I don't need to say eight one eight two seven five seven

nine three one is actually. Well, you just said it right there. How would I text with Emily? I guess I could do that, but the listeners aren't can be texting with them. I just like it sounds like sex with Emily, it's like sex with Emily. Ah, text with Emily. There's something there, right? You should do something with it. I will figure that out.

Oh, and we're also, okay, I know I keep saying, we are doing Facebook Lives, which was freaking blasts as time we did it, but I've gone so much, but just check out social media across the board. Do you think of 1.5 million dollars? You have a lot of followers. So go like us on Facebook if you haven't, but we'll let you know on all the other forms,

because I would love to take your questions their life as well. Okay, do you have a lay? I'm a 27 year old female living in Denver, Colorado. I love the show. I'm having some life struggles with maintaining relationships. I continuously lose interest and break up

with people after the honeymoon stage or continue to be in a relationship where I'm checked out and helps if things getting better, which I know is wrong. I've dated not so great people the past, so I guess in retrospect this is a good thing, but I know that I have a deeper issue with commitment. My father was always very emotionally unavailable to me as a kid, especially when a parent got divorced, and I believe that this, among other things, has caused me to be very harsh and disconnected with my relationships today.

I can't seem to find a balance between protecting myself and being a strong woman versus being able to trust and open up someone. I don't want to be like this anymore, but I seem to always find a way to push people away, and I'm beginning to worry that I will never find someone I can share my life with. I would love any advice you could give me

as well as books or materials I could read. Thank you, Charlotte. How old is Charlotte? Charlotte is 27 years old. Well, I love your self-awareness Charlotte. I love that you're recognizing this pattern at 27 and that you want to do something about it. Right. That mean that's huge. It is huge, right? And it just sounds like yeah, there are some intimacy issues you know where to track them back to. And it sounds like you're more like in your masculine protective energy than in your feminine energy and you didn't learn how to trust men very well because of the relationship with your father. Of course I'm going to say therapy. I think that it's really hard sometimes to work these things out on your own, but I've got to say what we're going to say. It's a lot like having a car and knowing what the problem is. What's great? You can go to the mechanic and go hey I know it's the fan belt. I need it replaced

Doesn't mean you you can't replace the fan belt, but it's good that you know what needs to be replaced So you're halfway there, but you need a therapist to actually do the the mechanic work Anderson that was beautiful I could've ordered a little bit better. I have some regrets but the way that I ordered it No, but I think that's a great point. Is it a lot of us? God knows I've been through this. I've been with Charlotte. I was in the same boat.

I have so many friends that they're going through the same ship, but they have no idea. No idea. And I have to explain it to Luna. I think that I'm a genius. They start falling in love with me. I'm like, that's not the point here. Right. Intimacy issues, whatever it is.

But I love the show. I mean, you just very articulate, you know what the problems are and issues are. And I think we often think that we're strong enough that we should be able to solve it on around much Like people with addiction things like I just can handle it But you just said that you got to bring you need some help You need someone else to help you sort through this just because you pinpointed it But also intimacy is such an important part about building healthy relationships and We're not taught this early in life. We're not taught how to communicate in relationships

We don't have the best examples especially especially, you know, your parents are divorced, your dad, you know, wasn't emotionally available, but that doesn't mean that you can't learn, this is a learned skill. It's a learned skill how to be in a healthy relationship, which again, I didn't know this in my 20s. I didn't, fuck, I just started figuring some of this stuff out, you know, yesterday with the guy. Within Rika, last week. Yeah, my guy on the beach. So let me say this, we all love the honeymoon stage. Everyone's totally normal. It's totally normal to love the honeymoon stage.

We hate when that new relationship phase. We just want another one with a quick fix. Also, when the honeymoon is phasing and the relationship that works, Emma should be replaced with something more meaningful. So if you're not getting that fulfillment from anything that's replacing the honeymoon phase, the excitement phase, then maybe these guys aren't for you either.

