Sex With Emily - How to LOVE the Penis

Episode Date: October 12, 2016

On today’s show Emily is joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, makers of Promescent. Together, Emily and Jeff traverse a wide range of male issues, mostly revolving around, you guessed it: the penis! Chances are, if you have a penis, you’ve had some sort of insecurity surrounding it. Whether it be size, stamina or something in between, Emily and Jeff team up to help you tackle those phallus-related anxieties and answer emails on your most pesky penis problems. No matter what you’ve got going on below the belt, this show is packed with useful information to help you have better, more confident sex, or in Jeff’s words, “f*ck like a porn star”. So grab your Promescent, settle in and have a listen! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. In today's show, we're talking about a wide range of male issues. I'm going to cut to the chase. It's mostly about your penis. You know, those pesky problems you have around its behavior. And to help, I'm joined by Jeff Abraham. He's a CEO, a promising and this is going to be a good one. Don't want to miss.

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So sexwithelmy.com slash DreamLube or click on the DreamLube banner on our website. Okay, enough of all that. Hello Jeff Abraham. I'm so glad you're here. Glad to be here. Thank you. I haven't seen you haven't been out in a while.

Two years ago. Close to two years. Okay, well it's time. It's time. Jeff is a CEO of Promesson. You guys, I've been talking about Promessing for three years on the show. Little over three. Little over three.

Wow, we're like old friends. Very old friends. I love this. I'm so glad to see you. It's so here. Because it's always fun. You've always had great shows. People love the shows.

So I'm glad you're here, and it's great that you're here for the penis show. Not only could you have one, and everyone else in the room does not. You've got Madison here and Jamie. But there's, you know, there's a lot to talk about. So we're going to get out with that. We got some Madison here. I'm Mike, pretty sure Madison. She's checking in.

And, okay Jeff, one of the top questions I get asked by men all the time. All the time. How do I last longer in bed? Or how do I have my, like, help to my partner last longer? Because we all want to have better sex. So I'm glad you're here to talk about it and you know, you're the man who brought

promising to the public and to my listeners. I'm the business side, sort of. So I know, I love it. So we're gonna get into your story if you don't, you guys have heard me talk about promising but it's the only FDA-approved treatment for premature ejaculation, which I know. But a lot of you are really, I don't have a baby.

You know, that's fine. We're also gonna talk about ED. We're gonna be talking But a lot of you are really, I don't have a PE. That's fine. We're also going to talk about ED. We're going to be talking about a lot of things after your penis today. So this is going to be a good one. But we'll get into more of that in a second. But first, we've got some sex in the news, which happens to also do with penises. Men satisfy with their penis size have more sex.

So while women face far more scrutiny about their appearance, men aren't immune from it. From small penis jokes to dadbots, there's plenty of body shaming out there to make men feel inadequate. Fortunately, in opposition to stereotypes, a new study says most men are completely happy with their genitals. That's surprising to you, Jeff. Yeah. Yeah, that's fine. There is so much of a stigma. You know, So many jokes about penis size. As soon as some woman's frustrated, it's like, oh, husband must have a small date.

You know what I mean? So maybe it is a little bit surprising that the majority of men are satisfied. So go on to the study here. Because I find this interesting. The study reports that 86% of American men are totally happy with the size and appearance of their penis and testicles. High five of American men are totally happy with the size and appearance of their penis antestacles.

High five to American men, like putting through all this stuff you go through, like I love that. And the 64% of nearly 4,000 men surveyed said they're highly satisfied with the shape of their nuthers and 61% were highly satisfied with the growth of their rec penis. So this was actually published in the archive of sexual behavior. And interestingly enough, men who report displeasure with their frankenbeens were less likely

to report being sexually active. So the study was self-reported, so it doesn't give a good idea of why to satisfy, and been more dissatisfied. But the vast majority of men were not like obsessed with their penis eyes, and like who like love their penis, their God-given penis, you know, they're having great sex. But I think it makes sense that when it says that men who were not satisfied have less sex, because obviously if you don't think your penis is adequate, you're not going to be as aggressive and you might not be as confident with women. So that does make sense. It does make sense. I mean, absolutely, because like, do you ever have, do you feel your feelings about your penis, Jeff, impacted your life, flex life? No, not really.

I've just always been in good relationships, you know, I think. I think you need a good relationship. I think you're saying good relationship with your penis. I also have a pretty good relationship with my penis, you know what I mean? I mean, I respected it. It certainly seems to work for me, you know? That's good. I've always been really big on communication.

And, you know, I'm not a porn star, but it seems to be adequate. It seems to get the job done. And I'm kind of a relationship oriented person, especially the last 30 years of my life. And you know, I've just been happy with the relationships. That's good. I'm glad to hear that. Because we hear from we're going to get something else, but a lot of guys, they just like, you know, it's like, all it takes is like one bad comment or one bad relationship with women's like, and take, you know, like they're breaking up and you're a penis is small, right? And you can't get over it. That is so classic, okay?

Right. That, you know, I've had friends that went through that, you know, they're in a relationship, oh, your penis is great, they're minute you break up and you have a small dick, it's like, well, I wasn't small the last three years, you know? Right. But that's all they can remember, too, right?

They could've told you a million good things about your new partner. Well, they're trying to scar you, okay, there's hurt. Anytime you break up, there's a lot of resentment and hurt. What's the first thing you're gonna do is go, I'm gonna get him really worried where it hurts. God, I'm so not think-dictive, but I hear about this all the time.

So that's a dedicating a show to the penises that we love. What I wonder is like, you know, balls never really get any shaming or any positive praise one way or the other. Like, you know, no one's ever like, and your balls hang low or anything like that. Like it's not like a source of pride for men, or I didn't think it was a source of pride for men,

but it kind of is. Well, in the study, because people like it, no, I mean, like I was reading an article, there's like, you can get your scrotum in large. You can get, it's like, I've read that. It's scrotox. To me though, that is,

you gotta have a serious scrulus. Okay, if you're worried about how your scrotum looks I mean seriously mom. We might not worry about their stuff too. Oh, I know But I got to tell you story that you will laugh at I didn't realize it's such a big deal So I went on my friend's house one day lives in Pittsburgh and I went to use the restroom And we were just dad's place and all of a sudden I see the toilet lid in between a lid in the seat There's these two wooden spacers I don't like what the hell were those wooden spacers on the toilet seat for his dad's 80 years old

