Sex With Emily - Life's a (Sex) Party with Lynette Carolla

Episode Date: September 16, 2017

Communicating about sex is almost as hard as having the best sex ever, but it doesn’t have to be. On today’s show Emily is joined by fellow podcaster and long time friend Lynette Carolla, host of For Crying out Loud and Sword and Scale Rewind, to help you start the sex conversation! Emily and Lynette are no strangers to putting it all out on the table. The two talk about specific moves to pleasure a woman (hint: it involves the clitoris), how to talk to your partner about what you want in bed, and they help a few callers with their bedroom dilemmas. This show is chock full of laughs, sage advice, and sex tips you’ll want to write down. Tune in! Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Thrive Market, Sportsheets, Vibratex, Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily on Today's show, my good friend and fellow podcaster, Lynette Carolla, and I are taking calls and breaking down your sex and relationship questions. Topics include, what really happens at Sex Parties? How to stop stalking your ex, dealing with low arousal and long-term relationship, and the results are in, study reports, top-cliddle techniques that really turn her on. All this and more, thanks for listening. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. Hey, girls, gotta have a stand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common, though? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Avaline's not the kind of girl you just play with. Hey, girls, I'm off here. You're listening to Sex with Avaline. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, check out our website and chat out our blogs. You guys, we have some amazing blogs on our site that I'm so proud of. I'm part of my amazing team, and especially this one this week that you're going to love, Tails from the Sex Dungeon.

In turn, Shannon actually gets into it. This is like the second part of it. She's just submissive. She gets her detailed experience. She goes to a dungeon in downtown LA with a dominant aetrix and super hot, and actually gets into it, this is like the second part of it. She's just submissive. She gets her detailed experience. She goes through a dungeon in downtown LA with a dominatrix and it's super hot and she gets spanked with like different kinds of floggers. Well, the someone watches her and she has orgasms and it's hot. I never look at it the same again. So it's called Tales from Sex Dungeons. Check that out on her website. And there's a lot more going on there, but I thought you guys might like that one because I don't think you know how much great content

There was there also it feels so great My heart would warm if you may fall to be in social media God knows we do fun stuff there at sex with Ellie Facebook Twitter Instagram across the board without further ado I need to get into my amazing guest who I love who's a dear friend and I adore to a gazillion pieces Linette Karola dear friend and I adore to a gazillion pieces. Lunakarola. Hi Lunakarola. I'm wasted. I know. So that showed up drunk.

And I might be at first. She's not very good for my brand. No, I'm thinking. Well, you have a dream company. Yeah. It's not that great when you show up drunk. Well, listen to it. So I agree.

I would hope maybe we won't. Well, we're going to dinner later. We'll just leave. We are. I have a evening. Yes, we have a evening. I have a evening. That's what we're going to do. We're going to dinner't well We're going to dinner later. We'll just we are

Yes, we have a need and I have a need that's okay. That's why we these snacks. Okay. How amazing is that is that cookie? Tell me if you love it very It's my kids would love this I would eat a bag of this at the end of the day Adam would He would hey we'd have to like, comment skate him. If he's got a loose weight, we would take it away from him. Okay, so let me tell you, I'm so glad you brought this up because, okay, do we look organic and stuff like that?

Absolutely. Okay, so me too, same thing, organic, not GMO, snacks, food, I don't cook, so like everything I get, I have to like, order in and it always bums me up because it's expensive, Whole foods all that stuff. If you heard of Thrive Market yet, Thrive Market? I've heard, yes, I've heard of it. I haven't gone there yet. Right, because you go online.

So there's a deal. So you know when you go into Whole Foods, okay, so here's my problem. I moved to a new neighborhood and there's a Whole Foods. It's so expensive, right? So everything you buy in Whole Foods, like kind bars or whatever, it's just more expensive. But the thing about Thrive Market is they, it's like one of these, like they cut out the middleman,

you order it from the website and all these organic products are like 20 to 40% off regular, so like those Kein granola. See, I love this. Seven dollars when you buy at Whole Foods, it's like four dollars on their website. I ate those for dinner. For you?

For my dessert last night before I went to bed. The kind, because I was starving. I got in a bed. I had a work late. I got in bed. I had the kind protein, healthy grains cereal. I'm not joking. I had that so weird.

I had that for dinner last night. I'm happy to win't you. Not that one. You probably paid $7 for it at Whole Foods. That's a great one. I love Thive Marker. I wasn't even getting into this now, but now that you've brought it up,

that's where all these snacks came from because I never have snacks when I want them. And I don't like spending all that money. So you go to the five market. It's like a shopping club for grocery. So you pay membership fee, and then you can get whatever you want and you save so much money.

And it's like half the price of everything else. So I'll send you all the info. Just to have market, it's cool. I'll tell you all more about it later. But we're gonna, I'm so glad I've quit snacks that you like, because what if you didn't like my snacks? Are you kidding? You're a Jew, I would love it.

I'm a talent, you're a Jew. I know. I know of any snack you gave at. That's true though. You gave at me. You gave at me. I gave at you, I'm gonna give at you snacks. Something funny happened on the way to sex with Emily.

What happened on that? I'm so wasted right now. I love that. I'm dying now. First of all, meaning a, what? Why am I eating those dinter steps? I'm just obsessed. They're gluten free.

They have all these gluten free stuff. They're very delicious. I almost ate the whole bag where you got her and glad there's some left. All right, I know your whole crew thinks I'm a wasted lush. Listen, I know everybody's shaking their heads, no, yes. You do. It's the most fun we've had and so long.

I was upset with the leaf-lower situation in the state of California. And so I told our guys that are working for us right now with Adam on our construction. And I said, I'm sick of, what can I do? It's gotta be bad for them, right? Because they gotta inhale all that. I don't even know the state of leaf flowing in California.

You know the leaf blowing situation? I don't. Does anybody? Okay, you know that. Errr, nobody knows how to do. Okay, there. I hate that, yeah. Okay, so they basically put out a mission,

a plume of smoke. This is not why I came on the show. I don't give a shit about this stuff. And you have to inhale all that stuff. And I said, I'm sick of inhaling this. I'm sick of hearing it. What can I do? Jose and Roberto and Alvaro.

How can I change the way? And they said, first of all, do a shot. Wow, I don't know. No, they said, let's do it. Well, once we figured out the answer to our solution, then they said, let's do a shot. And so then I said like, I'm two and a half shots.

