Sex With Emily - Love, Lust & the Art of the Handjob

Episode Date: July 22, 2015

Today’s throwback podcast is straight out of San Francisco circa 2011. So what was happening in the Sex With Emily world EXACTLY 4 years ago? Emily covers a wide spread of topics including the dangers of comparing your ex to your current partner, age gaps in the dating world, and the real difference between love and lust.  Also discussed: Are you having trouble getting your boyfriend to perform oral? One listener needs help guiding her guy to cunnilingus town, and Emily knows the best route to take! She and Menace return to the great handjob debate, and Emily shares a handful of tips, tricks and pointers on how to make the most of manual stimulation. Whether you need sex advice, relationship help, or a couple great book recommendations, this “blast from the past” podcast is chock full of useful tips and plenty of classic Emily and Menace moments. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to all of our podcasts. Do people ever send you new pictures that feedback with sex with Emily.com? Sometimes they have, yes. I don't encourage it. No. I don't encourage people sending me nude pictures, but

what kind of pictures would you prefer if they did send them to you? Someone sent me a picture of his dog yesterday, which was so nice. Yeah. I think his name is Sam. Yeah, well, because I was talking on my dog. So he sent me a picture of his dog, which is a really cute dog. And I don't know, just pictures of who they are and whatever, but you don't need to paint a shot. No paint shots. We'll see you for our email us feedback at textbellmoo.com. So yeah, how you doing, menace? I'm really good. Sorry right before the show like minutes before the show I was eating a burrito because last night I hung out with my friends and they're like big fitness buffs. Okay. And I'm not saying the burrito, burrito, super healthy but they were getting

on because I don't eat till late in the afternoon, like all day. That's bad. Yeah, because I get... Don't you get hungry? I get up super early. No, I'm just so busy. Right.

But the problem is the reason I'm not eating that much, but I'm not like losing a ton of weight is because what I do eat, I eat a lot, and then I go directly to sleep. Yeah, that's not good, honey. You need to be doing meals today. So they're getting on me. Are you gonna breakfast now? Yeah, I'm gonna try.

Oh, good. Do I have like a shake or something? Like a protein shake? Yeah. So they're getting on me. They're like, you need to eat more and change your style up. And I go, okay, fine. So that's why I was eating a burrito.

Okay, that's good, honey. You've got to eat more. I'm from Shoe Star. I think you've got to be healthier. It's important. It's important to have three meals a day. And you better sex that way too. We know if you good, honey. You've got to eat more. I think you've got to be healthier. It's important. It's important to have three meals a day and you better sex that way too.

We know if you're healthier, you're having a healthier sex life. Maybe that's good. Yeah, isn't that good to know? Yeah. So, you know, a lot of things. I'm excited for my little road chiptale. I'm a big road chiptale.

I'm going to go on Saturday because I'm staying through the night Friday night to go to Hawaii to stay. I'm just staying in LA say I'm staying in LA? Yeah, I'm staying with a friend. Oh, a friend. Yeah, cool. Yeah, sure.

Yeah, what kind of friend? What kind of friend? He's my ex-boyfriend. Oh, yeah, but you know, I think- So this is the one we've been talking about for years? Yeah, we're not sleeping together, though. He just broke up with some girl and not- Oh, just broke up with a girl.

We're not sleeping together. Ex-boyfriend in LA for a couple days. I'm not gonna sleep with that. Yeah, I totally believe what you're saying right now. Yeah, I'm really not. I think we're kind of beyond sleeping together. No, I'm serious. It's really changed. It's changed. We've all we've grown.

You're just... Look. What? You don't need to tell me a bunch of things. I'm not telling you. I'm just... I'm feeling right now that I don't want to sleep with them. I'm not saying that it will happen.

I'm not saying that I'm saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will happen. I'm not saying that I will them. I'm not saying that it would happen, but I'm saying that I don't think we're there. I don't think we're there. I think we're past it. I think we're friends. Like I talked him through this breakup. I just feel like it's really, I believe me. Wow. Believe me, man. But I'm excited. I'm going to be, I told you, I'm play by radio and the Heidi and Frank show and have a bunch of meetings in LA and then drive back gonna be fun in my little mini in my car and my dog with who's awesome?

Speaking about Heidi and Frank. I was talking to a radio friend of mine last night And I mentioned Heidi and Frank. I never heard the show before okay And because I was just talking about you know how we do things here, and I was like oh, yeah There's the Heidi Frank show out of Los Angeles That does the same thing we did and he would say nothing but good things about them Say that they did a really good show. So I did show don't don't let us down while you're on the show I won't let you down. I won't stop you want to mention the other day kind of glossed over it that you were going to an orgy I was going to his sex party. I'm gonna go to a sex party. Oh, I should go to one in LA now that I'm thinking about it I've got a whole connection down there. It's gonna sex party just for you know fun

It's fun. Do you want to go? Oh, no, you don't have to do anything What is it when a man and a woman have to go together as a couple or a single woman can go along with that party? But um, it's like in two weeks and two weeks two three weeks. I am busy Dude, you're so not busy. You just want to go I think think for this show, if you really care about this show, you'd go with me to Sex Party and you would use the masturbation sleeve on your penis. If you cared about learning more about sex and relationships, you would do stuff like that, and it's just for the good of the show. You do everything else for work, and I just feel like you need to come with me to Sex Party.

You go to Sex Party. You need to use a masturbation toy. We'll see. You need to use a masturbation toy. So we'll say, okay, today's show, some topics include hand jobs, comparing your current partner with your ex and getting him to go down on you. That's some of the topics and emails. And for our sex topic, we'll be talking about

his and her hand job is find out the right techniques to enhance your handies. And enhance your handies. And enhance your handies. And enhance your handies. How, you know, medicine used to have this hand job debate that went on, non-non-non. So I thought we should give some advice to people how to give really good hand ups.

