Sex With Emily - How To Kink It Up

Episode Date: September 26, 2014

It happens to the best of us: We get caught in a sexual rut and can’t seem to wriggle ourselves free to a more exciting sex life. This show is all about embracing the kinkier side of sex, and opening your mind up to new realms of sexual adventure! Emily is joined by Rhune Kincaid and Lindsay Floyd, fellow members of the Loveline family, and the hilarious minds behind the Pretty Oddcast - a fresh new Podcast that takes a look into alternate lifestyles & fringe sub-cultures.So what IS kinky sex? Kink means anything outside of your usual sex box, that pushes your sexual limits, and breaks you out of your regular routine. And guess what, guys? It doesn’t have to be scary!Emily gives us a crash course in Kink 101 (note: you don’t need a sex dungeon to have some kinky fun.) She shares some beginners’ tips for mixing things up in the bedroom, including: Ways to give a really good spankingThe trick to kinking up an old-fashioned massageThe best sex toys for couples to shareWhy women love playing : dress upHow to get down with dirty talkEveryone’s got a little kink in them, or the desire to update their sexual bag of tricks - all you need is a sense of adventure. This podcast will help you get in touch with your inner “odd” and explore sex from an alternative point of view! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, welcome to tonight's episode of Sex with Emily. You know, the recent popularity in mainstream erotico, like Fifty Shades of Grey, the book series, and James Fraco has an upcoming kink.com documentary. It has shown a spotlight on the previously underground world of BDSM and kinky sex, often some mixed results. And I know a lot of you are curious about how to have this kind of lifestyle. You just want to branch out. And tonight's show is all about that.

It's all about getting out of your sexual rut, whether it means getting in some kink or exploring and expanding your sexual curiosities. And here to share their own experiences, our Lindsay and Roon, the hilarious minds behind pretty odd cast. It's a new podcast. Takes a look into the alternative lifestyle

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turns you on. And I'm here with Anderson tonight who's like snapping. I'm sorry, I woke you up to the show. What up, yo? Dude, why are you so tired? I don't know, you just have to. Like, it's Monday. When you get old, like me, at days where you're just like,

yeah, today's a tired day. You're not old. Old tired day. Honey, I'm still where he just like, yeah, today's a tired day. You're not old. Old tired day. Honey, I'm still working on the NONO Pro for you. I just want you to be clear. No, I'm serious, because he said to me during that, when I said that, what? Clear.

The NONO is not for me. I'm out of hurry. Oh, it's for your wife, sorry. I don't want everyone to think I'm Harry. I'm telling you, but then, but then, say Madison, my assistant asked me for one. I'm like, oh, I got to get everyone in the NONO. Here we go.

She's super hair. Actually told her she should get one. She didn't ask me. Just kidding. Madison. Anyway, so how this is kind of like a love line show tonight, right? I've I've sort of keeping it in the

family. Yeah. We this is like a little cozy happy family because we're at Anderson. As you know, who people don't know. You've worked on love line for 60 years. Everybody knows. No, but not everyone listens to love line.

He works. Roon is here. Roon King Cade and he is the. What is your official title? I just say you do everything. I'm not sure if you're going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one.

I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to see the next one. I'm going to bigger and better things. She's the call screener at Love Line. Well, not better. Lateral move. Lateral move. What am I insulting myself? Small room. But now, what'd you say?

She has a smaller room now. She does a small room. But she has her own room, which you do not. No, I don't. She has her own office. I share. I know. My back to everything.

Well, I love that you guys. So Lindsay, okay, so I met Lindsay. She was my intern for a few months. And then, and then they were looking for call screener. I was like, oh my god, Lindsay's amazing. You love her. And then she's been here and it's like her whole life is well I think it changed in Vegas we're going to get to that in a minute I did take her on a field trip to Vegas

but the two of you came together and you started a podcast the pretty odd cast the pretty odd cast yeah congratulations BTW starting podcasts so it's so fun and exhilarating you just say whatever whatever the hell you've been wanting to say your whole life out loud. Yeah, I suppose we can say whatever we want. Yeah, so tell me about your podcast. How did you come up with this? Is your examining subcultures? Mike and Drew, also from Loveline, were made fun of both of us individually for liking the Renaissance fare. And cosplay in general and they were they were given at a pretty hard time on their podcast and I came in and defended it and the same thing happened to Lindsay later we

just came in defending one of us. So we were nerds and how can we be into something where people just dress up and act to pool. You're really because you truly both of you like separate. We're like I love the Renaissance Fair and you're like me too high five let's go is that how it works? I've actually never been run Roon talked about it quite a bit. Okay. Let's check it out. Like I like to dress up by like cosplay. And we went and we had a really good time. So cosplay. Okay. So that's like the thing now. So it's dressing. How do you explain cosplay? Uh, cosplay. It would be dressing up, maybe as actually you used to be like a lot of anime stuff but now yeah I can be can be superhero heroes I think you could even consider the furries the people dress up as animals as doing some form of cosplay but when you say you're

into it you go home and you put on a furry bear costume or like when you go out and I you just I wasn't into the furries but like Halloween was always a great you're not into the furries. I wasn't into the phrase. She actually was a pet smart too. She likes to. I want a I want a furry costume. I got a problem. Not yet. They cost four grand.

Yeah. No, they don't. Yeah, that's what this girl told me. Okay, so is that even yeah, before I move on cosplay? Is that costume play? Is that what the cause is exactly? Yeah, yeah, I hear it cost

around band about all the time. I talk about it all the time. So I my mind, of course, goes to sex. Well, yeah, sexual like, do dress up like in tight sexy. Hell yeah, that's the thing. Is that what yours are? Um, well, I mean, my Hollywood costumes are pretty cute. I'm so going to check a little video where we have the show, but, but do you dress all sexy? And well, yeah, my costumes are probably a little tighter fitting. I won't feel good. Hi, look.

I'm not going to wear a floppy costume. So if you give your warrant during sex. During sex? I mean, I've done like the laundry type play. That's not fun. I mean, that's not real costume. Okay. But it's not every day.

I'm just up and stuff. Yeah. Okay, got it. So you guys are more than to larping? No. No, you're right. No, it's what we explain what larping is to the audience at home. Defended the culture.

Larping is a live-action roleplay. Basically, these people make characters, they make stories, they dress up, some dress up, some don't. But they make these stories and these characters that are really in-depth, and then they make dramas and like... So it's like you pay to go to a larping show? You don't pay to go to a larp, you create one with like a little community it's not usually something like is it a party like I'm having a larping party closer to a party than a

spectator event yeah got it got it and then you went to a larp yeah so we were we were defending these weirdos and we decided to go to a larp I guess and then we decided to do a podcast about that and they decided to find more weirdos doing more weird stuff with their weird times. So that's the premise is we find people doing weird stuff or alternative lifestyle. Alternative lifestyle is a better way to say it. We know judgment, right? We can't judge. I say weird as a neutral word. I think alternative is your great word because I guess I just don't judge. If you're like are you ever surprised about anything you hear? I'm like no. Well, I can say weird with affection. Weird with love and affection because you're curious about it.

