Sex With Emily - How to Give the Gift of Pleasure

Episode Date: November 24, 2023

Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned.In today’s episode, you’ll learn:At what point in a relationship it's appropriate to gift someone a sex toyHow to introduce sex toys to a new partnerMy top gift recommendations for your loved onesHottest Gift Guide Ever: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays EverSee the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever2023 Shop With Emily Gift GuideThe Giftables Collection by Plus One (30% off orders over $50, 30% off sitewide on Cyber Monday)The Rose by PlusOneVIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)Magic Wand MicroJe Joue Couples Collection Gift SetPlayground Mood MakerJe Joue MimiOSEA Essential Hydrating OilBrooklinen Super-Plush Bath TowelsBearaby Cotton Weighted BlanketContigo West Loop Stainless Steel Travel MugSex Toys for Penises by ArcwaveLELO LOKI WaveNourish Skin Balm Candle by OmalaRed Light Face Mask by HigherDoseMorgasm CBD Arousal GelRuti One Piece of Mind JumpsuitCuyana TotesSmart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I always think about what would someone not buy themselves that you know that they would like. And pretty much anything I think in the sex world falls into that category. Absolutely. I mean, because it could even be misogynist, there in a relationship, it doesn't have to be a double-punitory of Dildo. Happy holidays! Happy holidays, wanna peg? Thought we would peg for New Year's!

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Holiday season is near and the Sex with Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here. We're all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones' lives and your life this holiday season. Today, producer Eric and I discuss our favorite pleasure-filled gifts for each person in your life, and we're not just talking sex toys,

we're just going to get into some really fun gifts for everyone in your life. Plus, we discuss how do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy and how do you gift one to them? All right, stay tuned. Please rate and review Sex with Emily wherever you listen to this show, just do it right now. It really, really helps us get out this sex positive message even more people on the planet.

And if you haven't seen it yet, go check out our brand new Sex with Emily, how are they gift guide right now? I don't want to brag, but I kind of feel like Oprah right now with her favorite list. We have really refined this list and we work so hard on it, so it's a really diverse list that has something for everyone. We'll be walking through it in this episode, but it has beautiful pictures and links right to each gift, so make sure to check it out on my website. I hope you enjoyed this episode. You all know that health is a really important pillar of sexual intelligence.

Think about it. We go to the gym, we work out, but there's one part of the body. I bet many of you aren't exercising. You're penis. So when Bathmate, the company behind the world's best selling penis pump reached out to me, I knew I had to share this amazing device with you all. Unless I was really skeptical that penis pumps for a long time, but I heard from so many people who said

it really, really helped them. And Bathmate is the only FDA-regulated hydro pump on the market. It harnesses the power of water through a hydraulic vacuum, acting as a secondary pump to your heart, so it draws blood safely into the penis. You just fill it with warm water, you slide your penis in and create the vacuum for just three minutes, three to five times per week. The hydraulic technology also helps flush toxins and maintain tissue health, improve

erection quality, erection predictability, and stamina. And get this, after 2 months, 81% of users reported better erections or size gains. But the real magic of bathmate is the confidence it can bring. Bathmate helps reactivate and strengthen the neurophysiological response that causes erections so you can build the confidence to know you can please your partners. No more getting stuck in your head. And now this is the time to try it. This Black Friday and Cyber Monday, Bathmaid is offering up to 45% off their products,

from their bundles, which includes their pumps and their lobes and their rives and more, to their kits, individual pumps and accessories. They are hooking you up to the holiday season. Plus, they have a 60-day 100% money- back guarantee, which actually says a lot about bathmates confidence that you'll just love this pump. So visit bathmatedirect.com slash sex with Emily right now to take advantage of these special holiday discounts. That's B-A-T-H-M-A-T-E direct dot com slash sex with Emily. I'm excited. I love talking about how to make people in your life feel good. Like really feel good.

You know, all your long we're talking here about sex moves and sensuality, but this is the time of year when we really honor the people we love when we get them gifts. I want that to be really a lot easier for everybody, but just something special. Something that they probably wouldn't buy themselves, but you know is going to make them feel good. They might not have thought of buying this thing for themselves before. I think about gifts a lot, because it's time to honor somebody and you could just get someone something random. But another place to start is if there's things that make you feel good, so I put things on our list that's like certain like robes and sheets and pillows because I'm all about

sensuality. So I also think that when you're trying to buy a gift for somebody, think about something that has made you feel good in your life, that you may be spurred on and how somebody in your life might feel about that. And we do express our love for each other through gift giving. And we want to make it, I put a lot of pressure on myself though. I really do. I do because I always want it to be like thoughtful and something they want, something they can easily return. And I probably put too much pressure, but I want to help people today take that pressure off because I am very confident in what we're going to talk about today.

