Sex With Emily - Married Sex vs. Single Sex with Lynette Carolla

Episode Date: March 21, 2015

When it comes to married sex versus single sex, is the grass really greener on the single side? In this show, Emily welcomes Lynette Carolla, the host of the hilarious podcast For Crying Out Loud, not to mention wife and mother of two. She and Emily swap stories from their very different dating lives, and Lynette shares her candid opinions on sex, marriage and single-person envy. Plus, after 20 years with the same man, Lynette knows a little something about keeping the sex hot, and is ready to share her wisdom. From her relationship with well-known podcaster Adam Carolla to her personal secret for marital bliss, Lynette holds nothing back.Whether you’re single, married or stuck somewhere in between, stop wondering if the grass is greener and start putting in the effort to help it grow! This show has the advice you need to get started.. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we've got Lynette Corolla in the studio. She's hosted the hilarious and popular podcast for Crying Out Loud. She's a wife and mother of two and her podcast covers a lot of these issues in a very light informal way. Today we're talking about how to keep sex alive in a long-term relationship, marriage, sex tips, and so much more and read some of your emails. So thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Okay guys, you know, I love Sex toys. And I also like jewelry, probably like most of them you know. And I've been obsessed with my gorgeous vibrator necklace.

It's the Vesper by Crave. You've heard me talking about it for probably a few months now. And it's really funny because I wear it every day because I just actually, I forget some of this vibrator because I just like it right minus you. It's cool. It's like a piece of jewelry. Yeah, it looks like one of those pens,

like a silver pen, the necklace that people would wear. Yeah, it's a good layering piece. It's long, and I gave it to my girlfriend, who's a stylist, like, to the stars and stuff. And she's like Miss L.A. goes to all the clubs every night, and I mean, just the best memory ever, because she texts me every week night and goes, what's the name of it again?

I remember all my 15 girls wanted. It's then before anyone even knows what it is, it's cool looking and it happens to be a vibrator. And I get compliments, like I said, all the time for people to know. And it comes in silver, gold, rose gold, it's slender, it looks like a pen and a long chain. And I wish I could gift them to all of you. I actually want to give everyone I know one cuz it's so pretty cool and But honestly you should get some for any special woman in your life or buy for yourself cuz it's that awesome

And it's a perfect gift. It's like jewelry and orgasms. Can you tell me? I know you think Louis Vuitton bags, but Julian orgasms Why sell bags now? I'm off Louis. Okay. Why is. It's all about YSL, you're right. So, find one woman on the planet who would turn down this necklace. You would not. It's rechargeable at any USB port, which is like one of my favorite parts of it after the orgasms. Oh, my friend, the stylist, I gave it to, she went home and masturbated with it.

She's like, I had six orgasms. It's strong. It's a real fun vibrator, you know, TMI, but people tell me everything. And the charge less forever, it's, I've had mine for five months, I've charged it once for 10 minutes. So check it out, it's elegance, it's stylish, it's orgasms, go to love crave.com.

And check it, check it. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our secret institutions. Bit rumised they call them a bi-gon day. Hey, Abelene, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand.

Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrinks. And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I'm off here so I'm gone.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. You can check out all of our podcasts, Center for a mailing list, and do all that fun stuff. And we're so happy to hear you. And I just want to thank everyone for listening. You know, I'm just being very heart-felt lately minus because we are coming up at our 10th year. Wow, 10 years. And I just feel like I've been just doing a lot of thinking about that and how grateful I am that I have listeners and that I that people like the show and that it's continued and we can like the living. How do I put up with you for 10 years? I do not know. I can't decide if you'd like me more or less. I think we're just like brother and sister. But I know. I so I want to shout out. I got somebody on Twitter. I think we're just like brother and sister, but I know. I know. So I want to shout out. I got somebody on Twitter.

I think his name's chair on Twitter. OK. Says that he loves me on the show. So thank you for tweeting me. I'm just saying that you love me on the show. Thank you for loving me on the show. And he called you M, which I, that's what I keep you in my phone as. M. You do?

Anybody ever wants you while wants your phone number and they find my phone, you're under M. Okay, good to know. Blood make my friends call me M. Yeah. You've always had me as M like our new mother. Yeah, just M, that's it. Oh, okay, I feel like that's a term of a deerment.

That's my friends call me M. Yeah. And so you're all my buddies. So when you email me, you can be like, deer M, people do that sometimes. It makes me feel good and warm and fuzzy. So it's great to see you and I want to tell you today's show I'm really excited. We have a It makes me feel good and warm and fuzzy. So it's great to see you. And I want to tell you, menace, today's show I'm really excited.

We have a great guest, Lynette Corolla is here. And the husband of Adam, Corolla, people of her. I don't think she's the husband. Husband, wife. I think she's the wife. She's the wife, actually. She's what she's beautiful. She's walked in.

OK, but I want to tell you, menace, that I'm glad we're here because I had two near-death experiences in one week. What? What happened? Dude, well first I walked on fire. I was in Las Vegas. I mean, Las Vegas. You were probably in Las Vegas. I was in, of course. I was in New York. I went to a Tony Robbins seminar. Do you know Tony

Robbins? Yes. Okay. I've always wanted to go because I have a lot of friends who've been very successful in business and like the minute before they went on to make a $GoBillion and be successful and I saw them change a lot by what. And I know people would be like, oh, motivation. It really moved. It was four days, 12 hours a day. But the first night you walk across Hot Coals.

Are you serious? I swear to God and you put it like, he puts you in this. I mean, his whole thing is about not just like positive mindset or motivation. It's about changing your state and how if we change the way like our body has so much our like our motions create our emotions and it was all this stuff. So he trained like to go on fire and to walk like you say this

thing and you like stand up straight and you breathe. We did a meditation. I walked across fire. Wow. And it was really cool. The place you got on tape somewhere. I know, but it was dark and cold and snowy. It was like, it was like, it was 7,000 people in the conference. Wow.

But I was like the first 10 rows. So it was, it was pretty cool. I walked the fire. That's amazing. I know. Isn't that cool? Yeah. I know. It's like, Julie's like, you definitely, you did what? That's crazy because he's like, loves to death.

Everything that I do. I'm like, no, it was, it was life changing, life altering, because before you walked on the fire, you had to give up something. Like you had to find something that you want to work on. It was a really deep, intensive, like emotional self-help stuff. And it was like, you know, what do you want to give up

in your life? What do you want to change, what's something you're struggling with? And you picked up, you picked something easy, like knocking married or something like that, right? No, ironically, menace. Thank you for saying that. Is that I, it's funny, because it was one of these things where I usually hate this, like turn to the person next to you

and tell him what you're saying. I'm like, I don't know you. But this woman next to me was like a life coach too, not too, I'm not a life coach. But she was like self-hab, and she totally got my jam. And she was like, and I said something like, I can't, I don't know what it was. I'm like, well, I kind of feel like I can't really commit.

And I've got, I don't remember what, it wasn't strong enough. She goes, and then she kept pushing me. She goes, I don't believe you. I don't believe it or thing. And then all of a sudden, I thought, you know, I've had really hard time getting vulnerable. And I need, I mean, did it any of me on this,

but I was like, I'm, because we were gonna release something when you walked across the fire. So I released the fact that I never vulnerable, and I'm going to learn to be more vulnerable. So I might start crying. On the show today? No, I'm kidding.

