Sex With Emily - Make Missionary Sex Hot

Episode Date: May 20, 2022

Missionary gets a bad rap. I’ve seen it called the “comfy sweater” of sex – and can we talk about the name? Not sexy. Almost…anti-sexy. But despite its label, I don’t think that’s why missionary is considered vanilla or boring. It’s simply the default position, the one a lot of us fall into automatically – making it easier for us to tune out, phone it in, and miss out on any potential eroticism. So on today’s episode, we’re going to make missionary more exploratory, as I address some of your common complaints. Such as: how do we make it more exciting? I’ll tell you all the reasons I love missionary, and give you technique tips to make it more surprising and fun. Next, vulva owners: are you having a hard time reaching orgasm in missionary? Of course you are: it’s not the prime position for clitoral stimulation, so I’ll offer position hacks that make it more pleasurable. Finally, is it possible to be kinky during missionary? Oh yeah: from bondage to dirty talk, we can leverage all that eye contact to turn it into the hot experience you crave.  Show Notes: Missionary Sex Position - New and ImprovedThe “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr Evan Goldstein Pillo by DamePosition Breakdown: Doggy Style Vs Cat PositionMagic Wand Mini Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's get into our second misconception that there's nothing kinky about missionary. And let's just be honest, the name doesn't do it any favors. But again, it's all a matter of mindset. Listen, if you are the primal energy of doggy style, let's just find a way to bring that into missionary and combine the best of both worlds. You're listing two sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. And today's episode, well, we're at a missionary state of mind because I think missionary sex position gets a bad rap. I've even

seen it called the comfy sweater of sex, and the name, so not sexy. But I'm here to tell you there's so much more to missionary than meets the eye. So in this episode I'll tell you why I love it and cover some of the most common misconceptions about missionary, along with my tips and variations to make it hotter than ever. And I'll answer listener questions about missionary and so much more. But before we start, I'd like to start by setting an intention for the show and I encourage you to do the same. So when you're listening, what do you want to grab out of the episode? Well, my intention is to shake up how we think about a common position and make it way hotter and sexier. Please rate and

review Sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. My new article, Missionary Sex Position, New and Improved is up at sexwithemely.com. It's a companion article to today's episode and it's full of illustrations and tips. Also, check out my YouTube channel for more sex tips and advice. If you want to ask me a question, well, leave your questions or message me at sexwithemily.com slash askemily. Or just call my outline 559 talk sex or 559 825 5739. Always include your name, your age, where you live, and how you listen to the show. And you can totally change your name if you want to remain anonymous.

All right, I want to enjoy this episode. Alright, so tell me what comes to mind when you think about the missionary sex position. Oh wait, what do you think about it? Maybe you think about, yeah, that's the go-to position, that's what we do all the time or maybe you think, yeah, it's kind of boring or maybe you picture that it's so intimate and it creates a really close connection with you and your partner. Maybe you think about your first time and it wasn't that great because survey says,

a lot of adults have moved on completely from missionary. There was actually a survey in 2022 by Dr. Evan Goldstein, he's also a guest on the show, and he said only 21% of gay and lesbian respondents and just under 27% of straight respondents' admissionary is the position that turns them on the most, which means that for more than 73% of us, not such a turn on. For straight respondents, by the way, Doggy Style was the clear winner. Maybe it's because Doggy Style is primal and animalistic, but you know what?

I'm going to tell you this. You can bring that energy to missionary two. That's what this shows about. So first, let's define missionary. Well, in this position, the penetrating partner is on top and the receiving partner is on the back and they're facing each other. That's basically what it is. So today, my goal is to get you to try to think differently about missionary, starting with what's so great about it. Okay, so first, here's what I think is great. You get to make eye contact with your partner,

their skin to skin contact. I think it's sexy. You can take it really slow, let the energy build, you can start making out. And I just think it's a really connected position. So when you're thinking about, you know, I want to feel closer, I want more passionate sex, or romantic, I think that missionary has all of that.

