Sex With Emily - How to Handle Mismatched Libidos Without Ruining Your Relationship

Episode Date: July 18, 2025

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse tackles the myths, insecurities, and real-life situations that often come with high sex drives, mismatched libidos, and performance anxiety. Alongside co-host Anderson, she answers listener questions and offers heartfelt, humorous, and sex-positive advice on topics ranging from post-baby confidence to breakups and virginity. We explore whether wanting more sex is actually a problem (spoiler: it's not), how to navigate mismatched libidos without shame or labels, and why performance anxiety during first-time experiences is completely normal. Emily addresses a new mom struggling with body confidence and low libido postpartum, offering practical advice on patience, mindful touch, and rebuilding sexual energy through Kegels and self-care. This episode also dives into breakup survival, including how to live with an ex, resist "revenge sex," and create your own closure rather than expecting it from someone else. We tackle the age-old question of whether you should share your sexual history with partners (Emily's answer: probably not) and explore why "body count" doesn't determine sexual skill. Communication, presence, and adaptability do. Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:29 - Breaking Dating Patterns 10:04 - Sexual History: Should You Share Your Number? 15:11 - High Sex Drive Mismatch 22:04 - Living with Your Ex: Survival Guide 24:10 - Post-Baby Body Confidence Crisis 31:02 - The 31-Year-Old Virgin's Performance Anxiety 36:39 - Breakup Sex Fantasy: Why It's a Bad Idea 39:17 - Wrap-Up

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Today we're talking about something that touches everyone at some point in their intimate lives, sexual confidence. Whether it's wanting sex more than your partner, feeling insecure after having a baby, navigating breakups, or struggling with performance anxiety. We're diving into the real, raw experiences that can shake your sense of sexual self and how to rebuild it with compassion and clarity. Here's the truth. Confidence in the bedroom starts outside the bedroom. It starts with unlearning shame, finding language for your needs, and

embracing your desires without apology. And whether you're someone with a high drive, a low drive, or a confused drive, you're in the right place. My intention is to give you not just permission, but power to explore, express, and enjoy your sexuality with confidence and curiosity. So wherever you're tuning in from, get ready to feel seen, supported, and a little more turned on by your own life. All right, let's dive in. Narn, I'm here with Anderson. Hi. And Anderson, on this show, I'm sorry you weren't here for it, but we talked about what it means to have a broken picker, a picker broken.

Oh, let's say Drew says that. Drew, yeah, I stole it from Drew, but I will attribute it to him, but it's interesting, when you keep dating the same people over and over again, kind of like the wrong person. I had that problem. I have that problem still. You still have it?

No, no, no. That's why you're still single. No, I'm kidding, that's not why. I had that problem for so long until I really just realized this type of person is not working for me. I think Drew used to say, look for butterflies, not lightning bolts. Yeah, that's good.

Thank God you're here to quote Drew. I used to say it was like going on a dating diet. Like try and date people without calories or boring people that you might find boring because that's probably better for you. It's like duty dating in a way. You're like, you know what? This guy seems great on paper, but I'm not attracted to him. I's like duty dating in a way. Like you're like, you know what, this guy seems great.

I'm paper, but I'm not attracted to him. I'm not sure. You might be surprised, or a girl, a woman. And I've been in a lot of relationships where like I knew that they were attracting me for the wrong reasons. And once they started to get feelings, which is inevitable if you're with me.

Right. About once they got feelings, they'd run for the hills. They'd be like, oh, this is too much, out. And they'd go on it. Well, how'd you know they were dating you? What were they dating you? What were the wrong reasons? Well I like to drink, I'm center of attention at times.

I'm exciting, some might say, and I like to go out and do reckless things and they'd be attracted to that side of me. And then once it was time to sit down and watch Conan, Conan the late night talk show, not the movie. At night, and they'd be snuggling or whatever, they'd be like, ah, I don't like this, it But at night, and they'd be snuggling or whatever, they'd be like, I don't like this, it's too close, and they'd be out.

Wow, okay, got it. So, and you don't date those women while you're married now? No, no, I'm happily married now to a woman who does not get me beer out of the fridge. I got it, that's good. Scorns me for wanting to go out and get beer. Right, I don't know what, I just used to date guys

that just weren't, they were all very similar. Scores, not scorns. Scores, no, I used to date that guy that was, drank too much, life of the party guy. Didn't really go that far. But you're attracted to some of those things and then you realize, I'm gonna take a step back here, that sounds familiar to me, how'd it go last time?

You know, we have all the information we need. Sometimes we just need to slow down, take a look at our parents. So that was a good show. Also, I'm going to be in New York for the Sexual Health Expo and I can't wait to see you all there September 24th and 25th in Brooklyn.

And I'm doing a live podcast on Saturday, September 24th at 1 p.m. Can't wait to see you all there in New York. You can click on the banner on our website. And no, I wish you would come with me. Last time you were supposed to do a podcast and she here in LA, but you were busy drinking with friends. Nothing's changed. I was out of the life of the party.

You were busy. A lot has changed. I can't go to New York because my wife is very pregnant about to give birth. I gotta be on standby. That's not, I, it's not that I'm out. Okay, it's a better excuse than partying with your college friends or whatever they were.

I don't have college friends. Anyways, yeah, it's good. Sexual Health Expo, New York, Brooklyn. Hipsters need to have sex too. They do, everyone needs to have sex too. A lot of hipsters in that Brooklyn these days. That is, I know. People are gonna be coming in from everywhere.

But the hipsters too. Love them hipsters. Love everyone, way too much. So, yeah, so back to self-confidence, that's what we're doing, sexual confidence. Just to paint a picture for the listener again, who can't see. Instead of, you know, most people,

I've been working in radio or spoken word and podcasting and terrestrial for a long time. Been working with microphones, people, to talk into them. People usually use water to wet their beak. Well, I'm obsessed with it. Keep their mouth moist. Ah, sorry, the moist. It tastes so good. I know, it's a bad word. Moist, sorry.