Hopefully not. I'm not feeling it right now, but I'm saying that's, and it just inspired me. Well, I made you cry. So before the show started, I'm gonna go a little insight. Before the show started, Emily said, oh, I listened to podcasts that we did in 2011.

And we were much more funnier than. But I, and I think there were more funnier than because I would make fun of you. But then you would cry and say that I was a queen. I never cried. It was only when we had guests or we were shooting our Bravo show. And men was like, Bravo is here.

I'm going to really trash you. And it was like things you never said to me and it was rude. And I never cried. Oh, you always called me out on that saying that I played up. Whenever you did play it with the cameras, which worked because they loved you and put your freeing up a so he trashed me. So they're like, oh, it's reality TV.

We need some ground. But I did that on. I'm not saying you're fun. You're in bed. Actually, you heard the right. I said it was interesting because, OK, we've got 2,500 podcasts500 podcasts and that's a lot and there's a lot of them that aren't on iTunes. You can go now. There's 200 and something but they give you a limit as they should. And so people can download it but I thought, God, some of these are really, we used

to do five days a week and hour a day. And 2011, they were pretty awesome and I was just laughing and it wasn't so much that they were funnier. I didn't say that. I just said it was, we were both at different times in our life and it was, I was single, it wasn't so much that they were funnier. I didn't say that. I just said it was, we were both at different times in our life. And I was single, you were sitting, I'm always single. But you were single, we were like, doing more social things. I don't know. I know where it is.

But anyway, check out those throwbacks because I'm releasing them now and they're funny. They're like, I don't know, they're interesting. I don't think we're more adult. I guess. I don't. I mean, I don't feel like I'm adult, but I. Yeah, I neither.

But we have the guess. We do the guess. Lynetteette Luna Coral is here. We already talked about you. Can I just sit? Thank you. Hi, I'm nice to see you too. I'm so happy to be here But can I just say menace you are cannot be further from a menace? Oh She's a show she love it. I'm a I'm a huge fan. I listen to the show all the time. Should I put the headphones on? Sure. And I just, I couldn't, I didn't, podcast one. I've never been here. It's amazing.

Right. Wow, these things are squeezing it. I know, you can do it. Yeah. You can show the ones if you want. No, these are fine. I just didn't, I just didn't, I didn't know what to expect. And I, Manus does not.

Well, how did you picture him? I thought, I pictured him that age. You're, you seen young, you look young. Yeah. Yeah, you're as young as he used to be. I know, right? I know. But more like, that's kidding. Like tattoos or something.

Oh. Oh, metasing. Yeah. Oh yeah, that's the name. Right. That's Manis. He's like kind of a god of truth to me, by the way. We were just talking.

This is funny. Okay. You want me to explain it? Yeah, go ahead. Actually, I don't know if you know this, but there's this guy named Adam Kurola, right? No, no, no. No, no. So we worked for this company called CBS and we launched a bunch of radio stations called

Free FM and there are talk stations. Right. In 2006. In 2006. And I was working on the station, and Emily was doing a podcast. So it was very popular at night tunes. And the bosses there were like, we should put this girl on air

even though she has zero broadcast experience. Never been in a radio station in my life. But you were podcasting. I know, it's a podcast. It's a scene. It's a scene, right? No, no, no. There's a different thing.

I guess. Like you can't say masturbation every five minutes. You can't say cock,? No, no, no, no. There's a different thing. There's a different thing. I'm like, you can't say masturbation every five minutes. You can't say cock, you know? Yeah, like jerking off and all that. Right, right. And so they're like, hey, you know, can you look after, you know, this woman that wants to do the work board and make sure, you know,

she doesn't get the license taken away. And then, which I would have a hard time every five seconds and have to dump her out when she would say, I can't say blowjob on there. I would say it on there. She would say it on the air. Why are you dumping me? I can't say blowjob so she would say it twice.

I would like to literally look for your life miserable. This is the first month or two. First, whatever. So that's how we left that pretty year. It was really cool because I started the hard cast. I know, 2006, and he was like a young was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like,

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I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like last forever. What morning show? It was called the doghouse morning show in San Francisco. Okay, but Adam was on. Uh, free of em. Free of free. The morning show every day. Yeah, yeah. He was indicated every city. I was just in San Francisco. So it's Saturday nights 11 to 2. So, okay. So what happened was I thought, you know, I was the young kid. I thought morning shows last forever. I wish they don't. And I got fired. And then I didn't save any of my money. And I got that job at CBS where I was working part-time making no money so it's like sleep at the

I'm just think because I'm impressed by how he's the hardest work I know anyway that's how we might so and we didn't talk the morning so we didn't talk the first few years because we just did the radio and then we came friends and then just been eight years that I know you make it very nice. Thank you. This Adam guy you guys keep. You guys. I love. I'm so glad that you've been and I've been your show for crying out loud. We talked about your podcast. Yeah. People can find it. Adam Corolla dot com. Is that where you send them? Yeah. You just go to Adam Corolla dot com and you look at the other shows and it's up there for crime. Just click on for crying out loud. Okay. Yeah. Cool. So what's it all about? Everything. Well, it's my co-host is Stephanie Wildertailer.

She was sort of like the first mommy blogger that was like drinking and getting drunk at like nap time. And one of her first book was the best-selling book was Cippy Cups or Not for Shardinay. And she's just a funny author you know, author, writes books. She has a new book coming out, gummy bear or something, she's gonna kill me, oh my God. But she's great and we got together

and Adam, you know, was doing his shows and we were sort of building a network. And so we talk about, you know, most of the time, I mean, not most of the time, but we try to keep it like family family except for when I came behind That's part of it though. We talk about relationships and marriages and you know, we talk about everything You know kids and and other people's marriages and relationships You're really open to and it's very like relax and gives you know good advice and talk about your share your experiences

Where I think y'all learn from each other right right right yeah. Right. Yeah. So it's a good time. Yeah. And so I was on her show, actually, actually, and that show. And we had to have you feel to it. You made it filthy. I did make it filthy. Yeah. Our show, she spots it. Yeah. We, we, we go, you know, we go filthy sometimes. But yeah, no, I wanted Emily on our show because she's done what she's with love line, you know Drew and and I just thought she was you know he moved out here from San Francisco and it's just

like she's just a you know interesting person I just like talking I know well I also like talking about sex to that's good well that's why you're here for I mean 20 years with the same person I know okay we we talk about that? Yeah. We can talk. We can just get into it. Yeah. 20 years. 20 years. About 20 years coming in December. OK. Well, yeah. So with that, well, we broke up, I mean, for about a almost a year.

