Sex With Emily - Ladies Talk Sex & Backdoor Secrets

Episode Date: August 29, 2015

August is Anal Pleasure Month and Sex With Emily is celebrating on today’s show with a panel of women who are ready to talk sex and get frank about the naughty nitty gritty of backdoor play. This group of ladies have a wide range of sexual experience to share and nothing is off limits in this steamy sex talk session.Have you ever wanted to knock on your guys backdoor? How can you know if he would be open to the idea? Emily offers tips and tricks for introducing the idea of backdoor play to your man in a way that won’t send him running for the hills! This panel of ladies also each divulge their biggest turn-ons, universal turn offs, and their number one sex tips. What can you do to make sure you’re giving the best pleasure to your partner? Whether you’re into talking dirty, ear licking or hair pulling, this show has something everyone can relate to. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is definitely not safe for work, but in the best possible way. I've got four hilarious ladies in the studio to talk about all things sex and we're getting into the dirty details. Real women, real stories, nothing held back. Some of the things we're talking about,

you can find out the biggest mistake a man can make in bed. What do real women think about during sex? And what do women really think about anal sex? Everyone's favorite topic. Okay, everyone, so thanks for listening. Enjoy the show. Man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend?

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We do not spam you and they're pretty entertaining and they link to a lot of the great stuff at our site, which every day we're posting blogs and videos and things that will help you have better sex and relationships because that's what I'm all about. And I'm all about these sexy ladies here. Hi. Hi. This is so fun. I love these shows because we, I've got these you guys, there is nothing else back here. I know because, okay, so I'm going to go around and introduce you guys and then we're gonna Tag on we first met like how I know that they would be awesome on the show. So first okay, so I've Grace. Yes. Hi. Hi. Hi. Hi Grace. Hello. So tell me tell me about yourself. How old are you? Oh, my name is Grace Para. I am 31 years old. I am Sassy Latina. it's not relevant at all. I'm like, oh, our conversation.

I just started to pitch it. Oh, there are pictures on the site. There are pictures on the site, great. And I'm a writer, host, comedian, actress, I guess, I think I should say too. I don't know when it was hyphenate. One of those L.A. hyphenate. I love it.

Yeah, and I'm a real big fan of sex, talking about sex, being candid about sex, avoiding talking about sex with my father. That's good, that's probably a good thing. I don't know, dad's don't like his one. That's okay, mom's get it. Dad's a little bit. Yeah, but dad's not. Dad's not.

Okay, wait a minute, are you in a relationship? What's your relationship status? I am single. I am single as the day is long. No, that's not, that's not a thing. It's not a sex. It's not a very, I'm, yeah, single but- You won't be after this show.

I don't know. Once they hear about it. No. I'm, but dating. Okay. Single but dating. Got it. Okay.

Jennifer. Hi Jen. Hi Jen. Hi Jen. Hi Jen. I'm good. Good to see you. Oh, I'm excited to be here.

My name's Jen Bartels. I'm also a comedian and actress and creator of things that are important to me and my heart. That sounded cute and deep. And we actually have a show, Grace and I, have this show called Lady Free Comedy, that we do at UCB here in Los Angeles. That's kind of a, I guess, similar air to this show,

which is just being stupidly candid. Not the most educated, but always wanting to further our education on sex topics. So so excited to be here. And I have to be able to find that. I just want to say that I'm honored because I was in your first show. You were amazing. Yes, all right. And inaugural sessions. And that's how I was there. And it was amazing. It was a live show. And you guys do it how many times once a month or once a month. Once a month. Once a month. Once a month. The second Wednesday of every month. Okay. You see

our next one is coming up Wednesday September you guys gotta check it out it was really fun and I have to say I knew like I walked into like our green room and I think Grace was it you're like can I just you're like yes this guy I was doing this guy and then some guy came in my chest and then at another date and I didn't have time to shower and then I went home and then I had another guy and then I'm like no shower the concrete smell the guy me so I'm like we no shower, the concrete smell, I mean, so I'm like, we just got rid of each other.

I don't even think we said hi. I don't even think I said like I'm Emily. I said, I came on it. These girls can do that. So that was behind the way to see this show. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. So, okay, Kim.

Hi, Kim. Hi, Emily. How are you? I'm doing great, thanks. So tell me, Kim, so Kim's a friend of mine. And tell me about you. We all live in Los Angeles. Yes. Okay. And how old are you? Well, I'm 42. And very single. And I've never been married. So you can imagine how many sex stories I have to share. Because you haven't been a burden for a while. Well, yeah, it's been a few years.

So, very long time. But, no, it's just something I'm totally interested in. It's a big part of my life. And definitely open to just like talking about it today and sharing some crazy stories. And you're single now, you said single. Very single, yes. I'm sorry, Jen, would you say you were separated?

So, I'm a newly single. Okay, you were married. No, I was married and now I'm going through divorce Oh, okay, how long we married I was married for two years, but I was with him for seven. Okay, so that was the same dick for seven years now Okay, so now you're just going we're all single. Yeah, okay. Oh wow This is insane. Okay. Oh, wow. Lori. Yes, so Lori. Hello. Hi sweetie. So tell me you 27 years old and I am single and I'm looking for more, you know. You want a relationship? Well, I always want a

relationship. I, uh, yeah, I just feel like I'm wired that way, but I also very much enjoy casual sex. Right. It's a good time. Especially when part of her job is like I got to try out this toy tonight. Can you come over and write? Lori's had some good stories. I don't want that job, by the way. It's awesome. Yeah, it's great.

It's actually, yeah, we have a good time. I don't want to tell her. I don't know. No one likes the boss when I leave. No, I'm kidding, but we have a good time. And we do. Lori had her first multiple orgasm after using a toy and the office. I just want to just launch that because I just litute her that way now. Was it in the office? using a toy and the office. I just want to just launch with that because I just let you through that way now. But we have intern, we will, we

choose an intern, but we have interned sex toy review day. We just did a sex toy review show recently, but she was saying the night before that she had never had a multiple orgasm. She's trying to think all the wee vibe touch. It's the wee vibe makes bunch of sex toys, but it's a literal toy and she was like, I've never had one. I said, you know, just could you never had one because a lot of things about sex as we think I can only orgasm This where I can only think that way and then Laurie took the touch home that night And I was like, well don't let me you never know it could happen. She came in I we were on Mike like this in the same place It's so how was the Weve I've touched she's like I had five orgasms. Yeah, five in the one I'm like you want it like you wanted, like, seed in my brain.

One after the other. It was like one and then, like, a minute later, two right next to each other, and then, like, 15 seconds later, another. So, like, aftershocks. It was, like, little troughs. Yeah, I can't say that. Exactly.

It was like the bad one and then aftershocks. That's awesome. Wow. Yeah, I know. So it's, yeah. It's like a time. I know, it's amazing. I want that, by the way.

I also want the toy. I have. Have you ever had, okay, so let's, okay, know it's amazing. I want that by the way. I also I toy I Remember how okay, so let's okay, so Grace have you have you had multi-organisms? I have occasionally but only Self-self-inflicted okay never been given multiples by a man. Okay, or by a toy. Oh really? Another man or machine has been able to neither a man or machine Will you so your fingers are typically how you master me? actually, I do this sort of like kegelsy thing. Oh, does anybody else do this key? This is something we've talked about a little bit on Lady Freak, but yeah, I am, um, uh, like, I pump the kegel muscles?

Yeah, yeah, like I don't use my fingers at all. You don't even touch yourself? Don't even touch myself, which is how sometimes in the middle of the night, I can wake up mid orgasm. Wait, you hands-free masturbate? I hands-free masturbate. Yep. Have you always done that?

Always. I don't know how I learned it, don't know how I hands-free masturbate. Yep. Have you always done that? Always. I don't know how I learned it. I don't know how I picked it up, but it's, I've always done that. That's amazing. Yeah, no, I've, this is what I'm saying. You guys, we talked about this intensity. We have this product called the intensity that does your cagula exercise.

It's the most amazing product in the world, and it does it for you. Your cagula has become stronger. And what I'm saying is when they become stronger, that your pelvic floor, you can actually walk around like a rouse all the time. Because your muscles are bigger. That's what every woman needs to do. Their chagalog, your pelvic floor drops, it's not straight after you have to childbirth

or you older every year. But we all exercise our outside because as everyone can see, no one's going to her pelvic floor looks kind of messy. But I'm telling you, I love this. Really, that's it. I've never, okay. Yeah, I can talk about, I mean, it's great.

In many ways, it's a little bit difficult though, because translating that to sex. So during intercourse, you typically, do you have orgasms though? It's much harder for me. It's much harder. Only 30% can. Is that the official sex?

