Sex With Emily - Light Up Your Sex Life w/ Lizzy Jeff

Episode Date: April 21, 2021

Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF.We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex magick” can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana can improve orgasms, cottonmouth (not fun for oral), and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body.For more information about Lizzy Jeff, visit: lizzyjeff.comFor even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We discuss aspects of cannabis in this episode. Cannabis affects people differently and is still not legal in some places, so please take precautions and consult your doctor before using. If we just take a moment, whether we're rolling it out, making tea, whatever it is we're doing, set the intention. What is your intention? Is it clarity? Is it guidance?

Are you activating more creative brilliance? What is your intention? Set that intention first, and then you spark it up. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mark our sacred institutions. Betrubize they call them in a fight on days. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Happy 420, a holiday celebrating cannabis. I'm joined today by badass medicine woman spiritual mentor and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex. The importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels. The importance of quality cannabis are

own relationship to weed and sex, and how sex magic can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana could improve orgasms, cotton mouth, not fun for oral, and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body. Intentions with Emily. For each episode, join me in sending in intention for the show. It just means when you're listening, what do you want to get out of listening to this episode? How can it help you?

My intentions is to show you the way cannabis can enhance your sexual experience and answer a lot of the questions you have about cannabis. Even if you've had some bad experiences in the past, I think this show is going to turn it around for you. You can also check out this article on my site, is cannabis right for my sex life. Remember, if you have any questions you want to ask me, you can go to sexwithfamily.com slash askemily.

Include your name, your gender identity, your location, your age, and how you listen to the show. Before we get into this interview with Lizzy, let me just give you some of the stats on using cannabis. And again, I'm not pushing this, it's not for everybody, but I just wanted to share some information with you so you can make your own decisions.

So there have been a lot of studies. For example, they've shown that 34% of women surveyed, so when they used cannabis to force sex, they noted increase in sex drive, improved orgasm, decreased pain, and no change in lubrication was noted. Now here's what I got to say about the penis owners here. For them, I think it can be had the same mood enhancing benefits, but a lot of studies

have shown that the overuse of marijuana, specifically with THC, can cause a rectile dysfunction. And again, everything in moderation, but I just wanted to call that out. Another study, this was a Stanford study that came out a few years ago. And it was the first study to examine the relationship between marijuana use and frequency of sexual intercourse at the population level in the United States. And it showed a positive correlation between the two.

It says that it doesn't impair sexual motivation or performance and if anything It was associated with coitle frequency. So you're having sex more often and there's also been studies that show how it can just improve Your sex life overall some studies have shown that there's higher sex drive and less pain for women to use cannabis There's also one that say they have better orgasms, a 2019 study. Researchers found that 127 women to use cannabis before sex had much higher chances of achieving a satisfying orgasm than those who didn't use cannabis. So I just want to lay out some things here. Have fun with this episode. I always want to give you new ways to play and explore.

Alright, everybody, enjoy this show with Lizzie Jeff. First let's tell everyone about who is Lizzie Jeff. Tell me everything. You know that's a great question. I've always been super curious and creative and that rebel, that radical since I was a young girl. And so I've always had that energy of if it didn't exist or if I didn't really like what was being presented, I would create my own. But it wasn't until within the last five years for my life where I said, wow, this is too I am.

I'm a powerful woman. I see, I recognize my gifts. I'm falling in love more and more every day with myself. It's been a long journey of self-healing and healing my womb and also healing my breasts and just loving myself. And now I'm in this place where I feel more confident. I love the way I dress. I adorn myself and find garments and gold and you know energy

and I know that I ooze that divine feminine essence. So when I step into any room, I literally see the shift in the energy and the entire space. And so for me, I was like, okay, before I even got to a point where I could feel so confident in my body and myself, I had to really go deep. I had to really look myself in the mirror and I had to listen to myself and I had to reassess my belief systems about myself and fine tune that. So, you know, every day I'm doing mirror work. I'm looking at myself and I'm speaking prosperity.

I'm speaking beauty. I'm speaking confidence into myself. And so when it comes to who is Lizzy Jeff, that's been a journey. It's been a beautiful, ever-lasting journey of healing. And she is the rat priestess who I'm committed to expressing my divine feminine essence in the most beautiful, creative ways possible.