He goes because my dad's balls and his things started dropping so low they were hitting the water So they had I swear to God to put a wooden spacer on the toilet seat in between so it was up higher I cried laughing for two days. I couldn't get that image out of my mind of sitting on the toilet and your balls dangling in the water, okay? Everything drops when you get a little hurt. Everything drops, obviously. Including your balls, that is a good start. Yeah, I swear, I couldn't, the image of that,

we laughed, the two of us laughed, I'm not kidding you, hysterically, for hours. That was so funny. Well, that was an innovative way to keep them from dropping. It's like your boobs, I guess I wonder if your boobs and your leg 90'd fall somewhere. I don't know, I've heard that about for if guys you know when they sit to do their business that if they if they're well endowed they have a problem with their

the tip of their penis dunking in the water and that's a bummer to me. It has to be a horse. I mean there's that's like 13 inches to the water. I mean it would that really be a problem you go well. You know. I've got this problem. Yeah, I've got this big problem. Yeah, such a bummer. My penis is so large. Yeah, scrapes against the water. The toilet. Wows me my large penis. I'm just so tired of wiping the tip off after using the restroom. I'm sorry. Was I in the toilet for too long? My penis is so large that it was just so wet and I had to dry my penis. Oh, my poor little penis. In between that and the circumference, I took me half hour to wipe it, you know, after I got wet.

Right. It's like people go to Harvard, they tell you within the first five minutes of every conversation, they went to Harvard, it's like people with big penis, they'd be like, oh, I'm sorry, was I late? Or like, you know what just happened to me and we'd be talking about it all the time.

I've had the exact opposite experience. I find when a guy has a big penis, he never talks about it. And it's just like a big sneaky surprise. But guys who are like moderately sized are the ones who are like, wait till you see my penis. And you're like, wait a second, that's not that special. On that subject, I had an employee one time, this was about 12, 13 years ago. And it turns out he dated another employee in the word get out that he had this absolute

beer can girth giant 12 inch penis. And we teased him, we nicknamed him the unit. That was the thing. He was like embarrassed. Don't say that's so embarrassing. I'm like, I'd love to be humiliated like that, okay? I would love for people to be teasing me that I had such an ultra, but it's the truth.

No one ever knew before that he had never said a word and after it came out, he was like, don't talk about that. No, I know. And I was kidding about the man with the big mouth. Most you're right. Most men, in fact, I know and I was kidding about the man with the most you're right most men In fact, I've received probably more emails in 11 years from men who have large penises And they're like concerned because it hurts their partner and they don't want to do about the men who are like, you know

Having small things which is interesting I do get a lot of questions about Ractylist function and PE as well so Tell me Jeff like about I mean if people don't know they've been listening for a while, let's just give them the load on and I'm promise it and how it got started and why to meet them. It was started by a urologist, Dr. Ronald Gilbert in Newport Beach. And the reason he developed promise and being urologist, if someone came in and they had problems with ED, he had biagres, he had a lot of sov, he sure, try and make shots. They came in

with incontinence, he had three to four options, they came in with prostate issues, he had biagres, he had allos, so each of our try-mix shots, they came in with incontinence, he had three to four options, they came in with prostate issues, he had three or four options, they came in with PE, it was like a good luck, you know, learn how to eat. Yeah, learn how to do, learn how to be real good at Conolingas, because you know, there's something I can do for you, you know, but then it was like, well, wait a second, they can be good at Conolingas and also less,

a little bit longer. So, they actually had a medical solution, so-called solution, it was SSRIs, the depression drugs, the serotonin reuptake inhibitors. And what they do, unfortunately, is they give you dry mouth nausea, vomiting, loss of libido, you're like, excuse me, that's worse than having PE. So he didn't want to use those, he said there's got to be something better. So he in conjunction with a research chemist at the University of Georgia developed a eutectic formula that changes light-accounted, changes a crystal structure

from crystal to oil-aquias. When it does that it penetrates the dermis of the stratum corneum. So it gives the man a higher degree of surface sensitivity because it goes beneath but you still have that control and it doesn't transfer to the female. Right, so let's talk about using it. So you're with, I mean, I've used it, we've all, I think everyone here is used to be promising. But no, Jamie. Jamie's, I don't need to talk about your penis that you're with.

Does he listen? Sorry, we just talk about his penis. OK, well, we all want to see your penis. Oh, he doesn't listen. Sorry. OK, anyway. But let's just talk about work. So you're a guy who maybe you have PE,

but you just would like to last longer bed. So you've got a bottle of remastered next to your bed, and you just put a pump or two on your penis, and you put it on and you have to wait. This is important, you do have to wait like 10 minutes. It takes about eight to 10 minutes for to absorb. So if you want maximum efficacy with the product, but the one thing I need to make clear,

everyone always goes, if you have PE, you're obviously familiar with the arousal gap and the orgasm gap that the average man lasts five and a half minutes the average female takes 18 19 minutes. So there are guys that go I don't need it. I last long enough and I asked him this question. I go if you ever been in a situation that the last two minutes are like oh please I hope she doesn't get on top. Oh my god. I hope she doesn't reverse cargo. Oh my god. And then you're thinking about baseball scores. You're thinking about your grandmother naked. You're thinking about dead skunks on a soccer field. You're like, everything possible not to ejaculate. And they'll

go, well, yeah, but everybody does that. I go, how would you like not to do that? That is actually a larger segment of the population than people who have PD that people who go, I last long enough, but they're using all these techniques and they're numb mentally, because they're going, I don't want to feel the pleasure. So I go over the edge and we've had people tell us that they enjoy it more often and they enjoy it more fully because the anxiety of going, oh, she done yet, I can't go. And we've asked and we laugh about it because we have people that email us and they'll go, the question now is not going to last long enough,

do I want to give her two or three? You know, I mean, you know, I want to, you know, and it's, it to me, it's all about making the most out of everything you do in life. And we're a society that wants to maximize things. Why wouldn't you want to, if you're a man, achieve the maximum pleasure? Why would you want to be have anxiety written during intercourse, or whatever type of sex

you have to be having? You want to enjoy it. You want to take one more variable out of the equation. Right, and I think there's a lot of guys who, yeah, it's not necessarily Pete, but they just want to, that's true. I mean, they want to last longer, and I know especially like when I'm with guys

for the first time, for a second time, they were like, don't do that, because I'm going to come to the ground. That's exactly. I'm like, I don't do what, I've got to do that. Don't do what, that's what I want to do, you know what I mean? What do you mean don't do that? They kill me, and I get it, this happened me recently.

