Sex With Emily - Making Scheduled Sex HOT

Episode Date: March 9, 2016

This show is dedicated to getting your sex life on the right track, whether that means scheduling your erotic rendezvous, sticking to your bedroom boundaries or expanding your expertise into “other��� sorts of oral pleasure.Sometimes life gets busy, relationships get stale, and sex drives suffer. Emily explains why scheduling time between the sheets with your partner just might be the key to keeping your romance alive and thriving, and shares tips to help make scheduled sex just as hot as the spontaneous variety. She also answers emails from listeners addressing sensitive topics such as sex shaming between partners, uncomfortable sexual pressure and what to do when you want to bang your bestie.Everyone could use a little push in a new direction every now and then, and Emily is here to deliver it. From fantasy to frequency to fun new oral techniques, this show has the formula to help you keep your sex life fresh. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today's show, we're talking about how to get your sex life on the right track, even if that means you got to put getting busy on the calendar. Yes, I'm talking about scheduling sex. Also, answering your emails on the other type of oral pleasure, sexual tension between best friends, partner shaming, and more. Thanks for listening. But first, okay guys, I know that it seems like the world of sex toys can be pretty limited for you, but I want to introduce you to a product that might just open your mind to some new and amazing

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Prostate Pleasure to find out how the Black Pearl can make a pretty sexy toy for two. Thanks for listening. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got everything.

Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, not only? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about all the way? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here.

So, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between for more information. Go to sexwithemely.com. We can check out our podcast.

You should really subscribe for our podcast because we do two a week. And then they just like show up in your inbox. How cool is that? And I tune, so fun. Love that. And I'm here with Anderson. What up?

What up dude? How you doing? My level's good. My level's good. I think so. I'm allowed enough. Yeah, all right, cool. Yeah, you're allowed. Sorry for behind the scenes, look at the show

and how it works. People like BTS. BTS is that we have a hashtag Come on out of your mouth. I picture people being spanked with the BTS You are so weird though like I BDS I always hear stuff like my friends is in the day I was at a party and she's like yeah, it has little um what she say little Well be the word Nipples, no, she said something that was completely like, oh, and it has little critters on it. And I thought she said, Clint, I'm like, it's the Clint.

Like I always think people are saying something sexual. Right. And they are not. Because your mind is always the gutter. It has to be. It's in the gutter. Which is why I also didn't recognize what kind of car you had, which is disturbing.

She, Emily's been on this kick on night. Like I can't believe that. I don't know what kind of car you have. Right. And she's like I think I do though. I think it's white Well, I showed up tonight at the studio and I was like I wonder if I know since you're yet I'm like I don't know what kind of car yet and we spent a lot of time talking at your car hanging out outside Yeah, and I'm sorry. It's a black car

You got your bowl. Yeah, you're kind of stuff your bubble when I see you. I'm so excited to see you Make sure a focus person if I noticed everything around me. I see you. I'm so excited to see you. Focus. And make sure a focus person. So if I noticed everything around me, I would never get anything done. I noticed everything around me and I get you. And I get you. I get you right. I'm way behind on everything. I know.

See? That's the thoughts problem. So it's like Anderson's here. I'm so excited. I don't know what kind of hard card I've got. Yes. So you didn't know I was here. And here I am.

Here you are. I love that you're here. And also, I would love to see you all March 10th, which is two days from now, Thursday at the Hollywood Improv. I'm doing a great show. I did a podcast with the great love debates Brian Howie and people loved it. So we decided, you know what, let's do a podcast together. And he does them all over the country. He does these shows where they're like the great love debate and they talk about being single and by dating is hard and finding love can be challenging. So there's a lot of things standing in the way. Men and women, you know, from getting what they want in the dating world.

And I guess these events become like rockest like the men or like upset about things and the women feel like the men, they want the men to try harder and the men want the women to chill out. So we're going to have an audience and we're going to have the women start talking about sex because we go around and like ask you a question to the audience, the women are going to talk about the sex and the men of our relationships. Women start talking about sex because we go around and like ask you a questions in the audience the women are gonna I go the sex and the men of our relationships and we'd love to see you there You get the tickets at Hollywood improv dot com. I think something like that. Don't have it on the calendar

One of the tickets cut. I think they're 20 bucks. It's March 10th 7 30 So it's called love and sex live and I want to see you there because it's gonna be fun And it's gonna be great. No, we always have fun at the Hollywood improv. There's always walk-ups too. I wonder what kind of walk-ups you're gonna get for a show like that. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up.

You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up.

You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk-up. You can do it as a walk smart name for it. It's a love and sex live. Yeah, I will not be having sex live I don't think no, maybe I meet someone Apparently people meet other people and I thought you do it live there on the on the

You know, I've never had life sucks in front of people so at this point ten years in not gonna do it right So there's that I did miss that boat, but I'm okay with it. I'm pretty happy with my choices. You've seen people have sex life. I have seen people have sex life. Stringer parties and stuff like that. You know. You're gonna look creepy like the theaters. I wear the like the porn on and there's like a back row or there's a chicken like a train run on it. You ever been to one of those? No, no. Maybe it's ever just go these like the old theaters. Yeah, you grow. You know, I feel like I feel like I did maybe once I don't want to look like this keep you old

The kind of life she lives she thinks that maybe she was in a creepy old Woman was getting a train run on her in the back and she thinks maybe she saw that I've been through a lot of Okay, I know I think I've been to that jail. I can't Exactly never in july I'm proud to say good for you. So I've been to that jail. I can't remember. Exactly. Never in Australia. Proud to say. Good for you. So, I've got some sex in the news for you.

Let's do it. There is some disparity between the sexes in regard to oral sex. Go figure. A new-least study, a newly published study in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, finds that women are more than twice as likely to go down on their partners than men are. Even though men report enjoying the act of giving oral sex more. The study surveyed undergrads and got stats on their sexual orientation and they found that 26% of women had performed oral on their partners, but only 10% of the men have.