And that translates as really powerful music, dynamic, soul-shifting, curated events that translates as Zen and Kush, Ryzen and Kush is the lifestyle brand that I've created which centers plant medicine and holistic healing infused with social justice, with a sprinkle splash of sensuality and sexuality, all fused together to showcase like prolific art and music and intellectual conversations and it's been really working out for me. Okay, let's back up. So happy for 20. This is coming out on for 20. So I want to talk to you about the question, because we have so many questions too.

A lot of our listeners were going to get into some of their questions as well about cannabis and sex. Weed and sex. You said that people come for a central experience. My experience is I'm a fan. I like CBD. I like THC. I think it can enhance sexual experiences,

sexual experiences. For me and moderation, I've had to learn my own experience with it. But tell me about yours. Like what's been your experience combining weed and sex? You know, that's a great question. And thank you for sharing your perspective. Yeah, I'm in.

Yeah, you never know, but I'm in. Right. And so my experience, wow, let me just say wow, okay, first and foremost, you know, I have my own personal relationship with cannabis. Cannabis always made me feel free in my body. She got me out of my mind, especially when I'm in intimate moments with a partner, but it wasn't until I had the opportunity to work in a dispensary down by the beach where I was serving people every day. It wasn't just flower. It was CBD infused strawberry lemonade, espresso, dark chocolate bites, CBD bath bombs, and intimacy oils and loops. And so I would be having the opportunity to connect with the vendors or the owners and CEOs

of some of these brands who really love my energy, but also as a bud tender, people come in and they ask you, what are you like? So it forced me to explore and try these different products and there's a couple of products that have stood out to me that just really opened the portal for my sensuality and my sexuality. And so one of the products comes from the Yoni Day Spa. The Yoni Day Spa is a black woman owned intimacy and Yoni like pampering

collection of oils and flower baths. It's just amazing. And so even just taking a really warm bubble bath in like the CBD bath flower is just next level. There's also a Yoni oil, which is this gorgeous golden serum and you can massage your Yoni with it. And so, you know, there's receptors in our vagina. There's receptors in our cosmic rooms and our portals that love CBD, that love THC. And so exploring with that medicine,

allowing that consciousness to activate, you know, it's like when you get that big pussy energy. Yeah, ooh, big pussy energy. I love it. So for you, that gateway was using an oil rubbing it into your vulva, your vagina. And then what did you start to feel? Like how do we explain it?

Because I talk about CBD loops, THC, on the show I do. And I think that there's some great sensual oils and there's still a hesitation like, is my vagina gonna get high? I'm gonna, I think, well, why would that be a bad thing? Okay, but be- But if you could explain how you,

if you feel comfortable sharing, how do you feel like your sex life before you rubbed yo and yo oil in and then after. like what does it do for you? And how do you get the big Christian? Good Christian energy. Okay, so look, so I told you about the Yoni day spa. And I'm sure you've heard of for real wellness. For real wellness, they make this amazing intimacy spray. And I'm pretty sure it's called awakened and look let me tell you the first time I ever sprayed my

Yoni with some THC infused oil was when I used for you and it completely just took my pussy confidence to another level because it activated that orgasmic vibration and what I feel is, you know, I feel good. Yes, it gives you the tingle sensation, but what it does for me is it gets me out of my mind, out of my head, and it really roots me in my pussy energy. You feel me, it brings it grounds me and so I'm more connected like I can breathe in, and then breathe into my yoni and really activate that pleasure.

Do I feel high? I feel high. I feel elevated. I feel really connected to my body, but it's a different type of high from when I smoke or when I sip on the tea because it's just it's really activated in my yoni. And so sometimes it may be my cycle and I might need some extra warm hug from the CBD. So I'll use one of those foriest depositories. They're CBD based. And I

lay there for a minute just to let it kind of melt inside of me. But each of those depositories are like 60 milligrams. And so it's a beautiful a beautiful medicinal relaxing blissful experience. And I know a lot of women that deal with Indomitriosis and fibroids and various things like that are also women that find it painful to have sex those Topositories that spray really loosens and opens and just gives you a whole new portal of pleasure that we all deserve We deserve pleasure and we deserve expansive orgasms. The first time that I had orgasm, when I specifically use, you know, the medicine on my yoni, I had never experienced an orgasm like that.