But it doesn't sound good to me. So you're trying to, no, I can say weird with affection. Weird with love and affection. Because you're curious about it. Or weird with this thing. So you're trying it. No, I'm just saying. I'm PC, yeah, San Francisco. No, so it's cool. So I get it. Most people listening, you're being like,

that's freaking weird. So I get it. So then you start a podcast and then what so far, you went larping. What happened? Did you larp? We explored larp. Lindsay, you've been larp.

I learned something to it. I larped. I made myself a character I was like a wolf girl my name was red Renee and who did you larp with? So I found this group of people who have been playing these larp games for like 30 years and Got in contact with them and they let us come over to their backyard and like get in the backyard Like they're having like hot dogs and stuff like that I was stuffing some cookies down. And where did it in LA? They had a magic key. I was in Long Beach.

Magic is two. And they're like, hey, coming for the larp. What were your names? You should make up a name there. Well, we're in one play who's being kind of lame. I was red and angry. I'm so rude. He's too cool to larp. Yeah, I'm right. I'm just going from afar and also I'm too cool to larp. I was like a merging girl. This is so larpy. You can see you're being like, I'm just gonna fucking larp. Bring it. Yeah, right. Come on. If I'm gonna sit there for hours, it wasn't a play. So you see you're being like, I'm just gonna fucking larp, bring it. Yeah, right. Yeah, one. If I'm gonna sit there for hours,

it wasn't playing. So you got into the role play, but nothing is not sexual at all. People are not going for fun. It's like playing, it's like playing charades. In fact, there was a no touching rule. Oh, wow. I think this is what people do instead of sex.

Like usually have a party and people end up breaking off and having sex. I'm like, no, we're gonna do this larp where for sure no one has sex. Like the new picture, or something? I mean, really? Well, like people came up to me and they're like, oh, you know, why are you here?

Oh, you're selling things? Where did you come from? Because I was supposed to like a merchant character. And I had like this bag of, so while the night, it's not like it's a beginning to end, you just everyone adopts a character and they talk to you as that character's the night. Right. Well, it's not even for the night.

It's for like, they played a game for seven years where they were the same characters. So it came in as like a new character. I was just like, just like walking into a new school. I was like the new girl at school who showed up one day except that was the new girl and someone's back yard. And then we were just set there strangey like drinking a beer in the background or something.

No, he wasn't drinking a beer. There was no alcohol out, but um, he was setting there eating pizza. You need to be drunk and then I'd be into the character thing. Once he had to be initiated by the queen of the large queen of the stronghold. I think we should do next. Have you guys heard about this?

This is what you should do. You should find dates on this tinder coddling. It's called codler. It's a new app on Tinder. So it says, and I have to talk about this because it just reminded that you guys could totally find it. Like go on this app and find someone to cuddle with and then talk about it. That was interesting.

But it's freaking crazy because if you guys have abandoned dating apps like Tinder or things like, okay, Cupid, because it doesn't everyone say everyone, you're a Tinder, it's a hookup app. I'm like, it doesn't have to be if you don't want to hook up. But they're like, this is g-rated, people can just get together and say, I just want to cuddle, you know, instead of receiving like a barrage of dick photos, you get I don't know like someone's arms are popping up. You're my strong arms. I don't know, like you log into the app, it links up with your Facebook profile, start

browsing from nearby cuddle partners. And the app is so convinced that users are using it for platonic purposes. It actually omits agent gender in the profile. Oh, which is 20 years old, which means that people make, I'm gonna panel my five year old, that's not good. I mean, I think this could be dangerous. I think this app is going to last until the first guy tells someone else that he had sex through it,

and then it'll be a day, and it'll be over with, it'll be crashed by men. Exactly, it's gonna be done. It says, the guy who invented it said, oh yeah, came to the realization that people need an app like this, because we need touch, and we need cuddling in our day to day lives. Which is so true.

I actually have to read you a quote that I was a stir cry. Listen to Howard Stern like every day and he, you know, I'm not going to find it in this moment, but he was so funny because he was talking about it last night on a show. And he was talking about, uh, about cuddling and what he said was because the truth is, like, there was a study that I read in when I was in Hold on, I'm gonna find this really quickly. There was a study that I read it was a

book on gonna find this fucking I can't find it. Okay, so it's talked about a study that a scientist did with these bunny rabbits and It was and and they took two bunny rabbits and the bunny rap what some bunny rabbits were held and you'll like We're fond of Lindsay's a pet person dog animal for everything I like bunnies. Okay, you like you like bunnies good I mean it was the bunnies that every three times they they'd go in and they'd like hug the bunnies And then the other set of bunnies didn't get touched for the same amount of time and then those bunnies got all like behavioral problems And we're like eating each other, but they're like bunnies Much much sweeter. We better get cuddled ruined and we're eating each other. But the like, Bonnie's in her love. Much, much sweeter.

We better get cuddled, Roon, and we might start eating people. I'm serious. So I think you should do the app, but I have to, I thought this was very true because I actually love cuddling, and I have to be honest, like, there's some times where I'm like, I mean, I don't want to cuddle with this range. Right? But isn't there lots of times that you just want to cuddle

because you don't want to sex be. You just want to cuddle, but it's really hard for women because guys are like, they get hard, and then they save their penis against you. Like, I just want to cuddle right? Yeah. The hard for women because guys are like they get hard and then they take their penis against you. Like, I just want to cut right. Yeah. The piece is driving you back. Is that what happens? Yeah. Yeah. Guys don't want to cuddle. Cuddling. This is how it turns out. Cuddling was invented when one person wanted to have sex and the other person didn't. That's exactly. I don't know. It's not that profound, but that's I thought it was funny because it's kind of true. Like

no guy was over like, I assume it was like, the honey, let's just cuddle. We're just hold you, babe. Yeah, right. Because they get close, you're gonna get a boner, you know. Yeah, you only do that with it. So you guys could do, you could do the cuddle app next. But tonight, we're also gonna talk about, because I'm wanting your more about your latest experience,

which I was terrified by your Instagram photo. They do. They've really branched out. And so tonight I just want to talk about sharing their experiences but also we all get sex, sex, I think I say a sex, like I like fumble and like sex, sex, sex. We all get stuck in sexual rights, okay? It's, it's, I feel like people are so surprised when this happens but I usually have hundreds of emails a day, listeners, literally you knew see them, Facebook, feedback, they're like, I don't know what happened. We've been here three years.