Also where I love about missionary, it's a great position to add toys. Because there's so many places you can stimulate from this position, and there's different kinds of you can stimulate from this position and there's different kinds of toys. It could be a vibrator, it could be a penis ring, a butt plug. Don't forget about your anus because you're in missionary. And vulva owners can experience double penetration. That's something that can happen. Here's the other thing. Clideral stimulation. Use your hands. You can

reach out and use your hands on your clitoris. Your partner can do that. You can reach around and grab your partner's ass. Try some rougher like touching. You could even do some consensual domination. Bonded, you can tie someone's arms back. You can use a spreader bar and you can spread their legs if they're on the bottom. I think a blindfold is great for most sexual scenarios.

Because it heightens all your senses. So you're really feeling that connection even more. The other thing about missionary that I like is that there's just more than one way to do it. You're not just lying there, looking at each other with your legs straight against each other. There's ways you can vary it. The bottom partner's legs can be pressed together

instead of open. That has a few benefits. When you're pressing your legs together, you can stimulate your pelvic floor muscles, you can do your kegilexer sizes. Remember, those are the muscles that are responsible for orgasm and you can also squeeze against your partner's penis, which feels good for everybody. You could also try the coil alignment technique or the cat position, which I will talk about a little bit, but that has excellent

clitoral stimulation. Oh, another option. One partner standing up at the edge of the bed and the receiving partner is lying on their back with their pelvis lined up at the same height. This is awesome for deep penetration. Or both of you are lying down. A vulva owner can bend their legs back, even to their ears. You know, if they're bendy, you do let's yoga, which can create exactly

the right ankle to hit the G spot. One leg up, both legs up. I mean, there's so much to try. And also, that's actually great for smaller penis owners. I get a lot of questions from you guys about penis size and the best positions. When the vulva owners link back with one of both legs over the penetrating part of shoulders,

this way you can maximize penetration. You can lean into their legs or use their ankles for support or leverage. And for larger penis owners, keeping the vova owners legs down lets them use their thighs to control the thrusting. So you could also start by positioning your pelvis a couple inches lower than hers to avoid going too deep. So I'm going to get into more of this shortly, but I'm a fan of a lot of the positions. You know what? I think that we can make any position really hot. I love missionary, but I understand there's a lot of misconceptions, you know, that it's

boring or just the default sex position or that static. You can't change it up. There's nothing kinky about it at all. There's also the misconceptions harder for vulva owners to orgasm. And if you've had this problem, I get it. You might be reluctant to give it another chance, and it just might be your least favorite. But I've got some ideas that you probably haven't tried at. So I'm going to dispel your missionary misconceptions and see if we can look at it differently. Let's start with the first one. The first misconception is that missionary is boring. And yes, for some couples, missionary can feel like it's just the default. So why don't we make it

more intentional instead? Because the stereotype that missionary is a passive position for a Volvo owner, just because you're on the bottom doesn't mean you can't take responsibility for bringing the erotic energy. In fact, I say everyone should be bringing the erotic energy all the time. And listen, I don't think you should blame it on the position because you can take anything and make it exciting. Any sex act, I think. It's about being present. So, Volvo owners, I want you to prioritize your pleasure. I would say communication as a lubrication, tell your partner what you want. In missionary, they've access to so many erotic zones. All of them, your ears, your neck, your armpits, and scalp

are also erotic zones too. The time we figure out where all of our Roger Zones are. And of course your mouth is like an old school makeup session to make it hot. It's not like making out during missionary. And here's a tip for penis owners are partners on top. While you're up there, don't forget the biggest sex organ of all is the brain. So tell your partner how much they turn you on. It's such a fun position to like talk dirty, whisper in each other's ears. And okay, do my vulva owners be collaborative? Now try moving your hips in a slow circle, move

and sink as your partner's thrusting so they can go deeper. You can use your hands or your partner's hands to stimulate your clitoris, you can use a toy, use a pillow under your pelvis to change up the angle. Dame makes a great pillow. What I'm saying is this is all about exploring and trying something new. If you've always just sort of lied there, missionary thought, all right, this is my time just to lie back. Just think, well, what would it feel like if I put a pillow underneath me or wrap my legs around my partner's neck

or I put one leg back and left one leg straight or I just sort of grab my partner in different ways or I stimulated myself. These are all the things that I'm not saying if you do well at once, but just get curious. What else might feel good in this position? Let me tell you about the cat technique. So this position is probably the best missionary position for literal stimulation. So how you do it is the ball boners lying on the back. And when the penis owner enters, what they do is they

scoot up a few inches higher than usual, right? So they're kind of a little bit over your head. And the vulva owner's body should be flat up against theirs. So what I want you to think of is think pelvis to pelvis rather than in and out. And the motion is an up and down rather than a side to side. So there's like a steady rocking up and down with a focus and where the clitoris hits the base of the penis. Get it? So why don't you take this slow? Because it's all about stimulating the clitoris, the pubic mound, which is also indirect stimulation to your g-spot. All these nerve endings are related.

