Sex With Emily - Hot Summer, Hotter Sex

Episode Date: August 8, 2019

On today’s show, Emily is giving you sexy summer tips on how to properly have sex in the water and she’s answering your calls & emails. She gives advice on what to do when your body is too tense during sex to even orgasm, ways to know if ending a relationship is the right thing to do, & how to have sex when the kids are always around.  Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: pjur, Manscaped, Same Day STD Testing, SiriusXM, Magic Wand.  Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm talking somewhere in the hot weather and vacation and swimming, plus your calls and emails. Topics include. So your body has a habit of tensing up during sex. So much so you can't achieve orgasm. So what do you do? You still love your partner, but have never been happy in the relationship. Here's how to know when it's time to leave. And finally, how to have sex when the kids are always around because hey, they call them in a bygone way. Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

Hey girls, gotta have a stand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common moment? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god, I want to feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Evelyn is not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between for more information. Go to sexwithemely.com. Check out our website, and you can subscribe to our podcast. We released three podcasts a week.

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Summer is upon us all year long. I think a lot of us, we look forward to summer on the hot weather, and vacation, and swimming, and it's kind of sex summer is a sexy time. So really, here's where bathing suits, you know, or naked more, and we're showing less clothing, more skin. And so I was like, God, I've got so many things to share with you guys to make it sexier. This is going to be your sexiest summer yet.

If you're here with me, that's actually family. Jamie's out sick tonight, but as a result, we miss her. We've got my whole team here. And we're all here. We've got Michelle, Kristen, Alisa, there she is. Okay, so this is, oh, God. Okay, so this is, oh God, okay, so I started thinking, well this is the time where I got to gear up my important sex information for you.

For example, I know that having sex in water, any water or on the beach, you know, to some more time is such an exciting fantasy for many people. I've had some hot times on the beach. I remember fooling around with the boyfriend. Not having sex, so I was like 15 in a hot tub and mom caught me, she's like,

wow you, I was like, I'm coming home soon. And then he had a driving home when I was all wet. She still reminds me of this day. I was like, no, your mom, I'm studying, but I'm wet and there's water dripping. I remember swimming around in this hot tub and, you know, just sexy vacations running in the waves. And I think there's just something about the water

that is, it's sexy, it's freeing. It's thrilling and seeing some of maybe in their bathing suit for a while that you haven't seen. And it's just liberating. Like when you're in the water, you're just like, I can totally let go. Well, I bet it was a lot more exhilarating for you and miss you again because, you know,

your seasons, you're like bundled up. So when you were able to show that skin and run into some waves and just like, yeah, just do it. Like, yeah, you've, yes. It was amazing. In a way, I sort of, that's baby what are the only things I miss.

But you have the seasons more so, and I miss my family. But you'd be like really, you know, it's not like here, it's a kind of the only things I miss. But you have the seasons more so, animus my family, but you'd be like really, you know, it's not like here, it's a kind of always summer. And we're a little annoyed that there's June gloom thing. But ultimately, it's like 70 degrees by noon. We're fine. But also the sounds that you were talking about earlier. It's the sound is splashing around.

Yeah. Well, you wait. Exactly. You're like, wait, wait, wait, you told, you know, I always talk about your senses. When your senses are fully engaged, it's like that's a truly erotic moment and can also be what makes incredible sex.

And anything that heightens your senses. So, so, water, you're weightless. You can pick up your partner and you can carry something. You can swim together. And then the sounds of the water and the smell of the ocean or the sea, wherever you're wherever you're whatever water you're in, it could even be a shower. And then like the feel of your partner's skin, I mean, it's really all and you're and you're not distracted when you're in water with your partner. Like you are fully present. I think we can all remember times splashing around with

a lover somewhere. Right? And even if it's for a moment in time, you just know it was like a, it's inherently romantic and sexy. Everybody loves it. You've just painted an amazing picture. I know, it kinda turned like in, in a erotica in my mind.

