Sex With Emily - Lubricate, Masturbate, and Then Communicate

Episode Date: May 7, 2014

On today’s podcast, Emily answers your most pressing questions about the benefits of masturbation, tips for first time anal sex, and how to deal with the anxiety when you’re with a more experienced lover.May is masturbation month! Make sure you celebrate as often as possible, Emily reviews ways to exercise your PC muscles by doing Kegel exercises (Kegel Camp app will help you) while you masturbate to help you have better sex. You’re really going to get to know yourself this month if you take time to explore your body even more.Having trouble talking to your partner about sex? Emily explains how to start the conversation with your partner so you can ask for what you want in the bedroom and find out what your partner needs.Ready to try something new? Or are you looking for tips on an old favorite? Emily and Anderson of the The Film Vault podcast discuss some great tips on how to successfully enjoy the pleasures of anal sex. Please send all your sex and relationship questions to [e-mail] take our ten second Survey, just click on the banner over to the right of our page. Even better Sex with Emily is just a click away. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Thanks, missy. The after's a fun, but it's a harder sell because it's three chuckleheads talking about whatever. You know, I got chuckleheads listening. Yeah, it's true. People love your shows. I people love the after's aster, but it doesn't harder sell because it's three chuckle heads talking about whatever you know I got chuckle head listening yeah it's true people love your shows I people love the after's after but it doesn't have a hook it's hard to explain the film ball is like like this week we're doing top five movie moms because of mother's day coming up oh we don't do but our guests kind of demanded that we have a recently mothered guest who's gonna be on the show with us who we disturb on a regular basis and we'll be talking about top five movie moms

I'm sure one of mine will be a serial killer. Oh really? And then the after the darker than I thought the after the last week we got a lot of flack as we played audio of two teenagers actually being killed so Oh shit. Yeah, that's that kind of show. Okay guys. Guys, I just I'm like everyone. I just I love it. I love it. I like my podcast, but I don't know I'm here I'm here to open you guys up to another world of Anderson's world because he's a good guy and he does I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you.

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I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you that I had a great weekend that it sort of turned out it started out weird. So first of all It was so I'm I'm sorry to everyone who lives in the Midwest and everywhere else Because it was free and hot here. It was like 95 degrees uncomfortable though I'm comfortable hot uncomfortable hot and and I you know I have air conditioning lost angels. You got air conditioning San Francisco. You never need it So the point is I haven't used in a while and I go to turn my I walk him that 88 degrees in my I have a little cottage little house. I live in and it's 88 degrees and it's in the air because she's not working so I'm like god damn it What am I gonna do? So I text my landlord and I'm like listen my air my air is broken and he's like I'll try to come by tomorrow

I'm fix it or sometimes tomorrow. So what I do is I I land poor I land Lord proof my home We just kind of like child pooping your home, but like I don't want them to come in and see in brands. It's pretty good shape right now. But as you all know, if you've been a long time listener, I do get a lot of sex toys that I have to review and try out. And you know, every once in a while pleasure myself as well along the way. But I happen to, so I believe in a small, a very small bedroom and I don't have a lot of storage. But I do have a very organized space for all my toys during like this little drawer by bed.

I keep them hidden because you never know who's coming over. But my bed. Okay. So here's the thing. So I he's coming over the next day I figure. So I I put all my toys there to the left by bed, but you have to like walk around the bed and like you wouldn't see them you have to like walk around the bed and like you wouldn't see them

unless you had to walk around the bed. It's a very narrow space. But I was also looking for a presex toy in particular, from Funt Factory, which is called the Zwee or Zwhy or whatever, S-W-E-I, it's like this thrusting thing and good vibrations, you know who I love, send me toys, it's like heavy tried,

they've been tried. So I got in this mode, you know when you're looking for something and you kind of go crazy and you dump everything on the ground. So I dumped all my toys on the ground, which is literally like, and then I decided like, I started obsessing, like, I'm going to charge them all. Wait, so there's a, wait, there's a mountain of sex toys in your bedroom. But it's to the left. Yes.

So I bet it's your bed. You can't see it. What's your landlord like? I'm trying to imagine what he's like. Okay, so here's the problem. you can't see it. What's your landlord like? I'm trying to imagine what you're like. My landlord is an old Russian man who doesn't like me very much. I don't think

but I don't think he really likes anybody. I think that he he he kind of gets a notice me. He knows I do for living. He goes into the garage where I keep on my sex. Like I have my own garage there, but it's like

all sex. Like literally one day if you walk in, you'll see like a sport cheats like a gag if you walk in, you'll see like a sport sheets, like a gag thing for your mouth. You'll see like a whip, you'll see change. You'll see some weird stuff, liberator wedge. So that's my landlord and I know he knows what I do for living because what I mean,

I know you do that sex stuff. I mean, he, but he always gives me good looks. No, he's, was that Asian? That was Russian. I thought that was Russian. So, but you know, he's older and and he and he just seems a little cranky sometimes And so I just I don't want I don't want anyone coming in seeing all the stuff, but All right, so you're so you have them in a pile in a pile