OK. My heart was broken. Before you got married. Before, well, we got engaged. And we got engaged. And it was because I wanted to get engaged. And it was right when he started doing man, it was right when you at the height of the man show. And he'd never experienced, and I met him before, I met him right before, right three months into

love line is when I met him. Oh, okay. So he's still living in apartments, still living, driving his crappy car and all that kind of stuff. And we worked together then. And then as he got, as we went on, he got successful. And he wanted to see what life was like, like, as a single guy. And I was like, let's get married. Let's get married. It's been, you know, four years now. And even Jimmy Kimmel, his best friend, who was married at the time and had two small children was you know he's a big family guy Jimmy Kimmel so Jimmy was telling him like what's going on when you get married and then drew his other part is like so like so he's

in between two family guys and I'm like yeah and I'm because I'm like best friends with Mrs. Kimmel and Mrs. Drew and you know like family let's get married and even Jimmy's wife found the wedding ring that I still wear to this date. Actually, I'm not wearing it right now. It broke, but I got out of a gumball machine, but that was the point of my money. Yeah, it's the point of my money.

And anyway, so they kind of, he got pushed into it. And so we got engaged, but he wasn't ready. And then I came home from work one night. We lived together in the same house. And I remember Van Hanglin was playing on the K-Las. I used to remember. I remember. And I walked in.

And he opened, I was fumbling with the lock. And he opened the door for me. And he just started crying. And I was like, what's the matter? And he said, I can't. I can't. I can't get married. He just went on a trip with Drew. And he was talking to Drew about it. And Drew said, you have, I can't, I can't, I can't get married. He just went on a trip with Drew.

And he was talking to Drew about it. And Drew said, you have to let her go. You can't, because, you know, juggies are throwing themselves at them. Yeah. At the time. They had a big question. How old was he at the time?

He was like 36 or something. Yeah. And it's a huge television show. Oh, yeah. Big at the time. And he was, and he was a, you. And he listened. He was a contractor. He didn't get famous until he was 31. And he didn't experience anything as a single god.

So he was, because he was just, so. He wasn't getting laid. He wasn't getting laid. Right. I mean, he was getting laid by me. But before you, he hadn't been laid by me. Right. He wasn't a lady man.

He was like, you get on TV. It's like, right. You see, like, every night. But he was not a lady's man. He always had just one girlfriend at a time kind of thing. So Drew said, you got to let her go, dude, you can't. You're going to this. She's too, you know, you don't do this to her. And he came home from that trip with Drew and he started crying. And he said, I got to, and I started, I was like, on the floor, like, I feel like I'm gonna throw up. That kind of slight just,

coming out of your desk. Yeah, just couldn't, I remember I went over to Jimmy's house. I couldn't sleep in the house that night, and I went over to Jimmy's house, and Gina was hugging, and I was crying, and I'll never forget Jimmy walked in, and he was like, I'm sorry, he didn't know what to say. He was like, I'm just a sweet heart, he goes, I'm sorry, and then was like, I'm sorry. He didn't know what to say. He was like, I'm sorry.

He goes, I'm sorry. And then he goes, and then two days later, I was still on the couch crying upset. Like, it's just, I was a mess for a long time. And I stayed at Gina and Jimmy's house for a while on their couch and with cousin Sal. And Jimmy came in one night and he goes, ah, you're still with the crying and he's like,

listen Lynette, he's not that great. He's like, I'll never forget. Magic words, he's not that great. That is so funny. All of a sudden I snapped at it. You're like, you're right, you're right, you're right. And then, how long what happened? Did you start dating?

It's about nine months. I got my own place, I moved and I never lived by myself. I always had a roommate. So it was a whole new thing. Gina Kimmel helped me throughout the whole thing She's God bless her and I started loving being in my own place Working at ABC network. I was coming home after work my friends my girlfriends were coming over We were doing bond loads watching survivor So much fun.

That's so fun. But then what did he circle back? Oh, did you not talk for those nine months? No, he always had his, he always, he kept in touch. He kept in touch a little like he would call and say, do you need one of my guys to come over and install the shelves in your room or whatever? He always kept.

Yeah. And then around nine months to a year, he started to come back around and he'd say, on a Friday night, he would say, do you want to come pick up food and come over and we'll watch Boy Meets World together? Because that's what we used to do. Right.

And then I'm like, I do. What's going on? Are we going to do you want to get married? And he said, yeah, eventually I do. And then we never talked about marriage again, after that for a long time. And then like three or four years later, when the man show ended, he said, you know what, I think it's time, we start planning.

Well, I said, hey, what's going on? All right, you know, man show's ending, whole news world. And he said, yeah, all right, let's start planning winning. And he was the best thing that ever happened to it. Because he kind of came to it on his own. And he came to it on his right, let's start planning winning. And he was the best thing that ever happened to it. Because he kind of came to it on his own. And he came to it on his own. Nobody pushed him into it. He went and experienced life as a single guy.

He dated a model. I know he dated a model. He dated a model. And he experienced it. But he always kept in touch with me. And then, if he did what he had to do. Which was the best thing. But if you told a broken hearted lanette back in 1999,

I wouldn't, I mean, I was coming out of my skin crying. My boss would have comedy central on in his office, so I'd go in his office to cry, and it would be like, man, show Monday night. Oh, my God. That's so weird. Oh, my God. Oh, man. Anyway, so that's it.

But you went on and had you date too. I must say yes. And I hated everybody. I didn't. I know. Because you just love them. Well, here I am 20 years later. OK.

Now I'm thinking, wow. What was I so excited about? What was I so excited about? I was like, yeah, do you know what I'm saying? I know. I should have taken advantage. I mean, I dated a couple. I didn't really like.

I didn't know. Your heart was. My heart was still broken. Right. But listen, here dated a couple. I didn't really like, no, no. Your heart was, my heart was still broken. Right. But listen, here's the thing. The good news is that we love each other, and we're still, I think, the biggest thing, I think we talked about this maybe when you were on my show, but the biggest thing I think is important,

is that we're attracted to each other. That is huge. That brings everything, because even if you're mad at the person and you're like, it's been, you know, just in this funk or whatever, there'll be a time where he walks by or she walks by and they're like, oh, it's, let's get it on. And then you get it on and you start to feel connected again. Exactly. That's what that is really important.

I always tell couples if you don't, people are like, oh, it's very common for couples to be like, we're not trying to do it to each other anymore. We can't really, we're not having sex. I'm like, well, did you have it at the beginning? And there's a lot of couples who say, no, we never did. I'm like, well, then, does that thing get back? But if you have it and you maintain it,

and you prioritize it, you're good. You got the attraction. Because you need the attraction. You need it. And he's my type, he was always my type. And what is that like type? Like just tall, first of all, extremely intelligent, you know, funny, all girls say that. Right, I'll say tall, funny.

Yeah, I know. But just I like that Jew. I thought he was Jewish. I'm full-blooded Italian. I thought he was Jewish. Name's Adam, he had a Jew fro. I got a Jew-ish for like a week. And he's like, no, I'm not Jew. I'm a blooded Italian. I thought he was Jewish. Name's Adam, he had a Jew fro. I've been Jewish for like a week. And he's like, no, I'm not Jew.

I'm a little Italian. And I was like, oh, really? I was let down. But yeah, so that's the thing. You gotta be, you have to be a tri. So we were attracted to each other then, you know, still track attractively. That's good.

But keeping it like, do you guys make efforts to, you know, keep that up? I mean, we do. But keeping it like, do you guys make efforts to keep it up? Yeah. I mean, we do. And he knows that, obviously, by working next to Drew for 12 years on Love Line, he knows what you have to do. So he'll say, if it's been a while, he'll say you want to go on date night, you know, Saturday night.