Well, here's what I like, it turns like you don't have any regrets like Anderson about the guys you've dated in the past. You're saying that they actually they weren't such great guys. So maybe your picker was broken as well. But looking at it with fresh eyes, I think that maybe you're gonna make some better choices now because you sound very self-aware. But I think that the reason why, and I got to tell you, I can relate to this, this was me, I am Charlotte, Charlotte is

me, I was very much like this, moving on from one to the next, I was like, I didn't know that it's for you because you talk about relationships and what not for a living. So the more experience the better. So you can, you know, pull on a lot of different experiences. You've had a bad question. But Charlotte doesn't want to waste a bunch of time. Don't waste time like me. With the wrong guys. I started the show to figure it out. Right. So I think there's also very, very confusing messages to women these days. Like we feel like we can't be vulnerable and let a person into our lives fully without like not being seen as like independent and strong.

It's funny because that's that's always been the deal with guys right and we're right. We're trying to let guys know that hey, it's okay to let you know somebody in and therapy is not necessarily for it's not for like it was a pejorative to say that you need therapy back in the day right for a guy. It's like yeah. And but at the same time women are coming up on the other side trying to prove that they're strong, right? So I think that it's very Guys, yeah, no, it's really tough now the roles too because you know We're told that like if we're a strong woman and we're you know, you don't need help Yeah, we don't need help and then that's confusing to men who are like in the role of caregiver and and so all of that's really messed up

Right now and confusing for all the messages But I think that you're aware of this, and that's great. And the other thing I was gonna say, there's one thing I was gonna say about this is that, is that also when the honeymoon stage, when it does start to fade, which it will, everyone watching, I'll know it's gonna happen,

we're not told that that, like I was like, oh, this is so boring, but if you're with somebody and you can be vulnerable about it, talk about it, like you'll realize that there is some really great things to come after it's over. I mean, that's ending and you can kind of work on it and that's when you go deeper and you go, go strong.

Right, you get to know the person more. It might not even be your person, but even maybe you're dating someone now and you just started. It's a really interesting, this is kind of how I learned as well. When I got those urges to leave, I actually stayed. And I would stay on the other side. Oh, you forced yourself.

Oh, yeah. And I was in therapy at the time. And she was like, just stay. And I was always like, you're going to tell me to say with every guy, I was like really annoyed. I said, it's like, it's all the same therapist for like years. And I was like, and every time, like sure enough, like they weren't my guy, but I learned a new lesson.

These poor guys had no idea they were a borrowed time. They were almost like an exercise. It's really a very interesting thing. Oh, but it was, you know, I'm telling you therapy is just, it's a great thing. It's a great learning. And one last thing on the therapy front. And because I know that it's hard, I am guilty of it.

I've never seen a therapist. My dad was one and I have a huge problem with therapists and a lot of people. I know a lot of people get to show it. I know it's going to be hard to, you know, it's a whole thing. You gotta find one. You gotta figure out if you're're insurance covers you got to figure out if you have enough money for it's an added expense. You got to find the right ones.

Sometimes you have to go to I want two or three. All of that is going to be worth it. The grand scheme of things rather than wasting more of more years of your life with the wrong guys or worst case scenario, your entire life never find the right person. So it's a worthwhile investment. I don't practice what I preach, but I've seen therapy do wonders. And so I think that is a really good point for people. I think there is sort of this barrier to you. But you asked for some materials. I love even though you're not married, but the passionate marriage keeping love and intimacy

alive in committed relationships by David Scharnark, Shunark, C-H-N-A-R-C-H, it's a great book. Also, I love the symmetrical book that Celeste Danielle wrote, called Making Love Real, because there might be some inner child stuff, you got to work on here, like daddy stuff. I just, I love all the semantics. But don't use that as an out. Self-help, both aren't going to.

Yeah, okay, self-help books work. You should have seen when I moved the first time, like, in my, I think I was 30. I had literally, like, I had a garage shell shell and I probably had like 200 self-help books. Like, what color should I have? I know people that read nothing but self-help books and they're really fucked up. Now, you know, it's, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy because the reason why they're buying self-help books is because they're fucked up at the beginning with, but they don't, they

make you more aware of the different parts that need fiction, but you can't fix them. Absolutely. I don't regret reading any of those books. You can't fix them on your own. And on your own. Um, often, yeah, exactly. So, uh, keep going with this. I like it. Good luck, Charlotte. Good luck, Charlotte. Let's know. I want people to let us know how things go after emails. Okay. Hi, Emily. I love the show. It's such a refreshing view on all things sex because here in mostly rural Texas, the very conservative ideas on sex are sometimes unbearable.