What? Yeah, only 10% of the college dudes. Super low number. I know, but I feel like it's college dudes. I mean, I feel like that men at a young age just, it goes both ways. I think they don't really know what they're doing or they're not interested in it or they don't mean, they're probably interested

but they don't know how. And I think a lot of women at that age might be more, they've never had it either so they might be a little more insecure about their bodies, not sure that the guy wants to do it. So yeah, I mean. I think you guys just like to please too. We are more pleased,

or as women just give out blow jobs at the given out candy. They're like, I don't want them to touch me, but I'm gonna blow them. Do she do? Especially if you finish the guy off, he's like, all right,

what's, what's on the, yeah, exactly. And I think that women should protest and not give blow jobs till he goes on on you. And then we would have a change. All right, speaking as the man in the room here,

and I can tell you from experience that once the act is finished, whether it be oral or an actual traditional sex, or even self-stimulation, the last thing you want to do is any kind of work. And that's work. That's why he should start going out in her first. And you can barely get up off the couch to throw away the napkin. It's a lot of work. Three words. Three words. She comes first. You can barely get up off the couch to throw away the napkin. It's

a lot of work. Three words. Three words. Three words. Yeah. She comes first. Right. It's a good rule to live by. It's a good rule to live by. So that doesn't surprise me, women or pleasers. And it just makes me sad that a lot of women are just like, well, I can't blow jobs. So hopefully he'll call. I didn't want him to touch me, but no, please quit pro pro. You are better than that. And that's what I want. Let's not make this all movement though I mean settle down. I kind of want to make a movement like I kind of want to go around college campuses and teach my oral sex course Because it was really powerful. I feel like you people learned a lot. There's a lot of Confusion we did a show about it last week that men we really got into the oral member

Uh-huh guys are like I mean they don't know what to do a lot of times and everyone is different. You were very helpful I was was Was I helpful? Yeah. You were always helpful. Mark that because that's probably one of the few times that you can say that. No, you're super helpful. You plugged in the mic for you plugged in the headphones and I you brought Stanley here. I plugged in the mic.

You did. I got that. Oh, we've taken picture after me and Stanley for the show. I don't see pictures. Sorry. Dude, that's a really good picture. I'll pay you. I'll pay you good.

It's a big big good time. Okay. So I've got a little up. We're going to need emails, but I got a little mini topic here. Oh, and that is about scheduled sex. Oh, you're against. Nope. I'm not. Here's funny. You have change. You're tuned. I have. So I think we actually need to schedule sex for often. And when I started my show, I remember someone being on the show early on saying, well, couple just need to schedule. I'm thinking that is the most boring deal breaking like.

It makes it seem like work. Yeah, like, oh, good. Seven club tonight, sex. Like you might as well throw in the towel. But the truth about sexual sex is that, you know, yeah, like I thought it was passionless, but because the problem is we think it should be spontaneous, romantic, and we don't want it to be something that we plan. But the thing is, if your sex life is challenged or dwindling, maybe your schedules don't match up, maybe you have kids.

There's a lot of things that get in way of having sex and having your needs met. It could, you know, you might want to jumpstart into a fully satisfying, you know, planned sex routine. So it helps your partner remain accountable. You both know that it's gonna happen. And the best thing I heard about was someone saying to me once, you know what Emily,

my wife and I don't have time and I'm always trying to have sex with her. And she's always saying no. And I feel rejected all the time. And now that I know every Saturday night, we have sex or every Tuesday and that's the thing. And so if really couples struggle with this all the time and we can even make it sexy. So here's six ways to make hot schedule section 111-5-4. Let's see how far I get. I'm going to get bored.

Okay, so make a rational schedule. Okay, so you want to sit down with your partner, calm moment, outside the bedroom, like most of these sex conversations should have, and discuss how much sex you'd both like to be having. Because it has to be agreeable. I mean, if you want sex four times, and let's say your partner wants sex twice, three times a week. What if you're shy and you don't like to talk

to your partner about this? Would you say maybe you present the question, and then you write it down, like they do in movies where they make offers to each other? No. Here's what I say to your offer, and then it's right, a big do in movies where they know how it offers, they make offers to each other. No. I, here's what I say to your offer and then it's right, a big FU, and they pass it back. Why not?

Absolutely not. Or you know, you can do a full-up of paper, you pass it back. Listen to the show, listen to this show with your partner. You'll, I get emails all the time from couples who say your, your, your show helped my sex life we listen together. Right. So, if you're someone who's like, this is like, God, it sounds cool. Have her listen to their, have him listen to this episode with you.

But anyway, you can set goals, you can add it to your calendar. So you're like, okay, three times a week. And this is like, oh, that sounds cool. Have her listen to the hair, have him listen to this episode with you. But anyway, you can set goals. You can add it to your calendar. So you're like, okay, three times a week. And this is where we're going to do it. And you plan your week around it. It's not negotiable. You cannot say, well, I'd rather watch sports at home. We're not going to have sex.

The other thing is, you don't have to get so fancy about it either. It doesn't have to be like, we're going to like tonight. We're going to do the composite to pose number 82. That's too much pressure. Right. It makes it really complicated. And so just focus on having the set sex once you start because then,

which certain join it, you can up the ante and you can make goals by trying out specific things. But for now, just say this is when we're having sex because the more sex sex gets sex. What, you just set a bunch of sex. Sex begets sex. The more sex you have, the more sex you're gonna want. Right, it's like the gym, the more you go to the gym,

the more I have to work. Exactly. Everything's like the gym. I need a better analogy than gym, but it is like the gym. So you use- It's like reading a book. I mean, the more you ship away, and if you start reading, like you'll get to the point where it's like,

oh my god, I haven't read a book all week. Right. But in my case, I haven't been shipping. I haven't read a book in a year. Right. I haven't barely read a book. I've just, don't even, I just don't know what does run. You don't have time. No, but everybody's got time for what I'm like, just don't even, I just want to have a desk run.