We moved into that. We know longer have sex. It's not that good. And every day people, if you think you're the only one suffering from this. And here's the deal. It's going to happen. It's biology after about a year, year and a half to two years with someone and you're lucky if it lasts longer, you're going to have to mix things up.

It's just like exercise. You don't do the same exercise every day. You don't have chicken pie for dinner every night, and you don't have sex, missionary style every position. So now when I say kink here, because we're gonna get into some crazy kinky shit that Lindsay and Roondead, which I just, I don't even know what happened,

but they went to some crazy club we're gonna talk about. But, and I'm not saying you have to build a dungeon in your house, but I am gonna give you some tips just that like one little thing you can do in your sex life, does one little move, once a month. I'm telling you, it will make dungeon in your house, but I am going to give you some tips just that like one little thing you can do in your sex life does one little move once a month. I'm telling you it will make a world of difference and it can reignite that spark that you are complaining about has dimmed. So I get an email from Roan a few weeks ago and he's like, hey Lindsey and I want to like can you hook up with some sex clubs in LA, we want to go to like a sex club. And so I know happened to news,

some of the whatever people like them. I've actually been in LA. San Francisco, I was into it, but here I just have been really busy. Anyway, I sent you some names, and that's all I know. And then you said to me, should I tell them that I'm coming as a like investigative or should I just play like I said, just no, just go in in Cognito

and then talk about it. It'll be great. But I don't know where you end up. All I saw is that you had some wounds. Tell me what happened. We did not go in Cognito. Are you told you were there for research? Yeah, yeah.

There were some other clubs with some stricter looking guidelines that I thought we might have to incognito if we wanted to go to them. And maybe we will. And we won't say who they are so they don't know where it comes from. Yeah, don't know. But yeah, with the threshold, which is a club in North Hollywood, contacted their board about five people had a long discussion about whether or not

we would bring this, you know, shame to their club if we stepped inside. That was a big deal. I was coming with a really big deal. I'm sure. You'd like talk to them on the phone. Like you'll meet with them. No, it was all emails back and forth

from a ton of different people. Just, it came down to, we weren't allowed to use names, and they were gonna post a sign that there's gonna be media present and we had to sign a Oh my god, you guys non-disclosure agreement. Yeah, I would just but it worked out well because we were in I get a lot of information. Okay, see we were willing to talk. Yeah, so you go in okay So it's it's threshold and is it it's a private club, right, but you could apply, and it's BDSM? Yes. Okay. It's actually a nonprofit.

Let's promote, to promote, like people learning about the lifestyle, basically. Yeah, exactly. And when you say the lifestyle, you mean BDSM, so it's not like a BDSM, or is it's like, just like getting into like bondage, discipline, say, don't maskism, which is, if you don't know what it is.

Okay, so. Classes, several classes, we you don't know what it is. Okay, so. Classes, several classes. That's great. They used to have a place in San Francisco. It's great, like rope time. Yeah, like a spanking 101, which to be honest, who does like to be spanked?

I like being spanked. Girls like being spanked. Not all of them. But and there's a way to do it. Like if you spank them once wrong, it's gonna hurt, but there's like a upward motion. Like, you don't take a 101 class. It feels good, whatever. So you win in, but this's like a upward motion. Like, you'll take a 101 class. It feels good, it would hurt.

So you win in, but this was not class night. This was party night, right? Well, we went to an orientation first, which was closed on orientation. BDSM 101. Not just orientation. Okay. You have to go to the orientation to be a member of the club.

And then we went to a party. That Saturday night. Saturday night, which we are. Market, I wore a black t-shirt and dark jeans. Okay. Got it. So you'd blend right into the darkness. No, they said to wear it. If you don't know what to do, wear black. Right. That's what I do all the time. That was pretty much me too. I just wore a type sexy. Yeah. Type black tank top and some black heels, jeans. Nice. Okay. So you go into the party. We weren't we didn't look like we're going to a BDSM club. I wanted to wear a dog collar, but I was a little nervous. I have a few. I mean,

I have dogs. I got spikes. I was like, I can clean this up, but at the same time, you're like, let me just season to it. Yeah, I don't want them to just grab me by the collar. Okay. So you walk into the party. What's it like? Is it a house, a restaurant, a... It looks like an converted warehouse. Um, that makes sense totally, of course. Nice high ceiling. And the ceiling's, yeah, I don't even know why I didn't say that first. Okay, yeah, you can go in. And fire extinguishers on hand.

Music? Yeah, music, it was low lit. You know, of course, had the leather top tables and chairs to tie you to and like sideways crosses to, you know, bind hands and listen. Right. And what was the crowd like? Diverse, very diverse. Yeah. Okay.

Of all ages, sizes, age, ages. Yeah, all ages. What was the median age? Oh, 30s. Yeah, like 30s, for median. And were there couples or were there singles? About 50% we, the people we talked to said it was usually about 50% came with a partner. Okay. Someone they've been, okay.

And then was it any organized like, no, we're going to go paddle or not. I was just kind of like play with our play party. It was a play party. It was a one big main room where anyone could play, you know, you could watch people playing, you know, just be respectful. Don't jump in between them without asking. And no solo masturbation. No, me, no, no, no.. No, me no, no, no.

No, no, no. No, no, no. I was emphasized. And then off of the main hall, there was like a, after the main room, there was a long hallway with like eight smaller rooms that were set up with different themes. There was like an older style classroom. There's like a spider room, a medical room. Oh, right.

So you could play out different scenarios. Yeah. So you've been seen and you were able, you're actually a lot room. Oh, right. So you could play out different scenarios. Yeah, so you could just have been scenes. And you were able, you are just a dirty bathroom, right? No, dirty bathroom. Oh, they had that, they had that at kink.com, and Samusko had a, like it looked like a truck stop bathroom. Oh, but they had all the other things you said at medical.

Is it a glory hole? Yeah. And for a good time call? Yeah, and a jail and all that. OK, but exactly. So did a jail and a thrown room? OK, so you go in and you start, it gives your alcohol?

No, this is a non-drinking cup. Oh, geez, okay, so then no alcohol and you just walk around and start talking to people or do you walk up? What was the first thing you saw? What was the first thing I saw was a lady strapped to a bench with her shirt off being whipped on the chest. With what?

I think like either a belt or a woman. Do you know the difference? Was it a, was it a, was it a flogger was not that moment then I was just saying uh whoa boobs whips y'all there's a lot of boobs out that was like the first shopping thing was like and did it look painful like with the women like oh or was it softer was there feathers too and what was it I would say I mean so you did hear I mean especially as it got later like you were hearing

like people getting slapped, people crying out, like, moans, it was just like sex everywhere. Well, people having sex, though. They weren't allowed to have sex at this party. Okay, because that's hard, because, because get it, it turns you on a lot. So everyone went home and had great, it's great for fun. I'm sure. Yeah. No oral to genital and no genital to genital contact.

