Sex With Emily - Modern Dating & Menage a Trois Mix-Ups

Episode Date: August 20, 2016

Are you struggling to navigate the minefield that is modern dating? Does the idea of true intimacy fill you with dread? If so, you’re not alone. Today’s show teaches you how to face those fears head on, whether you’re single and ready to mingle, or starting to settle down. Are you caught between commitment and playing the field? What are the rules when it comes to dating a best friend’s past lover? What’s the best way to close the door on an open relationship? Emily and Menace respond to these dating dilemmas and discuss how PornHub is promoting sending items to the Olympics in the name of sexual health! From free porn for self-loving Olympians to tips for making the most of your smaller-than-average member to an almost ménage à trois in Mexico, this podcast is packed with honest advice to put your sexual self-doubts at bay! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, Menace and I are here to help you through some of your top love and sex dilemmas. Are you realizing that an open relationship is not for you? Should you deign a guy your best friend has been intimate with in the past? Are you wondering how to make the most of an average sized member? Plus, find out how porn hub is helping to stop the spread of the Zika virus by doing what it does best.

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Hi, Menace. Hello, Emily. How are you doing today? I'm doing really, really well. It's been an amazing week. I know. Because you got to come on the Woody show in the morning on Alt-line 8.7.

So, morning show that I'm part of here in Los Angeles on Trestio Radio. Billboards everywhere. Billboards everywhere. It's a part of I Heart Radio and stuff like that. And you got to come on the show and everyone loved you. You did great. Thank you. It was a lot of fun.

I thought it was fun too. A lot of listeners enjoyed it. And a lot of sex with Emily listeners listens to the Woody show and a lot of Woody show listeners listen to sex. It was a good of Woody show listeners listen to sex. It was a good marriage. It all came together. It was funny because after you were on

and there was people tweeting and Instagramming and saying, oh, finally, you know, you're on the show. Because we, to be honest, I always told you we didn't have a lot of guests. We didn't have a lot of guests. And then also, I don't know, it was kind of weird because you were on Love Line and Love Line was owned by a different company, you know, they say it's all good But it might have been weird. They might have gotten but heard that you came over and now it's all good now

We're good now. We're free to marry and you're gonna be on there all the time. Oh good. I would love it Thank you, honey. It was a blast because when you said to me You did a really good job men's would never send me a text that says that if you didn't think so. And I liked it. And it was fun for me to see you and your element there with all your people and your friends. And they make fun of you in different ways that I do. So it's, you know, it's always fun. I loved it. I loved it. So thank you. Yeah. And then so Woody show. Yeah, come on.

Yeah. Come on podcast ago. Woody actually sat in. Yeah. That was really fun. Two of you guys weren't checking out. He's a big guy. So yeah, we're just bringing in so many fun people. You should check it out. That was great. And then also recently we had a show called Taboo Sex Questions. The question is your shoe tie.

Shoetie? Shoetie? Too shy to ask. So you know those questions. How do you get your partner on board with your stocking fetish? How do you make your swinging fancies reality? That was a great show. You know, we have two shows a week So check them out. You don't want to miss the shows No, no, so you had a big party here at the other night. I did we had the girls night in parties

So we had four like millennial women here talking about oh, I better get dirty We got dirty man. Yeah, I'm sure I got People just, yeah, there's so many opportunities right now. You know, it is true that they're all 9 dating. There's one married woman, but they're all, you know, just like, there's so many different ways to be able to get laid now. Like, they're like, there's no shortage. There's no scarcity mentality. Like, this is going to be the one and I need to sell down.

There's just a, there's just a row of dicks. A row of dicks, just dicks. Sossage party. You know, you know, sausage party. Yes, a great movie, by the way. So sorry, I missed it. You have to go see. Um, yeah, I was lucky enough to be part of the, um, the, the Hollywood red carpet, the, the show, the Woody show we got to host it.

And like all the stars came by Seth Rogen, Paul Rudd. Um, it was so much fun. I couldn't believe it. I'm like, we're hosting a Hollywood red carpet. It was crazy. So we got to introduce everybody, and it was a lot of fun. That is fun. But I mean, it is a hilarious movie.