Let's go make reservations for Morton's, take out, or whatever. It's important that you have two kids. Yeah. And I never turn down a blowjob ever really always that was like my thing. I could I believe I'm saying this No, it's fine. It's killing me. Yeah, I've never yeah never turned it down Meaning he offers you his penis and you never say no thanks. Well, yeah Thanks all of the sake all the steak Yeah, and I've always I don't know No thanks. Well, yeah. She. Right. No thanks. All of the steak. Yeah.

I've always, I don't know. No, that's good. I feel the same way. I mean, I haven't been in a long-term, well, two or two enough years. She never even lived with the guy. I never wanted to. No, I kind of, I can envy you.

Listen. You don't, I'm envious of that. I know. I know. It's like I go back and forth, but it's true. I feel like we used to joke years about how you get married and there goes your last blowjob. You know, everyone jokes. It's like I go back and forth, but it's true. I feel like we used to joke years ago about how you get married and there goes your last blowjob, you know, everyone jokes about it. And I think you have to.

You have to. You keep it bringing blowjob. You have the sex. It's like, I always say it's like going to the, yeah, I've said this so much lately, but I'm like, it's like going to the gym. Like sometimes it's harder or even the sex thing. Blow jobs, I agree. You should do it.

And guys should also go down on their partners. Yeah. But for the way. You should just, I mean, how long? 10 minutes, I know it's so much better than the rejection of it and the rejection of it's bad. Yes, it's bad.

It's not good for a guy. You can't, I don't know. I just feel like you can't reject. Exactly. I totally agree. Because I was, go ahead, because I have to find another now. It's just not about blow jobs,

but being together for. He hasn't had one in a long time. Please. So I have an example from last night, and I want to ask you, since you've been married 20 years, and how do you deal with, maybe things that your partner does that irritate you? Yeah.

Oh, yeah. So my girlfriend is never on time, ever. All right? So I said, we were going to this, like, really exclusive, like, food fire show last night. Oh, wow. And, uh, You need this, Quista.

And I was like, yeah, we had to be there at 5.30. Right. And it's like seven minutes from our house. She goes, okay, okay, I was like, we have to be there at 5.30. And of course, This is a huge issue in relationship. Yeah,. And of course, take your sweet time. This is a huge issue in relationship. Yeah, yeah.

Of course, takes her sweet time. And then we get to the venue, and I seriously, by 30 seconds, somebody was supposed to crawl us to go backstage to go hang out with the band. We miss that window. And then she goes, we miss the band. I'm like, because you're doing your hair. I'm not the only one.

Because of you, you know? The only one. That'm like, because you're doing your hair or whatever. God, I'm late because of you, you know? Late is a- That's like always like my number one. See, this is flexible though. Yeah, that's your number one pet pee- I think you have to work on it. Well, how do you deal with that pet pee- Yeah, well, I was the late one all the time too, with him.

And I think it was date number four where I pulled up late. And he's like, hey, listen, you gotta be on he's like, hey, listen, you got to be on time That's enough like you got to be on time if I say be here and with him, you know with love line and radio So he's like, you know, you got to be here on time and He's like, you know what you're he's right. You I have to it is so I made it a point. He's right I have to be on time. So I don't know. No, no, no, no, I can't tell you something. This is something that I I just studied with the I was saying earlier that I would I would see Tony Robbins last week. I was in New

York for a while. Yeah, it was made is inspiration cool. I walked on fire and I decided I was going to be vulnerable and all the stuff. But the second thing and I always said I almost died twice. I had an inflow. I had a really bad flu. But that second thing, and I always said I almost died twice, I had a really bad flu. But that's bad. I didn't, I want to wrap up that story at the beginning. But the point is, he talked about this stuff about like limiting beliefs that you have about yourself, and like what are the beliefs that you tell yourself? Like you could be like, I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm never on time, I can't be on time. And how do you change those belief patterns? So I was talking to a friend of mine who she's like, I've got,

she goes, I'm always late. I'm always, I don't know what to do about it. And she actually read a book. There's a book, I'll get the name for you and it's about being late. And she said, we were talking about it. And she said, there's a moment in the book, this thing stuck with her in the book that says,

you decide that you're gonna be late. Like you know that moment that you're gonna be late. And she said, and she's learned, like she's chronically, like our late, like it's a problem. And she said, and she's learned, like she was chronically like hour late. Like it's a problem. Like she went to support group, like a 12 step point. No, I'm serious. This is a good thing.

And she was like, I realized finally that I brought it up to her again. And she was like, last week, she goes, oh my god, I thought, excuse, I was about to go to my therapist. I was leaving the house. And then I realized after we talked, she was, I sat down. And I was like, well, this would be a good time to start crocheting my scarf.

And then she's like, wait, I'm going to get up. I'm going to go and she's like, and I was in time. And it's like, you make a decision. You make a decision, it's a decision, you have to make. You have to decide. And still to this day, sometimes where we're getting the kids ready and we got to get in the car and we're going over to somebody's house for dinner that we're invited to or whatever. And then Adam's like, wheels up six o'clock. Get the kids, now I have to get the kids,

writing stuff like that. But I can't blame it on the kids. It's me, because I'll say, I'll say, well, the kids, blah, blah, blah, blah, I'll say, listen, you were way before the kids, you have this problem. So you need to work, but I worked on it. And so now with kids, even, couple, how did you work on it, though, even before the kid

sounds like you changed? Well, I had to make a decision because I don't want him to get mad at me. I was like, all right, you know, and he's right. So you make the decision. And it feels good, you know. It does feel good. It does.

And then it gets into your DNA. You start like it gets into the grooves in your brain. And my brother had the same issue with his wife when they first started dating, you know, like 20 years ago. And it was the same thing. People underestimate how much time things are going to take to. So he's like, you take an hour to get ready. You tell her like, she's one of these takes a lot. He's like, so just make sure you get in the shot and she did it. Like she changed. Not late. So you got to put your foot down. Yeah. You got to put your foot down. You got to put your foot down. You got to put your foot down.

Yeah. This is really not like in a joke. You're going to be like, this is something that really bothers me. And this is something is going to be coming in an issue and if we got it, think tell me what you know, what some solutions I have is maybe just realizing it could take you an hour and you know, whatever it is and then see what she says. But I want to dig in deeper though, so that's been married for 20 years. Well, married like 11, but together. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But like how do you deal with pet beefs with them?

Do you just like straight up tell them like what? There's times where I tell, you know, he by now it's, we've gotten past all that. It's sort of weird how relationships are because there was a time where I would soak and not say anything and hold it in and then I would blow up. And he didn't know, you know,

or he would soak and I would say, what's wrong then I would blow up and he didn't know, you know, or he would sulk and I would say what's wrong? I would know. See, I pick up when he's sulking. He doesn't pick up one on it. Right. He's got a little bit of, you know, Asperger. Well, no guys. That's what you said. I'm the Howard Stern, right? Yeah. Did he say that? He says someone at Asperger's. I don't know if it was at him. I think it might have been at him. Yeah. I think you hear the whole Howard Stern. No, okay. Yeah. I didn't, I didn't. Drew was on Howard Stern.

