Sex With Emily - Mind, Body & Mojo with Dana B. Myers

Episode Date: May 31, 2019

On today’s show, Emily is joined by entrepreneur, writer, media personality, & founder of The Satisfied Mama’s, Dana B. Myers. They discuss the importance of reclaiming your sexuality and ways to become fully present with your body. They talk about discovering your mojo – with or without kids in the picture, why mom guilt exists and how to get over it, as well as hacks to keep sex top of mind. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Womanizer, Apex, Veritas Farms, SiriusXM, Promescent Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com For more information on Dana B. Myers, click HERE.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm joined by founder of the Satisfied Momma's Entrepreneur, Writer and Media Personality, Dana Myers, to talk about how to reclaim your sexuality and get into your body, no matter who you are. Topics include How to Get Your Mojo Before, During and After Kids. Mom guilt. Why do we feel it? And what can we do to get over it? Hacks to keep sex top of mind because hey, it's not always easy. And a few ways to find the sexy in every day. I promise you it's there if you look hard enough, all this and more.

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I am so excited to welcome back my guest, Dana B. Myers. She's an award-winning product developer. I met her when she was developing these amazing products, entrepreneur, author, media personality, and now what she's doing is she's helping her clients reclaim the power of their sensuality and sexual satisfaction through her coaching practice and live workshops.

And essentially her mission, which I love, is to empower women to feel confident, turn on, and completely satisfy. Especially, wait for it, wait for it. Not only that, especially after kids. How the hell do you do that? I know a lot of you email at call and write, I've had kids or my wife has kids.

What do we do? How do we get it back? How to ensure a book, the mommy mojo makeover. If you want to check the shoes on a show last year, one of our podcasts, we loved it. We loved it, you're back. So thank you for joining us, Dave. I love being here so much.

Oh, it's so fun, it's so fun. Okay, so Mommy Mojo Makeover has been a success. And just if you guys don't have the set, 28 tools to reclaim yourself and reignite your relationship. And you can find anything we're talking about at DanaBeamMires.com, also in the show notes. Okay, so what has been going on since this launch? Like tell me about your latest endeavors here. Let's start with the women. How do we help them after kids? There's so many things that happen after kids.

I mean, I think, you know, some of the most common problems are like this loss of self or this loss of identity. Like, I was once a really sexy woman, and now I'm just in the mom's own. I've lost my libido. I'm saddled with all these domestic duties. I'm juggling work and family life. And it's like, I've lost. It's like when we're looking outside of themselves for their libidos.

And there's this shift that has to happen. It's like, no, your libido still exists. It's there. But women don't feel so empowered to take control of it. So, the book, the workshops I do, the new digital program that I'm launching, it's all just like little bite-sized tips and tools. Which is perfect for moms.

It's so cool. It has to be short. Yeah, and I find that sometimes people talk about sex in these very lofty terms are very philosophical, you know, ways. And women get overwhelmed, they say, I can't accomplish that. It's too much. And so I like to make it really simple for them.

Okay, that's good. We, I'm not a mom, but I appreciate that. We appreciate that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But anyone could benefit from this, the truth is, anyone. It's all the same. You went through this, and you've had kids. Yes.

Two kids. You had all of your kids have nine You said and almost six and almost nine. Okay. Yeah, so yeah You've had your handfuls you went through the whole thing and you looked around You're like where the hell's my libido and you've married for 16 years married for 14 years So I think this is this is very relatable. So what happened you and you write the thing that we hear from is I've no libido No matter what age they are too. I mean, it doesn't matter like that happens. And it's so sometimes it's like the first step, it is inside of you, but what about hormones?

And how about being kind to yourself and saying, well, it's gonna take some time to get your body back. I have to get your libido back. Totally. You get so many different messages about that from doctors. Say you're sick, weeks, it could take three months, six months. So once your hormones get somewhat in check again, and look, some women obviously

have more severe hormonal issues, but once your hormones kind of level out after breast feeding and after birth, it's, I think it's more about lifestyle changes, right? I really do. Unless you can follow like a very sharp food protocol that's gonna boost your libido, which that's too confusing for me, I can to boost your libido, which I'm,

that's too confusing for me. I can't grasp it. Right. All the food. Yeah. It's too much. But so for me, it's all about lifestyle. So if you're a mom or really if you're just a busy woman who is out of touch with your libido, I think you have to address your exhaustion first because if you're exhausted, you're probably not communicating with your partner. You're more irritable with them. You're not practicing enough self-care. So it's like, I always say if you're exhausted, it's hard for your libido to thrive in that

physical and mental space. So you gotta treat yourself like a baby. I always tell people, treat yourself like a baby. If you saw an exhausted baby who was crying and felt so irritated and was overtired. You'd be like, come here little baby, let me wrap you in a blanket and put you down for a nap. You know, and so it's like heal your exhaustion first, take a nap, rest more, take stuff off your plate, do less. It's so hard though. What about mom guilt? I feel bad and what about my kid? You have to give yourself the permission to not feel that way.

It's like nobody else can do that. Mom guilt is so pervasive and it's so heavy and it comes at you. It comes at you from every angle. In almost every situation. Yeah. So the only way to get out of that is to give yourself permission to do so.

Even if it's daily permission. Minute by minute. Literally minute by minute permission. Oh, take a nap. I can take a nap. I can to do so. Even if it's daily permission. Minut by minute. Literally minute by minute permission. I can take a nap. I can't do laundry. You can do laundry. You can do laundry after the nap. After the nap, back to the nap.

Right, like this is what I have to do now for myself. Yeah, and giving yourself, I call it permission to ditch. Permission to ditch out on, you know, three things that are on your to-do list that are stressing you out, because you can't be in your feminine sexuality and your sexuality if you're depleted doesn't make sense to that. It's not possible I know people are listening to you for sex advice and we're gonna get there

No, no, no You guys know no, we don't even have to this this is for everybody I'm still learning that like because self-care is to buzz word right now And it's not just like getting a massage or no, it's like it's saying no. It's doing less No, it's napping. It's masturbating masturbating before you nap, you know put those two together And it's like kill two birds with one stone But even if you are the busy mom, I mean the busy entrepreneur Yeah, it's like it still is this like you know,'re always, you're always doing and not being, you know,

you're always going, going, going, and how do you, how do you just accept that it's okay to take time for yourself that you're a better human, a better mom, a better everything? I mean, I think you can just be literally stop looking the mirror and say, I'm giving my person, my self permission to rest. I'm giving myself permission to skip that. I'm giving myself permission to say no to that extra meeting or to that extra dinner. I'm giving myself myself permission to say no to that extra meeting or to that extra dinner.