If you're in the sex, there's so many sex jokes. I know. I was supposed to go, but I had to stay here to do the podcast. And then we would have had the sausage or something. I saw there's a lot of hot dog trucks and stuff. Obviously. Hot dog trucks that make sense. Another event that I'm missing right now in Surrey, or is it Olympics? Yeah, it's going down the river. I'm watching you. I haven't even watched one second. I mean, either. Everyone's like, I'm watching the opening ceremony. I'm like, yeah, I'm

hard to get up and watch it, but that was a bed. All I hear is crap about it all the time because how much of a disaster it is, because of Rio and like some parts are super filthy and stuff like that, but which is weird, all this stuff, all this negativity has come out about Rio because I heard nothing but amazing things about Rio, the only part that I've heard is like it was super dangerous at times, but now they're just coming out,

like the construction wasn't completed. And some of these people that have to be canoeing, it was dirty in the bay that they have to canoe in, all the kind, one of them, one of the canoes capsized because it hit a sofa that was in the water. Oh, really? Yeah.

I mean, people know that though. It's not like they cleaned it up because clean it up in a year that that you know you're doing the lot of the people Rio are very upset too because they demolished a lot of Shanti Towns that people were living in just to make you know, right make it look like they Re-rooted all the buses so none of the poor people can get to the beaches It all kinds of crazy drop men. Right. There's lots drama, Rio, including the fact that they're worried about the Zika virus. The Missile Warren virus, of course.

And it can be transmitted through unprotected sex. So there's been millions upon millions of condoms sent there, handing out at the Rio Olympics. But Pornhub, never won to miss an opportunity, they proposed a different solution. They said, well, why not just have, don't, you don't have to have sex, but we're gonna give you, they're gonna give you a little up.

They're gonna lend a hand, so to speak. Traveling to Rio, they're giving way free tissues, lube and porn. So they're saying that it's the best alternative to sexual, you know, to having sex is viewing adult entertainment. And the bet, the only thing I like about this, because of course the health officials, health officials

are not saying, great idea, we really want you to masturbate more than, people are going to do what they're going to do. But what I like is that they're given away the free porn, maybe it's without ads or anything, because it's always kind of free. But what they're saying is, they're asking them which team they're rooting for. So afterwards, they're going to find out which countries best rate the most to porn. I'm excited about that. Okay.

What? And just marketing. It's stupid. It's stupid. It is marketing. It's not like they're actually doing a great thing. They're doing a terrible thing. I'm saying they're exploiting the Zika virus.

I'm just saying this is my sex and the new story. And if anything good is going to come out of it, I'm going to find out which countries were really watching one point, but I feel like they're probably my sex and the new story. And if anything good is gonna come out of it, I'm gonna find out which countries were really watching one point, but I feel like they're probably just having more sex right now. That's why LeBron, that's why LeBron James didn't go. Okay, so you said, because of Zika? Yeah, no, I'm surprised so many people went.

So you could, but it is probably safer than having sex watching porn. But hey, opportunity to stick. I mean, Zika's like all through the Caribbean and stuff like that. It's crazy. I know. No, there's mosquitoes in my house now, but we're not going to get here, right? I hate when you know what you're going to bed and like, just, yes.

They're by your ear. It's the worst. Does that happen to you? No. Never happened to him. Just go. Okay. There were no mosquitoes.

It's too cold. But I'm not complaining. All right. Because I'm happy here. Okay. So that's when I first asked the news. Do you have anything else you want to add? What else is going on sex in the news that I heard lately? Well, we cover podcasts ago, we already talked about all the penises showing up in the pop culture and like people on vacation and stuff like that. No, Orlando Blooms penis. Oh, yeah, yeah, that was happening. We talked about

never showing their pen is all those years They were just like you never saw the guys ever from full frontal with a guy. No, it was a girl as you saw Yeah, and now these men are just like him We're gonna support him as well. So I'm gonna rock it. Yeah, yeah, you know, but no, that's uh I don't know that you would think there'd be a lot of sex news, but they're I guess that's it Everyone's all political right now. It is all political and it's all. It's boring and hated.

Really? Yeah. Okay. All this political stuff. You, I mean, you worked in what you feel. So I'm sure you like get a boner off of it. I do. I do, but I actually, you know what? I didn't get a boner. I used to have a boner about it and I cared so much. And then I became just a really disillusioned because every year, whether you're Republican or Democrat, it's the same exact argument. Like you could just like turn off the volume, like, you could just close your eyes

and they could play you two debates. And it would be the same exact rhetoric that they said 10 years ago during a presidential that they're saying now, you know, what the Democrats want, probably nothing really changes. It's about raising money. You become very disillusioned, but it is still very important to vote, even if you hate politics, you gotta vote. It's a good thing. Well, once I learn about the electoral college,

I'm like, okay, you get it. You get what it matters. No. What? The electoral college, they pick whoever the hell they want to pick. No, but there are certain times when your vote does matter. This is not political talk with Emily, I know,

but just once I hate. I was gonna do political politics or sex, I chose this. But the thank God you picked the sex part. Much better. But once I learned about like, Toro College, I'm like, yeah. No, you do stuff about the toucher. Don't care about that. It's not just like that, no, we're not going to get into that now.

