Sex With Emily - Jealousy, Infidelity & Eggplant Emojis

Episode Date: April 30, 2016

We’ve all got insecurities, bothin the bedroom and and in our relationships. So how do you stopthem from getting in the way of your happiness? In this show, Emilyshares advice to help you overcome self-doubt and face your loveand sex uncertainties head on!But first, she and Menacedissect PornHub’s new “text for porn” emoji campaign. Can you guesswhat texting an eggplant to the porn site will get you? How about apair of scissors? Then it’s on to your emails. Emily tackles thetopics of retrospective jealousy, penis insecurities, and how totake your sex toys through TSA! (As long as you’re not flying toAlabama.) Also, is it okay to bust out lube on the first date? Sheand Menace weigh in.Whether you’re dealing with yourown problems with jealousy or a partner’s past infidelities,self-doubt can be a real romance killer. If you’re nervous aboutsomething in your sex, dating or love life, just sit back, relax,and let Emily ease your mind in this week’s podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily! Today's show! Okay, we've all got insecurities, both in our relationships and in the bedroom. So how do you stop them from getting in the way? We'll be tackling your top sex and relationship questions. Like, are you getting hung up on your partner's ex-life? How do we build trust after your partner cheats on you and wondering how to travel with your favorite sex toys without getting busted by the TSA? We've got the answers and more. Thanks for listening. If you've listened to the show the last couple months, you've probably heard we talk about a unique product called the womanizer. A while back the owners of the company asked if they

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And also thanks for subscribing on iTunes and for reviewing the show. And thanks for telling your friends about it so they can enjoy little sex with Emily as well. And while you're at it, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram at Sex with Emily across the board. Oh, in Snapchat. I'm love in Snapchat, right, Mattis? Love it in here.

You're all about it. I love the filters. You just taught me, but every day I'm learning a little something. Like I feel like you, like I was in Mexico with my mom for a week, and every day I taught her things about her iPhone. No, she's very remedial. Like she didn't know how to cut and paste. She didn't know how to like arrange a basic, basic,

and she thinks I'm a genius. But like you and Madison show me things where I'm like, well, you can, I know. But Snapchat is so great for, you know, because with Instagram and Facebook or anything like that, when you want to take a photo, like, you've got to be really particular about it. You have to, you know, shoot the same photo

for you different times, but with Snapchat, you just take photo to a video, whatever you post it. So your username is sex with Emily. Sex with Emily. That's huge. It's already taking off, right? Yeah, we've like, yeah, it is.

Thousands of people watching, right? I'm really into it, exactly. That's cool. And I like it because it is sort of the way my brain works like throughout the day, something will happen. I'll think this is, I want to tell a little listeners this. I want to tell a message, and I'll write it down and they forget, just snap it. Yeah, it is captured forever. Love it. But then it goes away. Then it

disappears. You're going to have to download if you put there's a video that you really like you download it. You do that. Yeah, every day you just download your story. No, not the entire story. But if there's like some clips here in there that I really like you download it. You do that? Yeah. Everyday. You just download your story. No, not the entire story, but if there's like some clips here and there that I really like them. So that's you, the Woody show. The Woody show. Yeah.

That's the username that I use. A part of a fair new listener. I'm part of a morning show in Los Angeles. It's on Monday through Friday, six to 10 a.m. It's called the Woody show. It's all 987. I like your show. It got me excited.

Yeah. I'll turn down by your like, you know, tacos in your talk. It was a lot of food. I was like, I'm really hungry. And then I saw your tacos. I was like, she get tacos for lunch. Nice. Yeah. So the last time I saw you, uh-huh. We had a party. Yeah.

And that was really fun. Super fun. We haven't done that in a long time. Sex with Emily Bash. I think it was pretty fun because we're really open about things. And there was funny moments, like frustrations we have with the show that we kept in there and let people hear. Exactly. It was the drinking podcast.

Yeah. So there's been a lot of feedback with people that have really enjoyed that. Yeah, drinking with the Emily, because we did talk about it a long time ago. So that was fun and super fun. Yeah, and also masturbation month is coming just so you know, I want to prepare. I'm preparing all about masturbation month. I feel like I've got this. Like it feels like it's part of my religion now because I think this is probably my tenth masturbation month in the next assembly.