And it was mostly heterosexual couples or was it both? It was both. Okay. Yeah, I mean we didn't see any male on male but we saw a lot of female on female. Okay, and what did you learn? What was what was what was what was what we learned all about the toys? I'm like like they took you around or like this the flutter with leather. This is the path of to what did you like what did you learn kind of? I don't mean.

Oh no, well they were showing us the paddling they were talking about Not wanting to hit people along the spine. You know not wanting to hit the top of your butt because it could be more sensitive Right kind of hitting below the cheek You know you gotta give the cheek Yeah, you kind of like slapping it up They talked about starting soft and then working up in intensity so that way your body's like adjusting It's not exactly getting a shock. You have to work up.

I thought it was really interesting too. They talked about something called aftercare. And it was like after you guys are done, with your play that you've seen, or you're seen as they called it. You sat there with your partner and you're almost comforted them because they talk about how you get kind of a high

from your endorphins. And it's, you know, you come down and you're kind of out of it. So it's important to like sit there and make sure you're okay after it. Absolutely. That's, that's one of the main tenets of it. And then also say forwards, I'm sure they tap on that. Yeah. And then did you participate? We participated, participated a little bit.

Rune Morseau than I. I just got some paddling and flogging by one of the board members. Okay. How did you like it? I liked it. Had you been paddled before? I mean, I've been spanked by my partners the board members. Okay. How did you like it? I liked it. Had you been paddled before? I mean, I've been spanked by my partners with like a bare hands doing.

Yeah, I was doing. But this guy, I'm just kidding. But, um, you know, you know, you can use an upward motion. I'm kidding, I don't know her boyfriend, but, but did he? Did he strike the bottom? No, see, he had to do this. He did. That's the thing is, yeah, he, he started light, you know, he smacked under my bottom.

Okay. This guy, you know, he had different paddles. We turned on. I got spayed by a Bible. Oh, I was there. I turned on. Flogged. He had like this rattle type tool. Look like a spur that you might use when you're on a horse.

And it was pokey. And like, he rolled it across my skin. Like, it felt kind of good. It made ruin it. Um, I returned on, but not because of the guy. It was more about how it made you feel. Because it was kind of how it made me feel It was just it felt good

It right like because it's also like your butt like it's also close to your general right kind of jiggles Everything at all. It's not like you're in your butt like you're you're you're all those things You're your clitoris. You're your labia. Like it's all shaken together. It's not connected right. Yeah, it's turned out Yeah, okay, let'sanked my butt. She did I think yeah with the Bible the Bible Bible Bible yeah Cited a fight Bible so alternative my grandma's rolling over in a grave But I know enjoy the I mean I'm Jewish, but this doesn't sound good Well, he was the guy showing us this stuff

And he also had I thought it's creative a paddle he'd constructed out of CDs He didn't listen to anymore. So you just had a stack glued together on a stick. People have so much time on their hands. No, but really, people were into it and make their own things. Okay, so room, what happened to you? Because I thought it looked like you were like a burn victim or something. I did a scene. I did a SNM scene.

Public, you didn't, a scene. A scene. That's what they call it when you, you kind of sign up for a room and you go in and you do a scene. But who did you do the scene with? Lady Shiva one of the the board members of the okay great? So she knew what she was doing. Yeah, and what happened expert? I went in I went to the the heron room where they actually have stocks So you can put people in the stocks and then auction them off to other people

But the stocks were a little broken so I just leaned on it. I had my shirt off on the lead under what on the stock but the stocks are a little broken. So I just leaned on it. I had my shirt off. On the lead under what? On the stocks. On the top of the stock. Like if you imagine it's like a wooden frame and you would lock someone's head and arms inside of it. Like the old time you remember like in that medieval time. Yeah, yeah, totally. I got it. Yeah, I know it's not. Yeah, I got it. Couldn't my brain. Fire slowly sometimes. Believe it or not. Yeah. So you let she lock you in or but you're leaning up against it. Yeah. So you're not, you're just like on a, like a 90 degree, 45 degree.

Probably 45 degree. That's how we know. 45 lean on. I meant 45. Standing up with something to lean on. Okay, got your hands are up. Yep. Is your black shirt taken off?

Yeah, I took my shirt off. Okay. So you rock in the sexy black jeans. Yeah, I thought that was a good look. Thank you. Someone else made fun of me for that look. Who made fun of you? I think it was the after-no, actually I was standing outside the room with some girl. We were kind of biting our nails and watching. Okay, so what happened? So did she warm you up?

She showed me all her weaponry. All her effulments. Yeah, she crops her whips, her flails. She tracked it or you not attracted to her her? She was I don't want to guess an age on Okay, it doesn't matter what you attract her doesn't matter. Hold she is but she was she was not Uncertainly Um, yeah, she had a baseball bat on aluminum like child's t-ball bat painted pink Cherry yeah, were you nervous? Not one no no, not once. Not once we'd arranged it.

Okay, so what happened? So your arms are up? Yeah, and she hit me with stuff. Like first you have your hands. Because your back, no. What's your Instagram? Runekincade. At Runekincade, R-H-U-N-E-K-I-N-C-A-I-D.

And there's like scratches and welts it looked like yeah, well she started with her hands She'd kind of rub like a massage and then bat with a closed cupped hand kind of and she'd scratch The kernel those were scratch marks. Did it hurt? Yes Yes, but did okay in her and we you did but what was any part of you aroused? No, I it was a no but not a no, but not a boner moment. Not a boner moment. You're like, it was just like a painful, but like I need my bang game moment.

Oh, what? Oh, I need bang games. I don't know. Isn't that for your muscle? Yeah, I see hot. Yeah. Didn't think of that. Um, was it more like in the name of art?

This is gonna be a great story. Is that really? My podcast is gonna be a lot more fun. I was determined because Lindsay didn't want to do a scene with anyone or get a room. That's not true. Lindsay didn't do a scene with anyone or get a room. I thought she got spanked.

I got spanked. Mr. Crazy Cast or what I mean. I didn't get crazy sexual. I had a few people I was eyeballing, I won't lie, but they were busy. So I didn't go on to it. They want to take in your ass, sweet ass, anytime though, even if they're busy.

But so, Ruins, how long did this whipping session go on? You got an introductory spank on the pants. I got whips on bear flesh. The whole thing? Yeah. How long were you there before? Because that looks serious. I was like I was going to bring you some I was going to bring you some new sporn today

like called hospitals and bandages. I think I kind of lost track of time. It felt like maybe 10 minutes to me. I mean you weren't miserable. No. Because you said on the podcast that you enjoyed it some. Yeah, it was relaxing. It was relaxing really and not more relaxing than painful or after a while. You because a lot of people's you know, they it is it's connected. You feel like I can't imagine that being beaten or whatever. But there it is very similar pain and pleasure are very closely linked. And that's what they were talking about.