You're looking for one in particular and then and then it Emily hey, I should charge all right, so I was like oh my god This is a great time to organize them because it stresses me out because because what happens is there's so many great toys these days, they're all rechargeable but they all the cordial so then I start pulling out my label maker because I'm obsessed and I start labeling the chargers which toy they go to because I have like 50 of them and granted I weeded them out. So then I have I pull out my charger, my extension cord charger you know the power charger with like 10 what is it called? The with the 10 different charging

Like a bar power bar power bar whatever it's called the charging bar So they're all charging and then and then I get this drawer of that's annoying this three and I dump mob So they're all charging I've got like on the so I leave right and I leave for the night because I go to stay with some friends and Venice because I friends and town in San Francisco, but I figure I'm shutting all the windows. All he has to do is come and fix the air conditioning. There's no and the window is next to my bed. There's two windows in my place. One in the kitchen and one next to my bed. Buy the sex toys, but I figure he's not going to come in and open the why is he going to go around there because the windows are shut. He'll fix the

air conditioning, which means that he won't have to open the whatever. You know what I'm saying? So I'm like I'm very foolproof that my toys are out There's no way he can see him unless he eeks into this little thing Long story short I come back the next day and the evening and The windows are open in my place because my landlord came into fix it realized he couldn't fix it And so he opened the windows so I would be so hot That means he had to walk around to the side of the bed with all of the second. Over the mountain of

fact, but not only that, I look down and I'm like, Oh my God, the windows opened. There was a completely opposite the air. Because she fixed. So he was trying to be nice by opening the windows. So it out. But let me tell you what it looked like. And I should take a picture of it. There was like, there was a whip. There was a few whips. There was a paddle, like a, like a leather paddle. There was a huge liberator wedge. You know, there was a whip. There was a few whips. There was a paddle, like a leather paddle. There was a huge liberator wedge. You know the liberator wedge would cost you.

Okay, so liberator is amazing. It's furniture. It's like sex furniture, but it has these coffs on it. All for everything I'm talking about, if they sound interesting, go to goodvibes.com. Use coupon code Emily and you get 20% off. It does sound like the opposite of a liberator. A liberator makes sense. It sounds like you're unliberated while you're wearing it.

It's a wedge. So women should often be to have orgasms more readily. I often say put a pillow underneath your bum to rise yourself up. Or if you're doing doggy style, it's really comfortable like the wedge. It was like in a famous movie with Brad Pitt years ago. He carries the wedge around. Do you know what? Oh, you're a movie guy.

It was like six or seven years ago. It was Brad Pitt. Right. And he plays kind of a geeky guy. He you know what? Oh, you're a movie guy. Yeah, it was like six or seven years ago It was Brad Pitt and he plays kind of a geeky guy runs a business And oh yeah burn up for reading. Yes. Thank you. I love you. I do not like the movie so anyway, but then there's like six choice toys charging They're all fallet shapes wait, so the mountain is no longer there. You've already organized it's no It's an unorganized mountain because there's a mountain. Please tell me. Please tell me Emily That there's like a trail right through the middle of the mountain like he just trampled right through all the way through the mountain to open the window because it's like it's like it's probably about a foot like you have to lean you can't quite but he had to lean over all

the toys so that was very embarrassing and then I told him that the dryer was broken and he's and it was turned turns out that he there was two pairs of my little underwear panties stuck in it. And he puts them with the lint on my walkway. So I think he's angry. No, that's a sign. That's no, it's not a sign. He could have put him in my house.

It's a message. It's a message that your little panties are the one who broke the dryer. And you, you, you, you are a crazy sex fiend. We're panties. Is that okay? I hate that one. I hate that one. I hate that one.

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They might be Sergei. He had to put a hand on the wall. He had to lean over to the heavy man. And he had to see. He might actually be one of the first things with it. He might have slipped and fell on the wall. He might have slipped and fell on the wall. He might have slipped and fell on the wall.

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No cool. But then I went to, does that make sense to you? That was crazy. So then it's embarrassing because I tried to be so discreet with him because I know what he already thinks of me. I don't like the move leaving your panties on the front step. He was like, all the school kids in the neighborhood to grab. But it was sort of like he was pissed at me that I broke the

dry. You know what? I think that he might be suggesting, hey, maybe you're using your dryers as a sex toy because you're bored with all these other ones obviously or you got to recharge him. So maybe you ran out. I'm afraid I'm going to get a panties in there because you're using the thing inappropriate. Because they had lint on them. So I know that he fixed the

dryer as well. But by saying like, it was your mess up that the dry, he's just angry. I'm going to get evicted. I feel that he already has dryer as well, but by saying like it was your mess up, but he's just angry, I'm gonna get evicted. I feel that he already has his feelings on me. So there was that, but then Saturday night, I went to a lingerie show, which was super hot in Venice, I was back in Venice, and it's this new line called Wiley Wilson,

W-Y-L-I-E Wilson, and she makes super hot clothes, and there were all these models there, and we were all trying on lingerie, and it was super hot, sexy scene, but you just check out our stuff and she's going to give me some product. Explain more. Is it in a public?