I'm listening, I'm a pro, so I got a car and drove off the way our air. But you've been like, I am on an empty stomach and I was like, shit. I was like, I've here, I was like, oh, but we have food now for you. Look at all those snacks, literally, and you can open it up, they got the Stacey's

Peta chips. Do you eat those? And the kind things, and the whole bag of those Stacey's, by the way. Yes. I know, I'm not joking. I've done right for you. So you also, Lynette, actually, it kind of makes sense.

Don't you? I don't know because I don't know that anymore. Could you go to Corla Drinks? And you have your podcast for crying out loud. Yeah. Yeah. And Sword and Scale. And Sword and Scale.

We wind. Sword and Scale rewind is my little pet project that I've taken on that I've enjoyed. I know a lot of women out there love men too, but they love the true crime genre. And this true crime shit is like unbelievable. So I found this podcast called Sword and Scale. People have touched. Oh my God. And so there's 90 episodes if you like true crime Download it listen to those shows however because I was such a fan and I talked about it on my show for crying out loud The producer of that show said you guys just be our after show like just be the after show

Right each episode now is like anyway, we talk about you're gonna pay me to do that I'll do that anyway. Yeah, absolutely. So episode one through 92 We've been doing right episode 17. Oh my god and every episode we're just going one by one by one and it's fun that he his show is Unbelievable. Okay. Basically it's 30 minutes of me doing and my for crying out loud co-host we're doing a after show of us just basically breaking it down. That's

good. I mean I've heard about it. I don't have time to listen to it. I know that you always make you feel good because I know that you've tapped me. Absolutely. You listen to podcasts like when you're at the gym, stuff with Emily and that. Yes. That makes you feel good. Yes. I don't have that expectation of friends not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna talk about that.

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Yeah, it's like sex is kind of like yeah sex is way Kidding you said you came with some questions for me though. Is there anything off the top of your head right now? You want to get into it? Yeah, first of all if you watch the showtime show They give say them no What the why? Pervert I They give say to them. No. What the why? I'm the only pervert. I Don't know I nobody I don't have time to I'm watching TV now. You're fired first of all

I have to take show away from my mom. She yells me for not watching Nobody's heard of this. All right. This is the docu series. So it's real. It's not fake It's a real documentary of this guy in Los Angeles who throws sex parties. Oh, okay. Thank you. One. One Shannon. Yeah, she's three. She goes to sex dungeon. She, of course, she's listening to it. Oh, you're a Shannon. Yeah. Oh, okay. Now it's starting. Okay. You know, Damon. Okay. So, Damon is the guy that started this whole thing in Los Angeles where he came. Oh, is it is the guy that started this whole thing

in Los Angeles where he came. I was just saying to him the place he'd, oh, now it's a TV show. Okay, yeah, now it's, I don't know this. Because you're, I just talk about it. You're too busy. I'm maybe too busy.

You guys have to like, you know, download her. I know. All right, anyways, it's un, it's so fascinating. This guy started this whole thing and It's it's we're going Sharon. They're going when I want to come to the net would come and be fun Please she's always fun. She invited me to one. I couldn't go. It's like a party. It's like how do you explain it? It's like a traveling Come on come on. Come on. Come on. You're the real CEO, so get in here. Sharon's a first episode. You know how I found out about it as I was a guest on suicide girls.

You know, the suicide girls. Yeah, of course. Yeah, I love them. Their podcast, one girl met her fiancee at a Sanctum party. Oh my God, it might not be too late for me. Yeah, my fiancee. A lot of them go to Sanctum parties.

Yes, yeah. Oh, the suicide girls. So you So you got suicide girls out. She's in the first episode. So any episode you see a girl tatted up from like more unlikely society. Yeah, that's my girl. Yeah. Okay. So she loves this show. Right. So you've been channing to the Sanctum and it's a monthly party. They do about once a month every Saturday. In Los Angeles. In Los Angeles. And now they're going to New York and they've started to have parties in New York as well. So once a month in New York.

It is considered a sexual open party or a sex party. They don't designate themselves as swingers. It defies more just open sex. They have an amazing performance where the workers come and they actually do a full performance that's organized, choreographed, beautiful costumes. It's technically masquerades.

So it's very incognito kind of suits. Guys, we're, it's hot. Guys, don't wear suits enough. That's to me, I'm already turned on. I mean, it's actually not done. It's a tux.

They have to wear a tie. Yeah, they would die. And then the women wear either cocktail dresses or and or a very sexy like lingerie. It's masquerade. It's very dark and you can choose to have sex or not. Or not. And you've had sex there. Yes. Okay. Yes. You have sex there. Yes. Okay. Yes. So correct me if I'm wrong. They do this whole, it's like a theater. Okay. So in the docuseries, it's four episodes in. The guy started it, right?

He hired this hoity toity, like hotel, British guy. He knows how to run five star hotels. So he runs the whole dinner parties, everything's no, like nothing is out of place. Everything is in place. Then he hires this German, I think she's German. She, I can't remember if she's German or Italian. It's Elena.

It's not Italian. She's German or French? I think it's German. She's a ball-busting little ball of fire. And she choreographs. She hires, she has a casting call. Everybody comes in. She wants to see how you look naked. She wants to see you for the... She wants to... You want to do this? Look how cute she is. You can do it hot.

Shannon. Oh my god. You go. We'll support you. Okay. Yeah. You gotta lay it off. She wants to see what you look like crawling on all hands and knees like as a kitty.

Like I could do that. Yeah. I want to do it. I'm too. Right. And they cast it. Okay. Shannon.

So then they put, it's like a black tie, you know, um, masquerade thing. However, they do this whole thing. I've heard of that. It's a whole choreograph. What's the question about it though? My question is, have you been there? I've been to parties like that. Parties that are like masquerade and sex parties that are really fun and you do things like that, but not to sanctum which I've heard about for a while, I'm going to go with you and Shannon. But yes, yes.

And if you have sex for not a sex. This is $16,000 membership? I don't think we have to pay. Is it you? No, but that's like when the costumes is shooting amazing. For her brand is Rocket Chick as well. She has beautiful, we show them on the show too. looks amazing. It looks amazing. She's her brand is Rocket Chick, as well as she has beautiful.

We showed them on the show too. A hot, fun ass. You can probably see that. I went to their website once, because I wanted to go, my friend wanted to go to, and I was like, oh my God, that's 18 pages. Can we just go there, press, we'll come on the show, talk if she's interested in that.