You got, you know, it's essential if you're going to be speaking, especially if you're doing it for a living, to have a mouth that's ready. You can't have a dry mouth. A lubricated mouth. Yeah, that's why stoners don't get into a lot of terrestrial radio and whatnot, except for Kevin Smith. But so you got to be lubricated. And Emily, instead of drinking water, she's... I'm spraying Doc Johnson Good Head. It's called Good Wet Head. Dry mouth spray, juicy apple

flavor. And I have it here during every show in the sex film studios because I love it. It tastes like strawberry, and the point is, it's so much better than if I was like, they hurt that. And if I had the cotton mouth, and I just, I don't know, it tastes good, but it's also great for blow jobs,

which is the purpose of it. Because if you mouth, I'm not even hungry, I said chocolate. I know, you just eat that all day. I like it, it's just kind of fun. And it does make me, what's it called? It's called Wet Head. I'm on the all wet head diet.

Stop Johnson, you can get it on my website. It's like seven, eight, $10 and it's the best investment. Because one of the top tips I have for giving a killer blow job is you want, you gotta have enough saliva, you gotta have enough lubricant, you gotta have enough wetness. If you're not blowing guys, you're talking to the microphone so you always have to have

a wet mouth. Right, I need a wet mouth 24-7. Can you imagine my plight? Yes, I can imagine. I've got bottles of these everywhere. Back of my car, the storm. Everywhere you go. Yeah, I'm a junkie.

Some people are addicted to chapstick, you're addicted to wet mouth. I am, I love it. I'm like, where's the wet head? Everyone's like, oh, here it is. So it's very comforting for me. I had to give you an update Anderson, I've been saving this nugget for you. But do you remember, this has been kind of an ongoing thing, was that I have a housekeeper who's worked with me

for about three, you know, 34 years. I live in a very small little cute little house, little bungalow, if you will. And you know, I can't help but have sex toys lying around. I mean, they're not like the used ones, but sometimes they're charging, or you've seen that poster, you know, I can't help but have sex toys lying around. I mean, they're not like the used ones, but sometimes they're charging, or you've seen that poster, you know, not, you know, like are the magazines,

the sex books everywhere. And I've always wondered, what does she think? And we don't speak the same language, so there's a barrier, and I've just thought- She speaks French, right? Oui, je parle français. Oh, if she spoke French, I wouldn't be a problem. Pas de problème.

Vous voulez vous, français? Oui. Oui, je parle, vous voulez vous, will I, Francais? Oui, je parle français. Will I speak French? Oui, je parle français. When did you learn the language of love? High school. Sticks.

So why don't you speak to your French maid? She's not French. So that's always been a thing. I'm just always wondering because sometimes I just don't have... There is a story. Let's just remind a thing. I'm just always wondering, because sometimes I just don't have, you know, okay. So then- There is this story, let's just remind the list when we get to the end here. Oh, oh yeah, what was this story that- Em's in the back room banging her then boyfriend, right?

While the not French housekeeper is out, you know, cleaning up her bungalow and whatnot. And she goes, oh, I hope she can't hear me. Oh, do you think she, that my housekeeper can hear me having sex? And then it strikes Emily's, she goes, oh, oh wait, not only might she hear me having sex right now, but I left my sex toys on the kitchen counter

to dry out on the rack for dishes. It's true. So I don't have a dishwasher. Sexual deviant. I know there's like four-color. Banging in the back room while the robotic sex toys are drying on the rack. There was like a new guy I was dating

and we wanted that morning sex thing. And yeah, that was bad too. So yes, there's been a few things that have happened where I've just pondered it and so then she came here her daughter actually came to the office to clean the office and I said to her she came and I said just so you see I have an office it's based on sex I'm just curious that you guys have been cleaning my house what what do you think and she said well we just we just kind of we've talked about it a lot so I wasn't wrong and we just thought maybe you were just a little kinky. A little

kinky. I said that. Because then they also go into the garage and I've got like my sports sheets under bed restraints and box the Sibian, you know stuff like that. So I just wanted to let you know that they did they did indeed have a judgment around it but um or a thought around it and it's a good thing. And my k What? She sends her daughter now? She sends her daughter here to do the analysis of she hadn't been to the office yet. Not a little kid though, she's like mid 20s.

No, she's like 22. Okay, that'd be odd if she sent her a 12 year old daughter to come clean your sexual demons. And I was like, well honey, come here and see my rabbit toys. Right, no that didn't happen. But anyway, Sexual Confidence Month, we're gonna cover that in some of the emails today.

You're a little kinky. I'm a little kinky. I thought that was funny how she said that. I was like, yeah. I mean, I guess I, I don't know. You have to be kinky for your little, yes. I am kinky, I guess. I'm sexy. Hey, you got Kegel balls flying out of your vagina

at corporate meetings, all right, you're kinky. Let's move on. It wasn't, I don't do it for sexual status, well, I guess I do it for later. Yes, ultimately, yes. Ultimately, I know that was weird. I don't know why that day, I'm like, this is a good time when I'm wearing these wide legged pants.

If you don't know what we're talking about, it's last week's episode, right? Right. Yes. I did have a kegel ball incident, but it doesn't, never happened. But my kegels of steel, it fell off. Hey, do they bounce when you drop a kegel ball? It bounced.

You should do tricks. It bounced right back into my hand. You should learn how you can bounce it right back into your hand. You could wear a you can bounce it right back into your hand. You could wear a skirt and you could do little tricks on stage. Like the twilight of your career. Right.