They're already vetted. They're already freaking vetted. We've all tried them, and I just wanna set you guys up for success. Even for those of us who love language is not primarily gifts. We all feel good receiving something from someone that we care about, that loves us,

we know they thought of us. Is your love language gifts? It's not. My love language, it's changed over the years. I want everyone to know that your love language gifts? It's not. My love language, it's changed over the years. I want everyone to know that your love language can definitely change. Primary one is touch, which is why I think I am really good at finding the softest things to gift somebody like sweaters. I wish you guys could see Emily right now. She's literally wrapped in the softest blanket you've ever seen.

We're really getting into that cozy, hot, and spurs. I'm so cozy right now. It is like cold in the light, it's supposed to rain and I'm all cozyed up. So no, my snack is yours, Gifts. Mine is not Gifts. I would say mine is acts of service and touch also. But as you were just saying, I feel like I love giving gifts to other people. And I do think that it's an excuse to tap into that love language when it's not my primary one. Even if it's not our primary love language, we all have different percentages of each one.

I'm with you. It just feels really good when you're, oh my god, I know exactly what I'm getting you. And you know they're going to love it. I always think about what would someone not buy themselves that you know that they would like. And pretty much anything, I think, in the sex world falls into that category. Absolutely. I mean, because it could even be misogynist oil, if there are in a relationship, it doesn't have to be a double punitory to dildo. Happy holidays.

Happy holidays, wanna peg? I thought we would peg for New Year's. So, yeah, like I've never had a vibrator before. Exactly. Don't go from zero to pegging. I mean you could You're into that sort of thing, but we don't highly recommend it if you have enough loop You can have enough loop always do that. I always give people a loop when they leave the house Today, we're gonna walk you through our annual sex with Emily holiday gift guides

So you could all be the best givers and receivers as holiday season There are 50 products on there and we break them down to different categories season. There are 50 products on there and we break them down to different categories so that might help you shop and be more intentional. 50 products. 50 products that are vetted. I take this very seriously. I'm a little OCD about it. It matters what I'm suggesting to you because I just want to give you things that you can just feel confident if Emily says this is good. It is a good product either for yourself or a partner, and remember, it's not all sex toys. I think years ago it was, not everybody wants a sex toy,

but something that says, I care about your wellness, I want you to prioritize it. So we got really special things in there. And then we broke them down into categories to help guide you. So we have the sex toy specialist. Of course. Yes, not that. We have the sex toy specialist. Of course. Yes, not that. We have the self-care seeker.

That's like a lot of my friends. Tech lover, the glow-up obsessed for your skin, how those things hair, my favorite hair product. Doesn't my hair look good today? It looks so good. Potion and lotion lover. That's a person after my own heart. Got so many potions and lotions, and I love them.

I talked about the ones that I love the most, the home body, partner pleasure. So for your partner, for your relationship, couples toys, and then style authority, throw in some of my favorite fashion things in there. And I don't mean stuff that's trendy. I threw in a few things that I wear every day. I've got compliments on and I feel sophisticated, sexy, put together,

and I wear sweats every day pretty much. But you wouldn't know that because everything I wear doesn't look like sweats but it has the feel of it. So I put some things in there that are elegant and elevated. You'll love. And of course, Black Friday, Cyber Monday

added tons of codes and discounts in the gift guide because I believe truly that pleasure should be accessible to everyone. So I'm also wondering when is it appropriate to give someone a sex toy? Like when in the context of a relationship? How long after you started dating? Like a romantic partner that you're intimate with? Okay.

Well, my personal opinion is that it's never too soon. If sex toys are a part of your sex life and your repertoire and something that's important to you, gift it right away. Say this is something that I thought that we could use together. This is a toy that I think you would enjoy. I really want to prioritize pleasure. I hope you do too.

I have a growth mindset around sex. The ways that I grow is by trying new things. First thing that comes to my mind is Celeste, who was my somatic sex coach many years ago when I did the training. And she was like, I bring a sex toy on every date, the first date she's with someone or she knows her gonna sleep together, she throws the full on magic wand, the big one into her purse. She's whips it out without shame, this is who I am, I need a sex toy.