Emotionally and physically. And so it's the same kind of endorphins. It's the same kind of thing that can easily transfer it for some people. And it's not for everybody, which is what I'm going to get into in a minute is about how to bring this stuff into your sex life. Not necessarily. You don't have to be scratched down by a woman at a club, but other things you could do. But we're going to get to that in a minute. But you were a little done, you don't have to be scratched down by a woman at a club, but other things you could do. But we're going to get to that in the minute, but you were a little done, you know, it was

painful, but it only lasts for seconds. The whips and crops and canes and flails and flogs and all that. You go back and do it or this is purely a, well, this, it's like the snap lasts for a second, but then it kind of, it just kind of, I don't know, it clears your brain out a whole lot. I know it does. It totally resets you. I mean, I, you know, I've had my fair share. I was the guy who's really into spanking again.

I, and I, I think, I mean, a granted, it's not like I need to be spanked every time, but I feel like a lot of women, Anderson, before your wife, do you have a spank of woman? He's chilling. I'm a spanked. You've spanked? I don't know a woman who doesn't have a little sister, so I had to spank them all the time. No, you don't even like an aggressive way, but there's something about it feels, I don't know, it's good. It's like naughty and it really does get your things jiggling around. But when we get back, we're going to give you some more

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Roon, okay. Not like you. Roon was like Emily. Do you do candle? Do you candle? Because I've given everyone here at Love Line Candles. They're the amazing massage candles that smell great and massage partner. Anyway, I was like Emily, do you do candle? Do you candle? Because I've given everyone here at Loveline Candles. They're the amazing massage candles that smell great and the massage partner. Anyway, I was like, sure, is it can I get like,

like a Fuji Air or something? I'm like, yeah, and I gave one. You said it was for someone else or for you? For someone, you made some love. It was gonna be, but you gave me Lindsay's favorite flavor. I know, but then he said to me, oh, it was actually for Lindsay, she didn't want to ask you. Why wouldn't you ask me for a candle?

Because you'd already given me like three of them. I felt a little bad. Yeah, but you're like, I love you. I love you. You go to your family. You want candles like if you can't I was like I'm like why would you not know so amazing which is your favorite the fuzzer. I know I love that's actually about it's hard to explain. Yeah, I love it coconut and vanilla, but it's like we thought that it's more musky I just I love the fuzzer as well. It's awesome. So okay, so let's talk about some kink. Okay guys. And so pretty oddcast. You got to check it out. Roon and Lindsey's podcast. Get iTunes. Yeah. From our cast.com. Yeah.

So they're gonna start doing a lot. Is all your stuff gonna be sex and alternative stuff? No, it's not all sex, but we'll probably visit it a few times in a few different ways. Okay, I've got some ideas for you too. And I'm actually doing some stuff that you guys we could do together. Oh, nice. I have sex. It was a three-some actually ruined. This was my way to ask you to breathe in with me. I'm so excited. Really? Yeah. You want to have one? Let's do it. Okay, we'll talk about it. Three. Okay, I'll see. I'll see. I have that. And you can come too. I understand. We can have a four-some. Hmm. Is anyone listening? Okay, listen. So what I'm saying earlier is that people all time, they're bored with their sex life, what the hell do I do? And a lot of times here's the dilemma.

It's that I get emails from male listeners or female, not discriminating. They're like, my partner, you know, my husband, I really want to try something different and I keep talking about watching porn together and he says, no, nothing more fine or vice versa. And that's a problem because if you're in a relationship where you want to try something in your partner's completely shut down, it feels like a dead end. It feels like you're like, I don't know how I'm going to get my partner to open up to this is something I really want. And when someone just says no, I'm shut down,

just like all those couples are like, I want to go to therapy, she won't. It's like it's hard to convince your partner. So the thing is, you got to work into it. So it's not like you're going to come home with like some whips and chains and stuff, but it starts with conversation. And it starts with you got to figure out

the way to get your partner to start talking about the stuff. Because if you just say, I want to spiced it up, I want every three some with your hot friend, which you should never say, by the way, or I want you to watch, or that kind of sounds like a demand. And if it's something outside her box or his box, they're gonna completely shut down and say no.

Because I think mostly what we're talking about here about being kinky and spicing up is just about being outside your box. Because a lot of people, missionary, doggy style, we do this, we do that, fall asleep, watch sports center, whatever guys do. But there are so many different variations. We'll talk about these.

I always try to mix the sports center in. Do you? You're one of those guys. I know it. So, so if your partner is, you know, a little like, I'm going to give you some tips here. So first of all, what is kinky sex? And the definite definition, it definitely varies on who you're talking to. Like, how would you guys describe kinky sex?

I think it's anything outside of missionary or you know just kind of basic going at it. You know it's kind of pushing limits pushing limits. Yeah. I liked when you had that lady and she had the flogger with the metal ball. Oh, she was that was such a great show. What was her name? She was a bondessage. Yeah, bondessage.

That was a great show. Everyone check it out bondessage. Even in your book talking about using just like a feather or like a strontopurus. Exactly. It's just so little. Different sensations. You blindfold your partner. We'll get, and I, well, first of all, or a baseball bat.

It goes up and down. No, baseball bats are like that. What would you define kinky? Yeah, extra ordinary and a little different. A little different, a little of that. I don't think like, as, when we were, we at the club they, you know, described us, you know, it doesn't take much to really define something as kinky.

Right, it does not be scary either. No, it does not come on. That's what I want to talk about. Go back to the father thing. So I always say, OK, if you're partner, what if you just say to your partner who isn't agreeing to try something kinky, this is what you do to ease into it. This is my perfect scenario.

You say, honey, I want to give you a massage tonight. It's all about you. I want to relax you. Because first of all, the reason why massage works is, and guys have been using this for years. Did you guys in high school Lindsay or like, can I give you a massage? Only one, but it was only feet. It was really weird.

He's a weird guy. He always wanted to touch my feet. I had this guy. He was helping with my math, so I let him do it, but he gave me a backup and then he like to the little side boob. I was a senior or whatever, and I let him do the side boob because he was finishing my math for me. But now, but guys always have been like, I'll give you a massage.

But the truth about massage is that one of the biggest killers of all of our sex drives is stress and anxiety and we come home from work. You move in for a while, you're no longer in that ripping, you know, you know, when you just first ate something you've sex like every time you eat each other three times. Absolutely, yeah, okay. And then after a while you're like, you make a turkey sandwich, you watch TV, you know, you don't get around to sex. So I want to give you a massage,

because so much stress is a huge killer. You come home of it, so you're like, you set the atmosphere, it can just be a candle. And that's why again, I wasn't, people think I over, I've changed my ways and not trying to overpog my candle, but it is a massage candle. It's amazing.