Everyone should actually vote. You people die around the world if they have the opportunity to vote. Okay, so let's vote on what we're going to do next. Yes, please do it. Well, it's not really a vote, because I'm in charge. Go for it. We're going to do emails. All right. Thank you, next. Yes, please do it. Well, it's not really about, because I'm in charge. We're gonna do emails. All right. Thank you, everyone.

We love hearing from you and thank you for emailing us. Oh, by the way, what's the name of that dog again? That keeps them assaulting me at the time we come here. Allermann, he's, okay, I check out my Instagram. I'm gonna make my leg.

For a really cute picture of this dog. I am, for real, it's getting closer, getting a dog, but it's my friend's dog. And I've had him for nine days my friend L She's a great website lady cheeky. It's on Tumblr. It's Tumblr porn for women It's like an amazing site, but besides that she let me watch her dog Warned me to watch a dog and it was only gonna be for a night. We were having a love affair And I've not seen him hump one person but you I know right do that problem

person but you. I know right. Do you have that problem? The dog's want to be. No, I haven't. But this one all over me. He's really cute, but he's good. He's a baby. Yeah, just sleeping right. That's great. So yeah, sex Emily on Instagram. Check it out. Check it out. Oh, it's so you know, the bikini photo. We're the bikini photo. I'm like, scroll down. You got to find it. What else do you get on there? Let me see what I got on there. Oh, well, it's anal sex month. So happy anal sex. Oh, you gotta find it. What else do people want to get on that? Let me see what else I got on there. Oh, well it's anal sex month, so happy anal sex month. Oh, you have anal sex month on that.

No, but I don't have anal sex photos on there. But my friend Hernando Chavez, I did a podcast with him about anal sex month. And there's something called a loob shooter. Do you know what a loob shooter is? So a lot of you know, anal sex, one of the top tips I have for people doing anal is you have to use a lot of loob, you just do.

And a lot of times a loob just can't really get far in there. So there's a shooter, right? It looks like a needle, like a needle. Like when you give me someone a shot and I loaded it with lube and I was just testing it and I shot him in the eye. Oh wow. It's on my Instagram. And I was like it made me feel like what we have to go through. When you guys are shooting your loads and into our eyes. And so I shot it with the eye and it was pretty fun. Nice. Yeah, it was a good one. So all my Instagram.

There's a nice throwback picture with Amy. Oh, that was my throwback from this advice four years ago. This right now, this summer we were going through all that. She texted me this morning. She's like, I love this photo. I'm going to throw back it. I'm like, I'll throw that back. She's cool.

I always liked her. I liked her too. Do you people ever come to you and say they know you from that show? They have yeah, they're just randomly As weird. You were like when's it coming back? I'm like it's been for years. It's not coming back, but I'm glad you liked it Downloading iTunes if we had the kiss Okay, so emails we can do that We can also we could give a shout out to our sponsors real quick and then come right back So you guys I just so you know we love keeping this show free and doing two shows a week. So thank you for listening and supporting

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Okay. September 24th and 25th. So go to my website, click on the banner there. I'm gonna be there. And our listeners email every day like when you're gonna be on the East Coast, when can I see you? You can see me there.

I'll be doing a live podcast there. Top sex educators will be there. A lot of sponsors. It's just gonna be a fun two day thing. Bring your friend, bring your partner, whatever, come alone. Doesn't matter. I will give you hug. We'll take a selfie. We'll just show you a fun two day thing. Bring your friend, bring your partner, whatever, come alone, doesn't matter. I will give you hug, we'll take a selfie,

we'll show you some butt plugs. Cool. Yeah, what about you? Where am I going? Oh, yeah, well by the time you probably hear this, I have already traveled to San Francisco, you got my other dog. Oh my God.

My other, so I can't believe you're every two dogs. Yeah, I've been searching for another French bulldog and how did you know this was the French bulldog? Um, did you meet him in person? Well, it's a she she got some of that names of dogs. He only go with female dogs because if you live in an apartment You know, you kind of want to stick with the female dog because they live in an apartment, you know, you kind of want to stick with a female dog because the male is like the lifter leg and peon. Oh right, like how this dog was hallerin was helping you. Yeah, right.

But the, yeah, so I actually, through friends, they had some friends, some mutual friends that had a letter of French bulldogs and I saw this one and now get to bring it home. I'm excited. That's a really excited. And then, so yeah, I'm sure that's up on my Instagram. So go to my Instagram, menaceme and ASE. Right. Also, my dad, he's gonna have his 60th birthday.