And I think that we could all learn something from that and be inspired There's nothing different about Celeste. Yes, she works in the sex coaching But she's got a lot of lovers She has really satisfying sex and what I found that when you are very firm in your Desires and what you want sexually and you even could tell someone why you like using sex toys and what it does for you The partner that is a good fit for you is gonna celebrate that. Say bring it I can't wait to see what you pick out or let's try a sex toy together or thank you very much Santa knows that I was really good this year or really naughty

Whatever you're in too. I understand bringing your own sex toy out anytime But would you're gifting it to someone else? Same thing. So I think as soon as possible if you're into. I understand bringing your own sex toy out anytime, but would you're gifting it to someone else? Same thing. So I think as soon as possible, if you're dating someone, and you've started having sex, let's say, you've been intimate. Maybe if you haven't been intimate yet, to give them a sex toy, like here's a cock ring,

might be alarming. I remember that I was at a business lunch the other day, the people who work in the self-care industry, and the wellness industry, but they do not work in the sex industry. So I was telling them about prostate toys for men and the guy was like, oh, Like he just did not know anything what he wasn't as open to it. And then once we talked about he's like, oh my god And that's what was his birthday. I went to Uncerry night and brought him one. I brought him a whole thing

So she already brought him a sex Good point. I did cover it at a business lunch And then I went to his birthday party and brought him one because I already covered it And I saw him go from like what are you talking about to like his eyes popped open? But I did cover it at a business lunch, and then I went to his birthday party and brought him one because I already covered it. And I saw him go from like, what are you talking about to like his eyes popped open? He was googling the products. He didn't know about a prostate orgasm.

So I think if you're intimate with somebody, it's good to talk about it ahead of time, sure, but maybe if in passing you say something like, have you ever tried a toy, would you be into it? And they say, yes, then great, give them one. But I'm all for it. If you are with somebody, and that's an important part of your pleasure and your sex life that why not get a great couple's toy for both of you.

But I don't think it's ever too soon. As with everything, you wouldn't buy someone a candle if they're allergic to scents of candles. You wouldn't buy someone a wool sweater if they can't wear a wool. You want to check things out. You want to be mindful of candles. You wouldn't buy someone a wool sweater if they can't wear a wool. You want to check things out. You want to be mindful of somebody and be aware. But I think that as long as you check it out, I don't think it's ever too soon. And I think that most people have loved receiving a sex toy.

One was the first time that you gifted a sex toy and how did that go down? Oh my god, it's what I've been gifting. Almost 20 years. If you invite me to a party, it could be a barbecue. It could be a baby shower. Because I will give you the rubber dockey vibrator that goes in the bathtub.

I have always gifted sex toys, a variation of a sex accessory, like maybe a beautiful bottle of lube. Like if I go to someone's house for dinner, I might bring wine if they ask me, but I always bring a bottle of lube. Right, they probably already have wine. Exactly, they might not have wine.

They already had wine and they did not have lube. I've given my mom and my stepdad in their 80s toys. My brother and his wife before they were interested in toys probably 10 years ago. My nieces when I visit them, I give people sex toys. I mean, I don't vet it. I just assume if they know me, they're going to be okay. I don't do all the investigating that everyone might do because people expect it from me. But I have to say that I think if you're someone you're intimate with, it's important

to have a conversation at a time. Just because that's the right thing to do. Who knows, maybe they had a bad experience with sex toys and then you can talk it out, but I find that very rarely happens of all the sex toys I've gifted, and I'm going to say it's in the hundreds. Everyone seems pretty damn happy about it. The gift that keeps on giving. It totally depends on the crowd, too, if you're at your partner's family's house for the holidays. Maybe save that for a private moment. But if you're having like a friend's Christmas

or you're with your girlfriends or you're just with your partner having a one-on-one Christmas morning or Hanukkah evening, then you can whip it out right then and there. You can whip it out. I think they'll be pretty excited about that. Yeah, just mind the crowd, see what people are going to be into. And you don't really want to whip out sex toys

in the bedroom without having to talk about it beforehand because people, as we know, do have a lot of thoughts and sometimes challenges around toys. Maybe it's from their past, something that's happened to them or just their beliefs. And so it's really good to discuss it beforehand. Like, what would you think about using a sex toy? Would you be down with it? You can go shopping online and say,

this is what I'm thinking. So rather than just, here's a sex toy and you've never ever broached subject. Let's get into the best gifts for each loved one in your life. And remember everyone, you have to check out the gift guide online because it's so beautiful. And we're not even covering half of the thing in some bullets. We're just doing some. We're just doing some highlights. I just eyeballed it. I was like, these are the ones that I really was excited

talking about, but there was like a lot of great things. I think after you listen to this, you're gonna realize that your shopping's pretty much done. So the Jeju couples collection gift set. This one is epic because it has, well, I've just found out Erica's favorite vibrator. Is this the cheese fat one? No, it's the, yeah. I just found just found out Erica's favorite vibrator. Is this the G-spot one? No, it's the, yeah.