So it's a little no it's on abakini which is a really hip street in in Venice and it was a lot of time. Pop brought to the sun was hanging around at the. Yeah. There was tons of photographers and there was all these sexy models walking around but her laundry her whole thing is. So okay if you're a woman and you your list and you know what I'm saying, the underwear your bra is a pain in the ass. If you've a size, if you're over a size A, you have to wear underwear because it pushes

your bras up, but like the second you get home, you want to take off your bra. So she has developed the system of underwear, of bras that are super sexy that don't need an underwear, but they have a lift with like, with like a band. And all of the stuff is like little boy shorts and it's mesh and lacy and, and, and it's all different kinds. Body suits, member hot body suits from like the 90s. And I was just like trying it all on. There were models there.

They were in the dressing room with me like helping me try stuff on. We were all kind of getting naked. They were touching my breasts. It was kind of hot, but there's no sex. Kids are so different. But I got drunk and it was sexy. And I never get that drunk. And I was like, it was really, really when they're touching your boobs, because I mean, they were

just any kind of excitement going on. A little bit when they were like snapping the snaps with the baddie suit. It was not the what? Well, it was a body. The snaps. Okay. Those little love snaps on, but you remember body suits. We said that just now, they have these little snaps. So it's a now they have these little snaps. So it's a body suit, but it snaps in your vagina like right there. So you remember girls wore them so it's tight.

And if you want to do it, I can hurt someone. They were like, they were my breasts and snapping me and it was kind of sexy. And there's like chocolate covered strawberries and lots of guys walking out. But it wasn't like creepy like lurch lurking men. It was just sort of a fun vibe and it's all about lingerie and it was really fun and sexy and there was a fashion show and her stuff is just really cool and unique and I like to support her

and I put it on my Instagram, check out my Instagram, I'm sexy, so that's like a fun week and overall except for me coming back and finding out that I could possibly get evicted for being crazy. So that's not crazy, we're just being me. And but I think like he's seen guys drop me off. Okay, I don't want to go have a little thing, but I go, I date. And I, I share a driveway with him and oftentimes he pulls up and I'm making out with a guy in the driveway. Oftentimes he pulls up. Okay. I'd say in the making out of the random dude, like probably four times in the last

six months. How many times do you think this Russian landlord of yours has pleasureed himself to you? I don't think he's made me, I don't think he does. And then he eats himself after, he eats himself after. But then he like, no, he just looks angrily at me. Like you're in my way, making out my driveway with another guy in a different car. Are you actually in his way when that's happening?

I'm a little, small driveway. He's trying to pull in and I'm just like, oh God, I'm I'm making that I duck because I hope he doesn't think it's me, but he knows it's me. I don't have a weird situation, but I have a great deal in my place and I don't want to get a victim. If you do get evicted and if you put down for reasons why it's going to be difficult. She'd have picked me for having sex toys. I can do them.

I'm not like loudly using my sex toys as far as he knows. So that was my weekend. How was your weekend? It was good. I can't remember it. Awesome. It was good. So today's show, we're going to be answering your emails

because I'm getting so many great emails from you guys and I want to get back to you. So that's what I like to do. We're going to be talking about masturbation because, you know, May is masturbation month. Satisfying an experienced lover of a woman feels a little inadequate, some anal sex tips, and a guy who lasts a little bit

too long a way to do, and a few other things. We'll see what we can get to tonight. Because there's a lot, and I got a little bit of sex in the news for you all, because we love a little craziness about what's going on in the world with sex in the news.

A woman was arrested after advertising on Craigslist for Sex Act with a Horse, but she's actually transgendered, so she's a woman. In Maricopa, Arizona, a 20-year-old woman was charged for seeking to play with a male horse. Now she used to be a man, and now she's a woman. Yes, exactly.

Cops used their own police horse and went undercover to prompt a meeting with the suspect. The suspect was immediately taken to custody where he admitted he's she admitted to placing the ad and stated the intentions to consummate the act. So the police had to get their horse in Arizona giddy up giddy up and a wrestler. Now first of all, people, Craigslist is per patrol. The Craigslist is like heavily just like that. She was excited. He think the horse was pissed that it didn't get to happen. Yeah, probably. They probably say to the

horse they rest in public really evil Craigslist. There's there's they're watching you on Craigslist but you shouldn't even be having sex in animals. So I know I'm giving you tips on that you went in the wrong place. There's a really creepy documentary all about this called zoo. It's very creepy documentary. I'm gonna talk about it on my show. Mr. Hands up in Washington area. I don't know. I've heard about this stuff I can't even watch it. Okay sending and receiving sex messages is a normal part of teen relationship. So this is where your parents are out there or just young ones listen to me. A survey of high school students

has found that sending and receiving sexually explicit messages and messages is normal part of most teenage relationships. Researchers found that more than half of all those surveyed had recently received a sexually explicit text message and 20% percent reported sending sexy photos of themselves. Like what are like 14 year olds are, people, I don't care what age you are, I just don't think it's a good idea to send negative pictures of yourself. Sexing is fine, but in high school I get it but don't say, negative pictures because this is what's happening, especially if you're in high school. This is for the women. The guy that you sent the picture to, he looked at it for a second, and the next thing you did, it was he turned to the entire

football team or wherever we're seeing next to him and showed them your photo. That is true, about 90% of dudes are douchebags in that sense. Yeah, 90% and my guy friends who are not necessarily douchebags, they share them with me as well. So not only are you sending this guy because he asked you to because he probably did, I think that's what they do. I think it's like there's an expectation now that women should be sending sexy photos. We're just at the level where it's just self-egenerated.

