Sex With Emily - No Porn, No Problem: How to Think Yourself Off

Episode Date: September 24, 2016

Are you struggling to sustain your solo sex life without your favorite visual aids? Looking for tips to help boost your lover’s sexual skills? How do you keep the “casual” in your casual sex relationship? In this podcast, Emily and Anderson give advice on an assortment of intimate inquiries and reveal which social networking site might be a gateway for infidelity—especially for women. Learn how to maintain your independence in the most intense relationships, ignite your erotic imagination and “feel” your way to sexual confidence in this new episode of Sex With Emily.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is filled with a handful of how-to's to help you with your sex life and relationships. How to keep a casual sex relationship casual? Is that possible? How to help your partner build self-confidence? How to navigate a dumb, sub-relationship without losing yourself? How to masturbate when you're on a porn break? All this and more.

Thanks for listening. All right people, it's time to introduce you to something that combines two of my favorite topics, oral sex and lube. If you're not a fan of going down, no judgment, this is going to change the game for you. It's the brand new Gelato Collection of flavored loops from Joe. These Gelato flavors are delicious. I'm talking dessert worthy good. Choose from Cremboulet, hazelnut, mint chocolate, salted caramel,

and tiramisu. Use them one at a time or combine them to create your own recipe. I've tried them all and they're amazing. Like all Joe products, the gelato line is a premium loop you can trust. It's a flavored water-based personal lubricant that is sugar-free, paraben-free, and the perfect addition to any and all forms of foreplay. So, next time you're craving something sweet, skip the refrigerator and go straight to the bedroom. With Joe's Gelato Lube line, you are the dessert. Go to my site, click on the Gelato banner, or go to my store to shop the complete selection of Joe lubricants. There's a formulation for every occasion. trust me.

So if you're ready to be dessert or some gelato for yourself, at sexwithamily.com today. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a fight on day Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair standard, oh my The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here so, so, so, so, so Being bad feels pretty good You know, Evelyn is not the kind of girl you just play with Oh my god, I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwith Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between.

For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. Pay a visit to our website, our flourishing abundant website that will answer most of the questions you have about sex and relationships. And you can get some fun videos there. You can subscribe to everything. God, subscribe to the podcast. You can follow us on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, at sexwithemilyandfacebook.com slash sexwithemily.

You can also download the show now on Google Play, SoundCloud, and Spotify, not just for iTunes anymore. And go shopping on our website, because I'm always talking about products and things that I like to spice things up, and they're all there. So take a gander go shopping I'm here with Anderson. Yo Anderson. What's up? So good to see you so good to see you looking all good ready for your

Yeah, no, it's crazy. I love travel. I feel like if you ask me to give him a traveler Sorry, yeah, you know, I was doing the what were you doing in the twilight of your career? It was, travel booker, travel reviewer. I used to want to be a travel writer. That would be bad. Did you travel for a living? Yeah, they're like, can you go to the four seasons right now and five start-ups and write about the breakfast and bed?

Yes, I do. That is kind of a dream job. It is a dream job. But when I was like 25, I went backpacking three for a year. No, no. I've told you this. a year, three, three, five, six, I've told you this. So, yes, but then in my heart, that I started the business here,

and it's like, having that much, but I was in Michigan for five days, was in the family, and I got back, and then I'm going to San Francisco for my somatica training tomorrow. What is somatica? Ooh, therapy. Somatica is the somatica institute.

It's the last in Danielle. It's sex therapy. It's all about the mind body connection. And a lot of us are disconnected in that way. You might not understand what I'm talking about. But a lot of us are just really inside of our heads. And a lot of these issues and challenges we have and our relationships and our sex lives

can be enhanced if we really learn to get out of our heads and more into our bodies and Connecting the two of that's what guys are trying to do. There's really get into girls I know I know they are all the time. I don't mean that but I've talked about a lot You've been here when they call it. No, I think that Samadica came up on a couple episodes I love it. I mean, it's been life-changing. I just think they're a refresher now You're how many is gonna be girls guys? It's girls and guys. This is the guys weekend. So let's, you're going to the guys weekend. No, it's girls, guys. They're gonna practice on you?

Yes. What? It's not like, it's hands on but close on. Uh huh. And it's not all like sex, it's not, it's like kind of how to communicate around like your desires but also like men's sexual energy. Men are always so confused about, you know,

how to escalate sexual energy like like a so afraid of rejection. And really, like, in the moment, like teaching them how to read women's cues and how to just let people, you know, their partners know what they want. And in a way that's just really true to them. And that's not reactive, but like they're feeling in their body or they can notice things in their partners the way they're moving and talking and fascinating. Are you teaching there? Are you actually doing I'm in the class. It's for six to eight months. Why are you going for the guys? I've gone every other weekend. I've gone once a month. Every other month. Thank you for five days. And this is my fourth weekend. So it's no it's all men and women in the class but last it's 60 people. The focus in

other. Last weekend of this Samaritan was the women's weekend. This is the men's weekend. Okay. Focus again, men's sexuality. I'll be talking more about it. We can't get into that now. So you it's gonna be the same group and you've same group for four weeks now.

Tell me the truth. Look at me. Look at me in the eye. How many of these guys have ponytails? Tell me. There's about 30 dudes probably. No, it's more women than men. Okay, so it's the only problem. I gotta a 20 guys. I gotta be answer the oh.

None. Zero. Zero. What? Zero. There's one guy that has a lot of jewelry and has, you know, some of those like, piece necklaces on it and his hair's long-ish.

He could go on it. But not ponytail, like, yeah, he could. He probably lights and sets and so I do too. I do last night, no judgment. Maybe that population, and I know you're a part of that population, but I don't think of you as that population. It's not like touch, it is touchy-pilly, but it's not woo-woo-woo, like northern California.

Turn the corner on fashion. And maybe the ponytails no longer invoke. 20 years ago, 90% of the dudes there have ponytails. I'm just selling you. I don't know, ponytails are still around, believe me. There is a certain genre of folks who are pointing to you. But you know I was like funny there are ponytails. I'm just selling you. The same. Oh, ponytails are still around, believe me. There is a certain genre of folks who we're pointing to. But you know what, it's like funny speaking of ponytails.