I just found out this is Erica's favorite vibrator in it. I love this toy too. They have a G-spot vibrator, which is a mini G-spot vibrator, but it does the trick because it has that nice little curve at the end. You guys, it's so good. Many G-spot toys are massive

and kind of intimidating. This one is like the size of your index finger with a little bend at the end. so it perfectly fits your G spot. And then you can use it like a bullet bun. Yeah. You can use it in so many different ways. And it's waterproof. It's beautiful. We love the way JSU products feel. And then it comes with their meococcurring,

which really sold on our website like crazy. It's a one size fits most. They help restrict blood flow a little bit in the penis. If there's some erection challenges, it also has a powerful vibrator on it. So it feels really good for intercourse. And this way, you're both getting something. Because it's literally both come together.

You get a bullet and a vibrating cock ring. Come together and come together. So that's from GZU, Don and Don. Okay, then there's the playground mood maker. Have we talked about this yet? Live. I don't think we've talked about it, but Emily's talked about it on their website.

You guys can check it out. You guys know that I'm a big part of this company playground. They came to me for years ago. They're like, we're launching this line that has all of like women in mind. If you haven't checked out their lube yet, you absolutely should. It's all vegan ingredients.

It's like a facial for your vagina. That's the lube. But now they have this mood maker. It's a pleasure enhancing intimacy oil. It is the most beautiful bottle, by the way. You put it in your nightstand, so it's an oil that glides on. It lasts long.

It has its really sensual silky texture. Viginin' love an ingredients, because we love that. It has a hint of warm vanilla. And what it does is it just soothes, feels good, you rub it on before any kind of sexual activity and it just moisturizes it enhances all sensations it enhances your passion and reduces friction so it's just a really beautiful product you will love

it I want to know what you guys think of it too because I'm really proud of it next not this is all about me but my book smart, Smart Sex, Had a Booster Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure. Wow, it's been out now for six months. Thank you everyone for supporting it. What I've heard from you is that a lot of people in relationships are reading it together as a couple and they're doing the exercise together. They're taking it chapter to chapter. They've used it kind of like you. A lot of you use this podcast by listening with a friend, they use the book in the same way. They take a chapter at a time, they do the exercises and it's really help them in their relationships and their sex life.

Talk about a New Year's resolution reading this book together and it's like Emily walking you through all the conversations that you might not even know where to start on your own. It's like this, yeah, it's not even know where to start on your own. It's like this. It's like this show, but geared towards your own sex life. It's like I'm your coach with you. There's a lot of great stories in there, new information. I have filled a lot for you, so you guys can understand that I, where I've come from, I was

that born like this, talking about sex. I've gone through a lot of the same struggles and challenges that you all have. So that's a fun gift. I saw these from plus one, they make really affordable vibrators. They're giftable vibrating bullets. They're really reasonably priced and the boxes are adorable. They say good vibes on them are happy everything. They have love on them.

They're just great little drawings and It just makes it fun and light. And really you can get these for anyone in your life, but I love that they're 1999 and it's a really quality vibe. And you probably have heard of plus one because their rose vibrator went viral on TikTok. And it is this adorable, literal stimulator made of body-safe silicone. It's waterproof. USB rechargeable, which I would love if every toy was USB rechargeable because they all come with different chargers.

And there's 10 pulse settings. It's just an adorable little rose. You can put it in the bathroom. You could take it in the shower. And the way it works has this gentle pulsing stimulation that is just people going crazy for it. I didn't even know about it till TikTok. I'm like, I don't know this vibrator.

And then I got one. I was like, oh, I got it. I get it. This is also a really fun gift for really an evolve on in your life. Oh, and through this weekend, plus one is actually offering 30% off orders over $50. And then Cyber Monday, they're giving 30% off site wide, which is their best sale of the year. You guys get on there. On that. I want this on my calendar. I'm like, that's what we're going to do. Reminder, go shopping. That's what I'll be doing. Hold your shopping cards. We'll be right back for more holiday fun after a very quick break.