You got to do that. You got to do it. I mean, guys like semi-sexie photo and they do it and it's upsetting me because they're going to go apply for a job in five years and there's your sexy photo on the internet. I'm so pissed in my parents for not having me like 15 years earlier. I know. It's so upsetting. Earlier later, you mean later? You're right. Yeah. What's that sex? Well, it's like because it's like it's these kids now it is. Got to be old and sound old, but they don't have to have the balls to actually go

up and talk to a girl because they can just text her. Exactly. And then they can say her naked without ever even making eye contact with her. It's just not fair. I know. And they can bring up with her too after that. The whole thing. And they're not talking to each other. They remember like I used to, it was like I used to go talk on the phone for hours like with

guys or something. Remember when the phone would be ringing and you'd be like nervous and sweating and like what am I going to say? And then if you got the voicemail you weren't sure if you should leave a message or not and you every time you did you're like why did I do that? Yeah. That doesn't happen anymore. No, that doesn't happen anymore. No, it doesn't happen anymore.

These pluses, they don't have to deal. They don't talk, they don't talk. And even people in their 20s, 30s, whatever, no one talks anymore, it's all text messaging which was how I found if I liked someone or not was like getting to know them on the phone and if I would go out with them. But now it's like if you're a good texture or you know how to woo someone. But I guess it doesn't surprise me because it's all about the phones and they're all doing Instagramming

and all that stuff anyway. But I'm just, I worry about my nieces is what's upsetting me so much. Snapchat. I do, they do Snapchat. How does Snapchat so popular all of a sudden? I understand. I have it.

How is useful for memory? Because it doesn't clog up your phone with a bunch of old pictures. But the whole thing is like, you send a picture of your vagina. Yeah. And then it's supposed to go away. But every guy knows how to pick a quick screen grab that. Take a screen grab. I don't know. It's it's snapchat.

It is my nieces are crazy. But I have it. Have you ever done it? Like I've done it like twice. But I it's been around for a long, long time. But it's just become like the new thing that everyone's doing now. Yeah. People send out to the whole network. You could pick who you send it to. I don't do the snap trending thing. I barely have time to dinner and and I, but I get that people are doing it, but don't send a picture to yourself. People, I know that you're not going to listen to me because you think if you do send it with a head list without your head, face lists. Make sure tattoos are not visible. Everything. It's going to happen though. And also,

why don't you be that one that says no? I'd rather have you seen in person when we get to know each other or something. Like, why not be that that person I was talking about this on the aftersaster actually This is the kind of stuff that we talk about and it occurred to me that Especially when you're younger women are like lottery tickets to men You guys are like scratchers and we don't know if you guys are a winner or a loser most scratchers are losers Right, so once you scratch or have sex with the girl Once you scratch a scratcher if it's a loser, you lose interest immediately afterwards. You just throw it back.

Because that's just bad or after you had sex because you have sex, you realize you conquer it and she's like, you know, there's a thrill there, but it's not like a jackpot. Right. So you move on and you don't care about that scratcher. Every now and again, guys are stupid and they don't realize they won because they miss red the scratcher and they'll come back later. But for the most part, be like an unscratched scratcher and you'll continue to be. Meaning what? Don't give it up so much faster.

Don't give it up so fast. Because it's part of the chase. Because here's the thing about attraction and about dating and about love and finding love and all that stuff. The hottest part is the build up. Is the anticipation, the tease, the longing, the waiting for it to happen.

The, oh my God, are we going to have sex tonight? The few dates. If you blow your load, before you've even gone on a date with someone I'm literally literally blow your load. I mean if you're setting pictures and you're sexting and before you've even ever had Talked to this person barely in person except for maybe a pass in the hallway in school You're totally taking away the entire part of romance that is the most fun the getting to know someone the waiting anticipation That's why I always say and I am no brood. Okay, I've had sex on the first day before I've done it. I'm, you know, I don't, I try not to. I do not do it as often, but you might do it sometimes, but the point is it's, it, there's no point to rush

sex. There's no point to rush sharing, sharing your photos, because it's just, it's part of the getting to know each other process. So I would say just not speed it up and just slow it down, and to be the one person that says, you know what? I'm not sharing my photos with you. I'm not even having sex with you on a first date or a second date or a third date. And it goes back to like what's expected. It's not expected. It's not. And you don't have to do it. And it goes with the photos, sending the photos as well. Yeah. Now I'm sure there's a lot of guys that are listening that hate this conversation. They hate me that don't like they're to ban me or something. They're going to delete my pocket.