And so if you're going in and out, which is kind of our default for many of us, that's just not going to do the trick. So check out the Quoidal Alignment Technique. If you go to our website, we'll also put this in the show notes. We have a link to the Quoidal Alignment Technique sex position. Let's get into your question here. This is from Anna in North

Carolina and Kat might work for her. Dear Dr. Emily, I'm a fairly sexual person, but my sex drive is lower than my boyfriends. I like experimenting and trying new positions, but since we started dating, we've settled into a pretty standard sexual routine. Me and Top, to missionary with me using my fingers on my clitoris. I'm aware that this routine you've settled into is large because I don't initiate doing anything different. I love how connected we are a missionary because we can kiss and see each other's faces. It can also be hard for me to get off, especially if I'm not the one stimulating myself.

And this position is where I can do that best. Plus, I've had partners in the past who've been very experimental with positions, and those experiences most often didn't result in orgasm on my hand. I think that all these factors caused me to choose a tried and true missionary position every time over any others. My boyfriend has requested trying other positions a few times, and I usually do it with him, but I always end up steering back to missionary. The other night he asked if we could 69 and though I did want to try it I actually haven't

been able to get off of him going down to me. I even went as far as starting to go down to him but I'd chickened out and rolled him on top of me to do missionary. How can I get past this mental block that keeps me from branching out and trying new positions? Alright, thank you so much for your email, Anna. Well, first up is recognizing that you have a block against this, which is huge.

And I also wanna say that our sex life is not a fixed state. My mission is to get everybody to constantly be exploring and opening up and seeing like how we can expand our sexual repertoire. So just because you have an orgasm from oral yet or in these other positions with past partners or this partner doesn't mean it's not possible. And sign note, I wanna remind everybody

that the goal of sex and access to experimenting is not necessarily orgasm, it's about exploring, okay? Paying attention to what feels good and seeing like where you could get stimulated then maybe you get to orgasm. So I wanna know how much time you spend getting to know your own body and what feels good and seeing like where you could get stimulated, then maybe you get to orgasm. So I want to know how much time you spend getting to know your own body and what feels good to you because I know that a lot to be learned during a masturbation practice, getting comfortable with yourself and then showing what your partner likes is key.

I think we got to share, bring our partners into our struggles because then you're not one person trying to solve your sex life and trying to fix it and try to pretend. This is where performative and try to pretend. This is where performative sex starts to happen. We think that we should be doing something different than how we're feeling, right? Acting like you like it. Although, I know you're not doing that. You're shutting down the position to going back to missionary.

But what I'm saying is, what if there's a middle ground here when you say to your partner, listen, I know I've sort of shut down positions lately. But I realize I haven't really tried that many positions or I have another luck in many positions finding what makes me feel good. So another thing that could be good for you too is some mutual masturbation so he could learn what your hotspots are and what feels good to you. You could learn what feels good to him and then maybe there you guys could figure out what positions would feel good knowing now how you touch yourself and how you get really turned

on. And I want you both to have the goal of pleasure and wanting to be good lovers to each other. So slowing down and communicating your needs is key. So again, expansive sex growing together over time and then bringing in some new positions to keep it interesting and hot and we'll keep it from getting less root and boring, which to be honest happens with a lot of things in our life. Our exercise routine, the things we're eating, our nightly routine, and the way we have

sex. Alright, Anna, let me know how it goes. Keep me posted. Let's get into our second misconception that there's nothing kinky about missionary. And let's just be honest, the name doesn't do it any favors. But again, it's all a matter of mindset. Listen, if you want the primal energy of doggy style, let's just find a way to bring that into missionary and combine the best of both worlds. All right, here is a question from Marca,

30 in Missouri. She writes, Dr. Emily, how do I tell my partner that I want to feel their desire? I want to hear things like, you know, you need me so bad and bend me right over the kitchen table and rip my panties off or push me up against the wall and tell me you want to fuck me right now. I find the more serious our relationship gets, the less kinky my partner wants to be. We've been having missionary sex strictly at bedtime for a few months now, and I worry he'll be uncomfortable being as rough or as spoken as I want him to be with me. Sex is super important, and I don't want to lose our excitement.