And then we've got some sex in the news. I know you were gonna report some other stuff today, but I got to meet up with this band called Cobra Starship. I know you're a huge fan. Huge fan, oh my god, I got a lot of music on. I got posters of them all over my bedroom. Then after that, I gotta go to San Jose. I'm gonna go DJ them all over my bedroom. And then after that I got to go to San Jose I'm gonna go DJ a charity event for children. Oh, that's nice for children. The children. Oh, that's good

And then it goes late into the night Like a DJ event and a Wednesday. Yeah, it was sucks because you know I know I was like how are you DJing? I don't know school night. It's for the kids. So they got to do it. They asked me to and then Tomorrow I got invited to some a dot com party. OK. Don't know if I can go for it. It's like a barbecue day type party. And then these girls from high school that I know that

haven't seen in forever. I took one of them to the prom as a favor. And then as a favor and no she was doing you a favor. She just broke up with her boyfriend and then you were like best friends or whatever. And then the set of girl that's her friends we were like flirting on and off like years but now she's married with a baby whatever but they're gonna be both in town and they want to go party. It's where you take them. We had a guy in town and they wanna go party. So where you gonna take them?

We had a guy ask us yesterday where to go party. Where you where to take them party? Because I got, you know, because chicks, I don't know why but they'd love, I wanna go dancing, I wanna go out. Cause you know when they're locked up and they're married or like people that are just, so you gotta take them out of dancing.

And they wanna go dancing and all this stuff. So I have a friend that owns a nightclub right up the street. So I'm just friend that owns a night club, right up the street. So I'm just going to say, hey, I'm coming by and with school because I get to be the cool guy, I would get to go one front. You get to get to the front of the line. I only roll that way.

I get, you know, drink passes. No, not even, I mean, I get escorted all the way up to my private table, all that kind of stuff, every time I go, I go, I go, go. You never go. Because that is know. I don't know. You never go. Because it's just not my scene.

And you know how many people because you know we've talked about this before, I do that dubstep. So, so many people want me to do club nights now. And it's just not my thing. I don't want to keep on turning down gigs all the time. And they want to give me money. I know. I don't want to do it.

I still want to be out there. You don't want to be the club. You got to go to bed early. I understand. I understand what's going on. I know. don't do it. I still want to be out there. You don't be the club. You gotta go to bed early I understand I understand what I know I hear you sleep is awesome sleep is awesome And I still have to get my new bed which has been on my list for a month and a half I have to go to the store to do it. I have the contact. Oh right that too. I'm getting a new bed frame But I need a new bed to yes We need to talk about that. I discuss with the president of the company I love that you did that.

And I will talk, I will talk the crap out of this new bed. All right. And I will have sex in it and everything. I have the Simmons, a Pila top beauty rest mattress. Is it amazing? And it's amazing. Why is it manly? Is there a difference in it?

No, it's just because the name's Pila top. Pila top beauty rest. Right? Okay, I'm going to check him out. So I'm going to do that. And um, uh, what else? I don't know. There's like a lot. Yeah. So yeah, that's going on. Still I just don't, I don't want to go out, but so many people just want to hang out.

I know. I've gone through phases before. Yeah. No, I've gone through those phases. And you just have to say no, I got caught out of the stop by three different people the night. And I'm staying. No, I'm saying no because I have too much, I know, whatever I work to do because I've planned tomorrow night and I'm leaving first thing Saturday morning, although the dinner I'm going to Saturday night starts at 9.30, it's for a wine company and there's a six-course meal with wine perings at every meal. So how the hell am I going to drive to LA early in the morning if I'm going to be hungover? That's going to be a problem.

And then also, you know, another reason I wanna go out is because I'm traveling to Chicago. So if we have any listeners from Chicago, feedback with at sexwithmwe.com, because I love food, so if they have any food recommendations, they're gonna let me know. Okay, I'll give you some tips.

It's not on the south side, because I've been to south side and I almost died. You almost died. Okay, be careful. I can give you some names too. That's kind of my home. I'm in from Michigan. We live in your Chicago, all that stuff. That's right. Actually, what? I have a funny story that happens to me last night. Talk to me. So you're going to be an iPhone

user soon, right? Totally. Like any minute because a stupid phone keeps breaking. Yeah. iPhone is an amazing phone. Okay. I mean, unless you have certain services it does dry out here in there But I assume you're going with the right service But it has the auto correct Which that does to but for some reason when you're typing really fast and then you send you hit send It will change it real quick and then send. Oh, it's so annoying and they even have websites dedicated this worse This screenshots of like the wrong things And you know, like the time I said's this screenshot of like the wrong things and you know

I've said I was gonna finger out my porn TV for you auto auto type fail, right? and I told you this before my friends with a lot of suicide girls, and There's this one suicide girl that I think is like Freaking beautiful, right? But I've never met her. she lives like over in Ohio or some of that okay and but my friends from this area are down at Comic Con Comic Con is going on in San Diego right now right so they're all getting together because they get their own booth out there and stuff like that they represent you know two psych girls and they came out with this comic book

and she's in the comic book oh along with some my friends and I was like can you with this comic book and she's in the comic book. Oh cool. Along with some of my friends and I was like, can you get the comic book for me? Sign. Uh-huh. And I at-replied my friend and then I go the comic book of and I at-replied the chick that I think is like- Right. Hot, right? And I meant to write a huge fan from San Francisco. Right.