I was like, really like one of those, but he was a kid in a sex and a while, but I get it, and like if he recently. I was like, really like one of those, but he was a kid and a sexist of all. But I get it. And like if he was a sexist. But one of the things too, I gotta tell you this, if you're a man, the first time you're with a woman, there is a heightened sense of anxiety. And with a heightened sense of anxiety,

there's a higher predisposition to not last as long because you're so turned on. And I tell those people all the time. It was like this first, together. Oh yeah, I've never been married, so I've never been in any more than a four or five-year relationship. But I know this for a fact, even at this point in my life, I'm 59, the very first time you're with a woman,

that idea of, I don't know exactly how she's going to act in this situation. It's extremely enticing. And it's, I'm just being honest, you know? It is. It is. It is fresh. And even though everyone has two breasts and a vagina and

every guy, the first time you undress someone. It's hot, right? It's hot. It is frickin hot. I swear to God, there's no denying it. Right. Yeah, it is. It's extremely hot.

And anytime it's hot and you're aroused, you're obviously going to have a higher degree of arousal. And it's going to be harder to maintain a longer period of time. When you've been in a relationship, eight, ten years, I don't care how creative you are, certain things become a little bit routine. So even though it can still be a pleasurable relationship, there's not that heightened arousal like I know you know exactly what's gonna happen next You had sex four thousand times together Question we get asked is you know how do I you know how do we spice it up?

Yeah, and it is it is possible, but it is possible People don't realize that relationships take work and that even sex you got to prioritize your sex life It's if you're you know you want to keep you want to keep interesting then you know you got to prioritize your sex life. If you're, you know, you want to keep, you want to keep interesting, then, you know, you got to like try new things. You got to talk about it. Like talking about it is so hot and couples are so afraid. Like especially guys who are, you know, and women just having challenges with anything. Yeah.

The diseases or with making time for sex and keeping it hot and people just don't realize it, it does change over time. We've got this happening. It's okay. They can't be excited about the fact that like, guess what? Sex won't always be like this,

but look where sex can go. It can be like this and be excited about talking about sex with your partner and be excited about trying new things. That's what I want people to think about when they think about like long term sex. If you ever get to a point and I've had this friends of mine where it's an obligation, you are in a horrible relationship. Right, when you're like a checking off, like I'm not gonna have sex with you. Yeah, and sometimes even the wife of the husband Oh, well, I got to do it. You know what I mean? She's like what?

How did it get to that? How did it get to that point? Take a step back and reexamine your relationship and Really spice it up if it's an obligation right right and hopefully it doesn't get to that point But if it is like you know, there's something we always talk about like different toys different positions doing it outside the bedroom Getting hotel room, vacation, not the kids, leave the kids at home. But I'm just, I'm curious about how like sexual desire factors into that. Because what if you do just have like a lower,

you know, lower sexual desire, you might find that sex is more of an obligation, not because you don't wanna have it, just because you're not maybe desiring it as much. And they're making no mistake about it. That is a very real thing. Oh, yeah. People have lower libidos, higher libidos.

And I find for me, the better the relationship, the better the communicate, the higher my libido. Sometimes you meet someone, they're totally hot. And after six months of dating, and you're like, they're not quite as hot. You know what I mean? Because there's just something that's just not, you're not connected. Right. I mean, the thing about low there's just something that's just not, you're not connected.

Right. I mean, the thing about low libido is there's so many things that can contribute to it. You know, like medication, birth control, anxiety, stress, you know, and just know that that stress is one of the best killer of our stress. You can be physically tired. It's impossible to have a high libido. That's got a friend who has a low libido. No, I mean, I don't know, because I'm like speaking on behalf of all of my,

all my other friends and relationships, all the fans out there who also have mismatch libido's of their partners. It's so common. It's not because your relationship is awful, ladies and gentlemen, necessarily. It's just because. Sometimes busy watching. Yeah, the other person, yeah.

Just saying. It's okay. No, it happens. And that's when you talk. That's when you like, you know what? I'm not feeling like you don't push it like you know On the put on the back burner like we talked about sex tomorrow, and we'll have resentment You're like, you know babe. I'm not feeling it. I don't know but I really love you want to have sex like what what can we do?

To make sure that we're both getting set But one thing you guys need to know from a guy's perspective being the only penis in the room Yeah, thank God. There is a stigma if If you're a guy, you feel if your woman wants to have sex, that it is your duty, that you, the guy, there's just this perception, guy should always want to have sex. And the woman is the one who decides whether or not you're going to have it.

And that is a myth. There is, it's a myth, absolutely. I hear from so many women who are like, my guy doesn't want to have sex. And when I first started the show before I New as much about sex. I do know I thought that was true that men are like sex starved and women were like Yeah, but then I started hearing from women all the time like why won't my partner sex with me? So you know, hey, it's two a street

So that's what the show is about so you've been listening for 11 years 5,000 episodes You've heard us talk about this so last month we had It was September was back to sexual confidence about this. So last month, it was September, was back to sexual confidence month. And we talked to, it was an amazing month of shows. We talked a lot about how you can keep your confidence up in the bedroom, because we know cultivating confidence is important in every aspect

of your life, but especially in the bedroom. And so I know we talked a lot about women, we had like L-chase on the show, and she talked about being like a Currier woman and how women can like learn to love their bodies and We talked to a lot of heard from a lot of men who are like having challenges around You know, whatever their penis is erectile dysfunction or you know one less longer or dysfunction so When you're suffering from these things were a men or these problems since you're like penis theL.I.P. is the room, like how do you help men feel more confident?

And I feel like promising can help men with anxiety a lot. Absolutely. I think that you have to get away from looking at successful sex is a 45 minute, fully blown, rock heart erection, and pounding your partner into submission. And unfortunately, please get away from that now.

Everybody step away from that notion. No, it really is true because I think porn has a very negative side effect that people start comparing themselves to a porn star. When I ejaculate, I have to shoot it across the room, okay? And I think people are now to the point where they go, I can never have sex and actually ejaculate inside my partner. I got to pull out and blow it on her face or all over. It's insane.

Every guy now thinks he has to measure up to porn. It's insane. And every woman goes, I can't have a regular orgasm. I got to be flopping around like, you know, Elizabeth Berkeley and showgirls and pull, you know, that episode is like, what is that? But you go through some spasm. What the hell was that?

You know? Right, no, that's what they suit. That's how they're raising their sex. But you have to realize it in a good relationship that you can have a very satisfactory evening without even having intercourse, with having oral sex, 69, you can have whatever. Okay, you have to focus on pleasureing your partner.