But, but I'm telling you guys, I'm doing you a favor because you're just moving through these women, want their scratchers and you're never going to hit the jackpot until you have a woman who holds out and you see what that, and it's physically in your body, you feel it, like the serotonin and the chemicals in your brain get excited, but then they just like blow it all and you move through them and you got six naked photos in one day. And I hope there's just something really sad about a girl

without self-esteem who doesn't get it. And she's worth so much than she knows she is. And she's attractive and she's smart, but she doesn't know because she's been beaten down by her parents or by abusive old boyfriends. And they feel like, well, that's what I want to I'm a people pleaser. And I want to make him happy. And this is what he wants. And, right. And I want to be validated by a man telling me that I'm having, even if it's just for that moment, right. And then it's over and then they get cast aside. It's just, it's really sad. It is sad.

And it's a quick fix for your insecurities, but it's not a long term fix. The long term fix, fear insecurities is an inside job, as we said. And what that means is working on yourself, working on yourself as team. In fact, sexually speaking, relationship speaking, and life skill speaking, figuring out where your weaknesses are, why you're insecure, we all are, whatever your self-esteem challenges are,

work on that stuff, because then you will be a better person, a better lover, a better friend, overall. Wow, look at that. All this study just turned into a whole thing. Okay, teacher accidentally shows porn in class. Okay, I'm telling you, I've heard this story like six times. Part of it happened again. Not from the same woman, but teachers somehow

put up a power point and oops, there's their porn. Kansas City teacher allegedly showed porn to his high school biology class, but it was his two students who got in trouble. The teacher turned on an overhead projector only to spotlight a pornographic image of a naked woman. Students immediately stepped pictures with their phones and posted the pic on Facebook, and investigation is pending both the student that took the photo and the teacher have been suspended.

People should just test this stuff out before teachers like five minutes for class. So, make sure your PowerPoint's going well. Take sure it's all on there. I mean, really? How did it get there? Did a kid set it up? No, what happened was the teacher was about to do a presentation and oops PowerPoint.

There puts it the projector. Why is it important? Who knows? Was it his porn? Was it him? I don't it doesn't say, but I'm sure it was on some people. Kids got in there during the lunchtime. Play a little prank. What happened was it was on the screen and kids all whipped out their phones and took pictures on it. I get that, but like how did the porn get there to begin with? He's probably his porn. Maybe he's a bit of a like a weirdo. And he wanted like, there's some like, hot 18 year old students that he wanted to see a reaction.

No, you think so. It's like flashing. He didn't want to get fired. I don't think so. I mean, really? I don't know this man. I know that there's teachers out there that make kids eat cookies with fluids on them.

Oh, God. Yeah, teachers have done so many disturbing things that they see with their students. Can you just be teachers? I understand you know, make a lot of money, but you have to be like perverts as well. And I do think the teachers will be making way more money than everyone else because they are, you know, sculpting young minds. Everyone else. Not well, people in radio show you making more money as well. But that's a whole lot of the stories. Speaking of that, I have a few words here from my sponsors. So thanks everyone for listening to the show

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From the peeps, thanks for emailing me feedback. It's sexwithemle.com. As you know, I live for your hearing from you. It makes my day. Dear Emily, I want some more info about masturbating. I am masturbating daily. Are there any side effects? And if so, what are they?

Thank you, Madhuur. No, people, it is masturbation month, as you all know. May is all about improving your sex life. So I thought we should answer this one. Here's some good things. There are no bad side effects to masturbation unless you are a chronic masturbator unless you are a sex addict. And let a sex addict, and how you define that

is if you masturbate so much that you're in pain, that you lose your job, you can't show up for your family, you can't have sex, and you're doing things that are hurting you. Consequences. Consequences, that's right. If there's consequences from your masturbation, there's a problem. Otherwise, here's some benefits. It prevents cancer. A study found that many would jack later more than five times a week

or less, third, less likely to develop prostate cancer. It makes you harder. As you age, you naturally lose muscle tone, even down there. Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence. And it keeps the angle of your dangle perky, the angle of your dangle. Aim to arrive three to five times a week for rock solid results. Aim to perform also chagol exercises like my iPhone app, Kegel Camp. You still have that?

I still have that. You haven't talked about that in a while. I know, I forget because my iPhone app, K, I've went up KGL camp, more men and women downloaded. KGL exercises, peace stopping muscles. This helps you last longer. It helps women have stronger orgasms. And doctors tell you to do them. It's those muscles when you stop and start the flow of urine.

And it's five minutes a day and it will help your, whatever sex challenges you're having, it will help most of them. And you never remember to do them because they're so easy to do. You can do them a traffic light. So my app, Kegel Camp, pop, you can set a reminder. Every day at 11.30, my phone, it says time for Kegel Camp, five minutes, four minutes. My voice walks you through the exercise

and you can get up to level 20. So it's a little game. And I have guys who've done it. And they're like, oh my God, I'm shooting across the room. Like I was like at 18 years old again. And it helps you stay longer. Masterbating an hour before a date will also give you more control. It ups your immunity.

Ejectulation increases levels of the hormone cortisol, which gets a bad wrap. Have a greeting stress hormone. It actually helps regulate your immunity in small doses. It also boosts your mood. Masterbation makes you happy. I do that some days when I'm cranky, like I should've done lately. I'm masturbate, makes you feel better.