So, we'll go to a later. But, well, basically, it is expensive for couples to go. It's expensive for men to go. Yeah. However, they always want women, one of girls, so I'm on their girls list. Okay, what about, what if I'm on the line? I can bring, we want to be on a girl list. It can be fun.

Do I have to bring the ball and chain with me? No, like literally. You can run to do that then he has to pay. Oh, the ball and chain meeting your husband. Yeah. I thought you meant your costume. Yeah, I know. I've got husband. I thought you meant your costume. Yeah. Yeah, I know.

I'm like, dude, I've got stuff in the closet. You could wear that now. You could wear that. Wait, so I don't have to. You think that with the atom is gonna want to go anyway now? No, he is. He's like, I have fun, like rip, report back. Oh yeah, absolutely.

Okay, I mean, I'm sure you could always ask. Did you or your boyfriend, she's a submissive, Shannon. She's in a relationship with the guy, but they're polyamors? Yes. I don't know. I mean, there's so many different ways to do this. I don't want a boxing in here. No, but that's pretty much it's hard to describe exactly what we don't really have.

I don't know, but open poly. Yes. Okay. So if they do a lot of fun exploits, hence the blog, we open up a show with it. The blog comes from a short time. Yeah. It sounds tells a really sexy experience It is a lot of fun if you're it's one thing that you're ever interested in something like that It's a good way to kind of get a taste of it right because you don't have to

Have sex. You can go you can just watch the show you can get turned on and just watch amazing for play Yeah, yeah, cuz you can really is cuz I've actually been to a few sex parties and when I go a handful I'd say more than that maybe but I've gone the gone with guys that I didn't want to have sex with there, but it was so hot, we left the sex in the car car and the thing, like it's good. Absolutely. For there or for now or for later. Mm-hmm. Put your spank paint the whole thing.

Okay. Thank you Shannon. For having fun. That was awesome. Shannon, just call me next time you. I'm just so let you do that next time we can have that discussion. So, I'm married, not married. Exactly.

Right? Yeah. Well, I'm glad you're here because you're also going to help us answer calls today, questions, from listeners. Very excited. You've got the experience of being married for how many years to Adam? Married, I don't know, 14 years, but together, 22? Yeah.

A long time. Yeah, yeah. And you were on my show like, I can't believe it's been two years because Facebook told me. Yeah. But those were such fun shows and you told a lot about how you guys met and your relationship. Yeah, so much fun.

I had a ball. I know. I know. I know. Okay, so we're going to get into a little bit of sex with the news right now. I thought you could help me discuss this because this sex in the news is what women want in bed intercourse is not everything for an orgasm. No, it's not.

So not experiencing an orgasm every time during sex, very common occurrence for women I talk about this on the show. Probably every single show that about, you know, only 30% have orgasms during an recording. Every time without a little simulation. So 85% of men had an orgasm during their last sexual experience, only 64% of women reported having one. And we're not even talking about orgasm. We're not even talking about intercourse.

Okay. We're saying just in general. Okay. So there's a new study, women said, many reported that penetration penetration alone not enough to achieve orgasm I know you're all going Emily. I know you say this all the time. Don't worry. I'll get there according to women The key was literal and other stimulation techniques Mm-hmm only 18% of women so this is lower so they achieved a climax during sex from vaginal penetration alone 36% they needed more clitoral stimulation, I fight with you about this still all the time.

They're like, oh my God, really? I don't understand every woman. Guys, I give every woman with has an orgasm every time. No. What about Lynette? Do you need more clitoral stimulation? I need as much clitoral stimulation as possible. Hence why you love the womanizer, the clit whisperer.

Yeah, absolutely. You're gonna leave us so many toys. Okay, so this is what I found the best part of. This love the womanizer, the Clint Westburg. Yeah, absolutely. You're going to leave us so many toys. Okay, so this is what I found the best part of this is the news here, though. Researchers asked the participants to check off stimulation techniques they like best. So this is actually everyone. Tickets notes here. This is what women liked best. Okay. Most women preferred a light to medium touch while only one in 10 said they liked firm pressure. So don't be like, I know your clippers is, and press down on it with your thumb, or don't just, it's always light, light, light.

Like if anything, you guys, five times slower, five times lighter, like light. Also, they preferred the shape and style methods that were most popular were side to side movements over the clitoris up and down and circular motions on I'm showing it right now with my finger. Yeah, you are not can't see me So side to side up and down circular or in the vicinity of the vagina or vulva meaning the clitoris is just that little love button But there's so many nerve endings throughout the clitoris, it's like a little wishbone, right? So you see like there's the clitoral legs,

and there's just the whole teasing aspect of teasing the inner thighs. Don't go right for the clitoris with your hard pounding pressure. Emily, I agree with everything you're saying. Okay, I'm married 21 years, whatever, how long I've been. 22 or 20 years.

Whatever. I tell him what you're saying and he by the way Mr. Love line dr. D. He knows so it's not anything. It's not news So when I when he we're getting it on I'm like Down and he I say to him Emily says slow down Emily says slow down Yes, I do honest to God. I'm not joking. I tell him right I tell him slow down Okay, then I talk to my friends who go on their dates and blah blah blah and they go on on a date They have the third date before and they're getting it on and the guy they're getting it on with is like like you said

Like oh and they're getting it on and the guy they're getting it on with is like, like you said, like, oh. This happens to me still too. And I tell them. I tell them Emily said to slow down. But why can't I see even, they can't figure it out. So what do you do? Okay. That's a great question. I've been married.

I've been with the same guy. And he was always a love line. Mr. Love line. Can't go line. Mr. a love line. Can't throw. Dr. Drew. How did you go? I bet Dr. Drew can't slow down either. Hi.

Should we call him? Yeah, let's call him. Let's get him on the phone. But all right, we'll work on beside. I just think he's in the radio right now, but he's not. No, he's not. Fuck him, Drew. He can get on our show.

Okay, you can. You're a con. Okay, listen, listen, but how do you Where's the thing? You have a husband that should know I know I know what I do. I think that In the moment you literally like you it's almost like learn first of learning new behavior is hard It is and it's not just like saying so that and then it keeps going It's like no you stop him Literally like you sit up in bed to the point where like we are not even having sex until you get this down like I feel like If you just say it doesn't happen you keep going there's no consequences for him I'm not like what like with holding sex. I'm not spanking them unless he's into that sort of thing

But we can get into that later. I just mean more like there's some kind of disconnect that's not happening there. And there's a way that you're communicating it that's not getting through to him because we all learn differently, right? Like I learn by hearing things and I learn by experience. Go, if you'd like try to tell me your recipe on the phone.