Whatever that means. I totally agree. I always say to couples who are having a hard time, like take sex off the intering your partner. Whatever that means. I totally agree. I always say to couples who are having a hard time like take sex off the intercourse off the table for a month for a week and just be like, let's get back to the kissing. I mean, kissing often is the first thing that goes in long-term relationships.

Is there anything more passionate? Is there anything that's more sensual? Think about this and actually kissing someone. How I love it the kissing. I don't know why people don't and we hear people all the time like, yeah, he doesn't kiss me anymore. He goes right for my fingers or right inside me.

Exactly, how, how, is there be a better way to turn off a woman than basically go, I'm not even into you, okay? So I'm not even a kiss you, I'm not even passionate about it. Let's just get it over with. Right, we get, that's like a lot of our questions we get asked as well.

But one thing I'll tell most men, and I've had people tell me this, you're you know such a considerate lover You know, I mean and I'm like I'm actually kind of selfish. You just don't realize it I know the better you feel the better you're gonna make me feel right as long as I'm gonna get credit for being you know Giving I'm like all for it, you know, I'm cool. That's interesting. So you didn't you weren't born knowing that were you? No, right because most guys don't interesting. So you weren't born knowing that, were you? No. Right, because most guys don't know that. Most guys don't know that.

The women were saying more for play, more this we need that. But if you give us, you're gonna learn that. That's gonna turn you on as well. And it's gonna come back in space. It comes back in spades. Just learn to be a good friend. I had a girlfriend, this was about 20 years ago. And this is when I first go,

well, I better put some more bullets in the arsenal here. You know what I mean? I need to move more arrows in the quiver. And she had, and we were talking about sex drive, the most insanely high sex drive of anyone I've ever met. I was probably in my mid-30s. And she was about four years younger than me. And the first year we were together,

and we were together three, four times a week. We had sex twice every single time. For three, four years? No, for three, four months. For three, four months. Okay. We have sex twice every single time. For three, four years? No, for three, four months. For three, four months. Okay. Every single time, morning, evening, every single time. And I'm like, well, that always has to be

any relationship, then that kind of, you know, like, like four months later, I'm like, oh my God. I'm like, it never, and we were together two years, it never wavered. I'm like, I'm gonna have to call my son down the hall here once he's 18. You know what I mean? I'm giving my friends over. I'm like, this is insane, okay? And so, you know, I'm really good about communicating. So I start, you know, having this conversation.

And she had been molested when she was young. And she had done a lot of research on it and said that a lot of women who have been molested, you know, the way they get over that is to feel good about themselves as once they get older and get in a relationship, they want to feel validated for the right reasons, you know, and I was like, whoa. And I got to a point where I'm like, I don't know at my age if I can be doing this twice every single night where together. So I go, I have to add to the repertoire here a little bit, you know,

and then I was like, hey, wait a second, this is actually pleasurable for me. I really, you enjoyed having that much sex. I enjoyed having that much sex, but I enjoyed extended four-play. I enjoyed incorporating some toys into the equation. I hate toys are a good time. Absolutely. And I've been with some women in my life

that literally actually have higher quality orgasms, sometimes without penetration through other means. That doesn't mean they don't want. Yeah, that doesn't mean they don't. There's no one right way. There's no one that's exactly right. Why don't you try each and every way? See which ones the best, see what fits. See what fits. And also more importantly, how about changing up a little bit?

Right. Exactly. And people, a lot of, we talk about this in the show a lot that you just think, like, I can only orgasm this way or only on top or bottom or this is what gets me off but like There are so much on the sexual like offered on the sexual plate of life There's a lot of ways that you can get there But it might not be the first way you are doesn't be you got to have fun trying have fun trying toys figuring out like what even if you have one pet Way you love this why not try to see if something else equals it? Even if you love hamburgers and you eat a hamburger every day, every once in a while you go,

let me try a salmon burger. Yeah, just because it's different. Yeah. Right, I love this. This is good. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break and then we're gonna come back and we're gonna have you, we're gonna answer some emails. It's gonna be a good time.

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means it's the highest medical certification credibility. Okay, they're tough dudes over there. They don't let anyone in. No one gets to be IRB certified without a great protocol. And it was authored by the University of Kentucky Sexual Wellness Center, Dr. Kristen Mark, very highly regarded. And we had four statistically significant results. Statistically significant means outside the margin of error.

So I think the margin of error is like eight or nine percent. So if you go, we're nine percent above, that could be within the margin of error. You know, we're putting error. But we were over 50 percent statistically significant in four major areas. Number one was duration of intercourse for the man IELT Interjector Latency time. So they lasted longer? Lasted 64% longer using promessant with as opposed to without using promessant, which is huge.

Right, because it very significant. We know that, but like it did decide amazing. Okay. Now not surprisingly, over 50% higher degree of women achieving orgasm with their men on pro-messon versus not pro-messon. Okay, that's big. That's because they since for women orgasms. Okay, so you have man benefiting, woman benefit. Now, couples benefit. Both men and women reported over a 50% higher frequency of reporting satisfactory sex

while using the product as opposed to not using the product. So obviously the man lasts longer, the woman achieves a higher degree of orgasm and not surprisingly both report a higher degree of satisfaction with those results. So it was very, very positive for us. Right. Because kind of scary taking it, you don't know what you're, they're going to find. But you're like, I want to test it. When you do this, you have a very real chance of spending all this money and the results

come back and go, this is like a placebo. But if you're confident in your product, and after four years in the business we have, we're very confident that the results were going to be positive. This is amazing. Well, not only that, but this got us into right aid nationwide and target nationwide. Oh my God. Congratulations. I knew you said that's big.

That's huge. Okay, because it speaks to the credibility of this product and also, you know, we had been in 450 independent pharmacies one at a time and, you know, everyone kept saying this, why are you gonna be in the big change? He blasts, because that's huge. And I go, we're working on it and you have to get these planning grants,

you take years, but all of a sudden, you come in with these results and are like, well, this is legitimate. Okay, this is not some snaggle. This is medicine. This is really, really, really, really, well, this is legitimate. Okay, this is not some snaggle. This is medicine. This is really in the front. Right next door. In fact, I parked in their parking lot.

And I want to go take, yeah. And in word brand new, we've only been in a week. Oh my God, congratulations. So I always stop in like a proud poppin. I go right to the aisle. And I'm like, oh, there it is. Do you like move it to the front? No, I, well, trust me, I rearrange the thing.