And it was a solo. It was self-play and it was dynamic. Now I usually like to smoke and inhale and sit T. However, this was my first time actually using a product on my yawning and just the, oh, the expansive, the blissful, the pleasure. You just really feel it because I think a lot of times as women wear in our head so much during sex

or during self-pleasure and wanting to reach a particular goal, but using this medicine, whether it's CBD or THC, whatever it is that you're using, you're allowing it to bring you into your body and help you reach a level of pleasure that maybe you didn't allow yourself to before. God, that's exactly Lizzie Jeff. So I like on your foot by your full name Lizzie Jeff.

It is so true. I've had the same experiences where I rubbed in and what I always tell all my listeners, you rubbed in and then your intention is in your body, you get to breathe and you're not focused on what's gonna happen, what am I doing? And it does take you out of your head because when we're present with what is And what's happening in the moment we can't be worried about our taxes or whatever else is happening

We're like this is the moment and it also it's healing so let's talk about the CBD and the THC because it is CBD But it still it works THC activates a little bit different But for the CBD can do that in the loop, whether you're rouse or oils, and I'm a fan of for you as well. I'm so glad you like that. That's so dope. Yeah, I guess we can just start with that.

So for people who have a, they're like, oh, I don't wanna get high at all that. CBD can work, but not all CBDs are created equal. So is it about the milligrams? Is it about, what do you think? Oh, oh, that's good because that we got to know. So it can be about the milligrams. I think for me, the first and foremost place, even just having the opportunity and blessing to work in the industry and experience so many different products and brands and people,

all of that matters. Who is behind the brand? Are they using high quality, organically, sustainably sourced cannabis? CBD. Where is it being sourced from? If you can get to that, it's worth it. It's worth asking these questions because look, I mean, I'm so particular about what I'm smoking, but especially if I'm using it in my yawning, I'm extra particular. And so the people in the brand matter, the way they source their medicine matters. When it comes to the products, it's like, yes, milligrams are important. What I say, there's no set dosage for anybody.

Explore. Start small, go big if something is 10 milligrams oh try it see how you feel and then boost up to 40 50 milligrams a hundred and then just explore it and grow from there I love it stick around after the break I ask Lizzy the questions you sent in on Instagram Instagram. We asked on my Instagram, we said, do you have any questions we're doing a show and we got a bunch and I think we could kind of help some people here, Lizzie. Okay, I'm with that. So, any mantras to remain present rather than getting lost in your

having sex high. I love this question. This is so powerful. Thank you for choosing that one. Can it be? She is a powerful, earthly element that was

put here as a co-conspirer for our medicinal elevation and greatness. And with that said, if we just take a moment whether we're rolling a moment, whether we're rolling it out, making tea, massaging it in our yonis on our breasts, whatever it is we're doing, set the intention. What is your intention? Is it clarity? Is it guidance?

Is it heart protection? Is it heart medicine? Are you activating more creative brilliance? What is your intention? Do you want to go deep? The sacred energy exchange with your lover and elevate beyond this realm. What is your intention? Set that intention first and then you spark it up. What I highly recommend is let's bring the sacredness, let's bring the sensuality back to the bedroom and let's really intentionally come together and activate that root chakra energy. So we're going to sit face to face for at least 15 minutes, eye to eye with no talking. We're just focused on our breathing, we're focused on the present moment, we're bonding, we're grounding, we're rooting ourselves

in this magical and chanted moment, setting that intention for a magnificently magical night of manifestation and deep love. And when you do the eye to eye, really look and see each other, eye to eye, maybe 15, 20 minutes, I suggest 30 minutes, but I know, you know, you know. And so what you want to do is sit back to back. Because when we're back to back, we allow our root shoppers to touch.

And this is something I learned in an honors yoga sensuality retreat on the Caribbean Sea. And it's just a basic idea of sitting back to back with your lover and really getting in tight and letting your root shoppers touch and breathing and creating that powerful cycle of breath. Because how often do we sit back to back with our lovers? We rarely do. And so it's about awakening and unlocking and letting the breath of life really flow through and ground you in. And I honestly guarantee that you will be in your body.