I was talking to my friend who was, all my friends are burning man last week. And she said there was this guy, this is a ponytail story, but she said she's telling the first day and thought he was cute. And this is the thing about ponytails. Don't you think that they're, if you're a guy and you were a ponytail,

even if you're the least judgmental woman in the world, you're going to see guy in a ponytail and you were a ponytail, even if you're the least judgmental woman in the world, you're gonna see Guy of Ponytail and you're gonna, you have a judgment around them. The ponytail, Trump, smooth thing. I had a ponytail once. I didn't wear it on a regular basis. So sorry. But I had longer hair and I did the high ponytail,

which is really bad. It was real bad because the hair was shaved all the way around, but then I had to like, the high hanging off ponytail. Looks like it's something died on my head. It was bad. I'm really sorry I missed that. We can post that on social media. Oh.

Okay, so anyway, I'm gonna judge it. Just let me finish my story here. So I was talking to my friend and she said, I saw this guy the first day, but he had long hair. Someone even loved long hair. She like, but we're not really into the ponytail thing.

And again, this is just like, you know what you're attracted to, but then he came back. He left, burning man and came back because she was there for 10 days. Caught his hair. Caught his hair. Caught his hair. Hold it different man.

So it turns out he had the long hair because he was actually sick. He had something going on and he had to grow his hair out. And I don't know what it was, but he caught it. And she said, different guys look very different. So I'm, but women too, long hair, short hair. I don't know. That's, I'm just telling you, twice in one day, point tails came up. I thought I need to show that.

Thank you. Yeah. Good story. So we've had some great shows lately. Virgins I need to show that. Thank you. Yeah. Good story. So we've had some great shows lately. Virgins, Cuckolds, and unicorns. And yeah, that was a name of show. It was a three-variate of her things. I know exactly.

You've got to listen. And that was with Menace and my friend Stacy. We talked about how to craft a perfect threesome. Because Stacy and I have actually been in threesome before. She came to visit me. And that was a really fun show. We had three of her. With her?

Together? Really? We were trying to remember. We had one that was aborted. It was an aborted threesome. We were in Mexico. Yeah, that's better. Yeah, guys, both have your board. Sorry, since you're White's pregnant.

You guys had his parents or his fine everywhere. We're like, god damn it. Plan pair of them. I'm one one. I bet a guy has a, of course a guy's totally impregnated to women in one session. That's a little pre-com here, a little like finish there. That's happened.

I'm sure it has. Yeah, that'd be interesting. We could look it up. But not now. So, yeah, no, it's interesting that she, um, yeah, we did. We were in Mexico and we had this guy who was there, saying our hotel, and he was cute. We're flirting all day, went back to her room. And one thing led to another, and it looked like we were going to get going there with

some action. And then all of a sudden sudden I think we were both at the same time like, ugh, we're not into this guy. What happened? Well, like he started like kissing her and then it kissing me and then we looked at each other like, ew. See, that's the problem with guys. And you know, in the threesome is like you're always in the back of your head, you're always thinking, are they making eye contact right now and thinking, I don't want to.

Yeah, it happened. I got hammered once in the threesome. So we're still fun with him. And I brought like playing cards into the equation somehow I remember like putting like a some spades on one of the girls boobs I was so hammered and they were both naked in the bed I was thinking and I brought like this this these playing cards I still think about this to this day and I think that was an odd move And I was putting like cards on their bodies and I remember I'm sure they were giving each other to look like what the fuck is

They thought it was really cool because I didn't know you're a mysterious like a magician or something over here I don't know. Maybe you're just looking for props. It's one of those memories We all have them where I got to be sitting in traffic and I'll think of it. I'll pop in my head and I'll just win Kick a spade. Yeah, I don't know what that was about. That's hilarious. You're like I got some cards here. No condoms no Lou but Anyone blackjack that's Larry's but we did talk about that. It's a straight look at that No, but my my best three sims were not with her, but my most entertaining ones How many three sims has the only you know that we honest on enough I Have probably had a handful

It's vague how how many? How many hands do you need? That's the afforded one doesn't really work right? No, how many hands would you need? I would need one. One. One. Six. Six.

But they were not. Do you want me to do a list after this? Yeah, you should come up with a list. I'll tweet it with names and tag everyone. Maybe I'll put it on Instagram. 30 Some friends, 30 some Thursdays. 30 some Thursdays. It's a three some Thursdays.

Yeah, not bad. That's not bad. You can have that. But we already do like time you up, don't we do? No. days Three some Thursdays. Yeah, not bad. That's not bad But we already do like time me up don't we do time you up Thursdays? Oh, we do some time you have Tuesdays We do do time you Semmier through some stories show me Fridays. That's hot. Okay, one more thing This is big I lots of traveling going to San Francisco. They going right to New York sexual health expo September 24th and 25th. I'm going to be in Brooklyn. That's this weekend. I'm doing a live podcast on Saturday, the 24th of September at 1pm. Nice. In Brooklyn, come see me. There's going to be workshops, a lot of fun topics,

how to get out of your head and into role playing, digital dating, how to sex, Skype, and swipe your rated dating. So that's a cool thing So check it out on my website you can click on the sheep and her this your first ever live podcast No, I did one of the last show. Okay, you weren't there remember your trip. You were drunk. Oh, yeah You asked no, I was not drunk You're drinking your friends were in town and you were drinking all day. I don't think that was the kid No, you were Don't say that because I will pull up a text right now that says my body's on tone I'm gonna be hungover. I'm like it too in the afternoon

Now that I have a hangover no pressure. No, we're I can do it my own man I appreciate the invite but it was I a really good friends and there's business to be Speaking of business I launched my campaign you did congratulations my campaign to raise the funds for my future length film all about Homophobia and bullying and it's one of those movies that you'll never forget. So please check out my video, my pitch video, which I'm sure is entertaining. Yeah, of course it's you. You're going to be memorable at the very least. It's a couple minutes, two and a half minutes.

I could even watch that. Check it out. Check it out. It's on groupersthemovie.com and all my perks are there. Be involved. Even if it's just sharing or whatever. I'd love you guys all be involved and kind of follow along, even if it's just sharing or whatever. I love you guys all be involved and kind of follow along with this.

He's really emotional right now. You just seem I've never seen him so, like it's a big thing. Anderson's a wanted it for a long time. Oh this campaign. And he's very talented filmmaker and you should be a part of it. It's been leading up to this.

And so thanks guys for checking out guys and girls, groupers of the movie.com. Okay, we'll tweet that out too. And Facebook and Instagram it. And maybe we'll even put it on FriendStar. Thank you. Okay, also this September, out too. And Facebook and Instagram it. And maybe we'll even put it on FriendStar. Thank you. Okay, also this September, it's not over yet. It's still, we're still celebrating back to sexual.