And it auto corrected it and it sent it and it says, hung fan from San Francisco. Hahaha. Hey, that's so, it got sent to my friend, right? Uh-huh. Who's a chick? And it got sent to that girl. And you can notice?

I didn't notice so like a little while later and then i deleted real fast but once you do those at replies right they stay there like people can see them. So i was like oh my god this hot chick you told her you were on i said i was a hung fan from. She's probably used to getting email like yeah but like per's all time now I look like one of the perfy guys. I know you do Man that is so bad. There's nothing you can do with that My friend him he back she's like oh, I'm gonna get one and it's gonna be especially signed for you and blah blah It's weird because I never like I never asked for any of that kind of stuff I you know Be people all the time I never asked for any autographs.

I know, but this is chicken. And now, and this is one time that I asked the other way. Did you respond direct message or anything and say like, I said, I go, oh my God, I phone fail. I hope you didn't see my last message. Maybe you really was Freudian slip. Maybe you meant to say, like, a Freudian slip is like, when you do something, say something sexual,

but you think you say you don't mean it, but you really do mean it. So like a Freudian slip is like, maybe you meant to say hung. No, I did not. Somewhere in the recesses of your mind. I did not. I don't know, man, that's maybe.

We need to say that. Okay, you didn't mean to say hung. But yeah, that's an embarrassing story. That is an embarrassing story. And I thought I was embarrassing, but it was only you when I wrote. I figured, I'm gonna figure it out. I'm gonna figure out how to do my set up my porn box. I really need to do is actually record the show at Comic Con next year.

I know. I know Comic Con is huge. It's happening right now. Comic Con is so huge right now. Spielberg is actually going for the first time this year. I know. Why are we going? It's this weekend?

Yeah. That's insane. There you go. Okay. There's Comic Con in on York, which I've already booked for. It's not weekend? Yeah, that's in San Diego. Okay. There's Comic Con in York, which I've already booked for. It's not as big. What is it exactly? It's like it's a comic book, movie, pop culture, connection, right? Right, right. No, I've heard of it a bunch, but movie TV's all that stuff and it's just amazing. People go there and they book like a year in a fan's just to be there

Wow, yeah, well, we'll go next year and all you need Orders I'm playing on going out there But I don't know exactly if I can go yet because there's another Festival now in San Francisco line how to go Man, you're busy. Okay, let's get into some sex in the news. Okay, what do you got? I've got a little bit I got a sexy new story if you don't have it. So I'm gonna see what you have first. And it's pretty pretty epically funny. What is it go first? Let's go Harry Potter one. Do you have a Harry Potter? No. Okay, get Which is surprising because I've Harry Potter fan interns. Yes, go ahead. So I just heard the story. I'm away over here. I was on the phone and my friend

She was telling me she's like oh you gotta mention this on sex with Emily. There's drama with Harry Potter. Oh she's sad. Because there's ads being played before Harry Potter because you know the whole new thing you should just be trailers of new movies coming out but now they put a lot of commercials in. So annoying.

Right? So commercial that's being run for Harry Potter is adducing commercial. Oh, really? Why? That's what they're asking. Why? That is such bad judgment. It's all too much. So now, now they said that in the commercial, it all talks about, the voiceover says men have fought for it, men have died for it, the power of the V. This is so bad. Who, how does it happen and no one stops them? And then all these look at your mommy, what's a douche? What's the V? Apparently I haven't seen these ads yet, but some people have recorded them and put them up online. And this is the power of

the V. And they said that one of the ads is a talking hand. So it makes it look like a vagina. China, right? But the vagina. The vagina is talking. And they're so bad. So it goes through this whole process of like the power of the V, blah, blah, blah.

And at the end, it cuts to a grocery store of a woman looking at a brand of douche. and then she picks it off the chef and puts it in her basket. That's really bad. And then before airy butter. That is so bad. I'm just telling you, the kids are going to ask the questions and douche is good for you anyway.

Do you know that? Unless they're making some kind of new super whatever. But douche is like, it's the super douche. We have natural juices that cleanse you out women natural natural lubrications and stuff that dozing is not necessarily healthy just telling you on a separate now. Yeah so that's a new story. That's bad and I was like, kid, they were like, what's a douche mom? Yeah, I know you guys never take notes when I tell you to take a note, but try to find that story and put it up on sex.com. Okay.

We'll take that out. You guys don't like listening to me. No, we do post things that you say. We, oh, I found out that they do sell Fairmone stuff and it's supposed to work and be really good. I asked if on atmeave.com if they sell Fairmone perfume because that's like, or it's a clone, I don't want to work with you. It's both.

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Okay, they're Adam and Eve that come Adam and Eve just want to know and it's an international phone ever Oh, wow people got to know we did listen to yesterday So we have an international phone number in the world right now I do one in the world can call sex family. Okay. Cool. Okay. Got it. So okay. Another alleged a Marilyn Monroe sex film surfaces. So they say that there is a sex film with it's an 8-millimeter Virgin of a film showing Marilyn Monroe having sex when she was still an underage actress, when she was known as Norma Jean Baker. However, an expert says that's not her, the chin isn't the same, and collect the collector says in an interview that he wants at least 500,000 for the sexually explicit six and half minute grainy black and white film, which he said was maybe for 1947 when she was in 21.