I'm giving myself the permission to say no to that school committee that's happening at your kid's school. It's like, nobody can do it for you. And that's the thing. And no is a full sentence. No is a full sentence. No. I love feeling that word in my mouth.

No. No. Sorry, I'm not gonna work. No. But when we're pleasers or we feel guilt, and that's just No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no And it's even harder to receive when you're again when you're exhausted. You want to deserve it. Okay, so get your sleep under under control. Get a little bit of sleep. Do a little bit less. The Europeans.

Like nuts, nap. Exactly, exactly. And just power nap. I only nap for 22 minutes. So I set my alarm for 27 minutes. It takes me five to kind of walk myself down in my mind to sleep. And I wake up refreshed and then I'm ready to like tackle it again. And I feel sexy again.

I feel, you know, like I've replenished my reserves. That's a really good thing. Just take the, why don't we take naps? You're right, more naps. It's like naps are criminal in this country, but I take them like at least four times the way it's- It's only in America. It's true.

Work, work, work. We don't get any vacation. I know. I know. So I got to travel. Okay. So bring back the naps. Bring back the naps. Hashtag. Bring back. I know. So I got to travel. Okay, so bring back the nap. Bring back the nap. Hashtag. Bring back the nap. That would be my campaign if I was running a present. We need to nap more. I'm a leave for president. I'd vote for you.

I know. I believe that. I would. Especially if that was your slogan. Well, really, I'm not lazy. I swear. I'm a human. We all need to nap. We need to self-care. And we need to reach out to friends too. Like was that a big part of it finding the right Friends the community totally and then within that community Nurturing the conversation about sex and sexuality and pleasure, right? Yeah, it's like because you're probably that friend of the group. I'm definitely that friend. You're that friend You're the friends. Yeah, I'm that friend. You're that friend But I always tell women if you don't have that friend, be that friend.

That's right, that's such great advice. Totally. Talk about what's going on, because we're always assuming that all of our friends are having better sex than we are. And so what happens is when you open it up, you share problems and then you share solutions as well. And you can also discover new turn-ons,

just by talking about the question, what turns you on? Something that if Fred turns your friend on, you may be like, I never thought about that. That's an interesting example. Give me an example. I mean, okay. No, I love hearing this from Fred. Can that be yours?

Could be a friend? Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. So my friend has a sexual fantasy about hot steak. Okay. It's actually my fantasy guy. Okay, fine. Yeah, you know, I have this fantasy about hot steak. Okay. It's actually my fantasy guy. Hi, hi, hi. Yeah, you know, I have this fantasy about hot steak being put on my body as foreplay.

Now, I've had this fantasy for a long time. We've never done it. Charlie and I text each other pictures of hot steak all the time. I don't know why this has never happened. Charlie, if you're listening to this, this is happening. Like, like, a hot steak like to ring lingerie

or just sizzling on the grill. So my husband is amazing on the grill, right? So I get turned on by his food. I am turned on when he cooks for me. I almost turned on the grill. I am hot and horny right now, thinking about him at the barbecue and like he creates these amazing meats

and they're like golden and crispy and hot and these steam and it really turns me on. I'm turned on and hungry. So the next layer to that fantasy, because I'm always fantasizing, that's a huge key to having a high libido for me, is I'm constantly creating central inputs in my mind, right? So I think about the yummy food and then I get excited

and then I'm like, well, why not like put a piece of that sizzling steak on my body and eat it off of me? You've told them that, you think that? Oh no, he knows the full fantasy every detail. The fact that we have not, you know, accomplished this, brought this fantasy to life. I think it's just because when we're barbecuing, we always have like friends over or the kids over.

Right. But let's talk about fantasy for a minute. Because I feel like it is something that women, a lot of women are like, oh, they feel guilt about it or they don't even know where to conjure up things. So I love that you have women sharing it. Women sharing it. And that's the truth.

We were not taught in school or by our parents. Hey, fantasy is healthy, right? We were not taught that. So we didn't grow up with using fantasy as a healthy habit to increase our sexual energy. Talking about it with your friends being the leader, opening up that conversation. Now, only, I don't know if any of my friends thought, oh yeah, steak turns me on too. But there might be one other weirdo out there in my group that actually thought, oh yeah, or that triggered, maybe that idea triggered something in them.

Oh, I want to like whip cream off a straw bar. Exactly. It's just sharing. Like the way he makes my martini, you know what I mean? Like sharing is caring when it comes to sex talks. And you're always gonna learn something from your friends when you open that conversation. Have you always been a big fan of Sizer?

Or is it something you had to do even like a sexist? I have always been a big fan of Sizer? Or is it something you had to do even like fantasies? Yeah, I have always been a big fan to Sizer, although I really started harnessing it as one of my core tools after having kids. Because I'd be at the grocery store, and I'd be like, I'm so tired, this sucks. I've got to get carrots that I've got a puree and steam and then freeze into little cubes.

It's like, it's not sexy. There's so many aspects of motherhood that aren't sexy. And one day I was in Brooklyn looking at the carrots at the fresh market and I was like, those carrots are really, really sexy. And then the mister came on and they were like getting all wet and I was like, oh my God. And suddenly I transformed this mundane moment

where I was sort of previously in a state of irritation. And then suddenly I was in a sexual fantasy. Not about using the carrot as a sense choice. But it was the senses and it was about these, they were different shapes and sizes and they were hard and fresh and glistening. And then I saw a cute stock boy in IL-5 and I was like, oh, maybe I can have a fantasy about him.