Confidence not. Because the point of the month, like every month, is to help you have better sex, but it all starts with confidence. So we're still doing giveaways. Check out my Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Center for the Newsletter. We got like another week left of toys and products

and pleasure products to give you the confidence You know, it's a little perk. I'm not saying that a rabbit vibrator will give you all the confidence in the world but can't Can't friggin hurt. Did you see my Instagram video where I pulled the rabbit out of a hat? I love it. Oh, it's good though. I like that. Yeah, it's funny. But back sexual confidence. Just confidence overall. It just really um Women love the confidence They do and yeah top the list right? It's like uh funny Confident those are always one and two and her and then love it to though you wouldn't say it But I think the girls are well

My wife cracks me up. She's hilarious and if we didn't laugh together, there's no way we'd we'd have a good relationship Right exactly and some guys maybe she's confident as fuck. Yeah. My wife is the most confident woman I've ever been with. That's amazing. Would you trip me that too? I know. I've been trying to figure that out. She's trying to figure it out too. I don't know.

She just knows exactly who she is and how to speak to that. And it's very attractive. Really? That's how it starts is really just like, you know, trusting yourself, who you are, not really spending so much time worrying what everyone else is going to think. And the more that you do that, and you get positive feedback, or like, this is who I am, doesn't matter. I love myself, I love myself.

We're all still trying to figure out. We're never gonna have a match. You keep saying that. Stop those negative voices in the head. So anyway, we're working a lot at this month, so check out the site. Cause yeah, it's real easy too. And you can attest to this being a woman

for a guy to walk in cocky and arrogant, or cocky and confident. It's a real fine line. It is a fine line. Real fine line. It's so true. And arrogance is ugly. Women do not like arrogance or brag.

Especially on like dating, I was doing an interesting, I was gonna get into this, but I think we gotta get into sex in the news. We do, we gotta do this. We do, but just, it is interesting though. It's the one dating profiles and I was helping a friend actually write a dating

profile, which I'll get into later, not on the show, but on our next show, I think I'll get into it because it's a very interesting story. But it, there have all been all these studies and I agree that if a guy is bragging, no one like, but how about women who brag? It's kind of different. It's not like both ways, but yeah, it's not as, it all depends, it's case by case. But does it find line, it's more like loving who you are and what you do and like you like your job and your friends or not in a fake way, but like in a real way, you're confident rather than like just like listing

all the things that you have. Like I remember a meeting guy at a party once, he was like, within three minutes, I don't know how he got to it. He was like, yeah, well, my Bentley. And I was like, dude. And there are maybe 21 year old Mike think that's interesting. It's insulting too, because he thinks

you're not gonna notice him just dropping that on you. And you know that I don't even understand card knows cars. We talked about this last show, which I listened to. Now I can refer to it about your Lexus. I was like, dude, I don't remember what kind of car you had. It's a very old beat up like, but still I don't remember.

I don't remember anyone's cars. They don't care what kind of car. Like I love you. I just want to know if you were there one day. I'm like, how have I talked to Anderson next to his car? No idea what kind of car he was talking about. 15 times no idea. Okay, let's take a quick break.

We're going to come back. We're going to say hello to our sponsors first because we love them. And you know that I only talk about products that I love, that I've used and that have helped me and will help you. So we come back little sucks on the news. Thanks. have helped me and will help you so we come back little sucks in the news. Thanks for watching. Have a good time. Not a podcast goes by when I don't tell you about how much I love my magic wand.

Well, it makes sense. For more than 30 years, the magic wand has been the leader in power and pleasure. It was even named one of the world's top 10 most influential gadgets by Time magazine. It is truly the Cadillac of all vibrators, and now you can have all that full-size power without the cord. I know, no cord! The Magic Wommered Chargable is the go-to favorite for everyone here at Sex with Emily. I even tried using it as a microphone at a show last month.

You can see that video on my site. Turns out, it's a great vibrator, terrible microphone. Well, live and learn. The Magic Wand Rechargeable features the same quality materials and reliability of the original, plus the ability to select from four intensity levels and four vibration patterns. It is absolutely on my must-have list. To get yours, click on the Magic Wand banner on my site or visit magicwandoriginal.com today. So let's do a little bit of sex in the news here. I love the story.

I think it's fascinating just because people talk about Stella time and now it's documented. Facebook listed as a top reason women cheat. Oh, yeah, you know, I got a really good friend of mine who hates Facebook because he lost his wife and his kid because she found an old flame and got going on the Facebook. And he says, if Facebook didn't exist, he'd still be happily married.

Because she might not ever unite with her boyfriend from my school, my soda. That's the thing, is that every single, I mean, literally every person I've probably ever slept with probably could if anyone hates me. Even the aborted threesome guy, we're friends on Facebook. You know, it's like, it's true.

You used to just break up and you never see him again, but they're everywhere. And you're having a hard time at home. And you're like, oh, what's he doing? He's having to see them to the high school. Or wherever, college. So you transport yourself back to that time too. Yeah. And you realize that exactly. And they have all these fun memories of you. Okay. So social media definitely bringing us together. But Facebook was listed as the top reason women cheat in new survey It was also the fifth most common excuse to have married men cheat and a key reason for this is that it makes hooking up with old friends easier Other explanations people gave for why they stray or because they met someone new the opportunity to rose or they fancy to change

They also found and this I know to be true women are better at hiding their fairs than men. What? Yeah, 52% of women said their husbands had no idea that it's several fairs compared to 42% of the women. I don't like that being that eye over here. Exactly. So, and men are 50. I don't know why that is though.

Women also like sluts, like we're like inspectors, like detectives. You tell us something, like I don't remember anything, but I'd be like, did the girl they did eight and a half years ago on March and did I can find out who she is? Files. Also, I think guys tend to be a little bit more arrogant in relationships too. And they think, you know, I'm confident with my lady. And she loves me.

And you know, she's at home happy with the kids or she's at work and then you know comes home and I am her life or me and the kids are her life and we'll be chief time. Yeah, we'll be chief time. Yeah, lots of time, right? I was really getting a bikini wax. I'm a manicure. Yeah.

Earlier because it's number one reason why the women's sheets is the Facebook and number five for the men and I'm thinking what one through four must be like well she was there. A girl looked at me. For cheating. Yeah. Just like what are the strange? It's something different. Yeah.

Like what is number one through four for the guys? I wish they had this. I think it might be in here. Men are 15% more likely than women to forgive a cheating partner. The men said they are willing to give things another go after finding out their other have has been unfaithful and they can accept the affair because they've been neglecting their spouse and can understand why they strayed. However, only 52% of women say they'd stay with a cheating husband.