That would be really hot. I know. I would write in erotica about being weightless and. Weightless and thrilling and liberating. So I know why. And I guess that is some inspiration for everyone in the summer. However, however, there are some things you need

to know about having sex and water that could be potentially risky. So I'm gonna also give you alternatives though. I'm not gonna be your sexy summer buzzkill at all. I'm just saying coming upon the solstice let's talk about some things that could happen and where to take some turns make some changes. So what I want you to know is that not all water is created equal. So I still want you all of you to embrace that feeling of flapping around in the water being weightless. However like standing bodies of water like if you're in the water, being weightless. However, like standing bodies of water,

like if you're in the lake or a pond or a swimming hole, not a great call for sex, because they have the nasty bacteria. And then if you actually have the penetrative intercourse, it can end up in your rethrow, your vagina, and then you get a bacteria infection. And then you can also get insects. But I'm not saying you can't make out,

and you can't fool around, you can't kiss and do some foreplay and water. I think that kind of just goes for even being immersed in bodies of water that are still water-like. It doesn't even, that just goes for being in it, not even having sex in it. Be careful, and you'll get out, shower, check for things. Salt water can be cleaner, but that could also sting female genitals.

So be careful. Now, pools and hot tubs hit her, miss you guys. I was bummed when I first started learning, when I first learned this at hot tubs could be potentially, we don't want to think about it. We're just like, I want to pull around in the hot tub. I know that's the sec, that's why we have hot tubs. Hot tubs aren't hair at least sexy. Like you see a hot tub, but you're like,

I wanna have, like don't you just feel sexy when someone's a hot top? Absolutely. You're like, it makes them to move. Instead of a deal breaker, it is like an immediate turn on if somebody has like a hot top at their apartment building or at their house. I agree, they like wanna come back and go on the hot top.

Like yes, is always the answer. Yes, it's just an extra activity that doesn't make you think about what you'd like to do. You're not asking me to go to back to your house and have a drink or give you a blowjob, you're saying let's get in the hot tub, you know what probably means that. The hot tub is amazing. So, but let me just tell you this, if you don't know what every hot tub is hit or miss, you don't know how often they're going to clean it, and then you won't know unless you

ask around, like who's in charge of the hot tub, and that kind of kills the moment. So, you know, the chemicals that are used to clean pools to clean hot and then you won't know unless you ask around like who's in charge of the hot tub and that kind of kills the moment. So you know the chemicals that are used to clean pools to clean hot tub is like chlorine can be irritants to the vagina. So you got to be just like the shower or your bathtub is the safest bet. Like one of those spa tubs. Yeah, give a spa tub. Get a spa tub with the jets. Yeah, those are amazing.

Those are sexy. Get one built for two. Yeah, I want that in my next home. You can go swimming with your partner or whoever. And you know, get kind of like start making out and then take it into the jet bath tub. Take it into the jet bath tub. What about the jet bath tubs at the hotels?

Like, what do we have to be careful about there? I think you're fine because they clean the tub, the water coming out is gonna be fine. Okay, good question. That is a good question. Okay, so here's another thing I want you know, you can get pregnant or get an STI in water. So I think people think you can't,

that's kind of an urban myth. Yes, you can get pregnant in water, and having sex in water if you're with a male partner, the semen doesn't just wash away with the waves. There's not like just semen, the spline, whoosh, we're leaving you. You can also get an STI in water. Chlorine doesn't kill STI's, unfortunately,

they're still missed, but water doesn't like magically like, here's your condom, you're in water. Yeah. And also, condoms don't play that well in water, because condoms can slip off in water, and even though condom manufacturers stay there, safe in water, they can wash away the lube or the sperm inside, water can break down.

So again, bath, shower your baths, bath, but you guys, you can do other things in the water. Make out, float, touch, all those things. Yeah, that'd be so fun to explore. Those are their erogenous zones. Yes. It's a different, you know. I'll put yourself up against the jets.

Yeah. I didn't even have an orgasm that way when you're privately in a house or with a partner. Have you ever had a partner? Oh, that's hot when they go up behind and they hold you against the jets. You guys should put that in your summer 2019 bucket list. The only thing is that the only people I know that have a hot tub are my parents. Are they going out of summer vacation?

They're actually going out of town this weekend, but I don't have a bucket. Well, it's only Wednesday. It's only Wednesday. You never know. You know those apps, girl. Sure. I'm just, you know.