So we have lots of great stuff planned, great show topics, blogs, we're doing giveaways. We're doing a get tight for summer giveaway. Oh, sweet. Yeah, go to the website sex with Emily. We will have details about the contest. All right. And we've also been having some great shows. Besides our drinking with Emily's show,

we did one best of show with sex, love, and bacon. Our guest is Caleb Bacon. He's host of the Man School podcast. And he gave really good lessons on how to make your girlfriend feel special, how to give a good blow job, even with with cat and mouth and going after a dream girl. That was fun. So you know we do two shows a week and it's a good time.

One given a blow job is cat and mouth a big issue. Yeah, it is. It is. No, I don't know, but sometimes it can be for, yeah, it can be for a lot. You get thirsty, you know, you're like, yeah, it's hard because one of the great number one components is you got to keep it slippery and wet like you want no one wants a dry mouth blowjob. You don't you're like no, I know thanks no I'd rather have dinner I'm good. So that's important and there is this blowjob spray. I keep forgetting

I used that show even when I'm not giving blowjob. I know in fact I Haven't given a blowjob in a while out love for me a while. I use it mostly on the show because it lubricates your mouth. So that's what we talk about. Cool. Yeah. But anything else that you need to tell me? Business. Nothing. Go to Vegas, see in Rihanna. She's very sexy. I want to go to you're like, wait, I've got something sexy. Yeah, she's she does. She does. I know. Yeah. So I'm going to go see Rihanna. Um, and then do you

like backstage? Um, not this time unless I get an email, then maybe I'll be backstage, but I've met Rihanna before she's very nice. She's very nice lady. Um, when she do for a cotton mouth, I wonder what she doing. But I don't know. She's well, uh, I'm sure I from her Instagram page, what I can tell is she drinks a lot of Asus Spades champagne, which is $600 bottle of champagne. So I'm sure that maybe that's that will lubricate it a little bit better than the blowjob spray. Yeah. Okay. We've got some sex in the news. All right. Tell me. And I thought this one was particularly hilarious. emojis for porn. emojis for porn. text emojis to Pornhub and they'll send you video recommendations.

Have you heard about this? No. So Wednesday, Pornhub, the biggest adult video website on the internet, you know what it is, announced a new feature that's made it easier than ever before for millennials to watch porn. Not necessarily millennials, but anyone who watch porn. Starting today, people in the US, UK, Canada can text emojis to Pornhub and receive corresponding video recommendations

back. So if it sounds confusing, it's not. Say you want to watch a big boobs video, all you have to do is text the melon emoji. 646, 760, porn and they'll send you back recommendations. Okay, so here's the best part, right? 30 emojis, which you can see right here, which I think I want to post on my Instagram and I just want to marry this infograph. So big ass is like, looks like it's an orange.

Big dick is a, is a, you guys, what? Is a purple. A squash. A plant. Egg plant. Egg plant. Gay is scissors.

Lesbian is another pair of scissors. Scissors must be lesbian. Scissors is lesbian, but gay is two knives swords crossing. Okay. That makes sense. Yeah. And let's see, small tits is like a little pain to them.

You don't have to read them all off, but you're gonna have them all on your website. Yeah, sex family dot com service. And yeah, do you know where they got that from? Not to bring it back to food, which I always do is they got it from Domino's Domino's

I heard about that the first ones that come out with something like this where you can tweet them or Text them a pizza emoji and a pizza will come to your house. It's amazing Yeah, so you're not gonna be doing the eggplant. I definitely will be doing the domino's thing But I don't know about the eggplant. Maybe I'll just try it just to have fun Could you just text anything? I think eventually this is like the future. Like you could probably just text anything to your phone and it will show up. Oh, definitely.

That's gonna be the- I give you like, you know, I really want. I can maybe even put in like my perfect plan. Well, Amazon already has this thing set up where you can have these little tiles that you can stick in your house and let's say you run out of detergent, right? You just press the button and detergent will show up to your front door.

And some primates the best thing ever. You're right. That's what this is like. So you don't need to have to leave it. So suddenly, you know, you're probably going to have one of those buttons by your by your nightstand and you're like, Oh, I need a more loob and you hit the button and then the loob comes to your door. Can you imagine that? No, but need more loob and you hit the button and then the loob comes to your door. I love that. Can you imagine that? No, but would I have somebody

that beat your dream come true? Can you ever somebody to put with the loob that maybe is a trap? Maybe, maybe a little hello. Maybe a little hello. It's called a loob. It's called Bumble and what are you doing? I know, I'm getting ready to start doing that.