That's very surprising to me. I thought for sure would be the other way around. I thought for sure more women have been forgiven. I think so too. I think that's kind of fascinating. I kind of thought of as well. In England, right? Yeah, I really think they're drunk. Well, they can't go in the alcohol. Yeah, the most common reason men said they cheat is because they're

bored of the sex. The key to saving a marriage after the bombshell drops, it's how they find out. So like if all your friends knew and told you there was like a billboard town, you can watch. But if he came to you and told you you might be okay So if a woman comes clean and promises to say faithful 82% of meridiscard recover, but men confesses to it just 68% of them can recover So let's see why else they cheat maybe doesn't say whether she sorry dude. I don't know what I don't know what one through four is But all right, I'm just guessing over here, you know, and women are better at covering up their cheating Um, and I'm trying to think it's just it's because

Guys are not intuitive either. No, they're not thinking like that women are just we're protecting our you know, if we don't have You can't sense things you guys. Oh, yeah, the woman's intuition, which I've witnessed for a fan. Yeah, I figured stuff out like Like better than anything else I could do my life Back to the Irish drunk thing. I'm allowed to say that cuz I am a Irish person and I drink a lot, right? Okay, I'm allowed to say it too because I might we all talk about in our last show I'm gonna keep referring to it because the only podcast sex with only podcast that was I've listened to like to that we talked about Oh patterns when your pickers broke in the date the same kind of guys over and over again.

I was thinking, like, I used to date guys that were, I say, I wish, alcoholics. I wish alcoholics. They're so cute. They're fun, right? Yeah, good times. But it didn't work, but not just because of that, alcoholism.

I don't know, other reasons why in life. But, I think they were, they are thrill seekers. They were fun, they were romantic, they'd write me poems. I liked that. Alcoholics have a bad rap rap right now because they're good You look through history and alcoholics are usually though, you know world leaders and are back Pretty great art like you in the film stuff. Yeah, I Feed off my my addictions, but here's my question, but I keep it under rap too

And I'm able to function a normal society. That's good. You're a lot like good thing. I know you do I don't know why we got drawn together. Because I've seen you drunk and you get drunk. You can't keep up, kid. I had one drink at time. One drink and you were hammered, heckling the my friend on stage, heckling. It was funny though. Yeah, you're like heckling along with him. What he needed it, he was nervous. It was my carano. He liked the heckling. It was the highlight. Like, how bald is it? Is that Emily's what is she doing?

She's had one drink He made a bald eagle joke it was funny joke was funny. He's like Funny joke was funny. He's like I You remember the joke? He's talking about flag balls He was talking about flag pulls and how that so many of them have bald eagles on top of them And how it's really funny to him that it's probably prevented a lot of actual bald eagles from landing on top of them Because there's no place for them to land Balls and balls and then he went on to talk about how he's mad at the gaze for stealing rainbows from the older He's like they stole the rainbows used to be for kids

from the older, he's like they stole the rainbow. It used to be for kids. That's funny too. Okay, my partner on the aftersend. We love him. Oh, okay, no. Oh, I saw a movie too, by the way, but we'll get into them. It's like five years old, but I did watch it.

They're home movie and I was like, oh, I gotta talk to Anderson, but it was just my niece. It was a Holocaust film. She had a watch for school. What was it called? The book thief. The book thief.

She didn't want to read the book so she watched the movie, which I can totally relate to. And it was really good. It was really, I mean, yeah, well, it's watch the movie, which I can totally relate to. And it was really good. It was really, I mean, yeah, well, it's the Holocaust movie, but it was like, I was like, I don't make a lot of time for film. No, you don't. You don't have time.

And I was with my niece, she's 14, starting high school, I was like, I'll watch it. And I was like, I feel so, first of all, it just, this is so everyone watches movies, but me. So I was like, oh my God, that feeling. I love it. I missed it. It was like, I had been away from it.

And I was like, I'm gonna talk to Anderson about this four-year-old. I'll tell you real quick, just in a nutshell, what makes me love movies, film so much, is I wish that I could, as many of us do, wish that I could live a thousand different lives. I wish we keep coming back and reincarnated. Don't think that's probably reality.

It's probably not. I probably just got this life. The closest thing I can get to that is seeing as many films as possible because I Empathize and think about the characters and walk a mile in their shoes in a good movie and I will live a little chunk of their life while watching the movie as Hoki is that sounds If I was a craer like about things like that I would cry it helps me empathize with you know people I would normally not that's why I really don't like movies about the Victorian age,

because I don't wanna empathize. There's no empathizing with people just laying around being leisurely. Fuck you, get up, do something. Good to know, but that's beautiful. I just like it, because it's like, I guess it's the same, not that I'm going so into the characters,

but it just takes me away from everything. Everything, it just takes you away, but it can be her right. You've got, you could be, but it's fine. Okay, I just escaped to the hot cost Which is really dark. Okay, so let's go into some emails Okay, everybody. Thank you. Thank you. I love you. I love the email me feedback at sex with L.A. calm and when you include people are getting really kind of love you all you name your age

Where you listen? In your email also voice mails we're getting a lot of great voicemails. 8-Winnie, ask SWE1. That's 8-Winnie, 275-7931. Can't wait to hear from you. Love you. Oh, also ask Emily on the website. You can just go to sexwithmme.com, send your email right there.

Okay, dear Emily, I'm such a fan of your podcast. I recently found it, and I feel like I'm learning so much, so thank you. I would love some advice and a situation I found myself in. I met this guy who lives in another country. We had been friendly and flirty over the last couple of years when he would come to the US for convention. Last time we saw each other, we finally had sex. It was an amazing weekend and probably the best sex I've ever had. I knew that seeing him in the future would be an occasional thing, so I was cool with the idea of the casual hookup from time

to time. However, now I'm opening up my own business and my career is landing me right in the country city, country slash city that he is in for a month. My question is, how do I keep a casual with the sky? I know realistically, a long distance relationship is not what I want and he's expressed the same and he advices on along to since relationships, not what I want. And he's expressed the same and he'd advice on how to keep it just about the sex and have a good time while I'm there. Since early Stephanie 23 South Carolina. What country? She didn't say she's being so mysterious. She was like, country slash state, whatever. I want to judge. You know what I mean? I want to judge. Right. You want to judge.

Yeah. Why? Because if he's from, yeah, I want to be, you know, I mean? I want a judge right you want a judge. Yeah, why because if he's from yeah I want to be this surface from yeah Germany right Well, first of all she needs to convince him that she didn't take this job or do all this so that she can be I know Only for a month. I know but if he's an arrogant douche I Me in high school he might think that she's Hopefully she's 23 it just good. Well, I hopefully, she's 23, hopefully he's not like 17.