The face of the woman in the film looks considerably different from Monroe Monroe who merged later this store as a star But more similar to her than it more similar to the Monroe scene in her first movies So hard to know when a Marilyn Monroe film the sex tape people were doing sex tapes back in 1947 Eight millimeter film. I've been doing them. I've seen porn from the 1900s In my sex school. It's awesome. There's like porn from 1910 and it's just like all these people, it's like black and white, it's like the old black and white films that you see, but it's like people just like getting naked in their panties, but it's like moving really fast and they're like in a car having sex and like wearing all these, the women are like taking off all their like layers these

to wear like their garters and their OUCA and stuff. It was so much of a pain to give girls clothes off. I know it was a big deal. And now it's just like men don't even, they'd be one big thing. They just take it all off and don't pay attention to it. Laundry, as we talked about yesterday. So, okay, more news, couples and relationships

spy on each other. What? What? A new survey by I'm Lenshopping and Review site site Retrievo found that a third of people in relationships have snooped around their partner's email or phone. Emails were more likely than males to have checked the email or call history of the person they're dating. The number is slightly evened out when it got to spying on children though apparently

the stress of a child knows no gender line. So parents are spying on their children and each other. Yeah. Have you checked anyone's phone? They did. I never checked their phone but I did. I was dating a girl and she was an assistant of a DJ and she needed something she was stuck in traffic and the last I went to check her email to get the Kishie game with the login right right what happened I found her like talking to some other guy Wow is at her house like oh, he's over right now blah blah So what you do?

Dr. You did yeah, she must have been heartbroken. What? She's talking to some of the dude while I'm at her house talking about how I'm still at her house. F that. Remember, I told you I don't take no shit. I know, I know, I know, I know. I've checked guys' phones.

It's so easy. I've got so much information. So many people. So many people. I've got so much information. You would get so blessed technology wise. I would. Yeah, there's so many things that I know I wouldn't want anyone like me.

Oh my god. I don't want anyone to check out my text or my email. Oh my god. Oh yeah, you've been so I'd be so bummed. I use automatically would go to hell. Even though I wasn't already going to help, which I might I'll go to hell. So I think it's interesting. I mean, I have spy and I told you that like my ex the one in LA that I'm gonna go see

Whatever gave me a spell. I'm not gonna I'm gonna move. I gotta stay. I'm not into him anymore like that So many lies coming out of your mouth right now. It's not I'm not lying. I'm just being honest like I'm not even telling the truth I have other people to sleep with there. How's that? How's that for some, some, some? Okay, so, um, so yeah, I have checked, and I have to say that like a lot of my friends have checked, and you're always going to find something. There's always going to be something questionable, I think.

You probably might even misread it, so I would say that you should talk to your partner before you check their phone. And now everyone's got passwords on their phones too. Oh, here's another big thing too. So shoot. I've definitely had girlfriends, they'll say, oh, can I have the login for your email or something? Really? Yeah, and I go, no, I'm not going to give it to you.

No way. Because dude, I've had, I have every single email from O6 in my email address. Can I have your login? No. No one can have my login. But I can. No. That would be so fun.

I want to see minutes writing like, Sappy Love Notes. No. You never do. It's not gonna happen. But I'm not gonna give up, I'm not gonna give up my password. The same thing, like don't give up your sex number and don't give up your passwords. Your sex number. Oh, right. Never give out how you will you slap with and don't give up your

passwords. And don't give it up your passwords for your significant other. And just don't be shady and nothing will happen to you. You know what I'm saying? Don't be chilly. Because they're like, oh, you're not giving up your passwords because you have things to hide because you're going to be talking to other people. The third part of it is just don't talk to other people and you'll be fine. Yeah, but some of you talked to other people on it. It doesn't mean anything. Even with another guy.

That's it. It's totally gonna be. What? Sometimes you talk to other people sexually and it doesn't mean anything while you're with with somebody. It's okay. Sex thing by minors officially illegal in Rhode Island. So they have banned sexting in Rhode Island by minors. Did you hear this?

Signed, legislation. I don't know. I said, signed legislation. It makes sexting by minors illegal in Rhode Island. Minors who create and transmit sexually explicit images of them self on their computers, our cell phones can now be charged in family court with a status offense. And like the old law, all other children are adults who possessed or forward the sex can be prosecuted

under the child pornography laws. In Rhode Island, can't sex. I don't know how you monitor that. What do you just randomly grab a kid's phone? I guess they send to someone and then that person sends it to someone. You just have to be careful. You just have to find it. Something fine to it.

Yeah, then you're out. I heard just in Philadelphia, Philadelphia in America, everybody, because we do have an international phone number. What is that, by the way? Four and five. You're falling asleep on me already. I'm sorry. Four and five, nine, nine, two, seven, three, nine, two.

Feel free to call in anytime If you'll do for you that you can't even walk down the street and text right that's a new thing too You can't text and walk down the street. What else are you gonna do when you're walking down the street? Which I you know what even though I'm a heavy texture and you see me the minute the show is over I'm on my phone. I think it's good for humanity. I do too Then you look up you smile and you look at people, and you check out your... I mean, I have to say, even just walking, like we're running, like I've been running lately,

or three days I've run now with my dog, which is three times more than I've run in like 10 years. And I like waved my neighbors. I've seen all these parts of my street set of change in my neighbor that I used to run in, and it's just like, you just see there, I have no cell phone on me. You just you two your eyes are open You're seeing people you're watching looking at the buildings and the trees and recognizing nature like get off the friggin phone people Put the phone down. It's so funny. I was joking last night with my friend because we were talking about this and

You know you see those photos of evolution of man where the man is like hunched over right and then slowly the man is Standing straight down right well, I believe if we're selling these cell phones that we're actually gonna start going back slunched over Why because we're looking down at our phone Oh, right now, please I think that the whole drawing of man will be going back going back to Like everyone's exactly you're right, you're right. Everyone's staring at the phones. Like even people have to dinner with their friends, right? Everyone's on the phone.