Yeah, I can't tell what cooking is. I still can't cook. Yeah, anything. But I would be like, no, show me. I try to tell me your recipe on the phone. Yeah, I'd kill him talking about cooking. Close eyes. Still can't cook. Yeah, anything. But I would be like, no, show me. I would need to make that lasagna. So organic cheese. Right. What I'm telling you is that if it's really important to you, and yeah, I'm sure your sexual

pleasure is that it's like, we're such creatures of habits. I would say it's like, uh, he got it just show like his hands. Like, I don't know how he learns, but it's like, you put his hand in. You take it away. You put it, you like, don't do anything else. And that's what you focus on and then he sees the pleasure getting and that's what you do Do you suggest I? Okay, to go Adam Do you suggest I say stop right there? Yeah, nothing until next time and

I said they're wrong because you're gonna. It's so angry. You should never use sex as like a bargaining chip like to I know I'm not gonna. Yeah, but maybe you should. No, I think it's more like I think I've said it a million times. I think it's a kind of thing. First of all, if you say this to him in the moment, stop. It's uncomfortable. No, we're not uncomfortable.

This is what we do here is that here's the thing. Communicating about sex is almost hard as challenging challenging is having sex saying it the right way so if you're like stop don't he's gonna have some kind of post traumatic sex thing with you so you absolutely don't want to be like stop no don't it's more like is there anything that he does that you really do enjoy yeah a lot a lot of stuff a lot of stuff he does that I sexually yeah Like oral maybe or yes, it's a oral yes, okay, and he knows I like that great And then he does that and then I get it I get turned on But then it's like then it goes fast it goes too fast

So I think he just like if he knows how to do it, I think it's more about the why can't he be a lesbian like I just want to make out With him It's what I like put on like, I don't know what the kids listen to these days, like shoddy or something. I don't know. And then just like make out what the romance is for a while. I'm not the romance. It's about the romance and the kissing and the sling down.

The romance you've dollars in. Oh my God. Yeah, that's my son's money from lunch. Hi, and her bra. Okay, you see, I told you I was buzzed. Okay, all right, yeah. But I feel like he goes down and everything moves too fast and you want the kissing and you want to be turned on.

So I feel like it's more about talking about like the state of your like saying like, I love you doing that and you're like literally like pulling his head back like lightly be like, no, no slow down and keep having him repeat like if we're talking about oral sex and he's going into fast and hard you kind of like gently guide him back guide him back you don't keep going you don't say I fit I'm just gonna give up the sex okay like literally show him and maybe there's a little bit of how you masturbate now you touch yourself so does So does he ever think? I'm not bringing him to that arena.

Like that's my own thing. Like, too. That's your thing. Hey, listen, I know what he does on his own. Well, I don't know, but I do my own thing on my own. And I, well, here's the thing about the fast thing. I think that there's so many men that just really, I mean, I'm amazed too, right?

I'm going on dates now. I'm dating all the time. Yeah, I know. Really? But I feel like she just, oh, the guy, she just met a guy that I was dating. That dating. You want me to amatain him? Yeah, do it.

Do it. I'll amatain him throughout the rest of the same. Yeah. I'll be him. He doesn't have a little affect to his face. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He does. I don't know what you're talking about, am I?

I don't know. I know. Is this like weird slur? It's more like, yeah. He's from the Midwest, but he's got a weird... It's a wee? Yeah. I agree.

I don't got it. It's not like day. Okay. So... I'm not full around with him. You have not? okay. Okay. So, I'm not full around with them. You have not? No. No.

Nice for you. I swear. I swear. I'm gonna get the truth out of you. Dude, I have nothing to hide. You have not fooled around with that guy? I want, I will. But it's been, we've been so busy.

I don't remember what happened. I don't remember. There's like a lot going on in my life, sexually right now. Okay. So, back up. So, not the guy you met, but I've gone on many dates the last few years where I'm shocked, shock and awe.

These men in their 30s and 40s are literally like tearing my clothes off if that. Not even my, take my shirt off, I'm going right to the pants, ripping off, and then trying to put their penis in my, yeah, I know. First of all, what part of like a rousal and turning me on and kissing and stroking through

the clothing that could feel so amazing? Like don't they understand? Have they not listened? Have they not learned? So it's not just your husband, although that is sort of a surprising fact, but it's more common than you think. And I just feel like you'd think that maybe they would've

even like I always say I don't want guys to listen to the show beforehand, like listen to a read a book or something or pay attention. But if I could teach every single person listening here, like, nine percent of women they require. I always say four play is not a suggestion. It's actually a requirement. Men are frying pans.

We are slow cookers. We need to be warmed up turned on. And I'm not saying you just been 40 minutes making out. No, there's just even if you make out for a little bit and you take a while to undress, even start rubbing through the clothing, like an outer course. Like when you were in high school. Like that, can you guys remember Kate?

That was fun, right? That was so hot, do a call back, call back to high school. So I feel like you could do some role play and be like, no, like wouldn't that be hot? If you like, you've been here the 22 years and you wore something sexy, no. That you like. Yeah, that's and be like, no, like wouldn't that be hard if you like, you've been here the 22 years and you wore something sexy? No. No.

No. No. No. I think that we should have them listen to this episode that is the state of emergency. No. Okay, well thank you for sharing that, but I feel okay.

So back to this. Okay. You could even send him this, what am I going to send this to him? Yes, I know. Emily says. Emily says. So I decide up and down circular and I think adding

loop that's, oh, you said to me, oh, you don't go down in circular. Up and down in circular over the clitoris, but it's not just, and again, you don't go right for the clitoris because for many women, it could be hidden under the clitoral hood, you gotta be aroused. So, lube is your best friend.

Did I, I've never given you that? No, yes, you do. You've never given me personally lube, but you do say that because I listen to you all the time. Lou, blue, blue, blue. So women are more likely to orgasm when you add a few drops of Lou. So it just, in the end, in your university, 80% of women started to keep out like, we are.

It's true. Even if you're already wet. Okay. And make sure natural lubrication. So why even if you're already wet? The clitoris is that stuff. Lubricating if you're like starting out, like it just, it's just feels so good. Oh, I'll give you some.