It really does. There's neurochemicals, this is a real chemical thing. I should've wore a gaseous carcamen, I know. And orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available. So get off all the drugs you're taking and just friggin masturbate. This sounds really dirty and I'm not suggesting you do that,

but have you ever thought about doing that actually on your one of your programs? Master baiting on my program. Mm-hmm. Like a porn set? It is a sex. Well, like if I mean, there's a lot of your show, and I can say your show because I'm still kind of new to it, you know, a lot of your show is about how to, but you never actually do. But it's audio, so we should get some video in your eyes. Yeah, you don't have to change the whole nature of the show, it would be a little personal. Not that I'm not personal. Right. I'm telling you, I've had a lot of listeners who say, who have requested sexy photos and stuff like that.

Not even that, just keep it audio, but like explain what you're doing and that. I think that would change the whole thing in my show. I feel creepy now that I even brought that up. You just want me to do it. I don't, I'm not suggesting that at all. Emily sister. Sister Anderson. No, I don't think I would do. It's not my wheelhouse for my show. All right. It's going to throw and start up in here. It would probably be a very good show. Speaking of which, I did get a Facebook message. You like a lot of you lately are messaging me, but we've talked lately about doing that show with Joanne Angel and Mike Catherwood with her, she's a porn star. And she wants,

will ejaculate out of his face with a woman going down and up again. Yeah. Mike said he'd come on the show and do it. Mike Catherwood's the host of Love Line as well. He's married now. I don't feel like he's doing that. No, he told me he would before. No, he does that kind of shit all the time. And then yeah, but then he'll like, the day will come. I've seen him do this and be like, uh, I've talked to my wife about standing here with a woman going down in her with his goggle with his with his face mask on and he'll say no. I think Drew would be better. Drew's gonna be we should have Dr. Drew do it. It should be a medical thing. Dr. Drew would not watch that. Um, but anyways, so how to get a female Dracula. Oh, good. You're telling me to master in the show. Not gonna happen. But I will, I will help you.

I tried guys. But that's thanks. Thanks, thank Anderson. There's a lot of people who are happy that you asked that. Hello, sexy man. I'm afraid to ask my girlfriend for blow jobs. I'd even like for us to try 69ing. How can I talk to her about this? You thank you, you rock. Okay. Talking to your partner about sex is like developing

an entirely new language with your partner. Many couples never develop this language until there's a problem. They don't know how to ask for what they want, they don't know how to talk about what feels good, they just go along doing their thing. So I think it's great that you're asking me this question because you have to start somewhere. And like I said, the worst time it starts when there's a problem. So you just want to try some new things. This is new, Biggie.

Open it up when you're talking to her one day, not in the bedroom. Maybe you're having lunch, maybe you're on a road trip, maybe you're on breakfast and say, what do you like whenever you're in sex? What's your most memorable part of us having? What's your favorite sexual experience that we've had together? See what she says. What's the favorite? What's your what's your number one favorite sex move? What's our favorite position? You know, they start getting her to talk about it and you could chime in. How do you ease into that, though? I need a cold cucker, like in the car when you're driving a slurp here. You can even talk about it after sex

and say, God, that was really hot. Well, I've been thinking lately, like, what do you love about our sex life? Tell me, because I think it's all really hot. So you could do it after that. But you can also just be like, I mean, if you're in a relationship, you could be like, okay,

or you could be like last night, it was so hot and it got me thinking. Top five. Top five times you have sex. Go. With us. Yeah, with us. Now other people Yeah, do not share your past history mystery ever history is the mystery more history less history exactly more mystery less history That's what Drew says all the time more mystery less history. So true anytime you should well don't get me off on my Whole don't talk about my family stuff with but because I will go off on that But yeah top five times you're being together and that's a great natural way to be stuck with, but because I will go off on that. But yeah, top five times you've been together and that's a great natural way to be like,

because babe, I've been thinking like, I would sort of please you more. I wanna make sure you're having the best time that you could have and I thought 69 would be hot because I could perform oral on you and you could perform oral on me. That's a great way to ease into the 69 conversation. You could also perform oral sex on her

if you don't already, because she might wanna reciprocate. And if she says, you know what, honey, I'm not really coming for that. I don't like giving oral sex performing blow jobs. Well, there you have your answer. Yeah, it's time to move. Time to move, time to leave, or time to say, ask her why. A lot of women might tell you they don't like certain sexual acts because they had a bad experience once.

Or twice, or guys shoved it in. Or, you know, a lot of young guys guys do this we were talking about this the other night that when guys are younger like in their 20s it seems that they just like shove your head down there they're like give me a blowjob but when you're old they're more concerned about pleasing you it seems first and then they shove your head down there for a blowjob why is that because I think younger guys are not as experienced and they don't know that if they please a woman and they learn and they listen to my show and they learn how to please a woman That you will be having not only the best sex of your life

But everything that you've ever wanted sexually, but they are selfish and they think oh, I've got an erection There's there she is with her sexy mouth. She should put it on my penis Because the guys I think when they're younger don't know that pleasing her or comes around goes around. Why do you think it is? You were a young 20-something man shoving women's face. I'm a total. You weren't that guy. Because I got like a mom that I love and two little sisters. I'm too I'm a pussy other way like I never actually asked for what I wanted or anything. Everything that I got fell in my lap. Thank God it did occasionally. So they fell in your lap. Yeah, like literally literally. But I never ever was forceful.