He was, I was seeing the wrap-up show. And it was like, I guess there was the most popular wrap-up show they've had. And he analyzed every single person that we started in the near and what Adam. And I thought he said, I'm sure he did. I don't like it before. Being from Kevin and being, this is that it has it. Yeah, they don't pick up on emotional cues. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Which is can be hard as the woman. It's very hard. don't pick up on emotional cues. Yeah, yeah.

Which is can be hard as a woman. It's very hard. When we have a lot of emotional cues. Oh my god, very hard. And then when you start seeing it with the kids and stuff, he doesn't pick up on you. I think it's a man thing, though, too. Like, well, with women, we don't pick up the signs at all.

We never, we've talked about it some million times. How we don't even know if a girl even likes us or not. I know. I don't know three. It's hard men got it, I know. That's right. I don't know three. They got it. But for men as pet peeves, you got it.

Don't hold it in. You got to get it out. And then after a while, they start knowing each other. You start knowing what to do. Like, I know, this is happening. He doesn't like it. I got to fix it. And then he buys for, you know, he'll come and kiss me.

I don't know. Be a little more loving. Whatever it is, if you're like, yeah, I want to kiss goodnight, you know, like I said. And you start making it. And I think that men is maybe a good few start communicating these things like in a direct way with her. I do too.

But you probably make it seem like whatever. You probably make her feel bad about it more than you do say, hey, listen, this is really something that's bothering you. Oh, you kiss, you know, what I do. Dude, I'm just saying that. I know you better than anyone. No, I'm just, what I noticed as she's upset, I don't know if it's a good or bad thing.

I tried to fix it. No, defuse it right away. Like, I can tell that she's mad and then I'll just mess it up. You're like, why is Selbag? I do. No, I'll say like. Oh, look, there's Dave Grohl.

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that I wanted to talk to. There's a study that came out. 10 science proven facts about married sex. And I thought, and since you're the long term, I thought we could talk about some of these. All right. OK, and this is actually, a lot of these studies are kind of BS, but this is Kinsey

from the Indiana University, which they do all the top sex studies in there, so I actually give it a little bit of credibility, more credibility the most. So number one is, the grass is not greener on the single side. So how many times on TV or in movies have we seen a married guy shamed by the bachelor body for settling down when he could be playing the field? Yeah. The fact is that married people have more sex and single folks, they say.

In the research they confirm this, finding that 61% of singles reported that they haven't sexed within the past year, compared with 18% of married people. Well, it depends on who's the single person here. I know. It's right. I made a caught him in like an off month. Yeah, I mean, I don't think that's the case for you, Emily, right? No. I'm yeah. I call it up. Yeah, but yeah, I can. It's gonna come off sexist, but a woman can get a warning. A woman can get late anytime that they want.

They can walk outside. If they really wanted to, If they really wanted to, yeah. But a guy can do that. Yeah, you can. No way. I'm just kind of more confident. You gotta be nicer to women when you meet them. If you wanted to, if you wanted to. Just like a girl. But you would have to really work at it to make it happen.

Like a woman, honestly, just steps outside and says, hi, I'm here, I would like to have sex. You'll have. Yeah, that's true. Because you'll have people. You know, attend her and everything, speeding it all up, and get a muffin. Oh my god. I'm meeting my girlfriend.

She's a single mom. She's OK. She's a single divorced mom full time, works full time. She can't meet. She can't meet anybody. So hard. And but she'll put in that she's all the criteria that she is looking for.

And it's still. It's like, she'll say, look, Lynette, this is what I have to choose from. You could tell by the pictures that they're not. They do, they do, they do, they do. They do, they do, they do. Yeah, not gonna work. But I just met this woman that showed me her tender profile,

and it's like sexy pictures of her. She's a nurse, she's, because she's a nurse, right? She doesn't look like that when I see her, but these pictures are artsy, sexy. And I'm thinking, now my girlfriend is saying, I'm like, look, you gotta get your, she's, I'm gonna go get to pick. No, yeah, there's like a certain,

I'm dying to be on Tinder. I would love to be on Tinder. Someone just did, oh my counselor was saying that he did a fake profile. He did, yeah. I could do it for a talk one here show, be funny. Be fun, I think it's fun. I mean, I. Yeah. I could do it for a time when her show would be funny. It'd be fun. I think it's fun.

Yeah. I mean, I didn't. I just can't log in now because it's something happened with my whatever. But I was doing it for a while. I had a fake, I had a blind tinder day down my show a few months ago, but that's right. I don't know if you're ever going to do that last time.

What about Hinge? Have you heard about Hinge? Yes. Hinge is supposed to be great because Hinge is a dating app that connects you just through Facebook friends only. So you have to have a mutual friend. And then coffee meets bagel,

which we've been talking about for a while, but it's now, I feel like more and more people are using that as well. Where is that? It's like it started in San Francisco a few years ago. I talked to the founder and you're supposed to make a, I don't know, like so connected. I don't know.

She's like in the like Silicon Valley. Oh yeah. It's funny, no, like the adventure joke. That's what the venture capital is. Seriously. My friends are with jokes in the office. So jealous. My team always jokes. They're like, how do you know I'm like, well, the founder?

Because it's San Francisco. And that was entertainment. No. No, I don't give a shit. But we think they're like, what radio tell? We were on the Broadway show, no one has TV. Yeah, no care. No care.

And let's do it like a dot com. They're like, I'm so sorry, you're in TV. I don't know TV. No, it's cool. But even if you're here, it's like, what?'m so sorry you're in TV. I don't know TV. It's cool. I don't even move here. It's like, what? You did what? But yeah, I mean, coffee meets bagel.

I think it's like they set you up with pretty good. My friends, it's a little higher, Calibro. I had a conversation with my friend in San Francisco today because she's been on everything. And she just said, I think you set up for a lunch or something. Or maybe it's a group. I'm going to butcher this. But it's a site that's been around for a few years.

But apparently, since two people have told me about it in two days, I feel like it's a group I'm gonna butcher this but it's it's a site that's been around for a few years but apparently it's since two people have told me about it in two days I feel like it's taking up. Now there's this other one that's out of San Francisco where the guy has to make like a quarter of million dollars to even be on. That's just living in San Francisco right? Wow. Well you have to in San Francisco now you have to make a hundred and forty two thousand dollars the by-house. Yeah yeah. Did you even think about buying a house? And then San Francisco is, yeah. Either you and I, it's beautiful though. That's what Adam and I love to go there.

Yeah. Sometimes if we have a romantic getaway, that's a great place to go. Go to Sanoma, Napa. Yeah. That's where I went all the time. I don't know. Matt, your husband for the first time

at the Starlight Lounge. I was there too. That's where I met him. He was, because it was CBS, or it was, Oh, yeah, and they were bringing in an atom. Oh, yeah. I was there too. That's where I met him. He was because it was CBS or it was GFM. And they were bringing in an atom. He was the big name. It was so funny. They sent him up like it was like a prom photoshoot.

He didn't say how to do that. I was too little. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried.

I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. I was really worried. That looked like a bad like 80s background and like made everyone line up and take a photo of them. But he was very nice with talking about that. Out of his very shy in front, honestly in front of people, he, not shy, but it's uncomfortable. Yeah. It's a little uncomfortable.