Makes people seem to be. Yeah, and then to take it back, but. Yeah, but to take it back to sex and like meeting people, you're not gonna meet anybody if you're staying there on a phone. Exactly. You're not gonna be able to make eyes with people. You gotta make eyes with people.

All people like the Virgin who called in yesterday, William, like it's like, if you are so distracted by yourself, by whatever you're doing, by saying on the phone, by emails or whatever, then you are not going to meet anyone. Yeah. That's true. Can you do me a favor? What?

Can you turn on the fan behind you? Because it's hot in here. It's hot in here. How do you do it? How do you do it? On bun? It is hot in here, huh? What's going on? And I'm thirsty. Take off.

I was already having a wardrobe malfunction earlier. What was going on? Well, my bra was sticking out over my shirt and I didn't want that to happen. Oh, maybe you should take off your shirt. I think I fixed it. Listeners. Take my shirt off. If it's going to be a problem.

I need to talk to you about some things in very exciting news. You all know I love my magic wand. My magic wand vibrator that I've talked about for years. It's been around for 30 years. Not mine personally, but the magic wand has been, we call it the Cadillac of all vibrators because it truly, if you've never had an orgasm, you wanna have multiple orgasms, this thing started out as a personal body massageer, and now it has taken over as being the top

vibrator for 30 years. But now, the big news, a vibratox, the company that brought you the original magic one, they have released it from its cord. There is no cord, there is no limits to how you can enjoy, it is now rechargeable. Do you know what that means? Do you know what that means? You could take it. You could like go camping. You could take it anywhere.

I know. Before that, you had to bring a generator to plug it into your house. I know, menace to you, ma'am. It's out in the wild. I know. It's crazy. And it's really good. It has a new silicone head. It really feels amazing. I have to say. And it has more speed patterns, four amazing vibration patterns and ten city settings. I'm so loving that Magic One, rechargeable, and you should check out their website, magicwanretardable.com, because if you've been hearing about this Magic One thing for a while, and you haven't really even bought one yet, you gotta check it out. Read more about it,

and it'll be your sure thing. It'll be your go-to, and you use it during sex the whole thing. During intercourse, I hope you love it as much as we do. I know you will. Phyllisn. Ifteeon. Again. I'm like yawning. What's going on? You were out late last night. No, it wasn't. Fire. What are you doing? I love it and you're like, liar. I actually did nothing last night but I had to do these.

I had to work. I was home. I did nothing. told you I was gonna make you margaritas last night. I Didn't do anything at all. I just didn't sleep very well. I'm sorry. Okay Today, like I said, we're gonna be talking about his and her hand jobs and find out the right technique to enhance your handies But first we're gonna be reading your emails right now. Okay. Hey Emily and men just love the show I have a question in the comment. My question is, when are you going to finally give Menace that a legend hand job? Oh funny, because when I want to hand job say,

the two of you cracked me up with the whole hand job debate. Here you are, the super sexy woman volunteering to give Menace the best handy J of his life. But he always acts like a stubborn little kid who seems to argue with whatever you say. Menace, I love you, but why are you so hell bent on ruling where I can only assume would be an epic moment of both of your lives?

Let it happen, man. Wishing both of y'all the best from down and Dallas, Katie. So, man, what do you think about that? Turn around the camera and just give me a hand job right now. I would. Yeah, right. You can't be doing that on here. Why?

It's a free, we're not, we're regulated by the FCC. Do you need lubanier? You need lube. Oh my God. I got my burrito that we can... No, you need lots of lube. Forget it, menace. You're just people so much that you're missing out.

That's your one opportunity to give me a hand job. During the thing, during the show. You're gonna lose it I'll do it. Don't don't don't don't don't threaten me. You don't know I probably can't get it out I can make you get it out. I know my penis would be disappointed so it probably wouldn't it would be disappointed Yes, a ride a ride to the occasion. Oh my god, menace. I don't think so. I think you'd be really hard There's no way okay We'll move on from that. Yeah, I think you'd be really hard. There's no way. Okay. We'll move on from that.

I think I can make you hard. No. I could. I could talk you into it. No, Ethan, wait. Go ahead, try it. I could. Oh.

Because I'd love to. I can talk dirty to you. And that's what I'd do. Seems wrong. But let's just say that I could. I know for a fact that I could. I know for fact, I could. I know me, like I don't care about all this stuff and I think people trying to talk sexy is so funny to me. Well I can't do it as a man. It'd be like Dave Chappelle doing comedy in front of me if you

were trying, if you're like trying to act sexy and you're trying to make me unflacid. like trying to act sexy and trying to make me unflacid. Uh, whatever. Okay. Hey, Emily, you seem to know what you're talking about and you're hot, a win-win. So here's my question. Can a long distance relationship between me and you work just kidding?

Okay, I'm a 20-year-old dude and I've been dating a girl from work for six months. She's attractive, funny, quirky, everything I'm looking for in a woman. But there's always a damn butt. I don't know if I love her. We lacked the sexual attraction connection, aka lust. My previous girlfriend was a complete opposite.

We would fight all the time, 24-7, but we were physically compatible, like a lock and key. We just fit together. Amazing kissing and incredible sex. So my questions are the following. Am I just comparing my current girlfriend to the old one? And if that's right, what's the difference between lust and love? And I want a real answer. And how do I break up with someone who's perfect for me? I tried and she cried and now we're back together. Thanks again, J-Dog. Okay, J-Dog. Here's the dealio. First of all, it sounds like you want to break up with her and that is not a reason to get back together with someone because she cried.