I don't understand that. In fact, it makes me sick. I know it's not every guy, but you're absolutely right. There are a lot of guys do that. They do that. And I think it's just an experience. And I think a lot of women think, oh, God, I do what he asked me.

And I want to be that girl for him. So girls talk to that. I think as soon as you feel pressure on top of your head, ladies, that means you should use more teeth. The more pressure on top of your head, you're getting the more teeth you need. Right, exactly. Bite is dick off, but seriously, the head push is the worst move in the world. Yeah. Don't do the head push, guys. I do it to my wife. Don't get me wrong. I do it to my wife all the time to be funny. Yeah, and she does not take it's funny,

but I think it's hilarious. Right. Now it's funny if you're talking about it. And also, you can also just help her to relax. Maybe she's stressed out, give her massage, make her dinner, and then you can maybe bring it up then. So there's lots of different ways, but it's really like biting the bolt. Like there's no easy way to like segue into the sex talk. But once you do, and once you develop that way of talking about sex with your partner, it's there. You establish it and you keep building on it and you'll have the sex life that you want and that you deserve. But you're never going to have the sex life that you want and deserve if you don't talk about it. And you don't go for it.

Hi, Emily. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. And it seems like we are on totally different pages sexually. He's had more sexual partners than I have. He's had a threesome, done anal, he's used to being with partners who would participate in BDSM. I was honest and told him I never did anything like that. I think he was so afraid of overstepping my boundaries that we just don't have much sex and when we do he's not into it all.

I'm open to trying like light BDSM. I've encouraged him to tie me up and spank me, but we don't ever do it on a regular basis because he thinks it's too much of a hassle. Sometimes I feel like an object that is being used for my partner's pleasure and that my pleasure isn't being considered. Maybe I just don't understand the dominant submissive relationship. I'm afraid he's restraining himself during sex and doesn't enjoy it. I'm worried we aren't sexually compatible. How can I make this work? I'm willing to try new things but I've

certain limits when it comes to being submissive. Please help. Our sex life needs a reboot and fast. Love you show Andrea. Okay, Andrea, there's a few things going on here. This is what we talked about more history last mystery Yeah, how does she know all those details? He told her about it And then she fell insecure about it, but then she said he started to try it and then he didn't really try it So here's the first thing Forget about you pleasing him you said he's not pleasing you and I want to know have you asked him? Have you told him Andrea that you what you need to get off? Do you know what you want, bad that you're not getting?

Do you know how to have an orgasm? Do you masturbate? If so, I'd say start out with some mutual masturbation. That's really hot. He watches you, you watch him. He knows exactly what you like. That's a great thing to do. But I'm concerned that you're so concerned with pleasing him, and he's not pleasing you.

It sounds like, so that's my first thing. So I think that, you know, I love that you're willing to try all this stuff and that but he's not pleasing you so I think you need to talk to him again like I said the previous listener. You need to start a dialogue about sex because it sounds like you tried it and then you pulled away and all that stuff. But if you do, if you do want to start trying doing some like, you know, some misive stuff, it's really easy to take it lightly and not get into like whips and chains and canes, but still

be doing some, you know, dominant, submissive stuff. But first of all, don't compare yourself or whatever, 10th of all, don't compare yourself to his past partners or lovers. You should never ever compare yourself to anybody actually, which is a life lesson because just think about this way. Next time you're comparing yourself to someone like I wish I was like her, I wish I had his, you know, job, you'll never be as good at being that person as they are being themselves because they're unique individual. We are all unique individuals. So why don't you work really hard at being the best you? So don't compare it as best lovers. So when it comes to submission, start

with something easy. He can tie you up. You think he'd the hassle to leave like ropes and stuff by some goddamn bondage tape. I don't know how many times I've told people it's like $7.95. Go to good vibes.com. You scoop on Go Demi. I love bindage tape. It looks like electrical tape, but it's not. It's plastic, and it sticks to itself. You could rip it with your hands or teeth, but it binds. So you can easily bind it, like bind your partner up. You can bind you up and just rip it off.

You leave it by the bed. It's lightweight, plastic, it's reusable. He can easily blindfold you with it. It doesn't stick to your eyes, so it's not sticky. It just sticks to itself, but it can bind you with it. It doesn't stick to your eyes. So it's not sticky. It just sticks to itself, but it combined you pretty tight. So if he ties your arms band, you're going to be bound up, but he just unwinds it and it's done, and it's not messy and it's easy,

and it's so easy to use. Blindfolding is a great way to start with some easy ways to do some, some initiative stuff. Also, try a candle. If you've never tried a massage candle, they're amazing. They burn cooler than most candles. It's just oil, it's warm, you drip it on you, it's hot, it gives you a massage. Maybe he blindfolds you and you don't know what sensations are coming next. I mean, there's little things you can do that are, you know, a little

dominant, submissive, but not too hardcore. I do make a massage candle at mlantony.com that you might like. And also, you could do a little research but not too hard core. I do make a massage candle at lentony.com that you might like. And also you could do a little research. Start reading about it or talk to people that you know that have tried some healthy BDSM. You can, you know, talk to him about it. Like what do you like about it? Again, this all goes back to talking because there's a whole host of things going on here. Yeah. And for this particular email, I feel like you're doing everything you should be doing. And I feel like he's, I get it's over. You know,

I'm in. Yeah, he's not doing, he's not helping her out. She's kind of like swimming. He knows about all the stuff she wants to know more. And he's like, yeah, whatever. Maybe he's up. Yeah, that's true. I picture like a 50 year old man, like a 25 year old girl. And he's been through it all.