Yeah, that is. Most, 70% cannot, okay, Kim, what time? I can, no, I can. During intercourse, every time? If I want to. Yeah, I don't know why you're here I've had a hard time having friends like this. I have to like think about it and really focus on it though Okay, is it a certain position or can you do it for multiple positions? Mostly like me on top?

Yeah, so I wish I I could do it. No, but still so on top so is it is a g spot or literal? Do it's g spot. Okay, okay See mine's literal I I can on top. It's a sure fire way. We could do it and still make dinner reservations and not be late. Because if I have a lot of time. Every time.

Every time. Every time unless I've been drinking too much because then that's a different problem. Right. Like pussy. Yeah. The bourbon pussy problem. The BPP. Anyway.

But I wish I could come other ways. Like I see in porn like girls, I guess quote unquote, I don't know if they're really coming, but like from the back, like from, or the guy. Yeah, oh yeah. And I'm just like, I don't know how that happens. That's their line. Yeah, well we're anal sex.

Actually, absolutely no, some of them in porn, they might not be in that moment, but a lot of women can have orgasms through anal sex because the tissues are so closely, you know, hitting up against your G-spot and it's possible. It is possible. It's not for every woman, but it can happen. So yes, you're right. But you also want to be able to have a G-spot orgasm too, or can you have that as well during? No, it's more clitorial simulation. And have you had a G-spot orgasm? I have. Once or twice, but it's a rarity. It's it's like a special gift.

There's a gift for that. Thank you. Okay. I wanted to add something to that. It actually didn't start for me until like my mid 30s. Really? It was a cult. Yeah, I think that there was like training or I had to learn my body. I had to learn really worked. So how did you do that, Kim? Yeah, I was just reading. I actually read a book called The Cheese Spot. Okay. It was really like inspired me I really like put effort into it and I think a lot of it's mental. It is. How did you did you did you get a G spot toy? Or did you just start playing around? You just read about how to move during sex. So what did you learn?

I just learned about really getting that yourself really aroused like on you know like on the outside and like you're Yeah, of course, it's really helpful if your clit around. Yeah, they say to have a clip, they say, I say, I know this, that it really helps to have a little orgasm first. And then it's so much easier to find your G spot because it becomes more engorged and swiss. We've already turned on. Yeah. So I really have to focus on it. I think I actually like visualized in my mind that I want it to happen. And then I feel like that makes it much easier. Yeah. For sure. Before your mid-30s, had you tried to make, because I want it to happen and then I feel like that makes it much easier. For sure. Before your mid 30s had you tried to make, because I've never had one and I try. No, I don't like this book.

Maybe read this book. No. So you didn't even try it. I don't really really want to say that I remember it for so long, but definitely mentally, like I have to really take myself there. And I really have to be into the guy. It can't happen with just everyone. I really have to like care about him or have some kind of a feeling, you know feelings of those sorts. That's so important. I can't just fuck anything. I can't just me to go and do it.

On the flip side though, if you really care about somebody, oh my god, if you're into somebody, it's like water works. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Oh you mean like squishy pussy? Oh I wish I have never done that. I'll be interested in it. Yeah. I'd be very in in fact I had a goal actually before I turned 31 that I would have Squirty fun before 31 That's the name of your birthday already heard okay Squirty something before 32 we can make this happen. Oh, yeah, Squirty Lou before 32. Yeah, okay Totally I mean you can learn just where you can learn just where so you want to set up But you um, okay, so and then master. Did we tell you do master rate? I do I'm master bait quite a bit. I how I um so I first the funny thing we talked about this in the last show

I I will fuck on my bed, but when I masturbate I hide underneath next to my bed So in case any neighbor can find a way to peak in, they can't see me. Oh my god, really? Like you're afraid they're going to... I don't know. I can only do things on my bed sexually.

But when I'm by myself, I'm like, dirty little girl. And so I like go on and like sit by myself. And sitting on the floor. Like laying on the floor. Oh, it's not a cold floor. It's a warm room. Yeah, yeah.

It's not like a cage. Like it's got a... And I should. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's not a cage, like it's bad. And I masturbate and I use my fingers, but I just rub my clit. So I don't like finger, myself. Direct, right. Yeah, like I, yeah, like I directly rub my clit. That's something that I actually have been learning

about myself, direct stimulation to my clit is too much. Right, that's very, that's actually a compliment. So this is why we're talking about this, because you're going to, to have five women in the room and five different ways we're going to. But ginas were all different. It's true. We all are going to differently.

And there's a lot of women who just, their clitters are way too sensitive. Two sensitive. Yeah, they just can't. They can't touch. They have to work up to it. So that makes sense. But some of them are like, you know, you see more.

This is a question. With when you have too much sex, or you're like, clit is just getting touched and simulated for like a few hours then in the morning or in the middle of the night. Once recently, my Clint felt like it was going rrrr on its own. It was having little seizures.

And I don't know if it was like withdrawal or I had overly rubbed it, like, it was, it was, it was, it was, it was, it hurt? No, it didn't hurt, it just felt like, it was like, aftershocks. It was aftershocks of just little rrrr. That's like, that's like, like, multiple orgasms, kind of, right? But it wasn't an felt like- It was like aftershocks. It was aftershocks of just little, that's like multiple orgasms kind of, right? But it wasn't an orgasm.

I was just laying there and I was like, and then I always think dark, I'm like, my clits gonna fall off. No, you're clicking that phone. Is that what you were asking me? No, but you can sometimes, you know, with different toys, you wanna mix it up if you're only using one toy,

you're just like anything, but you don't use toys. I used the rabbit for a while, then I got so addicted to it because it stimulates your butt, it stimulates your pussy hole, and then it stimulates your clit. And that's, it was like a Christmas morning. And then when I have a real dick, I was like, this is it.

Right, dammit. What else? You don't vibrate. You don't turn around with a little bowl beside. Did you insert it the all the way in? Like that's, how deep do you go? I mean, it goes pretty deep. It's a decent size. Yeah, you received, you guys had a free sex filming office.

You got kids gotten some presents, you don't understand. It's a good time, the presents, the toys. So you don't have, did you have a G-Spot orgasm with that insertion rabbit toy? Yes, that was one of the times by myself that I've had one. And yeah, it stimulates everything. It was one of the best still-dose on the market for a while. It did so much and it was just, it blew my mind the first time that I had it. I have the knockoff, the, the gigasm. The gigasm. Well, you're gonna say the ferret.

It was so many different kinds of, kind of, of rabbit vibes now. Like they make hundreds of them now, like they just basically it's insertion and then they do little things in the outside that my baby, that's cool. Yeah, that's cool. Was it's clean once yeah so that that's cool and Kim yes vibration experiences guilty yeah you know my favorite toy is what's that little pink one that you can oh the jazzy me me that's my favorite yeah you got there real quick by the way that that's impressive you're in a second really have 300 to five and thousands of toys, but that is my favorite. That's my go-to every time. Right?

It's so powerful and so efficient. It looks like a little, I'll show you guys pictures after and you guys, if you've been listening, I talk about it for a while. It's, because I've tried everything, it still is my go-to and it's, it looks like a little, like, it's silicone. It's like a little, it's rechargeable, like a stone, like a pebble. Yeah. And you can hold it in your hand. What that is? Yeah, it's like that you hold it in your hand. Oh, oh. It's rechargeable and it just has these, it's rechargeable like a stone like a pebble. Yeah, yeah, and you can hold in your hand. What that is.

Yeah, it's like that you hold in your hand. Oh, oh. It's rechargeable and it just has these. It's soft. It's the reason why I know the owners. The reason why I feel like I love it so much it's soft. But it's a different kind of vibration. It's a thumpy, more like a thump.

Oh, I love it. You love a thump? I love a thump. I love a hump and a thump. And it's just, there's something about it. So that's what you use. Have you ever used it with a partner? Uh, yes, as a matter of fact, I put it underneath the her print his premium his balls. Yes

Wow, it's crazy. Have you guys ever done any ball play guys love this vibrations we think it's for us men you put a little something their premium their balls I have never done any sex toy play with a guy before I gotta get on that I never though. I just don't want to like pop a ball or like, you know, hurt it because what ends up happening is I accidentally kick it or I do something. So I always get scared to bring toys near their sense of ball stuff.

But first, yeah, you were the first time you were with them, but I thought that way too. I had a really bad experience. Like in my early 20s, I think like, knock some guy in the balls or something, and I did something bad. And I literally blocked balls for my life. It was like I like post traumatic ball disorder.