You don't have time. No, but everybody's got time for what's important. It's hard to focus on the words when you're vibrating from the toy you're testing. Well sometimes I vibrate and I read. I'd be tough, I would think, although, I let out the chug. You know what I'm out, that number lacks on I read.

Okay, you can also use technology to your advantage. So let's say you have the reminder in your Google Calendar, maybe you guys share it. You can send a flirty text, digital for for play. It helps prime you for the night ahead So like tonight. I'm so excited. I can't wait to see naked and go down to you something like that Little five level of energy goes. Oh, you can maybe even schedule those ahead of time So you have five wrong exactly like I do like hootsweet for tweets You can like schedule your your text out of time

But a lot of times another thing to do is go back to your digital communication like do you ever do this? You have five wrong. Exactly. Like I do like hoot suite for tweets. You could like schedule your text at a time. But a lot of times another thing to do is go back to your digital communication. Like do you ever do this? Like go back and meet the emails that you sent when you first together or like text messages. No. So.

I'm not a chick. Look at the picture I do. Look at your pictures. Like would think about the rush and that thrill you had like the first few months you were together. And something sexy pops up. It sparks up and you're like, oh that was a night that we were naked. That's such a thing in the moonlight.

You're right, it's like going back and looking pictures of your puppy. And you're like, oh my God, he was so cute. And I took a break from the end of the day. Yeah, you go back to the, yeah, that's a good point there. Right, thank you, Anderson. Also, you got to reserve the time to for intimacy with your partner.

So this is more for the guys. So I'm talking about masturbation here. So, you remember that famous line from So I'm talking about masturbation here. So you remember that famous line from something about Mary? Right, of course. The creepy friends who just clearing the pipes before a big date. Well, that's all great. In your early dating years, I think, for guys. But really, when you get older, you want to save it. You want to want to save the masturbation for the hot sex you're having with your partner because you might be like not as motivated. So it kind of can like store up that energy, that sexual energy and wait. So we only have a finite amount of sexual energy, you know, store it up.

So you can use the first word right? So you're the first word right? Yeah, totally. And for the women, you know, I say if you're kind of someone who struggles with desire or you know, you're not always in the mood for sex, I think that women should continue to masturbate because again, this is like the gym analogy, the more you masturbate and the more you think about sex and the more you have sex in the forefront,

the more you're gonna wanna have. So I would masturbate, I'd start looking a porn or reading a radical or seeing what turned you on so you make it like an experiment that you start to figure out what you really, really like. You guys are like old model teas, like you need to be cranked up. We do, we do.

It's true. Even I do like honestly, like I'm pretty, I love sex, but when I don't have it for a while, like I'm not, I'm not thinking about it. Like I, I have a lot of friends that I'm so horny, I want sex outside of people say horny. And I was like, yeah, you forget. But when I start mad, when I got all these toys,

I start messing with you again, I'm like, I'm like, psyched at home. It's like anything in life when I got all these toys, I start masturbating again, I'm like, I'm like, site, I get home. It's like anything in life, right? Look at the book. Final thing is tired, not an excuse. I'm sorry, we are all goddamn tired. What about headaches? No.

Not tonight, I don't know. I got a headache. No, remember this is for you, just as much as your partner, sex is the glue in a relationship and I'm just offering a suggestion here. I'm offering something to do so you guys, if you sex life's been dwindling

or you're challenged, schedule it. So even if you're sleepy, that orgasm, orgasm is gonna feel so much better. I'm gonna put you to sleep. Can I give a do not do? Yeah, totally. You know when you go to like a public restroom, like in a fast food joint or CVS or something,

they have a little clipboard hanging on the outside of the restroom with like little check marks of like one that was last cleaned. Don't have something like that outside your bedroom for the schedule in time. No, don't. And do you remember that such a bad move? And you were, I don't know, the story.

Do you remember that guy who sent the Excel spreadsheet around, who was a few years ago? So there was a guy in New York. And he instead of ever talking to his wife, he had an Excel spreadsheet. He must have been a accountant or something, because he was very facetious. Right. For like, I was like for a month or two.

Every time he asked his wife approach her for sex, she rejected him, maybe once she didn't, but he tracked it in her excuse. Yeah. And her excuse, like two years ago, was like, no, I'm watching friends. Right. I'm tired.

I have to act from the gym, I feel gross. I'm watching friends again. I was like, no, I'm watching friends. Right. I'm tired. I have to have the gym. I feel gross. I'm watching friends again. I'm like, she needs better TV. Friends has been off the air for a while. And then she emailed it to her one morning and said, this is what you've been doing to our love life. And then she released it.

Google it, like, sell spreadsheet. She shouldn't release it. She should be a little bit embarrassed. I got a story real quick. My best friend. You've never met him, but he's a little off. I think he might be his friend. He might be on the spectrum. He's the best man in my wedding He's a little bit odd. He and his wife similar situation before they got married

She was going through his briefcase. He's a lawyer and she found like an excel spreadsheet and a pie chart all like Computer like done like professionally like with the color schemes and everything where he made a pie chart of like how much money He spends and she was like the biggest wedge in the pie chart And I call this relationship stats because he's an oddball this guy and it almost cost him What is now his wife and family because she almost said I can't be a pie chart to this guy I cannot be your pie chart. I'm not a wedge near God damn pie chart exactly. Oh my god I'm glad they worked it out though. Yeah, and you gotta keep those pie charts yourself. Don't print out lock your computer pie chart wow they get they get remarried on their anniversary every single year

They actually get a priest or a rabbi or like they do different thing They get judges sometimes and they actually have a ceremony in the hole. He's for deemed himself That's like I think that's a great idea that you renew your business They had me they had me do it one year. And I actually had to go get ordained. I did do that whole thing where I could actually officially oversee their bullshit. They're not happy, they must be happy though.