Maybe that's it. I, that's why you got to talk to him first, sweetie, because you're not getting your needs met. And that's almost more important than him. Equally as important as him not getting his needs met, but let's spend more time getting your pleasure met and then we'll talk more about media stuff. But I just gave you some good tips because I'm like that now. They're solid. I'm solid like that.

Dear Emily, I've been listening to your latest shows and I'm thinking about doing anal. Imagine that. There are some scary facts out there and kind of killing my desire, but what do you think? Emily, I've been listening to your latest shows and I'm thinking about doing anal. Imagine that. There are some scary facts out there and kind of killing my desire, but what do you think? Think Sydney. Okay, here's the thing. 30% of the population has tried anal at least once, so they say. That percentage is on the rise among college students every year.

And I think the thing about what you have to know about anal sex is that it is kind of scary if you've never done it and you have to be with someone that you trust and you have to take it slow. A lot of people have really bad, we're talking about bad sexual experiences, a lot of people have like really bad anal sex first times because the guy is an idiot and shoves it in without lub or prepping you and making sure that you're ready. So you have to use lubricant like you have to use lubricant, like you have to be well-looped and you have to be warmed up. You can massage you down there.

You should start with a finger, a butt plug, something like that, but don't have them just to get in. Plus you have to relax. You have to breathe those sphincter muscles. And you just have to be like in the right mindset of, you know, this is gonna happen, but first, you know, and not tense up because we tense up and we're afraid.

So just relax and breathe, make sure he's using lube, you're with someone that you trust. Cause there's nothing wrong with trying to get there. And when it hurts, you know, if you're in pain, stop. It doesn't have to happen all night, against I haven't start with a finger and see if you like that. So I wouldn't rush into anal, but I'm glad

that you're asking and it's a great place to, you know, to start out with just some fingers and Like touching around there and see if you even like it before you rush into it. What Anderson? What why you laughing? Because you're talking about how anal is going their percentage is going up every year, right? And if it continues, I mean, we'll get to a point where like we're having nothing but anal I know and it occurred to me like how how long before the human race would actually have to evolve so that we could actually get pregnant that way. And oh my god, we can't get right. You race. I know. And I don't know why I just started that stat. I just like found it and put

it there. But um, it means what they would look like if they started getting pregnant anal. Oh my god. You can't well, you can't, you know, first of all, you should use a condom because people think I can't get pregnant. But what if that what if he comes inside you and the semen drips into your vagina? So that happened. Yeah, that happened. That totally happened. So use economy. You can get pregnant. Question we used to get a lot. We had been years, but we used to get it on love line a lot,

like 10 years ago, about once a week, a girl. Can you get pregnant with that, anal? About once a week, we get that call, right? I haven't heard that one lately. We haven't had it in like 10 years. I guess that people finally learned. But we can't, we say that you can, is that what people said? No, we say no, you can't unless you, with the pre-impy that you're talking about, yeah, it's a long shot though. It is a long shot, but you could still,

they'll see been drips everywhere, I mean you can get pregnant, but you can't, but you should use Kana, is that what you would say during the, because you know what they didn't mean, like kind of drip out and drip into my vagina obviously that's possible but they actually like inside your phone and get sorry to get

not you will not get pregnant that way. Only if it drips in or if you have Crohn's disease. Right. Oh really? Yeah, because in the Oh right. talking to you. Right. Don't you right?

If you have Crohn's disease, you probably won't be one of the other. And also shower before a mixture of comfortable that your emptied your bottles, all that stuff. Okay, I think that's all we have time for today, Anderson. How's it going? Sorry, I got a little dark. I'm sorry.

What about your after-vest? I've had everything. I just kind of get dark sometimes. Yeah, I don't think you were too dark. I don't think you're dark. I may think you're angry. The thing I like about you is the horse is that you don't like most people and you like me.

That's really good. It's true. And you're hard not to like. You're a barometer. I'd like to bring you places. And if someone doesn't like you, the horse, is that you don't like most people and you like me. That's true. And you're hard not to like, you're a barometer. I'd like to bring you places. And if someone doesn't like you, like if someone in the room doesn't like you, I'm like, oh, there's an asshole over there. That person sucks. That's good.

I will be your litmus test barometer to know that. Right, because I'm pretty nice to everyone. Except for my landlord hates me. But besides that, I'm all good. So yeah, everyone, I just appreciate you listening and check out my survey and follow me in all these forms of social media. And just keep listening, because I'm doing two shows a week, and just appreciate you listening and check out my survey and follow me and all these forms of social media and just keep listening because I'm doing two shows a week and I love you all. So Thanks for everyone for listening to thank you Anderson. Thank you. I'm thanks everyone for listening to sex with Emily was it good for you.

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