Like in Vegas. Exactly, or in like in Thailand. Because I remember going to Thailand, Bangkok, and you could see a lot of the women there like smoking cigarettes and stuff out of their house. I've heard things. That's true, they do it with the ping pong balls. I don't really want it, that's not a goal.

They blow up. That's not my goal for my later years in life. But it's good to know I have options. Okay, let's move to some sex in the news. Okay, what to do when she asks you, how many women have you slept with? Could your sexual history make or break your relationship? That's what a new study conducted says that in a survey,

more than 2,000 Europeans and Americans, 30% said they'd be at least somewhat likely to end a relationship if they found out their partner had too many previous sexual partners. What the heck is too many? Well on average the women survey said they'd consider anyone who would stuff with 15 or more partners as promiscuous. 15. 1-5. Right. That is an issue. And men set their limit at 14. 14.. I wanna know how old these people are that they're serving, but also.

That's seniors in high school, probably. Must be, or college. But here's the thing. The best way to deal with this question is to not have the conversation at all. Not answer it, it's never going to, I'm telling you, it's never going to serve your relationship.

Tomorrow. There's no reason your partner needs to know, unless you have an STD and you just say, I had an STD, you don't have to say, well, it was guy number 16, no. And you don't even know probably where you got it from you have an STD and you just say I had an STD, you don't have to say well it was guy number 16. No, and you don't even know probably where you got it from. Good thing. Well maybe 15 STDs is too many.

I would agree with them there. No, guy number 15 gave me the STD. If you had 15 separate STDs, I would agree that that's too many. Right. And you should end a relationship. But to borrow a phrase from Drew once again, here we go.

Oh Jesus, yeah. But more mystery, less history. Right, that's a good one. That's what he used to say all the time. Because I think we're asking in some ways because we have insecurities. I think that it's a little different. Like men might be worrying that they're not as experienced.

I think it's the same as insecurity. They don't have as much experience as the woman they're with or that maybe there's a judgment she's too slutty. I can tell you just from personal experience that the idea of foreign peens, weens, being inside that vagina, especially if I really care about it, that's tough, it's tough to.

To think there was a ween that came before you. Yes, and I've been in relationships where I've obsessed about that, and I've obsessed about each and every single one of their previous partners to the point where it's very unhealthy, and I knew their names, and I would daydream about it while I was sitting in the traffic, getting, I would make myself nauseous

and I wouldn't be able to eat when I was younger. When you were younger, right? Because I don't think that, I think this was like at teens and twenties something. I don't think the guys asked me like in my 30s they never asked me. Hopefully you passed it by your 30s unless you might not be too.

But a lot of the time also I realized that those were bad relationships. Those were relationships that I on some subconscious level was trying to sabotage and get out of anyways because they weren't the right relationships for me. Right. I think it is not was trying to sabotage and get out of anyways because they weren't the right relationships for me. I think this is not the way to find out. I don't think this is useful information.

How do you avoid it though? If you got somebody in your face, say how many? This is what you gotta say, I say you know what, right now I really am enjoying the sex that we're having and I really don't. Lost count's not a good answer. Yeah, I lost count last week. I don't see how this information is really relevant

to our relationship right now because really I'm just focused on our sex life. If you're dating someone really dumb, you can do this, you can go, look at this, keys. And then they'll forget about that and they'll start looking at your keys. Just someone with ADD maybe, which I would do. I'd be like, what are the keys?

And then I'd forget. Yeah, I can totally do that to you. Yeah, totally, you can do it all day long. I'd be like, what keys, when did you get a new car? You keep coming back to it later in the day, like, so how many? Keys, you did that before, why did you do that? Well, color car.

Remember, I was like, car, Anderson, I know this is bad, but what kind of car do you have? Yeah, Emily and I have been working together for two, maybe three years, and it occurred to her one day, she's like, I have no idea what kind of car you drive, even though I meet you in the parking lot half the night, half the nights of the week when we're going together. Literally, I was like, oh, I wonder if he's coming.

And I thought to myself, if you're showing up. Or if I was already there, if I was in the parking lot. Yeah, I couldn't tell you were there yet. There's like five cars in this parking lot. But in fairness to you, it was always nighttime. Well, right. Not a whole lot of light in that parking lot of K-Roy. I don't pay attention to, I don't care cars,

they don't register to me. Emily's not a, yeah, she's not a car girl. No. You're not a girl who cares about the material things. I'm not, at all. You care all about the emotion. I do. In that ocean. And you're always very emotionally available to me.

No, I'm saying not emotionally. I'm just saying that you care when you're, yeah. I'm not like, what kind of car does he have? Let me check out your keys. Got it. Got it. I'm driving Lexus, to be clear. No, that I know, but I still don't remember what color. It's a black old Lexus, and it's backfiring right now.

You know, it's bad, bad times if your Japanese car is backfiring and your wife is very pregnant. Bad times count on household. No, I'm fine. I'm good. No, you're good. You're good. Well, you're going to direct a movie. Yeah. Everyone's going to support it. Everything is going in the right direction.

That's good. I love it. OK, so, yeah, you guys don't answer that question. I'm telling you at the time, your partner will be like, why won't you tell me? Why is it too many, is it too many? I'll just be like, you know what? It's not really relevant. Sex with them, I said it wasn't relevant.

Just don't talk about it. Move on. Or you can leave with this, does oral count? Right. That'll scare them maybe away from asking the question. Just don't talk about it. Just say, let's talk about, say I have a better conversation,

let's talk about what kind of sex we're gonna have tonight. Turn to that. Yeah. Let's talk about how hard you sex we're gonna have tonight. Turn to that. Yeah. Let's talk about how hard you want me to blow you tonight. How hard? That's not what I'm saying. I don't know how hard. How many times?

Not how hard. Yeah, not how hard. You know what I'm saying? Something sexier than that that was not sexy. I can't do it. Lying's probably not good either. You're the only one I can remember. Twenty fun?