I'm sure many of man has done that like many of them. Yeah, they have a girl cries and they're like, oh no I'm out. Like that girl that you dumped for the guy, for emailing the other guy. The girl that you dumped for emailing the other guy. Oh, man. Okay, so I would say that they're lacking sexual attraction and connection, and I'm wondering, yeah, that can be a deal breaker. If I wasn't having sexual connection with someone,

even if he was the greatest guy in the whole world, but like the sex was like, eh, I would probably break up with them. But is there something you could do that to try to inhabit you, try spicing it up and hands it it, talking to her about her, her, her desires, her wants. Have you talked about fantasies? Have you tried to do anything to make it sexier? Because I'm not the one is just to say, yeah, don't burn bad sex. Because I think there's always ways you can try to improve it. But if it just seems like she's more, she's just maybe more uptight sexually or she's

not as open as you are, that could be a problem. But if you think that she's just maybe holding back because maybe it's a fairly new relationship and she's holding back that I would try to do something different. Try to bring in a sex boy. Try to watch porn. Try to ask her questions about what feels good. If none of that happens and she's not growing sexually, then I would say you got a dump or even if she cries. And you might so different between lust and love. Lust is just that sexual feelings and love is

like true, deep love, but lust is like something that really gets us in trouble a lot, which is why I say people should wait before sleeping with someone because a lot of times if you do have sex early on in a relationship, you just get caught up in the sex and the lust and you don't really pay attention to all the other things when they say love is blind. I think what they mean is lust is blind. When you're in the lusty phase of a relationship, we tend to overlook all the other things. He's an asshole at there. He's a jerk or he's not a great guy, but you don't see that because you're having great sex.

And oftentimes we have the best sex with the people that we're not most, that we're not that aren't the best. That sucks. So sucks. Terrible. Yep. Okay.

Hey, Emily, your show is incredible. I've been enjoying it for a couple of years now and I gotta say, love it that's available more often. Excellent job. Anyways, a while back now and I gotta say, love it that's available more often. Excellent job. Anyways, a while back you recommended the book, Meeting and Captivity. I downloaded it and really enjoyed listening. I'm not married, actually in a new-ish less than a year relationship, just trying to be proactive. You hear so often about marriages with no sex or blow jobs LOL and that sounds like a nightmare. Do you have any other good books you can suggest? My boyfriend and I listened together very often.

We are both big fans of you and men that's cute with a good work, Katie and Toronto, Canada. She's in Canada. Okay, so mating and captivity, mating and captivity is a book that I recommended to her. I always recommend this book for couples because it really deals head on with the issues that people have in relationships of the sex life,

waning and being together with somebody, and why does it go bad, and how, what can you do to spice it up? It's a really good perspective. And if you're just dating right now, I would suggest the book, If the Buddha Dated. If the Buddha Dated? Yeah, I really like that book, because it's a really healthy approach to dating, I think.

That's right, and I think it's by her name Charlotte something Kaisel or something. You can find it if the Buddha dated. I like that book because I'm a spiritual, more of a spiritual chick. A hippie chick since you moved to San Francisco. Yeah, whatever. Honey, I moved here like a long time ago. I'm going to have to change. Are you the same as you were when you moved to San Francisco? No. Yeah. No, you're not. You're my food up here my entire life. You were in the Bay in the Bay area. Yeah, different. So anyway, Katie, I would check out if the booted dated if you want some sex tips,

Lou Pageet writes great sex tip books. I love her books, P-A-G-E-T. That's right, my grandma. That's why I'm going to recommend right now, but I've got 100 to six books. But when I got it, it's name on my name.ame. That's what I'm going to recommend right now. But I've got hundreds of sex books, but when I got to name them, I name them. Okay. Hi, Emily. Love your show.

Makes my day go by faster. Maybe my question is moot because I'm happy and pleased as is, but well, I've been seeing the sky a couple of months and we have a blast and bad. I can tell, and he's told me that he loves me to get me off, which happens at weight. I can tell, and he's told me that he loves to get me me off which happens at weight I can tell and he's told me that he loves to get me off which happens a few times every bed session I'm happy to do whatever he wants. I promise he has never gone down a mere even tried I do not live and die for oral sex But I still want to know that he is willing to go downtown

I don't know how to tell him this without sounding demanding disappointed or bitchy I would love for him to simply kiss my inner thighs, but he just never even had it down there. Any suggestions? Thank you, Alana. Just tell him. Just tell him. Don't be around the bush.

Say, are you gonna do it or not? No pun intended. He's not beating around the bush. That's the problem. Yeah. Come on. Just tell him. Yeah. Yeah. This is a look.

Are you gonna do this or not? Let's go on. Chop chop. Let's go. Yeah, I don't think it works like that. But I would just say, oh, you know, and I'm wondering if you've gone down on him. Yeah. Are you going to do this or not? Let's go on. Chop chop. Let's go. I don't think it works like that. But I would just say, oh, you know, and I'm wondering if you've gone down on him. I'm assuming that you have.

So if you have, I would say, God, you know, it would feel amazing if you kissed me down here and just say, you got to, you know, it would feel really good. It sounds like he's not that responsive. And I don't know why because I think that there are the men, like I've said, that don't like the vagina. There's men, you've heard me my spiel, but there's men who love the vagina. I'm in love with the vagina. I don't think that they're ever going to like learn to love the vagina. There's men, you've heard me my spiel, but there's men who love the vagina. I'm in love with the vagina. I don't think that they're ever going to like learn to love

the vagina at a certain age. If a man is not into going down there, he might be one of those guys. Now, I think there's reasons why men don't like it. There's the school of thought that the men who don't like it don't know what they're doing. And they're afraid that they're going to mess up. So I would say you could tell them like, what can I show you? What makes you feel really good? And you could say, if you start to kiss my inner thighs, I'll show you what makes you feel good. Then there are the guys who just don't like it. They're just grossed out.