Maybe Bumble. I know. Bumble, because it's fun. It's gonna mature. I just, you know, because I was waiting for well. Yeah, yeah, but now you're single I'm totally single there's some guy on Instagram who's just telling me to tell you that he wants to date you Okay, he is a cute I don't know you check him out for yourself. This name's Jason. He's not a fan of me. He's not a fan of you He was telling me how much he hated me,

and then I started telling him off, and then now he says, you really replied to the haters? Once in a while, what a hell of enough time. I don't. I don't know. No, no, I rarely ever do, but I had a free moment.

You had a free moment. You're like, you're an asshole too. No, I just want to let you know, if you do start something with me, I'm extremely mean. He's too mean. To a point where I mean I won't start something but I'll definitely finish it. Oh, whoa, I never want you on my bad side. I'm not mean enough.

I'm like I won't go, I'll never go online and start talking issue about somebody. There's somebody does, I ever, I'd never do that. I don't ever. But it's something randomly just starts talking craft to me. I 90% of the time I'll blow it off, but if I have a spare moment. But don't you feel like people do that because they want the attention?

And then so it's better just to ignore it. Yeah, but then sometimes it's like so easy. It's just so easy to just like, dude, are you serious right now? I know I mean that's a thing when you put yourself out there is public public person. Oh, yeah, like every day We were talking about this before the show started. It's like every day Like if you do radio or you do anything are you let's say you you You work a day-to-day job and you have Facebook. And I mean, somebody somewhere will always have a negative thing

to say. Not everybody likes it. I always thought about this. I was like, you know, not everyone, when I was doing my documentary years ago. And I was like, how? It's going to be so hard. That was the first my first creative endeavor where I was putting

myself out there. And like, what are people going to think of me? And I just thought, you know what? It's OK. You just think half the people are going to hate you. I thought about like, Cisco and Ebert, how they were like thumbs up, thumbs down. Like, they didn't even agree on movies. So I'm like, not everyone's going to like are gonna hit you. I thought about like Cisco and Ebert, how they were like thumbs up, thumbs down. Like they didn't even agree on movie.

So I'm like, not everyone's gonna like my movie. Not everyone's gonna like me. And then I was thinking people don't even like Oprah. Even like, happy dawn. It's like, it's okay. Like you don't, if everyone likes you, you're probably doing something wrong. Yeah, definitely.

So bring on a hand. You're definitely a psychopath. It's kidding, I love the love though. More of you. Um, you all right? Now. You've been up late. Yeah, so okay, I want to talk about this for a second.

So, um, love line, uh, it's coming to an end. It is. So the last night was last night. Well, we'll be sorry. Whatever this comes out. It doesn't matter. Wait back up. So, love line long running show. I've been on, uh, it's been on for 30 plus years. And I've been honored for the last four years to be on once a week. And then the last two months, I've been on five minutes a week, 10 to midnight, and it's been an incredible experience. And you just realize how many lives that show is impacted over 30. I mean, it was really the only place for people to go for sex and relationship information. And, you know, everybody was calling up with these stories,

like I've been listening for 20 years. I sneak outside of my house and listen to my, sit under my covers a night and listen. And so it's really how people and it's just like very touching to even get to be in that room on the mic for that many years. Yeah. And people don't even realize like how many cities that that show reaches. I so I wanted to, you know, set up my social media to tell people to tune in, right? So I went to a listing and found, you know, where love line is aired, and it's just like, all over the freaking place.

And it's gonna be crazy when it's gone. I know, it's out, yeah. I'm sure it's gonna live on in podcast form, and I guarantee you, it'll be back on the radio somewhere. I think so too. I think so too, but it was a great, you know, it's funny, because when I started to text with the Emily, everyone's like, well, is it like love line? And I was like, you know,

no, I mean, I just think it, you know, just to be real, I think it was just being overseen by some companies that just didn't feel like it was important. But I with the right company, I mean, definitely, like there's no other shows that are that good out there believe me. I listen to a lot of radio shows and they suck They do right and love line is great They can write all the success with your show too by the oh, thanks, but I mean love it doesn't compare like no Love lines of institution. Yeah, so yeah, the show that I've been doing here about it's been here for about two years now But I've got renewed yeah, we got renewed for three more years. So you have me at least in Los Angeles for three more years.