I did not touch balls for like years. I like forgot the existed. And I was like, oh my god, I gotta get back into the balls. And then I realized like the ways to like handle them. Like you just totally, you start really soft. You put them in your hands kind of like those little bend wall balls. Yeah, yeah. And you know, like that.

And then, but then, and you can have a little lube and then just see a little vibration on the lowest speed of any vibrato you have, and you just rub it on the balls. I'm telling you, no guys ever complain. They've crazy, guys love it. You put in the pernium too, which is the tape. Really gently.

Yeah, gently. And right when you was about to orgasm. Yeah, I was just kind of like, you know, during like the four play, just kind of heating things up. It was super hot. It's definitely a go-to. Okay, good.

I think it used the meaty. Yeah, and I think it's good to talk to a guy about it. Right. You know what that's about. Yeah, not to talk to the balls. You don't want to rush it up. But yeah, I know what you mean with the balls. I got scared. What about you, Laurie? I love balls. My favorite thing about, well, I love the, okay, I should say I like the scrotum in particular. Okay. I like to like hold them and then I like when your hand is a different temperature than their balls and then the scrotum like like moves and you can feel it moving like I get a big kick out of that. Yeah, and you find that some guys are there are guys that do ask them for you gentle start gently or they were like no don't answer my balls if you ever had that.

Um, they usually ask me to, to, you know, access their balls at some point. I go for the blow job pretty quick. I usually go for a blow job. And then I feel like, I don't know, nine out of 10 times. I'll hear like, oh, touch the ball. Yeah, you're right. That is.

That's a nice transition. Let's go into blow jobs for a minute. Oh, bless. I want to know how do you guys feel about blowjabs? I love them. I love them. I really genuinely enjoy giving them. I like the feeling.

I like the taste. I like the power. It's powerful, right? It's powerful. Yeah, it's fun. It's really fun. I think I might enjoy giving blowjabs more than I like receiving or really.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You do the sense of clippers. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Does that make sense? Yeah, I like, yeah. Wow, that's good. Because there is blow jobs because your men give the women's up giving them,

they don't like it or they're all understant. I don't either. But you were, okay, let's move to Jennifer, who's Jen. Yeah. You were married. Seven years. Yeah. There's a myth and maybe it's not a wives tale's Jen. You were married. Seven years. There's a myth and maybe it's a wives tale. When you get married, you start with three blow jobs.

Oh, sex went, I mean, this is sad, but it's the honest. Yeah, sex, it just went downhill. I mean, everything, it just, sometimes it works and you can make it work and then sometimes you become so comfortable with someone that it's not, you know, it's, it goes a little falls by the wayside. Falls by the wayside and then it's just like life gets in the way. And so that's like my big focus now is like that's not gonna happen. Right.

Uh, with whoever I end up with next. But I do like giving blow jobs if I like the person. And, and I've gotten big on, I, this thing where I like, even after he's been inside, then like when he's right before he's about to come, I'll go back down and take it. Yeah. Take the come right.

You're like, they didn't come about. Yes, and it's so fucking hot. Yeah. Can I say the F-Ware? Yeah, it's fine. And I've just, it's been something I'm like, I'm surprising myself. I'm like, oh, okay. It's powerful, but it's also like if you like doing it and you know it feels so wonderful

to them. It's like a little mission I'm going on. I'm like, here I go and I kiss my way down and then we go wow that's hot. Okay, good. I like any okay Well Kim yeah fan yes, yes, huge fan. I mean I would give them all day if I could see and I love this you guys Because I have friends like no women don't like them. They like I have friends like that too and I'm like And so we don't look at my face exactly and I think there's a lot to it though like the hygiene aspect liking, liking the person, connecting with the person. I'm not just going to like suck any dick that puts his dick in my mouth. Right. You know. Do you feel like you, is it the kind of thing that you do like on the first day? Yeah, totally. Sure. If it was a good first day, sure.

Yeah. What makes a good first day? Good enough that you get to blow down your, your, your connecting. Oh, I mean, I think like sense of humor paid for the bill. Wasn't like weird about it. Like, you got the friend tries and I got the, oh mean, I think like sense of humor paid for the bill, wasn't like weird about it. Like, you got the friend tries and I got the, oh yeah, I need to be gone. Yeah, I need to be gone. Yeah, I need to be gone. French fry fried is the worst.

That guy's a jerk. OK, so Lori, blowjob? I do love giving blow jobs. I feel like it's almost like, I think I'm good at it. So it's like showing off when I do it. Like, are you ready for me? We're making sure you think that you're good at it. Feedback.

Feedback. And there's like, actually, when we did the blow job workshop or the Oral Sex workshop, and I was watching through the PowerPoint and was like, yep, I do all of that. Oh, good. Like, those are all things. Check, check, check. Make it happen.

OK, good. Except if it's super, super large, then I get scared. But we've got to get into other things. Large pieces. Yes, Kim. I also think's like super, super large, then I get scared, but we've got to get into other things. Large pieces. Yes, Kim. I don't think that you're like, if you know you're good at it, if you're really passionate about it, like if you're into it, the guy's going to be into it, a matter of what. It's the exact right. Eusiasm is the number one thing. But I have an issue when it comes to eye contact. I never know how much to give. Just a little glance that it wants to do. Right. Got the whole time. No, that's so creepy because that's happened to me where guys like going down on me and

he's like looking up at me all the time like for approval and I'm not it you know this guy and I'm not I'm just not into it. Right. It's like too much man. We always feel like it's a show at that point like it's like not real because you're like how do I look do I look like I'm liking what I'm liking. Right. Exactly.

Right. I think you've got to give him a little firt of glances everyone's's in a lot of glances. Like, and they kind of like remember in their spank bank, I don't know. Right? OK, so do you guys have any blowjob tricks? Do you think a go-to weird move? Just going to ask. I don't know.

Which is going to be like, well, no, I was going to ask. I was like, I asked me for blowjob tips. Yeah, anybody here, I was like, are there any cool tips? Like, I know for me, I have big lips. I like to engulf as much as I can. Let's not use those teeth. And then when it's in my mouth, I'll use my tongue to kind of swirl around. Swirl around.

So it's like a double thing. So you're getting in my mouth, but then I'm using my tongue to kind of go around the tip. Yeah, the tip. And the Frenulon, which is the most sensitive underside? Yeah, the underneath of the tip. Yes, that's what I read about. Nice. Okay, good.

Any blowjob tips that you think have worked? Well, if you are like me, this is so unsexy. Let's get on sexy for a second. Yeah, why not? If you're like me and you have acid reflux, Oh, deep throat. Well, I like a deep throat. I do like that.

But I have a combination of acid reflux and post nasal drip. Oh gosh. Here's a great thing about post nasal drip, though. There's always a little extra accumulation of like fluid bacteria. Oh you can make it. So yeah, so I'm constantly making it wet. Like there's there's just like it's a never I never get dry during blow jobs. I can just like there's just like this barrel of that's amazing because it really it's like number one is enthusiastic. Number two is like making sure like that it's super wet and slippery. Yeah, three is like enough pressure Yeah, exactly with the wet the wet can be hard for me. Yeah, sometimes like anything more water

Yeah, loob. Yeah, but I don't like tasting loob But there's some good tasting really cherry ones I just need to wait. Okay, let's get to you Well, I have one little one that sometimes it's like my magic trick that I'll pull. Magic trick, a magic blow job trick. So I think it's kind of interesting and maybe I don't even know because obviously I've never had a blow job, but I've actually taken my finger and put it inside the corner of my mouth and kind of swirled my fingertip around while I was doing it.

Oh, you're giving a little sense. No, his penis is your mouth. Yeah, and then I'll take my finger and then kind of touch the tip with my finger just to create a different sensation. We're all doing this quickly. Just to create a different sensation on him. Like not on the M. Sorry. It's in my mouth but it goes like this and then I touch a little bit on the side with

my finger. Does that make sense? That is genius. I'm doing it right now. It's pretty hot. Is how far in a zine in your favorite? You know, like the whole head is in, but then my fingertip is kind of swirling around a little

because it just creates a different sensation. Yeah, that's what you want to do next. Exactly, it's the whole thing of like them what they don't expect. Yeah. Okay, that's a good tip. Lori, and he good blowjob tips. Always use a hands on the shaft.