And then later on when I got the carrots home, instead of like being annoyed that I had to puree them, I was like, still in that fantasy. And my kids didn't know while I was smiling, but I knew. And so it's, again, it's just this practice. Where it can not find anything in the centrality. Because it's there. It's there.

We have to look up. Right? No, I love that. I love the ease. Getting back into your body again when you're saying the libidos inside it. So one of the first steps would be getting your mind up bored with it too.

Yes. Like just, well going from the idea that sex and sexuality has become a chore to it being a choice, right? So you go from chore to choice. It's a simple word choice. Sex is a chore. My husband once said, I don't want it to going, no, this simple word choice. Sex is a chore, my husband wants it.

I don't want it to go, no, this is a choice. I'm choosing to make this a priority again. I'm choosing to put some intention in this with the partner that I love. Like, oh, it's an obligation, right? Yeah, I can't do sex. I don't want to sex. And I want to sex.

And I want to be a bonus. And I'm just a bonus. And if your partner thinks that sex is an obligation, it's not gonna get them turned on. They're gonna feel like, I don't wanna force you. You know, that's not a turn on for me. So it goes from obligation to opportunity. Yeah, exactly.

Or I get to have sex rather than that. Yeah, I have to have sex. Yeah, I get another item on that to do this. And what about being in your body? What about that? So we've got the images, got the fancy and what about if you're just not feeling great about your body anymore, it's? So we've got the images, got the fantasy, and what about if you're just not feeling great about your body anymore?

It's a change. And it does change. So I think that it does change a lot. And there were moments where, especially after my daughter, after my first kid, I actually did bounce back. And this bounce back culture is really intense. And there's a lot of pressure on moms. And for me, with the first child,

breastfeeding actually did sort out my body. It just the weight came off. With the second child, it did not come off. I lost so much hair. I, I, my leg, yeah. Here's amazing. It came back, thank God. They got it, came back.

I was much bigger. My breasts were lopsided. I felt like a mess. And for me, and it's different for everyone, the practice, I think, of getting back into your body and getting back into your body confidence. For me, it's a combination of dancing in the mirror, just turning on some music and just moving in a way that feels natural to me, masturbating for sure, self-pleasuring and making it into a ritual where I'm massaging my body or I'm dancing or I'm experimenting with different toys and just being curious what feels

pleasurable to my body. So that takes away the criticism of, oh my body should look like this into a curious place of how might my body feel if I do this. Exactly. So you're going from the pain of criticism to the pleasure of, you know, beautiful touch. Exactly. And it's going to take a second, but I often talk about this. I suggest like looking in front of the mirror, there's a lot of women who don't love their

bodies or their vulvas. And I'm like, just getting like, it's Master Basia Monty. No, I was like, oh, yeah. Look at the mirror. Take a look. And I love to hear that your story about this, because yeah, dance in front of the mirror, well, that's silly, I could never do it.

I'm sure the first time you did it, you weren't like, look at me. But talk about what that actual, if you could talk about that transformation, or this for you, it's so, the first time I kind of got wind of this, this tool is when I was young, I was living in New York,

and I was, it was like right after 9-11 and things weren't really bad and I had a master's degree but I was cocktail waitress saying, I was just a mess, you know, my boyfriend had broken up with me, thanks John Carlin. Um, best thing ever, no, it is the best thing ever happened.

Um, and I was in the mirror and I was, I heard myself talking shit about my thighs. I heard myself in my inner voice and I was like, you're so fat, why can't you be smaller? You know, I was imagining like using like a liposite, I was like, delirious with this negative self-talk. And I had this moment of awareness where I was like, this is not who you are. So I took myself into the bathroom and I looked at myself in my eyes and I put my arms on myself and I just started hugging myself, connecting with my eyes in the

mirror and saying, I love you, I love you, I love you, you're beautiful. And it was that moment where I realized that's my power. I can take myself out of the criticism and put myself into a state of love and appreciation. That's a beautiful exercise. And it worked. Anytime. It worked. Doing the car if you're hating yourself. Anytime. I love you.

Yeah. Anytime. So you can do it on a specific body part. You can change that script. You can do it for yourself at large and just say, I love you, I love you, I love you. And it's an easy way. And now someone would like, but that feels false.

Because I don't. I don't love my butt. I don't love my wrinkly belly anymore. And that's kind of a case of like, all right, well, let's fake it till you make it. Start saying it anyway. And soon you're gonna start to believe it. Yeah, that's true.

It's a gap. It hasn't written down. I think for me, I have a journal I care around. Like, the information's a thing to remember every day. Oh, I would want to read your journal. Publish that. I know, dude. I've just found my your journal. Publish that. I know, dude.

I've so many journals. I just found like my journals from the last 20 years. They're amazing. Yes and no. But no, but it's true. Like, then it's like, OK, I have to read the words. Because otherwise we make up our own scripts and they're not always helpful.

Totally. There's just so negative view must have this all the time. But that's it. It's a practice. It's a practice. Like, go back to driving in the car, hands on the steering wheel, whatever, wherever you're if you're driving, I always think the picture of driving. Because to me too, I'm driving in, I'm like having like thoughts and like these are my

affirmations. It's going on in present moment, what I'm feeling and smelling and tasting. So then you were like, I love myself, looking in the mirror, which I've had those moments too. And I thought like, I was even recently, I don't think this work's ever done by the way. It's never done. No, it's never done. It don't remember the big moment. I think it was like last summer And I was just feeling I came home when I was sad I was looking at me and I was like I was like crying

I know if I say I love you, but just like I looked I looked at myself in my eyes in a way that I hadn't before I was like, you're fine. You're okay. You know this great power looking. We just it's great for ourselves But we never really look and then when you You got this new formation and then moving Yeah, it's just a beautiful practice totally and after the birth of my daughter when I really felt like I actually remember thinking Oh, she's stolen my beauty, you know this little freckley red-headed baby. She's like five months old I was like you stole my beauty It's horrible feeling how real I'm sure. Yeah. And then, you know, I stood in the mirror and I was like,

no, no, no, I'm not going to go down. I'm like, my beauty's not stolen. You know, I was able to lift myself out of that. And I dress myself up and I put on my makeup and I did my hair. And I did the same thing. I stood in the mirror and I complimented myself and then I turned on music and I danced in the mirror. And it's like, that movement helps you stir up that self-love. It's like movement is joyful, dancing is joyful. It's hard to be in a bad state when you're moving. So if you're too much in your head, get more into your body and move it. If you're uncomfortable looking at yourself while you're dancing, then do it not in the

mirror. Do it in a way that feels good to you, but do it, figure it out. Yeah, exercise, move, walk around the block, and dance something. I think that if you're just stagnating around all day, and it can be hard to get yourself out of the house or to move, but that just for me always, I just like, changing the state.