They're very happy. I brought up a pie chart in my vows. That's really funny. I didn't repeat. See, that's a good cut of mishap that happens because then you laugh about it. I actually like your best friend. He's the best.

Okay, this is about salad tossing. What? Come on, I'm sorry. I'm better than that. I know, I know. What is this a prison rape show for you? Here's the thing. I am not gonna get too, I'm just gonna say,

this guy emailed us, very nice guy. He's from Jacksonville, Florida. He listens on the iTunes podcast app. He said, I discovered this podcast recently. I've been binge listening every day. I've been in a funk for the last three years and really been dating someone with, I have some success. Would you mind shedding some light and etiquette in regards to him eating ass?

I had my first experience with this recently and was surprisingly turned on. Just want to know if there are any basic rules and how they should be introduced and explored in the bedroom so that other parties not freaked out or turned off. Definitely subscribe in your podcast. And so wonderful thing what you do, exactly the sort of motivation I have been needing, sincerely WD. WD.

Yeah, that's his name. I'll eat a man. But he wants it what? WD. We already checked, it's a man who was I went to woman. Is it Drew? Noah. Beating someone's ass.

Oh, stop. It's not time to do it, you sure? Dude, how'd you get Noah. Beating someone's ass. Oh, it's not time to do it. You share. Dude, how'd you get that? Beating someone's ass. You really said that? Oh, he said way worse. I have him saying some way. I'm sorry. Back to the, that's amazing. Sorry to interrupt. So, um, okay, here's how you got to bring it up. WD. You could always test the waters next time you're going to go down on her, but you run the risk of her not completely being clean Which can seriously kill the mood? So why not just the next time we talk about sex you can talk about

Backdoor play is she interested? Does she get turned on by anything anal and you could start just like how I tell everybody like You know start by like using your fingers around there and see if she's open to just your fingers Just kind of touching rubbing around her a there and see if she's open to just your fingers, just kind of touching, rubbing around her ainess and see if she pulls your fingers away, then you know that might not be your thing. And then you could talk about it then afterwards, be like, so said not your fingers, she might say, well, I don't know, I've never done it. And this could start the conversation. You could also suggest a fantasy, you got it, I'd really like to, you're as, you could say that, see what she says. You could also just say, what are your thoughts on backdoor play?

So you can lead to the conversation organically. And then she's into it. I'd say take a shower together. If you don't have time to take a shower together, she should know that she should, you know, make sure she's clean, wipe down, all that stuff. So the tips for doing it for play. Just like with Kuntelingas,

you want to make sure she's warmed up and you don't want to go straight for the main event. You want a teaser, you want to build up to it, helps to pleasure her first. She comes first, you've given orgasm first or vagina, vaginal orgasm, clitor orgasm, whatever. But once you start going for the back door, you can't go back to the vagina because that's how bacterial gets transmitted, bacteria gets transmitted. So when she's lying on her stomach, you can give go back to the vagina. Because that's how bacteria will get transmitted. Bacteria gets transmitted. So when she's lying on her stomach, you can give her like a butt massage with your hands, rubbing, massaging your cheeks.

Then you like pull her cheeks apart. So use your fingers and pleasure of a vagina if you've not touched her back door yet. Then you can just start using your tongue all over. Like the outside, swirl your tongue, play around different pressures, tongue movements, motions, kind of like oral sex. You can use your lips, your tongue, play around different pressures, tongue movements, motions, kind of like oral sex.

You can use your lips, your tongue, all that stuff. You can even kiss and suck the anus. She hates us. I'm sorry. I just had to get through it. When in doubt, I'm just saying I know you wouldn't want this, but this is what's helping WD. And when in doubt, ask how things are feeling, what she likes, and what she doesn't like.

So both of us can't just pay attention to how she's reacting. Enough with the ask. Right. Well, I think pay attention. Yeah. And if she didn't do it, you'll know. And if she's not into it, you won't. But start with your finger.

Yeah. Okay. Move it on. How that was into that one. Pinky, maybe, pinky. Pinky. Um, but first, but first, but first before we get into, uh, Anderson's ass eating experiences, um, the womanizer, the womanizer.

My ladies of session, if you've been listening to this show last couple months, you've heard we talk about a unique product called the womanizer. And what happened was the owners of the company said, hey, can I send you egg of these e-mails all the time? Can we send you onto test? This is a really different kind of toy, which of course I agree, do I never say no?

And I tried it and I wanted to review a lot of toys and I was like, okay, yeah, show me something I don't know, but I was wrong. I had never tried a toy like this. It was designed in Germany and unlike anything else on the market, it indirectly stimulates the clitoris using suction. So the way it looks, it looks like a sexy ear thermometer. Has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris, kind of like how you're part of my user mouth. And while it's on, you vary the suction, and you move it around, and it creates this intense experience. And most women in their focus group achieve orgasm in one minute. Six second orgasm, not bad. So yeah, so I tried it and they weren't kidding. The suction was amazing, it's adjustable.

You can put in a lot of different, you can feel a lot of different sensations. And it really is in its own category. It has this like special like air stream. It's not air stream, it's like this, it is like air stream, this technology where the, where the, I think it's air, I think they call it like this,

I can't where it's called. I know what you're talking about too. Hey guys, I should say that we're doing this show late night too. So maybe our brains are not firing at like, pleasure stream, pleasure stream. Pleasure stream is what we're looking for. It's like this really, it's, I'd say you're looking for error dynamics.

No, no, no, it's the coolest sensation. I feel like it's like the Clint Westboro. I feel like it's what I would want. Someone to do my Clint if they didn't know my Clint and the womanizer knows So good as sex with Emily dot com click on the womanizer banner for more information and Just buy one because you like it. I promise you name yours No, I've so many I should name it name in the Sibian Frank No, I can't remember right now.

Johnny Boy or something? Johnny. I should remember this. Sorry, I brought it back. No, it's a Stanley in the running there for a minute. Yes, that was a very upsetting name. I can't name Stanley's in my lap right now. Yes, he is.