You're glad you moved here for me and it all went out. OK, yeah, so that's love line and that's my nice. And now we're going to give a shout out to our sponsors. All right. I need to talk to you about the rave. You know I love weave-ibes, famous couples toys, and they're super powered boule-ibes, which is why I'm so excited to introduce the incredible rave. First glance, the rave appears to be a simple sculptural vibrator, but when you look closer,

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body-safe materials, and you can use their WeVib Connect app. So go to sexto-me.com, click on the ray-by-wey-banner and use code Emily for a special, very special discount. Thanks everyone for emailing me, feedback at sexwith-emily.com. I love hearing from you. I really do. We've been getting a lot of great questions. I mean, we always get a lot of questions, but they've been, you know, more diverse, more variety of questions.

And a lot more questions because it's a lot easier to ask. Now I think this is why on our website, you just go to sexwithemily.com, click on the Ask Emily and you can easily send it just from the website. Oh nice. So just include your name, age, and where you're listening from and how you listen. Because there are also manuscripts like really upset. Yes. Dear Emily, I recently heard you answer an email about retrospective jealousy and I know

I have this. I've noticed it with my ex. Now I've been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and I can't get the image of his past relationships out of my head. I see it as if I were there watching, thinking that there was a time when he didn't love me. I try to get the images out of my mind, but my current boyfriend keeps bringing up his X's. I told him to be open and honest with me and I would always be there to listen, but there

are things I don't want to hear. He would joke about the past and the stupid stuff he's done, how he got with his X only because she stripped down and climbed into his done, how he got with his ex only because she stripped down and climbed into his bed, how he snuck in his last girlfriend's house without her parents knowing, and the crazy stuff they did, apparently her dad was a doctor and he had a table with exam strips. I don't need to know this stuff. I've been a lot in my sexual past, but it stays in the past.

I don't even say Max's name. Why can't he do that? Am I in the wrong? Should I be able to knock it so jealous? If it's his past, why does it make me so crazy? Please help Rebecca. So let me get this straight. He keeps on bringing up his past.

Yes, incessantly. Yeah, that would be annoying. So annoying. I mean, so, because what I want to say, you are totally in the right here, Rebecca. I mean, the things that we often say, I'm like, you know, don't share your sex number with your partner.

That's not important to say, oh, I've sub a six, 12, 15 people. That never serves you. But this is a really interesting topic that I don't think we've really gotten into about, I'm sure we have, but not in a while, that like how much, you know, some couples are comfortable sharing their history, but you have to like clear it with your partner for sometimes people get off on it. Some people think it's really sexy and they don't get jealous.

They're just like, oh, that's really hot to hear that you did that or wow, we could do that too, but we'll make it even better. But it has to be cleared. I mean, you just have to say like, would I always do a relationship second when I was someone new? You know, something will happen. Like, have you ever been to Spain? I'll say, yeah, I actually went once. Who are you with? Oh, my ex, do you want to hear? And I'll say, don't you want to hear about this? No.

I always check. Some guys, I don't care. And some guys like, no, I don't want to hear anything. And so I'm like, okay, cool. Like, you just have to clear it by them. Because I think that some people just maybe hear her boyfriend's bragging or things that she's going to find interesting or cool.

Or he sounds like a stud. But let me just be clear though though this is not retrospective jealousy which we had in a previous show there was an email and this woman's partner was digging digging about her past and then he would use it against her and then he would also torture himself so you are not looking for this info rebecca and your partner is dumping it on you and you're not asking for the information. And so you're in the right here, you're totally, like your feelings are so valid and it would be so natural that would make you feel uncomfortable.

Like no one wants to think about that partner with someone else. No way. Right? You can't get out of your mind. No, and I don't want to hear about it constantly. That's, again, that is so effing annoying. I mean, have she, she said she's mentioned? No, I don't know if this, I don't think that she's talked about it. And this is the thing, this is what effing annoying. I mean, have she said she's mentioned?