I've had sex with twenty fun. Twenty fun. Yeah, you could do that or just not have the conversation. If you don't ask, then they won't ask and vice versa. Hopefully. Right. Don't break the seal. Don't break the seal. It doesn't help. Okay. Thank you for that. I'm glad we're on the same page here. Okay. Let's move on to some emails. Okay. Dear Emily, I just started listening to your podcast and I've instantly become obsessed. I started to become interested in sex and masturbation at a very young age and

I became more and more sexually driven as I've gotten older. My sex life has become a very important part of me because I have a very high sexual energy, I have very high sexual energy, but I have a hard time finding people who share the same intensity about it as I do. I always become the one who is obsessed with sex or needs it all the time. I have been dating a guy for several months and the sex has been great so far. At the beginning of the relationship we would just jump each other every chance we got. However, recently the sex has become less and less frequent. I'm scared to tell him that I want it more because I really enjoy spending time with

him and enjoy him as a person. I don't want to seem like a sex addict as I've been called in the past. Am I really too obsessed with having sex? How do I approach a situation without scaring my boyfriend away? Thanks so much for reading Sincerely, Carrie, age 22." I mean, what I gotta say is this, and then most people who email me must be sex addicts if you're labeling your desire for more sex than your partner this way. Because guess what?

A lot of couples have mismatched libidos and they don't always want sex the same frequency. So just drop this label, you are not a sex addict. You desire, I don't think you're a sex addict. We can talk about that. But I don't think you are. You desire sex, which is healthy. I mean, I just think that people are so surprised

that the sex they were having at the beginning of the relationship doesn't remain the same throughout, which I talk about all the time on the show. It's the honeymoon phase, which is legit. But also there's this, and I don't hear many people talking about it, some people's honeymoon phases might be longer than others. So I think the standard's probably right around three months,

but some people, maybe it's six months. Six months for two years. And maybe some people it's shorter. But the fact that she's a lady and he's a guy, is it wrong for me to think that maybe there is an issue here? Yeah, it is wrong for you to think. Probably a 20, young 20s. No, because that's a myth.

This is a myth that we are raised with, that men want sex all the time, and women don't. It's not true though. There's been plenty, I'm telling you, I believed that when I started my show, because I had heard that my whole life and then I realized Soon few months in that I got more calls and more emails actually from women saying that they want a more sex their partner And I thought is this really just what I'm people emailing me and the more and more I move through my life

everybody talked to Women and I hear it all the time both ways So it is not true that that that a young woman wanting more sex and a partner means anything other than she wants more sex and the guy she's currently dating. I'm not gonna get hung up on it. Please don't get hung up on it. Well, I mean, I could point to your assistant, Madison.

What? She like throws a flashlight at her boyfriend every now and again. I don't think he's ever throwing like a Jeju Mimi at her. What's your point though? That she's like, I don't wanna have sex sex right now but he does. Right. Vice versa. It's a common dynamic. Yeah it's a common dynamic in relationships. I just think that men do tend to want to spread the seed a little bit more than women want to try and get

impregnated which is on the very base level. Yeah very base level but I'm telling you it's not that it is not true actually. Okay. So, yeah, the spreading the seed thing, whatever, but it's very different than the frequent desire for sex. So I think the fact that she's been shamed, what'd you say? As a form of connection. Yeah. As a form of connection.

Yeah, like they wanna connect, you know, it seems like, you know, that you want, maybe it's more of the intimacy, and maybe he's not giving that to you, but you know, I think that also, Carrie, you've been shamed in the past so it makes sense that you're carrying this anxiety around, but there's nothing wrong with you.

I mean, there's really not. So how you can talk about it is, you can just say something like, since we've been together, I've noticed that, I feel like I wanna have sex more often than you do. Have you noticed this too? What do you think? I know at the beginning we're having more,

which is very typical, so let's talk about it. Like what is the right, sometimes couples have to negotiate. Maybe he's like, well I only want sex in the morning and you leave for work really early. So then you're like, okay, well once a week we'll have sex in the morning and then we'll have sex these other times.

Because couples need to have the language, they have to be comfortable and confident and need that language to talk about sex with each other because it's just gonna be great practice for you. Like what a great way for you to open up and start talking about sex. So I'm glad that you're starting early to talk about these things and you'll find out.

He might be like, well I don't want it and if he labels you as like a sex addict or something, then you know you gotta get out. He's not right for you. He's not your dude. But also let me tell you this. I think most every guy has an on switch or something that,

chances are, and I'm not trying to be a misogynist here when I say if you were to drop to your knees or go down on him or just spontaneously find that maybe there's something on his neck or maybe there's like an earlobe or something, he's definitely got an on switch that you don't even have to ask for it. I would think that you'd be able to just go to that spot and get him going without even talking about it.

Just like if you're on the couch, you have an afternoon, instead of watching the people's court, you find his on switch, and then next thing you know, you're gonna be banging. Most guys, they have an on switch, and I think their on switch is probably bigger and easier to find than most girls.

Do you think that I got something there? You're talking about like a random act of blowjob? Or even just any kind of erogenous area on his body. I think she should be able to find that. Right, yeah. Maybe you don't even talk about it because I don't even know if she's been shut. Let's see, did she say that he shut her down

or she just thinks she wants it? She feels like she wants it more than he does. Yeah, you're worried because in the past your guy judged you but she's scared to tell him. And it kind of becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where like if you're pressuring, pressuring, pressuring and then once your partner thinks of it as a chore or something that he or she needs to do, it's game over almost.

I think you do it without even saying anything. No, that's actually a good point. You don't even know, Carrie, that sometimes I think it's a lot of work for guys because there is that thing that guys gotta initiate. And maybe he's not initiating. But it doesn't mean if you like his earlobe, perhaps, if that's his, a Roger Stone that works for him, that maybe you would want him to do.