All right, Marka, thank you so much for your email. I get it. You want him to bring a little bit more energy. You want him to be a little bit more dominant. Maybe you want him to bring a little bit more energy. You want him to be a little bit more dominant. Maybe you want him to have dirty. You want him to learn a new skill set here so he's not doing anything wrong at all. It's truly about showing him what you want, what you need. I think that this is the challenge with this.

He's super comfortable with you, you're comfortable with him, and then saying someone, be dominant. You know, when we just tell our partners, oh, throw me against the wall, throw me against the bat. They want to please you. I would think sounds like you guys are in a good relationship, but it's getting, you know, a lot more serious. But understanding when and how to do something like that

is something that we got to learn. What I would say is that you have a conversation with them outside the bedroom about your sex life. You know, using my three T's, timing tone and turf, turf is outside the bedroom, and timing is when you guys are hanging out, maybe your next date night, and your tone is light and curious, and you want to say to them, I really want to talk about our sex life. Start with a compliment sandwich. You can talk about all the things that you really like about it and you've enjoyed going to bed together and having sex and that you love how with relationships getting more serious and how

you feel so much more closer to them. And then you could say, and I really, you know, want to keep the passion going in our sex life. And you can even say, I don't, I've never actually talked to someone about this, but it's really important to me to have a growth mindset around sex. And a growth mindset means that it's important for you to can you have a sex like that is expanding and growing and it's not fixed, right? There's a fixed versus growth. Fix means that we're going to keep doing the same things over and over again. You could say, I've adopted a growth mindset around sex and I want to make sure that we're on the same page of this. And again, it sounds to me like maybe this is new for you to have these conversations.

I'm just going to assume that you're like most of our listeners and most people on the planet that we don't talk about this stuff. So again, bringing your partner in and saying, I want to be great lovers to each other. I want to keep this growing and passionate and hot is important. And then you could say something that I think about is being dominated. And that would look like you kind of grabbing me And then you could say something that I think about is being dominated. And that would look like you kind of grabbing me and telling me what you want me and you

know, bending me over the kitchen counter. And those are the things I think about. It would be really hot. Tell me how I need that lands with you. Now, I'm telling you, you might be like, well, what do you mean? I'm not good enough in bed. I want you guys to understand that it's the first time you talked to your partner about sex. And maybe it happens several times. You have to be prepared that your partner is going to feel like you are paying the attacking them, that they're

doing something wrong, that they're not great lovers. I mean, all these things come up because again, most of us don't talk about it. So you have to do your best to reassure him and say, no, this is just something that I'm working on too. We're in this together. I also want to know what turns you on. What are your fantasies? And listen, you could even just start with, I realize you've been together for a while now and we've never talked about our fantasies. I want to hear your fantasies. Tell me your top three fantasies. Here's my top three fantasies. We don't have to get all this out in one conversation. So just starting more based like it's important to me have a growth mindset, let's talk about our fantasies.

And then you would lead into, I'd love it if you dominated me. And so then he could hear what you said, and again, you have to be feel comfortable, like reassuring him, and then you know that this is something that you guys are in together, and he might not know what it means. We're going back to, it's a skill set. Sure, he wants to please you, but you have to be like,

I don't know what you mean. I've never done that before. Is it okay to be physical with you in that way? So this is where we use our tools. This is where I love porn. This is where I love you finding some clips, some audio, some video that kind of let him know what you are into and what that looks like. You can even show him. I might be out of you dominated him for a minute. He knew what you liked. So that's the first thing is letting him know that's the energy that you want to bring the table. And if you want to keep missionary hot, you could also have him dominate you during missionary.