No way. So last of it, I'm gonna go to Reno. You never talk about your dad ever. No, my dad's awesome. He's amazing. He's super cool. Is he part of you? Yeah. You never talk about your dad ever. No, my dad's awesome. He's amazing. He's super cool. Is he part of you? Yeah. You never talk about your dad. Really?

Yeah, maybe that explains a lot of things. Oh, you always think there's something wrong with me. There's nothing. No, my dad's super cool. I just don't know how I can fit in my sex life talking about my dad. We need more of your sex. I've had that for your sex life for your dad but still, that's cool. No, it's, yeah, no, my dad. We need more of your sex. I read that for your sex life. Yeah, I'm still at that school. Yeah, no, it's yeah, no my dad's super cool He's having his

60th birthday. Yeah, I still don't know what to get him. He's a huge die hard. No But he's a die hard for a night as fan die hard Giants fan I don't know maybe I'm gonna take it to take it to take it to something but that's gonna be cool Get him meet up bunch of family and stuff like that That's good. Yeah, that's sweet. I'm glad you understand this stuff. I mean, no not knocking Reno It's just like I've been doing so much traveling. I'm like I know I'm gonna be here. We're just got a new dog That's a lot of responsibility. I'm like to fly with the To dog I want your dog

Why is it well? I think is the Puppy it's a puppy. I don't want it around other dogs. I get it. You got to get all the shots and all that stuff. Okay. And anybody that's listening, I know this is not sexy and all that stuff, but if you're a dog, dog owner, please get pet insurance.

It is super cheated. It is important. Yeah, healthy paws is the insurance that I have for my dog. Good. Healthy paws, get it. You can get pet insurance all the way up until all your dog is 12 years old.

Okay, good to know. You should do it. It's true. Thank you for sharing that. Okay, let's hear from the people. All right. Because we get so many emails, I love hearing from you. Okay, hello, Miss Emily.

I have a complex, a complex question that I really need help with. For brevity's sake, I will give you the main points. My girlfriend and I are coming up on our one year anniversary. We originally started the relationship with this idea of keeping it open. Neither of us took advantage of it,

but it came up now and then. She became very attached very quickly, but I was uncertain. I liked her, but didn't want to hurt her. So after a great weekend with her, I asked for a break just to see how we both feel. She took it hard, but the time apart made me realize I was crazy about her and I didn't want it

to end. You got to follow me on this for a minute. There's a lot of twists and turns. We got back together but she understandably put a wall up three months later. I'm reaching the same point where she was in feeling attached but she wants more. Then a week ago we were out with friends and I saw her with another guy. It's jealousy. It triggered my dad. It triggered my dad, General Anxiety's Order. So now I'm having a hard time dealing with the idea of her and another guy due to my own

insecurity. She's upset. She thinks I don't trust her, but really I just don't want to lose her. I'm worried and driving her away and that I'm not emotionally mature enough for an open relationship. I currently have no desire for any other woman, and I'm worried that if she is sex with another guy, all I will see is him when I'm with her.

Please advise Mark age 23, Australia. I'm exhausted by that. Yeah. I know, it's way too long. I tried to cut this down for you all. It's what the deal is he's 23 He went into a relationship saying we should be open which BTW you cannot start a relationship open Like you mean some people can if they've got experience with it

But typically if you want to have a true open relationship you have your primary partner things are good You go through honeymoon stage or whatever it is or maybe you decide to open up a few months in, but you you guys are foundation. Your house is built on rock, it's not built on sand. He's got this Lucy Goosey thing, so he's like, hey babe, let's be open. She got like, like he broke up with her because they had a really fun weekend together, you know how guys get scared. And then he misses her, wants her back, and she's like, yeah, I still want this open relationship. And then they got back together. So he's like freaking out, because he's super anxious.

That makes sense, too. Yeah, and so it was his idea and now he's upset. And she's like, well, you said it, and I can't trust you, because if you ever had this, okay, you're a dude. Mm-hmm. Yes. You know when you're in a relationship with a guy, and things are really great, and you have a girl, or I don't know if you're that relationship with a guy and things are really great and you have a girl or I don't know if

I'm not in relation with the guy, but yeah, you get really close to this amazing weekend You're like things are so great and then this is stereotypical thing But some guys are like oh man too close this freaking out. I mean I have all these emotions I'm gonna break up with her so he had like a freak out because they got really close broke up with our Mr. Wanda back and she's like, you hurt my feelings. And that's what I always think that's a dumbest effing thing. Like if you like somebody and they're super cool

and you wanna be with them, just go ahead and be with them. Like, oh my God, I feel all these emotions because they think the grass is always greener. They want the other options. And now the grass always feels. It's so dumb because they're always going to get burnt by that. Always. Exactly.