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a subscription. Just head to paired.com slash SWE to sign up today. And also just be going back to Lovelin again, anyone who says that they're a sexual person, it always makes my eyebrows kind of raise a little bit like were you self- I'm a sexual person. I was never abused. She said she's been masturbating since she was very young. Most women have. Maybe there is a little bit of self-soothing going on there.

Impossible. Just take a look. Take a look if you're running from anything or replacing sex To fill a hole that might be an issue. We all might do that different times. Okay, good. Look at that, too But find his on switch I would I would do that Scared that the judgments gonna come so maybe if you just start making the move, maybe he is always initiating I'm gonna move and maybe she's afraid to initiate and so I would yeah, that's not bad Think about it yet guys have to think about the initiation a lot. Because guys are pretty easy to turn on.

And once you turn them on, they're not gonna turn off until they're done. Yeah. So. True that. Okay, that's all good stuff. Carrie, let me know how it goes. And take this label, this is a label that you're carrying out with you

that it's time for it to be buried and dead. We carry these things forever unless someone tells you to kill them instead. Kill that label. Kill it. All right. Hey Emily, my girlfriend and I have come to the realization that after two and a half years our relationship is failing and we decided that in order to save Our friendship we would end it before it gets worse

We have two months left in our lease for our apartment and neither of us wants to break the lease So I was wondering what you'd advice would be for living with an ex so we can coexist for the last two months Jose age 21 Los Angeles Jose Jose try to finish up these last two months with like dignity, respect, and don't bang other chicks in the apartment. Like she's your, she'll become your favorite day. You love her. Well same goes for her too, but he's the one emailing. Neither one of you should, you know, leave on a bad note. It's like when you leave a job, you know, you don't want to like steal all the office supplies and tell your boss to fuck off, you know? You just don't. I feel so good though. It sounds like they want to be steal all the office supplies and tell your boss to fuck off, you know You just don't feel so good

It sounds like they want to be amicable and and remain friends. So you got that motivation right there to be Respectful of one another and you should probably verbalize it to one another have a sit down I've a talk boundaries Let's come up with some boundaries and some rules for these 60 days that we have left by the time you hear this Probably less than that, right? You'll be fine You'll move through it. And just try to make it as peaceful as you can. Maybe this is a good time to take a class

or do the things you've been wanting to do outside the house. Maybe you don't have to sit on the couch all the time and watch TV, don't let you do that. And there's a good chance that two months, you guys are young, right? They're young. The chances are you're gonna see her getting gussied up

and ready to go out with another guy. Maybe you're not ready for that and that could be really, really brutal. So hopefully she won't do that to you. Hopefully you don't do that to her. I mean, it's one thing bringing somebody home, but also just not ready for that. And that could be really, really brutal. So hopefully she won't do that to you. Hopefully you don't do that to her. I mean, it's one thing bringing somebody home, but also just getting ready to go out. I've been in that situation where like, you know,

I was like- You were living with an ex? Not living, but I was still around an ex because I think it's a mistake to say let's be friends. Especially at first. You can't be friends right away. You need at least six months to a year. It's never.

And I'd be around and I'd see them getting ready and I'd know that they were going on a date without even asking. I just know and like, I'd feel sick and I'd be, getting ready and I'd know that they were going on a date without even asking, I'd just know and I'd feel sick and I'd be like, ah. And I'm the one who ended it. But still. Right, no, still, even when you end it, you're like, but I ended it, do I want this person back?

And I could see a tit for tat going on here where she does it and then he does it and he's just going to the gym, but he's making it look like he's going on a date. Just be careful, this is tough. This is tough, yeah, tried lately on this and just be a good person, just be kind, be respectful. You'll get through it.

Okay, hi Emily, my name is Kim, I'm 20 years old. I have a beautiful 14 week old baby and an amazing boyfriend. After I had the baby, I struggled with my sexual confidence. I used to be up for sex 98% of the time, but since having a baby, I can't even have sex with the light on or during the day, and although my boyfriend is really supportive,

I know he'd prefer to have it the way it was before. What can I do to get my body confidence up? Thanks, Kim, age 20, the UK. Crossfit. She can't go to the Crossfit yet. She can't get in shape. No, she's not a baby. It's 14 weeks ago.

She's gotta take, no. It's the gym, honey. Take the pressure off yourself, first of all. Three and a half months is so early in the new mom slash baby game. The doctors say like, yeah, maybe like at six weeks or whatever, they say like your vagina might be more healed or 12 weeks, but for a lot of women.

Yeah, even if the rest of your body has been through so much. Yeah, your libido, the hormones. My wife goes through pregnancy right now. She's almost at the nine month mark, and I've seen her just go through hell. Creating the human being with your body is a lot Oh my god, what she's got on her side though is a very caring understanding boyfriend

It sounds like and father to her her child So as long as he's gonna be there and wait, he will wait for her It's a matter of her getting back on exactly on top. Hey, I mean she be literally exactly I mean, there's a lot going on the hormones that are raging. She's dealing, yeah, you're dealing with changes in your body, lack of sleep, stress levels. Changing diapers. This is all gonna do it. Changing diapers. You're not gonna feel like you want sex. You're probably exhausted. So what you might want to do is look for intimacy in your relationship rather than intercourse right now. Now this could mean like you guys are just like,

you know, sitting on the couch together and you don't have to have penetrative sex. You could like you know do a little oral action. Intimacy is important. No I'm not kidding like oral could be good or give him a handjob you know who knows but the simple act of just touching each other can enhance your mood and bond you again because I think a lot of couples associate like well if we start touching then he's gonna want sex and so maybe you're withholding in that way but maybe just um just starting back like you know what honey I'm not ready for it but let's just start some like cuddling and touching

kissing because that really does add to it like it's it's true that it can enhance your mood and masturbation also important I know it's probably the last thing that you feel like doing right now and I know you're not feeling comfortable in your body but um it'll help even if you just start like maybe reading some erotica, watching something that turns you on, you might start to feel in the mood again. Kegel exercises are so important for new moms.