Put that you have a jacuzzi in your profile. Yeah, you just decide that jacuzzi is hot. Do you think that water proof condoms could be, you know, like, Well, the problem is that they slip off. Do you think there could be some kind of invention? Well, okay, so what it says, so what, the rules say that you could try using condomom you got to put it on before you get in water and then you hold in place

but I I just think What if it slips off and it breaks down. Yeah, so all condoms are pretty much waterproof They say but they you just got to hold in it's all other thing But again, I think that it's overrated. It's kind of like, well, shower sex doesn't have to be overrated, but because I'm going to tell you some tips for great shower sex. But we often think these things are going to be so great, the pool, the ocean, and it doesn't mean you can't have a lot of fun frolicking around, but just don't do the old in and out. Right.

Because I'm saying, what water can I do with it in and out in? Shower. Shower. Shower and bathtub. Okay, totally fine. The thing is you want to make sure in the shower that you actually use that you have to use, because we think in all waters, where we are wet. So why do we need it, but you actually need more so you still cone and then use

some shower sex is really fun because you can, well, you want to do some, it can be tricky because you can slip and fall. So if you're the receiver and you want to, like, you could bend over and grab your ankles and someone could come at you from behind so you're like stabilizing or if you have a bar to hold on to, so you're part and combat from behind that can feel great too.

And then there's also, you can find this on our website, there's a sex in the shower line by sport sheets and they make a lufa, a glufa sponge with a little tiny ribrate in it. Oh wow. It's like so cool, your partner can stud you up and it vibrates and then they have like these suction handles that go on the wall so you actually are sturdy

because the big thing about shower sex is yes, you can actually have penetrative sex, you can feel great, but you could fall and slip. So those are my tips for that, gets a prop. Talking about the Lufa, have you bathed a partner first? Yes, that seems very... Yeah, bathing your partner when you get in the shower, that's what I do, I don't turn on the vibrator part yet,

they don't even know it's a vibrator. And then it'll like, suds them up, and I wash their body all over, and then they can wash me, and then you just go, it's a little tiny bullet vibe. I think we have one here. And you turn it on, and then it's a powerful vibe, and then I have it in my shower,

I use it in my self in the morning, I can use it in my partner, because it feels great on them, too, remember. The massage is just tickling on their back, I mean, their balls. We know what feels good to us. So my question now about water sex, or any of such, is what about lube us. So my question now about water sex or any of such is what about

lube in water. Great question. Yeah, you need to use lube in water because we actually get drier in water. So there's more friction. What happens with water is it washes away your natural lubrication. So very quickly you can get dry. And so it's likenegotiable not to use

Loop in water because then you get those micro tears. You don't know how dry you are like work feel or the water We're pounding away and then you're like oh no. I'm getting micro tears in my vaginal walls which had to be to infection So you have to use a silicone base. Loop. I love pure original PJ. You are You just basically apply a quarter size amount of lube to your clitoris. Rub it in. You could put it inside of you as well. But you were not having sex in water. But if you were, that's what you would do. Or you could put it, you could do a hand job for touching each other, use silicone lube or in the shower. Silicone. I have silicone in my shower right now. I leave it in my shower.

There you go. Guys, what about mutual masturbation? That's hot. That's hot. Mutual masturbation would be super hot in water. One of my favorite sex tips, all around with mutual masturbation. But again, women have to be careful of what water you're in, getting stuff inside of you. But I think that's better than, of course, is a little mutual masturbation because you're wet, you're naked, we talked about all the sensual elements in water, the weightlessness, the feel of water. I mean, you're up against someone who's swimming out with your partner is sexy, sexy. So yeah, then you could just each get each other off. If you have like a fantasy about sex outdoors, the thrill of getting caught,

which a lot of people do. Yeah, what does that fantasy called again? Exhibitionism. Exhibitionism. Having sex outdoors can be really fun for people. I can be. I know. We're going to take a quick break and we come back. We're going to get into your calls.

So we have Stacey, 32 New York who sent this email. Hi Emily, I've only really had two serious sexual partners. I'm not comfortable with casual sex. I tend to get attached and don't unrest get. Anyway, the last man I was with used to get frustrated that I wasn't relaxing or letting go. He said that I was too tense and that it was like I'm on the verge of an orgasm for a while and then I can lose it or it works

He made me feel like there's something wrong with me. Is there is it normal to tense up and Contract my muscles to have an orgasm or is it this just something I learned early on and need to reprogram Just so you know I have been successful at having vaginal orgasms big again I need to really tense up. Is it me or him or both? Okay, Stacy great question. I'm glad this came up because I have to tell you, this is a common question. There's a lot of women who,

that's how we are initial or first organisms that we learn to have. We, our legs have to be closed and we're tensing up our keglet, but essentially we're tensing our pelvic floor muscles, which are our keglet muscles I always talk about, strengthening our pelvic floor. So that is really common and he has to understand that that's how it happens with the tensing.