No, I don't know if this, I don't think that she's talked about it. And this is the thing, this is why people talked to us first. Yeah. Like, yes, talked to him. Yeah, I think, I think maybe you just have to mention it once. Like, hey, look, you know what? I still want to hear about your exes anymore. Yeah.

And if he keeps on going after that, then you have an issue. But I think, I think I think I mean if my girlfriend came to me and said, Hey, I don't want to hear about this anymore. I would totally drop it. I'm like, Oh, okay, cool. Exactly. Wouldn't say anything. I think you just and you don't have to make it like we need to talk kind of conversation. Just be like, Hey, you know, babe, next time he doesn't say, I don't please don't talk about your accident. I don't love hearing about your exes, but I love hearing about our sex life. Like let's talk about our sex life. I mean, just bring

it back to you and just tell him, like, like, you don't need to about your exes, but I love hearing about our sex life. Like let's talk about our sex life. I mean, just bring it back to you. Just tell them like, you don't need to hear about his past. And you know, I say, I've got a lot of stories too, but let's just work on our relationship and have him great sex. And just, you know, tell them that you don't,

I mean, because it doesn't sound like you have what she's doing, which is what a lot of us do. I would think that women, I do stereotypes, but more than men oftentimes we blame ourselves. And she thinks that are my feelings valid am I okay? Is there something wrong with me that I'm jealous? You know, so she's not sure.

Rebecca, I totally understand you're like, well, maybe this is normal and I shouldn't confront them. No, you should confront them. Tell them it doesn't make you feel comfortable. And you never want to hear about it, X is again, there's nothing wrong that you're completely valid here and I'm glad you passed it by me and just talked about it and this will hopefully go away. And you'll stop obsessing about it. Yes. So just start like ratcheting up your sex life so you can obsess about that hot sex. Agreed. Okay.

Emily, my fiance and I are about 31 years old and have been together for six years and engaged for a year. We live in Florida and love to listen to the show Via iTunes. We've taken many of your suggestions for toys, but our favorite has to be the Magic One Rechargeable. Though I'm lusting after the womanizer after hearing all your positive reviews. We've had a great relationship, and one of our favorite things to do is travel. My question is, what are the rules for flying with sex toys? We travel a lot, but I've never brought along the Magic One even though it's our favorite. This may sound silly, but I'm not sure if I can even fly with it

in my check bag or carry on. I checked couldn't find much on the TSA website. Let me know what you think, and thanks for the great podcasts. I love Anderson, congrats on the baby, and menace, I think it'd be great if menace's girlfriend could come on the show because I'd love to hear her point of view on things.

Oh. You and you disagree on cute, the great work Elizabeth. That's a great idea. Hell no. Why? Why? Because I think a lot of people have a lot of issues

with their relationship because of outside feedback. Definitely. And if people don't believe that, they're fucking morons. So why would I want to introduce more people into my relationship? It would be for ratings. But it has, yeah, that's what I say. And then, yeah, the more people that you have the chime in your relationship, the more problems that you're going to have.

It's true. Look at all the real housewives you got divorced, definitely. Right? Because they have everybody chiming in on the relationship. I'm just going to go launch it there one day. I'll keep it all. Yeah, great. Okay. Okay. Back to Elizabeth. This is our one day. I'll keep it all. Yeah great. Okay, okay back to Elizabeth This is a great question because you are allowed to fly with toys. You're allowed travel them It is not illegal unless you're flying into Alabama. I'm thinking it's illegal there because sex toys are illegal there What they've abandoned sex toys. I'm buying sex toys. Yeah, they do

But I'm not sure if you fly in with one and you didn't purchase it. We got to Google that We did Google it. Uh-huh Banned on buying sex toys and about it used to be Texas as well. So it's just Alabama You could take it through security. You can check it in your bag walk through TSA waving it like a fairy princess If you want it is not illegal believe me. I've done it I've like once came home from this sex conference sex to a conference with like 18 toys in my carry on in Las Vegas And they were laughing their asses off. So if you don't want it to turn on,

that's the bummer, a lot of toys not the bummer, but there are toys that like, a lot of them are better-reparated, you just take out the batteries. So if you're worried about how to pack it, I mean, I would suggest if you're checking your luggage, I would pack it that way. You could put it in your boot if you've got boots,

you could do bubble wrap around it, you could put a cardboard tube around it. The part with the button so the button doesn't turn on. You could always have the batteries drain, recharge it when you get there. But yeah, there's nothing illegal about it. I'm sure you'll figure out how to do this, but yeah, sex toys, you're going on vacation, the more the merrier. Also, what else? Fun factory makes all the vibrators with a travel lock function, which is smart, but I don't think you have to worry about this. How many times are you embusted? Which toys?