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been in my life for about 15 years now. It is just this beautiful hand-held vibrator. It feels great to touch. You can use it in so many ways. It's great for literal stimulation. It's great for partnered sex, great for sex with yourself. I love the way it feels.

I love that it's discreet. So if you're traveling home for the holidays, it's got these like deep, rumbly sensations that are very powerful, but also quiet. So like an excellent combination there. It makes you feel good because J.J. has really beautiful packaging,

and it's elegant and elevated. So it's a good entree into sex toys. It's not intimidating. It's just a beautiful piece of art that happens to be a sex toy. I love all products by OSEA, O-S-E-A. I first became to do so their products because they were actually a sponsor of the show,

and I just have not stopped gifting it to everybody. They have this hydrating oil for your face, which just makes your skin so radiant, so luminous. It's an anti-aging face oil. And I would get that, and I also recommend their body oil. Their body oil is something that I've gifted to so many people. It smells great. And a lot of things that I love are things that are just easy to use.

One stop, you're like, I use this hydrating oil and I am hydrated. I moisturize, I can move on. You don't need a lot of steps. And I know you're going to love all the things by Ocea. The Magic Wand Micro. So the Magic Wand Micro is really for anyone on your list. Someone who travels a lot for just someone who wants a try outad toy, they've heard about the magic wand, but the other magic wand seem too big for them.

They just launched the micro. It's this little tiny vibrator, it looks like a keychain. It is the smallest magic wand, but it does pack a very similar punch to it. It is powerful. And it's just like the larger models, features the silicone head, has a flexible neck so you can still do all the things you like with your magic wand. But this one, you'll just have with you.

You can literally throw it in your purse. You could probably put it in your back pocket. It is surprisingly really powerful still. I can't even believe this exists. It's so crazy. I know, I screamed when I saw it. It's like, it's really, I thought it was just like a keychain. I thought it was like a little gift, you know, like here's something for yourself.

It's actually the micro. And then I call our friends at Magic One. I'm like, you did tell me this was coming. You got to prepare me for this. So easy. So easy. So easy. So you can find the Magic One micro and all their other fan favorite models. There's a lot of them at shopseckswithemily.com

slash Magic Wand. Brooke Linnon, first met Brooke Linnon when they were a sponsor years ago. This is one of our perks. They set me some towels and they set me their sheets. I am very particularly when it comes to the items that I'll use on my body because I am very sensitive. My skin's very sensitive. I can't wear things at itch. I can't wear wool. I can wear cashmere only if it's the softest kind of cashmere. When I was little, my mommy said, call me the princess and the pee. Do you remember that story about the princess and all the mattresses? Because the pee, you could feel the pee on the bottom of the mattress. I was like that since I was like four years old. Every time she put something on me, if there was a tag or a seam, I couldn't wear it.

And so that has continued throughout my lifetime. So when they set me the Brooklyn and set me these towels and the sheets, I was like, this is it. And now they're the only towels I use. They are super soft. They are these bath towels. And listen, we use towels every single day.

They get smelly, they get ripped. They just, these do not do that. I don't know how, but I just feel good every time I get out of the shower. I'm gonna be honest with you guys. I was on Amazon and I saw all these reviews for these one towels and they were like $5 a towel, $10 a towel.

My boyfriend and I went through them. I'm like, they have 5,000 reviews. Like, how could these be bad? We got these towels and they're just yuck. They're not absorbent, they never dry. And I was like, who are these 5,000 people that gave them reviews, so I went back and got the Brooklyn in. This is the perfect gift that someone else

might not necessarily think to buy for themselves. But if you bought it for them, every time they got out of the shower, they would thank you for it. It just kind of makes you feel locks would thank you for it. Yeah. It just kind of makes you feel locks and like you're at a hotel and you're on home. Do you have a great blanket, cozy blanket you can wrap up in? Maybe it's at the edge of your bed or when you're watching TV. Weighted blankets are a game changer for your mental health.

They can help with sleep. Have you seen these weighted blankets? Have you tried one, Erica? I've tried them. I've only tried other people's weighted blankets and they're quite an experience. Just calms you down. The weight on your body stimulates the production of serotonin, which is the happy hormone. It can reduce your stress hormones, increases melatonin, which helps you fall and stay asleep.