Put it right up in the front and premium, you know? I used to get my book. I'm like, go in stores and move to the book right now. No, I usually have my book. I'm like going to stores and you move to the book, right? No, it's a congratulations. I'm very happy. Amazing. Very excited. We're fans.

Yeah. Yeah, promise it coming to the mainstream, folks. Well, you know, it's funny because we had some people that would order it on the site and they go, I need a pharmacy and I go, why? I call it the chain of command because a lot of guys feel uncomfortable. They have roommates or they have kids and you know, their son's like, hey, dad, your profession came while you're at work today or your roommates like, hey, even though it comes in a box, people open it up.

So people love the idea that I go buy it. I put it in my pocket. Okay. And I have, I call it the chain of command or chain of custody that it's never out of their control. And so now you go to our site, you type in your zip code. You can't be anywhere and be more than 10 miles because between Target and rated to 8,000 stores. That's cool. Okay. Congratulations. I love it. Very happy. What event were we at? Where we were giving away small

bottles, or we gave away promising samples. It was your live show, right? Yeah. And we had sound techs, like sound engineers were coming up to us and being like, like, we're working and we're like, you know, we're putting together the different table decorations and stuff like that for the show and they're like hey um can we get a bottle of that can I have a bottle of that fleet and they're just like not letting each other in the eye no grabbing them off of tables and stuff like everyone at the improv is like can we get some of that promise and we had you know we ran out of samples we had more than we needed. People were like clearing off the tables for it.

Yeah there are so. So you need to stand. Studies will show you that at least 73% of men at some point in their life wish they lasted longer during. I could say, yeah, 100%. I would say. Yeah, so it's one of those things. I think guys, but every woman wishes she could have organized a very successful. But there's such a stigma that every man has to be a sexual superman

that no one wants to admit it. I know. We have this running joke in, that no one wants to admit it. We have this running joke in the company, and I have to change it, because we used to say, if every time we heard this would get a dollar, we'd have a thousand dollars, and I have to change it to ten thousand dollars.

And this happens me all the time, I'll be like at a party in my neighborhood, and someone will go, oh, you're the guy moved into 82-sungle. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He goes, what do you do for a living? I go on to see a pharmaceutical company. What's the name of the company? Absorption of pharmaceuticals.

Oh, what's your product? Promess it. What does it do? If you a living? I go on to see a pharmaceutical company. What's the name of the company? Absorption of pharmaceuticals. Oh, what's your product? Pro-mess it. What does it do? If you're asking, I'm telling, right? It's a treatment for premature ejaculation. This actually happened in a party, my neighborhood. Dead silence, a husband and wife are like, hey, the guy, I swear to God, just like this,

the guy's like, it's the last thing we need in this relationship. I'm like, oh, excuse me, Ron Jeremy, right? No, seriously, Puff's out his chest. So about five minutes later, excuse me, Ron Jeremy, right? No, seriously, puffed out his chest. So about five minutes later, there's one of these really nice parties. They had like, you know, a band, and they had tri-tip and turkey.

They were roasting. If they was the fourth of the time, whatever. So the guy goes up to get some food and the wife leaves over. I swear to you, I actually goes, we could do something. Do you have any of that product? I go, yeah, I'll drop off something.

I swear to you, I'm not kidding. I believe you all the time. It happens all the time. Oh my God, I hear this from people like, I'm like, blue, because swear to you, I'm not kidding. I believe you all the time. It happens all the time. Oh my God, I hear this from people like, I'm like, blue, because I'm a huge fan of blue, blue, we don't need that, we don't have that problem. I'm like, it doesn't mean it's a problem. It's not a problem, okay, if you're,

there's friction, blue might be a good thing. Even if you're already wet, you're going to be like, right, I got it, yeah. They can't have a negative effect. No, I just don't understand, I can't really think. Why do people think that they can't use any kind? I mean, if you're a diabetic, does anyone look at you and go, hey, you're taking insulin?

Right. No, what do we need? Or why are you differently? Yeah, if you have cancer, does anyone go, why are you taking chemo? I don't need it. I can fight this cancer by myself, you know? And there's sometimes where you might last long,

you might not need that week, that month, it's time to do just like blue. Yeah, you might. I use our product once in a while. I'm very open in time, I don't use it all the time, but there are times where I'm like, I'm like, been a while, or is it pretty, you know what I mean? And, you know.

Jeff, I'm actually curious really quick, because I was reading something before the show, I was reading an article, and your friend who gave you permission, he gave you a sample of it to try, right? Yes. And you were just like, yeah, where you like, yeah, sure, I'll try this, I don't really need it,

you know, like, what were your thoughts on it when someone handed that you this product and they're like, he was my doctor. He was my best friend. And I was in for my yearly PSA and physical and he's like, hey, I have this product, you know, I'd like you to evaluate it because he knew my story. I moved out with like, two suitcases of $500 and built a company successfully because I want your opinion. I go, what is it? Tell me. I go, oh, he goes here, try some. So I was like, yeah, I go, you know, because to me, if you're unwilling to try something, that means you're insecure. Okay, and I was like, hey, I want to see what it's like.

Because, you know, I'm never going to deny, I might have swallowed a blue pill, or my case, a yellow pill, see Allison's that I want to come out. And, you know, it's like, I want to see what it's like, you know. And so I went home, this is a funny part, I was dating a gal, who was a financial analyst, so I called her in a way, how am I going? Because I was thinking of investing in the like, you know? And so I went home, this is a funny part. I was dating a gal who was a financial analyst, so I called her and away home, I go, because I was thinking of investing in the company, I go, hey, would you like to come over

to see me and we'll have dinner tonight? Why don't you help me evaluate this investment? Oh, what's love to her name is Carolyn, so she's coming, which is not listening to this. So, are you talking about our relationship? This was like eight years ago. I think I was just so mad at you, I'm also. So, this is the funniest thing.

So, she comes out at night, we have dinner. So, after dinner, she goes, let's take a look at that investment. I said, oh, great. So, if she thinks I'm gonna bring this is a funny thing. So she comes out at night, we have dinner. So after dinner, she goes, let's take a look at that investment. I said, oh, great. So she thinks I'm gonna bring this for a performer or some spreadsheet out, right? I go upstairs, I come down, I throw this bottle of promescent here.

She's like, you're such a perv. I go, I swear you, this is Ron's company. I'm thinking of investing it. And she goes, oh really? Oh yeah, so I explain it to her. So we use it. So next day I call Ron. He's like, what'd you think?

I said, first of all, we need to change the name of that product. He's like, what do you mean? You don't like the name? And he starts this impassioned story. Well, promise it means prolong to mess it. I go, wait, wait, wait, wait. He goes, why? What name do you like? I go, how about bone like a porn star? I go, that stuff's insane.