I can't emphasize this enough that I believe, well she's in the UK, I don't know if this is the laws there, but the kegels, no they're legal everywhere, but in France when you leave, part of the postnatal care is they like do your kegels. They hook you up, they're like give you kegels are illegal. No, they're illegal everywhere, but in France when you leave, part of the postnatal care is they do your kegels. They hook you up. They're like, give you kegel balls, we'll do whatever, that don't file your vagina.

They might, but you gotta do them because not only will it tighten your vagina back again, but it also helps you build these muscles that have become atrophy. I know every time I say that, you're gonna think about my kegel ball flying. No, I'm thinking about something else. But it's like, it just helps you,

because you're squeezing your pelvic floor where all your sexual energy is, and I can't tell you just by doing them for like a few weeks, you'll start to feel that blood flowing there. Because it's almost like that part of your body's out of business right now. And then by breathing into it and doing these kegels,

I promise you it will help you. How long does it usually take? I'm sure there's an average out there for lovely ladies after they give birth. I'd say for most people, I think it's about six months. I think three to six months, right? Three to six months, for sure. And then even then, like I have a friend who had a baby

and she was saying, you know what, they had sex for the first time, or second time after six months, maybe the first time was too painful. And she said it was like really, she said we were both really nervous. They've been together like 15 years. She's like, but I was nervous.

Because you have it. So there is some buildup. And for anyone to, you know, I know a lot of new moms put pressures on themselves. I just wish they would. It's natural too. It's biology telling you not to get pregnant again. It's biology saying we're not ready

to create another human being right now. So we're gonna shut down the old sex for a bit here. Right. So you don't have kids one on top of the other. So you're overcoming actual primitive biological instincts as well. That's true. You're all fine. These messages that we see, like the celebrities, the trainers who are back out there in three months and their bodies look great and insecure.

It's upsetting. It does way more harm than good. Way more harm than good. Stop it, celebrities. Stop showing off. We get it. You don't have to work and you got a fucking nanny that takes care of the kid and you can go with your attractive crossfit trainer

who's going to walk you through everything eight hours a day. So you can post and brag, stop it. Hey, do they got mouth kegels? You got kegels for the mouth? Why? I don't know, I just pictured a guy having a girlfriend who talks a lot

and he talked her into doing mouth kegels so she'd wind up her mouth and be quiet. You should invent that for guys with talky ladies. I don't even want to say that because I know that I talk way too much and I had tried to have. I'm not talking about you. No, you gotta talk.

Not that I talk way too much. I love that I talk. I did have a boyfriend who wasn't okay with it and he tried to implement rules and he was like, let's not talk past eight o'clock at night and before eight a.m. in the morning. He didn't invent the mouth kegel. He should have done that.

The mouth kegel. Yeah, here you go. What's that, a mouth guard? You put it like a ball you put in your mouth and you clamp down on it for 20 minutes. There you go. I had muzzle with the thing. No.

I'm gonna watch my sports, 20 minutes. Oh Jesus, that's the worst idea ever. Really. All right. It's beautiful. Next email. Hi Emily and the whole SWE team. I'm a huge fan.

I've been listening to your podcast for over a year now. I recently read Lori's article, The Virgin Diaries, since I'm a 31 year old virgin. It was only this past week that I actually did stuff with a girl for the first time. Making out, foreplay, oral, and I did a pretty good job for not having any previous experience. And since I made her come twice.

Wow, good job. Do you think that he was taking her change though? You think he might have been. job for not having any previous experience and since I made her come twice. Wow, good job. Good job. Do you think that he was digging for change though? You think he might have been. No, because Lori wrote a really good article and she probably said do not dig for change. Don't dig for change down there. This sentence wasn't necessary but I wanted to let you know since I picked up these tips from your podcast.

He picked up how not to dig for change and she came twice. I was really enjoying myself since I've never had any previous experience, but when it came time to actually have sex I found that I couldn't get hurt. Yikes. Is this common? Is there a way that I can fix this? I'm pretty sure it has to do with my anxiety about not having had sex before We ended up not having sex at night. She was really cool and understanding. She even said we could try again some other time I'm just worried if the next time comes, I won't be able to perform. Bing check.

I'm taking steps to remedy this, not masturbating or watching porn. I'm using your Kegel Camp app. I'm exercising more, but I don't want to disappoint her the next time. And the thought of not being able to perform again has been running through my head. What should I do?

I'm looking for help. Signed, the dormantant Virgin and the PS here. Again, thank you, Emily, Menace, Anderson, Madison, Lori, Jamie, Churro, Stanley, and the rest of the gang for all the hard work you do. He mentions your dog, Menace's dog. That's sweet, he pays attention. Dormant Virgin, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie.

He doesn't know Eddie yet, but you would have thanked Eddie because Eddie's awesome, and Eddie's here too. So first off, I gotta say, k, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, Eddie, too. If a guy got me off twice, I'd be like, I don't care that you, whatever. I still wouldn't care. So he believes. He probably got her off twice. Maybe once, maybe half a time. Yeah. Don't fuck him up.

No, he probably got it off twice. Okay, so here's the thing. I think a lot of this, well all of it probably is in your head. And it makes a sense that this is happening. It's totally normal. A lot of guys experience anxiety the first time, the 10th time, 20th time.