Did you see the vats of Joe, Joe Lube just dropped off like a hundred cartons here. So we're going to give you one carton to take home. The other thing is the other style they like, we're tapping and even being pushed together like a sandwich, we're ticked on the list. Okay. So back to the clitoris. Yeah. I find this interesting. So you know how you can, the women,

these are the three moves I told you, but they like to also push together like a sandwich. So they're pushing your clitoris. I, or your labias. Yes. Yes. But how do you translate that into a dude that doesn't really like,

you gotta take his hand It's a blowjob and go to bed or you know right right I feel like you have to let them know that that's also really That he's gonna get the blowjob. He knows that but this stuff is important to you. I Yeah, I tell a man and you know, I'm not trying to goof on him Do you guys ever go away? Just trying to goof on him? Yes, we do. We do. And that would be a good time to say push it together

like a sandwich, my labia. Yeah, I tell them that. He's like, what? He gets a little squeamish. He doesn't know what a labia is. Right, most guys don't. That's true. I could send you home with a Volvo puppet.

Or by book, I know. Did I keep you in a puppet? He did a show called Crank called cranky anchors? I don't know if you've heard like Volvo puppet would have went really well back then No, I've heard of it. I should give you try to just come over and wealth dinner. Yeah, that would be Really I like it. I like it. I like it. It needs to come from some like me or Susan Pinsky No offense doctor Drew's wife, right But it's got to come from somebody else but me right and we talked at the party We talked to some it we were the Drew's birthday party, right so right I think I know

About me maybe here's the thing you know how kids like sex education I feel like often as they don't really want to hear it from their parents. Yes What if maybe I need a plan aside is that comfortable? I mean, I know I'm saying this on there But like I feel like it could be cash and just be like, this is a thing. Only it, because maybe he's heard you say it a certain way, or you and I need to come up with a plan offline, because everyone wants to keep going here, maybe. Okay, yeah.

And I, because now I feel like it's my mission to help you with this, because there's so many couples that can relate to this, because you deserve to have this. I absolutely deserve it. Yes. Okay. Okay. So, I did we cover this whole thing? Let's see what else. Oh, here's the thing. Women also disagreed with the notion that longer duration of sex gave way to better orgasm. So that doesn't mean that you have to pound for 45 minutes. That does not mean she's going to have a better orgasm. And here's the most common contributors. This is the interesting thing too, that we can break down for your husband

and everyone else. Bringing a woman to climax, included spending time to build a rousal. That's what I'm saying. Oh, I've been saying. That's what I want. Right, you wanna make out, you want to keep breasts over your clothes, slow down.

And it's almost the same amount of time that you could spend pounding away and roughly swiping at our clitoris, you could spend that with foreplay over the clothing that's the same amount of time that would help build a rousal. This is what's problem is that men, when I said they are frying pans,

what I mean by that is, he sees you hot sexy wife ready to go, and you're like, I was just having shots with the gardener. No, I was just, I was just helping the kids or making whatever you're doing at home. We're not turned on at the same time as our partners. So there's building rousal, emotional intimacy, so you need to feel like you talk about things

and you connect. He's not gonna get that. Okay, if I get it, he does. Okay, well maybe we skip that one. Yeah, skip that one. You can't have them all. Us. Yeah.

Having a partner who knows what they like and collateral stimulation. Okay. Cliddle simulation is just, it's like a tool. Mm-hmm. So I feel like you could teach it, like it's almost like you need to isolate it, which hence the vulva puppet. If you isolated it and showed them, how maybe that would work.

Would Jim Florentine be the voiceover for the puppet, for the Volvo puppet? Connie, we could do whatever you want and this is not a bad idea. Yeah, I, listen, I agree with all of that. I agree. It's just getting the conversation started. That's the issue. Well, I think we're just gonna send him this podcast. Yeah, would you?

Okay, we're gonna go to calls right now.. Yes I will. That was fun. Okay Lynette this is very special we don't do calls in every show but for you I want to call. I love the call show it's like it's talked to the people. If you have a question you want me to answer on the show you can text me your question just text ask Emily it's all one word to 7979-7979 you do that you get a get a link. And then in that link, you fill out the form, you ask a question. And also go to sexwithelmie.com, via the Ask Emily tab and ask your question there,

and always include your gender, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show. Great. First call, let's do it. Yeah. Okay, we have Nick, he's 25, he's from Boston, and he said that his friend is sending mixed signals and it's messing with his feelings.

So let's help him. Hey, Nick. Thanks for calling me. Hi. Hi. So happy here from you. I'm with my friend, Lynette Corolla. So you've got two people here to help you.

Two gals. Hi, Nick. What's going on? Thank you so much for taking my call. And just as I said in the email, I had a really close friend, gotten close over the years, and it kind of started one night when we had maybe a few too many drinks, and we ended up cuddling for the whole night, and since then, whether we're out drinking or sobering out, there's been more than one time where I thought it was kind of cross-align a friendship, and there's

a lot of cuddling, a lot of touchy feeling is. Do you tell me that he loves me and I'm not sure if it's just being friendly or if it's quite a lot better? Okay, your gay is he gay. No, he's not. No, he has a straight and a cova-girlfriend. So the only time he's with the touchy and the feeling stuff is when he's drunk, buzzed. Also when he's sober. Okay, so when he's sober he's too, but what do you think?

I mean, I'm feeling like he has a girlfriend, correct? Yes, he does. And so, how long have you guys been friends? We've been friends for about five years now. Okay. And when did the attraction start to kind of escalate? I'm sure you maybe since the beginning you've been attracted to each other or tell me about the history of that.

So we started, we were roommates in college during my senior year. We got really close, but it was just, sorry, you much a friendship. He's a year younger than me. When I graduated, I had come back to visit him, and that's when it started, and that's when the attraction kind of began, and I would say since then, it's escalated. Okay, so here's the thing. You can't push him to kind of do what you want to do. I mean, you're not going to be able to convince him that it leaves his girlfriend. He's got to be with you and, you know, have this experience, although he might be attracted to you. And so I feel like

you guys are really good friends, but it sounds like it's just really distressing to you, correct? Yeah, I would say that's the hardest part for me. In no way do I want to force him into anything and change what he's feeling. But I guess what I'm kind of looking for is a way to remove myself from the situation. And it kind of does because we have a mutual group of friends that we spend a lot of time together. Right. So I don't know really know what to do and how to get over him and move forward. Mm, honey, I'm sorry.

It's so hard. It's like you're going through a breakup. And so I would say like the things that you have to do are the, you gotta make the break, you gotta have a talk with them because they're not like you're in a fight, but it's really hard for you. So you have to remove yourself in the situation.