Yeah. I'd say three to four times, like going through and they're like, what's this? Excuse me ma'am, and then they pull out my bag, my bag, and they're like, what, and they hold up, like one time it was a rabbit vibrator. And they were like laughing, it did turn on. I had one of those issues because I was like, you know, me brushing the airport got a big bag. And I didn't know it was in there. Like I meant to put it by suitcase. And they just laughed. There's nothing. Mm-hmm. Camping sex toys. Um, and then when I was going through Vegas that one time after the show, it was like, I really, I mean, I had cartons and cartons of toy.

I was like, here, I didn't even time to pack them. So they're just going through them bags. And they're like, wow wow you had a good time Vegas. I don't care though you're all good. I'm sure Vegas is seen everything. Exactly. Okay. Got time for another one. All right.

Emily I love the podcast. Love the answers you give. My situation is kind of a crazy story but bear with me. All right. My wife and I have been married for five years. Back at the beginning of 2014 she told me she had met someone and really wanted to take a break and focus on that relationship to see if her and I were really meant to be. Wining to stay with her and keep our family together, I decided to wait it out because I love

her so much. Fast forward to the end of 2015, she tells me she's choosing to be with me. Her husband. After talking, we decided to give it a go again. I couldn't be more excited. The first time we had sex again, it was completely different, which I expected. After communicating about it,

she told me the other guy, she was, she was the other guy, she was with a filter in ways I never did. Here's the puncher, here's the kicker. It basically comes down to him being bigger, length, anger. To be honest, it gets in my head. We had an amazing and frequent sex life before all this happened, and now it's sporadic, but she says she still enjoys our sex, I shouldn't worry. My long-winded question is, is there a way to make up for what I lack in order to fulfill her

in the way she was with him? I'm a giver for sure. She has multiple orgasms. We do have sex, but I want that extra oomph. Thank you, Emily. Travis 27th St. Louis, Missouri. St. Louis. Oh, do you know what? You know, I have to bring you back to food.

But in St. Louis, Missouri, there's a place called Hot Shots. And there's a burger named after me there. The Menace Burger? The Menace Burger. What's on it? There's a Japothlay sauce. I want one. Can you text them right now? Yeah.

And you can come on over? Yeah, it's in Pepper Jack Cheese burger. So Travis, could you tell yourself with a burger from Menace Burger? Yeah, go to Hot Shots. Ask for the Menace Burger. That's awesome. OK, listen, Travis, here's burger. It's Travis. So you can tell yourself with a burger. Yeah, go to hot shots, ask for the menace burger. That's awesome. Okay, listen, Travis, here's the deal. There are so many issues either it made my head spin. I don't know where to start.

So let me just let me just get this straight. Let me just recap here. Yeah. She took two years away from your marriage to be with another man. Then she decides, I'll be with you, my husband. But then she criticizes Your penis like assault your penis like that. We're she has assault his penis and says oh P.S. The other guy was was bigger and now you're insecure about it You're worried about your performance and you still want to give her more multiple orgasms Yeah, so Travis this woman your wife. This is all emotional abuse. I

So Travis, this woman, your wife, this is all emotional abuse. I mean, we got to break it down because it's so much more than her penis. And what do you think we knew we're hearing this? Are you following this? I know it's long. No. His wife says, hey, take a little break. I'm gonna sleep with another guy. Oh, no, we'll be together. Oh, let's have sex. Oh, my other guy is so girthy.

Oh, yeah, just mental torture. Torture. Like, not only should you not talk about your past, you definitely don't want to talk about other penises when there's another penis present. No, no, never, ever. So there's trust issues. She stepped on your marriage to be with another man,

Ouch. You waited around because I'm assuming you have kids Travis, because you said that you wanted to keep it together for the family. Uh-huh. And you wanted to do the right thing, which you did. And then she comes back and she's ready to be with you, but that does not erase the emotional damage and trauma that was caused by her leaving and essentially cheating. Like that's called space space. Yeah, definitely.