Yeah. I feel like just make sure there's coverage. And I feel like for a little while in my blow job career, I had neglected the whole suction part of it. Like I was inserting and everything, but I wasn't like sucking at all. Or there was no tight vacuum around it. I feel like when I started-

Right, you wanna create that vacuum. Just go- I'm implementing that then everybody was like- You gotta think that you gotta mimic like a vagina or an ass wherever whatever they're into and their hand, that's the tightest you want. So if you can make your mouth create that. I try to do that sometimes I don't use my hand

because I work my do mouth play. And I'm like, oh no, I'm going to, my mouth will feel like my vagina. I'm going to do that. How do you do the deep thot too? I'll do deep throat. But it's really, I mean, and it's not constant because if I do it, you'll just hear lots of,

and then it's not attractive. Is that attractive to guys you think? I mean, and it's not constant, because if I do it, you'll just hear lots of, and then it goes, yeah. Is that attractive to guys you think? I mean, I'm sure some people just, it's made by me, but not- Oh, she's about to choke. Yeah, I'm good. I think it's what she is, yeah. I'm so chill.

I'm good with like filling up my mouth as much as I can, but also keeping that friction, like you said, that tightness, like- Like right at the very bottom of my face. Your mouth is going down, but you're still kind of using your hand? A little bit, like I might cut the base, but then it's just more about like,

with whatever I can comfortably fit in my mouth that I know feels good. And then it's just, yeah, depending on the size. Like that's another thing guys. Nipple plays something that I get into. Oh, yes. Less. You got one hand on the shaft, mouth around penis,

and then with the other hand. You're playing with those nipples. Okay, see, I've always found this fascinating because some men are like, I feel nothing, but some guys like it. So have you fun that more men are in, I can actually, that's the other thing, I don't do that as often anymore.

A couple, yeah, a couple guys have been really into it. And they ask for it. So you do squeeze it, do you? No, I mean, I like, I'll rub around it. I'll rub around it, yeah, and I'll kind of like tap it lightly because it's very sensitive. It is.

And like, nipples get erect during, for men, nipples get erect during sex stuff. For women, I feel like my boobs get a, like a cup size bigger. Yeah, no, it's true. You get, you get, you get, I don't know the science is behind this. Is that true, like our boobs look like our boobs?

Yeah, they can. They can, they, when you're turned on you're your nipples swell and all that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, so, yeah. That's fun. Okay, little devil play there. What about butt stuff?

Like, let's get into that. Well, like, I guess, I mean, I don't mean to have such a direct segue, but when you're giving a blow job, there are some people that I know that are who have said, oh yeah, my husband or so and so, likes when I touch his asshole a little bit. Right. How do you get into that without being like, I'm about to touch that asshole. That's a great question. Okay, so right, because a lot of guys,

they really believe that if they have any anal play, anything in their butt whatsoever, it'll make them gay, let's say if they're straight man, that they won't like it, but a lot of the fear comes to like, it's gay, it's not right, there's something taboo about it, which we all know anal sex is taboo across the board. However, there is like the male prostate, which they call like the male g spot. And I'm telling you, not every man, but many men,

they do, they do like that. Like you put a finger in, but you don't want to just go right in. So like what I just tell men too about anal sex with women is that you never just want to like stick it in. You got a place. So what I say is like use some lube. I'm a huge you guys of lube fans. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like my dream is like lube on every night's sand in the world. That you just take a little lube, maybe I make sure you can you know put your fingers wet and then you just start like rubbing around it with your finger like around his anus. Maybe when you're giving a blowjob and just see how he reacts. Then you can just start like tapping up until

with your finger and then if he doesn't like freak out then you can just start tapping up until with your finger. And then if he doesn't freak out, then you can just kind of like stick a fair in. See how it feels? You know, see if he goes, ah, you know. But I think that a lot of guys are kind of like into it, because sometimes you do it right before they come. But you never want to surprise them right away, just stick the finger. What's been your experience, Kim? Because you were nodding over there knowingly. What? This experience just last week. So. She had anal sex just in preparation for the show. All right.

Look at students. But no, with the whole touching during the blow job thing, and it wasn't even something I had to ask. I just slowly made my way there and did some of that tapping and touching, but definitely with Lou, because it's not even cool. There's hair and it gets kind of gnarlyly so it made it nice and easy and smooth and I mean he went crazy. Wow amazing. Okay and then this is when you were blowjob giving a blowjob. Yeah it was yeah and you just stick a finger in

or I didn't go in because he's kind of new and I just kind of felt like that was crossing a line. Maybe I wanted to get you know better. You know I'm just Russian today. You know what I mean? Some people do but you know It was still like really hot. I know it really turned him on and I definitely know it made his orgasm like way That's yeah, you put a finger and there's some men have like it's like the best orgasms Even even rubbing the premium, you know You have to be careful with hygiene. I have a story from a long time ago with with fingering Man's ass roll okay, and I don't, because some dudes are just, and this isn't just dudes, but this could be anybody.

Like, you gotta prepare for that. You can't just go to a sizzler and then let's meet up later and I'm gonna stick a finger in your asshole because I'll throw up. Like, I can't do it. So, I don't know, it's like this whole kind of setup of like, you wanna make sure everyone's clean and comfortable with what's about to happen,

but then you don't wanna be like, I can't wait to stick a finger in your ass tonight. Like you can't so it's just I feel like there's a lot of little what was the bad experience. I he so I who yeah yeah I would I I stuck it in and he loved it. He would love when I did it and I was like okay that's fine and then it too many times it was just like I take out my finger and I was like I'm going to throw I was like in your nail. Yes, it was like I had to scrub off my finger and like soak it like a shoe like a shoe that stepped in dog food It was disgusting. I don't like that. Bleat, this is a note who is ever listening just pay a little extra attention to your ass hole if you think something might happen Right and your junk by the way

Well, if you think something might happen, right? And your junk, by the way. Yeah, you're junk. So you say clean junk, they're balls. Yeah, I'm into clean balls. Guys, that's it. Well, it's funny. It's funny that you should mention that. So Kim and I know Kim works in the beauty industry.

And I have a product that she knows very well called Down Under Comfort, which I will give you guys some samples of it. Yes. Kim, why don't you talk about Down Under Comfort? Because she talks about it. I even tell it's called Emily and Tony but Kim you doing amazing job talking about it but she was like it's my product and you just talked about it so much better we were to party last week. So it's like this lotion that you rub on like your balls or any really

sweat women like boob sweat even like like me I do too like hot days and it basically instantly dries down to a powder and it turns into a powder, but it's invisible. So when you put it on, at first you can't see anything, but if you touch something black, you would see like tapioca starch powder over everything. Yeah, it's all natural, but it also has a really fresh, clean scent.

So if you're citrus. Hot and sweaty down there and you want to be fresh for your next, you know, surprise hookup in between sessions, I know I'm gonna give you some I swear and so yeah, it's true What I always tell guys like guys freak out cuz they're like I'm a baby better guy Well, baby how does messy gets all the place and if you just it's like do it or if you use it in the morning Your balls will be fresh and dry all day long or your boobs or anywhere, so it's pretty good. It's an amazing product. I also think this is just a personal opinion. Shouldn't guys be like shaving their balls? Okay, well let's talk about that. What about grooming

a man? I go. I think that's just should be like a standard. They shave their balls. I'm not even noticing. I still like hairy balls. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what you mean. I feel similarly, but here's the thing. I don't like fully shaved balls. I like for there to be a little bit of hair I don't I don't and then honestly it's the same way that I feel about pubic hair and women too. I don't I don't want yeah, I don't want to look like I'm nine years old. I don't I don't I like there being a little bit of a landing strip A little bit. I mean like I don't worry guys. I get up there and I shave that push. Do not worry. Good Bye, but there's a little but I leave a little landing strip. I like and I shave that push. Do not worry. Right, good. But there's a little, but I leave a little landing strip. I like that in guys too.

I like a little. That's so hard to landings. I don't know if it's like, oh, lazy. It's too well. Yeah, it's work. Because I got a laser to like most of it's off, but I left the landing strip because the bush came back and I'm like, and then I have nothing because it's all gone.

So then I still get this little bit, but I'm not really good at crafting it. So I just shave it off. No, I'm very bad at crafting it. But I think it's, it's like a, like, it's it. But I think it's like a, like, it's bad. But I think it's like, we're doing it. And I think as women, a lot of women, there's this, like, this idea or this pressure or this, like, social thing to, like, keep your vagina clean and trim.

And I feel like the same should go for men. Yeah, absolutely. If you're going to, like, you know, thanks for kissing and touching and doing this. And look what I've done to respect my body. Right. You just spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on a candy a new ex. Yeah, just like different times. Yeah, and I feel like the same way like men should just step it up and tram and just you know or. Yeah, people here in their ball hair. Yeah, and I don't

even think that men even really realize that how much better sex feels when it's all smooth because it does for me. That's true. The smoother it is, the better it feels and I think that they might not even realize like all the benefits of the fingers and the tongue and all the other sensory experiences going on. When you move the hair, that's actually good points. Yeah, feels good. That's a really good point.