You will be out of your mind. Cannabis is a tool to help you get into that state of bliss, into that state of surrender. You got a surrender. You owe it to yourself to do that because right now, surface layer six is cute and it feels good for three seconds, but let's really activate that sex magic energy until and deeper and cannabis. If you allow it and setting intention

will be a very powerful tool for that. I love this Lizzy because I'm always telling, we said an intention before every show. I always ask my listeners to do that, but it's almost like what we're saying is you control the cannabis Don't let it control you and how you could do that is by setting an intention I always say extend to your partner's eyes for five minutes because I think that's what people are gonna do

But 30 minutes would even be more so and it's true It's a kind of a tantric practice to sit back to back and then you start to feel each other's breath You start to sink up your breath together, and it's your in it So your mind can't be going elsewhere if you start with the intention of connection with your partner. Right. Exactly.

Yep. It's a dance. Let's dance, baby. Let's get to know each other. Let's heal. And look, Emily, I'm going to tell you, I've been all over the world and I've sent in so many women's circles.

And when I tell you you and I know you know this as well, when we listen to each other's stories, there's so much power in that, but what we realize is so many women in some way have been violated at some point in their lives. A lot of times as a child, as a young girl, and so those moments do shape you in your perspective, in your mentality, in your sexual expression. And so I'm saying this to say is, in this generation, as we're leading

this sensual sexual renaissance, we owe it to each other to show up as powerful as possible in the bar room, especially in our heterosexual relationships, what I'm speaking on in particular, and holding space because sometimes we're sleeping with someone and we may not even know any of the trauma that they have experienced. And this is on both sides because men do experience trauma as well, but I'm specifically relating to women and just allowing sex to

be that medicine, to go deep, to really tune into the divine powers of what sex can be and healing, you know, and bringing back that healing in the womb space and the cosmic womb space. We can start with that though. Like, we could circle back to Big Pussy energy. I think that's what you're saying is show up, be in your body. So how do we do that?

What would you say is a step? Woo! Breathing on purpose. Just breathe on purpose. And when you breathe, breathe with passion, breathe with fire, breathe in a way that turns you on, breathe in life. That is a gift.

And that is one way to start. And the other thing I said earlier, look in the mirror every single day. Look at her. Tell yourself how beautiful and gorgeous you are. I see you. Your neckbone is perfect. Wow. Look at those gorgeous eyes. Oh my goodness. I love the way your hair grows from your head. You are confident, you are creative, you are sexy. And while you're doing this, hug yourself. Touch yourself. Ladies, feel your breasts. You know, I have this beautiful nipple serum. And the point of the nipple serum is for us to touch our breasts every day.

We live in the society that is constantly telling us our breasts are too big. They're too small. They're not sexy enough. They're too flat. They're this, they're too small, they're not sexy enough, they're too flat, they're this, they're that. Many women have gotten various forms of augmentation and things like that, and so there's a lot of healing required in our breast areas, so even just holding your breast and remembering when you birth life in this earthly realm, the very first sip of nourishment is the breath. And it's a divine portal for nourishment, for life, for divine cold, and not only that, for pleasure. So many women

have orgasms specifically through their nipples. And so when we show up for our bodies every day, when we get out of the shower, and take our time when we oil our body down in luxurious oils, shade, butter, avocado oil, whatever it is that we're using. Rolls oil in our scalp. Take our time, make it sexy, make it sensual. When you breathe, put your hands over your yoni and breathe in pure sunlight. Imagine radiant sunlight beaming into your yoni. That's how you get

into them with your body. We owe it to ourselves, especially as women, because we spend so much time trying to shape and fix our bodies or are negatively speaking to our bodies. And it's time that we reclaim our power because we are all sexy. It doesn't matter what you look like, what color your skin is, where you're from, or what society tells you, is sexy, you are sexy. Sexy is a mine state. And so that mine state is a muscle that needs to be sharpened,

that needs to be strengthened every single day. And so every single day, touch yourself with peace, with pleasure. When you step outside and you hear the wind and you see the wind, or you fill it against your cheek, oh, you know, give love to the earth for flirting with you and kissing you on the cheek. Be in a dance with the earth, be in a dance with yourself. Elevate your vocabulary, try new things or wear that sexy lace linger right that's been sitting in your closet for 10 years.