Okay. And these issues, cheating issues specifically, they do not go away without therapy. Couples don't have the skills on their own to rebuild trust. They just can't. Because what couples often do is they're like, oh, I don't want to talk about it anymore. The cheater, you know, I was like, well, it's already done. We've discussed it. And it just bubbles and boils and boils.

And people think the years go by, just like trauma. If you don't do it with it, it doesn't go away. So you've got to discuss the betrayal, not her ex-boyfriends, penis size. The second thing is the emotional abuse. She left you, she made you wait around for two years. That's a long, friggin' time. And so this is three out of the five years of your marriage. She's like missing an action. And then the penis thing. I mean, you have to know this or her. You like, I don't know where

the planet is. She did that on purpose. She's the on purpose. I would say to you guys, you're the biggest and best I've ever had. Yep. That's all you say about their penis, but you definitely don't talk about other penises. So you're totally valid in your feelings, and she should be there supporting you, building you up, making you feel safe and love

that is part of rebuilding trust. And instead, she's back with you, but she's still tearing you down, and making you feel bad about your penis and other things. So I'm surprised you're able to have sex at all. And you seem like such a nice guy, Travis, because you're like, I gave her multiple orgasms, I love her, I'm so excited she came back.

So like, I just feel like you need a little tough love here, because you sound just like really sweet, a sweet family guy. And what do you think about this nice? I guess if you wanna keep it together with the family then I go the the route of talking with people about it talking to therapy and stuff like that which I know it's embarrassing or hard to talk

Hard to talk with some other other people about your sex life, but Also, it's just like on other hand, if you don't want to do that, then just go ahead and find, find another person. Yeah, I mean, yeah. If you don't have kids, then do definitely just leave, you know, I want to say too. I eventually, unless you go to therapy, all this stuff is just going to keep on happening. Yeah, exactly. So either you go to therapy because you love her and you want to work it out.

But just remember, she is not being considerative your feelings as you are of hers at all. How is she taking care of your heart? So stop worrying about how many orgasms she has and take care of your needs. So let us know what happens Travis. I'm sending love and burgers to St. to Missouri. To Missouri.

I'm going to do one more. All right. Kaza, you know why? Why? Cause it's about my favorite thing. Okay. Oh, let me guess. It's either having somebody go down on you or Loub.

What is it? Guys, Loub! Oh, Loub! We could play like the newlywad game or something. Yeah, I'm totally when you wouldn't know nothing about me, but. I know everything about you. I follow you on Snapchat. Hi, Lou. We could play like the newlyweds game or something. Yeah, I'm totally when you wouldn't know nothing about me, but I know everything about you. I follow you on Snapchat. Hi, Emily.

My name is Mike. I'm 22 years old and moved just moved up to El Monte, California. OK. I'm assuming. I just went through a breakup with my girlfriend of three years. It's been about a month, and I feel OK now.

I actually started talking to a girl I met on Instagram, and we have a date set up for this week. I'm feeling nervous and was curious about using Lou with her but my ex hated Lou And I don't want her to freak her out by just bringing out a bottle What Lou would you recommend and how should I bring up the subject with her or would you just recommend not bringing any Lou and just tons of For play love the show. Thanks for responding Mike All right, you've been chatting with a girl Instagram like I love his confidence. You know, he's getting a little ahead of himself.

There, but they haven't gone on date yet. But either way, you know, busing out the loop on the first date could be presumptuous. If you're not having sex, but, you know, I think Loub is great. And I think every man who wants to be losing, using Loub every time because the stigma with Loub is that you bring it out. If she's dry and he didn't turn around enough or she feels deficient because she, some women are just dry. Yeah, someone will dry, and someone, someone, that your level of wetness is not a reflection

on how turned on you are, which people do not know that. It fluctuates different times a month and the bottom line is study after study has shown that when you add a little extra loop, women are more likely to orgasm, it feels better for everybody. And that's why my dream is a lube on every night's day. I'm going to make a t-shirt. So if it's more comfortable, you know, it feels better for you. So the problem is that, like I said, there is a stigma. The suggestion, my suggestion is I'm assuming, of course, you'll be using a condom. And it is not unusual for men to put a little drip of Lube inside the condom. Have you ever done this, Mennas?