That means blocking a phone number. And I know you might add to all these right away, but let me tell you what it looks like, okay? No contact for six months. You can't find them in social media, no Facebook, no check in the Instagram. I understand that you, all the same friends, you're 25 years old though,

like there's a lot of people out there, I'm sure that you're gonna be afraid that you have friends, you're just gonna have to avoid that group for a while. And it's gonna be hard of first. Kind of quitting a person is like, kind of quitting a drug or like quitting drinking or breaking any habit. But this was going to continue to happen if you stick with them. So you have to start taking these steps to distance yourself. Can you tell me? I know. I think I can do that. It's definitely

tough. I have tried before to kind of have a conversation with him and tell him where I feel I was worth and how it's confusing for me, and it worked for a little while, but then after like a month, we were just right back to where we started. Exactly. I guess I really just have to work on it. You do. Well, Nick, I'm really proud of you

because it's a really mature question to ask because a lot of us, I mean, God knows, I know I've done this. I've stayed too long. I'm like, we shouldn't do this. You know, and then get drunk, and you hook up with someone, and you keep doing it, right?

Lynette, what do you think? Yeah, I have a question. Hi, Nick. How do you quit somebody? Like, you say you got to like, stop Emily is saying, stop with the Instagram that what kind of suggestions can you give to people to get? How does he get through that? 48.

I'm following people that I use to know. I don't know how you literally expect. I've had three of like alcoholism. You do. I broke up with someone a few years ago and I was constantly like, I'd be embarrassed. I had to like, I know like my office like logged into my Facebook.

I'm like, if they saw how many times I'm checking his profile, I would clear it, right? I was like, okay, you've checked it every day this week or I've gone to his Instagram and I'm like, you know what? I talked to a friend about it and I'm'm like, I'm not gonna do it. I think I had like, I had two days sober, I'm checking his, and it got easier. It just got easier, and then like a week went by,

and then I thought, okay, you know what? I didn't think about it. It got easier, just like everything else. So you just stop, it's like, you just have to have the self control. And so that's why I'm saying, Nick, this is such a great question you're asking me. I'm so glad, and it's really mature,

because of course you're boyfriend, he's not having consequences. You're right, you're right. You're a guy friend and it's really mature because of course you're boyfriend. He's not having consequences. You're right, you're my friend. He's like, yeah, Nick, I love you. We're good friends. We can be flirty, but I've got my girlfriend. So you probably want to find a relationship, Nick, and you want to be surrounded around people

that make you feel good. And this doesn't totally feel good anymore. And that's what you got to do. And Nick, you deserve it. Of course, yeah, you do. You deserve it. Yeah, Nick? Yeah, thank you so much. Keep you got to do. And Nick, you deserve it. Of course, yeah. You do. You deserve it. Yeah, Nick, that's... Yeah, thank you so much.

Keep me posted to me. I definitely felt like, fine. Yeah, yeah, keep me posted. What were you gonna say? Yeah, definitely. I was just gonna say to your comment, I definitely feel like at this point, you kind of have this cake and this eating it too.

And it's done really tough for me. And that's why I kind of wanted to reach out because I feel like I do better than I want to be happy. and I just kind of figure out how to navigate that and move forward. I'm telling you the student, you know what, I swear to you, you so deserve better. He is having his cake and eating it too. And the longer that he's in your life and that you've got this connection to him, it's blocking the other people from coming into your life that are actually are going to make you happy and that are right for you.

So that's the sooner you do it, the faster all the good people and good energy can come in. Thanks, Nick. Thanks for calling, sweetie. Thank you so much, Emily. Hi, thank you. I can't even imagine being a millennial. I know.

Or being anything and being in love and everything. Here's the thing. You break up with somebody. Are you dating? Even if you're dating them, I'm dating right. Few guys, you know what I'm like. Are you dating some? Even if you're dating them, I'm dating like few guys, you know, one of them is like, yeah, I'm sorry. I'm friends with all of them. I can see what they're all doing. Like, you're a date last night. I know how you can do that. I can't even have a job and I have friends, but swear to God, it's very hard and you've

got to be like, I don't, I actually don't really try to check. I know already it is kind of like an alcoholic. We're eating like, you know, I don't, I actually don't really try to check there. I know already it is kind of like an alcoholic, we're eating like, you know, I only eat these healthy snacks now. I know that eating really bad foods make me feel bad. I know that if I go to this person's social media, that's gonna make me feel bad. So you just, it's like right before you stop.

You just do it and you get into a habit. It's like it's a whole new world and it's really not fun. But it's not easy, but we can all do it. And I think we all need to do it. Even if you're not a relationship, we need to stop being so addicted to social media. Yes. Including myself, which I am. Yeah. I agree. Okay. Another call. So our next caller is Joshua. He's 24 from Oakland. And he wants to talk about lasting longer during sex and challenges with his girlfriend and sex life.

Let's get into it. Hey, Joshua. Hey, how are you? Good. How are you? Tell me everything. I'm here with my friend, Lynette Corolla. She's very experienced here to help us.

We answer questions for you. I got you. I got you. With you. With you. With us. We're all together. Yeah.

Tell us. Let's recap. Tell me what's going on. Okay. So basically prior to being with her, I've always been able to go anywhere from like an hour to two hours and it's always been a constant thing. And even with her from the beginning, it was that way. And then somewhere between when we started getting really serious, it just jumped down to 15 minutes and that was it. And it caught me off guard because I've never, been able to come that quick in my life. I've never really experienced anything.

How long have you been with her? We've been together two years now and started, I guess we got serious within like six months is when it kind of started gaining. Okay, and months is when it started changing. Okay, and that's when it started changing. And now you're basically saying that you're ejaculating for a lot to every time you have intercourse. Yeah, and it's not like it's really, really quick. It's not what it used to be. I don't understand what the difference is.

It always means, well, sex does change over time. It changes when you're in a relationship with somebody. And the truth is longer isn't necessarily always better. So is this a problem for you or is this a problem for her? Have you guys talked about it? Yeah, and it's more for me. Right. She's probably fine with how things are.

And I've always been, I just known for that. And then for the change on me it's just different. Right, no, absolutely. So tell me is there anything going on with your health? Have you been to a doctor? No. I've been to a doctor, every change, do you drink, smoking? Put your down.