Drink some Afro DGAC herbal maca tea. Whatever it looks like, create your own rituals, whatever it looks like, live your life in ritual, that's how you become more connected. It doesn't matter how many kids you had or if you have no breasts or one breast or what it looks like, all that matters is you doing the work every day showing up for yourself. Yes, yes, Lizzie. You're really explaining it in a way

that I think we can all picture and ground in because it's a daily practice. It is a muscle. I mean, Lizzie, we have never met before, but this is so many of the things that we talk on the show. It's like, yeah, to have your affirmations, look in the mirror every day. But what I love that you're saying is it's daily

and nobody else, when the outside is gonna give it to you, a hundred people could like your photo, you can swipe on all the people that love one and go out with you, but if we are not connected to our bodies, nobody else can authentically connect to us until we make peace with our bodies and we give ourselves an orgasm and we feel embodied. No one's gonna show up with that magic key

to like make it all happen. It's us and it's daily. So for a lot of women, I think, and men too, when we're stressed out, when we come home and we haven't touched our bodies, we've been stressed all week. And then our partner comes up and wants it. We're like, what?

We're so disconnected. But if I'm the daily, it's like working out. If you're working out every day, so much, if I'm the daily, even if it's 10 minutes, instead of slapping your lotion on your oil on, you take, I do this too. I rub on the oil. I'm like, slow down. Even today, I barely had time for my arms because I was rushy, but I was like, okay, I'm doing the slow.

That was a muscle that's taken me so much time to get there. But now I can't not. It's like any other habit. You have to continue to do it and then you connect. And I love that we're given women power and through your words here saying like, it's available to everybody. Sexy is in our hands, our responsibility,

and our pleasure for that matter. So, somebody else says here, you know, it's funny, Lizzy, because these are all, a lot of them are the same. It's so funny, I'm just gonna read through them. We've given me a dry mouth and a dry vagina, what can I do? So, that one came up a few times, and then we'll get into some other ones.

But what do you do about that? Dry mouth, dry vagina. I'm like, Loub. Loub on every night stands my dream. Just use Loub and drink. I just drink a lot in sex and water, whatever. Right, exactly. I think the here's the biggest thing.

Look, if you are going to participate in the mental spiritual, emotional stimulation provided by this sacred plant medicine, then of course there comes particular things that could be set into place to balance the energy. For example, I love to enjoy a nice taupe daily. So in balance and alignment, I'm taking my low and herb. You feel me? I'm taking my herb asanta. It's strengthening my lungs. It's a long cleanser. I'm drinking my water. You may have seen

me sip a few times. It's important that we stay hydrated. Hydrated when you're high, especially. Yes, you've got to sip on that water because there's nothing more powerful than a juicy pussy. So in general, stay hydrated and the other thing is, oh absolutely, get you some of that pussy oil. Get you some of that oil, that lube, that CBD lube, and make it juicy, and make it wet because the reason why I like it, and I was never a fan of lube until certain cannabis brands presented that option because it was wholesome, clean ingredients. And so for me, it's like, look, drink on your water, try the lube. I guarantee if you stay hydrated and you do what you

need to do every day, you're going to have a juicy pussy. You feel me? And if smoking is just something that makes you feel dry, okay, there's so many other gorgeous forms of cannabis consumption, whether it's through the tea bags, the bath bombs, the massage oils, you there. I'm going to take a quick break. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this show free.

When we come back, I ask Lizzie about the many different strains of weed and how to find the right one for you. How about this? Why is sex so much better stoned? Why is sex so much better stoned? Why is this so much better stoned? I mean, look, that's like, you know, not everybody's going to agree with that, but for me personally, because the cannabis medicine is the feminine energy. We can only enjoy the cannabis if she bursts it. There's already something so sensual and elegant and soft and graceful and empowering and

igniting about the feminine essence, regardless. So that's the energy that you get automatically by tuning in with the cannabis frequency. Like I said, she takes you out of your mind into your body. Touch is even more enhanced. There's less inhibitions. You feel me, you may be more inspired to try new things and go even further. And it just feels good to experience a really good strain that is an alignment with your energetic chemistry that will make you, you know, experience the ultimate like glistful moments.