What do you think? I like pubic hair. Um, I don't know. Like I like a full facial beard also. Yeah. And I feel like for the same reason, I don't like to see, like I appreciate it to be trimmed because you know when you're like blowing someone and gets like in your nose

with your eyes or whatever, but I don't like there to be like too much trimming or shape I agree, I like it to look like a real man's capes. Just clean up, clean up, clean up, clean up your Brazilian little like swipe down, make sure everything's going to be clean. And with my own vagina. I wax it myself and um I leave landing strip also but because that's the part that's the most painful. Yeah, oh yeah, exactly. It's about the clitoris so I won't take that off because it just hurts the most. I kind of every other area. Okay, about the beard thing though by the way the sensation of having a guy

go down on you when he has a beard. I love. Yeah me too. I love. Yeah, I love. I love. I can love a little scarf. But not if it's too newly scruffy, that could be. It has to be super bright. It has to be like a little bushy song. I don't know. I kind of like it a little. I like it a little. A little. I see her all get to be in love.

I've gotten beard rash down there. Yeah. I had to do A and D.O.A. I meant for like a lot of days. I've had that stuff. I blocked it. OK, so that was good about balls, man-scaping. Okay, when we come back we're gonna get hardcore anal but I have to just take a moment here to talk about

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Because I feel like when I started my show, it was always like, I thought that I feel like it was the last 10 years even. It was always like, blow jobs, whatever. But anal, like with porn and everything. I just feel like everyone wants to talk about anal. But a lot of people are also confused and intimidated about anal sex. So what's been your experience with anal sex? Oh, I might reveal myself to be the most inexperienced actually. I've never had anal.

Okay. I've had some fingers up there Which I don't mind But I've never I think like it didn't really enter into my World until after like probably and like only in the last maybe three years Has it been a thing that people are really talking about and it's never kind of naturally come up in conversation with guys that I dated prior to that So obviously they weren't even they weren't like hey baby. I learned no want to. No, no, no. And like the last year, it's been definitely, definitely more prominent. Okay.

With fingers and so forth. But I've never had full, now I would. I told you I would. It's not something that I'm dying to have because of the poop issue that we discussed. Yeah, but I also, I also, well I poop a lot though. You know, but you could do a water-based animal.

I always say no animals, but I'm actually, I don't know, I mean, I taught a sex toy. No, this is the workshop is, no, the workshop. I'm in the 25th? It will work out. So I just taught an anal sex workshop. Oh, yeah.

No, but I did. And I really think that so many people are interested in learning about it because they are very confused by how to keep clean. Do you do animas? I was like, no, animas. You don't wanna buy like an animate in the store, but you could do a water animal.

Just by the end of a thing, the squeezy thing, and just put warm water in it. And you flush through three times, and it would just make sure that you're ready and you're not worried about the poop thing. Because before that, I always said, just don't have a large, don't go out from Mexican food in a vein.

But really, you gotta make sure that you're empt the vein, but really you've got to make sure that you're like emptied out and that is a way to do it. To me it feels like a new frontier of intimacy. I have yet to find the person that I really want to be. No, right, no it's a big thing. There's a lot of taboo, there's a lot of intimacy, it's like a lot of emotionally, just someone going in your ass. Totally.

You're like there, you're like intimate. So okay, what about you, Jen? Well, I have, A, I like a good finger in my butt, but we don't need to shoot it up there real quick and just go hard. No, it never should be, right? It should be, I almost just prefer like, when I'm on top, just like, you can touch it

and just put it in a little bit, like a little, like, warm going into a hole. But I like that, and so it's made me want to do more anal stuff. I've done anal once and it lasted like two minutes and I was very drunk on tequila. And it felt like a reversal poop. It felt like poop was going back into, because like you know the feeling when you poop

and the poop comes out, it felt like the poop was going back in. And I was like, what's happening? This is the wrong route. You know, I mean, it just felt weird and rushed and not the best experience, but I'd be down. Well, that's OK. So what I want to say to you is that it's so common that women,

like anal sex just gets a bad rap because a lot of people just don't know what they're doing. And first time experiences for many women is that they're with a partner, they're drunk. This I always say is in my structure. They're drunk. The guy just put sticks it in without without prep because prep takes you got to warm or happy. One of you is your fingers. You want to make sure she's relaxed and use lots of lube. Like when I say lots of lube, you can just keep pouring on the lube and so women have experience with my just shove it in its paintball because we're probably if we're so nervous, we clench.

Yeah. Well, that's the worst thing you can do when you're having, because you're like scared. So you gotta make sure that you're really relaxed, that they've already started to like, you know, do like maybe like a little massage or iron or anus, play with some fingers, loop, and you just gotta keep breathing and breathing, and make sure that he goes and slow. But so many women like don't know this,

or guys don't know this, and then they're like, it was horrible for some, I'll never do again. So I'm here on the planet, so people can try this and maybe have a good experience. I have a good experience. I said what about you Kim? well Looks like I'm the anal slut here today. I love it. We have anyone needs anal slack. Okay. No, not like seriously I mean your I think it's my age. I've you know had maybe more partners

But actually I don't even think I really got into it or even enjoyed it or got much out of it until maybe in my early 30s Because it was kind of weird and when I was younger or whatever But um definitely it's something that I like to share with like somebody that I'm really into I like to feel really safe and comfortable. It's not like hey, let's just hook up and have anal tonight It's definitely something that I think is a very exciting when it's kind of spontaneous and It's actually once you get into it. It's very exciting when it's kind of spontaneous and it's actually once you get into it, it's like, I mean, it's so good. Do you wear reds?

No, no, no. Well, no, but I get really turned on, especially like if they're like, yeah, and especially if like you're touching like you're clear while they're back there and like there's just so many like things like you just, I don't know, it definitely takes things to the next level. So what positions do you like for anal cell? I'm just like, you know, like the guy behind is obviously like probably works the best,

but I've actually been on top before too. Right. And squatting and like facing, you know, away. Yeah, like the first cowgirl. Yeah, anal. Which is super hot too. But just like you said, Emily, you have to like start out with just like the tip and then you have to breathe and then you have to like really go

You have to like inch your your way in like very slowly because it's kind of painful. Yeah, it feels like But then it's right But if you breathe and you go slow then it's almost like you guys breathe together like you breathe in and then when you breathe out He puts a little more so it's like you're really like synchronized I mean it sounds a lot more difficult But if you just do that and you're relaxed and you keep breathing, it actually is a lot less painful. And it can feel really amazing.

So you can get it. It sounds like intimate and one night. I know, right. I want to do it tonight. Do it tonight, Friday, baby. It's all going to be a little tonight. And then go out for drinks. Before you have to.

Lori, we're not you. I've had a lot of anal. Oh, good. Always in a serious relationship, because I think, you know, being able to prep for it is really important. Like, I like to have a shower. I have done, like, water animas when I was nervous about what meals I had had that day. And it is really intimate.

So, I have to have someone that I know is going to, like, listen to me when I say, know that hurts or whatever. The first time I did it, I was really drunk and on my period. It was like, let's just use the other hole. You know? You're like, innovative thinker, right? And I was so drunk that at the time I was really into it and I woke up in pain and I stayed because I didn't do it right. Right.

And then the next relationship that I did it and we took every step and every precaution to make it feel good. And I was psyching myself into having it feel good than one time we did it. And I was on top, like normal cowgirl. And it just felt amazing. It was like, oh man, this is the first time I've ever done it that it feels, I think, better for me than it's feeling

for everyone. Wow, see? I've been chasing that. Chasing that anal hive. You will get it again, I promise. But that's the thing about sex is that, you know, that you, we do get so limited the way we think that we can enjoy sex. And my whole purpose, you know, on the planet

is to people that it can expand and grow. And I actually, there's, her bodies have so many nerve endings that feel really good that we don't even know about. And you can constantly get better, your sex life and expand and grow and have different sensations all the time, which I love. So you guys, okay, so anal,

any other tips for anal that we cover that juice? I mean, how about like toys with anal? Yeah, toys butt plugs or vibrators. Or you can use, yeah, you can use your vibrator while you're having anal... And your clitoris? Or in side. In some dental feet.

In some dental feet. Double penetration. I mean, kind of, yeah. Yeah, you've tried it? I was, yeah, no for sure. I think that's what I was thinking about starting. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would start there, like either a toy or something

that just kind of preps my butt hole for future use. Yeah, there's anal. Okay. So butt plugs. Here's another thing for I could go back to masturbation from it. If you're not used to like having anything in your butt, there's some great butt plugs that you can get like silicone butt plugs and that you could, there's different sizes, there's all different stuff, and you just use a little lube when you're masturbating next time. And just try sticking it in and seeing how that feels. You get used to the sensation of having something inside you.