But here's the thing, I think Stephanie that, you know, how do you keep a casual? I mean, I read these things and I think, God, you're having the best sexer life and you want to keep a casual. Like, good, wait, I'm like, okay, good luck. I mean, here, I'll tell you what to do. I can't guarantee it's gonna work for you.

You gotta keep your emotions out of it, you know? As much as you can, you know, you can't Netflix and chill. You're not gonna sit around and cuddle. You don't wanna rely on him for your needs other than sexual. You don't wanna go meet his family and his friends because you have amazing sex, friendship could follow, feelings, emotions, but, and also I can't guarantee

that he's not gonna flip for you And sometimes that could kind of tip the scales so How do you keep your emotions out of it? Just don't bring them in don't let them in just have that orgasm and Leave I think that'd be hard though and maybe you can be have a connection and really be friends with them But just still make make it clear that you want to keep a casual I would actually talk to them about it again. It's gonna be here for a month I love our sex, but I still am interested in keeping casual so that you want to keep a casual. I would actually talk to them about it again. Say, I'm going to be here for a month. I love our sex, but I still am interested in keeping casual. So you're restating it.

I think it's all the way that she approaches it too. How she approaches it in her own mind. She is the master of all. And her destiny is completely in her hands. And she said she's going there for a new business, right? A new job or something she created. It sounded like she's going to go get her. She's new job or something she created It sounds like she's a go getter Some phantom country if you go to this phantom country. I'm thinking France for whatever reason

I think it might be France if you go to she goes to France You know really be focusing on the job at hand and that's the main reason why you're there and think of him It's like a fringe benefit like a perk right? That's was just your little like he's a little dessert that You get to have it, like an added benefit of being out there. It's, approach it like that. Don't get all stuck up in your head like, oh my God, I'm going to be living in the same city for a whole lot of money. Exactly.

I'm here, but I'm busy. I got a lot going on, which you do. And BBB, busy. And only you, you know, use him. Kind of, you should get to use him, right? Well, I mean, it sounds like they're both, I don't want to use him. You're using each other for common, common purpose. If you're both on the same page, this whole casual friends with benefits

thing works until it doesn't, to someone develops an arm feelings formula where you can be like, all right, we're going to only hang out for two hours. Anything over two hours. Because if you guys start with your alarm is going off after the two hours. Don't overthink it, restate where you're both at. He might be like, no, now I want to release it. We don't know what's going to happen. But Stephanie, you'll be fine.

You already stated it. Be clear. Make lots of plans. Keep busy. OK. I could have a threesome with his friends, because that usually keeps things pretty casual. It's hard to get feelings.

You know if it is, that's true. But you know the French, the French. What do you want? The French. My friend spent a summer there. I remember about 10 years ago. And the French, I don't know if this is still the same, but when you go on one date with someone, they assume that you're already like dating in a relationship.

There's not a lot of dating around. Monogamy is a big thing. Yeah, exactly. That's why they grow out the hair and the armpits so quickly because it's comfortable. They're like, they're all in relationships. Exactly. I never have to shower again. We just run out of first date. Okay, let's move on. How to, uh, all right, I got the French and the Irish. Who am I going to offend next? Let's go. I don't know. I'm glad you're doing it. Not me. I love all my listeners. Wait, were you gonna offend me all you want Americans? I figured out why that I always took up for the French because a lot of dumb Americans and I say that now I'm a Fendin Americans that you have you noticed that France is like country that everyone seems that they think they can make make fun of

Not so much lately because of some of the terrorist attacks and whatnot But people would always be like, oh, like the French and George W. Bush call them freedom fries and people really, I finally learned why? It's because they're considered like the even wider people than most Americans, like they are like classier and they think of cinemas very serious and they're almost like the original hipsters.

So people feel like they can make fun of, because they're more cultured, because they're more cultured. So people feel like they're make fun of culture. Because they're more cultured. So, they, more sophisticated. People feel like they're allowed to dump on somebody who's above them. You know what I mean? Yeah, I guess so. That's what it is. I finally figured it out.

I never understood why France will like the go to punchline. I didn't even know that I don't even know that it is. It absolutely. At least it has been not so much in recent months because of the tragedies. Right. We'll wait another month to we trash them again. And then it's back here. I don't know.

I like the French people, the people of France. OK, hi Emily, but I do. I do. OK, the people of France. In case you didn't get that. French Canadian, so no. No, go ahead. Canadians, anything.

OK, hi Emily. My name is Sam. I'm a 23 year old male living in Los Angeles, California. My girlfriend and I have been together for three years and we have finally started to communicate about sex. She says the reason we have so little sex is that I'm going to judge her for not being good at it. I assure that I love the sex and that she's beautiful.

I recommend that she started masturbating to increase her sexual confidence, but she says it grosses her out to touch herself. Any advice you could give would be fantastic. Thanks for taking the time to respond. Sam, age 23. In Los Angeles. Hi, Sam.

Okay. This is a very, uh, for example, this is a very common concern. Common. For young women and men, it's like such a bummer because we're all our own worst enemies like here to sex we finally get to have sex and it's gonna feel so good and we can do it whenever we want and like it's it's just about pleasure and yet we get in our minds We miss it all up. It's really the most important thing of any of our Existences. I mean, it's our our only real part. We will not exist is to have sex and make sure that the culture and that the yeah, the species continues like that's our most important thing on earth Right exactly even though we need to slow down because there's too many of this but right now right so now that kid there

That is true. That's why you know Emotionarily speaking. Yeah, I am here to birth a most basic In the show I mean TV show Oh, yeah, it's actually only no, it's true But why are we talking about that? I'm just thinking it's such a poor thing. And so many people get stuck up in their head about it. So true.

And it makes sense because it's so important. OK, here's the thing. I love your suggestion, Sam. I love that you're telling. Because masturbation is key for women to get that sexual confidence. But what you're saying is very interesting, because I was talking to a family friend,

like a cousin, like one of those friends that you call cousins the family, and she's like 23, 22, and she was saying that I was talking about masturbation, of course, when I was in Michigan, because that's what I do. And I said, well, do you, she was, oh, gross, gross. Or she was younger, she was like 20.

And I was like, I remember, I remember thing, I never thought it was gross. Like for me, I never even like thought to masturbate. So that was my issue, I didn't even think about it. gross. Like for me, I never even thought to masturbate. So that was my issue. I didn't even think about it. I'm a curative, yes. But I do think that women are like, I don't even know where to start.

It's gross. Who knows what they were told growing up. That it's like, you're gonna get in trouble if you touch yourself. It could be religion. It could be anything. And the truth is, if you just put your hand cold on your pants, it's not gonna feel so good.