No, I get it. If you want to like, no, you got to meet like sit and talk like how we are like in a room. Totally. You'll have them on. We'll talk about, you know, what you said everything about your sex life. Yeah. Okay, so we'll play him clips. It says, okay, the next one is, on average, Miri Kupworth'll talk about, you know, what you said everything about your sex life. Okay, so- We'll play him clips. It says, okay, the next one is,

on average, Mary Couples will having sex, how frequency, ever, frequently. People always want to know this question, like what are the right number? I mean, I never want to say there's anything that's normal, like you should have it. It's whatever sex. That's what I want to know, Emily.

What do you think? I mean, I think that couples who have more sex more frequently, and then this study says, too, are happier, like if it's once a month, it's probably not enough. Right. And I've even said, well, if you both agree to it, but then if you're both agreeing to once a month, and you're not connected, you need that intimacy. The intimacy is the glue that keeps you together. True. And from being roommates, which I always say. And so this study says, the majority married couples are having sex a few

times per month or once a week. And past research corroborates this, Hitch couples had sex 66 times a year or a little more than once a week. So it says that, and single people are having a lot less. But I'm wondering, like, because I was thinking the single, they're maybe they're talking the singles, like, because if they were talking the singles, the singles are like, we have a lot less sex. Right. The singles have it like once every few months,

it could have just been in that month. Because when you're single, and then you meet someone new, then you've sex eight times a day. Yeah, exactly. So I'm not sure, but I believe all of this. Listen, I'm jealous of the single wife, right? I know. See, it is the grass that we've been saying.

It's so true. It's so true. But it's interesting. Like, I want my girlfriend to get hit hooked up. I want to meet her. Yeah. She'll go out. I want to meet any more single women here.

OK. I do. Like I, this is my year of not working as much either. Like having a social life. Yeah. Getting out there. Getting out there. I mean, I do it but not enough.

But so. And you're going to stop dating people that you're not interested. No, I like this guy now that I'm dating. OK. Who could I? Yeah, totally. So no, I mean, he is a guy that I've been dating casually for six months around, and it's down.

Wow, that's a long-term relationship for her. Wow, it's so insokasual. How is casual? What does that mean? Like, you hear from me. It means we're not, yeah, we're not, like, committed. Right. Seeing other people.

And, like, there's times where you don't hear from him for a while. Yeah, and then the guy with a little weird, because you can only do that for so we were friends first. Right. And actually met him looking for apartments. When I moved here, he was just moving from San Francisco as well.

So that was our connection like San Francisco. And then we just became friends. And then eventually we slept together. And it was interesting because I then I realized it was very casual. And it was the point where it wasn't consistent. And then I was feeling like, and I'm so not the girl that I've never had the talk I've never been right but then I felt like this doesn't even actually like to better

when your friends because you were more open and now it's like I know you to date that's fine just tell me because I'm the kind of person like let's let's talk about right right right isn't as much but now we don't want did he did he want to date you more or did you I no? No, see this is the thing. We never talked about it because I just, I didn't. That's the, but now we did. Right. And then we just said then we thought, okay, I mean,

it's not, we decided that we're just going to, you know, see what happens. It's evolved more to the sense. Wait, are you guys going steady now or what? What's the deal? We're going steady. No, not exactly, but we're more communicative about what we want and if we are seeing it.

Because it was kind of like this elusive, but the point is what happened here and this is where I told them is like, I find I had to be the one that bring up the talk which I've never done. And it was more of the talk. I'm like, this is the talk, but without like what I know how it's going to end. It's just that or how I don't have a forwarder on conclusion to this. It's just that you can be like friends with benefits. You can be anything for a while, but all relationships have to move. Like they have to move and you take a vault. Otherwise, just gets boring. Your friendships evolve, menace and I evolve.

It's true, like an old married couple. Yeah. You're a girlfriend, you're like, oh, we get closer and closer. That's what's so exciting. But if it's just, we're gonna hook up every few weeks. We're not, it gets kind of, you know, it's like Woody Allen said, like, you know, relationships have to keep moving or they're, you know, what do you say?

Like, they're a shark, a dead shark. Wait, oh, he said, Allen said, like, you know, relationships have to keep moving, or they're, you know, what do you say? Like, they're a shark, a dead shark? Wait, oh, he said, he said, he said, relationships are like a shark. You have to keep moving, and he said, in what we have on our hands is a dead shark, when he was in the Annie Hall. Anyway, all right, you're still talking like a politician. What was the end result?

The end result was that we really like each other, and that, you know what? You're gonna stay how you are. No, we're not. We're gonna talk more about what we're figuring out. They're communicating more. They're communicating more. We're communicating more.

We're communicating because we were just like playing at cool and I'm really busy and I was dating other people and he is too. And it's still good to happen, but I said, we can't keep doing the same thing. I would like to at least talk about the fact that are you dating? Am I dating?

Are we gonna make plans and then he wasn't, we should just make a plan. Right, right. I can't look at the kid, don't why'd you ask me about this. I know, I'm kidding, it's fine. The point is it's evolving and I like him and that's all. All right.

That was, can we just cut that and what the hell? I'm kind of thinking, okay, so let's keep going. Right, for a second later. Dude, hey, Emily, does talking about married, I probably know the answer. No, I like talking about married like, bore you. No, does it, does talking about married? I probably know the answer. No, I like talking about married, like, um, for you. No, I love, okay. Dude, this is what I do for a living in.

I'm so funny because I'm fascinated. I feel like I help my fascinated by single life. We can just, we're swap stories, but I think it's fascinating. And I love helping people, it's funny because you're like, how are you gonna help? What are you, like, listen to me tell my, like, half, whatever story, but I find it fascinating. And I think that I help a lot of people because,

and I'm just interested in how people make it work because I actually started this podcast because I was really cynical about relation, I mean, coming from a family divorce, and all that stuff, I just thought, four divorces. I thought, I'm gonna get to the bottom of it. I want to understand how, what makes relationships work and what doesn't.

So when it started as a podcast, it was just me interviewing married. It's interesting. Yeah, and I'm fascinated by it. I'm fascinated by it too. And I think there is a science to it. There is a, you know, it does all come down in communication and sex.

If you stop having sex, people are like, oh, it's okay, because, you know, we'll get to that after the kids would call it. You've got to keep it going. You've got to keep the blow jobs, the chemistry. Yeah, yeah. And you got to work on it. So, okay after the kids go to college. We'll get to, you gotta keep it going. You gotta keep the blow jobs, you gotta keep the chemistry. Yeah, yeah. And you gotta work on it.