Oh, it's changed the state. Change the state. Move it or lose it. Yeah, exactly. It's funny, you know, in this new program that I did, I also do a dance video, and yoga video and a stretch video and in the dance video the way I choreographed it. I worked with this amazing dancer who's also a mom in Miami. I love it. So fun. Cause I was like this is my moment where I'm really showing everything that I do. I'm just I'm putting it all out there. I'm showing you done. Yeah. Everything that I've done that has worked for me.

It's not theory, it's real practical stuff. And the dance moves that we designed are based on the things that you have to do every day as a mother or as a woman. So like, I created a dance move out of like what it means to pick up Legos. Like I made picking up Legos sexy. Oh, dude, I love this. Our slime, scrappy stuff. Yeah.

And there's a dance move called the slow cooker. It's like, because you know, you put stuff in the slow cooker, you gotta stir it. You gotta stir it up. And you gotta dip your bread, you gotta dip the bread and taste it. So it's like, when you're in the house, and cheese, yeah, when you're in the house, just doing some things you have to do.

Yeah. Add some fun tricks. Add some sensuality to it and just dance through it. You know, dance through it. Move it. This is so good. And look, they hit me. Everyone just so you know, Dana made a special course. It's going to come out in June. Yeah. 2019, whenever you're listening to this. Exciting. It's called a satisfied mama. Satisfied mama. Yeah. I just want to give it to all my friends. Oh, it's really so proud of it. Yeah, I'm so proud of it. It's very unique, very creative. So here's the Lego dance. Okay.

Here's the Lego dance, there's a slow cook. There's a throwing your husband's socks. I mean, Dad, I want to see these. I'll send them to you. Of course I will. So that is just funny because I think you just watch it. You're like, is that another exercise program? It's another show.

It's like, oh, I'm already here. I am picking up Legos. I do have to cook. Exactly. Exactly. Press feed, or whatever. And the other one that I love, like, oh, I'm already here. I am picking up Legos. I do have to cook. Exactly. Exactly. Breast feed are whatever. And the other one that I love, and this is, I think, really important for anyone if you're a mom or not, I call it the transition stretch.

And I think what happens to a lot of women, especially moms, is that the day finally ends. The kids are finally in bed, and you're at the sink, and you're doing the last load of dishes, and you just want to collapse, and then there at the sink and you're doing the last load of dishes and you just want to collapse and then there's your partner creeping out. Oh yeah, okay. The creep up, right? There's the creep up and like the half initiation and then you... Ticking the back.

Yeah, taking the back or even just hand on the shoulder but you know what's coming. You could hand the shoulder, yeah. And your body recoils and you put up your hand and're like no, I'm not there yet, right? So that's why I think the planning sex is so Helpful so you can manage your energy, but this transition stretch I kind of designed it so that you can have your partner go and put the kids to bed and you go in your bedroom and do this stretch It's like 15 minute video and it helps you release the stress of your day and start to stir up your central energy. Okay, so tell me, is it like a pelvic floor thing?

Are you really like that? Yeah, there's a lot of pelvic circles and tilts and big hip circles. There's some, you know, touching of your body, some like connecting with your breath, connecting with your chest, and it's really simple. It's not hard to follow, but what it does is it really transitions you out of that, like, harried, been going all day, state, into a place where you can actually be receptive to pleasure. Well, that just makes so much sense because that creep, we can, I think we can all sense it, we the kids are not when we're not in the mood. And it's this

understanding that like, you need to understand that women and men get a rouse differently. Totally. So he sees you, you're sexy, that women and men get a rouse differently. Totally. So he sees you, you're sexy, you're doing dishes, whatever you're doing, come from behind. I'm ready. Like kids are already getting, you're like, no. I'm not ready. And then what happens, where I love that you even dance work

because I'm just a great solution because what happens in the negative side of it is that sometimes you reject your partner, then they feel bad. And there's a cycle of rejection. A cycle of, and it becomes a pattern. Totally. And then he's not initiating more, because he, and then he feels rejection.

And then you're like, why, why did you stop initiating? And then you think I'm not hot. And then it's like, because you rejected me the last 20 times. It's literally 20 times, because we don't realize it, because as we when you think, well, I'll get around to it,

I'll get around to it, and then months go by, years go by. And it becomes a really ugly cycle. So I just love that they can like, cut out, baby, you put the kids up and I'm gonna go move my hands. It's taking ownership of your libido again. It's like, it drop in and you there's not a magic help. We got to do the work. Yeah, it's inside of us in our Public floor. We're so tight and I know it's doing a lot more just for me hip exercises and doing stretching and doing

Rolling on the balls. Yeah, my friend Lauren's book. I was just showing you the power source, which is great. It just came out. It's you'll love it. It's like Sheila Kelly. Do you ever do that S-Factor and Dancing? Do we talk about this? I'm telling you, there's all these great ways that women, no matter what age, where you're at in your life, if you're not feeling turned on anymore, it is your responsibility to get there. It's not your partner.

I mean, it's great when couple, I always think couples are a team. You are a team. Yeah. And you both should be working on your sex life, but for women to learn tools to start out. They take ownership of it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, I think, I think it can feel even us saying that, I think there will be some women listening who are like, well, even that feels like a pressure. But you have to remember what the benefits are. The team benefits are. They need to bring it yourself. You have to bring it yourself. Because it's like, oh, one more thing I have to do.