Get a warm it up. Get a warm it up. So I think that how can you get her to do that? So that is key, but she thinks it's gross. So I'm thinking maybe a little mutual masturbation. You could kind of like, if she's never done it, maybe you could get some lube, you could like, together start to like touch her,

both of you using your hands, because I'm sure you've touched her before. You know, you've touched her, you've had sex. So I think that, you know, that might be, if she's never masturbated, I'd say, if you guys have a good trusting relationship, do it together. But I also think there's nothing that you can do,

like you're telling her, she's beautiful, she's smart, here's a thing about confidence. The problem, we get into problems when we need validation from outside of us to feel good. Yes. So it's a slippery slope. Like you can tell someone they're amazing, amazing, amazing, but if they don't truly feel it and believe it and love themselves, it's not going to sink in.

It's like a bottomless pit. So um, yeah, it's just words. Just words, it's just words. So I think masturbation and um, I had a girlfriend, one of my first real girlfriends actually back in high school. And I remember I tried to get her to do a little touchy touch on herself down there. And I remember she's like, why are you trying to make me die out with myself? And it was such a turn off.

And it was so great. Right, right. But yeah, I know that when I was growing up. These are the Los Angeles two. I mean, I feel it. Yeah. I know it's fairly progressive out here. Yeah.

But when I was growing up, every guy that I knew, all my peers they all denied masturbating and everyone like made fun of anyone If anyone ever got cats or anything like that. It was like a stigma right not so much nowadays It seems like a lot of kids just it's a matter of fact a lot of boys. I think that girls will catch up But right now I think it's a little bit of a stigma. Yeah, exactly The guys are ahead of them as far as the isolation because guys when I do that camp at at Every every summer where I work with like teenagers. You teach them how to masturbate. I don't teach them how to masturbate.

But I remember kids when I started 20 years ago being like ostracized when, if anyone got caught masturbating or people would make up stuff, I saw them beating off my eyes. And nowadays, kids don't really even talk about it so much, but when they do, it's just like a matter of fact. I do. Of course I did.

Right, well for women, I think it's not, because there's not a lot of, you see that movie's not, you see it everywhere, but for women, I don't think their mom's going, so saluted you master, I do. Of course I did. Blue load. For women, I think it's not because there's not a lot of, you see that movie's not, you see it everywhere, but for women, I don't think their mom's going, so salient, did you master? I think they'll get there, but I don't think they'll do it there yet. They will get there, but I kind of want it like, and I was talking to her, and then I was talking to a friend about it because I was disturbed, and she's like, no, that's how it is, college, you know, high school girls don't really like sex, and I'm getting it, like,

but does it have to be that way? Right. Like, can we get her over the hump of, like, just try touching you, like, just, I'm like, invite a friend over, because you know, girls like to know, but like, um. How about this? How about with this, with Sam, in particular case, they're young, she's young, probably, out here in LA,

making it about her in a female way with like candles and rose petals, like maybe really go over the top. And that way, it's not really bright in there, so she'll be a little bit more comfortable. And it's more romantic and more like about celebrating her in her like what she might have in her head is what sex. So it's not like a dirty thing. Because she it sounds like she also has some leftover childhood.

Right. For sure. And she thinks she's going to she's going to be judged and so that. So I think we talk about like what's my somatic training is. I love Sam also that you guys are finally starting to communicate about sex after three years Which is great so people go 30 years and don't ever communicate But it's tricky because we're not actually taught so you might want to just you know say we're like What's to you think about the most memorable time we've had sex like what turns you on them like she might need to start Very bare made on like that time time you kiss my neck or the first time we made out her You know and then you start from there, you took any information.

Well, what is it about that kiss? How did that feel? And you might just, you know, maybe she would be into like, maybe you could talk dirty about it. You could like, they'd remember that time. I did this. And she wants to watch porn with you. I don't know yet.

That might be asking you too quickly, but just starting to find out what she likes because so so many women just don't even know what you're doing. Yeah. And she might not know what the problem is, but I'm picking up on shame here as much as I'm picking up on a lack of confidence for sure. Right, right? Well, she might be saying maybe, yeah,

because she's saying that she's afraid he's gonna judge her, but there's probably a lot of other things going on, which might be true on the surface. But yeah, there could be a lot of things and he's calling it confidence. So just work with her go slow and Keep talking keep cuz she listened to show together I mean I always get emails from people who listen with their partners and they're like

Emily says this and you don't have to have the conversation. I would do the candles and maybe you're like Rosebeth Be careful because it's a lot of pain in the ass if you she expects it to be that way every single time But maybe like you know woman I'm six month anniversary or something You know take her away somewhere no pressure like yeah take her away Yeah, I'm being taken away. Just take me away for like a really good post Okay, it's getting to another you know some more cheap dear Emily. I love your podcast I've been meaning to write for weeks, but I just didn't know how to work things. I'm a long-term Committed I mean a long-term community relationship with boyfriend. I truly believe he is the love of my

life. And I know he feels the same. We are also in a dumb sub dynamic. Basically, I call him daddy, and we have kinky sex. It's great. And it completes me as a person. But something that I struggle with is our really in our relationship is that I often feel like I'm too dependent on him. I know this is a struggle for many people in the BDSM community. I often feel like I'm too dependent on him. I know this is a struggle for many people in the BDSM community. I often feel like I put him on a pedestal and I'm lost because everything tells me that it's unhealthy,

but because we have a different relationship dynamic, I don't know what to think. We've talked about this many times and he doesn't see a real problem with it because we aren't a normal couple. Any advice? Thank you, Abigail, age 20. This is why age is so important. She doesn't give his age. So Abigail, here's a thing. In dominant relationships, so he's a dominant, you're

the sub. People all know bondage discipline, say, don't mask, mask, I'm not sure, no special. Emotional dependence on the dominant, it's very common. That's part of the relationship, is that he's dominant. But here's a thing, like relationships all need that kind of interdependence to thrive, so you can't just be the only one that's like relying on him. He has to rely on you as well, because we can't be independent on our entire lives. To some degree. Right.

But it may not be evident. But here, but here's a thing about the day. So here's where it's unhealthy. So this is where you got to check in with yourself, because I'm not there Abigail, but here's what I think. It's unhealthy when you feel like you can't make any decisions without them. It's so vital for your personal security, your health.

It's like you're like when he begins to intertwine with your ability to function on your own, you need him to support you. When you feel like he's a filler to distract you or you can't go out without him. You also might be doing this as an excuse to not do this. You don't want to deal with your own emotional issues and it's a lot easier to focus on keeping him happy. Right. And the whole daddy, calling him daddy thing. Yeah, that leads to worship, that leads to like an abound.