And so they're just beautiful. My niece actually had this on her bed when I went to visit her. The bearer being knitted blanket, it's beautiful, it's elegant, you will literally have it forever. And if you have a hard time sleeping, and you can use it all a month, you can use it in the summer or in the winter, it's like being held, it's like being cocoon, being cradled.

It actually helps with your mental health and your physical, helps calm you down. You put it on top of you, you lay back and you just sort of breathe and you just fall asleep like a baby. I've had some of the best sleeps of my life at friends houses who have these blankets. Really? Okay. I feel like they're kind of trending. There's more of them out and about.

But then when I saw this one, because I saw it on her bed, I said, that's a beautiful blanket. And then I touched it. I was like, oh my God, it's a way to blanket. So I want to tell you all about this one. Check it out. It comes in really beautiful colors.

So get a blanket. Well, you're taking the blanket. These gummies have been next level in my life this year. Viahem Company came on as a sponsor, sent us a bunch of samples, we all tried them, and we're like, okay, we're in, we love you guys. Via hemp company has these high love THC libido gummies that have both THC CBD and AfroDGEC herbs that just do all the things.

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But if you want some that are going to help you sleep, I just love their packaging. They break customer service. They send you little samples. They're just my go-to company right now for all things THC CBD. For anyone who struggles to make your solo sex a very sensual experience, you feel like it's just something you bang out. These gummies will help you tap into that sensuality when you are masturbating, when you're doing engaging in solo sex, which I think is a great near-es-resolution for people.

Yeah, everyone, are you going to get it on with yourself in the new year? If it hasn't happened for you yet this year, take this moment and make a commitment that you're going to definitely the New Year prioritize your pleasure. And maybe by getting yourself a little gift, that will help you do it. You know, that's a great point about the edibles is that for people who still, I don't know, feel some trepidation around it, these are easily dosed. So you could eat half of it,

you could do half of a half, just try it, baby steps. But if you are a wine drinker, for example, or every night you have a glass of wine or a cocktail, there have been so many studies and so much research has shown us that it really is poison for our bodies. And I have cocktails. Don't get me wrong. I'm just saying, if that's your crutch every night to kind of calm your nerves, you

know, get rid of anxiety, try out gummies and see what that does for you. See if that has the same effect. For many, I think it does. And you can take the lowest dose, so even if you're someone who gets anxious when you use cannabis, you can take like one milligram, and it's just enough to make you feel lighter without making you feel anxious. Exactly, and these also have CBD in them.

So when you add CBD and THC, it helps to temper the psychoactive ingredients for THC. So when you pair them together, the CBD kind of helps you not get into that space that you don't want to be in. And also, our friends are saying that you can get 15% off your order. And I believe them when you use code Emily at checkout, then they throw in that sample of their gummies, their award-winning gummies. You just have to be in the United States to order that's viaihmp.com use code Emily at checkout for 15% off. This is gifts for anyone.

I have two of them right here. The Contigo West Loop stainless steel travel mug. I've been using them for about 15 years. They keep improving, which is fabulous. I use their water bottles and their travel mugs. And the reason why I love them is because they're super easy to clean. They don't get mildewy, all those things, but it's they're ergonomic. They fit in all the cup holders and their spout is perfection. I can't stand when something has too many steps. A water bottle that you've unscrew when you're thirsty

is just another step. These lock-in-place, you press it to drink and then it seals back up and they're really good looking. You can get them on Amazon. I love their water bottles and they're stainless steel mugs that you can put coffee in, anything like that. It's true. Emily has full contigo mugs before any recording.

Yeah, everyone, right here. Right here, all the time, all the time. It's true. Emily has full contigo mags before any recording. Yeah. Everyone, right here. All the time, all the time. I travel and I even throw my bag, which you shouldn't do with water bottles, but since I've been doing it for so long, these will not explode. And they're just great. That's actually quite trustworthy. I know.

I trust them. I do. I've never spelled one. Wow. Because I have a problem. I have a history of throwing bottles in my bags and then ruining laptops, filling in my wallet. I just won't do it. So once I discovered these, and I got one for my boyfriend,

and then he got one for all of his kids, and then when people come over, I give it to them, so then I like, I run out of them, I'm buying them. In fact, I went to Amazon and they're there to look at what style I had, and it's like, you've ordered this 35 times. I give them away all the time. So this is what this gift guide's about this year

is like just things that I really think you will love people in your life will love. And now for the men in your life, you wanna give them the gift of pleasure, there are some hang ups around toys for men too. And in fact, people still say there's toys for men. So I don't think we can have this conversation enough on the show to let you know that sex toy market is exploding. It is evolved over the

years and there's a lot of great toys for the penises in your life. There are strokers, which kind of enhances your masturbation routine. So yes, you can use your hand, but you can also use a stroker, some of them vibrate. Some of them just have really great feel-good material that you add some lube to when you're masturbating. You could also use it on your partner. So it's not just for masturbation, they're just really fun because it's a way, you know, why should vulvas have all the fun?