They don't like the vagina. And those are the guys you need to get rid of, I think, the men who don't like the vagina. You just laughing. I'm just laughing, because... You're like, just tell them, but it's not that easy. You need to like ease into it. It's not that easy. Hey, my name is Zach. I live in Des Moines, Iowa, and I'm a senior in high school. I

recently turned 18 this January, but I've been a fan of your show way before Every time I listened I was so engrossed your conversations that I ignored my relationship concerns since the age of 15 I've been dating girls that were out of high school. Some of my friends told me I was stupid, lucky, and my family told me the girls were desperate. In the end, it turned out that my friends were right most time. My family was right on three of the 10 girls. My questions are one. Should I worry about the reasons behind an older woman wanting to date me and pursue me and have a serious relationship with me?

Two, could it possibly be that they find me attractive? And he set me a picture of himself. But I don't have with me, but he was flexing his muscles. He looked like a handsome young male. So Zach, Zachariah is his name, Zachary. Zachariah? Zachariah?

It says Zachariah. Yeah, that's what it says. So Zach, yeah, I would say that. It was in it for the Ween man. It was more. It was in it for the Wayne man. It was more. They're in it for your 18 year old Wayne. I don't know. I mean, I can't imagine that when you say older,

you know, are they four years older, like a 22 year old, you know, like she's 30. I mean, I just think that like an age difference after like five years is not really gonna make sense. Even when you're 18 to 23 year old is a lot older, then when you're older, the five age, you're age difference. So I would say they're probably not in a first-year relationship. And I don't think you're the point in your life where you should be in a serious

relationship either with these women. Do you know what I just found out? Steve, about older women that Justin Timberlake did an interview not too long ago where he said when he was 16 years old that he got caught in bed with his girlfriend at the time. And then they start putting all these time frames together because he didn't say who it was. But they think it was Fergie. He was dating Fergie when she was 24 years old

and he was 16. No way. Wow, that's hot. I fully support that. I fully support that too. She's hot. Yeah. He's hot. I'm sorry. This is double standard like older women with guys, you know, we just give guys young guys high fives, you know, but like if older man with the younger chick, we just think they're pervs and I'm fine with that double standard. A lot of older men are with younger chicks but I don't know if they're purfs, they're just tracked to younger. No, we're talking about like, you know, we're talking about because you always, it's always then news now more than you hear about men, like, men teachers with young underage

traits. Right, right. It's more and more just women. More women with the young guys. Yeah, with the young guys. I've never done that. I almost feel like it's the thing I need to cross up by that's illegal, young guy, like legal. But like, I've never done like, so much younger than me that it would be like, like a lot of my friends like guys in their 20s and they're like in their 30s. But I. I'm sure that goes really well for them.

For some, it does. For a while. For a year, they're getting what they want out of it. Some fun. Some fun, some good times. Okay, let's get some sex tips here What do you got this really got? Oh, and then tomorrow show them. Let me just tell you is I'll get to that a minute Because I'm all porn all the time. No, I'll tell you that was I thought it was on that page

But I get there in a minute. Okay, so these are hand job tips for women and men You know men can give hand jobs and use their hands on a woman's turn around too You realize that hand job tips hand jobs and use their hands on a woman's turner on too. You realize that. Hand job tips. Hand job tips for women. For men, if the man is using his fingers or his hands on the women, fingers, what's the hand? Fondling tips.

Fondling tips. Yeah. Okay. So, here's a deal. Before you get started, this is tips for women when they're doing this to a man. Make sure your fingernails are trimmed and you are hanged out free. Make sure your hands are moisturized and remove any rings or jewelry from your hands. You always do that. Don't do that. Don't do a lot of girls who

like to... Okay, you don't like hand jobs, but they probably hold your penis at some point with rings on and it can hurt. It can hurt. It can hurt?. I can't hurt. Yeah. Okay. The basics. Rhythm is important. Find the rhythm to give a great hand job. Okay. Pressure. A light touches too soft, but a firm.

We're talking about the penis now. Yeah. Talking about hand jaws, it's been. But a firm grip can be too much. The instant you mimic real vaginal snogness, he will be loving it. Yeah. So men like it to be like snug like they're in the vagina. Yeah. Remember I've talked about this not too soft. Not too soft. It has to be like heart. Yeah, you gotta get in the rhythm. Right. The rhythm nation. The rhythm nation. You gotta watch

his rhythm too though. So you can also watch him masturbate first. That's the I think before you do this like mutual masturbation, I cannot talk about mutual masturbation. We should have a mutual masturbation month. It's just like we're two people masturbating and not touching each other or or they're masturbating each other or yes, they're masturbating each other or they're both masturbating at the same time. So I can look over and be like, Oh, that's how you do it. So I'll do like a variation of that. Like I get what you need because men are all different. What makes them masturbate? It's true. What makes them ejaculate and masturbate?

They all masturbate differently. So if they masturbate differently, and you're watching them in other different ways, that you can learn. I can't explain it exactly, but I just know the different men that I've been with that there's like different things in you. Okay.

So most people stroke northward towards the belly button. This is great, but try other angles to change up the sensation. Try stroking west or south. But be careful. Some guys are strictly into the northward stroke. The northward north. Oh, yeah, instead of like west, east, and like this, I should have brought in that we're going to bring in a vibrator.