No. I mean, I live a pretty active lifestyle. Everything seems like I'm going to the gym at least four times a week I eat really healthy. It's it's just different. I don't and you live together What about masturbation talk to you about your masturbation routine? I mean that's maybe maybe twice a week Okay, and what kind of porny watching? It's all over the spectrum I very much into Dom So I just think that could be another thing You want to be dominated? No, I guess okay, yes in a way sometimes

But then it's also a little bit different on the fact you I'm a very dominant person and everything that I do so I guess I I just it's both hands. So I'd like to be dominated and I also am very dominant person and everything that I do. So I guess it's both hands. So I'd like to be dominant, and I also am very dominant in that. Right. Okay. So I think, okay, so to me, there's a few things going on here. So the first thing for less and longer in bed, I mean, there's so many things you could

do. I feel like during masturbation, you know, when you're not watching the porn, you could practice edging. Have you ever done the edging? It's a practice where you masturbate and you, until the point when you're not watching the porn, you could practice edging. Have you ever done the edging? It's a practice where you masturbate and you, until the point where you're just about to ejaculate and you're about to go over and then you stop and you bring yourself back down again.

It's like a breathing technique. So you could start to kind of learn a jacletary control. So when you're actually having intercourse, if you're having sex with your partner, you can like, no, when that's gonna happen, you know how to bring yourself down again, right? So that's a practice if you're interested in lasting longer. I mean, that's, I talk about a lot.

There's a lot of information about my website, but that's part of it, but that's the main problem to me because no one's complaining. It's, be honest, a lot of women, like you said, you used to last an hour and a half. I don't know. Have you ever even been at the beginning of time like one of the sex less and hour years? No. Not unless the guy takes his time, then it lasts.

We've been talking a lot about men slowing down and foreplay and all that stuff. So how is your sex life besides overall with your partner? You've been together. I'm sorry. You said two years. Yeah.

OK. And how is the actual besides the fact that you feel like you're that lasting long enough? How is the sex? It's really good. We live about two hours apart. So it's a little bit different having to travel the time, but I make the trip at least.

She's probably three times a week. So every time that I'm up there, normally we're having sex. But there are those times that it's, you know, I would assume that it'd be a normal sex life. Right. So have you guys ever talked about your sex life? Occasionally. She says that I talk about it too much.

Well, I mean, that means that maybe the way you're talking about it, she's not really able to hear you because I believe that she probably does want to connect with you intimately and emotionally and she loves you. And so I feel like, give me an example of the last time you talked about sex. What did you say? Or one time, one thing you've ever said. Yeah, I think the last time that we spoke about it, it was about me going down on it. And she used to have a really big issue with that. And she was at the point where she was actually, and this is something we've talked about, she was afraid of pretty much squirting with my mouth.

And that's what I was holding her back. So I just- Right. Did she squirt? She typically squirts? Yeah. Okay. And you told her no prom babe, that's hot. Exactly. Right.

Exactly. So did she masturbate? I feel like that she's, she's your age as well, 24? And this is another thing. She's actually one of the youngest girls I've ever dated. She's 22. Okay. So she's starting out.

It's actually, you might be one of our first few partners. A lot of women in their early 20s are not comfortable with their bodies. You might be the first guys ever gone down in her. She's got so many insecurities and doesn't quite feel comfortable yet. So there's like a learning process like no matter like just in her age Like she can't even be where you'd want her to be yet because she hasn't had that kind of time and insurance and Conversation so I'm sure when you're like baby want to go down to it. It's okay if you squirt my mouth She's like what like I'm just figuring out before him

She ever squirted has she ever squirted before you? No, no, so she has a word as gotta be a freaky thing. Yeah, has she ever squirted before you? No. No. So she has a orgasm. It's got to be a freaky thing. Right. Yeah. So she's having orgasms. It definitely caught her off guard.

And that was probably the second time that we were able to gather it is when it happened. Now it's a normal thing. And she didn't really seem to have a problem with it. OK. So she doesn't want you to go down. Right. So I just feel like there's more of the way

you guys can talk about this is you gotta just say, like I want to please you, I love you, I love being with you. And like let's talk about some things that like turn you on and understand your body and just kind of take the pressure off, not so much like I need to go down on you, why won't you let me. But you guys, it helps to listen to the show together.

I'm sure you've been listening, you know that it helps a lot of couples, but I feel like you just need to kind of like probably slow down and listen more and not tell her like what you want, but to say, maybe I just want to help you learn about sex as well. And like, what can we do to turn you on? And maybe you like watch some porn together by some books. Go to a sex toy store.

Like, there's things that you could do that isn't giving me that pressure of like, let me go down and you let me do all these things. It sounds like there's a lot of different things going on here and you just have to kind of let this all sink in with her, let her learn at her own pace. And I'm just go easy on it. Go easy on both of you and let it happen gradually. Okay. Okay. Thanks, Joshua.

Have a great day. Thanks for coming. Bye. Thank you. Wow. Why are you tricky, Dr. Twentha? Yeah, I can't imagine being like, I mean, the girl squirted. I've never squirted.

No? Have you ever had the magic wand? No. Okay. That helps. I'll give you the magic wand before we leave. It's a good vibrator. No, but no, Squirting doesn't happen to everyone.

You're right. It's 21. Yeah, right? No, but no, Sporty doesn't happen to everyone. You're right. It's 21. 21. Yeah, she's so young. She's still, I feel like a lot of women in their early 20s, mid 20s, the 20s, they're very, they're just not comfortable with oral sex, they're not comfortable with their bodies at all. And so there was a lot to unpack here.

Yes. And it would have been like, I would love to see him like, you know, draw a show out of this, but yeah. But I love these asking, I love these wants to improve her sex life. And hopefully they can fight again It's about communicating like that. He's saying it could be pushing her way So yeah, okay, we've got our next call. It's Derek and Melissa 47 Sacramento They they want to talk about their relationship low-rozel. Hi guys. This is Lynette Corolla. She's here

Hi, I'm happy you hi Thanks for calling you guys. Oh, it's going it's going so well. How are you? We're really excited to talk to you. I'm alone with us, but other than that, I'm fine. Yeah, so it's all good. I know it's kind of a first of all of us, so let's have fun with you. Okay, good. So fun. Yeah. Tell us. All right, so as you mentioned, we're going to be together for 25 years. We've gone through some really cool ups and downs and things like that. And we were like, you know, it was actually life-file, it's a difference, and we did different things.