And it just smells like people are obsessed with it. It just, you can just light it up. It looks like a regular candle. Like I gave it to my friend, she said, can I open it in front of my six year old? I'm like, it's a freaking candle, I'm gonna buy it later. I mean, really, they're beautiful candles from France and they're all vegan, except for the beeswax part.

And it burns, it burns cooler than wax. And it turns into oil, like lovely warm massage oil. Not hot, not waxy. You're gonna burn your partner, it's not sticky. And it smells amazing. So it's like growing with air. And again, you can, you don't have to use a massage candle. You could use a massage roll.

Light candles and use just regular massage roll. But I'm saying. Or use a regular candle. There's wax play. There is wax play, but I would not recommend that. Cause regular candles hurt. Take a class first. Take a class first at the threshold.

But yeah, so whatever you're using, and then you just, you pour, if you're using the candle you poured on your partner and You just say you know you place in music and you start resaging them and you would be like I don't know I'm a massage Just I'm telling you if you rub oil on someone's body It's gonna fucking feel good on the back And then you can flip them over and you could say you know what I want to blindfold you. I have a surprise for you and

It doesn't have to be a fancy blindfold. It can be a necktie It can be a scarf and you blindfold them. Okay. I'm just going to use a male, for example. Okay, so Lindsay's with Roon, they're not a couple yet. Oh, just kidding. So, and then, and then, and then, Roon comes home, we stress, he's like those love, and you'll androcym is driving crazy, Emily just kept talking all night, whatever, and he comes home, he's really stressed. I'm just pretending hypothetically, and she's like, I'm going to give you a massage.

She gives you a massage, and then she's like, wait, I got a little surprise for you. I said, it's not like weird or whatever, and you know, and she gets, she's like, I'm in a blindfolded, you've got something. Now, some guys might be freaked out by blindfolds, but I think you should just go with this. Or girls are too, but it's, if you're with someone you trust. So you leave the room and you come back and you're going to get a bowl of ice cubes. You're going to have a feather. And what else do we have, like, those balls? Yeah, like maybe just a necklace.

Yeah, a necklace or a string of pearls or just a necklace. A little chain, a light chain. And then the great thing about Psyflip Mover, the great thing about blindfolding someone is that the second you take away one sensation, like one sense, like you're blind, everything else becomes a sense of it. So you're hearing, you're scent, you're taste.

So automatically, you're feeling more intensity. You don't realize it, but you're blocking out your eyesight. So then the next thing you could do is, you could already pour the warm oil on it, and then you mix, and you put an ice cube in your mouth, pretend you guys are together, and you put that ice cube in your mouth, and they don't see the thing is they don't know what's coming,

and you turn your teeth, and you like slowly drip it down, and like you rub it down as chest. Right. Turn them on a little bit, maybe you get just right to the part where you're gonna, you know, whatever, and you just go back up again again because you're teasing, right? Teasing is another thing that goes away in long-term relationships. He was like, what do you mean teas or the anticipation that the bill, the bill, that is also,

especially for many women, I think we need to be turned on. I think so. Now we're turning ruin on. Whoever it is. And then after that, he's like, oh, it's cold and then you could go back to the, you know, the hot, the wax and then you could take like, yes, a feather and just start tickling them like around his face, their kiss him, like kisses. And this is all just, I mean, that's not too kinky crazy, but it's kind of sexy and hot, right? I mean, you don't know what's coming. It's fun. It's because of massage. And then you whip off the blindfold and you have great sex. But it's a great way just to get you out of your head.

And into your body and it's exciting and thrilling because you're what do you think? Have you done anything like that? Yeah, I've done it a little bit. I think it's bonding too because you don't know what's coming. You know, I was bonding. No, yeah, yeah. Oh, bonding with a couple. I was bond with your partner. Absolutely.

Because you don't know what's coming and then once you get through it, you're like, oh wow, like that was nice. I didn't know what they were going to do, but it turned great or I liked it, or it didn't turn out great, but we talked about it and now we're closer for it. Exactly, and it was just something different and it felt good and it wasn't too threatening. How do you feel about your massage? I don't think I trust Lindsay or the blindfold. No. She's a little wild.

She's kind of wild. She gets a wild girl. And angry. And she's still mad. You made her angry. I don't think she's angry. No, I think if she's a bar fighter. I'm a bar fighter.

Yeah, you want to start bar fights. I do. No, not me, I'm peaceful. I don't know. I gotta go think she's angry. No, if you're just a bar fighter. A bar fighter. And there you are. Yeah, you want to start bar fights. I do. No, not me. I'm peaceful. I don't know. I got to go out and party with you guys, because I hear these things.

But some other things, again, that aren't like so, like, if you don't have to build a dungeon, is you don't bring a vibrator into the bedroom? I've taught you just your first show. You'll be surprised to know maybe you're not that I, I're not. I'm a huge fan of sex toys. Not just for women, but for men. Have I given you a vibrator yet? I give you a cock ring, no? Yeah, you did. Did you use it? No. Dude. Sorry. Okay. Lindsay, why not for your... Oh my gosh, I got so many toys. How many? What was your favorite? I loved the awkward outfit. Is that what you're talking about?

The awkward vibe. Yeah. Because it, the one that was the little one. Oh, no, actually, I like the Mimi way better. Oh, the Mimi you. I gave you the Mimi. Yeah, well, you guys know that is my absolute favorite. You can get it at good vibes.com and use coupon code Emily or just you. We do go to sec the mme.com.

Click on Emily. The good vibes banner on all my favorite toys. I haven't taken the Mimi. Do you know that I didn't even know like they weren't my sponsor, nothing, they still aren't. I increased their sales by 54% last year. Did you just do that? I freaking love it. Because why?

Handheld vibrator. It's rechargeable. Yeah, it's rechargeable. I don't have to put batteries in it. It's really easy to clean. I can take it in a shower. Right. I take it anywhere.

Quiet, the street and great to use during intercourse. So women a lot of times need extra a clitoral stimulation room if you didn't know this I've heard and you can use it During sex because your penis might not be hitting her clitoris the right way and this way she'll make it double or it's not like it's taking away from you It's actually Bigger more pleasurable for her and men Like the vibrations too men think vibrations are only for women But I'm telling you put a little mini on your balls on a low thing. It's gonna feel good

My friend just confessed to doing that. He was telling me how he and his girlfriend love. Oh, can you get us one of those vibrators? We love it. Yeah, she holds it on my balls while we have sex. It feels great. Exactly. Not too, I know you gotta be careful with the balls, but a lot of guys, that's why the vibrating penis rings are great. There's one called the meal also by J.J. Oh, yeah. The meal cocking. It's a great one reusable, but then there's some by screaming, oh, which if you've never tried one, it's like $7. So I'm just thinking that they increase your chance also of the woman of orgasm during intercourse, which only 30% of women orgasm actually during penetration. And if you choose a position like doggie style, like or missionary with your legs over shoulders,

you can place the vibrate on your clitoris, plipusher, while you throw us in. Now that's not too crazy, but if you've never done it before, try it with your partner. You know, say, hey, I've got this toy. I'm telling you, I've never heard from a guy who's been like, we pulled out a toy, it was the worst day of my life. Like, no one ever says that idea. Okay, then spanking.