So my situation, my wife and I have been together for seven years and I was not a player before I met her. I was of the mindset that if I had sex with someone, I needed to be with that person which has hindered great relationships in the past. Now I don't seem to nag me like I used to. I'm also way less religious than before. I believe that you can love more than one person romantically, but there is no way my wife would be up for a polyamorous marriage. I would love to have sex with other people, but that would ruin

what I have now. And I do truly love my wife. I want to be with her. Am I just stuck and should I should let these feelings go or get on with the marriage so I can experience something out of the marriage? Should I can experience anything else. Thanks for all you do. Eddie classic. Eddie, this is a classic. Right. This is like best up. Classic.

Like this is like what I get asked. Probably why you got a so the oats, right? You got to play the field. I don't even know the way Anderson. I was this is regrets. Eddie's got regrets and he's still got a wild hair. Do you know how many guys I know who sold so many oats they could have? No, we're going to have fewer. Yeah, no, but they still he's seven got to go wild here. Do you know how many guys I know who sold so many oats they could have? You know, he's gonna have fewer regrets.

Yeah, no, but they still, he's seven years into the relationship. So Eddie can fall back on. I didn't see it with enough checks. There's a lot of guys who are like, oh my God, all those girls I sat with are so much better than my wife. So I don't think sewing the oats is the answer. I think that what Eddie's gonna do is Eddie, you gotta work on your current relationship with your wife.

I mean, yes, that is, I agree that that's part of it. It's not like he have some religious issues, and you know, you've followed, and he thought, like, I'm not gonna bang until, I'm married, or until I think this person's going to be my wife, so it sounds like he have very little contact. Right. And now he's like, left God, and he's got a wife,

and he wants to bang others. No, I get it, you're right. I guess not, so, I mean, in the sense of, it's different for a lot of, everyone's got different roots of their angst around commitment, being meaningless, but you're right. If you don't know that, oh, that could come back to bite you in the ass. False.

First thing I would say, Eddie, you love your wife, you love where you're at. I would say you got to work on the relationship with her right now, and not to just go off and leave her because you want to go see with a bunch of other. There's no better time to have this feeling right now, Eddie, than this point in our... Seven years in? No, then this part, again, in the world, 2016, with the amount of porn that you can,

you satisfy yourself with, right? It's only to get better, too, with all the technology that's coming. Yeah, it's good to go. It's good to go. Virtual reality experience off the cellular later, but for a trilogy sex. What's his name in reeky?

Because that was really real. What? Um, I don't think that's a crazy thing. I's his name in reeky? Because that was really real. I don't think that he wants, I mean, I think that he wants more exciting, exciting, consistent, exciting with his wife right now. And since you haven't moved anyone else, maybe you kind of settled into a routine that you kind of got to go in,

work on this relationship before you're ready to throw it out. I mean, you might want to have multiple partners, but I think you just might want more intimacy and better sex with your wife right now. Most guys do, right? I mean, on paper, I can be great if I can know there's sex career for other women that you know,

but I don't want that because I know what it would do to the relationship. I know that it would ruin what I've built and what I have with my wife. But it's totally natural, Eddie, for you to want to still have that urge, because it's inborn, it's in our DNA, we can't help it. So let's take all of this sexual awakening that you're having right now with, you know,

you're not as religious anymore, and you know, you're kind of thinking more about sex, and then channel that towards intimacy and sex with your wife. So, open up the lines of communications with there. I'm gonna make it, I'm gonna go out of limb here and assume you've never talked about her. I'm gonna make it. I wanna go out and live here and assume you've never talked about this. I'm gonna assume that you guys have not had a lot

of really constructive conversations around sex and you might be surprised that she feels the same way. Careful, let it. What? A lot of landmines. Not about opening it up, about like, hey babe, our sex, like all the things I say in the show, like, let's talk about sex.