Okay, hey Emily, I'm in an odd situation. My best friend is a boyfriend and they've been dating for 10 months. Her and I want the same thing sexually, but yet she has stayed with them. All we talk about is it sex though. I want a scrooer, but I don't want to mess the relationships she has with him. What should I do to compress the desire? Maybe he's repressed.

The desire to screw her brains out. Thanks, Dylan, listening from the podcast app on the iPhone. That's not right, suppress. He said compress. Oh, compress. I think he means suppress. So Dylan, right. He said compress. Oh, compress. I think he means to suppress.

So, Dylan, this is a dude with a girl friend, with a girl friend, with a girl friend. Who's with a guy? Right. And she keeps talking to Dylan and saying, yeah, my boyfriend won't do this and that, and they talk about sexual attack. So Dylan's thinking, I want a scorer,

but I don't really want to mess up our relationship. Or her relationship with the dude. Yeah, exactly. But you can kinda do. I mean, you will screw it up if you wanna screw her. So neither of you are in the right on this one because it's typical, you want what you can't have. You don't want to show me there or what?

They're not in the right, neither one of them. She's violating the trust she's got a boyfriend and she's complaining that she's not getting what she wants. She would do with a girl, but she probably shouldn't be doing what the heterosexual dude who wants to bang her. And we girls know that you want a banger. Like she knows you didn't say well, you are. I'm assuming you're in your early 20s.

So this is typical. You lust. I mean, have you ever done this gone after a girl who wasn't available? Like is that like I know guys who have patterns of only eating with me when you aren't available? I've done so many horrible things and that's one of the few things that never really came across. Yeah. It's good to make sure your other thing's not that. I've always had this weird thing like as soon as I heard a girl was married. Yeah, me too. She wasn't attractive. Right, same.

If a guy is a girl friend, I kind of like used her something. Right, I felt the same way. I've a guy to girlfriend. I was like, next. But there's some guys where I believe it's still the way I'm not committing or like having not like, is a challenge. Right. And like, I'm going to get her.

And then once they get her, they're like, yeah, it was like a challenge together and then they want that they can't have that whole thing. That's just insecurity, but that's not the case with this dude. This dude, I think he just, just straight up wants to bang this girl. Yeah, maybe, but maybe, I don't know, I think he might want what he can't have. Why can't I be both?

Because I mean, it seems like she's talking about the sexual things that she would like to be doing with this guy, and he's like, eh, I could do that, I mean. Right, well, his mind's going there. So the thrill of her big relationship it adds to taste of taboo to it, the fact that she's talking to you about it.

And you and your friend, I think, have taken too far because you're not acting like best friends here because a real best friend wouldn't jeopardize a friend's relationship or keep a male friend on the hook when they are currently dating someone else. It doesn't sound like she's leaving her boyfriend. And it's possible it's like a flirty game she's playing

but she's not gonna fall through. Or if she does, that's not so great either, because she's cheating on her boyfriend. So I think this is gonna get messy and someone could really get hurt. So I think you gotta take a step back here if you wanted the right thing and not make your relationship about sex.

I'm sure there's many other things to talk about. You can move on, too. Don't be friends with each other, right? I think we just disincentred yourself for a while. I think we need more detail. We need to know like if he was friends with every four she hooked up with this new guy. Right. Email is still and I can keep up with him. Has he wanted to bang her for the beginning? Has he made a pass?

And she said, let's just be friends. Is he stuck in friend zone? You know, there's some info missing. They're always it. I guess you're taking collars and having people. I was going to put a voicemail thing up my website my new website Which hasn't launch it cuz taking a while but you're gonna on a calls and a lot of them will sound like this No, but yeah, we won't use those but I want people to be able to call up and leave a voicemessage Or call in the station No, I'm not doing with colors. Okay, so leave me voicemail, but we're soon. We're gonna have it up on the website. Yeah, you don't have a number yet

No, I can get you a job with that. Yeah, well, when we do it on the after disaster We have a phone number of people sometimes like on special occasions. Is it easy to do? Yeah on the after disaster Anderson's Wonderful podcast you said I should I should mention it I know I'm talking about secure most popular you Anderson's got this Podcast and I do three shows and I try not to like you know shove them down and I roll his throat I do three but you're talking about now I mean don't not listen to my no but Anderson's podcast after this there's a huge following people love it and it's

some I want your life show is blown away by all your fans and like rabbit fans yeah this answer is it's a very unique quick a little 30 second aside I'll get my stuff out of the way, okay? And then we can go back to the stokes. But, yeah. All right, after the disaster, if you're looking for... Asking.

No more salad to usin. I don't even like the name. I hate that word, I didn't mean salad to us. It comes from prison prison because I know I didn't mean to use lunch dressing. I thought it was on here, it's Madison's fault. That's the story. And like, Pusier Madison.

That's the story though. Like, they would use ranch dressing to a mask today. I remember, I don't know why I said that. Can you imagine eating prison at us? Still not professional know why I said that. Imagine eating professional neither. I'm sorry. Yeah. All right. So after we talk about such things as I don't think sound tossing has ever been mentioned,

but it could come up. It's very soft work at times, but it's with myself, my carano, who's one of the most unique individuals you'll ever meet. He's fantastic. He has his own show and Tyler White, who was the youngest. We span many a few generations, I think. And we are very fast-moving, quick show. And it's the ADD fans love it.

The listeners who have ADD, because it's hard to keep up with, but it's fun if you do. And then I also have the film vault, which I've been doing forever with Brian, where we do top five list. In fact, we just did our top five, the vaulties, the best movies of last year.

We do it right after the Oscars. Okay. And then I have the My New Show cinematics where we talk about two movies that are coming out of the theater near you. That Friday, that show gets released on Wednesday. So it's two new releases. We see them before the movies come out in the theaters.