I have a question about strains. So I feel like, is there, is there a strain that you recommend for sex? Because I also think that different, because I've listened to all over the world, you can't get every strain, every place. So is there one that you're like this one or is it change or is it different for everybody? That is a great question. Now, here's the thing with the strings.

Let's say you have a friend, that's a grower and that person is getting it directly from the farm and they know exactly what the seeds were that they had. And maybe it was champagne or AKHays or super lemon Hays or Blackberry Cush, which is one of my favorites, then okay. Now, oftentimes what happens is there are strange specifics, however, every string works different for each person.

So for example, you may love a blue dream. You know, blue, you may feel so creative and sensual and ready to create a masterpiece when you smoke blue dream, but I may smoke it and it might make me feel very very very relaxed and sleepy. However, if I smoke a little bit of blackberry cushion, I set my intention for ultimate creative bliss, then I might feel a nice tangly energetic vibe. I might feel creative, but explore, experiment. Remember, take notes, make note of what you smoke

so that if you have a consistent source or dispensary that you like to go to, then you know exactly what you like. But don't give up once or twice or three times if you try a string that may make you feel different than what you expect. It's all about exploration and seeing what works best for you and your chemistry and where you are energetically at that time. Yes, it's so true that it's a nice thing. Oh, God, I had a really bad edible

wants. I was going to the hospital or I had a bad experience. We'd make me paranoid. It can. Sure. But don't let that be your end all, because you had a few bad experiences. And then again, I'm not saying it's for everybody. I'm just saying, if you do it with intention and you do it responsibly and you check out the sources and you take time to pay attention, how am I actually feeling in the moment?

When you slow down, you're just like, take it a huge, bonk it and another one, like really, like, go slow. Like, I think I always wonder this, like, is it more that we're just differently if I spoke something you spoke something or take something It'll be different or is it more like our mindset like if I set the intention if I'm in a good space That I could have anything and I would feel great. You know what's so hard to say I got you I got look it's all about the vibe it's all about the energy You and I could go on a girls trip down in Miami

and go kick it at Nikki Beach. And we're like, ooh, we would love some cannabis. And so I might hit my vegan chef, whom I connect me to his, you know, medicine man. And then his medicine man pulls up with a strain. Neither one of us have tried. And we smoke it together on the beach. And we've been sipping fresh press organic juices and it's nothing but the waves

bless them. We both might feel so dynamic and wavy because the energy that we were already creating was lit but there may also be you know another moment where we may go to the dispensary and you may be looking for something that's a little bit more potent because you may have been smoking for much longer than I have or you have a higher tolerance, maybe it's my third time ever smoking in life. So I might need a little something that's lighter, maybe a sun-grown, you know, something with a little bit of, you know, some fruity terpings in it. So it's all a matter of figuring out what works for you infused with the energy and the vibe.

If you have an eaten all day, but I had an incredible assiibo with coconut chips and almond butter on top earlier in the day, the medicine is gonna hit us both differently. Yes, and it's paying attention to that. All those things, it's like any medicine, you can be taking a pill, any medication, they say, well, don't mix it with this or that or have it in a full stomach. It's the

same thing for this. So that is so helpful. I know that this question, I think we already answered it. So I don't know. Can we enhance orgasms? We know that it can. I believe it can. Absolutely. That was my experience that I spoke on earlier that was the most dynamic orgasm I had when I used that awakened spray. Love it. I love your energy. Love your vibe. I think that this is, you know, it's 420.

I'm not a pusher here. I'm just saying explore right now. We just having, for the last few years, having a moment and getting to your body, figuring out a little bit. Yeah, exactly. I have to ask you the five questions we ask all of our guests. Uh-huh. Okay, ready?

It's our quicky questions. Okay. What is your biggest turn on? It could be anything. Ooh, I love a beautiful man that loves to worship his woman who's always intentional and when we connect, whether he's bringing me organic fruits or he listens to specific things that I say and then shows up with those things,

that's something that really stimulates me. Biggest turn off. Someone that doesn't respect women. What makes good sex? Wow, wood makes good sex, intention, passion, trust, vulnerability, deep connection, openness, willingness to explore and go deep, creative for play and honoring the woman's pleasure and sex. Because the more open the woman is, the deeper you can go into your own inspiration and healing, all of those things.