Mm-hmm. Okay, this feels amazing. You put on the eye- Because I actually, I mean kids not all people are saying I actually like more friction than having a bunch of lube. And I know that you are extreme lube fan. No, no, no, but you still have friction. It's like it's like it's not even that You have less friction. It's more like the the lube on her clitoris and like her labia and stuff like that. It's not necessarily like people think it's like going to be all wet and gushy. It's just the lube gets everything kind of warmed up and primed.

So in your, but what I'm saying is if you put it in the inside tip of your condom, it can feel better for your penis and it's not the kind of breaking in the reservoir, thank you. So if you do have sex, you can put the lube and the condom and let her know what you're gonna do. And you could just take, you know, just put the lube, I've seen a lot of guys do that

when I suffer, but if you're not, no, not with the guys that I suffer, no. So you don't say, hey, do you want some? So I think how I usually do is like, or a guide, you can put some in your hand, and like if you guys are about to have sex I'm assuming you're, it's already going there. You can rub a little bit on her clitoris around like her pubic mound, labia.

Like it's not like you have to like, I don't know what people think, like if it's like chocolate sauce, you're like pouring, I'll never know. It's like a little tiny drip. I just can feel really good if you rub it on her. Yeah, that's a good way to do it. Then you could also use it

while you're manually stimulating her. Just a little bit, you don't need on her. Yeah, it's a good way to do it. Then you could also use it while you're manually stimulating our just a little bit. You don't need a lot. So it doesn't reduce the frigshed. It just adds this really cool feeling to sex. Love it. What are the orgasms? I like System Joe. It's one of my new faves.

It's water-based, so it's safe to use with condoms. And it won't make her sticky or dry up quickly. And it mimics the natural lubrication. And it's good for sensitive adjiness as well. So that's a good safe one for women. Yeah, and you can find all this info on my website, sexes-sexy-family.com. But that's okay, I think we're good. We're gonna wrap.

We're gonna wrap this up. Again, it was so much fun hanging out with you and the entire sex with Emily squad at your house. Yeah, I know. If people haven't listened to that podcast, go ahead and listen to it. I was drinking with Emily, right? Drinking with Emily. Yep, drinking with Emily.

And it was good because I feel like like I said earlier, I don't find something to show, but they don't really know you and some people think that, you know, you're not the nicest person. No, I get it because you come in your series, I think you're nice, but you're not the nicest person. No. I explain why. I get it, because you come into your series. I think you're nice, but you're so nice and sweet. And I'm like, you should, we all want to hang with you. And then we're going to have to be serious. I think you're nice.

I know. Because you're all business. Yeah. And you do make me look good. So I'm glad. And I think we should do it more often. So thank you for coming over. And that was a friggin blast.

Like, I love my stuff. I love everybody. Like, I feel like just very grateful right now. I would cry. No, but I do because I have an amazing team. I just felt just very grateful right now. I would cry. No, but I do because I have an amazing team. I just felt really good to have everyone together. So thank you, Madison and Lori and Jamie, who are all there.

And Menace and Lauren, with all of them, anything else? No, follow you on Snapchat. Yeah, follow me on Snapchat. We're going to snap this. Shep, shut that. Twitter, Instagram, it's all so exciting. But Snapchat, and I'm really getting into it. Oh, we're gonna snap this Chef shut that yeah, Instagram. It's all so suddenly but I'm really getting into it. Okay. Okay. What does this come out this podcast? This is April 29th 29th. All right

It's Chiro's birthday on May 1st. Oh So we're having a party. Well One is May 1st. I don't even know what day that is. Like two days, set three days. Second is the second birthday. It's her first birthday. Oh, my God, it's her first. So if you want to wish her happy birthday on her Instagram,

my dog share on Instagram, I would be funny to see how many people do it, because I want to know how many people listen to the entire podcast all the way to the end. That would be very interesting. You know what? That's a great idea. So go wish, sure, happy birthday. At my dog, sure. At my dog, sure, and at menace on Instagram.

And all that was anything else. Mad Simuart, I go, no, just I just love you all. And thank you for listening. And again, thank you for subscribing to the show that really helps. We do two week. And I love you. Was it good for you?

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