They either come too early, they have trouble maintaining erection, they can't orgasm at all. And I love that you did everything right. I mean, you focused on your partner. And so now we just need to focus on you. And maybe you could have used foreplay yourself because maybe you were so focused on getting her off

that I'm sure your erection probably, maybe you weren't even that turned on. Maybe you got a little turned on. I don't know what happened, but next time I mean we can't I wasn't there Your heart's pounding so fast and you're so excited, especially if you got 30 years, you know history of this not happened it's finally gonna happen and Blood is at a premium and you need a lot of blood down there in that zone to make it happen And it makes sense that your blood is going all sorts of places

So you got to overcome this got to overcome you got to drink it up and be makes sense that your blood is going all sorts of places. So you gotta overcome this. You gotta drink it up and be prepared and loose. You just said right, I said drink. No I didn't hear you said, sorry. Cause I was focused on something else. Don't drink, well I was gonna say if you were drinking or taking drugs that probably wouldn't help. No it probably might not help.

Maybe a glass of wine. I love that he's doing kegels and I love that he's repairing himself, but I would say, I don't think that you need to stop masturbating. Yeah, you don't wanna hurt this girl if you do actually pull it off. Right.

I think he's being hard on himself. It was the first time. Scary movie where the virgin has sex and she's on top and he blows Anna Faris to the ceiling. He could actually hurt this woman. If he doesn't come at all. If he's kegeling and, no, when he does, when he's finally finished. Oh If he's kegaling and, no, when he does,

when he's finally finished. Oh, he's kegaling and shoots across the room. It's gonna be like a fire hydrant. True. You gotta be careful. You gotta be careful, buddy. I think you're fine and he's obsessing. Do you hear his obsessing, obsessing, obsessing,

obsessing, you gotta just stop. Well, I said self-fulfilling prophecy earlier. Right, say it again. This is definitely right for that. First time, it's fine. You know. Second time, it's fine, you're fine. Okay, he should be using a condom, obviously, right?

Yes. Okay, so that's a more war. Hope he is DB This is very good advice advice that I wish that I got when I was a young and I know you're not a young and but You're still kind of an experience obviously and Masturbate with that condom practice with the condom put the condom on and use it by yourself and comfort of your own home So you're it's like, you know learning to like football players sleep with the football comfort of your own home. So it's like learning to, like football players, sleep with the football, they go to sleep with the football.

You're comfortable with your equipment, what you're using. And you gotta do that without her in the room with you so that you're very comfortable and you know how it all works. Also, if you can, instead of stop masturbating, why don't you just masturbate with a condom, which we already covered, and only masturbate to the idea of her.

Only think about her. So that it's like that vision that athletes also do where they envision shooting free throws. And then when it happens, you should be like, oh, this is like my fantasy. I've already kind of been down this road. I got the muscle memory with the condom. And hopefully that'll.

That's some good advice there. That's some strong advice. I would not not masturbate because also you can definitely become dormant. If like you shut it off, it's like a hard drive on your computer. If you let it like sit and you don't warm it up, it crashes.

So if you stop masturbating altogether, you might go back to dormant. So. Exactly. That's a really good point. I appreciate that. Cause you have a penis. Good luck. You know how the penis doesn't always behave.

It's tough, but the more, I think that's such a good point. I always redirect your thoughts so if you find yourself obsessing you know what you do? I want you to train yourself. If you start obsessing that you're gonna come and start thinking about her and her face and how it felt. Because there's a good chance he's gonna get in the same situation and then he's gonna start thinking about oh god it's not gonna work and once you start thinking oh god it's not gonna work it's

like the same thing where like you know you start thinking about your grandma or something or your own sex like you get it especially if you're OCD or if he's on you start thinking, oh God, it's not gonna work. It's like the same thing where you start thinking about your grandma or something, or your own sex, especially if you're OCD, or if he's on any medication, that's another thing. If he's on medication, this might be a whole issue. If he's on opioids or something. That's a... Yeah, well, hopefully he's not.

I think he would've told. He probably would've told. He listened, he knows your dog's name, he listens. Maybe you should add that, maybe you should add it. Give me your name, your age, your sex, and what kind of drugs you... No, or if you take any pills or anything. Yeah, that's a good one, we could add that. And give me your name, your age, your sex. What kind of drugs do you use? No, or if you take any pills or anything. Yeah, that's a good one.

We could add that. And they'll have like 16 questions to answer before they send me the email. Good luck, Dormin. Good luck, DV. You're doing fine. Okay, another email? Yeah, we feel good about that.

Hi, Emily. I love the show. Listening has improved my self-confidence sexually with my partners, but also in talking with friends and being able to express myself without feeling shy or embarrassed. I was recently dating a 29-year-old that I really liked a lot.

I don't have much dating experience. In fact, I was a virgin before I met him. Our relationship was special to me because it was my first year relationship, although it only lasted three months. Our feelings developed quickly for each other, but they were also quick to fade away toward the end. We recently ended things because I found out he was still on the dating app we met on,

and even though he told me he had deleted it a while ago, I was really hurt over it when I found out. But my feelings for him had been fading, so it wasn't terribly difficult to get over him. I'm finding myself really wanting to have sex with him again since we broke up over text, and never got a chance to break up sex. For some reason, it really turns me on to think about having sex with him with since we broke up over text and never got a chance to break up sex.

For some reason it really turns me on to think about having sex with him with no strings attached, taking control of the situation in a way I don't see myself getting feelings involved since he did me dirty and I wanna date him again, duh duh, no, no. Brooke, age 22, Irvine, California. Honey, you got out easy.

Yeah, reality check here. Yeah. Break up sex is not a out easy. Yeah. Reality check here. Yeah. Breakup sex is not a good idea. There's no such thing as breakup sex. No, no, no, no, breakup sex. It's called makeup sex. Right.

You know what? It's when you get back together. Yes. Which you're not going to do with this guy because he doesn't deserve it. Right. You're making up kinds of sex and you shouldn't do it. Right. You're 22 years old.