And a friendship back childhood where you don't have independence. Right. And you are dependent literally on somebody else, your parental figures to get you food and shelter and everything else. Right. Exactly. So it's like, I ask yourself, do you need him around all the time? Are you looking to get you food and shelter and everything else. Right. Exactly. So I ask yourself, do you need him around all the time? Are you looking at, like, is he there to, like, grant you the privileges like you could

only eat when he's there, sleep when he's there? And do you feel like less of a person? You said he completes you? And that makes me anxious, people say that. Yeah. Because I feel like the best time to go, you know, to be with someone is when you feel complete on your own. Right. And that's because then that's two half people coming together to make a hole, but when you really feel complete on your own

That just sounds a lot The whole the old cliche you can't love anyone till you love yourself exactly and so it's a balance it is a balancing Bouncing act. I was in Michigan for a week, okay? So if you're still responsible for your emotion, do you have your own life? You have friendships, you have things going for your emotion, do have your own life, you have friendships, you have things going outside of him, then you might be okay. But you have to find that strength in yourself

before you're relying on someone else. Now, I'm just concerned because you're 20 years old. I'm gonna assume this might be your first serious relationship. And I think you very valid concerns that you might be, if you think it's unhealthy and he says no, but you keep coming to something buggy, trust your gut. There might be something in it.

I'm not saying you gotta end the relationship. You might need to tweak some things in the relationship. I would maybe keep that in the bedroom and outside the bedroom, you're just two normal people. It sounds like they're taking the roles beyond the bedroom, which is gonna stun to her growth as an individual. That's what I'm concerned about.

Like I feel like maybe you haven't tasted enough other types of relationships to really get as deep into this one. And if you're like, I'm like, you're crazy. I love them. Then just make sure that you keep your life and your friends. Unfortunately, we don't know his motivation or enough about him. Daddy? Yeah, daddy might be an evil fucker with two or three 20-year-olds that all worship him. Who knows? He might be a cult leader.

Thank you for planting that seed in Abigail's head. I'm sure she appreciates. I'm sorry. I just saw a, a movie about a cult, a documentary about a cult leader. So I, I'm thinking cult a lot right now. I appreciate that. Holy hell. But I just wanted to watch out for herself. Check it out. Holy hell. That's a good, yeah. I love cult leaders. I mean, doctors about them. Yeah, it's fascinating, right? What did you say? Fascinating.

No, before that. Cult leaders. You love cult leaders and you pointed it out. You. I like, I like learning about them. Oh, learning about them. I think it's fascinating. You'll get involved in a cult.

I do, uh, like, speaking to my coronogen, he was, he lived in a cult for two years as a child. Did he? Yeah. Oh, is that what you did the cult for two years as a child. Did he? Yeah. Oh, is that why you did the cult of carano movie? Yes. I didn't know that was why he lived in a cult. He really did.

I explained that. I don't like Elson or alright. All legal. Okay. Um, let's do it. It's about porn. Hi, Emily. I discovered your podcast about six months ago and really enjoy them.

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years and we're discussing plans for the future. I travel for my job and typically masturbate to internet porn when I'm on the road. The topic recently came up and she indicated that she had a problem with me watching porn. She doesn't have a problem with masturbation but the porn is another thing. I tried explaining that I'm not watching anything disturbing but high quality, couple slash romantic scenes between a man and a woman. Nothing's creating to women. Not with one. And for that matter, I recently tried to curb my usage out of respect for her,

but I don't have that good of an imagination to rub one out to the thoughts of my head. Any suggestions? Jason 45 Arizona. See, Jason's a little bit older when I'm thinking, but that's what I'm blaming all of our mediocre movies and rehashing of old movies and stories on Is that kids don't have to imagine anymore on their beat. I know, right? What's that we used to do?

So I think that the creation and the imagination is definitely being stilted by all these new generation of entertainment makers because they're just looking to porn. So when they go to write down a new idea, they're like, let's just rehash my guiver. You know what I mean? It's so true, you're right. I mean, it's like everything in life. Why would you go to the dictionary and look something and when you Google anything,

it's like why would you even go through it into your mind and think about it? But watching porn, I mean, back in my day, you have to come up with these elaborate concoctions, these elaborate ruses and ideas in your brain, like, you know, and then she dropped her pencil. And then I wanted to, and nowadays just like, come shots, compilations, you know, without looking at anything. Oh, yeah, yeah. Like I spent the first, you know, five years of my weener celebratory, but just imagining things. So you just would be like based on like the Sally Jo Dr. Pensala at your friend? Yeah, be like you'd almost always be somebody like I knew in class or a

celebrity's that was like you know, movie stars. The girl on prices right for a while. The models on prices right. Bob, are you being speedy? Bob Barker. No, Bob Barker. Yeah, like an I'd be a contestant and I'd be spinning the wheel and maybe like, hey, why don't you come back for a drink? Yeah, they this kind of shit. You'd have to come up with stuff. People don't have to see what's happening creativity. That's amazing. But here's what I was so funny because I wasn't even giving this. I mean, yes, you could think about her, Jason. What do you think her problem is with? Well, here's a thing. Watching porn does not we've talked about in the show. I understand

that women get concerned about this, but watching porn does not mean that he's dissatisfied with a sex life. Jason, you're not dissatisfied with your sex life, and you know, for most men looking at porn, it's something that you just satisfy them. It's nothing to do with, you know, his love for his girlfriend, you know, he's not being unfaithful, but I totally get why she feels this way, because although I was young or as 25, I had said this on the show before. I was so like, I can't believe that my boyfriend watched porn, because I was younger as 25, I've said this on the show before. I was so like, I can't believe

that my boyfriend watched porn because I was shocked and I was like, where I'm in great sex. It was really the women in blonde, big boobs. I thought that was what he wanted. Like it's very confusing to men because we, to women, because we think, you know,

does he want someone like prettier than me, blondeer than me, like, is he being unfaithful, we get angry, we get jealous. And I think that the, it's important for women to understand. And I'm not saying there aren't guys who take the extreme and might watch, you know, porn to the, it's not a pleasant thought. It's never going to be a pleasant thought for anybody on the other side.

It's not, it just doesn't have to be a disaster of stuff. But I don't like the idea of, you know, my, my loved one, like looking at other guys, like, abs and whatnot, you know, to get off. So you'd be upset if she does that? I want to be upset, but it's not like something that what not, you know, to get off as I said. So you'd be upset if she does that? I want to be upset, but it's not like something that I would, you know, request. But would you tell her to stop? No, no, no, no.