It's great. It's a great warm up and it's a great way to know like how you like it. And a lot of who wear butt plugs like if they don't want to have anal sex set with someone or just, you know, mix it up, they'll wear it during sex. But plug. You wear it. You wear it so you keep it in the whole time. Yeah.

You can keep it in. You can wear it during foreplay. I've done anal beads before, actually. I remember it now. Oh, I read top to you about that. And it was really wonderful when you're right before you're about to come. Like, I was on top.

And we used anal beads. Which are little beads that go in and you pull it out, you feel the twist. And it's just a sensation of just like, it was at the same time, which is so important timing, of course. And it was like, he came as I came. And then he, as he pulled the little beanie out and I was like oh my god wow I said so many things it's hot yeah yeah yeah that's really hot I should do

that it's gonna want to do it tonight let's say you in a week at what point did you put the beads in before yeah yeah like so like as we're starting to to fuck or I'm on top we lubed up up the beads, I believe, I remember. There wasn't like a long string, it wasn't a pearl that went down, you know, it wasn't six yards. Right. And then we put them in, just not even all of them,

just a few of them in me. And then, right before I was like, I'm gonna come, and then he took them out. And that kind of helped me come. That's the thing, too. This is a tip for, I think, most men, I don't know if they know. If you are willing to touch a girl's asshole,

you know, it's clean, it's good. Maybe she's on top, you're grabbing her ass. Touch her asshole if she's about to come and she will come. Like to me, it's the cherry on the, like if I'm like, oh, there, oh, no, there it goes. Oh, yeah, yeah. It's just like an activation button.

Right, or how about spanking your ass? How do you feel about that? Oh, I love spanking. I love being spanked so much. I love, I like hand prints on my ass. Next day, what the hell? Love it. I don't know.

I got such a staccato there. But sometimes, I love your delivery. It was very strong and powerful. I think that spanking and touching your bum, I think these kinds of things, actually, what they do for me is they bring me my mind wanders when I'm having sex and they make you more present. Yeah, it brings you back into like what's happening with the person because I think I'm guilty.

My mind wanders and thinking about like things I have to do or whatever, not that I'm not enjoying it. Right, but it really snaps you back into reality and then you're like wow, this is like a really happening and then you push you over the edge to have your orgasm. Yeah, absolutely a little different. Next, expecting it. What do you think, Lori? I like to play this submissive role in bed, so I'm totally into being spanked. And also with anal sex, I feel like I'm totally submitting. Like this, I could get hurt if someone were to, you know,

be too rough with me. That's sexy. And that's hot to me. Do you ever use handcuffs or any sort of like, I never used tie-ups? I've been tied up once but it was kind of like we were both laughing about it that never ever really went successfully

I like being tied up Yeah It's happened a few times actually It's like blindfolds together Yeah and there's so many great things you don't need like the handcuffs They like velcro ones, they bonded shape, it's really easy I have these restraints

because I get all this substance to me, and so these are restraints that are just live under my, as my sport sheets, and they just live under my bed, they're both sides there for hands, and for, but you can't see them. So my housekeeper comes under, they're like, the line on the floor,

I got a tuck of her, and they're like, they're always there, like I always have restraints, I have to say I haven't used them enough. But do you use them on the guy, or do you live? No, I'm, I'm submissive at bad easy, but I would, I would, I haven't had a chance to do it. Because I think there or do you like? No, I'm submissive about you to do that. I would. I would. I haven't had a chance.

I think there's men that like to be very sure. Oh for sure. There's a lot of men like, do you guys ever had experience where you dominated a man? Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And tell me about that. Oh God, let me think if I can, I mean, I enjoy like,

I'm kind of a smaller person, smaller, really. You know, you're a little, like a spinner. Yeah, yeah, a total spinner. So I like climbing on a guy and like, just like, spraying all of his legs and arms out and then telling him what to do and telling him like you can't use your arms, you can't use your hands, you can't use your legs right now, just deal with it.

And then like having my way with him, just like looking where I want to lick and. Right, that's hot. And like like he can't touch his dick either. So like sticking it in when I'm ready for it and kind of grabbing his face and like slapping a little bit that I don't like to be slapped But I will like lightly slap a guy and if you were to guy be like oh, I don't want that or they're like whoa I mean no, yeah, well, who would you react to you look at all these how they never

I'm gonna fucking whatever you want to tie me up and six and I'm gonna banana my butt No, don't don't stick a banana in your butt. Don't don't do that Um, okay, so so what about fantasy? When you guys are masturbating, do you guys think about some things when you're masturbating? And so what kind of things do you fantasize about? I think my thing that I've noticed, and I've been more open especially since we've

started doing our show, and also, as you've gotten older, like you said, you just become more comfortable in what you like and being open about it. And I'm really into I can't fantasize or watch or think about like a dude fucking a girl. It's like well that happens to me That's a real thing. So I'm really big on Girl and girl even though I've never gone down on a girl or gone all the way with a girl I've you know done some stuff but nothing crazy and then

Gasex watching two men. Yes a lot of I really love it. So common those are the two most common for women is gay sex watching two men. Yes, a lot of women. I was so calm and those are the two most comments for women is gay sex and women watching women. You know, women always email the kids and they be gay. I'm like, no, just what turns you on. It's beautiful seeing two women together.

Yeah, what are you about? You can't go out. I'm not the guy thing. I've never been into that. I saw it some this morning. Gay porn. Yeah, I mean, as a woman, I just that that just I mean, there's nothing for me. Right, but it's very, yeah. It's cool. I know as a woman I just that just I mean there's nothing for me right but it's very yeah it's

cool and no it's so common that's like yeah but yeah that's so amazing you know I just cheat every time I just cheat a porn what do you kind of porn do you watch everything like what like how do you know when you go to you to do porn or whatever I just kind of see like what's new what's streaming it doesn't even take long it It's just like, I just cheat. I just need that. No, it's good. I need the visual stimulation. I can't just like, you're not crazy.

You're not crazy up in my head. Laura, he's like, I got some varn. I think about almost exclusive, all right. So try not to get weirded out. But I almost exclusively think about women I know. Oh, wow. That you're not even, wow. That you make it?

Like having sex with one of the women that I know in my life. Not necessarily that I'm attracted to or anything. It's just I've gone through all of them. Like, have you been with the woman before? Yes. Okay. So I'd say I'm like 35% gay. Oh.

So I got this. I don't know. I also mean that it was a travertial. I was never talking about it. I thought about it. That wasn't on your resume now. Okay. We've talked about everything. I'm going to go. I'm going to gravity. I was never gonna talk about it. That wasn't on your resume now, okay? We've talked about everything.

I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it.

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I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk about it. I'm not gonna talk aboutating, I'll even like go into it trying to think about a guy that I know, when it'll switch at the end to a girl that I know. Just, I don't think about women that I know, but I love boobs, and I love thinking about boobs. I like looking at pictures of boobs, and when I look at porn, it's all about women with like big tits.

Big real tits, ideally. But there's some, I don't know, and like I've never been with a woman, and I don't want to be with a woman you think at all. Is that the bucket list? I wouldn't say's some, I don't know. And like, I've never been with a woman and I don't. Do you want to be with a woman you think? I don't, I mean, is that the bucket list? I wouldn't say no, but I don't like, I don't know what I don't know what to do with vaginas. I know, do you just gotta get down there

and get into it? Well, you do know, because you have one. I do, that's true. Oh, but you don't love a man before, and I'll sex and you see you. Well, I like it, but I think that I enjoy giving more than I think. It's funny, once you get the vagina,

because I've been with a few of that, a few of them, a devil. You just kinda know, I don't know. It's like riding a bike, no, I'm kidding. It's funny, once you get the vagina, I've been with a few of that, a few of them, a dabble. You just kinda know, I don't know. It's like riding a bike, no, I'm kidding. It's not the same thing. Cause I never did before, but you have a vagina, it's really, oh, I kinda know. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I don't think I'm gonna know, if I had to curl your hair, because you can curl hair, I can curl your hair, I'm gonna, super. But no, vaginas, you kinda get, yeah. I mean, yeah, a few times, I'm like, oh, okay, I think I can just get it, right? Yeah, like what you would want.

Yeah, cause you know what I want. Yeah, like I just think about when someone's going down on me, how do I like it? And then I just would do that. Right. And I usually let them go first. Oh, really? So that I can see like what the woman, yeah,

like what their style is and then I'll just copy. I'm just gonna make it. That's what I'm talking about. Okay, so we guys, what is the, so we're talking about fantasy, and then I wanna know what is, what is the one thing that a guy can do? Is there anything that's your go-to that will turn you on every time?