He could take your hands and he can tie me behind your head or just take your hands and push him back behind you. So you can't grab him. He could also get a spreader bar, which is really cool that keeps your legs spread apart Well, you know, you're having missionary. So get creative maybe listen to this episode together and have some conversations Marked so you can get your needs met and make your sex life super hot because you deserve it After the break, I'll be tackling more missionary misconceptions.

Let's get into your final misconception number three. A lot of all the owners say they have a hard time getting off a missionary, but that doesn't mean it's not possible. Everything's possible. Really, it is. See, literal simulation is super important, so the key is just figuring out how to work it in. And by the way, if you don't orgasm, nothing wrong with you. For some people, many people, missionaries go without the big orgasm, so I'm not suggesting you need to be fixed or anything's wrong with you, but if you're looking to have missionary or change your experience, I am totally here for it All right, this is from Cassandra 29 in Ontario. She says is it true or false that if you can orgasm by stimulating your

Clitoris that you cannot orgasm through penetration I also have heard and Everyone that there's no such thing as a g-spot. I'm 29 years old and I've been in relation with my boyfriend for seven years. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and I've slept with no other men other than my boyfriend. I'm not able to have an orgasm through penetration. I so badly want to have that sexual experience with my boyfriend but it only seems I can feel pleasurable by stimulating my clitoris. Help me! Because, Dan and Dr. you've come to the right place. I am here to help so Let's just clear some things up right now the majority of vulva owners

Can and will have an orgasm through their clitoris? That's how it happens all right? It's clitoral simulation and That is a type of orgasm that is the most common. The G-Spot, which I just, I don't know how we say this doesn't exist and you know how I feel about the G-Spot. I think it's more of a G-area. I think it's really internal, clitoral nerves, but there is an internal nerve that is called the G-Spot that's an area and it just takes a little bit more exploration. Now, let me tell you this, that if you can have a

Clitoral orgasm, that is amazing because for the majority of all the owners to find their G-spot and to find that internal orgasm, it helps to already have a Clitoral orgasm. Because then you're more aroused, the tissues become more engorged, the blood starts to flow. So what I recommend is maybe your partner goes down and you first, you use toys, fingers, mouth, and you have that first, literal orgasm. And then you could try penetrative sex. Now, when you put this penis inside you,

you might be able to have an orgasm because you're already aroused. And then you could start to relax and breathe. You can pump your pelvic floor muscles, you know, against his penis. That's how it might happen. Have you ever tried that? A lot of us just have our little orgasm and we're done or we assume that you should have an orgasm through penetration. But I'm going to remind you here that only 30% of vulva owners will have an orgasm during penetration. And so it's very rare. 70% will not, unless they have extra clitorial stimulation with hands, a toy's mouth. Okay? So I want you to experiment

and see during masturbation or mutual masturbation, if you can find your G-spot have a blended orgasm, which means that you're really just after you've a clitoral orgasm, then you have a G-spot orgasm. It can be blended. I think that they're often really related. Some of the vulva owners who do have an orgasm through penetration, it just has to do with the placement of their anatomy.

It doesn't mean they were born under some special moon or anything. This is really just about figuring out your own body. We have a great squirting episode with Deborah Sundal and we get into this a lot about finding your G-Spot. So, I want you just to prioritize your pleasure and take some initiative in talking to your partner and letting you know that this is a goal that you have and you guys can work on it together. Again, it's so fun to bring your partner into these goals that you have sexually. Cat

position might work for you too, the coil alignment technique that I talked about, but I just think the big thing here is your mindset. So I want you to flip it and know that it is possible for you to have orgasms in other ways. And I get that the holy grail for so many of you is that like, oh, I want just penis to go in my vagina and then I have a screaming orgasm like I see in porn or like I've seen in movies.

And I'm just gonna remind you here, and if I can do it everyday on the show, which I probably do, try try to that's just not realistic That's on how real life goes. That's on how it works for most people You're not seeing the warm-up. You're not seeing the oral sex. You're not seeing the foreplay. You're not seeing the lube You're not seeing all the things that went before that and in fact Also just seeing a penis goes into the vagina and someone's having a screaming orgasm again Only works for 30% of all the owners.