Like, I think about you, God, I worked today. I was thinking about how high you are. And I thought, you know what would be really cool? Like, let's, I don't know any, what kind of fantasies do you have? Like, let's, let's go on a little vacation together. Let's take a night and hotel together. Let's watch some porn together.

She's probably not into porn. I don't know. Talk about your fantasies. Tell her that you think, you could, you guys should listen to the podcast together. You have many couples email me that they listen together and kind of it's hard to talk about it. Not this one though.

Don't listen to this one because she's going to know that you wrote but like listen to the next one. If you have or you can even bookmark some shows and be like fast forward, like I ever listen to it because she probably hasn't as much experience either. And sometimes it's simple act of just like talking about it can get you both excited and vigorated. We've been getting more and more emails like this though,

Anderson, I know. You even looked at me and said, wow, really? But mostly men, I think that they've seen the rise in polyamorous relationships everywhere and they think it's kind of like a get out of marriage free card. And that is not the answer. I'm telling you, it polyamory is not the answer.

And if you're having like some kind of existential marriage crisis, it doesn't mean that like, oh, women, I'll see with all these women, that's going to be the quick fix. It does not work like that. I don't know at what level you're, you know, because when you get Pali Amory, you have to be strong foundation.

Pali Amory is the albinos of relationships. They're so rare. There's very, very rarely works, right? Right. I mean, you know, it's a whole different, you're at a U guys are not there. And I'm just going to say that I don't know what level your wife It's very, very rarely works, right? Right. I mean, you know, it's a whole different. You go, you guys are not there. And I'm just going to say that I don't know what level your wife is at. I've had a lot of, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many. Like, hey, you know what, we've just grown apart.

You still love God. I'm out. I need to leave. I mean, if you asked to go down that road later, that could be a, you got to find some common ground. Here's the problem. Is it a lot of people who you enter this in young or with, you know, religion that they just, first of all, there's not a lot of information out

out there about sex. If she's not, you know, reading or watching porn looking for it, she's not going to know. And she's going to think that sex is just how sex is with him. And so there's got to be a way to like just start being like, I want to make sure that you're enjoying the sex that we're having. Like, what can I do? She might have never, like you might be starting at square one. But there's again, that bookmaking love real, the somatical book by Slesa Danielle is a great like tool that couples can read together. So what you're telling it is, you put all of his energy into his wife. Thank you.

First. To have it all into that basket. And you know, if that doesn't work out then you may maybe you do gotta find some. What I would also suggest is don't you know go down really far down this road with a right, doesn't sound like they have kids yet. Don't go you know thinking that this might not work. Know that there's some chinks in the armor in your relationship and before you have kids don't Figure it out. Do you want to Emily's telling you a puddle of lunch and energy into trying to fix it

But I'm not it don't because then years ago I get one life probably you only one life and I would say that this has to be your top priority Because when sex becomes an issue in a relationship it becomes everything When sex isn't a relationship isn't an issue in the relationship, it's not of concern. So, yeah, take this. Sex is the battery of the relationship. Exactly, nice. Hey, Emily. Is that why they enter Johnny's, Johnny's a bunny?

That's why he's a bunny. Because they bang all the time. They do bang all the time. That's why he's a bunny. Oh, we're figuring out so much. Hey, Emily, I just started listening to your show during this summer. I'm obsessed. It's definitely helped me out in the bedroom, solo and with others. I've been having amazing

sex and great communication with my partner. I'm wondering your thoughts about period sex, specifically Connellan Gastore in that time of month. I've had an array of partners, one of whom refused to have sex with the condom while I was my period. It made me feel awful with a condom. It made me feel awful. I've also had partners that have been down to go down any time a month. It's a bit messier, totally worth it for both of us. I wanted to know what you think about it.