You know, the grass isn't always greener. It's not. You always think, I mean, like, be in a relationship with that person if you like that person. Yeah. And because we're always going to screw it up and then be like, oh man, I messed it up. I should have. So I used to suffer from that. Oh, crap.

All that's grass. I get it. And then every time someone I crap. All that's gross. I get it. And then after a person, when I know in a relationship, no. But a lot of people I know with long-term relationships, like, I'm like, how is your marriage? I don't want to talk about me, talk about you. I'm like, they think my life's so interesting.

I'm like, it'd be kind of nice to be in a relationship right now. We all do this back and forth, but really just pick a lane. Pick a lane, commit once you find the person. If you don't, no, you don't, no, but don't be going back and forth. So I think he's't, he's freaking out because his anxiety also meant

a hard time dealing with a jealousy. So he's seeing her with someone else now, even though she still wants to be with him. And that's really hard from a deal with. That was your idea, man. That was your idea, man. His idea. Next time, you can talk to her.

Don't offer that off. Right, exactly. Don't offer up like, this is going to be open at the beginning and then take it back. Doesn't always work that way. Okay, another email. Emily, I've been on and off about online dating and I decided to create a Tinder profile several months ago. I have a pretty large sexual appetite and decided I wasn't gonna start anything seriously, basically just sex. Anyway, I started seeing this

guy and recently found out that he had matched and hooked up as in did it all with my best friend. For some reason she didn't tell me about this guy and only told me about this after Brad and I had already done the deed. Isn't it weird to keep seeing him? Should I just move on to somebody else? None of us have strong feelings for each other and no one is going through any hurt and she isn't seeing him anymore. I still don't want anything serious but I don't love the idea of being Eskimo buddies.

It's weird and awkward. This woman is like my sister since early age 23. Well, she said, first off, she says no one cares. You don't care. And then yet, then obviously, obviously you do care because you're like, oh, I don't want to be Eskimo buddies. You care. Well, right.

But you care. And you don't really care about the guy, then break it off and move on to the next guy. Right. If you're not, I mean, there's five billion guys on Tinder that I'm sure they'll be willing to have sex with you. Yeah, they're just one swipe away.

I mean, really, I mean, I can't decide though if you're saying, well, I'm just gonna, well, here's the only thing because I've done this. If you're like, I wasn't that into him anyway, because you're avoiding intimacy, and it's an easy way out, because your girlfriend's up at them and whatever. But if you like him, nobody cares, keep going,

but if you really don't like him, then end that. No, because you're gonna end up being more serious with this guy, and then it's gonna be an issue, because you're gonna be like, oh, you know, I'm boyfriend, boyfriend girlfriend with this guy, and then my best buddy has slept with him. She's not with him once and doesn't care, though.

Like, I've had those friends. She doesn't care, but why the F is she emailing a podcast, and then saying that she doesn't want to be Eskimo buddies if she doesn't really care. I've never heard that term, like, would I care? If I, my friend just walked in, I can ask her, I have we slept with the same guy. We have.

This is my best friend from San Francisco. She's got hair. It's San Francisco probably. We did. We together. I don't want to take it. We got a threesome. We can get to that later.

Maybe not the aborted threesome. OK, we'll get back to that. See? It'll all. OK. I mean, it's an episode. She just walked in and visit. I know.

Can I say your name? No. She's just a and visit. I know. Can I say your name? No. She's just a little bit of a mistake. Of course, they say it doesn't matter. God. Stacy, I love you. I'm so glad you're here. Okay, penis size and skirt.

Penis size. Yeah, especially. Welcome. Let's talk about our sexual past. She just flew in. Hey. Hey. And her arms are tired.

Well, my arms are tired. Right. How are you? Welcome to the sexual in the office. I am so hot right now. Are you? Yeah, I'm not tired. Right. How are you? Welcome to the Sex and the Office. I am so hot right now. Are you? Yeah, welcome. It's hot here.

It's hot. Nellie, I told her. She's like, I don't want to do it. I don't love it. We leave San Francisco. It's like you don't know the layers. I know. It's our air.