That's how many women orgasm. So you are, let's not that you're not relaxed. So you have to understand that many men interpret sex from what they know, their own sexual experience. So they're not tensing, they're releasing, right? And so even though there is a sense of release in orgasm women do it very differently. Now to say there's so there's zero wrong with you. Now maybe what he's saying is, is there a way to do it? So you're not like your legs aren't tensing as much and certainly there's many plans to orgasm.

You could this would be great month to experiment. Other, you know, other ways that you can orgasm. I used to only be able to orgasm that way as well with my legs tighter together and crunched, but now I have learned through masturbation, using different toys and different positions that I can figure out how to do it with a partner in other ways. So, you answer your question is you won't have to reprogram it, but if you'd love to learn another way, it could be fun, but put zero pressure on yourself. Because if that's the only way you do it, this was my job to learn it, you're totally fine. And I think that you need to let your partner know that this is what orgasm is to you, and you can have orgasm in this way, and you guys are going to figure out how to have amazing

sex together, and there's nothing wrong with you. Do you think maybe she's also getting when she does that? She gets tense in her face, so that maybe looks like she's. Yeah, I guess so, maybe that's it. Cause I'm trying to think of, I feel that I would feel good for him too. But maybe she has to put her legs together,

or maybe there's a certain, like, I don't know, but I believe that when I like tense, my caggle muscles, my pelvic floor on a penis, if it does, you typically like, oh, it feels good. So, yeah, maybe she says to be like, I'm tense, but I'm really happy. Like, I like to cry after sex. We talked about that since I cry.

I've cried after orgasm. We did some press on it, right? When we talked about this in the show, which is an article we did. It was an article that we did. But like I do, it's an idea to be like, oh, that's, I don't know, it's like, no, if I cry, I just say, oh, I'm crying, but you're just a really happy, feels good.

It's confusing when you cry and laugh and orgasm, all that's connected. So she gets, I'm tense, but I'm happy. I don't know. Just like, it feels good. It just reminded me of that. Like, don't worry, this really feels good. Right?

I don't know, because I was just trying to think of how that would be in issue just because, again, know, because I was just trying to think of like how that would be like in issue just because like again, like even when I was using the the womanizer duo, that's how I I was clenching, like on the internal part, like, you know, I was tightening. And the thing is, is you feel that pressure more, you know, and that feels really good. It does.

So again, this is just could just be a case of, you know, not having a lot of experience. And I also want to, I also want to say she's not comfortable with casual sex. I tend to get attached and don't want to risk that. I get that too, but I also want to say that's also something that could be reprogrammed if you're interested, not for everybody.

But I'm always just on alert for stories about how we were or how we are. And that sometimes we change. Okay, we have Michelle on the phone 39 in Missouri and she wants to know if she could go through her divorce. Hey, Michelle. Hi, Emily.

How are you doing? Thanks for calling. Thanks. I've been struggling for a while and I'm not taking it lightly at all. I've been with my wife for four years and to be honest a lot of it's been a struggle. We're just not always on the same page. I guess. I guess I'm at that point where I don't know if I can handle it anymore and I don't know if it's healthy for either of us our relationship at this point.

So very recently, like this weekend, I kind of said, I can't do this anymore, I'm kind of done. In a first I go back and forth now, and I mean I have abandoned my issues in my life, so it's hard for me to let go rather it's good or bad Right, wait Michelle tell me about your relationships. So you said you've been together for four years We've been married for four years. I've been married for or together for Five and a half okay, and did you say you did you say your wife? Did you say wife you said wife? Okay, so but but have you, okay, so tell me what happened. So if you guys, what's going on exactly?

Is it a communication thing? Is it a sex thing? Is it, either one of usually someone's changed a lot? But going through something, tell me. So a little bit of everything. When we got together, we lived in two different, well, on the other side of the state, she lived. So it was a long distance thing.