So, okay, the next one was sex is pretty discreetly correlated to satisfaction and marriage. So, men and women, it says, for instance, one study of Australia, note that men and women who are dissatisfied with their frequency of sex were also more likely to express overall lower sexual relationship and satisfaction, which makes sense if you're having less sex. You're not as happy. And I agree, sex is a glue. And it's like, we worry about so many other things

like building the deck or where to go in some vacation, but the second you realize that you're not addressing it, it's not gonna go away. The sex thing, like it's, you let it, it's like people think, oh, it'll heal itself, after the laundry. No, it's like going to the gym, you know, you sit there and you become middle-aged

and you look at your body and you start going, well, what, you know, getting overweight or whatever. So you gotta go to the gym, you gotta work out, or whatever. You gotta maintain. You gotta maintain. And, but after you do it, it feels good. So it's like, you kinda realize like, okay, it's been a while, Let's have sex. And

then after you do it like, we should do that more often. And it feels good. And then, you know, then you go into this thing or you do it for a little while and then you start, you know, he's busy, he's gone. And yeah, I mean, but you're right. It is the glue. It really, it really wants to go. I'm sure you and you kids to it was probably hard to get it keep it going but yeah, I mean with twin boys. Yeah, boy girl. Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, because she's like a boy. That's why. Oh my god. I mean, that's you got your hands full. Yeah, but I always say that it is like when the gym and then today I was like I always say that. So what's another analogy? I was thinking about a lot of times people ask me to do thing, you know, go out to a concert or meet for dinner. And my first reaction is always like, usually it's like,

no, can I get out? I don't like making kind of commitment around issues. But then I thought, I've never regretted any, I don't have a lot of regrets, but very rarely have I been like on the fence about something and then I went and I was like, that's soft. I shouldn't have gone out with those people. I've gone to that concert or gone to the gym.

Right. Head sex. You're not like, why don't you freaking have sex? Right. I just feel like gone out with those people are gone to that concert or gone to the gym right. Had sex right now like why don't you have sex right. Right. I just feel like when you're thinking in your head like just say yes. Say yes. The job say yes to the sex. It's all a decision. It's boiled. It is in a moment by moment making decisions that are healthier for your relationship.

Yeah. Can I go back real quick? Yes. You have to on saying I'm fascinated by the single life now is it it just because, is it kind of like, if you're watching Sex and the City and you just want to see all the juicy stories and you want to hear about it? No, I'll tell you. No, I'll tell you.

My best friend, well two of my best, the closest girls to me are both single. One is, she lives in Malibu and she's happy to be single, but she's gorgeous and she has, I think she has a little bit of intimacy issues and she has a wall, but she doesn't mean anybody though. That's the problem. Like she doesn't, she's a Malibu too. An isolation, yeah. And so it's hard for her. Well, she'd be like lonely. She doesn't get lonely at all.

Wow, that's crazy. I know, that's the, yeah, she's, and she's very close to me and my kid. She loves my kid. So thank God for her. And then my other girlfriend, I grew up with. And I saw her get married. I saw her have her the kid. They had the kid at 18 months. They got a divorce. He wanted the divorce.

She didn't, and he moved on and got into another relationship quick. And she had like five years of trying to deal with, oh my God, my whole life has changed. All she wanted to do was be a life, her whole life. Like, I just wanna be a mom and a wife. And she's completely changed. Now she's worked on herself, she went to therapy,

she goes to the gym and all that kind of stuff. Her hair is brighter blonde, she's lost weight, she looks great. And now she's like completely a brighter blonde. She's lost weight. She looks great. And now she's like completely a different person. Like she's like, let's go. Like, you know, I want to go meet people. And I'm with her. Like I'm excited for her. Like I want her to meet. And we went to New York and we had a blast. And we sat. It was a so impromptu. It was one of these things that happened. Like my god we that these people we went to the Howard Stern Studios dropped off Mangria okay.

Mangria wait we can talk about that. Yeah that's fine and we dropped it off for the Stern family and then we asked them where should we go for Happy Hour they said downstairs is Del Fresco you should go to the restaurant. We went there we sat there from 4.35 o'clock on a New York rainy day until midnight. And we watched guys come and go and we people watched. And she sat across from me. And literally there was a group of guys that were talking. There was about five of them in the group.

And I said, Suzanne, turn around and look at these guys. And she turned, and we, not one, one, one, a good guy. They such good looking men and ladies get the suit. I love the suit. The suit. That it does. It's called my suit guys.

If you go, yeah, guys need suits. Go buy a black suit. And so they're all standing there and then she's like, do they have wedding rings on? And I'm like, well, two of them don't. No, two of them don't. And then the two that didn't, you know, we kept, well, then what do you do? At that point, she's like, I don't know what to do. I'm like, go talk to him don't. And then the two that didn't, you know, we kept, then what do you do?

At that point, she's like, I don't know what to do. I'm like, go talk to them. Just go talk to them. And then, so I don't know, I'm like, fat, like, should I go talk to them? And we didn't. We just sat there and watched. And we watched guys come and go.

And in New York, they're so, guys are so different because they're, they seem more genuine. I think that they're, everybody goes to New York because they want to work in the finance industry or, you know, and they want to build a family, they want a family. And people that come here, guys that come here, are Peter Pan's, they don't want that.

It's sad, true. They're the opposite. They want to be a model or whatever. And actor. Actor or an executive. I mean, it's, you know, at a network, it's an agent. It's like, it's a con. It's super-fisual and, uh, blah.

And guys in New York, you're just, you know, they're just normal, like, guys. And they ask you out in New York too. They're the great director. Yeah. So did she meet a guy? She met a guy. Yeah, she did.

She met a guy. And she just had fun, like like she was just talking with him And she talked to him like I got tired at midnight and I laughed and she stayed and my other girlfriend was there too And she wanted to go I know right next time I'm going to go I always get my job job right over to start talking to the guys But so bad that you managed to your question is that's I'm'm fascinated. I love, like, because I haven't been single on a long time, but I can live vicariously through my girlfriend.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying, that's what excites you. Yeah, that's the story. Totally, my friends do that too. I was like, how's your marriage going to be like, tell me about you, and I'm born, yeah. I love hearing about what's, because I want to like, help or listen or anything. Right, right.

But I want to hear about you, because you're having fun, you know. Yeah, I am having fun, and I just told a really bad story about my guy because it's evolving in a way that I can't actually get it. Right, I'm faster about some more old stories. I'm fast, no, but you know, I'm fascinated by how successful that you are and how busy you are. But yeah, you date so much and you meet so many guys and you have I do well I guess I get asked out here. Yeah, and you guys and you have you have a lot of sex it seems like I do you do and it's like it's

I and I love like who who do we know that's open about that like totally open beautiful girl successful. Hey here I am I have a lot of sex yeah, I've got a lot of sex toys. And I'm not sexy because fascinating. She's very outgoing and very approachable. Yeah, I think that's what it is to so guys feel comfortable to ask her out. I mean, I find it exhausting and draining around her more than five hours. But I think that's why I think a lot of you know, we never did never did. She's not off-putting, you know, like, I'm like, I'm sure I can, I'm sure. Definitely. Yes, definitely.