So I can actually show. But I didn't know if I felt like doing that, but I'm doing it anyway. I just did. It's on video, everybody. Okay, this is on video, everyone, you can watch this right now. Okay, so wetness, hand job gets really going when you use

loop, it's all about loop, it's all about loop. I cannot say that enough. So the trigger points of a male penis, which is the ridge, the V spot, and the head. So the ridge is the tender ridge that encircles the base of the head where it meets the shaft. So it's like your head, do you know that's really sensitive?

Yeah, I do. I do. I'll give that a have a penis. Well, I never know with you. Like I always feel like you're different. Like the things that might feel good for most men don't feel the fear. No, that's the focus point of everything. What is the area that you're talking about? Yeah, I didn't I didn't I mean I guess I know that now, but I didn't know these are that. Okay, then

there's the frenulum. Do you know where that is? No. Or the V spot is the ultra sensitive skin that forms a V on the underside of the penis between the head and the shaft. Does that make sense? So, okay, this is your penis. I'm sure it's like super bigger than this. But if this is it and it's coming out your body, it's right here. It's the under part. The under part of the penis is more sensitive. It is. It is. It is?

It is not common knowledge. It's not, dude. It's not common knowledge. Well, it's common knowledge for men, but not women. No, women, We're helping women now Like that is the most sensitive when you want a woman to pay attention to that part. Yeah, yeah, so that's So you're saying that a man would know his body more than a woman, right? Is that what you're saying right now? I'm saying that a lot so you You're kind of implying like to don't try to bring down the hands of a man

No, I'm not talking about a hand job, but I'm just talking about you know to- Don't try to bring them down to the hands of the- To please a man. No, I'm not talking about a hand job, but I'm just talking about all these blow job classes that women try to teach. Yeah, they don't have penises, they don't- Yeah, but dude, if you see enough penises, you know what you're doing, it's not that hard. How do you?

Yeah, do you do? No. Yeah. I do think so. Okay, basic grips, not every grip will work for everyone, so we sure to improvise and find your favorites. Okay, so the okay sign is the most natural grip. Make the okay sign with your fingers, you know,

the okay sign. Index your middle finger wrap around his penis. With this grip, you can travel the entire length of the penis. Then there's a sausage wrap. The sausage wrap? Yeah, there's special names. And close his shaft with all five of your fingers

with your thumb at the top, or reposition your hands or your thumb as the bottom of a shaft. Try these grip using two hands. Be careful not to lose balance. See that's a thing. Don't you usually master it with one hand with a woman you could use two hands.

Two both hands. Two hands. Like, like, yeah, yeah. Good way with it. Yeah, okay. Or hold them around the base of the shaft as you glide your fingers up over the head of his penis, tighten your grip before you head back down, loosen your fingers. So it's like you vary the pressure, like so make it hard and then make it soft. Like hard on the way up, stop front of back down.

Isn't that kind of a common thing too for men? Like yeah, yeah. I don't think everyone knows that. Would you like to explain that? Harder on the the way up it's not for the way down yeah so no I don't think I know that no they don't but as long as it's not like super this is gonna help men legions of men I'm telling them exactly what women need to what what they need to women need to do there's a lot of obvious to you there's another grip that's advanced that I don't think you're gonna explain. So you have your pen I'll show you. Then you can show people. Is it gonna be fun? Are you being serious? I'm being serious. Okay. You have to put it. It's almost like that. But then

you have to put like a camera. What? Yeah. Okay. Okay. Can we do it? Yeah, do it. We should have the camera. I need I'm sick of it on me Okay, so then Anyways They're you so usually you would be like holding it like this see yeah, yeah, huh, and then but Change it up and put this finger right here and hold it like that. Oh. So then you're touching the frenzy long, the frenzy on the bottom part, okay. That you're talking about that super sensitive part. Right. Like that right there. Huh. See, or can you envision? I can envision that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good. Like that. See? Do you

pretty like some extra? Who's done that to you? I thought you never even had it. That's the, yeah, yeah, that's good. Like that see you pretty like some extra who's done that to you I thought you never even had it just that's it just that's how you masturbate. This is a common thing Is it how you masturbate? Oh, that's how a lot of people masturbate. I've never seen that you never seen that no Yeah, you got you put the extra finger in there Wow, that's pretty easy. I didn't you I thought I knew everything. No, I really don't think I know Are you learning something today? Didn't you? I thought I knew everything. No, I really don't think I know everything. Looks weird. Alright. You look good, men. You're haircut. All that stuff. Uh-huh. People got to see the other wall.

The other wall. We will have cameras in here, more cameras in here soon. Then there's a twister with every stroke, give a twist up and a twist down. The length of a shaft. Okay. What do you think about the twist? Feels good. You probably don't do it. Man masturbate the same way every time, right? When you say pretty much the same thing. I kind of do the same routine every time.

So there's a twist or with every stroke, give a twist up and a twist down. There's the double twist or you use both hands twist. What? Twist together in one direction and then back again. Now try twisting your wrist in the opposite direction. Opposite directions but be careful because no one likes a rope earn on their penis. And there's a turtle mack. Okay. Grass pin firmly just under the ridge and stretches again without gliding.

Go up and down in many strokes. Just under the ridge and stretches again without gliding. Does that make sense? I really wish you brought in the penis, the dildo. I know, because it's harder to explain, but I could bring it in tomorrow and finish up the rest of the tip. So I think I want to do that because it's like,

basically time to go, but there is next thing, all hands on dick. Put your other hands, like all hands on deck. Put your hand, your other hand into motion on one of his. Press your knuckles, fingertips, your fist gently into his taint while you stroke his penis with the other hand. The taint.

Oh, the taint. Well, taint you very much for all those tips. Yes, right. So thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Family. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexfamily.com. I'm starving. You ever get to get starving in the middle of nowhere

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