Okay, let's get into spanking since Lindsay's a pro now. There's something about it that makes you feel naughty. The girls like the little, I think it's because we're supposed to be good girls and we don't want to admit. Like this goes back to like archetypes, but we don't want to be least seem like we want sex. We're not about to be punished. We're not allowed to. We're bent over our lovers and the kind of like that scene. Do you guys ever seen Secretary? Maggie Gillingall and James Spader. Lindsay doesn't watch movies. I don't know either. What? Do you like my movie reference? Anderson. That was good one.

Thank you. If you decide to, you know, receive a little nice spank, be open to it. This can be letting you guys go feeling silly. So your hand can deliver hard slaps, like you guys learned. So I start slowly and alternate between butt cheeks. Did you guys learn that? You do. Check in with your partner to make sure you're both enjoying the experience.

And if you need to mix up the pressure, the best part is the padded part of the butt and the thighs. You don't want to injure someone and you want to go slow and you want to check in. But I'm telling you like, just trust you. I feel as if you're saying, you know, start lightly. And again, soft spanks don't go. Wow. If you've never spanked or before, you have to be careful to avoid the front,

front side of the thighs. Right. And the tailbone. That can be that can be really painful. Um, right. So spanking is fun. Take a course on it. Just do it slowly watch a video Also one of my favorite positions for couples Mutual masturbation. Have you guys ever done it? Mm-hmm. Yeah, okay? Because the thing about me to masturbation is No, I don't think I've done. Okay, so let me tell you why I mean so master station is so hot because that's that you've been

with them for a while. It's getting a board or maybe it's even new and you're like I don't have a microorganism or what does he like? You both masturbate naked obviously you're floating around and then you both touch yourself and you look at each other which is can be very hot to have them look at you plus you're giving them all the information they need

to know how you touch yourself. So like, I'm with guys. I'm like, oh, so he's, he's touching his balls or he's not. Or he's moving his hand up into it. Like, I kind of learned stuff. And then like with guys, they'll see, oh, she's rubbing her in circles or whatever it is.

You just learn and it's super hot. And then you have sex after. I think that might have been allowed at the threshold party we went to. No, hands were fine. They said you could know, but you could touch yourself. They said you could touch. If you guys agreed that you're comfortable to do that with each other, then yeah, I was totally okay. They didn't say no mountain general, no general. But then so penises were out. We actually didn't see me. We saw a lot of boobs

out. But we saw some vaginas. Yeah, we saw a lot of vagina. A lot of butts. A lot of butts. Nice vagina. Do you see a variation of a giant? I mean, they're all like snowflakes. So you're a good distance from exposed vagina when of a giant? I mean they're all like snowflakes so yeah You're a good distance from Exposed vagina when you're in the hallway in there in the room. So I don't want a judge Also, I didn't go close to some outside the room. I was completely spread her legs I felt a little bad would be I thought I went yeah, I went to a sex party once Everyone was just having sex everywhere and after I just like I'm just jumping over women Yeah, I felt after yeah, I was like super comfortable Yeah, I know I was an important, oh, I'm just jumping over. Women give me jobs. Yeah, I felt after a 30 minutes.

I was like super comfortable. Yeah, cool. And I was an important set once too. And I, not the one that I filmed the share, which I wasn't naked in, but two years ago, it turns out I was James Dean's first film. And I didn't even know he wasn't famous in obviously. So I didn't know.

But after a while, I was like, wow, I'm an important set. And then I was like, I'm on a porn set. 12 hours later, where he just come already, I'm like, it's a hungry. And like, you just get anything. Like, you get in there. And you're like, oh, it's exciting, but then it's whatever so role-playing another great way to to spice it up Like if you want to like dress dressing up women like feeling sexy and dressing up And don't you like if a woman did a strip piece for you? I do not ever every guy does some guys are pretty serious straight to business

But I do most guys are straight to business and I'm saying women like to feel sexy and cherished And so if she dresses up for you guys don't give a shit about linger I don't have to do a survey about this women it makes us feel sexier and Yes, we want you to notice it most time you don't but if you could just take a moment and be like oh, you look that's hot Yeah, I have noticed every single time a woman has worn lingerie for me. I absolutely notice you're a good man made comment Yeah, yeah, how is that so I know you've. I made comment. Yeah. Yeah. How is that? So I know you've gone through breakup. It's been like how long now? Seven months. Okay, you're good. You're like back to you. I'm good. I'm going to call

your cheeks. We were worried about you for a while. It's a sunburned, but okay. Have you, are you doing better since the breakup? Yeah. I feel like it was a good thing. I'm ready to get back to the day. Have you had sex yet? No. Okay. Sorry. And what's the best sex you've ever had in your life? Like, can do a moment in your life where you're like, wow, I always asked you this. Like, why was it? What was it? What made it? What was the most amazing sex you had? I don't know what it was, but it was a one night stand. Really? Fit in very nicely. Yeah. Exactly. You can never talk to again, obviously. What made it so great. It was like one thing that happened that night that made it so great.

Was she just so hot? Were you just so drunk? Did she do something? She gave you the best blowjob of your life? Like, what does that mean? It was like a five-night stand, but high and very high enthusiasm. A lot of passion. So she was just like into it. That was the into it, and this. Yeah, it is. That's the number one tip for blowjob women. And I don't even care if It was real or not right who cares Who cares is just facing it? You got to be enthusiastic

You're giving him a blowjob and you look like you'd you know, you're about to throw up But you'd rather be anywhere else on the planet. He's gonna know and he's not into it like Fakets you make it because blowjob I think they are I find them very enjoyable I think a lot of women have negative you can change it around if you don't enjoy it But what about you what about you're like best sex ever like is there like a night or something happening You're like wow that was a fun or that was they was memorable. I think I Didn't pin point on a specific night, but there have been instances and I think the biggest factor was just being really comfortable with the person I think that I was brought up in a way where sex was like really bad and I felt shameful even thinking about it.