Any tips for sex during a woman's period? Thank you, thank you, thank you, Jenny H.20 Portland. Why are you making a face Anderson? I'm thinking about something else. Period sex is a personal preference, first of all, for women, Emmons. Some women are like, I do not want to be touched. I don't want to sex. Some women get really turned on at that time of month. And, same with men. There's some men who are like, I don't

want, I'm not into it. What are you not into at Anderson? There are sex of a religious sex that actually, I'm not saying sex, I'm saying C-S-E-C- saying CSECTS that actually when the woman's She has to like leave I know I think it's part of your I know too much about physiology. I was in phase physiology and you know look to work on love line all those years And I know exactly what's going on with that blood. It's not like it's just magical blood that's appearing. I know that it's like the inner uterus, all sloughing it off and escaping out of the vagina. It's horrifying.

No. It's terrifying. You just avoid like the play. OK, so you're a grown man. I'll have sex, but I'm not going to grovel down there. OK, and so let me tell you, Mike. I mean, think about it. Like, one of my organs inside of my body

was like sloughing off once I'm up, I'm like, I'm bleeding out of an orifice. Would you want to like, go slurp? It's horrifying. It's interesting. Probably, I don't know. Probably not. I'm really into it.

I don't know. You just do it. You just put some blow job straight around like that. Nothing wrong with you. I'm not saying anything. You just want to say, you're never going to force a guy to get over the blood if he's not into it. You're just not.

Like Anderson, he's already made up his mind. But all I said, yeah, you'll sex. Yeah, yeah. You'll have sex. Right, so you're saying you're not gonna have oral sex. Yeah, the idea of what are they called? They're getting your red wings, it's just no. Oh, because of your face.

Yeah, so they call it, I don't like it. So I, I mean, your best bet, let him know right before that you do of your period. And some guys are in into it. It doesn't mean he's not into you. As far as oral sex, it's funny. I've had the same thing. I've had guys who are like, great. Let's take a shower and guys who are like rip out my tampon with their mouth.

And Madison's just rolled her eyes in the background that sounds really gross. I'm telling you what? No, he like took it out. It was the last day my period probably I think but Was it I think that was like one of the really hot like sexually evolved things that Christian Gray did is he like Essentially took her tampon. Oh, was that in the book? I don't remember that movie. I think it wasn't it wasn't in the movie I don't think they can I think they like took out a lot of the ranchier stuff Anyway, my guy Can you?

So come back again? I So bad dude, I was in the bathroom laughing at the way with Susan Pinsky. Why are you in the bathroom? Because I was so funny. I was like and I didn't find him hot What's going on? You're in the bathroom during the movie. I was the funny. I was like, and I didn't find him hot. What's going on? You were in the bathroom during the movie. I was in the movie. I was in the premiere. I hosted a party.

Oh, and then you left us. And then Susan, I was in the movie. I was in the movie. And then Susan Pinsky came and drew. But Susan and I were in the bathroom. We're like, he's not even cute. I didn't think he was cute. During the movie, you guys were in there talking.

Yeah. You guys go bathroom together all the time. What is that? What do you guys? Well, ladies do that. We're pulling each other's tampons out with our two. OK, so here's the thing about period sex is that if it feels good to you and you want to sex and you're with a partner, you still have to work on them.

I know a lot of people think you can't get pregnant during sex. You can and you might. During your period, what do I say during your partner? During sex. A lot of people don't think they can get pregnant during sex. And you can. A lot of them are a lot more turned on, a lot more hornier during the period.

So I get it. And so really you just have to kind of, it's different with every part. I have some guys who are like, let's get in the shower. Like I said, some guys who are moving out. So give them time. And I also was gonna say it's a maturity thing that I think some guys, you're young, she's 20.

So some guys might freak out, but Anderson's a grown man. It's not a maturity thing with me. And there was a time in my life where it didn't bother me at all But the more I learned so it's actually I'm sure you think made me turn more turn off Which is the opposite of what you're saying, okay, not turned off. I mean I love I got it you got more information But here's the other thing about oral sex is that maybe like I'm I personally wouldn't want a guy to I think it was probably the last day my period you know it like I think what I'm really blight

I don't want a guy Right, you just don't I'm really blight blight I don't want to guide No, I don't have that that's a fresh feeling right but here's way more moist amazing thing is the clitoris Why is in that word? Clitoris 8,000 nerve endings high that part is totally fine. Yeah, that's up above fingers Right use loops. You're more lubricated at that time a month You could use your toys Don't go down on the base. It's not have to be shut down.