But on the flip side of that. She says, can you pick up that leg goes in dance? Like that's on the flip side. That's the hardest thing. On the flip side of that is the energy that it brings, how it fires up your magnetism. I'm talking about the energy. Can you explain that in your body?

Oh my God, well, every day I feel, when I'm connecting with my central energy. I want this energy. I want this energy. Can you explain that in your body? Oh my God. Well, every day I feel when I'm connecting with my central energy walked in and she is. I feel I am, you know, on my days where I'm practicing the tools and I'm practicing the habits, I feel like a ball of energy, like central energy and power. I feel like I can attract whatever I want. I can feel connected to the energy in my pussy. Like I feel it. I feel the excitement. I feel the turn on and I got to say going around with that fire lit up in my body feels so much better. So much better. It's like a rocket fuel. It is. It is the source of life, Jess. If you think about it, it is. But then after childbirth, a lot of women are in life,

not even, you get shut down, we're disconnected. So it's really that you'll feel it again. Yeah, yeah. You will feel it again. Exactly, like doing your caggles or whatever, or a dance around. Oh yeah, totally, totally. Love it.

So that's a great ritual. Thank you. All right, guys, we're going to take a quick break and we come back even more Dana Myers. Freedom is another big thing. Yeah, talk to me. Freedom is a really big thing. I realized I didn't know how powerful the connection was between freedom and my libido

until I had kids and lost a lot of my freedom. Because when you have kids for a minute, your world becomes a lot smaller, like especially if you're breastfeeding because you have to be there, or you have to pump and then try to get them on the bottle and all those things. But what I missed the most when I first had children was the freedom of walking around the city or my neighborhood, sort of during the dusk hours when commuters were coming home or people were going out and that exchange of energy and seeing the sights and the sounds and the art on the street.

And I was like, all of that turned me on. So suddenly I had a kid and I was at home from 430 to 730 doing all that bullshit that you have to do with a baby. Which, look, it's bullshit. I call it bullshit. It's also amazing. But when you're doing it every night, you realize you've lost your freedom. And you might even know what that, yeah. I didn't realize how connected the two were.

So what I started doing was once or twice a week. I did do the pumping and I made sure that the baby would take a bottle. That was a process, but it happened. And I would pass off that responsibility to someone else, either my husband or nanny or my mom, and I would go out. And I it was literally like, I am going out to reclaim my freedom. During the most difficult and exhausting hours of parenting. And so I would go out on my own. I called it the mommy pop out.

I'm popping out bitches. I'm out. Dude, right. I'm popping out. Pop out. Walk around. Have a coffee. Have a drink at the bar.

Flirt with the bartender. Go see a author reading or a book signing or a museum opening or a movie or a yoga class. Something that fueled my central imagination. Right? I didn't go to Target by toilet paper. Because sometimes mom, that is exciting to go to Target on your own. It is exciting.

They're all the same. Yeah, they're suppressing sometimes Target, but I get it. But the pop out is about. I love the mommy pop out. The mommy pop out so good. It's so good. And then I would come home and I'd be like, hey honey, I'm turned on because I had my freedom.

I didn't exhaust myself. And also, you know, when he would step up and do that, which he knew what the results were. So he was happy to. He knew that when I came home and feedback loop, I felt turned on. And so most likely, that was a night where I would be energized and inspired to have sex. So freedom is huge for your life. Because you do lose it. And I feel like I've had so many friends, because most of my friends do have kids. And I feel like I've had so many conversations with them.

And I just like, you have to do it. Can you get a sitter? Like all of them, they've got, you know, the kids are older now, but they've all gone through stages where I'm like, no, I can't find the sitter or they just have this guilt. Like I feel bad leaving them. Or, you know,

my husband will understand or he won't be able to have them, like, what if I hear my friend? He won't be able to have it. He won't be able to have it. He won't be able to help her with her homework or he won't be able to help him. He doesn't get how to make the lunches and it's like, what about mom, this perfection, like letting go?

It's almost like this is what I call. I have an assistant when you're like, I can do it myself. How do you do that transition to like trusting? You have to, this is what I call. I'm like, I can do it myself. How do you do that transition to trusting? You have to, this is what I call learning to love daddy style. Okay, I call it learning to love daddy style. It's a whole new jargon here, which I don't know. And I remember in the early days, first child,

Charlie would be like, you go take a bath, I'll put Rocky down. And I would be in the bath, but I was a new mom, and I was like, it has to be perfect. He has to get all 11.5 steps of bedtime, perfectly cracked, or otherwise Rocky wants to be through the night. I was like a nervous wreck,

so I would get myself out of the bath, and I would go stand outside the door. I just watched him, I would go stand outside the door, and if he was a minute late in getting Rocky down, I would bust in and cause a raucous. I was that psycho and that's when, after a couple of weeks of that, Charlie was like, listen, listen to me.

This is daddy style, that's what he said. This is daddy style and you have to let me parent, how I parent. He said, you're missing the point here. I'm trying to give you an opportunity to relax, to unwind, to just have free time, and you're hovering, like, let me do me, let me do this. And so I think it's a process of like saying,

what's the exchange here? What's the value that I'm getting? I'm getting free time, I'm getting a loan time, I can pop out of the house, I can have a long face time with my mom or whoever, I can go shopping and go to the gym. It may not be done perfect, the pajamas may be on backwards.

The bathroom floor might be flooded, but you're still out. You're not doing it. So, caught him some slack. Appreciate him. Appreciate his style. And appreciate the free time that you got. That's the only way to do it.

That's the only way to do it. Because I just hear all my friends protesting. I had to get one of my friends in Nanny once. I'm like, I will find the Nanny. There's a Nanny board in Debra Disco. I hear where you should post it. Because there's this resistance. I know those resistance. once. I'm like, I will find the nanny. There's a nanny bullet in the heaven to go. I hear is where you should post it because there's this resistance or the skills or like their moms never got help.

You just hear so many excuses for moms like I, yeah. Yeah, it's true. Yeah, like the kids are gonna be okay and I can imagine. This kids will be okay. Yeah, the kids are gonna be okay. Yeah, right. We're gonna have a lot of this.