We did the swimming, we did the poly thing for a while, and it was all good. It was totally cool, but we needed to take a step back and spend some time on us. And so we did that. And it's been really cool. But Melissa wasn't one to show a lot of interest in sex. I mean, she did have it. And one thing got going. It was kind of cool.

And I'm a word of affirmation. It's a physical touch. And then again, you can relate to it. Yes, that's my love language. I know. I know. That's my research. But you also know that lack of words and lack of physical touch actually has a really

big impact too. And so it's been kind of a bummer, you know, and sometimes it's kind of like sad and stuff, but it's all good. We would actually get into the act of talking sex and it was cool. Now but we certainly, and it's kind of funny now that there has been a lot of arousal during the sex, which kind of, it at from the course and then you know most talk about test-rown and hormone levels and things like that so i'm just kind of trying to do your out like

how do i navigate that's the thing i was gonna say i'm telling you when i read your when i look at this i read your i saw your email i read the age is i wanted to know about milisa if she's been tested hormones um... for you for to? You're both 47, right? No, I'd like to set the record straight. I'm actually 45. Okay, well that's, let me just tell you that's about the time have you ever had your levels checked? Actually, it's funny you asked that because this last week I did go to my primary care

physician and I had talked to her about that and she is sending me to a functional medicine physician and I'm hoping to get all the tests when I go there. First of all, you've been together a long time and you're trying all these things and I love how open and how you're communicating. I mean, that's, really, you guys are great. You're in such a great position, but I got to tell you a rouse desiring sex you're saying you're not even turned on like you're not getting wet And you're not desiring sex. So there's like a rousal and desire it and either one of those is really like Melissa Can you do the difference kind of it's kind of hard to sometimes do you know I'm saying like when you're having sex

You turned on or do you just think about sex like where are you at Melissa? I don't I don't Have it just pop in my head to the day. It's not something I think about a lot or very much at all. Like Eric said, it used to be, I wasn't really into it, but once we would start having sex, then it was fine and it was great and I would, yeah, definitely show the signs that I was into it, but I noticed that that's left. Okay. Well, okay.

So I think, and I think Lynette, I think this is a great time to talk about it. I can't wait to hear what your doctor says, and I gotta be honest, the Western medicine doctors aren't always a great handling women with hormones, and you might have low testosterone, estrogen, a lot of women, they're giving them estrogen pads, it doesn't necessarily work. And actually, Lynette, I'm so glad you're here. I think that you could have low testosterone, estrogen, a lot of women, they're giving them estrogen pads, it doesn't necessarily work.

And actually, Lynette, I'm so glad you're here. I think that you could, and again, I could give you a lot of different things to talk about right now, but I actually, what you're describing to me sounds like it might be hormone. So Lynette, will you talk about your experience because I'm actually, this is what she's talking about. It's been amazing.

For sure. So Melissa, have you had your hormones set? She just did, she said, she hasn't got the test back yet. Okay, so I went to an OBGYN that specializes in hormonal therapy. And what that means is they basically check your hormones and they'll decide whether you need more progesterone or testosterone or whatever it is, they'll level it out and they'll

give you what you need. And I had to get pellets because I had no testosterone, which means my sex drive was very, was basically zero. So they gave me these pellets, what they do is they just give you an insert in your side, in your hip. And they just say it's a lot of OBGYNs do it now, I think. I haven't heard that many do it, but I'm very interested as well, but I feel like it's not as common of a practice, but you should look around.

They're not talking about testosterone as much. I feel like it's newer scientists. Yes. And you guys are in Sacramento. I mean, maybe. Oh, if you can find a doctor that can do it, I highly recommend it's newer science. Yes, and you guys are in Sacramento. I mean, maybe. Oh, if you can find a doctor that can do it, I highly recommend it because it changed my life. It really brought you to it at 45, right?

Oh, yeah, I'm 48. I did it at 45 and it changed my life. I didn't have to be on antidepressants. It made my sex drive go up. It took a while to get even into my levels were even, but it doesn't take that long. And you go every four to five months, they insert the pellets.

And first they do the blood test, and then they see what your levels are. And then after that they figure out how much test to astraloprogesterone you need. And then after that they adjust, they adjust, adjust, adjust adjust keep going for every four months and i feel like there's a lot of women who don't really have this kind of information about this so what do you think about this more

well that is actually we've just stumbled upon this this last weekend uh... because i was going to a podcast a lady gang and uh... canvas birch was on and she's a hormone health educator. And so I learned quite a bit about the hormones, and there could be a lot more connected to that from what I feel like. Yeah, because what you're talking about is a rouse. Yeah, I mean, that's what you're talking about right now.

So I almost feel like, why are you getting your test back? If that's not it, then you guys are calling into the next show But I feel like you guys are trying all these things to make it work and you're telling me that it used to be that you got turned on in the middle of sex And now you're not and I feel like that there's not a lot of information out there for women right now about this And so if your doctor's like, I don't know I don't know I would find another doctor because there are doctors at specialos and hormones And you're right at that age. Yeah, so paramanopausal and Yeah, so can you keep us posted and let us know if that works for you? Yes, we can.

Okay, it will be that. Yeah, okay, cool. Thank you. Thank you both. Good luck. Thank you guys. Good luck. Bye. Oh, thank you. Bye.

Thanks so much. They don't realize that it's out there. That there's something out there that can help you with your sex drive and your, just in your energy. Right, like your day to day energy. It's so true. And women, I think also to say like take a 90% or do something like that. Before that, we'll talk about that.

But people do that. They're on a 90% and things can help. No need it. I don't need it. Yeah, love it. Okay, so this has been a fun show, Lynette. Thank you. I'm so glad you're here.

How can everyone find you Lynette? You can find me at at Lynette Corolla at LYNETTE, C-A-R-O-L-L-A, at Twitter, Facebook. I'm at Lynette Corolla at all across the board. And for crying out loud. And for crying out loud. And a sword and scale rewind. And...

Mangria? Yes, Mangria. Corolla drinks. Corolla drinks, which are delishish. Yeah IPA beer, which is out now. Yeah I want your beer. I have beer. I brought it for you. Oh my god. Okay, so we're gonna put all that on our website as well But following that she's awesome and beautiful and smart and thank you to my amazing team Thank you for calling in. You're so great. The listeners, the caller. I love my team. Right?

I love my team. Thank you to everybody. Ken, Jamie, our intern Shannon, producer, Lark, Michael. I have a good team. I love them. Okay. And thank you everyone for listening. Was it good for you?

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