I would never tell her to stop. Right, so I don't even know. So I feel like, she doesn't understand how a guy's brain works and how this needs to get rid of this. No, they keep being an amazing relationship with the most beautiful sexy woman in the world and they're still going to want to look at porn.

It's funny that his instincts are like telling her to tell her that don't worry it's high quality stuff. It's not women, you know, being abused or anything. They're all like married mom. She doesn't care about that. Boobs are involved and they're not hers. Exactly. But giants are involved and it's not her vagina.

Right. That's her probably your problem. But don't you think it just men are just doing it like to kind of just to get off. Like it's an aid to masturbate and men need to really it's healthy for healthy prostate. It's healthy for your sex. It just and also when men are having amazing sex, sometimes they want to masturbate more. Like it's an aid to master rate. And men need to really, it's healthy for healthy prostate. It's healthy for your sex. Like it just, and also when men are having amazing sex, sometimes they want to master rate more, but it's like separate. Yeah, it keeps it, it keeps it going and you ramp it up and the more it has to happen.

Right. But it's, it's a matter of, once again, have her listen to the show or. Right, exactly. See where it's at. It sounds like she's a little bit insecure, right? Have you ever been mad? I, you're Emily. I know that, you're sex with Emily.

But have you ever been upset with a partner looking at porn? Yeah, I just said when I was... Yeah, when you're young. 25, but that, no, no, now I'm like, watch together, no. I understand this, I study the male mind, I know that the reason why they do it is it lights up her to their brain, like just the sexual imagery, it's a release from daily life.

It's a struggle. I mean, for women, same thing we masturbate for men, it's like, I just get that it's separate. I get that you don't want to be with me. I get that sex is a part of your day-to-day routine for a lot of guys, and I just don't have issues with anymore. I know this, but I don't think, no. I'm like, I want guys to tell me, they're like,

no, I don't masturbate. Dude, show me what we do. Like, I want to see your browser. Like, I get off on that. Not like, I want guys to tell me, they're like, no, I don't master. I do, show me what you do. Like, I want to see your browser. Like, I get off on that, like not, like, truly, I have a strong reason. I'm looking at your browser, but I'm like, I'm curious. Men's natural is to spread the seed as far and wide as possible. Don't do that, we don't do that, because monogamy

gave into you girls. You ladies, you women, you want the monogamy, we'll give that. We wasn't necessarily our idea. I'm sure that you guys can't help but marry. No, it was like our ancestors who wanted us to come together and share land. And like, your parents got a cow for marrying because my dad gave you a cow and we got some pearls from you or a gauri.

If he's looking at a lot of porn, she can know that he's not going outside the relationship probably, right? That's what I'm saying. Right. And, you know, he can tell her that if she going outside the relationship probably, right? That's a much better. Right. Right. And, you know, he can tell her that if she, if he doesn't look a porn, it's going to happen at night and he's not going to have any control over, like, you know, who he's imagining in his wet dreams.

What? Like, he might start thinking about her, he might dream about like one of her friends in his dreams, you know, because he's going to have nocturnal emissions if he's not looking at the porn. Okay, right. And many of the, but I like that he's trying. So you even said, I think recently, think about her. Can you think about something that you guys have done together?

Can you guys watch porn together? Maybe that would take away some of it. But I just think for a lot of women, if you're confused by it, I get it. But for most guys, it's a separate thing. They did it before they met you. They're gonna do it after. The porn thing.

I mean, hopefully we'll be together forever. But there's something we're doing. It's a separate relationship without feelings. Separate equal. Not even equal. No, you're superior. It's the's not gonna be doing it. It's a separate relationship without feelings. Separate equal. Not even equal. No, you're a superior. It's a way not equal. You're a way superior, separate relationship,

but zero feelings, they're at all. Zero. No, no conversation. It's like a vibrator. Okay, that's how we have time for Anderson. That was fun. You're gonna listen to this one? You really talk about it next week.

Maybe. I might be done. I'm over it. Hey, have fun with she. Thank you. I'm really excited. Even though you won't be there I can't wait to see everyone in New York and things everyone for all the great emails and voice mail Super sending and supporting the show and I just love everybody so I do

I'm filled with love. I'm filled with so much love Follow Anderson go support the movie groupers the movie that covers the movie calm Thank you everybody. Thank you Madison and Eddie and Lori and Jamie my amazing team. I love you all. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithamily.com Listeners and friends. They're always asking me how to spice up their relationships. They all want to know how to bring the spark back. One great way is to add in some variety. Well our good friends at Adam and Eve.com know all about that.

Adam and Eve.com is where you'll find all my favorite high end toys like the Magic Wand and the Wee Vibetango as well as every formula of quality loob you can think of. You should all be using Loob by the way. If I haven't made that clear, try out pure or slick with Adam and Eve sells those as well as every formula of quality loob you can think of. You should all be using loob, by the way. If I haven't made that clear. Try out pure or slick with, add them in your cells as well. The folks at AdamNeeb.com are pleasers, so they put together a special deal for sex with the Emily listeners. If you order today and use code Emily,

they'll cut the price of almost any single item in half. Not enough for you? They'll also toss in three free DVDs and ship it all to you for free. And for a limited time, they will include a free gift. It's a sexy premium silicone pleasure ring. Rings are a great way to enhance intercourse, and if you haven't tried one before, this is the time. It can help guys stay harder longer while providing that crucial, literal stimulation

that most women need to orgasm during intercourse. Get your free ring, free shipping, free DVDs, and 50% off any item, go to atomonif.com and use code Emily at checkout. Okay guys, turn your volume down for the next minute. I need to tell the lady something. Go ahead, trust me, it's very own good. All right ladies, it's just us now. And I have news for you.

Your guy loves to masturbate. Hey, it's natural, healthy, and necessary. Let him know that not only are you cool with it, but that you really want him to enjoy it too. Surprise him with the number one selling toy for men, the fleshlight. Fleshlight's toys feel so real, they are truly the next best thing. They have models created for every preference you can think of, models that are perfect for travel, and one of our favorites, the Quick Shot.

It's an open-ended sleeve that we like to call the hand job helper. And don't think you're guys the only one who benefit from a flashlight. Their famous stamina training unit is all about helping guys learn to less longer in bed. This is the gift that keeps on giving. So if you really want to turn them on, turn them on with a flashlight. It'll be a surprise he won't forget. Just go to sexwithanley.com and click on the flashlight banner right now. It'll be a surprise he won't forget.

Just go to sexwiththemely.com and click on the flashlight banner right now.