Our air is on. It's just hot. Okay. Good to see you. I feel like I feel like if we slept. Okay. So if you, we had, we did have a weird three-some-once, but neither one of us liked them. So it it didn't matter and then we had an aborted three someone we're a Mexico

But we neither want to separate them either. I'm trying to think if we I Never care Unless I'm not attached someone I really don't care if someone's up as someone out like we can be cool But I get she's 23 but you weird if you're friends someone but I she's 23 I don't believe that she's that mature that no Continued with stationery for these friggin mature And they're really in love that would matter but doesn't something that I love right right and you can do it longer here. You know a lot

She's Welcome about stuff this up penis size. Hello Emily I love your podcast and Kaggle camp which is a great app for your goggles everyone So I'll get right to the point. I have a smaller than average penis. I've heard one of your podcast concerning said matter, but was wondering if you have other slash extra tips for guys like me, concerning techniques,

or ways to overcome the insecurities. I'm happily married, and my wife has helped me get over my insecurities regarding my small member. Our sex life is healthy and improving. I'm just looking for more tools for my toolbox, so to speak, not only for myself, but for others I might talk to in the future. Again, thanks in advance for the help.

Jerry 28, Utah. So many times this issue has come up. It was funny because you were just on the Woody show. Right. And this issue came up. It did come up. It was actually the girlfriend calling in about the guy. The girlfriend called just on the Woody show. Right. And this issue came up. It did come out. It was actually the girlfriend calling in about the guy. The girlfriend called in about the guy was talking to us.

I absolutely love this guy. This guy has a really small weiner. What should we do about it? You know, is there other things? Exactly. And of course, you always recommend. The toys. No, your number one thing.

What's your number one? Lear. Absolutely love. Other than loob, what is your number one love? Toys and Loub. No, I don't have any other love. Oh, what what does a guy need to do? Oral sex. Yes, go downtown. Yes, baby Number one love and you you talk about oral sex like every freaking podcast You on the spot what is your number one love? You never come up with it.

Dude. I'm disappointed. But anyway, I'm sorry because it's just confusing. I have three, and I think the only thought of two. Listen, go down in our next question. No, here's the thing. It oral sex is important, but I think you're probably a master at oral.

If not, just know that foreplay is very, very important. All the time, I would tell this to guys of any size penis. I tell it to women as well. But it sounds like your wife, which I love, is helping you get over the insecurities and rebuilding confidence. But you know, it's a lifelong process. The things that make us the most insecure,

it's not that we necessarily get over them in our lives. I'm sorry to say, you just learn to deal with them. You learn to recognize them as insecurities as they're part of who you are and you know we'd like to turn that into confidence but sometimes it you know let's just say it's a process, it takes a while but but here's a thing. The last time you spend worrying and the more time you spend thinking about ways to really please your partner and to connect with your partner the better that you will be. So there's a few things to remember about penis size, that there are different positions that make a difference.

So since most women don't orgasm drink, and of course, like I said, foreplay using your fingers, your mouth, your hands, your tongue, so important, also positions. Okay, to be honest, missionary, not your best friend, not the best position for you, but when she's on top, she's able to control the depth, the angle, the motion, and she can grind her clitoris on you.

And that's just a better position for her. Also, Doggy Style allows you to have really deep penetration. And you can also get a wedge like the liberator wedge, which is like the sex furniture, which is actually pretty serious. They sound like CVS now. They do, right? They do get it in my website. But oh no, if you can't, you can get it at goodvibes.com, which is actually. They sell my like CVS now. They do, right? They do get it on my website.

But oh, no, if you can't, you can get it at goodvibes.com, use code Emily. But they're freaking awesome. It's a wedge that no matter what position you're in, here's the, if you put a pillow under you or you get a sex wedge, she'll be elevated. So that means that her pelvic area is elevated. So you'll be able to go in deeper

in a lot of these positions. So I would try that and hey, if you haven't tried Sex Toys yet, let's just say this, even if you had the largest penis on the friggin' planet and you were on the front page of Star or something, where were they put a large penis. That Sex Toys, I'm telling you, Sex Toys really can help you can use a penis ring, you can use a couple's vibe, like the Wevibe 4 Plus, the little rabbit vibe with the ears. What's it called? The Rabbit Company Madison, the Clitoral little, the Leon, L-A-Y-O-N. It's a really good vibe, so these are great ones to use during intercourse, because here's the deal.

It's not even about, yes, women and FG's about orgasms, but a lot of them has to do with Clitoral. What do you think, my menace? If you had a small penis, would you obsess about it? I'm sure you don't. Ah. Ah, yes, I would obsess about it constantly. No. No. Maybe you make up for it with your risk.

Maybe you do have a small penis. You just gotta deal with the hand that you've been given. Right. Right. The hand. That's all. Yes, it's true. You gotta hear it.

Stacey, are you staying in Emily's house? She is. You are. Question. Have you heard of the what the Sibian are you going to be trying it over the weekend? Have you heard of it? No, I don't know. The Sibian is amazing.