And then we do a streaming pick as well, where I let you know about a movie that you can watch on Netflix for free, or Amazon Prime, if you remember, that's streaming that you can watch in your home. What should I watch on Amazon Prime right now? Because I have an answer for you. For you, you put me on a spot like that.

Why? Well it's so funny because I was talking to my friend anilator the other day and she's like, I told her I saw a movie because you saw a movie? She freaked out that I accept their own movie. There's so many good ones and I'm drawn, I'm drawn a Blake as far as the Amazon, I mean buzzard, I would say buzzard, but buzzard is not for you.

Well, how do you know what's for me? Ah, it's not for you, you and people sit through it, but uh... I can sit still, I'm sitting here still. Buzzard's not that accessible, but I'm obsessed with buzzard right now, I love it. I love buzzard. But anyways, cinematics, I finally am doing a show that doesn't say fuck or cock. Or did? You won't swear.

Why are you doing it all in my show, then? I don't swear in my show. Yeah, you fucking do. Sometimes, but... I'm doing a clean show that parents can let's do with the show, then I don't swear on my show? Yeah, you fucking do. Sometimes, but I'm doing it square. I'm doing a clean show that parents can let's do with the kids in the car, they can keep up on movies. And I think that's so smart, because a lot of people are over on movies.

Yeah. Dude, don't get all your cursing out on my show, your profanity, because don't use me for that. So thank you, Cinematics Film Vault, which we cussed up a storm, and the after zester, which is, if iTunes actually took a listen, they'd probably pull it off. It's filthy Yeah, and we go down

We should it We did the blacker disaster where we had a bunch of black dudes on because people call us racist and then we presented them with Black dudes coming and like they let us know that yeah, man, that might be racist. You shouldn't say that Oh my god some good stuff on the Afrozester like they let us know that, yeah, man, that might be racist. You shouldn't say that. Oh my God. Some good stuff on the afters after. I should have loved.

I said 30 seconds. That was three minutes. I love it. We're on. We talk about sex on their social media. No, it's fine. People want sex. They want pog.

I think I think we're talking to podcast listeners, right? You guys are smart. You're ahead of the curve. Right. It's true. It's all about podcast now. It's true. I was ahead of the curve.

You still have a conversation on a weekly basis, like people say, yes, what are you doing? You have to podcast and they do that dog thing where their head tilts. Yeah, oh, every day. I mean, since I grab their phone, I'm like, do you know? I'm like, okay, so do you go to iTunes? You know how you download a song? Real easy.

This is like that, but it's free. It's free. And it's on your phone. What on my phone? And then I grab their phone, and then I search for like the podcast app, usually if they have an iPhone or if they have an Android, what do you do in the Android? I don't know, I can't understand it at all. So then. Another rocks paper scissors

all get together. I'm just telling you just search podcast at your phone and then they're all there. There's like hundreds of thousands of them and I want to thank you all because out of the hundred thousand podcasts last week my number 32 overall. Oh look at that. And that number one in health for the long because it's always towards the top. Number one in health number one in sex. Oh and if you listen to the show, this is just a big commercial or no, but it's cool if you listen, that you go to iTunes and where you can rate it,

you rate it. That helps to get up to 32. That helps us. Yeah, give us five stars. Or one. If you don't like it, don't rate us. Okay. You got like a perfect five star right there, right?

Well, you know what, I had some dark years. I'm doing this for 10 years. I, we were talking about this earlier that in everything that you do in life, I think we learn from our mistakes. And I started this out as like, I'm just gonna do pie. I really want to help people better, I want to better sex, I was gonna do noble. Very pure.

But then I realized I loved it so much. And it was doing well, and I thought I could make a living out of it, but I didn't know how to do the number, so I like one time I charged for it. Oh, that's that'll give you one stars. And people were like, don't charge for your buy. I didn't know I was trying to make a living and then people were like, you have too many ads for a while.

So now I'm trying to like not of it. I'm sorry you guys, it's only because I forget love my show and I. Only waiting for you to continue. And I didn't do that. I don't do it. So people were pissed about the ad, like sometimes you read the things like too many ads.

Don't read the things. I don't read them. I mean, I will read them if you write something really nice. Okay. But yeah, it's pretty thick four and a half. Or you'll read an email on air if they send a good email. Oh yeah, totally. Feedbackatsex.com.

That's it. Yeah, that's good. Feedback, that's where you get these, I read them all. Okay, I've got Stanley. I know, it's killing killing me. I hear my nose. I love him. Okay. I'm getting a dog though I heard you just keep his name. I'm getting a dog in two days Pepe Yeah, I know I know I know the dog though don't be mad because he does look exactly like Stanley like identical And that my friend Charlotte as you know is a vet and she's been at a shelter And she's been looking for a dog for me and so yeah, it looks like Stanley. Like identical and that my friend Charlotte, as you know, is a vet and she's been at a shelter and she's been looking for a dog for me.

And so yeah, it looks like Stanley. I'm really sorry. I'm like, single white female. Yeah, you're a single white dog. Okay. Hey, Emily, I'm a massive fan of your show. I've listened to every podcast. I've been dating a guy for six months and I'm his first for sex. He went down a few girls, but he's never had sex because he was so self-conscious of his penis. I've had quite a few sexual encounters, and I sometimes show my sexual rough side, which he hates. He says it makes him feel like that's how I would have been with other guys. I get that he's self-conscious, and I try to respect this, but he is brought up a few times,

and it makes me look slutty, which makes me feel ashamed. What should I do? Thanks for your help already, love Ebony. Oh, Ebony. So this is interesting, Anderson. Did you get the scenario here? So she's with a guy and Ebony's got experience with Matt. Right, he's, he's.

And he's like, you're like slut or like, why do you? If you do something that's like a move that I don't know, because I'm new at sex, I think of all that. He can't get the image of her having sex with other men out of his head and he's got a penis issue. So there's a lot of that I don't know because I'm new at sex. I think of all that. He can't get the image of her having sex with other men out of his head and he's got a penis issue. So there's a lot when I'm right back at him with like, I can't get the image of your face buried and a girl's muff out of my head.