You guys write in all the time asking for ways to spice up your masturbation routines. What better than to get a toy for your penis? Get a toy for your penis. This is by Arquave, is a company has like four different sleeves right now that I think you could find them all on the website. But the Arquave Ion is their most souped up advanced model. You know, we talk about suction toys all the time

for vulva owners, well, this is like the suction toy for a penis owner. So it goes on your frenulum, it sucks, it vibes, it does all of these pleasurable things to your penis. You will be having orgasms like you've never had before. They have four versions, which I love. They have the eye on the boy, the power and the ghost. So all different price points, all of them have different fun tricks up their sleeve, but you can't really go wrong and they're all gonna feel like something you've never felt before.

Because you've probably felt your hand or you've been inside of something, above an anus, but these are just another place to go. Then we have for penis owners, the Loki wave by Leilo is a really innovative prostate toy. It has two arms to it. One goes internally and then there's another arm on the outside that can stimulate your perineum, the area in between your balls and the anus.

And so you can just kind of play around with this one. Lalo's products are so well made and durable and they just feel good and they're easy to use. I mean, shit. Prostate toys, like buy yourself one. If you're not sure if the man on your life wants one, but you might want one, you're listening to this. If you've been wanting to explore and you've been wanting to see what is all this prostate excitement, this would be a great place to start for you.

And remember, you guys, a lot of these toys are for anybody. We're just trying to help you out here, but Omala has this nourish skin balm candle. So you can really create a healing experience at home or wherever you are with these candles because first they smell amazing. They have a really strong, beautiful scents. And it releases this aromatherapyic essential oils. It just calms you the second that you smell it. You're like, what is that scent?

It just makes you feel good. You can feel it calming your nervous system. But here's a cool thing about this. You know I love it too far. Once the mineral wax melts, it pulls and you have this rich skin balm that you can blow out the candle and import all of your body for this really luxurious,

nourishing feeling. And it's hydrating, it's all natural, no chemicals. It's just a new kind of experience that I've got this candle that I'm burning, it smells so good. You know what I've used to smell something? You're like, what is that? I want to eat it, I want to feel it. Like when you have a great scent,

but this one you could actually smell it, it's going to fill your entire room with just the most healing, calming, beautiful scent, and then you get to rub it on your body. So then you smell like that too. It literally comes with a little wooden spoon so you can scoop out the wax and put it on yourself. It's meant to be put on. Yeah and if you wanted to do something where you have been wanting to feel more connected to yourself maybe up level your masturbation routine. I always say like let a

candle go on date night. This is the candle for that. You could definitely use this for your masturbation routine as well. Use it on your penis. Let me know how it goes. Then we've got the red light face mask by higher dose. Red light therapy is everywhere right now. Everyone's talking about it. It can heal your muscles.

It's regenerative. It can boost your collagen, your elastin, reduces redness. It can help boost your mood. You know, people have seasonal effectiveness order, but I love their face light mask because you sit there with the mask on and it can reduce wrinkles. I've been using it like twice a week. It does boost your collagen. I love this one. I love all of higher doses products, but it's just another addition to your skincare ritual.

It's a great beauty investment because while you might be investing in the right products for your skin, we use red light therapy. It just goes a lot deeper to rejuvenate your skin, gives you a glow, helps with wrinkles. A lot of my friends are talking about red light therapy all the time and red light masks. Sometimes I get into their Sodom and then I'll wear the face mask and I'm just getting it all done at once. And it's a really great self-care ritual. These are all great self-care rituals. Everything we're talking about is going to make you feel more embodied, more present, and have more pleasure in your life. Morgasm's for all CBD Rousal Gel. This is another great gift for yourself, for anyone.

CBD Rousal Gel, this is another great gift for yourself, for anyone. If you haven't bought more gasm yet, they're all about more orgasms, but it's an arousal gel, meaning that you put it on, you know, before sex, it has CBD in it, it has great tingling sensation. So it's sort of a wakens your general area, if you rub it on your penis or your vulva, you feel like a tingling. Also, the CBD helps with blood flow, get out with pain and more orgasms. It's a great little stocking stuff or two, and it's adorable. So the next one, these are things I put on there that I am obsessed with. So there's this brand called RUTI. RUTI is this clothing brand.