It's been highlighted on the Howard Stern show for years. It's like a saddle that you sit on. It's a post-powerful vibrator in the world. It plugs into the wall. It's an ottoman. You wouldn't know it's there. Come in and we'll provide the Sibian. We'll get coffee.

You'll ride the Sibian. We need somebody to review. She's sitting in a game. I just want to see if you. We got a lot of fun things. She's not been to visit me yet. This your first time? Staying with her, yes?

Oh, wow. That's right. I tell you one, some business. It? Oh, wow. Yeah, that's right. I tell you one, some business. Yeah, it's going to be an adventure. It's fun here with Los Angeles. I know, right? I know. We've traveled around the world.

That's cool. We went to Mexico for a week once. You'll appreciate this. Yeah. For like a week, Stacy got a free trip for work to Porto Vierda. And we were staying in a hotel. And we got there, and we just started drinking tequila,

the second we arrived, we knew the owners. And it had been, we were there for a week, day four, I decided I'm gonna leave the hotel, we hadn't even left home. I'm like, I'm gonna leave you, I'm gonna go to the store and get some stuff. I couldn't figure out how to get out of the hotel. I'm like, where's the up, where's the down,

where's the front door, not even because I was drunk at that point. It was like four days in this hotel. You can't leave it. It was a very small hotel, actually. It was a small hotel. I'm like, I'm a hell of a get out. But the construction is weird there.

I'm gonna say, see there, uh, where was I was at the hard rock hotel. And yeah, I, it was confusing even being in there because they're constantly like building. I know. And this is like a boutique hotel. Yeah. And I'm screaming. Yeah, this is where hotel. I shouldn't have been that hard. Like, how do I get out of screaming?

Yeah, this is where I got drunk and I split my head open. And they wanted me to go to the hospital and I said, fuck that. No, you're going to the hospital next time. I go, I'll fly back home. Oh my god, that was exactly. It's good time, so. I mean, it is so much fun. We need to do it again.

But that's when we had our boarded three somewhere. I should just pick up on that real quick that we met a guy there. We liked him. We were both kind of attracted to whatever you were drinking when I laid. No, well, he was from the next pat. He was next pat.

Yeah, okay. But we had mutual friends. And he was kind of cute. Like, there weren't that many guys around, but we were talking over while we had dinner. And then we ended up back in, you would like the nicest sweet room with like the deck overlooking wherever ocean.

And he comes back to the room and I think we were both like drinking. We're like, okay, we could do this. And then, and then we like, and then I don't know, it's, and then we were just like, we started and then we both were like, ah, not interested in boarding through some.

No, just like not to kill up more to kill up. So disappointing. I mean, for him, he's still upset about it. He's like, I have a recent razor hand. He's like, almost. As a man, it's so hard to coordinate that. I know. And then finally, almost get there to the fish line.

And then it just won't want. Yeah, well, I'm out. I'm out. I'm going to bed. He's so mess. He's fucking cool. Dear Emily, my name is Valerie. I'm a 22 year old living in Chicago. I's a face book. Okay, dear Emily. Yes. My name is Valerie. I'm a 22 year old living in Chicago.

I listen to your podcast every morning in my commute and it always puts a smile on my face. My question to you is this. This past year, I finally became confident in who I am and what I like sexually and personally. I feel like now is a time for me to experiment and have fun. I'm in a new city and there are plenty of gorgeous guys around.

However, there's a guy that is pursuing me, but I'm nervous about leading him up. He is very nice and pretty attractive and is definitely looking for a relationship. I do not know whether to give dating a try or stay in my path of exploration. I'm very torn. Thanks for the help.

I love you and the show, Vail, age 22, Chicago. I mean, Vail, you're overthinking this because she just moved there and you can't control it. I mean, guys are going to ask you out. You're in a new city. You can control the fact that you don't want a relationship and just let them know. I mean, this guy could become your friend or maybe you'll really like him. I mean, love is not formulaic. You can't plot out the fact that I'm not going to date for three months. I'm going to do exploration. You could try that. But you might meet someone or you might just, I wouldn't say sit home and just like try to figure yourself out. I don't think there's anything wrong going out with this guy. But if he's like, nope,

I only want a relationship. And if you just don't, I'm not going to go out with you, then you have your answer. But I think she's overthinking it. Yeah. See, that's always the thing. Again, we talked about this earlier on the podcast. It's like oh I just really want to go out there and meet people and try things But I really found this really cool guy. I don't know what to do And I always say if you found if you found something really cool that you can see yourself in relationship with just try it Try it. That's how you get experience. Yeah, don't say. Not section. There's other options out there and I need to explore them. This is the plague. You always have, I know you always say live without regret.