This is your first sexual encounter and your first relationship with sex and you got out without any kind of hurt feelings. You know how lucky you are? You know how ahead of the curve you are? Don't fuck it up by going back. Exactly, you do not even, I'm sorry he hurt you, I'm sorry he's still in the dating app, but the further away you can get from this guy,

I understand, and I know that you're upset and you think you're over it, you're saying you're over it, but it sounds like she wants a little revenge next. It sounds like she broke up with him on text. First of all, I don't understand who anyone, he break up on texts. I mean, she's right, there isn't any closure there. It's lacking closure, but you don't need closure.

I'm gonna close it for you. He cheated on you. End of story. Or he was trying to cheat on you. Whatever, he's not being faithful to the commitment you had. Chances are, you probably wasn't all, you probably weren't the only one all along.

I hate to say it, Brooke, but don't look back. This guy's only gonna fuck you. Don't look back. You're not going gonna fuck you. Don't look back. You're not going that way. You can give him some blosure. Blosure, that's bad too. I'm gonna cut it off and go over it. Don't do any of that stuff.

No, you need to cut all ties, and you need to completely move on from this situation. Plus you're probably hot, because your name's Brooke. That's a hot name. Did Dr. Drew tell you that too? Drew told me very few things. Every now and again, I'll go with something. No, Drew would get it.

I don't think Mike would say that. But anyway, you need to delete his number, not follow him on social media, and the sooner that you get over this, and this fantasy of some breakup sex, you're gonna find someone else that you really care about. And you can't be friends right after, and you're gonna have sex, it's gonna mess you up again.

Because I've done this, I've thought, oh, I can have sex, and it's gonna be now. She's 22, she doesn't know much, probably. She doesn't know much probably she doesn't know about she needs to know this Brooke You need to know this you got out easy most first first experiences are horrific and they always remember them That's why I went out of my way not to be people's first This sounds awful, but it's true like I would find out that a girl I was dating was a virgin and I would like run for the hills because I didn't Want to be the first because they're almost always bad.

They're almost always bad memories, regrets. I didn't want to be anyone's regret or bad memory. And it sounds like you got out. It sounds like you got out without hurt feelings. Brooke, feel good about yourself. Know that you came out ahead and move on. Time to move on. There'll be plenty of good guys out there.

I promise you. And plenty of things will turn you on just as much as banging this guy without strings attached. Exactly. There's other guys to go. He doesn't deserve you. No. He doesn't.

No, no. He did not honor the commitment or whatever it is that you guys had. So that's all we got time for. Oh, is that it? Is that it? Yeah. How are you?

Did anything else you want to add? Can you tell us about your movie? And people can find you, your podcasts, and all the exciting things happening in everything's world. Yeah, I'm launching my campaign real soon. We're gonna have some fun perks and rewards and all that stuff.

There's so much work that goes into it. Been working my ass off every day just leading up to the campaign. But I'm gonna be trying to raise a pretty decent chunk of change to make my first feature. And if you'd like to be in the know, I'm just looking for emails to help organize so I can send people.

Yeah, Anderson's a good film maker. He's won a bunch of awards. I was up for best director just recently. I'm actually, one of my shorts is playing on Catalina. Oh my God! Or I think this week. I had a really bad weekend there with a guy once. But fun. Really?

Yeah, no, Catalina's fun though. I actually submitted to it because it's a really good festival and I was like, oh this will be a great excuse to go back to Catalina because those of us who live in LA, like we never go to Catalina. I know! And it's right there. I want to go back to it. And I got in and I was all, cool, I'm in, but the wife's super pregnant, there's no way I'm going to Catalina. No. I'm not going to be in Catalina. You gotta go to Catalina. I know. And it's right there. I wanna go back to it. And I got in and I was all cool, I'm in, but the wife's super pregnant,

there's no way I'm going to Catalina. I'm not gonna have a baby in Catalina. No, you gotta go on a boat to like. Would the kid even be American if he was born over there? I can't do that, I can't do it. There's no hospitals probably, it's confusing. Anyways, the website is groupersthemovie.com. Groupersthemovie.com and then of course

I have my film podcast, Cinematics and the Film Vault and the After Disaster. You could just spend your whole life at the disaster. You should come on the After Disaster. Which is always a fun time. You should come on the After Disaster soon. I didn't know you'd guess, I would love it. We do it at the improv, not on stage as often as not. I would love to, I would dream to come. We do it in the green room

or on the roof of the improv, come on. I've talked about it many times that we should have you on the After Disaster. Dude, I would love that. We come up with ideas, you know that. Yeah. Have you never been on the After Disaster? No.

Absurd, it's upsetting. No, you never been on the after disaster? No. Absurd, it's upsetting. No, you had guests on the after disaster, now I'm insulted. Whoever wants to roll by. Now I'm insulted. We had Joseph Gordon-Levitt on the after disaster. Kind of.

He wanted to come into the room and I waved goodbye instead of waved him in. And he kind of just stood there defeated. He said, all right, bye. So he was technically on the show. Oh, dude. But I waved him off because I'm an ass. You are an ass, but wave me in. Yeah, I want you on., but I waved him off because I'm an ass. But now.

You are an ass, well wave me in. Yeah, I want you on. Listen to me, you've recorded the, it's right near my house. It's improv, I know, we do it on the roof of the improv. I love it, I've never been on the roof. It's illegal. Never been allowed on the roof.

We're not supposed to be up there. Let's do it, let's do it. Yeah, yeah. Okay, I'm excited, okay, so everyone check out Anderson and thank you everyone for listening and supporting this, check him out, he's sexy. And thank you everybody on my team. Thank you Madison and Lori and Jamie and Eddie and all the amazing people here

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