And also this, you're gonna mess up your kids. That's why we're here on the planet. Oh my God, yes. Like you're literally, I used to joke with my brother, I'm like, yeah, we'll just, he's joke like I'm not saving up for their college fund, I'm saying it for their therapy fund, cause I'm like, yes, you should do that.

And it's true, well, because, I believe they were all here, and there's when they were like one years old, because we are all here to work on our childhood. That's right. And undo it or redo it and learn what happened and grow from it. Like I honestly believe that working through our past

is what propels us into our future. So you do the best you can. You're a loving mom and you're doing the work and you've got a good husband. It's like nothing's ever gonna be perfect. And I have to remember that too with work. Like 100% like, you know. So that's a big one.

I love that. I hope that this is just really gonna resonate. Yeah, I hope so. I mean, look, I always think So that's a big one. I love that. I hope that this is just really gonna resonate. Yeah, I hope so. I mean, look, I always think that guilt is a wasted emotion. Anger can be a very productive emotion. It can move you to take action, to express yourself, to heal wounds, whatever. But guilt, it doesn't, it's a waste.

It's a waste. It really is. And my mom's just like, I've never heard anyone else say that. She's like, I'm like guilt is a wasted emotion. It's a wasted emotion. And then I'm'm like well, but mommy should feel guilty because But it's true though. It's not even emotion right no, it's more like it's loosely tied to anxiety which also I know right hate it. So it's like this practice now. What about masturbation for a lot of women Moms are no moms. They, they didn't even masturbate.

Well, I thought a husband, I've got a partner, I've got a toy, but I don't ever use it, or it's been a while, it doesn't feel the same, I don't feel sexy, do you like it? Gateways for moms, good toys that you like, or different like quickies for moms. I mean, I think the thing is, I watch for you.

Yeah, I mean, look, when I sit down on Sunday night to look at my week, I always sketch in a solo session, right? I map out where I'm gonna masturbate. Put it in the calendar. I do. I put it in the calendar just like I put everything else in the calendar. My work tasks, my fitness, you know,

where I'm gonna get my fitness, what I'm gonna cook and meal plan. So I schedule it in and I think that for most moms, it's like organization really helps your family life run smoothly. So why not also organize where you're gonna get your pleasure? Especially, or that's another way for self-care. Yes, yeah. You're advertising your pleasure.

Yeah, and I think that making it not okay, this is the thing. Don't wait for the desire to strike. Right. If you're not in the habit of regular self pleasure and you're like, well, why am I gonna do this or when or how? Don't wait for this sudden urge of lust for yourself to strike. Make a date with yourself. Lay down, grab a toy, put it on your body. Be curious about how it feels. And within what, five minutes, 10 minutes,

you're gonna have an amazing orgasm. You'll be surprised. And you'll never regret it never Reset to reset you it feels good. You're like your eyes or you get color in your skin I had the best orgasm last night with myself. I have to say I think I had the best sexual experience Ever with myself last night. What happened? Oh God She's away from her husband now. She's She's coming in sex with Emily, you know been in the place. She was coming in and sexually, Emily.

You know, I just, I went out dancing with friends last night. I was really in my body. I had so much fun, I felt so much love. And I came home and I bought this new crystal wand from Shockrubs, which is amazing. Oh, the three of them are Shockrubs, yeah. Do not own a Shockrubs. No, oh my God.

It's a deal that it's a. It was a clear quartz still though. So beautiful. I called I named mine the rainbow rocket because I feel like it's like a manifestation tool like I lit it. There's like a prism inside the quartz, which looks like a rainbow. And I was like, this is the rocket to my dreams. This is my vehicle.

And then I have this new wand from a brand called Listel. It's a little bit like the Lilo Smart Wand, which whoever's listening, it's the best Lilo Smart Wand in New DM. Oh, I don't know. Okay. So good. And I used both of them and I was just, you know, I'm in a hotel, so it's like new surfaces to be on. Like a hotel set. Turned on this OJ's song. Hold on. I want to tell you. hold on hold on hold on hold on hold on

I'm gonna it's so good oh my god this is the best hold on this is so good I heard it in my uber and I started to get aroused on my way home from the bar okay okay hold on a second how can I play this in here just play it to the mic. Okay, hold on a second, hold on. It's called Let Me Make Love to You. Mmm. It's gonna get to the good part. So, hold on. Close up. Come on, come on. Let me make love to you, baby. Love it. And then there's this, and he says, I won't stop until you ask me to. Oh my God, so hot.

And you know what, I'm fine even the dinner Uber. You know what? It was the inspiration of the Uber and I was like, what song is this? I was literally aroused in Uber. This guy's like, oh my God, I was like, is this safe? I didn't tell him I was aroused. Right, thank you. And I didn't tell him.

I was like, dang, to keep it together. I said, what song is this? So good. And so I got it in my Spotify. I immediately went upstairs, put the record on, got my toys out, danced around the room, listening to the OJs. I love it.

It's called the OJs. The OJs. And I just, you know what? It was just this combination of being, you know, I had had a gin and tonic, and I was just super like, in having a love fast with my friends and dancing. And then this music, all these sensual inputs, right?

It's all sensual. And then the hotel room, right, being in a new space. And then I just, ugh, I just had all these wonderful fantasies. I'm gonna keep some of the details for myself. Yeah, that's okay. You've shared a lot. But afterwards, I was literally like,

I think that was the best sexual experience I may have ever had in my whole life. With myself. Oh my God, see, that is possible. It's possible. We don't tell Charlie that, but, no, you know what, it's like, you know what, that's okay. Okay, because I thought about that.

Maybe you're best alone experience. No, best alone experience. No, actually, you know, it's interesting that you brought that up because I thought about that. Maybe you best alone experience. No, best alone experience. No, actually, it's interesting that you brought that up because I had that thought, like, oh, is that a bummer for Charlie? Like, if I acknowledge that that was actually the best sexual experience I've ever had my whole life. But you know what, the longest relationship,

sexual or not that I'm ever gonna have in my whole life is with myself. That's true. That's it. That's true, girl. That's true, girl. That's it. It's the longest one I've ever had.