Something you would tell your younger self about sex and relationships. Oh my goodness girl, it's not that serious. Let me tell you something, I was celibate for 10 years, okay? And oh my God, it was like such a big deal. Like not to anyone else but just to me. But even in my celibacy for the reasons

that I chose to be celibate, I would tell myself, it's okay to still be in tune with your body. It's okay to still touch yourself and give yourself pleasure to love on your breast, to be sensual with your partner without penetration. If that's what you desire, but it's still, to be sensual with your partner, without penetration. If that's what you desire, but it's still okay to be sensual. Okay, what's the number one thing you wish everyone knew about sex?

It is truly a gift from the highest heavenly realm granted to us for the so purpose of grant it to us for the so purpose of multi-dimensional exploration and healing. Sex is a key that if you are intentional and you truly understand it's for purpose you can unlock portals in ways of orgasmic pleasure and creative brilliance. I.E. sex magic and understanding the universal laws that specifically correlate with sacred energy exchange. Talk to you about sex magic. What it is in your experience with it? So there's a queen, there's a woman and her name is Queen of Fuah and she wrote a book called Sacred Woman. That's when I really understood, wow, I have power in my world and I can speak energy and intention.

And the basic basic basic understanding of sex magic in my expression, I want people to look into it and allow themselves to learn more about it. But it is the intention of harnessing our sexual energy to manifest a magnificent reality. And when I understand that the power of my sensuality, I may be listening to some ostomari R&B music in the background, I might have the beeswax candlelit. I got a sexy red light over there, a Roman therapy peppermint. And I'm on a vibe and I'm in my body and I'm feeling sexy. Then that energy, that is the energy that you're feeling that literally creates life.

So if tonight the goal is not to create a baby, what else can we birth? So whether it's solo play or partner play where both partners come together with the intention and the visualization of whatever it is you're manifesting whether it's deeper connection and trust in the relationship, whether it's a house for your family, whether it's you know expansion and more friends, whatever that looks like, you can come together, visualize it, breathe it in, you know, expansion and more friends, whatever that looks like, you can come together, visualize it, breathe it in, set the intention, and in the moment of your orgasmic expression, that energy is solidified in the universe, you are both holding that vision

for yourself. And like I said, this can be solo play as well, whether you're using a crystal, whether you're using your hands or whether you're using a magic wine. You can harness that energy and really create prolific experiences for yourself in life. So well said, because this is the source of our creativity. This is the source of life. So you have an orgasm. It makes sense. And in that moment of orgasm, it's all about intentions and manifesting. And so yeah, you have an orgasm. Make it happen in that moment. That's a divine moment. So well. I'm so happy to meet you. Tell us how people can find you and play with you and hang out.

Where? Last year I put out a book called Principles and Potions for Peace, Purpose and Prosperous Living. It is a 333 plus page curated reading experience. It is sexy, is raw, is sensual, is political, is radical, is next level. So anybody can find at liziejep.com or you can just click the link in my bio on Instagram,

L-I-Z-Z-Y, J-E-F-F, and on 420, you know, 420. This is, so my album, prophecies of a rap priestess, just dropped globally for the first time today. And this is my latest album that I worked on all of 2020. I really believe in this project. And this is honestly the most prolific thing I've ever done in my life. So congratulations. We are going to lead to that in the bio as well. So I cannot wait to get my hands on it. You are fabulous. Everything you're doing, you are a force, Lizzie Jeff. And I think it's incredible that you're doing this work

for everyone, not just women, but all genders. Because we're all on this together, right? I mean, you can't be. We all need to kind of help each other understand this and lift each other higher, literally and figuratively if we want to, because you know, it's 420. Absolutely. But thank you so much.

We're gonna put this out there to the world today and everyone's going to just love you up and Experience this along with you. Thank you so much. Really Lizzy. Appreciate you so much love to you so much love. Enjoy your house. Thanks you too That's it for today's episode. See you on Friday Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Be sure to like, subscribe, and give us a review where every listen to podcasts and share this with a friend or a partner. Believe me, if you got something out of this,

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