And certainly in sexism either. And I know like the first day or two of my period, I don't want sex, but I'm fine with like four play and all that. Sex in the shower. If penetration is painful, so great to go, or like messy for you or even painful, take in the shower and like use, I love.

So you know, the sports sheets, they make all this cool, all the velcro over strength. They have a line called sex in the shower and they make all these really cool toys for like they have a vibrating mesh sponge like aloofah has a little vibrator in it they have these suction cup handles that go on the that go like on things that fall down like it's fun like maybe like suction handcuffs uh-huh have some fun in the shower if you don't live in California there's a great tips. Why?

Right, drought. OK, you could be quickie. Sex, you can turn the water off. Yeah, you don't have to, yeah, you can go into your little sex dungeon in the shower. Right. And so sex positions, many women also, she just wanted some tips.

I'm just going to do some tips. Some women experience pain in their cervix, tenderness, during their period. So that can make sex uncomfortable. So you can do spooning and missionary are great positions for when you're having sex. It sounds like deep and hard. It's like, I know during my, like, I can't do certain positions.

I'm like, right. Also for play. This is a great time. Not just for him, guys, like great blow job week. Everything but great for your four play. Everything but four play can be so hot because your hormones, actually this time and month, when you have your period are an overdrive. Your hormones are like, you know,

you might find it easier to orgasm from touch or penetration. You might find it a lot easier to get very angry for no reason. Exactly, that too. And really hungry and really angry. And also when you have that instant patient from foreplay that's gonna build your arousal.

And so your partners might not be into oral sex but you can have like teaser nipples, your inner thighs, all that stuff, use a toy. So that's my advice. My advice is just see how it goes with your partner and see what you're comfortable with, but not everyone's gonna be into it and don't, don't judge them, because I used to be like, what's he, you know, I got some guys are, some guys aren't, I'm fine with whatever. You can have sex in them. But it's all in the way they react, like, you know, like, even knowing what I know and having to like, talking to you about it, there's no way if I was like in a new relation, I want to be like oh

That's disgusting. I'm like Oh, no, I was a guy who's totally OCD and like the second I'm like I have a period He's like whoop and he like literally like threw me out of his bed through you out like you like I literally think he like I'm so I said you like like like like like like stop drop like like what is it? Doc drop in roll. What's it with? There's a fire stop drop in roll Like, what is it? Doc, drop in the roll. What's it with? There's a fire stop drop in a roll.

He literally like rolls beyond the bed. Like like earthquake was a sign. Yes, yes. And he was like, take a shower. You're dirty. Like, what the fuck? Did he have long tendrils in the beard? No, he wasn't a rabbi.

He wasn't a red no guy. He was in a rabbi. He was like, let's get in the shower. And he was like, so like OCD clean it. Like, everything is like, that's why. That guy's like a pain in the air. Yeah, it didn't last. Red sheets, black sheets and red sheets black sheets and red sheets are also good to also put a towel down. Yes, put a towel down Put a towel down don't big deal. Let's put it put a towel down

But don't get angry at the guy if he doesn't want to go down there, and you know And also here's the other thing self-love during this time orgasms reliefs biochemicals So it can also take away your menstrual cramps. Nice. How about that? Right. That little adveil. You're all good. So is that all we got time for today? Oh, Annen has got to get some other stuff.

What? I'm sorry, guys. You know, I got here, and I saw a lot of, we did a lot of baby talk. I apologize. I hope, yeah, you can't show the pictures of the baby. We were tended to care. I think it was a Hollywood to West LA.

It's like three miles away. So that makes at least 45 minutes. I got to go Right. Yeah, okay. Thank you for having me. Thank you for being here. I love it I'm the cars. Okay. Happy to you too. I'll feel so I'm coming over I'm gonna say and we're getting together for that brunch soon too. So that'll be excited and fun. Yes Oh my god. So excited. Yeah, branch of Emily. Thank you to the I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

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