I've had it with myself my whole life. Like, I can own that as a sovereign being. Yes. Exactly. And it wasn't like it was with the Uber driver. It was your son. It was not with the Uber driver. And it sounds like in your relationship,

he'd be very happy for you. And I think, you know, I think he would. I think he'd probably be like, well, show me. And I would. I would re, I would re, I would re, I've heard about these shock rubs. Someone tell me about, but like using a dildo and a literal vibe is what we're talking about,

which is the best. Yeah, I love that. I love that combo. I love the combo. Yeah, I'm a combo girl. I think gathered vibes are great, but this way you could control every. Yes, yes, I agree.

I was very special. I'm glad you're having such a sexist special time in Los Angeles. So this is my, this is like my extended mommy pop out, you know, it's like, I've got 40s of freedom. I'm expressing myself. just sexist special time in Los Angeles. So this is my extended mommy pop out. It's like, I've got four days of freedom. I'm expressing myself. I'm enjoying myself.

And the first day I got here, I had the guilt, which I usually don't have when I leave my kids. And it struck me down. I really felt like, can I be away from them? Have I made the right choices? Is this the right thing to do? And it took me like a day to kind of settle into it and to continue to give myself permission

that I'm allowed to step outside of my role as mother and orchestrator of our family life. Exactly. And to just have my own life. And they're gonna be fine. The kids are gonna be fine. They're fine. I'm thinking, okay, maybe reaching out to your friends.

I mean, here's the thing that I will. I did, I reached out to my friends. Yeah, I have like my girls too, that I call with something, you know, I think I reached out to my friends. Yeah, I have like my girls too, that I call what's a thing, you know, we all have to have our like our ride or die. And I have, I'm fortunate that I have a lot of them. And I, you know, close that the people you could call

when you're about to, for anything. Yeah. But what I realize is when I don't have that, that's also something that's missing. And I feel like if I, if I've gone a few days or I haven't seen them in a while, and like I was telling you earlier, a lot of them are not in LA.

So I have to work on building community in Los Angeles. But how important that is for women, because I think that you do have kids, you get busy in your life and you just think well, it's not important. I just have my family. And then you got to make those friends again. Yeah.

But I think it's like, women, it shouldn't just be like a, a should. Like it should be like, you require a room. Communities, everything. Yeah. And you know to think about the way we used to live, they always say like, well, we used to live in villages. And it's like motherhood, I think, was easier.

Because one night, one woman would cook, right? One night, another woman would cook. And for the whole tribe, right? Yes, you all watch this. And they were in, they were in, you all watch each other's kids. And now we're sort of, oftentimes, we've moved away from our families

and we're mothering in isolation. It's true. It's such a problem. It's such a problem. You're a friend family and building that community is so important. My friend, that is Brooklyn, she was there and she was like, oh my god, everyone in the neighborhood, she just moved back to school. She's like, but I miss it.

Everyone's kids were coming over, we all knew everyone. It makes everything so much easier. It does, it does. Well, I'm glad that you've had that. Yeah. Now, what about sex hacks for when you've kids? Oh my God. When you do the other night,

I was talking to a friend recently and she's like, I don't feel comfortable having sex even when the kids are home. And they're like eight and six. I'm like, eight and six, yes. She's not even when they're in the house at all. No, she's still has, she can't totally be herself. She has it, but she doesn't feel like

she can go and watch her. Yeah. So what do you guys do for this? Well, that's a really good question. And I would say at least once a week, I make sure the kids get out of the house and so that we have two to three hours to have like a real proper long love session.

I love it. So the nanny, I'll organize for her to take them to a museum or to the park or to target or, you know, bribe them. Let them give a job. Yeah, yeah, to target or you know, bribe them. Let them get the yellow paper. Totally. I agree. You know, you do feel more free.

Like you can really relax. Like you can be more vocal when the kids are out of the house. So once a week, I organize that. I make sure that happens. That's a good tip. Yeah. Or it has to be on the calendar. Yeah.

It has to be so that you can organize for the child care and make it happen. Um, you know, it's interesting. I never let our kids sleep in our room, never ever. I was very rigid with that. And then when our son started having like a little bit of night-taming anxiety and struggling to fall asleep last year, I couldn't be as rigid with him. It was a real shift in mothering for me.

It was like, oh, he's a real human having real feelings here. I can't just shove him back in his bed and tell him that's it. So he now comes into our room which is so weird for me because I was always like, this is our space. This is the this is the marriage space. So it's it's hard for us to have sex at night, right? Because there's a human in our room. So and because we work together, so we'll just try to have sex during the day. Yeah, how do you? Okay? So now our sex has mostly shifted to daytime sex, which is fun. We're all fine. Good. I have more energy But look, I think you know if you've got kids in the house and they're asleep

Turn off the monitor so you don't have one ear on the monitor and one ear trying to have great sex It's like try to focus your energies where they are. It's good to my track. It's good to my track. This mindfulness everywhere. Yeah, and also know that like, you know, when parents are getting their love needs met, it's only ever a good thing for the kids.

That's like full stop. It's like, we just, that's the full stop. Happy parents who are fulfilling each other's love needs and intimacy needs, your kids are going to be happy. You're a better parent. You're a better parent. So true. Prioritize.

Prioritizing. Exactly. I love that you have all these tapes in this course coming out. For women, they can just take the course and watch the videos and be like you. Yeah. Well, be like you. Be all sexy. Yeah.

I think the cool thing is that I'm not trying to like change anyone into some, you know, Victoria's Secret Angel version of what sexy is. I think what the practice is in the book and what the practice is in the new program, it's really about discovering what's uniquely sexy about you and what works for your sex life and relationship and self-confidence at this moment. This moment in time, in your life. And now go back to how, because people are like, well, it's not like how it was out. And nothing's ever, that's gone.

That's not going back. It's been present in the moment. Yeah. Yeah, always. So, how is it now? So, what about the variety part of it? If you've got to a, like, a riot, you're like, of course. Yeah, of course.