Like if he, he pulls your neck, or if he do love oral sex, does he have to talk dirty, anything? There is a couple things to me. One is anything in my neck, ear area. It is such an erogenous things to me. One is anything in my neck ear area. It is such an arrogant of zone for me. And that's why I like, I actually like doggie style a lot

because the guy's behind you. And he's just like kind of whispering or like licking that area. I mean, it just, that turns me on a lot. I would say that. And then also, like, licking my nipples, not doing anything hard to them, not squeezing. Don't fight them. No. I don't even like squeezing. I don't like pinching. I don't like any of it

It almost makes me nauseous when someone overly pinches my nipples. It's almost it's it makes me nauseous. Yeah weird rubbing is So tantalizing yeah rubbing and soft like going around circles feeling it's great again another great place to have loop Yes, yeah, yes, okay, so that's a big turn on nipples I think it's like going around circles, something. It's great again, another great place to have lube. Yes. Yeah. Yes. Okay, so that's a big turn on nipples. Anything else for you guys?

The big turn on? I think ears is a big thing. That little like, that breathy-esque. Oh, I love it. I breathy-esque after like one glass of wine, and it's like, we're going home. Because I also don't want to be too ship bomb drunk. I want to enjoy the sex with you.

Yeah. And then talking dirty, I'm really into that. Yeah. And I think that's just something, I just like it. I like when it's, I like eye contact. And sometimes you gotta force yourself because you're like closing those eyes and you're trying to get there or you've been with someone for a while.

And I'm just, I'm really trying to learn like, no, I'm going to look at you and you're gonna look into me and like, we're in each other right now. The whole time, you mean, there's some point during sex? Oh yeah, some point during sex. Not like, I'm staring and like, I Not like I'm staring at like a murder. Right, right.

But Dirtistat, I agree. I think Dirtistat, what do you think about Dirtistat? I love it. Love it, love it, love it. But I have to answer the question that we were talking about. Yeah, thanks. Things that turn me on. I really love it when I'm like totally like in it, like having sex and like we're like, he's in me and we're like going at it.

And I love like mixing it up and I like him to go down on me for like to break it up. So like we're doing it and then he's like going down on me because it just gets so overstimulated that like brings me to like, it heightens my orgasms too. So you like, okay, oral set when he goes down on you. And can you, we're having sex. Right, you stop, you go down, you go down. while we're having sex right you stop yeah yeah that's awesome yeah that's

like I love that. I'm amazing. The longer you can go down to me and prolong it take breaks I don't care but come back. It builds it for me it allows me to build like my whole orgasms. Right and that's what sex should be about building the orgasm building the arousal. Right. Ideally yes. It's totally second the ear thing like the ear thing is huge, but I also hair pulling and ask grabbing. I really will always get it. But it's all those nerve endings. And here's the thing about the neck.

We all said this. The neck is one of the top origin zones for my amp for women. There's a lot of nerve endings there. So that's why it feels so good. And I just, and don't you feel have you had this experience in your wisdom at the beginning and they do it like once or twice

and then they just like forget about your neck? Oh yeah, I hate that. You're like, can you just kiss my neck? They actually go in for like a little bull tie here, like kiss the neck. That happens a lot in general. I think it's about trying to like keep it fresh because it will, it will never,

I mean, it's like a psychological study that after the first three months, a lot of things can fall by the wayside or it can get monotonous and just like. Biology, true, after a year, you're gonna have, it's like, you're bonded, the oxytocin, all of that, and then after all, it takes the dive and you got to, that's why a couple

have to work on bringing it back up. This is why I don't have relationships. Because it dies. No, I'm teasing. No, I get it. But it's exciting. Yeah. The new, the newness of sex is, you know,

there's nothing quite like that, you don't get that. But the thing about being with someone in communities that you that you just, that it's fun. I always say that sex is fun. Like work on a way to keep connecting and changing it up and trying different things. Okay, biggest, do you answer your big question? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You're probably not. Okay, so what up turn off? Like, is there anything a guy? Everything going great and he does something and you're like, uh, Uber, you know? Oh man, I gotta think about this. During kissing, if you rush and if you keep your tongue stiff, you know, like a pencil kisser.

Actually, yeah, like a dark. Kissing's so important to me. You're like, licking to just like, I like it to be wet, but like, you can really screw up. I have a similar to that is one time I I dated this guy who would finger me but his way of fingering was to insert his finger and then just leave it there. I called him dead finger. It just it that is guys when I love being fingered like to me one of the sexiest

things is being fingered under a table or at a bar and probably by the way, that's something I also like. Oh, public sex. Public sex, love it. So, so like that kind of. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that kind of like getting fingered when you shouldn't be getting fingered is great.

But the worst thing you can do is just fucking stick it out there. And then not. It's like a turkey for my dinner. Yeah. It's so bizarre. You're like, what? Shake it around.

Shake it around, Shake it around something. Turn off. I'm like, I think that's such an individual thing. Like, it is like, I keep that one thing. No, I guess, how about if a guy doesn't try to ple- So do we all, like, oral sex performance? Oh man, I had a guy that, like, I call him Big Dick because he had a Big Dick.

So, Big Dick was like, I was like, Dick, he had a Big Dick. So that's a good big day to remember him. Big Dick was like, I was like, why don't you go down to me? Like, and he's like, I don't do that. And I was like, why? What do you mean? You don't do that. He's like, trust me, you won't need it. I'm like, no, trust me.

I do need it already. Oh, he was awful. Guys, do you ever find it? So you were, you like, or sex performing, you can't have it? Love it, but I just had this happen recently, where this was like I was like okay my turn and he was like no I was like what are you kidding me? I was like so Don't you like this wasn't a yes or no? And he was kind of like well, you know

I like to do that with girls and I'm like seeing or dating and I'm like you already given me like you just saw my whole body What the hell you know, but yeah? We'd messed around right but I was still expecting it because it seemed so normal to me these days. It's just like kissing somebody, like go down on me. Like if you're getting intimate and taking off your clothes, I think you should be having oral sex. I mean, come on.

Well, it's like the blowjob. Where are you guys like oral sex? I like oral sex. I think it's good. I don't need it done for an hour and a half. Like I get in my head, my head goes in my element, and that's just my brain. So I like it, but then for me, it's more just for play

until we're ready to do it. That's how I do it. That's how I think. Because I love leading up to penetration. Penetration goes so. Because we also don't want to go right. We sometimes do want to quicky, but typically, we need something.

So as far as oral sex, since we're all pretty much fans, although you said you've moved your place. I do like it. I just think I was like giving it. So is there one tip you think that, guys, although you said you knew your place. I do like it. I just think I was like giving it. So is there one tip you think that, guys, if you could tell men in the world a big message right now from you to guys, what is the one thing that you wish they knew about oral sex? Or it can even be, if you don't have any answer, that can be about sex in general. I think that for, I mean, maybe it's just my body or what I love, if you don't have any answer, that can be about sex in general. I think that, I mean, maybe it's just my body

or what I love, but I don't really get a lot of satisfaction from oral sex unless he's touching my G spot. Okay, with two fingers, one finger. One or two, depending on how big his fingers are, I guess. But there has to be some pressure on my G spot while he's like looking like. Okay, otherwise you won't have an oral sex. I mean, no, absolutely not.

No, I'm totally opposite. Yeah, like if I really love getting oral sex, Okay, otherwise you won't have an organization. I know, absolutely not. No, I'm totally opposite. Yeah, like if I'm, I really love getting oral sex, but it's almost like if I'm about to come and you'll put fingers in me, it'll stop my orgasm. Yeah. Because it'll, like, bed of nails effect, I guess, like, split the sensation. I agree.

So, yeah, everyone, but I've talked about it. So, that's why guys, when you call, there was, like, I think I'm bed at oral sex, because my recent girlfriend can't come. Like, because your last girlfriend, like, in a certain way, we're gonna show you right now that we are all different. So what about you, Jen? Oh, no, it's the same.

That recently has happened where it was clitorial stimulation with the tongue. And it's like a nice swirling motion. Not just like, give me some tips. Like, use your tongue and find the clip and really use some sort of swirling motion to activate it and to start to make it feel good.

Don't just go down there and lick it like it's a cone. Like that's not eating out, that's not oral sex to me. And then I also like one or two fingers, which hasn't always happened. And then as a recently, I was like, whoa, oh. And it just, it was another. In the vagina. In the vagina, like, the clip. Yeah.