That's true. She could do that. While your penis was being laughed at. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha Right? No, that's not why. Because he's self-conscious about his way of life. He is self-conscious. So this is manifesting a lot of ways. So I'm sorry. Okay, so listen, Ebony, I think you're in the right here because you've nothing to be ashamed of and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. This has been a very common trend among younger guys lately.

Like, he's ashamed of his lack of experience. And he lashes out to you to make you feel bad and that's not okay. Not okay. And he's got negative feelings about his own experience, his own penis, whatever it is, and it's coming to light. And you have the opportunity to schedule what?

He said coming to light. Coming to light. Coming to light. Stop it Emily, don't make that sound effect with your mouth. You have that sound effect, Daniel. Yeah, I do, I'm not gonna play. You have an opportunity to listen.

You gotta educate this guy. I mean, I can't guarantee you that he's gonna listen, but you could try. But she's in a, if she tries to, he's gonna be like, how do you know? Slut, you know what I mean? Well, let's hope he can break the slutshaming, but if you really like him, it is where the try.

Tell him how it makes you feel when he says these things. You don't wanna attack him. Be like, when you say those things, it's judgmental and it makes me feel like you're not being open and sexually, like you're not being open sexually, you're not accepting me for my past. And you understand that maybe he has that the same experiences as you,

but that's a normal part of sex that you learn what you like. And that's how you understand your body and you grow as a lover. And that's all part of sex. And most importantly, you take what you like and that's how you understand your body and you grow as a lover and that's all part of sex. So most importantly, you take what you learn from sexual experience in the past and you bring it into the future. And that's what's going to happen to him, but since you're his first partner, he has nothing

to compare it to. Right. Plus, we don't know. Ebony might be going just hog wild and insane. You know what I mean? Like riding him and flipping over and that going gag doing like this daddy. I mean, she might be going insane and that we know Well, you know what then she's not with the right partner That's true

What are you going to say since she wants it rough sometimes she wants to be spanked Let's say yeah, and he's like oh you do the other guys That's his own head. That's his mind F if you will and you know if you want any more aggressive bad That's what you like don't apologize for it You're just mind happy with the right lover if you try to break this down for him He has to understand that sex, I mean, it is interesting. It's about both parties being fulfilled.

It's not about his own psychoanalysis of what she's done with. And this is ego and jealousy. Yes, exactly. That's what it is at its core. And... And he's not respecting her either. I wonder if maybe just like,

if she give him like a week in a, at Hoff's, Hoff's bunny ranch or something, maybe kind of catch up. No, no, no. Come back after doing a couple hookers. Doing some herbal Viagra, like some random hookers. I mean, come back. I'm caught up to you experience wise.

No, let's do this. No. No. No good. No, no, no. I mean, I think, I mean, here's how some guys would say, like, wow, cool. You've got experience.

Like, let me try to learn from you. Like, I mean, here's how some guys would say like, wow, cool, you've got experience. Like, let me try to learn from you. Like, that's one way he could take this scenario. Yeah, that's a very mature one. Or he could find a partner who's less experienced and learn with them, but no matter what, like slut-shaming never accept all for boyfriend to do. Absolutely.

He has to work on his own insecurities and he cannot attack you for knowing what you know and knowing what you want. What a turn-off is this, dude. I know, I'm like so turned off too turnoff. If you can't, I know. I'm like so turned off too, because it's like, how is she gonna grow as a sexual and wrong woman if he's repressing her and compressing her?

I do. The callback. Callback. I do kind of understand. I don't call back enough. I have no, callback is cheap and it's a little hanging fruit and you should not do too much. I'm sorry to be so judgmental with that.

I'm sorry. Yeah. I got I got I got it. I get it. But um, yeah, I've kind of been in his situation because I've been the jealous guy and I've got a lot of shame about that and I look back on it with with horror and I cringe and a few relationships where I have in the jealous guy. But I think she needs to make him understand that every sexual relationship between two people is different. And it's just because I like this, I like this with you. It doesn't mean that I liked it with, because it's gonna be hard for the guy. If he's jealous and he's got his ego wrapped up

when she says pull my hair to, especially if you don't. How'd you learn that? Who did that? There's a good chance of this guy has seen who banged her before too, right? Walk in the streets, maybe in the same class, you know, same, you know. So it's hard. It's hard to get that guy out of your head. It is really hard. I mean, that's the thing.

And so if you don't see any movement on this, you know, and this guy is not letting you be the sexual being that you are, then it's not going to be the right relationship. I'm up with something that you've never done with anyone else. And be true about it and say, Hey, look, we've never done this with anyone. Or have, yeah, what's your fantasy? What do you want to try? You seem like pretty open-ended.

Maybe he wants to try something too. Maybe he wants his ass slapped. Maybe he wants pegged. Maybe he wants to get pegged. He can get the fire protects pearl. Peg his ass. Peg his ass. Yep.

Okay. Have any Pegasus? Peg it. Okay, have any. Good luck with that. Keep it posted. People should keep it posted. I want to know what happens. Keep it posted, People should keep me posted. I wanna know what happens.