So I want you to remember that. I want you to bring this into your relationship and start to work at understanding your body and how you can have more pleasure during powdered sex. Thanks for your question, Cassandra. I believe in you and you got this. Speaking of our G-spots, our nexus there has found her. She loves that, but she needs help incorporating her vibrator into missionary.

Alright, this is from Tori48 in Canada. She writes, Hi Dr. Emily, I used to find it difficult to orgasm in my younger years. I basically needed a jackhammer to get off. I was thrilled to discover the magic wand, which was a game changer for me. I became brave enough to bring it up with my husband. I'm a people-pleaser and concerned about hurting others' feelings, and I guess Egos in this case.

I fell in love with the courage to communicate that I need to incorporate a vibrator. The problem I need to solve today is that the magic wand is big and cumbersome in some of my favorite positions. For example, when I want to have an intense close embrace during missionary position, I have to ease my guy up and back onto his knees to fit my vibe into the mix. The pleasure of the vibe near his balls and shaft during doggy, my absolute favorite position, sometimes gets them off too soon. Is there a vibrator as strong and intense as the magic wand that is smaller and less awkward?

Yes, I finally taught myself to ejaculate. I found my G-spot years ago, but finally nailed how to bring her alive. All right, thank you so much for your question, Tori. All right, few things to unpack here. I totally get love in the magic wand. If you guys are with the magic wand, it's been around for over 50 years.

It is the MEP truck of all vibrators. It used to just plug into the wall, and then about, I don't know how many years used to just plug into the wall and then about. I don't know how many years ago they came out with the rechargeable magic wand, so you don't have to be near an outlet. But now I've got some great news for you, Tori, that the magic wand just recently I just got a few weeks ago came out in a mini version. That's right. There is a mini wand with the same power and half the size. I've self-deproblem. I love this product. I was so excited when I got it. I screamed. I didn't know it's coming out.

It was the whole thing. I've been busy. I wasn't paying attention. And there it was in my mail, and I love it, and I use it all the time now. It is amazing, everyone. Check out the new mini magic wand. Why is a magic wand? So great? It really does have this power that is unparalleled. That was one of the first in business. It's made from body-safe material. It's really easy to use to. You know, there's some toys that have like, you know, 15 patterns and 20 levels and all the things, which is really fun. But this toy just got a few levels, a few patterns, and it feels unbelievable. And you're going to love it.

So, Tori, thank you for your question. I appreciate you. The other thing I want to say is, I'm a people-pleaser too. Any other people-pleaser could totally relate to Tori's being concerned about hurting your partner's feelings. And I want to challenge you right now if you are that person, and you're thinking, oh, God, I can never do that. And I'm a people pleaser. Well, I want to challenge you to be like Torrey and to practice asking for what you want.

Just one thing. Because I know we often believe that we are hurting our partners. Egos and maybe they're going to leave us or they're going to feel rejected. But what I want to say is if you are not asking for what you want and you're not letting your partner know that you need something else Well, essentially what you're doing is you're choosing their satisfaction and their pleasure over your own You're essentially saying my pleasure doesn't matter as much as my partners ego or protecting my partner And do you think that your partner would actually want that for you?

Would they want you to not be having as much pleasure? So they would feel better and I hope they would not want that and they would fully support your pleasure. And the guy said, I am a people pleaser. I think it doesn't ever go away, but it's something that I work on and I definitely have to work on this in the bedroom myself. And once you start to do it, you realize that it gets easier and it becomes a conversation that you start to have with your partner and you enjoy it. And you start to expand on it.

And you're like, well, this is what I used to like last month or last year, but let's try something new. And it's a great way to have a really healthy, ongoing conversation with your partner about your sex life. Let me just say this, there are some other toys besides using the magic wand. We vibe make something called the chorus, and it's a wearable vibrator. They were the first ones to make wearable vibrators. So the shape like a C, and you could actually wear that during penetration where the internal part kind of cups around your vulva.

So there's a part that's inside that's stimulating your G spot, and there's another part that goes over your clitoris, and then your partner's penis goes inside of you. So that's a fun one you can play with too. Alright, there you go. That's it. That's our episode of Making Missionary Hot. I hope you learned a lot and try it out.

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