I don't regret anything. Well, blah. But the other thing is you always go back in your mind because then you go out there and look for something greener. It doesn't work out. Nothing greener. Damn, I messed up with that person that I really liked. Right. Just hang out that person that I really liked right just Just hang out that person that you really like I mean what else is there? I don't know she's exploring herself again. No herself I think that's part of it is oh no, but part of it is go out and like she's nervous about leading him on You think guys no one's worried why is she worried about you know tell him right away. I'm not interested in dating But I'll go out with you for a drink. Yeah, you're in a situation stays

Not wanting to go out with you for a drink. If you're in a situation, stay. Not wanting to lead a guy to that. No, we just go out. I know we're just going to have one and don't overthink it. Exactly. We do not overthink it. I've spent a whole life and everything. I'm always wanting to guys are like, so where is this going?

What are we doing? I'm like, I haven't even thought about it. And it's true. It's not like I pretend to be, because now it stays to you. There's a whole thing like cool people are like, cool girl, like they pretend they don't care, but like I never really care. They don't know how to teach that to someone else, but I do think it stays here. There's a whole thing like cool people are like cool girl like they pretend they don't care But like I never really care that I'd teach that to someone else

But I do think it serve me I don't care about the person, but I wasn't thinking what does this mean for the future Yeah, I mean it's like oh, we have a new good time tonight. We can't have to board a threesome or not. I know. Let's do it Okay, I'm the keylatte Emily here's the other one. Okay, this is very hard for me to talk about. I'm 26 years old and I haven't had sex in at least three years. I'm an introvert. I've introverted tendencies and find it hard to go about and be social.

The only time social is when I'm outperforming magic. I know some girls like magic, but I can't just go out using it to get girls because performing is my business and I can't afford it. I can't afford to have a get around that I'm that guy. It doesn't help that I'm socially awkward to a degree. I'm social when I perform, but other than that, not really can't perform to get girls because I'm a growing public figure where I am. I hope you have some advice for me. Thanks for reading. I love all your advice and your show JC.

JC. He's a magician. So I feel like he's got the mojo, like he's got that stage presence. He's got a lot of the skills required to talk to people. So next time he's out, like channel inner performer, like don't like whip a rabbit out your hat or anything, like that's not sexy.

But I understand these girls might like your magic magic I get that you don't want to lead with the magic but I think that you're saying you're telling yourself all these things that aren't necessarily true it takes practice. Yeah it's actually it's funny so Daniel Tosh from Tosh.0 he's hardcore introvert and in like stage fright all that kind of stuff he doesn't do any interviews because he's super shy. And what he does is to be able to do his TV show and stuff like that. He pretends that he's another person. Yeah.

Like he's acting as another person to give himself confidence in talking to people and things like that. That's exactly it. You channel your magician guy. Who? Your magician. You're not connecting guy. Like who? You're a magician. You're not connecting if that's you on stage. So exactly be that guy out there when you're out. Like that guy is like, hey, welcome in the audience. Like guess what's behind door number three or whatever.

Definitely. You just gotta turn it off. You've already got it. You're closer than a lot of people. And you're saying that you don't want to be the guy that's like sleeping around. You're not even there yet. We're just getting you to talk to people.

So I think you're in your head too much about this. Yeah, definitely. No, I feel the same thing. So like, you know, when I have to go out to events because the radio show that I'm part of, right? Like to be honest, like at parties, I always feel like I'm the social awkward person, but then when I feel, so I'm feeling too awkward

and not talking to somebody, I just put on like the confidence that I have of Doing the radio. So how do you do that moment? What do you think? I'm like, okay, I just got to turn it on where I just don't give a fuck like I just go Right and just say whatever I just act how I would act on the radio show Where I just go out to people and just start asking them questions like everything about them not caring because that's what I would do in an interview when I'm interviewing somebody. But if it was just really me and I wasn't doing that I'd probably be like sitting not talking anymore. That's totally on your absolute right? I'd be like on my cell phone texting or I'd be on Instagram

or something like that. But I know in the public in a group setting group setting, public setting, like that, I can't act like that. I can't be the person that's on the phone. I have to be, that's not what people expect. Kind of that, right. It's practice too. We didn't have in the first time, like you thought about you. No, no, definitely. And this guy's got it.

It's a performer. You go guy, don't, JC, don't, I'm not worried about this at all. I think that you've already got it and you've got to marry those worlds. The magician with the guy out public. Okay, that's all we got time for. That's it. It's a wrap. It's a wrap. I love you. Menace, so good to see you.

You too. And it was fun to hang out with your crew. I feel like all of our families are going to marry the Woody show. I know. The Woody show. Thank you, Stacy, for dropping in. She's sex wisdom. Thanks for coming.

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