I mean, we all fall in and all the time. And you will fall into a riot. And if you've never fallen to a riot, I don't believe you. Yeah, totally. So, look, I mean, you can, you know, obviously the easy way to spice things up is bringing a toy, bringing, you know, watch a little porn that interests you. The thing that I'm loving these days is what I call playing with erotic energies and it's sort of like very light and it's sort of like very light fantasy, very light role play. So I had planned to have sex on a Thursday night and so Charlie was putting the kids to bed.

I was doing my stretching and my dancing and then I was in the shower and he came in and he said, what are you in the mood for, love? And out of nowhere I just said, I want a wrestle. I want a wrestle and I had been watching glow And I had been watching Glow on Netflix, and I really loved their outfits. They're like shiny wrestling, gorgeous ladies of wrestling outfits.

And I wasn't in the mood for like slow erotic sex. I wasn't in the mood to watch porn. But this idea, this erotic energy if I want a wrestle was like a hint. It was a hint at what kind of energy I wanted. I wanted like to kind of like have our bodies colliding and to sort of pin each other down and just be like rough and tumble, but in a bit of a funny way. And the sex that we wound up having that night had this new energy. And I was like running across the room and like body slamming him and we were like tumbling and tossing and it was so fun and it was just for words. That's so fun and put it right. It was just for words but it completely re-energized and brought this new energy and so that became our thing.

He would ask me what he in the mood for love and I would say I want you to pet me like a cat because I was wearing these like yummy Jersey jammies and I felt all slinky in them jammies and I felt like a cat and I just wanted to be pet like a cat and so that Evoked this other kind of sensual and I was purring and crawling and so that brought that like that brought hold different flavor to sex Exactly. I love it So what I recommend to women to do is you know to spend a minute when you're not in the bedroom Writing down phrases writing down these erotic energies that might interest you. It could be anything.

Hot and cold. Pretend you're from Spain. Pat me like a cat. Anything. And then practice saying them to yourself in the mirror so that you get comfortable with your voice, so that you get comfortable hearing yourself say that. So when your partner says, what are you in the mood for? You already have something to say. You know, if your partner never says, what are you in the mood for? You already have something to say, you know, partner never says what are you in mood for?

You have to ask them say babe when we have sex on Sunday I want you to ask me what are you in the mood for great. That's it. I don't know if they're people have never talked about sex I don't know I talk about it all the time but couples like we've never talked about it. Mm-hmm They feel like it's just um It's not okay for it to ask for what they want. But I guess if they start doing your program and masturbating, they're gonna do it. Well, there's, I think that, look, it could be uncomfortable to talk about sex

if you don't feel like you have the word choices or if you, you know, or if you just not in the practice of it, but a really easy way to do it is to sit down over glass of wine and say, we're gonna talk about sex for the next 30 minutes. I have three questions that this girl on sex with Emily said to say, so you say, what's great about our sex life? What could be better? And how can we co-create a sex life that feels exciting and compassionate for this moment

in our life right now? And it's like, that's not that hard. No, it's really not that hard. Okay, we can talk about that. We've never talked about it. I think we both agree in our life right now. And it's like, that's not that hard. No, it's really not that hard. We can talk about that. We've never talked about it. I think you both agree our sex life is important. Yeah. So this is time.

Let's start now. Yeah. I love it over mine. And it's important when you're not in the bedroom. Yeah, when you're not in the bedroom. Don't drink the bedroom. It's a worse time to do it. I know you should cook in the kitchen.

It makes sense if I tell you not to, but bedroom talk outside. Not. And if it starts to turn into like a blame game conversation where you or your partners focusing on the lack of sex, you have to say, no, let's come back to the opportunity. Yes, there may have been a lack or a drought, but let's talk about the opportunity.

What could be better? Well, we could have sex more often. What does that mean to you? What would be good for you three times a week? Well, mine's once a week. Okay, so look, we could land it twice a week. And it's like just taking away the fear and the flaming and the shaming. Yeah.

Not coming into place, like if it's the first time you've talked about it, you have it in a while, like, clean slate. That's why I start with what's great. I love it. Start with the positive. What could be better? Yeah. It's so hard though that what could be better, because sometimes couples, like, we always

take it into the negative. For things wrong with me, but just remember if you're doing it in a... Well, and when you answer that question, what could be better because sometimes couples, we always take it instead of negative for things wrong with me. But just remember if you're doing it in a high place. And when you answer that question, what could be better? You want to start with a positive. So I love how we kiss. And I would like to explore this new position.

Not but I want to explore this new position. And I'd like to try this. After but is bullshit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. Yeah, totally. It's good. Good tips, Dana. Thank you. This is awesome.

So everyone's got to check out your course when it comes out. Check out your book, The Mommy Mojo Makeover. So you took your book basically and you're an expanded into videos. I expanded it. There's a lot of new content in the program. There's a lot of new stuff.

Dana, I think this is going to be such a great service for women everywhere. Thank you. And I'm excited to watch it. Thank you. OK, I have questions for you that we ask all of our guests. Okay. Well, these are new questions. They don't think you've been asking for them. They're exciting. There would you rather. Okay. Would you rather have multiple orgasms that weren't so good or just one terrific orgasm?

One terrific orgasm for sure. Would you rather give a strip tease or lap dance? for sure. Would you rather give a strip tease or lap dance? Lap dance. I want to feel that grinding. Would you rather only have sex in the bedroom or never have sex in the bedroom? Only. Only. I like my bedroom. I like my bedroom. There's a bunch of surfaces. I'm sure. I love it. I love it. Would you rather be a bad kisser or bad at oral sex? Oh, geez. I'm sure. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it.

I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it.

I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it.

I love it. I love it. I love it. I want both. I do too. Okay, wait. Would I rather watch or be watched? I'd rather watch. Alright, yeah. Thank you, Dana. Thank you so much. Thank you for being here. You can have me find this.

You are, honey. I'm so proud of everything you're doing. This is amazing. Everything I'll be on the show notes, DanaBmiers.com. Anywhere else they should know? That's it. DanaBmiers.com.

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