They have a few stores in different cities, but you can go to their website, rut.com. And I love everything. I love their stuff. My mom loves my stuff. My young niece loves their things. They're just really great material. And I'm obsessed with their piece of my jumpsuit. There is this black jumpsuit.

And it is the most comfortable form fitting jumpsuit that you could go from day to night, it zips up. I'm just the kind of person that wants to wear something that is easy and I wear the same things a lot and I just wanna be able to like get dressed and leave the house. So if you don't know Rudy yet, I just want an introduce you to it. They also have these pants that are sort of like Lulu Lemons workout pants.

They're loose fitting. I think they're called the like on the loose pants, but they just have changed my life. And everyone I've told to buy them is like freaking out how great they are. A jumpsuit really is such a perfect way to feel elevated while not trying at all. That's why I love it. So you put one thing on and you look so chic. Exactly. You look chic.

And I've worn it like so much lately because I don't often want to spend all the time getting ready. So I zip it on, I go. It looks great. I've worn it with tennis shoes to lunch. I wore it to a big meeting with some business managers a few weeks ago. I'd rest it up, rest it down. When I was in New York for 10 days,

I probably wore it every day. Day to night. If you saw I'm in New York, she was fine. And actually, I remember someone stopped me on the street. He's like, I'm a clothing designer and who makes that? Because I want to design my pants after that. Because it's got those cute pants. It comes out a little bit.

So it's got this curve. So it's very flattering, no matter with your body type. Love it. I know. I like to get one. Go get one, I know. So the next thing is these QAnna totes. We're lucky because we live in LA.

And there's a lot of great new brands that have stores here or pop-ups that you might not get in other parts of the country or other parts of the world. But the QAnna Toats are great gifts or great for yourself. First of all, their leather, they're really well made, they're long lasting, and I may pocket person. I think purses need to have the right pockets in the right places. And these have these little side pockets

and front pockets for your phone, for your glasses. I always have two pairs of glasses. I mean, my sunglasses and my reading glasses. You don't have to carry a glass case because the little side pockets are soft enough that you can put them right in the bag. It's right here, if you want to stay. Then they don't have zippers or a snap.

It just closes automatically with a magnet. And they're such good looking bags in neutral colors. Yeah, they're a little bit higher price point, but not too bad, but you know that you are giving someone just a gift that they will just love, be obsessed with and use all year round. Okay, and their tote bags are amazing for your computers, for travel. Finally, K18 Hair Trio. K18 came out a few years ago. You can buy

a lot of different places right now, but what I love is that they have a next level repair Trio. And I just love the whole science behind K18. And this is this little giftable three step routine. And while I don't love steps, the reason why I'm telling you this is because these are steps for whatever reason, I've been able to stick with because it works. They had this shampoo that you just used in the shower. And then you condition after the shower, which I love because I'm not conditioning twice. So you get out of the shower with your wet hair, you use their K18 conditioner, you leave it in your hair, and then you blow dry your hair. So if you blow dry your hair, when you're doing that, it's activating the conditioner at

that moment, which is why it works so well and it moisturizes your hair. So it comes with a detox shampoo. It comes with their Leaven molecular repair hair mask, but they call with a detox shampoo, it comes with a leaving molecular repair hair mask, but they call it a hair mask, but you really just let it sit for four minutes, blow dry your hair, it's amazing. And then they have repair hair oil, and you apply that to your damp hair, and it just can't explain it. My hair is less frizzy. You can also use it when your hair is dry, so you can use a lot of different ways. And this stuff lasts forever. I bought it a year ago and I'm still using it.

This is very enticing to me because I am not good about taking care of my hair. I haven't gotten there yet. I don't have all the products. And this is like three and one. Yeah. This feels very manageable to me. See, it's a manageable routine

that you don't have to have a bunch of things, bunch of bells and whistles for your hair. Could you make that your resolution, everyone? More orgasms, more pleasure, more time for yourself, more about you, and more love. Happy holidays, everyone. Happy holidays. All right, everyone. Happy shopping, happy holidays,

sending everyone lots of love. Thanks for tuning in this year. I love you all. Happy holidays. Thanks for our tuning in this year. I love you all. Happy holidays. That's it for today's episode. See you on Tuesday.

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