And it was kind of like either removed or we break up, because we didn't want to continue doing the long distance thing. So I feel like we kind of rushed it. She moved here and changed her life, that it kind of looks for a whole, so I'll fill a hole in that life that she's created here. And I just can't be everything. Like, you know, like she doesn't have a lot of friends here. So I've kind of been like her whole outlet.

And that's a lot. No, that is. That's a lot. Have you talked to her about this, though, Michelle? Have you guys, how far along are you in the process of kind of sorting this out? How's your communication? Communication can be lacking at times,

but we're definitely just stuff. So these things that we know where our issues are first day. We've done therapy. Just come down to it. She's not happy and in terms like I feel like I can't make her happy, which I know that you respond. Oh, okay. I know that my response would be right that you can't make anyone happy, but here's the thing Michelle is what I'm curious about is like, okay, so So you're in a long distance relationship. Those are very interesting because I like to call them vacation relations, meaning you see each other on the weekends when things are great.

You don't really have to get into each other's lives and where, you know, it's like always exciting. You're always looking forward to it. You have always had that natural build up. You're not with each other every single day. So it's like, has that anticipation that we all crave in relationships after a while. So now that you live together, then you find out,

oh, maybe we're not so much alike and maybe it's not as exciting. And I want to say to you too, I don't want you to take all the responsibility for this Michelle because how do you know she was so happy where she was at before? Because typically wherever we go, there we are. It's one of you, I don't want you to take

all the responsibility, Michelle. Yeah, and I try to remind myself like, because she's not, I mean, she's never really, she will tell you, and I think that's kind of what put me in the spiral to, I'm never going to be able to make you ask me. Well, right. And just to tell you, I've never been happy. Like, I'm like, once the last time you were happy, she's like, well, I don't know that I've ever been happy. I'm like, if you've never been happy, how can I ever live up to exactly. Has she ever had therapy? I mean, here's the thing.

Has she had therapy on her own? And when you said you had it, did you go three times or did you go for a year? Because if you want to make this work, you're gonna have to put in the time of a therapist that you both like and you both commit to. Because then you can even figure out a lot sooner if it's meant to be or not.

It's really just communication and her realizing that, you know, that it is her responsibility to make friends on her own and to figure out her own happiness. If she needs to see a therapist, start to work out more, do breathing exercises, get on medication, like whatever she has to do, but it's not, no one, no one is in charge

of her happiness except for ourselves. And that's a huge fallacy of relationships. Like, once I'm with someone, they're gonna completely me, they're gonna make me happy. No, it's her responsibility. So, you know, but I can see you're taking it on because she moved in to move there to be with you. Absolutely.

And I mean, and that's just the type of person that I am and that's kind of like, why I have to remind myself, you know, that's not all on me and I can't. And I guess I'm just at that point of like a break of like, I can't make you happy. Therefore I'm taking some of it in and then thinking, what am I not doing? What am I not enough for? Right, exactly. So it's kind of like a little codependent.

Like she's never been that happy, but you're always trying to make her happy and then she'll never be happy and then you beat yourself up. And so yeah, and this might be a similar pattern for your similar type of relationship that maybe you've had in your life. And so I think that like, you know, my mom always says,

takes two to ten go, so it's probably both of you. There's stuff to work at, so I can't tell you right now if you should get divorced, but what I can tell you is, do the work so you know, like, for the next two months, we're gonna like really try to say the things we think we cannot say. We're gonna get a really good therapist, and then we're gonna figure it out.

Can we move through these things or can't we? So you can make a decision and either stay together and move on with your lives. Okay, we have Peter who's 30 in California and he wants to know how to initiate sex while having kids. Hey, Peter, that is a great question. You got your hands full. Yeah, yeah, I feel. Yeah. Okay. So you want to know like how to do it, so what's going on right now? Who initiates? Well, sure. So, you know, I would say number one, you know, Lori Young couple. So, that's was never a problem prior to the kids.

I mean, that's how we save one, right? Right, that's how you do it. Yeah. But it comes down to, you know, it's, it's, it's initiating. I was listening to you guys earlier and it's like, to, you know, it's the initiating. I was listening to you guys earlier and it's like, hey, you know, it's just ask and ask why. And then, you know, the typical responses, you know, I'm tired. I'm not feeling okay. So how do you do that when you said, hey, well, I liked what I do is, you know, set the bedroom.