I go, I actually, it was 45 minutes and he knew my girlfriend. I go, she start tapping out. It was like, freaking MMA. And he goes, well, how much do you use? I go, well, like three to four sprays. He goes, if you don't have PE, you start with one or two. I go, I go she started tapping out. It was like freaking MMA and he goes, well how much do you use? I go well like three to four sprays. He goes, if you don't have PE you start with one or two. I go, I just redded directions. And he goes, that's for people with PE, but it was insane. And you know, at the time I was like 52, 53, it was like six years ago. And any guy will tell you that sex is always good, but I don't know if it's like for women

because I'm only a guy. But a guy at 55 doesn't have the same intensity of orgasm he does when he's 18. It's still good, trust me, it's better than not having. But when you're 18, I swear to God, you're early in your sexual experience, you have an orgasm, it starts at your feet, it goes through the ends of your hair,

your fingernails are clenched, you're biting the pugs like this frickin' whole body experience, you're like quaking and everything. You'll get to be 50, your prostate's getting a little boggy. You know what I mean? And it's still good, but it's like, oh that was good, but it's, but when a man goes for 35 or 40 minutes,

you're like 18 again when you finish. I swear to God, because, oh that buildup. That's exactly the, we tell people all the time that this is scientific. I think that feeling is like, yeah, less than that. It's that same thing, you're like, whoa, that build up. That's exactly the, we tell people all the time that this is scientific. I think that feeling is like, yeah, less than that. Instead, same thing, you're like, whoa, I remember that. You know what I mean?

It was like, whoa, and that's exactly the first time I used it, and I went and wrote a check. I got my investing in your company. I think this might have some potential. Yeah, you want people to get on board for a moment, you tell that story. Right, that's a good thing. Oh, no.

I get it guys everywhere. I'm gonna ask. More one of the few companies. You ever done this, you go to a website. Like on the banner on a website. Exactly. You're so surprised. Our website's going to crash now.

Yeah, thanks a lot. Yeah, but you go sometimes to a website and you see, you know, they have these supposed testimonials and it's like, Ron and such and such and it's like, oh, great product. You go to our website. There are actual emails. These are emails we get, but they obviously have the email address redacted and everything. These are absolute legitimate emails when we get them every single day. And on one hand, it's like good to feel like you're changing lives. But let me taste of it. Invigorating, but at the same time, it's kind of sad because you realize we've reached 1% of

the population and how many other people, we've had people say, I literally became asexual because I was so embarrassed, because some people are portal, that means they ejaculate during four play, okay, in some men. And they literally ejaculate a media-plan penetration and they go, I just quit being intimate. And they'll go, I tried your products, oh my God. And it just, it gave me so much more self-esteem.

You know, confidence. I confidence, yeah. And that makes you feel good, but then you realize how many people have no idea. Well, now they can go get it for your target. Right, and target, baby. Okay, let's get into the emails. We've got some more penis things here. Okay.

Hey, and thank you everyone for emailing me feedback at sexwithmly.com. You can also email us directly from the website. You just click on the Ask Emily button. Send a email that way, but we're also Taking your voice mouse which has been so fun and last few shows We play your voice mouse. You guys are leaving us killer messages. It's 818 ask SWE1. That's 818 275 793 want and as always your name your age where you're from and how you listen. We so appreciate that Hey Emily, I've had a friend who's been flirting with me for years But it's been in a relationship last week

We finally hooked up and while the chemistry was intense, he just couldn't get it up. I think it was just performance anxiety and I'm sure it could drastically improve with time, but since I haven't heard from him, we're good friends, so I'm guessing that he is avoiding me because he was embarrassed by it. I'd like to let him know that I'm not disappointed and I'd be happy to try again. Any suggestions as to how I do this without hurting his ego? Thanks, Pip, age 34. So I want to say to this that we're forgiving

when men can't get hard, or they can't say or they're like, are reptiles this function? It's like, I think that guys do get so embarrassed, but at least I know, even when I was a young age, I didn't know as much about it. I'm like, that's cool. We're just, we get that it doesn't always function. Things happen.

It's not a guarantee. It's not a medical device, or it's not a mechanical device that you press a button that automatically operate. Right. Like she gets it. Now, he's like, scared and not corner. We're assuming that that's what happens. But I think she should answer her own question

when she's like, how do I do without embarrassing him? She really think by calling him up and going, hey, you didn't perform well. Why not just call him and go, hey, let's get together again. It's a developer. Which gives you the indication it's okay. You don't have to calling them up and going, hey, you know, you didn't perform well. Why not just call them, go, hey, let's get together again. Which gives you the indication it's okay. You don't have to bring it up and go, hey, that substandard performance that you put on isn't gonna stop me from seeing you again.

I mean, don't even bring it up. Don't bring it up. Don't bring it up. Just say, hey, I'm looking forward to getting together again. That intuitively tells him that it's okay. Okay. You're so right. That is a good point. But let's talk about the different to like erectile dysfunction and NP. that intuitively tells him that it's okay. Okay. You're so right.

That is a good point. But let's talk about the different to erectile dysfunction and P. So it's more like, it feels like it's more of an umbrella term for penis challenges. Yes. And so when they can't achieve or maintain an erection, rather than having an erection and coming too quickly.

So, is that what I mean? That's just kind of happens to me. There are two separate distinct obviously bodily functions. But let me tell you something, it'll blow your mind. 20% of ED is misdiagnosed PE. Oh, inter, yeah. Because if a man has PE for an extended period of time, meaning like a year or more, he has a very high probability

of developing anxiety related ED. But that's what happens and they get the anxiety. Yeah, because you know that getting a direction leads to an unsatisfactory conclusion, because you ejaculate too quickly. So your penis basically is like, I'm staying here. Yes. Okay, not I'm making the lymph sinuses.

So you're making the sin of the penis to stay inside the car? Yeah, because a man knows that getting a direction leads to an unsatisfactory conclusion. So psychologically, it's telling him, don't go there because bad things happen when we go there. So a lot of ED is misdiagnosed PE. Yeah, that's good. That's interesting. Okay, so yeah, when we think also just calm up and go out and peep you guys are friends, it'll be fine. Okay, dear Emily, it'll be fine. Like, like don't just don't mention it.