So by the time I started doing it, I was just like super uncomfortable and I don't even feel like, I feel like maybe I haven't even like had a full orgasm at this point in my life. You haven't? Because I was just so ashamed of that point. You know, so now I feel like I've finally been having good sex in it because I'm comfortable. I mean, it hasn't been much recently but Because I'm busy lark band comfortable with my partner with comfortable with my partners and it makes like such a big deal It does knowing that it's okay to have sex and we're all doing it

Exactly I'm not too many events with no sex or no I know No, no, first thing I'm flask no, but it is true that a lot of young young women and all women of all ages But it's as you when you're in your 20s. You're both you women of all ages, but especially when you're in your 20s You're both you're not I heard today that you're not in your 20s. I'm out of my 20s I thought you were like 24 27 fairly out of my 20s barely But but it's true that younger women and men we don't have a lot of confidence We don't have a lot of experience actually. We're worried about like our body is he looking at my them?

I left food these big of my right is he like no he's happy He's having sex with you but we take a long time to get over that comfortable, but once we get comfortable with our bodies and we know what we need to get us turned on, it's freaking awesome. Yeah, let's speed that up, ladies. Yeah, I know, I'm trying, last week's show with Robin Anton, who's from the pussy gap dolls. We talked a lot about like self-esteem and how women can kind of get comfortable in their own bodies and men too. It was really good. So I think the avians really kind of made more credit for that. Oh my god. I want to talk to you about that.

Okay, so I gave the keynote at the avian awards this year in Las Vegas. It's the, uh, basically Oscar porn. It's a porn Oscar. It's a porn Oscar. Uh, and I gave the keynote. It's in Las Vegas and it was crazy. Like when women were getting like their vagina, flesh, like, vagina is molded in public. People are like, it was porn stars everywhere.

And Lindsay's like, before I knew it, it just started being my, or you were my intro for a few months. Yeah, she works at PetSmart, so it seems sort of innocent and just sweet. Yeah, I know that you're not, it's a six-sweet and she was freaking amazing, first of all. She went into it and she kicked Asher,

she sat at my booth all the time. She was just like the hardest worker and so amazing. But you also had a lot of fun. Oh, I had a great time. And I feel like you was like somehow transformational for you. I think it really was. Like it took me from person A to person B.

I completely changed. How could you explain that? Like I said, I was brought up where sex wasn't really something I was comfortable with. And I think in my relationships, I wasn't comfortable. So I kind of let everyone else do like the talking and the controlling.

And at the point going to the avians, I was recently out of a relationship which wasn't the best one and It was just all these people who I love do you? It was all these people who are really comfortable talking about sex comfortable with their bodies comfortable About talking about just pleasureing themselves, and I just realized you know, it's okay to want to feel good It's okay to have sex. No, they actually, they're like, I think they're kind of shocked, but at the same time, I'm a lot happier.

I'm so glad. You know, a lot more. That made me that slice. Why is it? I mean, I'm really changed my life. I love it. I love it. No, I'm glad.

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Comic-Cosy is a little more intimate. We already did Comic-Con with a cat show. A cat show. That was interesting. Cat show was awesome. Excuse me, please hold the doors. It's a cat loose. Oh my God, that's great.

You guys, okay, everyone can follow it. Pretty odd cast, fine. You win iTunes pretty odd cast.com and your Twitter is at pretty odd cast. Okay. Same on Facebook or Facebook. Like them. Be support new podcasters because we love them. One more thing I was gonna say though about like in your relationship because I kind of started this thought about people talking not being able to get their partner and I'm like well let's go home and put them down again massage but I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes the talking and the way you're talking about it doesn't really

work because they're just hearing I'm not pleasing you whatever so so there's these are the little things I'm saying that you can do to ease into it again like watching porn together you don't necessarily have to like have a whole conversation about it first, but there's a lot of like female friendly porn that like you both might like, and then if you're watching it together, you can talk about, oh, that turned me on, that turned, so that's another like way to use like a third party,

like so you don't have to actually talk about what you're fan, because I always tell couples like, talk about your fantasies, talk about what you desire, like, or if you've never talked about sex, like what was your favorite line of sex together, and then tell why, like get it talking. Like you've got to break that crack this code because people just get so shut down by the partner.

So again, watching porn could give you some erotic pleasure, right? And you can un-mine, relax. And if you're a guy gets excited about what he sees, you know, don't get jealous, I just put my blog this week for Patty Stanger at Patty knows is about what to do when your boyfriend's porn habit bothers you So I say just watch it together. Don't let it bother you Another thing I was gonna say is oh talking dirty. How do you guys feel about talking dirty? Love it? I like it. Do you know like right? It's awesome again. We're odd

That's another thing that turns us on it is sound Well, actually when we were at the BDSM club, we were getting like our little, you know, he was showing us around Cat Boogie was and he took us into the classroom and he started kind of role-playing with me. And like, he's like, sit down and then he's like, okay, go to that map and find this country. And then he starts counting down 10, 9. And like, he's speaking more intensely. And like, I'm starting to feel nervous. And then like, I managed to point it out right before he gets one and I sit down and he's like standing over me he's like good I was gonna have to discipline you. Oh my god. I know it's just like wow I don't know you but shit.

Okay. That's not right. Yeah right. See? You're the best. I think everyone go on you're never in the neighborhood got some kinky weird something kinky weird something going on. Go try.

So I think it's great you guys are doing that. And Anderson, what's up with you? What's up with your podcast this week in your life? You're tired? Are you paying attention now? I got a new cat, and it's freaking out. So I have to sleep in the room where it is. And it's waking me up. So it's very, because I wanted to cat.

Because cats are adorable. I do love cats. Relax with your cat love over there. Roon settle down. I like cats, but still. That's good. So, okay, what's in your pot? You don't want to talk about? No, no, no, film vault. Yeah, we did top five baseball movies because the old playoffs. They were mentioned them bad news bears. You know the guy who played Lucas and bad news bears. The little kid. Yeah, Lucas. He has the office next to me in my building.

Is he a porn star now? That'd be awesome. He's like, please tell me he uses bats on girls' butts. Yeah, he's like, do you mind, do you wear my office? No, you've been wearing my new, it's like, I've been to your office. He's like 50 something. He looks like a total hippie. I thought he was like a, but he's, he is. What's he do? PR. He looks drunk, but I think he's sober. Like one of those like drinks for so long that he always looks drunk. Even so, he's probably, and he comes around in his office. He's got all these celebrities. I don't know It's kind of PR and there's like pictures like look. I'm like, oh my god. You're a look. He's a bugger eating moron Yeah, it's kind of funny. So great everyone check out inner That's that was a quote from the bad news bearers. Okay, everyone settled down. He even quote it. Yeah, great great movie

I don't say the unword though Don't say the answer because you'd have to if you quoted the entire movie. Okay, there's some filthy way there. It's 70s different time. I'm dirt bull. Bull Durham. It was mentioned. Go.

I get a good episode. Film vaults. Check out his podcast. Check out pretty. I guess check out my podcast. Okay, everyone. Thank you, Roon and Lindsay. You guys are awesome. We do a little video here. So we can check you guys out. And yeah, thanks everyone.

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