And it's like, well, we can't really set the bedroom because that's where it's maybe sleeping and so like how do bathroom I like do I just go up and just start making out because like yeah I mean I'm tired well here's the thing, so how old are your kids? She's two. She's two. Oh, you've won. Okay. Okay. So you guys have been exhausted, but she's now sleeping Right through the night in a room. Yeah, yeah pretty much. Yeah. Okay, so she goes to bed like eight or nine seven. What kind of what time do two year old seven? Right now it's at nine right now. It's Okay, so whatever it is. Okay, listen. You guys have your life back a little bit, but it's just starting, like I think with kids like it's like every few years another transition and you forget that like your relationship because now you have more time and

a little bit more than you had the last two years, just a little bit. So I think it's a matter of, yeah, you could still set them, you could just kind of make a date ahead of time. You could say like, build up. So here's the thing, the anticipation of the sex is what's going to get her more onboard with it too. So you could kind of plan it. Like do you guys have a date night plan? Do you have a night that you have a babysitter?

Yeah. Okay. Amazing. So you could have a night where you can get a hotel room. Honestly, I would take her, I mean, you're talking about initiating sex or how to have sex in general with being married, with kids, with a kid. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, I think getting a hotel room, having someone watch the kids, I mean, could you have sex upstairs, like having upstairs, like have someone downstairs and you guys go upstairs you have sex upstairs, like, I mean, upstairs, like, have someone downstairs and you guys go upstairs and have your date, you know? Draw her a bath and say, I'm waiting for you upstairs. You can have the babysitter come, what you guys, you know what I'm saying? Who cares, I don't know, people still worry that the baby upstairs is gonna judge,

but I feel like she is, you know, there's a lot of different things, and it's also talking to her about, she really might be exhausted, but maybe mornings are best for her. So you guys set the alarm like half hour early in the morning. Yeah. I like that idea.

Yeah. Good. So yeah, do that. And then agree to it. So she knows, you know, or maybe you wake up and you're going down on her or you have your toys laid out or you have the loop and you have it all ready to go. So that's kind of atmosphere too. Or like you have something that you've talked about about in the morning, you know, you start, you know, things that you could build towards,

fantasies, toys. Okay, good. Thank you. You're so welcome. Okay, thanks Peter. You just keep going, right? You don't know what's going to hit. I would be like, hell no, I'm not waking up earlier in the morning. I can barely, no, no, but Peter's like, yes, there's a lot of different hacks. I like to call them sex hacks. All right, we have Dan, who's 47 in California, he's got a smoking fetish, but his wife quit smoking. Ooh, there was a wrench in it, huh? Hey, Dan.

Hello, how are you? Good, thanks for calling. Hey, just had a question. It's like you said, I had the smoking fetish. It's been something I've had for a while. And it's frustrating because my wife doesn't smoke anymore and I don't want to make her do that. Right.

And so I'm trying to figure out, I don't even know why I have it. To be honest, I don't know. I've never smoked a day in my life. And so I don't know anything about it. I was wondering if you could maybe shed some light on that. Well, I could let you know what? I mean, typically fetishes mean that something happened

when you were a kid and you eroticized it. Maybe your piano teacher smoked a cigarette or maybe your older girl in school was smoking and then it was the first time you had a sexual member. Usually it coincides with when you're going through puberty And for many men that's when it their fetishes start. So maybe you remember like you saw it in a movie a woman smoking a cigarette And at that same moment your testosterone was racing through your body and then you just Kind of linked that up with smoking Okay, so if that resonates with you that could be why but I want it when I saw your call come up

I was like, oh well can't you just get a vape that doesn't have to back on it Would that still not be the same like they even have one that look like cigarettes, but they don't have to back on it Oh, that's a good idea. I never thought of that. Yeah, I mean literally I was like oh I'm just gonna take this real quick because you just got to get a vape without There's like flavored vapes no tobacco She probably down with that. Yeah, that's what I that's because if you've had this fetish or 47 year old life I would say you know don't fight the fetish just kind of see if she could work work with some props Okay, yeah, all right, I appreciate that. Okay, sure. Dan you're in California too. There's tons of vapestores

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