Wow. Yeah, you've... And we don't even know, we make assumptions, we don't even know that's why he's not calling. But if that's what we think it is, give him a call. Dear Emily, I'm a divorced dad and I've been on the dating scene for over two years. I meet most of my partners through Bumble, which I love by the way. My question is this, it's a dating app. What is Bumble? I know you look to me, it's like Tinder, but women have to make the first message. My question is this, are sex toys, vibr I can understand that the woman's with him

for the first time, and I know it's sort of a double standard because women, guys, they're not like a women about my sex toys. But if you're a woman and a guy, you're like, where's that been? Is that clean? You have sex toys? Are you super good at the women?

So I like that he's sensitive to it. He's 46, he understands, he's been with women, but like it's kind of tricky, I think. I'm not sure if he's sensitive or he's actually pulled it out and someone went, wait a second. Okay, that's not new in a rapper. I'm not sure if he's sensitive or he's actually pulled it out and someone went wait a second Okay, that's not new in a rapper. I'm not gonna be the third No, no, no, I think that that's that's absolutely valid absolutely I have a friend who called me she goes what do I do? I went this guy and you whip that like I'm not putting that near me

And I think it is a double stand-up for guys. You should just get maybe some get some bullets or something like it's Yeah, you know like the screaming out you can get like a little, a little like disposable, a little vibrator. You keep it in the package. They're like $10. And then you'd be like, hey, why have a little this? And I'm sure she'd be psyched and you unwrap it. And it's disposable. Lifestyles also makes the amuse.

Oh my God, I love their amuse. You can get them right next to promess in at right. Right, exactly. You know what I mean? Target, it's called Amuse AMUSE. And they actually just gave me, they have a new one. And you have it. Oh.

They brought it home. It's like, they have a penis ring. And they also have the finger vibe. And that is actually perfect. And it's disposable. And it's a pretty strong vibe. Yeah. So that's what you got to do.

You have to pretty much assess your partner. And you know, you know, certain people give out a vibe, like I'm pretty much up for anything. Other people, you just get the vibe. Like, I don't know if I want to go there yet, you know, certain people give out a vibe, like, I'm pretty much up for anything. Other people, you just get the vibe, like, I don't know if I want to go there yet, you know? I'm going to reveal this for the first time, man. And you'll crack up on the tights. I know.

I've always been a little on the adventures inside. I love it. So I happen to have my own personal Sibian machine. You do? Yes, I do. I saw it one time, and I'm like, that's one of the craziest things I've ever seen, right? So this was about eight years ago.

So I meet this gal and I've dated her for about two weeks and she had been divorced about a year, a year and a half. And she says to me, oh, you know, I'm really kind of hesitant. I haven't been with someone in a while and I'm like, really how long she goes well since this divorce, I go, wait, divorce, like two and a half years ago?

She's like, yeah, I go, give them me some of the two and a half years. I'm like, oh my God. She goes, a divorce I go, when she divorced like two and a half years ago. She's like, yeah, I go, give me someone to two and a half years. I'm like, oh my God. She goes, yeah, I go, you must have the best array of power tools on anybody on the planet. She goes, well, no, I have this Sibian machine. I'm like, oh my God, I saw that before.

And I'm like, I wanna see you use that. She goes, oh, that's private, you know, but eventually she let me, I was like, oh my God. It's crazy, right? I bought one. I have my own. I love it, tips to be, oh my god. It's crazy, right? I bought one. I have my own. I love it.

I have to be into. Okay. They spot, yeah, they're sponsors. But here's the crazy thing. So, I bought like 10 different attachments. Each one's still on the thing. Because you don't bring that out. No, yeah.

And then, exactly and go, oh, okay. Let me clean this off for you. And I mean, it's like, you bet. But I can tell you this right now, I never bring that out initially. Now, first day. Because someone will run with their hair on fire. They'll go, you have one thing on it.

There's something wrong with you. Okay. I love that you've a Sivian. Do you have it in the Ottoman, like in your living room and a leather beach? Oh, no, I don't have it in my living room. My housekeeper, what exactly is that? Okay.

Dude, that happens to me with my housekeeper. No, trust me, it's in the closet and, you know,, right you more space than I do though. I would look a little house I'm either huge house, so it's talked away, but it's like trust me I mean there's been times even after like two three weeks you bring it out of someone's like what in the hell are you doing with that? But then that you put them on there and I tried to yeah, right? Oh, it's the Sibian's like it is insane I tried to, yeah. Right, that's amazing. The Sibian's like, it is insane.

Right. But certain people, they're just, even people that sometimes are pretty open, it's just something about that. They're like, oh my God. But those things are. They're amazing. They're amazing.

I can't believe we haven't talked about this. Not many people have a Sibian. I know. I got about six years ago. Okay, oh God, I just got my New Yorko. Yeah. There's new, they gave me, I saw a bunny from, we need to compare. There's new they gave me I saw Bunny from Scipian at Sexual Health Expo and she gave me some new attachments. You know, there's actually I've never done this

But they sent me this thing, you know with it and there's this website where if you have one you can literally you will crack up I tell you this go on the site and advertise and women will want to come over and use your machine. Oh, I mean, oh, Like new dating app like Cam girls and stuff too because that's like a your machine. Oh, I mean. So new dating app. Is it like Camgirls? This is up to? Because that's like a big thing. Oh yeah, no, absolutely. With Camgirls and Sybyans, like go hand in hand. Oh yeah, no, but I've never gone that well.

Yeah, you don't need to do that. I don't need to tell you. I don't need strangers in my house riding my Sybya machine, you know? You're rather know them. You're like trying to get some work done in the office. Yeah, I used to be. Yeah, excuse me. I should bring a Sybya and now that we have a bigger office into the office.

I mean, for like, for a friend. I'm sure. I don't know. We have a good underings. I don't think we can all sign off on it. If you're a 15-minute- Exactly. If you're a female, think about the ability to control the rhythm.

I mean, you have total control. Right, right. It's a machine. If you guys don't know, we're talking about it. Just go on my website and Google Sibian, S-Y-B-I-A-N. Yeah. We've got a lot on there. OK, let's find one more email. Yeah. Okay, we'll be laughing about us

having schedule time for the Sibian office. Could you imagine that go someone's on like we would do the health club with a stare master. Somebody's on. Yeah. She is taking longer than 15 minutes. 15 minute limit on area. Jamie would be like Madison's been on the Sibian for 20 minutes. I was signed up for 415. And she didn't bring her gem towel. Right. Yeah. Madison didn't clean up the Sibian for 20 minutes. I was signed up for 415 and she didn't bring her Jim tall right Madison didn't clean up the Sivian today. This is amazing. Can we can we do a video Oh, that's awesome. Okay, and that wasn't what I was laughing about

Googling if you google Sivian you're gonna come up with some real weird stuff So just be careful. Oh, no, there are really, really wrong ones. I mean, there's one with us. And as FW, would you not say for work? Well, I found my friends. Oh my God. Oh, it was a friend of yours? It was a friend of yours? Jamie found a friend in a Sibia video.