Keep me posted, says that. A bit of a lot of work. I know. All your questions, all your nails. Okay, so this one's about a backdoor obsession, but don't worry, we're not gonna get into acidity again. I've been waiting for you to say that. I'm 21 years old, and there's a lot of pressure

from guys these days to do anal. I'm not into it. I've never tried it, but I feel like if I don't do it with my generation and Tinder and everything that I will miss out on dating, any advice Morgan from Twitter. Is that how? Yeah, because Tinder is just like

pressuring people to have anal all over the place. I can date successfully unless I give up the ass. Is that really where we're at? Yeah. Is that where it's gone? Oh, dude. Well, I had a long talk with the office because everyone's, you know, in there like 20s and 20s and they were just, you know, that they were saying that a lot

of women do feel bad about things they don't want to do in bed and it just feels like anal is acceptable. And I'm telling you, when I went to school, like when I was in high school, anal sex wasn't even on the menu. It wasn't even on the radar. Like, I would have been shocked if someone was like, let's have anal. And about 10 years ago, when I started a podcast, it was when it really started to become the hot thing that everyone to try. And now it's like squirting and pegging. And it was like, of course, you do anal. But here's the thing, Morgan. A big reason for the spike in the popularity is porn, of course. And I also think it's seen as taboo, which is like thrilling and sexually

exciting for men and women. And a lot of guys see this like a gift like you're gonna give me your butt. It's gonna hold a conqueror. I can tell you this though. It's way less taboo now than it was like twenty years ago. Right. But this is still vanilla. What's becoming vanilla? But what I'm saying is it's very confusing because she feels like what if I don't want to do it yet? These guys aren't going to like me, these Tinder guys. Fuck the Tinder guys. Exactly. Look at that. Yep.

Are they asking you before they're like, hey, are you up for anal? You up for a, you know, is just a kind of like emoji. I didn't realize as a prerequisite for Tinder at all. A prerequisite for dating, but listen, you stick to your guns and you stick to your butt doing whatever you want in an out of it. Hold yourself to a higher standard.

Exactly. So I feel for you and there is a lot of pressure now. It is true that everyone assumes that you even hear about girls having anal so it's like they're still virgins. Yeah, that's a lot of fun. That's the Catholic succane event. Yeah, I know. And it's unfair that you feel like you should have to do things in the bedroom in order to be considered like a sex partner. So don't do anything you don't want to do. And it doesn't mean that you're closed off to it, but maybe you're just not ready right now.

So it's still not an everyday sexual thing, despite what most men think. It's risky. You can lean to diseases, anal tearing, serious injury when it's done incorrectly, or with an inexperienced partner. So you want to be with someone that you care about, that you love, or that you really like and that you trust. So don't give in to the hype and the pressure. Because you know, you just want to make sure that you're doing it with someone who makes you feel safe. And I'm not saying anal sex, a lot of people love it. It can be safe. And if you're doing it right and it's pleasurable and some women really enjoy it. But it's

okay to say no. And I just I just want you to feel like men, and also here's the other thing, not every guy wants anal sex. They don't. I've been only a lot to, but for the most part, if you're good enough and you have enough self-esteem in yourself, what's your name? My her name is Morgan.

Morgan, my name, hi, name for a girl. Yeah. You're gonna be, it's not gonna be a deal killer. What's her name? Her name is Morgan. Morgan, my name. Hi, name for a girl. It's not gonna be a deal killer. If you have something to offer, and you know what, a lot of the time it's a deal killer the other way. Like a guy, once he gets you in the ass, he's like, all right, she's not married material.

She's not like a woman. It's so true. I can't look at her husband, but they'll look at you a little bit differently. Like, oh yeah, she's the type that'll take it in the ass. Right. So hold yourself up to a higher. Wait till you're with someone that you really, that you feel comfortable with, that you feel like you oh yeah, she's the type that'll take it in the ass. Right. So hold yourself up to a higher. Wait till you're with someone that you really, that you feel comfort with, that you feel

like you can trust and that you really like and that you've been with for a while. And you know what? Maybe you'll want to, but you know what? You might not want to. You might want to for 10 years. You might not want to for a year. You might meet someone next week, but just be open to it. But don't ever do it unless you're ready.

I mean, be open to it like that one day it could happen, but right now it's okay that you don't. I wonder how many girls are crying and getting pegged right now, just like you have to. So many women do things. That's the way they give out the brick and blow my friend called Tinder a blowjob to Spencer. He's like, every girl gives me a blowjob.

But then you got the friend that you go to like the Jewish jelly with who has like the full rainbow of Dicks on her phone. Oh, no, the Dicks heck. So I mean, it can work both ways, but totally it can work both ways, but I just don't like that these girls and guys, I guess they're being pressured into all this and it hurts me. I just think of my nieces. Maybe I'm getting old and I got sisters and a mom to actually know whatever I probably would have pissed me off even more when I was younger, but there's the girls and she's a more than a perfect example. They feel like they have to be porn

stars just to just to be in the game. And that should not be the case. I mean, I feel like, I mean, the last year's movies were more feminine, dominant than ever before. Right. Yet we got Morgan's thinking that they have to give up the ass to date on Tinder. Right. Morgan, I want you to spend more time masturbating and figuring out what makes you feel good.

And then you'll know your own body and then you'll start to enjoy sex more. What happened? You guys were burning bras 50 years ago now and now look at you. I know. With a success way. Giving your ass away on Tinder. I don't give your ass away. You're totally fine. I think more women need to hear this message that they should never ever do anything they don't want to do. So that's what we got time for. Nice.

I know. This is fun, Anderson. And everyone, I'll see you on March 10th at the Hollywood Improv Thursday. And I got some other events coming up too, but I can't think of it there at this moment. But just check out my website. And, yeah, five, oh, follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. It's all at Sex with Emily and on Snapchat. Facebook.com is a Sex with Emily. And, yeah, Anderson, you can find you at Anderson Cowan, all your stuff.

Yeah, and you know what, in the interim, when you put me on the spot and asked me for a movie off Amazon, prime, if you remember. I am a member. There's some really good ones. Wolf Wall Street from last year with Leo. Oh, I saw that. That's on there.

A great movie called Wilder Young with Adam Driver. Oh, I'm gonna bet, I love him. I won't say it too. Okay, we'll watch it tonight. And ex-Machina is also awesome. For tomorrow, okay, thank you. Thank you. Appreciate it. Okay, we'll watch tonight. And ex-Mockin' us also awesome. Tomorrow. Okay, thank you. Appreciate it.

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