Where you can find, as a man, you can find a lot of women that, off-putting, they seem like they're not even interested to even be around. Well, that's trying to train my girlfriend, Susanne, to not look. She's not off-putting, but she's shy. Right. So it's like, like don't look don't look like you're you know stop Or whatever you know practice of so this is like what do you want me to do what do I do I do so I like just relax So funny because I was just talking to say I feel like all my friends are singing now But she was saying the same thing she was I think that guys think and she's beautiful smart

She's I think guys think I'm stuck up and I think guys are in intimidated and she's as sweet as I said You know what you got to do she was but I tried it she told me this she said I went into Starbucks and I think guys are intimidated. And she's as sweet as I said, you knew what you got to do. She was, but I tried it. She told me that she said, I went into Starbucks and I smiled at some guy. And I just smiled and then he came over and he was like, you're really nice legs. And she's like, I wasn't into him,

but I realized that I'm so lost. She doesn't have that slide. But then I said to her, that's what you got to practice. I'm like, I want you to five times a day. Like when you walk into a public, and they put your phone down, smile, because men probably think you're not approachable because you're hot

and you're like probably have a squashing right in your phone. Right, right. So I think the phones are also, that's another thing. Don't sit there and look at your phone. Just say hi, smile. And that's, you know, and I actually, one of my things that I, I had truly, and I've been this way since I was a kid,

I love meeting people. Like I can go into into room. My favorite thing is going to party or I don't know but I myself I know I just truly like I like who are you who your story there's no one around me there like you met my boyfriend I don't talk to people like I worry he is you know me no I can do whatever and I love just store it people I love connecting it's like it gives me juice Yeah, so I think I've always linked up but people a lot of people aren't and that's just People got to work on it right put down the phone. Yeah, put down the phone smile But then phones again guys. I mean what what city does she live in in San Francisco? She lives in LA Oh, I feel bad for my single friends in now. I really do

I'm like go to Chicago and meet somebody. No, he loves Chicago. I love Chicago. I love Chicago. Well, I always saw my buddies also who live here on the coast, like they have problems also with the meaning women. I'm like, dude, travel to like the Midwest or something like that. You're not going to have any problems because the women there are so approachable.

Yeah. Nice and they're like genuine. What's how we feel about the guys? Girls feel about guys in the Midwest. Like I told her, is it goat chicot? I have family. Go see my sister. No, but it's amazing if you're visiting. I'm from fucking LA, sorry.

I know, I was born in Cleveland, but my family moved to a seven years old so I grew up here. It's a nice city to meet people just friends at least. Yeah, yeah, what do you think? Emily? I mean, what I think that as far as dating or what? As far as like where where okay, so city has great guys. It's so hard because every town that people live in, they say it's the worst town dating.

Like New York's like every guy is just, every guy's just working for his career and women are always chasing the bigger, better deal. They say LA, every guy's chasing the bigger, better deal. San Francisco, no one asks you out ever. I'm like, the guys are checking their balls at the Gongae. I'm like, really? Yeah, and so what is the best? I honestly believe that wherever you go, there you are

and that you can find someone wherever you're at. I don't care if you're like in Des Moines. I mean, I'm from Michigan. People find love and you just got to put yourself out there and it's so easy to blame it on the city. But what are you doing lately to meet someone new? If you're doing the same thing every day and you're not changing up your mood, your pattern, doing something different and putting yourself out there where you might be a little nervous to go to a party that you don't need to date for, but you got invited, go. Yeah. Well, you're gonna die. You sound like my husband. Adam says the same thing.

Does he? Yeah. Adam says, these people that say, I can't meet anybody. It's like, no, you can't. There's go. Yeah. Billions of people, you're gonna find somebody, right? Yeah. You gotta put effort into it. Mm-hmm. You do. And so I'll talk to you. We'll all drink.

Yeah. It'll be fine. For sure. I really, I really enjoy it. Come with me. You can join us. We're going in Burbank after this. But I mean, yeah, Burbank. Burbank. No, we have to get together with my, my,

we're going to do that. We're going to do our live show. And then I was going to ask you some, I mean, you know, I had some sex questions for you, but you could go ahead. No. I want to know, first all how is it going with we talked about the g spot on your show yes I brought you a special toy yeah yes my

whole life I've you know heard about it but I'm always the girl that has the orgasm it you know literally right that's good so I used to get that a lot of women can't really oh yeah really during inner horse again and yeah that's okay but I need help. Yeah, it's right. Yeah, it needs to be stimulated. Right, of course. Right, okay, so, but I, the G spot,

I'm like, I don't, I don't know. Do I? I brought you such a goody bag here. Okay. I brought you. She did. No way, look. Oh, okay, yeah.

Oh, the other thing, she's gonna fade. But this is the Juju. So this is my favorite. I've heard you talk about this. Okay, so this is, I talked about the Mimi, which is the literal one, which if you like that. And this is the Uma, and this is like all about G-Spot. It moves, it moves.

Oh my God, I'm so sorry. And it's rechargeable and it's beautiful. Oh, you're just gonna, it works. It works beautiful. Thank you. And then I got you some other stuff that will go through. Thank you. You're welcome.

You gotta go to G-Spot. Sure, the really cool thing now. That's awesome. I'm very excited to do this. This is pretty awesome. Okay, since you know about my bike. Oh my God, of course. I hear about it all the time. No way since you know about my bike. Oh my God, of course, I hear about it all the time.

No way. So I got you on. Oh my God, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Oh my God, I have the crave. The crave vest for it. And it's, yeah, I mean, look at it.

It's like, I know. I hear you talk about it all the time. I went on your website and looked at it. I've been wanting to buy it. I just, oh. I know I was talking to yesterday. I'm like, okay, so wait, no, tell me what kind of vibrant. Because I already got something else you're going to love.

But I need to know. I know I'll show you how it works. It's really cool. It's already charged too. Really? Yeah. It's a great best purpose. So check it, check it. I know. I'm gonna have a fun. Wow. Sit and interact. What did you want? Do you want? It's like Christmas here. Oh, I know. OK, we got to wrap it up. I know. I know. I know.

I'm so glad to hear. I know. I'm so glad to hear. You're going to come back on. I would love to. And then we're going to do our life. So so and I have to give all of your info, which is AdamCrola.com to listen to. We just say C-A-R-O-L-L-A.

Yes, thanks. And then Lynette Corolla at Lynette Corolla on Twitter. Yeah. Instagram Twitter. It's all on Instagram. thanks. And then Lynette Corolla at Lynette Corolla on Twitter. Yeah. Instagram, Twitter. It's all on Netflix. Facebook.com slash Lynette Corolla. Yeah. Instagram and we'll have this all on our site as well.

Thank you. And for crying out loud, is your podcast. Check it. It's a really bringing hilarious, funny podcast. Popular. Congratulations. Thank you. And Mangria.

Mangria. I never had it. I just hear it. I have it for you. I've been hearing about it forria. I never had it. I just hear, I'm tired. I have it for you. I've been hearing about it for a while. For years, I don't even know. But we should have poured somewhere. I know.

But yeah, here's the white, here's the red. Well, mix it in a cocktail and not white. You know, I'm telling you, it's really strong. It's not white. That's always nice. 19 proof, what do you call it? Wow. And it's not, it's that's always 19 19 proof what you call it wow and It's not it will you have like one you pour it over ice It's ready to pour it over ice and one drink just melts when I come home like after day like stress

Have a glass of that in all your stress just melts after one It's it's available. It's it's available at at bevmo. A lot of a lot of our retail. Doing well. Yeah, it's good. I can't. Yeah, go to me.

I got to me. dot com. Corolla drinks. dot com. And click in your area. You'll find it. Yeah. It's I'd like to pour that over

something right now and drink it. So far next show and I'll be a door to our drug show, which we just talked about. Yeah, okay, well, Lynette, thank you. So I'm glad to be here. I'm like so glad. Thank you so much, Manis. Nice to meet you. I know, Manis is better than she thought, no way.

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