A model in the area. Model. Yeah, model. But she's like, hey, be in front of her. Yeah, she's 16 silent night in like a Santa hat on the simpion. Yeah. Like, that's what she's been doing since high school. So see, she's been doing something.

Maybe I'll incorporate that into my Christmas card this year. There you go. You can do that. I got faith. OK, we have time for another one. Yeah. Dear Emily, I'm 40 three years old, and I've always been dumped in my relationships.

My latest was my wife of 14 years who dumped me for a younger alpha male type at her work. I have a small penis about six inches erect, and I've always wondered if this is why women keep leaving me. No one has admitted it, but it seems that everyone I look, this is one of the requirements for keeping a woman happy. Since this is something I can't change about myself, I'm warning if I should just give up and resign to living alone for the rest of my life.

What do you think can a man deal with a small dick ever fine-lasting love, Chris? Whoa, Chris, I'm so glad you wrote because this has nothing to do with your penis. It does often. 70% of men have a six-inch or smaller dick. That's the average size, okay? It's five and three-quarters. Five and three-quarters. So you're actually above average, Chris, and women keep dumping you, honestly, honey, because there's some others. The fact that you're emailing this and you think it's about your penis, I'm just gonna assume there's some other thing is going out with you.

I'm not sure. It's certainly not a penis that's holding it back. I mean, and imagine just like if all the men out there who had less than six inches, we're like, well, I guess I'm a monk now. Yeah, exactly. There would be a lot of women running around going, there's no men out here.

Right, no Chris, I think this might be a good time, 43 years old, like to maybe take a look at yourself and like really like therapy, there's no men out here. Right, no Chris, I think this might be a good time, 43 years old, to maybe take a look at yourself and really therapy, let's talk, best thing ever. I mean, I think that it's never the wrong time, bad time, never to get, it was never too old, never too, back up. There's another underlying issue. Like the somatic therapy would be really good. The somatic therapy would be amazing,

but I think you just might need some Chris. I think just regular good old therapy looking at, because okay, when I read this, Chris, you're saying that you've always been dumping your relationships, you think of your penis, why they're leaving you. It sounds very victim mentality. And it also sounds like, you know,

relationships are two a street. And I'm wondering if you've looked at yourself in a way that's like deep and introspective to know what your part may be in the relationship and why they're leaving beyond the penis thing because I'm pretty certain it's not. And why would you be, do I have to live the rest of my life alone?

What's it saying? He sounds depressed. He sounds depressed. I was going to say there's a depression element there and it has nothing to do with sex. No, nothing at all. My biggest question mark, oh go ahead. No, I was going to say like, yes, sweetie, Any, my biggest question mark. Oh, go ahead and work on it.

No, I was just going to say, like, yes, we'd, I think there's other stuff going on. But I'm glad you wrote, because to all of us, we've not talked about the beforehand, but like, there's other things I can be like. Does that not fit right into the porn star thing that if I don't have eight and a half inches, and I, you know, that was the part I took the most issue with.

Since this is something that everywhere I look, this is one of the requirements for keeping a woman happy. Like, my eyes just like doubled in size. It's like, Where are you looking? Right. I know you guys I went to a period I quit watching porn. I'm like I can't watch porn cuz I'm I'm thinking the average penis is 8 and a half inches in a beer can size You know exactly and okay Jeff and you think that how about like you know 15 year old boys and women who How sick is that they're like I have to do I have to have sex in a certain way And I have to like have a big penis and shoot in a certain way and I have to have a big penis

and shoot across the room and ride around. It's the idea though. I still can't get over this. That people can't have satisfactory intercourse and actually climax inside. That every single porn, they have to stop and then go up and straddle and shoot all over face. I'm like, what is that?

It's a financial. It's a financial. The money shot. And let's be honest, what you're seeing is these women, it's not real. It's porn. It's like if watching an action movie, like these are actors playing people who are having orgasms. That's exactly.

It's not real life. And I hope this is like a PSA for everybody listening that they look like all these women are being really pleased, but it's a job. And they've been going all day and it's not always real. Yeah, what is that? You set a fill, right? Yeah, it's set a fill.

That's right. She's set a fill, face wash over her face. If you were a guy and you watch a porno, you go, why don't I shoot a bucket every time? You know what I mean? Because there is no one on planet Earth that shoots a bucket full of... If you do your kegles. No. Kegel exercises do help you shoot further.

Well, yeah, they may shoot further, but certainly not across the room and certainly not a gallon. No, one time my boyfriend was like, oh, you gotta see this, you gotta see this. Look at this guy, it's a six roper, which means it's like he shoots six spurt. You taught me this.

Yeah, and I was like, and I was like, A six roper? And he's like, come here, like see this. And I was like, I have no interest in that. He's like, come on. Like seriously, this isn't a little bit impressive to you. I was like, honestly, I would be hard pressed to find a woman who's like, yeah, he's shut us.

Six-cookl roaper, he's my hero. Like, no girl is like sitting there being like today, there was a- Excuse me, are you feeling a little bit? There was only a five roaper, okay? Right, right. And this is what's so funny is that this is- I was able to wipe that off with my foingrids.

I want to get a brush and have to just, you know what I mean? Exactly. I want to like a swiftster. I want a swiftster duster, you have to come, you know. I want you to swift that come off me. Yeah, exactly. I'm like, I don't want to fucking napkin. Yeah, exactly.

But here's the thing that's so funny is that this is what men, it's funny, because he's 43. He's not, but this is why he's concerned for humanity right now because he's thinking that so many men are thinking that your boyfriend who knows you're like, but I'm glad he has you to check it. You're like, not hot, not what I want. It's like, it's really messy.

No, you need to mean nothing to me. All I'm thinking about right now is like, how are you gonna get that out of that bed sheet? Right. Exactly. Like laundry again. Yeah. Okay, that's all we got time for.

Thank you so much, Jefferpinyar. Oh, I love it. It's been so fun. It's great to see you again. You gotta come back more often. Everyone, go get your promessant. Get it well taught. Right, enjoy it. Awesome. It's great to see you again. You've got to come back more often. Everyone, go get your promesson. Get it while it's hot.

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