But it like, deeply going in there. See, I was going to say what I like about oral sex is, it's when a guy says- You're the kegel girl, you get it? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the deeper he can go in with his tongue, the more I like it, and almost like drawing out the juices, that sounds gross. Oh, no, but that's hot.

That kind of come-hither thing where he's like, like, lapping you up. I mean, that, I love. Like, a guy with a long tongue. I love. Wow. Do they ever say that dating sites like I'm six or like went to Princeton. I've got my tongue is 4.5 inches. I wish they would. I think that a long tongue is underrated. That's how I've never even like thought about it. I mean I just think if they're good or not, I'm like maybe you're really stubby tongue. Yeah, you might. Yeah. Yeah.

I actually always want to know what how do I do it? Am I doing it right? And I always say that it goes slower than you do it am I doing it right and I always say like go slower Then you think because guys are like right to it and if we are sensitive like I like when guys tease They like like your guys and I take their time like the ideal situation is that I think that we were begging for Yeah, I feel like lay off the clip for like the first three minutes. Oh, yeah, don't need to touch it. Yeah Also ask guys like if you're down there and you're kissing my vagina, then we're in a moment together. So have that confidence, which I think is a real turn

on in general, it's confidence to be like, what do you like, what do you want, how many, and make it sexy, but do you like what I'm doing? I don't know. Talk about it. Talk about it. Have you guys ever, is there ever been a way that you communicate like you thought,

go ahead, this guy, it's never gonna work, he's a bad kisser bad kiss or it was bad this, but then you had to talk and then it turned around the sex life. Or is just like, oh, he was, tell me. Dude, I had my, it was my boyfriend and he, I felt like when we were kissing, he would never open his mouth enough. Like, it was like he was tight mouth. It's like, I couldn't get in there. Tight mouth Charlie. Yeah. Big dick hairy. French fries. It comes back. In a totally neutral setting I was like, hey why do you kiss like this? And he's like, oh I just have like an insecurity about my breath. I'm like, dude your breath's fine. It was always fine. It's never been a

alarming speed. And then after that, he just started opening his mouth and it changed everything. That's good. I had no idea he was thinking I thought that's just how we kiss Why is he my first two? Maybe he had someone telling me that one point like he was traumatized or something, but good story because it can turn around We were to say something no, okay, I have a question. I guess ever had a threesome. Oh No, no, and I've been thinking recently that maybe Oh, no, no. And I've been thinking recently that maybe, that I would, that would, I would be into it.

Okay. And the reason is because of this boob thing, because I'm like, if I like boob so much, why don't, but I know that I love dick. So why don't I, why don't I have boob's and dick? Why don't I have both? Right, it's a sure thing with a face on. Because then it's like, I know what to do with a dick,

and then I like, and maybe play around with boob's and see what happens. No, expectations, you can play around and see how it goes. But I do have this concern. I think I'm very, very selfish. In bed, I want all the attention on me. So I don't actually, that's been a bit of a turnoff for me when I think about three times.

I'm like, ah, I think as a result, I don't think that I could have a three-some with anybody that I'm in a relationship with, or that I care a lot about. I think it has to be somebody that I'm a friend of, and somebody that I like, but not somebody that I am super emotionally connected to, because seeing a guy that I'm emotionally has to be somebody that I'm a friend of and somebody that I like but not somebody that I am Super emotionally connected to because seeing a guy that I'm emotionally connected to having stuff with something else That's true. I mean typically the best three sums are

My best three-sum experience in this also is conferred by other people is that when it's been someone that I know May I casually dating we're not committed and there's another woman and like there's no feelings and there's no Yeah, I like the guy enough to sleep with them But I'm not like we're together re-bought a third it exactly. We're all on a touch what we came together for this beautiful night of Okay, three sim Yes, okay, uh with two guys. Oh nice. Oh Yeah, I recommend it. Yeah, no, it's on my list What do they do to each other? Nothing. It was all about me

Well, but I like a dick though, so maybe I just go, you know, you know, I'm a decent Dicks on parade I know I would do it, but I'm very big on what you just said Which is the idea that like it would be casual? It would be respectful and friendly But I don't know if I fall for somebody if I could see them fucking around. It's really hard to ask. I mean, I'm cool, I'm not that cool. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

I've never had a threesome. I had a little bit of a lesbian orgy in sixth grade, but I've never, yeah, it was not best quote of this. A lesbian orgy in sixth grade. It's great up. It was nuts. But having an adult threesome is definitely my- When you're out of middle school.

Right, yeah. It's definitely probably one or two on my bucket list. Like I really would like to. It's so hard to find, is it? I don't know. What kind of a Lori manifest tonight? You'll have a three-subit, right? What dynamic do you want?

You want another guy? I would like another girl. OK, OK. Or maybe two other girls, I don't know. Oh right, yeah. Three girls, right, because you're 35% that love theirself. Maybe if we go to 45 by the end of the month

when those things gonna happen. Okay you guys, I think we gotta wrap this up. We got it all in, you guys are great. Thank you so much for being here. This is amazing. You guys are amazing. This was a dream, we gotta have you back. I think I kind of asked this,

but there is one last question. I kind of said, is there any one thing I guess I just say about men that you just think that if you could talk to every men, I was saying about oral sex, but is there anything that you just wish that men, you think that's very misunderstood over and over again by men? It's actually. I mean, we've talked about this a bit at Lady Freak and I think it was during the show that you were on Emily, where the men are just so, they're able to so easily disconnect emotionally after sex. And for women, it is, at least in my experience, it is much harder.

It is especially if they're like actual deep feelings involved. So I would just caution men to be cognizant of that, to be aware of the emotional side of sex. Because we have the oxytocin after orgasm, we feel connected and you just fell asleep. And you just fell asleep. And even in the days after, you know, there's just like, you can move on with your life and not think about it, but here I am thinking like we just had this, we just shared our physical juices together. Right, exactly. You were laughing up my juices. You were laughing up my juices with your six inch tongue and now you're texting me like, hey, yeah, or not,

or not, or not. Yeah, yeah. We didn't even get it. We were going to do another dating show with you. Yeah, definitely. But I want to get it sex. What do you think that you'd like to impart, Jen? I think just be vocal about what you want, what you like, and what the other person wants.

And not be afraid to do that. I think as I've gotten older, it's not dorky to be sexually open to get that pleasure that you want out of your partner, and to try new things, and to keep it spicy, because I'm getting out of something where it could have been a little spicier. And so now I'm excited. Now you'll never go back there to the unspiced again. Spiced spicy, spicy, what about you Ken? Well, this isn't really all about sex.

It's more about just sex and relationship. Yeah, but just being upfront with what your intention is and what you're there for, you know, like if you just want to hook up and have sex, just say it because there are a lot of women that will give it to you. And you're going to have better sex than if you're not you're not like being

Authentic. I don't pretend that you want a relationship and yeah, what are we about? You mean before? Yeah, I don't be like all making plans like oh, I want to see you next, you know Whatever just like be up front tell somebody what you're up for and just be authentic. Yeah, it's great. Lori I would say sexually with guys like to make sure there's always a crescendo or a build up. To tease? Yeah, the teasing thing. And the four-play building, I just think I can't like tell enough guys this. Like you have to, there has to be something before something else.

Four-play is a suggestion. It's four-play is a requirement. Not a suggestion. Okay, guys, well thank you so much. And is there anything, how can we find you? Find your show, Twitter, all of a sudden. Well, yeah, Jay, and I have our show, yeah, we have our show

at ladycreekcomedy.com. That's what we can go see in for about us. And then my Twitter handle is at Grace Parra 360, GRACEP, ARRA 360, as an Instagram is the same too. Okay. Yeah, hit me up. Here you go. Yeah, Lady Freight free comedy every month at UCB Sunset. My handles are Gen B giggles.

I'm on Snapchat now. I'm doing the horrible job at it. But and you can watch my sketch on True TV, Friends of the People that comes on every Thursday night at 11. Okay, cool. We'll have all of this in our site as well. We're going to take some pictures if you want to see how sexy these ladies are.

Kim, no one can find you. You can't find me anywhere. You're right, exactly. Oh, no, I know. Yeah. It's cool, okay, Lori. Yeah, sex assembly. Yeah, sex assembly, I'm there.

She's there. Okay, you guys, you're wonderful. Thank you so much for being here. This was really a fun show. And I'm trying to think, was there anything else I need to say this is a 12, okay. So come to New York, I'm doing the Sexual Health Expo. I will be there from September 18th to the 20th.

I believe, right? Matt, yeah, 18 to the 20th. It's called the Sexual Health Expo and there's gonna be the top sex educators in the world there teaching you for two days. And not only is it teaching, this is like the most fun teaching overhead, like the best ways to communicate with your partner,

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